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Hey, New York.
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There are countless opportunities
to make small talk in a big city.
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Even though some people seem
to avoid it at all costs.
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Small talk is the glue
that binds us all together
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and the armor that shields us
from each other's darkest thoughts.
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It's useful when you meet up
with a friend...
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Go on a date...
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Or try to start
a professional relationship.
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Failing to know how to engage properly
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could condemn you to a life
of social alienation.
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But it can be extremely rewarding
if you know how to do it right.
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So instead of making people take on the
full weight of all your problems,
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stick with me, and I'll make sure
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that every talk you have
from here on out is small talk.
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HOW TO MAKE SMALL TALK
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A nice way to begin
is by leaving your apartment
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and trying to find someone
who is willing to talk to you.
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Thankfully, New York is filled
with friendly people,
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so this should be easy.
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One of the main functions of small talk
is to fill space
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with polite conversation
until you can be alone again.
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So, make sure to only talk about stuff
from your everyday life
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that anyone can relate
to and forget about easily.
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You can talk about
how nice the weather is.
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But just make sure that
you never mention climate change.
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You can talk about what's on TV,
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but make sure that you only
mention the nice stuff.
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You can also talk about
the health of your plant,
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but don't mention that it's
a painful reminder of your ex
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who gave it to you
because she loved you,
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even though you were
emotionally unavailable to her.
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Pets are really good to talk about too.
You can always talk about pets.
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But much like in real estate,
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location is everything
when you're making small talk.
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You could pose the same question
in two different environments
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and receive wildly
different answers.
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You could ask a question
to a philosopher...
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Do you think mankind
is going to make a comeback ?
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I hope so.
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If we can survive the perils
of climate change, inequality,
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and the fantastic weapons of destruction
we've created for ourselves.
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But that same question might get a much
different answer at Wrestlemania.
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Do you think mankind
is going to make a comeback ?
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No, not today. He fell off
too many hell in the cells.
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- Really ?
- Yeah.
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What about mankind in general ?
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Mankind, like, the whole world ?
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I mean it's not bad it could be better,
but I'm happy with my life, so.
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What do you do ?
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I catch child predators.
If you wanna look me up,
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it's Mr. 17540 on Facebook.
It's what I do in my spare time.
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- You catch child predators ?
- Yes, I do.
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- How ?
- I set up the stings online.
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I Facebook live them
and I go and get them.
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- Really ?
- Yes, sir.
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At the end of our conversation,
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the gentleman invited me to his
headquarters in Pennsylvania.
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I figured I could learn something by
heading out there to see him in action.
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So, what's going on today ?
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Well, we're gonna go catch us
a predator today.
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Yeah ? Do you have
something set up ?
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Yeah, a guy's 28 years old,
he knows that I'm 15,
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and told him to bring condoms, and
he's gonna try to meet me for sex.
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Because his job involves keeping people
engaged for long periods of time,
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I figured he would have some insight
into sustaining friendly conversations.
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So, what are you saying
to this person right now ?
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So, he just told me...
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Like I said, I find these guys, look
at their profiles, ask them questions.
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I said I liked his dogs, he said
"Thank you," then right away he says,
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"It's a Norwegian Elkhound
and a Chocolate Lab,"
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and "What are you doing on here then,"
because I told him I'm 15.
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We'll tell him
I'm just looking for fun,
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and that my grandma used
to have dogs like that.
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- Your grandma had dogs like that ?
- No, hell no.
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It seems like when
you're having small talk,
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it's okay to lie if it helps you
avoid getting too personal
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because that can be a real turn off.
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I've had people just vent
their problems like
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"My mother-in-law is in the hospital,"
or "My girlfriend just cheated on me,"
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and those are the people that, I'm not
here for a conversation like that.
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I just block them
and go to the next one.
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But in the middle of our conversation,
his plans fell through.
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Dammit !
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He's saying he doesn't wanna do it, and
he's bailing out at the last second.
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Like, the best I can say is,
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"Okay, thanks for wasting my day.
I took school off today."
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So, I guess try not to say too much,
or else you might scare someone away.
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Because the more you talk to someone,
the harder it is to hide who you are.
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I got a rug off Craigslist recently.
The ad said
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there were a few blood stains on the
rug from a stress related incident.
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But it was free.
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When I got to the storage
space to pick it up,
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instead of the small talk about
interior decorating that I expected,
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the guy just spent the entire time
telling me about his divorce.
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She had very good taste,
my ex-wife. Soon to be ex-wife.
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She liked Prada, Givenchy,
and everything else.
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And I fell for it.
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It can be hard to keep
a conversation in a safe zone
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when you're filled with so much pain.
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My ex-wife demanded
I get rid of my shit.
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But an expert small talker will know
how to suppress these emotions
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and appear stable, no matter how much
pressure is building up inside.
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For example, if you need
to retrieve a sweater from someone
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that you used to date, start first
by sending them a text message.
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And if you discover that
they had deleted your number,
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just calmly remind them
of your name.
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It might have been a while
since you've seen them,
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so when you go to their
apartment to pick it up,
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make sure to keep the conversation
light and focused on the sweater.
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Which should be easy for you, because
before you stopped seeing each other,
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she told you that you
were too closed off.
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And when she brings up that she's dating
someone new, just wish her well...
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And bike home
as quickly as possible.
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If you do want to talk to someone
about your previous relationships,
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you should only do it with your
really close friends,
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who you can
call up anytime to reminisce.
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I don't know if we've ever talked
about any of our ex's with each other.
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Okay.
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I don't know if you and I have ever,
bro-ed down like that.
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I guess you don't always need
to talk about personal stuff
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for someone to technically
be your friend.
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And if you're not
a big talker in general,
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you can use a popular technique called
baiting, to get people to talk to you.
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Baiting involves wearing or doing
something that will invite conversation.
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This could be a fashion choice,
or a method of transportation.
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The way you move, the way you eat.
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A new haircut is good bait.
Or you can just dress like a hose.
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Wearing a band t-shirt
is a popular way
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to get someone to talk
to you in public.
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But if you can't afford to go
to a blue chip concert
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you can always go see a cover band
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that has a name that's similar
to a real band.
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Once you've seen enough, sprint over to
the merch table to beat the crowd...
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And pick out the boldest apparel
that you can afford.
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Then you're gonna go to the tallest
elevator in your city,
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and it won't be long
until someone takes the bait
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and starts a conversation with you.
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- Red Hot Chilli Pipers ?
- Have you ever heard of them ?
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No, are they, like, bagpipers or ?
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Yeah, they're bagpipers,
they're a bagpipe cover band.
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Really ? Cool !
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Once you have enough
small talk with someone,
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you will eventually become
an acquaintance.
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To be a successful acquaintance,
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you will need to have broad
interests and relatable flaws.
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And no matter how awful
your life currently is,
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you can never reveal this
to another acquaintance.
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So it requires a bit of camouflage.
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You want to seem like someone
who is busy, but also likes to relax.
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That's why going on vacation
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will give you enough ammunition
for years-worth of encounters.
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So, go to a travel agency and ask what
the most popular destinations are...
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I can send you to Punta Cana,
Cancun, Jamaica.
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Any of those places
will be my places to go to.
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- Cancun ?
- Cancun sounds good.
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It's just one person in the room ?
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Or are you going to be sharing
the room with someone else ?
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- No, it's just me.
- Okay.
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And if your travel agent
starts talking about relationships,
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don't reciprocate and just wait
for the transaction to complete.
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- 86 ?
- Yeah.
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I got married in that year.
Don't wanna remember that too much.
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- I was married for 20 years.
- Okay.
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Relationships, they start, they end.
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So, I think love cannot be forever.
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Relationships are not forever,
and I'm okay with it.
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If I find someone else,
great, I'm not looking.
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But if he comes along, let's see who
can deal with me. I'm not that easy.
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But would I marry the same type
of person again ? No.
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But at that point, I wanted to ?
Yes. Did I have fun ? Yes.
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Could I have done better ? Yes.
But that's what's coming next.
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So let's see what happens.
I'll let you know.
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- Thank you.
- You're welcome.
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- I appreciate it.
- No problem.
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It's hard to understand
why people decide
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to tell you certain things
at certain times.
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And you might end up
wondering what the deal is.
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When someone opens up to you,
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you might feel the need
to reciprocate out of politeness.
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But this comes with a big risk
because an exchange of feelings
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may cause you to be swept up
in a relationship
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that you're not prepared for.
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It's important to know how to navigate
the interaction back to calm waters.
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We can learn a lot from people
that work at big retail stores.
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They are specifically trained to stick
to a script, and as you can see,
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any time the conversation
enters controversial territory
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they will gently
pivot back to the sale.
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How do you feel about kids
getting vaccinated ?
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I mean,
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that kinda has nothing to do
with helping you with an iPad,
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so I don't need to give
my opinion on that.
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Okay.
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The President sucks.
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The person you're shopping for,
do you know if they have a registry ?
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I was looking for some kind
of suit for like a court date.
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Cool. Are you a lawyer
or you're going to court ?
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- I'm going to court.
- Okay.
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For manslaughter.
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So, here at Bergdorf,
our price range...
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But unfortunately most of us don't
have the shield of a corporation
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to help us shut people down.
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So if you're in public with someone,
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and a conversation enters
dangerous territory,
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it seems like a quick touch
is a nice way
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to let people know you've had enough.
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Just touch and go.
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Touch and go.
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Even after you've touched it and go-ed,
your problems still might not be over.
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So if you can't make it
into the subway,
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just open up the closest door to you
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and hope that there's something
better on the other side.
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And once you've escaped,
you'll finally be alone.
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This way, you can avoid having
a mild beef with anyone else.
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No sharing, no talking,
no "Let's do this again."
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Just you on your own terms,
on your own time,
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and in your own world.
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Because remember, sharing your most
intimate thoughts with someone
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can be a disturbing
and messy experience.
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You're trusting them to take on the
full weight of all your problems
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and handle them with care.
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And who knows what they'll do,
once they finally get home
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and begin to run the forensics
on everything you said.
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And even though an intimate connection
may look attractive out in the wild,
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don't forget that the life
of a relationship
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always seems to follow
the same pattern.
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I was feeling a bit off lately,
but I couldn't quite pin down why.
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Fortunately, a vacation is a great
way to take your mind off things.
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And I had booked that
relaxing trip to Cancun.
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And it was time to go.
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It would be nice to get
some peace and quiet
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away from all the people.
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I had a really good feeling
about this trip.
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I arrived late at night,
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so after checking in,
I headed straight to my room.
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The bed looked really comfortable which
was great, because I was here to relax.
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The shower was okay too.
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The next morning,
I got some breakfast,
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and I was looking forward
to a relaxing afternoon by the pool.
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That's when I discovered
that my supposedly serene,
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all inclusive resort
was hosting MTV's Spring Break
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during the entire week
that I was there.
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This was a waking nightmare that seemed
to occupy every inch of the resort.
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The rules of polite society
did not apply here.
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People were jumping from
stranger to acquaintance
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and back to stranger
within a matter of minutes.
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And no one was wearing a shirt
I could comment on.
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Their methods of communication
were incredibly advanced...
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And dressing like a hose
was normal here.
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These creatures were an evolved
species of social animal.
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And everyone seemed to be praying
to a dark overlord named Pauly D.
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His nightly sermons were mandatory,
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and he seemed to cast a spell
over all the residents at the resort.
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No one could escape his watchful eye.
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He was the Pope of Spring Break,
and his rule was absolute.
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Pauly D !
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My room was starting
to feel a bit claustrophobic,
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but I was afraid to go back
outside without a clear objective.
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I figured I would have
to eat eventually.
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So I got in line for what
I thought was one of the buffets.
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But when I finally got to the front,
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it turned out to be a rowdy concert
that was airing live on MTV.
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As I started looking for a way out,
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a young boy behind me
started showing me his condoms.
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Then someone handed me
a bottle of piss,
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which I immediately
threw to the ground.
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Then the MTV crew
started pointing at me
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and seemed very angry,
and I couldn't tell why.
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You gotta stop turning around,
otherwise I have to move you.
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Apparently, I was in every single shot
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and ruining the entire broadcast
because I looked so distressed.
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I was starting to wonder why I felt
so out of place here.
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This event was a mecca
of superficial interactions.
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But for some reason,
I just couldn't fit in.
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That night, I met someone in the lobby
who had also come here by himself.
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His name was Chris
and he wanted to sing for me.
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Hit the throttle, black Monte
Carlo, paint dripping push it work.
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Hit the pedal, push it to the metal,
cook it up, that's... Hold up.
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He invited me back to his room
with a few others to hang out.
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You gotta live how you wanna live.
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And don't abide by the bullshit laws
that the world has, bro,
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like, do what you wanna do,
life's too short.
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All they wanted to talk about
was partying but...
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I got the sense that we had more
in common than I initially thought.
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Do you feel like you ever
have social anxiety ?
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I really do have social anxiety probably
because I smoke too much weed.
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Eventually I left,
and went back to my room
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to watch a movie
before going to sleep.
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The next morning I got up early
to beat the crowds
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and I ran into Chris again.
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He told me that he lost his bag
at the club last night
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and he didn't have
his cell phone anymore.
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Yeah, I lost my bag. At Coyote Loco.
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- What were you doing ?
- Drinking I guess.
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Why'd you come here alone ?
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Why did I come alone ? I just wanted
to party, man. Wanted to fall in love.
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Nah, I'm just joking.
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At the end of our conversation,
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I asked him if he wanted
to grab dinner with me.
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But he said that his schedule
wouldn't permit it.
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- I gotta go find my bag now, bro.
- Okay.
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I was starting to have stomach pains
from the cuisine at the resort...
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So I decided to head
to the hotel next door
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to treat myself
to a fancy dinner for one.
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The water there had
its own metal holder
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so the waiter didn't have
to touch the bottle with his hands.
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I felt like royalty.
But the whole dinner,
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I couldn't stop thinking about
the empty seat right across from me.
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The rest of the week,
I tried to make myself useful.
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I watched some guys playing tennis
for little while
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and tried to help out where I could.
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But it seemed like everyone
already had their own group,
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and they all seemed impenetrable.
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00:21:42,243 --> 00:21:45,042
- Hey, guys. Hey, how you doing ?
- Good. How are you ?
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00:21:45,122 --> 00:21:49,602
- Where are you going ?
- Back to our room, bro. Breakfast.
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00:21:49,682 --> 00:21:53,402
- Where's your room ?
- In the hotel.
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How do you guys know each other ?
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- Alright, I'm out. Fuck this.
- We go to school together.
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Okay.
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And then I spotted Chris again.
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Chris !
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- What are you doing ?
- No idea.
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Beautiful Mexico.
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00:22:20,719 --> 00:22:22,919
What's the temperature
in New York right now ?
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I don't know. 50 ?
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00:22:25,519 --> 00:22:27,718
- 50 ?
- Yeah.
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00:22:28,598 --> 00:22:31,478
- Fahrenheit ?
- Yeah.
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They're gonna think
I'm a superstar now.
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00:22:41,357 --> 00:22:43,517
I'm just joking.
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00:22:44,997 --> 00:22:48,197
- I'm Pauly D's nephew.
- That's gotta be a hockey player.
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00:22:48,277 --> 00:22:51,236
Yeah, I'm a hockey player.
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00:22:52,476 --> 00:22:55,996
Typical girls man. Basic.
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00:22:56,076 --> 00:22:58,995
- Typical girls ?
- Typical females.
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00:22:59,075 --> 00:23:01,195
Like... What do you mean ?
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00:23:01,275 --> 00:23:05,875
Everybody's the same, nobody's real.
335
00:23:05,955 --> 00:23:08,355
It's hard to even conversate
with anybody down here.
336
00:23:08,435 --> 00:23:09,515
Why ?
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00:23:09,594 --> 00:23:13,434
Cause they're just too busy
and occupied about...
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00:23:13,514 --> 00:23:17,874
I don't really know man,
just being typical.
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00:23:18,274 --> 00:23:22,033
It seems like you were trying
to avoid me.
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00:23:22,113 --> 00:23:25,553
Today ? I was trying to avoid
everybody today, man.
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It takes a toll on you down here.
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- Was I making you uncomfortable ?
- No.
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00:23:32,632 --> 00:23:34,752
Well, actually, yeah. A little bit.
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00:23:34,832 --> 00:23:37,592
- Why was I making you uncomfortable ?
- Cause I didn't know what was...
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00:23:37,672 --> 00:23:40,712
I don't know. I can't explain it.
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00:23:43,351 --> 00:23:46,951
You live in a condo in New York
or is it a house ?
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00:23:47,031 --> 00:23:49,911
- No, I live in an apartment building.
- Nice.
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With two ladies that live
underneath me.
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- It's like a mother and daughter.
- That's sweet, nice.
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- Who lives in your house ?
- Just me and my dog.
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- You have a dog ?
- Yeah.
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He's my best friend, man.
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00:24:06,829 --> 00:24:09,349
That's the truth.
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00:24:11,549 --> 00:24:14,188
I can't wait to see him
when I get home.
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00:24:15,708 --> 00:24:17,948
- What's his name ?
- Jack.
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00:24:19,548 --> 00:24:22,628
- Have you ever had a pet that died ?
- When I was a kid, yeah.
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00:24:22,708 --> 00:24:25,907
- What was that pet ?
- His name was Lucky.
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00:24:26,707 --> 00:24:30,067
He wasn't so lucky though.
He got hit by a car.
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00:24:30,147 --> 00:24:33,387
- He got hit by a car ?
- Yeah, I was a little boy, man.
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00:24:42,666 --> 00:24:48,345
I used to have a cat, when I was
growing up, called Fluffy.
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00:24:49,785 --> 00:24:52,065
- And she died.
- That sucks bro, that's what happens.
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00:24:52,145 --> 00:24:56,264
That's life though, unfortunately.
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00:24:58,264 --> 00:25:01,024
I also had a friend that died recently.
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00:25:02,144 --> 00:25:06,104
- He was in like, a car accident.
- That's terrible.
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00:25:09,703 --> 00:25:12,343
And, that was really hard.
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00:25:12,423 --> 00:25:15,743
Yeah, I feel your pain, trust me.
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00:25:19,062 --> 00:25:21,822
- Is this true ? Is this for real ?
- Yeah.
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00:25:21,902 --> 00:25:23,902
I'm sorry bro.
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00:25:24,582 --> 00:25:28,261
My friend just killed himself,
before I came here.
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00:25:28,781 --> 00:25:31,261
Before you came here ?
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00:25:31,861 --> 00:25:34,501
About 30 days before.
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00:25:34,581 --> 00:25:38,740
Probably low key,
why I'm out here, you know.
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00:25:38,820 --> 00:25:41,980
Whether I know it or not, I think
that the universe just put me here,
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I don't really know. I feel like
I really needed to get away.
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00:25:51,099 --> 00:25:54,259
- That's really heavy.
- Yeah, it's brutal.
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00:25:54,339 --> 00:25:57,499
It's my first close friend
I ever really lost.
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00:26:14,497 --> 00:26:17,177
So, do you like New York ?
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00:26:30,176 --> 00:26:32,455
I returned to New York the next day.
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00:26:32,535 --> 00:26:36,295
And it was nice to be back
home in my element.
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00:26:36,375 --> 00:26:41,175
Although, I'm not sure I could ever
look at my city the same way again.
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The world is full of people that need
to get something off their chest.
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00:26:46,894 --> 00:26:50,014
And even though it can be
risky to open up,
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00:26:50,094 --> 00:26:53,653
it's worth it when you find
the right person.
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00:26:54,213 --> 00:26:58,733
Otherwise, stuff will
just keep building up,
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00:26:58,813 --> 00:27:03,932
and you need to sift out
all that bad stuff once in a while.
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00:27:04,012 --> 00:27:07,852
And then you'll be in a better place.
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00:27:07,932 --> 00:27:10,052
And once you take care of that,
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you'll finally be able to return
to a blissful world of small talk.
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This is John Wilson.
Thanks for watching.
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