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This is a different way to see how genuine somebody actually is.

And you do this by looking at what they don't show you.

That's right. You're gonna look at what they lack.

It's gonna tell you so much about them.

Here we go. It's gonna make sense in a second.

If they lack accountability,

they will shift the blame.

That's what you will see. If they lack communication skills,

they're gonna say that you are arguing.

If they lack emotional intelligence,

they're going to call you sensitive.

If they lack self awareness,

they're gonna criticize everybody else around them and those flaws.

If they lack honesty,

they're going to distort the truth to fit their narrative.

If they lack boundaries, they are going to overstep yours

and make believe they're not even there.

If they lack integrity, they'll justify anything wrong that they do.

If they lack empathy, they're going to dismiss your feelings.

And last one, if they lack confidence,

they're going to be little anybody to make themselves feel bigger.

And sometimes that might mean you.

Now, these tools aren't just for understanding other people.

You can use them for self reflection as well.

I try to sit down once a week,

go through these, and make sure that I did not fall off my path.

That is absolutely normal,

but you need to check in with yourself

to realign and ensure you're on your path.

What matters is not falling off.

What matters is catching yourself.

And getting back onto your path.

And this is a great tool to do that,

not just for others, but for internally,

what you're doing as well.

If you find any of those things,

it just simply means it's time to grow and heal.

Don't punish yourself. Don't be mad at yourself.

Now let's work together on self awareness,

emotional intelligence, and boundaries.

DM me today if you want to start working on this journey together.