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What is your boiling point?

Everybody has one. Is that point where you've just had enough?

The pressure builds, emotions rise.

You feel like you're about to snap.

And then it happens. You lose it and you break.

You react. Maybe it's anger,

frustration, the need to withdraw.

It's just a moment where there's no control.

And then there's aftermath. Regret,

damage, loss,

self reflection, feeling bad about your reactions.

And then on top of that, if maybe the other people that were involved

and that you offended or hurt them.

Now you gotta deal with that guilt.

The truth is, you don't have to hit your boiling point.

You can stop it before it boils over.

So how do we stop it? First thing you do is you recognise the signs.

They're your triggers. You should know what they are.

Right? So you notice,

as they start to build up,

the tension, the irritation,

the patience. The more you are aware of it and.

Excuse me, impatience.

The more you're aware of it,

the earlier you can stop yourself from escalating.

Pausing and breathing. When you feel that heat start to rise up,

take a beat, take a breath,

take a moment. Don't let your emotions control the situation.

Give yourself a moment, just a break,

and give yourself space.

Next, shift your perspective.

Instead of focusing on what's wrong,

focus on the things that you can control in that situation.

What can I do right now to shift My energy

from where it is to where it should be

or where I want it to be next.

Don't laugh, but have a plan.

These are your triggers. Have glimmers ready.

The opposite of triggers, right?

Have a tool kit ready for those moments of stress.

Is it deep breathing that you're gonna do or you're gonna walk away

or you're gonna call a friend or you're gonna go meditate for a minute?

Doesn't matter.

What are your strategies to not lose it and keep control?

Cause when you get to that boiling point,

it's not what happens to you,

it's about what you do with it. Again,

we don't wanna affect other people.

This is now,

at this point is where you can break the old pattern of the old you

and create a brand new one.

If you want help on how to do that,

reach out to me. This is what I do as a mentor,

as a coach,

as I help people shift their mindset to be where they want it to be.