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Why can't I say that's right?

Saying no is empowering,

but it can be one of the hardest things for a lot of people to do.

So let's tackle the challenges,

which are the reasons why people typically say no,

and then we're gonna get into some tips.

So reasons why people usually say no.

First, people pleasing.

It's the urge to make everybody else happy,

which is going to lead to over commitment.

You're gonna burn yourself out.

And remember, you don't have to be everybody's go to.

Fear of rejection is next.

Worrying that somebody or saying no

is gonna lead to some type of conflict

or you're gonna lose friends over it.

But your true friends are gonna respect your boundaries.

Overthinking, that was my big one.

That was so hard for me to get over.

Analyzing every single angle is going to paralyze you.

Keep it simple. Remember your time is valuable.

Guilt trips. Specifically

guilt tripping yourself. Feeling guilty for saying no.

That's such a weight that you're putting on yourself.

And you just need to remember that your needs matter

just as anybody else's does.

Social pressure is next, which is feeling obligated to fit in.

And that's gonna make you push yourself to say yes,

even when you don't want to.

How about breaking the mold instead?

Now let's get into tips for saying no.

Practicing assertiveness. Use I statements.

I cannot take this on right now.

Next, be honest.

Share your reasons. Briefly,

but do not over explain.

I need to focus on my mental health and stopping there.

Eventually you'll build up or you'll just say no.

People will respect it and you won't feel the need to over explain.

And that's totally fine. Role playing.

Don't laugh, but this works.

Practice with a friend or get in front of a mirror.

The more you rehearse this,

the easier it's going to be for you.

Next, have a backup plan.

Like just what is your go to reasoning or excuse,

if you wanna call it that. Right?

Just in case you feel really pressured in the moment.

Next, reflecting on your values.

Remind yourself why saying no is important for your well being.

Cause remember, if you're saying no to somebody else,

you're saying yes to you. If you're saying yes to them.

When you want to say no, you're saying no to yourself.

Saying no is not selfish. It's necessary at times.

Your time, your mental health,

everything deserves as much respect as anybody else's does.

So thank you for tuning in and watching this.

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And definitely go check out my other resources. The link is in the bio.