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[♪ light music playing]
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[muffled party chatter]
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[Sydney] I don't know
what happened last night.
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At the party, I did drink...
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and, um, I don't think it
was the best idea, honestly.
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Almost all of the frats
have sexual assault charges.
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You just don't drink
at the frats.
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I should follow
my advice more.
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♪♪♪
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At the party,
both me and my roommate
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were feeling way
too out of control
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after one drink.
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Like, we both woke up feeling
very, like, extra sick,
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not just, like,
a hangover sick,
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but, like, a roofie sick.
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I don't know,
we're pretty sure that
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something was put
in our drink last night.
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[♪ music stops]
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But if you feel hungover,
you just keep drinking
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and then, you'll,
you'll feel better again.
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It's kind of ironic,
but it's just the lifestyle.
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[people chattering on video]
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It's like, U of A,
University of Alcoholics.
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-[kisses]
-And we'll always find a way
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to get ourselves
together and rally.
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Cute.
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[♪ slow, distorted
music plays]
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[♪ circus clown music playing]
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[indistinct chatter, shouting]
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[cheering]
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♪♪♪
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♪♪♪
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[♪ music warbles, stops]
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They asked me to leave
because I was "too drunk."
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[speaker]
Time for you to leave.
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-[Jonah] We are leaving!
-[Aimee] We are leaving!
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Do you not
see us leaving?
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[Jonah] Understand
that we are leaving.
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[speaker] Stop filming!
Get the fuck outta here!
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[Jonah] Bro, please take
a fucking chill pill.
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-[speaker] Out!
-Please stop disrespecting
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-my friends like that.
-[speaker] Stop arguing,
you little pissant.
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-He's a fucking--
-Fatass!
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-Little tubby bitch.
-[laughing]
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[♪ "jealousy, jealousy"
by Olivia Rodrigo playing]
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♪ Co-co-comparison
is killing me slowly ♪
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♪ I think, I think too much ♪
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♪ 'Bout kids
who don't know me ♪
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♪ I'm so sick of myself ♪
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♪ I'd rather be, rather be ♪
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♪ Anyone, anyone else ♪
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♪ Jealousy, jealousy ♪
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♪ Started followin' me ♪
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-[♪ vocalizing]
-[♪ song concludes]
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[Lauren Greenfield]
So, how did you
first learn about sex?
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-[all laughing]
-[Savannah] Yeah,
my first time watching porn
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was probably when
I was, like, in third grade?
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I don't know.
I'm pretty sure it was
with Jordan, to be honest.
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[Jordan]
I, like was, I don't know,
probably, like, four or five.
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Like, it was probably,
like, on YouTube.
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I just know I was, like,
really, really young.
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And, like, I would go
on my dad's computer...
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Pornography is everywhere.
You can't escape it.
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[Maren]
Guys see gorgeous girls
on TikTok and on Instagram
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all the time.
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They follow them,
they see, like,
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these edited, perfect people
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and girls aren't like that,
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so their standards
have risen too high.
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And I'm like,
"Where is this ego
you have coming from?"
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The hairless thing
comes from porn
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and comes from,
like, models.
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Annoying.
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[esthetician]
Two more. Ready?
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[Maren]
It does just set, like,
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unrealistic standards
for everything.
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Guys are having, like,
troubles with, like, girls now
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because the only thing
they know about sex is porn.
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It makes people...
feel like they need to fit in,
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even in their
intimate relationships,
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they have to act
a certain way.
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[Sofia]
You kind of feel
pressure on yourself
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to have this kind of
relationship that's, like,
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I guess, like, like,
"aesthetically pleasing"
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and, like, in real life,
that's just not always
how, like, things pan out,
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it's just not
always as pretty.
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[Stella] People tell me that
my drawings are really dark.
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It's a leash and a noose.
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[laughs] It's doubling, see,
and this person is blinded.
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I know everything
everybody's doing right now
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is affected by how
they've seen it done
on social media.
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[♪ "Bdsm" by
DreamKiller playing]
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I'm serious, [laughs]
I can't feel anything.
Hit me.
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♪ I'ma give you
all you need ♪
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♪ Keep your secret
safe with me ♪
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♪ I'ma give you
all you need ♪
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♪ Keep your secret
safe with me ♪
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[Stella]
On TikTok, they're
romanticizing bondage
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and BDSM
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and 14-year-olds
are seeing it
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and thinking that
that's, that's normal,
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and that's what
you need to do.
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[grunting]
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[Ella]
But they normalized it
in a bad way,
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in terms of,
like, telling girls
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that you should love
to get, like, choked out
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and, like, and, like,
all of this really
extreme stuff
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that's a very specific
group of people.
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If you tell a guy,
"Oh, I have kinks,"
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they automatically assume
that you wanna be choked
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-or slapped or something
and that's not what--
-[Ella] And it's like--
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It's so, it's so dangerous,
and then, I also had friends
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being like,
I feel uncomfortable
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saying that I only
like vanilla sex
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because everyone was like,
"You have to be kinky,
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you have to like
all this stuff,"
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and it totally--
"Otherwise, you're boring,
you're lame,
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you don't wanna get choked?"
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There was this
whole thing about like,
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"You had to be,
like, a freak,
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and you had to, like,
like all these things"
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that are really dangerous
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if the guys just don't
know what they're doing.
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And they don't.
We're only, like, teenagers.
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We have no idea how
to properly, like,
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choke someone
or tie them up
or anything.
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When I experimented
with my boyfriend,
it was slow.
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It wasn't,
all of a sudden, like,
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he was cutting me
with knives.
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We've never done that,
but he didn't really know
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what BDSM is
'cause he wouldn't be
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on social media as much.
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And so, I would
talk to him about it.
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Like, "Try choking.
Try this stuff."
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And I found out
I did like it,
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and what I did like,
he would continue to do.
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[lip-syncing to voiceover]
Oh, my God!
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Oh, my God.
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[Ella]
I think it's hard to tell
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what's been
put into your mind
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and what you're influenced by
and what you actually like,
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and that's why,
when you want
to experiment,
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do it safely and do it
with someone you trust.
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[birds chirping]
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[ringback tone]
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-Hey, how are you?
-[Stella] [over phone]
I'm good, how are you?
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[Jonathan] Good, thank you.
Thank you so much for doing this
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and for reaching out,
I'm so glad.
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One part of this project
is I'm covering
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sexual harassment
on social media
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and also sexual assault
and how that plays out.
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You mentioned
a little bit in this form
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about your own very
traumatic experiences.
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Is that something you're
comfortable talking more about?
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[Stella]
Yeah...
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I had never been in
a intimate relationship before
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and so, it was really easy
to take advantage of me
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because I didn't really
know right from wrong.
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For people who are
starting to have sex,
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it's hard to figure out
for yourself what you want,
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but you know what social media
is telling you to want.
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I think I didn't know
what was normal.
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What I was exposed to online
was sex coupled with violence.
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And if you don't like it,
that's wrong.
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[♪ light music playing]
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In my prior relationship,
there was this pressure
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to just do everything that,
like, might look cool and edgy
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and, like,
you have to enjoy it.
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There's a lot of portrayal...
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in porn of this,
like, BDSM fantasy
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and so,
if a girl says, "Stop,"
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maybe that's just,
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I don't know,
part of a role-play
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and now the guy's,
like, saying,
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"You can't tell me
what the fuck to do."
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In our relationship,
there was zero communication.
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You're being cut with a knife,
no choice, no say, no consent.
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The "Kim" one isn't a tattoo,
it's actually a branding.
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Like a... branding.
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[Stella]
I mean, there was a TikTok
where somebody carved
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their initials into each other
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and, like...
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I have initials
carved into me,
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and they're
crossed out now,
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and it's a scar
and it's very, very faint,
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and then crossed out
with more cuts,
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but, like, that's a thing.
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When abuse looks like...
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what's getting
likes on TikTok,
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it's hard to see
the difference.
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How did you come
to the realization,
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um, that what had happened
to you was sexual assault?
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[Stella]
I talked to a guy about
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what it's like
when he's with a girl
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and I'm like,
"Oh, really?
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That's how that's
supposed to go?"
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I definitely learned
that it's, like, not normal
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for people to, like,
really like to hurt you
when they love you.
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And I eventually
was able to get out
of that relationship.
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It takes
experiencing real life
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for you to realize how real life
is supposed to be, I guess.
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-[Amari] You want some more?
-[baby crying]
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Alright, bubbas.
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[crying continues]
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Okay, okay.
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Yeah.
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That type of,
that type of party.
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-Michael Jordan?
-Oh.
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Oh, my goodness.
You need some help.
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You don't know who
Michael Jordan is?
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-[baby crying]
-Okay, okay.
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[♪ upbeat party music playing]
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[Keshawn] [on mic]
Let's get started!
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Tell me what you want.
Are you single tonight?
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Ladies, sing this song!
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[♪ "Shawty" DJ mix playing]
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-[♪ stops music]
-[crowd sings]
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Ladies!
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Tonight is our
three-year anniversary
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of our DJ group
that we started.
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[♪ upbeat song playing]
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[indistinct chatter]
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I'm just using DJ
as leverage.
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My passion's really music.
I wanna be a big artist.
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Feel like I got everything:
the looks, the style, the voice.
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Feel I got everything to be
that, that number one spot.
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[♪ upbeat hip-hop song playing]
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♪ Yeah, see, I've been lookin'
for somebody like you ♪
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♪ Cute face
with a body like you ♪
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♪ I've been searchin'
all over for you ♪
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♪ Yeah, you ♪
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♪ See, I've been lookin'
for somebody like you ♪
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♪ Cute face
with a body like you ♪
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♪ All I want is you,
all I want is you ♪
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♪ 'Cause it's you ♪
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♪ Is it you, is it you? ♪
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♪ Is it you, baby? ♪
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♪ Come on, now ♪
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♪ Is it you,
is it you, is it you? ♪
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♪ Baby ♪
241
00:12:31,402 --> 00:12:33,405
[indistinct chatter]
242
00:12:36,145 --> 00:12:38,182
[phone notifications]
243
00:12:38,215 --> 00:12:41,054
[♪ upbeat song playing]
244
00:12:52,277 --> 00:12:54,014
[indistinct chatter]
245
00:12:54,516 --> 00:12:56,919
[crowd screaming, chattering]
246
00:12:57,555 --> 00:12:59,959
♪♪♪
247
00:12:59,992 --> 00:13:02,030
[indistinct chatter]
248
00:13:09,177 --> 00:13:10,379
What happened?
249
00:13:26,445 --> 00:13:28,449
[revving engine]
250
00:13:33,159 --> 00:13:34,862
[car honking]
251
00:13:35,363 --> 00:13:38,870
-[cousin] Aight,
we in that motherfucker.
-[tires screeching]
252
00:13:40,607 --> 00:13:42,611
[dog barking]
253
00:13:44,147 --> 00:13:46,284
[ambient street noise]
254
00:13:47,621 --> 00:13:48,890
That her?
255
00:13:52,230 --> 00:13:54,367
Where she at?
256
00:13:55,938 --> 00:13:57,273
-[dog barking]
-[Julie clicks tongue]
257
00:13:58,610 --> 00:14:00,847
-[phone notifications]
-Fuck Bodhi.
258
00:14:05,691 --> 00:14:08,162
Dude, where's
this little girl at?
259
00:14:10,500 --> 00:14:12,236
[chuckling]
260
00:14:16,245 --> 00:14:18,583
[distant siren wailing]
261
00:14:22,257 --> 00:14:24,294
[indistinct chatter]
262
00:14:25,163 --> 00:14:28,035
-[Lourdes]
She's not here yet?
-[Julie] No.
263
00:14:28,068 --> 00:14:30,608
-Ain't nobody wanna
fuckin' call her.
-[Lilah] Hi!
264
00:14:30,641 --> 00:14:32,945
-[Julie] Hi, mama, come here.
-[dog barking]
265
00:14:32,978 --> 00:14:34,348
She's not answering.
266
00:14:34,381 --> 00:14:35,951
[Julie] She's three hours late.
267
00:14:35,984 --> 00:14:37,487
And she does this
all the time.
268
00:14:37,521 --> 00:14:39,692
Like, it used to be like that
with, with Julian too
269
00:14:39,725 --> 00:14:42,197
'til we had to beg her
to hang out,
you know what I'm saying?
270
00:14:42,230 --> 00:14:43,332
And then,
we made plans,
271
00:14:43,366 --> 00:14:45,604
and then she changes them
to go hang out with them.
272
00:14:45,637 --> 00:14:46,706
And it's, like, whatever.
273
00:14:46,739 --> 00:14:48,644
And she did that
on my quinceañera too.
274
00:14:48,677 --> 00:14:53,252
[Lilah]
I'm mad at Ellie so bad.
I'm mad at her, so mean.
275
00:14:53,285 --> 00:14:55,658
Why she can do this to us?
Like, ugh.
276
00:14:55,691 --> 00:14:58,329
-I hate you Ellie. Yeah.
-Deadass.
277
00:14:58,362 --> 00:15:00,534
-Sorry, guys.
-[Lilah] No! I hate you.
278
00:15:00,567 --> 00:15:02,972
Sorry, there was just
so much frickin' traffic.
279
00:15:03,005 --> 00:15:04,307
The thing is, I've been
telling you, Ellie...
280
00:15:04,341 --> 00:15:06,646
-I know, but--
-...to be respectful for--
with people's time.
281
00:15:06,679 --> 00:15:08,382
I understand, Mom,
but, like, I, I was eating,
282
00:15:08,415 --> 00:15:10,086
and then, like,
we came over here,
and it was--
283
00:15:10,119 --> 00:15:11,221
Well, we got, like, gas first,
284
00:15:11,255 --> 00:15:12,992
and then, we, like, came
over here, and it was just--
285
00:15:13,025 --> 00:15:14,061
I'm sorry, like,
it was my fault.
286
00:15:14,094 --> 00:15:15,196
Like, I honestly
took time too.
287
00:15:15,229 --> 00:15:16,499
Like, I-I took my time.
288
00:15:16,533 --> 00:15:18,236
-Like, I'm sorry, like--
-[Lourdes] Always,
289
00:15:18,269 --> 00:15:20,273
-this is not the first time.
-[Ellie] I know, but--
290
00:15:20,306 --> 00:15:22,376
And I've been telling you,
manage your time.
291
00:15:22,845 --> 00:15:24,715
No, que pues.
292
00:15:27,453 --> 00:15:29,024
-Do it now.
-Yeah--
293
00:15:29,057 --> 00:15:31,328
[Lourdes]
And, honestly--
No, do it now...
294
00:15:31,763 --> 00:15:33,299
'cause it smells so bad.
295
00:15:33,332 --> 00:15:34,502
[Lilah] Ugh!
296
00:15:35,303 --> 00:15:38,342
[Ellie] [whiny] Oh, I hate that
there's no freakin' gloves.
297
00:15:38,375 --> 00:15:40,312
Disgusting!
298
00:15:40,881 --> 00:15:43,085
[phone notifications]
299
00:15:48,195 --> 00:15:50,400
Ugh, there's so much going on
300
00:15:50,433 --> 00:15:52,738
and I cannot think straight
right now.
301
00:15:54,207 --> 00:15:55,276
[Julie]
Can I read it?
302
00:15:57,815 --> 00:16:00,019
[phone notifications]
303
00:16:00,052 --> 00:16:02,390
[softly] And I'm
just like, "Bro."
304
00:16:04,829 --> 00:16:06,164
[scoffs]
305
00:16:07,768 --> 00:16:09,572
[Julie] And I get that it's
a little overwhelming,
306
00:16:09,605 --> 00:16:11,710
but, like, people
are looking out for you...
307
00:16:11,743 --> 00:16:14,448
-Yeah.
-...and the fact that,
that you don't take it.
308
00:16:14,481 --> 00:16:16,720
I don't want to be here.
309
00:16:16,753 --> 00:16:21,462
I'm doing everything
to fucking leave, bro.
310
00:16:21,495 --> 00:16:24,167
Even if that means fucking
moving to the east co--
311
00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:25,270
or whatever the fuck, bitch.
312
00:16:25,303 --> 00:16:26,472
Even if I gotta
move to the fuckin'
313
00:16:26,506 --> 00:16:27,575
middle of nowhere.
314
00:16:27,608 --> 00:16:29,444
I just can't.
I really love Bodhi.
315
00:16:29,477 --> 00:16:31,348
And it's like,
bro, this motherfucker
316
00:16:31,381 --> 00:16:32,551
is the only motherfucker
317
00:16:32,584 --> 00:16:34,454
who's actually
ever treated me
318
00:16:34,487 --> 00:16:36,425
the way I deserve
to be treated.
319
00:16:36,458 --> 00:16:38,496
Every time you get,
like, a new guy,
320
00:16:38,530 --> 00:16:41,168
specifically,
'cause you've done this
a lot in the past,
321
00:16:41,201 --> 00:16:43,139
I have to beg you
to make plans with me.
322
00:16:43,172 --> 00:16:45,611
And I know, like,
you know, you're in your
little honeymoon phase,
323
00:16:45,644 --> 00:16:48,182
but it's, like,
how many honeymoon phases
is it gonna take
324
00:16:48,215 --> 00:16:51,055
for you to realize, like,
you're, like, kinda, like,
325
00:16:51,088 --> 00:16:52,758
being inconsiderate
to people's time?
326
00:16:52,791 --> 00:16:54,629
I always take
your opinion to heart...
327
00:16:54,662 --> 00:16:56,833
-Yeah.
-...but, like, you're
my best friend,
328
00:16:56,866 --> 00:16:58,770
and, like, there's
sometimes, like, a line.
329
00:16:58,803 --> 00:17:01,108
And, like, sometimes,
like, you cross it--
330
00:17:01,141 --> 00:17:03,346
No, but it's, like,
I-I get like that
331
00:17:03,379 --> 00:17:05,450
because I tell you
and then you don't
do anything about it.
332
00:17:05,483 --> 00:17:06,753
You can say sorry
all you want,
333
00:17:06,786 --> 00:17:08,189
but, like,
you're kinda acting,
334
00:17:08,222 --> 00:17:10,360
like, stupid about it, like...
335
00:17:10,393 --> 00:17:11,361
Like...
336
00:17:14,367 --> 00:17:15,771
Like, I'm just like,
"Fuck, dude."
337
00:17:15,804 --> 00:17:17,608
I'm sorry, I'm, like, not
even trying to do all this.
338
00:17:17,641 --> 00:17:20,346
-Like--
-Don't say sorry. Okay.
339
00:17:27,895 --> 00:17:30,400
-[laughs] Come here.
-It's okay, you can laugh.
340
00:17:30,433 --> 00:17:32,605
-[laughing]
-It's fine, it's literally fine.
341
00:17:32,638 --> 00:17:36,512
Like, it's okay,
you can laugh, it's fine.
342
00:17:36,846 --> 00:17:39,686
-It's just, like... [indistinct]
-You're crying, it's so funny.
343
00:17:39,719 --> 00:17:42,256
[Ellie] [crying]
I hate this so much.
Like...
344
00:17:46,833 --> 00:17:48,503
[tattoo artist]
It'll be about an hour 45.
345
00:17:48,536 --> 00:17:50,406
-[Ivy] Oh, not bad.
-[tattoo artist] Yeah.
346
00:17:50,439 --> 00:17:53,111
-[tattoo gun buzzing]
-[indistinct chatter]
347
00:18:16,893 --> 00:18:18,563
[Ivy]
My dad is my best friend.
348
00:18:19,765 --> 00:18:21,335
I feel like I can
tell him anything,
349
00:18:21,368 --> 00:18:24,140
and he's just gonna be,
like, understanding.
350
00:18:34,595 --> 00:18:35,563
[Vito] Ooh.
351
00:18:59,244 --> 00:19:01,281
[birds chirping]
352
00:19:01,616 --> 00:19:03,318
[phone notification]
353
00:19:05,557 --> 00:19:08,764
[Aishani] Not me carrying
five bags, on heels.
354
00:19:08,797 --> 00:19:10,734
-[Nina] Am I a woman yet?
-[both chuckle]
355
00:19:10,767 --> 00:19:13,640
-Oh, shit.
-Oh, my God, this is cute!
356
00:19:13,673 --> 00:19:17,480
[Nina] I'm so ready to be
a fucking zombie in here.
357
00:19:18,149 --> 00:19:21,756
[Aishani] Do you wanna keep
the supplements in the bathroom?
358
00:19:22,290 --> 00:19:24,494
I'm, like, very motherly.
359
00:19:24,963 --> 00:19:26,800
"Is this okay?
Is this okay?"
You know?
360
00:19:26,833 --> 00:19:29,505
-[both laughing]
-[Nina] Okay, shoe's fitting.
361
00:19:31,542 --> 00:19:32,912
Like, I kind of regret
the amount of people
362
00:19:32,945 --> 00:19:34,949
that I've told that
I was getting surgery.
363
00:19:34,982 --> 00:19:38,489
You know, like, like,
after the first, like,
maybe, three times
364
00:19:38,523 --> 00:19:40,359
I was really tired
of the amount of, like,
365
00:19:40,392 --> 00:19:42,430
"What are you getting done?
No, like, like, what exactly
366
00:19:42,463 --> 00:19:44,233
-are you getting done?"
-Mm.
367
00:19:45,035 --> 00:19:46,573
[Nina] This facial
feminization surgery
368
00:19:46,606 --> 00:19:48,242
that I'm about to go into,
369
00:19:48,275 --> 00:19:49,812
I'm getting several
different procedures
370
00:19:49,845 --> 00:19:52,685
done to change
soft tissues, bone,
371
00:19:52,718 --> 00:19:56,759
and other features
of my face to feminize them.
372
00:19:57,126 --> 00:20:00,299
And despite the fact
that I'm doing it to
373
00:20:00,332 --> 00:20:03,940
give myself greater feelings
of, like, pleasure and freedom
374
00:20:03,973 --> 00:20:06,311
and happiness and joy
in my own body,
375
00:20:06,344 --> 00:20:08,249
as much excitement
as that brings,
376
00:20:08,282 --> 00:20:10,721
it also brings sadness
and mourning
377
00:20:10,754 --> 00:20:13,560
that I'm going to be
saying goodbye to
378
00:20:13,593 --> 00:20:15,496
a face that I was born with.
379
00:20:16,999 --> 00:20:18,970
[phone notifications]
380
00:20:21,509 --> 00:20:23,547
I told my mom, "I don't
want you to be surprised
381
00:20:23,580 --> 00:20:25,583
that I have a new
face entirely."
382
00:20:26,919 --> 00:20:28,723
This was before she started
screaming at me.
383
00:20:28,756 --> 00:20:31,996
This was, [mimicking Sherry]
"But you're so handsome.
384
00:20:32,029 --> 00:20:33,700
"What are you doing to my son?
385
00:20:33,733 --> 00:20:37,474
"Someone's convincing you
that you're transgender
386
00:20:37,508 --> 00:20:38,944
"and you need to get
your face done.
387
00:20:38,977 --> 00:20:41,515
Your face is beautiful.
Why would you change it?"
388
00:20:41,983 --> 00:20:43,854
I've tried so hard
to get her to hear me,
389
00:20:43,887 --> 00:20:45,456
to get her to understand me.
390
00:20:45,489 --> 00:20:47,661
And I've realized that she's
not capable of doing that.
391
00:20:48,129 --> 00:20:50,032
Like, I've been
gifted other mothers.
392
00:20:50,065 --> 00:20:51,435
Like, I have to make a post.
393
00:20:51,468 --> 00:20:52,470
I'm putting you
on my story.
394
00:20:52,504 --> 00:20:53,706
-Right now.
-[Nina] Yeah.
395
00:20:54,073 --> 00:20:56,613
-[Aishani laughs]
-Beautiful.
396
00:20:56,646 --> 00:20:58,616
[indistinct chatter]
397
00:20:59,484 --> 00:21:00,520
[laughter]
398
00:21:04,929 --> 00:21:07,567
-How you doin'?
-May I check inside the skates?
399
00:21:08,503 --> 00:21:09,972
Oh, they doin' that now?
400
00:21:10,373 --> 00:21:12,310
Lookin' inside the skates?
401
00:21:12,343 --> 00:21:13,311
Yeah.
402
00:21:14,113 --> 00:21:16,819
[♪ upbeat music playing
in skating rink]
403
00:21:16,852 --> 00:21:18,723
[indistinct chatter]
404
00:21:28,910 --> 00:21:31,615
[♪ light music playing]
405
00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:46,010
♪♪♪
406
00:22:10,727 --> 00:22:12,864
[Tamara]
Kalin, Mommy.
407
00:22:13,398 --> 00:22:14,936
[Amari] [over phone]
Hi, dada!
408
00:22:14,969 --> 00:22:16,739
[chuckling]
409
00:22:16,772 --> 00:22:17,774
Hi.
410
00:22:22,651 --> 00:22:24,889
[Tamara]
Talk to your mama.
411
00:22:24,922 --> 00:22:26,626
[Amari] Hi.
412
00:22:26,659 --> 00:22:27,794
Just...
413
00:22:51,842 --> 00:22:53,713
She ain't post no videos.
414
00:22:53,746 --> 00:22:56,586
She posted one,
but it ain't doin'
no numbers.
415
00:22:56,619 --> 00:22:58,823
So, I'm like, she kinda
lettin' it go to waste.
416
00:23:10,747 --> 00:23:12,182
[laughter]
417
00:23:13,051 --> 00:23:14,655
[Amari]
[on phone] Hey!
418
00:23:16,659 --> 00:23:19,665
[Ellie] Speedy weed!
I'm fuckin' dead.
419
00:23:30,052 --> 00:23:31,421
[Ellie] Ooh, this looks good.
420
00:23:31,823 --> 00:23:33,425
[Ellie] Yeah. Yeah.
421
00:23:42,811 --> 00:23:45,049
Hoorsenbuhs is just
Bodhi's family's company.
422
00:23:45,082 --> 00:23:46,218
They started this brand
423
00:23:46,251 --> 00:23:49,157
and they make great quality
clothing and jewelry.
424
00:23:49,190 --> 00:23:50,492
It's art.
425
00:23:55,069 --> 00:23:57,006
[ringback tone]
426
00:24:03,218 --> 00:24:04,755
[typing]
427
00:24:39,725 --> 00:24:42,798
Bodhi went through my phone
and just kind of discovered,
428
00:24:42,831 --> 00:24:45,771
like, you know, Julian and I
still kind of together
429
00:24:45,804 --> 00:24:48,208
when Bodhi and I were in, like,
starting our relationship.
430
00:24:58,094 --> 00:25:00,834
There was a picture of Julian
and I in, like, in bed.
431
00:25:00,867 --> 00:25:04,074
It wasn't anything, like, crazy,
but we were, like, in our--
432
00:25:04,107 --> 00:25:06,044
you know, he was,
like, in his boxers.
433
00:25:24,982 --> 00:25:28,021
Bodhi, he was, like,
in between wanting
to stay with me
434
00:25:28,054 --> 00:25:29,992
and then, like,
breaking up with me.
435
00:25:30,025 --> 00:25:30,927
But he, like, loved me,
436
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:32,262
but he, like, didn't
trust me, you know?
437
00:25:33,799 --> 00:25:36,271
So... I was like,
"I love you so much,
438
00:25:36,304 --> 00:25:38,342
I'll literally get
your name tatted on me,"
439
00:25:38,375 --> 00:25:40,580
to, like, prove it to him.
440
00:25:40,613 --> 00:25:42,216
[indistinct chatter]
441
00:25:42,249 --> 00:25:44,622
He wrote it out
in his writing and then,
442
00:25:44,655 --> 00:25:46,626
put, like, "333" at the top.
443
00:25:46,659 --> 00:25:48,128
333 is our number.
444
00:25:51,802 --> 00:25:53,640
Bodhi got his family company,
445
00:25:53,673 --> 00:25:56,646
Hoorsenbuhs's logo,
above his knee.
446
00:25:56,679 --> 00:25:58,281
It is very meaningful to him.
447
00:26:01,689 --> 00:26:04,294
I love Bodhi.
I hope I marry him one day.
448
00:26:04,327 --> 00:26:04,928
I'm just kidding.
[awkward laugh]
449
00:26:09,237 --> 00:26:11,207
[birds chirping]
450
00:26:17,019 --> 00:26:19,357
Wow, this is pretty spacious.
451
00:26:19,390 --> 00:26:22,998
-Ahh!
-[kisses]
452
00:26:23,031 --> 00:26:27,039
-Everybody says hi. Ivy and...
-I was like, "Who?"
453
00:26:27,574 --> 00:26:30,680
-We have a whole family
that moved in.
-[laughter]
454
00:26:30,713 --> 00:26:32,182
Ahh!
455
00:26:40,299 --> 00:26:41,835
[laughs]
456
00:26:43,973 --> 00:26:45,643
Ahh!
457
00:26:46,879 --> 00:26:48,683
[Yana] It's a Nina themed day.
458
00:26:48,716 --> 00:26:49,952
[Nina] One of the most
beautiful gifts
459
00:26:49,985 --> 00:26:51,889
of transition for me has been
460
00:26:51,922 --> 00:26:53,960
receiving love and
an outpouring of support
461
00:26:53,993 --> 00:26:55,864
from old friends.
462
00:26:55,897 --> 00:26:57,768
But also with my dad, like,
463
00:26:57,801 --> 00:26:59,938
being willing to accompany me
through this process.
464
00:27:01,407 --> 00:27:03,746
Like, "Dad of the Year"
award, please.
465
00:27:03,779 --> 00:27:06,919
It's really moving to me
that he came all the way
fucking out here.
466
00:27:06,952 --> 00:27:08,990
I didn't think
I could tell any family,
467
00:27:09,023 --> 00:27:11,061
-like, biological
family members.
-Yeah.
468
00:27:11,094 --> 00:27:13,265
Like, I don't know how
to explain to you people
469
00:27:13,298 --> 00:27:17,708
why I'm getting my fucking
skull permanently altered
470
00:27:17,741 --> 00:27:20,246
and you're just like,
"No questions asked,
how do we help?"
471
00:27:20,279 --> 00:27:22,383
-Yeah.
-Like, that, to me, is, like,
472
00:27:22,416 --> 00:27:24,989
never in my wildest
dreams, you know?
473
00:27:25,022 --> 00:27:27,392
-Yeah. It's beautiful, dude.
-Um, so, yeah, thank you.
474
00:27:27,827 --> 00:27:31,736
I'm, like... like,
coming into womanhood
475
00:27:31,769 --> 00:27:34,775
-without my, like,
biological mother.
-Sure.
476
00:27:34,808 --> 00:27:36,913
I did have a moment
of thinking about, like,
477
00:27:36,946 --> 00:27:39,718
-bra shopping with Mom
for the first time.
-Yeah!
478
00:27:45,530 --> 00:27:47,065
[Yana] Yeah? Okay.
479
00:27:48,970 --> 00:27:50,706
[Yana] I'm so ready for you.
480
00:27:51,608 --> 00:27:53,378
[Nina] My surgeon told me,
like, a lot of girls
481
00:27:53,613 --> 00:27:56,317
come in with, like, pictures
of Instagram models
482
00:27:56,752 --> 00:27:58,957
wanting to, like,
have this exact face
483
00:27:58,990 --> 00:28:00,860
and look exactly like her.
484
00:28:05,803 --> 00:28:08,509
There are a lot of girls who
genuinely feel gender euphoria
485
00:28:08,542 --> 00:28:10,746
from presenting
as hyperfeminine.
486
00:28:11,113 --> 00:28:13,452
I know I love wearing
a hoochie shirt,
487
00:28:13,485 --> 00:28:14,922
I love wearing
something low-cutting,
488
00:28:14,955 --> 00:28:17,092
I love wearing a push-up bra.
489
00:28:20,098 --> 00:28:21,300
[Yana]
It makes your boob--
490
00:28:23,104 --> 00:28:24,306
[sighs]
491
00:28:24,674 --> 00:28:27,179
But also, I know, like, it's
a trap that we can get into
492
00:28:27,212 --> 00:28:30,185
as trans women
and as women generally,
493
00:28:30,218 --> 00:28:32,524
presenting in ways
that are hyperfeminine.
494
00:28:32,557 --> 00:28:35,195
Like, I'm so excited to get
through the different
495
00:28:35,228 --> 00:28:38,234
laser hair removal procedures
that I've been saving up for.
496
00:28:38,636 --> 00:28:41,207
But, like, where do you
think those standards
of beauty come from?
497
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:42,910
Like, patriarchy, right?
498
00:28:43,812 --> 00:28:46,151
How people should look,
and what women
should sound like
499
00:28:46,184 --> 00:28:49,223
and look like,
and who a woman is.
500
00:28:49,256 --> 00:28:51,027
And I'm like,
"What the fuck?"
501
00:28:51,060 --> 00:28:52,396
How do I make terms
with the fact that, like,
502
00:28:52,429 --> 00:28:54,535
a lot of the ways that
I wanna present myself
503
00:28:54,568 --> 00:28:57,073
and the things
that I aspire to be
and look like
504
00:28:57,106 --> 00:29:01,247
are to, like, "grab attention"
or to "appeal to a male gaze"?
505
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,354
[♪ light music playing]
506
00:29:04,387 --> 00:29:07,961
I have to remember
this is not about
looking more beautiful,
507
00:29:07,994 --> 00:29:10,499
this is about feeling
more at peace with myself.
508
00:29:10,533 --> 00:29:13,137
-So proud of you, dude.
-[Nina] Thank you.
509
00:29:14,875 --> 00:29:16,210
I love you.
510
00:29:18,415 --> 00:29:23,091
How many of you were asked
to send a nude of yourself,
511
00:29:23,392 --> 00:29:27,166
or received one,
512
00:29:27,199 --> 00:29:31,842
and then, can you say
how old you were?
513
00:29:31,875 --> 00:29:34,581
-Thirteen.
-Honestly, like, probably,
like, third grade.
514
00:29:34,614 --> 00:29:38,422
-Sixth grade. This was 12.
-[Lauren] When you were asked
or you asked?
515
00:29:38,455 --> 00:29:42,196
No, no, I didn't ask.
It goes, it goes,
like, both ways.
516
00:29:42,229 --> 00:29:45,235
Sometimes it's just like,
"Oh, you're so hot.
Like, do you send?"
517
00:29:45,670 --> 00:29:47,172
And then you're like...
518
00:29:47,974 --> 00:29:49,511
yes or no.
519
00:29:50,279 --> 00:29:52,216
And then if--
Sometimes if you say no,
they're like,
520
00:29:52,249 --> 00:29:53,619
"Please, I'm so horny."
521
00:29:53,652 --> 00:29:56,024
And you're like,
"I don't fucking care.
Like, ew."
522
00:29:56,057 --> 00:29:58,428
Like, when I was little
in, like, 7th grade,
523
00:29:58,461 --> 00:30:01,334
naked pictures of me
got leaked to everyone,
524
00:30:01,367 --> 00:30:04,139
so everyone thought
I was a slut already.
525
00:30:04,373 --> 00:30:07,279
And, even now, in 12th grade,
526
00:30:07,312 --> 00:30:11,087
some people still
have that image of me.
527
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:12,924
I think online sexual harassment
528
00:30:12,957 --> 00:30:14,460
is something people
don't really talk about,
529
00:30:14,493 --> 00:30:16,197
or it's just kinda
harder to understand.
530
00:30:16,230 --> 00:30:19,136
Like, how can you
sexually harass someone
through a phone?
531
00:30:20,472 --> 00:30:25,449
I remember there was
a student at Pali, um,
532
00:30:25,482 --> 00:30:28,255
I'm not sure if you know
who I'm talking about,
but I think--
533
00:30:28,288 --> 00:30:31,929
or his name was going around
as someone who, um,
534
00:30:31,962 --> 00:30:33,231
had not only sexually harassed,
535
00:30:33,264 --> 00:30:34,634
but also sexually
assaulted girls.
536
00:30:34,668 --> 00:30:36,939
[Stella] [over phone]
Yes, I know what
you're talking about.
537
00:30:36,972 --> 00:30:39,444
There was this one boy
538
00:30:39,477 --> 00:30:43,085
who had a pretty
similar plot
539
00:30:43,118 --> 00:30:45,489
for all of these
different girls.
540
00:30:45,523 --> 00:30:47,226
I never even
met him in person,
541
00:30:47,259 --> 00:30:49,263
he just added me on Snap.
542
00:30:49,296 --> 00:30:51,101
Asked if he could
take my virginity.
543
00:30:51,134 --> 00:30:54,608
I left him on read,
and then he was like,
"Hi?? Hi?"
544
00:30:54,641 --> 00:30:57,146
And he had, like, hit up
my friend at the same time
545
00:30:57,179 --> 00:30:58,482
and she was
telling me about it.
546
00:30:58,516 --> 00:31:00,285
And I was like,
"Oh, same, same, same."
547
00:31:00,318 --> 00:31:03,391
Actually, it goes, like,
way back to, like, 7th grade.
548
00:31:03,424 --> 00:31:06,498
The same guy started texting me
and he asked me out.
549
00:31:06,532 --> 00:31:09,003
I was like, "No,"
and then he continued
550
00:31:09,036 --> 00:31:11,407
to, like, kinda
harass me about it
551
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,546
through 9th grade,
10th grade,
552
00:31:13,579 --> 00:31:15,382
he was sending me
a bunch of pictures,
553
00:31:15,415 --> 00:31:17,554
like, pressuring me
to send nudes.
554
00:31:17,587 --> 00:31:20,125
Then, one night,
he just sent me, like,
555
00:31:20,158 --> 00:31:22,997
an unsolicited,
like, dick pic.
556
00:31:23,431 --> 00:31:25,135
An-- I-It wasn't one time.
557
00:31:25,168 --> 00:31:26,572
It's happened
several times with him
558
00:31:26,605 --> 00:31:28,241
and he, like,
texted me on Snap.
559
00:31:28,274 --> 00:31:31,447
He was like,
"I took a Viagra for you."
560
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,387
And I didn't even know
what that was, like,
what that meant.
561
00:31:34,420 --> 00:31:37,193
[Sofia]
He hit me up, and he hit
a lot of friends I knew up.
562
00:31:37,226 --> 00:31:41,067
And I was just like,
"This guy, like, needs
to get what's coming to him."
563
00:31:41,100 --> 00:31:43,371
And the guys
were just kinda like,
"Let's, like, beat his ass."
564
00:31:43,404 --> 00:31:45,108
[student 1]
Fucking bitch!
565
00:31:46,277 --> 00:31:48,247
[indistinct shouting]
566
00:31:48,782 --> 00:31:51,989
[♪ tense music playing]
567
00:31:52,022 --> 00:31:53,525
[fighting]
568
00:31:53,959 --> 00:31:55,597
[student 2]
'Sup, bro?
569
00:31:55,630 --> 00:31:57,132
-[student 3] Woo!
-[student 4] What's up?!
570
00:31:57,165 --> 00:31:59,036
What do you wanna
say to the camera?
571
00:32:03,712 --> 00:32:04,715
[giggles]
572
00:32:04,748 --> 00:32:07,152
The video
was pretty divisive.
573
00:32:07,185 --> 00:32:12,296
I think some people...
thought it was great.
574
00:32:12,329 --> 00:32:16,271
Like,
"How sweet are these boys
fighting the other boy."
575
00:32:16,304 --> 00:32:19,043
And then,
other people were like...
576
00:32:19,076 --> 00:32:23,051
"These guys are just making
a show of protecting women
577
00:32:23,084 --> 00:32:24,420
"and using violence,
578
00:32:24,453 --> 00:32:26,424
"and nobody's actually
doing anything,
579
00:32:26,457 --> 00:32:28,427
and these aren't
good guys either."
580
00:32:29,296 --> 00:32:32,571
[over phone]
I did see all these people
posting stuff...
581
00:32:32,604 --> 00:32:35,408
but there was nobody
that had actually taken...
582
00:32:36,377 --> 00:32:38,181
direct action?
583
00:32:38,415 --> 00:32:41,254
I was the first person
to actually file
a police report
584
00:32:41,287 --> 00:32:42,256
and start talking about it,
585
00:32:42,289 --> 00:32:45,763
and I used social media
as a way to do that.
586
00:32:45,796 --> 00:32:48,335
I decided to give
a little bit of education
587
00:32:48,368 --> 00:32:51,040
about what's not okay.
588
00:32:51,073 --> 00:32:54,447
And then I posted
an LAPD phone number
589
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:56,084
to call to make a report,
590
00:32:56,117 --> 00:32:59,190
so they can tell
their own story on it.
591
00:32:59,223 --> 00:33:01,327
It was shared around a lot.
592
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,064
I got a lot of positive
feedback like,
593
00:33:03,097 --> 00:33:04,267
"Thank you
for sharing this,"
594
00:33:04,300 --> 00:33:06,204
"Thank you
for doing something."
595
00:33:06,237 --> 00:33:08,676
[Jonathan]
I think what you did
was incredible and I wonder
596
00:33:08,709 --> 00:33:10,546
if after posting
that information,
597
00:33:10,579 --> 00:33:13,653
did you hear from
some of his victims?
598
00:33:13,686 --> 00:33:16,491
[Stella]
I mean... jeez,
more than just him.
599
00:33:16,525 --> 00:33:18,495
It was, like, a whole...
600
00:33:18,529 --> 00:33:21,234
cascade of stories
that came out.
601
00:33:21,267 --> 00:33:23,471
Like, a little
mini Los Angeles,
602
00:33:23,505 --> 00:33:25,308
high schooler
Me Too Movement.
603
00:33:25,610 --> 00:33:28,214
Somebody made
an Instagram account
604
00:33:28,247 --> 00:33:30,553
called,
"We Will Not Be Silenced"
605
00:33:30,586 --> 00:33:34,293
and all of these girls DM'd,
either anonymously or not,
606
00:33:34,326 --> 00:33:36,431
their stories with,
not only this kid,
607
00:33:36,464 --> 00:33:38,769
but different guys.
608
00:33:38,802 --> 00:33:40,806
It became a big thing.
609
00:33:41,274 --> 00:33:43,779
There was no adults involved
610
00:33:43,812 --> 00:33:47,286
except for that officer
that I spoke to.
611
00:33:47,319 --> 00:33:49,825
It was pretty much
all this
612
00:33:49,858 --> 00:33:53,364
high schooler-led movement
through social media.
613
00:33:54,466 --> 00:33:57,239
It's an important thing
to talk about,
614
00:33:57,272 --> 00:34:01,114
but I don't think
it changed the way men act.
615
00:34:01,147 --> 00:34:05,556
I don't think it changed
the way the women felt.
616
00:34:05,589 --> 00:34:08,796
For me,
I was definitely misled
617
00:34:08,829 --> 00:34:12,537
by some boys choosing
to post about consent
618
00:34:12,570 --> 00:34:16,812
because it was the trend
that was really huge.
619
00:34:16,845 --> 00:34:21,622
The person who ended up
being my, like, abuser
620
00:34:21,655 --> 00:34:26,665
was somebody who had posted
during that time about consent.
621
00:34:31,307 --> 00:34:34,212
-[ambient street noise]
-[birds chirping]
622
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:39,791
[Santi] Some kids just
need some spankings.
623
00:34:39,824 --> 00:34:42,530
[Sofia] I got hit as a kid,
it didn't feel good.
624
00:34:42,563 --> 00:34:44,567
[Santi]
Well, you're not
a piece of shit.
625
00:34:45,870 --> 00:34:48,675
-Yes, I am.
-No, you're not.
626
00:34:49,009 --> 00:34:52,550
-You got manners--
-Everybody can be
a piece of shit sometimes.
627
00:34:52,917 --> 00:34:54,621
[Santi] That's true,
but there's some people
628
00:34:54,654 --> 00:34:57,192
that are, like, just
born pieces of shit.
629
00:34:57,225 --> 00:34:59,531
-I don't think so.
-Like a rot--
Like a rotten orange.
630
00:34:59,564 --> 00:35:01,401
I don't--
But oranges aren't--
631
00:35:01,434 --> 00:35:04,574
They don't grow rotten,
they become rotten.
632
00:35:04,975 --> 00:35:08,815
But I don't think anyone's
inherently bad... ya know?
633
00:35:09,784 --> 00:35:12,657
When I first, like,
downloaded Instagram,
634
00:35:12,690 --> 00:35:15,395
it made me grow up faster
than I was already growing up.
635
00:35:15,428 --> 00:35:16,731
When I was, like, 14,
636
00:35:16,765 --> 00:35:19,470
my friends were like,
"You guys, let's find
sugar daddies!"
637
00:35:19,504 --> 00:35:21,642
And I was like,
"Yeah, oh, my God,
let's do it."
638
00:35:21,675 --> 00:35:23,478
And I was, like, calling
people, like, "Daddy"
639
00:35:23,512 --> 00:35:25,448
that I had no clue
who they were,
at, like, 15.
640
00:35:31,561 --> 00:35:33,364
[Sofia]
Oh, no, I would go on Omegle
641
00:35:33,397 --> 00:35:35,570
and I remember
someone told me,
they were like,
642
00:35:35,603 --> 00:35:37,172
"You should try
to sell feet pics."
643
00:35:37,205 --> 00:35:39,443
And I was like,
"I should try
to sell feet pics."
644
00:35:39,476 --> 00:35:41,247
-[laughter]
-And I thought it
was a great idea
645
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:42,550
and then, it got
progressively worse
646
00:35:42,583 --> 00:35:44,521
because I feel like
I got more comfortable
647
00:35:44,554 --> 00:35:46,558
with, like,
exploiting myself.
648
00:35:47,092 --> 00:35:49,564
[Ivy]
There's, like, so many
old men on social media
649
00:35:49,597 --> 00:35:51,334
that are, like,
lookin' for feet pics.
650
00:35:51,367 --> 00:35:53,672
My friends made
a lotta money.
651
00:35:53,705 --> 00:35:57,446
Honestly, if they can
make money off selling
their feet pics,
652
00:35:57,479 --> 00:35:59,250
good for them.
[chuckles]
653
00:35:59,283 --> 00:36:00,485
We just kinda
laugh about it.
654
00:36:00,519 --> 00:36:02,557
We're like, "Oh, yeah,
I made, like, $75
655
00:36:02,590 --> 00:36:04,528
selling feet pics
to some old guy."
656
00:36:04,561 --> 00:36:05,630
We don't judge
each other for it,
657
00:36:05,663 --> 00:36:08,568
but we also don't, like,
feel super empowered.
658
00:36:09,302 --> 00:36:11,909
Growing up means fucking up,
and that's how we learn,
659
00:36:11,942 --> 00:36:15,950
but to have our fuckups
in a form that is so public
660
00:36:15,983 --> 00:36:18,722
and so susceptible
to judgment,
661
00:36:18,755 --> 00:36:21,461
and so permanent
'cause it doesn't go away,
662
00:36:21,494 --> 00:36:24,734
it is so scary that we are being
allowed to actually do this.
663
00:36:24,767 --> 00:36:26,538
And the people who are
running these sites,
664
00:36:26,571 --> 00:36:27,607
they know what
they're doing.
665
00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:28,809
-Yeah.
-And they're doing it on purpose
666
00:36:28,842 --> 00:36:30,245
because they want
us to be on it
667
00:36:30,278 --> 00:36:31,548
and 'cause they make
money off of us.
668
00:36:31,581 --> 00:36:32,917
[Keshawn]
That is true.
669
00:36:34,888 --> 00:36:39,497
If Jeff Bezos offered you
a-a million to suck him up,
670
00:36:39,531 --> 00:36:41,668
-what you doin'?
-[friends] What?
671
00:36:41,701 --> 00:36:44,540
Nothin'!
Fuck wrong with you?
That's gay.
672
00:36:48,314 --> 00:36:50,653
-Shit, I don't know.
-Alright then, shut the hell up.
673
00:36:50,686 --> 00:36:51,621
It gotta be in the moment.
674
00:36:51,655 --> 00:36:54,026
I'll be like, "Okay,
I'll think about it."
675
00:36:54,059 --> 00:36:55,929
So, you gon' really do it?
676
00:36:56,263 --> 00:36:59,469
Right now?
Most prolly.
677
00:37:01,307 --> 00:37:03,813
You can't lie.
Oh yeah, a million, bro?
678
00:37:03,846 --> 00:37:06,819
[Kenneth] That's gay.
You gay from the jump
for even thinkin' that.
679
00:37:06,852 --> 00:37:08,823
Alright, 10 million.
680
00:37:08,856 --> 00:37:12,329
-I don't give a fuck
kinda million it is.
-Nah, you lyin' now.
681
00:37:12,362 --> 00:37:13,464
Josh, would you do it?
682
00:37:15,936 --> 00:37:18,843
[Kenneth] Alright then,
call AJ and ask him.
683
00:37:18,876 --> 00:37:20,713
AJ gonna be like,
"Hell yeah."
684
00:37:20,746 --> 00:37:22,617
-[FaceTime ringing]
-Do it, call him.
685
00:37:22,650 --> 00:37:24,754
-Yo!
-Yo!
686
00:37:24,787 --> 00:37:25,890
What's up?
687
00:37:25,923 --> 00:37:26,959
Ten million right now,
688
00:37:26,992 --> 00:37:28,829
Jeff Bezos walk in here, right?
689
00:37:39,918 --> 00:37:41,554
[laughter]
690
00:37:47,867 --> 00:37:50,839
[sings]
♪ I just hope you wish me well
'cause this gon' get hard ♪
691
00:37:52,242 --> 00:37:55,716
People think I'm a player,
but I'm really runnin' out
of my budget.
692
00:37:55,749 --> 00:37:58,020
Like, I can't have
nothin' extra no more.
693
00:37:59,891 --> 00:38:03,598
But everybody tellin' me
to put this music out.
694
00:38:04,332 --> 00:38:07,706
I just hope big payout
really happens.
695
00:38:08,174 --> 00:38:10,111
[sings]
♪ I know we gon' get paid ♪
696
00:38:10,144 --> 00:38:12,550
[on playback]
♪ I know we gon' get paid ♪
697
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:19,798
[Julie] Oh, my God.
This is so cute.
698
00:38:19,831 --> 00:38:21,635
Yeah, I know, right?
699
00:38:21,668 --> 00:38:23,772
-[Julie chuckles]
-Got it from G Stage.
700
00:38:23,805 --> 00:38:25,910
-[phone notifications]
-Or Fashion G or whatever.
701
00:38:25,943 --> 00:38:27,647
-Really?
-Yeah.
702
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:30,853
Yeah, I thought they closed
all their bitch-asses.
703
00:38:40,004 --> 00:38:41,140
-Bye-bye.
-I love you.
704
00:38:41,173 --> 00:38:44,079
-I love you, see you tomorrow.
-See you tomorrow. Bye.
705
00:38:45,115 --> 00:38:48,420
Goodnight, Mom. Love you.
Okay. Goodnight. Love you.
706
00:38:49,189 --> 00:38:51,828
Hey, sis.
I'ma go to sleep,
I'm so tired.
707
00:38:51,861 --> 00:38:53,565
-[Nadine] Alright.
-[Ellie] Goodnight. Love you.
708
00:38:53,598 --> 00:38:55,769
[Nadine]
Goodnight, love you too.
709
00:38:56,136 --> 00:38:58,073
[phone notifications]
710
00:39:05,088 --> 00:39:07,058
[window grate creaks]
711
00:39:13,170 --> 00:39:14,540
[Ellie] No?
712
00:39:26,463 --> 00:39:27,967
[mumbles indistinctly]
713
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:30,104
No, Nadine,
I'm not knocking.
714
00:39:33,879 --> 00:39:35,916
What the fuck?
I'm not even being--
715
00:39:40,793 --> 00:39:43,464
What are you--
Bro, what are you
talking about?
716
00:39:43,497 --> 00:39:44,868
Like, I'm literally
not being a bitch,
717
00:39:44,901 --> 00:39:46,571
I'm just saying
no one's knocking.
718
00:39:50,546 --> 00:39:53,117
Okay, well,
if I open the window,
what's wrong with that?
719
00:39:56,190 --> 00:39:58,127
[ringback tone]
720
00:40:15,061 --> 00:40:18,000
[♪ tense music playing]
721
00:40:32,128 --> 00:40:34,165
♪♪♪
722
00:41:14,714 --> 00:41:15,916
[chuckles]
723
00:41:16,584 --> 00:41:18,621
♪♪♪
724
00:41:19,857 --> 00:41:21,894
[phone notifications]
725
00:41:49,584 --> 00:41:51,554
♪♪♪
726
00:42:23,284 --> 00:42:24,787
[♪ music fades out]
727
00:43:21,266 --> 00:43:24,941
Bro, the crazy thing about this
is we have so many stories
728
00:43:24,974 --> 00:43:26,811
that I feel like
we only, like, just--
729
00:43:26,844 --> 00:43:29,149
like, it's-- this is just,
like, the tip of the iceberg
730
00:43:29,182 --> 00:43:31,353
of, like, what we
go through and what,
731
00:43:31,386 --> 00:43:34,727
not only us but people,
go through in their
fucking daily life.
732
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:35,996
That's how common it is.
733
00:43:36,029 --> 00:43:38,234
People don't take
this seriously.
734
00:43:38,267 --> 00:43:41,407
It's not even just, like, Pali,
it's, like, kind of everywhere.
735
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:44,881
Like, it also just happens,
like, s-- in the most, like--
736
00:43:44,914 --> 00:43:46,450
I was walking
to my friend's dorm,
737
00:43:46,483 --> 00:43:48,421
I had just filmed
all day and directed,
738
00:43:48,454 --> 00:43:51,761
and I was so happy,
it was, like, such a good day.
739
00:43:51,794 --> 00:43:53,865
And we were going
to go edit the footage
740
00:43:53,898 --> 00:43:55,803
and this other guy, like,
holds the door, lets me in,
741
00:43:55,836 --> 00:43:57,239
and I'm like,
"Oh, like, that's really nice."
742
00:43:57,272 --> 00:43:59,744
And then he comes over
and he's like, "Hey,"
743
00:43:59,777 --> 00:44:02,783
and he, like, literally, like,
ch-- like, kinda holds me,
744
00:44:02,816 --> 00:44:04,888
like, and is, like--
I couldn't, like, do anything
745
00:44:04,921 --> 00:44:06,257
and he's like,
"You're really cute,"
746
00:44:06,290 --> 00:44:08,027
like, "Do you wanna
come to my dorm?"
747
00:44:08,060 --> 00:44:10,131
-Literally a two-minute
walk in broad daylight.
-That's disgusting.
748
00:44:10,164 --> 00:44:13,137
I'm wearing, like, a hoodie
and, like, sweatpants,
749
00:44:13,170 --> 00:44:16,912
and then he, like,
starts, like, touching
my ass and shit, an--
750
00:44:16,945 --> 00:44:19,049
The thing is, like, that,
like, it was just one second
751
00:44:19,082 --> 00:44:22,790
and, and it's, like,
that's how I'm gonna have
to remember that day?
752
00:44:22,823 --> 00:44:23,992
Like...
753
00:44:27,332 --> 00:44:28,902
It was, like, one o'clock
in the morning,
754
00:44:28,935 --> 00:44:31,106
and, all of a sudden,
my phone started blowing up.
755
00:44:31,675 --> 00:44:34,179
These guys, like,
all started calling me.
756
00:44:34,212 --> 00:44:37,954
These were my friends
and I had known them
and I trusted them,
757
00:44:37,987 --> 00:44:40,759
so I was like, "Okay, yeah,
you guys can come pick me up."
758
00:44:40,792 --> 00:44:42,162
So, they got here,
they came to pick me up.
759
00:44:42,195 --> 00:44:44,934
The guy, [bleep],
wasn't in the car.
760
00:44:44,967 --> 00:44:48,374
Um, so we went
to his house, you know?
761
00:44:48,407 --> 00:44:51,347
And I-- The only reason
I actually went was
because [bleep]
762
00:44:51,380 --> 00:44:53,986
actually told me, like,
that there'd be weed there
763
00:44:54,019 --> 00:44:55,455
and I was, like,
didn't have any.
764
00:44:55,488 --> 00:44:57,827
And I got there and he's like,
"Nah, there's no weed."
765
00:44:57,860 --> 00:45:00,231
But he, like, handed me
a bottle of vodka.
766
00:45:00,264 --> 00:45:03,004
I'm not good with drinking.
And I told him no at first,
767
00:45:03,037 --> 00:45:04,807
but then he was like,
"Just come on.
It's fine. It's fine."
768
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:06,511
So, like, I, like,
realized that
769
00:45:06,544 --> 00:45:09,182
I ended up drinking almost,
like, the whole bottle
770
00:45:09,215 --> 00:45:11,453
or what was left
in the bottle.
771
00:45:11,486 --> 00:45:14,025
[distant sirens wailing]
772
00:45:17,365 --> 00:45:21,073
Um, like, my memory
gets really bad,
773
00:45:21,106 --> 00:45:26,083
but I remember him, like,
coming up to me, you know...
774
00:45:26,116 --> 00:45:28,421
and being like, um, like,
775
00:45:28,454 --> 00:45:30,425
"Come on," like,
"Suck my dick."
776
00:45:30,458 --> 00:45:34,366
And I was like, "No,"
like, "You're a fool."
And I pushed him.
777
00:45:34,399 --> 00:45:36,805
And I guess, like,
778
00:45:36,838 --> 00:45:39,343
that just didn't send
the message across
779
00:45:39,376 --> 00:45:43,083
because, like, basically,
like, the next thing
I really remember...
780
00:45:44,854 --> 00:45:47,225
of, like, opening my eyes,
781
00:45:47,258 --> 00:45:50,131
not really-- I think--
I don't remember exactly,
782
00:45:50,164 --> 00:45:51,367
but it was kinda just, like--
783
00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:53,104
I kinda realized
what was happening
784
00:45:53,137 --> 00:45:55,508
and it was
too late to stop it.
785
00:45:55,742 --> 00:45:59,984
A-And, like, my underwear
were actually, like, ripped off
and, like, torn,
786
00:46:00,017 --> 00:46:01,353
and...
787
00:46:03,591 --> 00:46:07,298
[emotional] I was, like,
just under him, you know?
788
00:46:09,870 --> 00:46:11,339
[sniffling]
789
00:46:17,553 --> 00:46:19,088
[crying]
Sorry.
790
00:46:22,328 --> 00:46:25,201
At that point, I was frozen,
you know? [sniffles]
791
00:46:25,234 --> 00:46:29,576
And I--
People ask me all the time,
like, why didn't I stop it?
792
00:46:30,912 --> 00:46:33,084
And I don't know why
I didn't stop it.
793
00:46:33,117 --> 00:46:36,490
Like, I wanted to,
I just couldn't, like,
794
00:46:36,524 --> 00:46:39,530
I couldn't talk,
I couldn't say anything,
you know?
795
00:46:40,198 --> 00:46:44,072
And then I remember I, like--
after it was over, and I tried--
796
00:46:44,105 --> 00:46:45,408
my underwear were ripped,
797
00:46:45,441 --> 00:46:48,280
so I couldn't even
put them back on,
and...
798
00:46:48,882 --> 00:46:53,023
um... and then he just,
like, wanted me to go
799
00:46:53,056 --> 00:46:56,029
and he just told one of
his friends to drive me home.
800
00:46:57,666 --> 00:46:59,904
[Sofia sniffling]
801
00:46:59,937 --> 00:47:01,206
And then I went home.
802
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:03,477
Yeah, that's it.
803
00:47:06,216 --> 00:47:09,088
Thank you guys for listenin'.
[chuckles]
804
00:47:12,228 --> 00:47:13,364
[Lauren]
You okay?
805
00:47:13,397 --> 00:47:15,568
Yeah, I'm okay.
806
00:47:23,217 --> 00:47:26,090
[Sydney] I have a story
about him too, so...
807
00:47:26,123 --> 00:47:28,327
-Yeah, um--
-[Sofia] I've never heard
anybody, like, that had,
808
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:30,331
-like, a story about him.
-[Sydney] Really? Nope.
Yeah, I do.
809
00:47:30,364 --> 00:47:32,068
Everyone made me
fucking feel crazy.
810
00:47:32,101 --> 00:47:34,206
Everyone was
like, like, like,
811
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:36,343
"You must've not
remembered it right."
812
00:47:36,376 --> 00:47:38,682
I know, 'cause he's so popular
and everybody loves him.
813
00:47:38,715 --> 00:47:40,953
[Sofia] Everyone.
And I was just like, "What?"
814
00:47:40,986 --> 00:47:42,122
Like, "What are you telling me
815
00:47:42,155 --> 00:47:43,491
I don't remember
what happened to me?"
816
00:47:43,525 --> 00:47:45,294
Like, like, "What?"
817
00:47:45,327 --> 00:47:47,331
You're not crazy.
[chuckles]
818
00:47:47,666 --> 00:47:51,306
The next day, he texted,
"Are you on birth control?"
819
00:47:52,108 --> 00:47:53,477
[Anthony]
Damn.
820
00:47:53,511 --> 00:47:57,152
This was in, like,
July over quarantine,
821
00:47:57,185 --> 00:47:59,356
and then, school started.
822
00:47:59,389 --> 00:48:03,665
The guy who raped me ended up
seeing me during school.
823
00:48:03,698 --> 00:48:06,103
He started talking to me
in front of my friends,
824
00:48:06,136 --> 00:48:08,107
so I pulled him aside
'cause I was embarrassed,
825
00:48:08,140 --> 00:48:11,280
-where he raised his voice at me
and so I started fucking crying.
-[Anthony] Yeah.
826
00:48:11,313 --> 00:48:13,552
[Sofia]
No one asked me
if I was okay.
827
00:48:13,585 --> 00:48:16,323
No one was like,
"Do you need help?"
Nobody.
828
00:48:16,356 --> 00:48:18,127
He literally came up to me
829
00:48:18,160 --> 00:48:20,398
and my little sister
during fucking school.
830
00:48:20,431 --> 00:48:22,068
-Oh, my God.
-At fucking school.
831
00:48:22,101 --> 00:48:23,705
[Anthony]
That fool went to your sister?
832
00:48:23,738 --> 00:48:25,709
[Sofia]
My 14-year-old sister.
833
00:48:25,742 --> 00:48:28,582
That's when I tried to get
the restraining order
834
00:48:28,615 --> 00:48:29,984
'cause that scared me.
835
00:48:30,017 --> 00:48:32,021
The court, they were,
basically, like, um,
836
00:48:32,054 --> 00:48:33,525
we don't have,
like, enough evidence
837
00:48:33,558 --> 00:48:35,662
that he's, like, an immediate
threat to your life.
838
00:48:35,695 --> 00:48:38,133
So, I was like,
"Okay, he is threatening my life
839
00:48:38,166 --> 00:48:40,739
"because I go home every night
and I sit in a dark room
840
00:48:40,772 --> 00:48:43,410
"and I think about, like,
'What the fuck am I doing?'
841
00:48:43,443 --> 00:48:45,414
Like, 'What is life?'"
842
00:48:45,447 --> 00:48:48,187
So, like, yeah,
he was an immediate
danger to my life.
843
00:48:48,220 --> 00:48:50,191
He definitely was.
844
00:48:50,224 --> 00:48:53,330
Multiple people told me, like,
"Talk to Anthony about it."
845
00:48:53,363 --> 00:48:56,537
[♪ light, tense music playing]
846
00:48:57,138 --> 00:48:58,541
[Anthony]
One thing about me is
847
00:48:58,575 --> 00:49:02,683
I don't fuck with that
toxic masculinity shit,
like, I'ma be real.
848
00:49:02,716 --> 00:49:06,423
I just think that
abusing women like that,
849
00:49:06,456 --> 00:49:08,661
that's some straight
wild shit right there.
850
00:49:09,395 --> 00:49:12,335
-It's actually crazy 'cause
he was actually a friend.
-[Sofia] What?! Oh, my God.
851
00:49:12,368 --> 00:49:13,470
[Stella]
Really?
852
00:49:15,341 --> 00:49:16,611
[Anthony]
I had, I had a lot of friends
853
00:49:16,644 --> 00:49:19,182
that were actually into
sexual assault.
854
00:49:20,351 --> 00:49:21,721
They were doin'
all that shit
855
00:49:21,754 --> 00:49:23,658
and I had to separate
myself from that.
856
00:49:23,691 --> 00:49:25,662
I can't tolerate that.
857
00:49:25,695 --> 00:49:29,035
My grandma was raped,
my girlfriend is a rape victim.
858
00:49:29,670 --> 00:49:31,440
I know how that feels.
859
00:49:31,473 --> 00:49:33,043
But she said,
"You can never
feel that pain,"
860
00:49:33,076 --> 00:49:34,179
and I said,
"I can't feel the pain,
861
00:49:34,212 --> 00:49:36,049
but I'm seein' it right now."
862
00:49:36,450 --> 00:49:38,655
So, I took action.
That's what a man's
supposed to do.
863
00:49:38,688 --> 00:49:40,558
You supposed
to take action
for a woman.
864
00:49:41,359 --> 00:49:45,268
I started this whole thing
about fuckin' up these rapists
865
00:49:45,301 --> 00:49:47,338
because it just frustrated me.
866
00:49:47,371 --> 00:49:49,242
All those guys
we went to school with,
867
00:49:49,275 --> 00:49:50,344
I call them
the "white entitled kids."
868
00:49:50,377 --> 00:49:52,582
They-they think they can
get away with everything.
869
00:49:53,116 --> 00:49:55,454
You mentioned
sexual assault
and rape
870
00:49:55,656 --> 00:49:58,762
and how it feels like
871
00:49:58,795 --> 00:50:02,101
situations like that
aren't taken seriously.
872
00:50:02,134 --> 00:50:04,038
I've noticed
the same thing as well.
873
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:07,813
It was really bad up there.
These kids didn't know
how to ask for consent.
874
00:50:07,846 --> 00:50:09,650
The school didn't handle it.
I had to handle it.
875
00:50:09,984 --> 00:50:13,090
[in video]
Alright, what's up, guys?
The Black Superman's back.
876
00:50:13,123 --> 00:50:15,361
We're makin' a video
on this fucking scumbag.
877
00:50:15,394 --> 00:50:18,768
I downloaded Premiere Pro,
Sony Vegas and all that stuff.
878
00:50:18,801 --> 00:50:22,474
Screenshots of everything.
I made videos about rapists.
879
00:50:22,909 --> 00:50:24,647
Then I put it on YouTube,
880
00:50:24,680 --> 00:50:26,383
exposing they
whole information,
881
00:50:26,416 --> 00:50:28,086
talkin' 'bout where
they live and everything.
882
00:50:28,521 --> 00:50:31,594
[in video] It's your man,
the Black Batman is back.
883
00:50:31,627 --> 00:50:34,834
Shout-out to everybody
that watched the last video,
884
00:50:34,867 --> 00:50:37,573
we got to 1,900, let's try
to get that to 2,000
885
00:50:37,606 --> 00:50:40,210
and try to get these
other rapists exposed.
886
00:50:42,683 --> 00:50:44,519
[Sydney]
I support Anthony.
887
00:50:45,053 --> 00:50:47,424
He is kind of like
a Robin Hood.
888
00:50:47,959 --> 00:50:49,530
The cops
will never do anything,
889
00:50:49,563 --> 00:50:52,268
so, like, he's taking matters
into his own hands.
890
00:50:52,636 --> 00:50:53,772
I didn't know you.
891
00:50:53,805 --> 00:50:55,809
-[Anthony] Yeah.
-I didn't know what
to do, at all.
892
00:50:55,842 --> 00:50:58,213
I would, like, be like,
"Why are these people
telling him?
893
00:50:58,246 --> 00:50:59,382
Why aren't they
telling the police?"
894
00:50:59,415 --> 00:51:01,186
[Anthony]
Like, the other girl
I was talking about,
895
00:51:01,219 --> 00:51:03,324
she literally said that
when she tried to, like,
896
00:51:03,357 --> 00:51:05,161
get the whole, like,
police involved,
897
00:51:05,194 --> 00:51:07,298
they just literally shut
the whole thing down with him
898
00:51:07,331 --> 00:51:09,436
-and that's crazy.
-So, an-another person
filed a report
899
00:51:09,469 --> 00:51:10,605
-against him?
-Yeah.
900
00:51:10,638 --> 00:51:12,374
-That's crazy.
-Yeah.
901
00:51:12,909 --> 00:51:15,582
[Sofia] I sent Anthony
a Snapchat being like,
902
00:51:15,615 --> 00:51:18,287
"Yeah, [bleep] did this to me."
903
00:51:18,320 --> 00:51:22,261
Like, honestly, even, like,
s-saying it felt good.
904
00:51:37,224 --> 00:51:40,364
[Anthony]
At that time, I had, like,
a pretty good big following,
905
00:51:40,397 --> 00:51:42,536
so that was, like,
a good 15,000 people.
906
00:51:42,569 --> 00:51:46,275
Six hundred screenshots.
Yeah. Yeah.
907
00:51:46,543 --> 00:51:48,814
There were so many people
that shared it.
908
00:51:49,148 --> 00:51:50,117
Like I said,
I can't touch him,
909
00:51:50,150 --> 00:51:52,589
I'll figure a way how
to fuck their mind up.
910
00:51:52,622 --> 00:51:54,325
That's all you gotta do.
911
00:51:55,327 --> 00:51:58,635
But he definitely needs
to be brought to justice.
912
00:51:58,668 --> 00:51:59,937
I posted his home address
913
00:51:59,970 --> 00:52:02,475
and I gave his damn mom's
phone number and shit.
914
00:52:02,509 --> 00:52:04,947
'Cause I'ma,
I'm not gonna lie,
915
00:52:04,980 --> 00:52:06,884
you're a fuckin'
parent and shit.
916
00:52:06,917 --> 00:52:09,355
On all these parents
try to sue me and shit,
917
00:52:09,388 --> 00:52:11,226
you need to take
a goddamn look at yourself.
918
00:52:11,259 --> 00:52:12,494
Like, what the fuck
did you raise?
919
00:52:14,265 --> 00:52:17,940
Around that time,
my Snapchat got disabled
920
00:52:17,973 --> 00:52:19,944
and they took
my whole account down.
921
00:52:19,977 --> 00:52:22,482
And I tried to unlock it
and it doesn't unlock,
922
00:52:22,516 --> 00:52:24,853
so I literally
lost everything.
923
00:52:25,387 --> 00:52:27,526
I try to be a outlet
for a lot of these women.
924
00:52:27,559 --> 00:52:28,962
I feel like
that's God's work.
925
00:52:28,995 --> 00:52:32,201
He wants us to, he wants us
to expose these people.
926
00:52:32,736 --> 00:52:35,241
But my Snapchat
has so much proof.
927
00:52:35,274 --> 00:52:37,513
All these girls have
all their testimonies.
928
00:52:37,546 --> 00:52:39,248
I just wanna get that back.
929
00:52:39,583 --> 00:52:41,453
I mean, when you tell
an administrator
930
00:52:41,486 --> 00:52:43,925
your story about being raped
and they don't believe you,
931
00:52:43,958 --> 00:52:46,731
and that kid can still go
to the same school as you,
932
00:52:46,764 --> 00:52:49,737
and there are multiple stories
of that and it keeps happening,
933
00:52:49,770 --> 00:52:51,908
it-it's so hard to continue
hearing these stories
934
00:52:51,941 --> 00:52:53,911
and feel like
nothing's being done.
935
00:52:59,857 --> 00:53:01,827
Are you still able to log in?
936
00:53:03,965 --> 00:53:04,933
What does it say?
937
00:53:08,306 --> 00:53:09,677
I gotta get
that Snapchat back.
938
00:53:09,710 --> 00:53:12,014
It's like a holy grail
of things in there.
939
00:53:12,047 --> 00:53:14,820
Like, anybody you want
taken down is, like,
on that shit, man,
940
00:53:14,853 --> 00:53:17,325
-so it's, like, crucial
we get all this shit.
-Yeah.
941
00:53:17,358 --> 00:53:18,762
♪♪♪
942
00:53:18,795 --> 00:53:22,769
In the process
of learning about Anthony
and his vigilantism,
943
00:53:22,802 --> 00:53:25,407
there were a lot of things
on his Snapchat account
944
00:53:25,440 --> 00:53:27,980
that were incredibly important
to his life, to his story,
945
00:53:28,013 --> 00:53:30,317
but also to other
people's stories.
946
00:53:32,589 --> 00:53:36,731
These girls are victimized
by these horrific perpetrators
947
00:53:36,764 --> 00:53:38,801
and nothing happens.
948
00:53:39,235 --> 00:53:41,707
I wanna try to see
if we can recover your mem--
949
00:53:41,740 --> 00:53:42,976
like, your saved
Snap memories.
950
00:53:43,009 --> 00:53:45,314
Click here to access
the data, yeah.
951
00:53:45,347 --> 00:53:46,950
Go to "reported content."
952
00:53:47,284 --> 00:53:49,322
And so,
I sort of appreciate
953
00:53:49,355 --> 00:53:52,361
what Anthony has done
for these girls,
954
00:53:52,394 --> 00:53:54,465
and how social media becomes
955
00:53:54,498 --> 00:53:57,438
the only answer for these
people to be exposed.
956
00:53:57,471 --> 00:53:59,877
Um, go to the HTML file.
957
00:53:59,910 --> 00:54:03,985
-So, just try downloading
any one of them.
-Oh, ho-ho-ho.
958
00:54:04,018 --> 00:54:07,826
Damn, this is, like,
everything. Hell yeah.
959
00:54:08,528 --> 00:54:10,464
[Jonathan]
Oh, wait, that's that--
That's her.
960
00:54:10,497 --> 00:54:11,934
[Anthony]
That is her.
This is the--
961
00:54:11,967 --> 00:54:15,509
Ooh, shit, this is the whole
motherfuckin' text, yeah.
962
00:54:15,542 --> 00:54:17,345
"after I get
a restraining order"
963
00:54:17,378 --> 00:54:18,848
"not yet maybe eventually"
964
00:54:19,884 --> 00:54:22,656
[Jonathan]
We were able to get back
those chat messages
965
00:54:22,689 --> 00:54:24,726
between Anthony and Sofia.
966
00:54:25,828 --> 00:54:30,471
This provided us evidence
to people who doubted
her story.
967
00:54:30,505 --> 00:54:32,475
So, that's the first time
she reached out to you, right?
968
00:54:32,509 --> 00:54:33,811
[Anthony]
That is the first time
she reached out.
969
00:54:33,845 --> 00:54:36,082
[Jonathan]
Still, nothing's happened.
Jesus. It's literally--
970
00:54:36,115 --> 00:54:38,621
That's almost a year ago today.
971
00:54:38,654 --> 00:54:40,559
[Anthony]
That's why you gotta take it
into your own hands.
972
00:54:40,592 --> 00:54:44,934
-At least we found all
Sofia's stuff, though.
-Like, it's just crazy.
973
00:54:44,967 --> 00:54:48,675
Also shows how much
data they keep about you,
like, how much they save.
974
00:54:48,708 --> 00:54:50,845
[scoffs] What can I say, man?
975
00:54:50,878 --> 00:54:54,520
You can't... can't fuck
with the Big Tech, man.
976
00:54:54,553 --> 00:54:56,523
The Big Tech,
they got everything on you.
977
00:54:57,324 --> 00:54:59,597
[Jonathan]
Retrieving Anthony's
data showed that,
978
00:54:59,630 --> 00:55:01,801
"Holy shit, this did happen.
979
00:55:01,834 --> 00:55:05,508
Finally, please,
for God's sake,
believe her."
980
00:55:05,942 --> 00:55:07,946
[phone notifications]
981
00:55:11,119 --> 00:55:13,925
[Anthony] [in video]
I put that on my studio
that I will stop all rapists
982
00:55:13,958 --> 00:55:16,964
from living in society
and I'm gonna do that shit.
983
00:55:16,997 --> 00:55:20,036
[♪ tense music playing]
984
00:55:27,151 --> 00:55:29,388
♪♪♪
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