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I was afraid
to go to a therapist.

If I'm ashamed to
admit that I have anxiety

disorder and depression,
how can I take care of it?

I personally believe
that there is a stigma

around mental health.

I believe that people
keep things bottled up

inside of them because they're
afraid of what might happen.

I was afraid
kids might make fun of me.

Sometimes kids,
and even teachers and parents,

can get frustrated
and say hurtful things.

Like, tell me to
"stop acting crazy."

Or say I'm being ridiculous.

Or accuse me of making it up.

Or say that I just
need to suck it up.

Saying those things
is extremely hurtful.

Extremely hurtful.

The words you use matter.

I wanted to be seen
as someone who was tough

and could endure anything
that came my way.

I was an athlete. I mean,
it was my job to be tough

and to play hurt sometimes.

But "tough" keeps us
from being brave.

On behalf of our son, pierson...

We thank you
for taking the time to know

more about life with an anxiety
disorder and depression.

So, the stigma prevents
people from just starting.

But when we begin the journey
and we allow ourselves

to be influenced by people
who can really help us...

Um, that's when
the healing begins.

Because when you know better...

You do better.

J“ why don't we lay
and paint the skies j“

j“ why do we ever
close our eyes j“

j“ with so much see,
you right here with me j“

j“ strawberry skies
and freckled smiles j“

j“ 'cause you and I j“

I love to run.

J“ were meant to be j“

j“ the world is
such a lovely place j“

I love to ride horses.

I love graphic design.

I love iongboarding and music.

J“ all of the people,
they just want to live j“

j“ with you, me, in harmonyj'

I love to write.
I'm able to express my feelings

on a piece of paper and
read it back to myself,

and it's, like, mirroring
my feelings to myself.

I feel like, um...

Like there's a weight
lifted off of my shoulder.

There are two ways my body works

that I'd like to
tell you more about.

Two ways my body works
that some people

have a hard time understanding.

And even though they
are real medical conditions,

some people
believe they are not.

I live with an anxiety
disorder and depression.

I do too.

Me too.

I do too.

[Live with an anxiety disorder

and depression, too.

I do, too.

My name is Abby Eden.

I'm Ryan lefebvre.

I'm an award-winning journalist,

and I anchor the number-one
morning show in my city.

I am an award-winning
major league broadcaster:

22 years with
the Kansas City royals,

and four years with
the Minnesota twins.

I'm a wife to
my wonderful husband, Tyler,

and mom to a sweet girl, dottie.

I have been married to my
beautiful wife and best friend,

Sarah, for 13 years,
and we have four great kids.

Three boys,
Micah, Evan, and Lucas,

and our daughter, Callie.

Definitely as a male, um,

the stigma did prevent me from,
first of all,

just opening up and being
honest that I was struggling

with something that
I could not contain

and something that
I... I couldn't control.

The first time
my anxiety disorder flared up,

I was very young, in school.

One of my classmates
accidentally hurt themselves,

and when I saw the blood,
I panicked.

I couldn't catch my breath.

I cried uncontrollably,

and the teacher
had to call my parents.

I still feel that way
when my anxiety hits.

Even now, as an adult,
it overwhelms me.

I feel like I'm drowning
and I'm helpless.

When my
anxiety disorder kicks in,

I worry about the same thing

Over and over, over and over...

Over and over, over and over,
over and over,

over and over...

It's all I can think about.

It just repeats in my head.

At first,
I really didn't understand

what was happening to me.

I thought I was being weak,

because real men don't cry.

Real men don't stay up all
night worrying about nothing.

Seventh grade
is when I first started

getting symptoms of depression.

I wasn't happy.
Nothing made me happy,

even all the things that
normally made me feel happy.

I felt alone and
that no one understood me.

When my depression hits me,

I feel heavy, down,
and sad, no matter what.

My days feel so slow.

I cry.

I feel like life is
just an endless cycle,

and I'll just go through
the motions and feel this way

over and over again,

like it will never end.

Before I knew that
I had anxiety and depression,

a way I coped with it
was just crying.

Taking a shower and crying.

And then I would
push it aside...

Until I couldn't anymore.

My depression can
be very dark, and very empty.

And one of the low points
of my depression

was sitting in my closet
for minutes, maybe hours,

sobbing, with tears
dripping down my cheeks,

with no motivation
and no reason to leave.

I was alone,
I was abandoned, I was lost.

This is the first time

I've talked about it openly.

When somebody asked me
what was wrong, I would just

brush it off or say,
"I'm fine" or "I'm great,"

or I would just
look at them and smile.

I would avoid the conversation

so I wouldn't have to
be honest with myself.

Like, I was acting strong

to avoid what I was
truly feeling at the time.

I spent a lot of time
putting on a mask.

I felt like if I was open
and honest about my feelings,

that would hurt
the people I loved around me.

My name is breydon Austin.

Roshaun is my brother.

My name's roginia.
I love being roshaun's mother.

My family is very loving.

We always care for one another.

We're always there,
no matter what.

My family is...

My support system,
my best friends.

We're really,
really, really close.

I believe there's a stigma, um,
with anxiety and depression.

People don't really think
about it, how serious it is,

and just say, "get over it,"

or just think they're...
Like, they're just faking.

They don't really see
what's really inside

their heart or their mind.

In our culture,
we kinda are taught

to keep everything inside,

not to really show emotion,
and if you feel like

you want to cry or something,
suck it up.

When we're kids,
we're like, playing around,

and, uh,
let's say we hurt each other.

Like, say, like,
someone hurt your heart

or something like that.

Like, to me, I never really go
to anybody about my problems,

and I kind of keep
my problems all built inside.

Ever since I was young,
that's always what I did.

I haven't really told anybody,

'cause I don't really
want to seem weak.

"Stop crying and
stop being a little baby."

Before I understood anxiety
disorders and depression,

I didn't believe roshaun.

I would say,
"just get it together."

Like, you know, "suck it up.
There's people who have

worse problems than you.
You have a good life.

How can you be depressed?
You have, you know,

all kinds of gaming systems,

you get to go do
everything you want to do."

And I really thought
he was manipulating me

to make me feel bad, because
maybe I treated one child

a little bit different
than the other child.

I was so worried about
the stigmas around depression

and anxiety that I just
told myself to suck it up.

But when I physically
couldn't do it anymore,

I judged myself,

and I called myself weak.

I left our house
to go to college.

I had a football scholarship.
Football all the time.

Like, say, if, um,
we're running and stuff

and we're about to throw up,

or we're starting to feel sick
or our stomach hurt,

it would always be like, "pain
is weakness leaving your body,

pain is weakness
leaving your body."

So, I... I kind of
keep more things into me,

'cause I kind of equate that
to emotional pain as well.

So, if I show
emotional pain, I'm weak.

McKenna and I have been close

for as long as I can remember.

Morgan is
my best friend and my cousin.

I remember when we were little, at our
grandma's house, we would hide under the bed

together until
our parents agreed

we could have a sleepover.

We were just
having too much fun.

Oh my god. She's...

We just didn't want it to end.

We just wanted to stay together.

- And we still do.
- We still do.

I know that Morgan's
depression's kicked in

when she feels distant,

when I don't hear from her
for a day or two,

and she won't
talk to me for a while,

and she doesn't answer
my calls or my texts.

Because my anxiety disorder

and depression are real.

Very real.

I can count on Dylan.

He listens. He cares.

At camp, I realized
I could count on mack.

When I went back
to school that fall,

I had mack in
some of my classes.

We've been friends ever since.

I can usually tell when Dylan is

going through something.

He usually comes into class
laughing or smiling.

But when
his depression kicks in,

he just has a blank expression.

When I am
bound up by depression,

I'm convinced that the world
is having one big ol' party

and everybody's invited,
except for me.

What I eventually
learned from my therapist

is that my body was reacting
to a real medical condition,

no different from
being attacked by a virus

or an allergen.

Depression is a medical
condition that has to do with

how our bodies deal
with emotions like sadness.

Too much sadness
is called "depression."

My name is Dr. Ali mattu.

I am a clinical psychologist
and assistant professor

at the Columbia university
Irving medical center

in New York City.

Kids like Allie, Dylan,
jana, Morgan, and Michael

visit a doctor
like me to help them

with their anxiety disorders
and depression

so they can live their lives

and do the things
that they want to do.

It's not just doctors or
therapists that can help people

living with an anxiety disorder
or depression.

You can help too,
by being a good friend.

I wish this film had been
around when I was struggling

to understand my anxiety
disorder and depression.

I'm so proud of you for having
the courage to learn more

about life with an anxiety
disorder and depression,

and how to be a good friend
to those that live with them.

And I'm so happy that you are
taking the time to learn

about these very real
medical conditions.

The right amount of
anxiety helps us react quickly

and get out of danger.

But too much anxiety
can be uncomfortable

and may even hurt us.

Too much or excessive
anxiety is called

an "anxiety disorder."

And they can be very serious.

Even though kids living
with an anxiety disorder

and depression may be
working hard to manage them,

just like with any other
medical condition,

like asthma or the flu,

they can worsen and
become extremely severe,

even life-threatening.

J“ wind blows its
strongest course and I j“

when my depression hits,
it takes me over.

It takes over everything.

J“ winter comes
and makes us cold j“

j“ but you were supposed
to keep me warm j“

it's like I am drowning,

and everyone's
telling me I am not,

that I'm fine, I'm okay.

But I know I am not.

J“ the color grey
don't seem too dark j“

j'butlj'

j“ I'm shadow blind j“

it even stops me
from making music,

because I feel like
I don't have a voice.

I lose motivation
to leave the house,

and to even live.

According to
the centers for disease control

and prevention, nearly
one in six high school students

has seriously
considered suicide.

And one in twelve
have attempted suicide.

Like with pierson.

His anxiety disorder and
depression were just too much.

His anxiety disorder and
depression became so severe

that he died by suicide
before filming began.

Pierson was a brave advocate
for educating people

about life with anxiety
disorders and depression.

He was one of the first kids
to join this film project,

and even helped
raise money for it.

Hi, I'm pierson.

You have to understand,
this is an illness.

It's not something
that I can just stop.

I live with
anxiety and depression.

My parents are great,
and they support me

being open about
my anxiety and depression.

They say they never want me
to be ashamed of who I am.

And guess what? I'm not.

While there are ways
to treat and manage

anxiety disorders
and depression,

right now, there is no cure.

Although doctors and
scientists are working hard

to figure them out,
right now, there is no cure

for anxiety disorders
or depression.

One thing that's
important to know about anxiety

and depression is that
the person living with them

can't control whether, how,
when, or why they have them.

They just have them,
just like we have

any other bodily reflex
or medical condition.

Part of the stigma
around anxiety disorders

and depression is that
people think you should be able

to just shake it off
or get over it.

And I know I thought that.

Before I understood what
anxiety and depression was,

I just really saw roshaun
as a disobedient young man

who just didn't have
a level of respect

that I thought he should have,

and we argued quite a bit
and bumped heads.

We used to get in,
like, a lot of fights.

His emotions would start
to work up really high.

He won't stop. His body
just keeps going and going.

I would just be like,
"stop. Get it under control.

What's wrong with you?
Go to your room."

- "Stop being a little baby."
- "Calm down."

"You're not gonna
talk to me like that.

You better learn
who you're talking to."

I wasn't able
to just get over it.

I was battling with
emotions with myself.

In everything else in life, if
something isn't working for us,

we just need to try harder,
or we need more information,

or somehow,
we can use our willpower

to improve our situation.

And unfortunately, that
doesn't work with depression.

And depression and anxiety
requires a surrendering,

and realizing that it
doesn't have anything to do

with our willpower, and that
we have a medical condition,

and we need
other people to help us.

- It's a medical condition.
- I can't control whether...

Why I have an anxiety
disorder and depression.

Just like I can't
control whether I sneeze.

- Or when I cough.
- Why I get thirsty.

Believe me,
if I could, I would tell you.

It's just part of who I am.

Two down.

And one ball and one strike.

I think if anything
happens to the body,

it... it needs time to heal.

And if someone cuts their arm
and puts medication on it

and lets it heal, you know,

that's not gonna bother
anybody, but for some reason,

when we... when we cut and
we bleed on the inside,

it comes out in tears.

It comes out in depression.
It comes out in anxiety.

I didn't wish
I could just get over it,

because it made me who I am.

So, basically,
being surrounded by people

who treat mental
illness the same way

that you treat
a physical illness

is one of the most
important things for me.

You can't tell if someone is
living with an anxiety disorder

and depression
just by looking at them.

Sometimes your friend may be
experiencing severe depression

and they will seem fine
on the outside, even happy.

When I'm depressed,

sometimes it's just easier
for me to put on a happy face.

My first memory
of jana is so vivid.

It's our kindergarten
Halloween parade,

and jana was dressed up as
a spider with these huge legs,

and I thought it was
the coolest costume ever.

I thought to myself,
"she is making such a statement

right now, and I have to
be her friend immediately."

We've been making statements
together ever since.

My first memory
of grace was she was one

of the only girls that
would play tetherball with me.

We've been owning
tetherball courts ever since.

When I notice
that jana's dropped out,

I reach out to her and ask
what's wrong and if she's okay.

I go find her at school.

Or if we're at home,
I text her and see

if she wants to go
for a walk or a drive.

I think the key to
getting rid of this stigma

is if we come together
as a community

and help people who
have anxiety disorders

and depression to feel loved,
and heard, and just listen.

Michael is my best friend.

I'm Allie's biggest fan.

J“ why don't we lay
and paint the sky j“

I live with an anxiety
disorder and depression.

My anxiety disorder
is social anxiety.

When I walk into a room, I feel
like everyone is staring at me

and judging me, or when
I walk down the hall at school

and kids are laughing behind me,

I automatically assume
they're laughing at me.

Thoughts start building
and building in my head.

Since we both have it,
we know how to help each other.

We know what to look for.

We know how to
read body language.

J“ showed me who I am and
you brought all the light j“

j“ you told me
I was beautiful j“

j“ how to fight
through the night j“

She's there
for me when I need her.

Michael is an amazing person.

He is my best friend.
I admire his strength.

I've had to be
hospitalized several times

for my anxiety disorder
and depression.

Even throughout
his own struggle,

he was still caring about me.

He knows how to
be understanding.

He knows when it's time to talk,

and time to just
shut up and listen.

Looking back, I believe that

he didn't feel that
he was being heard.

I was just, um, very... tired.

Um, I really felt like
I was failing as a parent,

that god hadn't equipped me
with the right tools

to be able to parent him,
and really was at the point

that I was thinking that maybe,
um, he would be better off

parented by his grandparents
or his father.

Another stigma
around mental health is that

talking about anxiety
disorders and depression

will make these
conditions worse.

Especially talking
about suicide,

or even saying the word,

will make it
more likely to happen.

I thought if
I talked about suicide,

it might, um, possibly
cause it to actually happen.

But talking won't
make things worse

or suicide more likely.
The truth is that talking is

one of the most powerful ways
to feel better.

I realized that
you need somebody there

to help you, to talk to.

Like, you have to talk with them

and get them through it calmly.

You can't just scream
at 'em, yell at 'em,

or say hurtful things, even
if you don't even mean 'em.

I would just say,
"roshaun, I'm sitting here

right with you, no matter what,
and you already know

if you call me for anything,
I'll be there for you.

If you... if you need me for
anything, or you need talk

or anything,
whatever you gotta do,

just know I'm gonna
be there for you."

And then usually
I'll just give him a hug

and hold him until he relaxes.

When my anxiety
hits me, it helps to know that

mack is open to
talking to me about it,

that I can tell him anything,

and he will try his best
to give me good advice,

no matter what
I'm going through.

When Dylan is having anxiety,

I am there for him
and really listen.

So, there was a...

A turning point in my recovery,

and I was interviewed for a
story in the Kansas City star.

And the writer, Jeff passan,

and I were sitting
in a restaurant.

And after some small talk,
he took his recorder,

and he put it on the table
and he hit "record."

And his question was,
"so, who is Ryan lefebvre?"

And I had a choice to make.
I could talk about

Ryan lefebvre
the major league broadcaster,

Ryan lefebvre
the former college athlete,

like I'd answered dozens
of interviews before that...

Or I could take this opportunity

and share who I really was and
what was going on in my life.

And I chose the latter.

And it was at a time

when men really weren't talking
a whole lot about depression.

We do everything we can
to avoid talking about it.

I felt like it was almost
a whisper from god saying,

"here you go.
Here's your chance."

And I told him.

I told him everything
that had happened to me,

everything I was going through.

And the response
was overwhelming.

And I still to this day get
letters from complete strangers

just thanking me
for telling my story.

If you're
worried about your friend,

it's important
that you talk to them

and ask them if they're okay.

Ask them if they're having
thoughts of hurting themselves.

Talking to them won't
make the situation worse.

It just makes it easier for
them to talk about their pain.

I think that there is a stigma
in regards to talking about

anxiety disorder and depression.

What people will think,
or, you know, um,

you know, people don't
really understand it.

People don't even really
believe that it's a real thing.

And the last thing
they want is for somebody

to tell them that
their feelings aren't valid.

So, the stigma

prevents people
from just starting.

But when we begin the journey,

and we allow ourselves
to be influenced

by people who can
really help us, um...

That's when the healing begins.

I think too many people think
we shouldn't talk about it,

but I think they're wrong.

The more we talk
about these things,

the easier it is to understand.

If my friends
understood what anxiety

disorder and depression were,
it would make my life easier.

The first way you can
be a good friend to someone

living with an anxiety
disorder and depression...

Is to learn what they are.

So, let's talk about it.

What exactly is anxiety?

A big turning point
for me was when I discovered

there was a difference between
normal anxiety that helps us,

and an anxiety disorder
that hurts us.

The right amount
of anxiety is great.

Human beings need it
to keep us safe.

It's similar to a reflex.
We can't control it.

It just happens,
like coughing or sneezing.

Coughing is what
our body does when

we breathe in something that
is dangerous to our lungs.

Anxiety is what
our body does when

we step into a situation
that is dangerous to us.

Anxiety is like
our body's fire alarm.

It tells us we are in danger
and we need to act fast.

A simple way to think
about it is to imagine

if you were walking in
the jungle and saw a tiger.

Anxiety would kick in to
help you fight the tiger off,

flee from the tiger,
or it helps you freeze

and be very still
so the tiger won't see you.

It takes a lot of energy
to fight off a tiger.

And it's anxiety's job
to give us that energy.

Everyone has anxiety.

I need anxiety.

I need anxiety.

So do I.

And so do you.

Normal anxiety is different
than an anxiety disorder.

After 26 years

of announcing
major league baseball,

I still feel anxious
before a broadcast.

But that type of anxiety
actually helps me.

It fuels me and
helps me focus and prepare

so I can do my best.

Anxiety sends
a rush of adrenaline

and other chemicals to help
us react with the strength

and quickness we need
to get away from danger.

It's like rocket fuel
pumping through your body.

Another turning point
for me in my journey

was when I realized that
the human instinct to cry

and sadness can
actually be healthy.

The right amount
of sadness is not a bad thing.

It's actually great for us.

Everyone feels sad sometimes.

I know I do.

- Sometimes I feel sad.
- Me too.

We all live with sadness.

Like anxiety,

sadness has an evolutionary
purpose for human beings.

While anxiety
drives us away from

people, places, or things
that are bad for us,

sadness draws us nearer to
and helps us remember

the people, places,
or things that we care about.

A simple way to
think about it is

to remember when we were babies,

and we needed our caregivers
for our survival.

Our bodies were programmed
to feel sadness when

our caregivers, like our mom,
dad, or grandparents left us.

Our mom, dad, grandparent, or
caregiver would hear our cries

and come back to us,

and give us the care we needed
to be healthy and strong.

The sadness kept us safe.

When we grow up,
we still need care from others

to be healthy and strong.

When Braydon moved to Florida,
it made me really sad.

I felt like
I lost my best friend.

We started hanging out
a lot more in the summer.

But my sadness reminds me
to call him and to talk to him.

It keeps us close,
and his support

makes me healthy and strong.

We still need food, love,

and shelter in our lives
to survive.

It's kind of
like hunger or thirst.

When our body needs
nutrients from food,

it releases chemicals
that make us feel hungry.

We can't control it.
It just happens!

When our body needs support
from other people or things,

it releases chemicals
that make us feel sad.

We can't control it either.
It just happens.

When I forget to eat breakfast,

I get so hungry
right before lunch.

It's hard for me to
concentrate on anything else.

My stomach growls,
can't stop thinking about food.

When the bell rings
for lunch, I am so happy.

Getting hungry
doesn't mean I'm weak,

just like being sad
doesn't mean I'm weak.

Sadness can actually
make us strong when we need it.

J“ let's live in peace j“

j“ not pieces of broken hearts
that have to mend j“

j“ over and over again j“

we all need normal levels

of sadness and anxiety
to function.

From a physical standpoint,
normal anxiety and sadness

impacts our bodies
in a very direct way.

It causes
our heart to beat faster.

Our muscles to tense.

It gives us energy.

Sometimes,
it can make our stomach upset.

And cause our
hands and legs to tremble.

We may even cry.

That's just sadness.

- That's anxiety.
- We all have it.

It's just our body's
normal response.

I guess that's why
I was so confused

when I was overwhelmed
by sadness and anxiety,

because I'd been able
to manage it before.

J“ back when it was so easy
to close our eyes j“

j“ and sleep the days away j“

j“ 'cause we just wanted
to stay the same j“

I just wanted
to be normal, but I couldn't.

It just, like, went from being

this great little toddler

and this happy,
young... young child

into a ball of fire.

J“ I don't think that I can
handle this like I used to j“

I didn't know
what he was experiencing

wasn't normal. You don't know
what you don't know,

and at the time,
I was really blindsided.

J“ I don't think that I can
handle this like I used to j“

Too much coughing and sneezing

can be uncomfortable,
and it may even hurt us.

Too much anxiety
can be uncomfortable,

and may even hurt us.

Too much or excessive
anxiety is called

an "anxiety disorder."

I deal with my anxiety
disorder every single day,

all the time.

I worry that my friends
or family are upset with me

or mad at me, and I can't stop.

It's hard for me to talk
to people and do the things

that I want to do
because I feel scared.

It makes me shake
and sometimes cry.

It makes me want to run and hide

and lock myself in my room.

That's just how
anxiety disorder works.

I feel anxious sometimes too.

My anxiety
disorder has been in my life

since I was young.
It started when I was eight.

I called it my "u-h oh" feeling.

When I think
about going to school

and having to talk to kids,
or being in a social setting,

it makes my anxiety flare up.

For a while, my mom had to
drop me off at a certain spot

at the flagpole
in front of my school,

where I knew
my friends would be,

right at a certain time
or! Would feel really sick.

I would get nauseous and
feel like I couldn't breathe.

It got so bad that
[Had to stop going to school

for a while,
and I missed my friends a lot.

Excessive anxiety
impacts my thoughts

every single day.

I worry that I can't do
what I need to do

to achieve my future goals.

My goal is to earn
a college scholarship

for track and field. But when
my anxiety disorder flares up,

the stress overwhelms me,

and I am convinced
I won't be able to do it.

It's hard to breathe.

I feel trapped,
and that no one can help me.

Sometimes it feels like
I can't take it anymore.

I did everything
I could to push it down,

but one day, I exploded.

The argument started
with me being disrespectful.

I was raised not to
talk back to my parents,

and that is how I was
trying to raise roshaun.

My point was that I felt like

my feelings were
being unheard, and that...

She loved or
looked at my siblings

differently than
she looked at me.

I would say normal anxiety
is you're a little anxious,

you're a little fidgety, um,
you're just a little scared

or you just don't really
know what's happening.

When roshaun's anxiety kicks in,

he just starts
spinning out of control.

I would throw things.

There's no reasoning.

I would get angry at myself.

There's not
any calming him down.

My body was extremely shaky.

I got a phone call
saying that roshaun

was talking about
wanting to take his life.

And that's when I told her
I didn't want to live anymore.

It just made me feel
almost like I couldn't breathe,

because I didn't
know what to do.

It made me, um, question
if I was doing the right thing

as his parent, if... if I should
take him to the hospital.

Um, but by taking him
to the hospital,

I was highly concerned
about him having,

um, something on his record

that would affect him
later on in life.

But then by not doing anything,

I was always fearful
that I would come home

and he would
have made an attempt.

And I w... it didn't really
sit well with me at all,

so I called him and
I made sure that, like,

I exchanged words with him and
told him how much I love him,

and how much it would
really hurt me if I lost him.

I finally realized
his situation was serious

and he can't control it.

It's not something
that he's deciding to do,

or using to manipulate me.

So many times I wanted to sleep,

but my anxious mind
wouldn't let me.

And I wanted to do something,

but my depressed mind
wouldn't let me.

I felt trapped
with nowhere to go.

I live with an anxiety disorder,

and I also live with depression.

[Live with both also.

Studies show that
nearly half of people who

live with an anxiety disorder
also live with depression.

We have learned so much
about what anxiety is.

But what exactly is depression?

One way to think about it
is to imagine if your body

went into a deep state
of hunger or thirst,

and no matter
how much you ate or drank,

you were still
hungry and thirsty.

That's how depression
can feel to some kids,

like they have a hole
that they can't fill.

That's how
depression feels to me.

When my depression kicks in,

I can't control my sadness.
None of the things that

usually make me happy
can cheer me up.

It just feels easier
for me to lay in bed

than do any of the things
that I normally do,

or be around people.

I know everybody feels like
that sometimes, but mine got

to the point where
I hated talking to anyone.

There are times when I notice

jana's really down
and discouraged.

She misses school, and I don't
hear from her for a while.

I think that's when
she's having depression.

I realized
I was living with depression

during my freshman year
of high school.

My horse, Jeffrey, died.

He had been such a source of
support and happiness for me.

I couldn't stop crying.

It's like he'd taken all of
my happiness when he left me.

I stayed in bed all day,

and even thought
about hurting myself.

My doctor explained to me
that I was experiencing

something more than typical
sadness, that it was just

my body's unique way of
responding to losing my horse.

My life with depression
began when I was a teenager.

I feel that I'm unimportant
and that nothing matters,

like I'm unworthy of
any attention or love.

My depression is
like a physical cloud

that comes over me.

Every day is cloudy
when I'm depressed.

My viewpoint on
anxiety disorder and depression

changed after our visit, um,

to the emergency room once
I realized the severity of it.

We were sitting around,
Braydon was home...

And my brother thought
I was being disrespectful,

and he was saying, "do not
talk to my mom like that."

And then I got angry,
and I felt like my mom

always sided with my brother.

He said it again, that he
wished he didn't... wasn't here,

and that he jus... just
wished his life could end.

That he hated
himself and he wanted to die.

My mother told me if
he were to say that again,

that we was gonna
take him to the hospital.

I think that he thought
maybe she was playing.

But since I was there, I said,
"uh-uh. This is not normal.

I grabbed him up and I hugged
him super, super tight.

I was hysterical, and
my brother had picked me up.

Braydon just snatched him up,
threw him over his shoulder,

put him in the car,

and, uh, we drove him
to the emergency room.

That me squeezing him
nice and tight showed him

how much I really loved him,

and then I just
kind of feel like

that feeling
translated into him.

Braydon was crying,
I was crying.

It was an extremely
emotional experience.

That's when I really
realized I had a problem

when I was faced with having
to answer their questions.

What I did learn
was he had a plan.

That I contemplated my death.

He was like, "I'll just take
a whole bunch of pills

and go to sleep,
and it'll be easy."

He would cd. On pills.

Taking a bottle of pills
after school,

and going home and hoping
that I wouldn't wake up.

It was the first
time that roshaun

had really opened up
about his depression.

And if an episode
of depression goes on

for too long,
becomes too serious,

or if your friend mentions
having thoughts of

harming themselves or
taking their own life,

it is vitally important that
you take action right away.

Trust your instincts.

No one expects you
to be their therapist.

Talk to an adult
that you trust for advice

or help dealing with it.

It can be your parents,
your friend's parents,

a teacher, counselor,
coach, an older brother,

older sister, or your doctor.

- You can call my parents.
- Talk to my teacher.

Because I need help.

And I may be too afraid
to ask for it.

And if you're hesitating
because you're worried

that your friend
might be mad at you, don't.

Don't hesitate.

Because your friend's
life is on the line.

Because my life is on the line.

And although I might be
upset with you temporarily,

I will forever be grateful
to you for allowing me

to continue to live
this life and be your friend.

To be strong and healthy.

How I feel about Braydon
in regards to how he responded

in the moment, um,
his brother needed him

is forever grateful.

Um, he was really able to step
up and be the voice of reason.

He just really took
immediate action,

and it was really
the turning point for roshaun.

As soon as he said that,

I was like,
"I can't lose my brother."

He already said it once,
so it's not something that

you need to just
throw over your shoulder.

If I just threw that
over my shoulder

and looked the other way
and didn't think about it,

and the next day
I woke up to a phone call

saying my brother was dead,
that would destroy me.

So if you think your friend
or classmate is in danger

of hurting themselves,
act quickly.

You can even call
a suicide hotline or 911.

If your gut is telling you it is

the right thing to do, do it.

You may help save
your friend's life.

I want Dylan
around for a long time.

I need Allie in my life.

I don't know what
I would do without Morgan.

When I needed help,
my mom was there for me.

Michael helps me
understand that depression

is not my fault,
and it doesn't make me weak.

Just like it's not my fault...

It's not my fault
when my body reacts...

When my body
reacts to an illness

- with too much coughing.
- It's not my fault

when my body reacts
to a stressful situation

- with too much anxiety.
- Just like it's not my fault

when my stomach
growls super loudly,

or I sneeze a lot.

It doesn't mean
I'm weaker than anyone else.

It's just the way my body works.

There are many
incredible parts to Morgan,

and depression
is just one of them.

It's just one part of who I am.

It's just one part
of my amazing friend jana.

'Cause the worst thing
that happens to anybody

when they're going through this
is to truly believe that

they are the only one in
the world going through this,

and that nobody else
will understand

what they're going through.

That is the worst lie
of them all.

But when we're all willing to
just share our story and say,

"yeah, I went through that
before, and here's what I did,"

or, "yeah, I know
exactly how you feel.

I remember when I felt
that way. And it might've

been yesterday, but I know
exactly how that feels."

And... and when... when
someone shares a story

and it gives someone else the
courage to share their story,

and there's this
chain reaction, well,

all of a sudden, the stigma
isn't what it once was.

Anxiety disorders and depression

are medical conditions
that can become severe.

But, there are many
ways to manage them

and live a long,
fulfilling life.

And just like when
I'm having too much coughing

- and sneezing...
- Or allergies.

- I go see a doctor.
- When I'm having too much

- anxiety...
- Or depression...

I go see my therapist.

Kids visit a doctor
or a therapist, like me,

to help them with their anxiety
disorder and depression.

I'm kind of like a coach.

But instead of coaching kids
on their physical skills,

I'm coaching them
on their mental skills.

Instead of teaching kids
how to dribble a ball,

or take a shot at a goal,
I teach kids how to use

breathing techniques
and focus their mind.

Sometimes we talk
in a specific way that is

called cognitive
behavioral therapy.

- I go to a therapist.
- I see a therapist.

So do I. It helps a lot.

I also help kids
come up with a plan

to manage their feelings
and thoughts.

I teach them
relaxation techniques

and breathing exercises.

I give them powerful
tools to help them be

courageous in the face
of their fears.

I knew that I needed
to be able to relate to roshaun

differently, and that he needed
some additional tools.

So he needed a therapist.

Um, there was some things
that was inside of him

that he needed to work through,

that maybe I didn't
have the answers for,

and we really
just needed to find

the... the professional
help to... to get through it.

My doctor taught me
to use breathing exercises

when I feel anxious.

He taught me to inhale
for eight seconds,

hold for seven seconds,

and then exhale
for eight seconds,

and prescribed me medication
to help handle my depression.

And sometimes doctors prescribe
medications to help kids.

Medication helped me manage

my anxiety disorder
and depression.

It's just like
how I have asthma,

and sometimes I need an inhaler.

When you live with an anxiety
disorder and depression,

sometimes you need medication
to make you feel better.

Sometimes my medication changes,

and it takes me a while
to get used to it.

I can be tired and cranky.

It's okay. I understand.

It's just what Michael needs
to do to take care of himself.

I live with anxiety
disorder and depression,

but I work every day
to manage them

through lifestyle choices,
treatments, therapy,

diet, and exercise.

Just like if
you want to run fast,

you have to take care
of your legs.

If you want to be mentally well,

you have to
take care of your brain.

I take care of my brain
by going to therapy,

feeding it the right foods,
listening to great music,

giving it rest,
praying, and exercising it.

Just like any other kid,

I work hard to
stay healthy and strong.

I try to eat healthy foods.

Lots of vegetables.

Eating a gluten and
egg-free diet helps me

manage my anxiety disorder
and depression.

I take quiet time for myself.

[Make time to meditate,
and it helps me.

It actually helps me a lot.

I figured out that
doing volunteer work helps me.

I love donating my time.

It really gives me
a sense of purpose.

I spend time
with family and friends.

I go outside.

Getting out of
my house really helps me.

[Love to go on hikes
and go hammocking with Allie.

We just hang
a hammock and relax in a park.

Ask your friend living
with anxiety and depression

to go on a walk with you,
or go for a drive and talk.

It really helps.

Running outside
in nature really helps me.

Rain or shine,
in the cold of winter

or the heat of summer,
running is my anti-depressant.

A lot of my anxiety
disorder and depression

came from worrying
too much about the future.

I would tell myself horrible
stories about my future.

Like, "I will lose my job.
I will lose my house.

I will lose my relationships.

I will die alone
with no friends."

But my therapist taught me
how to bring myself back

to the present moment by
asking myself the question,

and it almost always
wasn't true.

So I really work on keeping my
thoughts in the present moment.

Doing these things helped me

- with my anxiety disorder.
- And my depression.

It helps me to have
a list of tools and resources,

whether it's in my phone

or printed out and
hung on the wall.

Good food, exercise, outdoors,

friends, therapy,
whatever helps.

These are things all kids can
do to stay healthy and strong,

but they especially
help kids living with

an anxiety disorder
and depression

manage how much and how often
they experience them.

I try to find joy in every day.

I have found that
laughing with my friends

and family is some of
the best therapy for me.

What are things that you do
that make you feel better?

I try to help
roshaun in any way I can.

I'll do anything for Shaun.

Anything, it doesn't matter.

Hey, I want to go show you
something really cool I found.

And there is
so much you can do to

help your friend manage
their anxiety and depression.

Now, that is,
like, from heat and pressure.

That's the only way that's made.

Can't make it any other way.

My brother helped save my life,

because I don't know if that
moment didn't take place,

if I would still
be standing here.

To make this, it had to go under

serious heat and pressure.

So just know even
on your worst days...

You can be beautiful
at the end of the day.

You can even do this
exercise that can help

you feel what it's like
to have an anxiety attack.

Just breathe in and out as
fast as you can for 60 seconds.

That's good.

I can't catch my breath.

Oh, my gosh.

It makes my heart
beat really fast.

It makes me feel a little sick.

That's kind of
what I feel like when

I'm having an anxiety attack.

Except it's a lot different
when you're pretending,

because you know it's gonna end.

When you are really
having an anxiety attack,

- you don't know when...
- Or if...

- it will end.
- It will end.

And anxiety attacks
feel different for everyone.

Some kids get nauseous,
and even faint.

When I am having
an anxiety attack,

I like it when grace
talks to me about something

that she knows makes me happy.

Whatever you're
going through right now,

it'll get better,
and you'll be okay.

And this is just
a small thing compared to

the rest of your life,
and you will be all right.

You can hug!

Sometimes she'll play
my favorite song.

We like to car dance.

So do we.

When I'm having
an anxiety attack,

I like it when
my friend asks me,

"will the thing you're worried
about have any effect on

your life, career, or
health ten years from now?"

It helps me put whatever
it is that's triggering

my anxiety into perspective,
and I feel better.

When Morgan's
having too much anxiety,

I try to remember that it
isn't anything that I'm doing

that's causing it.
I try not to be judgmental,

get angry with her,
or take it personally.

I'm just there for her,

and try not to push her past
what she wants to do.

I support any decision
that Morgan makes

to help herself feel better.

I love that McKenna lets
me know she's there for me,

and doesn't judge me
or try to cure me.

It's not something she can fix,
but she can comfort me

while it's happening
by letting me know

that she's there
and that she cares.

Nice job.

Blondie was kickin' it.

It's interesting that anxiety

has the same physical
symptoms as excitement.

Like waiting in line
for a roller coaster.

Some kids are excited about it,
and some kids are anxious.

Anxiety can be like excitement,

but it's just turned inside-out.

Everyone is different.
Just ask your friend

for directions on how
to help and look for cues.

It also helps to
know my triggers.

A trigger is
something that happens,

or a particular type
of situation,

that may cause
your friend to experience

anxiety and depression.

Triggers are very personal,

and they can change over time.

One of my triggers
is going to school.

- Test-taking.
- When people I know

are fighting or
yelling around me.

Unexpected change to my plans
triggers my anxiety.

Any little change
can set it off.

That's why it's important
that I get outside,

exercise, and go to
my doctor to manage it.

In eighth grade,
we were reading the book

to kill a mockingbird.
So when we were in class,

we would read page to page.

There would be kids
of different ethnicity

who would say the n-word,

and they would laugh,
and they would look at me.

And then after class,
I would go to my locker

and they would come by me
and they would say the n-word.

Or they... and I'd be like,

"you can't say that,
it's not right."

And then they'd be like,
"I have the n-word pass."

It caused my anxiety disorder
and depression to flare.

The words you use matter,
and they can hurt.

Social media can be a trigger.

It does trigger anxiety
when I'm on social media.

It's hard to remember
that most people are

only posting
their highlight reel.

The constant feeling of having
to post your happy moments,

to compare myself to other
people, or to wish that I was

like some of the people who
are social media influencers.

It can make people feel
inadequate and insecure

about what's going on
in their lives,

or that they are
somehow missing out.

And it's ironic because
while people are connecting,

they end up feeling more alone.

Triggers can be anything,
like being around someone

who is ill,
the end of a relationship,

or a frightening news event.

And they often change.

Keeping the lines
of communication open

with your friend will help you
understand what causes them

to experience too much anxiety,
so you can support them.

It's amazing how
much a simple text can help.

I really appreciate that
McKenna doesn't

text me questions that'll
make me feel bad, like,

"where have you been?"
"Are you mad at me?"

"Why aren't you talking to me?"

I know she isn't feeling well,

just like I wouldn't
take it personally

if she was home with
the flu or allergies.

Some things work for some
people and not for others.

Maybe just ask your friend
what you can do

to help them feel better.

What makes your anxiety
disorder and depression worse?

If someone's talking
to your friend

and calling them
crazy or insane,

you should step up and let 'em
know that it's not okay.

Help that person understand
that anxiety and depression

is a real medical condition,
just like asthma or the flu.

I'm so grateful
somebody helped me understand.

Now I try to help others
understand it, too.

Because if we
don't work together to

get rid of the stigma,
it will be hard for children

like roshaun to be able
to get the help they need.

If I'm ashamed
to admit that I have anxiety

disorder and depression,
how can I take care of it?

One stigma we need
to work hard to eliminate

is that if people
seek professional help

for their mental health,
that they will be

forever labeled as "crazy"
or have issues,

and it will somehow keep them
from getting the job they want.

I know when
I finally saw a doctor,

I was literally afraid
he was gonna put me

in a straitjacket and
send me to an institution

out in the middle of nowhere.

By taking roshaun to get help,

I really thought that, you know,

if there was a paper trail in
regards to his mental health

that it could cause him issues
in his future in regards to

getting a job, or, you know,
getting into college.

I was always
questioning what to do,

when in my heart I knew
I needed to get him help.

Um, I just was very... I just
lived in this fearful place.

I guess I just put it in the
category of a criminal record.

Now I believe getting roshaun
the help that he needs

for his anxiety disorder
and depression

will provide him a future.

At first, I was afraid
to go to a therapist.

I was afraid kids might make
fun of me or call me crazy.

But Morgan is not crazy.

And Dylan is anything but weak.

It actually takes an
extremely courageous person

to seek help from a therapist.

So please don't call people
crazy, or insane,

or that they have issues.
And that goes for me, too.

Now I know better.

Stop making people feel bad

for taking care of
their mental health.

Support your friends and family
when they're working hard

to take care of
their mental health.

You're gonna make
your life better

and your family's life better.

I've seen that in my own family.

It is hard work,
but it is worth it.

It actually takes
a lot of courage

to seek help from a therapist.

It can be really hard work,

and requires you to
prioritize your own health,

and put yourself first.

I believe by getting help,
it makes you more reliable,

qualified,
and productive for jobs.

I know a lot of parents
think that if they get

help for their kid's
mental health,

that other parents will
think badly of them.

I would tell you not to worry
about being a bad parent,

because your child's mental
health is more important

than what other people think.

Since I have been
able to get help

for roshaun's mental health,
I feel that more people have

come to me in regards to,
uh, wanting to know how

we worked through it,
and we haven't been judged.

Nobody has called me
a bad parent

since I got roshaun help.

Roshaun has called me a good
parent for getting him help.

And what's that mean to you?

The world.

I feel that I'm
a better parent to roshaun.

It is so important
for people to feel good

about going to a therapist.

A lifesaving step I took

when anxiety and depression
overwhelmed me was when

I finally chose to
talk to a therapist.

Anxiety disorders and depression

are a medical condition.

I don't take roshaun's
pain personally anymore.

I just try to be there for him

and get him the help
that he needs.

And just like I would
never make fun of someone

with allergies going to see a
doctor, I would never make fun

of someone living with
an anxiety disorder

and depression
going to see a therapist.

I really admire jana for
having the courage to do

what she needs to do to stay
well by going to a therapist.

It just makes sense.

I see a therapist too.

Everyone gets stressed
or sad sometimes.

It helps me.

I just want to be
the healthiest person I can be.

So please help end the stigma.

I did call roshaun ridiculous,

because I thought that
he was making this up.

Please don't make
the same mistake I did.

You would never tell
a friend with allergies

to stop being ridiculous,

just like jana would never tell
me my asthma is ridiculous.

You would never tell
a friend with a bad cold

they were making it up.

And you would never
tell someone who is hungry

to stop acting crazy.

So please, don't do that
to Morgan or to kids like her.

I am friends with Allie

because she is a good person.

She fights for causes
she believes in,

even if her voice shakes.

She is brave about
joining protests.

She was even a featured speaker

at a walkout at her school.
She offers me guidance when

I'm feeling anxious
or depressed.

When you're in the hospital

for an anxiety disorder
and depression,

you don't have your phone or
access to your friends,

because your only focus
is feeling better.

It's easy to lose touch,
and some friends fall away,

but not Michael. He was
one of my only friends who was

there for me when
I got out of the hospital.

It meant so much to me.

"Poem I wrote
about brotherhood."

"Miles and miles and miles away,

in the world that
seems it's flying away,

finding myself in
a state of despair.

But the man up...
Up above gave me a vessel.

A vessel, yes.

I remember you teaching me
how to ride a bike.

I remem... I remember putting
water bottles in our bikes

to be loud."

"You saved my life. I love you."

That was really nice.

What inspired me to
write that was just our story

and just the things that we've
been through growing up.

Oh, yeah.
I love you so much, man.

I love you more.

We joke that
we think so much alike

that we share
the same brain cells.

I've experienced moments
of anxiety and depression,

and jana was there for me.
She really listened to me.

She helped me work through it.

It's easy to
be a good friend to someone

living with an anxiety
disorder and depression.

Just treat them
like any other kid.

Just treat me
like any other kid.

And just like any other kid,
kids living with

an anxiety disorder and
depression want to be included.

Invite them
to your birthday parties

- and sleepovers.
- And please understand

if I say no or have
to cancel last minute...

It's just the anxiety
disorder and depression.

And if someone is being hurtful
to a friend or classmate

living with an anxiety
disorder or depression,

it's okay to stand up for them.

It's okay to teach that person
about anxiety and depression.

Because maybe that person
just doesn't understand.

Or have the knowledge.

You can give them the knowledge
they need to understand.

You can give them the knowledge

- they need to understand.
- Because when you have

- the knowledge...
- The knowledge.

When you know what an anxiety
disorder and depression are...

- You understand.
- Understand why kids

living with an anxiety disorder
and depression...

- May seem a little different.
- Understand that we are

all different in our own ways.

And when you understand,
you can accept.

- Accept...
- That some kids live with

anxiety disorders
and depression.

And they're still just a kid.

And when I share my story,

someone else might have the
courage to share their story.

And when someone is in the...
The deepest, darkest part

of depression, which is,

"nobody in the world
understands how I feel.

Nobody cares how I feel, and
I'm never gonna get better,"

that's the worst part.

But when we begin to share
our stories with each other,

somebody can say,

"I understand.
I'm just like you."

Just like you.

Just like you.

Just like you.

Just like you.

Just like you.

Just like you.

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