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And me?

What about you?

What do I do now?

That's not my problem.

Why are you so cold?

I'm not cold.

Yes, you are cold.

I'm protecting myself.

From what?

From you.

From me?

That's stupid.

Come here.

No.

Please.

No.

BONES AND NAMES

- No need to rehearse the fighting? - No, I'll manage.

- Works well. - Yes, it'll be fine.

Who will you be kissing?

No idea. I'm not sure it's been cast yet.

I think they'll do that today.

- They won't cast the sex scenes, right? - No.

- Are you ok? - Sure, why?

Just because.

I didn't say anything.

Ok.

Did you hear from your agent?

- Why? - Because of the sex scenes.

No.

The director would like to shoot them like that.

There has to be a talk about it.

Crazy

- She decides it just like that? - Sure. It's her film.

If it's important to her we need to figure it out.

She decides it's important to show your dick in a close-up and that's it?

No. Yes.

It's in the script for now...

and it also tells a story.

About what?

Let it go, Joni.

- Why? It interests me. - Yes, I noticed.

I just find it a bit strange that it doesn't bother you.

I'll leave that to you.

Stop that.

Ok.

- What, ok? - Nothing.

I don't want to fight, I just think it's weird...

my boyfriend puts his dick in front of a camera with no issue at all.

Nothing is decided yet.

- And it's part of the job. - That's always your go-to-argument.

Yes, because you always make a fuss.

Ask yourself why.

Are you done?

- Yes? - Yes.

- I wouldn't go full frontal in front of a camera. - You don't need to.

Thank god.

- Here. - Dictate me.

62098175.

Yes, hello?

- Hello, is this Dark? - Yes, that's right.

Then go switch on the lights!

99537800.

Dark.

- Hello, is this really Dark? - Yes. Who is it?

Turn on the lights then!

Now me.

Here.

- Yes, hello? - Hello, this is Sunshine Travels.

Am I speaking to Mrs. Rose neck?

Yes.

Great. We organized a lottery based on different house numbers and you won!

Great, so you learned the lines?

Can you translate?

Yes.

The lines work?

I also speak French.

I see. So you're well prepared?

Yes.

So what I'm looking for now...

It's not evident, we need to find it together.

It needs to be light...

but not a comedy.

With a certain liberty in your acting, ok?

But with serious aspects as well.

It's not heavy, it's not a tragedy or a drama.

We need to find it together, ok?

Alright.

I'm going.

Can you just change your positions real quick for me to see?

Change your positions real quick.

No, it was better before. Excuse me.

Change back, yes.

Calm down. compose yourselves.

Yes, face each other, that's good, Boris.

What's the name of the other one?

Carla, that's right. Can you face him as well?

Good. Close your eyes.

Alright.

Let's calm ourselves.

All good?

Concentration. Whenever you're ready.

Action.

Can we talk?

- There's nothing to say. - I think there is.

I don't.

You could listen to me for a change then.

Ok, let's hear it.

Well...

I've been thinking. Okay?

I've been thinking and I think it's wrong you run off like that.

Why?

Because I love you.

That's all?

That's already a lot.

That's a lie, no?

It's a...

he is lying.

I want...

I want her tears.

How do you say tears in German?

- Tears, I want tears. - Ok.

Do it again, it's good. Start again.

Look at him.

Say: Because I love you.

- It's me. - Stop it, Jerome.

Come here. Please come here.

It's all good.

Hit him.

All good.

Hit him.

There you go.

Not bad. Thank you.

It was lovely, right?

Maybe a little coffee now?

Yes, yes.

Esther, could you?

I accepted, Jerome.

I'm leaving for Geneva.

It's important to me.

And me?

- What about you? - What do I do now?

That's not my problem.

- Why are you so cold? - I'm not cold.

- Yes, you are cold. - I'm protecting myself.

Stop moving.

You look at her and ask: And me?

I move too much?

You move too much. Commentary, commentary.

It's not true, it's not true. Keep it straight.

- Can you please... - Jerome, stop it.

- Why not? - Because it doesn't work.

- It doesn't work anymore. - Can we please talk...

Thank you.

I can't do it.

That's obvious.

Yes, could you do it like that again.

Sorry.

Fine like that?

At some point you'll have to hit him.

Yes, I will hit.

- Come here. - No, Jerome.

- Please. Let's just... - Let me go.

- Can we talk to each other? - Stop it.

- It's not working, you understand? - But why not?

Hit him.

I can't.

Come here, you.

There you go. I'm pushing you.

Try to hit him.

Ok. Hit him. That's good.

Ok, do it.

Push him.

Think about pushing him. Push him away.

No, Jerome. Let me go. It's not working anymore.

I'll hit him, yes. I'll hit him.

I'm hitting him.

I can't do this anymore.

Do you understand?

It's over.

We do talk about it sometimes.

But I don't think it's overly present, is it?

I don't think so, no.

And when there are deaths among friends?

Like Gitte recently?

Yes. That was sad.

Does it feel closer then?

Or does it stay as tract?

Well it becomes...

tangible.

Sure.

Gitte was so full of life.

She fell ill overnight.

It made me think it could have been me.

Or Micha.

I don't know.

It's different for me.

It does affect me a lot when...

I have to say goodbye to friends.

But...

at the same time it's...

very far away from me.

Death, you mean?

Yes. Well...

I don't know.

I'm 72 now.

And I know how to count.

True.

So I...

I know I don't have an eternity ahead of me.

Oh please. A little bit of time still, no?

Yes, sure. But I know where I stand.

I am...

an old man.

But...

on the other hand...

I'm still half a child.

That really is true.

Let's say...

a teenager.

A delinquent.

So it's a...

a shock when it happens to someone like Gitte.

What shocks you about it?

The onset of reality.

Yes.

And...

the fact the...

the bridges to childhood...

collapse.

Yes, that's true.

There isn't this one moment you say: There, now you're old.

It creeps up on you slowly.

But I'm still the old Heidi.

The young...

Heidi.

Wait!

The young, old Heidi.

Or the old, young Heidi.

Sorry.

- I didn't flee, Martin. - You didn't?

But you are here.

- But I have to go back. - Back where?

To the other side.

- Please let me go. - You want to go back?

I can't explain it to you.

I have to. They need medication for typhus.

I don't understand. You have to?

Who is forcing you?

Nobody anymore.

But believe me.

I have to do this.

This one thing.

Nobody else can do it but me.

I can't get it into my head. You are helping the enemy?

Have you ever been through this?

Have you ever watched people die in your arms?

And you cannot help for lack of medication.

Then you understand there are no more enemies.

Oh well, enemies.

- Bandits. Scum. - No.

People.

Without a doubt.

People like you and me.

And?

What do you think?

Yes. Quite good.

- You didn't like it? - I did.

But?

A little sentimental maybe.

Sentimental?

I didn't find it sentimental at all.

I did.

I found it moving but not sentimental.

I said I liked it but some parts were a bit sentimental.

- Is that a problem? - No.

Which parts?

Well, the documentary approach was interesting...

but her acting was a little sentimental.

- Who, Maria Schell? - Yes.

She was amazing.

Ok.

- What is it? - Nothing

What's the matter?

Don't ask me what I think when you don't want to hear it.

I do want to hear it.

No. You don't respect my opinion.

Of course I respect it.

- Oh yes? - Yes!

It's just that it's wrong sometimes.

It was a joke.

No, it wasn't a joke.

Hey Joni...

You're annoying.

- I can turn it off. - All good.

I wanted to work a bit more anyway.

Ok, ready.

Right arm up, left arm down. Out with the knee.

And here we go.

One, two, three, four. One, two, three, four...

One, two, three, four. One, two, three, four...

Left, left, clap.

Right, right, clap.

Left, left, clap.

Right, right, clap.

Ok. And now...

Music.

Count along.

Clap.

Clap.

- Works fine. - Yes. Looks alright.

- Want some water? - Sure.

Here.

Thanks.

How was your date the other night?

- What date? - With the architect.

Oh, him.

- I canceled. - Why?

The babysitter was busy.

I could look after her. You know that.

I was tired anyway.

Ok.

And you?

How is the writing coming along?

- Going well at the moment. - What's it about?

It's about an illness and a journey.

Where to?

I'm not sure yet.

I guess it's more about deciding to leave.

About death, loss, letting go. Things like that.

Are you alright?

Yes. Why?

Well, death, loss...

unusual topics for you.

True.

I'll see. All depends on the form.

I'm still finding it.

Damn, he always comes too early.

But it sounds interesting.

Looking forward to it.

I was part of a theatre ensemble for four years but...

I realised I missed filming and since then I'm freelanced.

So you don't do anymore theatre?

Rarely.

Do you go a lot?

To the theatre?

Yes.

Never.

I stopped loving the theatre a long time ago.

Why?

I guess theatre and I were in a toxic relationship.

Alright, thanks Carla.

Your turn, Tim.

Time to wake up.

Ok.

My French... not cool.

That doesn't matter. German is fine.

I understand most of it and you'll translate the rest.

Of course.

I also understand...

most of it.

But speaking is another story.

So...

Hey, my name is Tim.

I just got back from travelling with friends in a van for a few months.

That was great.

But then my agent condemned me to come back because there were some good offers.

What does that mean? Condemned?

His agent called him back from holiday because of offers.

Listen, I'm sorry.

I was very happy to get the part.

It's a really interesting role.

What do you like about the character?

I like his directness.

His calm.

The fact he releases something in another person.

In Jerome.

That something starts to unravel.

That's exciting.

That's exciting.

Isn't it?

Yes.

Ok, great. Thanks!

Thanks, Tim.

Let's take it from the start.

We'll read it first. Wait…

I think you have my notes.

Let's change scripts because you have my notes.

He was a serious man.

He often told jokes, but there was a seriousness in him, a melancholy.

A little, melancholic Dad.

Did you love him?

Yes, in my way.

Is this any good?

I like it.

Isn't it a bit heavy?

It is but not in a way that disrupts the film.

No?

It's important to know her family background.

It's not you, by the way. Not at all.

I just wonder if it works with the rest of the film.

I really like this scene.

Really? Why?

I find it touching.

That's the problem. It shouldn't be touching.

It needs to be ambivalent.

What interests me is that ambiguity.

I know most scenes...

could be acted in a very clear manner.

But we always need to go against it.

Even when it can be annoying sometimes.

Yes, it goes against the instinct sometimes.

It's that loss of control I'm interested in.

Ok?

You lose control when you go against your instinct.

And the situation in itself is ambivalent.

And if that annoys you, be annoyed by me instead...

and not by the scene...

because I can handle it, right, Lucy?

No comment.

So let's go on.

Let's go on and look for the ambiguous.

And have you been together for long?

Yes, almost 8 years.

Ah, nice.

And you?

Oh dear, for ages.

Really?

For 22 years.

- Wow. - Yes, embarrassing, right?

Not at all. It's nice.

Yes. It is nice.

We met shortly after high school and for some reason it stuck.

- And you have kids? - Yes, three girls.

- Sixteen, twelve and four. - Sweet.

The last one was a little latecomer.

Do you have kids?

No.

You don't want any?

Yes, we do. But...

so far the timing wasn't right.

I see.

Do you have any kids, Tim?

Nope.

Not your thing?

Totally yes! I love babies.

As a kid I always said I want to have six babies, at least.

How sweet.

Well...

Six is a bit much but two or three...

would be nice.

And do you have a girlfriend? Or a boyfriend?

Neither nor.

See you in a bit.

- Are you nervous? - A little bit.

It'll be great.

We'll see. The questions are always so dull.

You'll think of something interesting to say.

- You sure? - Yes.

Because you're smart.

Oops.

Are you coming?

I'd like to stay here.

But in there they have a lounge which is much better.

I prefer to listen to you in the car.

I can drive around a bit.

There's coffee in there.

I'll get one to go.

Ok?

As you like.

- It will take at least 45 minutes until it starts. - No problem.

Alright. As you wish.

Have fun, Joni.

Thanks. You too.

- Dahlmann. Hello. - Hello.

She's over there.

Hey honey.

Are you ok?

It wasn't a very nice thing your daughter did there...

You need anything else from me?

If you would sign here.

You will receive a summons by the police.

- Why? She is barely 10. - Normal procedure

She won't get around a meeting with a youth adviser.

- Maybe you should explain to her that... - We'll manage, thank you.

Shall we go?

This is allowed once.

Once. Ok?

Yes.

Ok.

This was an excerpt of the third Brandenburg Concert by Johann Sebastian Bach.

Played with a lovely lightness by the Prague Philharmonics.

We are still with our studio guest, the author Jonathan Schank.

Mr. Schank, you said your writing is personal but not autobiographical.

What is the relation of your protagonists' conflicts with your own?

I almost always bring my characters in situations familiar to me...

in order to break them out of it.

I only became aware of this process in the last months.

But it happens in all of my books.

Is that something you know from your own life?

This sense of outbreak?

Well, I never used to deal with that at all.

But now that I am getting older I realize...

based on the fact that...

with becoming older...

there are less and less changes in life...

there is also a growing sense of longing.

You talk about outbreak and the yearning for change.

Can you imagine leaving your own life behind and start new?

Do you have that in you, you think?

I don't want to be this rigorous.

There is too much in my life I wouldn't want to give up.

What, for example?

My boyfriend, for example.

- Your partner? - My companion, yes.

- You aren't very attached to material things? - Not very, no.

Mr. Schank, you made a success with your books early on...

Oh well, success...

Let's say you found a certain public rather quickly.

It went well, no?

Very.

It wasn't too personal?

- On the radio? - Yes.

No, why?

Not too...

corny?

No, I thought it was good.

As ordered.

- This is yours. - Thanks.

- Have a nice evening! - Bye!

- This is yours. - Thanks.

Damn, it has cumin.

Really?

Mine doesn't.

Want to switch?

- Is that okay? - Sure.

Thank you!

Sure.

Enjoy.

You too.

I love cumin.

- Hello. Naima Kreuzbacher. Mrs. Schank, right? - Right.

- You are Josie? - Yes.

Hey Josie.

Ok.

So tell me what happened in the store in your own words.

You can say it.

I stole shampoo.

Shampoo?

I see.

Any special kind?

- Yes, apple shampoo. - Apple shampoo?

That does sound really nice.

Yes.

It probably smelled good, right?

I'm sure.

I used to have one that smelled like cinnamon.

That was really nice. I used to love that.

So tell me, where did you hide the shampoo?

In my trousers.

- In the trousers you're wearing now? - No, in my dungarees.

I see. I was wondering.

A shampoo bottle wouldn't fit in trousers like that.

Listen, Josie. I have the feeling you're a smart girl.

So I don't want to keep you and your mom here for too long.

How about you name three reasons...

why you wouldn't do such a thing again.

I'll write them down...

and we put it all behind us.

- What do you think? - Yes, ok.

Great.

Let's go then.

Because it's not allowed?

Because it's forbidden.

Right.

That's a good first reason.

And what could the second be?

Because...

Because the people making the shampoo won't get paid for their work?

I think that's a great second reason.

And can you think of a third one?

Because...

Because...

Because...

Because...

Two weeks.

We said two weeks.

I know.

And?

And what?

Did you make a decision?

- It's not that simple. - It is.

It's actually very simple.

- For you, maybe. - For you as well.

- I need to tell them if I take the job or not. - I know.

And I would like to take it and I would like to take you with me.

All you need to do is decide whether you want or not.

Yes.

Yes?

- You're coming? - No, I meant yes, I need to decide.

Are you in love with him?

What?

- Did you fall in love with him? - No.

Thank you.

Excuse the noise.

When he tells you he's not in love...

Do you believe him?

No.

Why not?

Because he's not honest.

And you, Boris?

Are you telling the truth when she asks you?

I think so.

Why do you think so?

I don't think I already know I'm in love with him.

But you, Boris, you know you will fall in love.

Yes.

But I'm trying to fight against it for him.

I think.

Why do you fight it?

Because it will hurt.

Who?

Both.

I see, so you are torn between her...

and him.

Is it your responsibility that weighs heavy?

Alright. We go back to the question.

We'll go back to the moment she asks the question.

Look at each other closely.

Alright.

Think about your past.

About your story.

Look at each other.

Your faces.

The eyes, the nose, the lips, the mouth.

How have you changed over the years?

What has stayed the same?

What feels familiar?

What feels strange?

You can laugh, if you like.

Give your emotions free reign.

And whenever you're ready...

Ask your question.

Have you fallen in love with him?

One more time, please.

Have you fallen in love with him?

No.

No?

No.

You're not in love with him?

No.

No?

You swear?

Yes, I swear.

Yes.

Ok.

Ok.

Are you alright?

Yes.

I'm going for a smoke.

And kill someone for that fucking noise.

- We take a 10 minute break. - Alright.

- Is Jeanne alright? - Yes.

It's a little hard for her sometimes, emotionally.

I see. So this is her story?

Yes. Great.

Then I have all the details.

Yes.

Thanks.

Right.

Yes.

Ok.

Thank you.

Yes. Bye bye.

- Excuse me. - All good.

Let's put this all down.

The training would start January 24.

22.

Right, 22.

It would take six months and the costs would amount to...

5420 Euros.

So I filled it all out and will forward it.

Thank you.

But I'm afraid the possibility your training will be refused is very high.

Ok.

Why would it make sense in your case?

This is not my question. It's what they will ask me.

I'm a trained singer.

As a single mother I can't follow my profession the way I did before the birth of my daughter.

I see.

You worked at the opera?

Yes. I worked as a guest for several stages.

- And now you give private lessons? - Yes. And it's going quite well.

But with the training I would have more opportunites to work with firms and businesses...

I am on your side.

I think this is all great.

But I also know what they will say up there.

Yes?

They will say: No need to turn a hobby into a profession.

I see.

I will make a note why the training would make extra sense in your case.

Thanks. That would be great.

That thing is really great.

I have much more energy in the morning.

Great, Dad.

Are you using your new blender?

What?

The blender you bought.

Ah that, yes.

Really good.

I use it to make a smootschie every morning.

He said smootschie.

Smoothie, Dad.

That's what I said.

No, you said smootschie.

Smoo-thie.

Seriously, Dad.

Smoo-thie.

First "s", then "th".

Smoothie.

There you go.

Smooth as in soft.

Soft?

Yes, it's blended real soft.

Ok, then I will call it...

Softie.

Anyway, I'm doing it.

I drink it.

I'm drinking this thing.

Well, does anybody want some more bread?

No, I'm good.

I'll go, Heidi.

Thanks.

Jonathan, can you give me some more?

What's that I heard?

You're going on a school trip for a whole week?

Yes, to England but I always forget what the city is called.

Where in England, Mom?

Brighton.

Oh, Brighton.

That's a lovely city. There are these nice piers by the beach.

And these...

giant amazing white rocks.

Cool.

We also went there once.

That's right.

With these big white rocks.

Seven Sisters, they call them.

- The chalk rocks, right? - Exactly.

You'll have a great time.

I'm sure you'll go there, too.

Won't you get homesick being away from home for so long?

No, you can handle it, right, Josie?

Yes, I think so.

I'm sure I will miss Mom a little bit but...

I used to get so homesick as a kid. It was awful.

That's cute.

I remember a school trip to Mainz.

In the evening I cried so hard that my best friends...

went to the teacher and asked if I could sleep in the girls' room.

So I slept in their bunk bed and then it was fine.

She allowed it?

That's great.

Yes. And all the boys were jealous.

I can imagine.

Hello.

Hi.

Hey.

All good?

Yes.

I just wanted to say something real quick.

Yes?

So I wanted to tell you...

Yes?

Yes. You are doing something to me.

I'm doing something to you?

Yes.

You're doing something to me and I need to find out what it is.

What?

What you do to me.

Ok.

Ok.

That was all.

You want to come in?

No.

No, sorry, I have to... I need to...

- I'll be in touch. Ok? - Ok.

All good.

See you soon.

Some other time.

Yes, sure.

Enjoy.

Thanks, thanks, thanks...

Yes, that was very charming.

Very cute.

We could film it like that and it would work, certainly.

But let's try something more dangerous this time.

Not Lubitsch, not Pialat.

Can you come over here, please?

I will explain.

To translate, ok?

I really like what you do.

I like it a lot. Ok?

But I'd like to see a version...

where you take more pleasure with the forbidden.

Do you understand?

She really likes what you do but this time enjoy the forbidden a bit more.

Ok. Great.

Because he's not free. He is not available.

Alright?

And you, listen.

Let's see a version here you have more to lose.

Where you risk more.

Because there is still your wife, no?

Yes, of course. My wife.

You love your wife?

Yes, I love her a lot.

That's it!

Yes, I really love her.

Sure?

Yes. I really do love my wife a lot.

Ok, great.

Let's start from the beginning.

Action.

Hey.

Hey.

All good?

Yes. I just wanted to tell you something.

Yes?

So I wanted to tell you...

You do something to me.

- I do something to you? - Yes.

And I think I need to find out what that is.

What?

What you're doing to me.

Yes, that was everything.

Don't you want to come in?

No. I...

I have to go and I...

Sorry, I'll see you around.

- Sure? - Yes.

Ciao.

Ciao.

Jonathan?

Hello.

I'll have a seat.

Would you like to drink something?

Yes, sure.

Excuse me?

Hi. What can I get you?

I'll also have a coffee. Cappuccino. With oat milk.

Sure.

And do you have cake?

Sure. We have chocolate walnut, chocolate pear, only chocolate...

raspberry meringue, cheese cake and apple crumble.

Oh, wow. I'll have raspberry baiser.

- Thanks. - Wait. Make that chocolate walnut.

You got it.

Nice it worked out.

Yes. I wasn't sure at first but your ad was so unusual.

- Yes? - Yes. In a positive way.

And then your mail was so nice. It felt right.

And now?

Now still.

Once I get my cake I'll be safe.

It will be five years in October.

I left him in October and he had the accident in November.

Not even four weeks later.

He was dead right away.

On the one hand it was a relief, knowing he didn't suffer.

But I wish I had seen him one last time.

To talk to him, just for a moment.

What would you have said?

I probably would have taken it all back.

The separation.

I probably would have said I was wrong.

That I was overwhelmed and ran away with no other way of coping.

But that wouldn't have been fair.

Why not?

Because...

When I got the call...

When I heard about the accident my first thought was:

I want him back.

I never thought that before though.

Before I had been feeling liberated.

I really wanted to get out of the relationship.

He could be so exhausting...

So challenging and needy.

And then very much in touch with himself.

Calm within.

And funny!

We laughed so much together.

I didn't know one could laugh so much in a relationship.

But in the end it became too much for me, life by his side.

How would you describe the time afterwards?

The weeks after that...

They were...

This guilt.

This feeling of guilt. It was...

It was so big. I almost...

It almost...

broke me.

Is there the possibility he committed...

No, no. He had a heart attack while driving.

That was all. Very banal.

What was the hardest part about the whole process?

The hardest part was allowing myself to grieve.

I broke up with him,

I didn't want to be with him anymore. Why should I have the right to mourn him so intensely?

It was really complex.

These two forms of grief.

This grieving on two levels.

How do you mean?

Well...

Even as the one who leaves you mourn the relationship that ended.

I barely had the time to do that.

And suddenly he was dead...

and these two forms of grief exploded around me.

How are they different from each other?

One is quiet.

Always there, no matter what you do, but quiet.

And the other one?

It is loud.

Deafeningly loud.

- And they take turns? - Yes.

And sometimes they take a moment to come.

As though one had missed its entry.

And you think: Oh,

now it's quiet.

Until it starts from the beginning.

And one day...

One day?

You get used to it.

Like a tinitus you stop hearing even though you know it's always there.

And one day...

One day it even feels nice.

The cake is yummy. You want to try?

Yes, I do.

Good, right?

Really tasty!

Morning.

- Is it coming along well? - Yes.

There's coffee for you in the kitchen.

It really annoys me.

You had the whole day and now you remember it.

Hello.

Hey, you two.

- Are you good? - Yes, all good. We're a bit late.

No worries.

You want to come on in, Josie?

Bye, big girl.

Pauline, Josie is here.

Have a lot of fun.

Bye-bye.

She's in her room.

These are her things.

Thanks for doing this on such short notice.

No problem. Pauline is happy to have Josie here overnight.

I'll be back the day after tomorrow to pick her up.

- Where are you headed? - Hannover. I'm giving a workshop.

- Two days of breathing training in a bank. - In a bank?

Yes, they go more and more down the holistic road.

I see.

I've got to go.

- Well then, have a good trip. - Thanks, you too.

- Bye. - Bye, take care.

How does it feel to be surrounded like that, Boris?

How do you feel?

It's a bit strange but...

It's not unpleasant.

What is it then?

I don't know. It calms me down.

It gives me security.

I see.

It gives you security because there are two who want you.

You'll never be alone. Both of them are here, right?

Yes.

And you?

What does it do to you?

It's hard to look at him.

Why?

It hurts.

Where does it hurt?

Here.

Yes, there.

Leave your hand there.

Close your eyes.

Go towards your pain.

Don't be afraid. Nothing can hurt you.

At the same time everything can happen.

And you?

What do you desire?

I want her to go.

You want her to go?

Yes.

Yes?

Where do you want her to go?

Where do you want her to go?

No idea.

Anywhere.

She bothers me.

Anywhere. She bothers him.

She bothers you?

Tell her to go, then.

I should...

Tell her to go, yes.

You... go.

In German. You go, you go!

Go!

Can you please go?

Why don't you look at him? What's going on?

Look at him, he's telling you to go.

Can't you just get out of here?

Honestly, you're such a...

I've had it!

Get lost!

Fuck off!

Go fuck yourself!

It's enough!

Go away! Leave us alone and don't ever come back!

Fuck off, you piece of shit!

Give yourselves a hug.

Go on.

Thank you!

Thank you!

Thank you.

Thank you. There you go.

Thank you.

- My husband is here. - Yes.

Is it like that for you, too?

What?

Do you take things back home?

- From here, you mean? - Yes.

Sometimes. Yes, a little.

Yesterday I thought: No...

I'll just run off now.

I'm just not going home.

- And did you? Run off? - No.

Of course not.

But I do understand him. Jerome.

Must be quite something.

To try out something different.

- But don't tell anybody. - No worries.

- See you next week. - Yes.

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Hey, this is Stefan. Who's this?

- Hi, this is Gwendolin. - Gwendolin?

Yes. Gwendolin.

- Nice name. - Thanks, so is yours.

- So how old are you? - I'm 18.

Yeah right, and I'm with the Chippendales.

- Stefan! He was so dumb. - Totally.

- This time it's you. - No, you're better at that.

Hi, this is Gwendolin.

What's your name?

- Oh, you're here already? - Yes.

I have to be somewhere now but let's catch up later and eat.

Sure, yes.

- I mean if you want to. - Sure, yes.

What's the matter?

Why do you let me die?

What?

In your novel.

Why do I have to die?

- That's not you. - Of course it is.

The actor and the writer. That's us, no?

And I get sick and you care for me and then I die.

And you feel relieved?

What does that mean?

It's only a story.

- Stop bullshitting me. - I'm not bullshitting you.

Why do you write something like that?

Because it scares me.

What scares you?

You not being here anymore.

But I am here.

I am here. You're not here.

I'm also here.

No, you're not.

Not with me. Not really.

Do you want me to go?

I don't know.

No.

We exist since 1952.

My grandfather started the business and then...

it was passed on to my father and I took over 5 years ago.

That's fairly recent.

That's true.

How come?

I didn't really see myself in it for a long time.

I guess that's normal as a young adult.

You want to do your own thing.

I tried out some things, went abroad, met my wife, had kids.

We became self-employed which was great because you feel more free but...

but on the other hand...

it's also very...

- Stressful? - Yes, absolutely.

To always depend on the demands of the customers...

It became quite strenuous.

What did you sell?

- Belgian sweets. - Ah. Nice.

Yes, there are lots of great things.

Chocolates, marzipan, gummy bears and all that.

Sounds great.

Yes.

But it became quite clear we did not want to this forever.

- Why isn't the business called Becks, like you? - Tiedemann is my birth name.

I took my wife's name when we got married.

But I wanted to keep the memory of my granddad alive...

so the name stayed.

I see.

Apart from the name we didn't keep a lot, though.

I quickly realized I have a different approach to the profession than my father and granddad.

In what sense?

I think we give death too little space in our lives.

Grief is often perceived as something that scares and cripples.

And that is not in line with the experiences you have here?

I rather witness grief as something mobilizing.

Of course it can be a shock at first.

But many people are surprised how good it feels to deal with loss in a pro-active way.

To help decide how a goodbye should look.

You can be involved in almost any decision but not many know this.

I'm not trying to lessen the impact a death has on the relatives.

That's a big subject.

But the way you deal with the practicalities can have a positive effect on the process.

- Because it makes the fear a little smaller? - Yes.

And because it is a way to celebrate the loved person.

To decorate the last resting place.

Pick out a coffin or an urn that represents the personality of a person.

And if you had to choose one for yourself?

A coffin?

I don't have any preferences.

No?

No.

Why is that?

You see, in the end all we are is bones and names.

We all go out the way we came.

That doesn't sound very customer-friendly.

Well, you're not a costumer.

Not yet.

- What do you do for a living? - I'm a teacher.

- Oh really? - Yes.

You're pretty young to be teacher.

Maybe.

- You want to know what I do? - Sure.

Guess.

- Doctor? - No.

- Construction worker? - Nope.

- Animal trainer? - I'm a real estate agent.

- What's that? - Something with houses, I think.

- So tell me... - Yes?

Are you a strict teacher?

Sometimes.

- That's boring. Let's do something else. - Wait a moment.

- Sorry, that was my daughter. - You have a daughter?

Yes.

So what are you up to today?

I don't know.

He won't be coming anyway.

Want to bet?

- And what's the point if he does? - Who cares?

It'll be funny when he realizes the name on the door bell doesn't exist.

He's not that stupid. He won't be driving over all this way.

There! The car! That's him!

- Look there! - Bullocks.

For real, have a look there!

Oh my god, he's parking.

Let's have another look.

But careful.

- What is he doing there? - Looking for the name on the door bell.

- He's so stupid. - Totally.

- He really fell for it. - Yes.

Shit.

Did he see us?

I'm not sure.

Damn.

Would you please take off your shoes?

Feels a bit like going to bed.

It does, right?

Fits well.

Yes. Would you put on the lid?

Shall I?

All good?

Yes.

One moment, please.

No problem.

Hello?

Yes, wait a second,

Yes.

Sorry.

What about Josie?

Ok...

At Pauline's place?

Ok. Send me the address.

Sure, I'll call you after. Yes.

Don't forget the address. Bye.

I'm sorry.

I have to go.

This is really too much.

That guy came from some suburb.

He made a huge fuss, he wanted to call the police.

I said, they're kids, they just fooled around and didn't mean any harm.

But of course he was super uncomfortable.

He felt totally caught.

He thought he was swinging by for a date.

Yes, I see.

I'm all run down.

Pauline said that it was Josie's idea.

And it makes perfect sense to me.

Pauline would never come up with something like that.

I like Josie but I'd prefer they didn't see each other for a while.

I will also discuss this with Natascha. But...

I want to take this seriously.

- This was not just some child's prank. - Of course. This is really a no-go.

Yes.

Where is she?

Yes.

Josie?

Are you coming?

Got someone.

Is it a woman?

No.

A man?

Yes.

Granddad?

Yes.

Got someone.

Is it a man?

No.

- Is it a woman? - Yes.

Do we know her personally?

No.

Is she famous?

Yes.

Is she an actress?

No.

Is she a singer?

Yes.

Is it Tina Turner?

Who?

Ok, it's not Tina.

No.

- What? - Nothing.

Go on.

So it's not Tina but she's a singer.

Yes.

Do you like her?

Yes.

- Does Boris like her? - Totally!

- Taylor Swift? - Yes.

Got someone.

Oh, hi.

Hello.

All good?

Yes. I just wanted to tell you something.

Yes?

So I wanted to tell you...

That I'm doing something with you?

You want to come in?

- Is that alright? - Yes, sure, come on in.

I have some friends over.

Hello.

Yes, and I think we all need to keep that in mind. You too.

Just ask yourself: What was it like for our grandparents?

You especially.

- How was it? - Well, what was it like for our grandparents?

It was good and important but it's a one-note way of looking at it and that's wrong.

That's not what I said.

You shouldn't look at it one-note. But it depends...

on the perspective.

Yes, and you know which perspective is tops:

Objectivity.

So you think you can look at it totally objectively?

Of course not.

Exactly not.

- Ah, I like that one. - Which one?

This one.

My dad gave it to me.

And did you like?

Didn't read it yet.

No, give it to me. I'll read it next.

Heinrich Böll.

What's it about?

About...

- Bread? - About bread, too, yes.

Yes.

And about where to go in life.

And about love.

Bread and love?

Good combination.

Yes.

Funny.

What?

I didn't expect you so soon.

Was that stupid?

What?

- Waltzing in here like that. - Nope. Really good.

Ok.

And your boyfriend?

- What about him? - He's not a deal breaker anymore?

No idea.

Complicated?

I am here.

Aren't you warm?

Josie is sleeping next door.

I saw that.

How come?

She did a pretty stupid thing.

I'll make some coffee.

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