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Hello and welcome everyone.

Today I'm going to share some tips and tricks and techniques to improve your oral sexual skills.

Now before we get started though, let's get a refresher course on female sexual anatomy.

Here we have the outer labia.

This is a good place to start in the beginning.

With massage, if you rub these lips, it helps begin the arousal process.

The inner labia are more sensitive than the outer labia, and when a woman is turned on, they will swell and deepen in color.

The urethra is the hole we pee out of.

The vaginal opening is the most sensitive part of the vagina.

The skin where the inner lips meet at the bottom is called the forechet.

The area between the vagina and the anus is the perineum.

The skin where the inner lips meet at the top is the frenulum.

And this can be a very sensitive spot for many women.

The clitoral hood is the skin that protects the clitoral glands.

It's similar to the foreskin on a man's penis.

Under the hood is the clitoral glands.

The clitoral glands, which some people refer to simply as the clitoris, is the most sensitive part of a woman's body.

It contains 6,000 to 8,000 nerve endings.

It's important to remember that the clitoris isn't just some tiny little nub.

It's a complex system of tissue, muscles, nerves, and ligaments.

Beneath the hood, the clitoris has a shaft, which runs from the glands to the bottom of the frenulum.

The legs of the clitoris are like two ends of a wishbone and span from the shaft all the way to the foreshed.

And just on the inside of the vaginal opening, 1 to 2 inches, is the G-spot.

Now today I'm going to show you many different techniques, tips, and tricks.

But the important thing to remember is that each and every single woman is different.

And the best way to finding out what gets your partner off is constant communication and experimenting with different pressures and different techniques.

Oral sex is incredibly pleasurable for most women.

And for some women, it is the surefire way to orgasm.

The important thing to remember is to go slowly.

It's all about the build-up.

I think a three-dimensional model would be much better than this silly diagram, don't you?

I would love to welcome my lovely assistant, Ariel.

Now Ariel's going to be helping me with a lot of things today, but I think we should get you just a little bit more naked so we can review our anatomy lesson.

Let's demonstrate some different positions for oral sex.

First, she lays on her back and I lay on my stomach between her legs.

This position can be changed in a bunch of different ways.

She can lift one leg or both.

We can put a pillow or this great liberator shape under her butt for easier access and a better angle.

She can scoot to the end of a bed or a chair or a table and I can kneel in front of her.

Now I think I'm going to need a pillow for my knees.

This is good because we're both comfortable.

I can reach her parts and I can make eye contact with her.

Or I can lay on my back and she can lower herself down onto my mouth.

From here, she can position herself exactly where she likes and control the amount of pressure and tease me too.

If we put her on her hands and knees, I can come at her from behind.

As you try out different positions, it's important that you pick one that's incredibly comfortable for both of you so that you're not putting any strain on your body.

Although the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman's body, and clitoral stimulation is the most common road to orgasm, when you begin, don't go there first.

Use your fingers to massage her entire vulva.

Lick your fingers or use some lube.

As tempting as it is, avoid her clit for now.

A woman's clitoris is so sensitive that when she's not aroused, rubbing it directly can be uncomfortable or downright painful.

Besides, there's a whole world of pussy waiting for you.

Explore her outer and inner lips, her perineum.

Kiss her as gently as you would her other lips.

No tongue right off the bat, just your lips to hers.

Next, give her labia some long, slow licks with a flat tongue.

Stop mid-vagina before you get near the frenulum, or the base of the clitoris.

Just concentrate on the inner lips and the vaginal opening.

You

want to get her warmed up.

You want her clitoris to get engorged so it becomes ready for stimulation.

Then by all means, go for it.

I'm just giving you some generalities to avoid pitfalls.

Each woman knows her own body and what she likes best.

If she gives you directions, follow them.

Here's where the ice cream lick works well.

Pretend you are licking a dripping ice cream cone.

Begin at the bottom and slowly lick your way to the top, keeping your tongue flat.

When you get to her clitoris, you have a few options.

You can either jump over it to just above the clitoral hood.

Remember that the shaft of the clitoris extends back from the glands, so if you stimulate the area above the hood, you're stimulating that shaft.

Give yourself permission to experiment in the beginning, trying out different things to see what she likes best.

Keep your tongue flat and make wide, long strokes.

Savor every stroke of the tongue.

Don't rush it.

Pussy licking should never be rushed.

Tease her a bit by making sensual strokes, then taking your mouth away for a second.

This will build tension.

Try short, light flicks with the tip of your tongue.

Vertical licks feel great, but make sure she's nice and warmed up before you do them.

Try horizontal licks and feel your tongue moving the glands from side to side.

Trace slow circles around her clit, or try making tight circles on either side.

For all of these, try different speeds, different amounts of pressure, and different angles.

Here's a technique I call give and take.

She grinds and presses into you, you keep your tongue flat and still.

Then she stops and you take over, moving your tongue in one of the directions just discussed.

You stop, she takes over.

This is also a way to make the most of your energy.

If you find yourself getting tired, this is a good way to take a rest.

Take the clitoris between your lips and gently suck on it.

See how she responds to this technique.

Some women prefer sucking to lighter flicks of the tongue.

You can create suction alone, or you can add your tongue to the mix, moving it vertically or horizontally as you suck.

You can slip a well-lubed finger into her pussy while your mouth is working her over.

Try inserting one finger and then curving it upward to her G-spot.

Make a motion with your finger as if you're telling her to come here.

The next one I want to show you is called the Pressure Technique.

This is also a way to make the most of your energy.

Pull back the shaft.

Hold it down.

This is what I'm going to do with my mouth.

And I'm going to keep my tongue going right over her clit.

I'm holding everything down.

Watch how she shakes.

You want to apply pressure to just above the clitoral hood as you increase the pressure of your tongue on the hood.

You can do this with your upper lip, your gums, or your finger, or a vibrator.

The important thing is to switch it up in the beginning.

See what works, what really gets her going.

Pay attention to what she's responding to.

Once she's revved up and ready for more, then pick that one technique she likes best and concentrate on it.

You want to strive for consistency and focus.

It's easy for the orgasm to be within her grasp.

Then suddenly you move or change what you're doing, or speed up, and all of a sudden it's gone.

After a woman has just come, like Ariel has just done, the clit is incredibly sensitive.

So you can play all along the outside here.

We have to leave the clit alone.

And also, Ariel will let us know when she's ready for more.

And through communication with your partner, so will you.

And here we have a nice, lovely pink dildo, which Ariel has chosen herself.

And even though she's already wet, and I could probably slide this in with no problem, I'm going to put her lube of preference on here, which is Aeros.

You can never have enough lube.

Her PC muscles are very, very strong.

They're like long, slow strokes.

Slow stroke, deep.

Deep enough?

Yeah, just like that.

As you can see, she's fucking herself on it.

And if your mouth or tongue ever gets too tired, you can use your fingers, like I'm using now, more violently.

And if you have a vibrator, or both, you can let her fuck herself.

She's like a vibrator as well.

Yeah.

That's good.

Next one.

Yeah, yeah.

Can you get faster?

You want to take the toy away now?

I'm going to help you sit up, darling.

So we can finish the workshop.

I feel it takes a really long time for me to reach orgasm, and I feel very bad for him at times.

Is there anything you can help us with that?

There is no acceptable or normal amount of time to have an orgasm.

If you put pressure on yourself, it's just going to get you into a whole lot of trouble.

If he gets tired, he can switch off with a vibrator, his fingers, a dildo, and when he's ready to resume, jump back in.

Thank you.

Well, thank you all for coming, and thank you so much, Arrow, for being such a great sport.

My pleasure.

For all of you at home, please keep watching for more demonstrations, including different techniques, positions, and tricks for oral sex.

And be sure to check out the extras on this DVD for more important information about safer sex.

Richard and I have been together since I was 16.

I met him when I was 11 years old, and I knew at that point I wanted to marry him.

Well, the thing with Kelly is that I know her body because we've been together for so long.

I like to talk about it away from actually having sex.

Me, I'd be like, do you like the way I give you a head?

And he'd be like, yeah, you know.

And I'd be like, well, what do you really like?

Do you like it when I suck on your balls, or, you know, my lips are really tight, or, you know, things of that nature.

And then that kind of leads into him, you know, being able to ask the question, or even you bringing it up, saying, you know, I really like it when you do this.

Well, I like verbal instructions.

It turns me on.

So I guess if a girl's telling me what she likes and what she doesn't like, I get even more excited about it.

I want her to get off as much as I want to get off.

What I like about Richard licking my pussy is he does it, like, soft.

And, like, you know, we communicate a lot while we're having sex.

It's, you know, I'll be like, oh, right there.

And, you know, he recognizes that.

And if she doesn't tell me, then I really try and listen to what she says in her body, through her body, through her movements, and the expressions that she gives in her face as well.

The way I like my pussy licked is, like, a soft touch.

But, like, on my clit, with the tongue going back and forth from side to side.

Every once in a while, I'll lick it up.

I'm not big into, like, having it sucked on.

I like it, just the tongue going back and forth.

And then, like, it makes my legs tingle.

And then I know, I just, my body starts twitching a little, and mainly up, like, around, I don't know, my thighs start twitching.

It's kind of weird, but that's how I know it's good.

I love, I love to watch her be able to get off to cum, and I know that that is the number one way to make her cum.

Don't rush to take off her underwear right away.

Tease her pussy with your mouth over her panties to build tension.

Good.

Yeah, that's good.

Yeah.

Yeah, there you go.

Good.

Yeah.

That feels so good.

Try moving your tongue from the bottom of her outer labia up and over just above the clitoral hood, and back down the other labia.

Oh, baby.

Yeah, just like that.

Uh-huh.

Oh.

When she's on her back and you lay between her legs, you both get a great view of the action.

You can see her entire body spread wide open for you and stroke her belly, her breasts, and her thighs.

She can watch as you give her pleasure and touch your head and arms.

You can have face-to-face communication, and it's a relaxing position for her so she can stay in it for a while.

She can bend one knee or both to make it more comfortable.

Remember not to neglect the rest of her body.

Stroke and squeeze her inner thighs.

Play with her breasts and nipples.

Yeah, it feels really good.

Yeah.

Great at that.

Sensitive.

It is sensitive.

It is sensitive.

Yeah.

Can you do it again?

Yeah.

Making eye contact with one another connects you during this intimate act.

You can see her reaction, and she can see your enthusiasm.

If your mouth, jaw, or neck begins to get tired, stop for a moment and let her take over with her hand.

As she stimulates her clit, she keeps the arousal building, and you can take a break.

You can also alternate between your mouth and your hand to conserve your energy.

Oh.

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Oh.

Oh.

Slip a finger inside her and curve your finger to stimulate her G-spot.

Some women have a particular side of the clitoris that they like stimulated.

Rather than direct stimulation right on top of the hood, they like indirect stimulation on one side.

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Oh.

Oh.

Sixty-nine positions offer simultaneous stimulation for both of you.

In this variation, each of you lies on your side, making it a very comfortable alternative.

It's also easy to use your hands.

Again, it's okay if one or both of you take a break from what you're doing at any time.

After all, you're likely to get distracted by what your partner is doing to you at some point.

In this variation of 69, she lays on her back and he lays over her.

He has easy access to her pussy with his mouth and fingers, and she has good access to his balls and butt.

In this position, she can't give a very intense blowjob because her movement is limited.

Oh.

Oh,

it feels so good.

Oh.

With the help of two liberator shapes, he can lay on the bottom and angle his head easily to reach her pussy.

She has much more freedom and control to stimulate his cock with her hand, her mouth, or both.

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Oh, yeah.

It feels so good.

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When you're on top, you can control the exact angle and pressure of the stimulation.

If you're the person on the bottom, make sure you're comfortable and not putting undue strain on your neck.

You can lie back and have her straddle your face.

Or try this unique spin on the position by using the edge of a couch, a pillow, and the floor.

He can keep his tongue flat and still while you move back and forth against it.

You can grind against his mouth, tongue, and face.

Just make sure he can still breathe.

It was great.

Yeah, it was great.

Um, well, I don't know.

I just, I love for him to go down on me.

And, um, like once I get started, I can just keep going and going and going.

And of course that happened today.

Yeah, sorry.

I love to be able to get her off like that.

That's, that's a big turn on for me.

I think my favorite position was being on my back.

Um, it's always been over, you know, the course of years, but, um, a position that I had never done, um, was the being on our sides in 69, which I found to be very comfortable.

So that'll be a new one for us.

My favorite position is 69.

I mean, I, I love that for oral, uh, but the, the sideways 69 was definitely one that I want to experiment with, experiment with a lot more.

Yeah, it was great.

If you had any piece of advice, each one of you to people out there who want to improve their oral sex skills, um, Kelly, what would, what would yours be?

Um, I'd probably say, you know, stay open-minded, experiment, and, um, be willing to listen to your partner, you know, look at their body movements, you know, the body language in which, how they respond, how, you know, to you, whatever it is you're doing,

I guess.

That's probably mine too, you know, just take your time, you know, know, know her body.

Yeah, learn it, explore it, have fun with it, you know.

If it feels good, do it some more.

And more, and more.

I love pussy eating because, uh, you get the taste, it's like making out, which is one of my favorite things in the world to do.

And, um, you know, the response is good too.

Teasing, I like teasing, you know, like, um, hot breath on my pussy or like even through the clothes, you know, they rub it a little bit.

And, and like if they rub the outsides, like the bones, and not actually touch the pussy, that, that really gets me wet.

One of the main complaints that women had is guys just rush to it.

They go to the clit like a horse to a feed bag.

And the longer you could take getting to a woman's clit, the better.

If you could just spend half an hour eating out around the panty line, driving a woman crazy, then just eating out the labia majora, the labia minora, getting that good taste, and then hit the clit.

When I'm on my back and somebody's licking my pussy, what I really like is from that angle, you can spread it open as far as it can.

And that for some reason really turns me on.

I like to be spread open.

My best oral sex technique is probably patience.

And it's like unwrapping a present when you first take those panties off.

And I want those panties to be on as long as possible.

And I want to just breathe her smells in and just take forever.

It's like taking a car trip.

If you look like you know where you're going and it's a long trip, it's a great road trip.

If you don't know what you're doing, they just want it to be over with.

But having the confidence and letting the woman know you know where you're going and just taking a nice, long car trip.

When Jack licks my pussy, he uses a whole variety of techniques that he's like acquired over the years or whatever.

So he doesn't have like one specific way to do it.

And I like variety.

So you know, a little spicy variety gives me a bigger orgasm.

The main thing to get over the sore neck and the sore jaw and the tongue that feels like it's going to fall off is just to eat more pussy.

Some women worry that their vaginas may have a bad odor, and this prevents them from asking or letting their partners go down on them.

All vaginas have a natural smell, and all you need is regular bathing to ensure you're clean and ready for cunnilingus.

Frequent douching is not recommended since it can disrupt the natural balance of bacteria in the vagina.

Women have different preferences when it comes to how they groom their pubic hair.

It's nice to trim the hair on your inner lips and around the vaginal opening so your partner can get a mouth full that's more vulva and less pubic hair.

You could also choose to remove the hair by shaving or waxing.

Some people say that shaving increases their sensitivity.

Shaving your pussy can be an erotic experience for both of you.

Be careful.

Begin with slow sensual foreplay.

Explore her hip bones, her inner thighs, the area around her vulva and pubic mound.

The more you tease her, the more her excitement and arousal builds.

In the beginning, try different techniques to see what she responds to.

Make sure to talk to your partner and listen to her body as well.

Once a woman is very aroused, her clitoral glands will swell.

Some women like it when you pull back the clitoral hood and directly stimulate the glands.

However, others find their glands is too sensitive for this kind of direct stimulation and prefer it when you allow the hood to cover the glands.

Ask your partner what she likes and don't be afraid to experiment.

While on your back, you can lift up your hips and grind into his mouth and tongue while he keeps his tongue flat and still against your pussy.

This is a way for you to control the stimulation and can also be an opportunity for him to rest his tongue.

Slip a pillow or a liberator shape under her butt to give you a better angle and easier access to her pussy.

When you're on your back, if it's comfortable and you're flexible enough, you can bring your legs back to your chest.

This allows for deeper penetration with fingers or toys and gives your partner access to your perineum and anal opening.

In doggy style position, you can easily reach her g-spot with your fingers.

If your mouth, jaw, or neck start to get tired, continue stimulating her clitoris with your fingers to give yourself a rest.

This position also gives you easy access to her ass where you can stroke and squeeze her butt cheeks, lick her perineum, and orally stimulate her anal opening, which is full of nerve endings and very sensitive.

Licking her ass is called analingus, but it's more commonly known as rimming.

Use your tongue to explore the folds of the tight pucker, to trace the outside of the opening, or to slip just inside the opening.

One of the things that I know drives women crazy is avoiding the clit for as long as possible.

I like to be built up, you know, to where I am squirming and I am sweating and, you know, it's almost like if he even breathes on it wrong after I've been built up that I'll just explode in his face.

I think when you're with somebody for the first time you don't really, you know, you feel kind of uncomfortable with telling them, you know, to the left or to the right or anything like that, because you're wrapped up in the heat and the passion and stuff like that and you don't want to make it seem like all of his efforts are futile.

Communication is super, super important.

If you can get a dialogue.

A lot of guys don't like being told what to do, but a really wise man will ask what to do.

It's not an insult to their sexuality.

And sex is art for people who can't paint.

And this is a chance for everybody to be an artist.

I can paint.

You can paint?

Okay.

I can paint a little bit too.

But the main thing is, you know, having somebody stomp on your creativity never feels good.

But then again, if you are comfortable with yourself enough to say, hey, what do you like?

And get an honest answer, then everybody's gonna be happy.

I really like when he licks my asshole.

Yeah.

And while he fingers me.

And I also like fingering myself while he eats me out.

I think that drives me... That was fun.

That was fun.

Yeah.

It was fun.

It was fun for me.