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**
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[ Ringing ]
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-Nope. He not answering.
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-Did he answer?
-No.
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-Do you expect him to answer?
-Yeah.
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I'm gonna try
to call him one more time.
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[ Ringing ]
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-Don't do it.
I'm, like, four minutes away.
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Don't do it.
-You know what?
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I am gonna do it because
how are you this unprofessional?
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How are you not at your job
on time?
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-Well, I was dealing with
the baby.
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It's her birthday today,
so...
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-Don't try to pull
on my heartstrings.
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Don't do that. Don't do that.
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You knew that girl's
birthday was coming
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and you knew I was coming.
Don't do it.
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Had me fly across the world
for him to not be on time.
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"It's my daughter's birthday.
Wah-wah-wah."
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-Oh, my goodness, she's here.
[ Laughs ]
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How lucky am I?
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Well, shit!
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Who the fuck...?
No, don't you get up.
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Damn.
-What is wrong with --
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-What they put in this chair?
Butter?
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-What is --
What is wrong with you?
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Hi.
-[ Indistinct ] happy.
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-Do we have to walk in?
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Do we walk in from over here?
-Alright, guys. Let's do it.
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-No, seriously, what do I do?
-Stand over there.
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God damn, Niecy.
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**
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Here we are again, out of
our Hartbeat Studios in Atlanta.
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We're out of west coast
wine cellar.
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I'm not mad about that one bit,
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because when life gets busy,
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well, you gotta take it
on the road,
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and no one knows
that better than my next guest.
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Guys, she's always breaking
new ground
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and redefining herself
in the roles that she takes on,
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and she crushes it
every single time.
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We're about to find out how
she does and why she does it.
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I'm gonna get the secret sauce,
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because that's what I do here.
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Guys, she's got Day
and Primetime Emmys,
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Image Awards, Gracie wins,
too many nominations to mention.
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Comedienne, author,
actress, advocate, wife, mother.
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I can go on and on,
but what she is to me
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is the person
with a heart of platinum.
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Oh, my God, how do I do it?
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Sometimes the intros
just find themselves.
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Most read,
I just go off the cuff.
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Guys, please welcome my friend,
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a multi-layered
and multi-talented individual,
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Ms. Niecy Nash Betts.
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How did I do? Huh?
Did you see that?
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-I saw it.
-A lot of people prep.
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-[ Laughs ]
You obviously don't.
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-Well, I don't.
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That's what it is,
that's why -- Listen,
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when I bring you on here,
it's all raw and uncut.
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-Come on, raw and uncut.
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-You in a world of authenticity,
okay?
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Niecy, before we do anything,
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I'm gonna explain to you
why we do what we do here.
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You know,
why it's gonna be great for you.
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-Okay.
-First of all, we talk.
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We talk for real.
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We engage over a glass of wine,
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and I know
that that's good for you,
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because I know
how much you like to drink.
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-[ Laughs ]
-So here...
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Here, we're gonna tap
into that happy space.
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Show the world what I've seen
for so long,
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which is the dope energy.
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More importantly, the reason,
the why behind your efforts,
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and why you're just
getting started, right?
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Like, I hear you talk, I hear
the ambition that you talk with,
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and on "Hart to Heart,"
it's all about flowers.
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It's about giving the flowers
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that should be given in
real-time,
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and, you know, show my love
and support for those
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that I not only know,
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but those that I am
motivated by, inspired by.
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You are one of those people,
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although I give you a lot
of shit when we talk.
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-You do.
-You really are.
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Your energy is, like,
contagious,
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and it's truly, like,
one-of-a-kind.
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So I can't wait.
-Thank you, Kevin.
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I'm not used to you being
sincere.
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-Well, this is why you're here!
Because I wanna do it--
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-I'm not used to you
being sincere, now.
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Who are you?
-I just told you.
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-What is going on?
-I told you what this is about.
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-Okay.
-This is different.
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This is me actually doing
what I should do on the normal,
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but if I did it too much then
you would take advantage of it
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and expect it all the time.
-Okay.
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Before you do it,
I just wanna say,
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because you're rich, I was
expecting better craft services.
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You got chips and cookies
and stuff.
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I say where is the caviar?
-Niecy. Niecy.
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-Where's the --
You know what I mean?
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Where's the pâté?
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Where are all
the beautiful things?
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And you know what I was told?
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"Locked up in your
dressing room."
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That's what I was told.
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I just wanted to get that
out of the way
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before we start to have
this "Hart to Heart" talk.
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-Niecy, the show is not
about craft services.
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It's about conversation.
-Oh.
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-I don't need you back there
snacking and getting sleepy.
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I need you out here for a fresh,
refined, and, like --
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-And drunk. So when are we
gonna get to this part?
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-We are. You know, let me
call up my somm, okay?
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D, come on out, man.
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This is DLynn,
who does an amazing job
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of positioning us with
some of the best wine,
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great tasting wine,
great conversation wine,
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and he always accommodates
the guests.
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-I actually played his mother
in a movie that was about him.
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It was called "Uncorked," Kevin.
Have you read my résumé?
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-Okay. I'm thinking you talking
about him, okay?
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But I get what you did there.
-You see what I did there?
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-Yes, I see what you did there.
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That was very good,
that was actually very good.
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I was about to say, "What the
fuck? You didn't tell me this?"
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-That's the heart.
-[ Indistinct ]
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Alright, what
are we drinking today?
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-I've got some red for you,
of course, Mr. Hart.
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I'll get into that
in one second.
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But Mrs. Nash Betts,
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and incredible Chardonnay
from the Pacific Northwest.
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We're talking Oregon,
Willamette Valley.
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But more specifically,
the Chehalem mountain range AVA.
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An incredible Chardonnay
dual vineyard.
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I mean,
this exquisite 2020 vintage.
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-That's where the money went.
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You worried
about some damn pâté, okay?
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I put it in the glass.
That's where it's at.
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Give her a light pour.
-You know what? Relax.
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Am I supposed
to check the legs?
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-What?
-Of course you can, absolutely.
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Give it a good swirl,
let it aerate,
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and it's gonna open up
in the glass and you can enjoy.
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-You know what, Kevin?
Don't hate.
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-No, I like it. I like how --
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Why did you lean in like this?
[ Laughter ]
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"Check the legs."
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-'Cause I didn't know
if he was gonna do it for me.
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-What do I got?
-And of course, Mr Hart,
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we're leaving
the Pacific Northwest,
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and we're going down to
the South of France, St. Tropez.
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Specifically
about 20 kilometers just west.
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A blend of Grenache,
Syrah, and Mourvedre.
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-Mourvedre. Yes.
-[ Laughs ]
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-Yes. Yes, yes, yes.
-Both of you, please enjoy.
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Cheers.
-Cheers.
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-Salut.
-Salut.
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I know where I wanna start.
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I know where I wanna start
talking to you.
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And, you know...
I gotta start off by talking
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about your household,
your upbringing.
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You know, I've heard you,
a couple of times now, you know,
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speaking from the stage
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after receiving said mentioned
awards in the beginning.
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One thing you've always referred
back to is how you were raised,
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how you were brought up,
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and there's a high sense
of spirituality, right?
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There's a high sense
of just being in touch
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with a higher power.
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Were you raised in,
like, a real, real,
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like, firm church
upbringing, or...?
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-No. I found my way to church
on my own, you know what I mean?
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But my parents had me
in their early 20s,
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and you know how you do when
you play "break up to make up."
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So my daddy kept chasing my mama
wherever she went
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until she finally came back
to California.
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I was born in California,
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but she went back to St. Louis
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'cause my daddy
was getting on her nerves.
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He came back and got her,
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brought us all
back to California.
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And this is where -- I mean,
that is where I was raised,
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but it was a neighbor of mine
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that used to go to church
every Sunday.
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And I said, "Can I go?"
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And the lady said yes,
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and I started going to church
with my older neighbor.
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But, unfortunately, I couldn't
go to the 11:00 AM service
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because that's
where the youth went.
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I had to go to old folks church
at 8:00 in the morning.
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So I was the youngest one
singing in the choir,
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and, you know,
I walked down the church,
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and dedicated my life
while I was at church by myself,
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none of my family were there.
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So that's where
the spiritual part of me
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began to develop.
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-Why entertainment?
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Why, you know,
the entry of comedy, et cetera?
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-Well, okay.
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How it started was,
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I was watching television
with my grandmother,
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and I was five years old.
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I saw the most gorgeous
Black woman
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I had ever seen in
my little five years of living.
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She had on a long, red dress,
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and her eyelashes
looked like butterflies.
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I said,
"Grandmama, who is that?"
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Now, Grandmama smoked a
cigarette on a filter, you know,
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so it was way out here.
-That's one of the fancy ones.
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-Yeah.
-That's the long stick.
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-Yeah, a gold filter and then
the cigarette is at the end.
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She said, "Baby,
that's Lola Falana."
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And in that moment,
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I feel like my destiny
was stamped on the canvas
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of my imagination.
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I look at my grandmother
and I go,
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"That's what I wanna be.
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Black, fabulous, and on TV."
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And so I stopped answering
to my name.
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If you didn't call me "Lola,"
you were not talking to me.
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And my first talent was
to take two phone books
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and stack them together,
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and then I would turn around
in the circle,
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and finish, ah,
with my hand on my hip.
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And my grandfather would go,
"Oh, look at her."
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That's all I needed.
"Oh, look at that."
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And so, I knew this is
the call of my life.
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But comedy,
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I did not know because
I did not know it was a gift.
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I got pinched in church
for cutting up.
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"Talks too much"
on a report card.
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"Well, what were you talking
about?"
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"I was telling jokes."
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"Get the belt. I got
a joke for you." You know?
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So it was never --
I didn't know it was a thing
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until my brother
was murdered in '93,
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and my mother went into
this depression.
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She said, "I'm getting into bed
and I'm never getting back up."
243
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And I didn't know what to do,
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but I knew I could make
my mama laugh.
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-How old were you at the time?
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-My brother was murdered
the day before my 23rd birthday.
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-Wow.
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-And I stood at the foot
of that bed and did my bit,
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and I did it everyday.
250
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Then one day I come in to do my
bit and my mama not in the bed.
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"We're in here!"
I'm like, "Who is we?"
252
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"Well, I went across the street
and got Ms. Brown and Ms. Sadie
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and I told 'em you was funny.
254
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Get up there and tell
these people some jokes."
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And I was like, "Wait, what?"
256
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And then, that was when,
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'cause I couldn't pay
anybody to get me a job.
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I wanted to do "Roots" Part 6
259
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and play the lead slave,
you know?
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I thought it was gonna
all be the drama of it all.
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And when
I was standing up there
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performing for the neighbors
and my mom,
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I heard a voice as audible
as my own say,
264
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"Niecy,
don't be a selfish heffa."
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I don't know if that's
how the Lord talk to other folk,
266
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but that what He said to me.
-That's how He talked to you.
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"Don't be a selfish heffa.
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Go outside
and spread this around."
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So I went outside
and I was like,
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"My name's Niecy Nash
and I'm funny."
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And people were like,
"Yes, you are, little girl.
272
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Come on over here
and get this job."
273
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So because that's
where the industry met me,
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it took a long time
for them to see me
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as anything other than that.
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-It was a discovery for you.
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You feel like the comedy
was a discovery?
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-As a gift.
-Okay.
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-I knew I was funny,
but I didn't think it was a job.
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-Niecy, an amazing conversation
we're having,
281
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but I gotta stop you because
we gotta go pay some bills.
282
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Guys, don't go anywhere.
283
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We'll be back with more
"Hart to Heart" after this.
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We're talking to
Niecy Nash Betts.
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-You know, I have to say...
286
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I would've thought, you know,
Kevin is so rich, like,
287
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where's the caviar?
288
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Where's the pâté?
Where is the...?
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-That's all
in his dressing room.
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That's locked.
-And that's terrible.
291
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-I know.
-That's terrible.
292
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And look, look what we got.
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Cookies.
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Mm-mm-mm-mm.
295
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**
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**
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-So, I don't have to tell
you that,
298
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but just you to be [indistinct]
while you're here.
299
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[Indistinct] fucking flowers,
so don't be an asshole.
300
00:12:25,888 --> 00:12:27,256
-I just came
to pick up my money.
301
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-'Cause I'll take it back.
-I just came to --
302
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-I don't fucking care.
Come on, let's go.
303
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Let's go.
Welcome back to "Hart to Heart."
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We're talking to
Niecy Nash Betts.
305
00:12:36,432 --> 00:12:37,967
So where were we?
306
00:12:38,067 --> 00:12:40,136
I've heard you talk about
your brother before,
307
00:12:40,236 --> 00:12:44,207
so I'm not gonna act as if I'm
a stranger to that information.
308
00:12:44,307 --> 00:12:47,076
What I've always
been most intrigued by is
309
00:12:47,176 --> 00:12:49,011
how openly you discussed it,
310
00:12:49,112 --> 00:12:51,514
talked about how it
was a motivation factor,
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00:12:51,614 --> 00:12:53,282
how you used it,
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how, you know, you were able
to find strength in that moment,
313
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and, you know,
others around you.
314
00:12:58,921 --> 00:13:01,157
Hearing you
now talk about your mom,
315
00:13:01,257 --> 00:13:04,594
your mom being in that moment
and you pulling her out of it.
316
00:13:04,694 --> 00:13:06,429
As you make these decisions,
317
00:13:06,529 --> 00:13:09,098
you know, the one thing
that I think we always want,
318
00:13:09,198 --> 00:13:10,933
or one thing
that we always look for,
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is support,
especially from our loved ones.
320
00:13:12,535 --> 00:13:16,005
How fast did that support come,
or did it not come,
321
00:13:16,105 --> 00:13:19,108
in the early stages for you
when making the choice?
322
00:13:19,208 --> 00:13:23,746
-No, it didn't come. It didn't
come early at all, because,
323
00:13:23,846 --> 00:13:27,917
you know,
my mother came from a time
324
00:13:28,017 --> 00:13:30,920
where...
"pick something practical,"
325
00:13:31,020 --> 00:13:32,488
you know what I mean?
326
00:13:32,588 --> 00:13:35,925
"You're kind-hearted.
You should go into nursing."
327
00:13:36,025 --> 00:13:39,695
I said no.
-I love how fast you go into --
328
00:13:39,796 --> 00:13:43,099
I love, like, there's not
a moment
329
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of, like -- you don't count.
330
00:13:45,802 --> 00:13:48,404
There's not, like, a "one, two."
331
00:13:48,504 --> 00:13:52,775
It's just a little tilt
and you're in it.
332
00:13:52,875 --> 00:13:54,410
-I've known her my whole life,
yes.
333
00:13:54,510 --> 00:13:57,380
-See, right there,
you just did it again that fast.
334
00:13:57,480 --> 00:13:59,849
One of the quickest segues
I've ever seen in my life.
335
00:13:59,949 --> 00:14:02,185
Go ahead.
-So she just was like,
336
00:14:02,285 --> 00:14:04,120
you know,
"You gotta finish school.
337
00:14:04,220 --> 00:14:06,789
You gotta, you know what I mean,
maybe pick something,
338
00:14:06,889 --> 00:14:09,225
have a backup plan,"
you know?
339
00:14:09,325 --> 00:14:13,062
And then she saw me
in an acting competition,
340
00:14:13,162 --> 00:14:17,834
and after she saw that,
she said,
341
00:14:17,934 --> 00:14:19,836
"Now, that girl is good."
342
00:14:19,936 --> 00:14:22,105
And then she was like,
"I'm with it.
343
00:14:22,205 --> 00:14:25,942
I see what you're trying to do,
and how can I help you?"
344
00:14:26,042 --> 00:14:27,810
-What acted as your
first big break?
345
00:14:27,910 --> 00:14:29,479
-My first big break?
-Yes.
346
00:14:29,579 --> 00:14:33,116
-My first big break was a movie
called "Boys on the Side,"
347
00:14:33,216 --> 00:14:35,585
with Whoopi Goldberg
and Drew Barrymore,
348
00:14:35,685 --> 00:14:39,322
and a very undiscovered, at
the time, Matthew McConaughey.
349
00:14:39,422 --> 00:14:43,459
And I did not know enough
to know
350
00:14:43,559 --> 00:14:47,096
that you can't just pick up
the phone and call somebody
351
00:14:47,196 --> 00:14:48,965
and tell them to get you a job.
352
00:14:49,065 --> 00:14:50,800
So I met this guy at a workshop,
353
00:14:50,900 --> 00:14:52,268
and I called him up
and I was like,
354
00:14:52,368 --> 00:14:54,670
"Hey, you said I was funny,"
you know?
355
00:14:54,771 --> 00:14:58,741
"Why won't you be responsible
for my introduction to Hollywood
356
00:14:58,841 --> 00:15:00,243
and hook a sister up?"
357
00:15:00,343 --> 00:15:02,211
I said, "I'm broke,
I got a baby, and I need a job."
358
00:15:02,311 --> 00:15:05,548
'Cause I was doing what
my mother and father were doing,
359
00:15:05,648 --> 00:15:08,217
break up to make up,
with my then-husband.
360
00:15:08,317 --> 00:15:10,586
So the guy said,
"Be down here at 3:00."
361
00:15:10,686 --> 00:15:15,525
I went down to CBS.
-That's so you in being forward
362
00:15:15,625 --> 00:15:19,629
in what you wanna do,
why you wanna do it.
363
00:15:19,729 --> 00:15:20,997
That's very much on-brand.
364
00:15:21,097 --> 00:15:22,632
-So I just called him
and he said,
365
00:15:22,732 --> 00:15:23,833
"Come down here at 3:00."
366
00:15:23,933 --> 00:15:25,334
-Like a bully?
-Kind of.
367
00:15:25,435 --> 00:15:29,906
-Yeah. Just to put context
and a word on it.
368
00:15:30,006 --> 00:15:32,175
-Self-assured, Kevin.
-Or bully.
369
00:15:32,275 --> 00:15:34,277
-Okay. Or self-assured.
370
00:15:34,377 --> 00:15:38,548
-What I receive...
what I receive...
371
00:15:38,648 --> 00:15:40,950
-Then I'm not speaking
until you're listening.
372
00:15:41,050 --> 00:15:42,819
-Okay. Go ahead.
-I shall continue.
373
00:15:42,919 --> 00:15:44,587
-Okay. Go ahead.
-So I get down
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00:15:44,687 --> 00:15:48,291
to the CBS Radford Studios,
don't know enough to know.
375
00:15:48,391 --> 00:15:52,428
I have no agent, no manager,
I just have a head shot.
376
00:15:52,528 --> 00:15:58,334
And I had done background work
on the back of it,
377
00:15:58,434 --> 00:16:02,271
and I had "won Miss Grand Talent
in a beauty pageant."
378
00:16:02,371 --> 00:16:04,574
That's all I had on the back.
-You put 'em all on there?
379
00:16:04,674 --> 00:16:06,609
-Yeah, it was all on there.
-[ Indistinct ]
380
00:16:06,709 --> 00:16:08,411
Yes. Absolutely.
381
00:16:08,511 --> 00:16:11,881
-So I get there, I have
makeup out to here on my face,
382
00:16:11,981 --> 00:16:13,783
I got a weave down
to my address,
383
00:16:13,883 --> 00:16:15,818
it's just a lot going on.
384
00:16:15,918 --> 00:16:20,423
The man looked at me and he was
like, the casting director say,
385
00:16:20,523 --> 00:16:22,358
"Hey, so what is this?"
-[ Laughs ]
386
00:16:22,458 --> 00:16:26,028
-I said, and look at me,
not picking up on it,
387
00:16:26,129 --> 00:16:28,231
I said, "I know, right?"
388
00:16:28,331 --> 00:16:31,801
He said, "No, no, no, no.
389
00:16:31,901 --> 00:16:35,671
Go wash your face and pull your
hair and come back," you know?
390
00:16:35,772 --> 00:16:41,210
And I was like,
"Okay, that's weird, but okay."
391
00:16:41,310 --> 00:16:44,947
So I come in
and I'm under five lines, right?
392
00:16:45,048 --> 00:16:46,549
But it's a producer session,
393
00:16:46,649 --> 00:16:48,051
'cause when I called,
he was like, "Come today."
394
00:16:48,151 --> 00:16:49,685
I'm like, "Okay."
395
00:16:49,786 --> 00:16:52,555
Director's there, there's
about 15 people in the room,
396
00:16:52,655 --> 00:16:55,224
I read the under five lines,
the director goes,
397
00:16:55,324 --> 00:16:58,294
"Hm, give her this and this."
398
00:16:58,394 --> 00:17:02,365
Still little, bitty parts.
"Have her read this."
399
00:17:02,465 --> 00:17:04,734
He says, "Okay, we want
you to go out in the hall,
400
00:17:04,834 --> 00:17:06,469
take a look at this."
401
00:17:06,569 --> 00:17:08,337
I said, "This all I gotta say?"
He said, "Yeah, but just --"
402
00:17:08,438 --> 00:17:10,006
I said,
"I could say it right here."
403
00:17:10,106 --> 00:17:11,574
He was like, "Well, no,
you should..."
404
00:17:11,674 --> 00:17:14,577
And I was like, "Man,
why you pushing me? I got it."
405
00:17:14,677 --> 00:17:17,346
And then, "If she wants
to do it, just let her do it."
406
00:17:17,447 --> 00:17:20,416
I was like, "Yeah, come on."
-You went and did it.
407
00:17:20,516 --> 00:17:23,186
-So I said it. And you know what
the man said to me, Kevin?
408
00:17:23,286 --> 00:17:27,090
He said, "Thank you."
And I said, "You welcome."
409
00:17:27,190 --> 00:17:30,159
He said, "Thank you."
410
00:17:30,259 --> 00:17:33,096
I said, "Don't mention it."
-Yeah.
411
00:17:33,196 --> 00:17:35,965
-He said, "Thank you,
you may go."
412
00:17:36,065 --> 00:17:39,135
I said, "Oh!
Y'all are dismissing me.
413
00:17:39,235 --> 00:17:40,837
Well, did you pick me?
414
00:17:40,937 --> 00:17:43,406
Because I talked -- Did
you tell him that I told you
415
00:17:43,506 --> 00:17:45,775
I'm broke and I got a baby
and I need a job?"
416
00:17:47,443 --> 00:17:51,347
That man turned bright red,
the casting director.
417
00:17:51,447 --> 00:17:54,183
The director was like,
"Dear, you need to leave here."
418
00:17:54,283 --> 00:17:56,686
I said,
"Not before I say my piece.
419
00:17:56,786 --> 00:17:58,821
And I'm gonna tell you
something, this is rude.
420
00:17:58,921 --> 00:18:02,558
Who asks you to come in
and audition for something
421
00:18:02,658 --> 00:18:04,527
without telling you
if they got the job?"
422
00:18:04,627 --> 00:18:06,329
It's my first
professional audition,
423
00:18:06,429 --> 00:18:08,030
I did not have any --
-Nobody told you?
424
00:18:08,131 --> 00:18:09,665
-No!
-You didn't have tact.
425
00:18:09,766 --> 00:18:12,001
You didn't understand any of it.
-I didn't know any of it.
426
00:18:12,101 --> 00:18:13,503
-And that acted
as your advantage?
427
00:18:13,603 --> 00:18:16,272
-"And why would you do that?
And you know what?
428
00:18:16,372 --> 00:18:18,508
My mama told me
everybody got a boss.
429
00:18:18,608 --> 00:18:21,878
I'm telling on you, I'm telling
on you, and I'm telling on you."
430
00:18:21,978 --> 00:18:26,816
The guy is now shaking,
the director goes like this,
431
00:18:26,916 --> 00:18:31,287
the casting director bends down,
and he goes, "She's adorable.
432
00:18:31,387 --> 00:18:32,855
Where did you find her?"
433
00:18:32,955 --> 00:18:34,824
I don't know when to quit,
Kevin, 'cause I said,
434
00:18:34,924 --> 00:18:38,394
"Uh-uh, don't try to get on my
good side now! It's too late."
435
00:18:38,494 --> 00:18:41,164
-But now you're getting --
it's energy, it's energized.
436
00:18:41,264 --> 00:18:43,032
Absolutely.
-I leave,
437
00:18:43,132 --> 00:18:44,767
and they called me and said,
438
00:18:44,867 --> 00:18:50,039
"Would you like to be in this
film as 'Woman in the Diner'?"
439
00:18:50,139 --> 00:18:52,642
-By the way,
I'm gonna slow-mo that.
440
00:18:52,742 --> 00:18:55,712
When you do that,
I'mma slow-mo the fuck down,
441
00:18:55,812 --> 00:18:58,314
so you can just see
how fast you do it.
442
00:18:58,414 --> 00:18:59,449
-Stop!
-And by the way,
443
00:18:59,549 --> 00:19:01,184
for everybody watching here,
444
00:19:01,284 --> 00:19:02,752
this is the amazing story of
Niecy Nash.
445
00:19:02,852 --> 00:19:03,986
I want you guys to understand
that Niecy Nash Betts
446
00:19:04,087 --> 00:19:05,321
is completely different.
447
00:19:05,421 --> 00:19:07,056
Don't you walk
into these rooms...
448
00:19:07,156 --> 00:19:08,791
-Don't do it.
Oh, please, don't do it.
449
00:19:08,891 --> 00:19:12,295
-Don't you follow this suit,
don't applaud this energy.
450
00:19:12,395 --> 00:19:13,963
She's giving you a moment
in time
451
00:19:14,063 --> 00:19:17,734
where great things happened
because she was not aware.
452
00:19:17,834 --> 00:19:22,171
You are aware now, after these
stories, so act as if you are.
453
00:19:22,271 --> 00:19:23,606
Don't apply this.
-Don't do it.
454
00:19:23,706 --> 00:19:26,242
-Okay. So, this moment hits.
Oh, my God.
455
00:19:26,342 --> 00:19:28,344
-I do the movie.
-You did a movie.
456
00:19:28,444 --> 00:19:30,113
-My scene is
with Whoopi Goldberg.
457
00:19:30,213 --> 00:19:33,149
[ Sighs ]
458
00:19:33,249 --> 00:19:34,817
I almost got --
459
00:19:34,917 --> 00:19:37,620
I'm not even gonna say I almost
got fired off the movie, Kevin,
460
00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:39,422
because that would be
aggressive.
461
00:19:39,522 --> 00:19:41,224
-Well, I don't think
there's an in between.
462
00:19:41,324 --> 00:19:43,593
I don't think you can --
It's either --
463
00:19:43,693 --> 00:19:46,329
-Well, I did the movie,
so I didn't get fired,
464
00:19:46,429 --> 00:19:49,599
but I came close.
-Okay.
465
00:19:49,699 --> 00:19:51,567
-I come out the bathroom.
-Oh, no.
466
00:19:51,667 --> 00:19:55,238
-And I'm supposed to say
to Whoopi Goldberg,
467
00:19:55,338 --> 00:19:56,939
"Hey, there's a sick lady
in there.
468
00:19:57,039 --> 00:19:59,876
She said her friend was out here
and she needs help,"
469
00:19:59,976 --> 00:20:01,244
or something.
470
00:20:01,344 --> 00:20:02,578
Whoopi starts to laugh.
471
00:20:02,678 --> 00:20:04,480
The director goes, "Cut.
Do it again."
472
00:20:04,580 --> 00:20:06,516
I come back out and do it again,
Whoopi laughs again.
473
00:20:06,616 --> 00:20:08,117
I come back out
and I do it again.
474
00:20:08,217 --> 00:20:09,552
Now I'm on the fourth time.
475
00:20:09,652 --> 00:20:11,421
She keeps laughing,
which I don't know why.
476
00:20:11,521 --> 00:20:13,189
So I go in the bathroom
and I pray to the Most High,
477
00:20:13,289 --> 00:20:15,391
and I say, "Lookie here,"
478
00:20:15,491 --> 00:20:16,993
'cause of how we talk to
each other, I said,
479
00:20:17,093 --> 00:20:19,595
"This woman gonna have to have
a glass of act-right,
480
00:20:19,695 --> 00:20:21,664
'cause if she don't,
I'm gonna say something."
481
00:20:21,764 --> 00:20:23,566
-What do you mean?
This is Whoopi Goldberg!
482
00:20:23,666 --> 00:20:26,669
-I don't care! She was
ruining my chance, Kevin,
483
00:20:26,769 --> 00:20:28,771
and the man
was getting frustrated.
484
00:20:28,871 --> 00:20:33,476
So I walk back out there
and I commit a cardinal sin.
485
00:20:33,576 --> 00:20:38,347
I say the line, she laughs
again, and I go, "Time out!
486
00:20:38,448 --> 00:20:40,883
Stop! Hold up. Can we stop?
Can we cut?"
487
00:20:40,983 --> 00:20:43,352
-You cut yourself?!
-I cut the whole thing.
488
00:20:43,453 --> 00:20:48,257
-You can't do that!
-I know now, Kevin!
489
00:20:48,357 --> 00:20:52,462
-Oh, God.
-I cut myself!
490
00:20:52,562 --> 00:20:54,497
-And what did they say
after you cut yourself?
491
00:20:54,597 --> 00:20:56,632
-"Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa."
-Yeah, "What the f--"
492
00:20:56,733 --> 00:20:59,502
[ Indistinct ]
"What the fuck was that?
493
00:20:59,602 --> 00:21:01,637
What did she just do?"
Niecy standing there with a --
494
00:21:01,738 --> 00:21:04,207
By the way, this is not "cut,"
for the people don't know,
495
00:21:04,307 --> 00:21:06,609
this means
"time out" in basketball.
496
00:21:06,709 --> 00:21:09,178
-That's what I did.
-She called a NCAA time out.
497
00:21:09,278 --> 00:21:11,647
This is not how you cut.
-I said, "Halt."
498
00:21:11,748 --> 00:21:14,417
-It's still not.
No. None of that's "cut."
499
00:21:14,517 --> 00:21:17,653
No. That's not how you do it.
You just say "cut!"
500
00:21:17,754 --> 00:21:19,389
-Okay. Well,
I didn't know that either.
501
00:21:19,489 --> 00:21:21,124
-Okay. Alright.
502
00:21:21,224 --> 00:21:22,959
-And the guy comes over and
he goes, "What is the problem?"
503
00:21:23,059 --> 00:21:25,962
I said, "The line is dumb
and she keep laughing."
504
00:21:26,062 --> 00:21:28,631
And she said, "No, you didn't."
I said, "Yes, I did.
505
00:21:28,731 --> 00:21:30,867
They ain't gonna fire you!"
-Oh, no.
506
00:21:30,967 --> 00:21:33,069
-He said, "Well, what's
wrong with it?"
507
00:21:33,169 --> 00:21:35,505
And I said, "It's hokey.
People don't talk like that."
508
00:21:35,605 --> 00:21:36,873
I don't even know
if this man wrote the script,
509
00:21:36,973 --> 00:21:39,575
but I'm telling him
the words are dumb.
510
00:21:39,675 --> 00:21:42,779
-Niecy, we gotta stop
putting this out there.
511
00:21:42,879 --> 00:21:45,915
This is worse than me saying
you ain't got to take the SATs.
512
00:21:46,015 --> 00:21:48,751
I said that one time
and it backfired on me.
513
00:21:48,851 --> 00:21:51,554
-[ Laughs ]
-It backfired, Niecy.
514
00:21:51,654 --> 00:21:54,357
They said, "Kevin, what?
515
00:21:54,457 --> 00:21:57,527
You gotta take this shit."
It backfired.
516
00:21:57,627 --> 00:21:59,796
It came and got me, alright?
517
00:21:59,896 --> 00:22:02,999
So, I just wanna make sure
that we preface it.
518
00:22:03,099 --> 00:22:05,234
-I don't know if mine is worse
than that, Kevin.
519
00:22:05,334 --> 00:22:06,669
-No, it's not. Go ahead.
-But he said,
520
00:22:06,769 --> 00:22:08,438
"What would you like to say?"
521
00:22:08,538 --> 00:22:09,672
I said, "If it were me,
I would be like,
522
00:22:09,772 --> 00:22:11,641
'Is that your friend
in the bathroom?
523
00:22:11,741 --> 00:22:13,409
Girl, you better get in there
'cause she throwing up.'"
524
00:22:13,509 --> 00:22:16,546
And he said, "Edith,
we're changing the line!"
525
00:22:16,646 --> 00:22:18,614
-Again.
-And Whoopi Goldberg said,
526
00:22:18,715 --> 00:22:22,485
"You go, girl," and that was it.
And that's how I --
527
00:22:22,585 --> 00:22:26,155
-It's another example
of first-class bullying.
528
00:22:26,255 --> 00:22:27,590
-Oh, my God, Kevin.
529
00:22:27,690 --> 00:22:28,958
-I just wanted to make
it very clear.
530
00:22:29,058 --> 00:22:31,394
-Please don't put that on me.
I'm not a bully.
531
00:22:31,494 --> 00:22:32,829
-We're talking about then.
532
00:22:32,929 --> 00:22:34,397
I'm not saying you're
the same person now.
533
00:22:34,497 --> 00:22:35,932
People change.
-Oh, I have evolved.
534
00:22:36,032 --> 00:22:37,867
-See that, right there?
-I have evolved.
535
00:22:37,967 --> 00:22:40,369
-Yeah. That person is not --
She wasn't on that set.
536
00:22:40,470 --> 00:22:42,739
[ Laughter ]
537
00:22:42,839 --> 00:22:46,409
-She -- That girl, that woman
right there, no, she wasn't.
538
00:22:46,509 --> 00:22:47,777
-Not at all, not at all.
539
00:22:47,877 --> 00:22:49,512
-I wanna go to "Reno 911"
for a second,
540
00:22:49,612 --> 00:22:51,748
'cause I wanna talk about --
Here's why.
541
00:22:51,848 --> 00:22:55,885
No, not big --
Now, remember, I'm heavy comedy.
542
00:22:55,985 --> 00:22:59,989
What you guys were able
to discover with "Reno 911!"
543
00:23:00,089 --> 00:23:03,593
at the time, I wanna say, like,
[indistinct]
544
00:23:03,693 --> 00:23:05,995
of Hollywood
included of things coming after.
545
00:23:06,095 --> 00:23:12,135
The idea of satire
attached to the real show,
546
00:23:12,235 --> 00:23:14,604
the reality show, "Reno 911!"
547
00:23:14,704 --> 00:23:18,808
was at the table very early,
and I wanna say for --
548
00:23:18,908 --> 00:23:22,045
I hope I'm not speaking
incorrectly by saying
549
00:23:22,145 --> 00:23:26,749
if not first,
very close to the first table.
550
00:23:26,849 --> 00:23:28,684
-'Cause that was unscripted.
-It was unscripted.
551
00:23:28,785 --> 00:23:31,621
-Yep.
-Unscripted spoof.
552
00:23:31,721 --> 00:23:33,456
-Of "Cops."
-Wait a minute. Wait.
553
00:23:33,556 --> 00:23:34,891
Before you get into that,
554
00:23:34,991 --> 00:23:39,562
'cause the world should
know why "Reno 911!"
555
00:23:39,662 --> 00:23:41,798
is one of the best things
to ever hit television.
556
00:23:41,898 --> 00:23:43,466
But more importantly,
they should know,
557
00:23:43,566 --> 00:23:45,068
like, how it started.
558
00:23:45,168 --> 00:23:46,402
Guys, don't go anywhere.
559
00:23:46,502 --> 00:23:47,703
We'll be back with more
of this story
560
00:23:47,804 --> 00:23:49,906
when we come back after this.
561
00:23:51,474 --> 00:23:52,809
Where did you first meet him?
562
00:23:52,909 --> 00:23:56,913
-Kevin? Ooh, I've known Kevin
for a long time.
563
00:23:57,013 --> 00:23:58,114
Stand-up days?
564
00:23:58,214 --> 00:23:59,716
Um...
565
00:23:59,816 --> 00:24:03,019
I knew him back
when he was ugly.
566
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:05,822
You know what I'm saying?
567
00:24:05,922 --> 00:24:07,557
He's a little more fetching now,
you know what I mean?
568
00:24:07,657 --> 00:24:10,426
But I knew him back when he --
You know?
569
00:24:10,526 --> 00:24:12,495
Old Kevin.
You know what I mean?
570
00:24:12,595 --> 00:24:15,531
He looks a couple of inches
taller now,
571
00:24:15,631 --> 00:24:18,601
a little more buff,
a little more filled out.
572
00:24:18,701 --> 00:24:21,704
But I knew him when he was ugly
and simple.
573
00:24:21,804 --> 00:24:24,006
That's how long I known him.
How about that?
574
00:24:24,107 --> 00:24:25,041
I love it.
575
00:24:25,141 --> 00:24:29,746
**
576
00:24:33,583 --> 00:24:37,954
**
577
00:24:38,054 --> 00:24:39,622
-Welcome back to
"Hart to Heart."
578
00:24:39,722 --> 00:24:41,157
We're talking to
Niecy Nash Betts,
579
00:24:41,257 --> 00:24:43,192
and we're still talking about
"Reno 911!"
580
00:24:43,292 --> 00:24:46,696
At the time in doing that,
where did the decision come?
581
00:24:46,796 --> 00:24:48,564
Was it just a great opportunity?
582
00:24:48,664 --> 00:24:50,566
Was it, like, another audition?
583
00:24:50,666 --> 00:24:52,101
Did you see this
in the early times?
584
00:24:52,201 --> 00:24:54,070
'Cause everybody was fairly new
on that project.
585
00:24:54,170 --> 00:24:56,239
-No. Because you know
what happened was,
586
00:24:56,339 --> 00:24:59,275
it was supposed
to be a sketch show at first.
587
00:24:59,375 --> 00:25:02,045
So when they called and said,
"Hey, there's an audition.
588
00:25:02,145 --> 00:25:05,348
Do you know how to do sketch?"
and I was like, "Yes."
589
00:25:05,448 --> 00:25:07,583
And I hung up and called my
friend, Big George, I was like,
590
00:25:07,683 --> 00:25:09,185
"What the hell is sketch?"
591
00:25:09,285 --> 00:25:12,088
'Cause I'm from LA.
-Niecy, you gotta stop.
592
00:25:12,188 --> 00:25:14,390
-But I had never heard of
Groundlings,
593
00:25:14,490 --> 00:25:17,026
Second City,
I didn't know any of that.
594
00:25:17,126 --> 00:25:18,961
-Well, why'd you have to lie
to the people?
595
00:25:19,062 --> 00:25:21,230
-Because I needed to get in
the door!
596
00:25:21,330 --> 00:25:23,599
I'm a live person,
figure it out on the way.
597
00:25:23,699 --> 00:25:25,902
Come on!
-Alright. That's aggressive.
598
00:25:26,002 --> 00:25:27,670
She doesn't mean that she lies.
599
00:25:27,770 --> 00:25:30,773
-Oh, no, she did. She lied.
[ Laughter ]
600
00:25:30,873 --> 00:25:34,911
-"Oh, no. Yes, I did."
-Yeah, I did.
601
00:25:35,011 --> 00:25:36,679
-Okay. Go ahead.
-So when I got down there,
602
00:25:36,779 --> 00:25:40,216
there were two other girls,
who I now know are improv,
603
00:25:40,316 --> 00:25:42,919
you know, sketch greats,
these other two girls.
604
00:25:43,019 --> 00:25:48,825
But...the audition
was running late
605
00:25:48,925 --> 00:25:52,829
and one girl was doing
vocal warm-ups,
606
00:25:52,929 --> 00:25:55,898
the other girl was stretching,
607
00:25:55,998 --> 00:25:57,700
and I was reading a magazine.
608
00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:59,769
I said, "Well, I'mma
give them my lunch.
609
00:25:59,869 --> 00:26:02,171
You want this lunch?"
-Chilling.
610
00:26:02,271 --> 00:26:04,841
-But it was taking so long, and
I went and knocked on the door,
611
00:26:04,941 --> 00:26:06,242
another --
-God damn it, Niecy.
612
00:26:06,342 --> 00:26:07,577
-I know.
613
00:26:07,677 --> 00:26:09,178
-During somebody else's
audition?
614
00:26:09,278 --> 00:26:11,547
-No, nobody was in there yet,
we were all just waiting.
615
00:26:11,647 --> 00:26:14,016
And I was like, "Yo, excuse me.
616
00:26:14,117 --> 00:26:17,987
When is this dog-and-pony show
gonna get started?"
617
00:26:18,087 --> 00:26:21,290
And somebody had an attitude
in the room, and was like,
618
00:26:21,391 --> 00:26:24,994
"Why, are you in a hurry?"
and I said, "Ma'am, I am.
619
00:26:25,094 --> 00:26:27,363
I gotta get my kids to
Chuck-E-Cheese by 7:00.
620
00:26:27,463 --> 00:26:30,099
The last time I got there late,
they jumped on the mouse,
621
00:26:30,199 --> 00:26:32,402
the head came off,
the man went in the back
622
00:26:32,502 --> 00:26:33,503
and never came back out.
623
00:26:33,603 --> 00:26:34,971
I gotta go."
624
00:26:35,071 --> 00:26:36,539
-You can't tell
them people that, Niecy.
625
00:26:36,639 --> 00:26:38,141
-But I told them.
-Okay, alright.
626
00:26:38,241 --> 00:26:40,309
-And they said, "Come on in
and do your bit."
627
00:26:40,410 --> 00:26:42,678
I said, "Thank you,
'cause I gotta get going."
628
00:26:42,779 --> 00:26:45,114
I did my bit and I left.
Guess what?
629
00:26:45,214 --> 00:26:47,717
I get a callback.
-Was your bit --
630
00:26:47,817 --> 00:26:49,152
This is the real, like --
631
00:26:49,252 --> 00:26:52,622
This is a for-real
me question right now.
632
00:26:52,722 --> 00:26:54,424
-Okay.
633
00:26:54,524 --> 00:26:56,692
-Did you go in there
and just improv the whole thing?
634
00:26:56,793 --> 00:26:59,128
-No, I knew what I wanted to do
635
00:26:59,228 --> 00:27:02,031
and I had a little paper bag
that had, like,
636
00:27:02,131 --> 00:27:05,068
a men's jacket in it,
'cause I played a pastor.
637
00:27:05,168 --> 00:27:07,170
I had some of the little things
in there.
638
00:27:07,270 --> 00:27:09,138
-It was all sketch.
So you wanted little characters?
639
00:27:09,238 --> 00:27:10,673
Got it. Okay. Okay.
-Yeah, characters.
640
00:27:10,773 --> 00:27:12,375
Get the callback,
641
00:27:12,475 --> 00:27:15,344
did not have the presence
of mind enough to know
642
00:27:15,445 --> 00:27:18,514
that you might wanna
practice some of this stuff
643
00:27:18,614 --> 00:27:20,183
before you do it.
644
00:27:20,283 --> 00:27:22,852
So when I go into the callback,
first of all,
645
00:27:22,952 --> 00:27:24,687
the first thing they said was,
646
00:27:24,787 --> 00:27:27,023
"What happened
at Chuck-E-Cheese?"
647
00:27:27,123 --> 00:27:28,925
-You done forgot...
-So I did five minutes
648
00:27:29,025 --> 00:27:30,326
on Chuck-E-Cheese.
-No, Niecy.
649
00:27:30,426 --> 00:27:32,061
-Just to talk about it.
I mean, they asked.
650
00:27:32,161 --> 00:27:34,230
-Yeah, but...
-Then I said,
651
00:27:34,330 --> 00:27:38,101
"I could do the same, you know,
'she-I-T' that I did last time."
652
00:27:38,201 --> 00:27:40,937
-You can cuss, Niecy.
-Or I said I found
653
00:27:41,037 --> 00:27:43,106
a handkerchief
in the backseat of my car,
654
00:27:43,206 --> 00:27:45,408
and I came up with
this character called
655
00:27:45,508 --> 00:27:46,476
"Carol the Slave."
656
00:27:46,576 --> 00:27:47,910
"Y'all wanna see that,
657
00:27:48,010 --> 00:27:49,379
or do you want me
to do what I did last time?"
658
00:27:49,479 --> 00:27:51,047
-So you're off the cuff.
Everything's off the cuff.
659
00:27:51,147 --> 00:27:52,648
-They said,
"Please do Carol the Slave."
660
00:27:52,749 --> 00:27:54,083
-God damn it.
God damn it, Niecy!
661
00:27:54,183 --> 00:27:56,486
-[ Laughs ]
-God damn it!
662
00:27:56,586 --> 00:27:58,254
-And that's what I did.
663
00:27:58,354 --> 00:28:02,525
I did Carol the Slave, and
who I now know is Kerrie Kenney
664
00:28:02,625 --> 00:28:03,926
fell out of the chair.
665
00:28:04,026 --> 00:28:05,228
'Cause my mother said,
"How did it go?"
666
00:28:05,328 --> 00:28:06,963
I said, "A white lady
fell off the chair
667
00:28:07,063 --> 00:28:08,831
and was beating her fist
on the ground."
668
00:28:08,931 --> 00:28:11,300
And I said,
"I guess she liked it."
669
00:28:11,401 --> 00:28:15,938
And they called me.
-Here's the crazy thing.
670
00:28:16,038 --> 00:28:17,940
Like, when you think about
"In Living Color,"
671
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:19,742
you think about what it meant,
right?
672
00:28:19,842 --> 00:28:22,278
-Yeah.
-So big, so huge.
673
00:28:22,378 --> 00:28:26,249
And the door that it opened
for other, like, you know,
674
00:28:26,349 --> 00:28:28,084
sketch comedy shows
to come after it,
675
00:28:28,184 --> 00:28:30,153
and such a variety, so many.
676
00:28:30,253 --> 00:28:32,855
Between "SNL"
and "In Living Color,"
677
00:28:32,955 --> 00:28:34,524
you're looking at
the two conglomerates
678
00:28:34,624 --> 00:28:36,192
that sit on the pedestal,
679
00:28:36,292 --> 00:28:37,927
but there were a lot of them
that came out after, right?
680
00:28:38,027 --> 00:28:39,595
Some that probably feels
681
00:28:39,695 --> 00:28:41,264
like they deserve a little
more attention and notoriety,
682
00:28:41,364 --> 00:28:42,965
some that feel
like they got their shots,
683
00:28:43,066 --> 00:28:45,234
opportunities, whatever.
684
00:28:45,334 --> 00:28:47,970
"Reno 911!"
for the world of sketch,
685
00:28:48,071 --> 00:28:51,074
once again,
in this particular unscripted,
686
00:28:51,174 --> 00:28:55,845
like, comedic world
that has now been created,
687
00:28:55,945 --> 00:28:57,180
I wanna truly say, man,
688
00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:59,549
it was groundbreaking
because the cast
689
00:28:59,649 --> 00:29:01,150
that you guys put together,
690
00:29:01,250 --> 00:29:03,186
this show was able to go on
for how many seasons?
691
00:29:03,286 --> 00:29:06,222
-We're still doing. We've been
doing "Reno" for 20 years.
692
00:29:06,322 --> 00:29:09,125
We just made our 20-year
anniversary.
693
00:29:09,225 --> 00:29:11,427
And the funny thing was
that we were doing
694
00:29:11,527 --> 00:29:15,665
an untitled sketch show,
and at the last minute,
695
00:29:15,765 --> 00:29:21,370
they said -- I think Cedric
was doing a sketch show, too,
696
00:29:21,471 --> 00:29:23,072
and they were like,
"You got something else?
697
00:29:23,172 --> 00:29:24,907
But we was out
of time and money.
698
00:29:25,007 --> 00:29:27,477
And somebody was like,
"Let's just do 'Cops,'"
699
00:29:27,577 --> 00:29:30,380
because it was the biggest show
on Fox at the time,
700
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:32,782
"and everybody make up
what cop you wanna be."
701
00:29:32,882 --> 00:29:36,285
-Biggest response. Holy shit.
-And I had never done improv.
702
00:29:36,386 --> 00:29:38,154
Like I told you,
never heard of it.
703
00:29:38,254 --> 00:29:39,856
Now, I'm fine if
you give me words to say,
704
00:29:39,956 --> 00:29:41,157
I know how to make 'em funny.
705
00:29:41,257 --> 00:29:43,593
But now what do I have to do?
706
00:29:43,693 --> 00:29:45,661
You have to make it up.
707
00:29:45,762 --> 00:29:47,163
"You come in the
'Hart to Heart' studios
708
00:29:47,263 --> 00:29:49,132
and somebody is going to jail.
Action."
709
00:29:49,232 --> 00:29:50,767
I don't know what you gonna say,
710
00:29:50,867 --> 00:29:52,168
you don't know
what I'm gonna say.
711
00:29:52,268 --> 00:29:54,036
I said, "Well, let me
think about this."
712
00:29:54,137 --> 00:29:55,605
I said, "Okay, Niecy.
You alright."
713
00:29:55,705 --> 00:30:00,009
I have been arguing
with my first husband for years,
714
00:30:00,109 --> 00:30:01,944
and I could think on my feet
715
00:30:02,045 --> 00:30:04,047
'cause I was going,
you know what I mean?
716
00:30:04,147 --> 00:30:06,349
I fancy myself a bit
of a wordsmith,
717
00:30:06,449 --> 00:30:10,353
so I'm like, "Alright."
-As you say a sentence
718
00:30:10,453 --> 00:30:14,190
that is, like,
pure example of word fucking...
719
00:30:14,290 --> 00:30:17,627
I mean,
"I fancy myself a wordsmith."
720
00:30:17,727 --> 00:30:18,961
-Yeah!
-Well, I don't.
721
00:30:19,062 --> 00:30:21,130
-Okay.
-I don't fancy myself as one,
722
00:30:21,230 --> 00:30:22,732
So you talk regular to me.
723
00:30:22,832 --> 00:30:25,835
Fancy yourself as nothing.
You confuse the fuck out of me.
724
00:30:25,935 --> 00:30:27,203
[ Indistinct ]
725
00:30:27,303 --> 00:30:28,905
"I fancy myself a wordsmith."
What?
726
00:30:29,005 --> 00:30:30,540
-Shut up, Kevin.
-Okay, go ahead.
727
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:35,578
-So we went and we did
"Reno," and there you have it.
728
00:30:35,678 --> 00:30:38,214
-Niecy, an amazing conversation
we're having,
729
00:30:38,314 --> 00:30:40,283
but I gotta stop you,
like I always do,
730
00:30:40,383 --> 00:30:42,885
because we gotta go
pay some bills.
731
00:30:42,985 --> 00:30:44,387
Guys, don't go anywhere.
732
00:30:44,487 --> 00:30:45,988
We'll be back with more
"Hart to Heart" after this.
733
00:30:46,089 --> 00:30:47,690
We're talking to
Niecy Nash Betts.
734
00:30:47,790 --> 00:30:50,793
I'll take it after we done.
Let's go. It's time to go, Juan.
735
00:30:50,893 --> 00:30:52,195
Yeah, you'll get it.
Lemme see.
736
00:30:52,295 --> 00:30:54,897
-Get together.
-[ Indistinct ]
737
00:30:54,997 --> 00:30:56,733
-Okay. Smile. Good.
738
00:30:56,833 --> 00:31:01,370
**
739
00:31:05,875 --> 00:31:11,614
**
740
00:31:11,714 --> 00:31:14,917
-How much of the story was true?
741
00:31:15,017 --> 00:31:17,220
-40%.
-40% of it? Okay.
742
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:18,888
-Of course, you gotta
do all the other, you know,
743
00:31:18,988 --> 00:31:20,189
stuff that makes you good.
744
00:31:20,289 --> 00:31:21,924
But, yeah, about 40% of it,
yeah.
745
00:31:22,024 --> 00:31:24,026
-Nice.
-Absolutely.
746
00:31:24,127 --> 00:31:27,363
-Oh, let me take our picture
747
00:31:27,463 --> 00:31:30,800
so I can say,
"Look who I'm hanging out with."
748
00:31:30,900 --> 00:31:33,202
**
749
00:31:33,302 --> 00:31:35,538
Hey!
750
00:31:35,638 --> 00:31:38,107
Hey, I'll send it to you.
751
00:31:38,207 --> 00:31:39,375
-Welcome back
to "Hart to Heart."
752
00:31:39,475 --> 00:31:42,211
We're talking to
Niecy Nash Betts.
753
00:31:42,311 --> 00:31:44,280
Watch this segue train, here.
-Mm!
754
00:31:44,380 --> 00:31:45,982
-Segue train meaning, you know,
755
00:31:46,082 --> 00:31:48,284
how I effortlessly move
from here
756
00:31:48,384 --> 00:31:50,119
to the next version
of our conversation
757
00:31:50,219 --> 00:31:52,355
but keep it connected.
-Mm.
758
00:31:52,455 --> 00:31:55,291
-Word play.
Did you see what I did?
759
00:31:55,391 --> 00:31:56,759
-I did. I saw it.
-I looked in there.
760
00:31:56,859 --> 00:32:00,029
-I saw it, yeah.
-[ Indistinct ] Okay.
761
00:32:00,129 --> 00:32:01,230
Here's what I wanna know.
762
00:32:01,330 --> 00:32:02,899
Did it become a mind-set,
763
00:32:02,999 --> 00:32:04,267
did it become
a conscious thought to say,
764
00:32:04,367 --> 00:32:06,302
"Okay, well, let me make sure
765
00:32:06,402 --> 00:32:09,605
that I make myself available
to do more.
766
00:32:09,705 --> 00:32:12,575
How do I make sure
that I'm not just seen as this,
767
00:32:12,675 --> 00:32:15,078
but I get out there
and I get seen as more"?
768
00:32:15,178 --> 00:32:18,281
Like, when did
that light bulb go off,
769
00:32:18,381 --> 00:32:21,184
and was there extra energy
or effort
770
00:32:21,284 --> 00:32:24,020
into going out
and auditioning for more things,
771
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:25,922
have more conversations,
more meetings, whatever?
772
00:32:26,022 --> 00:32:28,491
Because you did a great job,
while doing this,
773
00:32:28,591 --> 00:32:30,359
still expanding
and doing so much more.
774
00:32:30,460 --> 00:32:36,299
-Yeah. Well, what happened was,
right before "Reno,"
775
00:32:36,399 --> 00:32:41,304
I had to beg my ex-husband
for time to audition,
776
00:32:41,404 --> 00:32:44,373
and I said -- I already had
three babies, I said,
777
00:32:44,474 --> 00:32:46,309
"If you give me the nine months
778
00:32:46,409 --> 00:32:49,145
that I have given my body
over to bear children,
779
00:32:49,245 --> 00:32:50,880
give me nine months for me.
780
00:32:50,980 --> 00:32:53,816
If I don't make it nine months,
I'll go back to work."
781
00:32:53,916 --> 00:32:55,785
'Cause he was like, "Everybody
up in here going to work."
782
00:32:55,885 --> 00:32:58,388
-That's strong.
-So I was like,
783
00:32:58,488 --> 00:33:00,623
"Give me nine months
and I'mma handle my handle."
784
00:33:00,723 --> 00:33:06,429
And it took about
seven-and-a-half months,
785
00:33:06,529 --> 00:33:09,365
and I booked
my home makeover show,
786
00:33:09,465 --> 00:33:11,834
which ran for nine seasons,
"Clean House,"
787
00:33:11,934 --> 00:33:16,672
"Reno 911!"
maybe about a week later.
788
00:33:16,773 --> 00:33:18,875
And then, maybe about a week
or two after that,
789
00:33:18,975 --> 00:33:21,177
I book a recurring
on "Bernie Mac Show"
790
00:33:21,277 --> 00:33:23,379
as his sister, Aunt Benita.
791
00:33:23,479 --> 00:33:26,616
So I entered into the business
with three jobs,
792
00:33:26,716 --> 00:33:28,251
and I've always felt like,
793
00:33:28,351 --> 00:33:30,253
"Oh, I like
working in triplicate."
794
00:33:30,353 --> 00:33:32,221
So that was the mandate
for my team,
795
00:33:32,321 --> 00:33:34,290
"I always want three job.
796
00:33:34,390 --> 00:33:35,691
I don't care if it's a cartoon
voice over,
797
00:33:35,792 --> 00:33:37,427
if it's a this, if it's a that."
798
00:33:37,527 --> 00:33:41,864
But what kept falling
under the radar was drama.
799
00:33:41,964 --> 00:33:45,201
Everything was either co-- you
know, hosting, you're yourself.
800
00:33:45,301 --> 00:33:46,369
-Personality.
-Yeah.
801
00:33:46,469 --> 00:33:48,671
But it still wasn't the dream.
802
00:33:48,771 --> 00:33:50,273
-Just to --
803
00:33:50,373 --> 00:33:53,209
Because I want
the audience watching to
804
00:33:53,309 --> 00:33:54,877
not just sweep that
under the rug,
805
00:33:54,977 --> 00:33:57,013
when you're like, "Yeah, three
jobs and something consistent,"
806
00:33:57,113 --> 00:33:59,415
we're talking about
a significant time span
807
00:33:59,515 --> 00:34:01,718
of consistency in work, right?
-Yeah.
808
00:34:01,818 --> 00:34:04,887
-And that running comedy,
for you, before, like, "Okay,
809
00:34:04,987 --> 00:34:07,890
well, I got to go find my drama,
I got to get my drama nugget.
810
00:34:07,990 --> 00:34:09,292
I gotta make people
understand that
811
00:34:09,392 --> 00:34:11,728
there's more in this machine."
-Yeah.
812
00:34:11,828 --> 00:34:14,630
-When and where did that happen?
813
00:34:14,731 --> 00:34:19,669
-I had done all the things,
you know?
814
00:34:19,769 --> 00:34:22,705
I played Cedric the
Entertainer's wife on a sitcom,
815
00:34:22,805 --> 00:34:25,041
I still was doing "Reno."
816
00:34:25,141 --> 00:34:26,542
I had done all of these sitcoms
817
00:34:26,642 --> 00:34:29,612
in all of these spaces
and places.
818
00:34:29,712 --> 00:34:35,518
I had hosted the things,
and I called my team
819
00:34:35,618 --> 00:34:38,321
and went down to Beverley Hills,
and everybody was like,
820
00:34:38,421 --> 00:34:40,123
"Well, why are we here?"
821
00:34:40,223 --> 00:34:42,425
I said, "Because I wanted to
reintroduce myself."
822
00:34:42,525 --> 00:34:44,160
-I love this.
-"I think you think
823
00:34:44,260 --> 00:34:45,728
you know me."
-I love this.
824
00:34:45,828 --> 00:34:48,364
-I said, "But I done changed."
-This is where you --
825
00:34:48,464 --> 00:34:49,732
It's also a, "You work for me
826
00:34:49,832 --> 00:34:51,634
and let me tell you
what I need" moment,
827
00:34:51,734 --> 00:34:54,537
which is -- I've said it
on this show several times,
828
00:34:54,637 --> 00:34:56,372
there's a lot of talent
that doesn't --
829
00:34:56,472 --> 00:34:58,741
they don't grasp that correctly.
830
00:34:58,841 --> 00:35:01,444
-No, you're so grateful
that you feel like,
831
00:35:01,544 --> 00:35:05,448
"they chose me," and
you don't wanna make them upset,
832
00:35:05,548 --> 00:35:07,350
you don't wanna rock the boat.
833
00:35:07,450 --> 00:35:09,919
And I just said,
"I wanna tell you about me,
834
00:35:10,019 --> 00:35:13,556
who I am right now, and
invite you to think differently.
835
00:35:13,656 --> 00:35:15,458
And if you don't,
I'm okay with that.
836
00:35:15,558 --> 00:35:17,427
It just means that
we can't go forward together,"
837
00:35:17,527 --> 00:35:19,062
you know what I mean?
838
00:35:19,162 --> 00:35:20,496
Because I gotta be with people
839
00:35:20,596 --> 00:35:22,498
that see me the way
I see myself.
840
00:35:22,598 --> 00:35:24,801
They understood it,
took the directive.
841
00:35:24,901 --> 00:35:27,637
I auditioned right after that
for "Getting On,"
842
00:35:27,737 --> 00:35:31,107
which was -- I was
a two-time Emmy nominee.
843
00:35:31,207 --> 00:35:35,511
It was an industry darling,
that show on HBO.
844
00:35:35,611 --> 00:35:37,447
-I want you to stop
doing what you're doing,
845
00:35:37,547 --> 00:35:39,916
which is rubbing your little
fucking nominations in my face.
846
00:35:40,016 --> 00:35:41,751
And I told you off--
847
00:35:41,851 --> 00:35:44,787
I get that you got
all these awards and shit,
848
00:35:44,887 --> 00:35:46,355
but you don't have to keep
saying it to me.
849
00:35:46,456 --> 00:35:48,224
-Don't you have a few, Kevin?
850
00:35:48,324 --> 00:35:49,926
-People's Choice
and Kids' Choice.
851
00:35:50,026 --> 00:35:52,929
-Aww, of course you're the
Kids' Choice. You're their size.
852
00:35:53,029 --> 00:35:55,565
-That's great for you.
-That's good. That's real good.
853
00:35:55,665 --> 00:35:58,267
Somebody has to do it.
-Is that making you feel good?
854
00:35:58,367 --> 00:36:02,138
-[ Laughs ]
-So the little darling...
855
00:36:02,238 --> 00:36:05,875
That's enough.
-Okay. Geez.
856
00:36:05,975 --> 00:36:07,844
-You ain't laughed that goddamn
hard since you been here.
857
00:36:07,944 --> 00:36:09,712
Say something to hurt
my feelings all the time.
858
00:36:09,812 --> 00:36:12,415
[ Laughs mockingly ]
Some time to show teeth.
859
00:36:12,515 --> 00:36:13,950
She ain't shown
that much goddamn teeth
860
00:36:14,050 --> 00:36:15,451
since we been here.
861
00:36:15,551 --> 00:36:17,820
One thing about my height.
[ Laughs mockingly ]
862
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:20,823
-Okay, Kevin.
Well, at least you're rich.
863
00:36:20,923 --> 00:36:22,525
-Shut up, Niecy.
-What?
864
00:36:22,625 --> 00:36:24,193
-Now, that's enough.
-Okay.
865
00:36:24,293 --> 00:36:26,329
-[ Laughs ]
Tell me --
866
00:36:26,429 --> 00:36:28,331
Tell me, so you get the --
867
00:36:28,431 --> 00:36:30,566
you get an opportunity
to do this industry darling.
868
00:36:30,666 --> 00:36:33,369
-Industry darling.
And have you ever seen it?
869
00:36:33,469 --> 00:36:34,737
If you haven't,
you would love it.
870
00:36:34,837 --> 00:36:36,739
-I will not lie to you,
I have not seen it.
871
00:36:36,839 --> 00:36:38,841
-Kevin, I'm trying
to tell you something.
872
00:36:38,941 --> 00:36:40,777
-Tell me to watch it,
I'm gonna watch it.
873
00:36:40,877 --> 00:36:43,379
-No, I'm gonna tell you.
I'm gonna ask you as my friend.
874
00:36:43,479 --> 00:36:44,680
-Well, later,
you'll text me and go,
875
00:36:44,781 --> 00:36:46,282
"Did you watch it,
motherfucker?"
876
00:36:46,382 --> 00:36:47,817
And then I'll be like...
-Okay.
877
00:36:47,917 --> 00:36:52,188
-Yeah. So I'm saying,
I'm telling my bully...
878
00:36:52,288 --> 00:36:55,458
that I'm gonna follow the rules
and do what you ask me to do.
879
00:36:55,558 --> 00:36:57,393
-Thank you.
-Okay.
880
00:36:57,493 --> 00:37:00,797
-So I did that, and...
881
00:37:00,897 --> 00:37:03,533
that was when everything
turned on a dime.
882
00:37:03,633 --> 00:37:05,935
That's where
Ava DuVernay saw me,
883
00:37:06,035 --> 00:37:08,871
and she invited me to come
be a part of the movie "Selma,"
884
00:37:08,971 --> 00:37:11,908
and then that turned into
"When They See Us,"
885
00:37:12,008 --> 00:37:14,477
and that turned into "Origin."
886
00:37:14,577 --> 00:37:16,546
-You really did just go.
-So that one thing...
887
00:37:16,646 --> 00:37:20,216
And I feel like -- Let me ask
you something else as a friend,
888
00:37:20,316 --> 00:37:21,784
and I think I've said this
to you before,
889
00:37:21,884 --> 00:37:26,222
but there's been
no manifestation of it.
890
00:37:26,322 --> 00:37:30,193
I haven't been on camera
with you in 1,000 years,
891
00:37:30,293 --> 00:37:31,627
not since --
892
00:37:31,728 --> 00:37:33,496
-We're evading a fire
in the fire suit.
893
00:37:33,596 --> 00:37:36,532
-No. No, no, no.
I'm talking about in a movie.
894
00:37:36,632 --> 00:37:38,234
-We have not been a movie
since...
895
00:37:38,334 --> 00:37:41,070
-Since the one with...
-Wait a second.
896
00:37:41,170 --> 00:37:42,939
-...Taraji and Morris Chestnut.
897
00:37:43,039 --> 00:37:44,907
-That's -- You're talking about
"Not Easily Broken."
898
00:37:45,007 --> 00:37:46,509
-"Not Easily Broken."
899
00:37:46,609 --> 00:37:47,977
-And then we did, like --
-No, but that --
900
00:37:48,077 --> 00:37:50,213
-I know, I'm saying
what we've done together, Niecy.
901
00:37:50,313 --> 00:37:51,948
I'm trying to get it in my head.
902
00:37:52,048 --> 00:37:53,383
God, I'm not correcting nothing.
903
00:37:53,483 --> 00:37:55,852
I'm trying to think.
Give me a second.
904
00:37:55,952 --> 00:37:59,555
God damn it. One, two...
[ Laughter ]
905
00:37:59,655 --> 00:38:01,858
No, that's it.
-You finished?
906
00:38:01,958 --> 00:38:03,760
-Yes, I am.
I just wanted to make sure.
907
00:38:03,860 --> 00:38:07,463
-Okay. Because now,
here's what's happening.
908
00:38:07,563 --> 00:38:09,165
It's either feast or famine.
909
00:38:09,265 --> 00:38:11,734
So then once they found out
people that can make you laugh
910
00:38:11,834 --> 00:38:14,637
can make you cry,
there's tons of dramas.
911
00:38:14,737 --> 00:38:17,273
You know, Jeffrey Dahmer
and all of these things.
912
00:38:17,373 --> 00:38:21,677
And I'm like, I think
people forgot I'm funny.
913
00:38:21,778 --> 00:38:23,679
Oh, Lord!
You know what I mean?
914
00:38:23,780 --> 00:38:26,549
I'm like, I gotta go find
a comedy to do,
915
00:38:26,649 --> 00:38:28,751
just to remind people.
916
00:38:28,851 --> 00:38:30,753
-Well, I told you,
I felt like "Claws,"
917
00:38:30,853 --> 00:38:33,022
to me, it's personally one
of my favorites,
918
00:38:33,122 --> 00:38:34,991
but I wanted to know
how you feel about it.
919
00:38:35,091 --> 00:38:36,592
But before you do,
let's take a quick break, guys.
920
00:38:36,692 --> 00:38:38,327
We're gonna go pay some bills.
921
00:38:38,428 --> 00:38:39,629
We'll be back with
Niecy Nash Betts after this,
922
00:38:39,729 --> 00:38:40,963
and we're talking "Claws."
923
00:38:41,064 --> 00:38:45,701
-So many people
for such a small man.
924
00:38:47,103 --> 00:38:49,739
Jesus. And them over there,
too, look over there.
925
00:38:49,839 --> 00:38:51,641
There's people over there, too.
926
00:38:51,741 --> 00:38:53,943
**
927
00:38:54,043 --> 00:38:55,912
[ Laughs ]
928
00:38:56,012 --> 00:38:58,915
So many people
for such a small man.
929
00:38:59,015 --> 00:39:04,554
**
930
00:39:04,654 --> 00:39:06,355
For such a tiny fellow.
931
00:39:06,456 --> 00:39:11,828
**
932
00:39:20,803 --> 00:39:22,338
-Guys, this is "Hart to Heart,"
933
00:39:22,438 --> 00:39:25,608
and I'm about to get some of
my personal questions answered.
934
00:39:25,708 --> 00:39:28,177
I really wanted to know
about "Claws."
935
00:39:28,277 --> 00:39:32,348
I personally feel like "Claws,"
936
00:39:32,448 --> 00:39:38,087
it just put a different Niecy
Nash Betts on bird's-eye view,
937
00:39:38,187 --> 00:39:40,156
you know what I mean?
-Yeah.
938
00:39:40,256 --> 00:39:43,259
-Like, and I know other things
started coming, once again,
939
00:39:43,359 --> 00:39:46,729
after the Ava calls, and the
movies just started to come in,
940
00:39:46,829 --> 00:39:48,197
and they get bigger and bigger,
941
00:39:48,297 --> 00:39:50,967
and the choices,
they're dramatic.
942
00:39:51,067 --> 00:39:52,835
'Cause we now know
you can operate in that space.
943
00:39:52,935 --> 00:39:55,972
Now there's a feeling of,
"Well, damn. I can do both.
944
00:39:56,072 --> 00:39:57,907
I hope that you don't forget
that I can do both."
945
00:39:58,007 --> 00:40:02,678
I feel like this is where --
this is the moment of, now,
946
00:40:02,779 --> 00:40:05,982
having the understanding that
you're also in the position to,
947
00:40:06,082 --> 00:40:08,551
really, create for yourself.
-Yeah.
948
00:40:08,651 --> 00:40:12,155
-The creative engine now,
is that exciting for you?
949
00:40:12,255 --> 00:40:13,990
-I love it.
950
00:40:14,090 --> 00:40:18,528
I mean, I have something
that I'm working on right now.
951
00:40:18,628 --> 00:40:21,631
You know, I ended up with
a first-look deal somewhere,
952
00:40:21,731 --> 00:40:24,600
you know,
bringing other projects
953
00:40:24,700 --> 00:40:28,404
that I'm not in to life.
954
00:40:28,504 --> 00:40:30,573
-Uplifting, amplifying
other talent.
955
00:40:30,673 --> 00:40:32,675
-Other talent. Yes, yes, yeah.
956
00:40:32,775 --> 00:40:34,243
I've never gotten a job,
by the way,
957
00:40:34,343 --> 00:40:36,079
and not gotten somebody else
a job.
958
00:40:36,179 --> 00:40:40,116
I always feel
like you don't hoard a blessing.
959
00:40:40,216 --> 00:40:42,051
-Is that a priority to you?
960
00:40:42,151 --> 00:40:44,754
Is that, like, something
that's in the line for you?
961
00:40:44,854 --> 00:40:50,093
Like, "In my opportunity, let me
find an opportunity for someone,
962
00:40:50,193 --> 00:40:51,961
or others in general"?
963
00:40:52,061 --> 00:40:53,763
-It's just what it is.
It's just how I move.
964
00:40:53,863 --> 00:40:56,132
-Got it.
-And I don't care what you do.
965
00:40:56,232 --> 00:40:58,601
You a grip, you sell music,
966
00:40:58,701 --> 00:41:01,671
maybe you know how to press
hair, whatever it is.
967
00:41:01,771 --> 00:41:04,107
-Why? Where does that come from?
968
00:41:04,207 --> 00:41:07,443
-I just feel like, for me,
it just feels like breathing.
969
00:41:07,543 --> 00:41:09,512
Like, I don't even --
It's not like,
970
00:41:09,612 --> 00:41:11,614
"Let me think about why
I would want to."
971
00:41:11,714 --> 00:41:13,616
It's like, "Oh, this is for me?
972
00:41:13,716 --> 00:41:18,888
Oh, who else can be blessed
because of this thing?"
973
00:41:18,988 --> 00:41:21,591
-The reason why I said, like,
"Why?,"
974
00:41:21,691 --> 00:41:24,627
is there something in that
that reverts back to home?
975
00:41:24,727 --> 00:41:26,629
Is that Mom, Dad?
976
00:41:26,729 --> 00:41:30,099
Was that, rest in peace,
brother?
977
00:41:30,199 --> 00:41:33,836
Where do you think
the energy attached to,
978
00:41:33,936 --> 00:41:36,339
"I wanna make sure
that if I have,
979
00:41:36,439 --> 00:41:38,908
someone else can, too"
comes from?
980
00:41:39,008 --> 00:41:41,444
-I feel like that's
probably a Mama thing.
981
00:41:41,544 --> 00:41:43,446
-Okay.
982
00:41:43,546 --> 00:41:45,548
-You know, watching
how she cared for people
983
00:41:45,648 --> 00:41:51,954
and just made sure
everybody had something.
984
00:41:52,055 --> 00:41:55,858
And I don't know,
it's just my way.
985
00:41:55,958 --> 00:42:01,731
I just will never --
I pray it never changes,
986
00:42:01,831 --> 00:42:03,933
because I love it just
like that.
987
00:42:04,033 --> 00:42:06,102
-What now?
988
00:42:06,202 --> 00:42:10,206
Like, what else do you feel like
you can give to the business,
989
00:42:10,306 --> 00:42:13,443
that can, like,
strongly define where you are?
990
00:42:13,543 --> 00:42:17,580
You've said, multiple times
in our conversation tonight,
991
00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:21,284
"I'm not the same person I was.
I've changed, I'm different."
992
00:42:21,384 --> 00:42:26,723
So with that change, what else
is there that you wanna do?
993
00:42:26,823 --> 00:42:29,525
-The short answer would be
create.
994
00:42:29,625 --> 00:42:31,360
-Okay.
995
00:42:31,461 --> 00:42:34,197
-You know, and know that,
through my life experiences,
996
00:42:34,297 --> 00:42:36,365
all the things
that I've been through,
997
00:42:36,466 --> 00:42:40,636
that there is an add value
when you put pen to paper,
998
00:42:40,737 --> 00:42:44,941
and, you know,
my mandate for my company is
999
00:42:45,041 --> 00:42:47,510
"voices unheard,
stories untold."
1000
00:42:47,610 --> 00:42:49,112
-Nice.
1001
00:42:49,212 --> 00:42:51,381
-So wanting to be at a space
where you unpack,
1002
00:42:51,481 --> 00:42:54,484
you know what I mean,
someone who has been overlooked,
1003
00:42:54,584 --> 00:42:56,719
or you tell a story that,
you know,
1004
00:42:56,819 --> 00:42:58,121
people may not be familiar with,
1005
00:42:58,221 --> 00:43:03,092
just to be able to allow
people's minds to, like,
1006
00:43:03,192 --> 00:43:05,128
stretch and grow,
like, "I didn't know that.
1007
00:43:05,228 --> 00:43:06,963
Wait a minute, what?!"
1008
00:43:07,063 --> 00:43:08,698
And then also to allow
people to feel seen,
1009
00:43:08,798 --> 00:43:09,966
you know what I mean?
1010
00:43:10,066 --> 00:43:12,101
-Yeah. I do.
1011
00:43:12,201 --> 00:43:18,274
-So I guess that would be what's
in front of me right now.
1012
00:43:18,374 --> 00:43:21,644
-You keep saying, you know,
your story,
1013
00:43:21,744 --> 00:43:23,579
or tell your story, right?
1014
00:43:23,679 --> 00:43:27,617
I know you, so I just know
how much...
1015
00:43:27,717 --> 00:43:31,921
how much is in your story.
1016
00:43:32,021 --> 00:43:33,856
-When you read it on paper,
baby,
1017
00:43:33,956 --> 00:43:35,258
if you saw me
in a straight jacket,
1018
00:43:35,358 --> 00:43:36,893
you wouldn't be surprised,
or in jail.
1019
00:43:36,993 --> 00:43:38,594
-But you've done it, though.
1020
00:43:38,694 --> 00:43:41,130
Like, you've put in on paper.
Like, the world of storytelling,
1021
00:43:41,230 --> 00:43:43,366
your journey as an author,
you've done it.
1022
00:43:43,466 --> 00:43:46,969
But to be that transparent, to
get to a place where it's like,
1023
00:43:47,070 --> 00:43:49,872
you know,
"I'm choosing happiness,
1024
00:43:49,972 --> 00:43:52,275
I'm choosing what's best
for me," right?
1025
00:43:52,375 --> 00:43:54,444
-Yeah, yeah.
-That discovery is a real one,
1026
00:43:54,544 --> 00:43:57,680
and it's one that,
sometimes, isn't often found.
1027
00:43:57,780 --> 00:43:59,615
It's one that,
1028
00:43:59,716 --> 00:44:03,352
you know, is never-ending
for a lot of people.
1029
00:44:03,453 --> 00:44:05,288
For you,
1030
00:44:05,388 --> 00:44:09,425
I think that's a clear, defining
moment of your light bulb
1031
00:44:09,525 --> 00:44:12,161
of happiness and
your choice of you
1032
00:44:12,261 --> 00:44:14,797
rather than the choice of others
before you.
1033
00:44:14,897 --> 00:44:17,066
-And, baby, you said something
when you said that,
1034
00:44:17,166 --> 00:44:19,736
'cause that's it.
That's it right there.
1035
00:44:19,836 --> 00:44:22,739
And I mean, even in my --
1036
00:44:22,839 --> 00:44:25,174
I've been to the big show
three times, you know?
1037
00:44:25,274 --> 00:44:28,177
But now,
I'm on my third marriage,
1038
00:44:28,277 --> 00:44:30,079
that's what I meant when I said
"big show."
1039
00:44:30,179 --> 00:44:31,447
-I know what you meant,
'cause I'm, you know?
1040
00:44:31,547 --> 00:44:32,849
-The big show's a wedding!
1041
00:44:32,949 --> 00:44:34,417
-Alright, stop.
Hold on a second.
1042
00:44:34,517 --> 00:44:36,953
I'm on two big shows, alright?
1043
00:44:37,053 --> 00:44:38,688
-Oh, I know.
-Oh, shut up.
1044
00:44:38,788 --> 00:44:40,590
Don't do it.
1045
00:44:40,690 --> 00:44:42,992
-Oh, I know.
-See, this what you do.
1046
00:44:43,092 --> 00:44:44,594
Don't start pointing at me.
1047
00:44:44,694 --> 00:44:46,262
Don't start your shit.
1048
00:44:46,362 --> 00:44:47,797
-I was gonna say something,
I'm not even gonna say it.
1049
00:44:47,897 --> 00:44:49,031
-How can you say --
I've kept it so good!
1050
00:44:49,132 --> 00:44:51,267
-I know! That's why I said --
1051
00:44:51,367 --> 00:44:53,035
-And you was about to go there,
as soon as I say something.
1052
00:44:53,136 --> 00:44:55,772
I know. You did this.
You dirty-pointed at me.
1053
00:44:55,872 --> 00:44:57,340
-And I pulled it back.
-Yes.
1054
00:44:57,440 --> 00:44:59,742
-I pulled it right back.
1055
00:44:59,842 --> 00:45:03,746
Just like this.
Like, look, like a little mime.
1056
00:45:03,846 --> 00:45:05,715
I pulled it back.
-Okay.
1057
00:45:05,815 --> 00:45:07,016
[ Laughs ]
1058
00:45:07,116 --> 00:45:09,285
You're on your third,
fourth, fourth?
1059
00:45:09,385 --> 00:45:11,020
-Third.
-Third.
1060
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:12,388
-And even when --
I have to tell you,
1061
00:45:12,488 --> 00:45:17,894
so even when I got married
to JB, you know,
1062
00:45:17,994 --> 00:45:20,129
there were people that loved me
was like, you know,
1063
00:45:20,229 --> 00:45:22,999
"You can't -- I don't care
if this makes you happy.
1064
00:45:23,099 --> 00:45:25,201
You can't tell other people
1065
00:45:25,301 --> 00:45:27,904
because you'll never eat
lunch in this town again."
1066
00:45:28,004 --> 00:45:31,040
I said, "This town?
This town?"
1067
00:45:31,140 --> 00:45:33,176
They were like, "Yeah."
1068
00:45:33,276 --> 00:45:37,647
And I chose to run
after the thing
1069
00:45:37,747 --> 00:45:40,516
that served me
with reckless abandon.
1070
00:45:40,616 --> 00:45:47,090
I'm like, "I'm so happy," and
I'm gonna always lead with that,
1071
00:45:47,190 --> 00:45:50,560
because the happier I am
off-camera,
1072
00:45:50,660 --> 00:45:54,497
the much more I enjoy
my life on-camera, you know?
1073
00:45:54,597 --> 00:45:57,767
And it's just important to me.
1074
00:45:57,867 --> 00:46:00,403
Like, I'm basically a show girl.
1075
00:46:00,503 --> 00:46:03,272
How I can keep anything
a secret, you know what I mean?
1076
00:46:03,372 --> 00:46:07,276
I was born in sequins and
eyelashes and all the things.
1077
00:46:07,377 --> 00:46:09,078
Like...
And who wants to be inside --
1078
00:46:09,178 --> 00:46:10,980
You ever been inside
of a closet?
1079
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:12,949
It's dark, it don't got windows,
1080
00:46:13,049 --> 00:46:14,550
there ain't nothing
to eat in there.
1081
00:46:14,650 --> 00:46:17,620
-That then acts as the answer
to my light-bulb question,
1082
00:46:17,720 --> 00:46:19,789
was that your happy moment
of saying,
1083
00:46:19,889 --> 00:46:24,727
"I'm going to free myself from
the idea of this closet and..."?
1084
00:46:24,827 --> 00:46:27,830
-No, because I was never
inside of a closet.
1085
00:46:27,930 --> 00:46:31,200
I just loved who I loved
until I didn't.
1086
00:46:31,300 --> 00:46:32,602
-Okay.
-You know what I mean?
1087
00:46:32,702 --> 00:46:34,137
I loved boys.
1088
00:46:34,237 --> 00:46:35,938
I mean, they're great,
you know what I mean?
1089
00:46:36,038 --> 00:46:38,975
-You don't have to --
I wanna make this very clear,
1090
00:46:39,075 --> 00:46:40,476
I'm not looking to --
-Boys are great.
1091
00:46:40,576 --> 00:46:42,111
-I get that, but I'm saying --
-Boys are really great.
1092
00:46:42,211 --> 00:46:43,446
-I know that,
but I wanna make this --
1093
00:46:43,546 --> 00:46:46,616
I don't want you to, like...
-[ Laughing ]
1094
00:46:46,716 --> 00:46:49,085
-That's not why I'm asking
these questions, alright?
1095
00:46:49,185 --> 00:46:52,822
I'm not looking for any of that
conversation with you, Niecy.
1096
00:46:52,922 --> 00:46:56,192
I get it, alright?
I'm asking about the happy.
1097
00:46:56,292 --> 00:46:57,860
-That's what I'm trying
to tell you,
1098
00:46:57,960 --> 00:47:00,663
is that I just --
-Don't get me in trouble with JB
1099
00:47:00,763 --> 00:47:02,331
come talking to me.
1100
00:47:02,432 --> 00:47:04,500
-Oh, yeah.
She will talk to you, still.
1101
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:06,402
-Don't put me in the hot seat.
1102
00:47:06,502 --> 00:47:07,870
-Oh, you know she talked
to somebody stiff at your party?
1103
00:47:07,970 --> 00:47:09,906
-Okay, see what I'm saying?
Here we go.
1104
00:47:10,006 --> 00:47:11,507
I just asked a simple question.
-Sure did.
1105
00:47:11,607 --> 00:47:13,576
-I'm not looking for
no trouble from JB.
1106
00:47:13,676 --> 00:47:15,211
-No, you don't.
-Thank you.
1107
00:47:15,311 --> 00:47:17,246
-But what I'm saying is,
is that I just met
1108
00:47:17,346 --> 00:47:20,349
the most beautiful soul
I had encountered,
1109
00:47:20,450 --> 00:47:25,188
and I was just like,
"Wow," like, you know,
1110
00:47:25,288 --> 00:47:27,523
because we were friends first,
1111
00:47:27,623 --> 00:47:30,326
that was more troubling
than the fact she was a woman.
1112
00:47:30,426 --> 00:47:32,061
I'm like, "You're a woman
and you're my friend,
1113
00:47:32,161 --> 00:47:35,932
but if this don't work out,
I will be devastated,
1114
00:47:36,032 --> 00:47:37,366
because I wanna know you.
I wanna know you."
1115
00:47:37,467 --> 00:47:38,935
-"I don't wanna lose you
as a friend."
1116
00:47:39,035 --> 00:47:40,570
-Right.
"I wanna know you
1117
00:47:40,670 --> 00:47:42,405
when they throw dirt on my
face," you know what I mean?
1118
00:47:42,505 --> 00:47:44,440
"I want you standing up
with me going,
1119
00:47:44,540 --> 00:47:46,809
"She look just like herself."
You know? That's what I want.
1120
00:47:46,909 --> 00:47:48,778
And if I mess it up
because of this,
1121
00:47:48,878 --> 00:47:51,080
I'll never forgive myself.
-Yeah.
1122
00:47:51,180 --> 00:47:53,549
-But, um, I pushed through.
1123
00:47:53,649 --> 00:47:57,286
I was like, "I just -- I have to
be in this relationship
1124
00:47:57,387 --> 00:48:00,957
because I feel so satiated,
I feel fully seen,"
1125
00:48:01,057 --> 00:48:03,593
and I'm so happy, you know?
1126
00:48:03,693 --> 00:48:06,496
And, you know, of course,
1127
00:48:06,596 --> 00:48:08,531
you're always gonna
have people who are haters,
1128
00:48:08,631 --> 00:48:14,237
and, you know, people who talk
down on what you're doing,
1129
00:48:14,337 --> 00:48:17,740
but I don't care.
-I was gonna say,
1130
00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:21,978
you can't have the energy
of going into an audition,
1131
00:48:22,078 --> 00:48:24,414
and not knowing what's going on
1132
00:48:24,514 --> 00:48:27,083
but telling people
to hurry up, and then--
1133
00:48:27,183 --> 00:48:28,117
-Then care about
what people think.
1134
00:48:28,217 --> 00:48:29,886
-There you go.
-Yes.
1135
00:48:29,986 --> 00:48:31,921
Those two things
don't go hand-in-hand,
1136
00:48:32,021 --> 00:48:34,624
and you've never come across
as a person to let that energy,
1137
00:48:34,724 --> 00:48:38,928
or, you know, let that space
of negativity get to you.
1138
00:48:39,028 --> 00:48:40,063
-No.
-It's one of the reasons
1139
00:48:40,163 --> 00:48:42,865
why you're one of my favorite.
1140
00:48:42,965 --> 00:48:44,467
Like, you're just --
you're the same.
1141
00:48:44,567 --> 00:48:47,403
Like, you've been the same,
and I don't know,
1142
00:48:47,503 --> 00:48:50,339
I just have so much respect
for the same.
1143
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:53,176
Like, that's --
because that's the real energy
1144
00:48:53,276 --> 00:48:55,645
that I think we
desperately look for,
1145
00:48:55,745 --> 00:48:58,614
would love to surround
ourselves with whenever we can,
1146
00:48:58,715 --> 00:49:00,783
but sometimes comes far, few,
and in between.
1147
00:49:00,883 --> 00:49:05,621
-And the one thing you know
for sure is that fame, money,
1148
00:49:05,722 --> 00:49:13,696
success has nothing to do
with pain, trauma, shame, guilt.
1149
00:49:13,796 --> 00:49:15,732
It has nothing
to do with any of those things.
1150
00:49:15,832 --> 00:49:18,468
Those are equal opportunity
things, and they gonna find you,
1151
00:49:18,568 --> 00:49:20,770
as the old folks say,
"just keep on living."
1152
00:49:20,870 --> 00:49:23,673
And so
in the keeping on living,
1153
00:49:23,773 --> 00:49:26,275
I've been through
so many hard moments, you know?
1154
00:49:26,375 --> 00:49:28,511
I got divorced on camera,
1155
00:49:28,611 --> 00:49:30,313
then I got married again,
and I wrote a relationship book,
1156
00:49:30,413 --> 00:49:32,548
and then that marriage failed.
1157
00:49:32,648 --> 00:49:36,052
And then, you know, all of
these things that would happen,
1158
00:49:36,152 --> 00:49:39,889
but I pressed toward the mark
no matter what.
1159
00:49:39,989 --> 00:49:41,624
It's the
"no matter what" of it all
1160
00:49:41,724 --> 00:49:44,260
are the three words
that I have lived by,
1161
00:49:44,360 --> 00:49:46,763
and that's the reason why, with
this picture you got right here,
1162
00:49:46,863 --> 00:49:49,966
when I got up there
at that Emmy speech and I said,
1163
00:49:50,066 --> 00:49:51,801
"I wanna thank me."
1164
00:49:51,901 --> 00:49:55,538
Because I know what
it cost me to be falling apart
1165
00:49:55,638 --> 00:49:59,008
in a trailer, and them be like,
"They're ready for you."
1166
00:49:59,108 --> 00:50:00,910
"Okay," you know?
1167
00:50:01,010 --> 00:50:02,412
And you have to get
yourself together,
1168
00:50:02,512 --> 00:50:04,447
and you still gotta show up,
1169
00:50:04,547 --> 00:50:06,816
and the show must go on,
and you the show.
1170
00:50:06,916 --> 00:50:08,651
-Yeah.
-You know what I mean?
1171
00:50:08,751 --> 00:50:13,322
I stay in that place of
"no matter what."
1172
00:50:13,423 --> 00:50:15,324
You gotta cry all the way
to an audition
1173
00:50:15,425 --> 00:50:17,593
where you gotta be funny,
no matter what.
1174
00:50:17,693 --> 00:50:20,029
I had to take all three
of my kids to callbacks
1175
00:50:20,129 --> 00:50:21,864
when I was just getting started,
1176
00:50:21,964 --> 00:50:23,566
because I didn't have
a babysitter,
1177
00:50:23,666 --> 00:50:25,501
I couldn't afford it,
I was the babysitter.
1178
00:50:25,601 --> 00:50:27,370
-Yeah.
-No matter what, you know?
1179
00:50:27,470 --> 00:50:30,807
And I still stay in that place.
1180
00:50:30,907 --> 00:50:33,109
My no matter what's are
a little bit different now,
1181
00:50:33,209 --> 00:50:38,514
but all still with
that same mindset and energy
1182
00:50:38,614 --> 00:50:40,349
to stay committed
to the commitment
1183
00:50:40,450 --> 00:50:43,519
and the call on my life.
1184
00:50:43,619 --> 00:50:45,054
-No, happiness is such
a good conversation.
1185
00:50:45,154 --> 00:50:47,123
I just feel like,
1186
00:50:47,223 --> 00:50:48,725
you know, it's where we
ultimately all wanna be,
1187
00:50:48,825 --> 00:50:50,526
and I told you before,
I feel like you're there,
1188
00:50:50,626 --> 00:50:52,528
I want other people
to understand that more.
1189
00:50:52,628 --> 00:50:53,896
Guys, we're gonna take a break.
1190
00:50:53,996 --> 00:50:55,531
We'll be right back.
1191
00:50:55,631 --> 00:50:58,000
We're gonna talk happy,
we're gonna talk her happy.
1192
00:50:58,101 --> 00:50:59,402
You should hear it,
so don't go anywhere.
1193
00:50:59,502 --> 00:51:01,304
-What was a moment in your
career
1194
00:51:01,404 --> 00:51:03,005
that made you realize
that you made it?
1195
00:51:03,106 --> 00:51:06,242
-* Baby girl, you made it,
you made it *
1196
00:51:06,342 --> 00:51:10,446
Um, when did I know I made it?
Oh.
1197
00:51:10,546 --> 00:51:12,749
You know what?
I guess I knew I made it
1198
00:51:12,849 --> 00:51:15,551
when they did a spoof of me
on "Saturday Night Live."
1199
00:51:15,651 --> 00:51:17,120
I mean, I guess that's success.
1200
00:51:17,220 --> 00:51:19,756
That will tell you right there,
won't it?
1201
00:51:34,537 --> 00:51:35,938
-Can I see that, please?
-Don't do this to yourself.
1202
00:51:36,038 --> 00:51:40,043
-Don't be ridiculous.
Look.
1203
00:51:40,143 --> 00:51:42,078
See that?
1204
00:51:42,178 --> 00:51:44,080
I'm gonna move the lint
so I can sit back.
1205
00:51:44,180 --> 00:51:47,083
-Kevin, if you were out on the
red carpet, they would drag you.
1206
00:51:47,183 --> 00:51:49,886
-I would never.
[ Laughs ] I would never.
1207
00:51:49,986 --> 00:51:51,387
-They would drag you.
1208
00:51:51,487 --> 00:51:54,023
-You know what I would never do?
Go to the red carpet.
1209
00:51:54,123 --> 00:51:56,059
-Here, let me come down
to your size.
1210
00:51:56,159 --> 00:51:58,161
-Stop it, don't do this.
Let's go.
1211
00:51:58,261 --> 00:52:00,463
Let's wrap it up.
-They would drag you.
1212
00:52:00,563 --> 00:52:02,365
-Alright.
-You understand me?
1213
00:52:02,465 --> 00:52:04,434
-Tell the team to go. Let's go.
-Now get yourself together,
1214
00:52:04,534 --> 00:52:06,502
and don't you come out the house
like this.
1215
00:52:06,602 --> 00:52:08,638
I know your wife didn't see
you in that
1216
00:52:08,738 --> 00:52:10,073
'cause she would've told you
don't wear that.
1217
00:52:10,173 --> 00:52:12,308
-Put your shoes on and stop it.
1218
00:52:12,408 --> 00:52:15,111
-No, 'cause I'm trying
to talk to you eye-to-eye.
1219
00:52:15,211 --> 00:52:18,314
-Look at me, I'm back.
Look at that. Huh?
1220
00:52:18,414 --> 00:52:20,049
Back to a [indistinct]
1221
00:52:20,149 --> 00:52:21,584
-[ Laughs ]
1222
00:52:21,684 --> 00:52:23,119
-Welcome back
to "Hart to Heart."
1223
00:52:23,219 --> 00:52:24,987
We're talking to
Niecy Nash Betts, and, guys,
1224
00:52:25,088 --> 00:52:27,457
I'm getting all
of the secret spices
1225
00:52:27,557 --> 00:52:29,759
and the sauce that she's put
into her life, the business.
1226
00:52:29,859 --> 00:52:32,995
So where were we?
1227
00:52:33,096 --> 00:52:34,731
You break down your
"no matter what,"
1228
00:52:34,831 --> 00:52:36,799
you break down what
is attached to you,
1229
00:52:36,899 --> 00:52:41,838
you break down the trials,
the tribulations.
1230
00:52:41,938 --> 00:52:44,440
But ultimately,
you get to your moment.
1231
00:52:44,540 --> 00:52:46,142
When you get to your moment,
1232
00:52:46,242 --> 00:52:47,677
you don't know what
that moment is gonna be,
1233
00:52:47,777 --> 00:52:49,011
but you're gonna feel it
when it happens.
1234
00:52:49,112 --> 00:52:50,713
-Mm-hmm.
1235
00:52:50,813 --> 00:52:52,248
-Your moment came when
you were on that grand stage,
1236
00:52:52,348 --> 00:52:54,384
you had an opportunity
to accept an award,
1237
00:52:54,484 --> 00:52:56,119
you got an opportunity, like,
1238
00:52:56,219 --> 00:52:58,654
put some great positivity
out there,
1239
00:52:58,755 --> 00:53:00,690
but more importantly,
some matter-of-fact.
1240
00:53:00,790 --> 00:53:02,525
-Mm-hmm.
1241
00:53:02,625 --> 00:53:04,694
-Like, here's some real words
1242
00:53:04,794 --> 00:53:08,097
with some real life,
real energy,
1243
00:53:08,197 --> 00:53:11,567
but something to really hold on
to, and that's different.
1244
00:53:11,667 --> 00:53:14,437
And you start to,
like, add to the value
1245
00:53:14,537 --> 00:53:17,540
that you already know you found.
-Yeah.
1246
00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:18,875
-You know you discovered
your value,
1247
00:53:18,975 --> 00:53:21,010
you know you know your value.
1248
00:53:21,110 --> 00:53:23,379
You know you know what you do.
1249
00:53:23,479 --> 00:53:25,314
You know that you feel seen.
1250
00:53:25,415 --> 00:53:27,884
You found a partner,
you're in a great place
1251
00:53:27,984 --> 00:53:32,288
where your value is
not something that's in --
1252
00:53:32,388 --> 00:53:34,023
it's just in jeopardy, right?
1253
00:53:34,123 --> 00:53:37,693
-Yeah, yeah.
-Like, that's the win.
1254
00:53:37,794 --> 00:53:40,763
-That's the win.
-That's the win.
1255
00:53:40,863 --> 00:53:45,201
But the mindset, if
you get that, that's next level.
1256
00:53:45,301 --> 00:53:47,303
-I'm a winner, baby.
-You got there.
1257
00:53:47,403 --> 00:53:49,472
-That's what I said,
that's what I believe.
1258
00:53:49,572 --> 00:53:53,076
-I will say, in closing,
1259
00:53:53,176 --> 00:53:59,115
I'm not gonna give you too many
compliments in our relationship,
1260
00:53:59,215 --> 00:54:01,417
like, after this,
so I'll make this, like,
1261
00:54:01,517 --> 00:54:03,553
just my last.
-Okay.
1262
00:54:03,653 --> 00:54:05,621
-'Cause you won't receive it.
-Anymore?
1263
00:54:05,722 --> 00:54:06,956
-But I just wanna make
it very clear.
1264
00:54:07,056 --> 00:54:08,758
-Okay.
-So don't ever ask me
1265
00:54:08,858 --> 00:54:11,728
to repeat what I said
after I say it.
1266
00:54:11,828 --> 00:54:14,130
Play this back so I know
that you see it, you saw it.
1267
00:54:14,230 --> 00:54:15,932
-Uh-huh. Mm-hmm.
1268
00:54:16,032 --> 00:54:19,802
-You're one of my favorites,
you're one of my favorites
1269
00:54:19,902 --> 00:54:23,873
because our relationship comes
with a shit-talking
1270
00:54:23,973 --> 00:54:27,009
and joking atmosphere
that we've created.
1271
00:54:27,110 --> 00:54:28,444
The reason why I say
you're one of my favorites
1272
00:54:28,544 --> 00:54:30,413
is because I root for you,
1273
00:54:30,513 --> 00:54:35,351
and I call you and I text you
when I'm supposed to.
1274
00:54:35,451 --> 00:54:37,420
But your happy makes me happy.
1275
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:40,256
-Thank you.
-And I mean that.
1276
00:54:40,356 --> 00:54:41,591
Like, 'cause I know
where you've come from,
1277
00:54:41,691 --> 00:54:43,059
I know what you've done.
1278
00:54:43,159 --> 00:54:44,927
Everybody doesn't know that,
1279
00:54:45,027 --> 00:54:46,829
everybody doesn't know
the background of you.
1280
00:54:46,929 --> 00:54:48,598
And to those that don't,
1281
00:54:48,698 --> 00:54:50,967
I recommend, like,
you go get the book,
1282
00:54:51,067 --> 00:54:58,641
you get a little educated
just on what Niecy Nash Betts
1283
00:54:58,741 --> 00:55:00,543
has really been through
1284
00:55:00,643 --> 00:55:02,845
and, like, how she got to the
place of sitting in this seat
1285
00:55:02,945 --> 00:55:05,348
and having the conversation
that we're having.
1286
00:55:05,448 --> 00:55:07,483
It's fucking dope!
1287
00:55:07,583 --> 00:55:08,785
And the scary thing is that,
1288
00:55:08,885 --> 00:55:10,386
like, you're still not
done, so...
1289
00:55:10,486 --> 00:55:12,288
-Still not done, Kevin.
1290
00:55:12,388 --> 00:55:15,124
-Whatever those things are
that you do next,
1291
00:55:15,224 --> 00:55:17,560
do 'em well and I can't wait
1292
00:55:17,660 --> 00:55:20,463
until we do share
the screen together
1293
00:55:20,563 --> 00:55:22,298
in a way
that we're supposed to.
1294
00:55:22,398 --> 00:55:24,267
And we'll figure
out whatever that is,
1295
00:55:24,367 --> 00:55:26,836
but the one thing
I'm happy about
1296
00:55:26,936 --> 00:55:28,104
is that I got a relationship
with you.
1297
00:55:28,204 --> 00:55:30,273
So don't fucking change,
1298
00:55:30,373 --> 00:55:32,041
continue to do what you're
doing,
1299
00:55:32,141 --> 00:55:35,344
and, you know, JB won.
1300
00:55:35,445 --> 00:55:37,313
-[ Laughs ]
1301
00:55:37,413 --> 00:55:40,183
-JB won. This version of you
is fucking dope.
1302
00:55:40,283 --> 00:55:41,884
I love where you are,
and I mean it.
1303
00:55:41,984 --> 00:55:43,553
-Thank you. Thank you.
1304
00:55:43,653 --> 00:55:45,488
-So I appreciate you doing
a "Hart to Heart,"
1305
00:55:45,588 --> 00:55:47,256
and don't ask me to be nice
to you again after this.
1306
00:55:47,356 --> 00:55:49,492
Don't ask for
another compliment.
1307
00:55:49,592 --> 00:55:54,731
I have worn them all out here
on this fucking platform.
1308
00:55:54,831 --> 00:55:57,266
We are done.
-Okay, well, cheers to that.
1309
00:55:57,366 --> 00:55:59,001
-Let's cheers to that.
-Cheers to that.
1310
00:55:59,102 --> 00:56:01,604
-To you not asking ever again.
Ladies and gentlemen --
1311
00:56:01,704 --> 00:56:03,239
-Ever?
-Don't. Niecy, please.
1312
00:56:03,339 --> 00:56:05,708
-Ever?
That's, like, so harsh.
1313
00:56:05,808 --> 00:56:08,544
-Niecy, I'm done.
Cheers.
1314
00:56:08,644 --> 00:56:10,747
Cheers.
-Hmm.
1315
00:56:10,847 --> 00:56:13,049
-To an amazing "Hart to Heart"
with one of the best hearts.
1316
00:56:13,149 --> 00:56:15,017
Ladies and gentlemen,
this was Niecy Nash Betts.
1317
00:56:15,118 --> 00:56:16,386
Come on, give her some love.
1318
00:56:16,486 --> 00:56:18,020
[ Applause ]
1319
00:56:18,121 --> 00:56:20,723
Such a -- That was so good.
1320
00:56:20,823 --> 00:56:23,159
I didn't mean none of that.
-Hmm?
1321
00:56:23,259 --> 00:56:25,161
-I didn't mean any of that.
1322
00:56:25,261 --> 00:56:27,230
-You didn't mean any of what,
the nice stuff you said?
1323
00:56:27,330 --> 00:56:29,599
-Yes, I'm so good, though,
that people will think I did.
1324
00:56:29,699 --> 00:56:33,469
Hey, Casey, lint brush, let's
shoot the shit so we can go.
1325
00:56:33,569 --> 00:56:36,506
Fucking Niecy.
Right?
1326
00:56:36,606 --> 00:56:39,709
Did I sell it?
I read it off the prompter.
1327
00:56:39,809 --> 00:56:41,010
Joking.
1328
00:56:41,060 --> 00:56:45,610
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