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- Sweetie, come on in.

Your breakfast
is getting cold.

Go get Mommy, go.

Go in the bedroom.
Go in the bedroom.

Go...

Perfect.

- What time is it?

I wanna get there early in case
one of my patients gets...

my patients.

I've never said that out loud.
I'm gonna have patients.

- That's really exciting.

You should sit down,
have a good breakfast.

- No, I'm too nervous.

Tonya's taking a chance on me
and I don't wanna let her down.

- You're not gonna
let anybody down.

You're gonna be great.
- I hope so.

What are you doing today?
I feel like I'm abandoning you.

- Oh, no, no, no.
I'm gonna be fine.

Mark's coming over.
- You have a playdate.

Good.

Well, that makes me happy.

All right, wish me luck.

- Okay.
Hey, oh no, wait.

Uh, the chess clock I got you.

- Oh, Mabel took it,
remember?

- No, no.

I--I--I explained to her
that it was a gift.

So I--here it is.

I had to bring it back

'cause I had to tell her
how much you loved it.

- I really do.

Hey, hold on.
I got you a present too.

- Really?

- I know things have been
a little slow at work lately,

so I got you a couple of things
to keep you occupied.

- Sweetie, I'm pretty sure I
can keep myself busy with--

that's a very big book.
- Mm-hmm.

- I should have this read
by 11:30.

- And...
- A jigsaw puzzle.

- It's Times Square.

- Oh yeah, little tiny hookers.
- Yup.

What if I'm terrible?

- You're not gonna be--
you're gonna be great.

You're gonna be great.

- Love you.
See you later.

- Whoa, whoa, wait!
The clock!

- Crazy how I can't seem
to remember that!

- Oh, hey!
I was just about to buzz!

I'm glad I caught ya,
therapist lady.

Have a great first day.

- Bye, Mark.
Bye.

- Bye, sweetie.
- Kiss my wife hello for me.

It's amazing, huh?
Our wives working together.

- Yeah, it's great, isn't it?
- Yeah, you okay?

- Yeah, I'm good.
Why?

- Uh, your wife's
going back to work

after a long time being home.

Maybe you feel left behind?

A little not-so-special?

- No, I feel fine.
Why?

- Well, Paul?

I want you to know...you need
to talk, I'm here for you.

- Well, that's good to know.
Okay.

- Good because I want to talk
to you about something.

Uh, you working today?
- No, why?

What's up?
- Sit down.

- You okay?

- Sit.

Now what I'm about to say
is very serious,

and I want you to know that
it comes from a place of love

and concern
and deep friendship.

- Okay.

- You're fat.

- Excuse me?
- You heard me.

- I'm fat?
- Yes.

- I'm fat?
What about you, you fat--

- All right, yes.
Okay, yes.

I have some extra pounds,

but mine
are evenly distributed

about my person.

- No, they're not.
- No, yes!

And you are concentrated
right here in the gut

and the chest, and this is
a prescription for disaster.

- I'm so happy
you came by today.

- Paul, I plan on living
many more years,

and if you're not around
to live them with me,

they're just not gonna seem
so special,

and I don't wanna lose ya!

- That's very sweet.

Listen, I would like
to live a long time too.

- Good, good!

Because I got three
free sessions with a trainer

over at that gym on
8th and Broadway,

and there are two passes--

one for me,
one for a friend.

You're my friend,
so what do you say?

- I don't wanna do that.
- Oh, come on, Paul!

If not for yourself,
do it for me, please?

- Okay, fine.

- Great, we'll lose weight,
we'll work out.

- You want some bacon?
- I thought you'd never ask.

[easygoing music]

♪ ♪

- ♪ Tell me why ♪

♪ I love you like I do ♪

♪ Tell me who ♪

♪ Can stop my heart
as much as you ♪

♪ If we take
each other's hands ♪

♪ We can fly
into the final frontier ♪

♪ I'm mad about you, baby ♪
- ♪ Final frontier ♪

- ♪ I'm mad about you, baby ♪
- ♪ Final frontier ♪

- ♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪

- ♪ Final frontier ♪

[knock on door]

- Good morning.

Ready for your first day
on the job?

- A few butterflies.

- Nothing to be nervous about
at all.

Oh.

- You say nothing
to be nervous about,

and then that "Oh"
makes me nervous.

- I guess we didn't talk
dress code.

My fault, not yours.

- There's a code?
- Relax, sweetheart.

Just for future reference,
neutral colors, warm tones.

Think emotional comfort

like a blanket
you'd wrap yourself up in.

- See, I love that.

Even just you saying that
makes me feel more comfortable.

- Is that a chess clock?

- Yes, would you like it?

- Why do you have a--
[cell phone rings]

- Don't ask.
One second.

Hey sweetie.
- Am I fat?

- No.
- Mark said I was fat.

- He should talk.
He's fat.

- Who's fat?
- No one you know.

I'm heading into
my first session

so I've got to talk
to you later.

- Okay, hey,
I'm going to the gym.

Good luck.
- Okay.

- Maybe turn that off?

- Yes,
I'm doing that right now.

- A little admin.

I'm going to be
in the room with you

for your first few patients.
- I love that.

- There's a good chance
that I'll interrupt

and correct your approach.

It might seem nit-picky,

but it's about establishing
good habits

so you don't say something that
ruins the life of a patient

forever and for all time.

- Could I do that?

- I'm just kidding.

You ready?
- Not really.

- Questions?
- So many.

- Just remember,
be the blanket.

You ready to be the blanket?
- I think so.

- Then say it.
- Be the blanket?

- If it's a question,
we're already in trouble.

- I'm going to be the blanket.

- There she is.

Now let's go fix some people!

- It's nice to meet you.
Thanks for coming in.

So based on what I see here
in your file,

I have a couple of questions.
- [clears throat]

Why don't you tell us
what brought you in today?

- Or that.

- My mother-in-law
is unbelievable.

She picks at me,
and picks at me,

nothing's good enough for her,

but when I try to speak up
for myself,

my husband sides with her.

- Tell me about it.

When my husband and I
first got together--

- [clears throat]

Why don't we focus on
Amy's experiences

and talk about
positive strategies

to help her deal with
her mother-in-law?

- Or that.

- You're hot.
Like bangable hot.

What are you, like 50?

- Ryan, I think
you're being provocative

to try to get
a reaction from me.

Why don't we talk about
why you might be doing that?

- [clears throat]

Sorry, I had to clear my throat
for real that time.

I have a patient of my own.
You're doing great.

Mrs. Mandelbaum, I'm sorry
to say our time is up.

I've really enjoyed
talking with you today.

- Oh, can I just say that

I've seen more than my share
of therapists, Dr. Jamie,

but this is the first time
in forever

that I actually felt heard.

Would it be all right
if I came back tomorrow?

- Absolutely,
I look forward to it.

- Thank you, thank you,
thank you.

- She's very good.
- I agree.

- Yeah, pushes us hard enough
to work up a sweat.

- But not so hard that we die.
That's always a plus.

Well, I'll tell ya,
I don't know how we're gonna

do this again tomorrow, buddy.

We're gonna be pretty sore.

- I tell ya what's good
for that.

Stripping down,
taking a nice long steam.

Come on.

- You know what?

I've got to run.
- Why, what's up?

- I've got a--nothing.
A work thing.

- I thought you
weren't working today.

- I know, yes,

but what happened
when we were working out,

suddenly the blood
went to my brain

for the first time
in years.

And I suddenly remembered
I've got a--I've got a--

I've got a meeting
with a client.

- You're not gonna shower?
- Yeah, nah.

I'll shower at home.

- You're going out in the
street all sweaty and dirty?

- Yeah.
The streets are already

sweaty and dirty--
I'll fit right in.

- All right, whatever.
I'll see you tomorrow.

- Okay, see ya.

Keep at it, you'll get there.

Ow.

Go get me some chips.

Huh?
Go.

Go get Daddy chips.

Go in the kitchen
and get chips.

Really?
Look at you.

Look how smart you are!

If this works out, I may
never have to get up again.

Here he comes with my chips.

My potato...

Okay, if this is a comment
about my weight,

I find it
a little passive-aggressive.

- Hey, how was the gym?

- Hey, uh, fine.

My legs are a little sore,
but never mind me.

How was your first day?
Were the other kids nice?

- It was phenomenal.

- Yeah?
Tell me, tell me.

- I mean, it was awful.
Mostly it was terrible.

I made rookie mistakes.

- Well,
that's part of the process.

- Tonya was so patient.

But as hard as it was,

as mentally exhausting
as really listening is,

I think I can do this.

My last patient was
this lovely older woman

who told me I helped.

I helped!

- Look at you.
- Look at me.

- What else?

- Why wouldn't you
get naked with Mark?

Sweetie, you've got to signal
a turn like that.

You...

How would you even know--
- He told Tonya, Tonya told me.

What was the problem?

- Nothing, it was--no.
But he wanted to take a steam.

- What does that even have
to do with being naked?

Don't you wear a towel
in there?

- Yes, but you gotta take
your clothes off first

and then go get a towel.

And the towels are, like,
four steps away,

which doesn't sound far,
I know,

but when you're naked,
the distance is exaggerated.

- So take a towel first,
wrap it around yourself,

and then take your clothes
off underneath.

- Yeah, but I don't want
people to think

I have an issue being naked.

- You do have an issue
being naked.

- I understand.

Well, I suppose you've seen
your friends naked?

- Yes.
- Oh, really? Tonya?

- Yes.
- Fran?

- Yes.
- Lisa?

- She's my sister.

I've seen her naked
a million times.

- You've seen all
your friends naked?

- Yes.

- Was I out getting a paper?
Where did this happen?

- Wherever.

Changing after swimming,
after yoga.

All I'm saying is maybe

next time Mark asks you
to take a steam,

put your weirdness aside,
and just do it.

A gesture for a friend.

- I can't buy him a tie,
take him to lunch?

I've got to go straight
to full-frontal?

- Can we continue this
in the kitchen?

I'm starving.

Are you coming?

- I thought I was.
Apparently not.

Whoa, whoa.

- She's very good.
- I agree.

- How's the soreness?
- Still pretty bad.

- Well, at the risk
of repeating myself,

you know what's good
for that?

- A steam, right?
- Yup.

- All right, come on.
Definitely.

Let's do it.
- Great.

Nothing like it
to open the pores,

calm the mind,

release the toxins,
let it all hang out.

- You know what, though?

By the way,
totally ready to do it.

Totally ready--
ready to--to--to sweat.

Definitely on board.
Looking forward to it, in fact.

The thing is, uh, I just--
I've got to--

I have a conference call.

- You can take it here.

- I--I know,
I forgot my phone at home.

- Then use mine.
- No, it's a personal call.

So better I should use
my own phone.

- A personal conference call?

- Right?

But this has been good,
man.

It's been great
hanging out together,

and incapacitating ourselves.
It's good.

So hey, uh,
let me buy you lunch.

I'll buy you lunch, okay?
Maybe later.

I'll meet you at Ira's in,
like, an hour?

- Fine.

- Huh?
My treat, buddy.

Okay.

I swear, it's like looking
in a mirror, am I right?

Yes!

- Let's discuss that.

Is that something
you often feel,

that people aren't
being nice to you?

- I don't know, I...

who cares about some old lady?

- I do.
Lots of people do.

- I'd like to meet them.

- When did this feeling start?

Perhaps after
your husband passed?

- You're a very perceptive
young lady.

Oh, my sweet, sweet Jerry.

We had 55 glorious years
together.

Raised two beautiful children.
Such a life I had.

- Sounds wonderful.

- A lovely house.

Jerry, those kids.

And a--a sweet little dog.

And now Jerry's gone,

the kids moved far away,

and I'm gonna starve
and die alone.

- I'm sorry you're having
those fears,

and I don't mean
to minimize them,

but I'm pretty sure
you're not gonna starve.

- Well, don't be so sure.
I'm hopeless in the kitchen.

I can't--can't even
make an egg.

- Well, have you considered
using a food delivery service?

- Those are dangerous.

I saw a report on the news.

Most of those people...

are murderers.

- Well, nobody wants you
to do anything

that would make you
feel unsafe,

but we need to find ways

to help you become
self-sufficient.

- I want to take care
of myself,

and I know I can.

I just need someone
to show me how to do it.

It can't be this easy.
You just put it in?

- And wait for the bubbles.

Three minutes for a soft yolk,
five for hard-boiled.

- After this,

can you show me how to make
a different kind of egg?

Over-easy, maybe?

- Let's not get too advanced.

Let's walk before we run,
shall we?

- You're so right, Dr. Jamie,
you're so right.

[cell phone rings]
- I'll be right back.

Keep watching.

- I will, I will, I will.

- Hi, Tonya.
- Where'd you go?

You disappeared
after your morning sessions.

- I had to run an errand.

I'll be back in plenty of time
for my 2:00.

I should've let you know
I was leaving.

- You don't have
to check in with me.

- Dr. Jamie!
I see bubbles!

- Unless you're doing something
mind-blowingly not okay.

Where are you?

- Tonya,
I think I'm losing you.

- Was that Mrs. Mandelbaum?
- Yes.

- Are you at her apartment?

- Tonya,
I think I'm losing you.

- Jamie.
- Okay, yes.

- Do you have any idea
how inappropriate that is?

Does the term boundary issue
ring a bell?

- Yes, you're right.
I get it.

She needed help.
I didn't think it through.

Let me just explain it to her.

- Oh, you'll explain,

but you'll do it here
at the office

in the proper professional
environment.

Come back and ask
Mrs. Mandelbaum to join you.

- Got it.

- Okay.
One more question.

How do you get
the egg part out?

- Ow.
Man, that workout--

everything hurts.

My jaw hurts from screaming
about how much my ass hurts.

Not--not enjoying your lunch?

- It's delicious, and you are
a sad, warped little man.

- What did I do?

- Here you are,
well into your 7th decade.

You can't handle
being naked with me, huh?

I mean,
we've known each other, what?

Like a million years?

And you--and--I--I have zero
issues seeing you naked.

- Well, Mark, seriously,

I--I don't understand why
this is so important to you.

Seriously, to what degree
will our friendship benefit

from me seeing your balls?

- Don't ball-shame me, Paul.

- I'm not.

I assume your balls
are very, very handsome.

But that's the thing,
I'd like to continue assuming.

If I see them,
assuming is out the window.

- I don't understand you.

- Mark, I swear,
there's a long list of things

I'd be happy to do with you.

Being naked is not on it.

- All right,
what is on the list?

- Pretty much anything else
you can imagine.

Canoeing, kayaking, skydiving,
glass blowing, all good.

- But only if we're dressed.

- Yes!
Well, who blows glass naked?

Yeah, you got an open flame,
your balls

are right at the flame height.
- Okay, okay.

I'm gonna need you two
to stop talking about balls.

- Sorry.

- Paul can't handle being
naked with me.

I bet you've been naked
with Ira.

- Never.
- What are you talking about?

We've been naked together.
- Never!

- Ah, come on!

Our mothers put us
in the tub together

lots of times
when we were little.

- I have no memory of this.

- Because
you've blocked it out

because you are a sad,
warped little man.

- Oh yeah,
he might be on to something

'cause I think back to that
time in the tub,

you were pretty jumpy.

- Well, obviously,

our relationship
isn't as meaningful to you

as I thought it was.

- Look, I swear--
- No, no, no!

I'll be all right.

I've got other friends
I can be naked with.

- I'm sorry, but I feel like
I'm really connecting

with Mrs. Mandelbaum.

She told me yesterday
our session

was the first time
she ever felt heard.

- I just did a deeper dive
into her records.

She saw Dr. Klein in May 2006.

"Patient stated 'The first time
she felt heard.'"

Dr. Kim, June 2010, "Patient
never felt heard before today."

Dr. Samuels, October 2018.
Need I continue?

- Oh, God.

- Be happy you only
had to make an egg.

Dr. Klein had to roast
a whole chicken.

And Dr. Samuels, she got him
to re-grout her tub.

The woman
is a master manipulator.

- But she's so little
and sweet.

- Yeah, but sometimes
we gotta look past the sweet

and get to the sticky
the sweet leaves behind.

- I cannot believe
she tricked me.

- Better you learned
this lesson sooner

rather than later.

Now we are gonna go in there,

and you are gonna
lay down the law,

set firm boundaries,

and do not under
any circumstances

let her go all
"old lady" on you.

- I won't.
I'm shutting this down now.

- Talk about that.
Now let's go fix some people!

- I'm not angry with you,

but if we're going to
continue our work together,

we need to set boundaries.

- Could you speak up?
I'm so old.

- Yes.

It was completely inappropriate
for me to come to your home.

- I didn't ask you to come.

- No, you didn't.

But you gave me a look,
and the next thing I knew,

I was across town
boiling water.

It can never happen again.

Do you understand?

Mrs. Mandelbaum?

- Yes, I understand!

- Hey.
- Hey, how was your day?

- I made an egg and beat up
on an old lady.

You?

- I, uh, I finished a half a
cab and possibly a squirrel.

- You didn't get naked
with Mark today.

- What?
He told Tonya?

- No, I guessed
because I know you.

- Sweetie, I love Mark.

He makes me laugh,

which I'm better able
to appreciate fully clothed.

- You need to get naked
with Mark.

More to the point, I need you
to get naked with Mark.

- I don't--why?
Why do you--

- 'Cause he's your friend
and you need friends.

Believe me--
where are you?

- I'm on my way.

- There are a lot of old,
lonely people out there,

and I don't want you
to become one of them.

- Oh, sweetie,
I have friends.

- Who?
- You're my friend.

- I'm your wife.
I don't count.

Remember your father,

the last couple of years
of his life,

he only had your mother.

He leaned on her
for everything.

It wasn't good
for either of them.

I don't want us
ending up that way.

And yes, the reality is
you're dying first.

- Statistical probability,
probability.

- Right,
so it may not be an issue,

but God forbid, I go first.

Who will you have?
- I got, um--

I got Mabel.

- She's gonna be off
living her own life.

- There's Ira.

- All he talks about is
retiring to Italy with Lucia.

He's gonna be long gone.

- Well--[scoffs]
I don't understand

why this is suddenly
so important to you.

- I want you to have
someone other than me

that you can talk to
about personal things.

- But, you know, guys,
we don't--we don't do that.

- What?
- Talk about personal things.

If we talked about them,
then they wouldn't be personal,

now, would they?

- That's terrible!

- What we do is if something,
you know,

serious or emotional
comes up,

we say, "I'm here
if you wanna talk."

- And then you talk?

- No. Am I not explaining
this properly?

No, we never really talk.

- Yeah. This is why you're not
allowed to have the babies.

Just tell me, years from now,
who will be your friend?

- I--

Fine, I'll get naked
with Mark.

- Thank you.

- [groans] Ughh.
What?

[knocks twice]
- Now what?

- Mrs. Mandelbaum's a no-show.

We had an appointment
scheduled for an hour ago.

- Don't sweat it.
She's a shrink jumper.

She probably got
some new patsy

up to their elbows
in chicken cordon bleu.

- She could have
just cancelled.

What if something
happened to her?

- The old lady
didn't have the courtesy

to cancel her free therapy
after you busted her hustle?

Let it go.
Not showing up is her choice.

And do not go to
that woman's place

to check on her.

Tell me you hear me.
- I hear you.

- Jamie, honey,
I love you.

I love you dearly.

Mostly because you're one of
the most empathetic people

I've ever met.
- Thank you.

- But cut that shit out.

Empathy is great
in a human being,

but unless you modulate it,

it is problematic
for a therapist.

Leave Mrs. Mandelbaum be.

- Fine.
- Oh.

And get this thing
outta here.

- Mrs. Mandelbaum?

Hello?

- Hello.

- What are you doing here?

- I'm doing a welfare check,

which is exactly
what I'm required to do

when someone I'm supervising

expresses concern for
the welfare of a patient.

- Why didn't you let me know
you were doing that?

- Because I knew
I could tell you here.

- All right,
let me explain--

[yip]

- What is that?

- I've been thinking about
Mrs. Mandelbaum

and what her real issue is.

It's not about making an egg
or re-grouting her tub.

- Uh-huh.
- The woman's lonely.

She doesn't need therapy.
She needs company,

something or someone to love
and pass the time with.

- So you got her a dog.

- She told me at one point
in her life, she had a dog.

- Oh, look at the beautiful
little puppy!

- Mrs. Mandelbaum--
- I got her for you.

- For me? Oh!

- Jamie has just started
her hours

and she hasn't quite
figured out

proper patient procedure yet.

I'm sorry, Mrs. Mandelbaum.

- Well, you should be!

For trying to take
my little doggy away.

Come here,
come here, love bump.

- A new dog is helping me
through a transitional moment

in my life--I thought maybe
she could do the same for you.

- The woman--a genius.

All those losers
you had me talking to before--

they could all learn
a thing or two from her.

So could you,
Mrs. Big Shot.

Come on, sugar puss.

Mama's gonna make you
a nice chicken breast.

And maybe
some beef bourguignon.

- Wait a minute.
You know how to cook?

- Oh, sweetheart,
don't be naive.

- She's very good.
- I agree.

Are you in here?
With all this steam,

I don't even know what
I was so worried about.

I can't see a thing.
- One second.

- And this is--
you were so right.

Totally, totally great
for the soreness.

So get in here already,
you big galoot.

After all this build-up?
Come on.

I'm finally giving you
what you wanted.

I'm ready, buddy.

All right, get in here.
Sit right next to me, and l--

So where're you from?