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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:04,800 I had an idea of what I thought evil was. 2 00:00:06,560 --> 00:00:09,400 I always thought evil was, like, people 3 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:11,120 that committed crimes against children, 4 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:13,360 rapists, and things like that. 5 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:17,240 People think evil has a face, but it 6 00:00:17,240 --> 00:00:19,760 doesn't. It comes in all shapes, forms, 7 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:22,520 sizes, colors, genders. And 8 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:25,360 you you can't tell. It's walking amongst 9 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:27,600 us. Be 10 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:30,400 mindful ofWho you let into your 11 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:31,880 space?Who you let into your life? 12 00:00:32,480 --> 00:00:34,560 Sometimes there are blatant signs, and 13 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:37,440 sometimes people put their mask on 14 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:40,320 and masquerade, and you don't know until 15 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:41,080 they take it off. 16 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:53,840 Karim was masterful at keeping secrets 17 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:55,920 and keeping his lies in order. 18 00:00:57,200 --> 00:00:59,840 What he did to me and other women 19 00:00:59,920 --> 00:01:02,800 was just reckless and diabolical. 20 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:06,560 I did not see him coming. He's not gonna 21 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:08,440 understand the carnage he left behind. 22 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:12,520 He's a sociopath. He just didn't 23 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:14,320 care as long as he got what he wanted. 24 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:16,400 And that's evil. 25 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:00,160 Me and Kareem met up at a local hospital 26 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:02,440 we were working at. We were both security 27 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:04,800 officers. I was responsible for training 28 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,520 him. My first impression of Kareem 29 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:09,520 was he was friendly. 30 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,720 Charming. He He really talked a lot. 31 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,120 To me, our conversations were harmless. I 32 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:18,960 mean, it's two co-workers talking to each 33 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:21,600 other about life and about my 34 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:24,240 children and them talking about school. 35 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:26,000 I've been debating going to nursing 36 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:29,040 school, actually. Really?Yeah, I mean, I 37 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:30,000 think you should do what you would be 38 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,960 really good at. At 39 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:35,400 the time, I had an ex-boyfriend that was 40 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:37,840 stalking me. My ex would sometimes come 41 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:39,920 to the hospital. where we worked. 42 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:44,160 Me and Kareem were standing outside, and 43 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:46,760 my ex drove right up to where we were 44 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:49,600 standing. Terita! What are you 45 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:51,600 doing here?You won't answer the phone. 46 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,400 'Cause I don't want to talk to you. And 47 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:56,200 Kareem's like, Get away from here. She 48 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:57,720 doesn't want to talk to you anymore. Now 49 00:02:57,720 --> 00:03:00,680 you're trespassing. I think it's best 50 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:03,360 you go. This ain't none of your business. 51 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:06,720 And he basically told him, You can go 52 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:10,001 voluntarily or involuntarily. You can 53 00:03:10,041 --> 00:03:11,561 either leave now, or you can leave when 54 00:03:11,561 --> 00:03:13,281 the police show up. Zarita. 55 00:03:15,601 --> 00:03:18,161 Oh, he left. I didn't feel like I needed 56 00:03:18,161 --> 00:03:20,841 protecting, but the fact that he went the 57 00:03:20,881 --> 00:03:22,881 extra mile to do it, I thought it was 58 00:03:22,881 --> 00:03:24,521 sweet, and I thought it came from a 59 00:03:24,521 --> 00:03:27,281 genuine place. Thanks. I appreciate it. 60 00:03:28,361 --> 00:03:30,321 Bro, we got each other's backs. 61 00:03:31,761 --> 00:03:34,241 Now, in hindsight, I feel like that 62 00:03:34,721 --> 00:03:37,161 He had an agenda. I think that was part 63 00:03:37,161 --> 00:03:38,841 of his plan, too, to make me feel safe. 64 00:03:40,561 --> 00:03:42,521 But he's a wolf in sheep's clothing 65 00:03:42,521 --> 00:03:45,361 because behind that facade, he had 66 00:03:45,761 --> 00:03:48,161 ill intentions. He was approaching me 67 00:03:48,161 --> 00:03:49,361 like predator to prey. 68 00:04:10,041 --> 00:04:11,361 I didn't know where things were going, 69 00:04:11,441 --> 00:04:13,201 but we just knew we were attracted to 70 00:04:13,201 --> 00:04:15,681 each other. It was, like, an intense 71 00:04:15,761 --> 00:04:18,441 attraction. The 72 00:04:18,561 --> 00:04:21,361 first time we had sex, he was like, It's 73 00:04:21,361 --> 00:04:23,201 your choice. We can use a condom or not. 74 00:04:24,361 --> 00:04:25,201 Your protection? 75 00:04:28,161 --> 00:04:29,281 No, I didn't bring any. I 76 00:04:31,041 --> 00:04:33,641 have some. He was more than willing to 77 00:04:33,681 --> 00:04:35,801 not wear a condom. He just told me it 78 00:04:35,801 --> 00:04:38,521 didn't matter to him. I mean, I'm fine if 79 00:04:38,521 --> 00:04:40,081 we don't use one, but if you want to, we 80 00:04:40,081 --> 00:04:42,441 can. And I told him, No, you need to put 81 00:04:42,441 --> 00:04:45,121 on a condom. I'd rather be safe. Okay. 82 00:04:47,441 --> 00:04:49,441 Knowing what I know now, it makes me 83 00:04:49,441 --> 00:04:52,401 angry. He knew what he 84 00:04:52,401 --> 00:04:55,321 was doing was wrong. He knew he had HIV 85 00:04:55,321 --> 00:04:56,321 before he met me. 86 00:05:01,501 --> 00:05:02,781 Right from the beginning, you were 87 00:05:02,781 --> 00:05:05,421 willing to expose me to that. Him 88 00:05:05,421 --> 00:05:07,101 saying a condom or no condom, if 89 00:05:07,101 --> 00:05:09,101 something did happen, he could say, Oh, 90 00:05:09,101 --> 00:05:11,381 you made the choice to not use the 91 00:05:11,381 --> 00:05:14,221 condom. I gave you a choice. You saying 92 00:05:14,221 --> 00:05:16,941 it's optional. He didn't even make an 93 00:05:16,941 --> 00:05:19,341 effort to protect me from him. He was 94 00:05:19,341 --> 00:05:21,141 gambling with my health. He was gambling 95 00:05:21,141 --> 00:05:23,921 with my life. He didn't care. He 96 00:05:23,921 --> 00:05:26,241 liked to take risks. I don't think he 97 00:05:26,281 --> 00:05:27,601 thought about his health or mine. 98 00:05:29,361 --> 00:05:30,961 He just wanted to have sex with me. 99 00:05:43,741 --> 00:05:45,541 We started spending more time together, 100 00:05:45,741 --> 00:05:47,821 and I told him, I don't want anything 101 00:05:47,821 --> 00:05:49,821 just casual. We should be in a 102 00:05:49,821 --> 00:05:52,541 relationship. He 103 00:05:52,541 --> 00:05:54,181 said, I don't use condoms when I'm in 104 00:05:54,181 --> 00:05:56,461 relationships. So he's like, If we're 105 00:05:56,461 --> 00:05:57,941 gonna be in a relationship, I don't want 106 00:05:57,941 --> 00:06:00,921 to use condoms. I said, well, we need 107 00:06:00,921 --> 00:06:02,961 to get tested, and until we're tested, 108 00:06:03,361 --> 00:06:06,161 we're gonna use condoms. Kareem agreed to 109 00:06:06,161 --> 00:06:08,881 go get himself tested, and, um, we 110 00:06:08,881 --> 00:06:10,961 waited to sleep together again until 111 00:06:10,961 --> 00:06:12,121 everybody's results were wrecked. 112 00:06:14,201 --> 00:06:17,121 Hey, you. Guess 113 00:06:17,241 --> 00:06:20,201 what?The STD tests 114 00:06:20,201 --> 00:06:22,481 are basic. Chlamydia, gonorrhea, 115 00:06:22,481 --> 00:06:25,041 trichomoniasis, then you have to ask and 116 00:06:25,081 --> 00:06:27,681 give them permissionfor the HIV 117 00:06:27,681 --> 00:06:30,561 test. So I got tested for all that. I got 118 00:06:30,561 --> 00:06:33,361 my results back. Karim was supposed to go 119 00:06:33,361 --> 00:06:35,441 get the same test I was getting. When my 120 00:06:35,441 --> 00:06:37,281 results came back, everything was fine. 121 00:06:37,641 --> 00:06:39,921 What about yours?Oh, oh. 122 00:06:40,841 --> 00:06:41,201 Yeah, right. 123 00:06:43,921 --> 00:06:46,721 I showed him my papers. But 124 00:06:46,921 --> 00:06:48,801 when he took his test, he only showed me 125 00:06:48,801 --> 00:06:51,281 the STD papers. He didn't show me a test 126 00:06:51,281 --> 00:06:54,241 for HIV. What about the HIV 127 00:06:54,241 --> 00:06:56,001 test?Why is that not on here? 128 00:06:57,201 --> 00:06:58,881 I asked him, where's the printout for 129 00:06:58,881 --> 00:07:01,841 your HIV test?And he said, oh, they 130 00:07:01,841 --> 00:07:03,281 said I didn't need to have a printout. 131 00:07:03,281 --> 00:07:04,881 They would contact me if anything was 132 00:07:04,881 --> 00:07:07,761 wrong, which sounded 133 00:07:07,761 --> 00:07:10,161 familiar to me. I felt like I was pretty 134 00:07:10,161 --> 00:07:12,641 street smart and I could recognize when 135 00:07:12,881 --> 00:07:14,961 somebody was trying to BS me. But you 136 00:07:14,961 --> 00:07:16,721 know, some doctors like, oh, we don't 137 00:07:16,721 --> 00:07:18,561 call you. Everything's fine. No news is 138 00:07:18,561 --> 00:07:19,921 good news, which is what I figured 139 00:07:19,921 --> 00:07:22,401 happened with him. I never got a phone 140 00:07:22,401 --> 00:07:24,001 call, so I guess it's all good. 141 00:07:25,361 --> 00:07:27,601 But I wholeheartedly believe that he did 142 00:07:27,601 --> 00:07:29,481 not get tested for HIV 'cause he knew the 143 00:07:29,481 --> 00:07:30,321 answer already. 144 00:07:34,641 --> 00:07:37,441 That was the first of many lies he 145 00:07:37,441 --> 00:07:40,161 told. That started off like a domino 146 00:07:40,241 --> 00:07:42,241 effect. He told this one lie, and now he 147 00:07:42,241 --> 00:07:44,641 has to keep lying. So you want to skip 148 00:07:44,641 --> 00:07:46,881 dinner and go straight to the bed, or... 149 00:07:47,441 --> 00:07:50,321 Okay. Settle down. He didn't 150 00:07:50,321 --> 00:07:52,801 care about my health. He didn't care 151 00:07:52,801 --> 00:07:55,281 about... My children, he couldn't have, 152 00:07:55,281 --> 00:07:57,121 'cause he absolutely knew that he could 153 00:07:57,121 --> 00:07:59,081 pass the virus to someone. 154 00:08:00,321 --> 00:08:03,041 But I trusted him. I got on birth control 155 00:08:03,041 --> 00:08:05,641 pills, and we never used condoms again. I 156 00:08:05,641 --> 00:08:07,281 thought that I was being responsible. 157 00:08:09,081 --> 00:08:10,721 Every time he slept with me without a 158 00:08:10,721 --> 00:08:12,561 condom was a chance that he was giving me 159 00:08:12,561 --> 00:08:13,201 HIV. 160 00:08:27,761 --> 00:08:30,161 One of my co-workers seemed to have an 161 00:08:30,161 --> 00:08:32,801 attitude about me and him getting closer. 162 00:08:34,841 --> 00:08:36,561 I just thought she was, like, a woman 163 00:08:36,561 --> 00:08:37,921 scorned, or she was jealous. 164 00:08:40,921 --> 00:08:43,681 Aww. Look at you two. Aren't y'all so 165 00:08:43,681 --> 00:08:46,241 cute?One 166 00:08:46,241 --> 00:08:48,121 morning, she came through the door to the 167 00:08:48,121 --> 00:08:49,641 security office. She said, Hey, Corinne, 168 00:08:49,641 --> 00:08:52,081 where's your wife?How's she doing?How's 169 00:08:52,081 --> 00:08:54,961 the missus these days?Why 170 00:08:54,961 --> 00:08:57,681 don't you just shut up?He 171 00:08:57,841 --> 00:08:59,441 raised his voice and was like, Why are 172 00:08:59,441 --> 00:09:00,841 you always messing with us?Why don't you 173 00:09:00,841 --> 00:09:03,241 just mind your business and stop and stop 174 00:09:03,281 --> 00:09:05,881 acting like a a bitch?What did you just 175 00:09:05,881 --> 00:09:08,721 call me?You heard me. It 176 00:09:08,721 --> 00:09:10,481 alarmed me at that time because I had 177 00:09:10,481 --> 00:09:12,441 never seen him act that way. I had never 178 00:09:12,441 --> 00:09:14,481 heard him be disrespectful to a woman. 179 00:09:15,081 --> 00:09:16,481 I'm thinking this is just one of her 180 00:09:16,881 --> 00:09:19,121 shenanigans that she's been pulling. But 181 00:09:19,121 --> 00:09:20,721 I still asked him, like, Why would she 182 00:09:20,721 --> 00:09:22,881 say that particular thing? 183 00:09:23,521 --> 00:09:24,601 What is she talking about? 184 00:09:26,761 --> 00:09:29,442 It's nothing. It's nothing. Didn't sound 185 00:09:29,442 --> 00:09:31,802 like nothing. He told me that he was with 186 00:09:31,802 --> 00:09:34,482 his ex-fiancee for five years, and 187 00:09:34,722 --> 00:09:37,162 we applied for a marriage license, but we 188 00:09:37,162 --> 00:09:38,762 didn't get married. She called off the 189 00:09:38,762 --> 00:09:41,682 engagement. Excuse me? 190 00:09:43,122 --> 00:09:44,442 I wanted to tell you I just didn't know 191 00:09:44,442 --> 00:09:46,962 how you reacted. I felt like it was 192 00:09:46,962 --> 00:09:49,042 believable because I've been to his 193 00:09:49,042 --> 00:09:51,442 house. I didn't see anything 194 00:09:52,002 --> 00:09:54,882 female. In his house, it looked 195 00:09:54,882 --> 00:09:57,122 like a bachelorette, and the fact that we 196 00:09:57,122 --> 00:09:59,242 were together so much, and I felt like if 197 00:09:59,242 --> 00:10:02,002 he had a wife, she would be calling, 198 00:10:02,002 --> 00:10:03,402 like, Why are you not coming home and 199 00:10:03,402 --> 00:10:04,922 stuff?At this point, you really think I'm 200 00:10:04,922 --> 00:10:07,802 married?I just really felt like 201 00:10:07,802 --> 00:10:10,082 that coworker was really just messing 202 00:10:10,082 --> 00:10:11,962 with us, and the explanation he gave to 203 00:10:11,962 --> 00:10:14,642 me made sense. Come on. We got to 204 00:10:14,642 --> 00:10:17,602 clock in for work. Now I know that 205 00:10:17,762 --> 00:10:20,722 he was lying, andThat was 206 00:10:20,962 --> 00:10:22,962 only one small life. There was much 207 00:10:22,962 --> 00:10:25,362 bigger ones waiting for me. 208 00:10:29,682 --> 00:10:31,842 My mother knew I was dating Karim because 209 00:10:31,842 --> 00:10:34,722 my son told her. So the natural next 210 00:10:34,722 --> 00:10:37,602 step was to introduce him to my mom. 211 00:10:37,602 --> 00:10:40,202 She really liked him. They got 212 00:10:40,242 --> 00:10:41,682 close to a point where they had each 213 00:10:41,682 --> 00:10:44,402 other's numbers. And then the 214 00:10:44,402 --> 00:10:46,562 first time I brought up not having met 215 00:10:46,562 --> 00:10:48,962 his family was Thanksgiving. 216 00:10:51,202 --> 00:10:53,482 Happy Thanksgiving. I'm out of here. Take 217 00:10:53,482 --> 00:10:55,482 care of you, too. Thanksgiving came, and 218 00:10:56,002 --> 00:10:57,402 I was like, you know, what are you doing? 219 00:10:57,402 --> 00:10:59,042 Can I meet your mom?Can I come over?The 220 00:10:59,522 --> 00:11:02,482 kids and I don't have plans, so I 221 00:11:02,482 --> 00:11:05,202 was thinking 222 00:11:05,442 --> 00:11:07,842 maybe you would like us to join you? 223 00:11:09,242 --> 00:11:11,682 He said no. I don't think that's a good 224 00:11:11,682 --> 00:11:14,162 idea. So, you've met my mom, you've met 225 00:11:14,162 --> 00:11:17,042 my kids. I haven't met anyone from your 226 00:11:17,042 --> 00:11:18,642 family. You haven't even brought up the 227 00:11:18,642 --> 00:11:20,562 subject. Why am I bringing it up in your 228 00:11:20,562 --> 00:11:22,082 night?Why not? 229 00:11:23,922 --> 00:11:26,722 And his explanation was, They 230 00:11:26,722 --> 00:11:28,802 still talk to my ex-fiancee. They're 231 00:11:28,802 --> 00:11:31,442 still attached to her. Even though we 232 00:11:31,442 --> 00:11:33,002 broke up, she's still in contact with 233 00:11:33,002 --> 00:11:34,922 them. And my mom has made the statement, 234 00:11:34,922 --> 00:11:36,522 Don't bring anybody around me unless 235 00:11:36,522 --> 00:11:39,042 you're engaged. Look, trust me, you don't 236 00:11:39,042 --> 00:11:40,442 want to meet my mom right now. It won't 237 00:11:40,442 --> 00:11:43,322 go well. The explanation you gave 238 00:11:43,322 --> 00:11:45,202 me seemed reasonable just based on the 239 00:11:45,202 --> 00:11:47,042 time frame we had been together. I mean, 240 00:11:47,282 --> 00:11:48,682 we hadn't even been together a whole 241 00:11:48,682 --> 00:11:51,522 year. She had been in his life for five 242 00:11:51,522 --> 00:11:53,722 years, so I could understand that. I 243 00:11:54,162 --> 00:11:56,762 don't want to think that you're trying to 244 00:11:56,802 --> 00:11:59,682 hide me. Come on. You know what it's 245 00:11:59,682 --> 00:12:02,162 not like that. You got plenty of time to 246 00:12:02,162 --> 00:12:04,642 meet them. But... 247 00:12:04,882 --> 00:12:07,362 Christmas 2013, it was another 248 00:12:07,362 --> 00:12:09,122 opportunity for the families to get 249 00:12:09,122 --> 00:12:10,722 together. It was the same thing, you 250 00:12:10,722 --> 00:12:12,962 know, nobody else from the outside. It's 251 00:12:12,962 --> 00:12:14,882 just family. So at that point, I just 252 00:12:14,882 --> 00:12:17,682 stopped asking. When I look 253 00:12:17,682 --> 00:12:19,922 back on it and I know what was really 254 00:12:19,922 --> 00:12:22,722 behind the scenes, it was masterful. 255 00:12:25,442 --> 00:12:28,122 I now know Kareem's mother knew that he 256 00:12:28,122 --> 00:12:28,962 had HIV. 257 00:12:31,762 --> 00:12:33,922 And I believe Karim didn't want me to 258 00:12:33,922 --> 00:12:35,602 interact with any of his family so he 259 00:12:35,602 --> 00:12:36,602 could keep his secrets. 260 00:12:46,022 --> 00:12:48,942 Karim had an insatiable appetite for sex. 261 00:12:48,942 --> 00:12:51,702 He wanted it all the time, 262 00:12:51,942 --> 00:12:53,942 every day, multiple times a day. 263 00:12:55,222 --> 00:12:57,382 One time, we were in bed, about to go to 264 00:12:57,382 --> 00:12:59,302 sleep, and we were just talking like we 265 00:12:59,302 --> 00:13:00,102 always did. 266 00:13:03,062 --> 00:13:05,562 What?I want to leave my 267 00:13:05,562 --> 00:13:08,362 mark. He said to me, I 268 00:13:08,482 --> 00:13:10,962 just want to leave an impression on you. 269 00:13:10,962 --> 00:13:12,802 I want to leave an impression on your 270 00:13:12,802 --> 00:13:15,202 life, even if we break up. I want to make 271 00:13:15,202 --> 00:13:17,722 sure you never forget me. I just melted 272 00:13:17,722 --> 00:13:20,002 like butter. I felt like I found the 273 00:13:20,002 --> 00:13:22,322 person that I could be with 274 00:13:22,322 --> 00:13:25,202 long-term. He 275 00:13:25,202 --> 00:13:27,362 made me really happy. I really loved him. 276 00:13:29,962 --> 00:13:32,082 When I think back, those words haunt me 277 00:13:32,082 --> 00:13:34,482 because he he did leave an impression on 278 00:13:34,482 --> 00:13:37,362 my life. He'll forever have a place 279 00:13:37,522 --> 00:13:39,442 in my life that I can't get rid of. 280 00:13:44,722 --> 00:13:46,362 What did he mean by that comment? 281 00:13:47,682 --> 00:13:50,442 I went over it over and over in my mind 282 00:13:51,082 --> 00:13:53,362 what he actually meant by that statement. 283 00:13:53,442 --> 00:13:55,322 I'm gonna leave an imprint on your life, 284 00:13:55,362 --> 00:13:56,562 even if we don't work out. 285 00:13:58,562 --> 00:14:00,242 He did exactly what he said he was gonna 286 00:14:00,242 --> 00:14:02,882 do. It could have been the first time or 287 00:14:02,882 --> 00:14:04,722 the tenth time, but if you keep sleeping 288 00:14:04,722 --> 00:14:06,402 with somebody with HIV, eventually you're 289 00:14:06,402 --> 00:14:06,962 gonna get it. 290 00:14:10,362 --> 00:14:13,042 I was sleeping with the enemy. I was 291 00:14:13,042 --> 00:14:14,882 suspicious of everybody else but him. 292 00:14:16,282 --> 00:14:18,322 And And the chaos was laying right next 293 00:14:18,322 --> 00:14:18,482 to me. 294 00:14:28,962 --> 00:14:31,842 Last time I felt normal was April or 295 00:14:31,842 --> 00:14:34,162 May 2014. 296 00:14:36,162 --> 00:14:37,922 The next couple of days after that, I 297 00:14:37,922 --> 00:14:40,482 thought I had the flu, 'cause I had a 298 00:14:40,482 --> 00:14:43,122 high fever, body aches, you know, 299 00:14:43,122 --> 00:14:46,002 congestion. I just felt horrible. 300 00:14:48,722 --> 00:14:51,522 And that was-- I felt like that for about 301 00:14:51,522 --> 00:14:54,242 a week and a half. two weeks, maybe 302 00:14:54,242 --> 00:14:57,082 longer than the flu should last. That's 303 00:14:57,082 --> 00:14:58,562 when I started going to the doctor. 304 00:14:59,682 --> 00:15:01,842 Kareem would come with me to the doctor's 305 00:15:01,842 --> 00:15:04,162 visits. Actually, he invited himself. He 306 00:15:04,162 --> 00:15:05,882 was like, If you don't mind, I'd like to 307 00:15:05,922 --> 00:15:07,442 come too, 'cause I I want to know what 308 00:15:07,442 --> 00:15:10,082 you know. He was acting like he was 309 00:15:10,082 --> 00:15:13,042 concerned, but I think he was trying 310 00:15:13,042 --> 00:15:15,522 to keep a watchful eye. Same symptoms, huh 311 00:15:21,522 --> 00:15:23,282 It took them so long to find out what was 312 00:15:23,282 --> 00:15:25,122 wrong with me. Even the doctor was 313 00:15:25,122 --> 00:15:26,802 scratching his head like, I don't i don't 314 00:15:26,802 --> 00:15:28,802 know what's going on. Well, 315 00:15:29,522 --> 00:15:32,322 this this doesn't look like the flu. 316 00:15:33,042 --> 00:15:35,362 Your labs don't don't look good. I don't 317 00:15:35,362 --> 00:15:38,242 know what's happening. Well, what do you 318 00:15:38,242 --> 00:15:40,722 think it is?The blood work is 319 00:15:40,722 --> 00:15:41,322 concerning. 320 00:15:46,322 --> 00:15:47,682 And the doctor was like, I'm gonna send 321 00:15:47,682 --> 00:15:50,323 you to a nutritionist. 322 00:15:50,883 --> 00:15:52,403 And Karim was like, see, I've been 323 00:15:52,403 --> 00:15:53,763 telling you, you need to get on your 324 00:15:53,763 --> 00:15:55,323 nutrition and stuff. And he was like, 325 00:15:55,323 --> 00:15:57,003 doc, I tried to tell her she needs to eat 326 00:15:57,003 --> 00:15:59,443 healthier. All you need to do is exercise 327 00:15:59,443 --> 00:16:01,203 and eat right. He was 328 00:16:02,723 --> 00:16:04,323 playing the role that he thought he 329 00:16:04,323 --> 00:16:05,843 should. I want you to talk to a 330 00:16:05,843 --> 00:16:08,803 specialist. In the meantime, I'll run 331 00:16:08,803 --> 00:16:10,883 some more tests and we'll see what we 332 00:16:10,883 --> 00:16:13,683 find. In retrospect, I think he was just 333 00:16:13,683 --> 00:16:16,123 keeping a watchful eye to see exactly 334 00:16:16,123 --> 00:16:17,843 what was going on with my health or if 335 00:16:17,843 --> 00:16:20,083 they said anything about HIV or anything. 336 00:16:21,603 --> 00:16:23,203 He was going to the doctor's appointments 337 00:16:23,203 --> 00:16:25,763 to see what his next move should be. He 338 00:16:25,763 --> 00:16:27,603 probably knew he was making me sick. He 339 00:16:27,603 --> 00:16:30,563 was, like, hoping that I got better. I 340 00:16:30,563 --> 00:16:32,403 want you to get better. I hope we find 341 00:16:32,403 --> 00:16:33,843 out soon what's causing this. 342 00:16:35,123 --> 00:16:38,083 Karim watched me get sick and never said 343 00:16:38,083 --> 00:16:38,723 a thing. 344 00:16:46,403 --> 00:16:49,043 I was progressively getting worse. I 345 00:16:49,043 --> 00:16:50,883 started getting this condition, like 346 00:16:50,883 --> 00:16:53,043 these blotches on my skin 347 00:16:53,683 --> 00:16:55,443 and it would just burn. 348 00:16:57,043 --> 00:16:59,523 Then I started losing my hair, losing 349 00:16:59,523 --> 00:17:02,483 more weight. I wore a beanie all the 350 00:17:02,483 --> 00:17:04,963 time. At one point I was so sick I 351 00:17:04,963 --> 00:17:06,643 couldn't bathe myself. I don't know 352 00:17:06,643 --> 00:17:09,123 what's wrong with me. I had got down to 353 00:17:09,123 --> 00:17:11,683 135 and I looked like death. It was 354 00:17:11,683 --> 00:17:13,323 scary because I didn't know what was 355 00:17:13,323 --> 00:17:16,243 going on. I went to the 356 00:17:16,243 --> 00:17:18,403 doctor and he said your labs look really 357 00:17:18,403 --> 00:17:20,323 bad. I don't like the looks of this. 358 00:17:20,643 --> 00:17:22,803 These are our signs of HIV. 359 00:17:27,283 --> 00:17:29,203 That was the first time HIV was ever 360 00:17:29,203 --> 00:17:31,443 mentioned, but I didn't think that's what 361 00:17:31,443 --> 00:17:33,763 it was, because we both got tested, 362 00:17:34,163 --> 00:17:36,563 and it was negative. That's 363 00:17:36,723 --> 00:17:39,683 impossible. He asked me if he could 364 00:17:39,683 --> 00:17:41,563 run an HIV test, and I told him, Sure. 365 00:17:41,563 --> 00:17:44,163 You're wasting your time. Go ahead. I 366 00:17:44,163 --> 00:17:46,323 still want to make sure. Okay, I don't... 367 00:17:46,803 --> 00:17:48,403 think that's gonna change anything, 368 00:17:48,603 --> 00:17:51,323 but... Kareem was with me, and he was 369 00:17:51,323 --> 00:17:52,723 like, Don't cry. Everything's gonna be 370 00:17:52,723 --> 00:17:55,283 okay. He sat there with a straight face, 371 00:17:55,283 --> 00:17:58,163 and, Babe, it's not HIV. It's gotta be 372 00:17:58,163 --> 00:17:59,883 something else. It can't be that. Why 373 00:17:59,883 --> 00:18:02,683 would it be HIV?We got tested. And I was 374 00:18:02,683 --> 00:18:05,043 like, I know. Like, I said, Well, let him 375 00:18:05,043 --> 00:18:06,523 run the test. I mean, we don't have 376 00:18:06,523 --> 00:18:07,243 anything to hide. 377 00:18:09,963 --> 00:18:12,483 He didn't even flinch. I'm sure when they 378 00:18:12,483 --> 00:18:15,123 figure it out... He'll call us and 379 00:18:15,123 --> 00:18:16,483 they'll let us know. He didn't look 380 00:18:16,483 --> 00:18:18,883 worried. He didn't get 381 00:18:18,883 --> 00:18:21,523 fidgety. He was just sitting there with 382 00:18:21,523 --> 00:18:23,043 his arm around me, and he said, Babe, 383 00:18:23,043 --> 00:18:24,563 everything's gonna be okay. We're gonna 384 00:18:24,563 --> 00:18:27,523 find out what's going on. I was 385 00:18:27,523 --> 00:18:30,163 near death, and he knew that. And at 386 00:18:30,163 --> 00:18:32,163 any point in time, he could have said, 387 00:18:32,163 --> 00:18:34,883 Uh, maybe it's 388 00:18:34,883 --> 00:18:37,043 this. So can you check for this 389 00:18:37,603 --> 00:18:40,523 rather than watch me deteriorate?Let'sgo. 390 00:18:44,243 --> 00:18:46,643 It was cruel for him to watch me suffer. 391 00:18:48,763 --> 00:18:51,603 He'd rather me get sick and die than 392 00:18:51,603 --> 00:18:52,443 tell me the truth. 393 00:19:00,443 --> 00:19:02,003 When I went home after that doctor's 394 00:19:02,003 --> 00:19:04,563 visit, I was pretty confident that I did 395 00:19:04,563 --> 00:19:07,523 not have HIV. We went back to 396 00:19:07,523 --> 00:19:09,723 my house and we started researching 397 00:19:10,283 --> 00:19:12,003 What type of cancers we thought it might 398 00:19:12,003 --> 00:19:12,323 be. 399 00:19:14,883 --> 00:19:16,883 Maybe it's lung cancer or leukemia or 400 00:19:16,883 --> 00:19:19,643 something. But we were kind of going back 401 00:19:19,643 --> 00:19:21,603 and forth about the possibilities. 402 00:19:22,443 --> 00:19:24,043 And then he just started like, I don't 403 00:19:24,043 --> 00:19:26,523 know what it is. He was like, I hope the 404 00:19:26,523 --> 00:19:28,723 doctor can find out what's going on. 405 00:19:28,723 --> 00:19:31,363 Well, we know it's not HIV. He 406 00:19:31,603 --> 00:19:33,803 always acted like he was concerned and 407 00:19:33,803 --> 00:19:35,683 his actions matched his words. So I had 408 00:19:35,683 --> 00:19:37,243 no reason to think he was lying about 409 00:19:37,243 --> 00:19:39,083 anything. Maybe this one. 410 00:19:41,123 --> 00:19:42,083 Yeah, maybe. 411 00:19:44,883 --> 00:19:47,683 Now I know he knew or had an idea 412 00:19:47,843 --> 00:19:50,443 what was going on. Lymphoma? 413 00:19:50,963 --> 00:19:52,963 No, no, no, no, no, noHe probably still 414 00:19:53,003 --> 00:19:54,483 thought that he could get away with it or 415 00:19:55,123 --> 00:19:57,603 finesse me into believing whatever lie he 416 00:19:57,603 --> 00:19:59,643 was gonna tell me at that point. 417 00:20:00,483 --> 00:20:01,843 We're gonna get through it, okay? 418 00:20:03,043 --> 00:20:05,763 Kareem claimed to love me. Which I 419 00:20:05,763 --> 00:20:08,363 think is BS because you can't watch 420 00:20:08,363 --> 00:20:10,083 somebody suffer and claim that you love 421 00:20:10,083 --> 00:20:12,883 them. I was dying and he 422 00:20:12,883 --> 00:20:14,643 knew something was very wrong and he 423 00:20:14,643 --> 00:20:17,203 still said nothing. He watched me 424 00:20:17,203 --> 00:20:17,763 suffer. 425 00:20:30,183 --> 00:20:32,263 The next Thursday, I was in the ICU. 426 00:20:33,703 --> 00:20:36,103 I had been running a fever for three days 427 00:20:36,263 --> 00:20:39,223 and I kept throwing up. I felt like I 428 00:20:39,223 --> 00:20:41,923 was dying. So I went to the hospital, 429 00:20:42,083 --> 00:20:43,603 and they told me everything that was 430 00:20:43,603 --> 00:20:46,163 wrong with me. What is it? 431 00:20:47,523 --> 00:20:49,683 The doctors came in, and they said, Mrs. 432 00:20:49,683 --> 00:20:51,923 Anderson, I know your doctor ran an HIV 433 00:20:51,923 --> 00:20:54,843 test, and he said, We also ran 434 00:20:54,843 --> 00:20:57,803 an HIV test, and you-- which I already 435 00:20:57,803 --> 00:20:59,203 told you that you have HIV. 436 00:21:01,323 --> 00:21:04,243 And I was like, No. And I'm 437 00:21:04,283 --> 00:21:07,083 like, Do you have the right patient?Must 438 00:21:07,243 --> 00:21:09,923 made a mistake. Unfortunately, yes, 439 00:21:09,963 --> 00:21:12,723 ma'am. We ran several tests. And then 440 00:21:12,963 --> 00:21:15,083 I found out other illnesses I had in the 441 00:21:15,083 --> 00:21:17,923 ICU. I had nephritis, which 442 00:21:17,923 --> 00:21:20,763 is inflammation of the liver. I 443 00:21:20,763 --> 00:21:23,283 had hepatitis, which is inflammation of 444 00:21:23,283 --> 00:21:26,203 my kidneys. I had a UTI. I had 445 00:21:26,203 --> 00:21:28,883 severe anemia. My hair was gone, my 446 00:21:28,883 --> 00:21:31,443 nails were gone. I had lost 65 447 00:21:31,443 --> 00:21:33,923 pounds. My blood sugars were out 448 00:21:34,243 --> 00:21:36,883 of whack. I had pancreatitis. 449 00:21:37,283 --> 00:21:40,243 and gallstones. Kamaran was responsible 450 00:21:40,243 --> 00:21:42,323 for everything but my diabetes. 451 00:21:42,883 --> 00:21:45,683 Everything was our direct chain reaction 452 00:21:45,723 --> 00:21:48,643 of the HIV. They told me a 453 00:21:48,643 --> 00:21:50,483 month or less, and I would've been gone. 454 00:21:50,883 --> 00:21:53,443 I would've died. We should discuss 455 00:21:53,443 --> 00:21:55,923 treatment options. Not right now. They 456 00:21:55,923 --> 00:21:57,283 said, Do you have any questions?I was 457 00:21:57,283 --> 00:21:59,403 like, No, get out of my room. Just get 458 00:21:59,403 --> 00:22:01,563 out. Then I called Kamaran. I was like, 459 00:22:01,763 --> 00:22:04,083 You need to get here, and you need to get 460 00:22:04,083 --> 00:22:05,843 here right now. He said, What's wrong?I'm 461 00:22:05,843 --> 00:22:08,644 like,Just get up here right now. I'm 462 00:22:09,684 --> 00:22:11,844 in the ICU. I knew he had it, 'cause he 463 00:22:11,844 --> 00:22:13,684 was the only one that I slept with, so 464 00:22:14,404 --> 00:22:16,164 there was no question that he gave it to 465 00:22:16,164 --> 00:22:17,444 me. Just hurry 466 00:22:20,364 --> 00:22:22,164 up. I just was anxious for him to get 467 00:22:22,164 --> 00:22:24,564 there, 'cause I wanted answers. I 468 00:22:25,044 --> 00:22:27,644 never thought he gave it to me on 469 00:22:27,684 --> 00:22:30,244 purpose. I thought he cheated on me. But 470 00:22:30,244 --> 00:22:33,004 it it made me want to kill him, like, 471 00:22:33,844 --> 00:22:35,044 literally kill him. 472 00:22:46,644 --> 00:22:49,044 When he walked in, I said, Who did you 473 00:22:49,044 --> 00:22:51,044 cheat on me with?And he was like, 474 00:22:51,844 --> 00:22:54,004 What?I said, Kareem, I have HIV. Who did 475 00:22:54,004 --> 00:22:56,884 you cheat on me with?Who is 476 00:22:56,884 --> 00:22:59,604 she?What are you talking about? 477 00:23:01,124 --> 00:23:03,844 What?HIV?I was like, It's not cancer. 478 00:23:03,844 --> 00:23:06,124 It's HIV. So who did you cheat on me with? 479 00:23:06,124 --> 00:23:08,804 And he's like, I've never cheated. And 480 00:23:09,124 --> 00:23:11,924 I was like, Stop lying. Stop lying to 481 00:23:11,924 --> 00:23:14,804 me. Look, we're past that now. I'm in the 482 00:23:14,804 --> 00:23:17,284 ICU, and I'm basically dying from 483 00:23:17,284 --> 00:23:20,004 HIV, so-- and you gave it to me, so where 484 00:23:20,004 --> 00:23:22,204 did you get it from?What did you do to me? 485 00:23:22,244 --> 00:23:23,444 You son of a bitch. 486 00:23:25,764 --> 00:23:27,364 If you cheated on me or you lied about 487 00:23:27,364 --> 00:23:29,004 your test, he was like, No, I took that 488 00:23:29,004 --> 00:23:31,204 test. It was negative. So you cheated on 489 00:23:31,204 --> 00:23:33,044 me. I didn't sleep with anyone. 490 00:23:34,284 --> 00:23:36,524 I said, This is not making sense. It's 491 00:23:36,524 --> 00:23:38,684 either one or the other. Which one is it? 492 00:23:38,964 --> 00:23:40,404 You say you didn't lie about your test, 493 00:23:40,724 --> 00:23:43,604 so you had to cheat. That was the first 494 00:23:43,604 --> 00:23:45,364 time that he did not have all theanswers. 495 00:23:48,404 --> 00:23:51,004 Oh, my God. I don't know what happened. 496 00:23:51,004 --> 00:23:53,284 He was leaning over like this and stuff, 497 00:23:53,284 --> 00:23:55,284 trying to conjure up some tears, 498 00:23:55,924 --> 00:23:57,724 reacting the way he thought he should 499 00:23:57,724 --> 00:24:00,524 react by, you know, kneeling over and 500 00:24:01,044 --> 00:24:02,764 making the faces like he was crying, but 501 00:24:02,764 --> 00:24:03,844 there was, like, one tear. 502 00:24:06,964 --> 00:24:09,764 Now I think about it as comical that he 503 00:24:09,764 --> 00:24:11,444 was trying so hard to get those tears 504 00:24:11,524 --> 00:24:14,484 out. And they weren't there. 505 00:24:16,004 --> 00:24:17,564 That's why I think he's a sociopath. 506 00:24:20,644 --> 00:24:23,204 He has no conscience or humanity. I think 507 00:24:23,204 --> 00:24:25,444 that's all something he-- 508 00:24:25,764 --> 00:24:27,164 emotions he learned to fake. 509 00:24:29,364 --> 00:24:31,444 I was like, Something about this is not 510 00:24:31,444 --> 00:24:33,924 right. I don't know what it is, but he's 511 00:24:33,924 --> 00:24:36,404 lying to me, and I've never thought he 512 00:24:36,404 --> 00:24:39,244 lied to me. Just get 513 00:24:39,284 --> 00:24:41,444 out. Get the hell out! 514 00:24:42,724 --> 00:24:45,324 I don't want to look at you. I was like, 515 00:24:45,324 --> 00:24:47,124 I don't want to hear any more lies. Just 516 00:24:47,124 --> 00:24:49,404 get out of my room. Felt like I went into 517 00:24:49,404 --> 00:24:52,004 a grieving period, and he was just 518 00:24:52,084 --> 00:24:54,404 making it worse, so I didn't want to talk 519 00:24:54,404 --> 00:24:57,244 to him. I blocked his number. When he 520 00:24:57,244 --> 00:24:58,764 would come to my house, I didn't answer 521 00:24:58,764 --> 00:25:00,684 the door. I just kept telling him I 522 00:25:00,684 --> 00:25:03,204 didn't want to talk to him. But I 523 00:25:03,204 --> 00:25:05,764 honestly thought that he cheated on me. 524 00:25:06,004 --> 00:25:08,084 It never crossed my mind that he would 525 00:25:08,084 --> 00:25:09,204 lie about that test. 526 00:25:20,484 --> 00:25:23,404 I was depressed. I was heartbroken. I 527 00:25:23,404 --> 00:25:24,564 didn't know if I was going to live or 528 00:25:24,564 --> 00:25:27,444 die. And I was just like, this is 529 00:25:27,524 --> 00:25:29,204 a bad dream. Like, this can't be 530 00:25:29,204 --> 00:25:29,684 happening. 531 00:25:32,244 --> 00:25:34,844 How did my life get to this point?A month 532 00:25:34,844 --> 00:25:37,404 ago, I was-- I was fine. I was happy. How 533 00:25:37,404 --> 00:25:39,644 did I get here?I'm going to get AIDS and 534 00:25:39,644 --> 00:25:40,644 die a horrible death. 535 00:25:43,844 --> 00:25:45,844 I blamed myself, like, I should have saw 536 00:25:45,844 --> 00:25:47,564 something. I should have saw some red 537 00:25:47,564 --> 00:25:49,844 flags. Where were they?How did I miss 538 00:25:49,844 --> 00:25:52,644 them?I couldn't fight through this. I 539 00:25:52,644 --> 00:25:54,724 fought through a lot, but this broke me. 540 00:25:58,004 --> 00:26:00,004 It broke me into little pieces. 541 00:26:01,164 --> 00:26:04,084 And so I took an overdose 542 00:26:04,084 --> 00:26:06,364 of insulin. I 543 00:26:06,644 --> 00:26:08,524 passed out, and the next thing I remember 544 00:26:08,524 --> 00:26:10,564 is my mom was like, Get up, get up. 545 00:26:11,924 --> 00:26:13,364 She said she knocked on the door because 546 00:26:13,364 --> 00:26:15,244 she saw my my car outside, but I didn't 547 00:26:15,244 --> 00:26:16,804 answer, so she used her key to come in, 548 00:26:16,804 --> 00:26:18,804 and she found me on the floor. 549 00:26:20,644 --> 00:26:22,284 So that's how she wound up calling the 550 00:26:22,284 --> 00:26:22,724 ambulance. 551 00:26:28,244 --> 00:26:30,764 Where am I?Back at the 552 00:26:30,804 --> 00:26:33,604 hospital. I was like, Mom, why 553 00:26:33,604 --> 00:26:36,484 did you save me?I was trying to die. 554 00:26:36,484 --> 00:26:38,884 Why did you save me?Why don't you just 555 00:26:38,884 --> 00:26:41,644 leave me there?I don't want to be here 556 00:26:41,644 --> 00:26:44,324 anymore. Don't say that. 557 00:26:45,684 --> 00:26:48,164 My dad told me, God has a purpose for 558 00:26:48,164 --> 00:26:50,364 you. You're here for a reason, and you 559 00:26:50,364 --> 00:26:53,284 have a purpose that you have not 560 00:26:53,284 --> 00:26:55,204 yet found yet, but he's preparing you for 561 00:26:55,204 --> 00:26:58,164 something. And I started thinking. I was 562 00:26:58,164 --> 00:27:00,924 like, What purpose could I possibly have? 563 00:27:00,924 --> 00:27:03,284 I know you don't think you can get 564 00:27:03,284 --> 00:27:04,964 through this, but but you will. 565 00:27:12,564 --> 00:27:14,804 Um, that's me and baby Caden. 566 00:27:15,524 --> 00:27:17,044 He was a day old. 567 00:27:19,364 --> 00:27:21,964 He looked like a little-- a little peanut 568 00:27:21,964 --> 00:27:23,604 wrapped in a blanket, so I started 569 00:27:23,604 --> 00:27:26,524 calling him Peanut. When I first found 570 00:27:26,524 --> 00:27:28,644 out I was pregnant, I didn't know how to 571 00:27:28,644 --> 00:27:31,604 feel about the baby. First person 572 00:27:31,604 --> 00:27:34,364 I called was Kareem, and he said, You 573 00:27:34,364 --> 00:27:35,524 have to get rid of it. I don't want to 574 00:27:35,524 --> 00:27:37,284 have a baby like this. I was like, I 575 00:27:37,284 --> 00:27:40,084 don't want to have HIV like this, but... 576 00:27:41,924 --> 00:27:44,804 Here we are. I I let Kareem 577 00:27:44,804 --> 00:27:46,724 know whether he accepted it or not, I was 578 00:27:46,724 --> 00:27:48,564 gonna go through with the pregnancy 579 00:27:48,564 --> 00:27:51,524 anyway. But the doctor told me 580 00:27:51,524 --> 00:27:54,084 if I kept taking my HIV medication, there 581 00:27:54,084 --> 00:27:56,324 was only a 5% chance that I would pass 582 00:27:56,404 --> 00:27:58,324 HIV to my unborn child. 583 00:28:00,084 --> 00:28:02,084 They tested him right after birth, and it 584 00:28:02,084 --> 00:28:02,764 was negative. 585 00:28:05,364 --> 00:28:07,244 I felt like it was a miracle, and I 586 00:28:07,444 --> 00:28:09,924 didn't know why I wasGiven that 587 00:28:09,924 --> 00:28:12,684 miracle, but I was just thankful. I 588 00:28:12,804 --> 00:28:14,324 had been waiting and waiting and waiting 589 00:28:14,324 --> 00:28:16,324 for somebody to wheel me to go to see 590 00:28:16,444 --> 00:28:19,364 him. This was a happy day for 591 00:28:19,364 --> 00:28:21,364 me. You know, a lot of sadness. He was 592 00:28:21,604 --> 00:28:24,484 some happiness. It took a lot from 593 00:28:24,484 --> 00:28:27,204 both of us for him to get here. That's 594 00:28:27,204 --> 00:28:29,285 the day I said, you know, no, I'm going 595 00:28:29,285 --> 00:28:31,045 to live. I chose life that day. 596 00:28:32,645 --> 00:28:34,605 I can't do it. I can't kill myself. 597 00:28:44,725 --> 00:28:46,565 I immediately called his mother and told 598 00:28:46,565 --> 00:28:47,285 her everything. 599 00:28:50,645 --> 00:28:52,325 I wanted her to know what was going on. 600 00:28:52,645 --> 00:28:55,605 Hi, my name is Sarita. I'm I'm 601 00:28:55,845 --> 00:28:58,165 sure you have no idea who I am. I told 602 00:28:58,165 --> 00:29:00,725 her my name and I said I've been dating 603 00:29:00,725 --> 00:29:03,365 Karim. And I have HIV. 604 00:29:03,925 --> 00:29:06,565 And she said, What?And she started 605 00:29:06,565 --> 00:29:08,525 crying. And she said, Have you talked to 606 00:29:08,525 --> 00:29:11,445 his wife?He's 607 00:29:11,445 --> 00:29:14,325 married?That was a surprise to me. 608 00:29:16,965 --> 00:29:19,245 After I found out he was married, I went 609 00:29:19,245 --> 00:29:20,725 on social media and found her. 610 00:29:22,725 --> 00:29:24,365 And I sent her a message and told her 611 00:29:24,365 --> 00:29:25,525 everything that was going on. 612 00:29:27,405 --> 00:29:29,365 A week after I started communicating with 613 00:29:29,365 --> 00:29:31,445 Kareem's wife, I found out that she was 614 00:29:31,445 --> 00:29:32,645 HIV positive too. 615 00:29:35,765 --> 00:29:38,325 She told me that he had given it to her, 616 00:29:38,765 --> 00:29:40,725 and he had never taken any medication. 617 00:29:43,925 --> 00:29:46,725 That was like an aha moment. This is my 618 00:29:46,725 --> 00:29:48,645 purpose. This is why I was infected. 619 00:29:50,085 --> 00:29:52,085 The purpose was to stop him from 620 00:29:52,405 --> 00:29:53,525 infecting other women. 621 00:29:58,965 --> 00:30:01,685 But it was too late. I 622 00:30:01,685 --> 00:30:03,645 didn't realize how many other women he 623 00:30:03,645 --> 00:30:04,365 had infected. 624 00:30:13,335 --> 00:30:15,455 This is my social media post when I 625 00:30:15,455 --> 00:30:18,295 announced to everyone I was 626 00:30:18,295 --> 00:30:20,455 HIV positive and who gave it to me. 627 00:30:22,055 --> 00:30:24,015 If I die, this this is going to be my 628 00:30:24,015 --> 00:30:26,095 dying declaration. I have to tell people 629 00:30:26,095 --> 00:30:28,925 what happened. After all he's done to 630 00:30:28,925 --> 00:30:31,085 turn my life upside down, I'm here to 631 00:30:31,085 --> 00:30:33,365 testify that evil can look like anything. 632 00:30:33,765 --> 00:30:36,525 Karim is going around like he's OK. He's 633 00:30:36,525 --> 00:30:38,805 an attractive man and very charming. He 634 00:30:38,805 --> 00:30:40,725 is not letting people know his current 635 00:30:40,725 --> 00:30:43,685 situation. I have no reason to lie. I 636 00:30:43,685 --> 00:30:45,845 was faithful. He's the only one I've been 637 00:30:45,845 --> 00:30:48,805 with for two years. I'm saying 638 00:30:48,805 --> 00:30:50,725 all this just to warn people to be 639 00:30:50,725 --> 00:30:53,125 careful who you let in your life. Really 640 00:30:53,125 --> 00:30:55,885 get to know someone before taking risk. I 641 00:30:55,885 --> 00:30:57,565 thought I was in a happy relationship, 642 00:30:57,845 --> 00:30:59,925 and four words turned that all around. 643 00:31:00,325 --> 00:31:02,485 You are HIV positive. 644 00:31:04,885 --> 00:31:07,005 When I wrote this, I went to sleep, and 645 00:31:07,365 --> 00:31:09,445 when I woke up, I had a million, like, 646 00:31:09,925 --> 00:31:11,685 notifications from people. 647 00:31:13,125 --> 00:31:14,805 Immediately, my phone went ding, ding, 648 00:31:14,805 --> 00:31:16,525 ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, going off. 649 00:31:19,125 --> 00:31:20,605 I was finding out that he was in these 650 00:31:20,605 --> 00:31:21,365 singles groups. 651 00:31:23,685 --> 00:31:25,405 Some of his friends would say he's in 652 00:31:25,405 --> 00:31:27,525 these dating groups, and, you know, 653 00:31:28,405 --> 00:31:30,765 he's dating someone down the way, and 654 00:31:30,765 --> 00:31:31,765 he's not being honest. 655 00:31:34,165 --> 00:31:35,845 And other women saying, you know, Is this 656 00:31:35,845 --> 00:31:37,965 true?Was I slept with him a couple months 657 00:31:37,965 --> 00:31:38,885 ago or whatever? 658 00:31:40,805 --> 00:31:43,405 I opened up Pandora's box, and I started 659 00:31:43,405 --> 00:31:44,565 to build a timeline. 660 00:31:46,165 --> 00:31:48,965 People were like, Wait, when did you get 661 00:31:48,965 --> 00:31:51,045 diagnosed?Because I was with him, 662 00:31:51,765 --> 00:31:54,325 andA lot of the time, it was before me. 663 00:31:56,005 --> 00:31:57,965 His wife told me she tested positive in 664 00:31:57,965 --> 00:31:58,805 2009. 665 00:32:03,965 --> 00:32:06,725 And then I got an anonymous message from 666 00:32:06,725 --> 00:32:08,965 someone from the county clinic. 667 00:32:18,755 --> 00:32:21,475 They said he had tested positive in 2010, 668 00:32:21,955 --> 00:32:23,875 and he never came back for any medicine. 669 00:32:24,885 --> 00:32:27,645 I immediately blew my top. By the 670 00:32:27,645 --> 00:32:29,885 time I was involved in a relationship 671 00:32:29,885 --> 00:32:31,365 with Kareem, he had already been giving 672 00:32:31,365 --> 00:32:32,965 women HIV for five years. 673 00:32:34,965 --> 00:32:37,325 I didn't want to believe it, but it made 674 00:32:37,325 --> 00:32:40,085 too much sense. This is why he didn't 675 00:32:40,165 --> 00:32:41,445 act surprised. 676 00:32:43,445 --> 00:32:45,765 I was devastated all over again, 'cause 677 00:32:45,765 --> 00:32:48,325 now I'm like, Maybe he 678 00:32:48,325 --> 00:32:50,485 didn't cheat on me, but the alternative 679 00:32:50,485 --> 00:32:53,285 is much worse. It's much worse. 680 00:32:53,285 --> 00:32:54,965 You You tried to kill me. 681 00:32:57,285 --> 00:32:59,445 Kareem knew every time he slept with me 682 00:32:59,445 --> 00:33:01,205 without a condom was a chance that he was 683 00:33:01,205 --> 00:33:02,325 giving me HIV. 684 00:33:05,925 --> 00:33:07,685 I hated his guts. 685 00:33:08,885 --> 00:33:11,605 I wished death on him every day. Every 686 00:33:11,605 --> 00:33:14,405 second of every day, I was thinking, Why 687 00:33:14,405 --> 00:33:17,045 is he still breathing?Why is he still 688 00:33:17,045 --> 00:33:19,525 wacking around?Why is he able to enjoy 689 00:33:19,525 --> 00:33:22,245 himself?Why has anybody killed him? 690 00:33:22,725 --> 00:33:24,205 It made me mad that he was alive. 691 00:33:26,565 --> 00:33:28,005 To the point where it's like, if nobody 692 00:33:28,005 --> 00:33:29,525 else is gonna kill him, I'm gonna do it. 693 00:33:35,205 --> 00:33:37,005 So I would just sit up and think about 694 00:33:37,005 --> 00:33:39,765 ways about forensics and things I've seen 695 00:33:39,765 --> 00:33:42,725 on TV and what is the easiest way 696 00:33:42,725 --> 00:33:44,005 I can get away with it. 697 00:33:51,365 --> 00:33:53,925 But me hating him didn't do 698 00:33:53,925 --> 00:33:55,925 anything to him. It was hurting me, 699 00:33:56,085 --> 00:33:57,925 'cause it was turning me into a person 700 00:33:57,925 --> 00:33:58,805 that I didn't want to be. 701 00:34:01,045 --> 00:34:03,365 So I had a colleague at the hospital we 702 00:34:03,365 --> 00:34:05,605 worked at that was a police officer, and 703 00:34:05,605 --> 00:34:08,045 he told me, It's a crime to intentionally 704 00:34:08,045 --> 00:34:10,405 infect someone with HIV. 705 00:34:13,365 --> 00:34:15,365 When When he gave me that information, it 706 00:34:15,365 --> 00:34:17,845 gave me hope. There's another 707 00:34:17,845 --> 00:34:20,165 outlet than shooting him. There is a way 708 00:34:20,165 --> 00:34:23,125 to get him without getting myself locked 709 00:34:23,245 --> 00:34:23,365 up. 710 00:34:31,045 --> 00:34:32,565 I called the police and told them I 711 00:34:32,565 --> 00:34:34,885 wanted to file a report, and they turned 712 00:34:34,885 --> 00:34:36,845 my case over to the Special Victims Unit. 713 00:34:37,925 --> 00:34:39,845 I gave the police all the information I 714 00:34:39,845 --> 00:34:42,285 had collected. I was on, like, a 715 00:34:42,285 --> 00:34:44,965 crusade to get him. I have 716 00:34:45,365 --> 00:34:48,246 medical records, text messages. 717 00:34:48,966 --> 00:34:50,566 Tell me what you need to put him 718 00:34:51,766 --> 00:34:53,446 away. I was trying to get all the people 719 00:34:53,486 --> 00:34:55,606 I found on board so we could get him 720 00:34:55,606 --> 00:34:58,006 together. I told them I'm not the only 721 00:34:58,006 --> 00:34:59,526 one that he gave it to. There's other 722 00:34:59,526 --> 00:35:02,406 women. I've already found 12. I've been 723 00:35:02,406 --> 00:35:04,726 messaging the other women. The officer 724 00:35:04,726 --> 00:35:06,486 asked, Would they be willing to give me a 725 00:35:06,486 --> 00:35:08,446 statement?Do you think you can get any of 726 00:35:08,446 --> 00:35:10,726 them to come forward?I said everybody 727 00:35:10,726 --> 00:35:13,486 said no. I tried. They They don't 728 00:35:13,486 --> 00:35:15,606 want to talk. Does this mean that you 729 00:35:15,606 --> 00:35:18,166 can't arrest him?Not necessarily. 730 00:35:18,726 --> 00:35:21,566 Right now, it's your word against his. I 731 00:35:21,566 --> 00:35:24,206 often wondered what my purpose was. Why 732 00:35:24,206 --> 00:35:26,966 am I here?I kept asking, Why 733 00:35:26,966 --> 00:35:29,846 me?Why me?Well, my conclusion was that it 734 00:35:29,846 --> 00:35:32,806 had to be me. I had to be broken 735 00:35:32,806 --> 00:35:35,766 to be put back together stronger so I can 736 00:35:36,246 --> 00:35:37,366 bring him to justice. 737 00:35:38,886 --> 00:35:40,566 Nobody else wanted to come forward. 738 00:35:41,046 --> 00:35:43,606 That's why it had to be me. I feel like I 739 00:35:43,606 --> 00:35:46,446 was chosen. Whatever it 740 00:35:46,446 --> 00:35:48,446 takes, he has to be stopped. 741 00:35:53,286 --> 00:35:54,966 I was prepared to be 742 00:35:55,926 --> 00:35:58,646 waiting years, but it was a matter of 743 00:35:58,646 --> 00:36:00,486 months before he was arrested. 744 00:36:07,136 --> 00:36:09,696 This was a good day. This is Garim's 745 00:36:09,696 --> 00:36:10,256 mugshot. 746 00:36:12,686 --> 00:36:15,046 The SP youth detective said we have a 747 00:36:15,046 --> 00:36:16,406 warrant for his arrest and we're going to 748 00:36:16,406 --> 00:36:18,806 be serving it to him in the morning. 749 00:36:19,206 --> 00:36:21,686 So I called Kareem the next morning and I 750 00:36:21,686 --> 00:36:23,286 was like, enjoy your last hours of 751 00:36:23,286 --> 00:36:26,206 freedom. He was like, what 752 00:36:26,206 --> 00:36:27,606 are you talking about now?I was like, the 753 00:36:27,606 --> 00:36:30,566 police are coming for you. And I 754 00:36:30,566 --> 00:36:32,726 wish I could be there. And he was like, 755 00:36:32,726 --> 00:36:35,206 you always talking negative. And I just 756 00:36:35,206 --> 00:36:36,686 hung up on him. That was 8:00. He was 757 00:36:36,686 --> 00:36:37,766 arrested at 9. 758 00:36:40,006 --> 00:36:41,886 I think he was very surprised when he got 759 00:36:41,886 --> 00:36:44,206 arrested. He got arrested at his job 760 00:36:44,246 --> 00:36:46,886 while he was on duty. So that 761 00:36:46,886 --> 00:36:48,966 probably hurt him more than anything for 762 00:36:48,966 --> 00:36:51,926 people to see him being arrested. I 763 00:36:51,926 --> 00:36:54,726 was happy when I saw this. I was 764 00:36:54,726 --> 00:36:56,446 wondering, what is he thinking right now? 765 00:36:56,446 --> 00:36:59,366 And that's what I think of when I 766 00:36:59,366 --> 00:37:01,286 see this, is what is he thinking right 767 00:37:01,286 --> 00:37:04,166 here?There's no smiling or anything 768 00:37:04,166 --> 00:37:07,046 in this picture. That 769 00:37:07,046 --> 00:37:09,926 was his last day as a free man. So that 770 00:37:09,926 --> 00:37:10,726 makes me happy. 771 00:37:12,886 --> 00:37:14,246 Yeah, I like this picture. 772 00:37:39,996 --> 00:37:42,876 The last time I saw Kareem was after he 773 00:37:42,876 --> 00:37:45,116 got sentenced, and I went one time 774 00:37:45,836 --> 00:37:48,646 to the county jail tofinally 775 00:37:48,806 --> 00:37:51,766 get some answers. I 776 00:37:51,766 --> 00:37:54,286 asked him, Why did you do this to me?I 777 00:37:55,286 --> 00:37:58,086 just want to know why. And he 778 00:37:58,086 --> 00:38:00,006 said, Would you have been with me if I 779 00:38:00,006 --> 00:38:02,486 told you?And I said, If 780 00:38:02,886 --> 00:38:05,766 you had no wife, and you had been honest 781 00:38:05,766 --> 00:38:08,166 with me, and you were the person that you 782 00:38:08,446 --> 00:38:11,286 portrayed yourself to be, yes. That 783 00:38:11,286 --> 00:38:13,766 doesn't answer my question. One of my 784 00:38:13,766 --> 00:38:15,606 questions to Kareem was, Why did you try 785 00:38:15,606 --> 00:38:17,926 to kill me?I want to know why you wanted 786 00:38:17,926 --> 00:38:20,886 me dead. Did you intentionally go 787 00:38:20,886 --> 00:38:23,726 into our relationship knowing that you 788 00:38:23,726 --> 00:38:26,006 were gonna infect me with HIV and why? 789 00:38:27,606 --> 00:38:30,086 And he doesn't like that. I never tried 790 00:38:30,086 --> 00:38:32,646 to kill you. I said, 791 00:38:32,646 --> 00:38:35,326 Well, I almost died, and you sat there 792 00:38:35,326 --> 00:38:37,206 and watched. I didn't want you to die. 793 00:38:37,606 --> 00:38:39,926 No, I didn't. My intention was not to 794 00:38:39,926 --> 00:38:42,566 kill you. I love you. I was like, 795 00:38:42,566 --> 00:38:45,246 So... Your intentions were not to kill 796 00:38:45,246 --> 00:38:47,006 me, but once you saw me getting sick, why 797 00:38:47,006 --> 00:38:49,526 didn't you say anything?'Cause I didn't 798 00:38:49,526 --> 00:38:50,966 think I was the one making you sick. 799 00:38:50,966 --> 00:38:53,806 Nobody else got sick. And I was like, 800 00:38:53,846 --> 00:38:56,326 this this is a bunch of B.S. Like, I was 801 00:38:56,326 --> 00:38:57,926 getting madder the more I talked to him. 802 00:38:58,646 --> 00:39:01,406 He said, Why are you so mad?I didn't 803 00:39:01,406 --> 00:39:03,526 rape you. He said, You know, you could've 804 00:39:03,526 --> 00:39:05,606 told me to put on a condom at any time. I 805 00:39:05,606 --> 00:39:07,926 didn't rape you. I don't know why you get 806 00:39:07,926 --> 00:39:10,166 so upset anyway. When he said, I didn't 807 00:39:10,246 --> 00:39:11,806 rape you, I said, Yeah, but you raped my 808 00:39:11,806 --> 00:39:14,406 life. My world 809 00:39:14,726 --> 00:39:17,366 is changed. You took my 810 00:39:17,366 --> 00:39:19,206 choice. You didn't take my body, but you 811 00:39:19,206 --> 00:39:22,086 took my choice away. I think sometimes he 812 00:39:22,086 --> 00:39:24,486 did it for fun. It was about power. And 813 00:39:24,486 --> 00:39:27,406 rape is about power. I got 814 00:39:27,406 --> 00:39:28,006 to be left. 815 00:39:30,726 --> 00:39:32,766 I have not seen or spoken to him since 816 00:39:32,806 --> 00:39:35,686 that day. My son doesn't see him. My son 817 00:39:35,686 --> 00:39:37,606 doesn't speak to him. There's no 818 00:39:37,606 --> 00:39:40,006 difference between a rapist and Kareem, 819 00:39:40,646 --> 00:39:43,286 'cause Kareem doesn't... take 820 00:39:43,366 --> 00:39:44,806 women's bodies, but he takes their 821 00:39:44,806 --> 00:39:45,446 choices. 822 00:39:56,856 --> 00:39:58,896 Karim was definitely a wolf in sheep's 823 00:39:58,896 --> 00:39:59,416 clothing. 824 00:40:02,256 --> 00:40:04,376 I was told by the detective that they 825 00:40:04,376 --> 00:40:07,256 found that his most active year, meaning 826 00:40:08,056 --> 00:40:10,056 the year that he infected the most women, 827 00:40:10,056 --> 00:40:11,496 was 2015. 828 00:40:12,936 --> 00:40:15,016 Who knows how many women he infected or 829 00:40:15,016 --> 00:40:18,006 how many women died?Or almost 830 00:40:18,006 --> 00:40:20,326 died and he doesn't care. 831 00:40:21,766 --> 00:40:24,726 I know of 12 women that he's 832 00:40:24,726 --> 00:40:27,046 infected. I do believe there's more. 833 00:40:28,086 --> 00:40:30,566 He's evil. He's diabolical, 834 00:40:31,446 --> 00:40:33,566 reckless, careless, negligent. 835 00:40:34,646 --> 00:40:36,926 All those things, all those things rolled 836 00:40:36,926 --> 00:40:39,686 into one. He has 837 00:40:39,686 --> 00:40:42,086 no empathy. He can't have any empathy 838 00:40:42,086 --> 00:40:44,806 'cause he did it over and over. He 839 00:40:44,806 --> 00:40:46,806 didn't have any cares in the world about 840 00:40:46,806 --> 00:40:48,646 how it would affect women or their 841 00:40:48,646 --> 00:40:51,566 families or children or anything like 842 00:40:51,566 --> 00:40:53,446 that. He didn't take into account any of 843 00:40:53,446 --> 00:40:55,446 the carnage he would leave behind. He was 844 00:40:55,446 --> 00:40:58,286 just going to get what he wanted and to 845 00:40:58,286 --> 00:40:59,446 hell with everybody else. 846 00:41:02,886 --> 00:41:05,446 But I'm not going to let that define my 847 00:41:05,446 --> 00:41:08,407 life. I wanted to, like, bust 848 00:41:08,407 --> 00:41:11,367 up the stigma around HIV 849 00:41:11,367 --> 00:41:14,287 and what it looks like. It happened 850 00:41:14,287 --> 00:41:16,567 to me. This is what happened, and I'm 851 00:41:16,567 --> 00:41:19,527 still here. If you have 852 00:41:19,527 --> 00:41:21,447 HIV, you can go into an undetectable 853 00:41:21,447 --> 00:41:23,647 status, which is the goal. It means you 854 00:41:23,647 --> 00:41:25,607 have so little of the virus in your 855 00:41:25,607 --> 00:41:27,207 system that it can't be measured by any 856 00:41:27,207 --> 00:41:29,767 test. And once you're undetectable, you 857 00:41:29,767 --> 00:41:31,927 can't transfer HIV to anyone. 858 00:41:32,567 --> 00:41:34,647 So I've been undetectable for years now. 859 00:41:36,607 --> 00:41:38,487 Through my research, I've found a lot of 860 00:41:38,487 --> 00:41:40,967 stories like mine and people just. 861 00:41:41,687 --> 00:41:43,367 Throw those stories to the side 'cause 862 00:41:43,367 --> 00:41:44,887 they assumed the person was being 863 00:41:44,887 --> 00:41:47,127 reckless. When it's happening to everyday 864 00:41:47,127 --> 00:41:49,607 people, hopefully I can inspire 865 00:41:49,607 --> 00:41:52,567 somebody else to go get tested or 866 00:41:52,967 --> 00:41:55,687 be more careful in in vetting their 867 00:41:55,687 --> 00:41:58,327 partner. You can't catch 868 00:41:58,327 --> 00:42:00,087 everything. You might run across the 869 00:42:00,087 --> 00:42:03,047 current, but most people 870 00:42:04,087 --> 00:42:04,807 are not like that. 60870

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