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INTERVIEWER:Ready, Ari?

Yeah. Hold on one second.

This is a couple from Massachusetts.

She wants me to go there, but, uh...

Yeah.

..but she's having trouble.

"Otherwise, come to... If you come to New York..."

Hold on a sec.

I don't think I'm going to do it much longer.

I think this is probably my final year or two

before I'll hang up my hat.

People say, "Well, you're not going to be able to stop,"

but no, I'll be able to stop.

Trust me, I recognise the sacrifices being made here

and that I'm biting off more than I can chew.

I know that.

LINE RINGS

ON PHONE:Hello.

Hi. How are you doing?

I'm fine. You?

OK, good. I'm downstairs.

FUNKY MUSIC

SIRENS WAIL

HORNS HONK

Hi. How are you doing?

I just realised that there's two airports in Dallas.

I'm hoping you're at the right one. Right.

I'm just at the, um, exit before the toll,

so I wanted to know if we're still on for tonight or if you want to...?

It's your call.

I guess...let's meet in the mall.

You see the Target over there across the street?

I'll send you a tracker so you could find me. OK?

I'm in Target now. I'm walking towards the Starbucks.

All right. Looking forward to seeing you.

There is a, uh, Crowne Plaza.

It's a nice, private restroom. Very clean.

Hey, look who's here.

All right. How's it going?

I can't ejaculate with cold hands.

I got to warm them up here.

Oh. That's better.

Hi. How you doing?

Good. So good to meet you. Oh, good to meet you, too.

Come in.Hello. Hello.

How are you doing? I'm cold!

HE CHUCKLES Hi.

Hey. How you doing?

OK, fine.

I'm going to use the restroom here.

I'll be out in a couple of minutes.

MUSIC CONTINUES

Number 14, 65% of you got it wrong.

Let me erase this and take a look at 14, 15.

Both of these were a challenge for the students.

We're going to multiply this whole first equation by a positive two,

and then we'll have to distribute it by all three of those.

Two times 2X is 4X.

Two times Y is a positive 2Y.

And two times three is six.

I'm left with negative X equals ten.

And then of course we learned this trick.

You have to change this to a positive and this to a negative.

So that's going to be - X equals negative ten.

BELL RINGS

ANNOUNCER:This is a Brooklyn-bound express train.

The next stop is Fulton Street.

Hey, welcome.

Hey.Is it your first time in New York City?

Yeah.Oh, my gosh. So we got to go crazy.

That's right.You got to do something you'll regret, you know?

They got bathrooms in Chuck E Cheese too,

but it's less appropriate there. Yeah, I agree.

It's inappropriate anywhere, I think.

HE CHUCKLES That's the truth.

But it is what it is.

All right.What is this?

So there's a little...OK.

Just a little.Good.

You'll figure it out.Yes. That's fine.

And you've got a flight to catch.

So don't judge me if I'm a little quick, OK?

All right.All right.

PERCUSSIVE MUSIC

You hear it all the time.

Parenthood is a priceless experience,

but what some mum and dads are learning is that the process

of becoming a parent can come with a huge cost.

The struggle to have children

can be both emotional and also expensive.

Infertility has become a mainstream health issue,

one that means that if you don't have the money,

you may not have a baby.

This is a struggle that millions of American women are facing.

Infertility.

A single round of IVF can cost upwards of $20,000,

and it's often requiring more than just one try.

What people have is desire.

I mean, to start a family, you'd pay almost anything.

You'll find a way.

AUDIENCE APPLAUDS

TV PRESENTER:Meet Ari.

He's a 41-year-old college maths professor from New York City,

who's received a lot of press recently for his surprising side job

as a free sperm donor to women struggling to get pregnant.

He has 22 kids so far, with one on the way.

His nickname, the Sperminator.

AUDIENCE LAUGHS

FUNKY MUSIC

Ten years ago,

Ari answered a Craigslist ad

looking for a sperm donor.

To date, Ari Nagel has sired 29 children

with 24 women.

CROWD GASPS

Good luck on your test today. What's seven plus eight?

15.Good.

We have examples of the women who you've been with...somehow.

So, ladies, come on out.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Oh, he has been Heaven-sent to us.

I myself, uh, never thought of doing that process.

And we wanted Zoe to be able to know who her father is.

So if we would have went with an anonymous donor,

she wouldn't have that option to know who he is.

Wee-heee!

OK. Let's go.

What's it like not having the Sperminator around?

He's around any time we ask him to be around.

Do you think he's doing a good job for women or not?

Yeah, he's done an excellent job, and...

Well, I just figured it out.

There are all these brothers and sisters.

Ahhhhhhhh!

Yes.

How many kids do you want to have, Tyler?

I feel like three is nice.

Three is a good amount.

Three?

I'll stop when one of them is disappointing.

You know what you do? You have one

and then you see how you feel,

and see if you want another.

You can't decide initially, you know.

How did you feel after your, like, 14th?

After...after you turned out so good, that's why I wanted more.

That's when I knew I wanted 32.

Great answer.Yeah.

My friends, they first figured it out because, like, I don't know

how it came up, but we were just in class

and then we were looking up everybody's names in Google

to see what comes up.

And then...

So Nagel...

THEY LAUGH

I think that's when I first saw the article,

before you ever told it to me.

I was scrolling through. I was like, "What?"

Yeah, yeah. They divulged too much.

You didn't need to know the play-by-play, you know.Yeah.

Target bathroom, it's all I know.

That didn't look too good.

It wasn't really truthfulness, you know.

It was fake news, Tyler.

Oh, nice reverse.

Don't worry. You weren't made in Target.

Oh, that's great. Thank you, Dad.

Yeah.

GPS:Your destination is on the left.

Reserved. Reserved. Reserved.

Reserved. Where's the guest parking?

Hey.Hi, Dad.

How are you?

What's going on?

Look who's here.

Oh, my gosh! A doctor and a ballerina.

Wow!

Come give me a hug, Zoe. Wow.

I have a boo-boo. Can you fix my boo-boo?

Cos you're Doc McStuffins.

I need... Who's gonna kiss my boo-boo?

I really did have a boo-boo. Here.

See? I got a blister.

How you doing?

I'm good. How are you?

Hey.How you doing?

I saw these two ads on Craigslist

of women looking for donors to help them have a child.

I don't think they were looking for a father figure.

I think they really just wanted sperm.

The baby's nap time.

Um, I just offered that as an option of where,

if you wanted me to play a role in the child's life,

I'm happy to do so.

And I responded and offered my help.

If I wanted him to be a friend-like figure, he would.

If I wanted him to be a father figure, he would.

Or just come around whenever,

whenever I need him or want him to be around.

She's not. She's not here. I don't see her.

He's the fun guy.

And that's exactly who I want him to be.

Yeah.Who's hitting me? Is that you hitting me?

We actually never thought we would have the amount of involvement

that we have with him...Right. ..now.

We didn't think we would want that.

We thought we were just getting a donor.

We were just getting, you know,

somebody who was going to help us create our child.

We have gained an extended family through the mums.

We spend a lot of time with each other.

We go on vacation together.

We have lots of outings and birthday parties.

So it's really been just triple the love.

Every time we meet a new person, it is extending our family

and it's pretty awesome because at this point,

like, you are choosing your family.

You know they say you can't choose who your family members are,

but you are.

Hey, you made it.

Hi.Hi.

Good to meet you.

You had some traffic. Sorry.

Yes.OK, cool.

Come on in.

I'm Brie. Nice to meet you.

Hi, I'm Saphhira. Nice to meet you, Sapphira.

I'm Yvonne. How are you? I'm Yvonne.

Pleasure...Zoe's mother.OK.

Here, take this baby just to see if you, you know.

Then put this here.

Right.

OK.Were you guys intimidated to come here?

No. No.we are very, very, very ready.

Like... Yeah.

How old are you guys, if you don't mind me asking?

I'm 28.28.

What type of relationship do you want Ari to have with the baby,

if any at all?

So this is the thing.

This was perfect because she kept saying,

"I want the dad to be in the kid's life."

I didn't want to settle for...

She did not want to do sperm bank at all.

And I'm like, I don't know how... That's going to be very hard

to find someone who doesn't really care, like, what we do,

but still be around.

I was like, "That's gonna be hard."

Like walk up to someone and be like,

"Hey, you want to be a sperm donor

"and then also be in the baby's life?"

So this just, like...It's perfect.

Right. Yeah.

I'm gonna get the show on the road.

Yeah, but how are you going to get it inside the...?

I can put it in this cup. I can put it in this.

And then you can put it in. You should use that cup.

This is like a Diva Cup?

Yeah. Lena.

Lena?Yeah? We have a name for it?

Yes.

OK. Nice.

At least it's not a guy's name.

That would be awkward for me, you know?

Hey.

You could put your legs up, your feet up, you know, relax.

Get comfy.

So when we tell the story of how the baby was conceived,

we'll say we did it

at this person's house that we just met.

SAPPHIRA LAUGHS OK.

It's like a stranger, but new family.

It was very comfortable, actually.

Yeah.I felt like we'd known them for a long time.

That's good.

So we had good, positive energy and Ari is great.

Mm-hm.

And the kids were great and the parents were great.

While you wash your hands...

I like that they were like mama bears for him.

It would really be great if we all, you know,

we're all close together.

So is this fate or destiny?

Destiny, because there are no coincidences.

It's getting big.

You want to blow bigger?Yeah.

OK. Now you want to pop it?

Yeah.Just touch here.

OK.

AIR HISSES

DOOR BEEPS

ALARM STOPS

OK.

MUSIC PLAYS SOFTLY IN BACKGROUND

PHONE CHIMES

BELL RINGS

What is the slope of this graph?

Is it going to be positive or negative?

Negative.For sure. Right.

So right off the bat we're going to eliminate

any of the positive choices.

Find out what you did that didn't get you the right answer, right.

Cos 65% of you struggled with this one.

Look at your notes and see what happened. Right.

And that's the whole point.

The idea is to learn from your mistakes.

Gordon.

What's cooking?

Do you want some popcorn, Gordon?

POPPING

MICROWAVE BEEPS

Well, that's some kind of flavoured popcorn, isn't it?

I think it's just butter.

Are you sure?

I don't know.

So I want to find out if this married couple's pregnant, right?

So I have to find out when I was in Kentucky,

which was in December.

That night, I met a married couple. So I gave her sperm.

And then I haven't heard from her since.

And then I'm going to find... Of course, there were no nothing...

No papers were signed, no anything, no agreement.

No nothing. Uh, no, of course not.

Yeah. You signed, "I will be responsible for the rest of my life

"to take care of this child for you,

"in the case that you, uh, disappear and don't like the eye colour."

You know I have a family court case March 1st.

Yeah, well...

Right and, uh...

And you're paying for that, and you still have a resolution.

Somebody, they went after money from yours also,

whether it was taken legally or not by the state, even,

you know, the in the meantime, you're out that money.

Even if it was inappropriate, you're out the money.

Yeah. My brothers pay more in Yeshiva tuition.

Yeah, well...

But they live with... These are people who they live with.

This is their immediate family

who they're actually immediate with, you know.

Uh, but look at my wall here.

Your wall? Yeah. I don't see any dollars falling off the wall.

I see dollars going into the wall.

I don't see dollars coming off the wall.

PRESENTER:Five of these women have sued Ari for child support.

Correct?I've been supporting nine children financially.

As a maths professor, that's tough. And sued by five? That's right?

And technically, all of them are entitled to child support.

It's the same as if he jumped in bed with somebody.

It's the same as a deadbeat dad or whatever you want to say.

He's on the hook legally,

which I think makes it all the more altruistic that he's doing this.

He definitely could end up with lots of lawsuits being filed

in different states

for child support and judgments against him

and his wages being garnished,

and, you know, his property being levied upon

and having a lot of financial problems...

I hope that doesn't happen.

..because of parents seeking child support.

It's chicken cutlets. That's without the bone.

Yes.Yes. Thank you.

Any?Yes, please.

PEOPLE CHATTER IN BACKGROUND

OK.

You want a red one as well?

You want the red ones?

Yes, please.

Uh, give me, like, a white bread.

I know.

Thank you.White bread...Yeah.

Something I can make grilled cheese for the kids.

This looks fancy.

So now I got garlic bread.

OK. Thank you.

Some months, it gets a little rough trying to budget for the month.

I'm always worried, you know, what if another mum sues me,

how am I going to make ends meet?

My housing situation isn't so great.

Most of the time I'm spending my, uh, time

and sleeping at an apartment in Brooklyn

with my three children and their mum.

Mummy's waiting for you downstairs.

Quick. I'm sending you with food.

Mummy wants you to go to church with her.

I don't want to go to church! You could tell that to Mummy.

Tell her you don't want to go.

I'm a full-time parent to Tyler and his two sisters.

Maybe not as full-time as my father was to me,

but it's probably more closer to what a full-time dad would do

than most of my other children.

Oh, wait. Hold on. She needs a jacket.

Um, Tyler.

Can you bring them down?

Are you gonna be upstairs?

Wait, hold on.

PHONE RINGS

OK. Tyler just left.

She doesn't want to go. She really doesn't want to go.

She's dressed. She has her coat on.

She doesn't want to go.

OK.

I'm not, I'm not. I just sent Tyler.

I just kicked Tyler and everyone outside of the apartment.

They're all outside. OK?

TYLER:I live with my mum, my two full sisters,

and then my dad is usually with us.

Sometimes he'll bunk in my room, sometimes he's on the couch,

sometimes he's in my sisters' room.

Yeah, it's flexible like that.

My mom doesn't really approve of most of the things my dad does,

and so it leads to a lot of fights.

But until he started having other kids

and helping all these families,

there was no real arguments that I remember.

And I think...

I think I was conceived out of love.

I'm sure they loved each other at one point,

but the things my dad is doing

goes against her guiding beliefs and values

and then, uh, it caused them to split apart, basically.

This is the place.

Got to give him a good haircut because his mum's been giving him

the haircuts until now, and he's still a virgin.

I think maybe he gets a nice, professional haircut,

maybe he'll get some action, you know?

Dad, you don't have to try to embarrass me, OK?

You do enough of that through your name alone.

Uh, do you, uh, get bullied in school?

The only thing people can use to, like, roast me

at the lunch table is you.

It's always related to you.

And talk about Target bathrooms.

You know, if we pass a Target bathroom,

"Hey, Tyler."

ARI CHUCKLES

Nice.

Oh, my school does this, like, Japan trip.

Really? Does that cost money?

Yeah, yeah, a lot.

Oh. Yeah, Japan's expensive.

Do you mind...? Um, if you go to Japan,

do you mind taking a little vial?

It's just 3ml, so it's under the allowance.

In my backpack.No, you can't keep it in your backpack

cos you got to keep it at body temperature.

So it would be better if you stick it up your tuchus

just to keep it warm.

But I'll make sure to seal it tight.

OK... HE LAUGHS

It all started with Tyler, even though he wasn't a donation.

My first child was just an accident.

I just met a girl at a club and we hooked up

and she was pregnant

and obviously it was complicated,

and I tried to explain to her that my parents may not accept him

or me or my lifestyle.

Ultimately, she made the decision

that she wanted to have him regardless.

And I think that, in many ways,

changed how I was going to live my life...

..being an Orthodox Jewish male

in the lifestyle

that all my brothers and sisters were being raised.

JAUNTY MUSIC PLAYS ON PIANO

Not yet.

Not yet.

Now.

THEY BOTH PLAY

ARI: What about your folks? Did they tell you to stop?

HESHI:My parents?

No, they were thrilled with every child.

They were thrilled?

I would be thrilled with every grandchild, of course.

Almost.

As long as they are the right faith.

Picky, picky, picky.

Look at the difference between you and your brothers.

You could see the difference.

I grew up as a modern Orthodox Jewish, uh...

In a Jewish family in Monsey, New York.

It's one of the largest Orthodox Jewish communities in the world.

All I really knew was just other Orthodox Jews.

All my friends were Orthodox Jews, all male.

So it was very, very sheltered.

Um, almost like a cult.

But, you know, you don't realise when you're growing up in it.

It was, like, so many restrictions, a lot of davening, a lot of shul,

a lot of learning.

I was a pretty devout Jew my whole childhood.

I think ultimately, if not for Tyler,

I probably would be an Orthodox Jew,

married with a very traditional family.

I don't think I would have chosen

this untraditional, unorthodox family.

Tyler, there's your bathing suit.

Hold on. Put this in there too.

You almost ready?

I think I might be good.

Ready to hit the road.

ROCK MUSIC

Hello? ON PHONE:Hello.

Hey. How you doing?

OK. Did you just call me?

I did, I did, I was trying to reach you.

I was actually gonna head to Florida, but then I realised

it's so close to 2.00,

I think I'm gonna hit Mel's for a minute.

Um, so, uh, are you coming?

Yeah, I'm bringing a bottle of wine.

Oh, a bottle of wine. Perfect. That's good.

I want to have a... I want to finish a bottle of wine

before the road trip so I could sleep good. You know?

What? Who's driving?

Tyler.

I told you, he can't drive out of New York!

He's underage. They're not going to lock him up.

No, no, no, they'll arrest you.

Me?

They're not going to think I'm the dad.

TYLER LAUGHS

Our Florida vacations, they're usually time for us to get

some one-on-one time and hang out with each other

and get a lot closer to each other,

and so I have a lot of fun on all of them,

so it's really something I look forward to.

LIVELY MUSIC

I could do it behind the back.

Can you do that?

Wait a minute. This one looks like more fun.

Feel this.

Get it in, Tyler.

Come on.

ARI GROANS

I don't think I've ever been live at the scene.

THEY CHUCKLE

That's one way to look at it.

Hey, how are you doing?

Oh, good. Are you leaving your kids in the car

or in the play place? They're right there.

Why don't you bring them into the play place?

Do you want me to bring them in there?

Let them go play in the play place. Come on.

You're looking good.

What?

I shouldn't say that?

I gotta... I gotta use the visuals,

you know, any visuals I can, you know?

All right.

NO AUDIBLE DIALOGUE

MUSIC PLAYS SOFTLY ON SPEAKERS

Got it? OK. Sure.

Yeah, it looks good. Looked like a strong positive.

GORDON:So here's the deal, Ari. The question is,

can you stop if you wanted to?

So the question is, I don't think you can stop even if you wanted to.

Hmm...

I think you should take a one month,

just not even, not a year,

take a one-month hiatus.

For one month, you will not offer any services.

Just for a month.It would probably be really good for you.

One month for today. See if...

You know, you'll build up.

You'll get a little strength in your...No, but.....self.

No. I'm going Argentina next month.

Next month, next month.

No, no, that's within the next 30 days, you know.

Well, that's not...not acceptable.

Yeah, but wait a minute. First of all,

it's the summertime in Argentina. So?

So still...still no.

Why does summertime have to do with babies?

Is this making babies or you're just looking for vacations,

you know, what is it?

Are you helping things or is it just another way of having a good time?

What you've got to do is stop doing it.

That's what you got to stop doing. Just stop.

Stop.Really.Stop for a month.

See if you can even... I could... Nobody thinks you could even do it.

Nobody thinks that you have enough control to say no,

because that's what it looks like. I have very good self control.

It's like all of a sudden you can't say no to anybody, right?

No.What, are you such a weakling,

you have such weak character that you can't say no?

I have very good self control, you know.

Unfortunately, we have a feeling that you can't do it.

And that's...that's the illness. And that's the illness

that we're concerned about.

So who's going to service all these clientele? Tyler?

Problem is, is that he broke his arm.

You're a righty, aren't you?

I am.How are you going to write?

Ejaculate is the question. How is he going to follow my footsteps?

Stop it.No.Stop it.

Here's one case where he certainly don't want

like father, like son.

You know what... See all these hotels?

We're not gonna have to stay in a hotel.

I could go all over the country, I'll never need to get a hotel.

There's something nice about that, you know.

You ever want to tour the country, you got a free place to stay

in over a dozen states.

Mm-hm.

Come on, that's a little bit of a perk, no?

Is paying half your salary in child support also a perk?

Well, listen,

uh, you're costing me a pretty penny, you know?

Yeah.Those Walmart shoes that you buy,

that's what's costing you?

DOOR OPENS

Hey.

How you doing?

This is my son, Tyler.

Hello, Tyler.

Hey.

INDISTINCT CHATTER

I gotta do lefty hand.

Here you go.

Thank you.Thank you.

OK, I'll be back lickety-split.

OK.

Hello.Oh, hey.

Oh.Yes.There you go.

Thank you.Sure.

If you want to use the couch to lie down when you're done,

or the bedroom, you can.

OK.

PHONE CHIMES

Kanesha misses us.

Kanesha is the one that went to prison?

No, that's her partner or her ex-partner.

And they both have kids? They each have kids by me, yeah.

They had one together, but then they broke up,

so I gave her one of her own.

I gave her two of her own.

The first one died at five weeks old.

Does that affect you at all when they die or...?

Sure, of course.

If you were dead, I...

I think you'd make jokes about having 53 more.

That's what I think you'd do.

Well, that it is nice to have all that insurance.

You know, obviously it would be more devastating if you were my only one,

but the fact that I do have 53 backups, you know.

Are you saying that to me?!

What?

Obviously, I'm hoping you don't die, you know,

but if you did, it would probably be less devastating than maybe

if you were my only child, you know?

I feel like if a softer person,

which out of 53 others,

there's going to be many... That are more sensitive?

Yeah, 100%.

They're going to be, uh,

probably going through a lot of trauma because of it.

If they had to deal with the same things I'm dealing with,

it would probably be a lot different.

Oh, look at this one.

Look at this one.

Can you pick up this one?

That's too big. This one is beautiful.

Look at that one.

That one right there.

I always knew that I wanted children,

but I didn't know how to proceed.

This one is also nice.

Look at this.

As a lesbian, it was just very difficult because, you know,

it's just not an option for me to be with a man intimately.

So I was looking for other routes,

and that's when we decided to use Ari.

Having two mixed kids, I have a different fear

that I never knew that I would have.

And it's more of them not being accepted on either side.

One of the mums sent me an article with a picture of us

at Aria's second birthday party,

and they were talking about all of the mums in the picture

and talking about we only wanted the kids

with this white man just so we can erase the black race,

and they don't even understand, you know, the half of it

or the struggle or, you know, what we have to go through

to get these children.

SAPPHIRA:You like your flower?

Look. You smell it.

It smells so good.

These are African marigolds.

They're cool, aren't they?

Some of the criticism that I've seen is coming from other black people

that don't like the fact that he's biracial.

This is something that I think black people have dealt with

for a long time now.

If they decide to date outside of their race or do anything

that doesn't seem like the black thing to do, right.

I think it's ridiculous because race is a social construct

that people have made up.

It's very sad that people can't see the beauty in it.

All we can really do is raise him to be a part of that change.

All right.

Come on.

He can be a bridge between two worlds.

The majority of Ari's children can be a bridge between two worlds.

Yay!Yay!

Let's go.

It's raining.

You ready? You want me to pick you up?

Yeah!OK. Let's go.

One, two, three. Up.

If people could walk a mile in my shoes to see

what I went through to become a mum,

then they would have a better understanding.

Is it better?

Good.

Um...

I mean, I was pregnant prior to, um, me reaching out to Ari.

I was pregnant three times before,

and they ended up being miscarriage.

And with Ari, it instantly worked.

I got two babies out of Ari.

I'll hold your hand.Come on.

I'll hold your hand. Ready?

One. Two. Three. Jump! Wooo!

You did it.

Good job. I'm proud of you.

I do wish Ari was a little more present.

And I would want him to help someone else out there

who wants to become a mum,

but I also feel like

it is taking away from my kids

and the other children that he has.

He can't just be there for all of them.

Hey, what are you doing?

LAUGHTER

Oh-ho-ho-ho!

Got me right in the face.

Hey!

TYLER:It's a weird feeling having 70-plus future siblings.

I think that when I grow older and they grow older

and we could really have some kind of connection, um,

maybe my opinions would change, but...

..it's hard for me to connect with them.

It's certainly a lot to be the first-born.

You know, you're basically put as the poster boy

for a service changing people's lives.

Good to see you. Good to see you, too.

My son Tyler.

Hi.Nice to meet you.

I'm teaching him the tricks of the trade, you know.

I can't give you a handshake.

It's all right. You can give her a hug.

It's cold, you know.

There we go. You can see how you like having a kid of mine.

See if it's fun, if he's well-behaved, you know.

Oh, this is nice.

The light...Yeah. It's not working.

It's not working?

Um...Where's the switch? Let me see.

You might have to put this in here.

I don't see a bulb.

I don't need the light. You don't need it?

No.You sure?Yeah.

I'm sure.All right.

I got good aim. SHE LAUGHS

Come on, you don't want to take a picture? Get in there.

I'll give you a... I'll take a snap.

Huh?I don't care for it.

Oh, come on!

It's too embarrassing?

I just don't think it's cool.

You don't think it's cool?

It's stupid.

ARI LAUGHS

Cuatro.

Tres.

Dos.

Hola. Como estas? How are you?

Wonderful.OK.

It's a pleasure to have you here in America TeVe, Channel 41.

So we are going to start with the questions.

I read in an article that you are planning to retire at 45 years old.

Is that true?

You know, I'm 44 now, so that will be in one year.

A lot of the women that I've already helped want another child

for, uh, like a sibling.

So it would be difficult to say no to them.

But I think there are some additional health risks

as a male gets older

where there's an increased risk for certain things.

So that really would ultimately be the time that I'd stop helping.

Maybe my son who's here,

maybe he'll take over and then I'll be able to retire.

OK. So thank you very much for your time.

It's a pleasure to have you here in America TeVe.

And for us, that's all.

OK. My pleasure.

You already have two, so you're good. You don't need me.

You got the boy. You got the girl, right?

Yes. I don't need you. OK, good.

It's good to know I have one more year.

Oh, one more year.

Cos you are going to...

Oh, I see, yeah.

..45 or not?

I don't know.

No?I don't know.

I don't know. You know? Tell me you don't know.

I didn't know... I didn't know I was going to have 54 children

when I started. I'm making it up as I go along, you know?

I know.Mm-hm.

So, anyway, if I need your help, I'm going to call you.

I think it would be a cute baby.

Yeah.

THEY BOTH LAUGH

GUNSHOT

This girl messaged me. How should I respond, Tyler?

What did she say?

"I'm going to have a baby in three months

"and I can't lie, I'm nervous.

"He's going to be mine.

"And I have to grow up a little person

"who is going to fully depend on me.

"And what happens if I suck as a mother?"

Just tell her you have her back. Oh, good one.

But that would be a lie.

Oh.

Yeah. Let's not...

I like to underpromise and overdeliver.

Why create all these lies if they're just going to go

through psychological trauma for the rest of it?

You'd have all these happy smiles in one place,

but that doesn't get rid of the sad things

that other families have had to endure.

So why even do that?

If you see the problems that it creates, why do you continue

to make more and spread out the time...

..even smaller?

You already know what's happening.

It's not like you don't see it.

Well...

..I'm a pretty hands-on dad with you.

I'm doing OK so far, right?

You're happy, you're healthy.

You're doing well in school.

Do you credit that to yourself?

Listen, I think you could take a lot of the credit for it, clearly,

but...

..I'd like to think I played a role.

I think you might be the biggest reason why I'm not better than that.

You can make many brothers and sisters,

which you've obviously done,

but you only really have one dad, right?

That's not easily replaceable.

But you've shown that brothers and sisters very much are.

It's...it's hard growing up with a father figure

only some of the time, you know?

If you go into a commitment thinking,

"Hey, he's going to be here all the time,"

and then he's not,

it's disappointing.

Great trip. That was awesome.

Um...

Maybe creating more kids is more important to him

than spending time with his actual kids.

It seems like it's really taken control of his life.

And that's not really something I like

or the people close to him like.

I would rather that it never existed.

I look at Tyler, and maybe in many ways,

my father was a better father to me than I was to him.

I know what a great dad looks like.

I had a great dad and he's very, very involved.

And he was there every day I was growing up,

and he was laying me in bed and telling me bedtime stories.

I don't really get to do that with all my kids.

You know, sometimes they're spread out across 20 different states.

So...

I don't think I'm a great dad,

but I'm doing the best I can.

Dad, I was just calling you.

HESHI:You're in the airport already?

I don't have any checked bags.

Oh, OK.Just two carry-ons.

Do you want to go to the bar mitzvah tonight?

It's up to you.

I would like to go, so I'm happy for you to come and keep me company.

Yeah, whatever you want to do.

How are you doing, Dad?

Good to see you.

THEY SING

INDISTINCT CHATTER

THEY TOAST

Wouldn't you like to have all of your kids in one room together?

Yeah, yeah, but that's going to be challenging because...

I understand it's challenging, but ideally...

Ideally, that would be nice. Yeah, of course.

And wouldn't you like to have all of your kids

and all of your nieces and nephews in one room together?

I'm sure that must be painful for you.

Well, a lot of my kids get together with my nieces.

Not a lot.

Yeah.

None of the family are happy with what you're doing.

Nobody. You could have been a regular father with a wife.

And you can have as many kids as you want with the same wife.

That would have been... Everybody would have been happy.

Everybody would have been happy.

You were always different.

From day one.

So you can't even blame me. Really? Day one?

Well, I...I somehow blame myself.

I blame myself

because I didn't give you the attention that you needed.

She looks nice.

Yeah, looks like a normal person.

Now, how do you know she's not going to start off with you?

She's the, uh... She came all the way. Very far.

Oh, listen, I would go far

to get full support from a very wealthy professor.

So...

I think you should ask her a few questions.

Nice to meet you.

I'm here with my dad.

Nice to meet you. Hello.

That's my mum.Hey, Mum.

Do you have her eyes or your dad's eyes?

Uh, all of us have blue eyes.

Oh, OK.

I never brought my parents along... It's super, like...

..but we happened to be here.

They come here for the winters,

so I get to spend quality time with them, right.

OK, good. So you want to get started?

Which...?

My mother was really mad at me, like, "Oh, my gosh, don't do it."

But maybe now that she met you,

she maybe would feel a little more comfortable.

She's very against what I do. I have no idea.

Yeah, but anyway, sorry to put you through it, but I hope

that wasn't too awkward.

I don't know how I'm going to behave, Ari.

I really... You reached a low that I can't go beyond.

You really reached a new low.

And I told you, I wrote you a letter a long time ago.

"Stop or else I won't have nothing to do..."

It's about 54, 55. Why does that make a difference?

It makes a difference to me. I don't want any more. I don't want to hear...

Yeah, but why does it make a difference to you?

Cos it's over. I don't want to.

The reason why you started... I'm not doing it to...

The first one was a mistake, and you were sad about it,

and then you just went with it because you were stuck.

You made a mistake and maybe you could have gotten away with that,

but you kept going and going and going.

And it's like that.

I don't think you ever thought about it.

Why do you have to keep doing it?

Yeah, but how is it affecting you?

What's your problem? Why are you doing this? Why?

Well, he's different. He's certainly different.

I think, uh...Different.

I think if you look at the rest of the world and they saw...

Everybody...

No. I see what you're doing with your religion and saying,

oh, my God, we have to, you know...

All the... I don't even know where to begin,

but it's a cuckoo, cuckoo religion.

This whole pidyon haben that we just experienced

and then just what's involved in Shabbat and how crazy it is

with the yatzar...

..and nobody knows. And the fact that I learned hours and hours of

"if a bull falls into a pit in public property"

and I'm like...

HE LAUGHS ..just what you put me through.

Most people would consider that crazy.

I think you're very misguided.

I don't think... I don't think God wants us to hate other people.

I don't hate anybody. Sounds like you do.

Sounds like you hate me.

Well, I'm getting upset at you. Yeah.

I don't hate you.

Well, I don't hate you. I love you even if you disagree with me.

I'm not hurting anybody.

I'm a little embarrassing. You are hurting.

I think you are hurting. Who is he hurting?

I think he's hurting every single kid that comes into the world that he's thought of.

Well, you haven't met them,

so how would you say that I'm hurting them?

I don't know. Tyler was here this past week.

I didn't bring him by.

I don't want him. Don't ever bring any of your kids.

I didn't, exactly. You know better than that.

You don't have a real kid that you really love.

He does. He does.

I think I love my kids more than you love me.

I never... HE LAUGHS

Certainly I tell them nicer things.

I wish I wouldn't have had Ari.

You really think that?

You're a wacko. Nobody's like you.

You're really not normal.

I'm worried that you're not... There's some kind of loose screws.

My mother, um...

I love her very much,

but obviously we have different views.

I think she's very ashamed of what I do.

I don't think she's accepting of this modern family

that I helped create.

She reminds me of that every time we talk, you know.

I feel like children that I have in Israel

would be more palatable to my parents.

I know that they're ashamed of my lifestyle,

and perhaps bringing children in the Holy Land would be something

that's a little easier for them to swallow.

And maybe they could have some joy from some of the grandkids

that I'm giving them.

OVER PA:Ladies and gentlemen, please fasten your seat belt.

We'll be landing shortly in Ben Gurion Airport, Israel.

The local time is 8.30 in the morning

and the weather is nice and sunny.

Hey!

You look so nice.

Let's go into the bushes and make a baby. Right now.

SHE LAUGHS Good to see you.

This is a nice car.

We can make a baby in the backseat here.

This is very romantic. I want to make a baby right here. Right.

What's cooking in there?

I am the professional ejaculator.

In Chabad, it's called mitzvah night.

This is the day you're supposed to make a baby.

Thank you. Wish me luck.

Hopefully we're going to be family. Come on.

Hi.

SOFTLY: Silent mode.

I'll be five minutes.

LINE RINGS

Tyler.

Do you know what's funny is, is that I pay your cellphone bill.

I gave you unlimited high speed data,

and you still never call me.

Really?Yeah.

I have to call you?

Yeah, call, check in, see how I'm doing.

"How's everything? Is everything all right?"

I have your Snapchat stories, and I can just watch those,

see all the highlights.

Yeah, I'm really good about posting.

You know, Tyler, 2019 was my breakout year.

I had 15 children born.

Is that a record?

That's my record. It's my personal best year.

But, of course, best being quantity. Quality best,

that would obviously...

We know what year that was, right?

Uh, yeah.

It was... It was whatever year you were born.

Thank you, Dad.

Yeah.

Do you do it because it's a philanthropic...Act?..act.

Instead of giving money, you give sperm.

I get a lot of joy out of it as well.

Joy. Of course you have joy.

Who doesn't get joy from masturbating? Excuse me.

PRESENTER:He's mailing sperm!

That's technically engaging in the process

of operating a sperm bank

and most states have health and safety laws

that prohibit individuals who are not licensed

from collecting sperm, from soliciting.

Good to see you both.

He calls himself a donor, but he's really not a donor.

They don't give their sperm to somebody at Starbucks in a cup

and have them transfer it in the bathroom into their vagina.

That's just not normal.

The FDA wants to shut him down.

They're saying that it's unsafe.

You know, you obviously have to go through this entire system

to make sure that your sperm is clean and safe.

The world's governments are scrambling, as we speak,

to figure out whether this is legal or not.

The FDA raided the bedroom of one of these donors

and has determined that

he's essentially a one-man sperm bank,

and he's illegal.

I think the best movies have the sad endings, you know?

HE SIGHS

Yeah.

Listen, this movie's about my life, OK?

It's not... It's not ending.

Yeah, I think it would be nice to maybe do a retirement party.

Boom. You know?

We're shutting the door to the sequel,

but I think that's...

It could be nice to ejaculate just for fun.

HE LAUGHS

Yeah.

Although it's nice to have a purpose as well.

MESHI READS PRAYER

SILENTLY MOUTHS PRAYER

HE CONTINUES READING

Ay, ay, ay.

I daven for you every day.

Three times a day.

Mm-hm.You don't even know.

You're davening three times a day for me?

Or for all your kids?

What do they need? They're good.

They're happy. You're the only one that's not happy.

I'm miserable.

You always say you're happy, but somehow, deep down,

I don't believe you 100%.

You're always laughing. Hahaha.

I don't do any work, I don't do...

THEY BOTH LAUGH

I don't know what the truth is.

Happiness is not your life circumstances.

Happiness is an outlook.

It is in your...Yeah.

So I'm happy like my brothers are happy.

You know?

We're all happy.

If not for you, talking about mummy,

she would have...

Her life would be picture-perfect.

Yeah.

Her life... What else have I got to pray for?

My health is pretty good and my job is very good

and my wife is OK.

THEY LAUGH

What have I got to pray for?

There's only... There's only one thorn in my side.

That's it.Mm-hm.

ARI PRAYS SOFTLY

What do you pray for, Ari?

ARI SINGS PRAYER

Light all the candles.

Come light the candles.

HE CONTINUES SINGING

Everybody.

THEY SING

All right.

Whoo!

I never really wanted to promote this multicultural family.

Ultimately, in the end, I never really chose who I should donate to.

I basically chose to help whoever asks,

so I didn't really ask too many questions.

Well, are you heterosexual? Are you...?

What's your orientation? Or what's your...

..credit score?

You know, I was really helping whoever asked.

So I wasn't really choosing.

A lot of the women that I helped were ostracised from their family,

maybe because of their orientation.

And ultimately, the family that they ended up adopting

was the one that I gave them.

I think in some ways, going through a similar struggle

with obviously my family where they're not as accepting

of my lifestyle, even if it's not because of my orientation,

but certainly I did create my own family,

a very unorthodox one, but...

It's my own family, you know.

Hi-yah!

CHILDREN LAUGH AND CHATTER

We should have, like, the mum squad, like, sperm database,

where they have to register before they take his sperm.

So you know who is possibly related to your child.

I never want my child to bring a woman or a man home

and I'd be like, "Wait a minute.

"Why do you look so much like my child?"

Like, hold on, let's call Ancestry.com and get this file

and see where you came from.

But you still have to also consider

that he should not be donating to so many people in one week.

The chances of them actually getting pregnant is lessened

because you're not handling it the same way that you used to.

Ashley, you have two kids. You're giving me advice?

I have 53. THEY LAUGH

You're going to tell me how to do my job?

I think when we started this whole thing,

we never expected for Ari to have this many children.

Oh, my God. For Ari to have this many children,

for Elijah to have this many siblings,

for us to know this many mums,

never in a million years,

we never imagined that there would be almost 100 siblings.

100 siblings.

And I mean, Ari wasn't the Sperminator.

Ari wasn't, you know, in the news. Ari wasn't anything when we met him.

He was just a donor who helped a couple of families,

and that was it.

In his mind and in his heart,

he wants to share his love equally with all of his kids,

but with more kids that are being born,

with him helping more and more women out there,

the time is just going to be shorter and shorter and shorter

with the kids that he has now

and with the future kids to come.

I think at one point he has to just call it quits.

ARI: Uh, OK. That's good.

Everyone make a sad face.

Really, really sad face.

Corey, say cheese.

Cheese.

Look at the camera. Cheese.

GORDON:You didn't keep your word about stopping at 45.

You didn't keep your word about stopping for 30 days.

So these are two significant milestones

that you have not been able to meet.

And your son, who you live with, has also asked you to stop

and you've completely ignored that.

And he's told you it's very painful for him

and he is not comfortable with that.

And he doesn't like being in that situation.

That's the best gift that my parents gave me

is they gave me all my brothers and sisters.

I got four brothers and two sisters that I love to death.

That's right.So I should deny my kids their brothers and sisters?

No. Your kids... Your kids are telling you they don't want more.

Your son is telling you he doesn't want more.

Well, he's not the only kid. There's a lot of other kids.

You gonna ask the two-year-olds

and the three-year-olds and the four-year-olds?

You're going to ask them? They're not siblings to them.

They are somebody out in another continent, in another country,

almost on another planet.

Who made you the creator of a new nation?

Who made you the designated donor?

"I've been influenced by two almost opposite personalities.

"One grew up in Trinidad and Tobago with a big family and parents

"that were always fighting.

"She relied on faith to get through her struggles.

"The other grew up in New York with a big house, a big family,

"and two parents that loved each other.

"One is a black Christian, yet the other is a white Jew.

"Both are my parents.

"My dad continued to travel the world

"and appear in the news every Father's Day,

"while spreading his seed to women in need.

"Very quickly, two siblings rapidly turned to 70.

"My mum was always telling me to not be like my dad,

"and my dad was always telling me to not be like my mum.

"But I couldn't bring myself to disappoint either of them.

"So I ended up hiding most of my thoughts and emotions

"on the inside.

"Most people call it crazy. I call it life."

There's a certain portrayal of my dad that he's a hero,

that he's only helpful and as helpful as he is,

it leads to turmoil in other places.

I don't think I need to be a part of it,

and I...I don't know if I want to be a part of it.

But I...

I want him to be happy.

I care for him. I love him to death,

and I think it's OK if he just follows his own heart.

Hey. How you doing?

Good to see you. Good to see you.

OK, terrific. So you're ovulating, huh?

Yeah.How old are you?

I'm 18.18. Oh, wow.

Oh, you're my son's age.

AWKWARD LAUGH

Oh, very nice. OK, well, you're young and fertile, so that's nice.

The supermarket. Is this where we're gonna go?

They have a restroom in here? Yeah, it's in the back.

OK. Do you have a cup or something?

Yeah, I have two. This is two cups.

THEY LAUGH

I guess I worry a little bit about my kids.

You know, I want to do the best for them

and worry about whether I'm making the right decision.

I certainly feel like I am,

but, you know, you don't really know.

Time will tell

whether I'm doing the right thing.

I think it's a little early to say.

You know,

a fish will lay thousands of eggs -

and there's nothing controversial about it -

just hoping that some of those eggs survive.

I think in many ways I'm doing something similar,

trying to leave behind a legacy.

longest writing on the wall

just from seeing how

then came spring

The Sperminator in action.

what is over

I'm only here till Friday. We're gonna make a baby this week.

Oh, take me to the doctor.

on board...

THEY LAUGH

Yeah!

on board

too many babies on board...

THEY LAUGH

on board

on board

wait around for normal people

don't wait around too long...

Oh. Oh!

THEY LAUGH

Oh, I knew that was coming. I shouldn't have opened my mouth.

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