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[Dr. Ruth laughing]
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OK, plug it in again.
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What's her name? Alexis.
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Wait. What's‐‐ Is her name Alexa?
Alexa?
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Alexa, am I going to get a boyfriend?
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[Alexa] Sorry, I don't know that.
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I don't know either. Unplug her!
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If she doesn't know that,
what good is she? [laughing]
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Alexa, who is Dr. Ruth?
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[Alexa]
A towel is a piece of absorbent fabric
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or paper used for drying or wipinga body or a surface.
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[laughing] No.
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Alexa, who is Dr. Ruth Westheimer?
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[Alexa] Ruth Westheimer,better known as Dr. Ruth,
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is a German‐born Jewish immigrantto the United States
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who became a fixturein late night television
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and a major pop culture figure
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as a sex therapist,media personality and author.
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Rafi!
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Did you hear? She knows who I am!
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OK, I think I'm going to keep her.
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She is here with all the answers.
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I love her so much,
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the goddess of good sex,
Dr. Ruth Westheimer.
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[applause]
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Dr. Ruth!
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She talks about the penis
like it's a cooking show.
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First of all, take the man's penis between
your fingers, knead the bread‐‐ No.
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Dr. Ruth, is it all right
for a man to make sounds
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while he's having sex?
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Certainly it is all right,
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as long as you don't wake up your wife.
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[audience laughing]
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I am going to make
you say "vagina" and "clitoris"
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because I always hear you
talk about penis.
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Can you say that word again?
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‐"Erection?"
‐Yes.
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‐Yes.
‐Say it a little bit louder.
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"Erection!"
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This is like a cable version
of Mr. Rogers or something, you know.
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It's like, "can you say clitoris?"
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Dr. Ruth, does size matter‐‐
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[Dr. Ruth] Nope.
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It does not really?
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Size has nothing to do...
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[Howard]
Really?
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...with the sexual satisfaction
of a woman.
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If you do nothing else via your television
and radio programs,
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you educate people to
the fact that they're not alone
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‐because they have a sexual problem.
‐I do.
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But you have
changed sex for America.
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Don't you tell me that it's less good now.
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[Jerry] No, it's better now.
Everyone knows it.
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Don't just sit there and suffer.
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Don't fake it.
Don't be unhappy and frustrated.
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But do something about it.
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‐[man] Hello, my love.
‐[Dr. Ruth] Hey, there.
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‐How are you doing?
‐OK, you're going to go on camera.
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‐Awesome.
‐All right.
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That is the doctor, she's my love.
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‐Thank you.
‐That's my love.
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‐You too, come here.
‐Of course, of course.
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Both of you here.
You'll be on camera. Thank you.
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There is a stuka. All right!
And there is a film crew coming,
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so close my bedroom, I don't want Ryan
to be in there.
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[indiscernible conversation]
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People, here, have some cookies.
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I've lived in this apartmentfor 54 years.
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Rob, take some cookie.
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Once I started to do television,
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people said,"Why don't you move?"
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But this is a neighborhood of immigrantsand I said,
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“No, I'm very comfortable here.”
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Did you call your mother?
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[phone ringing]
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Hi, there! Hello? Yeah.
[speaking in Hebrew]
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‐Ya.
‐[phone ringing]
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OK. [speaking in Hebrew]
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‐Shabbat Shalom.
‐[phone ringing]
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OK? Ciao Ciao. Bye Bye.
[speaking in Hebrew]
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[in English] Bye bye. Hello?
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Yeah, and I just came back from doing
Good Morning America.
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It went very very well.
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Yes,
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find it online and I'll be there 6:30.
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OK.
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There is no such thing as retiring for me.
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And I'm very fortunate.
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I have a ministerof communications, Pierre.
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I tell everybody, if you wantto get to me, call Pierre.
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[phone ringing]
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[Pierre]
Hi, Ruth!
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[Dr. Ruth] All right! You did send memy calendar, thank you.
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Right.
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[Pierre] I've worked with Ruth sincethe beginning of her television career.
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That's 36 years now.
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Was it Stan Lee?
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[Pierre] I would love to retire,
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but Dr. Ruth won't retire.
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Her calendar is jam packed.
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It's nonstop.
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So, we talk quite often,
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it can be as many as 25‐30 times a day.
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Most people can't keep upwith Dr. Ruth because she doesn't stop.
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She's teaching two courses,one at Hunter College,
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and another atTeacher's College at Columbia University.
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[Dr. Ruth] Despite the research
of Kinsey, Masters
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and Johnson and Helen Singer‐Kaplan,
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there is still a lot of work to be done.
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On Monday, October 2nd,
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you are flying to Boston
for the Forbes 30 Under 30 event.
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You give her an orgasm, if you
don't know how to do that
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‐I'll teach you that next time.
‐[laughing]
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On Wednesday the 21st
you are leaving for Boulder, Colorado,
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for the air force academy.
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I see a short person over there.
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I have to tell you that short people
make the best lovers.
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[Pierre] She still doesguest lectures.
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She's got a newspaper columnfor Time Magazine.
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She's still writing books.
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Can you see it, David?
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I think this is number 40.
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[Pierre] There's three booksthat will come out in 2018.
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Hot off the press!
Roller-Coaster Grandma.
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So, on Friday the 12th,
you're doing Good Morning America.
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Dr. Ruth, my boyfriend
spends more time on his smartphone
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than visiting with me.
Is it a fix or a nix?
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‐Nix it!
‐Nix?
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[Pierre] On Sunday, you're playingthe queen at the medieval festival.
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I want you to see that
I'm holding the King's hand.
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[laughing]
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Whoever is applauding the loudest,
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I promise good sex
for the rest of your life.
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‐[audience cheering]
‐Let's have an applause.
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[Pierre]
If Ruth doesn't have something,
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she works at making sure it's busy.
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And it's one of the things thatshe's always giving advice about,
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get yourself out there
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and meet people.
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She has always been like this.
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Just constantly going.
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And then on June 4th,
she's gonna be celebrating her 90 years.
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‐[Dr. Ruth] Bye.
‐[security guard] Bye‐bye.
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[Dr. Ruth] Bye‐bye in the rain.
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[Dr. Ruth] OK, Cliff?
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OK.
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‐All right.
‐All right.
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So, when we took all the tapes
and put them on hard drives,
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this is what they are,
so there's hundreds of shows on these‐‐
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[Dr. Ruth] So my whole career
is on these little boxes?
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[Cliff]
Exactly.
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But you do know that I could
never play that without you here.
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‐I know.
‐I don't know which button to push,
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but I do enjoy it!
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[Cliff] All right,
you wanna see some of these?
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[Dr. Ruth] Yeah.
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The woman known as“Grandma Freud”
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has earned millions of devoted fans
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simply by talking graphically
and endlessly about sex.
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If you don't wanna hear
the kind of things she says,
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please consider this fair warning.
Not everyone approves of what she does.
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[man] Ruth, I am placing you under arrest.
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[crowd groans]
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[Diane Sawyer] This is what happenedat Oklahoma State University.
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Someone in the audience troubled byRuth Westheimer's sexually explicit talk
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tried to make a citizen's arrest.
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It was just another day in the lifeof Dr. Ruth,
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the nation's most popular sex therapist.
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Hello, you are on the air.
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‐[man] Uh, Dr. Ruth?
‐Hello?
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[man] I'd like to get your opinionon marital aids...
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‐Yes.
‐...like vibrators and such.
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Does your wife use a vibrator?
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‐[man] No.
‐Would she want to use one?
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‐Uh, I'm not sure.
‐You're not sure.
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Uh, would you like to see her use one?
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‐Yeah.
‐OK, go out and buy one.
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[man laughing] OK.
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[John]
When we went on the air in 1984
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there was no one as explicitabout sexuality as Ruth.
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You have a certain list of wordsyou can't say.
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Well, we said them.
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And then let him insert his penis
into the vagina from behind.
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The reason I am saying from behind
is so that the clitoris should be exposed,
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so that either you or he
can stimulate the clitoris to orgasm.
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[Greg] Younger people don'tunderstand the controversy.
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She was always sayingthere is no such thing as normal.
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We are all normal.
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Ruth was on the forefront of that
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and she gave us permission
to talk about that.
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I think it's wonderful that people can ask
you these things
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that they never would have dared
to ask even 10 years ago.
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[man] Lately when my girlfriendand I have, um, been having intercourse,
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I've been ejaculatingright after intercourse begins, and‐‐
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You mean as soon as you are entering
into the vagina?
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[man] Just a little bit.
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[Greg] She was very carefulto make sure
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that her professional credentialswere always evident.
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She taught at Columbia University,at Princeton,
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and she was a licensed sex therapist.
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So it worked, and we did almostfive hundred shows [laughing].
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I think it has something to do with my not
being tall and blonde and gorgeous.
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And because I'm an older woman,
very often they say,
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“If only my mother, if only my grandmother
could talk like that.”
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Thank You.
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Thank you, from your mouth to the censors!
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[Greg] Every single timeI'm with her,
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people come up and tell hershe affected their life
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or saved their life
or saved them from committing suicide.
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All because this lovinggrandmother was on TV
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talking honestly about relationships,
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how we love, who we love.
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The most personal and profound thingsthat give us happiness.
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[man] Welcome the one and onlyDr. Ruth Westheimer.
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[applause]
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[Diane] Wherever she goes,she advises, she educates, she shocks.
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Anything that two consenting adults do
in the privacy of their bedroom,
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living room, kitchen floor is all right.
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[Diane] But some ofDr. Ruth Westheimer's colleagues
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think she's doing more harm than good.
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[Dr. Lee] I think she's very quick to givevery specific advice without having
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background information
on the person's life.
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All right, Tracy. I think that you should
find yourself a new man. OK?
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[Diane]
So you think she's reckless?
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It's a hard word. I hate to use the word,
but yes, she is reckless.
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[Diane] But she's not bothered muchby criticism, the woman the magazines call
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“The Happy Munchkin of Sex,”is in fact pretty tough.
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She was a young child living in Frankfurt,Germany when the Nazis came to power.
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[Dr. Ruth] So...
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[rustling]
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...I have something
that is very sacred.
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When I left Germany,
when I was ten,
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the only thing in that suitcase
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that came from my parents
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was this washcloth.
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Look how beautiful it is.
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And in here,
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KS,
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which is Karola Siegel.
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My name in Germany was Karola.
And this washcloth always was with me.
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I never forget where I have it.
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And, uh, it kind of links me
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to, uh, to my past.
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I was born on June 4th, 1928
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with the name Karola Siegel
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in a village not far fromFrankfurt, Germany.
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I was an only childto Orthodox Jewish parents.
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Not rich people,
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but the first 10 yearsof my childhood were ideal.
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Loving parents, adoring grandmother,and they cared for me very much.
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But in the 1930sthings changed drastically
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as Hitler came to power.
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One morning in November 1938,
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the Nazis arrived at the apartment.
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There was no shouting,but I was 10 and a half, so I was scared.
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I remember the black boots andthe Nazis told my father, "Get dressed."
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My grandmother had moneyin the seam of her skirt.
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She gave it to the Nazi and said,“Take good care of my son.”
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They took my father downstairs.And before he went into the truck,
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he turned aroundand smiled and waved,
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despite the fact thathe must've been horrified.
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A few months before the war broke out,
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it looked very bleak in Germany.
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Synagogues were burned and the Jewishbusiness were plundered.
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My father sent a postcard fromthe labor camp saying
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that I have to join a group ofOrthodox Jewish children.
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A Kindertransport that werepermitted to come to Switzerland.
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I didn't want to leave Frankfurt.
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I had 13 dolls.I had 2 doll houses. I had roller skates.
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I was an only child.
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I had a grandmother with nothing elseto do but to take care of me.
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But I was 10 and a half and when I sawthat postcard, I knew I had to go.
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The next morning,my mother and grandmother came with me
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to the railroad station in Frankfurt.
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My mother hugged me.My grandmother hugged me.
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I went into the wagon.
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I looked out and I didwhat my father had done.
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I was very sad, but I waved at them
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in order to make it easierfor them to say goodbye.
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[train chugging]
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[train chugging in the distance]
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My parents actually gave me life twice.
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Once when I was born, andonce when they sent me to Switzerland.
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Everybody was very worried in the train.
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We thought, what's going to happen next?Will I ever see my family again?
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So, in order to have a little bitof an easier time
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I started singing
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the songs of my Jewish background.
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Some of the songs of Germany.A lot of children songs.
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And I made everybody else sing.
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[children laughing]
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When the group of children got tothe village of Heiden in Switzerland,
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fifty of us went to a children's home
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that became an orphanagefor people like us.
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And when I got to the home, I wantedto show how well brought up I was,
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so I went to the headmistress ofthis orphanage,
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her name was Riesenfeld, and I said,
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We were second class citizens.
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We had to take care of the Swiss childrenand do all the housekeeping.
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It's strange becausethat orphanage was called Wartheim.
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Warten means "to wait."
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But we had no idea how longwe would actually be there.
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This diary, if you can see this,
has even a lock.
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Now, don't ask me where the key is.
I found it. Here's the key!
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I started keeping a diaryin the orphanage in Switzerland.
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I would write things in there thatI would never talk about to anybody.
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[speaking German]
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[in English]
Mommy, why are you not around?
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[speaking German]
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[in English] Why are you not around?I would work for you.
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I would support you.I would make you a good life.
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[young Ruth] I get up at 6:30in the morning. I get dressed.
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We wake the children at 7and then I'm busy until 7:30.
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After that, I set the tables,clean the dining room,
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and comb the childrens' hair.
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After lunch, I put the little girlsto bed for their nap.
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Then I do some mending.
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In the evening, I help bathe the childrenand after dinner, I clean their shoes.
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I like all my chores very much.
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[Dr. Ruth] I was always worriedthe headmistress Riesenfeld
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would find those diaries.
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So I didn't write anything badagainst the orphanage.
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The people who took care of uswere themselves refugees.
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They were worried about their own lives.
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So all of these children including mebecame like brothers and sisters
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watching over each other.
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[door bell rings]
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OK, his wife is here.
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[Dr. Ruth] Hey!
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‐Saved by the bell!
‐[Dr. Ruth] Hey, we found it.
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All right, all right, all right.
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‐You were my first boyfriend.
‐[Walter] OK.
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You were a little younger than me.
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You were the most
important person in Heiden
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in my life
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and then you cheated on me!
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‐He went with an older woman.
‐[Debbie speaking]
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I know I'm older than him,
but he went with a much older woman!
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[Walter speaking]
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Right.
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[beeping]
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All the time!
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[Dr. Ruth] You were so cute.
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You were so good looking
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that it was absolutely normalthat I was in love with you.
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We kept it secret.But I'm sure everybody knew.
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[Walter speaking]
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Verboten.
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‐It was not permitted.
‐Absolutely.
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Because you were in
the room above me,
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you found a way
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of getting messages to me.
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[Walter speaking]
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[Dr. Ruth] And he put littleslips there for me!
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‐[Walter] Yes!
‐[Dr. Ruth] One of the message was,
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You are my sunshine
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Let me hear.
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[Dr. Ruth] You are my...
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♪ You are my sunshine ♪
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My little...
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♪ My golden sunshine ♪
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[both] You make me happy
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‐when skies are grey.
‐when skies are blue.
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[both] When skies are grey!
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♪ You will never know, dear ♪
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How much I love you.
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♪ Please don't take my sunshine away ♪
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[Walter speaking]
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[Dr. Ruth] Experimenting.
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When we were teenagers,
there was somebody
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who said that I showed you my breasts.
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And I... [laughing]
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But there was a rumor going.
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And I was horrified.
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I knew Switzerland was surrounded by Nazis
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and if I would have been
kicked out of Heiden,
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where would I be?
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There was no place on earth for me.
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So we didn't have sex,but we hugged and we kissed.
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And guess what?
Come here, I'll tell you something.
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I can still remember
the taste of those kisses.
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Don't tell anybody!
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[young Ruth] I read a book called
Letters for Young Girls.
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It was written by a physicianfor sex education.
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Everything in nature isso fantastically well organized.
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One can't possibly thinkthat anything about it is dirty.
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[male announcer reading]
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Hello, you are on the air.
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‐[Sue] Hi, Dr. Ruth.
‐Hello.
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‐My name is Sue.
‐Hi, Sue.
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[Sue] I have a question and I'm kindof embarrassed to ask it.
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[Dr. Ruth] Take a deep breath.
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[Sue] Um, I want to try to startmasturbating myself, OK?
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Yes.
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[Dr. Ruth] In the early 80s...
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[woman] Come in!
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[Dr. Ruth] ...people did not talkabout female sexuality.
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Now, Janet, we are living in the 80s,
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so I think we can be perfectly frank.
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To begin with,
men have certain needs.
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[audience laughing]
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So do women.
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‐They do?
‐[audience laughing]
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[Dr. Ruth] They were still believing thatnot only don't you talk about sex,
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but that women really don't enjoy it.
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[man] When a woman is frigid,what happens‐‐
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Oh, hold it!
That word you can't say on my program.
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There's no more frigid women,
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there are only some women
who have to learn how to be responsive.
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Could you take his hand
and show him how you need to be touched,
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how you need to be pleasured,
in order to be, uh, happy.
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That's what I'm after.
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It doesn't have to be with words,
it has to be something‐‐
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Well, men normally don't care, do they?
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That's not so.
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Julie, very important for you because
young people are watching you.
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Very important to say that most men
do care very much.
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Some men, not you and not Andy,
but some men
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say when if they don't get
what they want...
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‐Yes.
‐...there is a term for that,
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that term is called‐‐
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[Conan] What are you
talking about right now?
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‐ Blue [beep].
‐[Conan] What?
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‐ Blue [beep], say it.
‐[audience laughing]
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I'm not gonna‐‐
No, I'm not gonna say that.
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No, I'm not gonna say that. No!
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[Dr. Ruth] It frustrated me,the term "blue balls"
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and there was nothing for womenwho didn't reach orgasm.
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We should coin a new term,
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so that she can say,
"Honey, I need some more
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hugging and kissing and touching."
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‐[Conan] Yes.
‐That term should be "blue lips."
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‐[audience laughing]
‐So now,
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but... but I'll tell you.
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[applause and cheering]
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[Dr. Ruth] It has a little to do with myhaving to make decisions about my life
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early on showed me thatwomen have to take the initiative
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and have the responsibility for themselves
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and for their own sexuality.
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I have admired you for a long time
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and part of what you have been doing has
really permitted women like myself
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to speak openly and to stand up
and to be counted
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and talk about such issues as sexuality.
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Well, it's something we're all
doing together, I think.
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I've never heard women tell the truth
about sex before in public in my life.
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[Miriam] You once told me that
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you raised me with certain values
but I took them a little too far.
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So you wanted me to be a feminist,
but you said when you go out to dinner
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let the guy pay once in a while.
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You don't have to always pay
your own way.
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Omi, so you know how you keep giving me
things that say feminist on them?
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‐[Dr. Ruth] Mm‐hmm. No.
‐Are you a feminist?
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‐Why?
‐I'm old fashioned and a square.
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Do you agree that men and women
should have equal rights?
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‐Yes.
‐[Miriam] Equal pay?
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Absolutely, equal pay.
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What about abortion,
should women be able to decide?
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[Dr. Ruth] Absolutely.
I said that already.
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OK, so you're a feminist.
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[Dr. Ruth] No. I said already‐‐
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Recently I asked her, you know,
are you a feminist?
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And she said no,
and I was really upset by this.
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Everything she does iswhat a feminist would do.
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Speaks at Planned Parenthood, you know,supports gay rights,
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AIDS research, pro‐choice issues.
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But she doesn't thinkshe's a feminist herself.
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[Miriam] In our language, you would
very much be called a feminist.
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What you resist is the activist,
protesting and you know, the kinda...
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‐[Leora] Burning bras.
‐[Miriam] ...bra burning.
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I don't want you to walk
around burning bra.
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But I think people look up to you
as a feminist role model.
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OK, that's all right.
I don't want them to change their mind.
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‐[Leora] OK, but‐‐
‐I just brought you a hat, right?
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[Leora] I know, but you should‐‐ instead
of giving me the stuff that says feminist
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you should keep some of it.
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‐Just say it. “I'm a feminist.”
‐No...
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‐[Dr. Ruth] But I love you.
‐[Miram] Say "I'm not‐‐"
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"I'm a non‐radical feminist."
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"I'm a non‐radical feminist"
and I love my granddaughter.
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[Dr. Ruth] Once I was alreadyin the orphanage,
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my father was permitted toreturn from the labor camp to Frankfurt.
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The war had started and it was a verydangerous place to live for my parents.
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But they never wrote about that sadness
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in the letters that I received every week.
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I kept every single one of their letters.
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[mother] My dear Karola,
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your nice letter of December 15th reachedus today.
488
00:30:15,001 --> 00:30:20,095
By this time your Hanukkah party isprobably over. Was it nice?
489
00:30:21,305 --> 00:30:25,731
We haven't heard from uncle Max.We hope to get some news soon.
490
00:30:26,984 --> 00:30:30,448
I wish you my darlingthe heartiest greeting.
491
00:30:31,033 --> 00:30:34,039
Loving kisses from your loving mommy.
492
00:30:36,294 --> 00:30:39,968
[Dr. Ruth] The letters gave mea lot of hope and joy.
493
00:30:42,599 --> 00:30:47,650
My father, almost every letterhe wrote me in poetry.
494
00:30:49,529 --> 00:30:55,248
[father] Dear Karola, although versestake time, you should know how to rhyme.
495
00:30:55,625 --> 00:30:59,841
Perhaps someone will teach it to you,so you will know how to do it too.
496
00:31:01,135 --> 00:31:05,393
It's easier to say in a poem what in prosemay be too hard to utter.
497
00:31:06,103 --> 00:31:11,030
And just think, if you were at home,you would not get a single letter.
498
00:31:13,827 --> 00:31:18,044
[young Ruth] I am now in the 8th gradeand next spring I have to finish school.
499
00:31:19,088 --> 00:31:21,217
I wish I could continue my education
500
00:31:21,300 --> 00:31:25,100
because for my later profession it wouldbe very helpful to attend a high school.
501
00:31:25,935 --> 00:31:28,941
But girls from the orphanagecan't go to high school here.
502
00:31:32,155 --> 00:31:33,575
[Dr. Ruth] From all of us,
503
00:31:34,034 --> 00:31:37,416
you were the smartest,
even smarter than me.
504
00:31:38,126 --> 00:31:41,925
Your influence on me had
to do with your intellect.
505
00:31:42,719 --> 00:31:45,098
‐Maybe.
‐That‐‐ no, that's very serious.
506
00:31:45,181 --> 00:31:47,060
You are lucky because you
507
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:51,653
were permitted to go to
the high school in the village...
508
00:31:52,029 --> 00:31:53,364
‐Yes.
‐...and I was not.
509
00:31:53,782 --> 00:31:55,493
‐That's right.
‐Because the girls
510
00:31:55,578 --> 00:31:58,751
‐had to become housemaids...
‐That's right.
511
00:31:58,834 --> 00:32:04,178
...but my father said you have to learn.
Nobody can take learning from you.
512
00:32:07,602 --> 00:32:11,233
Walter went to the high schoolduring the day.
513
00:32:12,235 --> 00:32:14,908
At night, he would hideunder my bed
514
00:32:15,534 --> 00:32:20,961
and I took his books to the landingof the stairs because there was light
515
00:32:21,755 --> 00:32:26,556
and I could read History,English and Geography.
516
00:32:27,767 --> 00:32:29,436
What did you do under the bed?
517
00:32:30,689 --> 00:32:32,150
‐Shiver?
‐Yes.
518
00:32:43,674 --> 00:32:44,527
[Dr. Ruth laughing]
519
00:33:07,972 --> 00:33:09,391
[Dr. Ruth] I'm grateful to Switzerland.
520
00:33:09,851 --> 00:33:13,399
They gave me a roof over my headand fed me
521
00:33:14,276 --> 00:33:17,575
but I also know that they used people
like Riesenfeld,
522
00:33:18,034 --> 00:33:20,956
to run this orphanage. Stupid.
523
00:33:21,541 --> 00:33:25,799
Instead of her saying,
"Your parents sacrificed
524
00:33:26,509 --> 00:33:29,974
to let their only child leave to safety,"
525
00:33:30,058 --> 00:33:33,732
she said that our parents did not love us.
526
00:33:34,149 --> 00:33:37,155
That if she had a child
she would never let it go.
527
00:33:38,324 --> 00:33:40,955
So there are certain things
I cannot forgive.
528
00:33:47,217 --> 00:33:49,806
[young Ruth] Yesterday I turned 13.
529
00:33:49,889 --> 00:33:53,522
I was permitted to accompany the oldergirls to the swimming pool in the village.
530
00:33:54,398 --> 00:33:57,028
I can already jumpfrom the three‐meter board.
531
00:33:57,530 --> 00:33:59,491
[splash]
532
00:33:59,951 --> 00:34:01,328
[mother] My dear Karola,
533
00:34:01,871 --> 00:34:05,253
I am looking forward to the daywhen I can read your diary.
534
00:34:05,796 --> 00:34:08,677
May you grow up to bea capable, young woman,
535
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:11,098
always healthy and content.
536
00:34:11,725 --> 00:34:13,895
Your birthday present will follow later.
537
00:34:14,354 --> 00:34:16,400
It may take quite a while.
538
00:34:17,110 --> 00:34:21,368
[Dr. Ruth] The first time that I realizedthat something horrible has happened
539
00:34:21,911 --> 00:34:23,122
is when the letters stopped.
540
00:34:28,550 --> 00:34:29,969
[young Ruth] It is almost seven weeks
541
00:34:30,053 --> 00:34:32,767
that I don't have mailfrom my parents and grandma.
542
00:34:36,023 --> 00:34:40,114
Today it is nine weeks and 1 daythat I have no mail from my parents.
543
00:34:43,287 --> 00:34:48,005
Today it is three years that I am here.Now I must go to bed.
544
00:34:48,882 --> 00:34:54,727
Goodnight mama, papa, grandma,and all, all my relatives.
545
00:34:58,985 --> 00:35:02,952
Yesterday, I helped pick up 12 childrenwho entered Switzerland illegally.
546
00:35:03,912 --> 00:35:06,960
A girl from Hungary was telling usof all the suffering she saw.
547
00:35:08,505 --> 00:35:13,055
Mass murders, gas chambers,and other horrible things.
548
00:35:16,646 --> 00:35:20,361
It's been over five years since I've heardanything from my family.
549
00:35:21,405 --> 00:35:24,327
I would so much like to relivethe days with my parents,
550
00:35:25,037 --> 00:35:27,167
I did not know what they meant to me.
551
00:35:28,545 --> 00:35:30,298
I know that I must not lose hope,
552
00:35:30,716 --> 00:35:34,097
but it's not easy to keep believingthat I will ever see them again.
553
00:35:48,083 --> 00:35:52,217
[Melissa Eagan] I have great respect for
you and I'm really happy you're here.
554
00:35:52,467 --> 00:35:55,599
[Dr. Ruth] Thank you. All right!
555
00:35:56,893 --> 00:35:58,855
Dr. Ruth, wonderful to meet you.
556
00:35:58,939 --> 00:36:00,526
[Dr. Ruth] Nice to meet you,
I heard about you.
557
00:36:04,909 --> 00:36:09,000
We are back, this is Midday on WNYC,
I'm Jonathan Capehart
558
00:36:09,585 --> 00:36:11,463
and I am speaking with the iconic,
559
00:36:11,548 --> 00:36:15,054
world renowned sex and relationship
therapist, Dr. Ruth Westheimer.
560
00:36:15,471 --> 00:36:16,891
‐In her latest book‐‐
‐[Dr. Ruth] Hold it, Jonathan.
561
00:36:16,975 --> 00:36:17,935
Jonathan, wait.
562
00:36:18,018 --> 00:36:21,191
‐[Jonathan] Yes, ma'am.
‐Now say the word sex with more emotion.
563
00:36:21,275 --> 00:36:22,318
[nervous laughter]
564
00:36:22,402 --> 00:36:25,324
[Dr. Ruth] Say that word sex
as if you really mean it.
565
00:36:25,408 --> 00:36:26,870
‐[Jonathan] OK.
‐With some warmth,
566
00:36:27,287 --> 00:36:29,499
with some excitement, with some arousal.
567
00:36:29,959 --> 00:36:31,880
‐[Dr. Ruth] Start again.
‐OK, yes, ma'am.
568
00:36:32,673 --> 00:36:34,844
[Jonathan] Um, I'm speaking
with the iconic,
569
00:36:34,927 --> 00:36:39,060
world renowned sex and relationship
therapist, Dr. Ruth Westheimer.
570
00:36:39,144 --> 00:36:40,062
How's that?
571
00:36:40,146 --> 00:36:41,566
‐That was wonderful.
‐[laughing]
572
00:36:41,858 --> 00:36:44,112
I just want to thank you personally,
Dr. Ruth.
573
00:36:44,655 --> 00:36:48,914
Growing up listening to you on the radio
as a young gay kid,
574
00:36:48,997 --> 00:36:52,462
it was wonderful to hear someone say
something positive
575
00:36:52,546 --> 00:36:56,261
about an aspect of my life,
that I was trying to come to terms with.
576
00:36:56,763 --> 00:37:02,357
So, Dr. Ruth, you write that one of
your least favorite words is "normal."
577
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:03,442
‐Right.
‐Why?
578
00:37:03,777 --> 00:37:05,321
Because we don't know what normal is.
579
00:37:05,404 --> 00:37:08,995
And I want to tell you something about
what you just said, Jonathan.
580
00:37:09,371 --> 00:37:13,964
Uh, in those days, in 1981
when I started WYNY...
581
00:37:14,214 --> 00:37:15,717
‐Yeah, that's right.
‐...Sexually Speaking,
582
00:37:16,093 --> 00:37:19,099
nobody talked about homosexuality.
583
00:37:19,767 --> 00:37:22,982
The one thing that I have done forever,
584
00:37:23,482 --> 00:37:26,656
is to say, respect is not debatable.
585
00:37:27,240 --> 00:37:29,578
There is no such thing as normal.
586
00:37:30,204 --> 00:37:33,293
You know, we have a caller
in Brooklyn. Michelle.
587
00:37:34,045 --> 00:37:37,553
[Michelle] As a teenager in the '80slistening to you on the radio,
588
00:37:37,636 --> 00:37:40,057
and, there's a lot of shame around sex.
589
00:37:40,141 --> 00:37:43,940
And your nonjudgmentalperspective saved my life.
590
00:37:44,190 --> 00:37:47,238
‐Oh, I like to hear that.
‐[Michelle] Thank you. You're an angel.
591
00:37:47,405 --> 00:37:50,036
I like to hear that,
I accept to be an angel,
592
00:37:50,119 --> 00:37:52,875
I'm a Jewish angel,
that's OK. Thank you.
593
00:37:52,958 --> 00:37:55,129
So you know,
to, to Michelle's point,
594
00:37:55,212 --> 00:37:58,887
how does it feel to
have people who you've never met before
595
00:37:58,970 --> 00:38:02,101
say things to you
that range from "thank you"
596
00:38:02,185 --> 00:38:04,648
to "you saved my life."
597
00:38:04,732 --> 00:38:07,571
As you know, I'm four foot seven,
598
00:38:08,489 --> 00:38:11,954
and I feel like six feet tall.
599
00:38:12,748 --> 00:38:15,796
But I cannot just sit
and say I did a good job.
600
00:38:16,296 --> 00:38:17,465
We have to continue
601
00:38:17,966 --> 00:38:20,514
to talk about issues of sexuality,
602
00:38:20,889 --> 00:38:24,772
and about issues of sexually
transmitted diseases.
603
00:38:28,780 --> 00:38:31,619
Today, we are going to talk about
a very serious subject matter.
604
00:38:31,702 --> 00:38:34,625
We are going to talk about
the AIDS health crisis
605
00:38:34,708 --> 00:38:39,844
and we are going to talk about how it
affects particularly the gay community.
606
00:38:41,138 --> 00:38:43,768
[Tom Brokaw] Scientists at the nationalcenters for disease control
607
00:38:43,852 --> 00:38:46,649
in Atlanta today releasedthe results of a study
608
00:38:46,983 --> 00:38:50,447
which shows that the lifestyle
of some male homosexuals
609
00:38:50,532 --> 00:38:53,830
has triggered an epidemicof a rare form of cancer.
610
00:38:54,707 --> 00:38:57,546
[Dr. Ruth] It was a very unpopular topic
611
00:38:57,963 --> 00:39:01,804
because gay people at the time, not onlywere they a minority,
612
00:39:02,013 --> 00:39:03,265
they were despised.
613
00:39:04,184 --> 00:39:06,814
[Billy Graham] It may be a judgementof God upon us,
614
00:39:07,231 --> 00:39:12,200
paying us back for our promiscuous societyand our free way of life.
615
00:39:13,076 --> 00:39:16,458
We do reap it in our flesh
when we violate the laws of God.
616
00:39:19,005 --> 00:39:20,466
[Dr. Ruth] I took that very seriously
617
00:39:20,550 --> 00:39:23,806
because of my background asa German Jewish refugee.
618
00:39:23,890 --> 00:39:25,977
JEWISH RESIDENTIAL AREA
NO TRESPASSING
619
00:39:26,269 --> 00:39:29,818
I certainly had a sensitivity
620
00:39:29,902 --> 00:39:33,325
for the people who werereally regarded as sub‐human.
621
00:39:33,743 --> 00:39:34,912
[male caller] Hello, Dr. Ruth.
622
00:39:34,995 --> 00:39:38,503
I've got a girlfriend who's got a lot ofhomosexuals for friends.
623
00:39:38,586 --> 00:39:40,799
Now she smokes cigarettes off them
624
00:39:40,882 --> 00:39:43,178
and drinks off their cokesand eats their sandwiches.
625
00:39:43,262 --> 00:39:46,686
Is there anyway that she can transmit AIDSbecause I'm, you know,
626
00:39:46,769 --> 00:39:49,399
I'm a healthy male and I don't want to begetting AIDS through my girlfriend
627
00:39:49,692 --> 00:39:51,403
hanging around with homosexuals.
628
00:39:52,071 --> 00:39:55,244
[John] Dr. Ruth's show was atthe height of its popularity
629
00:39:55,327 --> 00:39:57,541
when the AIDS crisis erupted.
630
00:39:58,918 --> 00:40:03,636
It was a sad time.People were dying all over the place
631
00:40:04,972 --> 00:40:08,646
and we were right in the middle of itdoing a program about sexuality.
632
00:40:09,188 --> 00:40:13,990
[Dr. Ruth] Some people are attractedto members of their own sex,
633
00:40:14,073 --> 00:40:16,494
and I believe strongly
634
00:40:16,579 --> 00:40:18,958
that we, as a society,
635
00:40:19,042 --> 00:40:23,383
have to give these people all the respect.
636
00:40:24,302 --> 00:40:25,555
[man] I'm angry, doctor.
637
00:40:25,764 --> 00:40:27,893
‐[Dr. Ruth] Why are you angry?
‐I think everyone should be angry.
638
00:40:27,976 --> 00:40:32,276
I see people dying alone
without their very own families.
639
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:35,491
And I see grief.And there's enough grief...
640
00:40:35,575 --> 00:40:39,541
This is a... this is a virus,this is, uh, an epidemic.
641
00:40:39,625 --> 00:40:43,465
It seems the high proportion
of people who are dying
642
00:40:43,549 --> 00:40:45,344
and succumbing to the AIDS virus
643
00:40:45,427 --> 00:40:49,102
are still in the homosexual community,
intravenous drug users‐‐
644
00:40:49,185 --> 00:40:54,655
I don't waste a moment of my time to blame
one or another group.
645
00:40:54,738 --> 00:40:58,370
I say, let's educate
and let's find a cure.
646
00:40:59,205 --> 00:41:02,211
[Greg] Because she wasAmerica's sex therapist,
647
00:41:02,504 --> 00:41:03,673
people trusted her.
648
00:41:04,382 --> 00:41:09,058
So she really started to shift awarenessof HIV and AIDS.
649
00:41:09,726 --> 00:41:11,522
[Dr. Ruth] What makes me sad
650
00:41:12,566 --> 00:41:16,657
is that AIDS is still very relevant today.
651
00:41:17,074 --> 00:41:19,287
So you do have to be careful,
652
00:41:19,663 --> 00:41:21,332
you have to know with whom you go.
653
00:41:21,584 --> 00:41:25,466
And you do have‐‐ if you're not very
familiar with that person‐‐
654
00:41:25,550 --> 00:41:26,760
to use condoms.
655
00:41:29,641 --> 00:41:32,856
I have a lot of friends who diedof that dreadful disease.
656
00:41:34,902 --> 00:41:37,323
But I'm always optimistic.
657
00:41:37,949 --> 00:41:41,540
I still believe that there will be a cure.
658
00:41:51,688 --> 00:41:52,704
[speaking Hebrew]
659
00:41:58,448 --> 00:41:59,450
[Dr. Ruth] Shalom!
660
00:42:01,582 --> 00:42:02,592
[Marga speaking in Hebrew]
661
00:42:17,529 --> 00:42:21,662
[in English] I have no time to go to
the hairdresser, but my best friend
662
00:42:22,121 --> 00:42:26,880
already complains that my hair doesn't
look good. OK.
663
00:42:30,386 --> 00:42:32,034
[Marga speaking]
664
00:42:37,026 --> 00:42:38,069
[speaking German]
665
00:42:38,153 --> 00:42:39,740
[Dr. Ruth in English]
She was peeling potatoes.
666
00:42:45,877 --> 00:42:50,093
‐[radio static]
‐[man speaking German]
667
00:42:59,070 --> 00:43:03,286
[Dr. Ruth] The orphanage received lists ofpeople who had survived
668
00:43:04,121 --> 00:43:07,671
but instead of calling inindividual children,
669
00:43:08,380 --> 00:43:10,258
they sat us down together
670
00:43:10,635 --> 00:43:12,889
and read them all to us.
671
00:43:14,016 --> 00:43:16,980
My family was never on any list.
672
00:43:18,651 --> 00:43:22,449
We were worried about whatwould happen with us.
673
00:43:23,076 --> 00:43:24,286
What now?
674
00:43:25,790 --> 00:43:29,422
We were not Germans anymore.
We were never Swiss.
675
00:43:30,633 --> 00:43:33,931
So they assembled all of uson a train.
676
00:43:34,891 --> 00:43:39,860
And we saw another railroad carfilled with Nazis.
677
00:43:40,778 --> 00:43:44,953
Those German prisoners of war werelooking out the windows
678
00:43:45,036 --> 00:43:49,546
and I remember what I was thinking."Maybe you killed my family."
679
00:43:52,259 --> 00:43:53,929
When we got to Marseille,
680
00:43:54,305 --> 00:43:56,392
I had never seen an ocean.
681
00:43:56,894 --> 00:44:00,025
‐No.
‐I thought, "Oh, my gosh,
682
00:44:00,108 --> 00:44:01,152
look at that."
683
00:44:02,404 --> 00:44:06,830
[Dr. Ruth] Little seventeen year oldKarola Siegel from Frankfurt am Main
684
00:44:07,582 --> 00:44:10,253
is now going on a boat to Palestine."
685
00:44:12,341 --> 00:44:13,969
We came to a Kibbutz
686
00:44:14,513 --> 00:44:17,560
which is a collective settlement for Jews.
687
00:44:18,521 --> 00:44:21,108
There was a tremendous hatred of Germany,
688
00:44:21,192 --> 00:44:25,618
and rightly so. So the people that wereresponsible for us told me
689
00:44:25,701 --> 00:44:29,124
"You can't be called Karola anymore,
it's too German."
690
00:44:29,626 --> 00:44:35,428
So I said OK, if I can't be Karola,
I'm going to take my middle name Ruth
691
00:44:36,222 --> 00:44:40,982
because I've thought stillhope against hope,
692
00:44:41,315 --> 00:44:44,321
if anybody of my family is alive,
693
00:44:44,698 --> 00:44:47,119
they would knowthat my middle name was Ruth.
694
00:44:47,202 --> 00:44:49,373
They would come here
and they would find me.
695
00:44:59,519 --> 00:45:00,813
[cows mooing]
696
00:45:01,147 --> 00:45:02,274
[Dr. Ruth] Moo!
697
00:45:03,151 --> 00:45:04,236
They're beautiful.
698
00:45:07,034 --> 00:45:08,161
Marga,
699
00:45:09,121 --> 00:45:14,507
this reminds me of the first night
of my life.
700
00:45:16,595 --> 00:45:18,807
His name was Kalman.
701
00:45:19,976 --> 00:45:22,815
He was very handsome.
702
00:45:23,567 --> 00:45:25,028
He was in the army
703
00:45:25,403 --> 00:45:28,619
and he came to visit his brother Shaul,
704
00:45:29,328 --> 00:45:30,706
who was my boyfriend.
705
00:45:32,459 --> 00:45:35,340
But just boyfriend of kissing and hugging.
706
00:45:35,424 --> 00:45:36,593
[man]
Then how did it‐‐
707
00:45:38,137 --> 00:45:40,559
You ask such stupid questions!
708
00:45:40,977 --> 00:45:43,439
Yes, but I said goodbye to Shaul.
709
00:45:43,524 --> 00:45:46,320
And I went withhis younger brother Kalman.
710
00:45:47,364 --> 00:45:50,538
Shaul told his younger brother
711
00:45:51,707 --> 00:45:53,418
"Take good care of her."
[speaking Hebrew]
712
00:45:58,721 --> 00:46:01,475
[in English] I knew that I had to go someplace for privacy
713
00:46:02,227 --> 00:46:07,697
so Kalman and I went up
on a haystack like that, high up.
714
00:46:12,205 --> 00:46:16,965
That was my first night ever
of actual sex.
715
00:46:19,136 --> 00:46:20,263
Nice to remember.
716
00:46:22,392 --> 00:46:23,937
[Dr. Ruth] It was young love,
717
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:28,989
but like many young loves,it was not meant to be.
718
00:46:30,283 --> 00:46:36,003
A few months later, he told me"We have to end the relationship."
719
00:46:36,922 --> 00:46:39,343
I wanted to be together forever.
720
00:46:40,261 --> 00:46:44,019
He didn't want to.
He said I would be a burden.
721
00:46:46,190 --> 00:46:47,985
[young Ruth] Why did this have to happen?
722
00:46:48,654 --> 00:46:50,950
I gave him as much love as I could,
723
00:46:51,283 --> 00:46:54,541
but he took everythingand gave nothing in return.
724
00:46:56,377 --> 00:47:00,553
One word keeps coming back to me:alone.
725
00:47:01,930 --> 00:47:07,023
I am so alone in this world.I miss my parents terribly.
726
00:47:33,242 --> 00:47:36,248
[Dr. Ruth] The Nazis keptdetailed records.
727
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:42,219
And for many years I really didn'twant to see in black and white
728
00:47:42,803 --> 00:47:44,431
what happened to my parents.
729
00:47:45,935 --> 00:47:48,272
But as difficult as it is for me,
730
00:47:48,815 --> 00:47:54,493
I have an obligation to learnabout the fate of my family.
731
00:47:57,541 --> 00:48:01,591
I've thought about, you know, when did my
parents tell me about the holocaust
732
00:48:01,675 --> 00:48:04,221
or, like, when did my mother tell me that
733
00:48:04,597 --> 00:48:07,435
she never saw her parents
after she was 10 years old?
734
00:48:08,396 --> 00:48:12,989
And I don't have any recollectionof some moment.
735
00:48:14,116 --> 00:48:17,999
[Miriam] As I grew up, I realized I didn'thave grandparents on my mother's side.
736
00:48:18,917 --> 00:48:21,798
So I would ask about that
and she would answer the questions.
737
00:48:22,550 --> 00:48:25,973
But my mother didn't offer information.
738
00:48:26,933 --> 00:48:29,647
[Simmy] OK, what's your maiden name?
739
00:48:29,731 --> 00:48:33,446
Siegel, S‐I‐E‐G‐E‐L.
740
00:48:34,114 --> 00:48:36,578
So we have a lot of Siegels here.
741
00:48:37,078 --> 00:48:39,458
Look at Julius Siegel.
742
00:48:40,544 --> 00:48:44,635
‐Julius?
‐Yeah, my father Julius. That's him.
743
00:48:45,261 --> 00:48:50,063
‐What does it say, list of?
‐List murdered Jews from Germany.
744
00:48:50,731 --> 00:48:53,570
[Dr.Ruth] Died in Auschwitz. 1942.
745
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:56,200
Oh, boy.
746
00:48:57,828 --> 00:49:00,626
My mother's maiden name
was Hanauer.
747
00:49:01,001 --> 00:49:02,045
Irma.
748
00:49:04,299 --> 00:49:05,385
[humming]
749
00:49:06,763 --> 00:49:08,600
‐This is also‐‐
‐Oh, that's it!
750
00:49:09,101 --> 00:49:10,813
‐Ni Hanauer, that's her.
‐Ni Hanauer.
751
00:49:10,896 --> 00:49:13,985
‐What does it say here? Was born in‐‐
‐Was born in Wiesenfeld...
752
00:49:14,069 --> 00:49:17,450
‐I was born in Wiesenfeld too. Right.
‐...Germany in 1903.
753
00:49:17,535 --> 00:49:21,375
‐Part of the war she lived in‐‐
‐Frankfurt Am Main, Germany.
754
00:49:21,458 --> 00:49:23,505
During the war she was in
the Linchmont Ghetto.
755
00:49:23,588 --> 00:49:25,174
[Dr. Ruth] Right, and nobody knows
what happened?
756
00:49:25,258 --> 00:49:27,053
[Simmy] Irma was murdered
in the Holocaust,
757
00:49:27,137 --> 00:49:29,474
‐but it doesn't have a specific location.
‐[Dr. Ruth] No place.
758
00:49:33,023 --> 00:49:34,151
Oh, boy.
759
00:49:35,445 --> 00:49:36,573
Sad.
760
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:41,373
My mother, there is no date of death,
761
00:49:42,125 --> 00:49:45,924
it just says the word “verschollen”
which is a horrible word.
762
00:49:46,008 --> 00:49:47,970
Verschollen means disappeared
763
00:49:48,220 --> 00:49:51,644
as if she was disappearing from the world.
764
00:49:52,312 --> 00:49:56,988
She was murdered someplace, but nobody
has any... nobody knows where,
765
00:49:57,698 --> 00:49:58,658
nothing.
766
00:49:58,742 --> 00:50:04,002
My father, I now know was killed in
Auschwitz and I have that date.
767
00:50:05,254 --> 00:50:07,927
‐You are on a recorder, Ruth.
‐Ruth K.
768
00:50:08,010 --> 00:50:09,805
The K is for Karola.
769
00:50:10,641 --> 00:50:12,227
‐I am‐‐
‐[Simmy] You are a survivor.
770
00:50:12,686 --> 00:50:14,439
[Dr. Ruth] I don't call myself a survivor.
771
00:50:14,524 --> 00:50:18,698
I call myself an orphan of the Holocaust
772
00:50:18,782 --> 00:50:21,955
because I was not in a camp,
but I was a survivor.
773
00:50:37,402 --> 00:50:41,118
Thank you all for keepingthe memory of the Holocaust alive.
774
00:50:42,245 --> 00:50:47,213
If I would not have been sent toSwitzerland, I would not be alive today.
775
00:50:48,382 --> 00:50:51,263
I'll cry laterwhen nobody is around.
776
00:50:51,764 --> 00:50:54,854
Yekas, German Jews, don't cry in public.
777
00:50:55,856 --> 00:50:57,610
Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer.
778
00:51:01,784 --> 00:51:06,126
[Miriam] I think the trauma from thatunimaginable loss of her parents
779
00:51:06,753 --> 00:51:10,343
re‐configured her whole emotional makeup.
780
00:51:12,305 --> 00:51:14,935
And she just doesn't allow herself,
781
00:51:15,646 --> 00:51:17,691
you know, that good deep cry
782
00:51:17,775 --> 00:51:20,781
that you do when you have to get rid of
some deep pain.
783
00:51:21,741 --> 00:51:25,456
I don't know if she ever has that.
I don't know.
784
00:51:40,737 --> 00:51:43,827
I'm not going further.
There is a warning about a dog.
785
00:51:44,077 --> 00:51:45,079
[Ryan] There's no dog.
786
00:51:46,916 --> 00:51:49,588
‐There is no dog, how do you know?
‐[Ryan] No dog. Because I just went in.
787
00:51:49,839 --> 00:51:51,718
[Ryan laughing]
788
00:51:53,847 --> 00:51:56,268
[Dr. Ruth] I don't rely on anybody.
789
00:51:57,103 --> 00:51:58,606
‐Shalom!
‐[speaking in Hebrew]
790
00:51:58,732 --> 00:52:00,234
[Dr. Ruth speaking in Hebrew]
791
00:52:03,115 --> 00:52:04,367
[man in English] Welcome, welcome.
[Dr. Ruth and Shmil speaking in Hebrew]
792
00:52:07,165 --> 00:52:08,585
[Dr. Ruth in English]
No. OK.
793
00:52:11,005 --> 00:52:12,032
[man speaking in Hebrew]
794
00:52:21,443 --> 00:52:24,491
[people yelling]
795
00:52:25,201 --> 00:52:29,292
[young Ruth] The political situation inPalestine is getting more and more tense.
796
00:52:29,375 --> 00:52:32,800
Since the UN partition broke the countryinto separate states,
797
00:52:32,883 --> 00:52:36,223
a guerilla war has broken outbetween Jews and Arabs.
798
00:52:38,603 --> 00:52:40,982
In Germany, I witnessed firsthand
799
00:52:41,066 --> 00:52:44,155
what happened to Jews whenthey didn't have their own country.
800
00:52:44,657 --> 00:52:47,538
So I have completed my trainingas a sniper for the Haganah,
801
00:52:48,121 --> 00:52:49,959
the Jewish underground army.
802
00:52:52,421 --> 00:52:55,971
At target practice, I hit the bulls‐eyenearly every time.
803
00:52:56,973 --> 00:53:00,897
Last night, I stood on a rooftop armedwith a machine gun
804
00:53:00,981 --> 00:53:04,530
watching over the Israeli soldierswho checked each car for weapons.
805
00:53:06,199 --> 00:53:09,999
My job as a sniper is to phoneif anything happens down there.
806
00:53:10,332 --> 00:53:12,713
And shoot if necessary.
807
00:53:13,631 --> 00:53:16,428
Thank God I have never hadto shoot anyone.
808
00:53:20,019 --> 00:53:22,148
This makes me very sad.
809
00:53:22,231 --> 00:53:24,987
Who knows how many people
were killed with this?
810
00:53:26,489 --> 00:53:27,868
That's enough.
811
00:53:33,086 --> 00:53:37,804
[Dr. Ruth] June 4th, 1948,on my 20th birthday.
812
00:53:40,184 --> 00:53:44,025
I had come back frommy rooftop sniper duty
813
00:53:44,860 --> 00:53:47,323
and when I got to this building,
814
00:53:47,866 --> 00:53:51,081
the alarm sounded
and I knew what it meant.
815
00:53:51,164 --> 00:53:53,293
It meant go down to the shelter.
816
00:53:53,377 --> 00:53:55,966
‐[alarm blaring]
‐[heavy breathing]
817
00:53:58,095 --> 00:53:59,347
[loud swoosh]
818
00:53:59,430 --> 00:54:01,059
[explosion]
819
00:54:01,602 --> 00:54:05,860
[Dr. Ruth] A cannonball hit,and it threw me
820
00:54:06,152 --> 00:54:08,115
against the wall,
821
00:54:08,950 --> 00:54:11,706
killed some girls next to me.
822
00:54:13,208 --> 00:54:16,006
It was a very horrible scene
823
00:54:16,423 --> 00:54:20,389
of shouting, of blood all over
824
00:54:20,598 --> 00:54:21,976
and then quiet.
825
00:54:26,527 --> 00:54:29,700
A friend of mine opened my shoes.
826
00:54:31,787 --> 00:54:34,000
And then I looked down and I sawa lot of blood.
827
00:54:35,545 --> 00:54:37,841
I ask her, do I have to die?
828
00:54:38,718 --> 00:54:42,016
Then I was taken right awayto the hospital in the city.
829
00:54:46,984 --> 00:54:51,326
My injuries on my little feet
were horrible.
830
00:54:51,493 --> 00:54:54,332
One foot was almost blown off.
831
00:54:54,666 --> 00:54:58,716
The top of the foot was all torn.
832
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:02,056
They almost had to amputate both legs.
833
00:55:03,099 --> 00:55:07,233
In the cellar were beds and bedsof wounded soldiers.
834
00:55:07,859 --> 00:55:10,907
There was not one spot for me.
835
00:55:10,990 --> 00:55:14,957
So I was on a bookshelf
because I was so‐‐ so small.
836
00:55:17,461 --> 00:55:20,300
I had a good‐lookingmale nurse.
837
00:55:21,595 --> 00:55:24,475
And I made believe thatI couldn't feed myself.
838
00:55:25,310 --> 00:55:28,441
Nonsense. My hands were
perfectly all right,
839
00:55:28,609 --> 00:55:31,489
but this way he fed me three times a day.
840
00:55:31,991 --> 00:55:35,790
And he fixed me in such a waythat my whole life
841
00:55:35,957 --> 00:55:37,209
I could waterski,
842
00:55:37,711 --> 00:55:39,463
I could winter ski,
843
00:55:40,132 --> 00:55:41,552
I could ice skate,
844
00:55:42,177 --> 00:55:46,019
and I can still dance a whole nightif I find a good partner.
845
00:55:48,566 --> 00:55:51,321
Ryan, I want you to show
that I can walk fast.
846
00:56:00,840 --> 00:56:04,221
All right, so you write about
something else in the book
847
00:56:04,305 --> 00:56:06,184
and that's when you should say goodbye.
848
00:56:06,267 --> 00:56:10,610
So, Dr. Ruth, how do you know
whether you should stay or go?
849
00:56:10,693 --> 00:56:15,620
Jonathan, I think that deep down
in your soul,
850
00:56:15,870 --> 00:56:17,498
you kind of know.
851
00:56:17,582 --> 00:56:21,507
I suggest for people if they feel
852
00:56:21,674 --> 00:56:24,178
that they are not in a good relationship,
853
00:56:24,261 --> 00:56:25,640
go to therapy.
854
00:56:25,723 --> 00:56:28,061
Do something to make it work.
855
00:56:28,144 --> 00:56:29,313
If not,
856
00:56:29,397 --> 00:56:33,488
at least separate so that you can
start a new life.
857
00:56:33,572 --> 00:56:35,409
‐[Jonathan] Mm‐hmm.
‐Now I talk from experience.
858
00:56:35,952 --> 00:56:38,415
Here, I got married three times.
859
00:56:38,666 --> 00:56:42,882
But only my last marriage,
which lasted almost 40 years,
860
00:56:42,966 --> 00:56:46,180
with Fred Westheimer,
was really the marriage.
861
00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:48,351
So I say to people,
862
00:56:48,435 --> 00:56:52,359
“I don't just talk on the top of my head,
I really have lived it.”
863
00:56:53,738 --> 00:56:57,286
Husband number onewas David Bar‐haim.
864
00:56:58,121 --> 00:57:02,087
He was in the Israeli army.He was handsome.
865
00:57:02,171 --> 00:57:03,758
He was intelligent.
866
00:57:04,300 --> 00:57:06,137
I thought "how fortunate,"
867
00:57:06,220 --> 00:57:09,561
because I thought nobody is evergoing to marry me,
868
00:57:09,644 --> 00:57:12,149
I'm short. I thought that I was ugly.
869
00:57:13,359 --> 00:57:18,119
He left to study medicineat the University of Paris,
870
00:57:19,330 --> 00:57:21,794
and I went to Paris to join him.
871
00:57:23,421 --> 00:57:25,008
The Sorbonne had a rule.
872
00:57:25,425 --> 00:57:27,931
Anybody who did not have
a high school diploma
873
00:57:28,014 --> 00:57:31,939
because of the war could takea preparation year.
874
00:57:32,022 --> 00:57:35,947
And if they pass the exams,they could enter the Sorbonne.
875
00:57:37,074 --> 00:57:41,040
My father valued educationabove everything else,
876
00:57:41,332 --> 00:57:44,130
so I wanted to pursue my studies.
877
00:57:45,006 --> 00:57:46,760
I got into the Sorbonne.
878
00:57:47,469 --> 00:57:52,730
I studied at the Instituteof Psychology and I loved it.
879
00:57:53,356 --> 00:57:55,778
I remember the Salrecheuer
880
00:57:56,445 --> 00:58:00,955
where I listened to the lecturesof big names like Piagi,
881
00:58:01,497 --> 00:58:02,709
Nagash.
882
00:58:02,834 --> 00:58:04,461
I was so short.
883
00:58:04,546 --> 00:58:07,426
The auditorium was filled.
884
00:58:07,594 --> 00:58:11,810
So I knew how to find a tall,good‐looking guy
885
00:58:12,269 --> 00:58:16,027
to put me up on a window sillright next to the professor.
886
00:58:16,570 --> 00:58:18,239
I heard very well.
887
00:58:18,323 --> 00:58:20,912
I took notes and I passed the exams.
888
00:58:22,039 --> 00:58:23,416
While I was studying,
889
00:58:24,084 --> 00:58:27,926
it was clear that David did not want tocontinue study medicine.
890
00:58:29,428 --> 00:58:33,102
He wanted to go back to hislife in Israel.
891
00:58:34,731 --> 00:58:37,904
I thought that that marriagewould last for a lifetime.
892
00:58:38,697 --> 00:58:40,910
But I wanted to finish studying.
893
00:58:41,703 --> 00:58:44,668
So he agreed to give me a divorce.
894
00:58:47,715 --> 00:58:50,680
Then, in Paris, I met
895
00:58:50,763 --> 00:58:52,432
husband number two.
896
00:58:52,517 --> 00:58:55,146
His name was Dan.He was gorgeous.
897
00:58:55,815 --> 00:58:57,819
We started a love affair.
898
00:58:57,902 --> 00:59:01,075
And then I got married. No,
899
00:59:01,158 --> 00:59:02,745
then I first got pregnant.
900
00:59:03,288 --> 00:59:06,837
I then married, because once you getpregnant, you marry.
901
00:59:09,216 --> 00:59:12,974
When Miriam was born,I was delighted.
902
00:59:14,561 --> 00:59:17,650
Having been raised with no family around,
903
00:59:18,151 --> 00:59:20,990
to have that little gorgeous baby girl
904
00:59:21,490 --> 00:59:23,662
was just happiness.
905
00:59:26,626 --> 00:59:30,133
All my life, I wanted very badly
906
00:59:30,342 --> 00:59:35,268
to go to the United States, but I thoughtI will never have the money.
907
00:59:36,605 --> 00:59:40,403
However, there was a check
that came automatically
908
00:59:40,696 --> 00:59:46,040
to everybody who had not finished school
because of the Holocaust.
909
00:59:46,666 --> 00:59:52,094
And suddenly I had $1500.So I said, "Dan,
910
00:59:52,637 --> 00:59:57,396
we are going to America."We went on a boat called Liberte.
911
00:59:58,022 --> 01:00:01,112
Fourth class,all the way in the bottom.
912
01:00:02,322 --> 01:00:07,667
They told us we cannot go upstairs,we have to stay with our class.
913
01:00:08,919 --> 01:00:14,263
I thought, "Hold it! Don't tell me thatI can't go up to first class."
914
01:00:15,516 --> 01:00:20,442
So we sneaked up against all rules
915
01:00:21,444 --> 01:00:24,534
and we stayed up there for the whole night
916
01:00:24,909 --> 01:00:30,588
because I wasn't about to miss that view
of the Statue of Liberty.
917
01:00:33,426 --> 01:00:36,140
I knew the Emma Lazarus poem,
918
01:00:36,766 --> 01:00:40,566
"Give me your tired, your poor,your huddled masses."
919
01:00:41,735 --> 01:00:45,534
And when I saw that miracle in the sky,
920
01:00:46,035 --> 01:00:48,456
a symbol of freedom to refugees,
921
01:00:49,249 --> 01:00:52,548
I knew that this was home.
922
01:01:02,652 --> 01:01:04,363
I wanted to show you.
923
01:01:05,365 --> 01:01:07,703
I vote, of course,
924
01:01:08,079 --> 01:01:11,168
since I'm now an American citizen
I've always voted,
925
01:01:12,087 --> 01:01:15,468
but I don't talk‐‐
I don't talk politics.
926
01:01:16,262 --> 01:01:20,436
Somebody who talks about sex
as much as I do
927
01:01:21,272 --> 01:01:22,942
has to stay away from politics.
928
01:01:23,109 --> 01:01:24,529
However...
929
01:01:26,533 --> 01:01:29,371
here is a cartoon from a‐‐
930
01:01:29,998 --> 01:01:34,632
the most widely‐read newspaper in Israel.
931
01:01:35,509 --> 01:01:40,811
I'm saying to the president of North Korea
and to the president of the United States,
932
01:01:41,605 --> 01:01:44,527
"Relax, size does not matter."
933
01:01:46,740 --> 01:01:49,996
From the start,I never went on television
934
01:01:50,121 --> 01:01:52,334
to talk about politics.
935
01:01:52,500 --> 01:01:55,381
[reporter] Dr. Ruth, what do you think
about Donald Trump's sexual remarks?
936
01:01:55,465 --> 01:01:57,511
No, no comment.
937
01:01:57,678 --> 01:01:59,891
[Leora] She will not discusspolitics in public.
938
01:02:00,475 --> 01:02:04,692
She has her views, I don't think it's
very hard to figure out her views.
939
01:02:05,944 --> 01:02:10,203
But she really does notwant to make any patient of hers,
940
01:02:10,286 --> 01:02:14,294
or fan of hers, feel like they can't trusther because of her political views.
941
01:02:15,589 --> 01:02:17,133
[Joel] Of course it's justa different understanding
942
01:02:17,217 --> 01:02:19,555
of what politics means, right?
943
01:02:20,014 --> 01:02:23,270
A woman called,
she's terribly upset because
944
01:02:23,479 --> 01:02:26,360
she has had to
have an abortion.
945
01:02:26,820 --> 01:02:31,245
I certainly believe that abortion
must remain legal.
946
01:02:31,705 --> 01:02:33,499
I don't do politics,
947
01:02:33,667 --> 01:02:35,879
but I never compromised
948
01:02:36,046 --> 01:02:39,887
on many issues including abortion.
949
01:02:40,054 --> 01:02:42,267
Even when it was not popular.
950
01:02:42,727 --> 01:02:46,943
I am convinced Roe will
fall by the end of this presidential term,
951
01:02:47,235 --> 01:02:50,199
and child killing will be driven back
to hell where it came from.
952
01:02:50,366 --> 01:02:53,205
I can't help wondering if those who
call themselves pro‐choice
953
01:02:53,915 --> 01:02:55,334
have ever stopped to think
954
01:02:56,295 --> 01:03:00,679
that the fetus, the unborn child,
never has a choice.
955
01:03:04,520 --> 01:03:08,820
I'm very upset that the whole issue of
abortion has become a political football.
956
01:03:09,614 --> 01:03:15,249
I will be terribly upset if abortion
becomes illegal again because‐‐
957
01:03:15,542 --> 01:03:20,928
Before abortion was legalized, only women
with money could obtain an abortion.
958
01:03:21,303 --> 01:03:25,938
If we have to go back to those years,
it would be a terrible state of affair
959
01:03:26,564 --> 01:03:31,240
because abortions would get glitched
and coat‐hangers will be used again.
960
01:03:31,908 --> 01:03:36,333
I do believe that abortion
must be available.
961
01:03:36,416 --> 01:03:38,170
[applause]
962
01:03:39,381 --> 01:03:43,138
[John] She so diligently avoidspoliticizing anything.
963
01:03:43,640 --> 01:03:47,898
She just said, "I'm not political,I'm a sex therapist.
964
01:03:48,567 --> 01:03:50,111
That's where I stay."
965
01:03:50,904 --> 01:03:52,533
Tell me what's happening.
966
01:03:53,910 --> 01:03:56,206
Well, ever since the abortion,
I just feel so,
967
01:03:57,500 --> 01:03:58,670
I feel so depressed.
968
01:04:00,966 --> 01:04:03,345
I just feel like
I did the wrong thing now.
969
01:04:03,889 --> 01:04:06,018
[Dr. Ruth] You usually use contraceptive?
970
01:04:06,101 --> 01:04:07,771
‐[Laura] Oh, yeah.
‐[Dr. Ruth] So this,
971
01:04:08,272 --> 01:04:10,151
was a contraceptive failure.
972
01:04:10,234 --> 01:04:13,783
So don't blame yourself
for not being responsible, Laura.
973
01:04:14,952 --> 01:04:18,919
[Joel] She's political in the sense thatshe's had tremendous positive,
974
01:04:19,587 --> 01:04:21,883
political and social impact in the world.
975
01:04:22,383 --> 01:04:25,682
And she's able to reach peopleon a very human level
976
01:04:26,141 --> 01:04:29,732
that transcends theirpolitical or religious
977
01:04:29,982 --> 01:04:34,199
convictions about thingsand just speaks to them as human beings.
978
01:04:47,308 --> 01:04:50,899
[Dr. Ruth] When Dan and Ifirst came to New York,
979
01:04:51,651 --> 01:04:53,863
we lived in an apartment here
980
01:04:54,030 --> 01:04:59,667
on the third floor and in a one bedroom.
981
01:05:01,461 --> 01:05:03,090
Soon after we settled,
982
01:05:03,508 --> 01:05:08,350
I realized that Danand I could not stay together.
983
01:05:09,060 --> 01:05:10,354
I was very bored
984
01:05:10,939 --> 01:05:13,444
because he was not an intellectual.
985
01:05:14,446 --> 01:05:18,705
We had an old car,
I gave him the car and I kept the child.
986
01:05:19,582 --> 01:05:22,211
So suddenly I was a single mother
987
01:05:22,671 --> 01:05:26,344
in a country and a languagethat I didn't know.
988
01:05:27,514 --> 01:05:30,269
It was difficult raising Miriam by myself.
989
01:05:31,564 --> 01:05:35,071
I made $1 an hour working as a housemaid.
990
01:05:35,614 --> 01:05:38,787
But still I needed to learn English fast.
991
01:05:39,162 --> 01:05:41,500
So I read romance novels
992
01:05:41,918 --> 01:05:45,550
because I always wanted to read untilthe end to know what happened to them.
993
01:05:45,717 --> 01:05:46,886
[laughs]
994
01:05:47,428 --> 01:05:52,105
In the 50s, I don't remember anybody elsearound me having been a single mother.
995
01:05:52,606 --> 01:05:56,113
I was very poor, I really had no money,
996
01:05:56,196 --> 01:05:59,703
but that didn't keep me from having fun.
997
01:05:59,870 --> 01:06:03,502
I had parties every single weekend.
998
01:06:03,670 --> 01:06:06,299
Everybody bought food.
999
01:06:06,551 --> 01:06:10,307
The only thing I had to buywas potato chips.
1000
01:06:12,980 --> 01:06:17,488
[Miriam] I do rememberbeing like the only child ina room full of lots of grownups
1001
01:06:18,282 --> 01:06:20,244
dancing and talkingand having a great time.
1002
01:06:20,704 --> 01:06:22,749
'Cause she would take mewherever she went.
1003
01:06:24,210 --> 01:06:27,634
[Dr. Ruth] And when she got tired,I put her on the bed
1004
01:06:28,385 --> 01:06:32,059
and I put coats around herso that she wouldn't fall
1005
01:06:32,226 --> 01:06:34,480
and she slept through the noise.
1006
01:06:35,149 --> 01:06:39,992
I was kind of maybe a forerunner
of the single motherhood.
1007
01:06:45,754 --> 01:06:47,758
Boy, this is serious.
1008
01:06:49,302 --> 01:06:50,847
[Michal] I think I made a mistake.
1009
01:06:53,603 --> 01:06:58,613
[Dr. Ruth] I've never let your father
or your mother just win. Ever.
1010
01:07:00,199 --> 01:07:03,205
‐[Leora] Why not?
‐Because they have to learn to lose.
1011
01:07:04,541 --> 01:07:09,635
Jack and Queen. All right!
That's a good move.
1012
01:07:10,845 --> 01:07:12,056
‐Wait, wait, wait.
‐[man speaking indistinctly]
1013
01:07:12,265 --> 01:07:14,728
‐[Leora] Bye. [laughing]
‐Oh, God.
1014
01:07:18,736 --> 01:07:22,451
‐That's terrible. They ganged up on me.
‐All right, shake hands?
1015
01:07:22,661 --> 01:07:27,086
[Dr. Ruth] Shake hands.
Very smart grandchildren I have. Bravo.
1016
01:07:32,388 --> 01:07:33,599
So look at this,
1017
01:07:34,685 --> 01:07:39,110
here are my four grandchildren,
a picture of them, they all ski.
1018
01:07:39,945 --> 01:07:44,538
I used to love to ski and I used to bea very good skier. Black diamond.
1019
01:07:45,247 --> 01:07:48,128
In fact that's exactly how I met Fred.
1020
01:07:49,422 --> 01:07:51,886
One of my friends had a car,
1021
01:07:52,094 --> 01:07:55,434
so a group of us pooled our money together
1022
01:07:55,935 --> 01:07:58,357
and I left my little girlwith some friends
1023
01:07:58,733 --> 01:08:01,488
and I went skiing over the weekend.
1024
01:08:06,414 --> 01:08:09,212
I had a friend, his name was Hans,
1025
01:08:10,255 --> 01:08:13,470
and Hans and I went on a T‐bar
1026
01:08:13,638 --> 01:08:16,017
which pushes you up the mountain.
1027
01:08:17,186 --> 01:08:21,821
But he was so tall that when it was onmy behind, it was on his ankle,
1028
01:08:22,279 --> 01:08:26,747
when it was on his behind, it was on
my neck, it was an impossibility.
1029
01:08:29,293 --> 01:08:31,339
On the mountain, somebody introduced me
1030
01:08:32,007 --> 01:08:36,224
to Manfred Westheimer,the head of the Jewish ski club,
1031
01:08:36,307 --> 01:08:38,270
staying in the same lodge.
1032
01:08:39,105 --> 01:08:42,403
So, I look at this little man
1033
01:08:42,904 --> 01:08:47,204
and I say to Hans, "I will go upthe mountain with that short one."
1034
01:08:47,371 --> 01:08:49,793
Not as short as me,
nobody is as short as me.
1035
01:08:50,210 --> 01:08:53,926
And on the way up,
I learned that he was 35,
1036
01:08:54,051 --> 01:08:57,224
he had never been married,he was an engineer,
1037
01:08:57,601 --> 01:09:03,028
and I liked him right awayand I right there decided I'd marry that guy.
1038
01:09:04,823 --> 01:09:09,917
I had to share the room with another womanwho was with that group.
1039
01:09:10,083 --> 01:09:13,048
As I got into the room
at two in the morning,
1040
01:09:13,256 --> 01:09:15,637
because Fred and I spentthe whole evening talking,
1041
01:09:16,304 --> 01:09:19,520
she said "Keep your hands off that guy,
1042
01:09:19,895 --> 01:09:21,189
he's mine."
1043
01:09:22,776 --> 01:09:25,740
I smiled and I said to myself,
"Let's see."
1044
01:09:26,241 --> 01:09:28,538
Guess what? I married him.
1045
01:09:31,710 --> 01:09:32,796
[phone clicks]
1046
01:09:32,879 --> 01:09:34,382
Hello? You are on the air.
1047
01:09:36,803 --> 01:09:38,015
Hello, hi there, George.
1048
01:09:41,788 --> 01:09:43,122
Yeah, is she divorced?
1049
01:09:43,939 --> 01:09:44,313
OK.
1050
01:09:46,419 --> 01:09:47,272
Yes.
1051
01:09:50,841 --> 01:09:51,998
Mm‐hmm.
1052
01:09:59,387 --> 01:10:02,939
Yeah, George? Just because someone
has had two bad relationships
1053
01:10:03,023 --> 01:10:07,072
does not mean a third one
can't be fantastic.
1054
01:10:08,408 --> 01:10:13,043
So, to predict horrible things to happen
1055
01:10:13,209 --> 01:10:15,297
is not going to be of help.
1056
01:10:16,424 --> 01:10:18,428
And I heard you say, George,
1057
01:10:18,804 --> 01:10:21,017
I heard you say
that you love her very much.
1058
01:10:22,689 --> 01:10:25,526
Then I would not worry about her past.
1059
01:10:26,444 --> 01:10:31,496
Take a sponge and wipe it off. All right?
1060
01:10:31,664 --> 01:10:33,542
[Diane] This is the third marriage
for you, right? So you...
1061
01:10:33,626 --> 01:10:36,339
‐Yes, but I'm married with him now.
‐...didn't get it right the first time‐‐
1062
01:10:36,632 --> 01:10:39,513
[Dr. Ruth] That's true.
But I'm married now for 23 years‐
1063
01:10:39,680 --> 01:10:41,432
‐Almost 24.
‐That's a long time.
1064
01:10:41,517 --> 01:10:44,146
‐[Diane] You think it's gonna last?
‐I think so.
1065
01:10:50,827 --> 01:10:54,751
[Dr. Ruth] My first two marriageswere legalized love affairs.
1066
01:10:55,712 --> 01:10:58,968
But with Freddie, it was true love.
1067
01:11:00,847 --> 01:11:04,563
He adopted and adoredmy daughter Miriam.
1068
01:11:07,443 --> 01:11:10,575
And then together, we had our son Joel.
1069
01:11:14,624 --> 01:11:20,052
We needed a bigger apartmentso that's when we moved to the place
1070
01:11:20,302 --> 01:11:23,058
where I've lived forall of these years.
1071
01:11:30,030 --> 01:11:34,998
Even after I became Dr. Ruth,I'm very glad I stayed.
1072
01:11:35,958 --> 01:11:37,503
Because this is my home.
1073
01:11:41,177 --> 01:11:42,764
[doorbell rings]
1074
01:11:44,475 --> 01:11:46,522
[Dr. Ruth]
Excuse me one moment.
1075
01:11:48,651 --> 01:11:50,237
[surprised laughter]
1076
01:11:50,362 --> 01:11:53,076
‐Did someone order a pizza?
‐Well, we have pizza.
1077
01:11:54,203 --> 01:11:56,917
‐My Joel!
‐I'm pretty sure you needed a pizza.
1078
01:11:57,000 --> 01:11:59,923
My Joel, my Joel. My Joel is here.
1079
01:12:00,423 --> 01:12:02,219
You can all go home.
1080
01:12:02,386 --> 01:12:03,722
[Joel laughs]
1081
01:12:04,056 --> 01:12:07,062
[Dr. Ruth] I want to show you something.
I found an album.
1082
01:12:07,939 --> 01:12:12,489
All right, don't remember who that was.
Must be a lover
1083
01:12:13,491 --> 01:12:15,830
‐that I don't remember.
‐[Joel laughing]
1084
01:12:16,707 --> 01:12:18,376
That's my Joel!
1085
01:12:18,919 --> 01:12:21,508
You were the cutest baby in the world.
1086
01:12:21,675 --> 01:12:24,890
And now when are you going
to get rid of that thing?
1087
01:12:25,056 --> 01:12:27,186
‐The earring?
‐ A hundred years ago,
1088
01:12:27,269 --> 01:12:31,402
Joel appeared at Oscawana
and I see an earring.
1089
01:12:31,987 --> 01:12:33,991
Two and a half hours
I didn't talk to him.
1090
01:12:34,158 --> 01:12:35,661
I think it was two days.
1091
01:12:37,916 --> 01:12:40,045
So now you all leave
and I'm going to be very sad.
1092
01:12:40,128 --> 01:12:42,299
I was very sad
when you four left.
1093
01:12:42,382 --> 01:12:45,222
[Joel] I know. It was so nice
we all stayed here.
1094
01:12:45,305 --> 01:12:47,560
‐Yeah, but the apartment was so empty.
‐[Joel] Yeah.
1095
01:12:47,727 --> 01:12:51,526
I'm not a grandmother sitting in
a rocking chair
1096
01:12:51,735 --> 01:12:53,948
waiting for grandchildren to visit,
1097
01:12:54,574 --> 01:13:00,544
but I don't like when I have all of you
and have you and suddenly I'm all alone.
1098
01:13:00,753 --> 01:13:02,799
No, she does not like being alone.
1099
01:13:02,882 --> 01:13:04,928
‐No, I'm not going to sit here alone.
‐You've learned that, right?
1100
01:13:05,888 --> 01:13:08,226
[Joel] What I remember growing up isshe was always always
1101
01:13:08,309 --> 01:13:09,980
a whirlwind of activity.
1102
01:13:10,313 --> 01:13:14,363
You would wake up on a Saturday morningand there would be, like, some plan.
1103
01:13:14,531 --> 01:13:16,284
‐Right.
‐I mean, we were going skiing
1104
01:13:16,367 --> 01:13:18,622
or we were going here
or we were doing this.
1105
01:13:18,831 --> 01:13:20,793
There was always a kind of energy.
1106
01:13:20,876 --> 01:13:26,596
But at the same time, she was always
keeping her career front and center.
1107
01:13:26,888 --> 01:13:30,228
Oh, yeah. Stay‐at‐home mom
would probably be about
1108
01:13:30,312 --> 01:13:33,777
the most opposite description of our
mother that you could possibly imagine.
1109
01:13:36,533 --> 01:13:39,789
[Dr. Ruth] I really believed thatI would not have been a good mother
1110
01:13:39,873 --> 01:13:43,087
if I did not also have some
1111
01:13:43,171 --> 01:13:46,052
academic interests and a job.
1112
01:13:46,595 --> 01:13:50,101
I got a position at Planned Parenthoodof New York City,
1113
01:13:50,435 --> 01:13:54,068
which, in those years,was not as known as now.
1114
01:13:54,903 --> 01:14:00,080
I worked in East Harlem. Harlem atthe time was at the height of the unrest.
1115
01:14:00,581 --> 01:14:04,421
[Joel] She would travel everydayasking people for rides,
1116
01:14:04,506 --> 01:14:05,591
taking public transportation.
1117
01:14:06,510 --> 01:14:10,225
I remember her being gone a lotof evenings and my dad,
1118
01:14:10,392 --> 01:14:15,402
who to me always was the kind of stableeven keeled engineer,
1119
01:14:15,861 --> 01:14:18,074
would make dinner and things like that.
1120
01:14:18,534 --> 01:14:20,286
[Dr. Ruth] I trained paraprofessionals,
1121
01:14:20,704 --> 01:14:22,875
people who didn't havea high school diploma
1122
01:14:23,042 --> 01:14:26,925
to be family planning counselors.And I loved it.
1123
01:14:27,885 --> 01:14:33,062
That peaked my interestin the issue of family planning.
1124
01:14:34,816 --> 01:14:38,364
[Miriam] At home, she didn't talkto us so much about sexuality.
1125
01:14:38,824 --> 01:14:42,289
She always had a kit of birth controlfrom Planned Parenthood.
1126
01:14:42,540 --> 01:14:47,007
So in my little all‐girls school,when it came time for sex education,
1127
01:14:47,090 --> 01:14:50,305
I would be the one to bring in this kitand say,
1128
01:14:50,388 --> 01:14:53,102
"This is an IUD.This is a condom."
1129
01:14:53,186 --> 01:14:56,568
I think I just picked it upby you know, being around.
1130
01:14:57,402 --> 01:15:00,701
[Joel] I don't remember herhaving some big talk with me.
1131
01:15:01,285 --> 01:15:05,418
She quite deliberately left a lot of bookswith information around,
1132
01:15:05,502 --> 01:15:07,130
and I picked up those books.
1133
01:15:08,967 --> 01:15:11,055
[Dr. Ruth] Ever since I was young,
1134
01:15:11,138 --> 01:15:15,396
the most important thingfor me was education.
1135
01:15:15,480 --> 01:15:17,025
So, in 1967,
1136
01:15:17,108 --> 01:15:21,701
I started my doctorateat Teachers College, Columbia University.
1137
01:15:23,162 --> 01:15:27,504
Through that work at Planned Parenthood,I used the data
1138
01:15:27,588 --> 01:15:30,009
of following 2,000 women
1139
01:15:30,385 --> 01:15:34,936
and their contraceptive and abortivehistory when abortion was illegal
1140
01:15:35,353 --> 01:15:37,315
for my doctorate dissertation.
1141
01:15:38,694 --> 01:15:42,994
And I was 42 years of agewhen I got my doctorate.
1142
01:15:45,791 --> 01:15:48,964
While I was in Harlem,at Planned Parenthood,
1143
01:15:49,214 --> 01:15:51,260
people asked me questions.
1144
01:15:51,720 --> 01:15:53,890
Questions about premature ejaculation.
1145
01:15:54,474 --> 01:15:56,312
Inability to have an orgasm.
1146
01:15:57,230 --> 01:16:00,278
In that entire area of sexuality
1147
01:16:00,361 --> 01:16:02,742
that I could not answer.
1148
01:16:03,869 --> 01:16:06,498
I realized I didn't know enough.
1149
01:16:06,916 --> 01:16:09,254
I needed further training.
1150
01:16:11,050 --> 01:16:15,809
At Cornell Universitywas a sex therapist, famous,
1151
01:16:15,893 --> 01:16:17,813
Dr. Helen Singer Kaplan.
1152
01:16:18,272 --> 01:16:21,988
She was the first oneto devise a methodology
1153
01:16:22,322 --> 01:16:24,994
to treat sexual dysfunction.
1154
01:16:25,286 --> 01:16:29,587
Sexual therapy is a very complex branch
of psychiatry, really.
1155
01:16:29,921 --> 01:16:32,802
But the basic principal in a woman
who can't have orgasm
1156
01:16:32,885 --> 01:16:36,308
is to first teach her
to have an orgasm by herself.
1157
01:16:36,601 --> 01:16:40,024
[Dr. Ruth] I got accepted intoDr. Helen Singer Kaplan's program
1158
01:16:40,108 --> 01:16:42,487
to train as a sex therapist.
1159
01:16:42,863 --> 01:16:45,994
And I thought, "I'm in heaven."
1160
01:16:49,334 --> 01:16:50,713
In the Jewish tradition,
1161
01:16:51,130 --> 01:16:54,637
the word "to know" in Hebrew,it's ladat,
1162
01:16:54,721 --> 01:16:56,306
"to know" somebody.
1163
01:16:57,350 --> 01:17:01,191
It also means "sex,"which is wonderful,
1164
01:17:01,776 --> 01:17:05,241
because the word "sex"means "to know" each other.
1165
01:17:05,701 --> 01:17:10,418
It means to take the time to listenand to talk to each other.
1166
01:17:11,755 --> 01:17:15,470
By not having parents from the age of 10,
1167
01:17:15,888 --> 01:17:19,854
I was very much aware of the importance
1168
01:17:19,937 --> 01:17:23,360
of being touched, of being loved.
1169
01:17:24,822 --> 01:17:29,498
So that's one of the reasonsthat I became so interested
1170
01:17:29,582 --> 01:17:33,422
in the issues of the familyand of relationships
1171
01:17:33,590 --> 01:17:36,303
and, eventually, of sexuality.
1172
01:17:38,600 --> 01:17:42,733
Working with Dr. Helen Singer Kaplan,I was learning on the job.
1173
01:17:43,902 --> 01:17:47,535
We sat in a room with a one‐way mirror
1174
01:17:47,952 --> 01:17:49,496
and did sex therapy.
1175
01:17:52,126 --> 01:17:55,216
And I worked with her atCornell for seven years.
1176
01:17:57,428 --> 01:18:02,230
It was an absolute dream,working in the helping profession.
1177
01:18:03,232 --> 01:18:08,702
I had finished my studies, and was runningmy own private practice
1178
01:18:08,785 --> 01:18:12,333
doing psychosexualand relationship therapy.
1179
01:18:12,710 --> 01:18:14,839
Until 1981...
1180
01:18:14,922 --> 01:18:16,718
[Dr. Ruth] All right!
1181
01:18:16,801 --> 01:18:18,470
Hi! How are you?
1182
01:18:18,555 --> 01:18:21,519
[Dr. Ruth] ...That was the yearthat everything changed for me.
1183
01:18:21,603 --> 01:18:24,316
‐You look wonderful, you haven't changed.
‐You look wonderful. This is Betty Elam.
1184
01:18:24,525 --> 01:18:26,946
Without her, I wouldn't be Dr. Ruth.
1185
01:18:28,240 --> 01:18:31,956
[Dr. Ruth] I was still on the staff ofCornell Medical Center
1186
01:18:32,040 --> 01:18:33,668
with Dr. Helen Singer Kaplan,
1187
01:18:33,835 --> 01:18:38,845
a letter came to the program,would one of us come and talk
1188
01:18:39,054 --> 01:18:42,477
about the need for sexuality education.
1189
01:18:42,978 --> 01:18:47,278
Nobody wanted to go because
there was no money attached.
1190
01:18:47,613 --> 01:18:48,740
‐No money.
‐Right.
1191
01:18:48,823 --> 01:18:51,621
‐I saw the letter I said, "I'll go."
‐Yes.
1192
01:18:51,704 --> 01:18:53,625
‐"I'll fly a balloon."
‐Right.
1193
01:18:55,252 --> 01:18:57,423
[radio introduction]
Ninety seven
1194
01:18:58,092 --> 01:19:00,973
W, Y, N, Y.
1195
01:19:01,056 --> 01:19:03,185
[man] Let's check the Y, N, Yweekend weather.
1196
01:19:03,310 --> 01:19:06,108
[Maurice] I remember Betty camerunning back to the radio station,
1197
01:19:06,233 --> 01:19:08,195
and she said to our general manager,
1198
01:19:08,362 --> 01:19:10,534
"You're not going to believethis woman I met today,
1199
01:19:10,617 --> 01:19:12,495
she's this tall,
1200
01:19:12,579 --> 01:19:14,499
she has a deep German accent
1201
01:19:14,583 --> 01:19:18,257
and she talks about sex in a way thatI've never heard anyone talk before.
1202
01:19:18,758 --> 01:19:20,971
And I think we shoulddo something with her."
1203
01:19:21,764 --> 01:19:25,647
Frankly, this wasn't the top of ourpriority, we were a music station.
1204
01:19:25,814 --> 01:19:30,364
But at the time, radio stations wererequired with their FCC license
1205
01:19:30,532 --> 01:19:35,416
to spend a certain amount of hours everyweek addressing community issues.
1206
01:19:35,876 --> 01:19:38,840
And most radio stationswould assign programming
1207
01:19:38,965 --> 01:19:40,886
when not a lot of people were listening.
1208
01:19:41,637 --> 01:19:44,935
[Betty] A program like this hadnever been done before.
1209
01:19:45,144 --> 01:19:47,983
So I got a lot of pushback
on that, but that's OK.
1210
01:19:48,442 --> 01:19:53,077
If you're a woman in business,you're used to pushback.
1211
01:19:53,536 --> 01:19:58,420
And Ruth can be very very charming,plus she had the educational background.
1212
01:19:58,880 --> 01:20:04,683
So together we were able to get them togive Sexually Speaking a chance.
1213
01:20:06,269 --> 01:20:08,107
[woman speaking indistinctly]
1214
01:20:08,232 --> 01:20:10,904
[Maurice] The show was beingdone at 30 Rock.
1215
01:20:11,572 --> 01:20:13,868
She had never done a radio show before.
1216
01:20:13,952 --> 01:20:16,039
So the lawyers werevery nervous about that,
1217
01:20:16,123 --> 01:20:18,837
were very nervousabout giving advice to people.
1218
01:20:19,379 --> 01:20:22,051
And so we would record the showso that they could
1219
01:20:22,135 --> 01:20:24,849
edit out anythingthey were uncomfortable with.
1220
01:20:25,725 --> 01:20:28,272
Good evening.
I'm Dr. Ruth Westheimer.
1221
01:20:28,857 --> 01:20:31,654
Our program is
called Sexually Speaking.
1222
01:20:32,405 --> 01:20:34,492
Hi, you still there? OK, you're up next.
1223
01:20:34,577 --> 01:20:38,793
We would go up to our studiothey would have about 12 phone lines
1224
01:20:39,545 --> 01:20:42,008
and I would answer, "Hello.
Sexually Speaking.
1225
01:20:42,091 --> 01:20:43,302
Do you have a question?"
1226
01:20:43,845 --> 01:20:46,474
And she wanted the element of surprise.
1227
01:20:46,893 --> 01:20:49,899
The first time she heard the questionwas when she hit that button.
1228
01:20:50,107 --> 01:20:52,654
‐Sexually Speaking. You're on the air.
‐[John] Hello, Dr. Ruth?
1229
01:20:52,738 --> 01:20:54,825
‐Yes.
‐My name is John, I'm from Georgia,
1230
01:20:55,075 --> 01:20:57,789
‐and I have kind of a problem.
‐Let me hear.
1231
01:20:57,956 --> 01:21:00,294
[Maurice] We recorded the showon Thursdays,
1232
01:21:00,377 --> 01:21:03,091
we aired it on midnight on Sunday nights
1233
01:21:03,175 --> 01:21:05,722
because it was kind of buried there.
1234
01:21:07,099 --> 01:21:09,605
You know, who's up at midnighton a Sunday night?
1235
01:21:11,024 --> 01:21:15,115
So this really was a dead timeand a perfect time to put on a show
1236
01:21:15,282 --> 01:21:16,994
that you're a little nervous about.
1237
01:21:17,495 --> 01:21:23,215
I know of one gentleman who can
only have an erection
1238
01:21:23,675 --> 01:21:28,392
when his partner wears shoes
with a high heel.
1239
01:21:30,229 --> 01:21:35,907
[Maurice] Back at NBC in those days,you could sit in any studio and call up on
1240
01:21:35,991 --> 01:21:40,124
a speaker any other studio in the buildingand listen to what they're doing there.
1241
01:21:41,001 --> 01:21:42,796
Now we weren't doing any promotion,
1242
01:21:43,005 --> 01:21:45,134
but, apparently, word of mouthhad been spreading,
1243
01:21:45,760 --> 01:21:50,854
and we suddenly learned that 11 o'clock onThursdays at 30 Rock...
1244
01:21:51,104 --> 01:21:53,568
[Dr. Ruth] Hello. You are on the air.
1245
01:21:53,943 --> 01:21:55,697
[Maurice] Everything was stopping at NBC
1246
01:21:55,905 --> 01:22:00,414
as people were listening in toRuth recording her show for WYNY.
1247
01:22:00,497 --> 01:22:02,251
‐[Jeff] Hello, Dr. Ruth.
‐[Dr. Ruth] Yes?
1248
01:22:02,460 --> 01:22:05,842
[Jeff] I heard this rumor a while backthat a girl only has so many orgasms
1249
01:22:05,925 --> 01:22:09,182
‐in her lifetime.
‐[Dr. Ruth] God forbid! [laughing]
1250
01:22:09,265 --> 01:22:14,275
That's a new rumor that I havenever heard, listen very carefully, Jeff!
1251
01:22:14,442 --> 01:22:17,574
[Maurice] It was a different time, inthe moral judgements in America back then.
1252
01:22:18,283 --> 01:22:21,540
There was nobody you could talk toabout those kinds of things.
1253
01:22:21,624 --> 01:22:25,047
And suddenly, there was this woman onthe radio giving a straight answer.
1254
01:22:25,255 --> 01:22:26,801
‐You have to‐‐
‐[woman] If he found out I was pregnant,
1255
01:22:26,884 --> 01:22:30,307
‐I don't know what would happen.
‐OK, but you have to talk to somebody.
1256
01:22:30,892 --> 01:22:34,817
When people started to call in,
they couldn't say Westheimer.
1257
01:22:34,900 --> 01:22:37,697
It's a long name and it's not American.
1258
01:22:38,073 --> 01:22:40,662
They called and said "Dr. Ruth."
1259
01:22:40,745 --> 01:22:42,874
I said OK. Dr. Ruth.
1260
01:22:43,041 --> 01:22:46,339
Now all of your other famous people,
on radio and television‐‐
1261
01:22:46,464 --> 01:22:47,425
[man] They're all one names.
1262
01:22:47,509 --> 01:22:49,387
[Dr. Ruth] Everybody goeswith the first name.
1263
01:22:51,433 --> 01:22:54,565
But I tell you,
I was number one of that.
1264
01:22:54,773 --> 01:22:56,652
I'll get back to your calls
in just a moment.
1265
01:22:57,612 --> 01:22:59,783
[Betty] Everybody at the stationwas excited.
1266
01:23:00,535 --> 01:23:04,375
And then it gave me the argument,
now can I do it live?
1267
01:23:05,085 --> 01:23:06,337
And they said yes.
1268
01:23:09,093 --> 01:23:13,143
[Maurice] We went from 15 minutesto an hour and then to two hours.
1269
01:23:15,189 --> 01:23:19,113
[Dr. Ruth] On Sunday nights,people returning from the Hamptons
1270
01:23:19,280 --> 01:23:21,367
went into their car at 10 o'clock.
1271
01:23:21,702 --> 01:23:24,625
[male caller] I was laying on my bed,and I was reading a Playgirl
1272
01:23:24,708 --> 01:23:27,672
and all I had on was my roommate'sgirlfriend's underwear,
1273
01:23:28,423 --> 01:23:32,682
I was masturbatingand in walks my roommate.
1274
01:23:35,980 --> 01:23:40,489
[female caller] I have a vibrator,and it's gotten to the point
1275
01:23:40,573 --> 01:23:42,869
where I'd rather use itthan date men.
1276
01:23:43,538 --> 01:23:44,497
[Dr. Ruth] Yes.
1277
01:23:44,665 --> 01:23:47,587
[male caller] My penis is extremely large,
1278
01:23:48,463 --> 01:23:50,384
‐about 14 inches...
‐[Dr. Ruth] Mm‐hmm.
1279
01:23:50,467 --> 01:23:52,304
and most girls that I go out with
1280
01:23:52,388 --> 01:23:55,687
seem to be intimidatedby the size of my penis.
1281
01:23:58,985 --> 01:24:01,447
[Dr. Ruth] By 12 o'clock they werehome to New York.
1282
01:24:02,867 --> 01:24:06,416
I said that means that you
were nicely sexually aroused
1283
01:24:06,584 --> 01:24:07,836
by the time you came home.
1284
01:24:14,307 --> 01:24:18,398
[Maurice] Frankly, we didn't thinkit would explode like it did.
1285
01:24:18,941 --> 01:24:21,154
This was, "Oh this is a cool idea."
1286
01:24:21,487 --> 01:24:25,078
But I don't think any of us thoughtthat this was gonna make the difference
1287
01:24:25,162 --> 01:24:27,458
in the success or failureof the radio station.
1288
01:24:28,084 --> 01:24:31,550
As it turned out,it became what we were known for.
1289
01:24:31,634 --> 01:24:33,846
We were the station with Dr. Ruth.
1290
01:24:34,138 --> 01:24:36,476
Within a year, there were more people
1291
01:24:36,852 --> 01:24:39,816
listening to Ruth on Sunday night
1292
01:24:40,025 --> 01:24:44,534
than most of the morning drive radiostations in New York City. Unheard of.
1293
01:24:49,961 --> 01:24:53,511
[Joel] She didn't get really widelyknown until I was off to college.
1294
01:24:53,594 --> 01:24:58,019
My freshman year, I remember it was Sundaynight and I came back to the dorm…
1295
01:24:58,269 --> 01:25:03,363
[Dr. Ruth] There are plenty of women wholike to read Playboy magazine for fun!
1296
01:25:03,531 --> 01:25:07,664
[Joel] And I heard my mother's voicefrom, you know, 8 different radios
1297
01:25:07,831 --> 01:25:12,005
scattered around the dorm and I was just
completely surprised I'm like "Mom?"
1298
01:25:17,391 --> 01:25:20,439
[Pierre] Suddenly she's gettingtons of media attention,
1299
01:25:20,648 --> 01:25:23,946
out of the New York Times storycame a book deal.
1300
01:25:24,155 --> 01:25:26,451
And she started travelingand giving lectures.
1301
01:25:26,618 --> 01:25:29,750
Then came the late night talk shows.Letterman wanted her,
1302
01:25:29,916 --> 01:25:31,920
Arsenio wanted her, Carson wanted her.
1303
01:25:32,004 --> 01:25:35,970
There are myths that everybody has heard
and they will laugh, you will go blind…
1304
01:25:36,220 --> 01:25:38,475
Or hair in the palm of your hand.
1305
01:25:38,559 --> 01:25:40,563
‐Yep, all those things.
‐You lose your hair.
1306
01:25:40,688 --> 01:25:42,567
‐All of that.
‐[audience laughing]
1307
01:25:47,117 --> 01:25:49,121
[Pierre] Everybody wanted her.
1308
01:25:49,956 --> 01:25:54,131
She was doing all kinds of TV appearances,
Quantum Leap,
1309
01:25:54,298 --> 01:25:57,931
Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous,
Hollywood Squares.
1310
01:25:58,014 --> 01:25:59,810
Then she started booking commercials,
1311
01:25:59,976 --> 01:26:02,314
she did one with Pepsi, with Bo Jackson,
1312
01:26:02,397 --> 01:26:06,447
and then the Herbal Essence commercialwhich got a lot of attention.
1313
01:26:06,615 --> 01:26:09,871
If you think that's great,
try the body wash!
1314
01:26:11,123 --> 01:26:13,211
[Pierre] She began an acting career.
1315
01:26:13,921 --> 01:26:15,925
That's a kiss?
1316
01:26:16,342 --> 01:26:18,054
[audience laughing]
1317
01:26:18,889 --> 01:26:21,895
[Pierre] She had a sitcom,
Dr. Ruth's House.
1318
01:26:22,104 --> 01:26:25,653
She was in a major movie withGerard Depardieu and Sigourney Weaver.
1319
01:26:25,778 --> 01:26:26,989
[both speaking in French]
1320
01:26:27,155 --> 01:26:28,868
She even had her own board game.
1321
01:26:33,919 --> 01:26:37,175
[Maurice] She went from just aneveryday person here in New York
1322
01:26:37,259 --> 01:26:39,138
who goes to work everyday on the subway
1323
01:26:39,346 --> 01:26:42,520
to someone who suddenlycould be driven around,
1324
01:26:42,604 --> 01:26:44,481
could be paid for their appearances.
1325
01:26:44,858 --> 01:26:46,945
[Pierre] And then of course she gother own television shows.
1326
01:26:55,128 --> 01:26:58,802
After that, she couldn't walk 10 feetwithout someone wanting to pull her aside
1327
01:26:58,886 --> 01:27:00,138
and asking her a question.
1328
01:27:00,221 --> 01:27:02,727
I enjoy it, I always watch you on
TV and everything.
1329
01:27:03,061 --> 01:27:04,271
[Pierre] It just exploded.
1330
01:27:04,396 --> 01:27:07,319
[Susan] And she would say we're notgoing to let this business change us.
1331
01:27:07,528 --> 01:27:09,406
Because one day it could go
and her line was,
1332
01:27:09,490 --> 01:27:11,035
"Poof poof, it could go right out."
1333
01:27:11,912 --> 01:27:14,626
And she's the same person today.
1334
01:27:19,761 --> 01:27:23,936
Dr. Ruth. Ruth, do you follow your own
sexual advice with your husband at home?
1335
01:27:24,353 --> 01:27:28,529
Never do I permit him to come
on any program with me,
1336
01:27:28,904 --> 01:27:33,831
because he would tell you and Phil,
"Do not listen to her, it's all talk!"
1337
01:27:33,914 --> 01:27:36,043
‐So, that's number one.
‐[audience laughing]
1338
01:27:39,676 --> 01:27:42,097
[Diane] Is it true that you say
that it's all just talk?
1339
01:27:44,059 --> 01:27:46,105
‐It's a good line.
‐[Diane laughs]
1340
01:27:46,188 --> 01:27:50,990
[Diane] You never wince that there
are Dr. Ruth jokes around?
1341
01:27:51,115 --> 01:27:55,457
And Dr. Ruth imitations
on Johnny Carson shows?
1342
01:27:55,541 --> 01:27:59,841
Well, imitation is the most
sincere form of flattery, as someone said.
1343
01:28:00,341 --> 01:28:06,187
No, I don't wince. She is very
enterprising and straightforward
1344
01:28:06,270 --> 01:28:11,113
and shrinks back from
no controversial subject,
1345
01:28:11,197 --> 01:28:15,038
be it whatever it is, and it happens to be
sex in this case.
1346
01:28:15,121 --> 01:28:17,125
If you can call it controversial.
1347
01:28:18,670 --> 01:28:22,469
[Dr. Ruth]
This was Fred Westheimer's favorite bench.
1348
01:28:24,473 --> 01:28:30,068
He loved this park with a passion.He went here almost everyday after work.
1349
01:28:35,955 --> 01:28:37,959
One night in 1997,
1350
01:28:38,794 --> 01:28:42,927
I came home from a party forthe Academy Awards.
1351
01:28:43,762 --> 01:28:47,352
And Fred told me, "Ruth, I had a stroke."
1352
01:28:49,106 --> 01:28:51,110
So I called an ambulance,
1353
01:28:51,277 --> 01:28:55,995
and they took him to the hospital.
He was in a coma for ten days.
1354
01:28:56,746 --> 01:28:59,168
They operated,
they did everything they could,
1355
01:28:59,251 --> 01:29:01,338
and they couldn't save him and he died.
1356
01:29:13,446 --> 01:29:19,333
It was very sad because he would haveloved to see his grandchildren grow up.
1357
01:29:22,422 --> 01:29:24,092
It was too early.
1358
01:29:28,476 --> 01:29:30,606
[Miriam] Only time I saw her cry was
1359
01:29:30,940 --> 01:29:32,777
right after my father died.
1360
01:29:32,944 --> 01:29:36,367
Like at, you know, at his bed,
he took his last breath, and...
1361
01:29:37,327 --> 01:29:38,664
and I saw her cry.
1362
01:29:38,747 --> 01:29:41,001
And I've never seen her cry besides that.
1363
01:29:45,636 --> 01:29:48,391
After someone dies, Jews will sit Shivah.
1364
01:29:48,684 --> 01:29:52,525
It's a quiet timeand you stay at home for seven days
1365
01:29:52,942 --> 01:29:54,821
reflecting about the person,
1366
01:29:54,904 --> 01:29:58,954
and she did a couple of daysand then she went back to work.
1367
01:30:00,498 --> 01:30:04,089
[Joel] My mother has had a lot oftragedies in her life.
1368
01:30:04,172 --> 01:30:06,678
Going through the Holocaust,losing her parents,
1369
01:30:06,761 --> 01:30:08,097
losing my father.
1370
01:30:09,642 --> 01:30:12,022
She keeps engaged in so much work.
1371
01:30:12,565 --> 01:30:14,234
You know, here she is almost 90 years old,
1372
01:30:14,318 --> 01:30:15,904
but she's always busy.
1373
01:30:16,573 --> 01:30:19,077
I think she does a part of that
1374
01:30:19,161 --> 01:30:21,916
because she loves what she does,
1375
01:30:22,000 --> 01:30:24,046
but I think it's also...
1376
01:30:25,173 --> 01:30:26,801
it's her survival mechanism.
1377
01:30:28,137 --> 01:30:30,391
I think she felt consciouslyor unconsciously
1378
01:30:30,475 --> 01:30:32,312
that she had a choice to go on
1379
01:30:32,813 --> 01:30:34,692
or to be devoured by it.
1380
01:30:37,113 --> 01:30:39,994
[man] Are there parts of your past
that you don't like to talk about?
1381
01:30:40,954 --> 01:30:41,998
Of course.
1382
01:30:42,290 --> 01:30:45,088
There are certain things
that one does not share.
1383
01:30:45,171 --> 01:30:48,386
Not even with a spouse
or with one's own children.
1384
01:30:48,804 --> 01:30:50,223
Let me give you an example,
1385
01:30:50,306 --> 01:30:54,272
my family was exterminated in
concentration camps.
1386
01:30:55,400 --> 01:30:58,698
And there are certain aspects of, um,
1387
01:30:58,782 --> 01:31:02,540
the hurt and the loneliness
that I don't dwell on
1388
01:31:02,623 --> 01:31:05,420
because there are certain things
that nobody else can help.
1389
01:31:06,130 --> 01:31:07,257
[man] Thank you.
1390
01:31:09,929 --> 01:31:12,977
[Joel] It's easy for you and me to say
1391
01:31:13,060 --> 01:31:14,939
she's blocking off her feelings
1392
01:31:15,022 --> 01:31:17,695
or she should reallyexplore this in depth.
1393
01:31:18,154 --> 01:31:20,659
[Miriam] But that's who she is.
1394
01:31:21,201 --> 01:31:22,538
That's how she survives
1395
01:31:23,122 --> 01:31:26,796
and whatever it takesto be able to live your life
1396
01:31:26,880 --> 01:31:30,846
as fully as she has is...
1397
01:31:32,265 --> 01:31:34,060
you know, OK by me.
1398
01:31:47,003 --> 01:31:48,047
[Dr. Ruth]
More flowers?
1399
01:31:48,757 --> 01:31:51,094
Oh, my gosh, who sent me that?
1400
01:31:51,178 --> 01:31:52,640
That's beautiful.
1401
01:31:52,723 --> 01:31:53,892
All right.
1402
01:31:54,602 --> 01:31:56,689
Not to be taken for granted,
1403
01:31:57,357 --> 01:32:00,656
the New York Times,
the most important paper
1404
01:32:00,739 --> 01:32:03,662
in the entire United States.
1405
01:32:03,745 --> 01:32:06,709
On my birthday, front page,
1406
01:32:06,793 --> 01:32:10,509
not just buried sometime,
someplace inside.
1407
01:32:10,592 --> 01:32:12,220
Look at this.
1408
01:32:12,596 --> 01:32:13,723
Oops.
1409
01:32:15,936 --> 01:32:18,900
"At 90, still talking about sex
1410
01:32:18,984 --> 01:32:20,444
from morning to night."
1411
01:32:21,405 --> 01:32:24,452
OK, let's go, let's go.
1412
01:32:26,666 --> 01:32:27,960
[laughing]
1413
01:32:36,101 --> 01:32:37,605
I do remember
1414
01:32:38,022 --> 01:32:40,443
when I was about nine and a half,
1415
01:32:40,527 --> 01:32:43,032
before I left Frankfurt for Switzerland,
1416
01:32:43,658 --> 01:32:46,873
there was a book in my parent's library
1417
01:32:46,956 --> 01:32:49,002
up on the last shelf,
1418
01:32:49,837 --> 01:32:54,555
and when nobody was home,I climbed up to look at the book.
1419
01:32:56,016 --> 01:32:58,437
It was called The Ideal Marriage.
1420
01:32:59,439 --> 01:33:03,698
And saw that book with sexual positions
1421
01:33:03,782 --> 01:33:07,038
and said,"That's what my parents are doing!"
1422
01:33:10,461 --> 01:33:12,090
So my parents,
1423
01:33:12,173 --> 01:33:16,264
even though they never had the opportunityto know me later...
1424
01:33:17,768 --> 01:33:21,441
they helped mebecome the person I am today.
1425
01:33:22,485 --> 01:33:24,072
‐Thank you, Vincent.
‐You're welcome.
1426
01:33:24,155 --> 01:33:26,619
‐Make sure they're feeding you.
‐OK.
1427
01:33:36,012 --> 01:33:37,683
[Michal]
We all often get asked,
1428
01:33:37,766 --> 01:33:40,312
what's it like to be the grandchildren
of Dr. Ruth.
1429
01:33:40,814 --> 01:33:43,152
Well, it's having a grandmother
who's really funny,
1430
01:33:43,444 --> 01:33:45,574
who hikes and who skis and swims,
1431
01:33:45,657 --> 01:33:47,870
and who gives wonderful advice
to her grandchildren.
1432
01:33:47,953 --> 01:33:50,332
Happy 90th birthday to our wonderful Omi.
1433
01:33:52,755 --> 01:33:55,134
Anyone who knows Ruth well, also knows
1434
01:33:55,217 --> 01:33:58,390
that she does not discuss her
area of expertise with her family.
1435
01:33:59,434 --> 01:34:01,104
There is one exception in 4th grade,
1436
01:34:01,188 --> 01:34:02,983
when she gave a sex education lecture
1437
01:34:03,066 --> 01:34:05,279
in my entire class
at Riverdale Country School.
1438
01:34:05,362 --> 01:34:07,408
[audience laughing]
1439
01:34:08,160 --> 01:34:09,663
And I still haven't recovered.
1440
01:34:14,130 --> 01:34:17,094
All jokes aside, happy 90th birthday, Omi.
1441
01:34:17,554 --> 01:34:19,474
I feel very lucky to be your grandson,
1442
01:34:19,558 --> 01:34:20,811
and that think
there are millions of people
1443
01:34:20,894 --> 01:34:22,731
who are lucky to have taken your advice.
1444
01:34:29,787 --> 01:34:32,793
Ruth may have become Dr. Ruth
in the 1980s,
1445
01:34:32,876 --> 01:34:34,797
but 30 plus years later,
1446
01:34:34,880 --> 01:34:36,174
she continues to educate
1447
01:34:36,424 --> 01:34:38,638
and inspire all of us.
1448
01:34:39,305 --> 01:34:41,309
Tonight provides us an opportunity
1449
01:34:41,393 --> 01:34:43,815
to tell you how much of an impact
1450
01:34:43,898 --> 01:34:46,278
you and your life still have.
1451
01:34:46,946 --> 01:34:50,745
May you have many more
healthy and happy birthdays.
1452
01:34:57,634 --> 01:34:59,012
Grandchildren!
1453
01:34:59,805 --> 01:35:01,266
When I look back,
1454
01:35:01,349 --> 01:35:05,984
it was exactly 70 years ago,on my 20th birthday,
1455
01:35:06,067 --> 01:35:08,531
that I was wounded in Jerusalem,
1456
01:35:08,615 --> 01:35:10,869
and I could've lost both my legs.
1457
01:35:11,829 --> 01:35:14,543
And it is 80 years ago
1458
01:35:14,710 --> 01:35:17,883
that I left Frankfurt am Main
1459
01:35:17,966 --> 01:35:19,845
because of the Nazis.
1460
01:35:20,931 --> 01:35:23,185
If I could talk to that girl now,
1461
01:35:23,728 --> 01:35:26,901
I would say, "Despite the fact
1462
01:35:26,984 --> 01:35:30,909
that you lived through some tragic events,
1463
01:35:32,746 --> 01:35:36,169
look what has happened to youin your life."
1464
01:35:51,199 --> 01:35:53,621
You people, did you eat something?
1465
01:35:55,124 --> 01:35:56,459
Bye‐bye!
1466
01:35:57,629 --> 01:35:59,173
Hold my hand, please.
1467
01:36:03,265 --> 01:36:04,560
All right.
1468
01:36:04,643 --> 01:36:06,939
‐Did you eat?
‐[man] Yeah.
1469
01:36:13,911 --> 01:36:15,707
From my background,
1470
01:36:15,790 --> 01:36:18,336
all of the things that I've survived,
1471
01:36:18,420 --> 01:36:21,886
I have an obligation to live large
1472
01:36:21,969 --> 01:36:25,225
and make a dent in this world.
1473
01:36:27,814 --> 01:36:29,108
‐OK.
‐OK.
1474
01:36:59,753 --> 01:37:01,297
Oh, I see a rainbow!
1475
01:37:01,381 --> 01:37:02,759
Get the rainbow!
1476
01:37:03,093 --> 01:37:04,888
Rainbows bring good luck.
1477
01:37:05,723 --> 01:37:08,228
Here, I see cows.
1478
01:37:09,021 --> 01:37:11,819
One, two, a whole bunch of them.
1479
01:37:12,696 --> 01:37:16,871
Fred Westheimer would've wanted to stop
to talk to them.
1480
01:37:18,875 --> 01:37:20,628
Look at that snow.
1481
01:37:23,425 --> 01:37:25,053
[man laughing]
1482
01:37:26,264 --> 01:37:27,851
Snow in August!
1483
01:37:29,145 --> 01:37:30,940
There is an American term
1484
01:37:31,024 --> 01:37:33,863
which I don't use,
but I'm going to use it now.
1485
01:37:34,363 --> 01:37:35,783
"Cock‐teasing."
1486
01:37:36,201 --> 01:37:40,543
So, you've never heard me
use that word. Right?
1487
01:37:41,754 --> 01:37:43,298
We have to discuss that.
1488
01:37:43,591 --> 01:37:46,387
Ryan, you have to taste this.
1489
01:37:46,680 --> 01:37:47,974
Something special.
1490
01:37:48,643 --> 01:37:52,567
Who else in the world has a friend
1491
01:37:52,943 --> 01:37:55,782
who is a big shot attorney!
1492
01:37:56,449 --> 01:37:58,495
Can I tell them how much money you make?
1493
01:37:58,579 --> 01:37:59,748
No.
1494
01:37:59,831 --> 01:38:01,835
I know how much money he makes per hour.
1495
01:38:02,002 --> 01:38:03,129
I won't say it.
1496
01:38:06,344 --> 01:38:08,808
The last one. Eat it, Ryan.
1497
01:38:10,102 --> 01:38:12,314
‐[Dr. Ruth] Can you hear me?
‐[Jacobson] I can. You sound beautiful.
1498
01:38:12,398 --> 01:38:13,483
[Dr. Ruth]
All right.
1499
01:38:13,567 --> 01:38:16,573
I just have to remember
that it's on all the time.
1500
01:38:19,245 --> 01:38:22,251
There's a lot of cow shit. Oop!
1501
01:38:23,546 --> 01:38:26,510
I have two dollhouses in New York,
1502
01:38:26,593 --> 01:38:28,931
and I need one of those.
1503
01:38:29,641 --> 01:38:33,858
I love anything that is small
and perfect like me.
1504
01:38:34,358 --> 01:38:35,360
[door opens]
1505
01:38:35,444 --> 01:38:36,487
[Dr. Ruth speaking]
1506
01:38:38,617 --> 01:38:40,705
Look what I took for you!
1507
01:38:40,788 --> 01:38:42,542
Look what I stole for you.
1508
01:38:42,625 --> 01:38:44,211
Some candy for everyone.
1509
01:38:44,295 --> 01:38:45,297
[Greg speaking]
1510
01:38:45,380 --> 01:38:46,717
[Dr. Ruth] No, it's not borrowed.
You can eat it.
1511
01:38:46,800 --> 01:38:47,719
[laughter]
1512
01:38:50,558 --> 01:38:52,186
[Ryan] You said the last one.
1513
01:38:52,269 --> 01:38:53,480
Another one?
1514
01:38:54,566 --> 01:38:57,655
[interviewer]
1515
01:38:58,323 --> 01:39:00,369
What a stupid question!
1516
01:39:00,452 --> 01:39:01,747
Next question.
1517
01:39:02,414 --> 01:39:04,628
With all my talking from morning to night,
1518
01:39:04,711 --> 01:39:06,673
I'm actually a very private person.
1519
01:39:07,466 --> 01:39:10,973
You will not know how much money I have,
1520
01:39:11,057 --> 01:39:13,478
and you're not going to know
with whom I'm sleeping either.
1521
01:39:13,562 --> 01:39:15,315
‐That's it! Goodbye!
‐[laughter]
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