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- The experts matched
five couples
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to be married at first sight.
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- Oh.
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- One marriage ended
before it began.
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But for the first time,
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the experts gave Michael
a second chance
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at love with Chloe.
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- This is perfect.
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And there's enough room
for a sanctuary out here.
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[chuckles]
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- Now that I've really
started to evaluate,
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I'm really questioning
this marriage.
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- I do not want us
to give up too quickly.
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I want to ask of you
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not to make your decision
until Decision Day.
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- Okay.
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- ♪ You know you want it
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- I think we all lost sight
of how beautiful we all are,
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and I wanted
to celebrate that.
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- While our other four couples
have already chosen divorce,
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Chloe and Michael
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will make their own
life-altering choice.
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- If we say yes tomorrow,
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it gives us a chance
to keep going
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and making it something
even more awesome.
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- I feel confident
and feel good
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to, like, say that we can
continue this marriage.
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- My opinion, I say yes.
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- [crying] It's hard for me to
imagine my life without him.
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And yet at the same time,
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I don't know
that we're meant to be.
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[dramatic music]
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I've never been so torn
in my entire life.
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- You're trying to make
me out to be the villain,
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when all I do is [bleep] try.
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And every time I pull back,
you pull me back in.
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And I'm like, all right,
well, let me try some more,
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and then you literally
give me nothing.
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♪
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- Do you feel there's
possibilities to fight for it,
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to fight for it here?
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- I'm the all-in,
or I'm the all-out.
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♪
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- ♪ It's all or nothing
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way
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♪
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♪ It's all or nothing
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[upbeat pop music]
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♪
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- Hello.
[chair scrapes]
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- [laughing]
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♪
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- Oh, my God.
It's good to see you.
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- Oh, you too.
- My God.
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- How you doing?
- I am great.
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I want to know about you.
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How are you doing?
That's the question.
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- Oh, it's always a question,
isn't it?
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- It is.
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- Decision Day
is coming up quick.
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- Oh, my God.
Are you ready for that?
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- [sighs] No.
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♪
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No, I'm not.
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- Afraid I was going
to hear you say that.
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- We're just
in this really...
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[sighs, clicks tongue]
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Mysterious place.
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- Hmm.
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Last night I wake up to...
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Michael...
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saying that he feels that he
was not built for marriage.
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♪
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- Hmm.
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It probably lowered
your confidence
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in the relationship.
- [sighs]
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It not only lowered
my confidence,
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but I'm wondering
how he feels about me.
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And it started bringing
feelings of uncertainty.
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♪
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- Do you...
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if you were to guess,
do you think he would say no?
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- Um...
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yeah.
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- Really?
- Mm-hmm.
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♪
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- I really feel like you
wouldn't have said that
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two weeks ago.
- Mm-mm.
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No.
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- How did it all
change so much?
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- I think he's scared.
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- Are you?
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[indistinct chatter]
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♪
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- Yeah.
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- Chloe...
[chuckles]
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I didn't see that coming.
[chuckles]
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But--
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- I didn't see
it coming either.
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- Not long ago, you were
in the happiest place.
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And I know you are giving
everything and more
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for this to work.
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And I believe he is, too.
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So, now, don't you think
that you guys could...
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try?
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Don't you think it's worth
at least trying
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to see if you guys can get back
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to that place
where you were not long ago?
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- I don't know.
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♪
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[crying] It's hard for me
to imagine my life without him.
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♪
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And yet at the same time,
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I don't know
that we're meant to be.
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♪
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Ah.
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- ♪ We could cry,
we could cry for yesterday ♪
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- I've never been so torn
in my entire life.
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♪
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♪ So we will cry, we will cry
for yesterday ♪
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♪
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[upbeat music]
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♪
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- Getting ready to take off
for the...
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last group meetup.
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♪
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I'm not gonna lie,
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I'm a little nervous
about going.
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- It feels bittersweet.
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It feels like this could
have ended so differently
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compared to how it's ending.
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- Well, Becca and I have texted
a few times.
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And that went well,
so I'm hoping that, like...
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♪
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when we meet up today, we can
just, like, have a good time
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and kind of laugh
about the things
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that have happened to us
and not, like, be hurt by them.
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- I just need to make sure that
I remind myself
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that I am not
what's best for him
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and this is the best way
that I can love him--
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is to let him go
and go find what he needs.
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- If I have any intention
or goal for tonight personally,
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it's to personally go out
on a good note
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and not dwell on the past
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and just enjoy
each other's company
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and have a good night.
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We're not even sure, like,
who's going to show up.
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Like, will Brennan show up?
We will see.
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♪
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- Hi.
- It's such a cute bar.
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♪
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- We got some friends here.
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- Hi.
- Hello.
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- We got some friends.
- "Kiss the floor."
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I love it.
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- Pretty in pink.
- You look so--
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- What's up, baby?
- So good.
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- Oh, I love this power top.
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- Oh, thank you.
Thank you.
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It's a power top.
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- Yeah, it's definitely
giving power top.
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- Inner Lauren, baby.
- [laughs]
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- Hi. How you doing?
- You guys look nice.
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- Thanks. We try. We try.
- Wow.
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- Lauren, how are you?
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[dramatic music]
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- Last to arrive.
- [laughs]
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- Hey.
- Hello.
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- Mm. Hey. You look great.
- It's soft.
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Thank you.
- Yeah, it is soft.
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- Hello.
- Hey.
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- How are you?
- Good.
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How are you guys?
- How are you?
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- What's up, guys?
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It's nice to see her,
but it's hard.
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You know, there's, like--
you know, our--
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I guess I can't speak for her.
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But, like, you know, your
feelings don't just go away.
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I mean, like,
I'm still not over it.
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Like, you know, every day is
getting better,
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but, like, it's still hard.
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- What's everybody drinking?
- Martinis.
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I'm just gonna go out
with a bang, so...
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- Let's go out with a bang.
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- Claire isn't coming because
she has to work tonight.
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- Oh, Claire's missing out?
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- Who wants to have therapy
this late at night?
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That's sad. I feel like
everyone should be here.
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It's the last hurrah.
- I can't believe it.
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- Yeah, everyone
should be here.
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- But do you guys
have any insight
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into why the others
aren't here?
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- Brennan only told me
he wasn't coming here.
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He had softball to do today.
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That's all I know
about Brennan.
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- Dedication to the team, man.
- [chuckles]
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- Can't let that intramural
sports team down.
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Okay, that's fair, I guess.
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I feel like we have so much
to actually catch up on...
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- Yeah.
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- Because we
haven't been together.
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- And you guys are
still together, right?
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♪
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- Yeah.
- [chuckles] Okay.
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- That's a valid question.
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- Not all of us are
separated, but, yeah, no.
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- Not yet.
- We still got--
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we still got a handful of days.
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- I just didn't want to, like,
miss something that was huge.
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Yeah.
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- I can't believe
your Decision Day
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is, like, so close.
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Time flies when
you're having fun.
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[laughter]
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- Yeah, I mean, there obviously
have been challenging moments
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that we've encountered.
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But regardless of how
challenging those moments
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have gotten, I am very thankful
that I got to face
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those challenges with Chloe
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because I think
that it's very difficult
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for me to imagine
having had navigate
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any of this without her.
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♪
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- For every challenge
that we've had,
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it has been
absolutely beautiful.
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And I'm grateful for that.
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And I feel like I've found
a partner
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who's always thinking,
and he's always feeling,
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and he's always
willing to talk about it.
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I think that's
the differentiating factor
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between being actively
engaged in a relationship
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and actively disengaged.
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♪
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Anyway, I am curious
about you guys.
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- Us?
- Yeah.
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- Well, I guess, you know,
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we've shared
some text messages,
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but I think things
have been good...
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- Yeah.
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- Because I feel like
the texts we've--
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few texts we've shared
have been good ones.
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- Yeah.
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Yeah, like, when I fall
for someone, I fall hard.
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And so, typically, for me,
I have to really remove myself
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from that situation in order
to really move forward.
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Like, seeing him right now
is really hard for me.
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But, like, I know that we...
- Same.
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- [voice breaking]
I love him as a person.
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I just know that, like, we're
not supposed to be together.
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And that's really hard, but
I'm moving forward every day.
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And I wish him the best, like,
and he knows that.
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- Yeah.
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- And I think he wishes
the same for me.
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It's hard seeing
Austin tonight.
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It makes my heart hurt.
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It's weird not to, like, kiss
him or just be with him.
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I miss him.
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♪
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Makes me sad.
[chuckles]
261
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- You did your best, and
you're doing better
262
00:10:00,917 --> 00:10:02,583
than you'll ever give yourself
credit for,
263
00:10:02,667 --> 00:10:04,083
and you're being
a better friend
264
00:10:04,167 --> 00:10:06,333
than you give yourself
credit for.
265
00:10:06,458 --> 00:10:08,667
- Thanks.
- She's great.
266
00:10:08,792 --> 00:10:10,583
- You're all great.
267
00:10:10,667 --> 00:10:12,625
And, Lauren, I want to give
a moment to really
268
00:10:12,708 --> 00:10:14,875
have a moment
for you to feel seen.
269
00:10:14,958 --> 00:10:17,667
Lauren is always sending,
like, daily affirmations.
270
00:10:17,750 --> 00:10:19,167
She's sending books.
- Yeah, and...
271
00:10:19,292 --> 00:10:21,708
Not even, like, being
with us in the process
272
00:10:21,792 --> 00:10:23,292
because hers got cut short.
273
00:10:23,375 --> 00:10:24,875
- Yeah, but she's still
with us.
274
00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:27,333
- She goes above and beyond,
gives me a book
275
00:10:27,375 --> 00:10:30,375
about needing help when
I don't even know I need help.
276
00:10:30,458 --> 00:10:32,083
- Yeah.
- Yeah, I love y'all.
277
00:10:32,208 --> 00:10:34,708
- And just--honestly, just
to piggyback the vibe,
278
00:10:34,792 --> 00:10:36,167
you know, Lauren and I,
279
00:10:36,208 --> 00:10:38,250
we've definitely
gone through our [bleep].
280
00:10:38,375 --> 00:10:40,667
I mean, it has been seen
in various moments.
281
00:10:40,750 --> 00:10:42,833
But, you know,
one thing that is clear
282
00:10:42,917 --> 00:10:45,583
is that I do hold you
in very high regard.
283
00:10:45,667 --> 00:10:47,125
You're a very smart,
beautiful woman.
284
00:10:47,208 --> 00:10:48,500
- She's incredible.
285
00:10:48,583 --> 00:10:50,792
- And everybody
is very lucky to have you.
286
00:10:50,875 --> 00:10:52,833
- I'm really happy
to have had this experience
287
00:10:52,917 --> 00:10:54,417
with all of you all.
288
00:10:54,542 --> 00:10:57,458
I think it was necessary
for my journey,
289
00:10:57,542 --> 00:10:59,000
and I don't regret any of it.
290
00:10:59,042 --> 00:11:00,583
♪
291
00:11:00,667 --> 00:11:02,792
As far as, like, my dynamic
292
00:11:02,875 --> 00:11:06,167
in my now-dissolved marriage,
293
00:11:06,250 --> 00:11:09,750
I've kind of checked out
because I'm just tired
294
00:11:09,875 --> 00:11:14,083
of waiting for follow-through
with things.
295
00:11:14,167 --> 00:11:16,375
So I've kind of
just set boundaries
296
00:11:16,500 --> 00:11:17,667
and checked out myself.
297
00:11:17,792 --> 00:11:19,375
- Yeah, still
trying to wrap my head
298
00:11:19,500 --> 00:11:21,375
around that message, but...
299
00:11:21,458 --> 00:11:24,083
- Hey, take as long as you
want--nine days, nine years.
300
00:11:24,167 --> 00:11:26,792
- Do you want him to?
- I don't care.
301
00:11:26,875 --> 00:11:29,375
- It kind of seems
like that's not true.
302
00:11:29,542 --> 00:11:32,167
- No, it's true.
I don't care.
303
00:11:32,208 --> 00:11:34,000
♪
304
00:11:34,125 --> 00:11:36,667
I finally thought about it
and sent him a message
305
00:11:36,708 --> 00:11:38,208
just setting boundaries.
306
00:11:38,292 --> 00:11:41,500
And the text actually
didn't require a response.
307
00:11:41,625 --> 00:11:43,333
That's the ironic part.
308
00:11:43,375 --> 00:11:46,292
But I felt like Orion
still decided to respond.
309
00:11:46,375 --> 00:11:48,417
And I looked and said,
oh, he really hasn't text back
310
00:11:48,542 --> 00:11:49,958
in over a week.
311
00:11:50,042 --> 00:11:52,583
- You're just
clocking the days?
312
00:11:52,667 --> 00:11:54,500
- I mean, I feel like
you offer things
313
00:11:54,583 --> 00:11:56,208
that you don't
follow through on.
314
00:11:56,292 --> 00:11:58,000
- I wanted to give you
a thorough response,
315
00:11:58,042 --> 00:12:00,000
but I'm still trying to
put that message together
316
00:12:00,083 --> 00:12:02,833
because it seems like
a lot of just psychoanalyzing
317
00:12:02,875 --> 00:12:04,667
and, honestly, a little bit
of projection.
318
00:12:04,708 --> 00:12:06,167
- I was not psychoanalyzing.
319
00:12:06,208 --> 00:12:08,875
I was being very compassionate
in that text message.
320
00:12:08,958 --> 00:12:11,167
I was being very understanding
in that text message.
321
00:12:11,250 --> 00:12:14,792
I offered room for us to still
chat about this
322
00:12:14,875 --> 00:12:16,417
if necessary.
323
00:12:16,500 --> 00:12:18,167
Like, I offered all of that
in that text message.
324
00:12:18,208 --> 00:12:19,958
- Yeah, you have all
your bases covered.
325
00:12:20,042 --> 00:12:22,333
- So what's the problem?
326
00:12:22,375 --> 00:12:25,583
- The problem is that
there's an expectation to it.
327
00:12:25,583 --> 00:12:27,542
- No, there is no expectation.
328
00:12:27,625 --> 00:12:29,167
I didn't even expect you
to respond
329
00:12:29,250 --> 00:12:31,792
until you literally said,
I want to respond.
330
00:12:31,875 --> 00:12:34,958
I didn't even ask for that.
You gave it, Orion.
331
00:12:35,042 --> 00:12:36,333
♪
332
00:12:36,458 --> 00:12:38,792
I'm trying to give you
what you asked me for.
333
00:12:38,875 --> 00:12:40,625
[chuckles] I didn't ask.
- Which is what?
334
00:12:40,708 --> 00:12:42,167
- I didn't come to you
at the couples' retreat
335
00:12:42,292 --> 00:12:43,958
asking for a friendship.
336
00:12:44,042 --> 00:12:45,375
- You can't even have a tough
conversation about anything.
337
00:12:45,500 --> 00:12:46,875
And so...
338
00:12:46,958 --> 00:12:48,958
- Okay, I feel very attacked
for some reason.
339
00:12:49,042 --> 00:12:50,750
I don't understand
why I'm feeling attacked
340
00:12:50,875 --> 00:12:53,083
for trying to give you
what you wanted.
341
00:12:53,208 --> 00:12:55,500
- I don't feel like I'm getting
anything of what I wanted.
342
00:12:55,625 --> 00:12:57,625
- I feel like you guys
haven't had the chance to talk
343
00:12:57,708 --> 00:13:00,875
about, like, your communication
styles and, like, what you need
344
00:13:00,958 --> 00:13:02,833
or, like, how you like
to express yourselves.
345
00:13:02,917 --> 00:13:04,667
- So she's been checked out
for a while.
346
00:13:04,750 --> 00:13:06,167
- I know you're not talking
347
00:13:06,250 --> 00:13:08,167
I've been checked out
for a while.
348
00:13:08,208 --> 00:13:10,333
- You have been.
You started dating--
349
00:13:10,417 --> 00:13:12,167
- You checked out, Orion.
- I have a question.
350
00:13:12,250 --> 00:13:14,833
Like, it seems
like neither of you
351
00:13:14,958 --> 00:13:16,958
really want to, like, be
in each other's lives.
352
00:13:17,042 --> 00:13:18,833
- And that's what
my message said.
353
00:13:18,917 --> 00:13:21,000
It wasn't an attack.
It wasn't a psychoanalyst.
354
00:13:21,125 --> 00:13:22,917
It was, like, I literally said,
355
00:13:23,042 --> 00:13:24,667
the only reason
we would have to talk
356
00:13:24,708 --> 00:13:27,042
is if we actually want to be
a part of each other's lives,
357
00:13:27,042 --> 00:13:29,500
and it doesn't seem
like we actually do.
358
00:13:29,583 --> 00:13:31,292
♪
359
00:13:31,375 --> 00:13:33,500
[indistinct chatter]
360
00:13:33,583 --> 00:13:34,500
- Okay.
361
00:13:36,208 --> 00:13:38,417
- Okay.
362
00:13:38,542 --> 00:13:41,875
- Well, on the note of not
wanting to be friends
363
00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:44,875
with your ex-husband or having
any line of communication,
364
00:13:44,958 --> 00:13:46,292
that is where I am at.
365
00:13:46,375 --> 00:13:48,625
It's like, I feel like Brennan
and I are living
366
00:13:48,708 --> 00:13:50,417
in two different realities
367
00:13:50,417 --> 00:13:52,250
and seeing the same things
that happen
368
00:13:52,333 --> 00:13:54,417
but from totally different
perspectives,
369
00:13:54,417 --> 00:13:57,500
and so just don't see where
each other's coming from.
370
00:13:57,583 --> 00:13:58,625
♪
371
00:13:58,708 --> 00:14:01,083
And...
372
00:14:01,167 --> 00:14:03,417
yeah, it sucks, and it kind of
makes me question everything.
373
00:14:03,500 --> 00:14:05,458
I'm like, did I ever really
have feelings for him?
374
00:14:05,542 --> 00:14:07,292
Like, I don't really know.
375
00:14:07,375 --> 00:14:10,042
It seemed like it was
just too calculated.
376
00:14:10,125 --> 00:14:12,125
- Calculated?
What was calculated?
377
00:14:12,208 --> 00:14:15,667
- It's like, you cannot get
married, spill your heart out,
378
00:14:15,750 --> 00:14:17,875
know you're gonna have to be
your raw and authentic self,
379
00:14:17,875 --> 00:14:20,125
and then decide
once you're there
380
00:14:20,250 --> 00:14:22,000
to, like, put up guardrails
381
00:14:22,042 --> 00:14:25,167
and then decide
that there is...
382
00:14:25,250 --> 00:14:27,250
like, a plot to be followed.
383
00:14:27,375 --> 00:14:28,875
♪
384
00:14:28,958 --> 00:14:31,375
I personally feel--and I
think I can speak on behalf
385
00:14:31,458 --> 00:14:33,250
of everyone but you guys--
386
00:14:33,333 --> 00:14:36,833
is, like, we just felt like
you guys cut our process short,
387
00:14:36,917 --> 00:14:39,500
and you decided
the trajectory of everything,
388
00:14:39,625 --> 00:14:40,625
and we had no shot.
389
00:14:40,708 --> 00:14:42,500
♪
390
00:14:42,625 --> 00:14:45,667
- I guess, speaking for myself,
I didn't cut anything short.
391
00:14:45,792 --> 00:14:47,000
It's just not what I wanted,
392
00:14:47,125 --> 00:14:48,833
and I found that out
on day two.
393
00:14:48,917 --> 00:14:50,708
♪
394
00:14:50,792 --> 00:14:52,000
- At the end of the day,
395
00:14:52,083 --> 00:14:55,750
it feels like the women came...
396
00:14:55,833 --> 00:14:58,667
armed and ready to make
these marriages work,
397
00:14:58,750 --> 00:15:01,292
and what was always going
to come first was the marriage.
398
00:15:01,375 --> 00:15:03,208
And it feels like that level
of commitment
399
00:15:03,292 --> 00:15:05,125
was not matched by the men.
400
00:15:05,208 --> 00:15:06,333
♪
401
00:15:08,125 --> 00:15:11,000
- I hear you. I just, like--
I feel personally attacked
402
00:15:11,083 --> 00:15:12,667
because I definitely
came into this
403
00:15:12,708 --> 00:15:14,125
with the right intentions.
- Yeah.
404
00:15:14,208 --> 00:15:15,875
- I think every
single one of us did.
405
00:15:16,042 --> 00:15:18,500
And whether you
believe me or not, like,
406
00:15:18,542 --> 00:15:21,917
I did my best
to try to, like, make us work.
407
00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:23,167
I really did.
408
00:15:23,292 --> 00:15:25,125
And I know I made mistakes.
409
00:15:25,208 --> 00:15:27,333
I know I didn't always do
the right thing and--
410
00:15:27,417 --> 00:15:28,958
- I believe it.
411
00:15:29,042 --> 00:15:31,958
I just think the priorities
and the prioritization
412
00:15:32,042 --> 00:15:34,667
for the men versus the women
was in different areas.
413
00:15:34,750 --> 00:15:37,000
Like, we were--
marriage, priority one.
414
00:15:37,083 --> 00:15:40,833
Priorities
for you individually--
415
00:15:40,875 --> 00:15:43,500
your reputations,
you wanting to give up,
416
00:15:43,583 --> 00:15:45,125
you taking the easy way out,
417
00:15:45,208 --> 00:15:47,125
like, you wanting to make
yourself feel better
418
00:15:47,250 --> 00:15:49,417
by making us feel [bleep].
- Well, I mean...
419
00:15:49,500 --> 00:15:50,833
if I'm going to speak--
420
00:15:50,875 --> 00:15:52,500
I mean, what it came
down to was a boundary.
421
00:15:52,583 --> 00:15:54,167
I mean--
422
00:15:54,208 --> 00:15:56,417
- I'm finding some emotional
discomfort right now
423
00:15:56,417 --> 00:15:58,458
by you saying,
I was done on day two.
424
00:15:58,458 --> 00:16:00,708
But on day three, you tell me
you're catching feelings.
425
00:16:00,833 --> 00:16:02,167
On day four,
you're crying in my arms.
426
00:16:02,292 --> 00:16:03,875
On day five, you're taking a--
427
00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:05,542
- That was
a pretty stressful honeymoon.
428
00:16:05,667 --> 00:16:06,625
- Can I finish?
429
00:16:06,708 --> 00:16:08,125
On day five, you're telling me,
430
00:16:08,208 --> 00:16:10,292
thank you
for your patience with me.
431
00:16:10,375 --> 00:16:13,000
On day six, you're saying
I don't have your back.
432
00:16:13,042 --> 00:16:16,042
So how can you say you tried
when you're lying to me
433
00:16:16,125 --> 00:16:17,583
the whole honeymoon, Orion?
434
00:16:17,667 --> 00:16:19,833
Because if you checked out
day two, then check out.
435
00:16:19,875 --> 00:16:21,125
- All right.
- Check out. Leave.
436
00:16:21,208 --> 00:16:22,500
- So this is what it is.
- Leave.
437
00:16:22,583 --> 00:16:25,292
♪
438
00:16:29,417 --> 00:16:30,833
♪
439
00:16:30,875 --> 00:16:32,458
- This is what it is.
440
00:16:32,458 --> 00:16:34,542
I was trying really hard to
stay in it and not leave.
441
00:16:34,542 --> 00:16:36,000
- I would have rather
you been honest--
442
00:16:36,167 --> 00:16:37,958
- Hey, let me finish.
Let me finish.
443
00:16:38,042 --> 00:16:39,667
- No, because I never get
to finish with you, Orion.
444
00:16:39,708 --> 00:16:41,417
That's the problem--we didn't
get to finish the marriage.
445
00:16:41,500 --> 00:16:42,958
I don't get to finish
[bleep] with you.
446
00:16:43,042 --> 00:16:44,417
- I think we should--
447
00:16:44,500 --> 00:16:46,167
- No, I'm really tired of
y'all always interject--
448
00:16:46,250 --> 00:16:47,500
I didn't interject
on you and Becca's stuff.
449
00:16:47,583 --> 00:16:49,292
- Oh, I'm sorry.
- I never interject.
450
00:16:49,375 --> 00:16:51,667
So I'm going to talk my [bleep]
right now because it's valid,
451
00:16:51,708 --> 00:16:53,875
because I'm not going to sit
here and listen to you--
452
00:16:53,958 --> 00:16:55,417
- I'm not saying it's invalid.
- Oh, my gosh.
453
00:16:55,542 --> 00:16:57,375
Can I [bleep] finish?
454
00:16:57,458 --> 00:16:59,500
You put me on an
emotional roller coaster.
455
00:16:59,625 --> 00:17:01,167
I got off.
456
00:17:01,208 --> 00:17:03,833
You dragged me back
in very publicly
457
00:17:03,875 --> 00:17:05,500
at the couples' retreat.
458
00:17:05,583 --> 00:17:08,542
And you can make your face,
but everyone was there.
459
00:17:08,625 --> 00:17:09,875
I asked for nothing.
460
00:17:09,958 --> 00:17:11,625
I literally said,
I'm here just to vibe out.
461
00:17:11,708 --> 00:17:14,083
You kept bringing me
back into this [bleep].
462
00:17:14,208 --> 00:17:15,875
So, finally,
I was, like, well, [bleep],
463
00:17:15,958 --> 00:17:19,125
maybe since Orion does want
to be friends, maybe I'll try.
464
00:17:19,208 --> 00:17:22,042
And then, of course,
I try, and you give nothing.
465
00:17:22,167 --> 00:17:24,083
And you're trying to make
me out to be the villain...
466
00:17:24,208 --> 00:17:26,458
- Nothing?
- When all I do is [bleep] try.
467
00:17:26,542 --> 00:17:27,917
All I do is try.
468
00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:29,167
All I do is give
you compassion.
469
00:17:29,208 --> 00:17:30,750
All I do is take
accountability.
470
00:17:30,833 --> 00:17:32,333
Like, you're trying
to make me out
471
00:17:32,375 --> 00:17:34,167
to seem like this combative,
crazy person.
472
00:17:34,292 --> 00:17:35,750
- I'm really not.
- And it's, like,
473
00:17:35,833 --> 00:17:37,250
I'm actually
just an emotional person
474
00:17:37,333 --> 00:17:39,125
that's been trying this
whole time.
475
00:17:39,208 --> 00:17:41,417
And every time I pull back,
you pull me back in,
476
00:17:41,542 --> 00:17:43,417
and I'm like, all right,
well, let me try some more,
477
00:17:43,542 --> 00:17:45,333
and then you literally
give me nothing.
478
00:17:45,417 --> 00:17:49,833
♪
479
00:17:49,917 --> 00:17:53,875
[indistinct chatter]
480
00:17:53,958 --> 00:17:56,625
- Lauren, I'm very sorry
I did that.
481
00:17:56,708 --> 00:17:58,583
I'm very sorry I did that.
482
00:17:58,708 --> 00:18:01,667
Something I found out
in my own self-reflective time
483
00:18:01,667 --> 00:18:04,167
of talking to everybody...
484
00:18:04,250 --> 00:18:06,208
I generalize
a lot of statements.
485
00:18:06,333 --> 00:18:09,167
I'm not clear and concise about
the things that I talk about.
486
00:18:09,250 --> 00:18:13,000
And I'm so sorry
if I misled you
487
00:18:13,083 --> 00:18:15,708
in any conversation
or in any situation.
488
00:18:15,792 --> 00:18:17,958
I'm very sorry about that.
489
00:18:18,042 --> 00:18:21,167
I'm not trying to change
your perspective
490
00:18:21,292 --> 00:18:22,667
on how you see things.
491
00:18:22,750 --> 00:18:24,167
♪
492
00:18:24,208 --> 00:18:27,083
And I'm very sorry
if it came off like that.
493
00:18:27,167 --> 00:18:29,042
I do hold you
in very high regard.
494
00:18:29,042 --> 00:18:31,167
You're a very smart,
beautiful woman.
495
00:18:31,208 --> 00:18:34,750
And even if we're not
friends, that's okay.
496
00:18:34,875 --> 00:18:37,625
- I mean, I think we all want
the best for everyone.
497
00:18:37,708 --> 00:18:38,750
both: Yeah.
498
00:18:38,875 --> 00:18:40,125
- I mean,
this was [bleep] hard.
499
00:18:40,208 --> 00:18:42,292
Like, I was coming into this
500
00:18:42,375 --> 00:18:44,333
hoping that, like, we could
all, like, reminisce
501
00:18:44,375 --> 00:18:47,875
on happy times and kind of,
like, re-bond as a group,
502
00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:49,542
even though it is hard,
503
00:18:49,625 --> 00:18:52,208
because, like, so many of us
are disconnected.
504
00:18:52,292 --> 00:18:54,000
But, like, that's not
what I want.
505
00:18:54,083 --> 00:18:57,625
I want us to, like, still see
each other as, like, friends,
506
00:18:57,708 --> 00:19:01,208
as, like, companions
and people who tried
507
00:19:01,208 --> 00:19:03,708
one of the craziest things
in the [bleep] world.
508
00:19:03,792 --> 00:19:05,708
♪
509
00:19:05,833 --> 00:19:09,417
- So, although we talked out
some negatives,
510
00:19:09,500 --> 00:19:11,667
I still think that was
actually very productive.
511
00:19:11,750 --> 00:19:14,167
And, hopefully, everyone feels
a little bit more clear.
512
00:19:14,292 --> 00:19:16,292
And, like, I do not want
to discount
513
00:19:16,375 --> 00:19:19,667
the very important decision
514
00:19:19,750 --> 00:19:20,875
coming up.
515
00:19:20,958 --> 00:19:22,333
♪
516
00:19:22,417 --> 00:19:24,500
You guys are
in the best place possible,
517
00:19:24,500 --> 00:19:26,542
even though it
doesn't seem that way.
518
00:19:26,667 --> 00:19:28,833
And I want you guys
to really soak up every minute.
519
00:19:28,917 --> 00:19:31,167
♪
520
00:19:31,250 --> 00:19:32,708
- And no matter
what decision you make,
521
00:19:32,792 --> 00:19:34,250
it will be a green flag.
522
00:19:34,333 --> 00:19:35,792
We're all where
we're supposed to be.
523
00:19:35,875 --> 00:19:37,875
- And you either join the club,
or you start your new one.
524
00:19:37,958 --> 00:19:42,000
♪
525
00:19:42,083 --> 00:19:45,000
- ♪ Oh, I
526
00:19:45,042 --> 00:19:47,250
♪ It's lighting up my radar
527
00:19:47,375 --> 00:19:50,125
♪ I feel it coming,
feel it coming ♪
528
00:19:50,208 --> 00:19:51,958
- What's up, playboy?
- Good to see you, man.
529
00:19:52,042 --> 00:19:53,708
- I'm not gonna lie.
530
00:19:53,792 --> 00:19:55,333
When they brought
the water out in there
531
00:19:55,417 --> 00:19:56,667
and she started pouring it,
532
00:19:56,750 --> 00:19:58,333
I was like, man,
I'm trying to get crazy today.
533
00:19:58,375 --> 00:19:59,375
- I thought it was
straight tequila.
534
00:19:59,500 --> 00:20:00,708
- I'm trying to
get crazy today.
535
00:20:00,792 --> 00:20:02,375
- Now we're really gonna
go in deep here.
536
00:20:02,458 --> 00:20:04,000
- Mm. Ahh.
- [chuckles]
537
00:20:04,083 --> 00:20:06,167
- Well, no, thanks
for making it out.
538
00:20:06,208 --> 00:20:07,667
- Yeah, of course.
539
00:20:07,750 --> 00:20:09,500
- You...
540
00:20:09,583 --> 00:20:13,958
you are my only friend
out here that's married.
541
00:20:14,042 --> 00:20:16,125
- [chuckles]
542
00:20:16,208 --> 00:20:17,625
- So I couldn't think
of anyone better
543
00:20:17,750 --> 00:20:21,000
to, you know, pick their brain
than yours.
544
00:20:21,083 --> 00:20:22,333
- Yeah.
545
00:20:22,417 --> 00:20:24,042
- Old Fashioned
and a jalapeño margarita?
546
00:20:24,125 --> 00:20:25,333
- Yeah. That's me.
both: Thank you.
547
00:20:25,417 --> 00:20:26,417
- Enjoy.
- Cheers to that.
548
00:20:26,542 --> 00:20:28,333
- Cheers.
549
00:20:28,375 --> 00:20:30,333
- Decision Day is coming up.
550
00:20:30,500 --> 00:20:33,167
And, I mean,
my disconnect right now
551
00:20:33,292 --> 00:20:36,000
is, like, I'm trying to get
to a place emotionally
552
00:20:36,083 --> 00:20:38,125
where I feel--
- Thank you. Holy cow.
553
00:20:38,208 --> 00:20:40,125
- Where I feel confident
and feel good
554
00:20:40,208 --> 00:20:44,417
and feel optimistic enough
555
00:20:44,500 --> 00:20:46,375
to, like, say that
we can continue this marriage.
556
00:20:46,458 --> 00:20:48,333
- Okay.
- And I want to be at a place
557
00:20:48,417 --> 00:20:49,958
where these things
are stronger.
558
00:20:50,042 --> 00:20:51,750
And she, to her credit, like--
559
00:20:51,833 --> 00:20:53,542
- You want to be a place where
these things are stronger?
560
00:20:53,625 --> 00:20:55,000
- The positive feelings
are stronger.
561
00:20:55,042 --> 00:20:56,458
- Okay.
562
00:20:56,542 --> 00:20:58,333
- When I refer to the positives
and negatives,
563
00:20:58,417 --> 00:21:00,500
it's not like the positives
and negatives in Chloe.
564
00:21:00,583 --> 00:21:02,208
It's like the positive
and negative emotions
565
00:21:02,333 --> 00:21:04,250
that I'm feeling.
566
00:21:04,250 --> 00:21:05,958
- Okay.
- So, like, negative emotions
567
00:21:06,042 --> 00:21:08,667
would be, like, when thinking
about Decision Day...
568
00:21:08,750 --> 00:21:10,167
- Yeah.
569
00:21:10,250 --> 00:21:12,667
- Fear, uncertainty,
570
00:21:12,708 --> 00:21:16,000
discomfort, like, concern.
- Yeah.
571
00:21:16,083 --> 00:21:19,708
- You know, those would be,
like, an example of, like,
572
00:21:19,792 --> 00:21:21,542
the negative elements, right?
- Okay.
573
00:21:21,625 --> 00:21:24,167
- The positive elements
would be like the excitement,
574
00:21:24,208 --> 00:21:26,667
the optimism, you know,
the joy,
575
00:21:26,750 --> 00:21:31,333
all those things
that I feel like would...
576
00:21:31,417 --> 00:21:34,458
propel our marriage
after Decision Day.
577
00:21:34,458 --> 00:21:36,583
- Yeah.
- So that's what I'm hoping--
578
00:21:36,667 --> 00:21:39,292
that those feelings will
outweigh the negative feelings.
579
00:21:39,292 --> 00:21:40,833
- Do they right now?
580
00:21:40,917 --> 00:21:44,292
- I don't have a clear answer
at this point in time
581
00:21:44,292 --> 00:21:46,083
of whether I'm
going to say yes or no.
582
00:21:46,167 --> 00:21:47,500
- Really?
- Yeah.
583
00:21:47,625 --> 00:21:50,333
- You just don't strike me
as a guy that's fearful.
584
00:21:50,417 --> 00:21:52,583
- Well, number one, thank you
for noticing my bravery.
585
00:21:52,667 --> 00:21:54,167
- [laughs]
- That's first and foremost.
586
00:21:54,208 --> 00:21:55,708
- You're the bravest man
I know.
587
00:21:55,833 --> 00:21:57,208
I mean, let's be honest.
- Yeah, it's--
588
00:21:57,333 --> 00:21:59,417
- Besides me, of course.
- Yeah, that's right.
589
00:21:59,500 --> 00:22:01,500
It's a different kind
of fear, you know,
590
00:22:01,542 --> 00:22:04,042
and that, to me, is what
I'm trying to work through.
591
00:22:04,125 --> 00:22:06,000
- Because you're not going to
live up to the expectations?
592
00:22:06,083 --> 00:22:07,625
♪
593
00:22:07,708 --> 00:22:09,417
- I mean, I think there's
definitely elements of that.
594
00:22:09,500 --> 00:22:11,542
The expectations of, like--
595
00:22:11,625 --> 00:22:14,292
And not just, like,
expectations,
596
00:22:14,375 --> 00:22:15,667
like, on paper and stuff.
597
00:22:15,750 --> 00:22:17,667
It's like, expectations
of, like,
598
00:22:17,708 --> 00:22:19,542
what we're supposed to feel,
599
00:22:19,625 --> 00:22:22,333
how we're supposed to feel,
how it's supposed to progress,
600
00:22:22,375 --> 00:22:24,667
you know,
where we go from here.
601
00:22:24,750 --> 00:22:26,458
- That's part
of the beauty of it, man.
602
00:22:26,542 --> 00:22:28,042
- I know.
- You don't know.
603
00:22:28,125 --> 00:22:30,000
♪
604
00:22:30,042 --> 00:22:31,667
I mean...
[chuckles]
605
00:22:31,708 --> 00:22:34,333
As a husband, as a dad,
you always doubt yourself.
606
00:22:34,375 --> 00:22:36,083
I doubt myself to this day.
607
00:22:36,208 --> 00:22:37,750
I mean, are you worried
that, like, hey,
608
00:22:37,833 --> 00:22:39,875
all right, we're going
to stay together,
609
00:22:39,875 --> 00:22:42,208
and we're going to go to
Decision Day, whatever it is,
610
00:22:42,333 --> 00:22:44,792
say yes, move on,
611
00:22:44,875 --> 00:22:48,292
and then things
just don't progress?
612
00:22:48,375 --> 00:22:49,667
You know, on some level, Mike,
613
00:22:49,750 --> 00:22:51,625
you're going to have
to put yourself out there.
614
00:22:51,625 --> 00:22:53,917
At some point, you got to put
your trust in someone.
615
00:22:54,042 --> 00:22:55,500
- Sure.
616
00:22:55,542 --> 00:22:57,417
- You know, you have to
put yourself out there
617
00:22:57,500 --> 00:22:59,167
and just trust in all
the factors that you know.
618
00:22:59,250 --> 00:23:00,667
Is she kind?
Is she kind to others? Yeah.
619
00:23:00,750 --> 00:23:02,292
You know, does she
make you laugh?
620
00:23:02,375 --> 00:23:04,000
Do you make her laugh?
621
00:23:04,042 --> 00:23:06,583
You know, and I get that your
problems are more internal,
622
00:23:06,667 --> 00:23:08,208
and I totally understand that.
623
00:23:08,208 --> 00:23:09,667
You know what I mean?
624
00:23:09,750 --> 00:23:11,125
But you got to trust
in yourself, too.
625
00:23:11,208 --> 00:23:12,417
♪
626
00:23:12,542 --> 00:23:14,250
I know you've got
the skills to do that.
627
00:23:14,375 --> 00:23:16,125
I know you got the skills
to be a great husband,
628
00:23:16,208 --> 00:23:17,625
be a great partner.
629
00:23:17,708 --> 00:23:19,625
You know, wherever
that leads beyond that,
630
00:23:19,708 --> 00:23:21,250
I know you've got it.
631
00:23:21,333 --> 00:23:25,125
So, my opinion--
I'd probably say, yes.
632
00:23:25,250 --> 00:23:29,708
- ♪ It's all coming to me,
it's all coming to me ♪
633
00:23:29,708 --> 00:23:31,042
♪ It's all coming to me
634
00:23:35,042 --> 00:23:40,000
♪
635
00:23:40,083 --> 00:23:42,833
- ♪ Brave-hearted,
brave-hearted, brave-hearted ♪
636
00:23:42,875 --> 00:23:44,292
[line trilling]
637
00:23:44,375 --> 00:23:45,958
- Hi.
638
00:23:46,042 --> 00:23:49,042
- Hey, how are you?
- Good. How are you?
639
00:23:49,167 --> 00:23:52,167
- Doing pretty good.
- Yeah?
640
00:23:52,208 --> 00:23:54,375
- How's things over there?
641
00:23:54,500 --> 00:23:57,375
- Things are okay.
642
00:23:57,458 --> 00:24:00,875
So last night
I had to see Austin.
643
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:03,167
And I think...
644
00:24:03,250 --> 00:24:06,042
seeing him was just difficult
645
00:24:06,125 --> 00:24:09,000
because he looked cute
and I wanted to kiss him.
646
00:24:09,083 --> 00:24:10,917
[somber music]
647
00:24:11,042 --> 00:24:12,417
- Aw.
- [chuckles]
648
00:24:12,500 --> 00:24:15,417
And I'm just wondering
if my anxiety
649
00:24:15,542 --> 00:24:18,750
was too high for him.
650
00:24:18,875 --> 00:24:21,083
- The relationship didn't end
because of your anxiety.
651
00:24:21,208 --> 00:24:22,167
Correct?
652
00:24:22,250 --> 00:24:23,542
♪
653
00:24:23,625 --> 00:24:25,833
- I don't think so.
I hope not.
654
00:24:25,958 --> 00:24:27,333
[scoffs]
655
00:24:27,417 --> 00:24:29,542
I mean, it ended because
of so many other things,
656
00:24:29,667 --> 00:24:32,667
but I do think that my anxiety
played a role in the issues
657
00:24:32,750 --> 00:24:34,708
that I was having
with the on-camera
658
00:24:34,792 --> 00:24:36,750
versus the off-camera
conversations
659
00:24:36,833 --> 00:24:38,458
and feeling
like I was protecting him
660
00:24:38,542 --> 00:24:39,917
and feeling silenced.
661
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:42,208
Like, I think the gravity
of that hit me harder
662
00:24:42,292 --> 00:24:43,792
because I have anxiety
663
00:24:43,792 --> 00:24:47,833
and because of all
the rumination that I do.
664
00:24:47,833 --> 00:24:50,333
- But I asked you a specific
question last week of...
665
00:24:50,417 --> 00:24:52,000
- Yeah.
666
00:24:52,042 --> 00:24:54,917
- Was there a way
for you to ever feel trust
667
00:24:55,042 --> 00:24:56,542
or go forward?
668
00:24:56,625 --> 00:24:58,583
And you said...
669
00:25:01,083 --> 00:25:02,500
- No.
[sniffles]
670
00:25:02,583 --> 00:25:04,667
- So my question would be,
671
00:25:04,708 --> 00:25:08,333
what do you do now to get
the Becca back
672
00:25:08,458 --> 00:25:10,333
that I spoke to last week?
673
00:25:10,375 --> 00:25:13,333
- I just need to remember
that, like...
674
00:25:13,417 --> 00:25:15,250
♪
675
00:25:15,333 --> 00:25:16,875
[sniffles]
676
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:18,708
My gut is so strong.
677
00:25:18,833 --> 00:25:23,708
And although my brain tries
to, like, make me feel bad
678
00:25:23,833 --> 00:25:26,583
about what I've done or maybe
the role that I've played
679
00:25:26,667 --> 00:25:28,625
in my marriage with Austin,
680
00:25:28,708 --> 00:25:31,375
like, I need to remember
that, like...
681
00:25:31,458 --> 00:25:32,625
♪
682
00:25:32,708 --> 00:25:34,708
My anxiety speaks to me.
683
00:25:34,792 --> 00:25:39,042
Like, if I don't feel safe,
it goes even more haywire.
684
00:25:39,125 --> 00:25:41,000
And, like,
I just have to have peace
685
00:25:41,083 --> 00:25:42,667
in, like, remembering
those times as well
686
00:25:42,750 --> 00:25:44,292
because I know I often...
687
00:25:44,375 --> 00:25:46,167
♪
688
00:25:46,208 --> 00:25:49,167
Will put on rose-colored
glasses for people that I've...
689
00:25:49,208 --> 00:25:50,833
dated.
690
00:25:50,875 --> 00:25:52,542
I mean, there's
a million things
691
00:25:52,625 --> 00:25:54,542
I would have done differently,
but at the same time,
692
00:25:54,625 --> 00:25:56,167
I wouldn't have
because I wouldn't have learned
693
00:25:56,250 --> 00:25:57,750
the way that I've learned.
694
00:25:57,875 --> 00:25:59,333
I think...
695
00:25:59,375 --> 00:26:01,667
I just have to keep
celebrating, like,
696
00:26:01,750 --> 00:26:03,792
who I was and, like,
how far I've come
697
00:26:03,875 --> 00:26:05,667
and, like, how brave that is.
698
00:26:05,750 --> 00:26:08,667
So I'm still happy
it was Austin.
699
00:26:08,708 --> 00:26:11,167
Out of all people
in this world...
700
00:26:11,208 --> 00:26:12,833
♪
701
00:26:12,875 --> 00:26:15,542
Austin will be a great husband
to someone,
702
00:26:15,625 --> 00:26:16,625
to the right person.
703
00:26:16,625 --> 00:26:18,208
He really will.
704
00:26:18,292 --> 00:26:19,792
But I still feel hopeful,
705
00:26:19,875 --> 00:26:24,042
and I still think
that marriage is a great gift.
706
00:26:24,167 --> 00:26:26,625
If I were to put together
my perfect human,
707
00:26:26,708 --> 00:26:28,333
he would definitely look
like Austin.
708
00:26:28,417 --> 00:26:29,833
Austin's hot.
[scoffs]
709
00:26:29,917 --> 00:26:32,000
[chuckles]
710
00:26:32,083 --> 00:26:36,417
But maybe just someone who
has honesty as a priority
711
00:26:36,500 --> 00:26:38,333
and who has me as a priority.
712
00:26:38,375 --> 00:26:40,750
- It is about, you know,
diving back into you
713
00:26:40,833 --> 00:26:44,833
and kind of
rebranding yourself...
714
00:26:44,958 --> 00:26:46,333
- Yeah.
715
00:26:46,458 --> 00:26:48,958
- And channeling who you are
and your confidence.
716
00:26:48,958 --> 00:26:51,875
All you ever talked about
is wanting to empower women
717
00:26:51,958 --> 00:26:55,333
and wanting to talk
about mental health
718
00:26:55,458 --> 00:26:59,042
and, you know, this very
positive approach to things.
719
00:26:59,125 --> 00:27:02,000
And I think you're starting to
finally do that for yourself.
720
00:27:02,083 --> 00:27:05,500
- Yeah. I know that if I just,
like, keep up with the things
721
00:27:05,625 --> 00:27:08,333
that I need to do
and not falter on those,
722
00:27:08,458 --> 00:27:10,167
like, I know it'll be okay.
723
00:27:10,208 --> 00:27:13,167
And that's confidence
that you've given me
724
00:27:13,292 --> 00:27:15,167
that I didn't always once know.
725
00:27:15,208 --> 00:27:18,333
It's, like, the tools
to be able to be okay.
726
00:27:18,417 --> 00:27:20,208
[sniffles]
727
00:27:20,292 --> 00:27:21,792
♪
728
00:27:21,875 --> 00:27:23,667
- Well, now you just
have to use them.
729
00:27:23,708 --> 00:27:25,167
- [sniffles]
I will.
730
00:27:25,292 --> 00:27:26,667
- With baby steps.
731
00:27:26,750 --> 00:27:28,292
- Baby steps.
732
00:27:28,375 --> 00:27:29,667
- Not all at once.
733
00:27:29,750 --> 00:27:31,083
- Baby steps.
734
00:27:31,167 --> 00:27:33,583
Not even toddler steps
but baby steps.
735
00:27:33,667 --> 00:27:35,000
[both laugh]
736
00:27:35,042 --> 00:27:36,708
Yeah.
737
00:27:36,708 --> 00:27:39,833
[upbeat music]
738
00:27:39,917 --> 00:27:46,875
♪
739
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,083
- This is pretty.
- Yeah.
740
00:27:49,167 --> 00:27:53,250
- Oh, it's beautiful.
I love Boulder.
741
00:27:53,333 --> 00:27:56,167
- [grunts]
742
00:27:56,250 --> 00:27:58,083
I'm ready to check
this space out.
743
00:27:58,208 --> 00:27:59,667
- Yeah.
744
00:27:59,750 --> 00:28:02,250
This last week
has been super rocky.
745
00:28:02,333 --> 00:28:05,333
And this is really
one of the last times
746
00:28:05,500 --> 00:28:09,292
that Michael and I will be
together before Decision Day.
747
00:28:09,375 --> 00:28:12,250
So I rented this gorgeous
little cabin for us.
748
00:28:12,333 --> 00:28:13,833
Oh, wow.
749
00:28:13,917 --> 00:28:16,083
After my conversation
with Cesar,
750
00:28:16,167 --> 00:28:19,333
I realized that I care very,
very deeply about Michael.
751
00:28:19,458 --> 00:28:21,667
So I...
752
00:28:21,750 --> 00:28:23,750
wanted to do everything I could
753
00:28:23,833 --> 00:28:27,458
to see if we could get back
to a romantic place.
754
00:28:27,542 --> 00:28:29,042
♪
755
00:28:29,125 --> 00:28:30,917
- Well, thank you.
- Yeah.
756
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:32,833
Will you hand me that blanket?
757
00:28:32,958 --> 00:28:36,250
- Yeah, I can and will.
- Oh, thank you.
758
00:28:36,375 --> 00:28:38,083
That's so kind of you.
759
00:28:40,792 --> 00:28:42,333
Thanks.
- There.
760
00:28:42,375 --> 00:28:44,500
Boom.
761
00:28:44,583 --> 00:28:47,042
- So we're headed
into Decision Day.
762
00:28:47,125 --> 00:28:48,625
- We are.
- It's coming up hot.
763
00:28:48,708 --> 00:28:50,792
- Mm-hmm.
764
00:28:50,875 --> 00:28:53,000
- What are some of the things
that you're weighing
765
00:28:53,083 --> 00:28:56,208
as we think about going in?
766
00:28:56,292 --> 00:28:58,625
- I think...
767
00:28:58,708 --> 00:29:01,250
there is a level of comfort
768
00:29:01,375 --> 00:29:04,917
that I have to develop
with the uncertainty and fear.
769
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:07,167
- Mm-hmm.
- I think that's a deficiency.
770
00:29:07,250 --> 00:29:09,500
I think that...
771
00:29:09,542 --> 00:29:11,333
I've...
772
00:29:11,417 --> 00:29:12,750
♪
773
00:29:12,875 --> 00:29:16,458
Celebrated my independence
774
00:29:16,542 --> 00:29:18,333
for so long.
- Mm-hmm.
775
00:29:18,417 --> 00:29:21,250
- I never thought, for example,
776
00:29:21,375 --> 00:29:23,833
that marriage equals
sacrificing your independence.
777
00:29:23,958 --> 00:29:25,417
I don't believe that,
778
00:29:25,500 --> 00:29:28,125
but I do believe it looks
a little different, right?
779
00:29:28,208 --> 00:29:30,000
And sometimes
I have a hard time seeing
780
00:29:30,042 --> 00:29:32,500
what that looks like for me
781
00:29:32,542 --> 00:29:36,167
and what that means for how
I see our lives together.
782
00:29:36,208 --> 00:29:39,042
Like, all of that--
this is my first time
783
00:29:39,125 --> 00:29:42,708
ever really processing that,
you know.
784
00:29:42,792 --> 00:29:45,292
- We are...
785
00:29:45,375 --> 00:29:48,000
really, really,
really, really great together.
786
00:29:48,042 --> 00:29:49,583
♪
787
00:29:49,667 --> 00:29:51,542
And we've been through
so much together,
788
00:29:51,542 --> 00:29:53,417
and it all happened so quickly.
789
00:29:53,417 --> 00:29:55,375
♪
790
00:29:55,458 --> 00:29:59,500
So I think, for me, I just
want you to know that...
791
00:29:59,583 --> 00:30:01,375
I am...
792
00:30:01,458 --> 00:30:02,667
- Wait.
793
00:30:02,708 --> 00:30:05,542
♪
794
00:30:05,667 --> 00:30:07,792
Continue.
- [chuckles]
795
00:30:07,875 --> 00:30:09,417
Whatever Decision Day
holds for us,
796
00:30:09,500 --> 00:30:12,792
I am just...
797
00:30:12,875 --> 00:30:15,958
deeply, deeply, deeply,
deeply moved and grateful.
798
00:30:16,042 --> 00:30:19,583
So thank you
for making this really fun
799
00:30:19,667 --> 00:30:23,417
and making me realize
just how much
800
00:30:23,500 --> 00:30:25,542
I want to do life with someone.
801
00:30:25,625 --> 00:30:27,333
♪
802
00:30:27,417 --> 00:30:28,333
- ♪ Here's to the ones
that keep on fighting ♪
803
00:30:28,417 --> 00:30:29,708
- Oh, my God.
804
00:30:29,833 --> 00:30:32,333
- ♪ Even though
they are afraid ♪
805
00:30:32,458 --> 00:30:33,542
♪
806
00:30:33,542 --> 00:30:34,333
- Thank you.
807
00:30:38,250 --> 00:30:39,708
- ♪ Baby, come
and make me go ♪
808
00:30:39,708 --> 00:30:41,625
♪ Oh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh
809
00:30:41,708 --> 00:30:43,458
♪ Baby, come
and make me go... ♪
810
00:30:43,542 --> 00:30:45,500
- I am really happy
that you all agreed to do this,
811
00:30:45,583 --> 00:30:46,958
because it's one of the things
812
00:30:47,042 --> 00:30:49,000
that I'm
the most passionate about,
813
00:30:49,083 --> 00:30:51,083
and I'm also passionate
about how much I love you guys.
814
00:30:51,167 --> 00:30:53,583
So, to combine those two,
it's very special.
815
00:30:53,667 --> 00:30:56,917
Today we are doing
a boudoir shoot with lingerie.
816
00:30:57,042 --> 00:31:00,000
Like, I think we all lost sight
817
00:31:00,083 --> 00:31:03,917
of how wonderful and beautiful
we all are.
818
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,750
And I wanted to be able
to celebrate that.
819
00:31:06,750 --> 00:31:09,500
We went on this journey
820
00:31:09,583 --> 00:31:11,750
to focus on our husbands.
821
00:31:11,833 --> 00:31:13,875
And, unfortunately,
822
00:31:13,958 --> 00:31:16,083
that didn't turn out the way
that we deserved.
823
00:31:16,208 --> 00:31:17,583
- Mm-hmm.
824
00:31:17,667 --> 00:31:19,875
- And so this is kind of about
taking that power back.
825
00:31:20,042 --> 00:31:22,417
And this whole experience
is supposed to show you
826
00:31:22,500 --> 00:31:25,292
what you look like
from somebody else's eyes,
827
00:31:25,375 --> 00:31:27,208
because the way
that we see ourselves
828
00:31:27,333 --> 00:31:29,292
is not an accurate
representation of who we are.
829
00:31:29,375 --> 00:31:30,750
I want to take
830
00:31:30,875 --> 00:31:32,708
whatever the least favorite
part is about you,
831
00:31:32,792 --> 00:31:35,167
and I want to make you love it.
both: Amen.
832
00:31:35,208 --> 00:31:36,875
- Love that.
833
00:31:36,958 --> 00:31:40,417
- I think that I'm
self-conscious of my tummy.
834
00:31:40,500 --> 00:31:44,167
I had that surgery,
and, like, I'm still swollen,
835
00:31:44,208 --> 00:31:46,000
and I have a lot
of scar tissue happening.
836
00:31:46,083 --> 00:31:48,125
So I'm going to
celebrate that today.
837
00:31:48,208 --> 00:31:51,042
My favorite part about myself
is probably my eyes.
838
00:31:51,125 --> 00:31:53,500
- Oh, I love your eyes, too.
- Yeah.
839
00:31:53,542 --> 00:31:56,958
- My least favorite part is
probably, like, my hips.
840
00:31:57,042 --> 00:31:59,625
They're just wide and big.
841
00:31:59,708 --> 00:32:01,167
And then I think
my favorite part
842
00:32:01,250 --> 00:32:02,792
is I just like, like,
my overall shape.
843
00:32:02,875 --> 00:32:04,167
- Right.
844
00:32:04,250 --> 00:32:06,042
- I'll be sure
to celebrate that today.
845
00:32:06,167 --> 00:32:08,583
- I would say
my least favorite part
846
00:32:08,667 --> 00:32:11,000
is probably my saggy boobs.
847
00:32:11,042 --> 00:32:12,167
[laughing]
- Oh, shut up.
848
00:32:12,208 --> 00:32:14,167
You have
"Game of Thrones" [bleep].
849
00:32:14,250 --> 00:32:17,000
- Like, literally, no,
you guys don't know.
850
00:32:17,125 --> 00:32:20,333
And then I would say
my favorite part is my legs,
851
00:32:20,458 --> 00:32:22,500
because I just feel strong
when I'm squatting,
852
00:32:22,625 --> 00:32:24,667
and, like, they can
hold a lot of weight.
853
00:32:24,708 --> 00:32:27,167
And so, to me, I just feel
so powerful in the moments
854
00:32:27,292 --> 00:32:29,042
when I use my legs, so...
855
00:32:29,125 --> 00:32:30,667
- Yeah, they hold the weight
of the world.
856
00:32:30,750 --> 00:32:32,042
- Yeah.
- I love that.
857
00:32:32,125 --> 00:32:33,833
- I would say my least
favorite part is my ass...
858
00:32:33,875 --> 00:32:35,500
- Yeah.
859
00:32:35,583 --> 00:32:37,167
- Because I feel like
in, like, the Black community,
860
00:32:37,250 --> 00:32:38,625
it's like,
you don't have an ass.
861
00:32:38,708 --> 00:32:40,083
And then for other races,
862
00:32:40,167 --> 00:32:41,667
they're like,
your ass is too big.
863
00:32:41,708 --> 00:32:43,375
So I was like, I felt
like I was always floating
864
00:32:43,458 --> 00:32:45,167
through a space where
I just didn't like it
865
00:32:45,250 --> 00:32:46,625
no matter what it looked like.
866
00:32:46,708 --> 00:32:48,375
And my favorite part
867
00:32:48,458 --> 00:32:50,375
is, actually,
I would say, my skin.
868
00:32:50,500 --> 00:32:51,833
- Yeah, skin.
869
00:32:51,917 --> 00:32:53,500
- I just love the way
I look in it.
870
00:32:53,583 --> 00:32:55,333
I love the way I feel in it.
- It's a good thing to love.
871
00:32:55,417 --> 00:32:56,875
It's the biggest organ
on the body.
872
00:32:56,958 --> 00:32:58,208
- Yeah.
- It is glowing.
873
00:32:58,292 --> 00:33:00,042
She really is glowing.
- Oh, my gosh, okay.
874
00:33:00,125 --> 00:33:02,083
So yeah, Em, do you
want to go first?
875
00:33:02,208 --> 00:33:04,833
- Yes.
- Yay.
876
00:33:04,875 --> 00:33:06,917
- ♪ It's the girl power
877
00:33:07,042 --> 00:33:09,208
♪ The kids
with all the attitude ♪
878
00:33:09,333 --> 00:33:12,000
♪ We got to shout louder
879
00:33:12,042 --> 00:33:14,625
♪ There's nothing
we can't do ♪
880
00:33:14,708 --> 00:33:17,000
- With one hand, you're
going to, like, really play.
881
00:33:17,042 --> 00:33:18,333
- She's a babe.
- With the other hand,
882
00:33:18,417 --> 00:33:19,833
you can either,
like, put it back behind you.
883
00:33:19,958 --> 00:33:21,542
- Brittany, baby.
- Yes.
884
00:33:21,542 --> 00:33:22,708
Yes.
885
00:33:22,792 --> 00:33:24,417
[camera shutter clicks]
886
00:33:24,500 --> 00:33:25,958
- ♪ We break the mold,
forget the old ♪
887
00:33:26,042 --> 00:33:27,500
- You look hot.
888
00:33:27,583 --> 00:33:29,333
- Oh, yeah, grab on
to the bedsheet a little bit.
889
00:33:29,375 --> 00:33:30,542
Hell, yeah.
890
00:33:30,625 --> 00:33:33,417
- ♪ With you by my side
891
00:33:33,500 --> 00:33:37,250
♪ I feel your voices sang
the planet to life ♪
892
00:33:37,333 --> 00:33:38,750
- Lean forward
with that hand again.
893
00:33:38,833 --> 00:33:40,542
- Oh, that's fire.
894
00:33:40,625 --> 00:33:42,208
- ♪ It's the girl power
895
00:33:42,292 --> 00:33:44,750
- Arching your back.
896
00:33:44,833 --> 00:33:46,583
- ♪ We got to shout louder
897
00:33:46,667 --> 00:33:48,542
- Yeah, and spin
towards me even more.
898
00:33:48,625 --> 00:33:50,833
- ♪ There's nothing
we can't do ♪
899
00:33:50,875 --> 00:33:53,875
- Gosh, these eyes.
- She's a stunner.
900
00:33:53,958 --> 00:33:56,417
- ♪ Nothing in the world could
stop a bit of girl power ♪
901
00:33:56,500 --> 00:33:59,083
- Now whip that hair, baby.
- Whoo!
902
00:33:59,167 --> 00:34:02,375
- ♪ Believe
and make it better, oh, oh ♪
903
00:34:02,500 --> 00:34:04,292
- And then look straight out
the window, Lauren.
904
00:34:04,375 --> 00:34:05,458
Yes.
905
00:34:05,542 --> 00:34:12,292
♪
906
00:34:21,125 --> 00:34:23,167
- Oh.
- There she is.
907
00:34:23,208 --> 00:34:26,042
- Okay, bow down to the queen.
[laughter]
908
00:34:26,125 --> 00:34:28,667
- Mama.
- You look like a real queen.
909
00:34:28,750 --> 00:34:30,833
- Yes!
- Wow!
910
00:34:30,917 --> 00:34:32,375
- Come on, booty.
911
00:34:32,500 --> 00:34:34,208
- I'll bet that was not
easy to get into.
912
00:34:34,292 --> 00:34:36,500
- Chef's kiss, like, mwah.
- Oh, wait, that's so cute.
913
00:34:36,583 --> 00:34:38,000
- This was the
outfit that Austin...
914
00:34:38,042 --> 00:34:39,625
- Oh, my gosh.
915
00:34:39,625 --> 00:34:41,292
- Walked away from
couples' retreat weekend.
916
00:34:41,375 --> 00:34:42,833
- That's what he passed up on?
917
00:34:42,958 --> 00:34:44,417
- I was literally holding it
in my hand
918
00:34:44,542 --> 00:34:46,167
when I asked him
if I should come with him.
919
00:34:46,208 --> 00:34:48,083
- Sad.
- You look great.
920
00:34:48,167 --> 00:34:49,833
- Missed opportunities.
Missed opportunities.
921
00:34:49,917 --> 00:34:51,333
- Right.
922
00:34:51,417 --> 00:34:53,167
- All right, I'm going
to take your first one.
923
00:34:53,250 --> 00:34:54,583
I want you to come,
like, a little here.
924
00:34:54,667 --> 00:34:56,333
- I like that,
with the green in the back.
925
00:34:56,417 --> 00:34:57,875
- Yeah, the green is nice.
- Yeah. Yeah, that's cute.
926
00:34:58,000 --> 00:34:59,333
Ooh.
927
00:34:59,458 --> 00:35:01,000
♪
928
00:35:01,083 --> 00:35:03,333
- Stunning.
Hot.
929
00:35:03,375 --> 00:35:05,375
Someone beat that.
- I want you on the bed.
930
00:35:05,458 --> 00:35:08,333
- Yeah, you do.
- Yeah, I do.
931
00:35:08,500 --> 00:35:13,375
I think after the chaos
that our marriages were,
932
00:35:13,458 --> 00:35:15,833
all of us lost a little bit
of our spark.
933
00:35:15,875 --> 00:35:19,292
And today, I feel like, was
just the first step
934
00:35:19,375 --> 00:35:21,708
for a lot of us finding
that spark
935
00:35:21,792 --> 00:35:24,500
and seeing ourselves in just
a totally different light,
936
00:35:24,542 --> 00:35:27,292
'cause when I look
around the room,
937
00:35:27,375 --> 00:35:30,208
the self-love is flowing
through this room right now.
938
00:35:30,292 --> 00:35:32,250
It makes me feel really good
about my future.
939
00:35:32,333 --> 00:35:34,417
It makes me feel really good
about Becca
940
00:35:34,500 --> 00:35:37,292
and Claire's
and Emily's future.
941
00:35:37,375 --> 00:35:41,167
There's a lot out there
to be had is all I'm saying.
942
00:35:41,208 --> 00:35:44,333
Our husbands weren't it,
but it's out there.
943
00:35:44,417 --> 00:35:46,167
I think this was definitely
a good activity
944
00:35:46,250 --> 00:35:47,667
in choosing ourselves...
- yeah.
945
00:35:47,708 --> 00:35:49,333
- And in loving ourselves.
946
00:35:49,417 --> 00:35:52,083
Like, regardless of those men,
947
00:35:52,083 --> 00:35:54,625
regardless of any man
that comes after this...
948
00:35:54,708 --> 00:35:56,167
- Yeah.
949
00:35:56,208 --> 00:35:57,792
- This is a good reminder
to always choose yourself.
950
00:35:57,792 --> 00:35:59,667
- Absolutely.
951
00:35:59,792 --> 00:36:01,958
♪
952
00:36:02,042 --> 00:36:04,667
- ♪ We keep coming back
for more ♪
953
00:36:04,750 --> 00:36:07,042
♪ Coming back for more
954
00:36:07,125 --> 00:36:09,542
- Even he wants to know
what's going on.
955
00:36:09,625 --> 00:36:11,458
- I know, guys.
We're getting out of here.
956
00:36:11,542 --> 00:36:13,208
- I know, boy.
957
00:36:13,292 --> 00:36:15,583
Are you looking forward
to getting back to your place?
958
00:36:15,667 --> 00:36:17,500
- [sighs]
It's going to feel weird,
959
00:36:17,583 --> 00:36:21,167
but, yeah, it'll give us
a chance to think...
960
00:36:21,292 --> 00:36:23,625
- Yeah. Mm-hmm.
- Before the big day.
961
00:36:23,708 --> 00:36:26,042
- No, it's probably good
for us to be
962
00:36:26,125 --> 00:36:29,083
in, like, our familiar space
with our thoughts
963
00:36:29,167 --> 00:36:30,417
and feelings
and everything like that.
964
00:36:30,542 --> 00:36:31,917
- Yeah.
- I have a feeling that
965
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:33,417
that'll help us.
966
00:36:33,500 --> 00:36:35,167
I wouldn't want to
be here by myself
967
00:36:35,208 --> 00:36:36,792
kind of thinking
through everything.
968
00:36:36,875 --> 00:36:38,667
- Me too.
Me too.
969
00:36:38,708 --> 00:36:41,542
- Pretty bittersweet,
separating for the night,
970
00:36:41,625 --> 00:36:44,750
but I am looking forward to
just having this opportunity,
971
00:36:44,833 --> 00:36:47,667
you know, to be immersed
in my own thoughts and feelings
972
00:36:47,708 --> 00:36:49,500
back at my apartment.
973
00:36:49,542 --> 00:36:51,958
I need to weigh what it means
to me to be married
974
00:36:52,042 --> 00:36:54,667
so I can be certain about
my decision on Decision Day,
975
00:36:54,750 --> 00:36:57,500
because, literally,
the trajectory of my life
976
00:36:57,583 --> 00:36:59,167
could change.
977
00:36:59,250 --> 00:37:01,667
- You nervous?
- Of course.
978
00:37:01,750 --> 00:37:03,417
- I am, too.
- Yeah.
979
00:37:03,500 --> 00:37:06,750
I've never navigated
my emotions this deeply before
980
00:37:06,833 --> 00:37:08,333
with so much intent.
981
00:37:08,417 --> 00:37:10,417
There's no way I could have
done it with anyone else.
982
00:37:10,542 --> 00:37:12,333
The kind of chemistry we have
983
00:37:12,417 --> 00:37:14,708
and how easy things have been,
984
00:37:14,792 --> 00:37:18,000
I think that is
a great beacon of hope
985
00:37:18,125 --> 00:37:19,750
if we were to say yes...
- Mm-hmm. Yeah.
986
00:37:19,833 --> 00:37:22,708
- That we are a great fit
for each other
987
00:37:22,833 --> 00:37:24,958
and we know
how to appreciate each other
988
00:37:25,042 --> 00:37:26,500
and prioritize each other.
989
00:37:26,583 --> 00:37:27,917
So there are
a lot of things that--
990
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:29,958
If we do decide to continue on
with this marriage,
991
00:37:30,042 --> 00:37:32,083
I think there are
a lot of things
992
00:37:32,167 --> 00:37:35,667
we could lean on and continue
to enjoy and even make better.
993
00:37:35,750 --> 00:37:36,917
- Yeah.
994
00:37:37,042 --> 00:37:38,500
♪
995
00:37:38,583 --> 00:37:40,333
I think if we say yes tomorrow,
996
00:37:40,417 --> 00:37:43,500
it gives us a chance
to keep going and...
997
00:37:43,583 --> 00:37:45,708
making it
something even more awesome.
998
00:37:45,833 --> 00:37:48,167
- Mm-hmm. It'll be
how it's supposed to be.
999
00:37:48,292 --> 00:37:49,833
- Yeah.
1000
00:37:49,917 --> 00:37:51,333
- What's that you always say?
1001
00:37:51,417 --> 00:37:53,250
What's supposed to hit you
doesn't pass you by
1002
00:37:53,333 --> 00:37:55,250
or some [bleep] like that?
- [chuckles]
1003
00:37:55,333 --> 00:37:56,542
- Is that how it goes?
1004
00:37:56,625 --> 00:37:58,167
- Yeah, it's just
like a Mack truck...
1005
00:37:58,250 --> 00:37:59,500
- Yeah, right?
1006
00:37:59,583 --> 00:38:01,125
- Driving furiously
down the road.
1007
00:38:01,208 --> 00:38:03,167
- That's what it is, right?
I got it.
1008
00:38:03,208 --> 00:38:04,750
- What's meant for you
will never pass you.
1009
00:38:04,833 --> 00:38:05,958
- I like mine better--
1010
00:38:06,042 --> 00:38:07,917
what's meant for you will
hit you and not pass you.
1011
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:09,333
That one's better.
1012
00:38:09,417 --> 00:38:10,667
- Yours sounds a lot
like a car accident.
1013
00:38:10,750 --> 00:38:12,208
- No, mine's better.
You're right.
1014
00:38:12,292 --> 00:38:13,792
- Yeah. Mm.
1015
00:38:13,875 --> 00:38:15,333
- What's meant for you will
hit you and not pass you.
1016
00:38:15,375 --> 00:38:17,333
We did it.
- Okay.
1017
00:38:17,375 --> 00:38:19,375
- There we go.
- Mm.
1018
00:38:19,500 --> 00:38:22,333
- And I know we've had a lot
of good conversations
1019
00:38:22,417 --> 00:38:24,333
on where our feelings
have been at,
1020
00:38:24,458 --> 00:38:28,167
where our heads have been at
kind of leading to this day.
1021
00:38:28,250 --> 00:38:31,000
I'm very grateful
that you've given me
1022
00:38:31,042 --> 00:38:34,375
you know, the grace to kind of
talk through what I'm feeling.
1023
00:38:34,458 --> 00:38:35,667
- At the end of the day,
1024
00:38:35,750 --> 00:38:37,667
I think in the amount of time
we've spent,
1025
00:38:37,750 --> 00:38:39,500
the one question
that we probably both have is,
1026
00:38:39,583 --> 00:38:41,750
has enough
of that connection built
1027
00:38:41,750 --> 00:38:44,458
that we feel
like we need forever?
1028
00:38:44,542 --> 00:38:49,292
And are we in a place where
we want to keep working on it?
1029
00:38:49,375 --> 00:38:51,792
A lot to think about.
- Mm-hmm.
1030
00:38:51,875 --> 00:38:53,333
♪
1031
00:38:53,417 --> 00:38:55,250
I haven't had to face
forever before.
1032
00:38:55,333 --> 00:38:57,458
- Mm.
- [laughs]
1033
00:38:57,542 --> 00:38:59,625
- Ah, and that's a lot
to think about.
1034
00:38:59,708 --> 00:39:02,208
So I might not sleep tonight.
- Yeah.
1035
00:39:02,333 --> 00:39:04,208
- [laughs]
1036
00:39:04,333 --> 00:39:06,833
Well, you want to blow
this pop stand?
1037
00:39:06,875 --> 00:39:10,208
- I'm going to hang back to
get all my animals wrangled up.
1038
00:39:10,208 --> 00:39:11,333
- Sounds like a plan.
1039
00:39:11,417 --> 00:39:12,833
- You got all your stuff?
- Got it all.
1040
00:39:12,875 --> 00:39:17,250
- And the old man? All right.
- Mm. Ooh.
1041
00:39:17,333 --> 00:39:20,000
- Mm-hmm.
- Eek.
1042
00:39:20,125 --> 00:39:21,667
♪
1043
00:39:21,792 --> 00:39:23,875
- ♪ Happy and fine
in the sunlight ♪
1044
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:25,125
♪ Light
1045
00:39:25,208 --> 00:39:26,875
♪
1046
00:39:30,875 --> 00:39:32,708
[serious music]
1047
00:39:32,708 --> 00:39:39,292
♪
1048
00:39:39,375 --> 00:39:42,500
- ♪ Never thought
I could feel this way ♪
1049
00:39:42,583 --> 00:39:44,833
- All right, we're here.
Decision Day is upon us.
1050
00:39:44,917 --> 00:39:47,833
You know, I'm feeling good
about where I'm at.
1051
00:39:47,917 --> 00:39:49,583
You know, obviously,
I took this time
1052
00:39:49,667 --> 00:39:51,208
to do a lot of introspection,
1053
00:39:51,292 --> 00:39:53,917
a lot of just, you know,
self-reflection,
1054
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:56,833
really kind of hone in
on how I feel.
1055
00:39:56,875 --> 00:40:01,667
- ♪ I'll hold you close,
I'll be here until the end ♪
1056
00:40:01,708 --> 00:40:05,583
- This morning I'm feeling
a little apprehension,
1057
00:40:05,667 --> 00:40:07,708
definitely feeling nervous,
1058
00:40:07,833 --> 00:40:09,500
definitely feeling
a little scared,
1059
00:40:09,583 --> 00:40:11,500
definitely feeling
a little overwhelmed.
1060
00:40:11,583 --> 00:40:14,500
I'm really hoping that
I make the right decision.
1061
00:40:14,583 --> 00:40:16,417
- I feel really good coming
into this Decision Day.
1062
00:40:16,542 --> 00:40:18,458
I feel really confident
about where I stand.
1063
00:40:18,542 --> 00:40:22,292
You know, I feel just
almost a level of at peace.
1064
00:40:22,375 --> 00:40:23,875
And so, yeah, we'll see
how everything goes.
1065
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,000
- It's just
this incredible feeling
1066
00:40:26,042 --> 00:40:27,917
and something that I know
1067
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:29,667
is going to all work out
in the end,
1068
00:40:29,750 --> 00:40:31,208
but it's that fear
of the unknown.
1069
00:40:31,208 --> 00:40:32,958
♪
1070
00:40:33,042 --> 00:40:34,292
[sighs]
I don't know where we'll land.
1071
00:40:34,375 --> 00:40:37,750
♪
1072
00:40:37,833 --> 00:40:40,583
- ♪ It's our time,
it's our life ♪
1073
00:40:40,667 --> 00:40:43,375
♪ And we're all we can want
1074
00:40:43,542 --> 00:40:46,417
♪ It's too short not to try
1075
00:40:46,500 --> 00:40:48,667
♪ You've already won
1076
00:40:48,708 --> 00:40:51,208
♪
1077
00:40:51,333 --> 00:40:52,458
- [sighs]
1078
00:40:52,542 --> 00:40:54,042
- Wow.
- All right.
1079
00:40:54,125 --> 00:40:55,667
- I know.
1080
00:40:55,708 --> 00:40:57,792
- Well, here we are again.
1081
00:40:57,875 --> 00:41:00,333
It's Decision Day.
Never done this before.
1082
00:41:00,375 --> 00:41:02,333
- Well, I hope we never
have to do it again.
1083
00:41:02,417 --> 00:41:03,792
[laughter]
- I know, right.
1084
00:41:03,875 --> 00:41:05,333
Oh, my goodness.
1085
00:41:05,375 --> 00:41:08,000
- It was such a shock,
and I'm just so glad
1086
00:41:08,042 --> 00:41:10,417
that there's
second chances, right?
1087
00:41:10,500 --> 00:41:12,417
- Yeah. I don't know--
how you guys think
1088
00:41:12,500 --> 00:41:13,792
that things
are looking for them?
1089
00:41:13,875 --> 00:41:16,208
- You know, they had
this idyllic period
1090
00:41:16,292 --> 00:41:18,875
where I thought, you know,
he's our Cinderfella.
1091
00:41:18,958 --> 00:41:20,667
You know, it's just
going to be great.
1092
00:41:20,708 --> 00:41:22,083
- Yeah.
- But there feels, like,
1093
00:41:22,167 --> 00:41:23,625
a shift in the mood.
- Yeah.
1094
00:41:23,708 --> 00:41:25,625
I know that he has had
some questions
1095
00:41:25,708 --> 00:41:27,667
about whether or not
he's ready for marriage.
1096
00:41:27,708 --> 00:41:31,458
And I don't understand.
- I don't either.
1097
00:41:31,542 --> 00:41:33,583
- I don't get it.
- I mean, the three of us sat
1098
00:41:33,708 --> 00:41:35,625
and listened to him--about how
much he was willing
1099
00:41:35,625 --> 00:41:37,750
to be rematched...
- Yes.
1100
00:41:37,875 --> 00:41:39,667
- Yeah.
- And how articulate
1101
00:41:39,708 --> 00:41:41,750
he was about now he knew
he wanted to be married.
1102
00:41:41,833 --> 00:41:43,708
- Mm-hmm.
- He thought he wanted before,
1103
00:41:43,792 --> 00:41:45,292
but now he knows it.
- Mm-hmm.
1104
00:41:45,375 --> 00:41:47,958
- And he was just exactly
1105
00:41:48,042 --> 00:41:49,708
what we would hope for...
- Absolutely.
1106
00:41:49,833 --> 00:41:51,917
- A level of commitment
we would hope for.
1107
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:55,000
So what about him
has made him unready now?
1108
00:41:55,083 --> 00:41:56,625
- I don't know.
1109
00:41:56,708 --> 00:41:58,375
But we know what the
successful marriages look like.
1110
00:41:58,458 --> 00:42:00,042
- Right.
1111
00:42:00,125 --> 00:42:01,875
- And I believe that they
could be one of those.
1112
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:03,333
- Mm.
- Totally.
1113
00:42:03,417 --> 00:42:05,375
- Because we've seen
people succeed with less
1114
00:42:05,458 --> 00:42:08,292
going for them than they have.
- Mm. Sure.
1115
00:42:08,375 --> 00:42:09,875
- You know?
1116
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:11,750
- And I think we've seen
a different level of maturity
1117
00:42:11,875 --> 00:42:13,917
with the two of them, right,
in that--
1118
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,042
the way that
they're looking at life,
1119
00:42:16,125 --> 00:42:17,833
the way that they're looking
at each other,
1120
00:42:17,875 --> 00:42:19,708
the way that they're
being introspective.
1121
00:42:19,792 --> 00:42:21,917
- I hope they can just see
the value in what they have.
1122
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:23,292
- I hope so, too.
1123
00:42:23,375 --> 00:42:25,667
♪
1124
00:42:25,750 --> 00:42:29,208
- ♪ So long I've waited
for a chance to shine ♪
1125
00:42:29,292 --> 00:42:33,333
♪ I've been so patient,
I've been so patient ♪
1126
00:42:33,375 --> 00:42:35,875
♪ Hmm, hmm
1127
00:42:35,958 --> 00:42:38,083
- Right when I saw Chloe
walk down the aisle,
1128
00:42:38,208 --> 00:42:40,000
I thought she was beautiful.
1129
00:42:40,125 --> 00:42:42,833
I saw those pink Chucks,
so I already liked the vibe
1130
00:42:42,917 --> 00:42:44,542
that she was coming
up there with.
1131
00:42:44,625 --> 00:42:46,583
May I?
- Yes.
1132
00:42:46,708 --> 00:42:50,333
- ♪ More than
a thousand times ♪
1133
00:42:50,417 --> 00:42:52,792
- What I really like about
Chloe is just how caring
1134
00:42:52,875 --> 00:42:54,375
and selfless she is.
1135
00:42:54,458 --> 00:42:56,042
She always puts others first.
1136
00:42:56,125 --> 00:42:58,792
She's so mindful
of, like, how everyone feels.
1137
00:42:58,875 --> 00:43:00,417
She's just really one
of the most selfless people
1138
00:43:00,542 --> 00:43:01,708
I've ever met.
1139
00:43:01,792 --> 00:43:05,542
- We have made it
back to the apartment.
1140
00:43:05,667 --> 00:43:08,458
All of the babies
are doing so great.
1141
00:43:08,542 --> 00:43:09,833
- It's crazy.
1142
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,625
The easiest parts
about being married to Chloe
1143
00:43:12,708 --> 00:43:14,708
were what I thought were
going to be the hardest parts.
1144
00:43:14,792 --> 00:43:16,500
- I'm gonna give you
the closet choice.
1145
00:43:16,583 --> 00:43:17,958
- Okay.
- Welcome home, Michael.
1146
00:43:18,042 --> 00:43:19,542
- Thank you.
1147
00:43:19,625 --> 00:43:21,167
Living together--
I thought that [bleep]
1148
00:43:21,208 --> 00:43:23,500
was going to be a struggle,
and it was so easy.
1149
00:43:23,542 --> 00:43:25,167
This is your morning
routine right?
1150
00:43:25,208 --> 00:43:27,167
- That's really sweet.
1151
00:43:27,250 --> 00:43:28,583
- I think a lot of the times
1152
00:43:28,667 --> 00:43:30,500
we just have fun
with each other.
1153
00:43:30,625 --> 00:43:32,583
And the thing with fun is,
it's infectious.
1154
00:43:32,667 --> 00:43:34,667
- I am in it to win it.
1155
00:43:34,750 --> 00:43:37,333
- ♪ Best day of my life
1156
00:43:37,375 --> 00:43:39,500
- Oh, I have to go forward?
- You have to come to me.
1157
00:43:39,542 --> 00:43:41,500
♪
1158
00:43:41,542 --> 00:43:43,333
- I know the way
we kind of envisioned
1159
00:43:43,417 --> 00:43:45,167
our lives independently
1160
00:43:45,208 --> 00:43:47,792
before we met each other
was a lot different.
1161
00:43:47,875 --> 00:43:50,208
- So my dream,
actually, has always been
1162
00:43:50,333 --> 00:43:53,250
since I was a little kiddo,
to have an animal sanctuary.
1163
00:43:53,375 --> 00:43:57,292
- Our values are aligned,
but the key differentiator
1164
00:43:57,375 --> 00:43:59,000
is that there are
certain things
1165
00:43:59,083 --> 00:44:00,833
that she's just much more
passionate about than I am.
1166
00:44:00,958 --> 00:44:03,333
How many foster children
are in this dream of yours?
1167
00:44:03,375 --> 00:44:05,667
- Maybe five at a time.
1168
00:44:05,750 --> 00:44:08,375
- Chloe is
the best partner possible.
1169
00:44:08,458 --> 00:44:11,792
- If Decision Day was tomorrow,
1170
00:44:11,875 --> 00:44:14,417
you might be feeling
like it's a no.
1171
00:44:14,542 --> 00:44:18,333
- I would be feeling like
I have insufficient data.
1172
00:44:18,417 --> 00:44:21,667
But I just don't know
if I'm in an emotional place
1173
00:44:21,792 --> 00:44:24,083
to continue building
this marriage.
1174
00:44:24,208 --> 00:44:26,708
♪
1175
00:44:26,792 --> 00:44:29,667
- ♪ Now the feeling of
1176
00:44:29,708 --> 00:44:32,042
♪ Finally got me out
1177
00:44:32,125 --> 00:44:34,333
- When I first met
Michael, I thought,
1178
00:44:34,417 --> 00:44:36,583
my husband knows how to dress.
1179
00:44:36,708 --> 00:44:39,583
- Blazer,
dress shirts, sweater,
1180
00:44:39,667 --> 00:44:41,667
more sweaters, extra shoes.
- [laughs]
1181
00:44:41,750 --> 00:44:46,542
Michael is intelligent,
kind, funny, and thoughtful.
1182
00:44:46,625 --> 00:44:48,208
- With the impact
you're going to make
1183
00:44:48,292 --> 00:44:49,708
on this world versus me,
1184
00:44:49,792 --> 00:44:51,833
you are a much better human
than I am.
1185
00:44:51,917 --> 00:44:54,417
- Bring those out.
Dang.
1186
00:44:54,500 --> 00:44:58,542
Like, this is probably
the healthiest relationship
1187
00:44:58,625 --> 00:45:00,958
I've ever been in
in my entire life.
1188
00:45:01,042 --> 00:45:04,625
As much as Michael has made me
feel comfortable and at home,
1189
00:45:04,708 --> 00:45:06,792
we are both very different.
1190
00:45:06,875 --> 00:45:09,000
- An animal sanctuary
doesn't scare me.
1191
00:45:09,167 --> 00:45:12,167
An animal sanctuary
with 500 animals scares me.
1192
00:45:12,250 --> 00:45:14,667
Fostering children
doesn't scare me.
1193
00:45:14,708 --> 00:45:17,375
Fostering five of them
scares me.
1194
00:45:17,375 --> 00:45:19,708
♪
1195
00:45:19,792 --> 00:45:24,500
- He and I may not have
the same goals or align
1196
00:45:24,542 --> 00:45:27,583
in the ways that we need to
when we look at the future.
1197
00:45:27,667 --> 00:45:29,708
And I'm afraid
that could complicate
1198
00:45:29,792 --> 00:45:32,000
continuing to forge
a relationship.
1199
00:45:32,042 --> 00:45:34,208
But despite Michael
and I being different,
1200
00:45:34,292 --> 00:45:36,000
I can't imagine my life
without him,
1201
00:45:36,083 --> 00:45:37,750
and I'm still so conflicted.
1202
00:45:37,833 --> 00:45:41,000
[dramatic music]
1203
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:42,833
♪
1204
00:45:46,625 --> 00:45:48,000
- ♪ I'm going to try
1205
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:49,833
♪
1206
00:45:49,917 --> 00:45:52,292
♪ Up to the mountaintop
1207
00:45:52,375 --> 00:45:56,458
♪ Up to the mountaintop
to say ♪
1208
00:45:56,542 --> 00:46:02,542
♪ No, I'm gonna try
1209
00:46:02,667 --> 00:46:05,833
[dramatic music]
1210
00:46:05,958 --> 00:46:07,125
- What's going on, man?
1211
00:46:07,208 --> 00:46:08,500
- How are you guys?
- Hey, hey.
1212
00:46:08,542 --> 00:46:10,000
- We're good.
1213
00:46:10,083 --> 00:46:12,125
- Man, you're always
stepping it up.
1214
00:46:12,208 --> 00:46:14,333
- Before thinking of the
weather, I committed to this.
1215
00:46:14,417 --> 00:46:15,875
- Yeah
- It works.
1216
00:46:15,958 --> 00:46:17,167
- You're always
stepping it up, man.
1217
00:46:17,250 --> 00:46:19,500
- Hello.
So good to see you again.
1218
00:46:19,625 --> 00:46:21,250
- Nice to see you.
- Good to see you.
1219
00:46:21,375 --> 00:46:23,833
- Oh, I love the velvet.
- Oh, thank you.
1220
00:46:23,917 --> 00:46:25,875
- I don't have
the legs for that.
1221
00:46:25,958 --> 00:46:27,833
- Neither do I,
but I'm forcing it.
1222
00:46:27,875 --> 00:46:29,667
[laughter]
I'm trying to make it happen.
1223
00:46:29,792 --> 00:46:31,875
I'm willing it into existence.
- There you go.
1224
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,208
- I like it.
- Thank you.
1225
00:46:34,292 --> 00:46:36,417
- It's like she's on a runway.
- Yes.
1226
00:46:36,500 --> 00:46:38,375
- Hello.
- You better walk.
1227
00:46:38,458 --> 00:46:39,833
- You better walk, girl.
1228
00:46:39,917 --> 00:46:41,750
[laughter]
1229
00:46:41,833 --> 00:46:43,917
- Look at you looking gorgeous.
1230
00:46:44,042 --> 00:46:45,625
- Hello.
- She's back.
1231
00:46:45,708 --> 00:46:47,000
- Hi.
1232
00:46:47,083 --> 00:46:49,708
[indistinct chatter]
1233
00:46:49,792 --> 00:46:52,042
- [laughs]
1234
00:46:52,125 --> 00:46:54,833
- Oh, it's so good to see you.
It truly is.
1235
00:46:54,917 --> 00:46:57,083
How are you feeling today?
1236
00:46:57,167 --> 00:46:59,292
Where's your head,
and where's your heart at?
1237
00:46:59,375 --> 00:47:01,667
- You know, I...
1238
00:47:01,750 --> 00:47:04,917
I can say that
I've just loved every moment.
1239
00:47:04,917 --> 00:47:08,375
I've really enjoyed
getting to know Michael
1240
00:47:08,458 --> 00:47:12,000
and spending time with him
and waking up next to him.
1241
00:47:12,083 --> 00:47:13,000
♪
1242
00:47:13,125 --> 00:47:15,375
You know, it's funny.
1243
00:47:15,458 --> 00:47:19,000
I mean, I had anxiety attacks
and panic attacks
1244
00:47:19,083 --> 00:47:21,583
and every other darn attack
you could imagine
1245
00:47:21,667 --> 00:47:25,833
leading into us moving
into that apartment together.
1246
00:47:25,917 --> 00:47:28,292
And then it was just easy.
- Yeah.
1247
00:47:28,375 --> 00:47:32,167
And for me, like, just getting
to learn about Chloe,
1248
00:47:32,250 --> 00:47:34,917
getting to know her,
getting to see
1249
00:47:35,042 --> 00:47:37,667
all the wonderful qualities
that she possesses,
1250
00:47:37,792 --> 00:47:39,292
things that overlapped,
1251
00:47:39,375 --> 00:47:42,708
like, oh, I think I'm
a pretty strong communicator.
1252
00:47:42,792 --> 00:47:45,750
She's a very effective
communicator.
1253
00:47:45,833 --> 00:47:50,333
I want to be more empathetic.
She is the model of empathy.
1254
00:47:50,375 --> 00:47:53,500
And when you're around someone
that you can honestly say
1255
00:47:53,583 --> 00:47:57,708
is, like, a better human
than you,
1256
00:47:57,833 --> 00:48:00,167
like, it touches you.
1257
00:48:00,250 --> 00:48:03,000
♪
1258
00:48:03,042 --> 00:48:05,042
- That was really beautiful.
1259
00:48:05,125 --> 00:48:06,833
- That's an extraordinary
compliment.
1260
00:48:06,875 --> 00:48:08,333
- Yeah, it is.
1261
00:48:08,458 --> 00:48:10,292
I was looking at Chloe's face
as you were saying that.
1262
00:48:10,375 --> 00:48:11,958
I don't know that you got
to see her expressions.
1263
00:48:12,042 --> 00:48:13,333
But, Chloe, what was
it like to hear that?
1264
00:48:13,417 --> 00:48:15,958
- [sighs]
1265
00:48:16,042 --> 00:48:18,833
It's just a really...
1266
00:48:18,917 --> 00:48:22,000
it's a beautiful thing
when someone sort of sees you
1267
00:48:22,042 --> 00:48:24,000
and hears you
and understands you.
1268
00:48:24,083 --> 00:48:26,333
- So where are the challenges?
1269
00:48:26,417 --> 00:48:28,500
- I think Michael--
1270
00:48:28,625 --> 00:48:31,125
it was probably a little more
difficult for him
1271
00:48:31,208 --> 00:48:33,750
to settle in
and let all of his walls down.
1272
00:48:33,833 --> 00:48:35,500
And I feel like,
once they came down,
1273
00:48:35,625 --> 00:48:38,500
that's probably where things
got a little scary for him.
1274
00:48:38,583 --> 00:48:39,917
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
1275
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,167
- That's where the seeds
of doubt were planted.
1276
00:48:42,250 --> 00:48:44,583
So the further into the journey
that we got,
1277
00:48:44,667 --> 00:48:46,917
the more Michael
was overwhelmed
1278
00:48:47,042 --> 00:48:49,500
with the idea of marriage.
1279
00:48:49,583 --> 00:48:50,833
♪
1280
00:48:50,875 --> 00:48:52,458
- Hmm.
- Hmm.
1281
00:48:52,542 --> 00:48:54,958
- Michael is...
1282
00:48:55,042 --> 00:48:58,125
has been very clear
as the days have gone on
1283
00:48:58,208 --> 00:49:01,875
that it's just been
more than he was expecting.
1284
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:03,667
- How does that--
1285
00:49:03,750 --> 00:49:05,125
You know, I can just see
you say that
1286
00:49:05,208 --> 00:49:08,583
with some emotion.
- Yeah.
1287
00:49:08,667 --> 00:49:11,208
- How does that make you feel?
1288
00:49:11,292 --> 00:49:12,833
- [sighs] It's just difficult
to verbalize.
1289
00:49:12,875 --> 00:49:15,042
I...
1290
00:49:15,125 --> 00:49:16,792
Natural inclination
1291
00:49:16,875 --> 00:49:18,542
is to personalize, right?
- Mm.
1292
00:49:18,667 --> 00:49:20,042
- It's like, oh, well, if you
don't want to be married
1293
00:49:20,125 --> 00:49:21,625
and you're married,
1294
00:49:21,708 --> 00:49:23,750
it's got to be that you don't
want to be married to me.
1295
00:49:23,833 --> 00:49:25,875
And then, automatically,
empath.
1296
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:27,833
- Yeah.
- Seeds of doubt are felt.
1297
00:49:27,917 --> 00:49:30,958
Well, holy cow,
now I've got to plant my own.
1298
00:49:31,042 --> 00:49:32,792
They were there.
1299
00:49:32,875 --> 00:49:34,667
I just didn't water them.
[laughs]
1300
00:49:34,750 --> 00:49:36,333
And now they're being watered.
1301
00:49:36,375 --> 00:49:38,000
♪
1302
00:49:38,042 --> 00:49:40,083
I think the red flags that
we ignore in the beginning
1303
00:49:40,083 --> 00:49:42,208
are what ends us eventually.
1304
00:49:42,333 --> 00:49:45,500
Maybe we...
1305
00:49:45,583 --> 00:49:48,792
aren't the match that we have
been up to this point
1306
00:49:48,875 --> 00:49:50,500
because we, you know,
1307
00:49:50,583 --> 00:49:52,792
just spent too much time
in our heads.
1308
00:49:52,875 --> 00:49:54,792
- I would urge you...
1309
00:49:54,875 --> 00:49:56,375
whatever its issues are,
1310
00:49:56,500 --> 00:49:59,125
that if you feel
there's possibilities,
1311
00:49:59,208 --> 00:50:01,708
to fight for it,
to fight for it here.
1312
00:50:01,708 --> 00:50:04,000
From my point of view...
1313
00:50:04,042 --> 00:50:06,167
what you two have had
deserves that.
1314
00:50:06,250 --> 00:50:09,083
- I'm the all-in,
or I'm the all-out.
1315
00:50:09,167 --> 00:50:11,500
And I need a partner
that is very much the same.
1316
00:50:11,542 --> 00:50:13,375
♪
1317
00:50:17,208 --> 00:50:18,750
[dramatic music]
1318
00:50:18,750 --> 00:50:22,292
♪
1319
00:50:22,375 --> 00:50:24,458
- In this process,
we often ask people
1320
00:50:24,542 --> 00:50:26,583
to exchange
their hopes and dreams.
1321
00:50:26,667 --> 00:50:29,708
And I wonder if those hopes
and dreams start to sound
1322
00:50:29,792 --> 00:50:34,000
like requirements as opposed
to just hopes and dreams.
1323
00:50:34,083 --> 00:50:37,000
I wonder if, to some extent,
they were scary.
1324
00:50:37,083 --> 00:50:40,000
- Yeah, I think...
1325
00:50:40,083 --> 00:50:42,375
the blessing and the curse
of this journey is,
1326
00:50:42,458 --> 00:50:44,792
we don't have the gift of time,
1327
00:50:44,875 --> 00:50:46,458
and, therefore,
we have got to show
1328
00:50:46,458 --> 00:50:48,125
every single
last possible element
1329
00:50:48,208 --> 00:50:49,667
of who it is that we are
1330
00:50:49,750 --> 00:50:52,208
to make sure that we are
a good match for each other.
1331
00:50:52,292 --> 00:50:54,625
And I would imagine having
an animal sanctuary
1332
00:50:54,708 --> 00:50:57,000
is a little scary for someone
that isn't necessarily looking
1333
00:50:57,083 --> 00:50:59,042
to have an animal sanctuary.
1334
00:50:59,125 --> 00:51:01,417
And adopting kiddos
and fostering kiddos--
1335
00:51:01,500 --> 00:51:04,167
I mean,
these were all me journeys.
1336
00:51:04,250 --> 00:51:08,458
But then when I became a we,
things change, you know.
1337
00:51:08,542 --> 00:51:11,083
These things were meaningful
to me when I was a me.
1338
00:51:11,208 --> 00:51:13,833
And now as a we,
we navigate things differently.
1339
00:51:13,833 --> 00:51:15,875
♪
1340
00:51:15,958 --> 00:51:18,250
- Yeah, and for me, like...
1341
00:51:18,333 --> 00:51:21,042
Obviously,
we have a strong connection.
1342
00:51:21,125 --> 00:51:24,667
Obviously, we built a really
good emotional bond
1343
00:51:24,667 --> 00:51:25,833
and trust with each other.
1344
00:51:25,875 --> 00:51:28,125
Like, I have...
1345
00:51:28,208 --> 00:51:30,542
nothing that I could point to
at Chloe
1346
00:51:30,625 --> 00:51:34,167
and be, like, you know, this
is what's causing me doubt.
1347
00:51:34,250 --> 00:51:36,917
I think, for me, it was like...
1348
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,333
there is a different intention
1349
00:51:39,375 --> 00:51:41,250
with marriage and,
quite frankly, for me,
1350
00:51:41,333 --> 00:51:43,000
a different expectation.
- Mm-hmm.
1351
00:51:43,083 --> 00:51:47,292
- You know, I want to be
in a place
1352
00:51:47,375 --> 00:51:51,458
with, like, a confidence and
desire to continue a marriage.
1353
00:51:51,542 --> 00:51:53,125
- Yeah.
1354
00:51:53,208 --> 00:51:54,833
- And I think that's
what's challenging for me.
1355
00:51:54,875 --> 00:51:56,875
- I think that sometimes
1356
00:51:56,875 --> 00:52:00,000
we can sort of
overanalyze and--
1357
00:52:00,042 --> 00:52:01,750
- It is one
of my biggest faults.
1358
00:52:01,833 --> 00:52:04,167
- [groans]
Yeah.
1359
00:52:04,250 --> 00:52:07,167
It's the paralysis of
analysis.
1360
00:52:07,292 --> 00:52:08,333
You know?
- Yeah.
1361
00:52:08,458 --> 00:52:10,417
- That's a good way to put it.
1362
00:52:10,500 --> 00:52:12,792
- It's like you think
yourself out of a thing...
1363
00:52:12,875 --> 00:52:14,167
- Yeah.
1364
00:52:14,208 --> 00:52:17,042
- You know,
instead of stepping back
1365
00:52:17,125 --> 00:52:19,208
and looking at the value,
1366
00:52:19,292 --> 00:52:21,250
looking at the beauty
and saying, you know what?
1367
00:52:21,333 --> 00:52:24,667
This is good.
Just empirically, this is good.
1368
00:52:24,750 --> 00:52:26,208
- Yeah.
1369
00:52:26,333 --> 00:52:29,542
- I mean, my gut, my
guiding compass in all this
1370
00:52:29,708 --> 00:52:31,667
is how it made me feel.
1371
00:52:31,750 --> 00:52:34,417
And how do I feel
coming into the day?
1372
00:52:34,500 --> 00:52:36,833
How do I feel about thinking
about the future?
1373
00:52:36,917 --> 00:52:38,208
What does that make me feel?
1374
00:52:38,333 --> 00:52:40,167
It becomes difficult
1375
00:52:40,292 --> 00:52:42,833
to be able
to fully explain that,
1376
00:52:42,917 --> 00:52:46,458
but I would want to at least
make the concerted effort
1377
00:52:46,542 --> 00:52:49,542
to say that I am using that
as my compass.
1378
00:52:49,625 --> 00:52:52,000
- May I challenge you
just a little bit on that?
1379
00:52:52,042 --> 00:52:53,500
- Please do.
I'm always here for it.
1380
00:52:53,542 --> 00:52:55,167
- Okay. I think it's really
important for us
1381
00:52:55,250 --> 00:52:56,542
to listen to our feelings.
1382
00:52:56,625 --> 00:52:58,542
How are you feeling
when you're with Chloe?
1383
00:52:58,625 --> 00:53:00,000
- Mm-hmm.
1384
00:53:00,125 --> 00:53:01,917
I mean, when I'm with Chloe,
1385
00:53:02,042 --> 00:53:05,500
I mean, I think
it's very easy to see,
1386
00:53:05,542 --> 00:53:07,667
like, we really enjoy
each other's company.
1387
00:53:07,708 --> 00:53:10,667
I enjoy my time with Chloe.
Chloe does make me happy.
1388
00:53:10,750 --> 00:53:12,917
Chloe makes me feel, you know,
very secure.
1389
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:15,542
A lot of the things that
I personally wanted to work on,
1390
00:53:15,625 --> 00:53:18,333
like, she exemplifies
them, so--
1391
00:53:18,417 --> 00:53:20,333
- Can I pause you for a moment
and have you check in
1392
00:53:20,458 --> 00:53:22,542
with yourself and recognize
when you just started talking
1393
00:53:22,625 --> 00:53:24,458
about Chloe,
you started to glow?
1394
00:53:24,542 --> 00:53:25,625
- You did.
1395
00:53:25,708 --> 00:53:27,667
- You started to smile
in a different way.
1396
00:53:27,792 --> 00:53:29,750
You let that guard down.
You stopped being in your head.
1397
00:53:29,833 --> 00:53:32,917
You stopped intellectualizing,
and you talked from your heart.
1398
00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:34,875
Like, I'm just looking
at the two of you right now
1399
00:53:34,958 --> 00:53:37,417
and how you're holding on
to one another, right?
1400
00:53:37,500 --> 00:53:39,125
And I'm wondering if you
are even aware of that,
1401
00:53:39,208 --> 00:53:41,500
even in this moment,
1402
00:53:41,542 --> 00:53:44,000
of the connection
that the two of you have?
1403
00:53:44,083 --> 00:53:45,875
Like, it's the nonverbals
there, right?
1404
00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:47,833
Like, that's the authenticity
that I'm talking about, right?
1405
00:53:47,917 --> 00:53:50,208
Because both of you are so
smart, like we've been saying,
1406
00:53:50,292 --> 00:53:52,333
you can intellectualize
by the words that you're using.
1407
00:53:52,417 --> 00:53:54,833
But I would encourage you
to look at the nonverbals,
1408
00:53:54,875 --> 00:53:57,542
because that, to me, speaks
volumes above the verbal.
1409
00:53:57,625 --> 00:53:58,667
- It does.
1410
00:53:58,750 --> 00:54:01,083
♪
1411
00:54:01,208 --> 00:54:03,375
- I mean, I...
1412
00:54:03,458 --> 00:54:06,208
I'm aware when it's brought,
like, to our attention.
1413
00:54:06,292 --> 00:54:08,167
- [clears throat] Yeah.
- But I think sometimes
1414
00:54:08,292 --> 00:54:11,083
it's kind of just, like,
I guess, subconscious...
1415
00:54:11,208 --> 00:54:13,417
- Mm-hmm.
- To a certain degree.
1416
00:54:13,500 --> 00:54:16,333
It's like, the deference
of, like, when she speaks.
1417
00:54:16,417 --> 00:54:18,500
Like, I kind of--
just by default, you know,
1418
00:54:18,542 --> 00:54:20,417
my attention will go to her.
- Right.
1419
00:54:20,542 --> 00:54:22,292
- But it's not like something
I'm thinking of.
1420
00:54:22,375 --> 00:54:23,833
But, like, when
you bring it up,
1421
00:54:23,958 --> 00:54:26,167
it's like, oh, yeah,
no, I recognize it now.
1422
00:54:26,208 --> 00:54:27,458
Yeah.
- Yeah.
1423
00:54:27,542 --> 00:54:29,833
- Well, the time has come.
1424
00:54:29,917 --> 00:54:32,333
♪
1425
00:54:32,417 --> 00:54:35,500
You will decide if you want to
stay married...
1426
00:54:35,542 --> 00:54:36,875
♪
1427
00:54:36,958 --> 00:54:38,167
Or get a divorce.
1428
00:54:38,250 --> 00:54:39,958
- Oh, that happened fast.
1429
00:54:40,042 --> 00:54:41,000
♪
1430
00:54:41,042 --> 00:54:42,625
Oh, gracious.
1431
00:54:42,708 --> 00:54:43,750
♪
1432
00:54:43,833 --> 00:54:45,125
My heart's racing.
1433
00:54:45,208 --> 00:54:46,708
[chuckles]
1434
00:54:46,792 --> 00:54:51,792
♪
1435
00:54:51,875 --> 00:54:54,708
I...
1436
00:54:54,833 --> 00:54:57,333
came into this journey
1437
00:54:57,417 --> 00:55:01,042
believing in...
1438
00:55:01,125 --> 00:55:03,500
love being a choice
1439
00:55:03,542 --> 00:55:05,833
and not something
that we're going to feel
1440
00:55:05,958 --> 00:55:08,917
at every moment of every day.
1441
00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:12,208
And as we think about...
1442
00:55:12,208 --> 00:55:14,208
marriage,
every day being a choice
1443
00:55:14,292 --> 00:55:15,792
and really we're saying...
1444
00:55:15,875 --> 00:55:17,167
♪
1445
00:55:17,250 --> 00:55:20,667
Is this a period
at the end of this story,
1446
00:55:20,750 --> 00:55:24,333
or is it a comma
with more to tell?
1447
00:55:24,375 --> 00:55:28,583
And I made a promise to you
that I would not make
1448
00:55:28,667 --> 00:55:30,875
this decision until I was
sitting right here
1449
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:32,750
looking at you.
1450
00:55:32,833 --> 00:55:35,500
And I'm really glad
I made that promise
1451
00:55:35,625 --> 00:55:38,417
because I'm feeling
really differently
1452
00:55:38,500 --> 00:55:41,167
than I anticipated feeling.
1453
00:55:41,250 --> 00:55:44,417
♪
1454
00:55:44,500 --> 00:55:47,667
And I think I want to see...
1455
00:55:47,792 --> 00:55:49,667
if we have more story to tell.
1456
00:55:49,708 --> 00:55:52,167
[bright music]
1457
00:55:52,208 --> 00:55:55,167
So I want to keep going.
1458
00:55:55,250 --> 00:56:02,042
♪
1459
00:56:08,875 --> 00:56:10,542
- I came into this
1460
00:56:10,625 --> 00:56:15,458
knowing that I was going
to be leaning heavily on you.
1461
00:56:15,542 --> 00:56:17,500
I was going to be leaning
heavily on this journey
1462
00:56:17,542 --> 00:56:20,833
to put me
in a position where...
1463
00:56:20,917 --> 00:56:22,792
[dramatic music]
1464
00:56:22,875 --> 00:56:25,125
I could feel...
1465
00:56:25,208 --> 00:56:29,958
confident
and optimistic enough,
1466
00:56:30,042 --> 00:56:32,167
because I knew there was going
to always be a level of doubt--
1467
00:56:32,208 --> 00:56:34,750
there was always going to be a
level of concern that I have--
1468
00:56:34,875 --> 00:56:36,875
but just enough
to where I could say,
1469
00:56:36,958 --> 00:56:39,333
let's continue working...
1470
00:56:39,417 --> 00:56:40,500
♪
1471
00:56:40,542 --> 00:56:42,042
On this marriage.
1472
00:56:42,167 --> 00:56:44,125
And I...
1473
00:56:46,083 --> 00:56:49,250
Feel that...
1474
00:56:49,333 --> 00:56:53,250
I, in this moment,
feel like I have to lean
1475
00:56:53,333 --> 00:56:55,333
into what my compass has been,
1476
00:56:55,375 --> 00:56:57,375
and that's just how I feel
1477
00:56:57,458 --> 00:57:01,000
about the ability to...
1478
00:57:01,083 --> 00:57:03,292
develop and work on a marriage.
1479
00:57:03,375 --> 00:57:04,667
♪
1480
00:57:04,708 --> 00:57:06,000
And I...
1481
00:57:06,083 --> 00:57:08,375
♪
1482
00:57:12,250 --> 00:57:13,667
[dramatic music]
1483
00:57:13,667 --> 00:57:15,750
♪
1484
00:57:15,833 --> 00:57:18,250
I feel that...
1485
00:57:18,333 --> 00:57:21,708
I...
1486
00:57:21,792 --> 00:57:25,833
I have to lean
into what my compass has been,
1487
00:57:25,875 --> 00:57:28,833
and that's just how I feel
about the ability
1488
00:57:28,875 --> 00:57:32,333
to develop
and work on a marriage.
1489
00:57:32,458 --> 00:57:34,792
- Mm-hmm.
1490
00:57:34,875 --> 00:57:37,833
- And I just don't feel
that I can do that
1491
00:57:37,833 --> 00:57:39,875
to the degree
1492
00:57:39,958 --> 00:57:43,708
that I would be comfortable
and confident in,
1493
00:57:43,792 --> 00:57:46,042
but, more importantly,
that you would deserve.
1494
00:57:46,125 --> 00:57:47,958
♪
1495
00:57:48,042 --> 00:57:51,208
And even though
I'm choosing divorce,
1496
00:57:51,333 --> 00:57:56,167
I hope you understand that
that doesn't change anything
1497
00:57:56,250 --> 00:57:57,875
that I said about you...
- I know.
1498
00:57:57,958 --> 00:58:00,167
- And how I feel
about you as a person.
1499
00:58:00,250 --> 00:58:02,167
- Yep. I know.
1500
00:58:02,250 --> 00:58:03,833
♪
1501
00:58:03,875 --> 00:58:06,625
Same.
1502
00:58:06,708 --> 00:58:08,750
That never ever,
ever, ever will.
1503
00:58:08,875 --> 00:58:10,083
♪
1504
00:58:10,167 --> 00:58:12,917
And I...
1505
00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:15,667
I will think
the world of you forever.
1506
00:58:15,708 --> 00:58:17,917
And I hope you're in my life
forever in some capacity,
1507
00:58:18,042 --> 00:58:20,000
but you are a good man.
1508
00:58:20,125 --> 00:58:21,500
♪
1509
00:58:21,583 --> 00:58:23,458
- Wow.
- [scoffs]
1510
00:58:23,542 --> 00:58:25,042
[chuckles]
- Yeah.
1511
00:58:25,208 --> 00:58:26,583
♪
1512
00:58:28,875 --> 00:58:31,292
- I won't lie
1513
00:58:31,375 --> 00:58:34,500
and say
that I'm not disappointed,
1514
00:58:34,542 --> 00:58:39,458
because I see so much.
1515
00:58:39,542 --> 00:58:41,500
I see so much.
- Yeah.
1516
00:58:41,542 --> 00:58:43,417
- Yeah, I mean, me too.
1517
00:58:43,500 --> 00:58:44,667
I feel...
1518
00:58:44,750 --> 00:58:47,000
[serious music]
1519
00:58:47,083 --> 00:58:49,167
Sad.
1520
00:58:49,250 --> 00:58:50,917
Sad.
1521
00:58:51,042 --> 00:58:54,875
♪
1522
00:58:54,958 --> 00:58:58,958
Obviously,
hearing Chloe's desire
1523
00:58:59,042 --> 00:59:00,833
to move forward and...
1524
00:59:00,917 --> 00:59:02,500
♪
1525
00:59:02,583 --> 00:59:05,875
Hitting that realization
of, like...
1526
00:59:05,958 --> 00:59:09,917
you strive to be this person,
but in this defining moment,
1527
00:59:10,042 --> 00:59:12,500
like, you're not...
1528
00:59:12,625 --> 00:59:14,875
that person, at least not yet.
1529
00:59:14,958 --> 00:59:16,833
[stammers]
1530
00:59:16,875 --> 00:59:19,375
There's a tremendous amount
of sadness
1531
00:59:19,500 --> 00:59:22,167
that kind of goes with that.
1532
00:59:22,208 --> 00:59:23,167
- Yeah.
1533
00:59:23,292 --> 00:59:25,542
- Uh...
1534
00:59:25,625 --> 00:59:27,708
well, thank you both
for the bravery
1535
00:59:27,792 --> 00:59:29,125
and heart you've shown.
1536
00:59:29,208 --> 00:59:33,250
And we just wish the best
for both of you.
1537
00:59:33,333 --> 00:59:35,250
We have a lot of admiration.
1538
00:59:35,333 --> 00:59:36,625
So thank you.
1539
00:59:36,708 --> 00:59:39,833
- Even though I feel sad
saying no,
1540
00:59:39,958 --> 00:59:42,750
I also feel that that's
the right choice for me.
1541
00:59:42,833 --> 00:59:45,583
You know, as clear and
confident in my decision
1542
00:59:45,583 --> 00:59:47,208
as I feel,
1543
00:59:47,292 --> 00:59:49,583
down the road, I may look
back on this and think,
1544
00:59:49,583 --> 00:59:52,042
wow, I should have done
something different.
1545
00:59:52,125 --> 00:59:56,042
But, you know, as I search
through how I feel
1546
00:59:56,125 --> 00:59:58,917
and hone in on that,
1547
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,167
I know that I can't say yes.
1548
01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:03,083
- Ah...
1549
01:00:04,542 --> 01:00:06,500
Mm.
1550
01:00:06,625 --> 01:00:08,250
♪
1551
01:00:08,375 --> 01:00:11,167
- For me, I'm not surprised
hearing him say no.
1552
01:00:11,208 --> 01:00:13,875
He's not ready to give me
1553
01:00:13,958 --> 01:00:15,958
everything it is
that I need from him.
1554
01:00:16,042 --> 01:00:19,833
♪
1555
01:00:19,833 --> 01:00:22,667
And I don't want
to waste any time
1556
01:00:22,708 --> 01:00:25,333
building a relationship
with someone that's not ready
1557
01:00:25,375 --> 01:00:27,208
to reciprocate what I need.
1558
01:00:27,292 --> 01:00:28,750
♪
1559
01:00:28,833 --> 01:00:32,458
But that's not to say
that I didn't believe
1560
01:00:32,542 --> 01:00:34,375
there could have been
something more.
1561
01:00:34,500 --> 01:00:36,875
And I still do.
And I will believe that.
1562
01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:40,792
- ♪ Somewhere in your heart
1563
01:00:40,875 --> 01:00:45,042
♪ I know there exists
1564
01:00:45,125 --> 01:00:50,333
♪ A hand that wants
to reach out ♪
1565
01:00:50,417 --> 01:00:54,042
♪ And break the silence
1566
01:00:54,042 --> 01:01:01,083
♪
1567
01:01:01,167 --> 01:01:04,583
- Next week
on "Married at First Sight"...
1568
01:01:04,708 --> 01:01:07,042
- I was actually called
the B-I-T-C-H word.
1569
01:01:07,125 --> 01:01:10,792
- This is "Cast Tell All."
- I have a new man.
1570
01:01:10,875 --> 01:01:14,458
- Now and then, we'll make
whoopee together, you know.
1571
01:01:14,542 --> 01:01:17,667
- I'm here with some of
my favorite "MAFS" alumni...
1572
01:01:17,708 --> 01:01:21,292
What's new with you?
- Besides the baby on the way?
1573
01:01:21,375 --> 01:01:25,000
- Who have seen it all and are
here to spill the tea, honey.
1574
01:01:25,125 --> 01:01:27,625
- He was taking a secret
medication that he hid from me.
1575
01:01:27,708 --> 01:01:29,208
- I literally was
flabbergasted.
1576
01:01:29,292 --> 01:01:31,000
Like, my mouth dropped
on the floor.
1577
01:01:31,083 --> 01:01:33,375
- Wow, you really can't make
this stuff up.
1578
01:01:33,500 --> 01:01:35,875
- Who's sliding into your DMs?
1579
01:01:36,000 --> 01:01:38,083
- You just need to grab
a boob or grab a [bleep].
1580
01:01:38,167 --> 01:01:40,292
- This is too much.
I need to get off this stage.
1581
01:01:40,375 --> 01:01:42,167
- And in two weeks...
1582
01:01:42,250 --> 01:01:45,000
- The entire Denver cast
has returned.
1583
01:01:45,083 --> 01:01:46,375
- There's two sides
to every story.
1584
01:01:46,458 --> 01:01:48,500
- Do you feel like you're
being manipulated right now?
1585
01:01:48,583 --> 01:01:50,750
- Always.
1586
01:01:50,875 --> 01:01:52,833
- Emotions are still
at an all-time high,
1587
01:01:52,958 --> 01:01:54,958
and they have a lot
to hash out.
1588
01:01:55,042 --> 01:01:58,792
What did she do that made
doubt creep into your mind?
1589
01:01:58,875 --> 01:02:00,083
- Just say it.
1590
01:02:00,167 --> 01:02:02,042
- I wanted marriage.
I wanted a wife.
1591
01:02:02,167 --> 01:02:03,708
- With me?
1592
01:02:03,792 --> 01:02:05,625
- You told me
that if I left you,
1593
01:02:05,708 --> 01:02:07,208
you would make my life
a living hell.
1594
01:02:07,292 --> 01:02:08,625
[dramatic music]
1595
01:02:08,708 --> 01:02:11,500
- This is my first experience
with being gaslit.
1596
01:02:11,542 --> 01:02:13,542
- Oh.
- Oh, my God.
1597
01:02:13,625 --> 01:02:15,500
- It's a powerful
two-part reunion
1598
01:02:15,583 --> 01:02:17,125
that you don't want to miss.
1599
01:02:17,208 --> 01:02:19,167
- The horse is dead, so it's
time to stop beating it.
1600
01:02:19,292 --> 01:02:22,167
- Keep poking the bear, and
I'll bite the [bleep] back.
1601
01:02:22,292 --> 01:02:24,125
- Claire shared that she was
in love with her boyfriend.
1602
01:02:24,208 --> 01:02:25,667
♪
1603
01:02:25,792 --> 01:02:27,500
You were [bleep] someone else.
1604
01:02:27,583 --> 01:02:29,750
- [crying]
Go ahead, continue to lie.
1605
01:02:29,833 --> 01:02:31,792
- I never [bleep] anyone.
- [crying] Please, please.
1606
01:02:31,875 --> 01:02:33,000
- Hold on for a second.
1607
01:02:33,042 --> 01:02:34,458
- I'm not dealing
with this [bleep].
1608
01:02:34,542 --> 01:02:35,833
I'm done.
1609
01:02:35,875 --> 01:02:38,292
I'm just disgusted
with everything today.
1610
01:02:38,375 --> 01:02:39,500
[sobs]
1611
01:02:39,542 --> 01:02:41,250
♪
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