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- ♪ Today
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- Ten singles took
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a bold leap of faith
in order to find love.
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They married
as complete strangers.
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- I want to continue
with wanting a divorce.
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- Unfortunately...
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- I would like
to get a divorce.
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- Four of our couples
ended in divorce.
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- I would like a divorce.
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- He is going to be
the perfect guy for someone.
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I don't think it's me.
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[dramatic music]
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- But one final couple
still has that
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life-altering choice to make
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as their Decision Day
approaches.
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- I came into this saying
I'm going to be raw,
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I'm going to be vulnerable.
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- Because that's
what my concern is.
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It's like, oh, [bleep].
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Are they kind of, like,
faking the funk,
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or is Chloe people-pleasing?
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♪
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- And tonight,
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while our singles
start navigating life
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after Decision Day,
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one couple will have
just over one week left
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before making the biggest
decision of their lives...
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either stay married
or get a divorce.
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- Personally, I felt accused
of being inauthentic,
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and I felt accused
of being fake.
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And my feelings were hurt.
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- It's like 2:00 a.m.
in the morning,
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and he stayed with me
the whole time.
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- I'm trying to talk to Lauren
as much as I can.
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- He made me feel very safe
in the moment.
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- Like, he really did
do the best that he could.
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And why I'm just, like,
having second thoughts
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and feeling like
I gave up too quick.
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- Now that I've really
started to evaluate,
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I'm really
questioning this marriage.
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♪
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- ♪ It's all or nothing
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way
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♪ It's all or nothing
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- ♪ Whoa
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[energetic upbeat music]
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♪ Whoa
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- I'm super excited we can
spend a little time together.
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I want to hear everything.
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- Same with you.
- That has happened.
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- Yeah, it's been a whirlwind.
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It really has.
You're back at home.
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- Back at home.
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- Are you feeling OK,
being moved out and--
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- It's a process.
- Yeah.
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- But it's going to be
a cathartic--
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- I'm motivated.
- Yeah.
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- What about you?
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What's, I feel like because
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we're on our different
wavelengths.
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I'm like,
what are you guys doing?
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- I know.
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- I know the different stages
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and, like, all the fun,
good stuff ahead, but--
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- Yeah.
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So we just had our one month
anniversary.
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- Oh, my gosh!
- Our month-aversary.
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- How was, like,
the romance side of everything
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continued to evolve?
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- Well, we've evolved.
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- Whoo!
- [laughs]
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- Evolved.
[laughter]
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- Oh, God.
- Yeah, you know.
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We, uh,
we're full-blown married now.
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- Do you feel like you're,
like, really falling in love?
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- I think that
we like each other immensely.
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- Mm-hmm.
- I care deeply about him.
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I am strongly in like with him.
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- Do you guys work through--
you had Dr. Pia yet?
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Like, any, like,
the trust or intimacy things?
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- We did not have
a great meeting with Pia,
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Michael and I.
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We were accused
of being unauthentic.
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- Whoa.
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- We may not necessarily align
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on these little things
that just don't really matter.
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Like, Michael's mom
doesn't know.
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We don't have
our living situation lined up.
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- I just don't think
she does or says anything
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without any true good intent
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or without some,
like, rationale.
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- Yeah, yeah.
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- She is hard,
but I don't think
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she would be doing that if she
also wasn't pushing you...
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- Yeah.
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- To maybe get to the place
that maybe falling in love.
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But do you think
she's kind of inferring, like,
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these could become
more big issues if you're not,
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like, maybe unpacking them
a little bit more now?
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- Yeah, I guess so.
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There are battles to pick,
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and there are battles
not to pick,
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and it's going to be things
that you navigate as you go.
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- Her visits for us was like
pivotal, but I think
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she is very intense,
I will say.
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- Yeah.
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- But from my
personal experience,
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I think she would only
be saying that,
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because she wants you
to open up more, like--
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- Yeah.
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- My only thing is from
my experience, I would say,
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like, she wouldn't
say that unless
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there was a deeper meaning.
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But I would be remiss
for you guys
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if you don't bring that up
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and that turns into
a bigger conflict
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when it comes to living
with each other,
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because you're not
talking about it now.
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She's worried
it could be an issue.
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- That's a hard...
- Mm-hmm.
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- That's a hard pill
to swallow.
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[soft upbeat music]
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♪
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- Today is Cameron's birthday.
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And so, um,
we haven't talked at all.
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Our communication
the last time we spoke was
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when we were
with the entire group.
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And he left
and didn't tell me--
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didn't--
I asked him if he was OK,
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and he just
didn't respond to me.
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And I believe
he was just angry with me.
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And so, yeah,
I texted him happy birthday.
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And I got nothing back.
And so I don't know.
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I'm just feeling like
now is the final straw.
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Like, I cannot continue
to give any energy to this,
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because, clearly,
it's just not--
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he doesn't care about me,
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and so I think I'm just needing
to come to the realization
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that our relationship
is just, um,
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over in all forms,
in all ways.
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It is just not--
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it's just--it's done.
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I thought maybe today I, you
know, would reach out to him.
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And maybe he would
want to chat and say,
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you know what,
I'm sorry about the way
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things transpired
with the group.
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But I got--
I've gotten nothing.
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And so, for me,
I'm just feeling...
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I'm feeling aggravated,
but I'm also feeling
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even more sure
that Cameron was
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absolutely not meant
to be my husband
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in any way, shape, form.
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And so I'm just really
getting in touch with
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all the things that I love,
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like getting back
to working out.
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I woke up at 4:30 this morning
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and got my butt back
in the gym.
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And those things
just feel good,
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and they make me feel
like I am healing.
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[soft dramatic music]
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♪
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- Come on.
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Come on.
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Being back in my safe space
feels amazing.
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Just to be around,
like, the pictures
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of the people that I love,
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it just feels like being
surrounded with love again.
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But I'm still missing Austin
really badly.
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It just feels like
the typical breakup phases.
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Like, I have days where
I am in denial.
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And then, like, it'll just
hit me like a freight train.
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And then the next minute,
I'll be angry
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because of the things
that have gone wrong.
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And then the next minute,
I'm just feeling sad.
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I'm trying to tell myself
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that maybe we could
have worked out.
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It's every stage
just on repeat.
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[sniffles]
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[FaceTime chimes]
Hey, Mama.
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- Hey, Beck.
How are you doing?
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- [inhales deeply]
Um, I'm doing...
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I'm doing OK.
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Did you tell Dad yet about what
happened between Austin and I?
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- Yeah.
He's just so confused.
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- [chuckles] Yeah.
- Yeah.
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- Yeah, no.
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I've even, like, wondered if
I am making the right decision.
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- It's just easy to be, like,
he lied, he's a bad person.
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But that's not the
reality of it, you know.
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He's a human
that made a mistake,
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and I know that
I make mistakes.
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And that's why I'm just, like,
having second thoughts
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and feeling like
I gave up too quick,
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or, like, maybe he could have
changed or evolved.
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- I can't think that when
two people are in a marriage,
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you have to be able
to trust each other.
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Trust is a huge component
in a marriage.
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- Yeah.
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- And if somebody says
they're going to do something
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and they're going
to work on something
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and then that doesn't happen,
that starts to break down.
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- I know.
- And that's hard to get over.
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- Like, he really
did do the best
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that he could in our marriage.
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Like, I truly,
firmly believe that.
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And at the end of the day,
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it was not enough for me,
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which makes me second-guess
whether my standards
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are too high or whether
I'm too critical or,
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like, how much
of this is on me.
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- I don't think it's about
standards being too high.
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I don't think
that's the question. I think--
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- But, like, can I seriously
find a guy who's, like,
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honest or, like,
emotionally intelligent
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or, like, all the things that
I don't feel like Austin is?
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- I think you need to think
about this as wanting to have
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a pairing where
you're on equal footing
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and where you can trust
the person without a doubt.
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- It's like such a cliché,
but, like, I truly feel like
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I want to, like, let him go
so that, like,
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he can find a partner
that's better suited for him
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because I'm just not it
for him.
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I just think, like, there's
going to be somebody for him
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that's just way better.
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[somber music]
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- Becca, that's
a very giving attitude.
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That is.
- Oh, yeah.
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And--
- I just want him to be happy.
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[sniffling softly]
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- And I hope
he wants the same for you.
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I know how hopeful
you were,
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but I think you guys had a few
things that are pretty huge.
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Trust, religion, intimacy.
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And your gut was telling you
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that this wasn't
the right fit.
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- Yeah. I think if he liked me
as much as I liked him...
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even, like, intimacy
would have just been easier.
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Like, just longer eye contact,
you know?
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Like, anything.
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- And you deserve that, Becca.
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That's a super important part
of life, and you deserve that.
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- Yeah.
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- So don't question whether
you're deserving of it,
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because you are.
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- Thanks, Mom.
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♪
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[sniffle softly]
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- Well, where do you go
from here?
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- Ugh.
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00:10:38,042 --> 00:10:40,250
[sniffles]
253
00:10:40,333 --> 00:10:44,833
Just eating hot dogs
and crying every day, probably.
254
00:10:44,917 --> 00:10:47,167
I just need to, like,
reflect on, like,
255
00:10:47,250 --> 00:10:51,833
the ways that I played
a part in this failing
256
00:10:51,917 --> 00:10:54,375
and make sure that, like,
257
00:10:54,500 --> 00:10:58,917
I don't repeat
those same mistakes.
258
00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:02,333
- Becca, I think there's
so many factors that here,
259
00:11:02,417 --> 00:11:08,000
and you can't just hang on
to the what-ifs.
260
00:11:08,083 --> 00:11:09,583
The fact of the matter is
that played out
261
00:11:09,667 --> 00:11:11,833
the way it played out.
- I know.
262
00:11:11,875 --> 00:11:14,917
- And everything
that you experienced,
263
00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:16,833
you were going to experience
264
00:11:16,958 --> 00:11:19,833
at some point
in your marriage, you know?
265
00:11:19,875 --> 00:11:22,708
- Yeah.
- You made your decision.
266
00:11:22,792 --> 00:11:25,667
Now, you're going
to move forward.
267
00:11:25,708 --> 00:11:29,667
Your person will not leave you
without like this,
268
00:11:29,708 --> 00:11:33,292
because you're
an amazing person,
269
00:11:33,375 --> 00:11:35,667
and you have so much love
and care to give.
270
00:11:35,750 --> 00:11:38,875
And you just deserve
all of that and more.
271
00:11:38,958 --> 00:11:41,375
So that's my wish and my hope.
272
00:11:41,458 --> 00:11:45,167
And our whole family, Becca,
would just rejoice.
273
00:11:45,208 --> 00:11:48,083
We're going to rejoice
the day you find your person.
274
00:11:48,167 --> 00:11:50,208
- [sniffles]
275
00:11:50,292 --> 00:11:52,375
I just wish it was Austin.
[chuckles softly]
276
00:11:52,500 --> 00:11:55,000
[bittersweet music]
277
00:11:55,083 --> 00:11:58,417
♪
278
00:12:02,625 --> 00:12:03,458
[upbeat music]
279
00:12:03,542 --> 00:12:05,875
♪
280
00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:07,333
- Here.
I'll open the door for you.
281
00:12:07,458 --> 00:12:09,583
- Merci.
282
00:12:09,667 --> 00:12:11,125
Hi!
- Hi!
283
00:12:11,208 --> 00:12:12,667
Welcome to Purluxe.
- Thank you.
284
00:12:12,708 --> 00:12:14,042
How are you guys?
together: Good, how are you?
285
00:12:14,167 --> 00:12:15,042
- Pretty good.
286
00:12:15,125 --> 00:12:17,250
♪
287
00:12:17,333 --> 00:12:19,667
- I hope you like the light
that I chose for you.
288
00:12:19,792 --> 00:12:21,375
Nice little cheese thing.
How are you doing, man?
289
00:12:21,458 --> 00:12:22,875
- Yes, sir.
- You surviving?
290
00:12:22,958 --> 00:12:24,583
It's the same exact one
I have. so it's perfect.
291
00:12:24,708 --> 00:12:26,542
- Oh.
- Ish.
292
00:12:26,625 --> 00:12:28,333
I think this is
a better-quality one.
293
00:12:28,375 --> 00:12:30,792
- I can see it from here.
It looks pretty outdated.
294
00:12:30,917 --> 00:12:32,417
- [chuckling] Yeah.
295
00:12:32,542 --> 00:12:33,708
♪
296
00:12:33,792 --> 00:12:35,833
- Thank you.
- You're very welcome.
297
00:12:35,917 --> 00:12:37,167
- Are you excited
for the pedis?
298
00:12:37,208 --> 00:12:38,417
- Yeah.
- I need a pedicure.
299
00:12:38,500 --> 00:12:39,250
- I needed one.
300
00:12:40,125 --> 00:12:41,750
[drill whirring]
301
00:12:41,833 --> 00:12:43,458
- Oh, boy.
302
00:12:43,542 --> 00:12:44,708
Just popped you
through the wall.
303
00:12:44,833 --> 00:12:46,250
- Is that bad?
304
00:12:46,333 --> 00:12:48,000
- Oh, my goodness.
305
00:12:48,083 --> 00:12:49,167
- Did they [bleep] me?
- [chuckles]
306
00:12:49,292 --> 00:12:50,667
- Cream and sugar.
- Yes, thank you.
307
00:12:50,750 --> 00:12:52,125
- You're welcome, ladies.
308
00:12:52,208 --> 00:12:53,667
Anything else
I can get you right now?
309
00:12:53,708 --> 00:12:55,250
- No, I think I'm good.
- I am comfortable.
310
00:12:55,375 --> 00:12:56,833
- Thank you.
- Thanks.
311
00:12:56,917 --> 00:12:58,083
[quirky suspenseful music]
312
00:12:58,208 --> 00:13:00,333
- Look at that.
313
00:13:00,417 --> 00:13:02,375
- Oh, come on.
314
00:13:02,458 --> 00:13:04,833
All right, now it's
just time to set this up.
315
00:13:04,917 --> 00:13:06,333
Do you want to hit that switch?
316
00:13:06,417 --> 00:13:07,875
♪
317
00:13:07,958 --> 00:13:09,292
[upbeat musical flourish]
318
00:13:09,417 --> 00:13:10,833
- Ha-ha-ha, look at that.
- Oh, let there be light.
319
00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:12,333
- That's awesome.
320
00:13:12,375 --> 00:13:13,667
You're the best.
- Yeah.
321
00:13:13,708 --> 00:13:16,083
Thanks for calling, man.
322
00:13:16,167 --> 00:13:18,333
- All right, let's catch up.
- This is nice.
323
00:13:18,375 --> 00:13:19,833
I like your little patio.
324
00:13:19,958 --> 00:13:21,625
- Yeah, man, it's--
it's nice in the summer.
325
00:13:21,708 --> 00:13:23,292
- We needed
a little girls' day.
326
00:13:23,375 --> 00:13:25,542
I felt like I haven't seen you
in a month of Sundays.
327
00:13:25,625 --> 00:13:27,458
- Yeah, at least.
328
00:13:27,542 --> 00:13:29,000
How's life been?
329
00:13:29,042 --> 00:13:33,458
- Life has been
very interesting. [chuckles]
330
00:13:33,542 --> 00:13:35,917
- Go on.
- So--[chuckles]
331
00:13:35,917 --> 00:13:37,625
- Orion, he did invite me out.
332
00:13:37,708 --> 00:13:38,875
- Oh, how did that go?
333
00:13:38,875 --> 00:13:40,333
- We did, like,
a little, like...
334
00:13:40,375 --> 00:13:41,708
- What'd y'all do?
335
00:13:41,792 --> 00:13:44,042
- Archery-dodgeball situation.
- Mm-hmm.
336
00:13:44,125 --> 00:13:46,125
- It was fun.
It was really fun.
337
00:13:46,208 --> 00:13:48,500
- You feel like a friendship
might flourish from that?
338
00:13:48,583 --> 00:13:50,667
- No. [chuckles]
339
00:13:50,708 --> 00:13:52,375
So I feel like
I already told you
340
00:13:52,458 --> 00:13:56,083
about, like, how I felt like
there was a lack of effort.
341
00:13:56,208 --> 00:13:58,042
- Oh.
342
00:13:58,125 --> 00:14:03,042
- So I did send him a text the
next day, where I feel like
343
00:14:03,125 --> 00:14:04,667
a hard boundary was
established.
344
00:14:04,750 --> 00:14:06,375
- OK.
345
00:14:06,458 --> 00:14:09,333
- Right now, actually,
I am kind of dealing with
346
00:14:09,375 --> 00:14:12,125
some rejection at a different
magnitude with Lauren.
347
00:14:12,208 --> 00:14:13,750
You know,
over the last few weeks,
348
00:14:13,833 --> 00:14:15,375
there's been conversation
of, you know,
349
00:14:15,458 --> 00:14:16,833
friendship is on the table,
350
00:14:16,917 --> 00:14:20,125
let's talk about how
we can make it feasible.
351
00:14:20,208 --> 00:14:22,250
And then, you know,
the next text message
352
00:14:22,333 --> 00:14:26,792
is the complete opposite,
where it's like,,,
353
00:14:26,875 --> 00:14:28,958
I don't really want
to do this anymore.
354
00:14:29,042 --> 00:14:30,667
- I'll read you some of
the texts, but not all of it.
355
00:14:30,667 --> 00:14:32,333
- OK.
356
00:14:32,417 --> 00:14:34,375
- "I feel like we've spoken
about how we feel and, like,
357
00:14:34,458 --> 00:14:36,708
"how we're doing and I don't
think there's anything left
358
00:14:36,833 --> 00:14:39,042
"to discuss in depth
unless we truly
359
00:14:39,167 --> 00:14:41,000
wanted each other
in our lives."
360
00:14:41,042 --> 00:14:42,542
And I'm at the
point where I don't.
361
00:14:42,625 --> 00:14:45,375
And I let him know that
there's always space for us,
362
00:14:45,500 --> 00:14:48,417
like, if he needs to, like,
vent about something,
363
00:14:48,542 --> 00:14:49,917
like, there's space for that.
364
00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:51,833
But I don't think
we need a friendship.
365
00:14:51,875 --> 00:14:53,875
Set that boundary.
366
00:14:53,958 --> 00:14:56,000
- For me, that was pretty hard
because, um,
367
00:14:56,083 --> 00:14:58,958
I'm just not getting the
opportunity I was hoping to get
368
00:14:59,042 --> 00:15:03,042
to really smooth things over
with Lauren.
369
00:15:03,125 --> 00:15:06,542
- I'm curious.
Like, what...
370
00:15:06,667 --> 00:15:08,625
are there specific things about
Lauren that you're--
371
00:15:08,708 --> 00:15:10,042
you want in, like,
a friendship?
372
00:15:10,208 --> 00:15:12,375
- Yeah, you know,
we had great chemistry.
373
00:15:12,500 --> 00:15:15,750
You know, even though chemistry
isn't everything,
374
00:15:15,833 --> 00:15:17,417
I thought we got along
really well.
375
00:15:17,500 --> 00:15:19,750
And it's just been really
disappointing and frustrating
376
00:15:19,833 --> 00:15:22,042
how this friendship
never came to be,
377
00:15:22,125 --> 00:15:25,208
even though there was
so much positive talk about it.
378
00:15:25,292 --> 00:15:28,000
- It's not like I'm just
saying, you're cut off,
379
00:15:28,083 --> 00:15:30,000
don't speak to me
if you see me.
380
00:15:30,083 --> 00:15:32,167
Just let's not do this
song and dance anymore.
381
00:15:32,250 --> 00:15:34,833
- Yeah.
Whoo, you so nice.
382
00:15:34,875 --> 00:15:36,833
- I was very nice in that text.
- Psh.
383
00:15:36,875 --> 00:15:39,333
- And so he did text back.
- What did he say?
384
00:15:39,458 --> 00:15:40,458
- You want me to read his text?
- Yeah.
385
00:15:40,542 --> 00:15:41,792
- Sure.
386
00:15:41,875 --> 00:15:44,833
He said, "thank you."
387
00:15:44,917 --> 00:15:46,333
He said, "Thank you, Lauren.
388
00:15:46,417 --> 00:15:48,708
"I recently got home,
and I do want to respond
389
00:15:48,792 --> 00:15:50,042
with a thorough message."
390
00:15:50,125 --> 00:15:51,667
And then he sent
the thumbs up emoji.
391
00:15:51,750 --> 00:15:54,542
- OK.
And then what?
392
00:15:54,542 --> 00:15:56,167
- That was it.
393
00:15:56,208 --> 00:15:59,167
[quirky tense music]
394
00:15:59,292 --> 00:16:01,333
- OK, so--
395
00:16:01,417 --> 00:16:03,125
whew.
- He does that all the time.
396
00:16:03,208 --> 00:16:05,542
He always says, I want to talk,
I want to do this,
397
00:16:05,625 --> 00:16:07,167
I want to be friends.
398
00:16:07,250 --> 00:16:08,708
And then there's
absolutely no follow-through.
399
00:16:08,833 --> 00:16:10,167
- I don't like that.
400
00:16:10,208 --> 00:16:11,458
- There's no--I can't
even call it consistency.
401
00:16:11,542 --> 00:16:13,167
There's no consistency,
there's no follow-through,
402
00:16:13,250 --> 00:16:15,583
there's no effort,
and that's frustrating.
403
00:16:15,708 --> 00:16:17,000
- That is frustrating.
404
00:16:17,083 --> 00:16:18,750
- I don't think Orion's
a bad person.
405
00:16:18,833 --> 00:16:20,250
I don't hate Orion.
406
00:16:20,333 --> 00:16:23,583
I actually think
he's a very kind person.
407
00:16:23,708 --> 00:16:26,167
But I just can't
do anything with a person
408
00:16:26,250 --> 00:16:28,167
who doesn't give me effort,
409
00:16:28,250 --> 00:16:31,000
who doesn't give me anything,
who doesn't stick to his word.
410
00:16:31,125 --> 00:16:32,583
And there's just been
no follow-through,
411
00:16:32,708 --> 00:16:35,750
and I feel like this has
kind of been the story of us,
412
00:16:35,875 --> 00:16:38,125
the I want to do this,
my heart's in it,
413
00:16:38,208 --> 00:16:40,583
I really want this,
and then just nothing.
414
00:16:40,667 --> 00:16:42,458
And that's one reason that
I feel like it's easy for me
415
00:16:42,542 --> 00:16:45,417
to let, like, him go
because he's not even
416
00:16:45,417 --> 00:16:47,333
the type of person that
I would want as a friend.
417
00:16:47,375 --> 00:16:49,000
- Yeah.
418
00:16:49,083 --> 00:16:51,375
- I don't want to put
in the effort to be his friend.
419
00:16:51,458 --> 00:16:53,000
I feel like
I have genuine friends.
420
00:16:53,042 --> 00:16:56,167
I have a good community,
a loving community.
421
00:16:56,292 --> 00:16:59,625
I can't do the heavy lifting
all the time.
422
00:16:59,708 --> 00:17:02,000
I feel like he just wasn't
willing to do the work.
423
00:17:02,125 --> 00:17:05,167
- It's the thumbs-up for me.
424
00:17:05,292 --> 00:17:07,458
- And, you know, it's OK
things didn't work out.
425
00:17:07,542 --> 00:17:09,958
But you know, the growth and
everything that has happened
426
00:17:10,042 --> 00:17:13,667
with it, I have definitely
been fine-tuning
427
00:17:13,750 --> 00:17:15,292
what it is I want in a spouse.
428
00:17:15,375 --> 00:17:17,750
- I'm gonna take a long
time before, you know...
429
00:17:17,833 --> 00:17:20,250
- Yeah.
- I'm ready for that.
430
00:17:20,333 --> 00:17:22,292
You know, I'm gonna do a
lot of self-healing and...
431
00:17:22,375 --> 00:17:25,625
- Yeah.
- From this and you know.
432
00:17:25,708 --> 00:17:28,000
It's very hard being married
in that environment
433
00:17:28,083 --> 00:17:30,333
and the pressure and all
the emotions and everything.
434
00:17:30,375 --> 00:17:32,083
You kind of don't know
what to think at times.
435
00:17:32,167 --> 00:17:33,958
So I'm just gonna
take time for myself
436
00:17:34,042 --> 00:17:35,333
and not rush into anything,
you know?
437
00:17:35,417 --> 00:17:36,667
- That's good.
438
00:17:36,750 --> 00:17:41,167
- What's going on elsewhere?
Are you dating?
439
00:17:41,208 --> 00:17:43,958
[chuckles]
- I recently went on two dates.
440
00:17:44,042 --> 00:17:46,625
- Girl.
- I know.
441
00:17:46,708 --> 00:17:49,083
I feel like I'm a little back
in action a little bit.
442
00:17:49,167 --> 00:17:50,667
- [chuckles]
443
00:17:50,792 --> 00:17:53,125
- And the dates that
I went on were really good.
444
00:17:53,208 --> 00:17:55,167
- Like solid?
- Like very solid.
445
00:17:55,250 --> 00:17:57,208
- OK. We love that.
446
00:17:57,333 --> 00:17:58,625
- One date in particular...
- Yeah.
447
00:17:58,708 --> 00:18:01,000
- I felt very validated while
I was out with him.
448
00:18:01,083 --> 00:18:03,167
I felt very safe.
449
00:18:03,250 --> 00:18:04,458
Like, some crazy [bleep]
happened...
450
00:18:04,542 --> 00:18:05,875
- That's great.
- On that date.
451
00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:07,875
I had, like,
a car incident happen.
452
00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:09,625
And it was like
2:00 a.m. in the morning,
453
00:18:09,708 --> 00:18:12,250
and he stayed with me
the whole time.
454
00:18:12,333 --> 00:18:15,125
He made sure, like,
I was good, my car was good.
455
00:18:15,208 --> 00:18:17,250
And he was just,
like, very assertive,
456
00:18:17,333 --> 00:18:18,958
took care of everything.
- Aw.
457
00:18:19,042 --> 00:18:22,708
- It made me feel very
safe in the moment.
458
00:18:22,792 --> 00:18:24,125
Yeah, it felt good.
459
00:18:24,208 --> 00:18:25,833
And the other date was
really good, too.
460
00:18:25,875 --> 00:18:27,375
So we'll see.
461
00:18:27,500 --> 00:18:28,333
I don't know where these things
will head,
462
00:18:28,375 --> 00:18:29,583
but, you know, I'm not--
463
00:18:29,667 --> 00:18:31,875
I'm not about to get married.
- OK.
464
00:18:31,875 --> 00:18:33,875
You got a double--
you saw my eyes.
465
00:18:33,875 --> 00:18:36,542
- Got double-checked.
- Go hey, hey.
466
00:18:36,625 --> 00:18:40,167
- I don't think I'm gonna
be a wife anytime soon
467
00:18:40,250 --> 00:18:42,458
or even in another relationship
right now.
468
00:18:42,542 --> 00:18:43,542
- OK.
469
00:18:43,667 --> 00:18:45,167
- But I feel like
even though, like,
470
00:18:45,250 --> 00:18:47,500
dating isn't, like,
high on the to-do list...
471
00:18:47,542 --> 00:18:49,167
- I got you.
472
00:18:49,250 --> 00:18:50,708
- The couple of dates
that I've been on,
473
00:18:50,875 --> 00:18:53,833
I saw things in the people
that I was out with
474
00:18:53,875 --> 00:18:55,292
that made me feel like,
oh, this is what I want
475
00:18:55,375 --> 00:18:57,417
in a future spouse,
a future partner.
476
00:18:57,500 --> 00:18:59,125
And stability.
That's the word.
477
00:18:59,208 --> 00:19:00,833
- Yes, yes.
- I'm looking for is stability.
478
00:19:00,875 --> 00:19:02,292
That's what I need
in a partner,
479
00:19:02,375 --> 00:19:03,958
and I need to see that
before I decide
480
00:19:04,042 --> 00:19:05,375
if I want to be with them.
481
00:19:05,458 --> 00:19:08,500
- I just really,
truly admire your positivity
482
00:19:08,583 --> 00:19:11,042
and your resolve throughout
this whole situation.
483
00:19:11,167 --> 00:19:12,375
- I'm so excited.
484
00:19:12,458 --> 00:19:13,833
I feel like
I got my groove back,
485
00:19:13,958 --> 00:19:15,333
I got my personality back,
486
00:19:15,417 --> 00:19:17,583
and I'm ready to go meet
new people,
487
00:19:17,583 --> 00:19:19,792
go on more dates,
and just have fun.
488
00:19:19,875 --> 00:19:22,583
I'm ready to have fun with it.
This process was not fun.
489
00:19:22,583 --> 00:19:25,292
And I'm a fun person
and I'm ready for fun.
490
00:19:25,375 --> 00:19:26,625
I feel like life is,
like, on the up and up.
491
00:19:26,708 --> 00:19:27,917
- Hot girl summer, baby.
492
00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:29,167
- What a [bleep] time.
- Girl.
493
00:19:29,208 --> 00:19:31,125
- I got married.
- You got whole-ass married.
494
00:19:31,208 --> 00:19:32,833
- I got married at first sight.
495
00:19:32,917 --> 00:19:36,083
And then I got divorced
at first fight. [laughs]
496
00:19:36,167 --> 00:19:39,250
What a [bleep] time.
- Like--
497
00:19:39,333 --> 00:19:42,333
[upbeat music]
498
00:19:42,417 --> 00:19:45,667
♪
499
00:19:45,708 --> 00:19:48,000
[bell rings]
500
00:19:48,083 --> 00:19:53,417
♪
501
00:19:53,500 --> 00:19:55,500
- Oh.
- What's up, sir?
502
00:19:55,583 --> 00:19:57,708
- What up, guy?
503
00:19:57,792 --> 00:20:00,000
How you doing, bud?
- Good, man. How are you?
504
00:20:00,125 --> 00:20:01,917
- Ready to?
505
00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:03,042
- Oh, I'm ready to show you
how to throw these hands.
506
00:20:03,125 --> 00:20:04,542
- Yeah.
507
00:20:04,542 --> 00:20:05,875
- You always wanted
to learn to box,
508
00:20:05,958 --> 00:20:07,625
or is this something
new for you?
509
00:20:07,708 --> 00:20:09,083
- You know, just
with everything going on,
510
00:20:09,167 --> 00:20:10,375
I probably should have
been working out.
511
00:20:10,458 --> 00:20:11,792
- Sure.
512
00:20:11,917 --> 00:20:13,833
- Like, to relieve stress
and all that, but I didn't.
513
00:20:13,958 --> 00:20:15,667
And I need a, like--
514
00:20:15,708 --> 00:20:19,125
I need a good--
good workout, good exercise.
515
00:20:19,208 --> 00:20:20,417
- Hey, man,
we all put on some pounds
516
00:20:20,542 --> 00:20:22,167
on our "Married at First Sight"
journeys.
517
00:20:22,208 --> 00:20:24,542
- You still have a six-pack.
[both laugh]
518
00:20:24,625 --> 00:20:26,458
Get me to that point,
that'd be great.
519
00:20:26,542 --> 00:20:28,667
- All right, we can walk
through some of the basics,
520
00:20:28,708 --> 00:20:31,708
and then we'll get some punches
on the bag, some on the mitts.
521
00:20:31,792 --> 00:20:33,000
[dramatic music]
522
00:20:33,042 --> 00:20:34,833
We'll start with
something simple.
523
00:20:34,917 --> 00:20:36,375
- ♪ I thought
I couldn't take any more ♪
524
00:20:36,458 --> 00:20:38,042
We'll throw two jabs.
525
00:20:38,167 --> 00:20:41,000
So you're just gonna
bring it back, boom.
526
00:20:41,125 --> 00:20:44,250
Boom.
All right.
527
00:20:44,333 --> 00:20:47,250
After you're throwing that jab,
coming back to that.
528
00:20:47,333 --> 00:20:49,750
- Whoo. Sweet.
- So try thinking of the snap.
529
00:20:49,833 --> 00:20:51,042
There you go.
- OK.
530
00:20:51,125 --> 00:20:52,500
- So just give it a quick--
531
00:20:52,583 --> 00:20:55,000
♪
532
00:20:55,042 --> 00:20:57,875
We'll try with the mitts
real quick.
533
00:20:57,958 --> 00:21:00,333
Double jab.
Bop, bop.
534
00:21:00,417 --> 00:21:02,417
Rattle 'em and double jab, man.
535
00:21:02,500 --> 00:21:03,792
OK.
536
00:21:03,875 --> 00:21:05,750
♪
537
00:21:05,875 --> 00:21:08,000
- ♪ Knock-knock at your door,
knock-knock-knock-knock ♪
538
00:21:08,083 --> 00:21:10,708
♪ Knock-knock at your door
539
00:21:10,792 --> 00:21:14,167
♪ Knock-knock at your door,
knock-knock-knock-knock ♪
540
00:21:14,250 --> 00:21:16,750
♪ Yeah, I'm out
for blood, hey ♪
541
00:21:16,833 --> 00:21:20,000
- Definitely be down to,
like, get into this more.
542
00:21:20,083 --> 00:21:22,500
- I get the sense you'd have
a natural aptitude for it.
543
00:21:22,583 --> 00:21:24,792
What I noticed you caught on
really well with
544
00:21:24,875 --> 00:21:27,667
was making sure you were
putting your hips into it.
545
00:21:27,792 --> 00:21:29,333
- I feel like
in order to, like,
546
00:21:29,417 --> 00:21:32,000
shed a lot of the weight,
I got to, like,
547
00:21:32,083 --> 00:21:33,417
get a little--
get my heart rate going
548
00:21:33,542 --> 00:21:34,958
a little more, you know?
- Sure, sure.
549
00:21:35,042 --> 00:21:36,750
- Yeah.
550
00:21:36,833 --> 00:21:39,667
- Do you feel like now that
things have concluded for you,
551
00:21:39,750 --> 00:21:41,833
like, do you feel like
you're in a place to refocus?
552
00:21:41,917 --> 00:21:44,167
- Um...
553
00:21:44,292 --> 00:21:45,958
[chuckles softly]
Not yet, honestly.
554
00:21:46,042 --> 00:21:48,833
Uh...
555
00:21:48,958 --> 00:21:52,708
ever since that last event
we all did together,
556
00:21:52,792 --> 00:21:58,250
I just, like, went into, like,
a hibernation sort of thing.
557
00:21:58,333 --> 00:22:01,417
Like, work took a hit.
558
00:22:01,500 --> 00:22:05,542
But I just needed
to, like, process.
559
00:22:05,625 --> 00:22:07,167
I've just kind of been, like,
560
00:22:07,208 --> 00:22:09,667
going through it,
like, emotionally.
561
00:22:09,750 --> 00:22:12,875
And I think, you know,
each day, I get, like,
562
00:22:12,958 --> 00:22:14,625
a little--pull myself, like,
563
00:22:14,708 --> 00:22:20,125
a little bit more out
of the [bleep] place I was in.
564
00:22:20,208 --> 00:22:23,167
I think, like, each day, I'm--
565
00:22:23,250 --> 00:22:23,958
I'm getting there.
- Yeah.
566
00:22:24,042 --> 00:22:25,500
- So.
567
00:22:25,583 --> 00:22:27,542
- I mean, how would you,
I guess, characterize, like,
568
00:22:27,667 --> 00:22:29,708
where you and Becca stand now?
569
00:22:31,792 --> 00:22:34,792
- Kind of where things ended
was full breakup,
570
00:22:34,875 --> 00:22:38,583
no more communication
of any kind.
571
00:22:38,667 --> 00:22:40,208
I don't know what she wants.
572
00:22:40,292 --> 00:22:44,125
We haven't talked
since we broke things off.
573
00:22:44,250 --> 00:22:46,458
Since then, like, I don't know
if things have changed.
574
00:22:46,542 --> 00:22:47,875
I don't know where
her head's at.
575
00:22:47,958 --> 00:22:52,417
I don't know, like, what is,
like, wanted from me
576
00:22:52,500 --> 00:22:57,875
or, like, if we're still
just excommunicato, like,
577
00:22:57,958 --> 00:23:00,417
because, like, I still
think she's a great girl.
578
00:23:00,417 --> 00:23:05,583
And like, it was really hard,
and like, I want to--
579
00:23:05,667 --> 00:23:11,125
to, like, make amends
and make everything better.
580
00:23:11,208 --> 00:23:15,000
But if we had met
on different terms,
581
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,375
we think, like, we could have
worked through our issues.
582
00:23:18,458 --> 00:23:22,083
Something, like,
that could have been so good
583
00:23:22,167 --> 00:23:25,375
ended up not in that place.
584
00:23:25,500 --> 00:23:28,417
[somber music]
585
00:23:28,500 --> 00:23:29,833
- I mean, it sounds
like you're still kind of
586
00:23:29,917 --> 00:23:32,833
trying to work through
how you feel about that,
587
00:23:32,875 --> 00:23:34,792
like, have that sense of,
I guess,
588
00:23:34,875 --> 00:23:37,458
acceptance-slash-comfort
with that.
589
00:23:37,542 --> 00:23:40,667
- Yeah. Yeah, and that's kind
of, like, where I'm at.
590
00:23:40,792 --> 00:23:42,458
How are you and Chloe doing?
591
00:23:42,458 --> 00:23:44,250
- You know, Chloe and I,
I mean, I think for us,
592
00:23:44,333 --> 00:23:46,917
you know, we--
our journey is starting
593
00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:49,958
to come close
to Decision Day now.
594
00:23:50,042 --> 00:23:52,750
And I know for me, I mean,
595
00:23:52,875 --> 00:23:54,833
I'm already starting
to feel a bit nervous.
596
00:23:54,875 --> 00:23:58,167
And, you know, it's just
about navigating my emotions
597
00:23:58,208 --> 00:24:02,042
and being able to determine,
like, are we at a place where
598
00:24:02,167 --> 00:24:06,500
I feel like our emotional bond
not only is solidified,
599
00:24:06,583 --> 00:24:11,333
but can continue to grow
at a considerable rate?
600
00:24:11,458 --> 00:24:13,125
And it's tough, right, because,
like, you know
601
00:24:13,208 --> 00:24:16,167
we talked about living together
after Decision Day
602
00:24:16,292 --> 00:24:17,917
and then fostering children,
you know,
603
00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:20,500
trying to get an idea of what
the future would look like
604
00:24:20,500 --> 00:24:22,375
if we do say yes
on Decision Day.
605
00:24:22,458 --> 00:24:26,292
So yeah, that--that's tough.
606
00:24:26,375 --> 00:24:30,208
I do have my doubts, you know,
and I want to be transparent.
607
00:24:30,333 --> 00:24:34,583
But, you know, it's tough to
kind of talk about your future
608
00:24:34,708 --> 00:24:37,833
and acknowledge that, like,
it could be a no.
609
00:24:37,958 --> 00:24:39,292
I'm gonna have to--
610
00:24:39,375 --> 00:24:41,083
[suspenseful music]
611
00:24:41,208 --> 00:24:43,333
I'm just gonna have
to, like, really defer
612
00:24:43,417 --> 00:24:46,958
to how I feel on that day.
- Yeah.
613
00:24:47,042 --> 00:24:49,833
♪
614
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,083
- ♪ Everything's out on
the line when you're crying ♪
615
00:24:56,208 --> 00:24:58,958
♪ Losing's not a option
616
00:24:59,042 --> 00:25:01,500
- Hi!
- Hello.
617
00:25:01,583 --> 00:25:03,333
- Look at you.
You look so pretty.
618
00:25:03,417 --> 00:25:06,500
- Thanks. Also, your
short hair. I missed it.
619
00:25:06,583 --> 00:25:07,917
- Oh, my gosh, it's so short.
620
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:09,792
You'll see it
in a couple weeks.
621
00:25:09,875 --> 00:25:11,708
- Starting next week,
Jinah and I will be
622
00:25:11,792 --> 00:25:14,000
on a little travel adventure.
623
00:25:14,083 --> 00:25:15,500
We both worked
really hard last year
624
00:25:15,667 --> 00:25:17,000
to win this work trip in Maui.
625
00:25:17,083 --> 00:25:19,083
And then we're going
from Maui to Vietnam,
626
00:25:19,167 --> 00:25:20,500
where we'll be doing
627
00:25:20,583 --> 00:25:22,542
one of our Jinah and Emily
adventures.
628
00:25:22,625 --> 00:25:25,833
But also, I really need
this trip more than ever.
629
00:25:25,875 --> 00:25:28,292
I thought I would fill you in
on, like, the latest.
630
00:25:28,375 --> 00:25:32,500
Obviously,
we decided to get a divorce.
631
00:25:32,542 --> 00:25:34,292
- Mm-hmm.
- Um...
632
00:25:34,375 --> 00:25:38,208
but it was a little bit more
emotional than I anticipated,
633
00:25:38,292 --> 00:25:40,625
a little more stressful, just
because leading up to that,
634
00:25:40,708 --> 00:25:43,250
it was the most, like, spiraled
behavior I've seen of him,
635
00:25:43,333 --> 00:25:45,000
which I've seen a lot.
636
00:25:45,083 --> 00:25:47,833
But he decided to tell me
that I was negative
637
00:25:47,875 --> 00:25:50,208
and that was one of the reasons
why this didn't work,
638
00:25:50,292 --> 00:25:52,125
and he decided that
two weeks in
639
00:25:52,208 --> 00:25:54,292
and that I was only positive
after my accident.
640
00:25:54,375 --> 00:25:58,042
And I'm like, only positive
people can be positive after.
641
00:25:58,042 --> 00:25:59,292
And I was like,
well, this is great to know,
642
00:25:59,375 --> 00:26:00,333
like, you don't know who I am.
643
00:26:00,417 --> 00:26:03,167
It's mind-boggling.
644
00:26:03,292 --> 00:26:05,542
- Yeah, like, how your
realities can be so different.
645
00:26:05,625 --> 00:26:08,708
- Yeah. Like, I just know
that he's kind of
646
00:26:08,792 --> 00:26:10,583
a little of a lost cause
at this point.
647
00:26:10,708 --> 00:26:13,500
But it still--it was sad.
648
00:26:13,583 --> 00:26:16,125
- For sure.
And I've always said this.
649
00:26:16,208 --> 00:26:18,792
Like, you need someone that
allows you to be who you are
650
00:26:18,875 --> 00:26:20,042
and not just allows you,
651
00:26:20,125 --> 00:26:22,167
but appreciates
every part of you.
652
00:26:22,250 --> 00:26:24,875
It's like, would you
rather it work with him
653
00:26:24,958 --> 00:26:27,417
and him not truly appreciate
who you are,
654
00:26:27,500 --> 00:26:31,458
or would you rather he show
you exactly who he is...
655
00:26:31,542 --> 00:26:32,583
- Mm-hmm.
656
00:26:32,667 --> 00:26:34,250
- And get to find the person
657
00:26:34,333 --> 00:26:36,333
that really does appreciate
every single piece of you?
658
00:26:36,417 --> 00:26:38,042
- Mm-hmm.
659
00:26:38,125 --> 00:26:39,125
- If he wasn't gonna only
accept, let's say,
660
00:26:39,208 --> 00:26:41,417
even 60% of you,
it's not enough.
661
00:26:41,500 --> 00:26:44,333
Like, he--
he wasn't enough for you.
662
00:26:44,417 --> 00:26:47,292
- First relationship,
first marriage,
663
00:26:47,375 --> 00:26:49,667
a lot of lessons learned.
664
00:26:49,750 --> 00:26:53,125
But yeah, I'm excited to not
dwell on this on our trip.
665
00:26:53,208 --> 00:26:55,875
I feel like traveling is always
what brings me back to center,
666
00:26:55,958 --> 00:26:57,625
and I need to be back to center
667
00:26:57,708 --> 00:27:00,167
before I really
start a lot of therapy.
668
00:27:00,292 --> 00:27:03,708
So yeah,
I think this is just
669
00:27:03,792 --> 00:27:06,542
the pre-healing healing.
- [chuckles]
670
00:27:06,542 --> 00:27:08,292
I feel like last Turks trip,
I was like,
671
00:27:08,375 --> 00:27:09,708
I've never needed a trip more.
672
00:27:09,792 --> 00:27:11,125
But I think, like,
now I've never
673
00:27:11,208 --> 00:27:13,333
really needed a trip
more, especially,
674
00:27:13,375 --> 00:27:14,667
like, this type of trip.
675
00:27:14,750 --> 00:27:17,792
- Yeah.
Us, like, backpacking.
676
00:27:17,875 --> 00:27:19,667
- Sweating, no makeup.
- [indistinct]
677
00:27:19,792 --> 00:27:22,083
I think I'm gonna bring
glitter, and that's it.
678
00:27:22,167 --> 00:27:23,708
- You can't let 'em
take your glitter away.
679
00:27:23,792 --> 00:27:25,125
- [chuckling] No.
But it is funny, though,
680
00:27:25,208 --> 00:27:26,917
because I was like,
oh, I'll be married.
681
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:28,667
Like, don't have to share twin
beds with my friend anymore,
682
00:27:28,750 --> 00:27:33,750
but I am so ready and excited
for twin bed sharing.
683
00:27:33,833 --> 00:27:36,250
- You know,
just today, I booked--
684
00:27:36,333 --> 00:27:37,875
there was a room where we
could do twin beds
685
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:39,500
or one king, and I was like,
686
00:27:39,625 --> 00:27:40,875
what do we do?
- [chuckling]
687
00:27:40,958 --> 00:27:42,542
- I did do a king,
so I will take a hike
688
00:27:42,542 --> 00:27:44,125
if you need the room.
689
00:27:44,208 --> 00:27:47,000
- No, no, no, part of Emily's
healing is not being--
690
00:27:47,083 --> 00:27:49,708
not going off on--
off the rails.
691
00:27:49,792 --> 00:27:53,000
Like, I feel like a whole
new level of self-worth
692
00:27:53,083 --> 00:27:56,083
and appreciation that now
I feel, like,
693
00:27:56,208 --> 00:27:59,333
needs to be earned
and worked for a lot harder.
694
00:27:59,417 --> 00:28:01,875
And so I just don't think
that me, like, hooking up
695
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,000
with a bunch of people, like,
in this very fragile state,
696
00:28:04,083 --> 00:28:05,333
it's not the right
way to, like,
697
00:28:05,417 --> 00:28:06,625
set up my healing journey.
698
00:28:06,708 --> 00:28:08,167
- For sure.
699
00:28:08,250 --> 00:28:10,083
- And you can keep me
accountable for that.
700
00:28:10,167 --> 00:28:11,625
- You want me to be
your [bleep] block?
701
00:28:11,708 --> 00:28:13,333
- [chuckling] Yeah.
702
00:28:13,417 --> 00:28:15,833
I just need, like, a break
and, like, relax, have fun.
703
00:28:15,958 --> 00:28:17,208
- It'll be really good
for you.
704
00:28:17,292 --> 00:28:18,792
I think we'll have
a lot of moments
705
00:28:18,875 --> 00:28:22,458
where you can,
like you said, pre-heal.
706
00:28:22,542 --> 00:28:23,542
- Yeah.
707
00:28:23,667 --> 00:28:27,292
[upbeat music]
708
00:28:27,375 --> 00:28:31,375
- ♪ I can feel the Earth
move under my feet ♪
709
00:28:31,375 --> 00:28:34,417
♪ It's feeling like
a dream's taking over me ♪
710
00:28:34,542 --> 00:28:37,458
♪ If I control the truth,
can you feel the heat? ♪
711
00:28:37,542 --> 00:28:38,542
- I know, boy.
712
00:28:38,625 --> 00:28:43,708
♪
713
00:28:43,792 --> 00:28:46,875
- [chuckling]
Hey, my little girl.
714
00:28:46,958 --> 00:28:49,583
Hi. How you doing?
Hi, buddy.
715
00:28:49,667 --> 00:28:51,958
Oh, hi, guys.
716
00:28:52,042 --> 00:28:54,042
- You don't even like them.
Why are you faking?
717
00:28:54,125 --> 00:28:56,375
- [laughs] Get out of here.
- You don't even like them.
718
00:28:56,458 --> 00:28:57,833
- Get out of here.
719
00:28:57,875 --> 00:28:59,667
- Don't let her poison you,
Melo.
720
00:28:59,708 --> 00:29:01,708
She doesn't even like you.
721
00:29:01,792 --> 00:29:03,000
[smooches]
She doesn't even like you.
722
00:29:03,125 --> 00:29:05,625
- Don't listen to him, Melo.
723
00:29:05,708 --> 00:29:08,583
- You've got to trust me
with this sauce, OK?
724
00:29:08,667 --> 00:29:09,708
That I'm making for the shrimp.
- OK.
725
00:29:09,792 --> 00:29:11,667
- You just need to
trust your boy.
726
00:29:11,708 --> 00:29:15,667
- All right. [chuckles]
Oh, thanks for cooking.
727
00:29:15,708 --> 00:29:17,500
- Yeah, of course.
728
00:29:17,542 --> 00:29:22,083
- After our visit from Dr. Pia
and then talking with Emily,
729
00:29:22,167 --> 00:29:24,000
I realized that
I have fallen short
730
00:29:24,042 --> 00:29:26,375
in communicating the things
that are important to me.
731
00:29:26,500 --> 00:29:30,042
And so I'm really ready to have
a conversation with Michael.
732
00:29:30,125 --> 00:29:32,167
Decision Day is
rapidly approaching,
733
00:29:32,208 --> 00:29:35,958
and I'm not trying
to leave any stone unturned.
734
00:29:36,042 --> 00:29:39,417
So I'm excited to--
to continue to talk.
735
00:29:39,500 --> 00:29:43,333
I think after our conversation
with Dr. Pia, truthfully, like,
736
00:29:43,375 --> 00:29:45,125
I did want to take a little
time to think about it.
737
00:29:45,208 --> 00:29:47,750
- Sure.
738
00:29:47,833 --> 00:29:49,625
- That was a hard conversation
for me to have.
739
00:29:49,708 --> 00:29:51,792
I think you felt that.
- Oh, for sure.
740
00:29:51,875 --> 00:29:55,000
- And I know that there were
moments where
741
00:29:55,083 --> 00:29:58,000
the validity and authenticity
of our marriage
742
00:29:58,083 --> 00:30:01,167
might have been questioned...
- Sure.
743
00:30:01,250 --> 00:30:03,083
- Because you haven't shared
with your mom
744
00:30:03,167 --> 00:30:05,333
because your mom knew about
the first marriage
745
00:30:05,417 --> 00:30:09,167
and when the first marriage
didn't come to fruition,
746
00:30:09,208 --> 00:30:12,167
you said that she said
that she was very relieved.
747
00:30:12,208 --> 00:30:13,167
- Yes.
748
00:30:13,292 --> 00:30:14,667
- Knowing that
your mom felt strongly
749
00:30:14,708 --> 00:30:18,000
about this process
to begin with,
750
00:30:18,042 --> 00:30:21,375
I actually think you'd be doing
a huge disservice to your mom
751
00:30:21,500 --> 00:30:24,208
and your relationship with her
752
00:30:24,292 --> 00:30:29,167
by bringing her in
at this point again.
753
00:30:29,250 --> 00:30:33,458
- While we're still developing,
progressing, learning,
754
00:30:33,542 --> 00:30:34,583
- Yeah.
755
00:30:34,667 --> 00:30:35,542
- All that kind
of stuff, right?
756
00:30:35,625 --> 00:30:36,500
Well, good.
- I mean, I do.
757
00:30:36,583 --> 00:30:37,833
I don't think it's fair to her.
758
00:30:37,958 --> 00:30:39,083
- I'm glad those
are your thoughts
759
00:30:39,167 --> 00:30:43,167
because let's
focus our attention on us,
760
00:30:43,208 --> 00:30:45,000
see where we go.
761
00:30:45,042 --> 00:30:47,000
If we are at a place where we
know we're continuing to build
762
00:30:47,042 --> 00:30:49,125
beyond Decision Day,
then obviously
763
00:30:49,125 --> 00:30:51,125
you'll meet her, you know?
- Yeah.
764
00:30:51,208 --> 00:30:56,000
It's hard to imagine that
a marriage to a stranger
765
00:30:56,125 --> 00:30:59,292
could be going as well
as our marriage is going.
766
00:30:59,375 --> 00:31:01,750
And it's difficult to believe
that there is not
767
00:31:01,833 --> 00:31:03,833
a certain level of conflict
768
00:31:03,875 --> 00:31:06,333
that it may appear
that we are avoiding.
769
00:31:06,417 --> 00:31:09,042
- Sure.
- However...
770
00:31:09,125 --> 00:31:12,125
personally, I felt accused
of being inauthentic,
771
00:31:12,208 --> 00:31:13,833
and I felt accused
of being fake,
772
00:31:13,875 --> 00:31:16,375
and my feelings were hurt.
773
00:31:16,458 --> 00:31:19,208
And so not only did
I question the process,
774
00:31:19,333 --> 00:31:21,833
I questioned whether or not
this inauthentic marriage
775
00:31:21,958 --> 00:31:24,000
was actually authentic...
- Mm-hmm.
776
00:31:24,083 --> 00:31:27,958
- And just how dedicated
you were had my head spinning,
777
00:31:28,042 --> 00:31:29,833
for sure.
- Yeah.
778
00:31:29,917 --> 00:31:35,500
- I will hand credit to Dr. Pia
in one regard
779
00:31:35,625 --> 00:31:39,875
because the accusations have
at least brought us to a place
780
00:31:39,875 --> 00:31:43,250
where we are
communicating openly
781
00:31:43,333 --> 00:31:45,958
about how that conversation
impacted us.
782
00:31:46,042 --> 00:31:49,000
And if there was one thing
that is within our power
783
00:31:49,042 --> 00:31:53,667
to consider, it is how it might
look to move in together
784
00:31:53,792 --> 00:31:55,125
after Decision Day.
785
00:31:55,208 --> 00:31:57,667
[suspenseful music]
786
00:31:57,750 --> 00:31:59,750
[music fading]
787
00:31:59,875 --> 00:32:01,833
- Um...
788
00:32:01,958 --> 00:32:04,625
I don't mind
having that discussion.
789
00:32:04,708 --> 00:32:06,292
I get it.
790
00:32:06,292 --> 00:32:08,042
It's not normal for
a married couple to go from
791
00:32:08,167 --> 00:32:11,042
living together to not living
together for a period of time.
792
00:32:11,125 --> 00:32:13,500
But we probably aren't
gonna be able to find
793
00:32:13,542 --> 00:32:16,333
an apartment that would
accommodate all our animals.
794
00:32:16,375 --> 00:32:19,667
Maybe we could find a house
to rent for that,
795
00:32:19,708 --> 00:32:22,208
but that will be a tough
discussion with a landlord
796
00:32:22,292 --> 00:32:24,667
to be like, yeah,
I'm cool with five animals.
797
00:32:24,708 --> 00:32:26,167
- Yeah.
- You know?
798
00:32:26,250 --> 00:32:28,292
And we're both
aligned that, like,
799
00:32:28,375 --> 00:32:31,667
we are not gonna go and try to
buy a house right after this.
800
00:32:31,708 --> 00:32:34,500
I don't think even independent
of our relationship,
801
00:32:34,583 --> 00:32:36,625
I don't even think that was
on the near-term roadmap
802
00:32:36,708 --> 00:32:37,917
for either one of us.
803
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,667
- Wasn't on the
near-term roadmap at all.
804
00:32:39,708 --> 00:32:41,667
- And so that's my pushback.
805
00:32:41,792 --> 00:32:47,125
- Um...I think we see what's
out there, what's possible.
806
00:32:47,208 --> 00:32:52,292
Find a property that allows
us to be a whole family.
807
00:32:52,375 --> 00:32:55,167
- Yeah, I'm--I'm open
to seeing what's out there.
808
00:32:55,167 --> 00:32:59,500
What I would ask is that
we don't compromise
809
00:32:59,583 --> 00:33:01,375
on the things that are
still important to us
810
00:33:01,500 --> 00:33:04,375
in terms of that property.
- Mm-hmm.
811
00:33:04,458 --> 00:33:08,542
- I'll be curious what we find
when we start looking.
812
00:33:08,625 --> 00:33:09,833
- Great.
813
00:33:09,917 --> 00:33:11,542
[tense music]
814
00:33:15,625 --> 00:33:16,667
[soft upbeat music]
815
00:33:16,750 --> 00:33:18,625
♪
816
00:33:18,708 --> 00:33:20,667
- OK, come on.
- Come on, boys.
817
00:33:20,667 --> 00:33:21,833
- Guys.
- Come on, guys.
818
00:33:21,875 --> 00:33:24,042
- Ooh.
I'm so happy I have Len back.
819
00:33:24,125 --> 00:33:25,583
- Yeah, I'm so happy
you have him back.
820
00:33:25,667 --> 00:33:29,167
- I missed Len.
- Mister. We missed this.
821
00:33:29,250 --> 00:33:30,625
- I'm just happy to be back.
822
00:33:30,708 --> 00:33:33,000
I feel like I was MIA for,
like, a very long time.
823
00:33:33,083 --> 00:33:35,250
- You had to be. I mean,
you had to take care of your--
824
00:33:35,375 --> 00:33:37,000
what was going on in your life.
- Totally, totally.
825
00:33:37,083 --> 00:33:38,500
- And no one can fault you
for that.
826
00:33:38,542 --> 00:33:40,000
- No.
827
00:33:40,083 --> 00:33:43,417
- So what do you think about
future dating?
828
00:33:43,542 --> 00:33:45,042
- Ooh, yeah.
- What does that look like?
829
00:33:45,042 --> 00:33:46,458
- That's--that's--[chuckles]
830
00:33:46,542 --> 00:33:49,750
I don't think that
I am ready for that
831
00:33:49,833 --> 00:33:52,000
right now or any time soon.
- Yeah.
832
00:33:52,083 --> 00:33:54,792
- I think I just need time
to, like, be by myself.
833
00:33:54,875 --> 00:33:56,292
- Totally.
834
00:33:56,375 --> 00:33:57,500
- Eventually, sure,
but I just--
835
00:33:57,583 --> 00:33:58,583
I'm not ready.
- Right.
836
00:33:58,708 --> 00:34:00,000
- So.
837
00:34:00,083 --> 00:34:02,458
- Now that you are done
with Cameron
838
00:34:02,542 --> 00:34:05,000
and that relationship is over,
are you gonna look for things
839
00:34:05,083 --> 00:34:06,208
you don't want
in the next person,
840
00:34:06,292 --> 00:34:07,750
like, the qualities
that Cameron had?
841
00:34:07,833 --> 00:34:09,708
If that question makes sense.
- No, that's a good question.
842
00:34:09,792 --> 00:34:10,958
I think Cameron had...
- OK, hey.
843
00:34:11,042 --> 00:34:13,542
- A lot of amazing qualities,
right?
844
00:34:13,625 --> 00:34:15,625
Like, he was goofy.
He was smart.
845
00:34:15,708 --> 00:34:18,917
But I think I just need
somebody to understand me,
846
00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:20,750
like, emotionally and,
847
00:34:20,833 --> 00:34:21,833
you know, be supportive
in that way.
848
00:34:21,958 --> 00:34:23,458
- Right.
849
00:34:23,542 --> 00:34:24,583
- Whereas I didn't feel
like that was there.
850
00:34:24,667 --> 00:34:26,292
So I don't know.
851
00:34:26,375 --> 00:34:27,917
Yeah, I think, again,
he was a great person.
852
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:29,667
He was just not
the right person for me.
853
00:34:29,750 --> 00:34:32,833
But I genuinely hope that
he finds someone that,
854
00:34:32,917 --> 00:34:35,875
you know, clicks--he clicks
with and that he is happy
855
00:34:35,875 --> 00:34:39,000
in whatever relationship.
- Right.
856
00:34:39,083 --> 00:34:41,583
- Because, you know,
[bleep] got pretty bad
857
00:34:41,708 --> 00:34:43,708
towards the end, but it doesn't
mean that I don't respect him
858
00:34:43,833 --> 00:34:45,542
as a human being.
I still do.
859
00:34:45,542 --> 00:34:47,792
I did reach out because
it was his birthday.
860
00:34:47,875 --> 00:34:49,458
And he--he responded.
861
00:34:49,458 --> 00:34:51,917
It was a lot later,
and he just said, thanks,
862
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:54,833
which I guess I cannot expect
anything more than that,
863
00:34:54,875 --> 00:34:56,375
you know?
- Right.
864
00:34:56,458 --> 00:34:58,875
- I think that kind of
signifies our relationship.
865
00:34:58,958 --> 00:35:01,333
It's just that's where it's at.
866
00:35:01,417 --> 00:35:03,083
We can have respect
for each other,
867
00:35:03,167 --> 00:35:07,167
but it's just not gonna develop
in any sort of way.
868
00:35:07,208 --> 00:35:08,333
- And I think that says
the person you are...
869
00:35:08,417 --> 00:35:11,333
- Lenny.
- If you--I mean, not, like,
870
00:35:11,458 --> 00:35:13,833
to think about how
you guys kind of ended up
871
00:35:13,958 --> 00:35:15,417
and were not on the best
of terms
872
00:35:15,500 --> 00:35:16,833
and you still reaching out...
- Yeah.
873
00:35:16,958 --> 00:35:19,208
- That just shows the type of--
the caring person you are,
874
00:35:19,292 --> 00:35:20,667
no matter how
the relationship is.
875
00:35:20,750 --> 00:35:22,250
- Yeah.
876
00:35:22,333 --> 00:35:23,250
- And I think that
that's big of you.
877
00:35:23,375 --> 00:35:25,000
I think that that's bold.
878
00:35:25,042 --> 00:35:26,083
- We cannot
get down on each other
879
00:35:26,167 --> 00:35:28,000
for the things that went wrong.
880
00:35:28,083 --> 00:35:31,167
Yes, they went wrong,
but I cannot label him
881
00:35:31,208 --> 00:35:32,833
as a bad person
from a bad experience.
882
00:35:32,917 --> 00:35:34,333
- Just because
it didn't work out.
883
00:35:34,458 --> 00:35:36,167
- Right, a bad experience does
not make a bad human being.
884
00:35:36,250 --> 00:35:37,792
- Absolutely.
885
00:35:37,875 --> 00:35:39,500
- There are mistakes
that we made on both ends,
886
00:35:39,583 --> 00:35:42,167
and I'm realizing that,
so I'm ready to just move on.
887
00:35:42,250 --> 00:35:43,292
- Move on. Yeah.
888
00:35:43,375 --> 00:35:45,375
- Mm-hmm.
- I'm so excited.
889
00:35:45,458 --> 00:35:47,083
- But I think when I'm ready,
like, I've learned so much
890
00:35:47,083 --> 00:35:48,667
about what I want in a partner
891
00:35:48,708 --> 00:35:51,208
and what I don't want that
I'm excited to finally,
892
00:35:51,292 --> 00:35:53,083
like, find someone who
meets that.
893
00:35:53,167 --> 00:35:54,125
- Absolutely.
- You know?
894
00:35:54,208 --> 00:35:55,708
- Yeah. And you will.
895
00:35:55,833 --> 00:35:58,667
I know I've been saying this
for, like, our entire lives.
896
00:35:58,750 --> 00:36:01,500
But I think it's been so hard
for you to find the right one
897
00:36:01,583 --> 00:36:03,250
because he's had--
he hasn't been there yet.
898
00:36:03,333 --> 00:36:04,542
- Why? Tell me why.
899
00:36:04,625 --> 00:36:06,292
- It's gonna happen, though.
I'm telling you.
900
00:36:06,375 --> 00:36:07,792
I've been saying this.
- Yeah.
901
00:36:07,875 --> 00:36:09,958
- Like, the perfect guy is
just waiting right there.
902
00:36:10,042 --> 00:36:11,750
As much as it sucks that
903
00:36:11,833 --> 00:36:13,792
it didn't work out
with Cameron, she's--
904
00:36:13,917 --> 00:36:17,333
she's gonna be just fine.
I have no reservations there.
905
00:36:17,375 --> 00:36:20,958
I do hope--she keeps saying,
like, it's gonna take a while,
906
00:36:21,042 --> 00:36:22,792
and I'm gonna need time,
which I get.
907
00:36:22,875 --> 00:36:25,083
But I do hope that
she doesn't feel hesitant
908
00:36:25,167 --> 00:36:26,625
to just get back out there
and start dating
909
00:36:26,708 --> 00:36:29,000
because she is hot,
every guy loves her,
910
00:36:29,083 --> 00:36:30,583
and she deserves it.
911
00:36:30,708 --> 00:36:31,958
- Yeah.
912
00:36:32,042 --> 00:36:33,500
- I think you're gonna have
a fun dating life ahead.
913
00:36:33,625 --> 00:36:35,083
- OK, you need to quit
bringing up the dating.
914
00:36:35,208 --> 00:36:37,167
- I'm just saying.
We're gonna find a cute guy.
915
00:36:37,250 --> 00:36:38,292
- Yeah, that's nice.
- It's gonna happen.
916
00:36:38,375 --> 00:36:39,833
- Yeah. Make it happen.
917
00:36:41,208 --> 00:36:44,125
[upbeat music]
918
00:36:44,208 --> 00:36:47,958
♪
919
00:36:48,042 --> 00:36:50,000
- Yo.
- What's up, sir?
920
00:36:50,083 --> 00:36:51,667
- What's up, bro?
How we doing, man?
921
00:36:51,792 --> 00:36:53,333
- Good, man. Looking forward
to grabbing a drink.
922
00:36:53,458 --> 00:36:54,417
- Good to see you, bro.
- You too.
923
00:36:54,542 --> 00:36:56,417
- Looking free, bro.
- I try.
924
00:36:56,417 --> 00:36:57,583
- With the Louis.
- You know, come on.
925
00:36:57,667 --> 00:36:59,500
- Rocking.
- Trying to show out for you.
926
00:36:59,583 --> 00:37:01,167
- Yeah, man.
- [chuckles]
927
00:37:01,250 --> 00:37:02,333
- I put on my boots
and everything for you.
928
00:37:02,417 --> 00:37:03,667
- I know, look at that.
- Come on, dressed up.
929
00:37:03,708 --> 00:37:05,042
- All dressed up for me.
930
00:37:05,125 --> 00:37:06,167
- I was like,
I know who I'm dealing with.
931
00:37:06,250 --> 00:37:07,042
- [laughing]
I know who I'm dealing with.
932
00:37:07,125 --> 00:37:09,667
♪
933
00:37:09,792 --> 00:37:12,917
- Nice place.
- Yeah, and they got some--
934
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:14,417
they got some good food.
935
00:37:14,542 --> 00:37:16,125
I appreciate you
wanting to hang out because
936
00:37:16,208 --> 00:37:17,792
I'm gonna be honest,
937
00:37:17,875 --> 00:37:19,167
I'm gonna be trying
to pick your brain.
938
00:37:19,292 --> 00:37:20,750
Like, you've done this.
939
00:37:20,750 --> 00:37:22,958
Yeah, your journey
from what I've seen
940
00:37:23,042 --> 00:37:24,000
has been a lot different
than mine.
941
00:37:24,042 --> 00:37:25,708
- Yeah.
942
00:37:25,792 --> 00:37:27,500
- And, you know, Chloe
and I have been fortunate
943
00:37:27,583 --> 00:37:30,083
up to this point that,
like, all the big things,
944
00:37:30,167 --> 00:37:32,458
that all lined up, you know?
- Yeah.
945
00:37:32,542 --> 00:37:34,750
- I think what I'm trying
to work through right now is,
946
00:37:34,833 --> 00:37:39,542
like, with the things that I--
you know, I take issue with
947
00:37:39,625 --> 00:37:44,167
where am I at
when Decision Day comes,
948
00:37:44,250 --> 00:37:46,333
I think ultimately,
my ideal state
949
00:37:46,375 --> 00:37:48,208
is to be aligned with her
950
00:37:48,208 --> 00:37:50,917
and really try to get
to a place of saying,
951
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:54,833
like, I'm emotionally confident
in continuing this marriage.
952
00:37:54,875 --> 00:37:56,542
That's where my doubt is.
953
00:37:56,625 --> 00:37:57,875
I know if this was
a question of like,
954
00:37:57,958 --> 00:37:59,958
well, would you date her,
I'd be like, of course.
955
00:38:00,042 --> 00:38:01,833
That's--that's easy.
That's an easy question for me.
956
00:38:01,917 --> 00:38:03,458
- Yeah.
957
00:38:03,542 --> 00:38:04,833
- I just feel like
there's a big difference
958
00:38:04,958 --> 00:38:07,125
between saying you want to date
959
00:38:07,250 --> 00:38:10,708
versus you want
to stay married.
960
00:38:10,833 --> 00:38:13,417
- Are you happy?
961
00:38:13,500 --> 00:38:17,292
- I--I am happy when
I'm with Chloe.
962
00:38:17,375 --> 00:38:18,583
- Yeah.
- You know?
963
00:38:18,667 --> 00:38:20,667
The--
- That's great, dude.
964
00:38:20,708 --> 00:38:22,500
- Yeah, so and that's why I'm--
- Cheers.
965
00:38:22,583 --> 00:38:24,500
- Right. Thank you.
966
00:38:24,583 --> 00:38:27,667
And that's like--
and that's why it--
967
00:38:27,750 --> 00:38:30,833
it makes it challenging
because, like,
968
00:38:30,917 --> 00:38:32,375
I am happy when I'm with her
969
00:38:32,458 --> 00:38:34,583
and I really do like her
and I know
970
00:38:34,667 --> 00:38:36,333
we've built something.
- Yeah.
971
00:38:36,417 --> 00:38:37,667
- You know, the question is,
972
00:38:37,750 --> 00:38:40,583
did we build enough
to continue a marriage?
973
00:38:40,667 --> 00:38:42,667
Am I at that emotional place?
974
00:38:42,708 --> 00:38:46,167
You know, do I feel like
this whole journey
975
00:38:46,208 --> 00:38:49,167
was conducive for me
to be in that place?
976
00:38:49,292 --> 00:38:52,625
Like, that's where
I am struggling right now.
977
00:38:52,708 --> 00:38:54,417
- As in, like,
seeing a marriage,
978
00:38:54,500 --> 00:38:56,250
like, a future with her?
979
00:38:56,375 --> 00:38:58,250
- Seeing--just continuing
the marriage, period.
980
00:38:58,333 --> 00:38:59,542
You know?
981
00:38:59,625 --> 00:39:01,333
- You said that
if it was dating,
982
00:39:01,375 --> 00:39:03,000
you would have no issue
if it was just dating.
983
00:39:03,083 --> 00:39:06,167
- Yeah, yeah.
- Why not look at it like that?
984
00:39:06,292 --> 00:39:08,250
- Yeah, that's a good point.
985
00:39:08,375 --> 00:39:09,875
That's a good point.
986
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:13,333
- Like, I am big on doing
what's best for you
987
00:39:13,417 --> 00:39:16,000
in whatever capacity that is.
988
00:39:16,083 --> 00:39:19,500
You know, like, you're in such
a different place than I was.
989
00:39:19,542 --> 00:39:25,125
I was, you know,
unhappy and sad.
990
00:39:25,208 --> 00:39:27,958
And this whole time,
991
00:39:28,042 --> 00:39:31,458
I've been trying to protect
Emily from getting hurt.
992
00:39:31,542 --> 00:39:33,708
She's never been in a
relationship before, right?
993
00:39:33,792 --> 00:39:36,500
And I didn't want her
to think that
994
00:39:36,542 --> 00:39:38,667
this is what
a relationship was like.
995
00:39:38,708 --> 00:39:43,333
So we didn't really have
things to work on
996
00:39:43,417 --> 00:39:46,750
that could progress
our relationship because
997
00:39:46,875 --> 00:39:51,792
it was literally just--
our conflicts were things that
998
00:39:51,875 --> 00:39:54,250
were just how she felt that
I couldn't do anything about,
999
00:39:54,333 --> 00:39:55,708
where you have something,
you know,
1000
00:39:55,792 --> 00:39:57,167
beautiful you've developed.
1001
00:39:57,250 --> 00:40:00,417
Like, we are all so happy
for you guys,
1002
00:40:00,500 --> 00:40:05,167
that there's one couple
that is strong.
1003
00:40:05,208 --> 00:40:09,458
And that reminds us of why we
tried this in the first place
1004
00:40:09,542 --> 00:40:11,542
is to become what
you guys have.
1005
00:40:11,625 --> 00:40:14,583
So that's what I would just
say, just focus on, you know,
1006
00:40:14,583 --> 00:40:16,000
the good that
you have with Chloe because...
1007
00:40:16,083 --> 00:40:17,375
- Yeah.
1008
00:40:17,458 --> 00:40:19,250
- If you look for the bad,
you will find it.
1009
00:40:19,333 --> 00:40:22,792
- ♪ Oh, we rising up
1010
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:28,667
- ♪ We're running free
1011
00:40:28,708 --> 00:40:31,333
♪ Take my hand
and run with me ♪
1012
00:40:31,417 --> 00:40:35,083
♪ Let's live our dreams
1013
00:40:35,208 --> 00:40:37,500
♪
1014
00:40:37,583 --> 00:40:38,958
- Ready?
- Ready.
1015
00:40:39,042 --> 00:40:40,958
- Ready.
- Ready? Great.
1016
00:40:41,042 --> 00:40:44,000
♪
1017
00:40:44,042 --> 00:40:47,417
- I wanted to bring Michael
to look at this property today
1018
00:40:47,500 --> 00:40:48,667
so that we can just
get a better idea
1019
00:40:48,750 --> 00:40:50,500
of what is gonna
be important for us
1020
00:40:50,625 --> 00:40:52,500
as we're looking at properties
going forward.
1021
00:40:52,542 --> 00:40:54,500
Ah, this is beautiful.
1022
00:40:54,625 --> 00:40:57,458
I also want to hear
kind of what he's expecting.
1023
00:40:57,542 --> 00:40:59,458
Are the things that
are important to him,
1024
00:40:59,542 --> 00:41:01,708
do those align with
what's important to me?
1025
00:41:01,792 --> 00:41:03,875
What's it gonna
look like moving in together
1026
00:41:03,958 --> 00:41:05,667
post-Decision Day?
1027
00:41:05,750 --> 00:41:08,333
I feel like the sooner we can
live together, the better.
1028
00:41:08,417 --> 00:41:09,500
- Let's go inside
and check it out.
1029
00:41:09,583 --> 00:41:11,542
- He's sweatin'.
[laughter]
1030
00:41:13,042 --> 00:41:16,333
All right.
So come on in.
1031
00:41:16,417 --> 00:41:17,792
- Oh, wow.
1032
00:41:17,875 --> 00:41:19,833
[upbeat music]
1033
00:41:19,917 --> 00:41:22,167
- So this is three-bedroom,
two-bathroom.
1034
00:41:22,208 --> 00:41:23,542
What are your
first impressions?
1035
00:41:23,667 --> 00:41:25,542
- I--I personally
1036
00:41:25,667 --> 00:41:27,917
really, really love
the open floor plan.
1037
00:41:28,042 --> 00:41:30,000
It's got a charm to it.
- Mm-hmm.
1038
00:41:30,125 --> 00:41:31,792
- What do you think?
1039
00:41:31,875 --> 00:41:33,958
- I'm cool with the
rustic look on the exterior.
1040
00:41:34,042 --> 00:41:35,542
Interior, I like more...
1041
00:41:35,625 --> 00:41:36,750
- Yeah.
- Modern.
1042
00:41:36,917 --> 00:41:39,167
Does this fit your taste?
- It's beautiful.
1043
00:41:39,250 --> 00:41:40,708
Yeah, it's really beautiful.
1044
00:41:40,792 --> 00:41:41,708
- If you guys want
to go check out,
1045
00:41:41,792 --> 00:41:43,542
we can head up to the bedrooms.
1046
00:41:43,542 --> 00:41:46,833
- Sure.
- OK, cool. Yeah.
1047
00:41:46,875 --> 00:41:52,167
♪
1048
00:41:52,250 --> 00:41:54,875
All right.
1049
00:41:54,958 --> 00:41:57,833
Check this out.
- This is beautiful.
1050
00:41:57,917 --> 00:42:00,875
I love the barn door.
- Mm-hmm.
1051
00:42:00,958 --> 00:42:03,125
- You know what I need to see.
- Huge closet.
1052
00:42:03,208 --> 00:42:04,500
- Yes.
1053
00:42:04,583 --> 00:42:06,583
- Is this closet
big enough for you?
1054
00:42:06,667 --> 00:42:09,333
It feels big enough?
- Yeah, it's big enough for me.
1055
00:42:09,417 --> 00:42:10,833
[laughter]
I just need to see if--
1056
00:42:10,917 --> 00:42:12,583
- Not sure if for both of you.
[laughter]
1057
00:42:12,667 --> 00:42:14,292
- That's all.
- Yeah.
1058
00:42:14,417 --> 00:42:15,292
Do you guys want
to go see outside?
1059
00:42:15,375 --> 00:42:16,500
- Yes.
- Let's do it.
1060
00:42:16,583 --> 00:42:17,750
- That sounds great.
1061
00:42:17,833 --> 00:42:20,542
- Let's check out
this backyard.
1062
00:42:20,542 --> 00:42:22,333
Watch your step.
1063
00:42:22,417 --> 00:42:24,583
- Ah.
1064
00:42:24,583 --> 00:42:26,292
Oh, my gosh, this is beautiful.
1065
00:42:26,375 --> 00:42:29,333
- Isn't it?
- Wow.
1066
00:42:29,375 --> 00:42:32,042
Oh, it's perfect.
1067
00:42:32,125 --> 00:42:34,375
It's huge.
- Right?
1068
00:42:34,500 --> 00:42:36,250
Tons of bedrooms, bathrooms,
1069
00:42:36,375 --> 00:42:37,917
and then you have
this amazing lot.
1070
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:39,875
- It's phenomenal.
- Mm-hmm.
1071
00:42:39,958 --> 00:42:41,083
- It's a dream.
- Mm-hmm.
1072
00:42:41,208 --> 00:42:42,583
- Yeah.
1073
00:42:42,708 --> 00:42:44,667
I have a pit bull and
a little miniature poodle.
1074
00:42:44,708 --> 00:42:47,333
- Oh.
- He's got a little Maltese.
1075
00:42:47,417 --> 00:42:51,792
And I feel like
this is perfect.
1076
00:42:51,875 --> 00:42:54,042
Maybe start living
out the dream
1077
00:42:54,167 --> 00:42:56,375
because there's enough room
for a sanctuary out here.
1078
00:42:56,500 --> 00:42:58,167
- [laughs] Yeah, this--
1079
00:42:58,208 --> 00:43:00,750
I think there is enough
for your sanctuary out here.
1080
00:43:00,833 --> 00:43:03,625
- [laughs]
- This is so good.
1081
00:43:03,708 --> 00:43:06,000
- How much is it to rent
a spot like this?
1082
00:43:06,125 --> 00:43:08,542
- This one's coming in
at 4,800 a month.
1083
00:43:08,625 --> 00:43:10,583
- Oh, OK. Well, that's not
too much further.
1084
00:43:10,667 --> 00:43:13,083
- You just have--
we'd have to be good with--
1085
00:43:13,167 --> 00:43:15,208
let's see.
- You'd have to be good with?
1086
00:43:15,292 --> 00:43:16,875
No shopping?
1087
00:43:16,958 --> 00:43:18,208
- It would be what
we're paying now plus 500.
1088
00:43:18,292 --> 00:43:19,792
- Right.
1089
00:43:19,875 --> 00:43:20,958
- Would you like it enough
1090
00:43:21,042 --> 00:43:23,000
to pay what you're paying now
plus 250?
1091
00:43:23,083 --> 00:43:25,042
- This is worth the money.
I love it.
1092
00:43:25,042 --> 00:43:29,208
So how do you feel about
going on a shopping hiatus?
1093
00:43:29,292 --> 00:43:30,500
- [chuckles softly]
1094
00:43:30,583 --> 00:43:31,917
You think that's
all it'll take?
1095
00:43:32,042 --> 00:43:34,333
Oh, just--
just don't buy clothes.
1096
00:43:34,500 --> 00:43:36,208
You'll be fine.
- No drip, baby.
1097
00:43:36,292 --> 00:43:37,375
- Uh-huh.
- No drip.
1098
00:43:37,458 --> 00:43:38,792
[Realtor chuckles]
1099
00:43:38,875 --> 00:43:40,875
- I'm--I'm looking forward
to moving in with Chloe,
1100
00:43:40,958 --> 00:43:43,708
but I just don't really see
a scenario where
1101
00:43:43,708 --> 00:43:46,167
we could realistically
immediately move in together
1102
00:43:46,250 --> 00:43:48,833
after Decision Day,
just given our situations
1103
00:43:48,917 --> 00:43:50,750
and just giving
general logistics.
1104
00:43:50,833 --> 00:43:52,667
- I'll let you guys chat
1105
00:43:52,708 --> 00:43:54,417
now that you've seen
the whole place.
1106
00:43:54,417 --> 00:43:55,833
- All right.
- OK.
1107
00:43:55,875 --> 00:43:57,750
♪
1108
00:43:57,833 --> 00:44:00,250
What do you think?
- It's nice, isn't it?
1109
00:44:00,250 --> 00:44:01,625
- Yeah.
1110
00:44:01,708 --> 00:44:05,042
- But I think we could
find something...
1111
00:44:05,042 --> 00:44:07,792
closer to what
we were anticipating spending
1112
00:44:07,875 --> 00:44:10,417
where we would still
both realize, you know,
1113
00:44:10,542 --> 00:44:12,792
substantial cost savings
than what we're paying now.
1114
00:44:12,875 --> 00:44:14,708
- Yeah.
- But yet have, like--
1115
00:44:14,833 --> 00:44:18,625
not feel like we've
sacrificed space to do that.
1116
00:44:18,708 --> 00:44:19,750
- Because we're
doing pretty well
1117
00:44:19,833 --> 00:44:21,000
in our two-bedroom apartment.
[chuckles]
1118
00:44:21,083 --> 00:44:22,583
- But I mean,
there are obviously
1119
00:44:22,708 --> 00:44:25,000
real logistical factors
to consider also.
1120
00:44:25,125 --> 00:44:28,708
So if we both say yes
after Decision Day,
1121
00:44:28,792 --> 00:44:31,292
I want to be cohabitating.
1122
00:44:31,375 --> 00:44:33,333
And it would suck if we're--
1123
00:44:33,417 --> 00:44:35,583
if we're not doing that
for an extended period of time.
1124
00:44:35,667 --> 00:44:37,500
But it's not like we live
in different states.
1125
00:44:37,583 --> 00:44:40,125
We're like a 20-minute drive
from each other.
1126
00:44:40,208 --> 00:44:44,250
So how long would you think
would be comfortable
1127
00:44:44,333 --> 00:44:45,875
for you to find a place?
1128
00:44:45,958 --> 00:44:48,125
[suspenseful music]
1129
00:44:48,208 --> 00:44:52,000
What if it takes five, six,
seven, eight months
1130
00:44:52,083 --> 00:44:54,250
to find a place
that's in an area we like
1131
00:44:54,333 --> 00:44:55,292
at the price point we like?
1132
00:44:55,375 --> 00:44:56,792
Is that tolerable to you,
1133
00:44:56,875 --> 00:45:00,000
or does that sound, like,
too long?
1134
00:45:00,042 --> 00:45:04,000
- I think that sounds
a little unreasonable.
1135
00:45:04,083 --> 00:45:05,958
♪
1136
00:45:06,042 --> 00:45:07,333
If it takes us that length
of time,
1137
00:45:07,417 --> 00:45:09,833
that's gonna be a bummer.
1138
00:45:09,875 --> 00:45:12,042
We do have a
Decision Day coming.
1139
00:45:12,167 --> 00:45:13,875
I know how I feel,
1140
00:45:13,958 --> 00:45:17,250
and I want you to feel
equally safe in saying it.
1141
00:45:17,375 --> 00:45:18,542
- Yeah.
1142
00:45:18,667 --> 00:45:22,542
- So I want to be very clear
1143
00:45:22,625 --> 00:45:28,333
that if we are gonna stay
married and move in together,
1144
00:45:28,375 --> 00:45:31,333
we need to really think about
what that future looks like.
1145
00:45:31,375 --> 00:45:32,708
[tense music]
1146
00:45:36,417 --> 00:45:38,208
- ♪ So come on and close
your eyes and take a chance ♪
1147
00:45:38,333 --> 00:45:42,583
♪ And we can't stand still
in the sinking sand ♪
1148
00:45:42,667 --> 00:45:44,458
- I'm Ashe. Nice to meet you.
- Ashe? Mike. Nice to meet you.
1149
00:45:44,542 --> 00:45:46,000
- Yeah.
Welcome to my shop.
1150
00:45:46,083 --> 00:45:48,667
- This is fun.
- Now we just relax, have fun.
1151
00:45:48,708 --> 00:45:51,583
- Let's have fun.
- Yes.
1152
00:45:51,667 --> 00:45:53,625
- Gentlemen. How are you guys?
- Yo.
1153
00:45:53,708 --> 00:45:55,750
- It's a cool place.
- Uh-huh.
1154
00:45:55,833 --> 00:45:57,917
- OK, we're gonna
make bottle openers.
1155
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,458
And yeah, so you guys will
get a chance to hammer today,
1156
00:46:00,542 --> 00:46:02,042
hammer out any stresses
1157
00:46:02,167 --> 00:46:03,250
you have in your life.
- Uh-huh.
1158
00:46:03,333 --> 00:46:05,292
- Twisting, bending,
fun stuff like that.
1159
00:46:05,375 --> 00:46:06,417
- Cool.
- Awesome.
1160
00:46:06,500 --> 00:46:08,708
[upbeat rock music]
1161
00:46:08,792 --> 00:46:11,125
- This feels good.
- Absolutely.
1162
00:46:11,208 --> 00:46:14,667
♪
1163
00:46:14,792 --> 00:46:16,875
- This is my forge.
Her name is Your Majesty.
1164
00:46:16,875 --> 00:46:18,958
- Let's do this.
1165
00:46:19,042 --> 00:46:21,292
- We're gonna take our piece,
and we're gonna heat it up.
1166
00:46:21,375 --> 00:46:24,708
♪
1167
00:46:24,833 --> 00:46:27,875
Then you want to hammer, so...
1168
00:46:28,875 --> 00:46:32,583
[hammers clanking]
1169
00:46:32,708 --> 00:46:39,833
♪
1170
00:46:39,958 --> 00:46:41,625
You can hammer about
100% harder than that.
1171
00:46:41,708 --> 00:46:44,500
- All right.
[laughter]
1172
00:46:44,542 --> 00:46:47,250
- All right,
who wants some drag?
1173
00:46:47,333 --> 00:46:49,000
[cheers and applause]
1174
00:46:49,083 --> 00:46:50,875
That's what I wanna see here.
1175
00:46:50,958 --> 00:46:54,167
[upbeat pop music]
1176
00:46:54,250 --> 00:46:55,833
- ♪ Don't try to touch me
1177
00:46:55,875 --> 00:46:57,500
♪ Unless you want
to feel the burn ♪
1178
00:46:57,583 --> 00:47:00,292
♪ So let's get to it,
make it real up in here ♪
1179
00:47:00,375 --> 00:47:04,167
♪ Let's get it started
[all cheering]
1180
00:47:04,250 --> 00:47:06,125
- Decision Day is
rapidly approaching,
1181
00:47:06,208 --> 00:47:08,583
and all of the feelings,
the emotions,
1182
00:47:08,708 --> 00:47:11,333
the anxiety over
the past few days
1183
00:47:11,417 --> 00:47:14,292
has been really stressful.
1184
00:47:14,375 --> 00:47:18,292
So I felt I needed a break
and just really have fun.
1185
00:47:18,375 --> 00:47:22,042
♪
1186
00:47:22,125 --> 00:47:25,458
[cheers and applause]
1187
00:47:25,542 --> 00:47:28,958
♪
1188
00:47:29,042 --> 00:47:31,250
I don't think anything
is more fun than a drag show.
1189
00:47:31,375 --> 00:47:34,208
♪
1190
00:47:34,292 --> 00:47:35,833
- Thanks for the invite, Chloe.
- Yeah.
1191
00:47:35,917 --> 00:47:38,083
- What a fun--
I've been missing you.
1192
00:47:38,167 --> 00:47:39,833
- So.
- Thank you, angel.
1193
00:47:39,917 --> 00:47:42,167
- well, tell me what
is going on with you all.
1194
00:47:42,250 --> 00:47:44,833
How's it going?
1195
00:47:44,917 --> 00:47:46,542
- You guys know
I've been single for,
1196
00:47:46,625 --> 00:47:48,125
like, two months at this point.
1197
00:47:48,208 --> 00:47:51,125
So I'm at the point
where I'm very happy.
1198
00:47:51,208 --> 00:47:55,333
I've received closure.
I'm just enjoying life.
1199
00:47:55,375 --> 00:47:57,167
- Where are you--where are
you at with everything?
1200
00:47:57,250 --> 00:48:00,292
- UM, you know, I've really
just been geared towards,
1201
00:48:00,375 --> 00:48:01,667
you know,
smoothing things over,
1202
00:48:01,708 --> 00:48:04,000
trying to talk to Lauren
as much as I can.
1203
00:48:04,083 --> 00:48:05,708
It seems like
there's still a conversation
1204
00:48:05,792 --> 00:48:08,125
that's yet to happen
1205
00:48:08,208 --> 00:48:09,875
or a conversation
that's not happening.
1206
00:48:09,958 --> 00:48:14,208
Um, you know,
I got a long message from her.
1207
00:48:14,208 --> 00:48:16,167
I don't really know how
to dive into it because
1208
00:48:16,250 --> 00:48:18,875
I'm still trying to wrap
my head around the message.
1209
00:48:18,958 --> 00:48:21,083
You know, it just went over
a whole bunch of things.
1210
00:48:21,167 --> 00:48:23,458
- Was it, like,
a long-ass text message?
1211
00:48:23,542 --> 00:48:25,125
- So--yeah.
1212
00:48:25,208 --> 00:48:27,000
- Man, that's the death blow
right there.
1213
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:28,000
I hate seeing those come in.
- Dude, those are hard.
1214
00:48:28,083 --> 00:48:30,125
- Yeah, and I've
really yet to respond.
1215
00:48:30,208 --> 00:48:31,875
The only response
I gave her was, you know,
1216
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:33,250
I wanted to thoroughly
go through this.
1217
00:48:33,333 --> 00:48:36,000
So I do have a response
for you, but--
1218
00:48:36,083 --> 00:48:37,792
- That's good.
- Yeah, I don't know.
1219
00:48:37,875 --> 00:48:39,125
I don't know.
I don't know.
1220
00:48:39,208 --> 00:48:40,667
I don't know. It's tough.
[chuckles softly]
1221
00:48:40,708 --> 00:48:42,833
- Yeah.
1222
00:48:42,917 --> 00:48:45,667
- He texts me back,
and he said,
1223
00:48:45,750 --> 00:48:49,333
"I really want to
respond to this."
1224
00:48:49,417 --> 00:48:51,208
And that was the text back.
- [laughing] Oh, my God.
1225
00:48:51,292 --> 00:48:52,333
- What?
1226
00:48:52,375 --> 00:48:56,625
- I'm so removed
from my two-week marriage
1227
00:48:56,708 --> 00:48:58,542
that whether
he responds or not,
1228
00:48:58,625 --> 00:49:00,042
it doesn't matter.
1229
00:49:00,125 --> 00:49:01,167
- [laughing]
Two-week marriage? I'm sorry.
1230
00:49:01,250 --> 00:49:02,333
- Right?
1231
00:49:02,417 --> 00:49:03,750
It's [bleep] comical.
Let's be real.
1232
00:49:03,833 --> 00:49:06,208
It's [bleep] comical.
It's comical.
1233
00:49:06,292 --> 00:49:08,167
- A two-week marriage
in this world
1234
00:49:08,208 --> 00:49:09,167
is a lot like five years.
1235
00:49:09,250 --> 00:49:10,500
- No, it did feel
like six months.
1236
00:49:10,625 --> 00:49:14,500
No, it felt like a solid
half-year relationship.
1237
00:49:14,542 --> 00:49:16,125
So I'm good.
1238
00:49:16,250 --> 00:49:17,958
I think I've--
I've resolved the fact
1239
00:49:18,042 --> 00:49:20,042
that my husband was
not ready for marriage
1240
00:49:20,125 --> 00:49:22,292
or "Married at First Sight"
or me.
1241
00:49:22,375 --> 00:49:24,333
And that's OK.
1242
00:49:24,417 --> 00:49:27,792
- You know, as far as Becca
and I, there was real
1243
00:49:27,875 --> 00:49:30,167
no, like, salvaging
of our relationship.
1244
00:49:30,250 --> 00:49:31,583
You know, I hope one day,
we can, like,
1245
00:49:31,708 --> 00:49:35,167
be on good terms and just,
like, be able to, like,
1246
00:49:35,250 --> 00:49:38,375
talk about what happened
or what didn't happen,
1247
00:49:38,458 --> 00:49:40,375
or at least just, like,
get to a place where we're--
1248
00:49:40,500 --> 00:49:43,125
we're both, like, OK.
1249
00:49:43,208 --> 00:49:44,792
[soft upbeat music]
1250
00:49:44,875 --> 00:49:48,125
- I am doing OK.
1251
00:49:48,208 --> 00:49:49,958
I won't cry because
I am not gonna cry on velvet.
1252
00:49:50,042 --> 00:49:51,500
- No, you look too good.
1253
00:49:51,583 --> 00:49:53,333
Your makeup's on point.
- You look too good.
1254
00:49:53,417 --> 00:49:54,875
- You look so good.
Don't ruin the mascara.
1255
00:49:54,875 --> 00:49:56,333
- If you want to cry,
I am here for you.
1256
00:49:56,417 --> 00:49:58,208
- We love crying.
[overlapping chatter]
1257
00:49:58,292 --> 00:50:01,750
- I think I'm definitely
going through, like,
1258
00:50:01,833 --> 00:50:03,625
a grieving, healing,
mourning process.
1259
00:50:03,708 --> 00:50:06,000
- Yeah.
1260
00:50:06,083 --> 00:50:10,125
- But I cannot tolerate
dishonesty in a relationship,
1261
00:50:10,208 --> 00:50:13,167
and watching Austin do that
in front of people
1262
00:50:13,208 --> 00:50:16,417
that saw him out was
just really difficult.
1263
00:50:16,500 --> 00:50:19,042
And then after that was even
more difficult because it was
1264
00:50:19,167 --> 00:50:23,000
like, oh, you're not
even really trying
1265
00:50:23,125 --> 00:50:25,167
to deeply apologize
or anything.
1266
00:50:25,250 --> 00:50:28,792
And so that was when
I was like, I--
1267
00:50:28,875 --> 00:50:31,250
I know I have flaws.
1268
00:50:31,333 --> 00:50:33,417
I know that I will
have to apologize.
1269
00:50:33,542 --> 00:50:35,500
I know that I probably will lie
in my marriage at some point.
1270
00:50:35,542 --> 00:50:37,333
Like, nobody is perfect,
1271
00:50:37,417 --> 00:50:39,833
but it's what you do after
that really matters.
1272
00:50:39,917 --> 00:50:42,292
And it's figuring out what
made you lie,
1273
00:50:42,375 --> 00:50:45,333
what about you makes you feel
uncomfortable, like,
1274
00:50:45,375 --> 00:50:46,833
all of those
self-discovery things.
1275
00:50:46,917 --> 00:50:48,458
- Yes.
1276
00:50:48,542 --> 00:50:50,167
- And I didn't hear
any of that from him.
1277
00:50:50,250 --> 00:50:55,542
And so I feel like I've gotten
closure from my marriage.
1278
00:50:55,625 --> 00:50:58,375
- ♪ You're just another
in the crowd ♪
1279
00:51:02,208 --> 00:51:03,625
[soft dramatic music]
1280
00:51:03,625 --> 00:51:04,875
[indistinct chatter]
1281
00:51:04,875 --> 00:51:06,583
- I feel like I've
tried all that I can.
1282
00:51:06,667 --> 00:51:08,208
I know that Austin's wife
is out there.
1283
00:51:08,292 --> 00:51:09,917
I know that it's not me.
1284
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:11,583
Like, I know that
there's a partner that
1285
00:51:11,667 --> 00:51:13,458
will look at his dishonesty
and be like,
1286
00:51:13,542 --> 00:51:15,333
oh, that was a silly little
thing and move on.
1287
00:51:15,375 --> 00:51:17,167
Like, there are people
like that, and I just--
1288
00:51:17,333 --> 00:51:18,875
- True.
- I'm not that.
1289
00:51:18,958 --> 00:51:20,667
- I'm one of 'em.
- Cheers to closure.
1290
00:51:20,708 --> 00:51:22,375
- I was about to say,
cheers to not being that.
1291
00:51:22,458 --> 00:51:24,667
- Right.
- Because you deserve better.
1292
00:51:24,792 --> 00:51:26,083
- Right, we all do.
- Yeah.
1293
00:51:26,167 --> 00:51:27,583
I mean, I think
we all deserve better.
1294
00:51:27,667 --> 00:51:31,333
And I am still
not speaking with Brennan.
1295
00:51:31,417 --> 00:51:32,667
I think
there's nothing to say
1296
00:51:32,875 --> 00:51:34,125
and I think it's healthy
for us both, especially me,
1297
00:51:34,208 --> 00:51:36,500
to, like, not have any contact.
1298
00:51:36,542 --> 00:51:38,500
And then, yeah,
I am getting ready
1299
00:51:38,542 --> 00:51:40,875
to go to Hawaii and Vietnam.
- Look at her.
1300
00:51:40,958 --> 00:51:42,792
- I'm excited.
- So happy.
1301
00:51:42,875 --> 00:51:44,458
- Mm-hmm.
- So good.
1302
00:51:44,542 --> 00:51:46,167
- What's, like,
your side of things?
1303
00:51:46,208 --> 00:51:49,833
Like, do you feel like
1304
00:51:49,875 --> 00:51:53,250
you've had your side heard?
1305
00:51:53,333 --> 00:51:54,333
Or do you know where
she's coming from?
1306
00:51:54,458 --> 00:51:56,292
- Yeah, let's dive into it.
1307
00:51:56,375 --> 00:51:59,208
So accusation one, I asked
her to delete a diary cam.
1308
00:51:59,292 --> 00:52:01,458
I'm pretty sure
anyone on the planet,
1309
00:52:01,542 --> 00:52:04,208
if they see their significant
other talking immense amount
1310
00:52:04,292 --> 00:52:07,333
of [bleep] on them
on national TV,
1311
00:52:07,375 --> 00:52:09,167
you might feel the same way
and say, hey, like,
1312
00:52:09,250 --> 00:52:10,833
why are we airing out
our dirty laundry?
1313
00:52:10,917 --> 00:52:12,667
I told her,
save it on your phone,
1314
00:52:12,792 --> 00:52:14,083
keep it for your records.
1315
00:52:14,167 --> 00:52:15,542
And she happily deleted it.
1316
00:52:15,625 --> 00:52:19,167
The fact that it was
brought up, I'm like, OK.
1317
00:52:19,250 --> 00:52:22,208
Second accusation,
you and Cameron
1318
00:52:22,292 --> 00:52:24,958
joked about going
on a double date.
1319
00:52:25,042 --> 00:52:29,250
Clare tells Emily
that Brennan
1320
00:52:29,333 --> 00:52:32,667
said he wants
to do a double date.
1321
00:52:32,750 --> 00:52:37,500
But Cameron is the one who
told Clare what went down.
1322
00:52:37,583 --> 00:52:41,125
Clare interpreted it as
Brennan said those things.
1323
00:52:41,208 --> 00:52:44,500
OK, if you want
to call me a bad guy
1324
00:52:44,625 --> 00:52:46,667
for all those accusations
after everything I've done,
1325
00:52:46,750 --> 00:52:48,375
you know, saving her life
and being there for her,
1326
00:52:48,500 --> 00:52:51,750
and those are your takeaways,
1327
00:52:51,875 --> 00:52:55,042
I have no words, no words.
1328
00:52:55,125 --> 00:52:57,833
[tense somber music]
1329
00:52:57,875 --> 00:53:03,333
- Have you talked to her?
1330
00:53:03,417 --> 00:53:08,458
♪
1331
00:53:08,542 --> 00:53:12,750
Yeah. I mean, you know,
that's all hard.
1332
00:53:12,833 --> 00:53:15,875
I mean, we all felt how
hard it was to, like,
1333
00:53:15,958 --> 00:53:18,292
have our wives or our ex-wives
1334
00:53:18,375 --> 00:53:20,917
or whatever you want to call it
kind of come at us.
1335
00:53:21,042 --> 00:53:23,417
- And it is very hard to talk
through moments like that.
1336
00:53:23,500 --> 00:53:25,333
- I'm gonna be honest, bro.
1337
00:53:25,375 --> 00:53:28,333
That moment, I realized that
1338
00:53:28,375 --> 00:53:31,542
most of the girls, honestly,
were seeing red.
1339
00:53:31,625 --> 00:53:34,208
And at that point,
it was almost like we were just
1340
00:53:34,292 --> 00:53:36,667
sitting ducks
and we just had to take
1341
00:53:36,750 --> 00:53:39,375
all the blows they were giving
us, no matter how unfair,
1342
00:53:39,375 --> 00:53:42,500
unjust, and untrue
all of them were.
1343
00:53:42,542 --> 00:53:45,875
It was a point where
we could not reason.
1344
00:53:45,958 --> 00:53:47,250
- I mean, it was definitely
1345
00:53:47,333 --> 00:53:49,083
an emotionally-heightened...
1346
00:53:49,208 --> 00:53:51,042
- Oh, yeah.
- Evening.
1347
00:53:51,125 --> 00:53:53,333
♪
1348
00:53:53,417 --> 00:53:56,667
- So everything
is still good-ish?
1349
00:53:56,750 --> 00:53:59,708
- Um...
I could use a little help.
1350
00:53:59,792 --> 00:54:01,000
- Yeah.
- Mm.
1351
00:54:01,083 --> 00:54:02,250
- Actually, not a little help.
1352
00:54:02,333 --> 00:54:04,042
Probably a lot more
than a little bit.
1353
00:54:04,167 --> 00:54:05,458
- I'm sorry, baby.
1354
00:54:05,542 --> 00:54:07,750
What's going on?
- I'm not doing great.
1355
00:54:07,833 --> 00:54:10,542
- No?
- We, uh...
1356
00:54:10,667 --> 00:54:13,875
we ended up actually looking
for a home to rent
1357
00:54:13,958 --> 00:54:18,458
post-Decision Day, but what
I wasn't quite prepared for
1358
00:54:18,542 --> 00:54:23,917
was Michael actually mentioned
living apart in a marriage.
1359
00:54:24,042 --> 00:54:27,208
- It just doesn't make sense.
1360
00:54:27,292 --> 00:54:30,333
- So, Mike, when
is your Decision Day?
1361
00:54:30,375 --> 00:54:33,000
- We're coming up on it
right now, yeah.
1362
00:54:33,042 --> 00:54:34,833
- How you feeling about it?
1363
00:54:34,875 --> 00:54:38,500
- My journey with Chloe hasn't
been nearly as hectic.
1364
00:54:38,542 --> 00:54:40,542
But where
our struggles have been
1365
00:54:40,667 --> 00:54:44,042
is, like,
thinking about the future.
1366
00:54:44,167 --> 00:54:46,083
I interpret Decision Day
as, like,
1367
00:54:46,167 --> 00:54:47,542
deciding if you
want to continue
1368
00:54:47,625 --> 00:54:49,708
to build and work
on this marriage,
1369
00:54:49,833 --> 00:54:51,375
key word being marriage.
1370
00:54:51,458 --> 00:54:55,667
And now I do feel
legitimately torn.
1371
00:54:55,708 --> 00:54:57,833
Thinking about
the future has me,
1372
00:54:57,875 --> 00:55:00,375
you know, acknowledging doubts
that I have
1373
00:55:00,375 --> 00:55:02,000
and concerns that I have.
1374
00:55:02,083 --> 00:55:04,500
♪
1375
00:55:04,500 --> 00:55:08,333
- Nine times out of ten, I am
really cool, calm, collected,
1376
00:55:08,375 --> 00:55:11,292
and laid-back
and very willing to be flexible
1377
00:55:11,375 --> 00:55:13,208
and open-minded
and open-hearted.
1378
00:55:13,292 --> 00:55:14,625
- Mm.
- Yeah, for sure.
1379
00:55:14,708 --> 00:55:15,833
- And I am going to give
him what he needs.
1380
00:55:15,875 --> 00:55:17,333
- Absolutely.
1381
00:55:17,458 --> 00:55:20,583
- I am not going to do that
at the expense of
1382
00:55:20,667 --> 00:55:22,708
my character, my dignity,
and what it is that I need.
1383
00:55:22,833 --> 00:55:25,292
So we need to have
a conversation,
1384
00:55:25,417 --> 00:55:30,167
whether or not we have
a future for us.
1385
00:55:30,292 --> 00:55:31,833
- I think the challenge--
1386
00:55:31,917 --> 00:55:35,250
like, for me, I could say,
it's like,
1387
00:55:35,375 --> 00:55:39,583
I don't know if I am ready
for the next journey,
1388
00:55:39,667 --> 00:55:42,083
us living together
and fostering children.
1389
00:55:42,167 --> 00:55:43,542
Like, there's a
whole host of things
1390
00:55:43,667 --> 00:55:46,417
that I know I have
to emotionally consider
1391
00:55:46,500 --> 00:55:47,875
when it comes to being married.
1392
00:55:48,000 --> 00:55:50,500
You know, that's really where--
1393
00:55:50,625 --> 00:55:54,250
where I'm at and what
I'm trying to navigate.
1394
00:55:54,333 --> 00:55:56,792
And I feel like
there's always gonna
1395
00:55:56,875 --> 00:55:59,125
be a level of uncertainty,
fear, and doubt.
1396
00:55:59,208 --> 00:56:01,875
So I'm not looking for the
absence of those feelings.
1397
00:56:01,958 --> 00:56:04,167
All I'm trying to--
what I'm hoping I'll have
1398
00:56:04,250 --> 00:56:08,333
come Decision Day is clarity on
yes, I feel uncomfortable.
1399
00:56:08,417 --> 00:56:09,708
Yes, there's things
I'm afraid of.
1400
00:56:09,708 --> 00:56:11,625
And yes,
there's things I doubt.
1401
00:56:11,708 --> 00:56:15,417
But, you know, the hope,
the optimism, the excitement,
1402
00:56:15,500 --> 00:56:17,000
it--it outweighs that.
1403
00:56:17,125 --> 00:56:18,875
Like, I really feel like
that's what it's really
1404
00:56:18,958 --> 00:56:20,792
coming down to, you know?
1405
00:56:20,875 --> 00:56:24,667
And that's what
I've been wrestling with.
1406
00:56:24,750 --> 00:56:27,125
♪
1407
00:56:27,208 --> 00:56:29,042
- That--that's tough, man.
1408
00:56:29,125 --> 00:56:31,500
It's very difficult
to navigate.
1409
00:56:31,583 --> 00:56:33,833
I think, you know,
talk with Chloe
1410
00:56:33,958 --> 00:56:35,917
because I think it's better
to get it off your chest
1411
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:38,125
than to hold it in
and let it fester.
1412
00:56:38,208 --> 00:56:40,125
♪
1413
00:56:40,208 --> 00:56:44,125
- What would you do if
he said no on Decision Day?
1414
00:56:44,208 --> 00:56:46,833
♪
1415
00:56:46,917 --> 00:56:48,333
- Um...
1416
00:56:48,375 --> 00:56:51,000
I don't know.
1417
00:56:51,042 --> 00:56:53,583
[suspenseful music]
1418
00:56:57,458 --> 00:56:58,750
[upbeat music]
1419
00:56:58,750 --> 00:57:05,667
♪
1420
00:57:13,708 --> 00:57:15,792
- You're already in bed?
1421
00:57:15,875 --> 00:57:18,208
- [chuckles]
1422
00:57:18,333 --> 00:57:21,333
- I--I even got home early.
- [chuckles]
1423
00:57:21,375 --> 00:57:23,625
It's been a long week.
- Mm.
1424
00:57:23,708 --> 00:57:27,792
- Did you have fun?
- I did. I did have fun.
1425
00:57:27,875 --> 00:57:30,667
Oh, my goodness, you really
do have all the animals.
1426
00:57:30,708 --> 00:57:32,708
- I really do.
We were snoozin'.
1427
00:57:32,792 --> 00:57:34,583
- Mm-hmm.
1428
00:57:34,667 --> 00:57:38,375
- Oh, hold on, let me put this
light on so I can see you.
1429
00:57:38,458 --> 00:57:40,250
[chuckles]
1430
00:57:40,333 --> 00:57:43,208
Hi, everybody.
1431
00:57:43,292 --> 00:57:46,542
So what's going on?
Tell me about it.
1432
00:57:46,542 --> 00:57:48,708
- Well, I wanted to get home
so that, you know,
1433
00:57:48,792 --> 00:57:52,417
we still had potentially a--
our night.
1434
00:57:52,500 --> 00:57:53,917
And look,
I know you were sleeping,
1435
00:57:54,042 --> 00:57:55,833
so I don't want you
to feel like we have
1436
00:57:55,917 --> 00:57:59,083
to get into any kind of,
like, really in-depth
1437
00:57:59,167 --> 00:58:01,792
conversation, but--
- Oh, no.
1438
00:58:01,875 --> 00:58:03,333
[both chuckle]
1439
00:58:03,375 --> 00:58:05,500
- No, no, it's not--
it's not anything scary.
1440
00:58:05,542 --> 00:58:08,875
It's just I have been
in a place of, like,
1441
00:58:08,958 --> 00:58:12,500
thinking about Decision Day
and what the future may hold.
1442
00:58:12,625 --> 00:58:17,292
So I think it's probably
an appropriate time
1443
00:58:17,375 --> 00:58:22,000
to start sharing my feelings,
let you know where I'm at.
1444
00:58:22,125 --> 00:58:24,083
You know, everything with you
has been so great, you know,
1445
00:58:24,208 --> 00:58:26,625
from the momentum
we've had in the beginning
1446
00:58:26,625 --> 00:58:30,500
to the time that I've been able
to spend with you.
1447
00:58:30,583 --> 00:58:32,167
Living with you has
not only been easy,
1448
00:58:32,250 --> 00:58:34,333
it's been fun, it's been great.
1449
00:58:34,375 --> 00:58:36,250
Getting to just learn about
1450
00:58:36,375 --> 00:58:38,000
who you are, all of that
has been great.
1451
00:58:38,125 --> 00:58:40,875
I think what I'm starting to
realize that I'm wrestling with
1452
00:58:40,958 --> 00:58:44,042
is just where I'm
at emotionally in terms of
1453
00:58:44,042 --> 00:58:47,000
feeling ready to continue
to stay married
1454
00:58:47,083 --> 00:58:48,000
and what that means.
1455
00:58:48,042 --> 00:58:50,833
Um...
1456
00:58:50,875 --> 00:58:53,667
I mean, at least for me, one of
the challenges about the level
1457
00:58:53,750 --> 00:58:57,000
of intensity of us
sharing everything
1458
00:58:57,125 --> 00:59:00,000
was just underestimating
how draining that could be,
1459
00:59:00,083 --> 00:59:03,208
even with us
being on the same page.
1460
00:59:03,292 --> 00:59:06,833
Like, you have been great about
receiving everything about me,
1461
00:59:06,917 --> 00:59:09,167
my--my background,
my perspective,
1462
00:59:09,250 --> 00:59:11,917
how I see the present,
how I see the future.
1463
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:14,750
And I've tried
to be the same for you.
1464
00:59:14,875 --> 00:59:16,375
But, like,
there have been times
1465
00:59:16,500 --> 00:59:18,375
where I was surprised at, like,
1466
00:59:18,458 --> 00:59:23,000
why am I so drained
thinking of the future?
1467
00:59:23,083 --> 00:59:24,667
- Yeah.
1468
00:59:26,542 --> 00:59:30,750
So do you think, truthfully,
safe space,
1469
00:59:30,833 --> 00:59:36,167
that you are actually ready
to be married?
1470
00:59:38,917 --> 00:59:41,250
- That's what
I'm trying to navigate.
1471
00:59:41,375 --> 00:59:43,667
[tense music]
1472
00:59:43,750 --> 00:59:45,458
And now that I've really
started to evaluate,
1473
00:59:45,542 --> 00:59:48,167
I'm really
questioning this marriage.
1474
00:59:48,250 --> 00:59:54,958
♪
1475
00:59:55,042 --> 00:59:56,792
- I'm gonna have to process
that for a little bit.
1476
00:59:56,875 --> 00:59:58,333
- Sure.
1477
00:59:58,333 --> 01:00:01,458
- Because I need to make sure
I am hearing you clearly.
1478
01:00:01,542 --> 01:00:04,167
Um...
1479
01:00:04,250 --> 01:00:08,167
♪
1480
01:00:08,250 --> 01:00:12,583
It's almost like me pushing
living together right away
1481
01:00:12,667 --> 01:00:15,500
planted those seeds of doubt.
1482
01:00:15,542 --> 01:00:17,333
♪
1483
01:00:17,417 --> 01:00:19,042
- Um...
1484
01:00:19,167 --> 01:00:21,833
I don't know.
1485
01:00:21,958 --> 01:00:25,875
And I think we have to just
kind of lean in introspectively
1486
01:00:25,958 --> 01:00:29,667
in terms of finding some
of those answers.
1487
01:00:29,750 --> 01:00:33,333
- This is hard. [chuckles]
- Mm.
1488
01:00:33,375 --> 01:00:36,333
- It might be getting
a little emotional, actually.
1489
01:00:36,458 --> 01:00:39,375
[chuckles softly and sighs]
1490
01:00:39,375 --> 01:00:41,542
♪
1491
01:00:41,625 --> 01:00:44,333
I wasn't ever expecting...
1492
01:00:44,417 --> 01:00:47,792
♪
1493
01:00:47,875 --> 01:00:49,708
to be so close to everything
coming to an end
1494
01:00:49,833 --> 01:00:52,125
and still just be in this place
where I just don't know.
1495
01:00:52,208 --> 01:00:54,000
- Mm-hmm.
1496
01:00:54,125 --> 01:00:57,125
- And I didn't know I didn't
know until you brought it up.
1497
01:00:57,208 --> 01:00:59,875
Ugh. [sniffles]
1498
01:01:02,583 --> 01:01:06,500
I didn't know I didn't know
until now.
1499
01:01:06,542 --> 01:01:08,333
- But I want you to know
that that's OK.
1500
01:01:08,417 --> 01:01:10,625
- [sighs]
1501
01:01:13,542 --> 01:01:15,042
Yeah.
1502
01:01:21,167 --> 01:01:26,167
I do not want,
1503
01:01:26,250 --> 01:01:30,000
nor will I allow us
to give up too quickly.
1504
01:01:30,083 --> 01:01:34,167
I want to ask of you...
- Mm-hmm.
1505
01:01:34,208 --> 01:01:36,750
- Not to make your decision
until Decision Day.
1506
01:01:36,833 --> 01:01:38,833
I just want to make sure
we do that for each other.
1507
01:01:38,958 --> 01:01:40,917
- Yeah, you have
my commitment there.
1508
01:01:41,042 --> 01:01:43,083
[energetic bittersweet music]
1509
01:01:43,167 --> 01:01:44,958
OK.
1510
01:01:45,042 --> 01:01:46,708
- I think we have a lot
to think about.
1511
01:01:46,708 --> 01:01:48,333
- Yeah, I agree.
1512
01:01:48,375 --> 01:01:51,458
♪
1513
01:01:51,542 --> 01:01:54,083
- OK.
1514
01:01:54,208 --> 01:01:57,750
- ♪ Hey, hey, hey
1515
01:01:57,833 --> 01:02:00,542
- Next time,
life after Decision Day
1516
01:02:00,625 --> 01:02:02,333
continues for most
of our couples.
1517
01:02:02,417 --> 01:02:03,792
- ♪ Goin' up, goin' up
1518
01:02:03,875 --> 01:02:05,958
- Seeing him right now
is really hard for me.
1519
01:02:06,042 --> 01:02:07,333
I miss him.
1520
01:02:07,375 --> 01:02:08,875
♪
1521
01:02:09,000 --> 01:02:10,417
- However,
for Chloe and Michael,
1522
01:02:10,542 --> 01:02:11,792
the moment has arrived
1523
01:02:11,875 --> 01:02:13,917
for them to make
the crucial choice:
1524
01:02:14,000 --> 01:02:17,417
whether to stay married
or get a divorce.
1525
01:02:17,500 --> 01:02:19,625
- I feel confident to, like,
1526
01:02:19,708 --> 01:02:21,458
say that we can
continue this marriage.
1527
01:02:21,542 --> 01:02:23,833
- It's hard for me to imagine
my life without him.
1528
01:02:23,875 --> 01:02:25,083
And yet at the same time,
1529
01:02:25,167 --> 01:02:27,000
I don't know that
I want to do it.
1530
01:02:27,083 --> 01:02:29,542
I've never been so torn
in my entire life.
1531
01:02:29,667 --> 01:02:30,833
[dramatic music]
1532
01:02:30,958 --> 01:02:33,458
- The time has come.
1533
01:02:33,542 --> 01:02:37,542
Today, you will decide
if you want to stay married...
1534
01:02:37,625 --> 01:02:38,917
or get a divorce.
1535
01:02:39,042 --> 01:02:41,917
- I'm the all-in
or I'm the all-out.
1536
01:02:42,042 --> 01:02:44,125
And I need a partner that
is very much the same.
1537
01:02:44,208 --> 01:02:45,167
- [sighs]
1538
01:02:45,292 --> 01:02:47,875
[dramatic music]
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