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- ♪ When we come together
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- Ten singles threw caution
to the wind
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and took a bold leap of faith
in order to find true love.
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- Aah!
[laughs]
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- Last time,
the couples' retreat provided
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our spouses and a few singles
the opportunity
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to see each other
in a different light.
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[both howl]
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[upbeat music]
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- [laughs]
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Sexy watching him talk
and communicate and be open,
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and, most importantly,
shirtless.
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I thoroughly enjoyed watching
you take a bubble bath.
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♪
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- It's not always
a very obvious pairing.
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It takes a lot of work
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and commitment
from both animals,
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like it does with humans
as well.
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- And we just need
to move forward
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and get out of our heads
because I want it to last,
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and I wanna be
together forever.
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♪
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- Baby!
- How are you?
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- Had a day.
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Sadly, while this was
a traumatic event,
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I think it did really show
a lot to us both
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about how much
we care about each other.
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This is why you always wear
[bleep] helmets, you guys.
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Like, I would have been dead.
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And with Decision Day
right around the corner,
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times a tickin',
but I feel like
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we just reached new heights.
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Okay, night-night.
both: Good night.
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- And tonight,
with Decision Day
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less than two weeks away...
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- Such form.
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- Three of our couples
contemplate their futures.
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- If she says that she wants
to stay together, like,
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I'm going to stay together
with her on Decision Day.
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- You really have
been committed
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and, like, I have felt that.
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- Good, me too.
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- Like, I've appreciated,
like, so much, like,
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you being here.
- Yeah.
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- Who would have thought--
a tree?
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It's what we needed.
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- Meanwhile, our newest couple
adjust to the challenges
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of everyday life together.
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- So how has married life been?
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- I have been overwhelmed.
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[dramatic musical sting]
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Everything is moving
so quickly.
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So what I was thinking about
was taking a few days apart.
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- Mm.
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Like, oh, well, wait a minute.
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Do you not want to be with me?
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[tense music]
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- All of these fights
and all of these things
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are, like, days and nights
of rejection.
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- Becca, do you want
this marriage?
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♪
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- ♪ It's all or nothing
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way
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♪ It's all or nothing
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- ♪ Take our chances,
try our luck ♪
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♪ With our arms wide-open
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♪ Like we're flying,
like we're flying ♪
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[Chloe exhales]
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Whew, we made it.
- Home.
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- Home.
What'd you think?
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- No, it was
a nice, easy drive.
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I just want to unpack
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and then head over
to get my work stuff
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and then pick up Melo,
get her accommodated here.
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Graham and Franklin
I'll probably bring
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in here tomorrow just
to make it a little easier
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instead of trying to wrangle--
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- Why don't you bring 'em
over tonight?
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- With them,
it's more so making sure
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I have all their stuff.
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Melo is easy.
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I just need to bring
her food and her.
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I might try to squeeze in
a little nap, though,
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before I go pick her up.
[Chloe laughs]
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That way I can greet her
with the proper energy.
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- Yeah, yeah.
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I feel like a nap's
always a good idea.
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Michael and I have had
an absolute whirlwind
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the past week,
coming back from honeymoon
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and then having the couples
invite us to retreat.
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But we're back to reality now.
We're back to work.
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We're back
to doing all the things
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that we would be doing
in our days.
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And we still have
so much that we need to learn
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about one another,
just from a life perspective,
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'cause I wanna give Michael
and I the best possible chance
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that we have,
but I'm exhausted.
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- Do you have any idea how
you want to unwind tonight?
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- Oh, I think
I'm gonna go see the pups.
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- Mm-hmm.
- I miss them a lot.
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- Are you gonna--
like, are you gonna hang out
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with them with your cousin,
or do you think you're gonna
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take them back to your place
and kind of have,
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like, your time with them?
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- With the dogs being so old
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and with the dogs being
so needy in so many ways,
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I hate to go and visit and then
leave again so quickly.
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So what I was thinking about
was taking
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just the next few days
to be at home with them.
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[tense percussive music]
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It has been go, go, go.
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I feel like everything
is moving so quickly,
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we don't actually have
an opportunity to just process.
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- Yeah, true. That's true.
- Yeah.
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And being together
all the time,
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we don't have a chance
to think.
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We don't have a chance to feel.
- Mm.
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- And I'm this deeply
introverted person
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who needs a lot of alone time
and a lot of silence
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to feel like I am listening
to my own needs.
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And I think we just need
that time.
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- Mm.
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- Um, kind of give us a chance
to kind of
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take a deep breath...
- Mm-hmm.
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- If you think
that sounds good.
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- Mm.
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I am a little surprised
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that Chloe's gonna go home
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and spend time
with her animals.
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I do want her to know, though,
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that I support whatever
she feels is best for her.
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But I can't help but wonder
if there's something
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that's bothering Chloe.
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Like, oh, well,
wait a minute.
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Do you not want
to hang out with me?
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Do you not want to be with me?
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All of those things do,
in fact, creep into my mind.
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[sighs]
All right.
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Well, I'll probably then--
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yeah, I'll probably unwind.
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So, no, that's perfectly--
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- I think that's a great idea.
- That's perfectly fine.
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- We're about to really
actually embark
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on the marriage portion
of our relationship,
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which is a good thing,
which is a really good thing,
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but it's also a little scary.
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[somber piano music]
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I have given a lot of thought
to whether or not
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going home at this point was
the right thing to do.
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- ♪ I got feelings
that I can't seem to figure ♪
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- I'm like, here is this man
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that's everything
I've ever wanted.
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What is it that is
making me feel like
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I just need to, like,
take a break?
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And I'm hoping
that it's just the time
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we've spent together is a lot.
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I'm hoping that it's just
that I'm missing my pups.
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I'm hoping that it's just
that I need time to think.
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I also don't know.
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But it's just something I have
to do for myself right now.
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- ♪ Is this even real love?
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♪ Ooh, ooh
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♪
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- ♪ Circles falling
through the atmosphere ♪
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♪ These are things
that you don't wanna hear ♪
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- I'm at my place because today
we were at the wolf sanctuary,
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and... the cameras had left.
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And, like, he was buying stuff
from the gift shop.
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And I, like, tried to help him
open up a bag
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to, like, help him, like,
get the stuff in the bag.
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And he just, like, started,
like, mumbling
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under his breath, which is,
like, what he does sometimes
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when I just, like, try
to help him.
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And then it led into, like,
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an hour and a half drive home
of, like...
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[sniffles]
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Just, like,
more miscommunications.
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And, like, he admitted
in the car
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that, like, this last week,
he has been, like, questioning
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whether we would work or not,
which... was hard.
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[uneasy music]
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But it's also hurtful
'cause, like,
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I don't understand why
he didn't bring it up before.
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Like, I feel like
I haven't been able
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to, like, talk to him
about how I feel,
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because every time I do,
it doesn't really go well.
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It just feels like...
we just need help.
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'Cause right now,
we're really not doing so good.
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♪
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[upbeat electronic music]
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♪
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- On the road to recovery,
baby.
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- Whoo-hoo.
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Got peas.
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We got emotional support dog.
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- Mm-hmm.
- Got the rest.
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- Yep.
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Got everything.
[both laugh]
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She's doing so good, though...
- Mm-hmm.
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- Being a real trooper
and still in great spirits so.
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- We're hanging in there.
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- Yep.
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Been through a lot, huh?
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- Mm-hmm.
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But we're still standing.
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- We're still standing.
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It's just making us
stronger, right?
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- Mm-hmm.
- Love it.
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- ♪ Times like these,
I've just got to hold on ♪
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[soft music]
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- Do we want to do anything?
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Do we want to talk?
I don't know.
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- Yeah.
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- Can I nestle in behind ya?
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- Huh?
- Can I lay my head on ya?
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- Um...
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I think I just need
some space right now.
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[knock at door]
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- There they are.
I'll go get 'em.
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At this point,
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kind of, like, a lot
of our issues are snowballing.
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- Hello.
- Hey there.
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- Oh, geez.
- You get us both.
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- And the things that we were
doing right in the beginning
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we've kind of lost a handle on
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and are now, like,
doing poorly with.
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- You know, I want to say first
that I've heard
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really good things about you
as a couple,
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because there seems
to be a genuine connection.
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But we're also here to
problem-solve and to help you.
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So you tell us a little bit
about what's been going on.
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- Um, I think
I've been having a hard time
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because I feel like
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our communication has gotten--
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- Deteriorated, maybe?
Or--
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- Yeah, it just hasn't
been working in a way
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where either of us feel heard.
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- Mm.
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- And I think we both
have similar concerns.
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And I think I have been
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having a more difficult time
than I've let on.
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I don't want to, like,
hurt Austin.
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But I also feel like
it's so hard.
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Sorry.
[laughs]
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Um--
- Give me an example.
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- At the wolf center,
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I, like, was trying
to help you load your bag.
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And you, like,
mumbled under your breath,
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and even the ladies
at the counter noticed it.
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- Um, see, I have, like--have--
naturally, like,
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I have a different perspective
of that.
253
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So bought some trinkets
at the wolf center.
254
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And they were, like,
getting a bag for me.
255
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And Becca was like,
"No, we don't need that bag.
256
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Like, he can just put it
in this bag."
257
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And, like, there was a lot
to, like, fit in there,
258
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and I didn't want it
to get lost, and I just, like--
259
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like, to me, that felt like--
260
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to me, it feels like she tries
to micromanage me.
261
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And I feel like I get pushed
to the side.
262
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[light tense music]
263
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- Got very upset with me.
- I did not get very upset.
264
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- You were upset.
Your direct quote was,
265
00:11:55,542 --> 00:11:59,000
"I don't like
being told what to do."
266
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There's been, like,
a level of, like,
267
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dismissiveness
and combativeness.
268
00:12:07,042 --> 00:12:12,542
And I know it's
a high-pressure situation,
269
00:12:12,625 --> 00:12:16,792
but, like,
it makes me shut down.
270
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And then the shutting down
for him is perceived
271
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as, like, the problem.
272
00:12:22,917 --> 00:12:26,542
But what's frustrating is
that, like, all of these fights
273
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and all of these things
are, like,
274
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days and nights of rejection.
275
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Like, I feel rejected by, like,
deep conversations at times.
276
00:12:36,583 --> 00:12:40,500
Like, feel rejected, like,
when I try to flirt at times,
277
00:12:40,542 --> 00:12:42,583
and, like, I get, like,
278
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swatted away
or, like, laughed at.
279
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And, like... it's so hard.
280
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'Cause, like, I deal with it
so well on a day-to-day basis,
281
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like, so well
that I don't tell you, like,
282
00:12:54,917 --> 00:12:56,167
half of the things
that are bothering me.
283
00:12:56,292 --> 00:12:59,000
And then it just, like,
gets to a point
284
00:12:59,083 --> 00:13:03,042
where, like, I don't know what
to do anymore.
285
00:13:03,167 --> 00:13:04,833
- Can I interject real quick?
- Yeah.
286
00:13:04,917 --> 00:13:07,167
- Because this is fixable.
287
00:13:07,292 --> 00:13:09,458
- Is it? [laughs]
- Oh, God, yes.
288
00:13:09,542 --> 00:13:10,667
- It is fixable, but...
- It is.
289
00:13:10,708 --> 00:13:12,542
- But all of this has
to come out.
290
00:13:12,667 --> 00:13:15,292
- You were saying earlier
you don't want to hurt him,
291
00:13:15,375 --> 00:13:19,083
or you don't want--what is it
that you don't want to say?
292
00:13:19,167 --> 00:13:25,083
- Um, it often feels like
when the cameras go away, like,
293
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he's not asking, like, for
that depth or that intimacy
294
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or, like, that connection
in the same way,
295
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like, to when we're on camera.
296
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- Or just because it happens
on camera doesn't mean
297
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it's not, like, real.
298
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You know that, like,
I am committed
299
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to figuring these things out.
300
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I just, like, don't always
think that the timing is right,
301
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and I try to communicate that
with you.
302
00:13:47,625 --> 00:13:50,667
But, like, it just seems like,
303
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for some reason, like,
everything has changed.
304
00:13:52,250 --> 00:13:55,417
And I think, like,
a large portion of that is,
305
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like, due to, like,
our physical intimacy
306
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not being, like,
where you want it.
307
00:14:01,917 --> 00:14:03,500
And then that just kind of,
like, snowballed
308
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from one thing to another.
309
00:14:07,542 --> 00:14:11,083
- You know, it seems to me
that you are fighting
310
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for the relationship,
and you are discouraged.
311
00:14:15,375 --> 00:14:18,792
- I don't understand
where it comes off
312
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that he's fighting
for the relationship.
313
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- I--
- Like, it's so hard,
314
00:14:23,375 --> 00:14:25,167
'cause like, what he's saying
here is different
315
00:14:25,292 --> 00:14:28,167
than what happens off camera,
and I, like, don't know how
316
00:14:28,250 --> 00:14:30,167
to express that
or explain that.
317
00:14:30,208 --> 00:14:32,667
And, like, I feel like
I'm starting to go crazy
318
00:14:32,708 --> 00:14:35,292
and, like, that I don't have,
like, my own self-awareness.
319
00:14:35,375 --> 00:14:39,500
And, like, I am at a loss
on, like, where to go now.
320
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[soft tense music]
321
00:14:45,708 --> 00:14:49,333
- Well--well, let me just say,
Austin,
322
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if a woman doesn't feel
sexually desired,
323
00:14:54,208 --> 00:14:57,125
it's gonna be corrosive
to the relationship.
324
00:14:57,208 --> 00:14:59,875
- Yeah, I think--
I think you're right.
325
00:14:59,958 --> 00:15:02,792
- So you're not crazy.
[laughs]
326
00:15:02,875 --> 00:15:05,167
I think part--
I really do think that part
327
00:15:05,292 --> 00:15:11,417
of this angst and this sadness
and these interpretations
328
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come from not feeling wanted
enough.
329
00:15:16,625 --> 00:15:19,500
- But then, like,
when I ask to, like, be wanted,
330
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like Friday night
at the couples' retreat
331
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when, like, you wanted
to go spend the night
332
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in some celebrity's bedroom
instead of with me, like--
333
00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:29,792
- He's a big football player.
334
00:15:29,875 --> 00:15:33,667
And I was, like, so excited
to, like, sleep in his bedroom.
335
00:15:33,750 --> 00:15:34,833
And--
[Dr. Pepper laughs]
336
00:15:34,875 --> 00:15:37,833
- I know it's stupid.
I know it's dumb.
337
00:15:37,875 --> 00:15:39,458
- Really?
- But what was frustrating is
338
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that he kept talking about,
like, how excited he was
339
00:15:41,542 --> 00:15:44,958
for the weekend to work
on intimacy and X, Y, and Z.
340
00:15:45,042 --> 00:15:46,875
- Was there drinking involved?
- Yes.
341
00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:49,417
- He was drinking.
- Okay.
342
00:15:49,500 --> 00:15:50,917
- That's not an excuse, though.
- No, it's not an excuse.
343
00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:52,208
- No, it's not.
- It's not an excuse.
344
00:15:52,292 --> 00:15:53,333
- No, it's a bad choice.
- But it does affect--
345
00:15:53,458 --> 00:15:55,125
- And also,
if he seriously wants
346
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to work on intimacy, then why
is he getting so wasted
347
00:15:57,667 --> 00:15:59,375
that those are the decisions
that he's making?
348
00:15:59,500 --> 00:16:01,083
- It's a good question.
349
00:16:01,167 --> 00:16:03,333
Would you consider
the possibility
350
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that there's something in you
that got drunk to avoid this?
351
00:16:06,292 --> 00:16:07,833
I mean, what's going on?
352
00:16:07,875 --> 00:16:09,042
- No, I don't think so.
It was just, like--
353
00:16:09,125 --> 00:16:10,042
- I think he avoids
a lot of things.
354
00:16:10,167 --> 00:16:12,083
- Oh.
- At the very least,
355
00:16:12,083 --> 00:16:15,125
it was not putting
your wife first.
356
00:16:15,208 --> 00:16:18,833
- Yeah, no.
I admit that it was a mistake.
357
00:16:18,917 --> 00:16:22,042
It definitely
wasn't intentional.
358
00:16:22,125 --> 00:16:23,833
- Did you apologize...
359
00:16:23,917 --> 00:16:25,208
- I did.
- To her this--
360
00:16:25,333 --> 00:16:26,625
- The first time
that he apologized to me
361
00:16:26,708 --> 00:16:29,333
it was because a producer,
like, prompted him to.
362
00:16:29,417 --> 00:16:34,750
- That's not--I--
I feel like that is--
363
00:16:34,833 --> 00:16:38,833
that wasn't the first time
I apologized to you about it.
364
00:16:38,875 --> 00:16:41,000
- So that was not
his best moment, right?
365
00:16:41,042 --> 00:16:43,667
- Yeah.
- So the question is,
366
00:16:43,708 --> 00:16:46,375
can you accept now
367
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that he sees that as
a very bad choice that evening
368
00:16:50,083 --> 00:16:51,500
and that he's truly sorry
about it?
369
00:16:51,625 --> 00:16:53,542
Do you believe him?
370
00:16:53,667 --> 00:16:55,167
[dramatic chord]
371
00:16:55,250 --> 00:16:58,792
- I think so, but, like,
now I'm, like, questioning.
372
00:16:58,875 --> 00:17:01,042
Like, I've just, like--
373
00:17:01,167 --> 00:17:04,083
for me, it's like
that instance is an example
374
00:17:04,167 --> 00:17:07,167
of all of the times I try
to be intimate with you,
375
00:17:07,208 --> 00:17:08,833
try to make time, like,
try to do whatever.
376
00:17:08,917 --> 00:17:12,500
There's always
something blocking it.
377
00:17:12,583 --> 00:17:16,000
- Let's see if we can
prioritize intimacy.
378
00:17:16,042 --> 00:17:18,250
Let's--there's a--
- But Dr. Pia gave him
379
00:17:18,333 --> 00:17:21,083
so many assignments,
and they have not happened.
380
00:17:21,167 --> 00:17:24,542
- I do feel like
I actively try, and, like,
381
00:17:24,625 --> 00:17:28,250
then it's just--is--or, like,
I get that as a response.
382
00:17:28,333 --> 00:17:29,875
Like, like it wasn't enough.
383
00:17:29,958 --> 00:17:34,000
And, like, even if things
were to happen now, it's like,
384
00:17:34,083 --> 00:17:36,125
oh, is it just happening
'cause of the cameras?
385
00:17:36,208 --> 00:17:38,917
Like, I feel like you don't
believe my intentions.
386
00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:42,000
I know it's a problem that
I'm trying to, like, work on.
387
00:17:42,042 --> 00:17:43,292
- Do you want to?
388
00:17:43,375 --> 00:17:45,917
- Yes. I do.
389
00:17:46,000 --> 00:17:48,500
- For you, the way that
this week went
390
00:17:48,625 --> 00:17:50,500
is making you question
the relationship,
391
00:17:50,583 --> 00:17:52,208
and that's what you said
in the car.
392
00:17:52,333 --> 00:17:55,333
- I said that I feel like
I am, like,
393
00:17:55,417 --> 00:17:57,458
trying to do all these things.
394
00:17:57,542 --> 00:17:59,167
But, like, for me,
it doesn't feel like
395
00:17:59,250 --> 00:18:01,208
they're good enough for you.
396
00:18:01,333 --> 00:18:02,875
- Becca, do you want
this marriage?
397
00:18:03,042 --> 00:18:05,417
[suspenseful music]
398
00:18:05,417 --> 00:18:07,500
♪
399
00:18:07,625 --> 00:18:09,083
- I don't know.
Our conversation in the car
400
00:18:09,167 --> 00:18:10,417
is just in my head, and, like--
- Okay.
401
00:18:10,500 --> 00:18:11,833
- I feel like I've been--
- I want you to look
402
00:18:11,917 --> 00:18:14,667
at the totality
of your relationship.
403
00:18:14,792 --> 00:18:17,208
Is there something here
worth fighting for?
404
00:18:17,208 --> 00:18:21,458
- I feel like I wanted it,
like, so bad
405
00:18:21,542 --> 00:18:23,833
up until, like, this past week,
and, like,
406
00:18:23,875 --> 00:18:25,917
this past week
has just been, like--
407
00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:27,333
- It's been a challenge.
- Yeah.
408
00:18:27,458 --> 00:18:29,125
- Yeah. I get it.
- Yeah.
409
00:18:29,208 --> 00:18:31,125
- I really do,
but I don't want you to judge
410
00:18:31,208 --> 00:18:32,792
the entire relationship
by one--
411
00:18:32,875 --> 00:18:37,458
by a small segment of it.
412
00:18:37,542 --> 00:18:40,000
- So let's assume that you're
413
00:18:40,083 --> 00:18:43,000
in a particularly fragile
moment.
414
00:18:43,125 --> 00:18:46,250
So I actually think
it's wise of you
415
00:18:46,375 --> 00:18:48,625
to back away for a moment
416
00:18:48,708 --> 00:18:52,792
from a decision-making
kind of statement.
417
00:18:52,875 --> 00:18:56,125
I think what Pastor Cal is
feeling, what I'm feeling
418
00:18:56,208 --> 00:18:59,667
is that you have
deep emotions here
419
00:18:59,708 --> 00:19:02,125
because this is
an important thing for you.
420
00:19:02,208 --> 00:19:05,667
- Yeah.
- And somehow,
421
00:19:05,750 --> 00:19:08,125
your trust in each other
has been undercut.
422
00:19:08,208 --> 00:19:10,917
So the question is,
how can we get back
423
00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:14,708
to a feeling where you can
trust why you're both in this?
424
00:19:14,833 --> 00:19:17,833
Because if you don't feel that,
425
00:19:17,917 --> 00:19:20,417
then everything is going
to be seen as questionable.
426
00:19:20,542 --> 00:19:22,667
Everything might be seen
as an attack.
427
00:19:22,750 --> 00:19:26,750
Everything can be
walking on eggshells.
428
00:19:26,833 --> 00:19:31,333
- That's definitely, like,
how I have felt.
429
00:19:31,375 --> 00:19:34,458
Like, I've told you
over and over again,
430
00:19:34,542 --> 00:19:37,333
I do want to work on this
and I'm trying to, and I, like,
431
00:19:37,375 --> 00:19:42,833
want to, like, stay
in a relationship with you.
432
00:19:42,875 --> 00:19:46,000
But, like...
433
00:19:46,042 --> 00:19:47,375
- Period.
both: Yeah.
434
00:19:47,500 --> 00:19:48,750
- Don't--no "buts."
- Period.
435
00:19:48,875 --> 00:19:51,167
- Reassure each other that
you're into this thing
436
00:19:51,250 --> 00:19:53,125
because you can deal with a lot
437
00:19:53,208 --> 00:19:54,958
if you feel the person
is in it,
438
00:19:55,042 --> 00:19:56,375
is really gonna try.
439
00:19:56,458 --> 00:20:00,500
- Yes.
It's not about the bedroom.
440
00:20:00,583 --> 00:20:03,375
It's not about any of that.
441
00:20:03,458 --> 00:20:05,208
It's about whether or not
442
00:20:05,333 --> 00:20:07,167
you guys actually trust
each other.
443
00:20:07,208 --> 00:20:09,333
Because it looks like
every time
444
00:20:09,417 --> 00:20:11,417
someone throws someone
an olive branch,
445
00:20:11,500 --> 00:20:13,417
it's just completely rejected.
446
00:20:13,500 --> 00:20:18,042
And that comes
from a lack of trust.
447
00:20:18,125 --> 00:20:21,208
- I think you both need
real reassurance...
448
00:20:21,292 --> 00:20:23,208
- Yes.
- That there is
449
00:20:23,208 --> 00:20:28,667
some deeper admiration
and desire for each other.
450
00:20:28,708 --> 00:20:33,125
And if you can feel like
there's good hope there,
451
00:20:33,208 --> 00:20:36,042
then you could relax
a little bit
452
00:20:36,125 --> 00:20:38,125
and not be backing away
from each other.
453
00:20:38,208 --> 00:20:40,000
- Yes.
- Yeah.
454
00:20:40,083 --> 00:20:41,833
Yeah, and I agree with you.
455
00:20:41,875 --> 00:20:43,500
And then the whole thing
about trust, I think,
456
00:20:43,583 --> 00:20:46,833
is, like--that's really landed
with me as well.
457
00:20:46,875 --> 00:20:50,500
Those are things that I think
would really help us.
458
00:20:50,583 --> 00:20:54,667
I do want to, like,
work on those things.
459
00:20:54,750 --> 00:20:56,833
Period.
460
00:20:56,875 --> 00:21:00,792
- I'm really grateful and
thankful that you said that.
461
00:21:00,875 --> 00:21:03,125
I don't think I've felt
that reassurance
462
00:21:03,125 --> 00:21:06,583
this week much.
463
00:21:06,667 --> 00:21:10,833
And I think my words are not
that great right now
464
00:21:10,875 --> 00:21:14,667
'cause I'm just feeling really
drained and tired and--
465
00:21:14,708 --> 00:21:17,167
- Yeah, okay.
466
00:21:17,208 --> 00:21:19,000
- We're asking you
to do hard work here.
467
00:21:19,125 --> 00:21:23,000
And try and be specific
and honest with each other in--
468
00:21:23,125 --> 00:21:27,125
in kindness and in cooperation
with trying to make sure
469
00:21:27,208 --> 00:21:30,000
that you get to feel like
you're your authentic selves,
470
00:21:30,125 --> 00:21:33,708
and you get to say what
hurts you and what you need.
471
00:21:33,792 --> 00:21:35,500
I think that will take you
a long way.
472
00:21:35,542 --> 00:21:36,750
- Yeah.
473
00:21:36,833 --> 00:21:40,250
[dramatic piano music]
474
00:21:40,333 --> 00:21:42,542
♪ Don't you wanna feel
explosions? ♪
475
00:21:42,625 --> 00:21:44,333
♪ Have you grown sick
of the motions? ♪
476
00:21:44,417 --> 00:21:46,500
♪ Don't you want this?
477
00:21:46,625 --> 00:21:50,083
- So Chloe's gonna be spending
some time with her pups.
478
00:21:50,167 --> 00:21:53,167
And look who just joined me.
479
00:21:53,250 --> 00:21:56,000
Look who just joined me.
My little girl did, huh?
480
00:21:56,083 --> 00:21:58,250
This is my little Melo girl,
huh?
481
00:21:58,375 --> 00:22:00,125
Look at that little Melo girl.
482
00:22:00,208 --> 00:22:01,375
She's just making her--
look at that.
483
00:22:01,458 --> 00:22:03,667
She's already making herself
at home.
484
00:22:03,708 --> 00:22:08,583
I just actually sent Chloe
a little picture of us
485
00:22:08,583 --> 00:22:10,333
just chilling here
at the house.
486
00:22:10,375 --> 00:22:12,375
Chloe's excited
to spend some time with Melo.
487
00:22:12,458 --> 00:22:15,000
I'm excited for Melo
to spend some time with her.
488
00:22:15,083 --> 00:22:21,208
But yeah, my little Melo girl
is getting comfy here at home.
489
00:22:21,292 --> 00:22:23,458
Look at that.
Look at how cute she is.
490
00:22:23,542 --> 00:22:27,917
You're just so damn cute!
491
00:22:28,042 --> 00:22:32,000
[upbeat music]
492
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:36,167
♪
493
00:22:36,250 --> 00:22:38,458
- All right,
Emily just woke up.
494
00:22:38,542 --> 00:22:41,500
It's now 2:30 in the afternoon.
495
00:22:41,583 --> 00:22:45,917
And Emily wanted hamburgers,
so we got her some burgers.
496
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:47,417
Step one of recovery.
497
00:22:47,500 --> 00:22:49,958
- Got our parkas dry-cleaned.
498
00:22:50,042 --> 00:22:51,708
They were a little bloody.
499
00:22:51,833 --> 00:22:54,625
- Just getting her nourished,
and then afterwards
500
00:22:54,708 --> 00:22:56,833
we'll probably go back to bed
and continue to rest.
501
00:22:56,875 --> 00:22:59,375
So the road to recovery.
502
00:22:59,500 --> 00:23:01,417
- Stay tuned.
- Stay tuned.
503
00:23:01,500 --> 00:23:06,042
- ♪ Hold your head up
to the sky ♪
504
00:23:06,125 --> 00:23:09,667
♪ Life ain't easy,
but it's all right ♪
505
00:23:09,792 --> 00:23:13,750
♪ Keep on rolling,
don't think twice ♪
506
00:23:13,875 --> 00:23:18,250
♪ Spread your wings,
and you'll learn to fly ♪
507
00:23:18,375 --> 00:23:19,875
- How cute is this place?
508
00:23:19,875 --> 00:23:21,958
- It is such an amazing,
cute place.
509
00:23:22,042 --> 00:23:23,833
Love it.
- So fun.
510
00:23:23,917 --> 00:23:26,458
- Oh, my goodness,
how are you doing?
511
00:23:26,542 --> 00:23:29,500
- I'm, um--I'm feeling pretty--
512
00:23:29,583 --> 00:23:30,625
I'm feeling pretty hopeful.
I'll be honest.
513
00:23:30,708 --> 00:23:33,875
But the first week
of marriage was a lot.
514
00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:35,458
- A lot to take in.
[Chloe sharply]
515
00:23:35,542 --> 00:23:36,833
- It was a lot.
It was a lot
516
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:39,500
in ways that I, um,
wasn't anticipating.
517
00:23:39,625 --> 00:23:40,667
Oh, my gosh. Amazing.
518
00:23:40,792 --> 00:23:42,083
- Guess you're not ready
for it, right?
519
00:23:42,167 --> 00:23:44,917
I mean, who can be ready
for anything like that?
520
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,250
- So yeah, I ended up
going home for a few days.
521
00:23:47,333 --> 00:23:49,208
- Oh, you did?
- I did.
522
00:23:49,292 --> 00:23:50,458
- Okay.
- I did.
523
00:23:50,542 --> 00:23:52,417
- Was he understandable?
- He really was.
524
00:23:52,500 --> 00:23:55,500
We had a very frank
and just gentle,
525
00:23:55,542 --> 00:23:57,750
but direct, conversation.
526
00:23:57,833 --> 00:23:59,792
- Between us...
[chuckles]
527
00:23:59,875 --> 00:24:02,542
Do you feel like you were
second-guessing your choice?
528
00:24:02,625 --> 00:24:06,583
Maybe he--like,
his personality or himself,
529
00:24:06,667 --> 00:24:09,250
or whatever the case may be,
do you feel like maybe
530
00:24:09,333 --> 00:24:10,667
I need to think it through?
531
00:24:10,750 --> 00:24:13,500
- I knew this process
was gonna be a lot.
532
00:24:13,583 --> 00:24:15,083
You could never prepare
for this process.
533
00:24:15,208 --> 00:24:17,583
- I'm sure.
534
00:24:17,583 --> 00:24:20,000
- And so to so quickly
have Michael and I talking
535
00:24:20,042 --> 00:24:22,333
about everything,
536
00:24:22,375 --> 00:24:24,417
realizing that we align
on everything,
537
00:24:24,542 --> 00:24:28,500
which is incredible,
but it's also just been a lot.
538
00:24:28,583 --> 00:24:30,667
And I told him, I was like,
"This is not you.
539
00:24:30,750 --> 00:24:33,292
"I just really needed
to process
540
00:24:33,375 --> 00:24:36,833
the human
that the experts had given me."
541
00:24:36,875 --> 00:24:39,875
So I'm glad Michael didn't take
any offense to me going.
542
00:24:39,958 --> 00:24:42,292
And maybe he did
and he's just not telling me.
543
00:24:42,375 --> 00:24:43,833
- True.
- But I also think he needed
544
00:24:43,958 --> 00:24:48,542
a few moments to himself and
getting his animals acclimated.
545
00:24:48,625 --> 00:24:51,500
So in these days that I've
taken away from Michael,
546
00:24:51,542 --> 00:24:56,167
it's given me an opportunity
to think about
547
00:24:56,292 --> 00:24:58,167
exactly what I asked for
548
00:24:58,250 --> 00:25:02,542
and how Michael aligns
in everything that I asked for.
549
00:25:02,625 --> 00:25:07,542
And every day that passed,
550
00:25:07,625 --> 00:25:14,042
and the more I processed
who Michael is as a human,
551
00:25:14,125 --> 00:25:15,500
the more I missed him.
552
00:25:15,583 --> 00:25:18,542
I actually missed being
with Michael.
553
00:25:18,667 --> 00:25:23,542
And I realize that
for every ounce of different
554
00:25:23,625 --> 00:25:26,333
we may be in one another,
555
00:25:26,458 --> 00:25:29,958
we are almost the same
in everything else.
556
00:25:30,042 --> 00:25:31,208
There is not a thing
557
00:25:31,292 --> 00:25:32,958
about our relationship
that I'm concerned about.
558
00:25:33,042 --> 00:25:35,417
- That, for me,
is a little concerning.
559
00:25:35,500 --> 00:25:37,583
[laughs]
560
00:25:37,708 --> 00:25:40,125
I sometimes feel like
he's unreal in a way
561
00:25:40,208 --> 00:25:43,625
because he chooses
his words really wisely.
562
00:25:43,708 --> 00:25:44,958
He's really--
563
00:25:45,042 --> 00:25:47,375
he's a good spokesperson,
right?
564
00:25:47,375 --> 00:25:48,667
He knows his words.
565
00:25:48,708 --> 00:25:52,125
He knows how to say
what you wanna hear.
566
00:25:52,208 --> 00:25:55,625
Do you feel like his words
speak louder than his actions?
567
00:25:55,708 --> 00:25:57,375
Or do you feel like his actions
568
00:25:57,458 --> 00:25:58,667
are right there with his words?
569
00:25:58,708 --> 00:26:01,042
- That was my concern.
570
00:26:01,042 --> 00:26:05,625
He is able to say exactly what
needs to be said in a moment.
571
00:26:05,708 --> 00:26:08,708
And I thought,
"You cannot be real."
572
00:26:08,792 --> 00:26:13,167
But so far, he's given me
no reason not to trust him.
573
00:26:13,250 --> 00:26:16,167
But it's something that's gonna
be in the back of my mind
574
00:26:16,250 --> 00:26:18,542
until it's not in the back
of my mind anymore.
575
00:26:18,667 --> 00:26:20,083
[gentle hopeful music]
576
00:26:24,042 --> 00:26:26,208
[bright music]
577
00:26:26,208 --> 00:26:27,500
♪
578
00:26:27,583 --> 00:26:31,208
- We are en route
to get my stitches out.
579
00:26:31,292 --> 00:26:32,792
- Stitches-out day.
580
00:26:32,875 --> 00:26:34,958
- Yeah, I'm very intrigued
how this is gonna go,
581
00:26:35,042 --> 00:26:39,125
but I've got
my emotional support driver.
582
00:26:39,208 --> 00:26:41,333
[laughs]
It's a big day.
583
00:26:41,375 --> 00:26:43,625
- We are now
at the doctor's office
584
00:26:43,708 --> 00:26:46,292
waiting to get
Emily's stitches out.
585
00:26:46,375 --> 00:26:48,500
- It's exciting.
586
00:26:48,542 --> 00:26:50,500
I'm trying to guess
how many stitches.
587
00:26:50,625 --> 00:26:52,167
- Like, 35 stitches.
588
00:26:52,250 --> 00:26:55,167
Doctor said it was just
the right amount, so.
589
00:26:55,208 --> 00:26:56,542
- Whatever that means.
590
00:26:56,625 --> 00:26:58,083
- Pleased to hear it.
591
00:26:58,167 --> 00:26:59,333
- Pleased.
592
00:26:59,417 --> 00:27:03,583
♪
593
00:27:03,708 --> 00:27:05,875
- We just got done at the doc.
594
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:07,708
He was able to take out
all the stitches.
595
00:27:07,792 --> 00:27:09,750
- Yep.
- He seemed pleased
596
00:27:09,833 --> 00:27:11,417
with how the healing's going,
so.
597
00:27:11,500 --> 00:27:12,667
How you feeling?
598
00:27:12,750 --> 00:27:16,833
- Um, still feel
and look scary.
599
00:27:16,875 --> 00:27:18,875
But he said it looks good,
600
00:27:18,958 --> 00:27:20,542
so I have to believe him,
you know?
601
00:27:20,625 --> 00:27:23,583
- Yeah. Onwards and upwards.
602
00:27:23,708 --> 00:27:27,333
♪
603
00:27:27,375 --> 00:27:30,792
- ♪ I'm hoping hard
604
00:27:30,875 --> 00:27:34,875
- Welcome to Austin's
meditation zone.
605
00:27:34,958 --> 00:27:41,250
We are here finding inner peace
at a...
606
00:27:41,333 --> 00:27:42,750
SunWater Spa.
607
00:27:42,833 --> 00:27:47,292
Because yesterday,
the extra visit
608
00:27:47,375 --> 00:27:49,208
was emotionally exhausting.
609
00:27:49,292 --> 00:27:52,083
But I think, like, the most
important thing is, like,
610
00:27:52,167 --> 00:27:55,667
that the vibe between us
really, like, changed
611
00:27:55,750 --> 00:27:57,833
and improved for the better
after last night.
612
00:27:57,875 --> 00:28:02,542
And it was, like,
a palpable, um, change.
613
00:28:02,708 --> 00:28:04,708
I think we both
kind of realized
614
00:28:04,792 --> 00:28:10,500
that we need to do things,
approach things differently
615
00:28:10,583 --> 00:28:13,958
and have a different frame of
the way we think about things.
616
00:28:14,042 --> 00:28:17,500
- Oh boy.
617
00:28:17,583 --> 00:28:19,167
Oh, that's nice.
It's not too hot.
618
00:28:19,250 --> 00:28:21,750
I'm feeling hopeful
and optimistic
619
00:28:21,833 --> 00:28:24,167
because last night needed
to happen.
620
00:28:24,250 --> 00:28:26,708
The conversation was
important for us.
621
00:28:26,833 --> 00:28:28,708
And I'm hoping that
by being honest,
622
00:28:28,792 --> 00:28:30,792
maybe that helps Austin
open up more
623
00:28:30,875 --> 00:28:33,917
or maybe that helps
our communication.
624
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:36,042
You know,
Decision Day is approaching.
625
00:28:36,125 --> 00:28:40,125
And Austin and I have a lot
to figure out.
626
00:28:40,208 --> 00:28:43,167
But I'm always ready
and willing to try
627
00:28:43,208 --> 00:28:45,250
because you don't know
if you don't try.
628
00:28:45,333 --> 00:28:47,083
- How relaxing.
629
00:28:47,167 --> 00:28:50,208
[laughs]
630
00:28:53,208 --> 00:28:55,792
Do you want to talk about last
night and the expert meeting?
631
00:28:55,875 --> 00:28:57,167
- Um, yeah.
632
00:28:57,208 --> 00:29:01,167
General vibe was
that I thought it was good.
633
00:29:01,250 --> 00:29:05,208
Like, I think that there were
a lot of things
634
00:29:05,292 --> 00:29:07,875
that I hadn't said,
635
00:29:07,958 --> 00:29:10,167
or, like, we hadn't talked
about on camera yet and...
636
00:29:10,250 --> 00:29:13,417
- Mm-hmm.
- It just felt exhausting
637
00:29:13,500 --> 00:29:16,250
to, like...
638
00:29:16,250 --> 00:29:20,625
manage those two realities,
you know?
639
00:29:20,708 --> 00:29:23,708
- Yeah, it's challenging.
640
00:29:23,833 --> 00:29:26,042
- Mm-hmm, definitely.
641
00:29:26,125 --> 00:29:29,292
- Like, 'cause I thought
it was helpful.
642
00:29:29,375 --> 00:29:31,667
I thought it was, like,
good advice and things
643
00:29:31,792 --> 00:29:33,625
that, like, could help both
of us, you know,
644
00:29:33,708 --> 00:29:36,708
with our relationship.
- Mm-hmm.
645
00:29:36,833 --> 00:29:42,167
- You know,
the thing about, um, trust--
646
00:29:42,250 --> 00:29:45,792
that would be, like,
good for the both of us.
647
00:29:45,875 --> 00:29:49,792
- Yeah, I think I'm having
a hard time
648
00:29:49,875 --> 00:29:55,417
knowing when I need
to be self-reflecting.
649
00:29:55,542 --> 00:30:01,292
And I'm kind of just, like,
questioning a lot about myself
650
00:30:01,375 --> 00:30:03,833
right now,
and I think it's really hard.
651
00:30:03,917 --> 00:30:06,333
- Yeah. What do you mean?
Like--
652
00:30:06,375 --> 00:30:08,708
- I know I'm sensitive.
Am I too sensitive?
653
00:30:08,792 --> 00:30:11,792
Or what are the things
that I am valid
654
00:30:11,875 --> 00:30:13,167
on being upset about?
655
00:30:13,208 --> 00:30:15,042
- Yeah.
656
00:30:15,042 --> 00:30:20,000
- So, like, when you do try to,
like, make a step forward
657
00:30:20,042 --> 00:30:22,083
in intimacy in any way,
like, I need to trust
658
00:30:22,167 --> 00:30:23,792
that it's not because you feel
like you have to do it,
659
00:30:23,875 --> 00:30:25,875
but because you want to.
660
00:30:25,958 --> 00:30:29,542
[exhales]
- I think--well, I know
661
00:30:29,625 --> 00:30:33,542
that, like,
I'm committed to, like,
662
00:30:33,625 --> 00:30:35,667
keep trying to work on things.
663
00:30:35,750 --> 00:30:37,500
- Yeah.
664
00:30:37,583 --> 00:30:39,958
- But I... [clears throat]
Started to question
665
00:30:40,042 --> 00:30:43,375
if that was something that,
like, you wanted.
666
00:30:43,458 --> 00:30:47,625
- I love that in your heart
you really have been committed.
667
00:30:47,708 --> 00:30:51,125
And, like, I have felt that,
and I'm happy to hear you say
668
00:30:51,208 --> 00:30:53,708
that, like, you are committed
to working on this.
669
00:30:53,792 --> 00:30:56,792
It is a harsh contrast
from our conversation,
670
00:30:56,875 --> 00:31:00,667
where it felt like
largely what you needed
671
00:31:00,708 --> 00:31:03,208
from me was validation,
672
00:31:03,375 --> 00:31:06,625
and largely what I needed from
you was validation, and then--
673
00:31:06,708 --> 00:31:09,417
- Neither of us were really
giving the other one that?
674
00:31:09,542 --> 00:31:10,875
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
675
00:31:10,958 --> 00:31:14,083
So yeah, I'm grateful
and thankful to hear that
676
00:31:14,167 --> 00:31:17,625
that has still been the same.
677
00:31:17,708 --> 00:31:20,542
- Okay. Cool.
Good. Me too.
678
00:31:20,625 --> 00:31:23,833
[singer vocalizing]
679
00:31:23,917 --> 00:31:25,250
- ♪ Ain't no way
you're gonna move ♪
680
00:31:29,125 --> 00:31:30,917
- ♪ Let time follow you
681
00:31:30,917 --> 00:31:32,250
- It's good to be home.
682
00:31:32,250 --> 00:31:33,333
♪
683
00:31:36,958 --> 00:31:38,708
- Oh, yeah, I do.
684
00:31:38,792 --> 00:31:40,792
What you thinking, huh?
685
00:31:40,875 --> 00:31:42,292
This your new home?
686
00:31:42,375 --> 00:31:44,208
[indistinct]
687
00:31:44,292 --> 00:31:45,667
Yeah.
688
00:31:45,750 --> 00:31:49,750
We have made it back
to the apartment.
689
00:31:49,833 --> 00:31:53,000
I've got little Theodore here,
690
00:31:53,083 --> 00:31:57,417
and he is very excited
to be in his new home.
691
00:31:57,500 --> 00:32:00,417
All of the babies are
doing so great.
692
00:32:00,500 --> 00:32:04,833
And they all love each other,
and have settled right on in,
693
00:32:04,917 --> 00:32:07,292
and are just happy
to be siblings.
694
00:32:07,375 --> 00:32:09,083
[chuckles]
695
00:32:09,208 --> 00:32:11,667
Oh, I can't handle
these babies.
696
00:32:11,792 --> 00:32:14,333
And we are decorating
697
00:32:14,417 --> 00:32:18,208
for our '90s hip-hop
housewarming party.
698
00:32:18,333 --> 00:32:23,875
Franklin is there for it;
so is Melo.
699
00:32:23,958 --> 00:32:25,667
She's there for it.
700
00:32:25,792 --> 00:32:29,625
We can't wait to have our
friends over for all the fun.
701
00:32:29,708 --> 00:32:30,542
Happy kiddos.
702
00:32:30,667 --> 00:32:33,667
[chuckles]
703
00:32:33,750 --> 00:32:36,542
[hip-hop music]
704
00:32:36,625 --> 00:32:41,208
♪
705
00:32:41,292 --> 00:32:42,833
Actually, that
looks good hanging.
706
00:32:42,917 --> 00:32:44,167
I think--
- You just--
707
00:32:44,208 --> 00:32:45,542
- Let me confirm.
- Sure.
708
00:32:45,542 --> 00:32:46,750
- Yeah, I like it.
709
00:32:46,875 --> 00:32:47,833
- Boom.
710
00:32:47,917 --> 00:32:49,542
- Perfect.
711
00:32:49,625 --> 00:32:50,792
- Do you feel recharged?
712
00:32:50,875 --> 00:32:52,875
- I do feel recharged.
713
00:32:52,958 --> 00:32:54,417
- Yeah.
- I really do.
714
00:32:54,542 --> 00:32:56,000
It's been a lot.
715
00:32:56,083 --> 00:32:58,500
And I'm an introvert,
so I'm always
716
00:32:58,583 --> 00:33:00,500
grateful for your
extrovert tendencies
717
00:33:00,583 --> 00:33:02,958
because you carry us along.
718
00:33:03,042 --> 00:33:05,000
But I think it was just
what we needed, personally.
719
00:33:05,042 --> 00:33:06,667
So were you able
to recharge a little bit?
720
00:33:06,750 --> 00:33:08,250
- Yeah, I was.
721
00:33:08,333 --> 00:33:09,792
And it was a good opportunity
for me to get, like,
722
00:33:09,875 --> 00:33:11,333
back in the swing of work.
723
00:33:11,417 --> 00:33:14,042
I was--I was stealing
a page from your book
724
00:33:14,167 --> 00:33:15,833
going to bed, like, at 9:30
and stuff like that.
725
00:33:15,917 --> 00:33:17,667
- It's the right thing to do.
[chuckles]
726
00:33:17,708 --> 00:33:19,167
- I missed Chloe a lot.
727
00:33:19,292 --> 00:33:20,833
But I could just tell
that there was
728
00:33:20,875 --> 00:33:22,833
a renewed sense
of energy in her.
729
00:33:22,875 --> 00:33:26,000
She just seemed so much
more at peace
730
00:33:26,083 --> 00:33:28,542
and having Theodore here.
731
00:33:28,625 --> 00:33:30,333
Like, when you're overwhelmed,
you're going to feel
732
00:33:30,417 --> 00:33:32,167
discomfort just in general.
733
00:33:32,208 --> 00:33:34,167
And so I want to make
sure that, you know,
734
00:33:34,292 --> 00:33:37,292
Chloe feels comfortable,
safe, and secure around me.
735
00:33:37,375 --> 00:33:39,625
And I don't want to
understate that at all.
736
00:33:39,708 --> 00:33:42,708
♪
737
00:33:42,792 --> 00:33:44,250
Got this good-good right here.
738
00:33:44,375 --> 00:33:45,667
- [laughs]
739
00:33:45,708 --> 00:33:47,250
- Got this good-good.
740
00:33:47,333 --> 00:33:49,292
- Let me help. Let me help.
741
00:33:49,375 --> 00:33:51,250
♪
742
00:33:51,375 --> 00:33:54,792
- These are the two that, like,
dedicate to those--
743
00:33:54,792 --> 00:33:56,375
or that donate
to the specific causes.
744
00:33:56,458 --> 00:33:58,000
- Thank you for being so sweet.
745
00:33:58,042 --> 00:33:59,750
- I think this is
the Youth Symphony one,
746
00:33:59,875 --> 00:34:02,833
and this is, like, for anyone
that's experiencing, like,
747
00:34:02,917 --> 00:34:04,458
any type of domestic abuse.
748
00:34:04,542 --> 00:34:05,708
See?
749
00:34:05,792 --> 00:34:07,458
Pizza with a cause.
750
00:34:07,542 --> 00:34:09,792
- Thank you for finding that.
- Yeah.
751
00:34:09,875 --> 00:34:11,667
- It was really sweet.
752
00:34:11,750 --> 00:34:13,542
- You just can't tell
anyone I'm sweet, all right?
753
00:34:13,625 --> 00:34:14,583
- I won't.
754
00:34:14,708 --> 00:34:15,667
- I mean, you see these chains.
755
00:34:15,792 --> 00:34:17,208
- I mean--
756
00:34:17,292 --> 00:34:18,500
- Sweet men don't
wear chains, right?
757
00:34:18,583 --> 00:34:19,875
- They don't.
758
00:34:19,958 --> 00:34:22,083
You're a good man, Michael.
- On most days.
759
00:34:22,167 --> 00:34:23,667
- I'm probably not gonna
tell you that every day
760
00:34:23,750 --> 00:34:25,708
because I need to get your head
out of this apartment.
761
00:34:25,833 --> 00:34:28,083
- You shouldn't, because I will
turn evil if you do.
762
00:34:28,167 --> 00:34:29,958
- Just try to get
frisky on that bourbon.
763
00:34:30,042 --> 00:34:32,125
- [laughs]
764
00:34:32,208 --> 00:34:33,917
And you better keep
your hands to yourself
765
00:34:33,917 --> 00:34:35,708
after that pizza gets you all--
766
00:34:35,792 --> 00:34:37,000
- You know what tequila does.
767
00:34:37,083 --> 00:34:38,833
- Why do you think I got some?
- [laughs]
768
00:34:38,917 --> 00:34:40,833
- You think I don't know?
769
00:34:40,875 --> 00:34:42,125
Huh?
770
00:34:43,708 --> 00:34:46,458
- ♪ This is my awakening
771
00:34:46,542 --> 00:34:49,000
♪ And nothing can
break me down ♪
772
00:34:49,083 --> 00:34:54,833
♪
773
00:34:54,875 --> 00:34:56,250
- Hello.
774
00:34:56,333 --> 00:34:57,958
- How you feeling?
775
00:34:58,042 --> 00:34:59,458
- Good.
776
00:34:59,542 --> 00:35:03,333
I just semi-showered, and yeah,
777
00:35:03,417 --> 00:35:05,292
had a productive
unproductive day.
778
00:35:05,375 --> 00:35:07,500
- Yeah. How's the wound?
779
00:35:07,542 --> 00:35:09,917
Are you--are you in pain
still, or no more pain meds?
780
00:35:09,917 --> 00:35:11,167
- No, no.
781
00:35:11,208 --> 00:35:12,667
I haven't taken pain meds.
782
00:35:12,750 --> 00:35:14,417
I actually do need to
take some Advil, though.
783
00:35:14,542 --> 00:35:16,833
- Better be extra gentle
this week to let you heal.
784
00:35:16,875 --> 00:35:18,042
- I know. I think it's hard,
785
00:35:18,125 --> 00:35:19,417
because I feel like
it looks better,
786
00:35:19,542 --> 00:35:20,875
but I have to keep
reminding myself
787
00:35:20,958 --> 00:35:23,292
that I'm still recovering.
788
00:35:23,375 --> 00:35:25,500
I told you the doctor said I
can't do any physical activity
789
00:35:25,583 --> 00:35:27,375
or anything that raises
my blood pressure
790
00:35:27,500 --> 00:35:29,667
for two to three weeks
post-surgery.
791
00:35:29,750 --> 00:35:31,292
- Yeah.
792
00:35:31,375 --> 00:35:34,750
In the spirit of helping
you rest and recover still,
793
00:35:34,833 --> 00:35:36,500
I'm gonna clean up.
794
00:35:36,583 --> 00:35:37,875
And you just--
795
00:35:37,958 --> 00:35:39,667
- You mean you're
not doing it just from, like,
796
00:35:39,750 --> 00:35:42,000
the willingness
at the bottom of your heart?
797
00:35:42,042 --> 00:35:43,917
- Oh, of course I am.
- Kidding.
798
00:35:44,042 --> 00:35:46,125
I can't wait to watch,
'cause you know I love dishes.
799
00:35:46,125 --> 00:35:48,375
And this has given me
a panic all day.
800
00:35:48,458 --> 00:35:50,000
So I'm excited
for those to clear.
801
00:35:50,042 --> 00:35:51,458
- Here we go.
802
00:35:51,542 --> 00:35:54,083
[upbeat music]
803
00:35:54,208 --> 00:35:59,042
♪
804
00:35:59,125 --> 00:36:01,667
- Mop twisting--such form.
805
00:36:01,667 --> 00:36:03,958
- There's something
about a nice mopped floor
806
00:36:04,042 --> 00:36:06,167
that just smells great.
807
00:36:06,208 --> 00:36:07,583
- Honestly, yeah.
And it looks good.
808
00:36:07,667 --> 00:36:09,375
I know you're
probably getting there,
809
00:36:09,500 --> 00:36:11,125
but do you mind doing
underneath the kitchen table
810
00:36:11,208 --> 00:36:12,417
when you're done?
811
00:36:12,500 --> 00:36:15,333
- ♪ Oh, want you come my way
812
00:36:15,417 --> 00:36:17,000
♪ I love the way
you're moving ♪
813
00:36:17,125 --> 00:36:20,333
♪ I love the way you dance
814
00:36:20,375 --> 00:36:23,042
♪ I love those chills
815
00:36:23,167 --> 00:36:25,250
- Thanks for doing that.
- Of course.
816
00:36:25,333 --> 00:36:27,042
- [snaps] Did it like that.
817
00:36:27,125 --> 00:36:28,667
- Thank you, thank you.
818
00:36:28,750 --> 00:36:32,208
- I think any sort of
experience like this
819
00:36:32,333 --> 00:36:34,917
kind of has, like,
two ways it can go.
820
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:36,667
It's like it either
really brings people together,
821
00:36:36,750 --> 00:36:39,708
or can really freak people out
and take them apart.
822
00:36:39,792 --> 00:36:43,083
But Brennan made it very clear
he was not going anywhere,
823
00:36:43,167 --> 00:36:44,833
which I really think
speaks a lot.
824
00:36:44,917 --> 00:36:48,333
And he made it clear that
he cares a lot about me.
825
00:36:48,375 --> 00:36:50,042
- It's been so nice, though.
826
00:36:50,125 --> 00:36:52,000
Like, we've had so much
support from everyone.
827
00:36:52,083 --> 00:36:53,458
- Mm-hmm.
828
00:36:53,542 --> 00:36:55,167
- With all your friends
sending you stuff,
829
00:36:55,250 --> 00:36:58,500
and the experts checking in,
it's just been like--
830
00:36:58,583 --> 00:37:01,417
- And yeah, I feel like it
was beneficial for us both,
831
00:37:01,500 --> 00:37:03,625
considering what
we experienced.
832
00:37:03,708 --> 00:37:07,500
But I feel like it was just
a needed time just to chill.
833
00:37:07,583 --> 00:37:09,042
- Yeah.
834
00:37:09,125 --> 00:37:11,375
- And you just being here
the whole time--
835
00:37:11,458 --> 00:37:12,500
- Yeah.
836
00:37:12,583 --> 00:37:14,083
- That really does mean a lot.
837
00:37:14,167 --> 00:37:15,500
- If the accident was reversed,
838
00:37:15,542 --> 00:37:16,958
I think you'd be doing
the same thing for me,
839
00:37:16,958 --> 00:37:19,792
so it's not even a question.
840
00:37:19,875 --> 00:37:21,417
- That's what I'm saying.
841
00:37:21,500 --> 00:37:23,208
I've appreciated so much
that you've been there.
842
00:37:23,333 --> 00:37:26,583
And I really hope you know
how much I appreciate it,
843
00:37:26,667 --> 00:37:28,583
appreciate you.
844
00:37:28,667 --> 00:37:30,000
It means a lot.
845
00:37:30,042 --> 00:37:33,542
This has made me
trust you fully--
846
00:37:33,625 --> 00:37:35,167
- Yeah.
847
00:37:35,292 --> 00:37:38,333
- Like, from the accident
and through this.
848
00:37:38,375 --> 00:37:39,667
- And I feel the same way.
849
00:37:39,750 --> 00:37:44,333
I feel like I can
trust you way more now.
850
00:37:44,458 --> 00:37:46,042
Like, I feel like just as much
as I've been there for you,
851
00:37:46,125 --> 00:37:49,500
you've been there for me, which
is a huge aspect of it for me,
852
00:37:49,583 --> 00:37:51,125
you know?
853
00:37:51,125 --> 00:37:53,917
- ♪ Tell me you believe
854
00:37:54,042 --> 00:37:57,125
♪ I'll show you all
the things that we could be ♪
855
00:37:57,208 --> 00:37:58,750
- Who would've thought a tree?
856
00:37:58,833 --> 00:38:00,292
It's what we needed.
857
00:38:00,375 --> 00:38:01,167
- Trees bring people
closer together, huh?
858
00:38:01,292 --> 00:38:02,792
- I know.
859
00:38:02,875 --> 00:38:04,333
I know it's pretty dark
to joke about it.
860
00:38:04,417 --> 00:38:07,167
But it just made me
see kind of everything
861
00:38:07,250 --> 00:38:08,833
differently a little bit.
862
00:38:08,917 --> 00:38:10,667
♪
863
00:38:10,750 --> 00:38:13,208
And it would be great
just to keep
864
00:38:13,292 --> 00:38:16,667
the post-trauma happy vibe
going.
865
00:38:16,792 --> 00:38:18,125
- Yeah.
866
00:38:18,208 --> 00:38:21,375
- ♪ I only wanna love you
867
00:38:25,333 --> 00:38:26,375
- ♪ Right side in the VIP
868
00:38:26,542 --> 00:38:27,333
♪ 'Cause we the
hottest thing around ♪
869
00:38:27,333 --> 00:38:28,417
[dog barking]
870
00:38:28,500 --> 00:38:31,000
- Oh, I think someone's here.
871
00:38:31,083 --> 00:38:32,250
Hey, hey, hey.
872
00:38:32,375 --> 00:38:34,167
- Stop.
873
00:38:34,250 --> 00:38:35,667
- Hey.
- Hey.
874
00:38:35,708 --> 00:38:36,875
- Hi.
875
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:38,250
- Hey, guys.
- We made it.
876
00:38:38,333 --> 00:38:40,042
- You did.
- How you been?
877
00:38:40,042 --> 00:38:41,083
- What a surprise.
878
00:38:41,167 --> 00:38:42,625
- I know, right?
- Hi.
879
00:38:42,708 --> 00:38:43,417
- How are you?
880
00:38:43,542 --> 00:38:44,917
- You must be Lauren.
881
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:46,625
Nice to meet you.
882
00:38:46,708 --> 00:38:48,542
- Whoa!
- One after the other.
883
00:38:48,625 --> 00:38:49,958
- Crazy timing, right?
884
00:38:50,042 --> 00:38:51,333
- I know.
885
00:38:51,375 --> 00:38:52,667
It's just so weird
how that works.
886
00:38:52,708 --> 00:38:54,583
- Hi!
887
00:38:54,583 --> 00:38:56,583
- All of my friends
and family became
888
00:38:56,583 --> 00:38:58,583
best friends with my husband's
friends and family
889
00:38:58,667 --> 00:39:00,500
at the wedding.
- So I've heard.
890
00:39:00,625 --> 00:39:02,750
- They've all hung out at this
point about a dozen times.
891
00:39:02,875 --> 00:39:04,583
- We had lots of fun.
- We did.
892
00:39:04,667 --> 00:39:06,167
[laughter]
893
00:39:06,250 --> 00:39:07,833
- I'm sorry you guys
couldn't be there, but--
894
00:39:07,875 --> 00:39:09,833
- Somehow, I don't get
that you're sorry for that.
895
00:39:09,917 --> 00:39:11,667
[laughter]
896
00:39:11,750 --> 00:39:14,417
- So how has married life been?
897
00:39:14,500 --> 00:39:16,250
- It has been--I'm--
898
00:39:16,333 --> 00:39:18,917
full transparency:
so I'm an introvert.
899
00:39:19,042 --> 00:39:21,500
The older I've gotten, the
more introverted I've gotten.
900
00:39:21,583 --> 00:39:23,625
He is a full-blown extrovert.
- Yeah.
901
00:39:23,708 --> 00:39:25,083
- [chuckles]
902
00:39:25,167 --> 00:39:27,458
- So it really is
a process that you
903
00:39:27,542 --> 00:39:29,042
can never prepare for.
904
00:39:29,125 --> 00:39:31,875
And I never imagined it
being as difficult as it is.
905
00:39:31,958 --> 00:39:34,708
I--[sighs]
906
00:39:34,708 --> 00:39:37,333
Have been overwhelmed
on so many occasions.
907
00:39:37,375 --> 00:39:39,333
I have sobbed on
so many occasions.
908
00:39:39,417 --> 00:39:41,792
And he's like, here's a
tissue, and how can I help?
909
00:39:41,917 --> 00:39:45,375
When he starts seeing me
sort of shut down,
910
00:39:45,375 --> 00:39:47,500
he swoops in and saves the day.
911
00:39:47,625 --> 00:39:49,333
So I'm like,
I can't talk anymore.
912
00:39:49,375 --> 00:39:50,708
And he's like, I can.
And so--
913
00:39:50,792 --> 00:39:52,208
[laughter]
914
00:39:52,292 --> 00:39:53,750
Which I know if--
y'all know that man.
915
00:39:53,833 --> 00:39:56,917
But we--so we took
a few days apart.
916
00:39:57,042 --> 00:39:59,667
♪
917
00:39:59,750 --> 00:40:02,875
And Michael was wonderful
every step of the way.
918
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:05,000
He just checked in to make
sure everything was good.
919
00:40:05,083 --> 00:40:07,167
And I came back recharged.
920
00:40:07,250 --> 00:40:08,667
We got the animals.
921
00:40:08,708 --> 00:40:10,750
Everybody's living
their best lives.
922
00:40:10,833 --> 00:40:14,250
- It is more so us recharging
so that when we are together
923
00:40:14,375 --> 00:40:18,208
like we are now,
we can fully be present,
924
00:40:18,292 --> 00:40:21,167
which we agree is
healthy and important.
925
00:40:21,250 --> 00:40:22,583
- Yeah.
- I love to hear that.
926
00:40:22,667 --> 00:40:23,792
- You've gotta fill
your own cup, right?
927
00:40:23,875 --> 00:40:25,042
- It's amazing.
- So you keep pouring.
928
00:40:25,125 --> 00:40:26,375
- Gotta fill your own cup.
929
00:40:26,458 --> 00:40:27,375
- In normal marriage.
- In normal--
930
00:40:27,375 --> 00:40:28,333
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
931
00:40:28,375 --> 00:40:29,667
[all chuckle]
- Yeah.
932
00:40:29,708 --> 00:40:31,083
- That's key for me and Paige.
- Yeah.
933
00:40:31,167 --> 00:40:33,292
- And I would say it really
helps that we're just
934
00:40:33,375 --> 00:40:35,417
naturally, like, really
considerate people--
935
00:40:35,500 --> 00:40:37,208
I mean, especially her.
936
00:40:37,208 --> 00:40:38,500
More--let's be real,
more so than her.
937
00:40:38,625 --> 00:40:39,500
I'm not that considerate.
- Oh, wow.
938
00:40:39,583 --> 00:40:41,167
- That's our Chloe.
939
00:40:41,292 --> 00:40:42,667
- I thought it was
interesting--
940
00:40:42,750 --> 00:40:44,167
Chloe moving home
for the week,
941
00:40:44,250 --> 00:40:46,500
how much explaining
and justifying
942
00:40:46,542 --> 00:40:48,167
Chloe had to do about it.
943
00:40:48,250 --> 00:40:50,375
'Cause they're also like,
it's the puppy dog phase.
944
00:40:50,500 --> 00:40:52,000
Like, you don't really
know each other.
945
00:40:52,042 --> 00:40:54,500
You haven't had those
conflicts and everything.
946
00:40:54,542 --> 00:40:57,625
They both want everyone
to feel okay, which is great.
947
00:40:57,625 --> 00:40:59,583
But at a certain point,
like, you know,
948
00:40:59,667 --> 00:41:01,458
their true feelings
will come out.
949
00:41:01,542 --> 00:41:02,667
And it's, how will those mesh?
950
00:41:02,750 --> 00:41:04,333
And that'll be the real test.
951
00:41:04,417 --> 00:41:07,458
- So is there anything
you guys now are
952
00:41:07,458 --> 00:41:10,167
currently working on
or working through?
953
00:41:10,292 --> 00:41:11,500
Because I'm sure
every day is different
954
00:41:11,583 --> 00:41:13,667
and brings its own challenges.
955
00:41:13,833 --> 00:41:17,708
- Nothing has presented itself
as a challenge at this point.
956
00:41:17,833 --> 00:41:19,667
But I feel like this is
a stress test
957
00:41:19,750 --> 00:41:21,125
in a lot of ways, you know?
958
00:41:21,125 --> 00:41:22,083
We are--
- Totally.
959
00:41:22,167 --> 00:41:23,625
- Under pressure.
960
00:41:23,708 --> 00:41:26,042
So when it comes to
navigating Michael
961
00:41:26,125 --> 00:41:27,833
not being at his best self,
962
00:41:27,917 --> 00:41:31,667
is there any advice
you might throw my way?
963
00:41:31,792 --> 00:41:33,958
- I'd say, for him, just
there's no such thing
964
00:41:34,042 --> 00:41:36,333
as overcommunication.
965
00:41:36,417 --> 00:41:38,542
So just if anything's
on your mind at all,
966
00:41:38,625 --> 00:41:40,625
don't ever hold back and say,
967
00:41:40,625 --> 00:41:41,833
I don't know if now's
the right time.
968
00:41:41,917 --> 00:41:44,667
He just came back.
He's tired from the gym.
969
00:41:44,750 --> 00:41:46,542
Because I think
he would sense that,
970
00:41:46,542 --> 00:41:48,333
and then maybe he could
interpret, like, oh,
971
00:41:48,375 --> 00:41:50,000
is something wrong?
- Yeah.
972
00:41:50,042 --> 00:41:53,500
- So just, you know,
speaking your mind--
973
00:41:53,542 --> 00:41:54,792
I'm sure you're already
doing that, though.
974
00:41:54,875 --> 00:41:56,500
[chuckles]
- We're trying.
975
00:41:56,583 --> 00:41:58,625
I've not always been
a great communicator.
976
00:41:58,708 --> 00:42:03,042
So I've not been vulnerable
in a really long time.
977
00:42:03,125 --> 00:42:05,375
I've had to be independent,
self-sufficient,
978
00:42:05,458 --> 00:42:07,583
all of these things, right?
- Yeah.
979
00:42:07,667 --> 00:42:12,542
- So this whole
raw vulnerability is--
980
00:42:12,625 --> 00:42:15,542
pushed me to my limits
in a lot of ways.
981
00:42:15,625 --> 00:42:17,667
I get to that point where
it's like, I've taken it,
982
00:42:17,750 --> 00:42:20,042
I've taken it, I've taken it,
and now I can't take anymore,
983
00:42:20,125 --> 00:42:21,625
and I don't talk about it.
984
00:42:21,708 --> 00:42:23,375
So I took those few days.
985
00:42:23,500 --> 00:42:24,500
And I think--
986
00:42:24,625 --> 00:42:26,542
I think we're better for it.
987
00:42:26,625 --> 00:42:29,625
- So when Chloe voiced to you
that she needed
988
00:42:29,708 --> 00:42:32,125
some time away from you,
989
00:42:32,208 --> 00:42:35,375
did it give you any level
of insecurity of maybe
990
00:42:35,458 --> 00:42:37,792
she doesn't want this
for herself;
991
00:42:37,875 --> 00:42:41,667
maybe she's not really sure
of what she wants for herself?
992
00:42:41,708 --> 00:42:43,167
- Mm-hmm.
- Or was that too much?
993
00:42:43,250 --> 00:42:44,792
Am I too much?
994
00:42:44,875 --> 00:42:47,500
Like, did you--did any
of those things, kind of--
995
00:42:47,542 --> 00:42:49,000
- Pop in my mind?
- Yes.
996
00:42:49,083 --> 00:42:50,500
- Like, I get it.
997
00:42:50,583 --> 00:42:52,167
Some people may say,
well, that's weird.
998
00:42:52,250 --> 00:42:53,750
You guys just got married.
999
00:42:53,833 --> 00:42:55,792
You explored all these topics.
1000
00:42:55,875 --> 00:42:57,917
And she's gonna spend the next
couple of days away from you.
1001
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:00,042
- Thinking about it.
- Like--
1002
00:43:00,167 --> 00:43:01,875
- Have you checked
in with your husband?
1003
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:04,500
- How can you not
feel weird about that?
1004
00:43:04,583 --> 00:43:08,667
And my whole thing was
that I trust, you know,
1005
00:43:08,708 --> 00:43:11,333
what we feel we need to do
1006
00:43:11,375 --> 00:43:14,917
to put our best foot forward
in this relationship.
1007
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:16,792
- You seem and sound
very supportive.
1008
00:43:16,917 --> 00:43:18,000
- Mm-hmm.
1009
00:43:18,042 --> 00:43:19,792
- But what are
some of the areas
1010
00:43:19,875 --> 00:43:22,167
that you feel like you already
find some disagreement?
1011
00:43:22,208 --> 00:43:25,250
- You know, right now,
we haven't encountered
1012
00:43:25,333 --> 00:43:27,125
an area where--
- What?
1013
00:43:27,208 --> 00:43:28,500
- Yeah.
1014
00:43:28,583 --> 00:43:31,125
But I think Chloe
is so selfless
1015
00:43:31,208 --> 00:43:33,917
and is--always puts
other people first,
1016
00:43:34,042 --> 00:43:37,500
and is always extremely mindful
of how everyone around her
1017
00:43:37,542 --> 00:43:39,958
is feeling,
which is extremely admirable.
1018
00:43:40,042 --> 00:43:43,167
But I don't want
her to overextend herself
1019
00:43:43,292 --> 00:43:45,292
in those moments.
1020
00:43:45,375 --> 00:43:49,292
And I think the new variable
is now we're also trying
1021
00:43:49,375 --> 00:43:51,167
to foster a relationship.
1022
00:43:51,208 --> 00:43:54,833
And it's about creating
the best environment
1023
00:43:54,958 --> 00:43:58,333
for love to grow,
and then leaning into that.
1024
00:43:58,375 --> 00:44:02,500
And I feel very confident
about the level of effort
1025
00:44:02,542 --> 00:44:04,250
that we're both
exerting for that.
1026
00:44:04,333 --> 00:44:08,792
- He's really, really good at
de-escalating any situation.
1027
00:44:08,875 --> 00:44:11,167
He's one of the best
I've ever met at that.
1028
00:44:11,250 --> 00:44:15,458
But I think he almost
leans into that, like,
1029
00:44:15,542 --> 00:44:17,125
as his default setting.
1030
00:44:17,208 --> 00:44:18,792
And it's like, no, no, no.
What do you really feel?
1031
00:44:18,875 --> 00:44:20,000
Like, it's okay.
It doesn't have to be pretty.
1032
00:44:20,042 --> 00:44:21,583
It doesn't have
to be well said.
1033
00:44:21,667 --> 00:44:23,333
What are you really feeling?
1034
00:44:23,417 --> 00:44:26,625
And you just kind of have
to, like, don't let him only
1035
00:44:26,708 --> 00:44:30,583
show what he wants you to see.
1036
00:44:30,708 --> 00:44:32,667
Don't let him get away with
not giving you that,
1037
00:44:32,750 --> 00:44:34,083
'cause it is really important.
1038
00:44:34,167 --> 00:44:35,583
- I think that's
really helpful.
1039
00:44:35,708 --> 00:44:37,000
- Yeah, you've got
to demand it.
1040
00:44:37,083 --> 00:44:39,167
- Okay, because I get that
sense about Michael.
1041
00:44:39,208 --> 00:44:41,125
He just wants everyone
to be comfortable.
1042
00:44:41,208 --> 00:44:42,625
- Mm-hmm.
1043
00:44:42,708 --> 00:44:44,708
- Unfortunately,
Michael and I are both
1044
00:44:44,792 --> 00:44:46,625
people-pleasers to the max.
1045
00:44:46,708 --> 00:44:49,833
And I didn't know that
about Michael until tonight.
1046
00:44:49,917 --> 00:44:52,667
But the strongest marriages
have healthy conflict.
1047
00:44:52,708 --> 00:44:54,958
And Michael being
a de-escalator is
1048
00:44:55,042 --> 00:44:57,500
great in the short-term.
1049
00:44:57,583 --> 00:44:59,125
It is not healthy
in the long-term.
1050
00:44:59,208 --> 00:45:01,500
So the more he feels
the need to de-escalate,
1051
00:45:01,583 --> 00:45:03,833
the less we're going to have
the healthy conflict needed
1052
00:45:03,917 --> 00:45:05,750
to have a healthy marriage.
1053
00:45:05,750 --> 00:45:10,292
And so Michael and I
have to be more authentic
1054
00:45:10,375 --> 00:45:12,500
than we have ever been before
1055
00:45:12,583 --> 00:45:16,292
if we are ever going
to be happy.
1056
00:45:16,375 --> 00:45:19,042
I appreciate hearing you
say that, 'cause I am going
1057
00:45:19,125 --> 00:45:20,917
to dig in a little bit deeper.
1058
00:45:21,042 --> 00:45:22,625
- Yeah, don't let them
get away with that [bleep].
1059
00:45:22,708 --> 00:45:24,333
- I'm not gonna let him
get away with it.
1060
00:45:24,375 --> 00:45:26,792
♪
1061
00:45:30,667 --> 00:45:32,500
[melancholy music]
1062
00:45:32,500 --> 00:45:35,625
♪
1063
00:45:35,708 --> 00:45:37,333
- Hello.
- Hello.
1064
00:45:37,417 --> 00:45:39,167
Hi, honey.
- Hi, Mom.
1065
00:45:39,208 --> 00:45:40,625
- How are you?
- Good. How are you?
1066
00:45:40,708 --> 00:45:42,167
- Good.
1067
00:45:42,250 --> 00:45:45,000
♪
1068
00:45:45,125 --> 00:45:47,167
- What's up?
1069
00:45:47,250 --> 00:45:48,667
- Hey, buddy.
1070
00:45:48,667 --> 00:45:50,833
♪
1071
00:45:50,958 --> 00:45:52,458
You all right?
- Yeah.
1072
00:45:52,542 --> 00:45:53,833
- Good.
- How are you doing?
1073
00:45:53,875 --> 00:45:55,542
- All right.
- Good.
1074
00:45:55,625 --> 00:45:56,667
- How are you doing?
1075
00:45:56,792 --> 00:45:59,000
- Okay. How are you?
1076
00:45:59,083 --> 00:46:02,500
- I mean, a lot has happened.
1077
00:46:02,583 --> 00:46:04,292
Like, I feel like
I've just been
1078
00:46:04,292 --> 00:46:06,458
on an emotional--like,
an emotional roller coaster,
1079
00:46:06,542 --> 00:46:08,000
like, every single day.
1080
00:46:08,125 --> 00:46:10,333
- You look great
for someone who's been
1081
00:46:10,375 --> 00:46:12,167
in and out of the hospital
last two, three weeks.
1082
00:46:12,208 --> 00:46:14,333
- Yeah, so it's a bit
of a weird situation
1083
00:46:14,458 --> 00:46:18,250
because people our age can,
like, develop
1084
00:46:18,333 --> 00:46:20,000
a thing called
atrial fibrillation.
1085
00:46:20,042 --> 00:46:21,458
- Yep.
1086
00:46:21,542 --> 00:46:25,250
- But there's a rarer version
called atrial flutter.
1087
00:46:25,375 --> 00:46:28,083
So that's what I have
been experiencing.
1088
00:46:28,208 --> 00:46:31,333
And it's like
part of your heart
1089
00:46:31,417 --> 00:46:33,833
is beating three to four times
for every single beat.
1090
00:46:33,917 --> 00:46:35,500
- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
1091
00:46:35,500 --> 00:46:38,208
- So it literally feels
like you're suffocating,
1092
00:46:38,333 --> 00:46:40,500
but in your heart. So--
1093
00:46:40,583 --> 00:46:42,083
- Okay.
1094
00:46:42,167 --> 00:46:43,917
- It's like the chances
of me mountain biking
1095
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:47,375
this year are zero, basically.
- Wow.
1096
00:46:47,458 --> 00:46:50,750
- Yeah, just
a life adjustment is the--
1097
00:46:50,833 --> 00:46:52,292
- For the time being?
1098
00:46:52,375 --> 00:46:53,875
- Yeah.
- Damn, man.
1099
00:46:53,958 --> 00:46:55,833
That sucks. I'm sorry, man.
1100
00:46:55,917 --> 00:46:59,333
- Yeah, but you know,
I'm not dead yet, so...
1101
00:46:59,417 --> 00:47:02,250
- How's--how's Clare been
through all this?
1102
00:47:02,333 --> 00:47:04,000
Like, has she been supportive?
- Yeah.
1103
00:47:04,042 --> 00:47:07,167
I mean, I think
she's been good.
1104
00:47:07,250 --> 00:47:09,000
There's not really
much to support.
1105
00:47:09,083 --> 00:47:09,917
- Yeah.
1106
00:47:10,042 --> 00:47:11,833
- You know, it's either I'm--
1107
00:47:11,917 --> 00:47:14,875
I'm doing nothing
or I'm in hospital.
1108
00:47:14,958 --> 00:47:19,333
It's not like I have a wound
that needs ongoing upkeep.
1109
00:47:19,458 --> 00:47:20,875
♪
1110
00:47:20,958 --> 00:47:23,292
- It's just hard
because, you know me.
1111
00:47:23,375 --> 00:47:25,708
Like, I want to be there
for people that are struggling
1112
00:47:25,792 --> 00:47:29,833
or that need help,
and he doesn't necessarily
1113
00:47:29,875 --> 00:47:31,333
want that right now from me.
1114
00:47:31,375 --> 00:47:33,667
- You know, when I had cancer--
- Mm-hmm.
1115
00:47:33,750 --> 00:47:36,000
- You tend to isolate,
you know?
1116
00:47:36,042 --> 00:47:38,417
It's like people
in your life want
1117
00:47:38,542 --> 00:47:40,000
to be there for you, but it's--
1118
00:47:40,042 --> 00:47:41,667
I can understand
his wanting to just--
1119
00:47:41,792 --> 00:47:43,792
- Yeah.
- You know,
1120
00:47:43,875 --> 00:47:45,375
like a habit.
1121
00:47:45,458 --> 00:47:50,458
- Right, it's just hard
to know what to do.
1122
00:47:50,542 --> 00:47:51,667
- For Clare, it's weird.
1123
00:47:51,792 --> 00:47:53,125
It's different, right?
1124
00:47:53,208 --> 00:47:54,667
Because like,
she's been off doing
1125
00:47:54,750 --> 00:47:56,208
all these things without me.
1126
00:47:56,333 --> 00:48:00,583
And she spent a lot of time
talking about me and her,
1127
00:48:00,667 --> 00:48:04,167
like with you and Emily
and everybody.
1128
00:48:04,250 --> 00:48:07,625
So she's growing and maturing
in her feelings, right?
1129
00:48:07,708 --> 00:48:09,792
And so every time
we touch base,
1130
00:48:09,917 --> 00:48:12,000
she wants to see,
oh, how I've changed
1131
00:48:12,083 --> 00:48:14,375
and how I've matured
with my feelings towards her.
1132
00:48:14,500 --> 00:48:17,000
But like, it's not something
that has been maturing
1133
00:48:17,083 --> 00:48:18,792
or progressing for me.
- Yeah.
1134
00:48:18,875 --> 00:48:20,000
- I think that's hard
for her, you know?
1135
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:21,333
And I can totally see why.
1136
00:48:21,375 --> 00:48:22,958
- Yeah, of course.
1137
00:48:23,042 --> 00:48:26,500
Do you think she's trying to,
like, get you back
1138
00:48:26,583 --> 00:48:30,000
or try to reconcile things,
1139
00:48:30,083 --> 00:48:31,958
or, you know,
get the marriage back?
1140
00:48:32,042 --> 00:48:33,792
- I don't know.
1141
00:48:33,875 --> 00:48:38,458
She's coming at things
from the angle of,
1142
00:48:38,542 --> 00:48:40,333
well, there wasn't like--
1143
00:48:40,375 --> 00:48:42,333
there wasn't maybe
the attraction.
1144
00:48:42,375 --> 00:48:44,167
And that was
something that I think
1145
00:48:44,250 --> 00:48:45,667
we struggled with,
like, early on.
1146
00:48:45,708 --> 00:48:47,583
And...
1147
00:48:47,708 --> 00:48:50,250
♪
1148
00:48:50,250 --> 00:48:51,875
- Yeah, take your time.
Take your time.
1149
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:53,750
- It's just I can't talk
for long periods of time.
1150
00:48:53,833 --> 00:48:55,375
- Take a sec.
1151
00:48:55,458 --> 00:48:56,917
♪
1152
00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:59,125
- Just give me, like, a minute.
1153
00:48:59,208 --> 00:49:00,667
- Take your time, bud.
1154
00:49:00,708 --> 00:49:04,000
♪
1155
00:49:04,042 --> 00:49:06,667
- From my perspective,
I couldn't make it work.
1156
00:49:06,708 --> 00:49:11,833
And I was feeling quite
a lot of emotional stress.
1157
00:49:11,875 --> 00:49:12,875
Maybe it's the reason
I'm struggling
1158
00:49:12,958 --> 00:49:14,500
to breathe right now.
1159
00:49:14,583 --> 00:49:19,208
I kind of had just this
crumbling sand castle
1160
00:49:19,333 --> 00:49:21,333
that I couldn't
put back together.
1161
00:49:21,375 --> 00:49:23,083
And trying to put it
back together
1162
00:49:23,167 --> 00:49:25,333
was just causing me more pain.
1163
00:49:25,458 --> 00:49:27,000
- Yeah.
1164
00:49:27,042 --> 00:49:28,792
- From my perspective,
I think the hard thing
1165
00:49:28,875 --> 00:49:30,708
for Clare and I is--
1166
00:49:30,792 --> 00:49:32,167
I've said this to her.
1167
00:49:32,250 --> 00:49:35,000
I'm like, you keep
saying how sad you are
1168
00:49:35,083 --> 00:49:36,833
and how emotional this
whole thing makes you.
1169
00:49:36,875 --> 00:49:38,458
And that confuses me.
1170
00:49:38,542 --> 00:49:41,250
I'll say, hey, like,
I'm moving out, because,
1171
00:49:41,333 --> 00:49:42,958
you know, it's something
that we've talked about.
1172
00:49:43,042 --> 00:49:44,042
And then she'll get emotional.
1173
00:49:44,167 --> 00:49:45,833
And then it will be like I'm--
1174
00:49:45,917 --> 00:49:47,167
I'll get confused
if she's emotional
1175
00:49:47,208 --> 00:49:48,667
because she doesn't want me
to leave,
1176
00:49:48,708 --> 00:49:49,792
or if she's just
being emotional
1177
00:49:49,875 --> 00:49:51,208
because it's a big moment.
1178
00:49:51,292 --> 00:49:54,667
And I think Decision Day
is going to be, like--
1179
00:49:54,750 --> 00:49:57,292
I think it's going to be
an emotional moment for her.
1180
00:49:57,375 --> 00:50:00,625
So I don't know how that whole
thing is going to go down.
1181
00:50:00,708 --> 00:50:02,333
♪
1182
00:50:02,375 --> 00:50:03,792
- There's been sad moments.
1183
00:50:03,875 --> 00:50:05,208
And there's been
really hard moments.
1184
00:50:05,292 --> 00:50:07,375
But looking back, it's like,
1185
00:50:07,458 --> 00:50:09,250
I've met this
amazing human being.
1186
00:50:09,333 --> 00:50:11,833
He's so kind,
unbelievably smart.
1187
00:50:11,958 --> 00:50:13,750
I respect him so much.
1188
00:50:13,833 --> 00:50:16,417
The way he challenges me,
it causes me to think
1189
00:50:16,500 --> 00:50:18,417
all the time,
which I love, you know?
1190
00:50:18,542 --> 00:50:19,875
Or he can call me out
1191
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:21,458
on my [bleep] sometimes.
- Oh, yeah.
1192
00:50:21,542 --> 00:50:23,000
- I want somebody
who can do that.
1193
00:50:23,083 --> 00:50:24,167
- I really liked him
at the wedding.
1194
00:50:24,208 --> 00:50:25,542
I felt very hopeful.
I know you did too.
1195
00:50:25,625 --> 00:50:26,917
You liked him.
- Mm-hmm.
1196
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:28,542
Oh, I love him as a person.
1197
00:50:28,667 --> 00:50:30,250
He is the greatest.
1198
00:50:30,375 --> 00:50:32,125
That has not changed at all
through this process.
1199
00:50:32,208 --> 00:50:34,542
It's just the fact
that we were not--
1200
00:50:34,625 --> 00:50:37,125
I don't believe that
"husband and wife" is
1201
00:50:37,208 --> 00:50:38,750
the correct title
for our relationship.
1202
00:50:38,833 --> 00:50:40,333
- Right.
1203
00:50:40,375 --> 00:50:42,000
- And it just makes me sad
because, you know,
1204
00:50:42,083 --> 00:50:45,542
he is such a beautiful person.
1205
00:50:45,542 --> 00:50:48,250
♪
1206
00:50:48,333 --> 00:50:50,792
- I just need to make sure
that I really understand
1207
00:50:50,875 --> 00:50:52,333
what she's trying to say.
1208
00:50:52,458 --> 00:50:55,875
Because--because if
she says that she wants
1209
00:50:55,958 --> 00:50:58,167
to stay together,
I'm going to stay together
1210
00:50:58,292 --> 00:51:00,792
with her on Decision Day.
1211
00:51:00,875 --> 00:51:04,000
Like, I'm not I'm not going
to, like, leave her out to dry.
1212
00:51:04,042 --> 00:51:05,500
We're doing this together.
1213
00:51:05,625 --> 00:51:07,125
- Right.
1214
00:51:07,208 --> 00:51:10,542
I think making sure that
she feels comfortable enough
1215
00:51:10,667 --> 00:51:13,500
to express herself of what
she's feeling in that moment
1216
00:51:13,583 --> 00:51:16,208
so that there's no confusion--
that will, I think,
1217
00:51:16,375 --> 00:51:17,958
help the whole situation.
1218
00:51:18,042 --> 00:51:20,250
- Yeah, I agree.
1219
00:51:20,375 --> 00:51:23,458
- ♪ The only missing
piece of me is you ♪
1220
00:51:27,500 --> 00:51:28,417
- ♪ Yeah
1221
00:51:28,875 --> 00:51:32,250
- ♪ There have been others
who've come here before ♪
1222
00:51:32,375 --> 00:51:35,125
♪ So many,
too many to ignore ♪
1223
00:51:35,208 --> 00:51:36,833
- So this is my other home
right here.
1224
00:51:36,875 --> 00:51:38,042
- Holy smokes.
1225
00:51:38,125 --> 00:51:39,208
- And this is my guy, Kenny.
1226
00:51:39,292 --> 00:51:40,417
This is his gym.
- Hey, Kenny.
1227
00:51:40,500 --> 00:51:41,958
- Kenny, this is my wife,
Chloe.
1228
00:51:42,042 --> 00:51:43,292
- Hey, Chloe.
Nice to meet you.
1229
00:51:43,375 --> 00:51:44,833
- It's nice to meet you.
- Good to see you finally.
1230
00:51:44,875 --> 00:51:46,500
- Thank you for having us.
Holy cow.
1231
00:51:46,625 --> 00:51:47,875
- Nice seeing you again, sir.
- Good to see you.
1232
00:51:47,958 --> 00:51:49,250
- Yeah, man.
1233
00:51:49,333 --> 00:51:50,542
- I wasn't scared
until I got down here.
1234
00:51:50,625 --> 00:51:52,250
- Yeah.
Well, let's go head over there.
1235
00:51:52,333 --> 00:51:53,958
- I feel like I need
to put my hair up.
1236
00:51:54,042 --> 00:51:55,208
- Yeah, we'll wrap you up.
- [laughs]
1237
00:51:55,292 --> 00:51:57,000
- ♪ Here we go, here we go
1238
00:51:57,042 --> 00:51:59,833
♪
1239
00:51:59,958 --> 00:52:02,000
- So we'll start
with the feet first.
1240
00:52:02,042 --> 00:52:03,250
So what you're
going to want to do--
1241
00:52:03,333 --> 00:52:05,125
imagine your toe--
if we had a clock,
1242
00:52:05,208 --> 00:52:06,667
point your toe at 1:00.
1243
00:52:06,708 --> 00:52:09,333
And then your back foot
will be at 3:00.
1244
00:52:09,417 --> 00:52:10,833
So what I want
you to get used to
1245
00:52:10,875 --> 00:52:12,000
is everything
being in the hips.
1246
00:52:12,042 --> 00:52:13,333
- Okay.
1247
00:52:13,417 --> 00:52:15,167
- So any time this
arm is firing,
1248
00:52:15,250 --> 00:52:16,500
something's going to
happen with this hip here.
1249
00:52:16,625 --> 00:52:18,083
- Okay.
1250
00:52:18,208 --> 00:52:19,333
- When this arm is firing,
something's going
1251
00:52:19,333 --> 00:52:21,417
to happen with this hip here.
- Got it.
1252
00:52:21,542 --> 00:52:24,167
- So the most basic punch
is the jab.
1253
00:52:24,208 --> 00:52:25,333
- Okay.
- Okay?
1254
00:52:25,375 --> 00:52:27,458
I want boom, okay?
1255
00:52:27,542 --> 00:52:29,917
Just imagine that--
imagine that pulling, boom.
1256
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:32,792
- Okay.
- Okay? Boom.
1257
00:52:32,875 --> 00:52:35,000
Now we're going to do the first
power punch, which is the two.
1258
00:52:35,083 --> 00:52:36,542
This is the one.
The jab is the one.
1259
00:52:36,625 --> 00:52:38,375
- That's the one-two.
- This is the two, yep.
1260
00:52:38,500 --> 00:52:39,375
- Got it.
1261
00:52:39,500 --> 00:52:41,583
- One, two, boom. There you go.
1262
00:52:41,667 --> 00:52:44,167
I'm really enjoying seeing
Chloe participate in boxing.
1263
00:52:44,208 --> 00:52:46,625
You know, number one,
she's doing a great job.
1264
00:52:46,625 --> 00:52:49,625
So proper form,
seeing her engage in my sport,
1265
00:52:49,708 --> 00:52:51,375
it definitely, you know,
1266
00:52:51,458 --> 00:52:53,250
heightens my attraction to her.
1267
00:52:53,333 --> 00:52:54,375
- ♪ I'm feeling so alive
1268
00:52:54,375 --> 00:52:55,500
♪ Think I feel reborn
1269
00:52:55,542 --> 00:52:56,667
- There you go.
1270
00:52:56,708 --> 00:52:58,250
♪
1271
00:52:58,333 --> 00:53:00,708
- ♪ Well, it's the rebirth
1272
00:53:00,792 --> 00:53:02,083
♪ Well, it's the rebirth
1273
00:53:02,167 --> 00:53:03,000
♪ Everything
is coming strong ♪
1274
00:53:03,083 --> 00:53:04,333
- There you go.
1275
00:53:04,375 --> 00:53:07,000
- Major turn-on
watching my husband be
1276
00:53:07,125 --> 00:53:09,167
so sexy out in that ring.
1277
00:53:09,208 --> 00:53:11,042
- ♪ We gon' bring it on
1278
00:53:11,042 --> 00:53:15,083
♪
1279
00:53:15,167 --> 00:53:16,708
- Jesus.
1280
00:53:16,833 --> 00:53:19,583
- [grunting]
1281
00:53:19,667 --> 00:53:23,083
- I knew he was athletic
and strong and boxer,
1282
00:53:23,167 --> 00:53:25,083
but I didn't know
what I was gonna see,
1283
00:53:25,208 --> 00:53:27,500
and, holy cow, it's great.
1284
00:53:27,542 --> 00:53:29,000
Jesus, Lord.
1285
00:53:29,167 --> 00:53:30,708
You made my heart race.
1286
00:53:30,792 --> 00:53:32,708
- He looks good, doesn't he?
- Really good.
1287
00:53:32,833 --> 00:53:33,875
- [chuckles]
1288
00:53:34,000 --> 00:53:35,167
- You're very powerful.
1289
00:53:35,250 --> 00:53:37,042
You got some strong-ass arms.
1290
00:53:37,125 --> 00:53:38,292
[chuckles]
- It's right here.
1291
00:53:38,375 --> 00:53:39,625
It's all--
- It's all--
1292
00:53:39,708 --> 00:53:41,167
- It's all in the hips.
You know what this.
1293
00:53:41,208 --> 00:53:42,667
- Oh, he's gyrating again.
Somebody help.
1294
00:53:42,792 --> 00:53:44,792
- You know what this is.
It's all in the hips.
1295
00:53:44,875 --> 00:53:47,833
But I'm glad you
participated in this with me.
1296
00:53:47,917 --> 00:53:49,583
I know it could be--
1297
00:53:49,708 --> 00:53:51,625
I know it could be intimidating
coming into a spot like this.
1298
00:53:51,708 --> 00:53:54,042
- This is not my
average kickboxing class,
1299
00:53:54,042 --> 00:53:55,500
let me tell you.
- Sure.
1300
00:53:55,583 --> 00:53:58,917
- No, I think it's
pretty special, actually.
1301
00:53:59,000 --> 00:54:01,750
It's got to provide a lot more
respect for yourself
1302
00:54:01,833 --> 00:54:04,208
as well, 'cause look at what
your body is capable of doing.
1303
00:54:04,292 --> 00:54:06,042
- I feel like it just helps
bring a sense of--
1304
00:54:06,125 --> 00:54:08,500
a sense of balance in my life.
1305
00:54:08,542 --> 00:54:11,125
Like, obviously the physical
exertion is one element.
1306
00:54:11,208 --> 00:54:12,667
And I think there's
just a ton of positives
1307
00:54:12,750 --> 00:54:16,208
from a mental, emotional,
and psyche standpoint, so...
1308
00:54:16,292 --> 00:54:18,958
- Thank you for showing me
this part of your world.
1309
00:54:19,042 --> 00:54:24,292
So I--it's funny, because
after our housewarming party,
1310
00:54:24,375 --> 00:54:25,833
I completely forgot
to talk to you
1311
00:54:25,958 --> 00:54:29,167
about something that
really resonated with me
1312
00:54:29,250 --> 00:54:31,292
that Paige and Evrim shared.
- Sure.
1313
00:54:31,375 --> 00:54:32,833
- So I thought this would be
a good place,
1314
00:54:32,958 --> 00:54:34,833
now that we're both feeling
in our power.
1315
00:54:34,917 --> 00:54:37,458
[laughs]
1316
00:54:37,583 --> 00:54:39,000
They said you were
a bit of a people-pleaser.
1317
00:54:39,042 --> 00:54:40,583
- Mm.
1318
00:54:40,667 --> 00:54:44,667
- Yeah, which I thought
was kind of interesting,
1319
00:54:44,708 --> 00:54:47,083
'cause you know that I'm
a recovering people-pleaser.
1320
00:54:47,167 --> 00:54:48,417
- Yeah. - And they said that
1321
00:54:48,542 --> 00:54:51,375
you would never, ever,
ever admit to it.
1322
00:54:51,500 --> 00:54:54,542
But I need to dig in
a little harder
1323
00:54:54,625 --> 00:54:57,000
whenever you are
feeling a sort of way.
1324
00:54:57,083 --> 00:54:58,417
- Sure.
1325
00:54:58,417 --> 00:55:01,833
- So I just kind
of wanted to talk through
1326
00:55:01,958 --> 00:55:04,667
what you need from me.
1327
00:55:04,750 --> 00:55:08,542
The past couple of weeks,
you've had to be the rock
1328
00:55:08,625 --> 00:55:11,292
on more than one occasion.
- Mm-hmm.
1329
00:55:11,375 --> 00:55:13,208
- More than five occasions.
- [chuckles]
1330
00:55:13,292 --> 00:55:15,167
- And that's not fair to you.
1331
00:55:15,167 --> 00:55:18,292
So me trying to be
a better communicator,
1332
00:55:18,375 --> 00:55:20,875
trying to be a better partner--
- Mm-hmm.
1333
00:55:20,875 --> 00:55:24,625
- I want you to be, like,
"You gotta chill, wife."
1334
00:55:24,708 --> 00:55:26,500
Chill out.
1335
00:55:26,583 --> 00:55:29,833
- I would--even though they
said that I would deny it,
1336
00:55:29,875 --> 00:55:31,583
I won't fully deny it.
1337
00:55:31,583 --> 00:55:33,333
I do have elements of that.
1338
00:55:33,458 --> 00:55:35,333
I think I don't realize it
when it's happening.
1339
00:55:35,417 --> 00:55:37,833
I mean, honestly,
up to this point,
1340
00:55:37,958 --> 00:55:40,750
I haven't felt like any of that
slack that I've had to pick up
1341
00:55:40,875 --> 00:55:42,292
was beyond my capacity.
1342
00:55:42,375 --> 00:55:44,083
- Yeah.
1343
00:55:44,167 --> 00:55:46,000
- But to your point,
if I do start to feel that way,
1344
00:55:46,083 --> 00:55:48,750
I'll try to be mindful of
communicating that with you
1345
00:55:48,875 --> 00:55:50,542
so that we could step back
and kind of
1346
00:55:50,625 --> 00:55:52,167
figure out what we need to do.
1347
00:55:52,250 --> 00:55:54,208
Or maybe we just need
to step back, right?
1348
00:55:54,292 --> 00:55:58,167
Take a moment, pause,
kind of just
1349
00:55:58,250 --> 00:56:00,875
get our mentals aligned,
and that's it.
1350
00:56:00,958 --> 00:56:02,250
- Oh, yeah, 'cause I think
1351
00:56:02,375 --> 00:56:06,083
we could run a risk
of being so hyper-focused
1352
00:56:06,167 --> 00:56:07,750
on trying to make
each other happy
1353
00:56:07,833 --> 00:56:10,333
that we're not actually
focused on our needs.
1354
00:56:10,417 --> 00:56:13,417
And that can be--
that can be scary.
1355
00:56:13,542 --> 00:56:15,167
- I agree with that.
1356
00:56:15,292 --> 00:56:16,875
- ♪ Oh, you are my,
you are my life ♪
1357
00:56:20,958 --> 00:56:23,042
[upbeat music]
1358
00:56:23,042 --> 00:56:25,208
♪
1359
00:56:25,292 --> 00:56:26,375
- Brennan, you ready?
1360
00:56:26,458 --> 00:56:27,625
- Yeah, let's do this.
1361
00:56:29,292 --> 00:56:30,833
Hi, guys.
- Hello.
1362
00:56:30,958 --> 00:56:32,167
- Hey.
- Hi.
1363
00:56:32,208 --> 00:56:33,333
- Hello.
1364
00:56:33,417 --> 00:56:35,250
- Well, hi.
1365
00:56:35,333 --> 00:56:38,083
We've been worried about you.
1366
00:56:38,167 --> 00:56:40,375
And, Emily, I have to say,
1367
00:56:40,458 --> 00:56:42,167
oh, some of the pictures
I saw of your wounds
1368
00:56:42,250 --> 00:56:44,500
were just so frightening.
1369
00:56:44,583 --> 00:56:45,958
How are you doing?
1370
00:56:46,042 --> 00:56:48,417
- I'm doing a lot better.
1371
00:56:48,542 --> 00:56:50,500
I guess I'm a fast healer.
1372
00:56:50,583 --> 00:56:52,667
I think between sleep,
eating a lot--
1373
00:56:52,750 --> 00:56:55,375
a lot of people sent me, like,
a nice amount of food--
1374
00:56:55,458 --> 00:56:58,042
I'm on the road
to recovery, yeah.
1375
00:56:58,208 --> 00:56:59,583
- That's great news.
1376
00:56:59,667 --> 00:57:02,542
- Yeah, because
you look incredible.
1377
00:57:02,625 --> 00:57:05,458
But how are you--how are
you doing on the inside?
1378
00:57:05,542 --> 00:57:07,250
Are you okay?
How are you dealing with it?
1379
00:57:07,375 --> 00:57:09,250
Are you still in shock? Or--
1380
00:57:09,333 --> 00:57:11,000
- I don't know if I was
ever in shock.
1381
00:57:11,042 --> 00:57:12,875
I just feel like, obviously,
it was traumatic.
1382
00:57:12,958 --> 00:57:16,167
But I'm just so thankful
that I'm alive.
1383
00:57:16,250 --> 00:57:18,250
- [laughs]
- Yeah.
1384
00:57:18,375 --> 00:57:19,667
Honestly, I feel like it just
1385
00:57:19,750 --> 00:57:21,958
kind of put things
into perspective.
1386
00:57:22,042 --> 00:57:24,333
It was a good week
for us just to, like,
1387
00:57:24,417 --> 00:57:26,042
spend time with each other.
1388
00:57:26,125 --> 00:57:27,583
Because like, life's too short.
1389
00:57:27,667 --> 00:57:29,417
- I'm very impressed
at the way that you're
1390
00:57:29,500 --> 00:57:31,042
handling this, Emily.
1391
00:57:31,125 --> 00:57:32,667
Like, when I saw the photos,
I was like, oh, my gosh!
1392
00:57:32,708 --> 00:57:34,208
Like, how did this girl
just, like,
1393
00:57:34,333 --> 00:57:35,958
have a smile on her face?
1394
00:57:36,042 --> 00:57:38,167
Like, how is she still
participating in anything?
1395
00:57:38,292 --> 00:57:41,750
I think it really just
speaks to your character.
1396
00:57:41,833 --> 00:57:43,708
And I want to hear
a little bit more
1397
00:57:43,708 --> 00:57:45,625
from you, too, Brennan, of
what this was like for you.
1398
00:57:45,708 --> 00:57:47,042
Because of course, this was
1399
00:57:47,125 --> 00:57:48,625
a traumatic experience
for you, Emily.
1400
00:57:48,708 --> 00:57:50,500
But also, like,
the vicarious trauma
1401
00:57:50,583 --> 00:57:53,167
of watching this happen
to your wife, I can't imagine.
1402
00:57:53,250 --> 00:57:54,542
- Yeah.
1403
00:57:54,625 --> 00:57:56,375
No, it was definitely a lot,
you know,
1404
00:57:56,375 --> 00:57:58,250
seeing someone you care about,
you know,
1405
00:57:58,333 --> 00:58:00,042
with her head cut open.
1406
00:58:00,125 --> 00:58:02,042
And I kind of just went
into fight-or-flight mode
1407
00:58:02,125 --> 00:58:05,333
to just help her the best
way I could, you know,
1408
00:58:05,458 --> 00:58:07,292
until the paramedics
could get there.
1409
00:58:07,375 --> 00:58:08,917
- It was scary there for a sec.
1410
00:58:09,042 --> 00:58:10,792
I was like, I really didn't
know if I was going to live.
1411
00:58:10,875 --> 00:58:12,750
I'd never experienced that
much blood in my life.
1412
00:58:12,833 --> 00:58:14,417
I was like,
am I going to be okay?
1413
00:58:14,500 --> 00:58:15,875
And he's like,
"You're going to be fine.
1414
00:58:15,875 --> 00:58:17,000
Just trust me,"
1415
00:58:17,042 --> 00:58:19,292
as blood's, like,
squirting all over us.
1416
00:58:19,375 --> 00:58:20,500
I don't know. I'm just, like--
1417
00:58:20,583 --> 00:58:22,542
was so happy he was there.
1418
00:58:22,625 --> 00:58:25,125
And he doesn't even do well
with blood, but, like,
1419
00:58:25,250 --> 00:58:28,042
he really pulled it together.
1420
00:58:28,125 --> 00:58:30,292
- It sounds like
the two of you have seen
1421
00:58:30,375 --> 00:58:32,042
some new things in each other.
1422
00:58:32,125 --> 00:58:33,667
What do you think you've
learned about each other,
1423
00:58:33,708 --> 00:58:36,458
and maybe yourself,
from this very scary,
1424
00:58:36,542 --> 00:58:38,708
difficult experience?
1425
00:58:38,792 --> 00:58:42,750
- It really did bring us
closer together in a new way.
1426
00:58:44,375 --> 00:58:45,792
Because before, you know,
we were talking
1427
00:58:45,875 --> 00:58:47,500
about being friends
and everything,
1428
00:58:47,625 --> 00:58:49,000
but those are just words.
1429
00:58:49,083 --> 00:58:50,833
You know, actions speak
louder than words.
1430
00:58:50,917 --> 00:58:53,750
So to actually be
there for one another--
1431
00:58:53,833 --> 00:58:56,917
'cause she's been
there for me, you know,
1432
00:58:57,042 --> 00:58:58,792
as much as I've
been there for her.
1433
00:58:58,792 --> 00:59:00,833
So I think just us
supporting each other
1434
00:59:00,875 --> 00:59:03,792
and, you know, being there
for one another has just
1435
00:59:03,875 --> 00:59:06,167
really grown our relationship.
1436
00:59:06,250 --> 00:59:08,667
- You know, it--
1437
00:59:08,750 --> 00:59:10,500
when we put couples together,
1438
00:59:10,583 --> 00:59:14,167
we hope that they'll just
have all this passion
1439
00:59:14,250 --> 00:59:16,625
and all this attraction,
1440
00:59:16,708 --> 00:59:19,042
and just, you know,
fall all over each other.
1441
00:59:19,125 --> 00:59:22,333
But one thing that
we also hope is that
1442
00:59:22,333 --> 00:59:25,375
people really see the value
1443
00:59:25,458 --> 00:59:28,167
in forming
great relationships,
1444
00:59:28,250 --> 00:59:31,833
and learn, you know, what
you need in a relationship
1445
00:59:31,875 --> 00:59:34,542
and how to care
for one another.
1446
00:59:34,625 --> 00:59:36,625
And I think you guys
have seen that.
1447
00:59:36,708 --> 00:59:38,750
This is something that's
going to bond you guys
1448
00:59:38,750 --> 00:59:40,792
for a very long time.
1449
00:59:40,875 --> 00:59:42,500
- It just made me think about,
you know, we were talking
1450
00:59:42,583 --> 00:59:44,000
about trust and intimacy.
1451
00:59:44,083 --> 00:59:46,667
Wow, how much trust must
you have had in Brennan
1452
00:59:46,708 --> 00:59:48,333
in those moments, right?
1453
00:59:48,417 --> 00:59:50,167
And he's seen you at
probably the most vulnerable
1454
00:59:50,208 --> 00:59:52,000
that you've been with someone
that you've known
1455
00:59:52,083 --> 00:59:53,708
for such a short amount
of time.
1456
00:59:53,792 --> 00:59:54,917
And it makes me think
about just, like,
1457
00:59:55,000 --> 00:59:56,542
that "through thick and thin."
1458
00:59:56,625 --> 00:59:58,458
It speaks to how--
it sounds like, you know,
1459
00:59:58,542 --> 01:00:00,083
Brennan, no matter how much
traumatic it was for you,
1460
01:00:00,167 --> 01:00:01,333
how much you didn't
like blood,
1461
01:00:01,417 --> 01:00:03,000
you sprung into action.
1462
01:00:03,083 --> 01:00:04,667
And you knew that you
needed to be there for her.
1463
01:00:04,708 --> 01:00:06,458
And I think that that's
just really beautiful.
1464
01:00:06,542 --> 01:00:08,167
And I hope that
this is something that
1465
01:00:08,250 --> 01:00:11,292
you all can continue to--
to grow and foster.
1466
01:00:11,375 --> 01:00:13,000
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
1467
01:00:13,042 --> 01:00:16,417
And, like,
I can't express enough--
1468
01:00:16,500 --> 01:00:18,792
Like, I might start--
1469
01:00:18,875 --> 01:00:20,500
I cried yesterday
saying this too.
1470
01:00:20,542 --> 01:00:22,750
But like, you've
just been so amazing.
1471
01:00:22,833 --> 01:00:24,708
And it just has
meant so much to me
1472
01:00:24,833 --> 01:00:26,625
that he's been here for me.
1473
01:00:26,708 --> 01:00:28,708
And, like, it just kind of
felt like we were
1474
01:00:28,833 --> 01:00:31,542
back to when everything was,
1475
01:00:31,625 --> 01:00:34,000
like, really good between us.
1476
01:00:34,042 --> 01:00:38,583
So I think it just really
shook us both a little bit.
1477
01:00:38,667 --> 01:00:42,917
And I'm hoping we can
keep this moving forward.
1478
01:00:43,042 --> 01:00:44,917
- Absolutely.
1479
01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:50,042
- This accident really
changed our relationship.
1480
01:00:50,125 --> 01:00:52,000
As the days
and the week goes on,
1481
01:00:52,083 --> 01:00:55,833
I'm definitely realizing
and seeing that
1482
01:00:55,917 --> 01:00:57,875
he really does care about me.
1483
01:00:57,958 --> 01:01:01,167
So while I am a little sad
that it took me
1484
01:01:01,292 --> 01:01:04,750
to hit a tree for us to
have this bonding experience,
1485
01:01:04,833 --> 01:01:06,667
I'm happy that we did
1486
01:01:06,750 --> 01:01:08,208
because I think it came
at a good time.
1487
01:01:08,333 --> 01:01:10,208
And I think it's really
helping me, like,
1488
01:01:10,333 --> 01:01:14,792
see things clearly
as Decision Day gets closer.
1489
01:01:14,875 --> 01:01:16,208
- We're really proud
of you guys.
1490
01:01:16,333 --> 01:01:19,833
And we're just so happy
that you are still
1491
01:01:19,875 --> 01:01:21,875
coming through this,
you know,
1492
01:01:21,958 --> 01:01:24,042
looking at the value
in each other,
1493
01:01:24,125 --> 01:01:26,542
and seeing the courage that
you found in yourselves.
1494
01:01:26,625 --> 01:01:31,792
You guys are doing great,
you know, in our estimation.
1495
01:01:31,875 --> 01:01:34,833
- ♪ I know
it'll be all right ♪
1496
01:01:34,875 --> 01:01:38,667
♪ I know it'll be all right
1497
01:01:38,750 --> 01:01:42,458
♪ All right
1498
01:01:42,542 --> 01:01:43,667
- Yo, welcome.
- Hi.
1499
01:01:43,708 --> 01:01:45,000
- Hi.
How's it going?
1500
01:01:45,083 --> 01:01:46,625
- We're good.
1501
01:01:46,708 --> 01:01:47,875
- Next time on
"Married at First Sight"...
1502
01:01:47,958 --> 01:01:49,500
- I'm looking for [bleep].
1503
01:01:49,583 --> 01:01:51,375
I'm looking
for another vibrator.
1504
01:01:51,458 --> 01:01:54,208
- I am more than happy
to partake in freaky activity.
1505
01:01:54,333 --> 01:01:57,333
So any of these things that
she wants to play around with,
1506
01:01:57,375 --> 01:01:58,667
I'm all for it.
1507
01:01:58,750 --> 01:02:00,208
This doesn't do it for you?
- Oh, my God.
1508
01:02:00,292 --> 01:02:04,792
- Cheers to making it
to this point.
1509
01:02:04,917 --> 01:02:07,792
- I can't just live
a life that isn't real.
1510
01:02:07,875 --> 01:02:11,000
Like, I can't keep pretending.
1511
01:02:11,083 --> 01:02:14,458
- One of my deal breakers was
positive--positive person.
1512
01:02:14,542 --> 01:02:15,833
- What do you [bleep] mean?
1513
01:02:15,875 --> 01:02:17,917
There is no negativity.
1514
01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:19,375
- I'm just trying to be honest.
1515
01:02:19,458 --> 01:02:21,500
- [sobbing]
1516
01:02:21,583 --> 01:02:23,000
[dramatic music]
1517
01:02:23,083 --> 01:02:25,167
- Austin left the apartment.
1518
01:02:25,250 --> 01:02:26,625
♪
1519
01:02:26,708 --> 01:02:29,583
I'm hurt and upset
because I really did
1520
01:02:29,667 --> 01:02:32,958
want to make this work.
1521
01:02:33,042 --> 01:02:34,708
- I've heard through
the grapevine that
1522
01:02:34,708 --> 01:02:36,750
he wanted to go on
a double date with Cameron,
1523
01:02:36,833 --> 01:02:39,125
and that he is going on dates.
1524
01:02:39,208 --> 01:02:41,500
- [sobbing]
1525
01:02:41,542 --> 01:02:45,000
♪
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