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What would make this
a great experience for you,

and what would you like
to come out

of the experience with?

I'm looking to come...
No, I'm kidding.

I mean, it would be
an added bonus, but...

I think you're setting
yourself up

for a disappointment.

Okay.
Orgasm fail.

No orgasms today.

**

Karley: God, being a mostly
straight woman

can be really stressful.

For some reason, some men
seem to find it hard

to make a woman come,

and I'm sick of
dating my vibrator.

I got to thinking, "Why are
happy endings available to men

but not to women?"

In the age of Amazon Prime,
why is it impossible for a woman

to get an orgasm on demand
in this town, right?

**

According to the Internet,
there are over 1,000

happy ending massage parlors
in New York City alone,

but those are almost
exclusively for men.

Unfair.

I wonder if the rest of the
ostensibly horny people

in this city agree
that the female population

is orgasmically marginalized.

Have either of you ever had
a happy ending massage?

No, not at all.

-No.
-No.

I've never had a happy
ending massage.

Have you ever had
a happy ending massage?

[ Whining ]

I don't even know
what it means.

Have you ever had
a strange woman

that you paid jerk you off
at the end of a massage?

I wish I had.
Oh, my...

I'm looking to get one.

How do you jerk off
a woman?

Have you ever had
a happy ending massage?

I have, actually.
It was very clinical.

-Oh, really?
-Yeah.

I was just...
It was very, like...

It wasn't very sexual.

From what I understand,
it's, like,

if they massage your shoulder.
They'll massage your dick.

-Yeah.
-Like, that's about it.

Do you think it can be
the same way for women,

and that women
could just go in

and get a sort
of mechanical handjob

and feel better
afterwards?

I feel like most women

are kind of, like,
sapiosexual.

Like, it's not just
the cock they want.

Like, there's something
beyond that.

-Cock and brain.
-That's cock and brain.

Yeah.

Women just aren't
agreeable to being like,

"Hey. Finger me and then
I'm gonna leave."

There definitely is
a social stigma

that women can't explore
their sexuality

in ways that men can.

Yeah, like, in the name
of gender equality,

I feel like
we should be able

to get orgasms
from strangers.

-Exactly.
-I'm looking to find one.

I hope you find
your happy ending.

Thank you.

Karley: It seems that most
people don't think women

are interested
in happy endings,

but I am, and I can't
be the only one.

Thankfully, I discovered
a website

called Cowboys and Angels,

which offers professional
male escorts for hire,

so, in search of the
transactional orgasm

of my dreams,
I booked an hour with Ash,

a hunky male companion
with hair longer

and shinier than mine.

Hi. Hey.

Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.

-Karley, right?
-You look great. Yeah.

Ash.

I want to see you get ready.

Yeah? All right.
Cool.

How long have you
been an escort?

Five years.

Do you like it?

I do.
I love it.

At the end of the day,

it's all about connecting
with somebody.

Right.
And looking good.

Well, yeah.

You definitely got
to look decent.

-Yeah, yeah.
-Yeah.

And when people pay
for your services,

is sex guaranteed?

Not at all.
Not at all.

It's strictly for our time.
Yeah.

But if you feel like
the date is going well

and you're getting
along with someone,

you could choose
to sleep with them?

I will say, things can
get very romantic.

It's like a normal date,
like, nothing is guaranteed.

-Exactly. Exactly.
-Yeah.

So, like, I have to work
a little harder, too.

Yeah.

Okay, should we go?

-All right. Let's do it.
-Yeah.

Karley:
Even though I wasn't definitely
going to get my happy ending,

I was excited to get day drunk
with my overpriced arm candy

and pretend not to be
staring at his pecs.

How much does it cost
to spend a day with you?

$4,500.

That's not cheap.

I guess, but worth it.

True.
I think so.

So what's the protocol when
you're out in public

with someone,
like, can I...

Am I allowed
to touch you, or what?

It's very much like a
boyfriend-girlfriend experience,

so, yeah, like,
generally, like,

I'll be walking like this

or I'll have my arm out,
like, you know?

-Yeah. Yeah.
-It's casual and natural.

Okay.

Thank you.
-You're welcome.

I like
the gentlemanly touch.

Cheers.
-Cheers.

Who is
your typical client?

The general age demographic
will be between 30 and 40.

You get a lot of
high-powered businesswomen

who just don't have
time for bullshit,

so they're looking for
a good date experience,

somebody they can have
a great time with

and just
no strings attached.

Women generally are
looking to feel special

and feel like I'm actually
listening to them.

I actually care about
who they are

or what they're into.

But I feel like

we're having a really nice,
genuine conversation,

and this idea that,
you know, like,

if you're paying for someone
to pay attention to you,

that that's sad.

It's, like, well,
I pay a therapist.

Like,
why is it different?

Yeah.
That's true.

You know, I actually pay
so many people

to pay attention to me.

I have, like, a trainer,
a therapist, like,

a yoga instructor.

Like, literally,
I just pay people

to be around me
all day, basically.

I mean,
this is fun for me.

Do you ever find yourself
really attracted

to the person

and end up having
a lot of fun, like,

and you just even forget
that it's a service?

I will say I do have
a lot of fun,

but I never forget
it's a service.

-Okay, so it's a job?
-Yes.

It's definitely a job.

What I'm looking for is,
I'm interested in the idea

of just having
a happy ending, right?

I just feel like guys get that
and it's just interesting

that it doesn't
feel like there

is a service out there
for women who just,

like, want to get off.

I get it, and I really think
there should be a service

because it could be done

in a very therapeutic
way and a safe way.

Who doesn't want that, like,
having an amazing massage

and have all parts
of your body massaged

and finishing off
with a nice orgasm?

Sounds pretty amazing
to me.

Do you think that
there's more women

who are willing
to pay for it,

whether it be for an orgasm
or for companionship,

than people think?
-Big time.

When I started working,
there was 20 guys in the agency.

Now there's over 60 guys
at the agency,

and I feel like there
was a need for it,

and suddenly it's there.

I would assume that there has
to be multiple factors, right?

One has to be that women
are making more money,

but I also think that, in terms
of female sexual agency,

we've come a long way
in recent years.

Yeah, definitely.

I think it comes more from
an empowered point of view.

They don't care
what anybody else thinks.

Cheers.

Karley: Wow.
I was having so much fun.

I almost forgot it wasn't a real
date until the check came.

I'm picking up
the check, right?

-Yes.
-It's okay.

I'm empowered.

I really enjoyed my time
with Ash.

I thought he was so charming,

but what I learned
from this experience

is that paying
for a male escort,

there's just a huge
time commitment.

It's not really that guarantee
of an orgasm on demand.

You're just paying
for someone's time,

but I thought that
it was interesting

that he said that there's a huge
increase in the amount of women

who are willing
to assert themselves

and what they want sexually and
to pay for male companionship,

and that makes me think
that if I dig a little deeper

that I might be able
to find someone

who's offering women

a transactional orgasm
on demand.

It's got to be out there.

Fully naked or panties?

I feel like I've actually, like,
been traumatized.

Do you trust these hands
to touch you?

**

Karley:
After my male escort fail,

I needed to try
a different approach,

something a little
more free love.

Thankfully, I discovered
a man in San Francisco

who claims to be a guru
of female pleasure.

In order words,
a vagina whisperer.

Tom: I've got
my pussy puppet here.

Can we do the pussy
puppet thing?

-This is very scientific.
-Yes.

This is a very
scientific puppet.

Tom, who is a sexological
bodyworker,

operates in this gray space
where he uses massage

and sensual touching
to help women

to understand their own bodies
and their own pleasure,

while also feeding
them pleasure.

So we're talking about
self-knowledge here,

and we want to know
what your parts are

and agree on
the language we're using.

Inner lips, outer lips,
vestibular bulbs,

urethral sponge,
perineal sponge,

clitoral hood
and clitoris.

The G-spot.

Actually, yeah, the G-spot,
right...Feel it.

It has little
ridges on it,

just like
the urethral sponge.

What would make this
a great experience for you,

and what would you like to come
out of the experience with?

I'm looking to come...
No, I'm kidding.

I mean, it would be
an added bonus, but...

I appreciate
your vulnerability

you're expressing there.

If you have the expectation
or even the desire

to have an orgasm
during this session,

I think you're setting yourself
up for a disappointment.

Let's put that one totally off
the table and make it a rule,

actually, and say,
"No orgasms today."

Okay.

That's not what
we're gonna do.

Karley: Shit.
Why am I here again?

Women sometimes
come to me wanting...

I call it a yoni massage...

yoni, the tantric word
for sacred temple.

Yeah.

They'll just come and say,
"I want a yoni massage

and I want an orgasm.
Give it to me."

I used to offer that kind
of service right away,

and then I discovered
that, really,

it was counterproductive,

that we might make a huge
gain in the beginning,

but then
it just would fizzle.

So what is the process,
exactly?

The first session
in sexological bodywork

would be exploring
why they're there

and what
their issues are.

If they're
really ready for it,

the second session would be
a standard massage,

getting comfortable
with each other,

and then the third session,

if everything
is going smoothly,

we might go right to a vaginal
mapping experience

or a yoni massage.

Do you think that the reason
that women eventually

do feel comfortable
coming to you is

because there is
a therapeutic element?

Oh, sure.

Yeah, and oftentimes,
because of our upbringing,

because of the culture
we live in,

which is really
a sex-negative culture,

because of the conditioning
we've had mostly

from religious...

particularly the Christian
background...

we are whole
except our genitals.

Sexological bodywork is
about being alive,

totally alive
in our bodies.

So should we do
the vaginal mapping?

Yeah.
I want to map my vagina.

This is
the more intimate part,

and so I wanted you to take
my hands in yours here.

-Mm-hmm.
-I wanted to make sure that...

You know, we're
doing this for TV...

that you're choosing
this for you.

Do you trust these hands
to touch you?

-I'm down.
-We can...You're down?

-I'm down. Yeah.
-Okay.

Get under the sheet
with your head right here.

Tom: Vaginal mapping
is a process

of learning about your vagina,

me going in and touching
different parts of the yoni

and doing a scale of 1
to 3 on the positive side

or 1 to 3 on the negative side,

getting feedback from you
of what's pleasurable,

what's painful,
what's irritating.

Karley: I would say
that's a negative one

because
that makes me feel

like I'm gonna
pee my pants.

Mm-hmm.

When I move a little
bit forward...

Maybe, like, a zero.

Mm-hmm.

Forward still.

Zero.

So the point is for me

to learn
in this sort of slow

and controlled setting
where feels good.

Exactly.

Where there's no
pressure to perform

or to get anywhere
or whatever.

We're just on, like, a Lewis
and Clark mapping expedition.

We're crossing
the Missouri

and heading up
into the wild country.

Karley: I knew there was
a therapeutic component

to sexological bodywork,

but this feels
a bit OB/GYN-esque.

I assume that for some women,

the medical component
makes being touched

by a man in this way
more approachable,

but I'm personally not looking
for therapeutic hand-holding.

What's the number?

Like, 1, 2.5, 3.

I don't...I mean,
is 3, like, crazy?

And honestly, how am I
supposed to try to come

while you're asking me
to do literal math?

Oh, no.

Tom: The female orgasm,

it's not
even in the same category

as the male orgasm.

It's a mystery,
ultimately.

It's like God
or something, you know?

You approach it
with humility.

Karley: Two strikes on my quest
for a happy ending.

It got me thinking,

"What's so damn difficult
about the female orgasm

that makes even professionals
shy away from promising one?"

So, welcome.
Welcome to Cocktales.

Thank you for coming.

Karley: When Tom is not busy
mapping people's vaginas,

he leads a men's sexuality group
called Cocktales.

Here, men sit around in a circle

and basically share
their insecurities

around the female orgasm.

So twice in the experience
of Cocktales,

we've had women witnesses,

so we're doing a version
of that tonight with Karley

sitting outside the circle
and holding space for us.

So let's just do introductions.

I'll start.

I'm Tom, and I'm feeling
excited and curious.

I'm Ilio,
and I feel my heart

going a little faster
than normal.

It tells me
I'm a little nervous.

Hi.
My name is Jason,

so I'm feeling a little
sacrificial or something,

not so excited about bearing
some intimate details

of my own insecurities.

Okay, well, I'll come at this
from the, um,

pretty insecure place.

I'm happily married.

I had to go through
a lot of stuff

to get to this very average
lover place that I am right now.

I would love to be capable
of helping my wife

have these explosive,
amazing orgasms,

and I feel like
it's on me to step it up.

[ Sighs ]

So I think where I want
to start is kind of like,

the ego in me wants to be,
of course, pleasing,

and I do feel like a failure
if I've come,

and she has not.

One thing I'm experiencing
is instead of being

that assertive male
presence during sex,

to leave room for
something else to happen,

not being this man that's
there driving the orgasm,

and I know there's, like,
a little part in me

that has to die each time
that I do that.

Yeah.
-Thanks.

She needs to be able to come
to ease my sensitive male ego.

There can be so much
charge and attachment

around a woman's orgasm.

I feel like I've actually,
like, been traumatized.

I don't think there's
anything in my life

that I've spent more time
thinking about

and practicing for

and attempting and still,
at 63 years old,

not knowing anything.

Karley: Should I...
Can I say something?

In the sort of wider culture,

men are expected to be competent
when it comes to sex,

and so the vulnerability
of asking,

like, "What feels good for you?"
or "What am I doing wrong?"

or "How do I do this?"
is, like, "emasculating,"

whereas, of course that's going
to be the primary way

that you would actually find out
how to please somebody,

and then women feel like they
can't ask for what they want

because they don't want to,

you know, hurt
their partner's ego

or make them feel insecure,

and then it creates
this problem of communication.

Tom: Thanks.

Like, that's to me what the big
challenge is for men

approaching
the feminine orgasm is,

like, maybe your preconceptions
about what sex is

and who you are
as a man isn't,

maybe, necessarily correct.

Really it's, like, well,
we're talking about

dissolving your identity,
you know, your sexual identity,

which to me is, like,
a huge part of who you are.

That's terrifying.

Karley: I really felt so honored

to be able to sit in
on Cocktales

and watch all these men
talk about female sexuality

and their own pleasure
in this really vulnerable

and sensitive way.
I really --

It tugged on my heartstrings
in a way that I did not expect.

I invite us to end like we have
some circles, if we can stand.

All: Ha!

Karley: I think that what these
men are really acknowledging

is that the female orgasm
is complex,

and it's also,
in a lot of ways,

tied to the ego of the man
who's trying to fuel it,

and I just think
because of that,

the idea of giving a woman
an orgasm on demand

is a really intimidating
task to approach

with both parties
that are involved,

and because of that,
I think that it's gonna

take a really specific
type of man

to want to enter
into that exchange.

How do you make a woman orgasm?

Dr. M.: It's my job

to unlock the mysteries
of each woman's body.

**

So I've been looking
far and wide,

both online and in real life,

for a guy who offers women
the service of a happy ending,

and it's been
really hard to find.

I've found men who offer
the service of companionship

or, you know, sexological
bodywork or therapeutic massage,

but it's been difficult
to find a guy who just says,

"I offer women
an orgasm on demand."

But finally, I got tipped off
to this one guy.

He goes by the name Dr. M.,

and his website is called
"Her Private Pleasures."

He seems to be exactly
what I've been looking for.

He offers a 1-hour service,

which provides erotic touching
and then a happy ending,

so he's literally coming over
to my apartment right now.

[ Horn honks in distance ]

[ Intercom rings ]

[ Door buzzes ]

Unfortunately, because we live
in sex-negative America,

Dr. M. has chosen
to remain anonymous.

[ Knock on door ]

Hey.
Nice to meet you.

-Thanks.
-Come on in.

So, Dr. M., what is
it exactly that you do?

I use sensual touch
to give women pleasure.

For the session,
you lie facedown.

It's not tantra.

There are no spiritual chants
or anything like that,

and there's no expectation
of reciprocation.

Okay.

You may experience
a single orgasm,

multiple orgasms or more
nuanced waves of pleasure.

What kind of women
seek out this service?

Some women are
hard-working professionals.

Some are young moms.

Some are involved
with clueless lovers.

Some are
in sexless marriages,

but don't want to have
the affair,

and others, quite frankly,
are just horny.

[ Laughs ]
Should be fun.

How do you make
a woman orgasm?

All women are different.

Some like a slow
and gentle touch,

others faster and firmer.

Some like internal
stimulation,

others, external.

I go by body language.

It tells me everything
I need to know.

**

-Should I be naked?
-Yes.

-Fully naked or panties?
-Fully.

**

Karley: Well, here we go.

**

**

Actually,
this guy is not bad.

**

I can see this becoming
a regular occurrence

and becoming destructive
to the future

of my romantic relationships.

After searching high and low
and literally inside myself

for a happy ending,

it was clear that when a man
offers sexual services to women,

it's often dressed up
as romance or therapy,

but what I like about Dr. M.

is that he's calling
it like it is,

and that's the biggest
turn-on for me,

even despite the fact
that he's randomly dressed

like a white rapper.

Maybe the current
market of women

looking for transactional
sexual pleasure is niche,

but the fact that these services
are becoming more popular

makes me think that we're
headed toward a future

where women will be free
to be just as desperate as men.

One small orgasm for a woman,
one giant leap for womankind.

Rub you later, sluts.

[ Bell dings ]