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What would make this
a great experience for you,
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and what would you like
to come out
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of the experience with?
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I'm looking to come...
No, I'm kidding.
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I mean, it would be
an added bonus, but...
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I think you're setting
yourself up
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for a disappointment.
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Okay.
Orgasm fail.
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No orgasms today.
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**
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Karley: God, being a mostly
straight woman
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can be really stressful.
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For some reason, some men
seem to find it hard
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to make a woman come,
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and I'm sick of
dating my vibrator.
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I got to thinking, "Why are
happy endings available to men
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but not to women?"
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In the age of Amazon Prime,
why is it impossible for a woman
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to get an orgasm on demand
in this town, right?
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**
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According to the Internet,
there are over 1,000
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happy ending massage parlors
in New York City alone,
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but those are almost
exclusively for men.
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Unfair.
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I wonder if the rest of the
ostensibly horny people
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in this city agree
that the female population
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is orgasmically marginalized.
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Have either of you ever had
a happy ending massage?
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No, not at all.
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-No.
-No.
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I've never had a happy
ending massage.
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Have you ever had
a happy ending massage?
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[ Whining ]
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I don't even know
what it means.
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Have you ever had
a strange woman
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that you paid jerk you off
at the end of a massage?
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I wish I had.
Oh, my...
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I'm looking to get one.
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How do you jerk off
a woman?
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Have you ever had
a happy ending massage?
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I have, actually.
It was very clinical.
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-Oh, really?
-Yeah.
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I was just...
It was very, like...
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It wasn't very sexual.
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From what I understand,
it's, like,
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if they massage your shoulder.
They'll massage your dick.
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-Yeah.
-Like, that's about it.
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Do you think it can be
the same way for women,
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and that women
could just go in
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and get a sort
of mechanical handjob
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and feel better
afterwards?
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I feel like most women
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are kind of, like,
sapiosexual.
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Like, it's not just
the cock they want.
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Like, there's something
beyond that.
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-Cock and brain.
-That's cock and brain.
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Yeah.
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Women just aren't
agreeable to being like,
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"Hey. Finger me and then
I'm gonna leave."
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There definitely is
a social stigma
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that women can't explore
their sexuality
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in ways that men can.
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Yeah, like, in the name
of gender equality,
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I feel like
we should be able
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to get orgasms
from strangers.
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-Exactly.
-I'm looking to find one.
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I hope you find
your happy ending.
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Thank you.
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Karley: It seems that most
people don't think women
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are interested
in happy endings,
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but I am, and I can't
be the only one.
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Thankfully, I discovered
a website
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called Cowboys and Angels,
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which offers professional
male escorts for hire,
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so, in search of the
transactional orgasm
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of my dreams,
I booked an hour with Ash,
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a hunky male companion
with hair longer
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and shinier than mine.
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Hi. Hey.
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Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.
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-Karley, right?
-You look great. Yeah.
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Ash.
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I want to see you get ready.
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Yeah? All right.
Cool.
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How long have you
been an escort?
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Five years.
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Do you like it?
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I do.
I love it.
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At the end of the day,
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it's all about connecting
with somebody.
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Right.
And looking good.
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Well, yeah.
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You definitely got
to look decent.
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-Yeah, yeah.
-Yeah.
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And when people pay
for your services,
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is sex guaranteed?
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Not at all.
Not at all.
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It's strictly for our time.
Yeah.
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But if you feel like
the date is going well
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and you're getting
along with someone,
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you could choose
to sleep with them?
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I will say, things can
get very romantic.
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It's like a normal date,
like, nothing is guaranteed.
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-Exactly. Exactly.
-Yeah.
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So, like, I have to work
a little harder, too.
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Yeah.
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Okay, should we go?
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-All right. Let's do it.
-Yeah.
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Karley:
Even though I wasn't definitely going to get my happy ending,
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I was excited to get day drunk
with my overpriced arm candy
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and pretend not to be
staring at his pecs.
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How much does it cost
to spend a day with you?
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$4,500.
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That's not cheap.
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I guess, but worth it.
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True.
I think so.
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So what's the protocol when
you're out in public
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with someone,
like, can I...
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Am I allowed
to touch you, or what?
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It's very much like a
boyfriend-girlfriend experience,
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so, yeah, like,
generally, like,
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I'll be walking like this
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or I'll have my arm out,
like, you know?
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-Yeah. Yeah.
-It's casual and natural.
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Okay.
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Thank you.
-You're welcome.
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I like
the gentlemanly touch.
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Cheers.
-Cheers.
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Who is
your typical client?
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The general age demographic
will be between 30 and 40.
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You get a lot of
high-powered businesswomen
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who just don't have
time for bullshit,
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so they're looking for
a good date experience,
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somebody they can have
a great time with
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and just
no strings attached.
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Women generally are
looking to feel special
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and feel like I'm actually
listening to them.
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I actually care about
who they are
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or what they're into.
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But I feel like
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we're having a really nice,
genuine conversation,
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and this idea that,
you know, like,
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if you're paying for someone
to pay attention to you,
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that that's sad.
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It's, like, well,
I pay a therapist.
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Like,
why is it different?
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Yeah.
That's true.
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You know, I actually pay
so many people
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to pay attention to me.
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I have, like, a trainer,
a therapist, like,
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a yoga instructor.
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Like, literally,
I just pay people
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to be around me
all day, basically.
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I mean,
this is fun for me.
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Do you ever find yourself
really attracted
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to the person
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and end up having
a lot of fun, like,
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and you just even forget
that it's a service?
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I will say I do have
a lot of fun,
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but I never forget
it's a service.
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-Okay, so it's a job?
-Yes.
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It's definitely a job.
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What I'm looking for is,
I'm interested in the idea
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of just having
a happy ending, right?
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I just feel like guys get that
and it's just interesting
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that it doesn't
feel like there
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is a service out there
for women who just,
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like, want to get off.
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I get it, and I really think
there should be a service
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because it could be done
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in a very therapeutic
way and a safe way.
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Who doesn't want that, like,
having an amazing massage
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and have all parts
of your body massaged
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and finishing off
with a nice orgasm?
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Sounds pretty amazing
to me.
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Do you think that
there's more women
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who are willing
to pay for it,
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whether it be for an orgasm
or for companionship,
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than people think?
-Big time.
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When I started working,
there was 20 guys in the agency.
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Now there's over 60 guys
at the agency,
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and I feel like there
was a need for it,
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and suddenly it's there.
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I would assume that there has
to be multiple factors, right?
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One has to be that women
are making more money,
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but I also think that, in terms
of female sexual agency,
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we've come a long way
in recent years.
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Yeah, definitely.
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I think it comes more from
an empowered point of view.
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They don't care
what anybody else thinks.
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Cheers.
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Karley: Wow.
I was having so much fun.
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I almost forgot it wasn't a real
date until the check came.
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I'm picking up
the check, right?
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-Yes.
-It's okay.
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I'm empowered.
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I really enjoyed my time
with Ash.
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I thought he was so charming,
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but what I learned
from this experience
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is that paying
for a male escort,
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there's just a huge
time commitment.
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It's not really that guarantee
of an orgasm on demand.
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You're just paying
for someone's time,
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but I thought that
it was interesting
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that he said that there's a huge
increase in the amount of women
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who are willing
to assert themselves
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and what they want sexually and
to pay for male companionship,
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and that makes me think
that if I dig a little deeper
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that I might be able
to find someone
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who's offering women
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a transactional orgasm
on demand.
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It's got to be out there.
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Fully naked or panties?
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I feel like I've actually, like,
been traumatized.
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Do you trust these hands
to touch you?
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**
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Karley:
After my male escort fail,
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I needed to try
a different approach,
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something a little
more free love.
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Thankfully, I discovered
a man in San Francisco
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who claims to be a guru
of female pleasure.
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In order words,
a vagina whisperer.
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Tom: I've got
my pussy puppet here.
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Can we do the pussy
puppet thing?
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-This is very scientific.
-Yes.
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This is a very
scientific puppet.
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Tom, who is a sexological
bodyworker,
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operates in this gray space
where he uses massage
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and sensual touching
to help women
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to understand their own bodies
and their own pleasure,
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while also feeding
them pleasure.
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So we're talking about
self-knowledge here,
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and we want to know
what your parts are
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and agree on
the language we're using.
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Inner lips, outer lips,
vestibular bulbs,
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urethral sponge,
perineal sponge,
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clitoral hood
and clitoris.
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The G-spot.
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Actually, yeah, the G-spot,
right...Feel it.
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It has little
ridges on it,
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just like
the urethral sponge.
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What would make this
a great experience for you,
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and what would you like to come
out of the experience with?
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I'm looking to come...
No, I'm kidding.
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I mean, it would be
an added bonus, but...
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I appreciate
your vulnerability
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you're expressing there.
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If you have the expectation
or even the desire
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to have an orgasm
during this session,
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I think you're setting yourself
up for a disappointment.
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Let's put that one totally off
the table and make it a rule,
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actually, and say,
"No orgasms today."
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Okay.
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That's not what
we're gonna do.
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Karley: Shit.
Why am I here again?
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Women sometimes
come to me wanting...
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I call it a yoni massage...
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yoni, the tantric word
for sacred temple.
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Yeah.
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They'll just come and say,
"I want a yoni massage
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and I want an orgasm.
Give it to me."
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I used to offer that kind
of service right away,
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and then I discovered
that, really,
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it was counterproductive,
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that we might make a huge
gain in the beginning,
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but then
it just would fizzle.
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So what is the process,
exactly?
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The first session
in sexological bodywork
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would be exploring
why they're there
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and what
their issues are.
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If they're
really ready for it,
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the second session would be
a standard massage,
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getting comfortable
with each other,
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and then the third session,
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if everything
is going smoothly,
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we might go right to a vaginal
mapping experience
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or a yoni massage.
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Do you think that the reason
that women eventually
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do feel comfortable
coming to you is
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because there is
a therapeutic element?
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Oh, sure.
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Yeah, and oftentimes,
because of our upbringing,
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because of the culture
we live in,
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which is really
a sex-negative culture,
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because of the conditioning
we've had mostly
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from religious...
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particularly the Christian
background...
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we are whole
except our genitals.
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Sexological bodywork is
about being alive,
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totally alive
in our bodies.
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So should we do
the vaginal mapping?
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Yeah.
I want to map my vagina.
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This is
the more intimate part,
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and so I wanted you to take
my hands in yours here.
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-Mm-hmm.
-I wanted to make sure that...
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You know, we're
doing this for TV...
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that you're choosing
this for you.
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Do you trust these hands
to touch you?
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-I'm down.
-We can...You're down?
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-I'm down. Yeah.
-Okay.
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Get under the sheet
with your head right here.
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Tom: Vaginal mapping
is a process
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of learning about your vagina,
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me going in and touching
different parts of the yoni
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and doing a scale of 1
to 3 on the positive side
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or 1 to 3 on the negative side,
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getting feedback from you
of what's pleasurable,
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what's painful,
what's irritating.
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Karley: I would say
that's a negative one
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because
that makes me feel
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like I'm gonna
pee my pants.
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Mm-hmm.
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When I move a little
bit forward...
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Maybe, like, a zero.
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Mm-hmm.
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Forward still.
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Zero.
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So the point is for me
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to learn
in this sort of slow
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and controlled setting
where feels good.
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Exactly.
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Where there's no
pressure to perform
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or to get anywhere
or whatever.
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We're just on, like, a Lewis
and Clark mapping expedition.
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We're crossing
the Missouri
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and heading up
into the wild country.
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Karley: I knew there was
a therapeutic component
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to sexological bodywork,
329
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but this feels
a bit OB/GYN-esque.
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I assume that for some women,
331
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the medical component
makes being touched
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by a man in this way
more approachable,
333
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but I'm personally not looking
for therapeutic hand-holding.
334
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What's the number?
335
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Like, 1, 2.5, 3.
336
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I don't...I mean,
is 3, like, crazy?
337
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And honestly, how am I
supposed to try to come
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while you're asking me
to do literal math?
339
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Oh, no.
340
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Tom: The female orgasm,
341
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it's not
even in the same category
342
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as the male orgasm.
343
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It's a mystery,
ultimately.
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It's like God
or something, you know?
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You approach it
with humility.
346
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Karley: Two strikes on my quest
for a happy ending.
347
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It got me thinking,
348
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"What's so damn difficult
about the female orgasm
349
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that makes even professionals
shy away from promising one?"
350
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So, welcome.
Welcome to Cocktales.
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Thank you for coming.
352
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Karley: When Tom is not busy
mapping people's vaginas,
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he leads a men's sexuality group
called Cocktales.
354
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Here, men sit around in a circle
355
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and basically share
their insecurities
356
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around the female orgasm.
357
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So twice in the experience
of Cocktales,
358
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we've had women witnesses,
359
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so we're doing a version
of that tonight with Karley
360
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sitting outside the circle
and holding space for us.
361
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So let's just do introductions.
362
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I'll start.
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I'm Tom, and I'm feeling
excited and curious.
364
00:14:29,957 --> 00:14:33,528
I'm Ilio,
and I feel my heart
365
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going a little faster
than normal.
366
00:14:35,296 --> 00:14:37,398
It tells me
I'm a little nervous.
367
00:14:37,432 --> 00:14:38,933
Hi.
My name is Jason,
368
00:14:38,966 --> 00:14:44,439
so I'm feeling a little
sacrificial or something,
369
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not so excited about bearing
some intimate details
370
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of my own insecurities.
371
00:14:50,978 --> 00:14:56,617
Okay, well, I'll come at this
from the, um,
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pretty insecure place.
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I'm happily married.
374
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I had to go through
a lot of stuff
375
00:15:02,823 --> 00:15:06,761
to get to this very average
lover place that I am right now.
376
00:15:06,794 --> 00:15:10,831
I would love to be capable
of helping my wife
377
00:15:10,865 --> 00:15:13,834
have these explosive,
amazing orgasms,
378
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and I feel like
it's on me to step it up.
379
00:15:18,606 --> 00:15:22,009
[ Sighs ]
380
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So I think where I want
to start is kind of like,
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the ego in me wants to be,
of course, pleasing,
382
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and I do feel like a failure
if I've come,
383
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and she has not.
384
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One thing I'm experiencing
is instead of being
385
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that assertive male
presence during sex,
386
00:15:39,627 --> 00:15:44,399
to leave room for
something else to happen,
387
00:15:44,432 --> 00:15:47,702
not being this man that's
there driving the orgasm,
388
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and I know there's, like,
a little part in me
389
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that has to die each time
that I do that.
390
00:15:52,940 --> 00:15:55,009
Yeah.
-Thanks.
391
00:15:55,042 --> 00:15:58,746
She needs to be able to come
to ease my sensitive male ego.
392
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There can be so much
charge and attachment
393
00:16:04,785 --> 00:16:06,554
around a woman's orgasm.
394
00:16:06,587 --> 00:16:10,325
I feel like I've actually,
like, been traumatized.
395
00:16:10,358 --> 00:16:13,761
I don't think there's
anything in my life
396
00:16:13,794 --> 00:16:15,630
that I've spent more time
thinking about
397
00:16:15,663 --> 00:16:17,398
and practicing for
398
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and attempting and still,
at 63 years old,
399
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not knowing anything.
400
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Karley: Should I...
Can I say something?
401
00:16:26,974 --> 00:16:28,743
In the sort of wider culture,
402
00:16:28,776 --> 00:16:31,612
men are expected to be competent
when it comes to sex,
403
00:16:31,646 --> 00:16:34,515
and so the vulnerability
of asking,
404
00:16:34,549 --> 00:16:36,651
like, "What feels good for you?"
or "What am I doing wrong?"
405
00:16:36,684 --> 00:16:38,886
or "How do I do this?"
is, like, "emasculating,"
406
00:16:38,919 --> 00:16:41,422
whereas, of course that's going
to be the primary way
407
00:16:41,456 --> 00:16:44,625
that you would actually find out
how to please somebody,
408
00:16:44,659 --> 00:16:47,662
and then women feel like they
can't ask for what they want
409
00:16:47,695 --> 00:16:49,664
because they don't want to,
410
00:16:49,697 --> 00:16:51,732
you know, hurt
their partner's ego
411
00:16:51,766 --> 00:16:53,434
or make them feel insecure,
412
00:16:53,468 --> 00:16:56,937
and then it creates
this problem of communication.
413
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Tom: Thanks.
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00:16:58,706 --> 00:17:00,708
Like, that's to me what the big
challenge is for men
415
00:17:00,741 --> 00:17:02,477
approaching
the feminine orgasm is,
416
00:17:02,510 --> 00:17:05,513
like, maybe your preconceptions
about what sex is
417
00:17:05,546 --> 00:17:08,816
and who you are
as a man isn't,
418
00:17:08,849 --> 00:17:10,351
maybe, necessarily correct.
419
00:17:10,385 --> 00:17:12,119
Really it's, like, well,
we're talking about
420
00:17:12,152 --> 00:17:14,855
dissolving your identity,
you know, your sexual identity,
421
00:17:14,889 --> 00:17:17,692
which to me is, like,
a huge part of who you are.
422
00:17:17,725 --> 00:17:20,327
That's terrifying.
423
00:17:23,598 --> 00:17:24,899
Karley: I really felt so honored
424
00:17:24,932 --> 00:17:26,634
to be able to sit in
on Cocktales
425
00:17:26,667 --> 00:17:29,737
and watch all these men
talk about female sexuality
426
00:17:29,770 --> 00:17:31,972
and their own pleasure
in this really vulnerable
427
00:17:32,006 --> 00:17:33,941
and sensitive way.
I really --
428
00:17:33,974 --> 00:17:36,877
It tugged on my heartstrings
in a way that I did not expect.
429
00:17:36,911 --> 00:17:42,683
I invite us to end like we have
some circles, if we can stand.
430
00:17:42,717 --> 00:17:45,820
All: Ha!
431
00:17:45,853 --> 00:17:48,723
Karley: I think that what these
men are really acknowledging
432
00:17:48,756 --> 00:17:50,525
is that the female orgasm
is complex,
433
00:17:50,558 --> 00:17:51,992
and it's also,
in a lot of ways,
434
00:17:52,026 --> 00:17:56,163
tied to the ego of the man
who's trying to fuel it,
435
00:17:56,196 --> 00:18:00,868
and I just think
because of that,
436
00:18:00,901 --> 00:18:03,003
the idea of giving a woman
an orgasm on demand
437
00:18:03,037 --> 00:18:07,942
is a really intimidating
task to approach
438
00:18:07,975 --> 00:18:09,744
with both parties
that are involved,
439
00:18:09,777 --> 00:18:11,746
and because of that,
I think that it's gonna
440
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take a really specific
type of man
441
00:18:13,948 --> 00:18:17,685
to want to enter
into that exchange.
442
00:18:17,718 --> 00:18:20,020
How do you make a woman orgasm?
443
00:18:20,054 --> 00:18:21,522
Dr. M.: It's my job
444
00:18:21,556 --> 00:18:23,858
to unlock the mysteries
of each woman's body.
445
00:18:33,167 --> 00:18:38,205
**
446
00:18:38,238 --> 00:18:40,608
So I've been looking
far and wide,
447
00:18:40,641 --> 00:18:42,209
both online and in real life,
448
00:18:42,242 --> 00:18:45,112
for a guy who offers women
the service of a happy ending,
449
00:18:45,145 --> 00:18:47,448
and it's been
really hard to find.
450
00:18:47,482 --> 00:18:50,618
I've found men who offer
the service of companionship
451
00:18:50,651 --> 00:18:54,054
or, you know, sexological
bodywork or therapeutic massage,
452
00:18:54,088 --> 00:18:55,890
but it's been difficult
to find a guy who just says,
453
00:18:55,923 --> 00:18:58,225
"I offer women
an orgasm on demand."
454
00:18:58,258 --> 00:19:01,529
But finally, I got tipped off
to this one guy.
455
00:19:01,562 --> 00:19:03,998
He goes by the name Dr. M.,
456
00:19:04,031 --> 00:19:07,935
and his website is called
"Her Private Pleasures."
457
00:19:07,968 --> 00:19:09,770
He seems to be exactly
what I've been looking for.
458
00:19:09,804 --> 00:19:12,106
He offers a 1-hour service,
459
00:19:12,139 --> 00:19:15,810
which provides erotic touching
and then a happy ending,
460
00:19:15,843 --> 00:19:19,514
so he's literally coming over
to my apartment right now.
461
00:19:19,547 --> 00:19:20,548
[ Horn honks in distance ]
462
00:19:20,581 --> 00:19:23,651
[ Intercom rings ]
463
00:19:23,684 --> 00:19:27,488
[ Door buzzes ]
464
00:19:27,522 --> 00:19:30,725
Unfortunately, because we live
in sex-negative America,
465
00:19:30,758 --> 00:19:33,060
Dr. M. has chosen
to remain anonymous.
466
00:19:33,093 --> 00:19:36,797
[ Knock on door ]
467
00:19:36,831 --> 00:19:38,833
Hey.
Nice to meet you.
468
00:19:38,866 --> 00:19:40,768
-Thanks.
-Come on in.
469
00:19:43,170 --> 00:19:46,974
So, Dr. M., what is
it exactly that you do?
470
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I use sensual touch
to give women pleasure.
471
00:19:49,610 --> 00:19:53,180
For the session,
you lie facedown.
472
00:19:53,213 --> 00:19:54,782
It's not tantra.
473
00:19:54,815 --> 00:19:56,784
There are no spiritual chants
or anything like that,
474
00:19:56,817 --> 00:19:59,554
and there's no expectation
of reciprocation.
475
00:19:59,587 --> 00:20:00,788
Okay.
476
00:20:00,821 --> 00:20:03,123
You may experience
a single orgasm,
477
00:20:03,157 --> 00:20:08,529
multiple orgasms or more
nuanced waves of pleasure.
478
00:20:08,563 --> 00:20:11,632
What kind of women
seek out this service?
479
00:20:11,666 --> 00:20:14,735
Some women are
hard-working professionals.
480
00:20:14,769 --> 00:20:16,270
Some are young moms.
481
00:20:16,303 --> 00:20:19,740
Some are involved
with clueless lovers.
482
00:20:19,774 --> 00:20:21,876
Some are
in sexless marriages,
483
00:20:21,909 --> 00:20:24,211
but don't want to have
the affair,
484
00:20:24,244 --> 00:20:28,549
and others, quite frankly,
are just horny.
485
00:20:28,583 --> 00:20:31,852
[ Laughs ]
Should be fun.
486
00:20:31,886 --> 00:20:34,054
How do you make
a woman orgasm?
487
00:20:34,088 --> 00:20:36,190
All women are different.
488
00:20:36,223 --> 00:20:38,759
Some like a slow
and gentle touch,
489
00:20:38,793 --> 00:20:40,327
others faster and firmer.
490
00:20:40,360 --> 00:20:43,664
Some like internal
stimulation,
491
00:20:43,698 --> 00:20:45,265
others, external.
492
00:20:45,299 --> 00:20:46,701
I go by body language.
493
00:20:46,734 --> 00:20:49,036
It tells me everything
I need to know.
494
00:20:49,069 --> 00:20:54,709
**
495
00:20:54,742 --> 00:20:56,944
-Should I be naked?
-Yes.
496
00:20:56,977 --> 00:21:00,314
-Fully naked or panties?
-Fully.
497
00:21:00,347 --> 00:21:06,020
**
498
00:21:06,053 --> 00:21:08,322
Karley: Well, here we go.
499
00:21:08,355 --> 00:21:18,332
**
500
00:21:18,365 --> 00:21:26,106
**
501
00:21:26,140 --> 00:21:28,943
Actually,
this guy is not bad.
502
00:21:28,976 --> 00:21:38,318
**
503
00:21:38,352 --> 00:21:42,823
I can see this becoming
a regular occurrence
504
00:21:42,857 --> 00:21:44,625
and becoming destructive
to the future
505
00:21:44,659 --> 00:21:47,361
of my romantic relationships.
506
00:21:47,394 --> 00:21:50,698
After searching high and low
and literally inside myself
507
00:21:50,731 --> 00:21:52,332
for a happy ending,
508
00:21:52,366 --> 00:21:55,903
it was clear that when a man
offers sexual services to women,
509
00:21:55,936 --> 00:21:59,239
it's often dressed up
as romance or therapy,
510
00:21:59,273 --> 00:22:01,008
but what I like about Dr. M.
511
00:22:01,041 --> 00:22:02,710
is that he's calling
it like it is,
512
00:22:02,743 --> 00:22:05,245
and that's the biggest
turn-on for me,
513
00:22:05,279 --> 00:22:07,214
even despite the fact
that he's randomly dressed
514
00:22:07,247 --> 00:22:09,850
like a white rapper.
515
00:22:09,884 --> 00:22:11,418
Maybe the current
market of women
516
00:22:11,451 --> 00:22:14,789
looking for transactional
sexual pleasure is niche,
517
00:22:14,822 --> 00:22:17,725
but the fact that these services
are becoming more popular
518
00:22:17,758 --> 00:22:19,760
makes me think that we're
headed toward a future
519
00:22:19,794 --> 00:22:23,664
where women will be free
to be just as desperate as men.
520
00:22:23,698 --> 00:22:28,869
One small orgasm for a woman,
one giant leap for womankind.
521
00:22:28,903 --> 00:22:30,204
Rub you later, sluts.
522
00:22:30,237 --> 00:22:32,439
[ Bell dings ]
523
00:22:32,489 --> 00:22:37,039
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