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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:12,000 What would make this a great experience for you, 2 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:13,369 and what would you like to come out 3 00:00:13,402 --> 00:00:14,603 of the experience with? 4 00:00:14,636 --> 00:00:16,672 I'm looking to come... No, I'm kidding. 5 00:00:16,705 --> 00:00:18,874 I mean, it would be an added bonus, but... 6 00:00:18,907 --> 00:00:21,543 I think you're setting yourself up 7 00:00:21,577 --> 00:00:22,978 for a disappointment. 8 00:00:23,011 --> 00:00:24,646 Okay. Orgasm fail. 9 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:27,082 No orgasms today. 10 00:00:29,117 --> 00:00:34,656 ** 11 00:00:34,690 --> 00:00:37,125 Karley: God, being a mostly straight woman 12 00:00:37,158 --> 00:00:38,727 can be really stressful. 13 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:41,062 For some reason, some men seem to find it hard 14 00:00:41,096 --> 00:00:43,665 to make a woman come, 15 00:00:43,699 --> 00:00:46,668 and I'm sick of dating my vibrator. 16 00:00:46,702 --> 00:00:51,072 I got to thinking, "Why are happy endings available to men 17 00:00:51,106 --> 00:00:53,975 but not to women?" 18 00:00:54,009 --> 00:00:57,446 In the age of Amazon Prime, why is it impossible for a woman 19 00:00:57,479 --> 00:01:01,750 to get an orgasm on demand in this town, right? 20 00:01:01,783 --> 00:01:08,824 ** 21 00:01:08,857 --> 00:01:11,527 According to the Internet, there are over 1,000 22 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:14,430 happy ending massage parlors in New York City alone, 23 00:01:14,463 --> 00:01:17,132 but those are almost exclusively for men. 24 00:01:17,165 --> 00:01:18,900 Unfair. 25 00:01:18,934 --> 00:01:21,470 I wonder if the rest of the ostensibly horny people 26 00:01:21,503 --> 00:01:23,905 in this city agree that the female population 27 00:01:23,939 --> 00:01:26,742 is orgasmically marginalized. 28 00:01:26,775 --> 00:01:30,178 Have either of you ever had a happy ending massage? 29 00:01:30,211 --> 00:01:32,614 No, not at all. 30 00:01:32,648 --> 00:01:33,849 -No. -No. 31 00:01:33,882 --> 00:01:36,151 I've never had a happy ending massage. 32 00:01:36,184 --> 00:01:38,454 Have you ever had a happy ending massage? 33 00:01:38,487 --> 00:01:40,689 [ Whining ] 34 00:01:40,722 --> 00:01:42,424 I don't even know what it means. 35 00:01:42,458 --> 00:01:45,160 Have you ever had a strange woman 36 00:01:45,193 --> 00:01:47,863 that you paid jerk you off at the end of a massage? 37 00:01:47,896 --> 00:01:50,131 I wish I had. Oh, my... 38 00:01:50,165 --> 00:01:52,568 I'm looking to get one. 39 00:01:52,601 --> 00:01:54,202 How do you jerk off a woman? 40 00:01:54,235 --> 00:01:56,705 Have you ever had a happy ending massage? 41 00:01:56,738 --> 00:01:58,907 I have, actually. It was very clinical. 42 00:01:58,940 --> 00:02:00,008 -Oh, really? -Yeah. 43 00:02:00,041 --> 00:02:01,510 I was just... It was very, like... 44 00:02:01,543 --> 00:02:03,211 It wasn't very sexual. 45 00:02:03,244 --> 00:02:04,880 From what I understand, it's, like, 46 00:02:04,913 --> 00:02:06,548 if they massage your shoulder. They'll massage your dick. 47 00:02:06,582 --> 00:02:07,983 -Yeah. -Like, that's about it. 48 00:02:08,016 --> 00:02:09,451 Do you think it can be the same way for women, 49 00:02:09,485 --> 00:02:10,819 and that women could just go in 50 00:02:10,852 --> 00:02:13,221 and get a sort of mechanical handjob 51 00:02:13,254 --> 00:02:15,123 and feel better afterwards? 52 00:02:15,156 --> 00:02:16,858 I feel like most women 53 00:02:16,892 --> 00:02:19,461 are kind of, like, sapiosexual. 54 00:02:19,495 --> 00:02:21,630 Like, it's not just the cock they want. 55 00:02:21,663 --> 00:02:23,064 Like, there's something beyond that. 56 00:02:23,098 --> 00:02:24,866 -Cock and brain. -That's cock and brain. 57 00:02:24,900 --> 00:02:26,167 Yeah. 58 00:02:26,201 --> 00:02:27,936 Women just aren't agreeable to being like, 59 00:02:27,969 --> 00:02:30,939 "Hey. Finger me and then I'm gonna leave." 60 00:02:30,972 --> 00:02:33,174 There definitely is a social stigma 61 00:02:33,208 --> 00:02:35,176 that women can't explore their sexuality 62 00:02:35,210 --> 00:02:36,912 in ways that men can. 63 00:02:36,945 --> 00:02:38,914 Yeah, like, in the name of gender equality, 64 00:02:38,947 --> 00:02:40,849 I feel like we should be able 65 00:02:40,882 --> 00:02:42,851 to get orgasms from strangers. 66 00:02:42,884 --> 00:02:44,986 -Exactly. -I'm looking to find one. 67 00:02:45,020 --> 00:02:46,955 I hope you find your happy ending. 68 00:02:46,988 --> 00:02:48,624 Thank you. 69 00:02:48,657 --> 00:02:50,125 Karley: It seems that most people don't think women 70 00:02:50,158 --> 00:02:51,827 are interested in happy endings, 71 00:02:51,860 --> 00:02:54,830 but I am, and I can't be the only one. 72 00:02:54,863 --> 00:02:56,498 Thankfully, I discovered a website 73 00:02:56,532 --> 00:02:57,899 called Cowboys and Angels, 74 00:02:57,933 --> 00:03:00,836 which offers professional male escorts for hire, 75 00:03:00,869 --> 00:03:03,505 so, in search of the transactional orgasm 76 00:03:03,539 --> 00:03:05,941 of my dreams, I booked an hour with Ash, 77 00:03:05,974 --> 00:03:07,576 a hunky male companion with hair longer 78 00:03:07,609 --> 00:03:10,011 and shinier than mine. 79 00:03:13,615 --> 00:03:14,783 Hi. Hey. 80 00:03:14,816 --> 00:03:16,117 Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you. 81 00:03:16,151 --> 00:03:17,853 -Karley, right? -You look great. Yeah. 82 00:03:17,886 --> 00:03:21,189 Ash. 83 00:03:21,222 --> 00:03:23,191 I want to see you get ready. 84 00:03:23,224 --> 00:03:24,826 Yeah? All right. Cool. 85 00:03:24,860 --> 00:03:26,127 How long have you been an escort? 86 00:03:26,161 --> 00:03:27,128 Five years. 87 00:03:27,162 --> 00:03:28,797 Do you like it? 88 00:03:28,830 --> 00:03:30,198 I do. I love it. 89 00:03:30,231 --> 00:03:31,733 At the end of the day, 90 00:03:31,767 --> 00:03:34,002 it's all about connecting with somebody. 91 00:03:34,035 --> 00:03:35,771 Right. And looking good. 92 00:03:35,804 --> 00:03:37,005 Well, yeah. 93 00:03:37,038 --> 00:03:38,940 You definitely got to look decent. 94 00:03:38,974 --> 00:03:40,609 -Yeah, yeah. -Yeah. 95 00:03:40,642 --> 00:03:44,079 And when people pay for your services, 96 00:03:44,112 --> 00:03:45,280 is sex guaranteed? 97 00:03:45,313 --> 00:03:47,749 Not at all. Not at all. 98 00:03:47,783 --> 00:03:51,152 It's strictly for our time. Yeah. 99 00:03:51,186 --> 00:03:54,723 But if you feel like the date is going well 100 00:03:54,756 --> 00:03:56,024 and you're getting along with someone, 101 00:03:56,057 --> 00:03:57,893 you could choose to sleep with them? 102 00:03:57,926 --> 00:03:59,795 I will say, things can get very romantic. 103 00:03:59,828 --> 00:04:01,630 It's like a normal date, like, nothing is guaranteed. 104 00:04:01,663 --> 00:04:03,865 -Exactly. Exactly. -Yeah. 105 00:04:03,899 --> 00:04:06,802 So, like, I have to work a little harder, too. 106 00:04:06,835 --> 00:04:08,036 Yeah. 107 00:04:08,069 --> 00:04:09,170 Okay, should we go? 108 00:04:09,204 --> 00:04:12,207 -All right. Let's do it. -Yeah. 109 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:14,109 Karley: Even though I wasn't definitely going to get my happy ending, 110 00:04:14,142 --> 00:04:16,912 I was excited to get day drunk with my overpriced arm candy 111 00:04:16,945 --> 00:04:19,180 and pretend not to be staring at his pecs. 112 00:04:19,214 --> 00:04:22,684 How much does it cost to spend a day with you? 113 00:04:22,718 --> 00:04:24,052 $4,500. 114 00:04:24,085 --> 00:04:25,754 That's not cheap. 115 00:04:25,787 --> 00:04:28,356 I guess, but worth it. 116 00:04:28,389 --> 00:04:30,826 True. I think so. 117 00:04:30,859 --> 00:04:32,661 So what's the protocol when you're out in public 118 00:04:32,694 --> 00:04:34,195 with someone, like, can I... 119 00:04:34,229 --> 00:04:35,931 Am I allowed to touch you, or what? 120 00:04:35,964 --> 00:04:38,233 It's very much like a boyfriend-girlfriend experience, 121 00:04:38,266 --> 00:04:40,969 so, yeah, like, generally, like, 122 00:04:41,002 --> 00:04:42,938 I'll be walking like this 123 00:04:42,971 --> 00:04:45,206 or I'll have my arm out, like, you know? 124 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:47,676 -Yeah. Yeah. -It's casual and natural. 125 00:04:47,709 --> 00:04:50,712 Okay. 126 00:04:50,746 --> 00:04:52,313 Thank you. -You're welcome. 127 00:04:52,347 --> 00:04:54,382 I like the gentlemanly touch. 128 00:04:54,415 --> 00:04:57,018 Cheers. -Cheers. 129 00:05:00,856 --> 00:05:02,824 Who is your typical client? 130 00:05:02,858 --> 00:05:06,962 The general age demographic will be between 30 and 40. 131 00:05:06,995 --> 00:05:09,164 You get a lot of high-powered businesswomen 132 00:05:09,197 --> 00:05:11,166 who just don't have time for bullshit, 133 00:05:11,199 --> 00:05:13,969 so they're looking for a good date experience, 134 00:05:14,002 --> 00:05:16,204 somebody they can have a great time with 135 00:05:16,237 --> 00:05:18,339 and just no strings attached. 136 00:05:18,373 --> 00:05:22,878 Women generally are looking to feel special 137 00:05:22,911 --> 00:05:24,379 and feel like I'm actually listening to them. 138 00:05:24,412 --> 00:05:26,281 I actually care about who they are 139 00:05:26,314 --> 00:05:27,382 or what they're into. 140 00:05:27,415 --> 00:05:29,084 But I feel like 141 00:05:29,117 --> 00:05:30,385 we're having a really nice, genuine conversation, 142 00:05:30,418 --> 00:05:31,987 and this idea that, you know, like, 143 00:05:32,020 --> 00:05:33,655 if you're paying for someone to pay attention to you, 144 00:05:33,689 --> 00:05:34,923 that that's sad. 145 00:05:34,956 --> 00:05:37,125 It's, like, well, I pay a therapist. 146 00:05:37,158 --> 00:05:38,126 Like, why is it different? 147 00:05:38,159 --> 00:05:40,261 Yeah. That's true. 148 00:05:40,295 --> 00:05:41,429 You know, I actually pay so many people 149 00:05:41,462 --> 00:05:42,931 to pay attention to me. 150 00:05:42,964 --> 00:05:44,666 I have, like, a trainer, a therapist, like, 151 00:05:44,700 --> 00:05:45,967 a yoga instructor. 152 00:05:46,001 --> 00:05:47,235 Like, literally, I just pay people 153 00:05:47,268 --> 00:05:48,904 to be around me all day, basically. 154 00:05:48,937 --> 00:05:52,007 I mean, this is fun for me. 155 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:53,141 Do you ever find yourself really attracted 156 00:05:53,174 --> 00:05:54,442 to the person 157 00:05:54,475 --> 00:05:55,911 and end up having a lot of fun, like, 158 00:05:55,944 --> 00:05:58,246 and you just even forget that it's a service? 159 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:00,248 I will say I do have a lot of fun, 160 00:06:00,281 --> 00:06:03,184 but I never forget it's a service. 161 00:06:03,218 --> 00:06:06,021 -Okay, so it's a job? -Yes. 162 00:06:06,054 --> 00:06:08,857 It's definitely a job. 163 00:06:08,890 --> 00:06:12,160 What I'm looking for is, I'm interested in the idea 164 00:06:12,193 --> 00:06:14,896 of just having a happy ending, right? 165 00:06:14,930 --> 00:06:18,333 I just feel like guys get that and it's just interesting 166 00:06:18,366 --> 00:06:20,001 that it doesn't feel like there 167 00:06:20,035 --> 00:06:21,903 is a service out there for women who just, 168 00:06:21,937 --> 00:06:23,371 like, want to get off. 169 00:06:23,404 --> 00:06:25,440 I get it, and I really think there should be a service 170 00:06:25,473 --> 00:06:26,975 because it could be done 171 00:06:27,008 --> 00:06:29,310 in a very therapeutic way and a safe way. 172 00:06:29,344 --> 00:06:32,914 Who doesn't want that, like, having an amazing massage 173 00:06:32,948 --> 00:06:34,883 and have all parts of your body massaged 174 00:06:34,916 --> 00:06:37,452 and finishing off with a nice orgasm? 175 00:06:37,485 --> 00:06:38,954 Sounds pretty amazing to me. 176 00:06:38,987 --> 00:06:40,889 Do you think that there's more women 177 00:06:40,922 --> 00:06:42,390 who are willing to pay for it, 178 00:06:42,423 --> 00:06:44,425 whether it be for an orgasm or for companionship, 179 00:06:44,459 --> 00:06:47,062 than people think? -Big time. 180 00:06:47,095 --> 00:06:48,930 When I started working, there was 20 guys in the agency. 181 00:06:48,964 --> 00:06:51,099 Now there's over 60 guys at the agency, 182 00:06:51,132 --> 00:06:53,769 and I feel like there was a need for it, 183 00:06:53,802 --> 00:06:55,470 and suddenly it's there. 184 00:06:55,503 --> 00:06:57,072 I would assume that there has to be multiple factors, right? 185 00:06:57,105 --> 00:06:59,307 One has to be that women are making more money, 186 00:06:59,340 --> 00:07:03,011 but I also think that, in terms of female sexual agency, 187 00:07:03,044 --> 00:07:04,813 we've come a long way in recent years. 188 00:07:04,846 --> 00:07:06,281 Yeah, definitely. 189 00:07:06,314 --> 00:07:07,816 I think it comes more from an empowered point of view. 190 00:07:07,849 --> 00:07:10,051 They don't care what anybody else thinks. 191 00:07:10,085 --> 00:07:11,987 Cheers. 192 00:07:12,020 --> 00:07:13,789 Karley: Wow. I was having so much fun. 193 00:07:13,822 --> 00:07:17,358 I almost forgot it wasn't a real date until the check came. 194 00:07:17,392 --> 00:07:19,928 I'm picking up the check, right? 195 00:07:19,961 --> 00:07:22,263 -Yes. -It's okay. 196 00:07:22,297 --> 00:07:25,533 I'm empowered. 197 00:07:25,566 --> 00:07:27,102 I really enjoyed my time with Ash. 198 00:07:27,135 --> 00:07:28,870 I thought he was so charming, 199 00:07:28,904 --> 00:07:30,205 but what I learned from this experience 200 00:07:30,238 --> 00:07:32,040 is that paying for a male escort, 201 00:07:32,073 --> 00:07:34,109 there's just a huge time commitment. 202 00:07:34,142 --> 00:07:39,247 It's not really that guarantee of an orgasm on demand. 203 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:41,316 You're just paying for someone's time, 204 00:07:41,349 --> 00:07:43,184 but I thought that it was interesting 205 00:07:43,218 --> 00:07:46,254 that he said that there's a huge increase in the amount of women 206 00:07:46,287 --> 00:07:48,189 who are willing to assert themselves 207 00:07:48,223 --> 00:07:51,126 and what they want sexually and to pay for male companionship, 208 00:07:51,159 --> 00:07:52,894 and that makes me think that if I dig a little deeper 209 00:07:52,928 --> 00:07:54,162 that I might be able to find someone 210 00:07:54,195 --> 00:07:56,164 who's offering women 211 00:07:56,197 --> 00:07:58,533 a transactional orgasm on demand. 212 00:07:58,566 --> 00:08:00,001 It's got to be out there. 213 00:08:00,035 --> 00:08:01,870 Fully naked or panties? 214 00:08:01,903 --> 00:08:03,939 I feel like I've actually, like, been traumatized. 215 00:08:03,972 --> 00:08:06,942 Do you trust these hands to touch you? 216 00:08:12,413 --> 00:08:17,518 ** 217 00:08:17,552 --> 00:08:19,154 Karley: After my male escort fail, 218 00:08:19,187 --> 00:08:21,156 I needed to try a different approach, 219 00:08:21,189 --> 00:08:23,191 something a little more free love. 220 00:08:23,224 --> 00:08:25,593 Thankfully, I discovered a man in San Francisco 221 00:08:25,626 --> 00:08:28,296 who claims to be a guru of female pleasure. 222 00:08:28,329 --> 00:08:30,832 In order words, a vagina whisperer. 223 00:08:30,866 --> 00:08:32,033 Tom: I've got my pussy puppet here. 224 00:08:32,067 --> 00:08:33,501 Can we do the pussy puppet thing? 225 00:08:33,534 --> 00:08:36,872 -This is very scientific. -Yes. 226 00:08:36,905 --> 00:08:40,275 This is a very scientific puppet. 227 00:08:40,308 --> 00:08:43,111 Tom, who is a sexological bodyworker, 228 00:08:43,144 --> 00:08:47,082 operates in this gray space where he uses massage 229 00:08:47,115 --> 00:08:49,617 and sensual touching to help women 230 00:08:49,650 --> 00:08:51,552 to understand their own bodies and their own pleasure, 231 00:08:51,586 --> 00:08:55,290 while also feeding them pleasure. 232 00:08:55,323 --> 00:08:57,558 So we're talking about self-knowledge here, 233 00:08:57,592 --> 00:09:00,395 and we want to know what your parts are 234 00:09:00,428 --> 00:09:03,198 and agree on the language we're using. 235 00:09:03,231 --> 00:09:07,068 Inner lips, outer lips, vestibular bulbs, 236 00:09:07,102 --> 00:09:10,205 urethral sponge, perineal sponge, 237 00:09:10,238 --> 00:09:12,941 clitoral hood and clitoris. 238 00:09:12,974 --> 00:09:14,475 The G-spot. 239 00:09:14,509 --> 00:09:17,378 Actually, yeah, the G-spot, right...Feel it. 240 00:09:17,412 --> 00:09:20,315 It has little ridges on it, 241 00:09:20,348 --> 00:09:23,418 just like the urethral sponge. 242 00:09:23,451 --> 00:09:25,286 What would make this a great experience for you, 243 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:29,090 and what would you like to come out of the experience with? 244 00:09:29,124 --> 00:09:31,292 I'm looking to come... No, I'm kidding. 245 00:09:31,326 --> 00:09:33,494 I mean, it would be an added bonus, but... 246 00:09:33,528 --> 00:09:36,564 I appreciate your vulnerability 247 00:09:36,597 --> 00:09:38,967 you're expressing there. 248 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:43,071 If you have the expectation or even the desire 249 00:09:43,104 --> 00:09:46,007 to have an orgasm during this session, 250 00:09:46,041 --> 00:09:49,110 I think you're setting yourself up for a disappointment. 251 00:09:49,144 --> 00:09:52,113 Let's put that one totally off the table and make it a rule, 252 00:09:52,147 --> 00:09:54,983 actually, and say, "No orgasms today." 253 00:09:55,016 --> 00:09:56,217 Okay. 254 00:09:56,251 --> 00:09:57,452 That's not what we're gonna do. 255 00:09:57,485 --> 00:09:59,454 Karley: Shit. Why am I here again? 256 00:09:59,487 --> 00:10:05,293 Women sometimes come to me wanting... 257 00:10:05,326 --> 00:10:08,129 I call it a yoni massage... 258 00:10:08,163 --> 00:10:10,531 yoni, the tantric word for sacred temple. 259 00:10:10,565 --> 00:10:12,500 Yeah. 260 00:10:12,533 --> 00:10:14,702 They'll just come and say, "I want a yoni massage 261 00:10:14,735 --> 00:10:17,272 and I want an orgasm. Give it to me." 262 00:10:17,305 --> 00:10:20,508 I used to offer that kind of service right away, 263 00:10:20,541 --> 00:10:22,677 and then I discovered that, really, 264 00:10:22,710 --> 00:10:24,212 it was counterproductive, 265 00:10:24,245 --> 00:10:27,983 that we might make a huge gain in the beginning, 266 00:10:28,016 --> 00:10:30,285 but then it just would fizzle. 267 00:10:30,318 --> 00:10:32,487 So what is the process, exactly? 268 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:35,490 The first session in sexological bodywork 269 00:10:35,523 --> 00:10:38,259 would be exploring why they're there 270 00:10:38,293 --> 00:10:40,328 and what their issues are. 271 00:10:40,361 --> 00:10:41,963 If they're really ready for it, 272 00:10:41,997 --> 00:10:44,265 the second session would be a standard massage, 273 00:10:44,299 --> 00:10:46,067 getting comfortable with each other, 274 00:10:46,101 --> 00:10:47,402 and then the third session, 275 00:10:47,435 --> 00:10:49,270 if everything is going smoothly, 276 00:10:49,304 --> 00:10:52,673 we might go right to a vaginal mapping experience 277 00:10:52,707 --> 00:10:54,342 or a yoni massage. 278 00:10:54,375 --> 00:10:56,511 Do you think that the reason that women eventually 279 00:10:56,544 --> 00:10:58,246 do feel comfortable coming to you is 280 00:10:58,279 --> 00:11:01,082 because there is a therapeutic element? 281 00:11:01,116 --> 00:11:02,450 Oh, sure. 282 00:11:02,483 --> 00:11:04,252 Yeah, and oftentimes, because of our upbringing, 283 00:11:04,285 --> 00:11:06,721 because of the culture we live in, 284 00:11:06,754 --> 00:11:09,390 which is really a sex-negative culture, 285 00:11:09,424 --> 00:11:11,259 because of the conditioning we've had mostly 286 00:11:11,292 --> 00:11:13,561 from religious... 287 00:11:13,594 --> 00:11:18,333 particularly the Christian background... 288 00:11:18,366 --> 00:11:21,169 we are whole except our genitals. 289 00:11:21,202 --> 00:11:24,639 Sexological bodywork is about being alive, 290 00:11:24,672 --> 00:11:28,476 totally alive in our bodies. 291 00:11:28,509 --> 00:11:30,445 So should we do the vaginal mapping? 292 00:11:30,478 --> 00:11:32,480 Yeah. I want to map my vagina. 293 00:11:32,513 --> 00:11:35,183 This is the more intimate part, 294 00:11:35,216 --> 00:11:38,519 and so I wanted you to take my hands in yours here. 295 00:11:38,553 --> 00:11:40,688 -Mm-hmm. -I wanted to make sure that... 296 00:11:40,721 --> 00:11:42,457 You know, we're doing this for TV... 297 00:11:42,490 --> 00:11:45,026 that you're choosing this for you. 298 00:11:45,060 --> 00:11:47,162 Do you trust these hands to touch you? 299 00:11:47,195 --> 00:11:49,164 -I'm down. -We can...You're down? 300 00:11:49,197 --> 00:11:50,565 -I'm down. Yeah. -Okay. 301 00:11:50,598 --> 00:11:53,401 Get under the sheet with your head right here. 302 00:11:53,434 --> 00:11:57,105 Tom: Vaginal mapping is a process 303 00:11:57,138 --> 00:12:00,141 of learning about your vagina, 304 00:12:00,175 --> 00:12:07,282 me going in and touching different parts of the yoni 305 00:12:07,315 --> 00:12:11,652 and doing a scale of 1 to 3 on the positive side 306 00:12:11,686 --> 00:12:13,521 or 1 to 3 on the negative side, 307 00:12:13,554 --> 00:12:16,157 getting feedback from you of what's pleasurable, 308 00:12:16,191 --> 00:12:18,193 what's painful, what's irritating. 309 00:12:18,226 --> 00:12:19,527 Karley: I would say that's a negative one 310 00:12:19,560 --> 00:12:20,595 because that makes me feel 311 00:12:20,628 --> 00:12:21,662 like I'm gonna pee my pants. 312 00:12:21,696 --> 00:12:22,830 Mm-hmm. 313 00:12:22,863 --> 00:12:26,334 When I move a little bit forward... 314 00:12:26,367 --> 00:12:27,668 Maybe, like, a zero. 315 00:12:27,702 --> 00:12:29,070 Mm-hmm. 316 00:12:29,104 --> 00:12:32,140 Forward still. 317 00:12:32,173 --> 00:12:33,374 Zero. 318 00:12:33,408 --> 00:12:36,611 So the point is for me 319 00:12:36,644 --> 00:12:38,213 to learn in this sort of slow 320 00:12:38,246 --> 00:12:41,549 and controlled setting where feels good. 321 00:12:41,582 --> 00:12:42,817 Exactly. 322 00:12:42,850 --> 00:12:44,119 Where there's no pressure to perform 323 00:12:44,152 --> 00:12:46,154 or to get anywhere or whatever. 324 00:12:46,187 --> 00:12:49,690 We're just on, like, a Lewis and Clark mapping expedition. 325 00:12:49,724 --> 00:12:51,692 We're crossing the Missouri 326 00:12:51,726 --> 00:12:54,362 and heading up into the wild country. 327 00:12:54,395 --> 00:12:56,131 Karley: I knew there was a therapeutic component 328 00:12:56,164 --> 00:12:57,798 to sexological bodywork, 329 00:12:57,832 --> 00:13:01,202 but this feels a bit OB/GYN-esque. 330 00:13:01,236 --> 00:13:02,570 I assume that for some women, 331 00:13:02,603 --> 00:13:04,405 the medical component makes being touched 332 00:13:04,439 --> 00:13:06,474 by a man in this way more approachable, 333 00:13:06,507 --> 00:13:09,510 but I'm personally not looking for therapeutic hand-holding. 334 00:13:09,544 --> 00:13:11,146 What's the number? 335 00:13:11,179 --> 00:13:13,614 Like, 1, 2.5, 3. 336 00:13:13,648 --> 00:13:16,617 I don't...I mean, is 3, like, crazy? 337 00:13:16,651 --> 00:13:18,786 And honestly, how am I supposed to try to come 338 00:13:18,819 --> 00:13:21,222 while you're asking me to do literal math? 339 00:13:21,256 --> 00:13:23,258 Oh, no. 340 00:13:32,433 --> 00:13:34,169 Tom: The female orgasm, 341 00:13:34,202 --> 00:13:35,603 it's not even in the same category 342 00:13:35,636 --> 00:13:37,372 as the male orgasm. 343 00:13:37,405 --> 00:13:39,374 It's a mystery, ultimately. 344 00:13:39,407 --> 00:13:42,343 It's like God or something, you know? 345 00:13:42,377 --> 00:13:44,412 You approach it with humility. 346 00:13:44,445 --> 00:13:47,348 Karley: Two strikes on my quest for a happy ending. 347 00:13:47,382 --> 00:13:48,783 It got me thinking, 348 00:13:48,816 --> 00:13:51,419 "What's so damn difficult about the female orgasm 349 00:13:51,452 --> 00:13:55,356 that makes even professionals shy away from promising one?" 350 00:13:55,390 --> 00:13:57,625 So, welcome. Welcome to Cocktales. 351 00:13:57,658 --> 00:13:59,327 Thank you for coming. 352 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:01,496 Karley: When Tom is not busy mapping people's vaginas, 353 00:14:01,529 --> 00:14:04,532 he leads a men's sexuality group called Cocktales. 354 00:14:04,565 --> 00:14:06,534 Here, men sit around in a circle 355 00:14:06,567 --> 00:14:08,369 and basically share their insecurities 356 00:14:08,403 --> 00:14:09,704 around the female orgasm. 357 00:14:09,737 --> 00:14:12,473 So twice in the experience of Cocktales, 358 00:14:12,507 --> 00:14:14,909 we've had women witnesses, 359 00:14:14,942 --> 00:14:18,713 so we're doing a version of that tonight with Karley 360 00:14:18,746 --> 00:14:21,416 sitting outside the circle and holding space for us. 361 00:14:21,449 --> 00:14:23,518 So let's just do introductions. 362 00:14:23,551 --> 00:14:24,885 I'll start. 363 00:14:24,919 --> 00:14:29,924 I'm Tom, and I'm feeling excited and curious. 364 00:14:29,957 --> 00:14:33,528 I'm Ilio, and I feel my heart 365 00:14:33,561 --> 00:14:35,263 going a little faster than normal. 366 00:14:35,296 --> 00:14:37,398 It tells me I'm a little nervous. 367 00:14:37,432 --> 00:14:38,933 Hi. My name is Jason, 368 00:14:38,966 --> 00:14:44,439 so I'm feeling a little sacrificial or something, 369 00:14:44,472 --> 00:14:49,210 not so excited about bearing some intimate details 370 00:14:49,244 --> 00:14:50,945 of my own insecurities. 371 00:14:50,978 --> 00:14:56,617 Okay, well, I'll come at this from the, um, 372 00:14:56,651 --> 00:14:59,754 pretty insecure place. 373 00:14:59,787 --> 00:15:00,988 I'm happily married. 374 00:15:01,021 --> 00:15:02,790 I had to go through a lot of stuff 375 00:15:02,823 --> 00:15:06,761 to get to this very average lover place that I am right now. 376 00:15:06,794 --> 00:15:10,831 I would love to be capable of helping my wife 377 00:15:10,865 --> 00:15:13,834 have these explosive, amazing orgasms, 378 00:15:13,868 --> 00:15:18,573 and I feel like it's on me to step it up. 379 00:15:18,606 --> 00:15:22,009 [ Sighs ] 380 00:15:22,042 --> 00:15:23,978 So I think where I want to start is kind of like, 381 00:15:24,011 --> 00:15:27,782 the ego in me wants to be, of course, pleasing, 382 00:15:27,815 --> 00:15:30,585 and I do feel like a failure if I've come, 383 00:15:30,618 --> 00:15:32,453 and she has not. 384 00:15:32,487 --> 00:15:35,423 One thing I'm experiencing is instead of being 385 00:15:35,456 --> 00:15:39,594 that assertive male presence during sex, 386 00:15:39,627 --> 00:15:44,399 to leave room for something else to happen, 387 00:15:44,432 --> 00:15:47,702 not being this man that's there driving the orgasm, 388 00:15:47,735 --> 00:15:49,537 and I know there's, like, a little part in me 389 00:15:49,570 --> 00:15:52,907 that has to die each time that I do that. 390 00:15:52,940 --> 00:15:55,009 Yeah. -Thanks. 391 00:15:55,042 --> 00:15:58,746 She needs to be able to come to ease my sensitive male ego. 392 00:15:58,779 --> 00:16:04,752 There can be so much charge and attachment 393 00:16:04,785 --> 00:16:06,554 around a woman's orgasm. 394 00:16:06,587 --> 00:16:10,325 I feel like I've actually, like, been traumatized. 395 00:16:10,358 --> 00:16:13,761 I don't think there's anything in my life 396 00:16:13,794 --> 00:16:15,630 that I've spent more time thinking about 397 00:16:15,663 --> 00:16:17,398 and practicing for 398 00:16:17,432 --> 00:16:22,002 and attempting and still, at 63 years old, 399 00:16:22,036 --> 00:16:24,972 not knowing anything. 400 00:16:25,005 --> 00:16:26,941 Karley: Should I... Can I say something? 401 00:16:26,974 --> 00:16:28,743 In the sort of wider culture, 402 00:16:28,776 --> 00:16:31,612 men are expected to be competent when it comes to sex, 403 00:16:31,646 --> 00:16:34,515 and so the vulnerability of asking, 404 00:16:34,549 --> 00:16:36,651 like, "What feels good for you?" or "What am I doing wrong?" 405 00:16:36,684 --> 00:16:38,886 or "How do I do this?" is, like, "emasculating," 406 00:16:38,919 --> 00:16:41,422 whereas, of course that's going to be the primary way 407 00:16:41,456 --> 00:16:44,625 that you would actually find out how to please somebody, 408 00:16:44,659 --> 00:16:47,662 and then women feel like they can't ask for what they want 409 00:16:47,695 --> 00:16:49,664 because they don't want to, 410 00:16:49,697 --> 00:16:51,732 you know, hurt their partner's ego 411 00:16:51,766 --> 00:16:53,434 or make them feel insecure, 412 00:16:53,468 --> 00:16:56,937 and then it creates this problem of communication. 413 00:16:56,971 --> 00:16:58,673 Tom: Thanks. 414 00:16:58,706 --> 00:17:00,708 Like, that's to me what the big challenge is for men 415 00:17:00,741 --> 00:17:02,477 approaching the feminine orgasm is, 416 00:17:02,510 --> 00:17:05,513 like, maybe your preconceptions about what sex is 417 00:17:05,546 --> 00:17:08,816 and who you are as a man isn't, 418 00:17:08,849 --> 00:17:10,351 maybe, necessarily correct. 419 00:17:10,385 --> 00:17:12,119 Really it's, like, well, we're talking about 420 00:17:12,152 --> 00:17:14,855 dissolving your identity, you know, your sexual identity, 421 00:17:14,889 --> 00:17:17,692 which to me is, like, a huge part of who you are. 422 00:17:17,725 --> 00:17:20,327 That's terrifying. 423 00:17:23,598 --> 00:17:24,899 Karley: I really felt so honored 424 00:17:24,932 --> 00:17:26,634 to be able to sit in on Cocktales 425 00:17:26,667 --> 00:17:29,737 and watch all these men talk about female sexuality 426 00:17:29,770 --> 00:17:31,972 and their own pleasure in this really vulnerable 427 00:17:32,006 --> 00:17:33,941 and sensitive way. I really -- 428 00:17:33,974 --> 00:17:36,877 It tugged on my heartstrings in a way that I did not expect. 429 00:17:36,911 --> 00:17:42,683 I invite us to end like we have some circles, if we can stand. 430 00:17:42,717 --> 00:17:45,820 All: Ha! 431 00:17:45,853 --> 00:17:48,723 Karley: I think that what these men are really acknowledging 432 00:17:48,756 --> 00:17:50,525 is that the female orgasm is complex, 433 00:17:50,558 --> 00:17:51,992 and it's also, in a lot of ways, 434 00:17:52,026 --> 00:17:56,163 tied to the ego of the man who's trying to fuel it, 435 00:17:56,196 --> 00:18:00,868 and I just think because of that, 436 00:18:00,901 --> 00:18:03,003 the idea of giving a woman an orgasm on demand 437 00:18:03,037 --> 00:18:07,942 is a really intimidating task to approach 438 00:18:07,975 --> 00:18:09,744 with both parties that are involved, 439 00:18:09,777 --> 00:18:11,746 and because of that, I think that it's gonna 440 00:18:11,779 --> 00:18:13,914 take a really specific type of man 441 00:18:13,948 --> 00:18:17,685 to want to enter into that exchange. 442 00:18:17,718 --> 00:18:20,020 How do you make a woman orgasm? 443 00:18:20,054 --> 00:18:21,522 Dr. M.: It's my job 444 00:18:21,556 --> 00:18:23,858 to unlock the mysteries of each woman's body. 445 00:18:33,167 --> 00:18:38,205 ** 446 00:18:38,238 --> 00:18:40,608 So I've been looking far and wide, 447 00:18:40,641 --> 00:18:42,209 both online and in real life, 448 00:18:42,242 --> 00:18:45,112 for a guy who offers women the service of a happy ending, 449 00:18:45,145 --> 00:18:47,448 and it's been really hard to find. 450 00:18:47,482 --> 00:18:50,618 I've found men who offer the service of companionship 451 00:18:50,651 --> 00:18:54,054 or, you know, sexological bodywork or therapeutic massage, 452 00:18:54,088 --> 00:18:55,890 but it's been difficult to find a guy who just says, 453 00:18:55,923 --> 00:18:58,225 "I offer women an orgasm on demand." 454 00:18:58,258 --> 00:19:01,529 But finally, I got tipped off to this one guy. 455 00:19:01,562 --> 00:19:03,998 He goes by the name Dr. M., 456 00:19:04,031 --> 00:19:07,935 and his website is called "Her Private Pleasures." 457 00:19:07,968 --> 00:19:09,770 He seems to be exactly what I've been looking for. 458 00:19:09,804 --> 00:19:12,106 He offers a 1-hour service, 459 00:19:12,139 --> 00:19:15,810 which provides erotic touching and then a happy ending, 460 00:19:15,843 --> 00:19:19,514 so he's literally coming over to my apartment right now. 461 00:19:19,547 --> 00:19:20,548 [ Horn honks in distance ] 462 00:19:20,581 --> 00:19:23,651 [ Intercom rings ] 463 00:19:23,684 --> 00:19:27,488 [ Door buzzes ] 464 00:19:27,522 --> 00:19:30,725 Unfortunately, because we live in sex-negative America, 465 00:19:30,758 --> 00:19:33,060 Dr. M. has chosen to remain anonymous. 466 00:19:33,093 --> 00:19:36,797 [ Knock on door ] 467 00:19:36,831 --> 00:19:38,833 Hey. Nice to meet you. 468 00:19:38,866 --> 00:19:40,768 -Thanks. -Come on in. 469 00:19:43,170 --> 00:19:46,974 So, Dr. M., what is it exactly that you do? 470 00:19:47,007 --> 00:19:49,577 I use sensual touch to give women pleasure. 471 00:19:49,610 --> 00:19:53,180 For the session, you lie facedown. 472 00:19:53,213 --> 00:19:54,782 It's not tantra. 473 00:19:54,815 --> 00:19:56,784 There are no spiritual chants or anything like that, 474 00:19:56,817 --> 00:19:59,554 and there's no expectation of reciprocation. 475 00:19:59,587 --> 00:20:00,788 Okay. 476 00:20:00,821 --> 00:20:03,123 You may experience a single orgasm, 477 00:20:03,157 --> 00:20:08,529 multiple orgasms or more nuanced waves of pleasure. 478 00:20:08,563 --> 00:20:11,632 What kind of women seek out this service? 479 00:20:11,666 --> 00:20:14,735 Some women are hard-working professionals. 480 00:20:14,769 --> 00:20:16,270 Some are young moms. 481 00:20:16,303 --> 00:20:19,740 Some are involved with clueless lovers. 482 00:20:19,774 --> 00:20:21,876 Some are in sexless marriages, 483 00:20:21,909 --> 00:20:24,211 but don't want to have the affair, 484 00:20:24,244 --> 00:20:28,549 and others, quite frankly, are just horny. 485 00:20:28,583 --> 00:20:31,852 [ Laughs ] Should be fun. 486 00:20:31,886 --> 00:20:34,054 How do you make a woman orgasm? 487 00:20:34,088 --> 00:20:36,190 All women are different. 488 00:20:36,223 --> 00:20:38,759 Some like a slow and gentle touch, 489 00:20:38,793 --> 00:20:40,327 others faster and firmer. 490 00:20:40,360 --> 00:20:43,664 Some like internal stimulation, 491 00:20:43,698 --> 00:20:45,265 others, external. 492 00:20:45,299 --> 00:20:46,701 I go by body language. 493 00:20:46,734 --> 00:20:49,036 It tells me everything I need to know. 494 00:20:49,069 --> 00:20:54,709 ** 495 00:20:54,742 --> 00:20:56,944 -Should I be naked? -Yes. 496 00:20:56,977 --> 00:21:00,314 -Fully naked or panties? -Fully. 497 00:21:00,347 --> 00:21:06,020 ** 498 00:21:06,053 --> 00:21:08,322 Karley: Well, here we go. 499 00:21:08,355 --> 00:21:18,332 ** 500 00:21:18,365 --> 00:21:26,106 ** 501 00:21:26,140 --> 00:21:28,943 Actually, this guy is not bad. 502 00:21:28,976 --> 00:21:38,318 ** 503 00:21:38,352 --> 00:21:42,823 I can see this becoming a regular occurrence 504 00:21:42,857 --> 00:21:44,625 and becoming destructive to the future 505 00:21:44,659 --> 00:21:47,361 of my romantic relationships. 506 00:21:47,394 --> 00:21:50,698 After searching high and low and literally inside myself 507 00:21:50,731 --> 00:21:52,332 for a happy ending, 508 00:21:52,366 --> 00:21:55,903 it was clear that when a man offers sexual services to women, 509 00:21:55,936 --> 00:21:59,239 it's often dressed up as romance or therapy, 510 00:21:59,273 --> 00:22:01,008 but what I like about Dr. M. 511 00:22:01,041 --> 00:22:02,710 is that he's calling it like it is, 512 00:22:02,743 --> 00:22:05,245 and that's the biggest turn-on for me, 513 00:22:05,279 --> 00:22:07,214 even despite the fact that he's randomly dressed 514 00:22:07,247 --> 00:22:09,850 like a white rapper. 515 00:22:09,884 --> 00:22:11,418 Maybe the current market of women 516 00:22:11,451 --> 00:22:14,789 looking for transactional sexual pleasure is niche, 517 00:22:14,822 --> 00:22:17,725 but the fact that these services are becoming more popular 518 00:22:17,758 --> 00:22:19,760 makes me think that we're headed toward a future 519 00:22:19,794 --> 00:22:23,664 where women will be free to be just as desperate as men. 520 00:22:23,698 --> 00:22:28,869 One small orgasm for a woman, one giant leap for womankind. 521 00:22:28,903 --> 00:22:30,204 Rub you later, sluts. 522 00:22:30,237 --> 00:22:32,439 [ Bell dings ] 523 00:22:32,489 --> 00:22:37,039 Repair and Synchronization by Easy Subtitles Synchronizer 1.0.0.0 39365

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