All language subtitles for The.Red.Pill.2016.1080p.BluRay.x264-nikt0

[JAYE]
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN
THROUGH SOMETHING

AND YOU DON'T KNOW
WHAT JUST HAPPENED,

BUT YOU KNOW IT WAS
IMPORTANT TO GO THROUGH?

THIS IS THAT JOURNEY FOR ME.

[NEWSCASTER]
MISOGYNIST RANTING
WOULD BE AT HOME

IN THE FAR REACHING
INTERNET SUBCULTURE

WIDELY DESCRIBED AS
THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT--

A TOXIC DISTILLATION
OF THE WORST ASPECTS
OF AMERICAN SEXISM.

IT'S A UNIVERSE
OF MESSAGE BOARDS
WHERE MEN GET TOGETHER

TO EXPRESS THEIR HATRED
TOWARDS WOMEN.

[MAN]
WELL, I THOUGHT MEN
HAD ALL OF THE ADVANTAGES

IN THE WORLD THESE DAYS?

[MAN #2]
THAT'S UTTER NONSENSE.

MEN ARE ROUTINELY GROUND UP
IN A FAMILY COURT SYSTEM

THAT IS MISANDRIST
AND BIASED AGAINST THEM.

THEY ARE THE MAJORITY
OF THE HOMELESS.

THEY ARE THE MAJORITY
OF SUICIDES.

THEY ARE MAJORITY
OF THE DRUG ADDICTED.

THEY ARE THE MAJORITY
OF THE UNEMPLOYED.

THEY ARE MAJORITY
OF THE SCHOOL DROP OUTS.

THEY ARE THE MAJORITY
OF THOSE IN PRISON--

HOW DO WE KNOW THAT THEY'RE
NOT THE CAUSE OF THESE PROBLEMS?

THERE'S A REASON
THAT WOMEN LIVE LONGER,
MARK, LET ME TELL YOU.

IT IS BECAUSE
WE ARE STRONGER

AND WE ARE HAPPIER
AT THE END OF THE DAY
THAN MOST MEN,

AND THAT IS FACTUAL
AND YOU KNOW IT.

AND WHEN MEN ARE MARRIED
TO WOMEN WHO SCREAM LIKE YOU

THEY JUST WANT
TO DIE SOONER.

- I'M NOT SCREAMING,
- WHEN YOU HAVE...

[NEWSCASTER]
A VOICE FOR MEN--

AN ONLINE HUB
FOR MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS.

THEY WERE FOUNDED BY A MAN
NAMED PAUL ELAM.

[MAN]
IT'S A WEBSITE CALLED
"A VOICE FOR MEN"

THAT'S RUN BY A MAN
NAMED PAUL ELAM--

WHICH IS "MALE"
SPELLED BACKWARDS,

BUT IT IS HIS
REAL NAME APPARENTLY.

IT'S A GATHERING
OF WOMEN HATERS.

THIS SOUTHERN POVERTY LAW CENTER
HAS CLASSIFIED THAT GROUP

AND MEN'S RIGHTS GROUPS
AS HATE GROUPS.

HE WROTE A PIECE

DECLARING
THE MONTH OF OCTOBER

TO BE
"BASH A VIOLENT BITCH" MONTH.

"I MEAN, LITERALLY TO GRAB
THEM BY THE HAIR,

AND SMACK THEIR FACE
AGAINST THE WALL," HE WROTE.

[DRIVER]
HERE HE IS.

YOU MAY BE WONDERING
WHY I'M SITTING IN A CAR

WITH NOTORIOUS
MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVIST
PAUL ELAM.

THAT'S A VALID QUESTION.

AND TO ANSWER IT,

I NEED TO START
AT THE BEGINNING--

THE BEGINNING OF HOW
I BECAME A FEMINIST.

I WAS A QUIET KID,
PREFERRING TO OBSERVE
FROM AFAR.

MY MOM PUT ME
IN THEATER CLASSES

WHEN I WAS EIGHT YEARS OLD
TO BREAK ME OUT OF MY SHELL,

AND I LOVED IT,

SO MUCH TO THE POINT
THAT I DECIDED

TO MOVE TO HOLLYWOOD
WHEN I WAS 18 YEARS OLD

TO BECOME AN ACTRESS.

WHAT I WASN'T PREPARED FOR
WAS TO BE PIGEONHOLED

AS THE BLONDE
WHO ALWAYS DIED.

BILLY?

[SCREAMING]

GRANTED,
I HAD A GOOD SCREAM.

BUT THE CHARACTERS I PLAYED

WEREN'T ALONE
IN FEELING OBJECTIFIED.

I WAS COMMONLY HARASSED
ON THE STREETS,

HIT ON BY MARRIED PRODUCERS,

TOLD BY PHOTOGRAPHERS
TO COME BACK

WHEN I LOST 15 POUNDS
AND GOT A BOOB JOB,

AND A PLETHORA OF OTHER
UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCES,

ALL WHILE STILL BEING
A TEENAGER.

I STARTED TO REALIZE
MY ROLE IN THE WORLD

SEEMED A LITTLE TOO SIMILAR
TO THE UNFORTUNATE ROLES
I WAS AUDITIONING FOR,

AND IT WAS NOT
HOW I SAW MYSELF

OR THE PERSON
THAT I WANTED TO BE.

SO I QUIT ACTING
AND BOUGHT A VIDEO CAMERA

TO TELL THE STORIES
I WANTED TO TELL,

AND NOW I'VE BEEN MAKING
DOCUMENTARY FILMS SINCE 2008

WHEN I WAS 21 YEARS OLD.

MOST OF MY WORK HAS
BEEN ABOUT WOMEN'S ISSUES
AND SEXUALITY.

I'VE COVERED
A RANGE OF TOPICS

FROM THE PHENOMENON
OF PURITY BALLS,

TO REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS,

SINGLE MOTHERHOOD,

AND LGBT RIGHTS.

AFTER RELEASING MY FILM IN 2012
ABOUT MARRIAGE EQUALITY,

I WAS AT A LOSS OF WHAT TOPIC
TO EXPLORE NEXT,

AND THAT'S WHEN TWO HORRIFIC
STORIES BROKE THE NEWS.

TWO STAR HIGH SCHOOL
FOOTBALL PLAYERS

IN STEUBENVILLE, OHIO,

HAVE BEEN FOUND GUILTY
OF RAPING A WEST VIRGINIA
TEENAGER.

THE VIDEO SHOWS THE FORMER
STEUBENVILLE STUDENT

CALLOUSLY JOKING
ABOUT THE INCIDENT.

THAT'S LIKE RAPE.
IT IS RAPE.

- BRO.
- THEY RAPED HER.

- BRO.
- THEY RAPED HER.

- THIS IS THE FUNNIEST--
- THEY RAPED HER.

OUTRAGE ACROSS INDIA
AS A 23-YEAR-OLD WOMAN,

THE VICTIM OF ONE
OF THE MOST HORRIFIC RAPES

INDIA HAS EVER HEARD OF.

[NEWSCASTER]
A 90-MINUTE HORROR
FOR A 23-YEAR-OLD

MEDICINE STUDENT ON THIS BUS.

GANG RAPED AND BEATEN,

HER FRIEND ASSAULTED
AND THROWN OUT OF THE BUS...

EVERY DAY, EVERY WOMAN
IS FACING VIOLENCE
ON THE STREETS.

PEOPLE ARE SCARED--

[JAYE]
I STARTED TO RESEARCH
THIS RAPE CULTURE.

A WEBSITE CALLED
A VOICE FOR MEN POPPED UP.

PAUL ELAM WROTE
ABOUT HOW WOMEN LONG

TO LIVE OUT
THEIR RAPE FANTASIES,

TO BE TAKEN BY A MAN
SHE'S NEVER SPOKEN TO,

LET ALONE GIVEN CONSENT TO.

AS I READ,
I WAS ASKING MYSELF,

IS THIS THE RAPE APOLOGIST
THAT I'VE BEEN HEARING ABOUT?

THE VICTIM BLAMER
WHO PERPETUATES RAPE CULTURE?

I CONTINUED TO READ
A VOICE FOR MEN'S WEBSITE,

OFTEN STOPPING
AROUND THE HALF-WAY MARK

IN EVERY ARTICLE,
BECAUSE I COULD ONLY READ

SO MANY "BITCH,"
"FUCK," "FEMINAZI,"

AND "RAPETARD"
WORDS PER MINUTE.

BUT EVEN STILL,
I KEPT READING,

AND THINKING,
AND READING SOME MORE.

I WAS TRYING TO UNDERSTAND
HOW THESE,

WHAT I PERCEIVED TO BE
WOMEN HATERS,

COULD HAVE
SO MANY FOLLOWERS.

SO I DECIDED TO MEET
THESE MRAs...

THE ONES LEADING
THE MOVEMENT,

AND SOME OF THEIR
FOLLOWERS, TOO...

AND THIS BEGINS MY JOURNEY

DOWN THE RABBIT HOLE.

[MAN ON P.A.]
THIS, LADIES AND GENTLEMEN,

IS AN HISTORIC MOMENT.

NEVER BEFORE HAS THERE BEEN
A GATHERING OF THIS MAGNITUDE

TO SUPPORT MEN'S
AND BOY'S ISSUES.

WE HAVE GOT
SERIOUS PROBLEMS.

I HAVE BEEN WORKING
IN THIS AREA,

ADVOCATING
FOR THE RIGHTS OF...

[CROWD SHOUTING]
MRA! GO AWAY!

[MAN ON P.A.]
AND HERE WE GO.

WHAT YOU'LL HEAR
IS THAT WE HATE WOMEN.

YOU'LL HEAR THAT IT'S A BACKLASH
AGAINST WOMEN'S RIGHTS.

YOU'LL HEAR THAT WE'RE
REGRESSIVES THAT WANT WOMEN
BACK IN THE KITCHEN

AND MAKING SANDWICHES
AND BAREFOOT AND PREGNANT.

YOU'RE JUST BITTER,
YOU'RE A LOSER,

YOU'RE A WHINER,
YOU'RE UGLY,

YOU'RE UNDESIRABLE,
YOU'RE LAZY.

YOU'RE SCARY,
YOU MUST BE A RACIST,

YOU MUST BE A MISOGYNIST.

WHEN WE DO SPEAK OUT,

WOMEN OFTEN DON'T WANT
TO HEAR WHAT WE HAVE TO SAY,

AND SO THEN
WE'RE CALLED NAMES.

WE'RE CALLED WHINERS.

AND THIS IS THE WAY PEOPLE
WHO DON'T WANT MEN TO TALK
ABOUT ISSUES

TRY TO SHUT US UP.

[MAN ON BULLHORN]
UM, WE ALL KNOW THAT YOU GUYS

ARE A FASCIST NAZI FRONT
GROUP OF WHITE SUPREMACISTS,

NO OTHER WAY
TO OPENLY ORGANIZE

OTHER THAN CALLING YOURSELVES
A MEN'S RIGHTS GROUP.

[MAN]
YEAH!

"WE'RE SOMEHOW DISEMPOWERED
BECAUSE WE'RE WHITE MEN."

MAYBE IT'S JUST BECAUSE
YOU'RE PATHETIC.

WE'RE HERE TO FIGHT
HOW MISOGYNISTIC ASSHOLES

THINK THEY HAVE THE RIGHT
TO OPPRESS WOMEN.

WHITE MEN ARE STARTING
TO FEEL MISPLACED

BECAUSE WOMEN
ARE SHARING SPACE.

IT'S DISGUSTING,
AND JUST GROW THE FUCK UP

AND DON'T CONFUSE SUFFRAGE
WITH OPPRESSION.

EVERYONE SUFFERS.
IT'S UNIVERSAL.

I AM A MAN
AND I NEED FEMINISM.

[MEN CHANTING]
WE'RE FEMINISTS!
WE'RE FABULOUS!

WE'RE HERE! WE'RE QUEER!

[MAN]
AND IT IS CRYSTAL CLEAR

THAT THE PROBLEMS
FOR MEN AND BOYS ARE REAL.

[CHANTING CONTINUES]

I WOULD LIKE
TO TURN THE MICROPHONE

OVER TO PAUL ELAM
OF A VOICE FOR MEN

FOR SOME WORDS.

[APPLAUSE]

[MAN]
WHOO!

THIS IS A HISTORIC DAY.

I'VE NEVER SEEN
A GATHERING LIKE THIS

OUT OF CONCERN FOR
THE GENERAL STATE OF AFFAIRS

FOR MEN AND BOYS
IN THIS CULTURE.

TRYING TO ARTICULATE
THE ENTIRE PLATFORM

OF THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT

IS KINDA LIKE TRYING
TO UNDERSTAND A SNOW DRIFT

ONE SNOWFLAKE AT A TIME.

IT'S A VERY,
VERY COMPLICATED MATTER.

JUST CONSIDER THIS,

THAT 93% OF WORKPLACE
FATALITIES ARE MEN.

FOUR OF FIVE SUICIDES
ARE MEN.

MEN ARE DROPPING OUT
OF HIGHER EDUCATION

AT VERY ALARMING RATES.

WE'RE DOWN TO 38% NOW
OF COLLEGE STUDENTS ARE MEN,

AND IT'S DROPPING RAPIDLY.

MALE SUICIDE, MALE ABUSE,
MALE UNEMPLOYMENT,

MALE HOMELESSNESS,
MALE FAILURE IN EDUCATION,

MALE HEALTH ISSUES.

YOU GOT THE PATERNITY
FRONT ISSUE,

AND THE WRONGFUL
PATERNITY ISSUE,

THE FALSE ALLEGATION ISSUE.

MEN ARE SENTENCED
TO 63% MORE PRISON TIME

FOR THE SAME CRIME AS WOMEN.

THEY'RE LESS LIKELY
TO SEE A DOCTOR.

THEY'RE LESS LIKELY
TO HAVE HEALTH INSURANCE.

THE FAMILY COURT SYSTEM
TRULY IS BIASED AGAINST MEN.

I MEAN, THERE'S JUST
NO QUESTION ABOUT IT.

IT'S REALLY THE PRO CHOICE
FOR WOMEN ONLY MOVEMENT,

BECAUSE MEN-- THEY'RE DENYING
MEN ANY KIND OF CHOICE

ONCE A CHILD IS CONCEIVED.

HER BODY,
HER CHOICE, RIGHT?

THINK ABOUT MEN.

HIS BODY, HIS CHOICE?
NOT SO MUCH.

BECAUSE THE U.S. GOVERNMENT

DOES NOT WANT
TO SEND YOU TO DIE.

IT WOULD RATHER
SEND ME TO DIE.

[ELAM]
YOUNG MEN THAT ARE
FAILING TO LAUNCH.

THEY'RE STAYING
IN THEIR HOMES OF ORIGIN

FAR PAST THE TIME THAT
WE WOULD NORMALLY EXPECT THEM

TO INDIVIDUATE
AND MOVE OUT

AND GO LIVE THEIR LIVES.

WE HAVE VIDEO GAME ADDICTION.

WE HAVE PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION.

WE HAVE
THE ABUSE OF YOUNG BOYS

WITH DRUGS LIKE RITALIN
TO MANAGE THEIR BEHAVIOR.

[MAN]
ALMOST ALL VICTIMS

OF AUTISM SPECTRUM DISORDERS
ARE BOYS.

BOYS ARE MOST LIKELY
TO BE HOMELESS,

MOST LIKELY TO GET CANCER,

MOST LIKELY TO DIE YOUNG
OF EVERY MAJOR CAUSE,

MOST LIKELY TO BE ARRESTED,
PROSECUTED,

IMPRISONED,
AND EVEN EXECUTED

WHILE BEING
COMPLETELY INNOCENT.

IT DOESN'T MATTER
WHAT THEIR RACE IS.

IT DOESN'T MATTER
WHAT THEIR ETHNICITY IS.

IT DOESN'T MATTER
WHAT THEIR RELIGIOUS

OR NON-RELIGIOUS VIEWS ARE.

IT DOESN'T MATTER
IF THEY'RE GAY OR STRAIGHT.

MEN AND BOYS ARE IN CRISIS

AND THEY NEED YOUR HELP
AND THEY NEED YOUR SUPPORT

BECAUSE THEY ARE
HUMAN BEINGS, TOO,

AND YOU WILL NOT
SHAME ME OR ANYBODY HERE

INTO SILENCE
ABOUT IT ANYMORE.

[CHEERS]

BUT IF YOU START
TO TALK ABOUT THOSE ISSUES

AND ADDRESS THEM
IN TERMS OF HOW THEY AFFECT

MEN AND BOYS AS A GROUP,

PEOPLE GET HOSTILE ABOUT IT.

THE IDEA IS THAT MEN
HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS.

THEY'VE ALWAYS HAD THE POWER.

BUT IF THAT'S TRUE,

WHY CAN'T MEN
TALK ABOUT THEIR PROBLEMS?

AND THAT'S WHAT REALLY GOT ME

INTERESTED IN THIS
TO BEGIN WITH.

[JAYE]
SHORTLY AFTER I BEGAN FILMING
MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS,

I REALIZED MY OWN VIEWS
WERE BEING CHALLENGED.

I KEPT A VIDEO DIARY
THROUGHOUT FILMING,

AND I'VE DECIDED TO SHARE

SOME OF THOSE DIARIES
WITH YOU.

I REALLY DO FEEL LIKE LEARNING
ABOUT THE MEN'S MOVEMENT

AND THEIR SPECIFIC ISSUES,

THE ISSUES
THAT THEY HAVE ISSUE WITH,

IT'S HARD FOR ME
TO COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND THEM

AND...

JUST AUTOMATICALLY
FEEL WELCOME

IN THAT SPACE OF TALKING
ABOUT THESE ISSUES.

BECAUSE AT LEAST
WITH FEMINISM,

WHENEVER I HEARD
ABOUT THE ISSUES

THAT FEMINISTS
WERE FIGHTING AGAINST,

I ALWAYS FELT LIKE I HAD
SOMETHING TO DRAW FROM

IN EXPERIENCE
TO BE ON BOARD WITH THAT.

AND THAT'S ALWAYS BEEN
WHY I'VE BEEN DRAWN

TO THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT,

IS BECAUSE A LOT
OF WHAT THEY SPOKE ABOUT

I HAD PERSONAL
EXPERIENCES WITH.

AND WITH THE MEN'S MOVEMENT,

I HAVE VERY LITTLE
PERSONAL EXPERIENCES

WITH THE ISSUES
THAT THEY TALK ABOUT.

[MAN]
A CAB DRIVER WHO IS DRIVING
A CAB 70 HOURS A WEEK

WAS NOT SAYING,
"I AM EARNING THIS MONEY

TO HAVE POWER OVER MY WIFE."

HE WAS EARNING THIS MONEY

EVEN THOUGH IT TOOK POWER
AWAY FROM HIS LIFE.

HE WAS DOING THAT SO HIS CHILD
WOULDN'T HAVE TO DRIVE THAT CAB.

THE GARBAGE COLLECTOR
DOES NOT

GET UP AT 3:00 OR 4:00
IN THE MORNING

IN RAIN AND SLEET AND SNOW

AND GET OUT
TO DO THE GARBAGE

SO HE CAN HAVE MORE POWER
OVER HIS WIFE.

THAT'S POWER HE'S LOSING
OVER HIS LIFE

IN ORDER TO MAKE
HIS CONTRIBUTION,

HIS SACRIFICE,
HIS WAY OF LOVING.

AND THIS HAS BEEN TRANSLATED
INTO THE CULTURE OF

"YOU MAKE MORE MONEY
THAN WOMEN DO,

YOU MUST THEREFORE
HAVE MORE POWER."

[REPORTER]
MEET WARREN FARRELL,

BEST-SELLING AUTHOR

AND SELF-STYLED
SOCIAL ANTHROPOLOGIST,

LEADING AN ASSAULT
ON OUR TRADITIONAL THINKING
ABOUT MEN.

[MAN]
I ASKED MY GIRLFRIEND
AT THE TIME

TO BUY ME AS A GIFT,

I THINK IT WAS FOR CHRISTMAS
OR MY BIRTHDAY,

WARREN FARRELL'S BOOK
"THE MYTH OF MALE POWER,"

WHICH SHE DID, AND IT JUST
CHANGED MY WHOLE LIFE.

AND HIS PREMISE WAS WHILE WOMEN
ARE OFTEN SEEN AS SEX OBJECTS,

MEN ARE OFTEN SEEN
AS SUCCESS OBJECTS.

AND THIS RESONATED WITH ME.

HE WROTE THIS BOOK THAT
QUESTIONED OUR NOTIONS OF POWER,

OF WHO HAD POWER
AND WHERE IT WAS,

AND IT QUESTIONED
THE ROLES OF MEN,

BUT NOT THE WAY FEMINISTS

HAD ALWAYS QUESTIONED
GENDER ROLES.

EVERY SOCIETY THAT SURVIVED

SURVIVED BASED ON
ITS ABILITY

TO TRAIN ITS SONS
TO BE DISPOSABLE--

DISPOSABLE IN WAR
AS WARRIORS,

DISPOSABLE IN WORK
AS FIREFIGHTERS,

AS WORKERS ON OIL RIGS
AND SO ON, COAL MINERS,

AND INDIRECTLY, THEREFORE
DISPOSABLE AS DADS.

WHAT HAPPENS IN MEN'S LIFE

WHEN THEY'RE RAISED
THAT THEY'RE WORTHLESS

UNLESS THEY'RE A PROVIDER,

THAT THEY MUST WORK
EVEN IF THEY HAVE

TO TAKE ON
EXTREMELY DANGEROUS WORK,

THEY MUST GET THIS DONE
OR THEY'RE USELESS AS MEN?

THAT IS VERY,
VERY POWERFUL STUFF.

SEE, FEMINISM
DID SEE ACCURATELY

THAT WE VALUE MALE WORK

MORE THAN WE VALUE
FEMALE WORK.

BUT THERE'S ALSO THE ISSUE

THAT WE VALUE FEMALE LIFE

MORE THAN WE VALUE
MALE LIFE.

EVEN WHEN THAT PLANE
WENT DOWN IN NEW YORK CITY

A FEW YEARS AGO AND,
YOU KNOW,

THE PILOT WAS A HERO

FOR THE WAY HE LANDED IT
AND SAVED EVERYBODY...

[REPORTER]
WORD ARRIVED OVER
THE CITY-WIDE FIRE FREQUENCY

THAT A COMMERCIAL JET LINER
WAS IN THE WATER

WITH 155 PEOPLE ON BOARD.

THEN,
OVER THE NEXT FEW MINUTES,

THE DOORS OPENED,
LIFE VESTS WERE INFLATED,

AND, WOMEN
AND CHILDREN FIRST,

EVERYONE GOT OFF THAT PLANE.

THEY SAVED
ALL THE WOMEN FIRST.

THAT'S STILL-- WHEN I WENT
ON A CRUISE, YOU KNOW,

THERE'S STILL WOMEN INTO
THE LIFE BOATS FIRST.

NOT BECAUSE YOU'RE A MAN

SO YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO SWIM
HALFWAY ACROSS THE OCEAN,

BUT BECAUSE YOU'RE A MAN
YOU'RE EXPENDABLE.

WE HAVE TO LOOK AT NOT JUST
THE GLASS CEILINGS,

BUT ALSO THE GLASS CELLARS.

AND, PAUL,
I THINK AS YOU WERE SAYING,

WE HAVE TO LOOK AT MEN
JUST NOT ONLY AS HUMAN DOINGS,

BUT ALSO AS HUMAN BEINGS.

WHEN YOU SURVIVE BECAUSE
SOMEBODY ELSE IS WILLING TO DIE

LIKE IN WAR,

THEN THAT--
YOU'RE IMMUNE TO THE PAIN

OF THE PEOPLE WHO ARE DYING

BECAUSE YOU
HAVE AN INVESTMENT

IN THEIR
BEING WILLING TO DIE.

YOU SAY,
"I WILL BUILD A STATUE.

I WILL REMEMBER YOU
IN A HISTORY BOOK."

BUT IF YOU LOOK AT THAT
FROM ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE,

THAT BUILDING OF THE STATUE

OR REMEMBERING YOU
IN A HISTORY BOOK

IS A BRIBE
TO BE WILLING TO DIE

SO THAT I CAN LIVE.

[WARREN]
BOTH SEXES IN THE AREA
WHERE THEY ARE REJECTED

TEND TO TURN WHAT REJECTS THEM
INTO AN OBJECT.

SO THE AREA WHERE MEN--

I'M WATCHING THIS,
UM, LECTURE

THAT WARREN FARRELL'S
GIVING IN THE '90s.

I SEE SOME WOMEN IN THE CROWD,

AND A LOT OF THEM
HAVE THEIR HANDS FOLDED,

AND THERE
IS A LITTLE BIT OF...

UNCOMFORTABLENESS...

BY BEING A WOMAN

IN A CROWD OF PEOPLE

WHILE THE SPEAKER'S TALKING
ABOUT HOW MEN ARE OPPRESSED

AND WOMEN HAVE IT SO GREAT.

IT KINDA PUTS YOU
ON THE DEFENSIVE, AS A WOMAN.

AND UNDERSTANDING
THAT I FEEL THAT WAY

MAKES ME WONDER

ARE MEN HAVING
THEIR ARMS CROSSED

LISTENING
TO A FEMINIST SPEAKER

TALK ABOUT HOW MEN
HAVE ALL THE POWER

AND WOMEN ARE OPPRESSED?

ARE MEN FEELING LIKE,

"WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?

I DON'T HAVE POWER,
AND WE HAVE IT PRETTY SHITTY

ON THIS SIDE
OF THE GRASS, TOO"?

[MEN]
WOMEN HOLD UP HALF THE SKY!

WOMEN HOLD UP HALF THE SKY!

WOMEN HOLD UP HALF THE SKY!

WOMEN HOLD UP HALF THE SKY!

[WOMAN]
FUCK WARREN FARRELL!

[MAN]
FUCK WARREN FARRELL!

[ALL CHANTING]
FUCK WARREN FARRELL!

FUCK WARREN FARRELL!

FUCK WARREN FARRELL!

FUCK WARREN FARRELL!

FUCK WARREN FARRELL!

[JAYE]
IN 2012, DR. WARREN FARRELL

WAS SPEAKING ON BEHALF
OF MEN'S ISSUES

AT THE UNIVERSITY
OF TORONTO IN CANADA.

A FEMINIST GROUP
PROTESTED THE EVENT.

[WOMAN]
...BE FUCKING
ASHAMED OF YOURSELF.

YOU'RE FUCKING SCUM,
YOU ARE FUCKING SCUM.

FUCKING RAPE APOLOGIST,

INCEST-SUPPORTING,
WOMAN-HATING FUCKING SCUM.

YOU'RE FUCKING SCUM,
YEAH, JUST ANOTHER--

YOU KNOW WHAT, THOUGH?
WHY WOULD YOU PAY MONEY

TO FUCKING SUPPORT
A FUCKING RAPE APOLOGIST

IF YOU WEREN'T FUCKING ONE?

[MAN]
I NEVER HEARD HIM SAYING...

WELL, IT--
FUCKING SCUM!

[CROWD]
WHO DO YOU SERVE?
WHO DO YOU PROTECT?

WHO DO YOU SERVE?
WHO DO YOU PROTECT?

NO! FUCK!
THEY'RE FUCKING SCUM!

FUCK YOU!

FUCK YOU!

GET A REAL FUCKING JOB.

GET OUT OF HERE.

[ALL SHOUTING]

[WHISTLE BLOWING]

[CROWD]
THIS IS WHAT MEN'S RIGHTS
LOOK LIKE!

THIS IS WHAT
MEN'S RIGHTS LOOK LIKE!

THIS IS WHAT MEN'S RIGHTS
LOOK LIKE!

THIS IS WHAT
MEN'S RIGHTS LOOK LIKE!

THIS IS WHAT MEN'S RIGHTS
LOOK LIKE!

THIS IS WHAT
MEN'S RIGHTS LOOK LIKE!

THIS IS WHAT MEN'S RIGHTS
LOOK LIKE!

[DOORBELL RINGS]

- HI, HOW ARE YOU?
- WARREN, I'M CASSIE.

YOU'RE CASSIE?
OH, FOR SOME REASON
I THOUGHT YOU WERE A MALE.

I'M JUST DELIGHTED
THAT YOU'RE A FEMALE.

WELL, THANK YOU.

VERY GLAD TO MEET YOU.
COME ON IN.

- THANK YOU.
- THANK YOU.

[REPORTER]
BUT FARRELL WASN'T ALWAYS
SO ATTENTIVE TO MEN.

IN FACT, FOR YEARS,
HE FOCUSED ALMOST EXCLUSIVELY
ON WOMEN'S ISSUES,

RUBBING SHOULDERS
WITH FEMINIST LEADERS

LIKE GLORIA STEINEM.

AND HE'S STILL
A CARD-CARRYING MEMBER

OF THE NATIONAL
ORGANIZATION FOR WOMEN.

I BELIEVE
THAT WOMEN CANNOT HEAR

WHAT MEN DO NOT SAY.

[REPORTER]
AND HE'S GOT A LOT TO SAY
TO BOTH MEN AND WOMEN

IN HIS PROVOCATIVE NEW BOOK,

"THE MYTH OF MALE POWER."

[WARREN] I WAS MAKING
A VERY SIGNIFICANT

AMOUNT OF MONEY
SPEAKING AROUND THE WORLD

ON BEHALF
OF WOMEN'S ISSUES ALONE.

I WENT THROUGH A PERIOD
OF FORMING MEN'S GROUPS.

AND THEN
WHEN I LISTENED TO THEM,

I THOUGHT, @WELL, GEE,
THIS WILL BE REALLY HELPFUL

TO PRESENT TO AUDIENCES
SO THAT THEY CAN UNDERSTAND

NOT ONLY WOMEN'S SIDE,
BUT MEN'S SIDE, TOO,

'CAUSE I WAS REALLY TOTALLY
IN THE FEMINIST'S CAMP.

AND IMMEDIATELY I SAW
MY STANDING OVATIONS DROP.

I STARTED HEARING
THAT THERE WAS PEOPLE SAYING,

"DON'T INVITE HIM THERE
TO SPEAK WITH US."

AND PRETTY SOON I HAD,
YOU KNOW,

VERY FEW COLLEGE AND UNIVERSITY
SPEAKING ENGAGEMENTS.

HOW DID YOU ORIGINALLY
GET INVOLVED WITH FEMINISM?

WHERE DID THAT ALL BEGIN?

I WAS DOING MY DOCTORATE

AT POLITICAL SCIENCE AT NYU
IN THE LATE '60s,

AND THE WOMEN'S
MOVEMENT SURFACED.

AND I STARTED TO SAY,

"THIS IS THE MOST EXCITING
THING I'VE EVER HEARD."

BECAUSE I'D HEARD
OF CIVIL RIGHTS, GAY RIGHTS,

BUT SUDDENLY
WOMEN WERE SAYING,

"I DON'T WANNA BE CONFINED
TO JUST BEING

A HOMEMAKER, A SECRETARY."

SO IT'S LIKE, "WHY SHOULDN'T
WOMEN BE ENCOURAGED

TO DO EVERYTHING
THEY POSSIBLY CAN DO?"

AND AT THAT POINT IN TIME,

I SAW A LOT OF WOMEN
MARRYING MEN

THAT THEY WEREN'T
COMPLETELY IN LOVE WITH,

BUT THE MAN EARNED
A FAIR AMOUNT.

SO I THOUGHT, THAT'S JUST
A FORM OF PROSTITUTION

EXTENDED OVER A LIFETIME.

HOW DEPRESSED
THAT MUST MAKE A WOMAN.

AND IT'S NOT GONNA
BE GOOD FOR A MAN EITHER.

HE NEVER KNOWS WHETHER
HE'S LOVED FOR WHO HE IS

OR LOVED FOR WHAT HE HAS.

AND HE'S AFRAID
TO GIVE UP PRODUCING

BECAUSE HE'S AFRAID
TO LOSE LOVE.

AND SO WOMEN
WHO WERE SUCCESSFUL TO ME

APPEARED TO BE WOMEN
WHO WOULD FREE MEN

FROM HAVING TO BE ALL,
YOU KNOW,

WRAPPED UP IN JUST
BEING THE ONLY BREAD WINNER,

AND SUPPORTING ONE, TWO,
THREE, FOUR, FIVE PEOPLE.

IT'S ONE THING
TO SUPPORT YOURSELF.

WHEN YOU'RE SUPPORTING
FIVE PEOPLE,

YOU DON'T HAVE THE FREEDOM
TO QUESTION YOUR BOSS,

BECAUSE YOU'RE
SUPPORTING FIVE PEOPLE.

[HAYWARD]
THE FIRST ISSUE OF FEMINISM

WAS TO SAY,
"JUST BECAUSE I'M A WOMAN,

MAYBE I DON'T WANNA SPEND
MY LIFE RAISING CHILDREN."

YOU KNOW, "DON'T FORCE ME INTO
THAT ROLE AGAINST MY WILL."

SO THEY LOOKED AT MEN
AND SAID,

"WELL, YOU'RE NOT FORCED
TO RAISE CHILDREN.

YOU DON'T HAVE ANY ISSUE.

BUT FOR MEN,
THE TRADITIONAL SEX ROLE

WAS NOT RAISING CHILDREN.

FOR US,
THE TRADITIONAL SEX ROLE

WAS TO BE A PROVIDER,
A PROTECTOR,

AND TO INITIATE RELATIONSHIPS.

EACH OF US
HAS TRADITIONAL SEX ROLES.

DON'T FORCE US TO CARRY OUT

THOSE TRADITIONAL SEX ROLES.

WE HAVE THE SAME RULES
SET UP FOR MEN

THAT THEY'VE ALWAYS LIVED BY,

THAT YOU NEED TO PROTECT
AND PROVIDE AT ANY COST.

BUT WE'VE CHANGED EVERYTHING
WHERE IT CONCERNS WOMEN.

THEY NOW HAVE ACCESS

TO EVERYTHING MEN
HAVE ALWAYS HAD ACCESS TO--

TO EDUCATION, TO WORK,
TO WHATEVER THEY WANT TO DO,

BUT THEY'RE NOT THE ONES
DRIVING THE SEMIS

AND THEY'RE NOT THE ONES
IN THE COAL MINES.

YOU DON'T HEAR THE NATIONAL
ORGANIZATION FOR WOMEN

COMPLAINING THAT THERE IS
JUST NOT ENOUGH
FEMALE DITCH DIGGERS.

IT IS STILL MEN
CARRYING THE LION'S SHARE

FOR WHAT IT TAKES TO OPERATE
AND MAINTAIN THIS SOCIETY,

AND IT IS STILL
THE EXPECTATION

THAT IF SOMEBODY'S
GONNA GO DOWN WITH THE SHIP,

IT'S GONNA BE MEN.

FLEXIBILITY IN ROLES IS WHERE
WE SHOULD BE ALL HEADED.

ANY MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS
THAT I WOULD SUPPORT

WOULD SUPPORT THE PORTIONS
OF THE WOMEN'S MOVEMENT

THAT IS ENCOURAGING WOMEN

TO HAVE MORE
FLEXIBILITY IN ROLES.

SO WHERE DO
THE MEN'S MOVEMENT

AND FEMINISM DISAGREE?

WELL, ONLY ON
THE FUNDAMENTAL BELIEF

THAT THE WOMEN'S MOVEMENT

SAYS MEN ARE THE OPPRESSORS,

THAT THEY-- WE ARE INVOLVED
IN A PATRIARCHAL WORLD

IN WHICH MEN INVENTED
THE RULES TO BENEFIT MEN

AT THE EXPENSE OF WOMEN.

[JAYE]
BUT DON'T WE LIVE
IN A PATRIARCHY,

WHEN MOST
OF THE WORLD'S NATIONS

STILL HAVE NEVER HAD
A FEMALE LEADER...

AND LESS THAN 5% OF CEOs

OF FORTUNE 500 COMPANIES
ARE WOMEN?

YOU HAVE TO LOOK AT THIS
IN A LARGER PERSPECTIVE.

PATRIARCHY IS THE RESULT
OF GENDER ROLES

AND NOT THE VICE VERSA.

[HAYWARD]
TRADITIONALLY, WOMEN'S POWER
AND RESPONSIBILITY

HAS BEEN IN
THE REPRODUCTIVE SPHERE,

WHILE MEN'S POWER
AND RESPONSIBILITY

WAS IN THE PRODUCTIVE SPHERE.

YOU KNOW,
YOU HAVE TO REPRODUCE
TO CONTINUE THE SPECIES,

AND YOU HAVE TO PRODUCE
TO FEED PEOPLE

SO THAT THEY CAN REPRODUCE.

SO, YOU KNOW,
IT'S LIKE THEY WORK TOGETHER.

[FARRELL]
AND MOST CULTURES
DIVVIED UP ROLES

BECAUSE WOMEN WERE RESPONSIBLE
FOR CHILDBIRTH

AND WERE MORE LIKELY
TO BREASTFEED.

THEY'RE NOT MORE LIKELY TO--

THEY DID THE BREASTFEEDING.

THEY TENDED TO BE INVOLVED
IN THE ROLE OF RAISING CHILDREN.

MEN TENDED TO BE INVOLVED
IN THE ROLE OF RAISING MONEY

OR MAKING A KILLING
OF THE ANIMALS

OR MAKING A KILLING
IN WALL STREET.

BUT THOSE
WERE OUR OBLIGATIONS.

SO THAT'S WHY INDUSTRY
WAS MALE DOMINATED

AND GOVERNMENT
WAS MALE DOMINATED,

'CAUSE THAT WAS OUR JOB.

SO WHAT WE CALL PATRIARCHY

IS MEN GIVING IN
TO THE EXPECTED ROLES

THAT THEY'RE SUPPOSED
TO GIVE IN TO,

AND MANY OF THOSE ROLES
ARE VERY HARMFUL--

WORKING EXCEPTIONALLY
LONG HOURS, DIFFICULT HOURS,

DANGEROUS JOBS,
GETTING KILLED ON A JOB--

EVEN POLITICS
A LOT OF PEOPLE DESCRIBE
AS MASOCHISM.

IMAGINE WHAT IT TAKES TO BE
A SUCCESSFUL POLITICIAN.

IMAGINE HOW MUCH OF YOUR
PERSONAL LIFE THAT YOU GIVE UP,

HOW MUCH YOU WORK,
HOW MUCH PRIVACY THAT
YOU SACRIFICE,

HOW MUCH FREEDOM
IN YOUR DAY TO DAY LIFE

THAT GOES OUT THE WINDOW.

THERE ARE MORE MEN
WILLING TO DO THOSE THINGS

THAN THERE ARE WOMEN.

OH, I THINK WE GOT A PEN
FOR EVERYBODY.

[ANGELUCCI]
BUT ALSO, JUST BECAUSE
MEN ARE THE ONES,

FOR INSTANCE,
WRITING THE LAWS IN GENERAL,

DOESN'T MEAN THAT THE LAWS
ARE PROTECTING MEN.

YOU HEAR ABOUT
PATRIARCHY, RIGHT?

ALL THE EVILS OF THE WORLD
IS FROM PATRIARCHY.

BUT WE'RE THE ONES DYING,
YOU KNOW?

AND WE DIE FOR YOU GUYS,
YOU KNOW?

TO PROTECT OUR FAMILIES,
OUR FRIENDS.

IN EVERY SOCIETY
THAT'S EVER EXISTED,

WOMEN HAVE HAD PRIVILEGE
AND PROTECTION THAT MEN DID NOT.

FOR EXAMPLE, WE NEVER HEAR
ABOUT HOW MEN WERE EXCLUDED

FROM THE FORCED LABOR
CONVENTION OF 1930.

FOR YEARS,
THE FORCED LABOR CONVENTION

WAS AN INTERNATIONAL TREATY
THAT BANNED SLAVERY,

ENFORCED SERVITUDE,

BUT IT MADE AN EXCEPTION

FOR ABLE-BODIED MALES
AGES 18 TO 45.

EVENTUALLY,
THEY GOT RID OF THAT,

BUT THERE WAS STILL
AN EXEMPTION

FOR PRISONERS AND MILITARY,
WHICH IS 90% MALE.

STOP PRETENDING
THAT YOU'RE OPPRESSED

AND MEN ARE YOUR OPPRESSORS.

IT'S A LIE,
AND IT'S A HURTFUL LIE,

AND IT'S A HATEFUL LIE,
AND IT'S WRONG.

YOU TALK A LOT
ABOUT THE RED PILL

IN A VOICE FOR MEN.
WHAT IS THE RED PILL?

OH, IT'S SORT OF
A CULTURAL SLOGAN.

IT COMES FROM THE MOVIE
"THE MATRIX"

WHERE THE CHARACTER NEO
IS GIVEN THE CHOICE

BETWEEN A RED PILL
AND A BLUE PILL.

YOU TAKE THE RED PILL,
YOU STAY IN WONDERLAND

AND I SHOW YOU HOW DEEP
THE RABBIT HOLE GOES.

AND IF HE SWALLOWS
THE RED PILL,

THE SCALES WILL BE PEELED BACK
FROM HIS EYES.

HE WILL SEE EVERYTHING
THAT HE HASN'T BEEN ABLE TO SEE.

AND IF HE TAKES THE BLUE PILL,
HE'LL JUST GO BACK TO SLEEP

AND LIVE
IN HIS SORT OF UNAWARE,

SEMI-COMATOSE STATE FOREVER,

AND PROBABLY BE A LOT HAPPIER.

IT'S A PRETTY APT ANALOGY.

SO WHAT IS THE BLUE PILL
IN THIS WORLD?

WELL, THE BLUE IS THE PARADIGM
THAT MOST PEOPLE LIVE BY,

THAT MEN HAVE ALL THE POWER,

THAT THEY'VE ALWAYS
HAD ALL THE POWER,

THAT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
IS A PROBLEM

THAT'S COMMITTED BY MEN
AGAINST WOMEN ONLY,

THAT SEXUAL ASSAULTS
ARE ONLY COMMITTED

BY MEN AGAINST WOMEN,

THAT WOMEN
DON'T MAKE THE SAME MONEY

FOR THE SAME WORK AS MEN.

"TEACH MEN NOT TO RAPE.
ONLY MEN CAN STOP RAPE.

MEN COMMIT
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

WE NEED TO STOP
VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN--"

INSTEAD OF JUST
STOPPING VIOLENCE.

THAT IS FEMINIST TRAINING.

THE MRAs...

SAY THAT WE LIVE
IN A BLUE-PILL WORLD

WHERE WOMEN ARE VICTIMS,
MEN ARE PERPETRATORS,

AND IT'S ALL A LIE

AND THAT WE'RE BRAINWASHED
TO BELIEVE THIS,

AND THAT IT'S NOT TRUE,

AND THAT MEN ARE SLAVES
IN THIS WORLD

AND WOMEN ARE--

I DON'T THINK WOMEN
ARE NECESSARILY
THE PUPPET MASTERS,

BUT I THINK THEY'RE
SAYING THAT WOMEN

HAVE THE EASY WAY OUT
AND MEN ARE--

THEY'RE GIVEN
MEDALS AND STATUES

AND WRITTEN
IN THE HISTORY BOOKS

TO JUSTIFY THEM DYING
AND BEING SLAVES TO WORK

OR BEING, UH--

BEING USED
TO PROGRESS SOCIETIES.

[SIGHS]

AND I'VE JUST--
I'VE BELIEVED FOR SO LONG

THAT-- THAT I'M...

AT A DISADVANTAGE
FOR BEING A WOMAN

AND THAT I HAVE TO WORK
HARDER THAN EVERYONE ELSE

AND I HAVE MORE TO OVERCOME
AND I HAVE MORE TO PROVE

JUST BECAUSE OF MY GENDER.

BUT THE MRAs ARE SAYING
THAT THIS IS ALL A LIE

AND THAT GUYS
ARE ACTUALLY THE ONES

THAT ARE DISADVANTAGED
AND DISCRIMINATED AGAINST.

AND, ACTUALLY,
THE MORE I LEARN FROM THEM,

THE MORE I THINK, "THANK GOD
I WASN'T BORN A GUY."

BECAUSE I DON'T THINK

THAT THE EXPECTATIONS
ON MEN...

IS GOOD OR HEALTHY.

I MEAN,
THEY HAVE SO MUCH PRESSURE

TO SUCCEED AND TO BE STRONG

AND TO STAND UP
AND PROTECT OTHERS

AND TO PUT THEIR LIVES
ON THE LINE.

I DON'T THINK I WOULD WANT
THAT RESPONSIBILITY.

BUT, YOU KNOW, 50 YEARS AGO,

NO, I WOULDN'T HAVE
WANTED TO BE A WOMAN.

BUT NOW, I MEAN,
MAYBE JUST IT'S RIGHT NOW

THAT THE TIDES ARE CHANGING

AND WOMEN ARE THE--

HAVE THE BETTER DEAL.

WELL, NO, I DON'T KNOW.

AND THEN SOMETIMES I THINK

THE MRAs ARE JUST DUPING ME

AND GIVING
SUCH A STRONG PITCH

ABOUT WHAT THEY BELIEVE IN

TO CONVINCE ME OF SOMETHING

THAT'S ACTUALLY JUST
SOME OUT THERE THEORY

THAT MEN
ARE DISCRIMINATED AGAINST

AND WOMEN ARE--
HAVE THE ADVANTAGE.

YES, THIS IS CASSIE JAYE.

IT'S REGARDING A DOCUMENTARY
ABOUT THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT,

AND WE'RE LOOKING
FOR FEMINIST VOICES NOW

TO SPEAK IN THE DOCUMENTARY.

[TELEPHONE RINGS]

FEMINIST MAJORITY.

YEAH, HOLD ON
JUST ONE SECOND.

[JAYE]
SO I REALIZED, "OKAY,

I NEED TO BRING SOME
FEMINISTS INTO THE MIX...

- GOOD.
-...TO MAKE SURE THAT
WE HAVE THAT SIDE."

GOOD.

I WAS RESEARCHING
RAPE CULTURE,

AND SO THAT'S HOW
I STUMBLED ACROSS A WEBSITE

CALLED AVOICEFORMEN.COM.

SO SOME OF THE PEOPLE THAT
WE'VE ALREADY INTERVIEWED

ON THE MRA SIDE IS PAUL ELAM
WITH A VOICE FOR MEN.

- YEAH,
- ARE YOU FAMILIAR WITH HIM?

OH, I'M FAMILIAR WITH HIM,
I'VE NEVER MET HIM.

- YEAH,
- OBVIOUSLY, THEY'VE SPENT

A SIGNIFICANT AMOUNT
OF TIME AND ENERGY

DENOUNCING ME, SO I FIGURED
I MIGHT AS WELL

HAVE A LOOK AT WHAT THEY SAY.

YEAH, REALLY,
THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT IS
PART OF THE BACKLASH.

- THE BACKLASH?
- TO FEMINISM.

THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT
REALLY GOT GOING

AS WOMEN BEGAN TO MAKE GAINS,

AND SOME MEN
HAVE FELT THREATENED

BY THE OPPORTUNITIES THAT
HAVE BEEN OPENED UP TO WOMEN.

AND I DON'T KNOW
IF IT'S BECAUSE

SOME OF THEM FEEL THREATENED

THAT THEY NOW HAVE TO COMPETE

WITH A LOT MORE PEOPLE
FOR THEIR JOBS.

THEY NOW CAN'T
GET INTO THE BEST SCHOOLS

IF A WOMAN OR A GIRL
HAS BETTER GRADES.

THINK ABOUT IT.

GRANDFATHER'S GENERATION
PROBABLY HAD IT

PRETTY WELL, RIGHT?

ALL OF HIS NEEDS,
HIS SHIRTS WERE IRONED,

ALL OF THAT WAS ALWAYS
TAKEN CARE OF.

WELL, YOU KNOW, GROW UP,

REALIZE THE WORLD
HAS CHANGED.

AND AS MUCH AS THE MRAs

WOULD LIKE THINGS TO GO BACK
TO THE WAY THEY WERE

AND USE THE ARGUMENT

THAT WOMEN
HAVE AN ADVANTAGE NOW--

[SCOFFS]

NO PERSON
LOOKING AT THE DATA

CAN POSSIBLY SAY WOMEN
HAVE AN ADVANTAGE.

WE'RE JUST BEGINNING TO GET
A LEVEL PLAYING FIELD HERE.

IT'S NOT TILTED IN OUR FAVOR,
I CAN TELL YOU THAT.

AND THEY KNOW IT.
THEY KNOW IT.

BUT IT'S THE CONSTANT
DISTORTION OF THE DATA,

IT'S THE SPINNING
OF A SITUATION

TO MAKE IT LOOK LIKE WOMEN
ARE SOMEHOW GETTING AHEAD,

GETTING AN ADVANTAGE
THEY DON'T DESERVE.

UM, IT'S, UH--
IT'S PART OF THE BACKLASH.

POLITICAL ORGANIZING
COMES FROM A FEELING
OF VICTIMIZATION,

WHICH IS WHY
THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT
MAKES THAT CLAIM

THAT MEN ARE THE VICTIMS
OF DISCRIMINATION.

BUT IT DOESN'T
HAVE MUCH TRACTION

BECAUSE YOU LOOK AROUND
AND IT'S HARD TO SEE IT.

WE DON'T HAVE MOVEMENTS CALLED,
YOU KNOW, STRAIGHT LIBERATION.

IS THE MEN'S-- THE QUESTION
I WOULD POSE RHETORICALLY IS

IS THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT
REALLY THE GENDERED VERSION

OF THE WHITE
NATIONALIST MOVEMENT?

BECAUSE THERE ARE PLENTY
OF WHITE PEOPLE

WHO SAY THAT
THEY ARE THE VICTIMS

OF REVERSE DISCRIMINATION.

OF COURSE, IT'S NOT GONNA HAVE
VERY MUCH TRACTION.

YOU CAN'T REALLY
ORGANIZE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE
SUPER ORDINATE.

[JAYE]
SO DO YOU THINK THAT MEN

ARE BEING DISCRIMINATED
AGAINST IN ANY WAY?

NOT UNDER THE LAW.

MEN ARE NOT DISADVANTAGED
UNDER OUR LAWS

OR IN THE BUSINESS WORLD.

AS A CLASS,
MEN ARE NOT UNDERREPRESENTED
ON CORPORATE BOARDS

OR THE TOP OF THE FORTUNE
1,000 COMPANIES.

IN THE CORPORATE WORLD,
IN THE BUSINESS WORLD,

IN A LOT OF PARTS
OF ACADEMIA,

IN THE MILITARY,
IN THE SPORTS WORLD,

IT'S STILL PRETTY MUCH
A MALE-DOMINATED WORLD,

WHERE A LOT OF THE PRIVILEGES

AND POWER AND STATUS
ACCRUE TO MEN.

MEN ARE ADVANTAGED OVER WOMEN,
NO QUESTION.

NO ONE CAN--
NO ONE CAN DEBATE THAT.

NOT WITH A SERIOUS--

NOT IN ANY SERIOUSNESS.

[HAYWARD]
I WAS A MATH MAJOR
AS AN UNDERGRADUATE,

AND ONE OF THE FUNDAMENTAL
THINGS ABOUT GEOMETRY

IS THE DISTANCE
FROM POINT "A" TO POINT "B"

EQUALS THE DISTANCE
FROM POINT "B" TO POINT "A,"

AND IF WOMEN
ARE SO DIFFERENT FROM MEN

THAT MEN CAN'T UNDERSTAND
THE FEMALE EXPERIENCE,

WE NEED TO LISTEN TO WOMEN
TO DESCRIBE IT,

THEN THE MALE EXPERIENCE
IS SO DIFFERENT

FROM THE FEMALE EXPERIENCE
THAT YOU CAN'T UNDERSTAND IT.

YOU NEED TO LISTEN TO US.

YOU CAN'T REALLY COMPARE

HOW MEN AND WOMEN
HAVE SUFFERED FROM SEXISM.

THERE'S NO WAY TO QUANTIFY,

YOU KNOW,
THAT KIND OF SUFFERING.

SO IF A WOMAN SAYS,
"WELL, I MISS 30%
OF MY INCOME...

MORE THAN YOU MISS
SIX YEARS OF LIFE..."

THERE'S NO WAY
TO QUANTIFY THAT.

OR "I'VE LOST A JOB OPPORTUNITY
BECAUSE I'M A WOMAN."

THERE'S NO WAY TO SAY,
"I'VE SUFFERED MORE THAN YOU"

BECAUSE YOU'VE LOST A KID
BECAUSE YOU'RE A MAN.

YOU KNOW, WE CAN'T--
BUT IT IS SERIOUS.

AND AT LEAST IF--

IF YOU'RE DENIED A JOB
BECAUSE YOU'RE A WOMAN,

AT LEAST YOU CAN GO
TO ANOTHER COMPANY

AND APPLY FOR A JOB,
YOU KNOW?

BUT YOU CAN'T--
WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR KID,

YOU CAN'T SAY,
"OKAY, I'LL GET CUSTODY
OF THAT KID.

I'LL TRY FOR THAT ONE."

IT'S A TERRIBLE THING
THAT HAPPENS.

THERE WAS A CASE--
THE SERPICO CASE.

YOU MIGHT BE TOO YOUNG
TO KNOW THE MOVIE "SERPICO"

- WITH AL PACINO,
- YEAH, I DON'T KNOW.

IT WAS ABOUT A NEW YORK CITY
UNDERCOVER COP.

HE GETS SHOT AT THE END
OF THE MOVIE

AND RETIRES
FROM THE POLICE FORCE.

AND HE WAS A REAL MAN,
FRANK SERPICO.

A WOMAN, AFTER THE MOVIE,
AFTER THIS WAS MADE,

DECIDED SHE WANTED
TO BECOME A SINGLE MOTHER

AND TRICKED HIM
INTO FATHERING A CHILD.

AND THE COURT ACCEPTED THAT,

BECAUSE SHE TOLD HER FRIENDS
SHE WAS GOING TO TRICK HIM

AND THEY TESTIFIED,
AND THE COURT SAID,

"YES, YOU WERE
TRICKED INTO IT,"

AND STILL AWARDED HER OVER 90%
OF HIS POLICE PENSION.

SO EVERYTHING THAT HE
GOES THROUGH IN THIS MOVIE,

INCLUDING GETTING SHOT,
TO EARN HIS PENSION,

SHE WON BY
SLEEPING WITH HIM ONE NIGHT.

MY SON'S MOM WANTED
TO HAVE CHILDREN WITH ME

AND I HAD ALWAYS REFUSED,

YOU KNOW, SAYING,
"YOU HAVE THIS ANGER PROBLEM.

YOU NEED TO GET COUNSELING.

I'M NOT GONNA CONSIDER
HAVING CHILDREN WITH YOU

UNTIL THAT'S DEALT WITH,"

'CAUSE SHE WOULD LOSE
HER TEMPER ALMOST EVERY DAY,

AND JUST USE
ANY WEAPON SHE COULD.

AND, LIKE, A CHILD'S
THE PERFECT WEAPON,

SO I WAS REALLY
DEFINITE ABOUT THAT.

BUT SHE ALSO USED TO PROOFREAD
MY ARTICLES FOR ME.

AND I WROTE AN ARTICLE
FOR "PLAYBOY" ABOUT SERPICO.

AND WHEN SHE READ THAT,
SHE TOLD HER FRIEND

SHE'S GONNA TRICK ME
INTO FATHERING THE CHILD.

SHE DOESN'T NEED
MY PERMISSION.

AND SO THAT'S HOW MY SON
WAS CONCEIVED.

THEN SHE SAID,
"IF YOU WANNA SEE YOUR SON,

YOU HAVE TO STAY
IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ME.

BUT IF YOU BREAK UP WITH ME,

I KNOW ALL THE THINGS
THAT A WOMAN CAN DO TO A MAN."

YOU KNOW,
SHE READ ALL MY ARTICLES.
SHE SAW MY TALK SHOWS.

SHE SAID,
"I KNOW ALL THE THINGS
A WOMAN CAN DO TO A MAN,

AND I'LL DO 'EM TO YOU."

SO, UM, THAT'S WHAT
I HAD TO DEAL WITH.

EVERYTHING THAT I HAD BEEN
RAISING AWARENESS ABOUT

FOR THE PREVIOUS 17 YEARS,

SHE COMBINED INTO ONE THING
FOR ME TO LIVE THROUGH.

IT'S REALLY IRONIC.

FOR THE FIRST...

FIVE TO SEVEN YEARS, I GUESS,

WE WOULD SEE EACH OTHER
FOUR TIMES A DAY
FOR EXCHANGES.

ON AVERAGE,
EVERY SINGLE DAY

I HAD TO DEAL
WITH SOME SCENE--

A SCENE MEANING
SHE WOULD JUST NOT SHOW UP

OR SHE WOULD HOLD THE KID OUT
AND THEN PULL HIM BACK

AND HOLD HIM OUT
AND PULL HIM--

AND JUST
KIND OF PLAY WITH ME.

OR SHE'D LET ME HAVE THE KID

AND THEN SHE'D STAND
IN FRONT OF THE CAR

SO I COULDN'T MOVE.

ANOTHER TIME, I SAW HER
HOLD HIM BY THE SHOULDERS

AND SAY,
"DADDY IS A BAD MAN.

DADDY IS A VERY BAD MAN."

AND SO I HAD TO GO THROUGH
THIS LONG CUSTODY BATTLE,

AND THE DECISIONS
THAT THEY WOULD MAKE,

YOU WOULD JUST GO, "HOW--"

THERE COULDN'T
BE ANY EXPLANATION.

EITHER THEY'RE ABSOLUTE IDIOTS
OR IT'S BIASED.

THERE'S JUST NO OTHER
EXPLANATION FOR IT.

ONE OTHER THING,
HIS MOM IS OBESE

AND WANTED HIM TO BE OBESE
FOR VARIOUS REASONS.

ONE THING IS
SO HE WOULD IDENTIFY

MORE WITH HER SIDE
OF THE FAMILY THAN MINE,

'CAUSE WE'RE ALL--
ALL THIN.

ANOTHER WAS SO THAT HE WOULD
ENJOY BEING WITH HER MORE,

'CAUSE WHEN HE WAS AT MY HOUSE,
HE HAD TO GET ACTIVITY,

YOU KNOW, AND EAT
WELL-BALANCED MEALS,

AND GET HIS SLEEP AND STUFF.

AND AT HER HOUSE,
THEY WOULD BAKE BROWNIES

AND STAY UP LATE
AND JUST WATCH TV.

SO WHERE WOULD YOU--
IF YOU'RE A LITTLE KID,

WHERE WOULD YOU
ENJOY BEING MORE?

BUT HE SELF-REPORTED
TO THE MEDIATOR

HOW UPSET HE WAS
ABOUT BEING OBESE,

THAT THE WORST THING IN SCHOOL

WAS WHEN KIDS CALLED HIM FATTY
AND HOW HE CRIED,

AND HIS PHYSICIAN SAID THAT

HE'S REALLY CONCERNED
MEDICALLY.

AND THEN WHAT I DID,
HE WAS AT AN AGE

WHERE HE WOULD IMITATE
THINGS THAT I WOULD DO.

YOU KNOW,
I GAVE HIM A BROKEN SHAVER,

SO WHEN I SHAVED,
HE WOULD PRETEND TO SHAVE.

AND WHAT I DID WAS,

I STARTED WEIGHING MYSELF
EVERY MORNING

AND WRITING DOWN MY WEIGHT,
THE DATE AND MY WEIGHT,

AND I TAUGHT HIM
HOW TO READ A SCALE.

SO HE KEPT HIS OWN RECORDS.

SO I HAD SIX MONTHS
WORTH OF STATISTICS
TO SHOW CONSISTENTLY

THAT EVERY TIME HE WAS WITH
HIS MOM FOR A FEW DAYS,

HE'D COME BACK WEIGHING
THREE TO FOUR POUNDS MORE,

AND THEN HE'D LOSE IT
WHILE HE WAS WITH ME.

SO THEY HAD, YOU KNOW,

HOW MUCH HE WAS UPSET
ABOUT THE PROBLEM,

THEY HAD HIS PHYSICIAN
BEING UPSET ABOUT THE PROBLEM,

AND THEY HAD THE PROOF
OF WHERE THE PROBLEM LAY.

SO THE JUDGES' DECISION

WAS, UM, THAT FATHER
SHOULD NO LONGER

BE ALLOWED
TO WEIGH THE CHILD.

PROBLEM SOLVED.

AFTER 14 YEARS,
MY BODY GAVE OUT.

AND I GOT SICKER
THAN I'VE EVER BEEN.

I REALIZED I'M GONNA DIE.

THAT'S NOT
GONNA DO ANYBODY GOOD.

I'VE GOTTA
GIVE UP THE FIGHT.

SO I GAVE UP CUSTODY,

AND SO I DON'T
SEE MY SON ANYMORE.

HE HASN'T BEEN
IN MY HOUSE SINCE.

- UM,
- I'M SO SORRY.

SO I DID LOSE HIM.

♪ JUST LIKE A DREAM

[CHILD VOCALIZING]

♪ YOU'RE LIKE A GUIDING LIGHT
SHINING IN THE NIGHT

[JAYE]
FRED CLAIMS THAT DURING HIS
14-YEAR CUSTODY BATTLE,

HE SPENT THE EQUIVALENT

OF FIVE YEARS
OF HIS GROSS INCOME

ON LEGAL FEES, MEDIATORS,

AND CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS.

[HAYWARD]
I WAS REALLY IN HIS LIFE
A LOT LONGER

THAN MOST FATHERS
WOULD HAVE BEEN.

IT'S SOMETHING
MOST FATHERS CAN'T AFFORD.

[CHILD BABBLING]

♪ YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL

♪ TO ME

WE GENERALLY KNOW
THAT FATHERS

DON'T GET AS GOOD A DEAL
IN FAMILY COURT

AND WE DON'T REALLY
COMPLAIN ABOUT IT

UNTIL IT HAPPENS TO US,

AND EVEN THEN,
A LOT OF MEN DON'T.

MANY MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS

COME INTO BEING
MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS

AS A RESULT
OF GETTING A DIVORCE,

WANTING TO BE EQUALLY
INVOLVED WITH THE CHILDREN,

AND REALIZING THAT WOMEN
HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHILDREN

AND MEN HAVE TO FIGHT
FOR CHILDREN.

[ELAM]
WHEN YOUR FAMILY COURTS
RUN ON THE SUPPOSITION

THAT MOTHERS ARE MORE FIT
TO BE CUSTODIAL PARENTS

AND THAT FATHERS ARE MORE FIT

TO PROVIDE
A CHECK EVERY MONTH

AND TO BECOME WHAT WE LIKE
TO CALL "UNCLE DADDY,"

WHERE THEY VISIT--
VISIT THEIR CHILDREN,

TO ME, THAT'S ONE
OF THE GREATEST OBSCENITIES
IN THE WORLD,

THE IDEA OF VISITING
YOUR OWN CHILDREN,

WHERE YOU GET TO SEE THEM

FOR TWO HOURS
ON WEDNESDAY NIGHT,

AND YOU GET TO HAVE THEM
FOR "X" AMOUNT OF HOURS
EVERY OTHER WEEKEND,

AND YOU HAVE NO SAY
IN HOW THEY'RE BROUGHT UP.

YOU KNOW, I CAN'T TELL YOU

HOW MANY MEN
HAVE BEEN IN THIS OFFICE,

IN THAT CHAIR,

IN TEARS BECAUSE THEY CAN'T
SEE THEIR KIDS.

YEAH, AND SOME OF THIS STUFF

ENDS UP IN HORRIFIC
CONSEQUENCES.

LIKE THIS GENTLEMAN HERE,
THAT'S HIS LITTLE SON.

THEY FOUND HIM DEAD--

NOT THE SON,
BUT THE YOUNG MAN,

IN THE DESERT
WITH A BULLET IN HIS HEAD

THE DAY BEFORE
THE FAMILY COURT

WHERE IT BECAME KNOWN

THAT HE WAS GONNA GET TO SEE
HIS LITTLE GUY EVEN LESS.

AND OF COURSE,
HE'D BE FALSELY ACCUSED

ONE TIME AFTER ANOTHER
AFTER ANOTHER.

IT HAD DESTROYED HIS LIFE.

IT HAD BANKRUPT HIM,
DRIVEN HIM INTO DEBT.

IT CAUSED HIM TO MISS WORK.

HE WAS ABOUT READY
TO LOSE HIS JOB.

HE WAS AT THE END OF HIS ROPE,

SO HE JUST DECIDED TO END IT.

THE UNFAIRNESS
IN THE FAMILY COURTS,

THE UNFAIRNESS
IN THE WAY CHILD SUPPORT

IS SO OFTEN STRUCTURED,

IT'S COMMONPLACE,
AND IT'S EVERYWHERE,

AND THE MORE YOU START
TO BECOME CONSCIOUS OF IT,

THE MORE YOU REALIZE
THAT IT'S THERE.

[JAYE]
I STARTED TO RESEARCH
SOME FATHER'S RIGHTS ISSUES

AND CAME ACROSS
SOME HARROWING STORIES,

LIKE THIS MAN
IN SOUTH CAROLINA

WHO FOUND OUT HIS
ONLY DAUGHTER WAS ADOPTED AWAY

BY THE MOTHER WITHOUT
HIS KNOWLEDGE OR CONSENT...

[REPORTER]
HIS DAUGHTER WAS WITH

AN ADOPTIVE FAMILY
IN CALIFORNIA,

SO HE BEGAN HIS FIGHT
TO GET HIS DAUGHTER BACK.

ADOPTION IS FOR CHILDREN
WITHOUT FAMILIES,

NOT CHILDREN WITH A WILLING
AND CAPABLE FAMILY.

[JAYE]
AND THIS MAN IN COLORADO

WHO LOST HIS DAUGHTER
WHEN THE MOTHER LEFT THE STATE

TO GIVE BIRTH IN UTAH

WHERE HE WOULDN'T HAVE
LEGAL RIGHTS TO HIS CHILD.

HE FOUGHT FOR
FOUR YEARS IN COURT

AND FINALLY WON
VISITATION RIGHTS--

ONLY VISITATION.

[MAN]
I CAN'T EXPLAIN THE EMOTION,
THE HAPPINESS--

THIS HARD FIGHT,
AND WHAT THIS MEANS TO ME...

[JAYE]
AND THEN THERE'S
THIS HEARTBREAKING STORY.

[REPORTER]
THE 20 YEAR OLD FATHER
NEVER LEFT HER SIDE

UNTIL HE WAS FORCED
TO GIVE HER TO ADOPTIVE
PARENTS THIS WEEK

AFTER KAYLEE'S MOTHER DECIDED
TO PUT HER UP FOR ADOPTION.

IN ORDER TO KEEP KAYLEE,

COLBY NEEDED TO FILE PATERNITY
ACTION, AN AFFIDAVIT,

AND A COMMENCEMENT NOTICE
WITH UTAH'S VITAL RECORDS

A DAY BEFORE THE MOTHER SIGNED

THE ADOPTION PAPERS
RELINQUISHING HER RIGHTS.

BUT IN COLBY'S CASE,
THE MOTHER ONLY GAVE HIM
A FEW HOURS NOTICE

OF WHAT SHE WAS GOING TO DO.

I WOULD LIKE HER BACK.

MEN IN THE MEN'S MOVEMENT

ARE NOT UPSET
ABOUT HAVING TO BE FATHERS.

THEY'RE UPSET
BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT ALLOWED
TO BE FATHERS.

THAT GUY...

BLOWS HIS HEAD OFF,
BLOWS HIS BRAINS OUT.

OUT OF FAMILY COURT?

AND PEOPLE DON'T THINK
THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG
WITH THAT?

WE JUST OPEN THE DOORS
TOMORROW FOR BUSINESS AS USUAL

AND THAT'S OKAY?

[JAYE]
I'VE ALWAYS THOUGHT
OF FEMINISM

AS BEING THE FIGHT
FOR GENDER EQUALITY.

AND YET I'VE NEVER HEARD
ABOUT FATHER'S RIGHTS

AND THE INJUSTICES GOING ON
IN FAMILY COURT.

WHY IS THIS?

I DECIDED TO ASK
GENDER STUDIES PROFESSOR
MICHAEL MESSNER.

WELL, I'LL JUST SAY,
I DON'T THINK IT'S--

I DON'T THINK THAT A LOT
OF THEIR ASSUMPTIONS

ARE CORRECT TO START WITH.

THERE'S NO DOUBT
THAT THERE HAVE BEEN SOME MEN

WHO GET JUST SCREWED

BY COURT DECISIONS
AND CUSTODY CASES.

BUT I THINK WHEN YOU LOOK
AT THE BROADER PATTERNS,

IT'S STILL THE CASE THAT

IN INTACT HETEROSEXUAL
FAMILIES WITH KIDS,

WOMEN ARE STILL DOING
THE VAST MAJORITY

OF THE HOUSEWORK
AND CHILD CARE,

AND THERE'S A LOT OF
SORT OF FATHER ABSENCE,

LACK OF PARTICIPATION
BY FATHERS,

SOME OF WHOM, I THINK,
AFTER DIVORCE HAPPENS,

END UP SUDDENLY WANTING

EQUALITY, YOU KNOW,
AS FATHERS

WHEN THEY HAVEN'T REALLY
BEEN PARTICIPATING EQUALLY

AS FATHERS BEFORE.

SO TO ME, IT ALWAYS
KIND OF SWINGS BACK

TO THE FEMINIST PERSPECTIVE
OF HOW WE NEED TO PUSH

FOR FULL EQUALITY
ACROSS THE BOARD,

INCLUDING BEFORE DIVORCES.

AND IF WE HAVE THAT,
THEN WE MIGHT EXPECT

MORE SYMMETRY
AFTER DIVORCES HAPPEN.

[JAYE]
THE MORE I RESEARCHED
FATHER'S RIGHTS,

THE MORE I REALIZED HOW DEEP
THIS RABBIT HOLE GOES,

NOT ONLY IN
THE AMOUNT OF ISSUES,

BUT ALSO IN THE VAST ARRAY

OF PERSPECTIVES
ON THESE ISSUES.

I DECIDED TO CREATE
A FLOW CHART

OF WHAT I THOUGHT
FATHERS' OPTIONS MIGHT BE

FOLLOWING
A SURPRISE PREGNANCY.

I THEN PUT A GREEN LINE
FOR THE PATHS

THAT I THOUGHT WOULD BE
GOOD TURN-OUTS FOR THE FATHER.

AND I PUT RED LINES
FOR THE PATHS

THAT SEEMED TO NOT BE GOOD
FOR THE FATHER.

THEN I CREATED A FLOW CHART
FOR WOMEN'S OPTIONS

AND DID THE SAME
WITH GREEN AND RED LINES.

AND AS I STEPPED BACK,

I SAW ALL THE RED LINES
FOR THE WOMEN'S OPTIONS

IF SHE DOES NOT WANT
THE CHILD.

BUT SOMETHING DAWNED ON ME.

OF EVERY PATH
THE BIOLOGICAL FATHER
COULD GO DOWN,

HE'S AT THE MERCY OF
THE WOMAN'S SOLE DISCRETION.

ALTHOUGH WOMEN HAVE
VERY DIFFICULT CHOICES TO MAKE,

SHE AT LEAST HAS THE CHOICE.

BUT FOR BIOLOGICAL FATHERS,

THEY HAVE NO SAY
OVER THEIR PARENTAL DESTINY.

THIS IS MY FRIEND DARRAH.

SHE'S EIGHT MONTHS PREGNANT
WITH HER FIRST CHILD

AND SHE'S
A LIFELONG FEMINIST.

IT SEEMS FROM WHAT I'VE READ,
THAT WOMEN SEEM TO HAVE

MORE REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS
THAN MEN DO.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY.
WE CARRY CHILDREN.

THEY'RE NEVER GONNA
CARRY CHILDREN.

IT'S JUST
A DIFFERENT THING.

SO, I GUESS,
AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE,

TAKE THE STEPS
TO PREVENT YOURSELF

BEING IN THAT SITUATION.

IT'S JUST,
LIKE, I DON'T KNOW
WHAT TO SAY.

THERE'S NO--
THERE'S NOTHING--

A WOMAN HAS BEEN--

WOMEN HAVE BEEN BLAMED FOR,
AND STILL ARE,

FOR UNWANTED PREGNANCIES,

CHOOSING TO HAVE
AN ABORTION,

NOT CHOOSING
TO HAVE AN ABORTION,

CHOOSING TO PUT
THEIR CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION.

WHEN THE BURDEN LIES
ON A SINGLE MOTHER
IF THE MAN LEAVES,

SOCIETALLY, SHE'S LAMBASTED.

SO THERE'S A LOT OF THINGS

THAT WOMEN DEAL WITH
IN THAT REGARD

THAT MEN DON'T
ACTUALLY DEAL WITH.

SO I CAN HAVE COMPASSION
FOR THEIR SITUATION,

BUT I DON'T KNOW
THAT IT'S GONNA CHANGE

IN THE WAY THEY WANT IT TO,
BECAUSE IT'S BIOLOGY.

SO IF YOU'RE GOING TO
BE HAVING SEX

THAT COULD RESULT
IN PREGNANCY,

AND YOU HAVEN'T HAD
THIS CONVERSATION

WITH THE WOMAN THAT
YOU'RE HAVING SEX WITH,

YOU BETTER HAVE IT,
YOU BETTER HAVE IT FAST.

THAT'S WHEN THE MAN HAS
THE ABILITY TO MAKE DECISIONS--

EITHER NOT TO ENGAGE IN SEX
OR TO USE CONDOMS

AND TO USE OTHER FORMS
OF CONTRACEPTION.

THAT'S WHERE HIS ROLE
COMES IN.

ONCE HE'S IMPREGNATED HER,

SHE'S THE ONE NOW FACED
WITH CONTINUING A PREGNANCY,

FACED WITH THE HEALTH RISKS
THAT ACCOMPANY PREGNANCY.

SO... HIS RIGHTS HAVE TO

BE EXERCISED EARLY.

BUT ONCE SHE'S PREGNANT,
ALL DECISIONS MUST BE HERS.

BECAUSE ULTIMATELY,
SHE IS THE MOST IMPACTED.

THERE'S JUST NO QUESTION.

SHE ULTIMATELY
HAS THE RESPONSIBILITY
FOR THAT CHILD.

SO BEFORE WE WERE MARRIED,

HE PROMISED ME
WE WOULD HAVE TWO KIDS,

AND NOW HE DOESN'T
WANT ANYMORE.

[CROWD]
AWW.

MY FRIENDS THINK
I SHOULD TRICK HIM

AND STOP TAKING
MY BIRTH CONTROL.

MEN HAVE NEVER BEEN
IN CONTROL OF OUR BODIES,

WE'RE THE ONES IN CONTROL.

CLAP IF YOU THINK
THAT SHE SHOULD TRICK HIM.

MY PEOPLE.
UP NEXT, EVERYBODY...

[JAYE]
SO IT SOUNDS LIKE
MEN'S REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS

ARE LIMITED TO THE CHOICE
OF WHETHER OR NOT TO HAVE SEX

AND THE CHOICE
OF WHETHER OR NOT TO
USE PROTECTION.

BUT WHAT IF HE'S TRICKED
INTO FATHERHOOD?

OR WHAT IF HE'S NOT
EVEN THE FATHER?

WHAT DOES PATERNITY FRAUD
LOOK LIKE?

IT'S UGLY.
IT'S EXTRAORDINARY UGLY.

AND WE HAVE TO DISTINGUISH IT
BETWEEN PATERNITY FRAUD

- AND WRONGFUL PATERNITY.
- WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?

WRONGFUL PATERNITY
CAN BE INNOCENT.

"OKAY, WE WENT TO A PARTY,
I HAD SEX WITH SIX GUYS.

I THINK IT WAS WHEN I WAS
HANGING OUT THE WINDOW

I GOT PREGNANT,
BUT I WASN'T SURE.

BUT YOU KNOW, IF ANYBODY
KNOWS THAT GUY'S NAME,

WOULD YOU PLEASE
HAVE HIM CALL ME?"

AND THEN SHE NAMES
ONE OF THE OTHER GUYS

AND HE DIDN'T HAVE
SEX WITH HER.

IT WASN'T MALICIOUS.
IT WASN'T INTENTIONAL.

SHE WASN'T TRYING
TO HARM ANYBODY.

SHE WAS JUST TRYING
TO FIGURE OUT WHO IT WAS.

WRONGFUL PATERNITY.

MORE OFTEN,
AND LESS FACETIOUSLY,

"OKAY, I'M MARRIED
AND I HAD AN AFFAIR."

OBVIOUSLY, HERE THERE'S
ALL SORTS OF PROBLEMS,

BECAUSE THERE ARE MORE VICTIMS

THAN THE PERSON WHO'S NAMED
AS DEAR OLD DAD

WHO MAY BE THE WRONG ONE.

THERE'S EVERYBODY
INVOLVED IN THE FAMILY,

LIKE THE SITUATION IN TEXAS

WHERE THE FAMILY HAD FIVE
LITTLE TOWHEAD KIDS--

ALL GUYS,
ALL LITTLE BLONDOS.

AND ALL OF A SUDDEN,

ONE DAY ONE OF THE LITTLE
BLONDO KIDS GETS IN TROUBLE,

HAS TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL.

THEY CAN'T GET AHOLD OF MOM.
THEY GET AHOLD OF DAD.

DAD RUSHES TO THE HOSPITAL,
NEEDS TO GIVE BLOOD.

WHOOPS.

CAN'T DO IT. WRONG BLOOD.

"WHAT?"

ALL THE KIDS LOOK ALIKE.

TURNS OUT IT WAS THE GUY
DOWN THE STREET.

- YOU'VE HEARD OF THIS CASE?
- IT'S A REAL CASE.

SO WHAT HAPPENS
TO THIS FAMILY?

CAN YOU FATHOM WHAT HAPPENS
TO THIS FAMILY?

HOW DO THINK THE KIDS FEEL
WHEN THEY FIND OUT

DEAR OLD DAD
ISN'T DEAR OLD DAD

AND IT'S THE GUY DOWN
THE STREET?

HOW DO YOU THINK DAD FEELS,

THAT THESE FIVE LITTLE BOYS
THAT HE STILL LOVES DEARLY,

WHEN HE FINDS OUT THEY'RE
NOT HIS BIO CHILDREN.

BUT HE CAN'T TEAR AWAY,
'CAUSE HE LOVES THEM.

HE'S DEVOTED
HIMSELF TO THESE--

HOW DO YOU THINK HE FEELS?

I MEAN, IT'S HORRIFIC.

HORRIFIC.

THAT'S NOT WRONGFUL.
THAT'S DELIBERATE.

- SO THAT'S PATERNITY FRAUD?
- THAT'S PATERNITY FRAUD.

SHE KNEW WHO THE FATHER WAS
AND LIED ABOUT IT.

PAUL WAS RIGHT WHEN HE SAID

TRYING TO UNDERSTAND
THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT

IS LIKE TRYING
TO UNDERSTAND A SNOWDRIFT

ONE SNOWFLAKE AT A TIME.

THERE ARE UNIQUE
FATHER'S RIGHTS ISSUES

THAT VARY BETWEEN
UNMARRIED, MARRIED,

AND DIVORCED DADS.

BUT THERE ARE ALSO
MEN'S RIGHT'S ISSUES

FOR NON-BIOLOGICAL FATHERS...

LIKE THIS MAN
WHO IS FACING JAIL TIME

FOR FAILURE
TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT

FOR A CHILD THAT DNA TESTS
PROVE ISN'T HIS.

CARNELL ALEXANDER STILL OWES

MORE THAN $30,000 TO THE STATE
FOR A CHILD THAT'S NOT HIS

BECAUSE THE MOM
WROTE HIS NAME DOWN

BECAUSE SHE NEEDED
TO NAME SOMEONE

IN ORDER TO GET
WELFARE BENEFITS.

I HAD TO PUT HIM DOWN
AS THE FATHER.

THAT WAS THE ONLY WAY
I COULD GET ASSISTANCE.

I'M ALMOST HOMELESS,
I'M ALMOST IN JAIL.

I'M OUT OF WORK

MY MONEY IS BEING
THREATENED TO BE TAKEN.

[REPORTER]
HE SAYS THE LAW
NEEDS TO BE CHANGED,

SO WHEN THIS HAPPENS,
AS IT OFTEN DOES,

OTHER MEN DON'T BECOME
DAD BY DEFAULT.

[ELAM]
A LOT OF TIMES PEOPLE
WONDER ABOUT MRAs,

"WHY ARE YOU GUYS SO ANGRY?"

AND MY ANSWER TO THAT IS,
"WHY AREN'T YOU?"

HOW CAN ANYBODY LOOK AT THIS
AND NOT BE ANGERED BY IT?

AND THE ONLY ANSWER TO THAT
I'VE EVER BEEN ABLE
TO COME UP WITH

IS THAT PEOPLE AREN'T ANGRY

BECAUSE THEY DON'T SEE MEN
AS HUMAN BEINGS.

[JAYE]
I CONTINUED TRAVELING
NORTH AMERICA,

MEETING MRAs
FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE,

HEARING THEIR
PERSONAL STORIES,

THEIR RED PILL MOMENTS.

I MET A YOUNG MAN
WHO WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED

WHEN HE WAS 16 YEARS OLD

WHILE LIVING
AT A RESIDENTIAL HOME

FOR PEOPLE WITH
DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITIES.

SHE WAS THE ONLY WOMAN
I'VE DONE ANYTHING EVER WITH,

PARTLY BECAUSE IT JUST
MESSED ME UP SO MUCH.

[JAYE]
SHE CONTINUES WORKING THERE.

SHE HIT ME IN THE FACE.

SHE ACTUALLY HIT ME
THROUGHOUT THE HOUSE,

CHASED ME
THROUGHOUT THE HOUSE.

WHEN I REPORTED MY DOMESTIC
ASSAULT TO POLICE OFFICERS,

I DID NOT AT ALL
BRING UP THE FACT THAT
I WAS SEXUALLY ASSAULTED.

BECAUSE IF HE WASN'T
GOING TO BELIEVE

THAT I WAS A VICTIM
OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE,

THERE WAS NO WAY
HE WAS GONNA BELIEVE

THAT I WAS GONNA BE
A VICTIM OF SEXUAL ASSAULT.

[JAYE]
I MET THE HONEY BADGERS,

WOMEN WHO ARE
MEN'S RIGHTS ADVOCATES.

AND THEN THERE
WAS A 15-YEAR-OLD BOY,

THERE WAS
A 35-YEAR-OLD WOMAN,

AND THEN LATER ON
SHE CAME OUT OF JAIL

AND SHE WAS ABLE
TO COLLECT CHILD SUPPORT

FROM THIS BOY THAT SHE RAPED.

YEAH.

AFTER GETTING OUT OF JAIL.

SO THERE'S LACK
OF FAIRNESS FOR MEN

IN THE COURT SYSTEMS.

WHEN POLICE OFFICERS SHOW UP
TO A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASE

OFTEN MEN
WERE JUST TAKEN AWAY

WITHOUT ASKING
WHAT EVEN HAPPENED.

IT'S JUST PRESUMED
THAT MEN ARE THE CRIMINALS.

I WAS ASSAULTED SEVERAL TIMES,
AND I NEVER GOT ANY HELP.

I WENT TO THE POLICE STILL
BLEEDING A COUPLE OF TIMES,

AND ONE POLICE OFFICER SAID--

I'LL NEVER FORGET THIS,
HE SAID,

"IF SHE STARTS
HITTING YOU AGAIN,

YOU BETTER GET OUT
OF THERE FAST,

BECAUSE IF SHE JUST BREAKS

A FINGERNAIL
TRYING TO HIT YOU,

WE'LL ARREST YOU."

I MEAN, I CAN'T TELL YOU
AT THIS POINT

HOW MANY GUYS I'VE TALKED TO
WHO ARE LIKE,

"YEAH, YOU KNOW,
SHE STABBED ME

AND THEY PUT ME IN JAIL."

NOT ONLY ARE THERE
ENDLESS STUDIES

THAT SHOW WOMEN ARE
JUST AS VIOLENT AS MEN ARE,

WHEN I WOULD TALK ABOUT IT,
INVARIABLY,

MEN WOULD START COMING OUT OF
THE WOODWORK WITH STORIES...

STORIES THEY WERE
AFRAID TO TELL,

STORIES THAT THEY GOT
LAUGHED AT FOR,

STORIES THAT THEY
GOT BLAMED FOR.

IT'S HIDEOUS.

THIS IS NOT
FLATTERING TO MEN

TO TALK ABOUT
MEN'S VULNERABILITIES,

TO TALK ABOUT THE WAYS
THAT THEY ARE NOT STRONG

AND THAT THEY ARE,
WELL, WEAK.

AND TO BE HONEST ABOUT IT,
IT'S NOT FLATTERING.

A SOLUTION
FOR BOTH GENDERS

IS THAT WE NEED TO BE
ABLE TO RECOGNIZE

HOW MEN ARE VULNERABLE

AND WE NEED TO BE ABLE
TO RECOGNIZE

HOW WOMEN ARE ACTORS.

BECAUSE WE HAVE
A HUGE BLIND SPOT

ESPECIALLY WHEN WOMEN
DO BAD THINGS.

[ANGELUCCI]
MY BEST FRIEND

THAT I GREW UP WITH
SINCE KINDERGARTEN

WAS BEING PHYSICALLY ABUSED
BY HIS WIFE

WHO HE'D BEEN MARRIED TO
FOR 20 YEARS.

SHE'LL BREAK GLASS
AND THROW IT AT HIM,
PUNCH HIM.

I'VE SEEN IT HAPPEN
SPONTANEOUSLY,

AND IT WAS FREQUENT.

AND HE'S BIGGER THAN HER,

BUT HE DIDN'T WANT
TO HIT HER.

AND HE DIDN'T WANT
THE CHILDREN--

THEY HAD
THREE MINOR CHILDREN,

HE DIDN'T WANT THEM
SEEING THIS AT ALL.

SO HE WOULD USUALLY
JUST GO OUTSIDE,

BECAUSE THERE WOULD BE
GLASS BREAKING

OR THINGS BEING SMASHED
OR YELLING,

AND HE KNEW
THAT THE NEIGHBORS

MIGHT THINK IT'S HIM.

SO HE WOULD GO OUTSIDE

SO THAT THE NEIGHBORS
COULD SEE WHAT'S HAPPENED.

EVENTUALLY, I SAID,
"LOOK, YOU'RE GONNA NEED--

YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP,
AND SO DOES SHE.

MAYBE THE KIDS DO, TOO."

SO I CALLED A BUNCH OF
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SHELTERS.

I JUST LOOKED AROUND ONLINE
AND I CALLED,

BUT EVERY PLACE
THAT I CALLED SAID,

"WE DON'T HELP MEN.

WE DON'T HELP MALE--
MEN AT ALL."

AND I STARTED BECOMING CURIOUS
ABOUT WHY THAT WAS,

'CAUSE I LEARNED THAT THESE
WERE STATE FUNDED SHELTERS.

AND I KNOW THAT MEN PAY
AT LEAST HALF OF THE TAXES

THAT FUND THESE SHELTERS
IF THEY'RE STATE FUNDED,

AND I JUST WAS WONDERING WHY.

BASICALLY, THERE WAS
NO PLACE TO TAKE HIM

AND IT JUST CONTINUED.

THE PROBLEM
JUST KEPT GOING.

[JAYE]
IN THE UNITED STATES,

THERE ARE OVER 2,000
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SHELTERS.

ALL OF THEM SERVE
FEMALE VICTIMS,

AND NEARLY ALL OF THEM
TURN AWAY MALE VICTIMS.

IN FACT, AS OF 2016,

THERE'S ONLY
A SINGLE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
SHELTER FOR MEN.

MY INITIAL REACTION
WAS THAT THERE NEEDED TO BE

THOUSANDS MORE
WOMEN'S SHELTERS

BECAUSE THAT MANY MORE WOMEN
ARE BEING BATTERED.

BUT AS IT TURNS OUT,

ONE IN THREE WOMEN
AND ONE IN FOUR MEN

WILL BE VICTIMS
OF PHYSICAL VIOLENCE

BY AN INTIMATE PARTNER
IN THEIR LIFETIME.

SURE, THERE'S A SLIGHT
MAJORITY OF FEMALE VICTIMS,

BUT HOW CAN THAT EXCUSE
DENY MEN HELP?

COULDN'T THIS BE CONSIDERED
GENDER DISCRIMINATION?

THINK OF IT THIS WAY.

ROUGHLY 78%
OF ALL SUICIDES ARE MEN.

IF SUICIDE PREVENTION SERVICES
ONLY SERVED MEN,

WOULDN'T WE SEE
THE GENDER DISCRIMINATION
IMMEDIATELY?

IF THERE ARE OVER 2,000
WOMEN'S SHELTERS

THAT TURN AWAY MEN,

AND ONLY ONE SHELTER FOR MEN,

OBVIOUSLY, THE RESOURCES
DON'T MATCH THE NEED.

HOW ARE YOU INVOLVED IN
THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT?

WELL, FROM
THE VERY BEGINNING

WHEN I FIRST OPENED
THE REFUGE,

WHICH WAS IN 1971
IN CHISWICK IN LONDON,

ALMOST AS SOON
AS I TOOK THE WOMEN IN,

I GOT A HOUSE FOR MEN.

A VOICE FOR MEN'S
EDITOR AT LARGE ERIN PIZZEY

FOUNDED THE FIRST EVER
WOMEN'S SHELTER IN 1971,

AND SHE IS WIDELY REVERED
IN THE MEN'S RIGHTS COMMUNITY.

[PIZZEY]
'CAUSE YOU SEE, WHAT I KNEW
FROM THE BEGINNING,

MOST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
IS CONSENSUAL.

BOTH ARE INVOLVED.

SOMETIMES ONE'S
THE PERPETRATOR,

THE OTHER PLAYS THE VICTIM,
THEN IT CROSSES OVER.

IT'S NOT AS THOUGH IT'S JUST
ALL MEN OR ALL WOMEN.

IT'S BOTH, AND OCCASIONALLY,
INNOCENT VICTIMS--

VERY INNOCENT.

BATTERED CHILDREN
GROW UP TO BATTER,
THAT'S WHAT I LEARNED,

WHETHER IT BE
A MAN OR A WOMAN.

AND I NOW KNOW
THAT IF A WOMAN COMES IN

WITH A HISTORY OF VIOLENCE
IN HER OWN CHILDHOOD,

CHANCES ARE,
SHE WILL BE PROBABLY VIOLENT
TO HER CHILDREN,

AND SHE WILL WANT
TO LIVE ON THIS KNIFE EDGE
OF CRISIS AND DANGER.

I HAVEN'T BEEN
ALLOWED TO SPEAK.

- THAT'S THE DIFFICULTY,
- WHY IS THAT?

BECAUSE I'M COMPLETELY BARRED
FROM ALL CONFERENCES.

I'M NOT ALLOWED TO WALK UP
THE STEP OF MY OWN REFUGE.

I BOUGHT
THE BLOODY BUILDING.

BUT, NO, BECAUSE
THERE'S FEMINISTS--

THE WOMAN WHO RUNS IT
IS VERY HEAVILY FEMINIST.

SHE WON'T HAVE ANYTHING
TO DO WITH ME.

WHAT DID YOU SAY
THAT MADE THEM HATE YOU?

THAT WOMEN COULD BE
EQUALLY AS VIOLENT AS MEN--

THAT WAS FROM THE BEGINNING.

[JAYE]
ERIN PIZZEY SAYS THAT 62

OF THE FIRST 100 WOMEN
TO ENTER HER REFUGE

WERE JUST AS VIOLENT
AS THE MEN THEY LEFT,

AND VIOLENT TOWARDS
THEIR CHILDREN.

VERBALLY, AND...

...YOU KNOW, VERY EASILY,

AND I'VE HAD AN ARGUMENT...

[JAYE]
BUT THE FEMINISTS I'VE MET

HAVE AN ENTIRELY DIFFERENT TAKE
ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

ON THE WHOLE ISSUE
OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE--

THAT'S JUST ANOTHER WORD,
REALLY.

IT'S A CLEAN-UP WORD
ABOUT WIFE BEATING,

'CAUSE THAT'S
REALLY WHAT IT IS.

OR "DATING VIOLENCE."

AND IT'S NOT GIRLS
THAT ARE BEATING UP ON BOYS.

IT'S BOYS THAT ARE
BEATING UP ON GIRLS

AND USING VIOLENCE
TO INTIMIDATE AND TO CONTROL.

AND WE HAVE VERY FEW

WHAT'S CALLED
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SHELTERS,

WHICH ARE PLACES THAT WOMEN
CAN LEAVE THEIR HOME

WITH THEIR CHILDREN
AND GET A NEW START,

GET OUT OF THE VIOLENCE.

BUT THEY'RE NOT NEARLY
ENOUGH OF THEM.

WE NEED MORE FUNDING
AND MORE RESOURCES

BECAUSE IT IS
A TREMENDOUS DISADVANTAGE

FOR WOMEN AND GIRLS.

[JAYE] IN 2014,
THE CDC RELEASED A REPORT

REVEALING THAT OVER
5.4 MILLION MEN

AND 4.7 MILLION WOMEN

HAD BEEN VICTIMS
OF INTIMATE PARTNER
PHYSICAL VIOLENCE

WITHIN THE PREVIOUS
12 MONTHS.

BUT THEN WHY DOES THE MEDIA

PAINT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
AS A WOMEN'S ISSUE?

[REPORTER]
THE WORLD HEALTH
ORGANIZATION SAYS

ONE IN THREE WOMEN
ARE ABUSED BY THEIR PARTNER.

ONE IN THREE AMERICAN WOMEN
EXPERIENCES DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

OR STALKING
AT SOME POINT IN HER LIFE.

[JAYE]
AND WHEN IT WAS ADDRESSED
AS A MEN'S ISSUE,

THE SPEAKER'S POINT
WAS THAT IT'S A MEN'S ISSUE

BECAUSE MEN ARE THE PROBLEM.

I'M GONNA SHARE WITH YOU

A PARADIGM SHIFTING
PERSPECTIVE

ON THE ISSUES
OF GENDER VIOLENCE.

I DON'T SEE THESE
AS WOMEN'S ISSUES

THAT SOME GOOD MEN
HELP OUT WITH.

IN FACT, I'M GONNA ARGUE
THAT THESE ARE MEN'S ISSUES.

WHY IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
STILL A BIG PROBLEM

IN THE UNITED STATES
AND ALL OVER THE WORLD?

WHAT'S GOING ON?
WHY DO SO MANY MEN ABUSE
PHYSICALLY,

EMOTIONALLY, VERBALLY,
AND IN OTHER WAYS,

THE WOMEN AND GIRLS,
AND THE MEN AND BOYS

THAT THEY CLAIM TO LOVE?

WHAT'S GOING ON WITH MEN?

LET'S GRANT EVERY SINGLE
EMPIRICAL CASE AS BEING TRUE.

YES, IT IS TRUE.
LET'S JUST SAY--

I MEAN, IT IS NOT TRUE,
BUT LET'S JUST ASSUME

THAT THERE IS GENDER SYMMETRY
IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE,

THAT WOMEN HIT MEN
AS MUCH AS MEN HIT WOMEN.

IF I WERE TO SAY THAT,
I WOULD SAY,

THEREFORE,
WE NEED BOATLOADS MORE FUNDING

FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

TO DEVELOP SHELTERS
AND ADEQUATE INTERVENTIONS,

'CAUSE THERE'S
THIS HIDDEN EPIDEMIC

OF MEN WHO ARE BEING
BEATEN UP BY WOMEN.

OR, I COULD SAY, AS
THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT DO,

THEREFORE, WE SHOULDN'T
HAVE THESE SHELTERS

AND WE SHOULDN'T FUND THEM
BECAUSE THE WOMEN ARE ALL LYING.

WELL, IT SEEMS TO ME,
THAT IF YOU REALLY BELIEVE
IN GENDER SYMMETRY,

YOU'RE NOT QUESTIONING
THE NUMBER OF WOMEN.

YOU'RE JUST SAYING
THE NUMBER OF MEN IS--

YOU WOULD WANT TO JOIN
WITH WOMEN

WHO ARE ANTIVIOLENCE

TO SAY WE HAVE
A REAL PROBLEM HERE.

IT'S NOT EVEN
A GENDER PROBLEM.

IT'S A PROBLEM
OF WOMEN HITTING MEN
AND MEN HITTING WOMEN.

WE'VE GOTTA GET
BOATLOADS MORE FUNDING.
LET'S WORK TOGETHER.

THAT SEEMS THE LOGICAL
RESPONSE TO THIS.

BUT INSTEAD THEY'RE SAYING,
IT'S LIKE A ZERO SUM GAME.

IF WE FUND THE WOMEN,
THEN WE'RE GONNA IGNORE THE MEN.

WELL, WE'RE NOT--
WE'RE NOT GONNA IGNORE
THE WOMEN,

'CAUSE WE ALL AGREE
THAT THE LEVELS ARE
AS HIGH AS WE SAY.

CJAYE]
BUT IT DOES SOUND LIKE
A ZERO SUM GAME

WHEN ONLY WOMEN
ARE RECEIVING SERVICES

IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
SITUATIONS.

AND OF ALL THE MEN'S RIGHTS
ACTIVISTS I'VE MET,

NONE OF THEM QUESTION
THE NUMBER OF FEMALE VICTIMS.

BUT THEY ARE CALLING ATTENTION
TO THE HIGH NUMBER

OF MALE VICTIMS
THAT ARE BEING DISMISSED.

SO WHY AREN'T
MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS

AND FEMINISTS
WORKING TOGETHER?

MICHAEL KIMMEL
BRIEFLY SAID SOMETHING
THAT MADE ME WONDER.

HE SAID IT WOULD NO LONGER
BE A GENDER PROBLEM

IF BOTH MEN AND WOMEN WERE
EQUALLY VICTIMS

OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

IS THAT WHY THE NUMBER
OF MALE VICTIMS

ARE NEVER ADDRESSED?

TO ME, IT'S BEEN FRAUD
FOR ALL THESE YEARS.

WHY IS IT WE HAVE
THIS ENORMOUSLY POWERFUL
FEMINIST MOVEMENT

AND VIRTUALLY
NOTHING FOR MEN?

ORIGINALLY,
IT WAS CAPITALISM

WAS THE BIG ENEMY
IN THE '60s AND '70s.

AND IT WAS THE RADICAL
FEMINISTS IN AMERICA
THAT MOVED THE GOAL POST.

THEY SAID, NO,
IT'S NO LONGER CAPITALISM
IS THE ENEMY.

THE ENEMY IS PATRIARCHY,,,
OR MEN.

AND THAT'S HOW
THE WOMEN'S MOVEMENT BEGAN,

AND IT WAS
ENORMOUSLY SUCCESSFUL.

THE NEW MOOD IN THE REFUGES

WAS GONNA BE
THAT NO MAN COULD
WORK IN REFUGES,

AND CAN'T TODAY.

THEY CAN'T SIT ON
THE BOARDS.

AND BOYS OVER 9,

OR POSSIBLY 12,
CAN'T GO INTO REFUGES.

YOU CALL THEM SHELTERS.

THEIR MOTHERS HAVE TO MAKE
OTHER ARRANGEMENTS FOR THEM,

WHICH I FIND SHOCKING.

AND IT RING-FENCED MONEY.

I THINK THAT
THAT PARTICULAR TIME

WHEN THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT
WERE DESPERATE FOR FUNDING

'CAUSE THEY'D RUN OUT
OF PUBLICITY--

THEY WERE DESPERATE
FOR FUNDING

AND THEY NEEDED
A JUST CAUSE.

AND, UNFORTUNATELY,
IT FELL INTO THEIR LAPS.

IT'S AN ENORMOUS INDUSTRY.

I MEAN,
"VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN,"

THEY GET SOMETHING LIKE--

WELL, IT'S A BILLION
AND OVER A YEAR.

HMM.

AND AN AWFUL LOT OF THAT
GOES ON, REALLY,

SUPPOSEDLY
REHABILITATING MEN,

BUT ESSENTIALLY PUNISHING THEM

WITH SOMETHING THAT'S CALLED
THE DULUTH MODEL.

DULUTH POWER AND CONTROL,
WELL, YOU GUYS KNOW ABOUT THAT?

-[JAYE] NO.
- I'LL GIVE YOU A COPY.

IN 1977, I THINK,
A BUNCH OF CRAZY WOMEN
UP IN DULUTH, MINNESOTA,

FIGURED OUT
THEY HAD THE SOLUTION
TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

AND IT WAS ALL
ABOUT PATRIARCHY

AND ALL ABOUT MEN.

IT'S THE DULUTH POWER
AND CONTROL WHEEL,

'CAUSE MEN ARE ALL ABOUT
POWER AND CONTROL.

OF COURSE, NOT YOU LADIES.

YOU GUYS, YOU DON'T
CONTROL ANYTHING.

YOU HAVE NO POWER.

YOU'RE JUST SWEET
AND INNOCENT LITTLE THINGS.

OKAY, SO THIS POWER
AND CONTROL WHEEL

IS DIVIDED UP
IN ALL THESE THINGS,

YOU KNOW,
ABOUT WHO DOES THIS
AND WHO DOES THAT,

AND BLAH, BLAH, BLAH.
AND OF COURSE, IT'S ALL MEN.

THE ENTIRE
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INDUSTRY
WAS FOUNDED ON THAT.

I THINK IT'S STILL 37

OR 32 STATES
IN THE UNITED STATES

THAT BY LAW THEY HAVE TO USE
THE DULUTH MODEL

FOR BATTER
INTERVENTION PROGRAM.

IT'S ALL SHAME,
BLAME, AND GUILT DRIVEN.

IF YOU'RE A MAN
AND YOU WALK IN,

YOU MUST ADMIT
YOU DID IT UP FRONT

OR YOU'RE IN DENIAL.

THERE'S NO DEBATE.
THERE'S NO DISCUSSION.

THERE'S NO POSSIBILITY THAT
YOU COULD BE FALSELY ACCUSED,

THE CRIMINAL JUSTICE SYSTEM
COULD'VE MADE A MISTAKE.

NONE WHATSOEVER.
YOU ARE IN A STATE OF DENIAL,

AND YOU WILL COMPLETE
THAT COURSE

OR YOU'RE GONNA
GO TO JAIL.

YOU WILL BE REENGINEERED.

[JAYE]
THAT'S FRIGHTENING.

- FRIGHTENING?
- YES, THAT'S FRIGHTENING.

I THINK IT'S TERRIFYING.

ABSOLUTELY TERRIFYING.

ALL I HAD TO DO,
I HAD A SIMPLE CHOICE.

I COULD JUST SAY,

"YES, YOU'RE RIGHT,
MEN ARE THE ENEMY."

NO PROBLEM.
BUT I COULDN'T.

I ABSOLUTELY COULDN'T.

[SIGHS]

JUST GETTING OVERWHELMED,

BECAUSE...

I DON'T KNOW...

WHERE I'M HEADED
WITH WHAT I BELIEVE,

AND WHAT IS RIGHT
AND WHAT IS WRONG,

AND WHO IS WRONG
AND WHO IS RIGHT AND...

THE TRUTH IS SOMEWHERE
IN THE MIDDLE

AND THAT'S WHY
I'M FEELING FRUSTRATED,

BECAUSE...

I DON'T KNOW
WHERE THE TRUTH IS,

AND I DON'T KNOW...

WHEN I DECIDED TO MAKE A FILM

ON THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT,

I NEVER ANTICIPATED

QUESTIONING
MY FEMINIST VIEWS.

BUT THE MORE MRAs I MET,

THE MORE I FELT COMPELLED

TO REMIND MYSELF
WHY I WAS A FEMINIST.

I SIGNED UP
FOR A WOMEN'S GROUP.

WELCOME TO OUR
"WOMEN, OWN YOUR POWER"
WORKSHOP.

ONLY FOUR PERCENT OF
THE FORTUNE 500 COMPANIES
ARE LED BY WOMEN.

WOMEN ONLY HOLD ABOUT 14%

OF CORPORATE
EXECUTIVE POSITIONS

AND LESS THAN 20% OF
OUR GOVERNMENTAL POSITIONS.

[JAYE]
I MADE VIDEO DIARIES
COMPLAINING

ABOUT HOW I HAD
TO CHANGE WHAT I WORE

TO WALK ALONE AT NIGHT,

HOW MUCH TIME IT TOOK ME
TO GET READY FOR WORK,

ALL THE HOUSEKEEPING
THAT WAS ON MY SHOULDERS.

IN COMPARISON
TO OTHER GENDER ISSUES,

THESE VIDEOS SEEM TRIVIAL,

BUT I MADE THEM NONETHELESS.

I ATTENDED
WOMEN'S RIGHTS RALLIES.

[WOMAN ON P.A.]
NO TO VIOLENCE.

THAT'S WHAT
WE ARE HERE FOR,

TO SAY NO MORE
TO VIOLENCE IN ANY FORM,

ESPECIALLY AGAINST WOMEN
AND GIRLS.

[CHEERING]

I REPEATED
WOMEN'S ISSUES IN MY HEAD

LIKE A BROKEN RECORD--

FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION,

SEX TRAFFICKING,
REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS,

MATERNITY LEAVE,

AND SOCIAL MEDIA HELPED
REMIND ME OF WOMEN'S ISSUES.

WE HAVE FOUGHT FOR EVERYBODY'S
ELSE'S EQUAL RIGHTS.

IT'S OUR TIME
TO HAVE WAGE EQUALITY
ONCE AND FOR ALL,

AND EQUAL RIGHTS FOR WOMEN

IN THE UNITED STATES
OF AMERICA.

WE ARE STRUGGLING
FOR A UNITING WORD.

BUT THE GOOD NEWS IS

THAT WE HAVE
A UNITING MOVEMENT.

IT IS CALLED "HE FOR SHE."

WHENEVER I HEAR
THE MRAs' POINT OF VIEW

ABOUT HOW DIFFICULT
IT IS FOR THEM,

I IMMEDIATELY GO TO,

WELL, WHAT ABOUT US?
WHAT IS LIKE FOR US?

AND THEN I GET
ON THE DEFENSIVE

AND WANT TO MAKE SURE

THAT WOMEN'S STRUGGLES
ARE ALSO HEARD.

AND I DON'T KNOW
IF THAT'S NECESSARY,

BECAUSE THE MRAs
ARE SAYING THAT

THE FEMINIST PERSPECTIVE
IS THE MAINSTREAM PERSPECTIVE.

BUT EVEN WHEN I HEAR
THEIR ISSUES,

I STILL WANT TO SPEAK UP
FOR THE WOMEN

BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE--
I DON'T KNOW.

I FEEL LIKE TALKING
ABOUT ONE GENDER'S ISSUES

NOW NEGLECTS THE OTHER,

AND I GUESS THAT'S WHAT
MRAs HAVE BEEN DEALING WITH

IS ALWAYS HEARING
ABOUT WOMEN'S ISSUES

AND FEELING LIKE
THEIR ISSUES ARE NEGLECTED.

BUT WHENEVER
I HEAR THEM TALK ABOUT
MEN'S ISSUES,

I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO
STAND UP FOR WOMEN AND SAY,

"THIS IS WHAT
WE'RE DEALING WITH,

AN EQUAL OPPOSITE."

[SIGHS]

I MET WITH
MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVIST
KAREN STRAUGHAN

LATE ONE NIGHT
IN A NOISY BAR.

SHE BECAME WELL KNOWN
FOR HER YOUTUBE VIDEOS

TALKING ABOUT
MALE DISPOSABILITY

AND OTHER
MEN'S RIGHTS ISSUES,

AND SHE'S A HONEY BADGER.

PART OF WHAT I DO,

WHAT I RESEARCH,
AND WHAT I THINK ABOUT

IS THE REASON PSYCHOLOGICALLY

WHY FEMINISM SEEMS TO BE

SUCH A COMFORTABLE
WARM BLANKET EMOTIONALLY

FOR SO MANY PEOPLE,
MEN AND WOMEN ALIKE.

AND IT'S SO COMFORTABLE

THAT IT WILL MAKE THEM
NOT SEE THINGS

THAT ARE RIGHT IN FRONT
OF THEIR FACE.

LOOK AT BOKO HARAM.

[REPORTER]
HUNDREDS OF YOUNG GIRLS
FAST ASLEEP IN THEIR BEDS

ARE AWAKENED
BY THE SOUND OF GUNFIRE.

ARMED ATTACKERS HAVE STORMED
THEIR BOARDING SCHOOL

AND SET FIRE TO DOZENS
OF BUILDINGS.

NEARLY 300 OF THEM
ARE DRAGGED FROM THEIR DORM,
LOADED ON TO TRUCKS,

AND CARRIED AWAY
DEEP INTO THE FOREST.

[REPORTER]
...FROM NEW YORK TO LONDON
RALLIED YESTERDAY

DEMANDING THAT
THE TERRORIST GROUP BOKO HARAM
BRING BACK OUR GIRLS.

IT JUST GETS
TO THE CORE OF YOU.

THIS UNCONSCIONABLE ACT

WAS COMMITTED
BY A TERRORIST GROUP

DETERMINED TO KEEP
THESE GIRLS FROM GETTING
AN EDUCATION.

AND WHAT HAPPENED IN NIGERIA
WAS NOT AN ISOLATED INCIDENT.

IT IS A STORY
WE SEE EVERY DAY,

AS GIRLS AROUND THE WORLD
RISK THEIR LIVES

TO PURSUE THEIR AMBITIONS.

I MEAN, YOU MUST HAVE HEARD
ABOUT ALL OF THAT, RIGHT?

THAT'S BEING SPUN
AS A FUNDAMENTALIST
ISLAMIC GROUP

THAT IS SO DETERMINED
TO BE MISOGYNISTIC

AND OPPRESS GIRLS

THAT THEY WANT TO
DENY GIRLS AN EDUCATION.

BUT THEY ARE NOT AGAINST
GIRLS BEING EDUCATED.

THEY'RE AGAINST ANYBODY
GETTING A WESTERN SECULAR
OR CHRISTIAN EDUCATION.

THE INITIAL ATTACKS,
AND THERE WERE SEVERAL OF THEM,

THERE WAS ONE-- THERE WERE
OVER A HUNDRED MEN KILLED

AND ONE WOMAN KILLED.

AND THE VICTIMS WERE
DESCRIBED AS "PEOPLE," RIGHT?

OR "VILLAGERS."

AND IN THE PREVIOUS ATTACKS
ON THE SCHOOLS,

THEY ACTUALLY LET
THE GIRLS GO.

THEY SEPARATED OUT
THE BOYS AND THE GIRLS

AND THEY LET THE GIRLS GO,
AND THEY TOLD THEM,

"GO HOME, GET MARRIED,

RENOUNCE YOUR SINS,

AND LIVE A RIGHTEOUS LIFE
UNDER ALLAH," RIGHT?

AND THEN THEY BURNED
THE BOYS ALIVE.

THERE WAS LITERALLY
NO OUTRAGE.

IT WAS BARELY REPORTED ON.

IT WAS ONE OF THOSE THINGS,
THERE WAS NO OPINION
PIECES ON IT,

NO NOTHING, RIGHT?

UNTIL THE GIRLS
WERE KIDNAPPED.

AND LOOK AT IT THIS WAY,

BECAUSE WE PLAYED RIGHT
INTO THEIR HANDS.

BECAUSE THEY
WANT ATTENTION, RIGHT?

AND THEY WEREN'T
GETTING ANY ATTENTION
FROM THE WESTERN MEDIA

WHEN THEY WERE
JUST SLAUGHTERING BOYS.

- YEAH.
- RIGHT?

THEY WANT ATTENTION.

AND WHAT DO THEY DO?
THEY KIDNAP GIRLS

AND SELL THEM INTO
MARRIAGE OR SLAVERY, RIGHT?

AND EVERYBODY-- THE U.N.,

MICHELLE OBAMA, BARACK OBAMA,

THE U.K. GOVERNMENT,
THE CANADIAN FEDERAL
MINISTER OF DEFENSE,

THEY'RE ALL PROMISING AID
AND HELP AND EQUIPMENT

AND PERSONNEL TO HELP
FIND THESE GIRLS
AND BRING THEM BACK,

BECAUSE THIS IS SUCH
AN OUTRAGE,

AND, "OH, MY GOODNESS,
SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE."

WELL, MAYBE IF,
LIKE, LAST YEAR,

MAYBE IF WE DID
SOMETHING THEN,

ALL OF THESE GIRLS
WOULD BE SAFE IN THEIR DORMS
RIGHT NOW, RIGHT?

BUT WE DIDN'T.

AND THE REASON WHY
THEY KIDNAPPED THOSE GIRLS

IS BECAUSE WE DIDN'T
DO ANYTHING.

WE DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION,
AND THEY WANT ATTENTION.

AND THEY KNOW THAT
ATTACKING GIRLS OR WOMEN

IS GONNA GET THEM ATTENTION.

WHAT ARE WE GONNA DO?
START A CAMPAIGN,
"BRING BACK OUR BOYS"?

OH, WAIT, THEY'RE DEAD.
NEVER MIND, RIGHT?

THE MEN--
THE PEOPLE IN BOKO HARAM,

THEY'RE CHIVALROUS.

IF THOSE GIRLS WERE BOYS,

THEY WOULDN'T BE
GETTING EDUCATION,

THEY'D BE DEAD.

THEY WOULDN'T BE SOLD
INTO SLAVERY

WITH THE HOPE OF ESCAPE.
THEY'D BE DEAD.

[REPORTER]
BOKO HARAM HAS BEEN FIGHTING

FOR ISLAMIC RULE
IN NIGERIA SINCE 2002.

ITS MEMBERS HAVE KILLED
HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE.

["STUDY WAR"
BY MOBY PLAYING]

♪ FINALLY, BROTHER,
AFTER A WHILE...

AT LEAST 69 DEAD,

ALTHOUGH SOME REPORTS PUT
THE NUMBER AT ABOUT 150

AND SCORES MORE INJURED.

♪ FOR THAT DAY WHEN WE SHALL
LAY DOWN OUR BURDEN

♪ AND STUDY WAR NO MORE

♪ FINALLY, BROTHER,
AFTER A WHILE

♪ THE BATTLE WILL BE OVER

♪ FOR THAT DAY WHEN WE SHALL
LAY DOWN OUR BURDEN

♪ AND STUDY WAR NO MORE

♪ FINALLY, BROTHER,
AFTER A WHILE

♪ THE BATTLE WILL BE OVER

♪ FOR THAT DAY WHEN WE SHALL
LAY DOWN OUR BURDEN

♪ AND STUDY WAR NO MORE

♪ FINALLY, BROTHER,
AFTER A WHILE

♪ THE BATTLE WILL BE OVER

♪ FOR THAT DAY WHEN WE SHALL
LAY DOWN OUR BURDEN

♪ AND STUDY WAR NO MORE

♪ FINALLY, BROTHER,
AFTER A WHILE

♪ THE BATTLE WILL BE OVER

♪ FOR THAT DAY WHEN WE SHOULD
LAY DOWN OUR BURDEN

♪ AND STUDY WAR NO MORE

ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS
THE MEN'S MOVEMENT IS DOING

IS BEING ABLE TO SAY
MEN NEED COMPASSION

AND MEN DESERVE COMPASSION.

AND TO HAVE THAT HAPPEN,

I'M NOT EXPECTING IT
IN MY LIFETIME.

IT'S AN OCEAN
OF PAIN OUT THERE.

THIS STUFF
WE'RE TALKING ABOUT

HAS BEEN GOING ON
FOR SO LONG,

AND NOBODY LISTENS,
NOBODY CARES.

IT'S ONE THING
WHEN YOU LOOK AT WHAT
HAPPENS TO WOMEN

AND YOU FEEL NORMAL
HEALTHY OUTRAGE ABOUT IT,

AND THAT SHOULD HAPPEN.

BUT WHEN YOU CAN LOOK AT
WHAT'S HAPPENING

IN OUR COURTS TO MEN,

IN OUR MEDICAL
ESTABLISHMENT TO MEN,

IN OUR SCHOOLS TO MEN,

AND YET WE REMAIN
SO CEREBRAL ABOUT ALL OF IT,

YES, WELL, THAT IS CERTAINLY
SOMETHING TO CONSIDER.

IF IT WERE HAPPENING
TO ANY OTHER GROUP,

WE WOULD BE HAVING PROTESTS
FROM COAST TO COAST.

AND THE FACT IS THAT
IT IS HAPPENING TO MEN

EVERY DAY RIGHT
IN FRONT OF OUR EYES,

AND PEOPLE WILL GET
ANGRY AT YOU IF YOU TRY
TO TALK ABOUT IT.

THAT'S HOW DEEP
THE PREJUDICE RUNS.

♪ NO MORE

[JAYE]
BUT THERE HAVE BEEN PROTESTS,

NOT WITH THE INTENTION
OF SHINING LIGHT
ON MEN'S ISSUES,

BUT RATHER WITH
THE GOAL OF SILENCING

ANY DISCUSSION
OF MEN'S ISSUES.

LIKE AT OTTAWA UNIVERSITY,

WHEN PROFESSOR JANICE FLAMENGO
ATTEMPTED TO GIVE A LECTURE

THAT QUESTIONED
THE FEMINIST NARRATIVE.

[MAN]
WE'LL TAKE A MOMENT

UNTIL WE ENFORCE
SOME DECORUM IN THE ROOM.

SO YOU THINK
THIS IS A VICTORY?

[MAN]
WHAT ARE YOU
SO FRIGHTENED OF...

YEAH, WHY ARE YOU
SO FRIGHTENED

OF HEARING AN OPINION
DIFFERENT FROM YOUR OWN?

[JAYE]
THEN THERE WAS THE FIRST
INTERNATIONAL CONFERENCE

ON MEN'S ISSUES IN MICHIGAN,

WHERE EVEN "MS, MAGAZINE"
URGED ITS READERS

TO PROTEST THE CONFERENCE
IN HOPES OF SHUTTING IT DOWN.

BUT PERHAPS THE MOST
WELL KNOWN PROTEST

OF A PRO MEN'S RIGHTS EVENT

HAPPENED IN APRIL, 2013,
AT THE UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO,

WHEN THE CANADIAN
ASSOCIATION FOR EQUALITY

HOSTED A DISCUSSION TITLED

"FROM MISOGYNY AND MISANDRY
TO INTERSEXUAL DIALOGUE."

[CROWD CHANTING AND CLAPPING]

[WHISTLE BLOWS,
CHANTING CONTINUES]

[MAN]
FUCK THE PATRIARCHY!

[CROWD CHEERS]

[WOMAN]
WOMEN HOLD UP HALF THE SKY!

[CROWD CHANTING]

WOMEN HOLD UP HALF THE SKY!

[CROWD CHANTING]

WOMEN HOLD UP HALF THE SKY!

[CROWD CHANTING]

- WOMEN HOLD UP HALF THE SKY!
-[FIRE ALARM RINGS]

[CHEERING]

[JAYE]
A FEMINIST GROUP
PROTESTING THE EVENT

ILLEGALLY PULLED
THE FIRE ALARM

AND SUCCESSFULLY
SHUT DOWN THE EVENT.

OKAY, LET'S GO,
WE GOT A FIRE ALARM!

[JAYE]
ONCE OUTSIDE THE LECTURE HALL,

FEMINIST PROTESTERS
AND MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS

GOT TO SPEAK FACE TO FACE.

SO, NUMBER ONE,
NUMBER ONE!

SHUT THE FUCK UP
FOR A SECOND.

FEMINISTS DO NOT WANT
YOU TO LOSE CUSTODY
OF YOUR CHILDREN.

THE ASSUMPTION THAT WOMEN
ARE NATURALLY BETTER CAREGIVERS

IS PART OF PATRIARCHY.

FEMINISTS DO NOT LIKE
COMMERCIALS

IN WHICH BUMBLING DADS
MESS UP THE LAUNDRY

AND COMPETENT WIVES HAVE
TO BUSTLE IN AND FIX IT.

THE ASSUMPTION THAT WOMEN--
THIS IS A LIST

OF THE THINGS
THAT WE'RE WORKING TOWARD.

NOW IF YOU WOULD
SHUT THE FUCK UP

FOR THE 50th BILLIONTH TIME--

THESE ARE THINGS
WE AGREE ON, ACTUALLY.

THESE ARE THINGS
THAT WE'RE AGREEING ON,

AND THESE ARE THINGS
YOU'VE ALL GOT SKEWED
FUCKING VIEWS ON.

YOU THINK THAT FEMINISTS
ARE TRYING TO TAKE AWAY
YOUR FUCKING RIGHTS,

BUT AS A MATTER OF FACT,
WHAT WE'RE TRYING TO DO

IS WE'RE ACTUALLY TRYING
TO WORK ON THE SAME THINGS
THAT YOU'RE WORKING ON,

EXCEPT THE FACT
THAT YOU'RE SO--

YOU'RE JUST TOO BUSY
HATING WOMEN...

YOU'RE A FUCKING HATE GROUP.

YOU CAN'T SEE
WE'RE TRYING TO WORK ON
THOSE SAME SITUATIONS.

ARE YOU CONFLATING FEMINISM,
WHICH IS AN IDEOLOGY,

WITH WOMEN, WHICH IS
A DEMOGRAPHIC OF SOCIETY?

OKAY, MISTER
DERAILING FOR DUMMIES.

SO, REALLY, YOUR HATRED
IS FOR FEMINISTS.

- YOU'RE STILL A HATE GROUP,
- AN IDEOLOGY, YES.

I HATE ALSO HATE
A LOT OF OTHER "ISMS".

- SO YOU ADMIT, THOUGH,
- RACISM, SEXISM.

OH, BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT.

BULLSHIT, YOU HATE SEXISM,
BUT YOU'RE AN MRA.

OKAY, NO. POINT TAKEN.
WE-- LIKE, WE WIN.

YOU OBVIOUSLY HAVEN'T READ
OUR LITERATURE.

SORRY. OKAY!

YOU DON'T ACTUALLY WORK
ON ANYTHING.

YOU'RE CREATING ANY CHANGE
IN THE FUCKING WORLD.

YOUR WEBSITE,
YOUR FUCKING WEBSITE,

THE HATE WEBSITE
AGAINST FEMINISTS--

YOU'RE NOT ACTUALLY
CREATING ANY CHANGE.

FEMINISTS DO NOT WANT YOU

TO HAVE TO MAKE
ALIMONY PAYMENTS.

ALIMONY IS SET UP
TO COMBAT THE FACT

THAT WOMEN HAVE BEEN
HISTORICALLY EXPECTED

TO PRIORITIZE DOMESTIC DUTIES
OVER PROFESSIONAL GOALS,

THUS MINIMIZING
THEIR EARNING POTENTIAL

IF THEIR TRADITIONAL
MARRIAGES END.

I'M RIGHT HERE,
YOU DON'T HAVE TO YELL.

I'M READING, FUCKFACE.

- IT'S FOR THE FUCKING CAMERA.
- I'M TRYING TO FUCKING--

I'M LETTING EVERYONE ELSE
HEAR IT, OKAY?

IT'S NOT JUST FOR YOU,
MISTER ENTITLED.

THE ASSUMPTION
THAT WIVES SHOULD...

WHY DO YOU THINK
THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT

IS AT ODDS WITH FEMINISM?

WHAT HAS CREATED THAT CLASH,
THAT WAR BETWEEN EACH OTHER?

WELL, ONE, FEMINISM
HAS SPENT THE LAST 50 YEARS

DEMONIZING MEN,
WHICH IS SORT OF ONE
OF THE PROBLEMS.

FEMINIST SCHOLARS
HAVE CHARACTERIZED MEN

AS INHERENTLY VIOLENT,
INHERENTLY BAD,

INHERENTLY PREDATORY,
INHERENTLY OPPRESSIVE.

THEY HAVE POSTULATED THAT
MASCULINITY IS A DISEASE.

FEMINISTS AREN'T
THE ONLY PROBLEM.

THE PROBLEMS DIDN'T START
WITH FEMINISM.

SO WHEN I START
CRITICIZING FEMINISM,

I WANT YOU TO KNOW
YOU'RE JUST PART
OF THE PROBLEM.

THEY'RE JUST PART
OF THE PROBLEM.

YOU CALLING MEN OPPRESSORS

AND WOMEN OPPRESSED
DEMONIZES MEN,

AND I BELIEVE DIMINISHES
WOMEN AT THE SAME TIME.

IT'S A WAY OF TELLING MEN
TO SHUT UP.

IT'S A WAY OF TELLING MEN

THAT THEIR EXPERIENCES
DON'T MATTER.

YOU TELL A MAN
HE'S PRIVILEGED,

THEREFORE, ANYTHING
HE'S GONE THROUGH

OR ANYTHING HE HAS TO SAY
DOESN'T MATTER.

HIS LIVED EXPERIENCES
DON'T MATTER

BECAUSE HE'S PRIVILEGED.

SO HOW OLD WERE YOU
WHEN YOU STARTED CALLING
YOURSELF A FEMINIST?

OR HOW MANY YEARS AGO?

IT WAS PROBABLY,
ABOUT THREE YEARS AGO,
I GUESS YOU CAN SAY.

I'M RELATIVELY NEW, YEAH.

BUT I'M PRETTY LOUD, SO...

SILENCE ONLY
HELPS THE OPPRESSOR,
NOT THE OPPRESSED.

[JAYE]
A LOT OF MRAs SAY
THAT FEMINISM

DOESN'T FIGHT
FOR THE RIGHTS OF MEN.

WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO THAT?

CRY ME A RIVER, REALLY,

BECAUSE FEMINISM
IS A MOVEMENT

ABOUT THE DISCREPANCIES

WHEN IT COMES
TO WOMEN'S EQUALITY.

BECAUSE WE'RE NOT UP.
WE'RE STILL NOT THERE YET.

YOU KNOW,
DON'T EVEN START
WITH THAT WHOLE

"OH, BUT YOU DON'T THINK
ABOUT THE MEN'S ISSUE."

WELL, THEN YOU KNOW WHAT?

START YOUR OWN
GODDAMN MOVEMENT,
WHICH THEY HAVE,

BUT MAYBE MAKE IT
A LITTLE MORE ABOUT
LEGITIMATE ISSUES

LIKE CUSTODY AND ALIMONY

AND THINGS THAT
YOU THINK ARE UNEQUAL,

WHICH ALL STEM
FROM PATRIARCHY,

NOT FROM, "OH, MY GOD,

FEMINISTS ARE TRYING
TO TAKE AWAY OUR KIDS."

NO, DIPSHIT.

THAT'S NOT WHAT
WE'RE TRYING TO DO.

WE'RE NOT TRYING
TO DO THAT.

I MEAN, IF THEY LOOK
AT THE ROOT CAUSES OF WHY,

FOR EXAMPLE, WOMEN GET CUSTODY
MORE OFTEN THAN MEN DO,

WOMEN ARE SUPPOSED TO
BE THE MOTHERS.

THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO BE
THE NATURAL BORN CAREGIVERS.

SO, OBVIOUSLY, DUH,
YOU HAS A VAGINA,

SO, OBVIOUSLY,
YOU'RE GONNA BE ABLE TO
TAKE CARE OF THE KIDDIES.

THAT'S REALLY WHAT IT IS.

IT ALL STEMS FROM
SEXISM AGAINST WOMEN.

IT'S JUST,
THE OPPRESSION DIALECTIC
NEEDS TO GO.

IT'S SO HARD
TO CONVINCE PEOPLE

TO LOOK
AT MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVISM
AND SUPPORT IT

WITHOUT FIRST ALLOWING THEM
TO AT LEAST ESCAPE

THE STRANGLEHOLD
THAT FEMINISM HAS
ON THEIR MINDS.

I DO BELIEVE IT IS DOGMA,
IT'S ZEALOTRY.

THERE ARE GOOD PEOPLE
IN THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT.

UM...

THERE ARE NOT GOOD PEOPLE

IN THE RADICAL
FEMINIST MOVEMENT.

UM...

THAT SYSTEM
IS BASED ON HATE,

AND HATE-- IN MY OPINION,

HATE'S THE MOST DESTRUCTIVE
FORCE IN THE WORLD.

THEY'RE SO QUICK TO CALL US

MAN-HATERS OR MISANDRISTS.

MISANDRY FOR LIFE,
NO. [LAUGHS]

THEY'RE SO QUICK TO SAY THAT,

WHEN ALL WE'RE DOING
IS TALKING ABOUT

PATRIARCHAL SOCIETIES
AND STRUCTURES

THAT WE WANT TO DISMANTLE.

NOTHING AGAINST MEN
IN PARTICULAR,

BUT JUST SAYING,
HEY, THIS IS THE SYSTEM
THAT WE LIVE IN

AND THIS PUTS MEN
ABOVE WOMEN.

AND IT'S NOT NECESSARILY
THEIR FAULT,

BUT, HEY, RECOGNIZE
WHAT'S HAPPENING HERE

AND LET'S WORK TOGETHER
TO DISMANTLE IT.

THE OMNIPOTENT,
EVER-PRESENT PATRIARCHY,

THE INVISIBLE FORCE
THAT DIRECTS

ALL OF OUR LIVES, RIGHT?

AND CAUSES ALL OPPRESSION
AND ALL SUFFERING, RIGHT?

OUR DEVIL.

AND THE BEAUTIFUL,
WONDERFUL FORCE FOR JUSTICE--

FEMINISM, THE WAY.

IT'S THE WAY.

IT SOUNDS LIKE RELIGION.
IT SOUNDS LIKE RELIGION.

AND, OH, MY GOODNESS,

FOR A MOMENT THAT'S ONLY
ABOUT EQUALITY

AND ISN'T BLAMING OF MEN,

THEY NAMED THE FORCE
FOR EVIL AFTER MEN

AND THE FORCE FOR JUSTICE
AFTER WOMEN.

[CROWD CHATTER INCREASES]

[CHATTER CONTINUES]

THEY'RE REALLY ANGRY,
AND THEY'RE ANGRY AT WOMEN,

THEY'RE ANGRY
AT FEMINIST WOMEN.

YES, MEN HAVE GOTTEN
A CRAPPY DEAL,

BUT IT'S NOT THE FAULT
OF WOMEN OR GAY PEOPLE.

WHEN FEMINISM SAYS
THAT THEY HAVE NO PART
IN ANY OF THIS,

I THINK THEY'RE NOT
BEING HONEST ABOUT IT.

I DON'T BLAME FEMINISM
FOR ALL OF IT,

BUT I THINK THEY'VE HAD
A ROLE IN IT.

THEY'VE WRITTEN LAWS
THAT DISCRIMINATE AGAINST MEN.

THEY'VE FOUGHT
TO PROTECT THOSE LAWS,

PARTICULARLY
IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AREAS.

AND FOR MANY, MANY YEARS,
SECOND WAVE FEMINISM

WOULD GO THROUGH
THE STATUTES

AND CHANGE EVERYTHING
THAT WAS GENDER SPECIFIC

TO SOMETHING GENDER NEUTRAL

UNLESS IT WAS SOMETHING
THAT BENEFITED WOMEN,

LIKE THE DOMESTIC
VIOLENCE LAWS.

THEY DIDN'T CHANGE THOSE.

OTHER TYPES OF AREAS,
LIKE FATHERS IN PRISON,

THERE ARE STATUTES
THAT SPECIFICALLY GIVE
MOTHERS CERTAIN BENEFITS

THAT FATHERS IN PRISON
DON'T HAVE.

AND I CHALLENGED THAT
AS WELL, LEGALLY,

BUT WE DIDN'T WIN
ON THAT ONE.

WHEN I WANTED TO GET
A COMMISSION ON MEN

LIKE THE COUNTY HAS
A COMMISSION ON WOMEN,

THE FEMINISTS FOUGHT THAT
TOOTH AND NAIL.

WHEN PROP 209 WAS BEFORE
THE CALIFORNIA VOTERS,

WHICH WAS TO END
AFFIRMATIVE ACTION,

EVERY FEMINIST
ORGANIZATION OPPOSED IT.

EVERY TIME
MEN'S RIGHTS GROUPS

TRY TO PASS
JOINT CUSTODY LEGISLATION,

FEMINIST GROUPS FIGHT THEM.

THEY FOUGHT US
ON PATERNITY FRAUD.

THE BIGGEST OPPOSITION
THAT I HAVE FACED

HAS BEEN FROM THE RADICAL
FEMINISTS THAT SAID,

"WE DON'T WANT TRUTH
TO BE THE STANDARD."

BECAUSE IF WE DID,
THEY WOULDN'T OPPOSE

AUTOMATIC
DNA TESTING AT BIRTH.

AND IN COUNTRIES
LIKE FRANCE,

THEY'RE SAYING, "WELL,
DNA SHOULD MEAN 'DO NOT ASK,"'

'CAUSE IT'S NOW ILLEGAL
TO EVEN GET A TEST.

AND IF YOU GET A TEST WITHOUT
THE MOTHER'S PERMISSION,

YOU WILL BE
CRIMINALLY PROSECUTED.

[ANGELUCCI]
IN SWEDEN, THEY TRIED
TO CREATE A MAN TAX.

IN INDIA,
THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT
IS TRYING TO GET

THE RAPE LAWS
TO INCLUDE MALE VICTIMS,

AND THE FEMINIST GROUPS
APPARENTLY ARE FIGHTING THAT.

I'M NOT SAYING
ALL FEMINISTS ARE THIS WAY.

BUT I THINK THE ONES WHO
ARE AFFECTING PUBLIC POLICY,

WHO HAVE THE LOBBYING POWER,
I THINK THEY ARE.

IF YOU JUST LOOK
AT THEIR ACTIONS,

THEY DON'T WANT
EQUALITY FOR WOMEN.

THEY WANT SPECIAL PRIVILEGES
FOR WOMEN AND GIRLS.

AND EVEN THOUGH THEY KNOW
IN A LOT OF AREAS

MEN DO NOT HAVE EQUALITY,
THEY ARE SILENT.

THE COMMANDER
OF THE MARINE CORPS

SAID THAT HE THINKS,
AND I QUOTE,

"ALL ELIGIBLE
AND QUALIFIED MEN
AND WOMEN

SHOULD REGISTER
FOR THE DRAFT,"

TALKING ABOUT
SELECTIVE SERVICE.

DO YOU THINK WOMEN
SHOULD ALSO HAVE TO REGISTER

FOR SELECTIVE SERVICE
LIKE MEN?

I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT WHETHER
I THINK IT'S NECESSARY

TO GO AS FAR
AS OUR MILITARY OFFICERS
ARE RECOMMENDING.

THE IDEA OF HAVING
EVERYBODY REGISTER

CONCERNS ME A LITTLE BIT,

UNLESS WE HAVE
A BETTER IDEA

OF WHERE THAT'S
GONNA COME OUT.

WHERE I WANT PEOPLE
TO REGISTER,

I WANT EVERY YOUNG PERSON
TO REGISTER AT THE AGE OF 18

TO BE ABLE TO VOTE
AUTOMATICALLY.

- AND I THINK IF...
-[APPLAUSE]

WHAT'S THE MOTIVATION?

PEOPLE DON'T ASK,
WHAT'S THE MOTIVATION?

DO WE NEED
A MEN'S RIGHTS MOMENT?

NO. WE NEED COMMON SENSE.

BUT IF THERE'S GONNA BE
THIS WOMAN'S MOVEMENT

AND THIS IS THE MOVEMENT
THAT'S GONNA DO
ALL THESE THINGS,

THEN MAYBE WE NEED
A COUNTERBALANCE,

SOMETHING CALLED
A MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT,

OR MEN'S MOVEMENT.

I HATE TO SEE
EITHER ONE OF THEM.

I THINK IT'S A SHAME.
I THINK IT'S DESTRUCTIVE.

[JAYE]
I'M HEARING WHAT THE MEN'S
RIGHTS ACTIVISTS ARE SAYING.

AND I'M FINDING THE SOURCES

TO SUPPORT
WHAT THEY'RE SAYING.

MEN ARE JUST AS LIKELY
TO BE VICTIMS

OF INTIMATE PARTNER
PHYSICAL VIOLENCE.

MEN HAVE LITTLE TO NO CONTROL
OVER THEIR PARENTAL DESTINY,

ESPECIALLY WHEN HE'S TRICKED
INTO FATHERHOOD

OR HE'S RAISING A CHILD

THAT HE LATER FINDS OUT
ISN'T HIS.

THE SENTENCING DISPARITY
BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

IS SIX TIMES LARGER
THAN THE SENTENCING DISPARITY

BETWEEN BLACKS AND WHITES.

SO WHILE A BLACK MAN
MAY BE SENTENCED

TO TEN PERCENT
MORE PRISON TIME

FOR THE SAME CRIME
AS A WHITE MAN,

A MAN IS SENTENCED
TO OVER 60% MORE PRISON TIME

THAN A WOMAN ARRESTED
FOR THE SAME CRIME.

BOYS ARE FALLING BEHIND
IN EDUCATION.

THEY ARE ENROLLING
AT LOWER RATES

AND EARNING
LESS COLLEGE DEGREES.

AND WHILE NOT ALL MRAs
AGREE ON THE ISSUE

OF INFANT MALE CIRCUMCISION,

MOST MRAs DO BELIEVE IT IS
A HUMAN RIGHTS VIOLATION.

I SPENT MONTHS LEARNING ABOUT
INFANT MALE CIRCUMCISION,

BUT IT ONLY TOOK ME
WATCHING A FIVE-MINUTE

MEDICAL TRAINING VIDEO
TO CONVINCE ME

THIS IS A BARBARIC PRACTICE
THAT NEEDS TO STOP.

OKAY, SO FIRST THING,
MAKE SURE HE'S WELL RESTRAINED.

SO THE FORESKIN. OKAY?

AND WE REPEAT THE PROCESS WITH
JUST ONE END ON AND CLAMP.

ANYTHING THAT GETS CLAMPED
GETS CUT.

[REPORTER]
ALL THAT WAS LEFT,
A PARTIAL PENIS

AND HIS TINY TESTICLES.

RHODES SAYS ASHTON URINATES
THROUGH A HOLE IN HIS PENIS.

SHE SAYS SHE CAN'T
IMAGINE NOW WHAT SHE'LL
SAY TO HER SON

WHEN HE'S OLD ENOUGH
TO UNDERSTAND

WHAT'S HAPPENED TO HIM.

HOW COULD YOU EXPLAIN IT
TO YOUR CHILD

THAT YOU DON'T HAVE A PENIS

OR YOU MIGHT NEVER BE
ABLE TO HAVE KIDS?

[JAYE]
YES, MEN ARE THE MAJORITY

OF WORKPLACE DEATHS
AND INJURIES,

WAR DEATHS, SUICIDES.

THEY HAVE A SHORTER
LIFE EXPECTANCY.

WARREN FARRELL
MAKES THE ARGUMENT

THAT PROSTATE CANCER
AND BREAST CANCER

MORTALITY RATES ARE SIMILAR,

BUT FUNDING
DISPROPORTIONATELY SUPPORTS

BREAST CANCER RESEARCH
AND AWARENESS

OVER PROSTATE CANCER.

THE RED PILL IS ABOUT
LOOKING AT THESE ISSUES

IN AN HONEST WAY,
EVEN WHEN IT'S UNCOMFORTABLE.

AND THESE THINGS
ARE UNCOMFORTABLE.

BUT WITHOUT THE WILLINGNESS

TO SET ASIDE THE PROGRAMMING

AND TO SET ASIDE
THE FALSE BELIEFS ABOUT
WHAT POWER IS

AND WHAT WOMEN ARE
AND WHO WOMEN ARE--

PART OF WHAT WE DO
IS A PRETTY SERIOUS CRITIQUE
OF BOTH SEXES.

IT'S BRUTAL.

BUT CRITIQUING THE SEXES

IS A REAL VALUABLE THING.

FEMINISTS DON'T WANT YOU
TO DO IT, THOUGH,

UNLESS YOU'RE PORTRAYING
WOMEN AS THE VICTIM

AND MEN AS PERPETRATOR.

THE RED PILL IS
ABOUT UNDERSTANDING

MEN AND WOMEN LIKE
EVERYTHING ELSE IN LIFE.

IT'S A MIXED BAG.

YOU'VE GOT VICTIMS
AND PERPETRATORS

ON BOTH SIDES OF THE FENCE.

AND THAT'S ALL.
IT'S REAL SIMPLE.

IT'S JUST NOT EASY.

HMM.

I-- I THINK I AGREE
WITH EVERYTHING YOU SAID.

BUT THERE'S-- THERE'S STILL
SOME KIND OF UNSETTLING DOUBT,

AND I DON'T KNOW
WHERE THAT'S COMING FROM.

[JAYE]
I'M RECOGNIZING ALL OF THESE

VERY SERIOUS
MEN'S RIGHTS ISSUES.

BUT WHAT I DON'T UNDERSTAND

IS HOW I COULD BE AGREEING

WITH MEN'S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS.

IS THIS THE SAME
MISOGYNIST HATE GROUP

I ORIGINALLY
DISCOVERED ONLINE?

[REPORTER]
THE SOUTHERN POVERTY
LAW CENTER

HAS CLASSIFIED THAT GROUP

AND MEN'S RIGHTS GROUPS
AS HATE GROUPS.

[JAYE]
I LOOKED INTO WHAT I WAS
HEARING FROM FEMINISTS

AND THE MASS MEDIA ABOUT
THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT.

I'VE READ A LOT
AND I'VE HEARD A LOT

THAT THE MEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT

HAS BEEN LABELED A HATE GROUP

BY THE SOUTHERN POVERTY
LAW CENTER.

- IS THAT CORRECT?
- YEAH, THAT'S NOT QUITE TRUE.

NO, THEY GOT IT WRONG. NO.

THIS WAS SOMEHOW WRITTEN UP

ON SOME KIND OF
ANTI-MEN'S RIGHTS WEBSITES

AS US HAVING LISTED THEM
AS HATE GROUPS AND SO ON.

THAT WE DIDN'T DO.

[MAN]
HE WROTE A PIECE

DECLARING THE MONTH
OF OCTOBER TO BE

"BASH A VIOLENT BITCH MONTH."

[MAN #2] JESUS.

[REPORTER]
"I MEAN, LITERALLY
TO GRAB THEM BY THE HAIR

AND SMACK THEIR FACE
AGAINST THE WALL," HE WROTE.

[JAYE]
I THEN DISCOVERED
THAT PAUL ELAM'S FAMOUS

"BASH A VIOLENT BITCH" ARTICLE
WAS WRITTEN IN RESPONSE

TO THIS ARTICLE
BY JEZEBEL CALLED...

THE ARTICLE CITED
A STUDY THAT REVEALED

70% OF NON-RECIPROCATED
VIOLENCE

WAS PERPETUATED BY WOMEN.

THE AUTHOR THEN
WENT ON TO SAY

THAT SHE CONDUCTED
AN INFORMAL SURVEY
AT THE OFFICE

AND THE GIST OF HER FINDINGS

WAS THAT MANY WOMEN HAD
PHYSICALLY ASSAULTED THEIR MAN,

AND IT WAS INTERPRETED
AS EITHER BEING FUNNY

OR HE WAS ASKING FOR IT.

I COULDN'T HELP
BUT SEE THE HYPOCRISY

IN A MAJOR FEMINIST WEBSITE
MAKING LIGHT OF ABUSING MEN,

AND MRAs STINGING BACK

ONLY TO HAVE THE MEDIA
PAINT THEM AS THE ABUSERS.

[SNICKERING]

AFTER MY YEAR
OF FILMING MEN'S RIGHTS
ACTIVISTS AND FEMINISTS

MY DESCENT
INTO THE RABBIT HOLE

WAS NOT SLOWING DOWN.

MY EDUCATION
ON GENDER POLITICS

WAS REALLY JUST BEGINNING.

I LEARNED ABOUT OTHER SECTORS
OF THE ONLINE MANOSPHERE,

LIKE MGTOW,
"MEN GOING THEIR OWN WAY,"

AND FORUM ON REDDIT
CALLED "THE RED PILL,"

WHICH IS SEPARATE FROM
THE MEN'S RIGHTS COMMUNITY,

AND THEY DO NOT SEE
EYE TO EYE.

I'M TOLD AN EASY WAY
TO REMEMBER THE DIFFERENCE

IS THAT WHILE MRAs WANT
TO CHANGE THE SYSTEM

REDDIT'S "THE RED PILL"
WANT TO TAKE ADVANTAGE
OF THE SYSTEM,

AND MGTOW WANT
TO LEAVE THE SYSTEM.

THERE ARE SO MANY
PERSPECTIVES ON GENDER,

AND I BELIEVE THEY'RE
ALL WORTHY OF LISTENING TO.

HOWEVER, THE CONVERSATION
IS BEING SILENCED.

FOR A SOCIETY TO ACCEPT
ANYTHING SAID

ON BEHALF OF WOMEN'S RIGHTS

AND THEN TO SHAME ANY
DIALOGUE ABOUT MEN'S RIGHTS

AND CALL IT HATE SPEECH
IS PRECISELY THE PROBLEM.

[CROWD]
THIS IS WHAT MEN'S RIGHTS
LOOK LIKE!

[JAYE]
I DON'T KNOW WHERE I'M HEADED,

BUT I KNOW WHAT I LEFT BEHIND.

I NO LONGER CALL MYSELF
A FEMINIST.

[MUSIC PLAYING]

[VOCALIZING]

[VOCALIZING]

♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

♪ PUT ON SOME BORROWED KICKS

♪ HANG ALL YOUR NOTIONS UP

♪ IT'S NEVER WHAT IT IS

♪ WISDOM IS ASKING WHY

♪ THERE IS ANOTHER SIDE

♪ DOWN WHERE
THE RABBIT LIVES

♪ MY WORLD WILL
BLOW YOUR MIND

♪ JUST HAVE A LOOK AT IT

♪ THINK, THINK ABOUT IT

♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

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♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

♪ THINK, THINK ABOUT IT

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♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

[VOCALIZING]

♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

♪ DON'T GOTTA
CHANGE YOUR MIND

♪ JUST TRY TO OPEN IT

♪ I'LL LET YOU USE MY EYES

♪ SEE WHAT I'M DEALING WITH

♪ PEOPLE WITH
DIFFERENT STORIES

♪ DIVIDED BY
DIFFERENT CATEGORIES

♪ AND REASONS WHY

♪ THE SMART SPEAK

♪ THE WISE, THEY LISTEN

♪ THE WISE, THEY LISTEN

♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

♪ THINK, THINK ABOUT IT

♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

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[VOCALIZING]

♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

♪ THINK ABOUT IT

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[VOCALIZING]

♪ THERE IS ANOTHER SIDE

♪ DOWN WHERE
THE RABBIT LIVES

♪ I'LL LET YOU USE MY EYES

♪ SEE WHAT I'M DEALING WITH

♪ THINK, THINK ABOUT IT

♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT

♪ THINK, THINK ABOUT IT

♪ JUST THINK ABOUT IT