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- ♪ 'Cause I'm a believer
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- Ten singles took
a bold leap of faith
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in order to find love.
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They married
as complete strangers.
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[crowd cheers]
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[upbeat music]
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Last time...
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- With less than three weeks
before Decision Day...
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- ♪ Mírame, mirate ♪
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♪ Look at me, look at you
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- Hello.
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- Our couples gathered
to celebrate the union
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of Chloe and Michael,
our fifth and final couple.
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- May I?
- Yes.
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- ♪ I'm so glad
I came to you ♪
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- Clare and Cameron.
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[crowd cheers]
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- I think just seeing
Michael and Chloe
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brings me to a space
of, like, reflection.
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It's super strange to be here
without Cameron.
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Hi, Cameron.
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I'm just calling
to see how you're doing.
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I'm at the wedding right now.
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I miss you.
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- Emily and Brennan.
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- Who's your wife?
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- Oh, her.
- Yeah!
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I know Brennan thinks
we don't have chemistry,
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but, like, I know we do.
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Like, I'm now, just like,
trying to have fun.
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I hope he comes along.
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Whoo!
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[glass shatters]
- Oh!
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[laughter and chatter]
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I think I'm done for the night.
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- Chloe and Michael.
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- Oh, it's so strange
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to take off this entire
beautiful, glamorous day
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and be totally vulnerable.
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Are you a cuddler?
- I am.
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- [giggles]
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I'll let you be big spoon.
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- ♪ 'Cause tonight, tonight
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- And tonight,
while the newlyweds
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enjoy their honeymoon...
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- You have such
magical hands, Michael.
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- Now you know my evil plan.
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I just booked this
so that I could massage you.
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- Tensions begin to escalate.
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- I mean,
I think obviously, like,
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physical intimacy
is still something
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that I just need more time.
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[dramatic music]
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- I don't feel like
you treat me as a friend
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to, like--to me, like, in--
- OK, let's--
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Are you sure you want to go
down this--you want to do this?
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- He's silencing you,
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and that's not fair.
- I know.
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- Personally,
I think you should
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run for the hills.
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- Tomorrow, reality hits.
- Yeah.
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- And it's absolutely
freaking terrifying.
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I'm saying I don't know
if I can do this.
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♪
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ It's all or nothing
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way
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♪
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♪ It's all or nothing
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- ♪ Look how far we came,
lifestyle amazing ♪
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♪ Popping champagne
with the top-floor views ♪
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♪ Yeah, we really made it
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♪ We really made it
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♪ This is one hell of a life
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♪
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- Good morning.
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- I think you're--
I think you're jealous
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at how good I slept last night.
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- Yeah, I think I probably am,
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because I did not.
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- Because I was encroaching
in your bed?
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- I don't know what it was.
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- But I'm, like--
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I'm a good, like,
cuddle partner though, right?
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- You're a very good
cuddle partner.
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Actually, you're
a very good cuddle-bug.
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My four panic attacks had
nothing to do with you.
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They were, you know--
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- For the record,
they were the cutest
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panic attacks I've ever seen.
- [laughs]
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- I can give you a preview
if you want a preview.
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- I would love a preview.
Go ahead.
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- So we got to switch it up
a little bit, so.
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- OK.
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OK, so I'm the big spoon.
- You're me, right?
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- Got it. OK.
- I'm you, and--
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- Yep.
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- You're nice and, like, calm,
and then--
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- Yep.
[laughs]
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- You kind of--you wanted
to survey the land real quick.
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And to be honest, like,
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the first time, I thought
I, like, bumped into you,
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or, like, I don't know,
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that I accidentally, like,
hit you or something.
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And--but then, like,
the second or third time,
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I was like, OK, this--
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- This is where we live now.
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- I'm gonna have to let
her work through this.
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- Oh, my gosh.
- This is gonna--
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this is my life now.
- This is where we live now.
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So I have dealt
with panic attacks
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in really stressful situations
for a lot of years.
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So anytime my body is
pumped full of cortisol,
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it feels like I react
with a panic attack.
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They don't happen
when I'm awake.
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They just happen at night.
- I was literally about to ask.
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Like, is this literally
just when you sleep?
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- Just when I'm sleeping.
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Don't feel a thing
during the day.
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I've never had one
during the day.
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It's just when I'm sleeping.
- I almost prefer that,
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because, like, if you had them
while you were awake,
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then it's like--then I always
have to be ready for them.
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So now I just have
to be ready for them
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when we get ready for bed.
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- Small window of time.
- Yeah.
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- Yeah.
No, they--and they only happen
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when I'm, like, super stressed.
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So as soon as things
aren't so stressful,
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going to be sleeping
as hard as you.
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[laughter]
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I've never had
four panic attacks at once.
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It probably didn't help
having a brand-new man
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that I've never known
at any point in my life
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laying next to me.
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But I've just
conditioned myself
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to sleep really lightly.
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I've been alone
for such a long time.
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And I didn't have
my sound machine.
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I didn't have my humidifier.
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I didn't have my essential oils
being diffused.
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But I feel like
when you have a partner
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that's ready to navigate
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something that you really don't
have any control over,
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um, it's pretty sweet.
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They might just subside.
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I might never see them again.
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- You know,
going into this first night,
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was there any sense
of worry of, like,
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OK, is it going to be
a little bit different
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as we're winding down
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and what's he going to be like?
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- Nope.
- OK, good.
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- Nope.
There was never a moment
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where I was thinking,
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when is the other shoe
going to drop?
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You're too loved.
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People that are
as loved as you are
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have got to have a genuineness
and an authenticity to them.
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So I love to have you
in my space.
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- Yeah?
Just all into it.
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Even if it creates
panic attacks,
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you'll still allow it?
- Touch me.
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Eventually, we'll get over
the panic attacks, I think.
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I feel like they'll go.
They'll subside.
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One thing that we can only
share with each other is touch.
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- Yeah.
- And that, to me,
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signifies that we are together,
that we are committed,
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and that we want to be
together and committed.
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So please touch me.
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Touch me.
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♪
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[upbeat music]
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♪
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- I'm fangirling because
I love the musical "Hamilton,"
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and Hamilton has been
in this house.
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- This is George Washington's
house though.
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- Yeah, but--
well, we don't care about that.
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What we care about is that
Hamilton has been in here.
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We are visiting
Austin's family.
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[laughs]
- Cheese.
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- I mean, we bitch
about our full-size bed.
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What do you think about this?
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- Looks comfy.
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Sleeping on 2x4s, 2x6s.
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- Could we snuggle on that?
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- [laughs]
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- Who do these remind you of?
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- Remind me of King Michael,
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the man who lost his princess.
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- But gained a new one.
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- But gained a queen.
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- Yeah, nice.
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Michael, we hope one day
your sword ends up in a museum
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of "Married at First Sight"
history.
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♪
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- Ready to rock and roll?
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I'm excited to go
on this honeymoon.
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- Wow, you look cute.
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- Thanks.
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Don't forget your Mr. hat.
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I'll be sure to put on Mrs.
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[sighs]
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- Right now,
I'm just full of optimism
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with this journey with Chloe.
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I was worried she could feel
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like a second fiddle
or a second place,
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you know,
being re-matched with me.
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But I'm really happy that we
don't have to brace for that.
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- Load it up.
- For efficiency,
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we should put your stuff first.
- [laughs]
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- Like, we have
great chemistry right now,
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and I kind of just want to
continue to ride that momentum.
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Is there a little bit
of nervousness
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that accompanies that?
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Sure.
There's a level of, like,
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even if I do
everything perfect,
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which isn't going to happen,
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you know, 50% of it is going
to be dependent on her.
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There's a level of unknown.
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But I think
it'll be easy with her.
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- I just love how different
we are with our packing skills.
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Being the minimalist that I am,
I want to know what's in there.
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- You know,
I have scarves, flannel,
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coats buried down here,
some pants,
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some just random,
like, tops and stuff,
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blazer, dress shirts, sweater,
more sweaters, extra shoes.
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- [laughs]
I love that you are ready
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with multiple outfit choices
per day.
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Probably all the clothes
in my closet
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would fit into six bags.
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And I love that we've left
half of his closet at home.
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He's just so prepared.
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He's got everything.
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♪
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Let's honeymoon.
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- Let's.
- [laughs]
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♪
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- ♪ I'll take the risk
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♪ Through the turn
and twists ♪
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♪ Leave no stones unturned
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♪
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- Should we find
a talking stick?
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- Looks like our best option.
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- There we go.
- Talking paddle.
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We need to work
on our active listening
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and not interrupting
each other.
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So we decided
to use a talking stick
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to help practice
these two things
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and to slowly but surely
start rebuilding the trust
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that I apparently broke
in the Dr. Pia visit.
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- We are rebuilding trust
right now.
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- What did I do
to break the trust?
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- When we say
we're gonna do things,
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then we actually do them.
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- So trust for you,
as you've just outlined,
258
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it is, like, consistency.
259
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- Yep.
260
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- I think trust
means everything
261
00:09:46,750 --> 00:09:48,833
for a friendship
or a relationship
262
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'cause I think that's,
like, the foundation
263
00:09:50,333 --> 00:09:53,000
of everything else working.
264
00:09:53,125 --> 00:09:56,167
Consistency actually
is big for me.
265
00:09:56,292 --> 00:10:01,667
Listening, not interrupting,
what we're both working on.
266
00:10:01,750 --> 00:10:05,583
Just continue to be patient,
267
00:10:05,667 --> 00:10:08,500
um, showing you care.
268
00:10:08,542 --> 00:10:10,542
♪
269
00:10:10,625 --> 00:10:12,375
- I care about you a lot,
so obviously, like,
270
00:10:12,458 --> 00:10:15,500
I want you in my life, and
271
00:10:15,542 --> 00:10:18,917
you know,
losing you would suck.
272
00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:23,083
But that's why I'm trying,
so that that doesn't happen.
273
00:10:23,167 --> 00:10:26,667
[soft dramatic music]
274
00:10:26,750 --> 00:10:30,292
- I also care about you a lot.
275
00:10:30,375 --> 00:10:33,333
But I am afraid that sometimes,
276
00:10:33,458 --> 00:10:37,792
I'm semi-losing myself
along the way,
277
00:10:37,875 --> 00:10:40,375
like maybe putting up
with stuff or, like,
278
00:10:40,458 --> 00:10:44,458
not being treated in the way,
like, I feel like I deserve.
279
00:10:44,542 --> 00:10:46,625
♪
280
00:10:46,708 --> 00:10:49,917
So I'm afraid that,
because I care about you a lot,
281
00:10:50,042 --> 00:10:52,583
I...
282
00:10:52,667 --> 00:10:56,833
still get, like, very emotional
283
00:10:56,917 --> 00:10:58,667
because I care, and I'm afraid
284
00:10:58,792 --> 00:11:01,208
that is not always
healthy for me.
285
00:11:01,292 --> 00:11:04,667
♪
286
00:11:04,792 --> 00:11:07,333
- I think for me,
it's just making sure we don't
287
00:11:07,417 --> 00:11:10,667
blur the lines between a
friendship and a relationship,
288
00:11:10,750 --> 00:11:13,500
because I think that's easy
in this process.
289
00:11:13,583 --> 00:11:15,167
- OK.
290
00:11:15,292 --> 00:11:17,042
♪
291
00:11:17,125 --> 00:11:20,125
- So just trying
to navigate those waters.
292
00:11:20,208 --> 00:11:23,750
We're friendly, but not
overstepping or anything.
293
00:11:23,833 --> 00:11:25,500
I feel like we've been
doing a good job
294
00:11:25,583 --> 00:11:26,833
of showcasing our friendship.
295
00:11:26,875 --> 00:11:28,667
- Yeah.
We're definitely, like,
296
00:11:28,708 --> 00:11:30,458
on a good path forward.
297
00:11:30,542 --> 00:11:32,000
And I think
we've actually reset.
298
00:11:32,125 --> 00:11:35,292
But I have maybe
different expectations for us.
299
00:11:35,375 --> 00:11:37,458
♪
300
00:11:37,542 --> 00:11:40,167
- Like, what are
you talking about?
301
00:11:40,292 --> 00:11:45,167
- I just--I feel sometimes
like how I've expressed,
302
00:11:45,208 --> 00:11:47,375
I don't feel like
you treat me as a friend,
303
00:11:47,458 --> 00:11:49,000
to, like--to me, like, in--
304
00:11:49,083 --> 00:11:50,417
- OK, let's--
305
00:11:52,958 --> 00:11:54,083
Are you sure you want
to go down this--
306
00:11:54,208 --> 00:11:57,167
you want to do this?
307
00:11:57,250 --> 00:11:59,500
- I think it's
just acknowledging
308
00:11:59,583 --> 00:12:03,000
that I am your friend
sometimes.
309
00:12:03,042 --> 00:12:06,708
And it feels like
you don't even--
310
00:12:06,792 --> 00:12:11,667
or it feels to me like
you don't necessarily do that.
311
00:12:11,750 --> 00:12:14,958
- Tell me specifically
what I did
312
00:12:15,042 --> 00:12:18,125
that you didn't
feel great about.
313
00:12:18,208 --> 00:12:21,167
- Like, last night
at the wedding,
314
00:12:21,208 --> 00:12:23,917
like, I didn't feel like
there was any effort
315
00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:26,000
from even a friend to, like,
316
00:12:26,083 --> 00:12:28,333
want to have fun and hang out.
317
00:12:28,417 --> 00:12:32,292
And sometimes, like,
a little bit more effort
318
00:12:32,375 --> 00:12:34,750
might have to take place
in order for that to happen.
319
00:12:34,833 --> 00:12:36,958
It hurts my feelings
when people come up to me
320
00:12:37,042 --> 00:12:40,167
and, like, say, "You don't even
look like you are friends."
321
00:12:40,292 --> 00:12:42,000
- That's what
someone said to you?
322
00:12:42,083 --> 00:12:43,542
- Mm-hmm.
323
00:12:43,625 --> 00:12:46,042
- I mean, if people want
to come up to you
324
00:12:46,167 --> 00:12:50,083
and say mean things, like,
that's unfortunate.
325
00:12:50,167 --> 00:12:53,042
It's up to us whether we choose
to hear it or ignore it.
326
00:12:53,125 --> 00:12:55,125
I think for us,
it'll be a lot better
327
00:12:55,208 --> 00:12:57,125
if we ignore it
and focus on us.
328
00:12:57,208 --> 00:12:59,500
♪
329
00:12:59,542 --> 00:13:01,667
Do you agree?
330
00:13:01,667 --> 00:13:03,667
- I agree, um,
331
00:13:03,750 --> 00:13:04,875
but I think
there's a difference
332
00:13:04,958 --> 00:13:06,875
from, like,
anyone saying something,
333
00:13:06,958 --> 00:13:08,208
and some of our closer friends.
334
00:13:08,292 --> 00:13:12,250
Like, that's where
it hurts my feelings more.
335
00:13:12,333 --> 00:13:16,333
- I think we just need time
to continue to move forward
336
00:13:16,375 --> 00:13:18,667
in the right direction.
337
00:13:18,750 --> 00:13:20,333
- I know he says
he cares about me a lot,
338
00:13:20,417 --> 00:13:23,167
but, like, I just don't really
feel that a lot of the time.
339
00:13:23,250 --> 00:13:24,875
Maybe I just need
to go back to what I said,
340
00:13:24,958 --> 00:13:27,000
which was, no expectations.
341
00:13:27,083 --> 00:13:28,750
And then you can't
get frustrated
342
00:13:28,833 --> 00:13:30,833
or you can't get upset.
343
00:13:30,875 --> 00:13:32,625
And I don't really think
I have many expectations
344
00:13:32,708 --> 00:13:34,333
of him at all right now.
345
00:13:34,375 --> 00:13:36,750
- I think as long as we are
happy with one another,
346
00:13:36,833 --> 00:13:38,083
that's all that matters.
347
00:13:38,208 --> 00:13:43,167
♪
348
00:13:47,333 --> 00:13:48,750
- ♪ Good energy
349
00:13:48,833 --> 00:13:51,083
♪ Yeah, yeah, yeah, whoo!
350
00:13:51,167 --> 00:13:55,667
- So we are headed
on our honeymoon.
351
00:13:55,708 --> 00:13:58,750
Really enjoying
Sleeping Beauty snoozing.
352
00:13:58,833 --> 00:14:00,333
Look at him.
353
00:14:00,417 --> 00:14:04,542
He doesn't snore, though,
so I feel like that's a win.
354
00:14:04,667 --> 00:14:07,458
[upbeat music]
355
00:14:07,542 --> 00:14:10,375
♪
356
00:14:10,458 --> 00:14:13,625
- This is all it?
This is pretty damn big.
357
00:14:13,708 --> 00:14:15,792
- Ooh. Here we go.
- Oh, OK, it's up here.
358
00:14:15,875 --> 00:14:19,792
♪
359
00:14:19,875 --> 00:14:21,167
I just really want to continue
360
00:14:21,208 --> 00:14:22,917
all the positive momentum
that we've been having.
361
00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:24,458
The chemistry's been there.
362
00:14:24,542 --> 00:14:26,250
Everything has been real easy.
363
00:14:26,333 --> 00:14:28,958
And right now, you would hope
it would stay easy,
364
00:14:29,042 --> 00:14:30,792
because this is a time
for us to enjoy.
365
00:14:30,875 --> 00:14:32,167
I'm just looking forward
to seeing
366
00:14:32,250 --> 00:14:34,208
what the day
and night entails today
367
00:14:34,292 --> 00:14:36,333
for our first day
on our honeymoon.
368
00:14:36,417 --> 00:14:38,250
- We certainly hope
you enjoy your honeymoon
369
00:14:38,333 --> 00:14:40,167
here at
the Cheyenne Mountain Resort.
370
00:14:40,208 --> 00:14:41,333
- All right, thank you.
- Thank you.
371
00:14:41,417 --> 00:14:44,042
- Thank you so much.
both: Thank you.
372
00:14:44,125 --> 00:14:51,000
♪
373
00:14:52,250 --> 00:14:53,667
- Ooh, damn,
we've got a lot of space.
374
00:14:53,708 --> 00:14:57,083
- Oh, my goodness.
375
00:14:57,167 --> 00:15:01,083
Oh, this is beautiful.
376
00:15:01,167 --> 00:15:03,000
Aw.
377
00:15:03,042 --> 00:15:04,625
Want to do the honors?
378
00:15:04,708 --> 00:15:06,542
Oh, here we go.
379
00:15:06,667 --> 00:15:08,625
[cork pops]
Oh.
380
00:15:08,708 --> 00:15:09,667
- Easy.
- Professional.
381
00:15:09,708 --> 00:15:11,000
- Easy.
382
00:15:11,042 --> 00:15:12,500
I am getting pretty good
at this,
383
00:15:12,542 --> 00:15:13,958
if I may say so myself.
384
00:15:14,042 --> 00:15:15,500
- Thank you.
385
00:15:15,583 --> 00:15:17,667
♪
386
00:15:17,750 --> 00:15:20,250
- And then a cheers for us.
387
00:15:20,333 --> 00:15:22,208
- Cheers to the honeymoon.
- Mm-hmm.
388
00:15:22,292 --> 00:15:24,792
♪
389
00:15:24,917 --> 00:15:28,208
Do you have any expectations
for the honeymoon?
390
00:15:28,208 --> 00:15:30,917
- I think I'm just excited
to keep learning
391
00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:32,375
as much as we can
about each other.
392
00:15:32,458 --> 00:15:35,125
- I mean, we're on vacation,
so it is different.
393
00:15:35,208 --> 00:15:37,167
But I feel like it's also
giving me a glimpse of, like,
394
00:15:37,208 --> 00:15:39,333
what it'll be like
to live with you.
395
00:15:39,375 --> 00:15:41,708
So you know,
I'm kind of expecting
396
00:15:41,792 --> 00:15:43,667
to just understand more, like,
397
00:15:43,708 --> 00:15:45,000
what it's like
to live with Chloe
398
00:15:45,083 --> 00:15:47,333
and, you know, that experience.
399
00:15:47,417 --> 00:15:51,417
So I'm gonna take every, like,
little data point I can.
400
00:15:51,500 --> 00:15:55,000
Do you have any specific hopes
for our honeymoon?
401
00:15:55,042 --> 00:15:59,917
- I hope it is as much fun
as I know it will be.
402
00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:01,958
I'm ready to go adventure.
- Mm-hmm.
403
00:16:02,042 --> 00:16:03,833
It looks so beautiful outside.
404
00:16:03,958 --> 00:16:05,292
I definitely want
to make sure we do some,
405
00:16:05,375 --> 00:16:07,708
like, outdoor activities.
- Yep.
406
00:16:07,792 --> 00:16:09,833
Ready to do some rock climbing.
- Mm.
407
00:16:09,917 --> 00:16:11,500
- I'm actually in my element.
408
00:16:11,542 --> 00:16:13,292
I'm in my zen.
409
00:16:13,375 --> 00:16:18,333
Only time will tell if Michael
and I are really able to grow
410
00:16:18,417 --> 00:16:21,125
a connection that is going
to last us for a lifetime,
411
00:16:21,208 --> 00:16:23,500
and kind of take it
as it comes.
412
00:16:23,542 --> 00:16:25,417
I don't want anything
to feel forced.
413
00:16:25,500 --> 00:16:27,208
I don't want to also feel like
we're holding ourselves back
414
00:16:27,333 --> 00:16:29,333
from doing something
that would feel
415
00:16:29,417 --> 00:16:30,917
like a really natural step
to take.
416
00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:32,542
So we'll see
what the honeymoon does.
417
00:16:32,667 --> 00:16:35,167
Honeymoons tend to have
a wild effect on people.
418
00:16:35,250 --> 00:16:37,333
So you just never know.
[laughs]
419
00:16:37,375 --> 00:16:39,333
Ready to go adventure?
- Mm-hmm.
420
00:16:39,417 --> 00:16:42,292
- Hashtag, honeymoon.
[chuckles]
421
00:16:42,375 --> 00:16:46,167
[upbeat music]
422
00:16:46,250 --> 00:16:49,000
♪
423
00:16:49,042 --> 00:16:50,667
- This view is just--
isn't it beautiful?
424
00:16:50,750 --> 00:16:53,417
- Yeah, no, I feel like it's--
I actually do take for granted
425
00:16:53,500 --> 00:16:55,875
that we literally get to look
at Union Station every day.
426
00:16:56,000 --> 00:16:57,708
- Yeah.
No, I get it.
427
00:16:57,833 --> 00:16:59,833
- How are you doing?
How are we doing?
428
00:16:59,917 --> 00:17:03,000
- That's
the million-dollar question.
429
00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:05,167
Yeah, I think I'm just--
I'm feeling good.
430
00:17:05,250 --> 00:17:08,000
But after Cameron's surgery,
he's been sleeping
431
00:17:08,042 --> 00:17:09,167
literally for the past,
like, week.
432
00:17:09,333 --> 00:17:11,167
So when I don't hear from him,
I kind of worry.
433
00:17:11,208 --> 00:17:12,875
But then I realize,
he's recovering.
434
00:17:12,958 --> 00:17:14,667
He's hanging in there.
435
00:17:14,750 --> 00:17:17,333
It's just like, I don't want
to be happy-go-lucky, cheery
436
00:17:17,375 --> 00:17:19,583
when, like, he's having
a very hard time.
437
00:17:19,667 --> 00:17:23,250
It just to me feels like
I'm being fake, and like--
438
00:17:23,333 --> 00:17:25,167
- But I also feel like
he'd want you to have fun.
439
00:17:25,250 --> 00:17:26,250
- Yeah.
- And I'm not saying, like,
440
00:17:26,333 --> 00:17:27,500
you can't feel
the way you feel,
441
00:17:27,583 --> 00:17:29,542
but I feel like there's
only so much you can do.
442
00:17:29,625 --> 00:17:31,208
- Right.
- And I feel like he would,
443
00:17:31,292 --> 00:17:34,000
like, honestly be, like,
more sad if he knew that you,
444
00:17:34,083 --> 00:17:36,125
like, weren't having fun.
- Yeah.
445
00:17:36,208 --> 00:17:37,958
Right, right.
Sometimes I lose sight of that
446
00:17:38,042 --> 00:17:40,000
during this process, you know?
447
00:17:40,083 --> 00:17:41,833
But yeah, how are you doing?
448
00:17:41,917 --> 00:17:43,083
- Like, I really feel like
449
00:17:43,167 --> 00:17:45,167
there's been different
mental tolls on me
450
00:17:45,250 --> 00:17:46,917
of, like, me trying to fix him
in the relationship,
451
00:17:47,042 --> 00:17:48,708
and then us being friends.
452
00:17:48,833 --> 00:17:50,542
And I feel like I've
almost been, like, more taken
453
00:17:50,625 --> 00:17:53,250
for a toll in our friendship
trying to be reset.
454
00:17:53,375 --> 00:17:54,583
- Than the marriage?
- Because it's more of, like,
455
00:17:54,667 --> 00:17:55,833
a weird mind-[bleep].
456
00:17:55,875 --> 00:17:56,958
- Yeah.
- And I'm like,
457
00:17:57,042 --> 00:17:58,625
this is honestly harder,
and, like,
458
00:17:58,708 --> 00:17:59,917
you're not even treating me
like a friend.
459
00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:01,208
Like, what the [bleep]?
460
00:18:01,292 --> 00:18:02,792
- Also, I think
the way he nitpicks
461
00:18:02,875 --> 00:18:05,125
what you say is not something
a friend would do.
462
00:18:05,208 --> 00:18:06,292
He's silencing you...
463
00:18:06,375 --> 00:18:07,583
- I know.
- And that's not fair.
464
00:18:07,667 --> 00:18:09,917
I mean, the friendship
that he's talking about,
465
00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:11,417
I'm not sure where that is.
466
00:18:11,500 --> 00:18:13,292
- [chuckles]
- I don't see it.
467
00:18:13,375 --> 00:18:15,500
It's like, you can just
be real and raw
468
00:18:15,625 --> 00:18:17,000
and let her be herself.
469
00:18:17,125 --> 00:18:18,333
But you're trying to,
like, put her in a mold
470
00:18:18,417 --> 00:18:20,250
that is, like, not who she is.
471
00:18:20,375 --> 00:18:21,500
And that's, like, very unfair.
- But it's weird.
472
00:18:21,583 --> 00:18:22,500
He, like, was fine
with that, though.
473
00:18:22,625 --> 00:18:24,167
He was fine
with me being myself
474
00:18:24,292 --> 00:18:25,833
for a really long time...
- It is weird that it--
475
00:18:25,917 --> 00:18:28,250
- Until it wasn't for him
476
00:18:28,333 --> 00:18:30,292
and, like,
his narrative and his image
477
00:18:30,375 --> 00:18:34,083
that he is trying to have
portrayed on camera
478
00:18:34,208 --> 00:18:36,042
and, like, whatever the [bleep]
he wanted out of this.
479
00:18:36,208 --> 00:18:37,083
- Yeah.
- Because I said that
480
00:18:37,208 --> 00:18:38,292
on the honeymoon.
I was like,
481
00:18:38,375 --> 00:18:39,500
thanks for letting me
be myself.
482
00:18:39,542 --> 00:18:41,375
There's a lot to me.
I get that.
483
00:18:41,458 --> 00:18:42,625
- And it's like,
that's who you are.
484
00:18:42,708 --> 00:18:44,417
- That is me.
- Never not be yourself
485
00:18:44,417 --> 00:18:46,083
for some man
who wants you to not be.
486
00:18:46,167 --> 00:18:47,208
- I think actually
he does not like that.
487
00:18:47,292 --> 00:18:49,167
I really don't.
- OK, well--yeah.
488
00:18:49,208 --> 00:18:50,917
I have no words other than,
eff that.
489
00:18:51,042 --> 00:18:53,167
♪
490
00:18:53,208 --> 00:18:55,333
- It just still hurts
no matter what, like,
491
00:18:55,375 --> 00:18:58,000
to have someone that says--
that cares about you
492
00:18:58,042 --> 00:18:59,333
and you care about them,
or, like...
493
00:18:59,375 --> 00:19:00,875
- Yeah, of course.
- You felt some way, whatever.
494
00:19:00,958 --> 00:19:03,708
Like, he--he doesn't.
495
00:19:03,792 --> 00:19:05,833
- He just seems very closed off
to me right now.
496
00:19:05,917 --> 00:19:07,583
I feel like you are very open.
497
00:19:07,667 --> 00:19:10,667
It's very clear that there's
an open person here
498
00:19:10,708 --> 00:19:13,167
who's ready to, like,
figure this out,
499
00:19:13,208 --> 00:19:15,583
and there's somebody
who's completely closed off
500
00:19:15,667 --> 00:19:17,958
who's saying that they're open
and friendship,
501
00:19:18,042 --> 00:19:19,500
and this and that
and the other.
502
00:19:19,583 --> 00:19:21,167
But it's just clear
in the behavior that
503
00:19:21,208 --> 00:19:23,708
that is not what's true.
504
00:19:23,792 --> 00:19:25,625
♪
505
00:19:25,708 --> 00:19:28,333
- To some extent, like,
this honestly is
506
00:19:28,417 --> 00:19:32,208
the best he can do for what
he is and what I've learned.
507
00:19:32,292 --> 00:19:34,167
- See, even saying that though,
you're giving him
508
00:19:34,250 --> 00:19:35,708
the benefit of the doubt,
which is a beautiful thing--
509
00:19:35,833 --> 00:19:36,875
- But it's not even
the benefit of the doubt.
510
00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:37,833
Like, it's literally facts.
511
00:19:37,958 --> 00:19:39,542
As I listen to this, I'm like,
512
00:19:39,625 --> 00:19:43,167
that is just, like,
what he is capable of.
513
00:19:43,250 --> 00:19:44,542
And that's why I say,
like, it's sad.
514
00:19:44,625 --> 00:19:46,000
- Yeah, it is sad.
515
00:19:46,042 --> 00:19:47,833
- I don't know what to do.
516
00:19:47,875 --> 00:19:50,000
I'm not giving up.
517
00:19:50,042 --> 00:19:52,792
But, like, it's very hard.
518
00:19:52,875 --> 00:19:53,833
- Yeah.
519
00:19:58,208 --> 00:19:59,708
- ♪ You and I
520
00:19:59,708 --> 00:20:01,083
♪
521
00:20:01,458 --> 00:20:04,167
♪ Together forever
and always ♪
522
00:20:04,250 --> 00:20:06,375
♪ It's you and I
523
00:20:06,458 --> 00:20:11,667
- Are you excited
for one epic outdoor adventure?
524
00:20:11,708 --> 00:20:13,042
- I am.
525
00:20:13,167 --> 00:20:14,833
Do you approve of my attire?
526
00:20:14,917 --> 00:20:16,583
Will I be able
to make it through with this?
527
00:20:16,708 --> 00:20:19,375
- I probably wouldn't
have approved
528
00:20:19,375 --> 00:20:22,542
if your shoes didn't coordinate
with your headband.
529
00:20:22,667 --> 00:20:24,875
If those had been
two different colors...
530
00:20:24,958 --> 00:20:26,667
- Then I'd have to change?
531
00:20:26,708 --> 00:20:28,417
- I probably would have pivoted
to a different activity.
532
00:20:28,542 --> 00:20:29,875
- OK.
- But now that--
533
00:20:29,958 --> 00:20:32,958
you know, head to toe.
534
00:20:33,042 --> 00:20:35,833
[upbeat music]
535
00:20:35,875 --> 00:20:40,708
♪
536
00:20:40,833 --> 00:20:42,667
Nice. OK.
537
00:20:42,750 --> 00:20:44,167
- Hello.
Welcome.
538
00:20:44,250 --> 00:20:45,292
- Hey.
539
00:20:45,375 --> 00:20:46,583
I'm Chloe.
- Mike.
540
00:20:46,583 --> 00:20:47,792
- Chloe, Mike,
nice to meet you guys.
541
00:20:47,875 --> 00:20:49,458
I'm just gonna have
you stand right behind
542
00:20:49,542 --> 00:20:50,667
these harnesses here.
- OK.
543
00:20:50,708 --> 00:20:52,167
- So first thing
to do is gear up.
544
00:20:52,250 --> 00:20:53,875
- OK.
- So if you want to stand
545
00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:55,083
right there,
Mike, right there.
546
00:20:55,167 --> 00:20:56,375
- Sure.
- Perfect.
547
00:20:56,458 --> 00:20:58,417
Step through the loops
on the harness here.
548
00:20:58,500 --> 00:21:00,000
So you're going
to step here, here.
549
00:21:00,083 --> 00:21:02,750
- OK.
Good, I think.
550
00:21:02,833 --> 00:21:04,875
- What brought you guys
out here today?
551
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:07,250
- Well, we are
on our honeymoon.
552
00:21:07,333 --> 00:21:09,833
And I think
the fastest way to learn
553
00:21:09,917 --> 00:21:12,083
as much as we can about
each other is to put ourselves
554
00:21:12,167 --> 00:21:14,208
in very stressful situations.
- [laughs]
555
00:21:14,292 --> 00:21:16,708
- So I chose this adventure
556
00:21:16,792 --> 00:21:18,208
because I'm terrified
of heights, and I thought
557
00:21:18,292 --> 00:21:20,083
I would face my fears
with my husband,
558
00:21:20,167 --> 00:21:21,542
testing his ability
to support me...
559
00:21:21,625 --> 00:21:22,667
- You can draw off my strength.
560
00:21:22,750 --> 00:21:25,542
- In all of my--
in all of my fears.
561
00:21:25,625 --> 00:21:27,000
- Hold up, how do I look?
- Very--
562
00:21:27,125 --> 00:21:28,458
- How's this look?
- So sexy.
563
00:21:28,542 --> 00:21:30,958
- Does it complement my hips?
- Yeah, yeah, no.
564
00:21:31,042 --> 00:21:32,458
Draws attention right to 'em.
565
00:21:32,542 --> 00:21:34,542
- All right.
Anyways--
566
00:21:34,542 --> 00:21:37,167
so if you two just want to go
ahead and grab your helmets.
567
00:21:37,208 --> 00:21:43,917
♪
568
00:21:44,042 --> 00:21:46,125
- Am I choking you?
- [laughing] My chin.
569
00:21:46,208 --> 00:21:48,042
- Oh, I grabbed your chin?
570
00:21:48,042 --> 00:21:49,167
♪
571
00:21:49,250 --> 00:21:50,667
Is that good?
- Yeah.
572
00:21:50,750 --> 00:21:52,167
OK.
- Perfect.
573
00:21:52,250 --> 00:21:54,000
Grab those bags.
Grab your waters.
574
00:21:54,083 --> 00:21:55,875
- All right.
Let's do it.
575
00:21:55,958 --> 00:22:02,292
♪
576
00:22:02,375 --> 00:22:03,792
Yeah, I'll watch you.
577
00:22:03,875 --> 00:22:05,750
OK, we're totally good.
578
00:22:05,875 --> 00:22:08,500
Yeah.
Sure.
579
00:22:08,542 --> 00:22:10,167
- You got it?
- Yeah.
580
00:22:10,250 --> 00:22:11,292
- Do you like holding my hand,
581
00:22:11,375 --> 00:22:12,125
or would you rather
hold, like--
582
00:22:12,208 --> 00:22:13,750
- Um, yeah.
583
00:22:13,833 --> 00:22:16,583
You go forward, and I'll just
hold your shoulder.
584
00:22:16,708 --> 00:22:18,167
Feeling stable.
- Doing good?
585
00:22:18,250 --> 00:22:19,458
- Yep.
586
00:22:19,542 --> 00:22:21,250
I am--
- You are pro-ing it.
587
00:22:21,333 --> 00:22:23,500
- I am in it to win it.
588
00:22:23,583 --> 00:22:24,792
- I'm just keeping up
with you now.
589
00:22:24,917 --> 00:22:26,875
- Get up.
OK.
590
00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:28,375
Wow.
591
00:22:28,500 --> 00:22:31,250
My heart's about
to pop out of my chest.
592
00:22:31,333 --> 00:22:33,167
Oh, God, survival.
593
00:22:33,250 --> 00:22:34,667
It just, uh--
594
00:22:34,750 --> 00:22:35,875
♪
595
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:37,750
[bleep].
596
00:22:37,875 --> 00:22:39,333
OK.
597
00:22:39,375 --> 00:22:40,875
All righty.
598
00:22:40,875 --> 00:22:44,125
I'll follow you.
599
00:22:44,208 --> 00:22:45,500
- How are we living, Chloe?
Good?
600
00:22:45,542 --> 00:22:47,167
- I mean, I've never
been up this high.
601
00:22:47,250 --> 00:22:49,625
But I'm--
- You're doing great.
602
00:22:49,708 --> 00:22:51,000
- Oy.
603
00:22:54,208 --> 00:22:56,000
Oh, goodness gracious me.
604
00:22:56,083 --> 00:22:57,125
Holy cow.
605
00:22:57,208 --> 00:23:01,583
♪
606
00:23:01,667 --> 00:23:03,250
Oh, my goodness.
- All right.
607
00:23:03,250 --> 00:23:04,667
♪
608
00:23:04,750 --> 00:23:07,000
- Whoo!
609
00:23:07,042 --> 00:23:08,208
Whoo!
- Be proud, huh?
610
00:23:08,208 --> 00:23:10,000
- Holy smokes.
611
00:23:10,125 --> 00:23:12,083
We did it.
612
00:23:12,208 --> 00:23:13,917
This adventure
definitely pulled me
613
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:16,000
out of my comfort zone,
which I haven't necessarily
614
00:23:16,083 --> 00:23:17,375
been out of that in a while.
615
00:23:17,458 --> 00:23:20,292
But Michael really
prioritized me
616
00:23:20,375 --> 00:23:23,000
and what it is that I needed
to feel safe.
617
00:23:23,042 --> 00:23:24,208
- You all right?
618
00:23:24,375 --> 00:23:26,125
♪
619
00:23:26,208 --> 00:23:27,667
- Oh, that's beautiful.
620
00:23:27,750 --> 00:23:29,917
I never want to do that again.
621
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:31,583
That was really scary.
622
00:23:31,667 --> 00:23:33,917
This is probably the most
stressful, dangerous situation
623
00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:36,542
I've put myself in
in a really long time.
624
00:23:36,542 --> 00:23:39,292
So I'm happy to have Michael.
625
00:23:39,375 --> 00:23:42,667
May we approach all obstacles
in marriage just like this.
626
00:23:42,750 --> 00:23:44,208
High five.
627
00:23:44,292 --> 00:23:45,333
We did it.
- High five.
628
00:23:45,333 --> 00:23:48,250
♪
629
00:23:48,375 --> 00:23:49,542
- Should we look down
630
00:23:49,667 --> 00:23:51,958
and be grateful
that we're not falling?
631
00:23:52,042 --> 00:23:54,375
- Well, I mean,
if you want to continually
632
00:23:54,458 --> 00:23:55,750
face your fears, sure.
633
00:23:55,875 --> 00:23:58,000
- [groans]
That's too scary for me.
634
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,583
- Do you have any--
I mean, are heights--
635
00:24:00,667 --> 00:24:03,250
like, is the fear of heights
number one on that list?
636
00:24:03,333 --> 00:24:05,542
- Yeah, today really forced me
637
00:24:05,625 --> 00:24:07,875
out of my comfort zone,
which was good.
638
00:24:07,958 --> 00:24:10,667
What about you?
What are you afraid of?
639
00:24:10,750 --> 00:24:13,000
- I like to think I have a
healthy respect for the ocean.
640
00:24:13,042 --> 00:24:15,708
Like, I'll go in it,
and I enjoy water activities.
641
00:24:15,792 --> 00:24:17,750
But I know they do scare me,
so, like,
642
00:24:17,875 --> 00:24:19,833
if we would ever do
scuba diving or something,
643
00:24:19,958 --> 00:24:21,708
that would--
you know, that would
644
00:24:21,792 --> 00:24:25,167
take a lot out of me mentally
and emotionally.
645
00:24:25,250 --> 00:24:27,042
When I was young,
I used to really be scared of,
646
00:24:27,125 --> 00:24:29,667
like, roller coasters
if they went upside down.
647
00:24:29,792 --> 00:24:32,083
I mean, I'm still
scared of them now,
648
00:24:32,167 --> 00:24:35,333
but not nearly to the extent
that I was when I was young.
649
00:24:35,417 --> 00:24:36,667
But those are, like--
those would be, like,
650
00:24:36,750 --> 00:24:38,000
the only fears
that I could think of
651
00:24:38,083 --> 00:24:41,333
that would even rival
your fear of heights.
652
00:24:41,458 --> 00:24:43,042
- Rival this?
[laughs]
653
00:24:43,167 --> 00:24:45,708
Well, hey, I'm up here
and I'm looking down.
654
00:24:45,792 --> 00:24:47,167
- How about on
the opposite end though?
655
00:24:47,292 --> 00:24:50,000
Like, I mean we've broached
so many different topics,
656
00:24:50,042 --> 00:24:52,583
but we haven't even gone
through, like, the basics.
657
00:24:52,708 --> 00:24:55,458
Like, we've talked about how
I could be your support system.
658
00:24:55,542 --> 00:24:57,417
And you know, today,
I tried to be that.
659
00:24:57,500 --> 00:24:59,083
- Yeah, you were.
660
00:24:59,208 --> 00:25:02,208
- Is there a particular type
of support that you prefer.
661
00:25:02,333 --> 00:25:03,667
Like, is it verbal support?
662
00:25:03,750 --> 00:25:06,375
Is it just, like,
a quiet, you know,
663
00:25:06,375 --> 00:25:07,917
just physically being there?
664
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:11,000
Like, what support type
resonates with you most?
665
00:25:11,083 --> 00:25:13,917
- I'm kind of one of those
that never asks for help.
666
00:25:14,042 --> 00:25:17,083
I'm one of those that's never
going to probably be the first
667
00:25:17,167 --> 00:25:20,958
to dive in and say, I need you
to support me in this way.
668
00:25:21,042 --> 00:25:23,417
But you continually
reminding me
669
00:25:23,542 --> 00:25:26,792
that I should be
leaning on you that way
670
00:25:26,875 --> 00:25:30,458
is going to help a lot
as I work to be
671
00:25:30,542 --> 00:25:33,500
a little less fully independent
672
00:25:33,583 --> 00:25:36,250
and maybe more of a partner
in this journey.
673
00:25:36,333 --> 00:25:38,583
What about you?
674
00:25:38,667 --> 00:25:41,417
- I probably have
a little bit of that in me,
675
00:25:41,500 --> 00:25:43,542
like what you have where you
don't want to burden someone.
676
00:25:43,667 --> 00:25:45,583
- Yeah.
- But I think
677
00:25:45,667 --> 00:25:47,792
I don't recognize
all the time that, like,
678
00:25:47,875 --> 00:25:50,292
oh, [bleep], I'm struggling
more than I think I am.
679
00:25:50,375 --> 00:25:51,708
Like, you start seeing
680
00:25:51,875 --> 00:25:54,167
that my whole schedule is
out of whack.
681
00:25:54,167 --> 00:25:56,000
I mean, that would be
the insight I would give you,
682
00:25:56,042 --> 00:25:57,917
that, like, you know,
your boy's probably struggling.
683
00:25:58,042 --> 00:25:59,500
- [laughs]
684
00:25:59,583 --> 00:26:00,917
If you feel like you're
getting out of whack,
685
00:26:01,042 --> 00:26:03,708
I hope that you have
the opportunity
686
00:26:03,833 --> 00:26:05,333
to say things feel
a little bit off.
687
00:26:05,417 --> 00:26:06,250
- Mm-hmm.
- I'm going to do my best
688
00:26:06,333 --> 00:26:07,625
to learn it.
- Sure.
689
00:26:07,708 --> 00:26:10,000
- But before I learn it,
definitely let me know
690
00:26:10,042 --> 00:26:11,542
if things are not feeling
quite right.
691
00:26:11,625 --> 00:26:13,917
- I will.
- I'm here to help.
692
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:18,208
I'm here to be the ascending
mountain support in your life.
693
00:26:18,292 --> 00:26:19,333
- [laughing] Yeah.
694
00:26:19,375 --> 00:26:21,958
♪
695
00:26:22,042 --> 00:26:24,333
- ♪ Don't make it
complicated ♪
696
00:26:24,375 --> 00:26:28,708
♪
697
00:26:28,792 --> 00:26:34,167
- Tonight is our next
expert visit with Pastor Cal.
698
00:26:34,292 --> 00:26:37,750
You know, these things
are always interesting
699
00:26:37,833 --> 00:26:40,042
to get ready for.
700
00:26:40,167 --> 00:26:42,125
There's always, like,
a little bit of, like,
701
00:26:42,208 --> 00:26:45,042
anxiousness, I guess,
just because, I don't know,
702
00:26:45,042 --> 00:26:47,083
Brennan and I don't have
the best trajectory
703
00:26:47,208 --> 00:26:49,500
of having the smoothest
of conversations.
704
00:26:49,583 --> 00:26:51,333
I'm not really worried about
705
00:26:51,500 --> 00:26:53,208
discussing anything
in particular.
706
00:26:53,375 --> 00:26:55,333
I'm always just worried that,
like, something I say,
707
00:26:55,375 --> 00:26:58,500
I think, is going to spark
a reaction out of Brennan,
708
00:26:58,542 --> 00:27:00,292
just because he's
very sensitive, I think,
709
00:27:00,375 --> 00:27:02,708
to these types of topics.
710
00:27:02,708 --> 00:27:05,792
And sometimes,
what I think is totally, like,
711
00:27:05,875 --> 00:27:08,167
not sensitive or a big deal,
he does.
712
00:27:08,250 --> 00:27:09,500
So I just get--
713
00:27:09,500 --> 00:27:13,667
I'm always cautious or--yeah.
714
00:27:13,708 --> 00:27:14,958
Like, I just never know
maybe, like,
715
00:27:15,042 --> 00:27:21,000
what can make him maybe
get a little uneasy.
716
00:27:21,042 --> 00:27:23,417
Stay tuned
for what happens after.
717
00:27:23,542 --> 00:27:26,333
[car horns honking]
718
00:27:26,417 --> 00:27:31,375
♪
719
00:27:34,333 --> 00:27:35,375
Do you want some water?
720
00:27:35,500 --> 00:27:36,875
- Thanks.
721
00:27:40,500 --> 00:27:43,333
Anything you're nervous about?
722
00:27:43,375 --> 00:27:44,667
- I get nervous sometimes
723
00:27:44,708 --> 00:27:50,083
if I...just don't say
the right thing.
724
00:27:50,167 --> 00:27:51,833
[knock on door]
725
00:27:51,875 --> 00:27:54,042
- You know, this whole
friendship reset,
726
00:27:54,125 --> 00:27:56,083
the element has been
to remove all the pressure
727
00:27:56,208 --> 00:27:58,292
and just focus on
the good things between us.
728
00:27:58,375 --> 00:27:59,667
Come on in.
729
00:27:59,708 --> 00:28:01,458
- Always look so good.
730
00:28:01,542 --> 00:28:02,542
- I think Emily and I,
you know,
731
00:28:02,667 --> 00:28:04,875
we've had a lot of talks,
so hopefully
732
00:28:04,958 --> 00:28:06,208
we're finally
on the same page.
733
00:28:06,292 --> 00:28:08,917
- How are you, beautiful lady?
- How are you?
734
00:28:08,917 --> 00:28:10,583
Good to see you.
- You too.
735
00:28:10,708 --> 00:28:11,667
Look at you.
You look all nice.
736
00:28:11,750 --> 00:28:12,583
- You know.
- He's a'ight.
737
00:28:12,667 --> 00:28:14,000
- Yeah, he's fine.
738
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:15,917
He's fine.
739
00:28:16,042 --> 00:28:18,167
- So what's up, guys?
- Welcome back.
740
00:28:18,208 --> 00:28:20,917
♪
741
00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:22,208
We have a new setup
since you came.
742
00:28:22,333 --> 00:28:23,458
- I know, right?
743
00:28:23,542 --> 00:28:24,875
Wasn't it different
the last time?
744
00:28:24,958 --> 00:28:25,833
- Yeah.
745
00:28:25,917 --> 00:28:26,958
- The seating was
different, right?
746
00:28:27,083 --> 00:28:28,042
- Yeah.
- We had the couch that way.
747
00:28:28,125 --> 00:28:29,542
- Yeah, the couch was
over here.
748
00:28:29,542 --> 00:28:32,292
So tell me,
how have things been going?
749
00:28:32,375 --> 00:28:34,667
I know that, you know,
you guys are not, you know,
750
00:28:34,750 --> 00:28:37,458
setting the romantic world
on fire right now.
751
00:28:37,542 --> 00:28:38,875
[chuckles]
752
00:28:38,958 --> 00:28:41,292
Well, let's talk about it.
753
00:28:41,375 --> 00:28:43,083
Are you happy?
754
00:28:43,167 --> 00:28:44,833
- Yeah, I'm happy.
755
00:28:44,958 --> 00:28:49,667
If I wasn't happy,
I would leave.
756
00:28:49,708 --> 00:28:51,792
But I just care about him.
757
00:28:51,875 --> 00:28:55,125
Sometimes I'm like,
why am I still here?
758
00:28:55,208 --> 00:28:57,000
Um...
759
00:28:57,083 --> 00:28:58,000
- OK.
760
00:28:58,042 --> 00:29:00,458
- I still have faith in us.
761
00:29:00,542 --> 00:29:03,625
I respect what he needs.
762
00:29:03,708 --> 00:29:06,458
I'm happy to let him
do whatever
763
00:29:06,542 --> 00:29:10,667
to let the reset,
like, progress.
764
00:29:10,792 --> 00:29:15,250
But for me, I want a husband,
not a friendship.
765
00:29:15,333 --> 00:29:17,958
- So I'm glad to see
the commitment,
766
00:29:18,042 --> 00:29:20,667
because once you get
into the friend zone,
767
00:29:20,708 --> 00:29:22,792
you don't see each other
as romantic partners.
768
00:29:22,875 --> 00:29:25,167
You're looking
at each other as buddies.
769
00:29:25,250 --> 00:29:26,708
You're punching each other
on the shoulder.
770
00:29:26,792 --> 00:29:28,125
That's not why you're here.
771
00:29:28,208 --> 00:29:30,042
But speaking
of why you are here,
772
00:29:30,125 --> 00:29:35,042
I want to share with you
each other's interviews.
773
00:29:35,125 --> 00:29:37,500
OK, this is when we first
sat down with you
774
00:29:37,542 --> 00:29:39,833
early in
the matchmaking process.
775
00:29:39,917 --> 00:29:41,917
I want you to see these videos
because I want you to see
776
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,458
what you were asking for
when we first started.
777
00:29:44,542 --> 00:29:46,250
- Hm.
778
00:29:46,375 --> 00:29:47,917
- Oh, wow.
779
00:29:48,042 --> 00:29:49,958
- We do our absolute best
780
00:29:50,042 --> 00:29:52,500
in trying to match you
as well as we can.
781
00:29:52,542 --> 00:29:54,833
And you both said, you know,
you guys see the values
782
00:29:54,917 --> 00:29:59,500
that you guys have that are
really, really compatible.
783
00:29:59,542 --> 00:30:02,417
[in video] How about--
how do you deal with conflict?
784
00:30:02,417 --> 00:30:04,958
- I think I deal with it well.
785
00:30:05,042 --> 00:30:07,917
I would say the one part
that I don't do well is,
786
00:30:08,042 --> 00:30:09,333
I'm really sensitive
and emotional.
787
00:30:09,417 --> 00:30:11,167
So I'm really working
on trying to, like,
788
00:30:11,250 --> 00:30:15,333
not be emotional in the way
that I deal with it.
789
00:30:15,417 --> 00:30:16,667
- What do you think
are the ingredients
790
00:30:16,708 --> 00:30:18,917
for a successful marriage?
791
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:22,667
- You definitely have to
give and take and compromise.
792
00:30:22,750 --> 00:30:25,833
And also, like, you have
to realize it's a lot of work,
793
00:30:25,917 --> 00:30:28,833
and you can't give up
when things get tough.
794
00:30:28,875 --> 00:30:30,417
- Give me
a few characteristics
795
00:30:30,542 --> 00:30:32,250
of a potential husband.
796
00:30:32,333 --> 00:30:37,458
- Definitely loyal,
driven, kind.
797
00:30:37,458 --> 00:30:39,958
I think, like, if you aren't
kind to others or yourself
798
00:30:40,042 --> 00:30:43,458
or to your partner,
it's hard to have,
799
00:30:43,542 --> 00:30:46,958
like, other
positive things translate.
800
00:30:47,042 --> 00:30:50,833
- So tell me,
what do you think?
801
00:30:50,958 --> 00:30:52,375
- Same girl.
- Is it the same girl?
802
00:30:52,458 --> 00:30:53,667
- Same girl.
- This is the same person
803
00:30:53,792 --> 00:30:54,542
that you're married to?
804
00:30:54,625 --> 00:30:55,667
- Yeah.
805
00:30:55,708 --> 00:30:56,833
- Yeah, yeah.
806
00:30:56,875 --> 00:30:58,500
She seems pretty consistent.
807
00:30:58,583 --> 00:30:59,792
What do you think?
808
00:30:59,875 --> 00:31:01,875
- Yeah.
I would say...
809
00:31:01,875 --> 00:31:03,500
- Yeah, yeah.
- Consistent.
810
00:31:03,542 --> 00:31:06,000
- All right.
811
00:31:06,083 --> 00:31:07,833
- How much do you want this?
- Very badly.
812
00:31:07,958 --> 00:31:09,500
I think I'm wearing
the same shirt.
813
00:31:09,542 --> 00:31:10,667
[laughs]
814
00:31:10,708 --> 00:31:12,500
I've watched the show.
815
00:31:12,583 --> 00:31:13,833
I've studied it.
816
00:31:13,917 --> 00:31:15,042
I've watched
your interactions.
817
00:31:15,125 --> 00:31:16,542
I'm extremely coachable,
818
00:31:16,625 --> 00:31:18,375
and I want to get better
at relationships.
819
00:31:18,458 --> 00:31:21,250
And I think this is
the platform to do it
820
00:31:21,333 --> 00:31:23,292
and find the person
I'm looking for.
821
00:31:23,375 --> 00:31:24,708
- What does your spouse
need to be
822
00:31:24,792 --> 00:31:26,083
on the lookout for with you?
823
00:31:26,167 --> 00:31:28,375
- I would say I am sensitive.
824
00:31:28,458 --> 00:31:34,000
So I can be emotional
at times in my tone,
825
00:31:34,042 --> 00:31:35,417
but I'm not actually.
826
00:31:35,500 --> 00:31:37,042
- How do you see
yourself cultivating trust
827
00:31:37,125 --> 00:31:38,125
in the marriage?
828
00:31:38,208 --> 00:31:40,792
- Just my actions, honestly.
829
00:31:40,875 --> 00:31:41,875
Just showing her
that I'm there,
830
00:31:41,875 --> 00:31:45,125
making her the priority.
831
00:31:45,208 --> 00:31:46,833
- What other elements do
you feel like are really going
832
00:31:46,917 --> 00:31:48,917
to be important
for a successful marriage?
833
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,125
- Yeah, so I'm very loving
and affectionate,
834
00:31:51,208 --> 00:31:52,833
and I'm very communicative.
835
00:31:52,917 --> 00:31:55,000
And I think that is huge
in a relationship.
836
00:31:55,083 --> 00:31:58,167
And I'm a pretty
selfless guy, honestly.
837
00:31:58,292 --> 00:32:00,333
Like, I put everyone
before myself.
838
00:32:00,417 --> 00:32:02,292
[tense music]
839
00:32:02,375 --> 00:32:04,750
- Smart guy.
840
00:32:04,875 --> 00:32:06,250
- What does marriage mean
to you?
841
00:32:06,333 --> 00:32:08,083
- I think marriage
for me is a life partner
842
00:32:08,167 --> 00:32:10,250
that you can conquer the world
with and do anything with--
843
00:32:10,333 --> 00:32:12,000
someone who has your back
through thick and thin.
844
00:32:12,125 --> 00:32:14,000
I really, really want that.
845
00:32:14,083 --> 00:32:16,833
For me, I'm gonna
trust the process,
846
00:32:16,875 --> 00:32:19,708
because I'm doing this
trusting you fully.
847
00:32:19,792 --> 00:32:21,333
I know you have my back.
848
00:32:21,375 --> 00:32:22,708
I'm gonna
follow the process...
849
00:32:22,792 --> 00:32:23,708
- OK.
- And work on it
850
00:32:23,792 --> 00:32:24,875
the best way that I can.
851
00:32:24,875 --> 00:32:27,542
♪
852
00:32:27,625 --> 00:32:29,458
- I want to get your response.
853
00:32:29,542 --> 00:32:33,833
- Yeah, I see a lot
of the same phrases,
854
00:32:33,917 --> 00:32:36,333
qualities that I think
he emphasizes,
855
00:32:36,417 --> 00:32:39,542
which is, like, trust and
being there for one another.
856
00:32:39,542 --> 00:32:42,792
Um...
857
00:32:42,875 --> 00:32:48,208
I also see some dissimilarities
because we're interviewing,
858
00:32:48,292 --> 00:32:50,292
so we're on our A game.
859
00:32:50,292 --> 00:32:52,667
Yeah, but for me it's like,
"trust the process."
860
00:32:52,750 --> 00:32:55,167
- Right.
- And I feel like for me,
861
00:32:55,208 --> 00:32:58,125
that got cut pretty short.
862
00:32:58,125 --> 00:32:59,875
- But as far--
what, trusting the process?
863
00:32:59,958 --> 00:33:02,292
- It's just, like, trusting
the process and not giving up.
864
00:33:02,375 --> 00:33:04,000
- Do you think
the guy in this video
865
00:33:04,083 --> 00:33:05,458
is the guy
that you're married to?
866
00:33:05,542 --> 00:33:07,458
- Uh...
867
00:33:07,542 --> 00:33:10,333
♪
868
00:33:14,500 --> 00:33:20,042
♪
869
00:33:20,208 --> 00:33:21,542
- It's kind of like
the tale as old as time
870
00:33:21,625 --> 00:33:23,667
of hearing all the stuff
you want to hear.
871
00:33:23,750 --> 00:33:26,250
And it's, like, a lot of
the stuff that actually, like,
872
00:33:26,375 --> 00:33:28,500
isn't really there
behind the scenes.
873
00:33:28,583 --> 00:33:31,125
Moral of the story's, like,
he spoke true to a lot of,
874
00:33:31,208 --> 00:33:33,667
I think, what he believes in.
875
00:33:33,750 --> 00:33:36,958
Things might have just been
a little bit exaggerated
876
00:33:37,042 --> 00:33:38,500
or, like, emphasized.
877
00:33:38,625 --> 00:33:41,708
Um...
878
00:33:41,792 --> 00:33:42,875
yeah.
879
00:33:42,875 --> 00:33:47,125
♪
880
00:33:47,208 --> 00:33:49,250
- It's different when you're
in a romantic situation,
881
00:33:49,375 --> 00:33:51,833
you know?
882
00:33:51,917 --> 00:33:53,333
- Friendship was not
the intention.
883
00:33:53,417 --> 00:33:54,708
- No, it was not.
- Friendship is not
884
00:33:54,792 --> 00:33:55,833
how we started out.
885
00:33:55,958 --> 00:33:58,000
And I tell people, look,
886
00:33:58,125 --> 00:34:00,375
do not use the F word,
887
00:34:00,458 --> 00:34:03,208
because it kind of
sets a boundary
888
00:34:03,333 --> 00:34:04,625
around your relationship,
and it's very hard
889
00:34:04,708 --> 00:34:05,875
to recover from that.
890
00:34:05,958 --> 00:34:08,375
♪
891
00:34:08,458 --> 00:34:11,333
What does moving forward
look like?
892
00:34:11,458 --> 00:34:13,875
What are your expectations,
you know?
893
00:34:13,958 --> 00:34:15,708
What are you thinking, Brennan?
894
00:34:15,792 --> 00:34:17,542
- We're just trying to navigate
it the best way we can.
895
00:34:17,625 --> 00:34:20,042
And, you know,
if we feel comfortable enough
896
00:34:20,125 --> 00:34:21,792
to go deeper, then,
you know, we'll go deeper.
897
00:34:21,875 --> 00:34:23,583
But if we're not feeling it,
898
00:34:23,667 --> 00:34:25,542
then we gotta respect
each other's boundaries.
899
00:34:25,667 --> 00:34:27,583
- What if she feels comfortable
enough to go deeper?
900
00:34:27,667 --> 00:34:29,667
- Great.
- Are you up to doing that?
901
00:34:29,708 --> 00:34:30,792
- Sure.
902
00:34:30,875 --> 00:34:33,708
♪
903
00:34:33,833 --> 00:34:35,250
- What do you think?
904
00:34:35,333 --> 00:34:37,125
- There have been times
905
00:34:37,208 --> 00:34:38,708
I've been trying
to respect his boundaries.
906
00:34:38,792 --> 00:34:40,333
Like, it's just delicate.
907
00:34:40,375 --> 00:34:42,417
And I think it's been
a little bit more important
908
00:34:42,500 --> 00:34:44,792
for me to, like,
do what is needed
909
00:34:44,875 --> 00:34:46,042
for him to feel
more comfortable.
910
00:34:46,125 --> 00:34:48,500
So I feel I just don't want
911
00:34:48,583 --> 00:34:51,375
to push any boundaries
in general
912
00:34:51,458 --> 00:34:55,958
and/or have that result
in being more closed off.
913
00:34:56,042 --> 00:34:58,083
♪
914
00:34:58,167 --> 00:35:03,208
- I think that the fear
of it going too fast,
915
00:35:03,292 --> 00:35:05,583
or the fear
of it going somewhere
916
00:35:05,667 --> 00:35:09,333
that you don't know if that's
the place you want it to go,
917
00:35:09,458 --> 00:35:11,583
it's sort of keeping
everybody at bay,
918
00:35:11,667 --> 00:35:14,500
maybe more so you than you,
you know?
919
00:35:14,583 --> 00:35:16,667
[laughing] This is not
"Friends at First Sight."
920
00:35:16,750 --> 00:35:18,333
Don't let those words
come out of your mouth,
921
00:35:18,417 --> 00:35:20,333
because normally,
that's a cop-out.
922
00:35:20,417 --> 00:35:23,750
And I want you guys
to get the full benefit
923
00:35:23,833 --> 00:35:25,792
of this experiment.
924
00:35:25,875 --> 00:35:28,958
You guys are gonna have to work
that out with each other, OK?
925
00:35:29,042 --> 00:35:30,458
Let's see what happens.
926
00:35:30,542 --> 00:35:35,458
♪
927
00:35:35,542 --> 00:35:39,250
- ♪ I've been waiting
my whole life ♪
928
00:35:39,333 --> 00:35:42,250
♪ To feel these butterflies
929
00:35:42,333 --> 00:35:46,042
♪ This is the effect
you have on me ♪
930
00:35:46,167 --> 00:35:47,750
- Well, cheers
to the honeymoon.
931
00:35:47,833 --> 00:35:48,958
- Cheers.
932
00:35:49,042 --> 00:35:50,333
♪
933
00:35:50,417 --> 00:35:52,208
Mmm.
934
00:35:52,292 --> 00:35:54,333
So I can't even imagine
935
00:35:54,375 --> 00:35:55,958
what it's like growing up
in Santa Fe.
936
00:35:56,042 --> 00:35:57,500
Like, I don't have
a preconceived notion
937
00:35:57,542 --> 00:35:58,833
of what that looks like,
you know?
938
00:35:58,917 --> 00:36:02,667
- So I was born and spent
the first nine years
939
00:36:02,708 --> 00:36:04,208
in Santa Fe.
- OK.
940
00:36:04,292 --> 00:36:07,625
- And then from 9 to 17,
when I graduated high school,
941
00:36:07,708 --> 00:36:09,500
we were in Albuquerque.
942
00:36:09,583 --> 00:36:15,333
But Santa Fe was
a very interesting place.
943
00:36:15,417 --> 00:36:19,167
It was a really culturally
diverse childhood for me.
944
00:36:19,208 --> 00:36:21,042
- OK.
- And so it's been
945
00:36:21,125 --> 00:36:24,500
kind of the foundation
of how I accept
946
00:36:24,625 --> 00:36:27,167
and really thrive
with people today.
947
00:36:27,292 --> 00:36:28,708
Was there a lot
of cultural diversity--
948
00:36:28,792 --> 00:36:29,833
you grew up in Anaheim?
949
00:36:29,917 --> 00:36:31,458
- I definitely was exposed
950
00:36:31,542 --> 00:36:33,958
to a good amount of diversity,
951
00:36:34,042 --> 00:36:35,208
you know,
my mom being Filipino.
952
00:36:35,292 --> 00:36:37,667
My dad was Cypriot/Greek.
953
00:36:37,792 --> 00:36:41,500
So you know, Filipino cuisine
is relatively unique.
954
00:36:41,583 --> 00:36:43,667
And that's what I was used
to growing up, like, eating.
955
00:36:43,750 --> 00:36:45,542
So then if I was
at someone else's house,
956
00:36:45,625 --> 00:36:46,958
that's when I first realized,
957
00:36:47,042 --> 00:36:48,500
oh, OK, like,
there's a difference.
958
00:36:48,625 --> 00:36:51,583
Like, squid isn't normal
for some other cultures.
959
00:36:51,667 --> 00:36:53,667
- I'm curious
if you identify more
960
00:36:53,750 --> 00:36:55,625
with the Filipino side
or the Greek side.
961
00:36:55,708 --> 00:36:57,417
- So growing up,
I definitely would have said
962
00:36:57,542 --> 00:36:59,958
the Filipino side,
just because that was
963
00:37:00,042 --> 00:37:02,500
what I was exposed to more.
964
00:37:02,625 --> 00:37:06,167
Now I have a very healthy
appreciation for both.
965
00:37:06,208 --> 00:37:08,042
The Greek side of my family,
966
00:37:08,125 --> 00:37:09,333
especially, like,
when my dad died,
967
00:37:09,417 --> 00:37:12,250
they made me--in a good way--
968
00:37:12,333 --> 00:37:16,417
feel like an adult
that could handle it at age 14.
969
00:37:16,500 --> 00:37:19,250
- That's phenomenal.
970
00:37:19,375 --> 00:37:21,333
I'm excited to meet
more of your family.
971
00:37:21,375 --> 00:37:24,333
- My mom and sister are
in Vegas.
972
00:37:24,417 --> 00:37:26,917
But her and my mom are,
like, best friends.
973
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:28,042
- Best friends--BFF.
- Yeah.
974
00:37:28,208 --> 00:37:29,458
Mm-hmm.
- Which is amazing.
975
00:37:29,542 --> 00:37:30,917
Well, I'm looking forward
to meeting them.
976
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:32,667
- Mm-hmm.
- Does she know
977
00:37:32,750 --> 00:37:34,750
that we're married,
we're together?
978
00:37:34,833 --> 00:37:36,875
Does she know that yet?
- No, she doesn't know.
979
00:37:36,958 --> 00:37:38,667
She doesn't know that yet.
980
00:37:38,750 --> 00:37:41,000
I did tell my mom about
what happened the first time.
981
00:37:41,042 --> 00:37:43,042
And you know, that's something
that's fresh in her mind.
982
00:37:43,125 --> 00:37:44,500
But my sister knows.
983
00:37:44,542 --> 00:37:47,458
You know, I told
my sister about it.
984
00:37:47,542 --> 00:37:51,792
But I asked her not to tell
my mom the second time around,
985
00:37:51,875 --> 00:37:54,333
because I know for my mom,
when I told her
986
00:37:54,375 --> 00:37:57,167
about this potential journey
the first time,
987
00:37:57,208 --> 00:37:58,625
like, it was hard
for her to understand,
988
00:37:58,708 --> 00:38:01,750
why you would want
to go about it this way.
989
00:38:01,833 --> 00:38:04,708
She thought that, you know,
it wasn't a good idea.
990
00:38:04,792 --> 00:38:07,292
- Well, I think her reaction
was totally normal.
991
00:38:07,375 --> 00:38:09,167
And I think her reaction
is also something
992
00:38:09,250 --> 00:38:12,167
that I would 100% expect.
993
00:38:12,250 --> 00:38:16,500
- For me, I'm double-downing
on the fact that,
994
00:38:16,542 --> 00:38:19,000
you know, as things continue
to develop with us,
995
00:38:19,083 --> 00:38:22,917
any concerns she has,
you know, upon meeting you,
996
00:38:23,042 --> 00:38:25,500
most of those, if not all,
will evaporate.
997
00:38:25,542 --> 00:38:27,125
- Yeah.
998
00:38:27,208 --> 00:38:31,167
[tense music]
999
00:38:31,250 --> 00:38:32,792
- I want to be crystal clear.
1000
00:38:32,875 --> 00:38:35,333
Like, I'm not trying
to hide you, you know,
1001
00:38:35,375 --> 00:38:38,167
or hide my family from you
or vice versa.
1002
00:38:38,208 --> 00:38:39,833
So I just want you
to trust me...
1003
00:38:39,833 --> 00:38:42,208
- Yeah.
- You know, when the best time
1004
00:38:42,292 --> 00:38:43,792
is to tell my mom.
1005
00:38:43,875 --> 00:38:46,667
♪
1006
00:38:50,833 --> 00:38:52,167
[upbeat music]
1007
00:38:52,250 --> 00:38:55,083
♪
1008
00:38:55,167 --> 00:38:57,125
- Home sweet...
♪ Home
1009
00:38:57,208 --> 00:38:59,000
- It's a little bit of a mess.
1010
00:38:59,125 --> 00:39:00,375
Yay, travel days.
1011
00:39:00,500 --> 00:39:02,708
- Yay, travel days.
1012
00:39:02,792 --> 00:39:06,167
My back hurts,
sitting in one position.
1013
00:39:06,250 --> 00:39:07,625
- Oh, you weren't
in one position.
1014
00:39:07,750 --> 00:39:09,417
You were all over them--
[chuckling]
1015
00:39:09,500 --> 00:39:11,333
- [chuckling]
- That airplane chair.
1016
00:39:11,417 --> 00:39:13,042
- I don't know what
you're talking about.
1017
00:39:13,125 --> 00:39:14,333
- I'm surprised
your head wasn't--
1018
00:39:14,417 --> 00:39:15,917
or your feet weren't
in the air at one point.
1019
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:17,167
- [laughs]
1020
00:39:17,250 --> 00:39:19,667
I was tired.
- Yeah, I know.
1021
00:39:19,750 --> 00:39:22,500
- Well, because we woke up
at 8:00 a.m., which 8:00 a.m.--
1022
00:39:22,583 --> 00:39:24,542
- No, we woke up at 7:00 a.m.
- We woke up at 7:00 a.m.,
1023
00:39:24,667 --> 00:39:25,958
which was technically--
- 4:00 a.m. our time.
1024
00:39:26,042 --> 00:39:27,708
- Oof.
1025
00:39:27,792 --> 00:39:30,500
- Um, yeah,
1026
00:39:30,542 --> 00:39:34,333
looking forward
to a nice, long slumber.
1027
00:39:34,417 --> 00:39:37,417
How are you feeling
about Dr. Pia's visit tomorrow?
1028
00:39:37,542 --> 00:39:40,167
- Yeah, I am excited
to see her, I think.
1029
00:39:40,208 --> 00:39:42,667
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
1030
00:39:42,750 --> 00:39:46,125
- Not gonna drop
any bombs on me
1031
00:39:46,208 --> 00:39:48,333
that I don't know about,
are you?
1032
00:39:48,458 --> 00:39:50,667
- Maybe.
- Oh, no.
1033
00:39:50,708 --> 00:39:53,208
I mean, I think,
obviously, like,
1034
00:39:53,292 --> 00:39:55,333
physical intimacy is
still something
1035
00:39:55,417 --> 00:39:57,708
that we gotta be working on.
1036
00:39:57,792 --> 00:40:04,167
But like, we didn't really
have time to take that step.
1037
00:40:04,250 --> 00:40:06,417
But you know,
I think we've taken
1038
00:40:06,500 --> 00:40:07,958
a lot of the advice
she's given us,
1039
00:40:08,042 --> 00:40:10,167
and we are applying it.
1040
00:40:10,208 --> 00:40:15,750
It just happens to be a little
slower than, like, I hope, or--
1041
00:40:15,833 --> 00:40:17,500
I don't know
if you feel similarly.
1042
00:40:17,500 --> 00:40:21,250
It's just--OK, she does.
1043
00:40:21,333 --> 00:40:23,500
- Dr. Pia said, you make time.
1044
00:40:23,625 --> 00:40:27,625
- We just haven't had--when?
1045
00:40:27,708 --> 00:40:32,083
We were in Philly for four days
in a house with two cats.
1046
00:40:32,208 --> 00:40:33,667
And there was no escaping it.
1047
00:40:33,750 --> 00:40:36,167
I'm allergic to cats,
and I have never been
1048
00:40:36,208 --> 00:40:38,417
around them for more than,
like, a couple hours.
1049
00:40:38,500 --> 00:40:42,125
And it not only, like, affected
1050
00:40:42,208 --> 00:40:44,542
my, like,
nasal passages and eyes,
1051
00:40:44,625 --> 00:40:46,333
but it, like,
started to affect my lungs,
1052
00:40:46,375 --> 00:40:50,875
and hope that's something
that, like,
1053
00:40:50,958 --> 00:40:55,875
you recognize and, you know,
can sympathize with.
1054
00:40:55,958 --> 00:40:57,667
- Yeah.
1055
00:40:57,792 --> 00:41:00,625
I know Austin means well,
1056
00:41:00,708 --> 00:41:03,833
and I know
he is committed to me,
1057
00:41:03,917 --> 00:41:07,292
but it's difficult when you
continue to initiate things,
1058
00:41:07,375 --> 00:41:09,667
and then continue
to face rejection.
1059
00:41:09,750 --> 00:41:11,000
I'm running out of ideas.
1060
00:41:11,083 --> 00:41:13,500
I'm running out of ways
for us to connect
1061
00:41:13,583 --> 00:41:16,417
that do separate us
from a friendship
1062
00:41:16,500 --> 00:41:18,333
from a romantic relationship
1063
00:41:18,417 --> 00:41:19,792
that are in ways
that he's comfortable
1064
00:41:19,875 --> 00:41:21,667
that still fulfill my needs.
1065
00:41:21,708 --> 00:41:24,417
Like, it feels like
we're running out of avenues.
1066
00:41:24,542 --> 00:41:27,500
I think just, like,
taking Dr. Pia's advice
1067
00:41:27,583 --> 00:41:29,333
about, like, the foreplay
throughout the day--
1068
00:41:29,375 --> 00:41:30,667
like, flirting
and stuff like that,
1069
00:41:30,750 --> 00:41:32,458
I think, is really important.
1070
00:41:32,542 --> 00:41:34,667
- It's hard to fit it all in.
1071
00:41:34,750 --> 00:41:36,000
♪
1072
00:41:36,125 --> 00:41:37,500
- Yeah.
1073
00:41:37,542 --> 00:41:39,542
- As long as progress
is being made,
1074
00:41:39,625 --> 00:41:43,167
that is something to be--
1075
00:41:43,250 --> 00:41:46,375
like, to appreciate.
1076
00:41:46,375 --> 00:41:47,875
♪
1077
00:41:47,958 --> 00:41:49,292
What do you think?
1078
00:41:49,375 --> 00:41:52,417
- Kind of putting everything
in your court for that,
1079
00:41:52,500 --> 00:41:54,500
you know?
1080
00:41:54,583 --> 00:41:56,833
- I know.
1081
00:41:56,917 --> 00:41:59,167
♪
1082
00:41:59,167 --> 00:42:02,000
[upbeat music]
1083
00:42:02,042 --> 00:42:07,333
♪
1084
00:42:07,458 --> 00:42:09,333
- Welcome to Alluvia Spa.
1085
00:42:09,375 --> 00:42:10,417
How are you two doing today?
1086
00:42:10,500 --> 00:42:11,667
- Doing well.
- Good.
1087
00:42:11,792 --> 00:42:13,000
- Ready to get rubbed down.
- Perfect.
1088
00:42:13,083 --> 00:42:14,417
[laughter]
1089
00:42:14,500 --> 00:42:15,417
OK.
- Let's go.
1090
00:42:15,500 --> 00:42:17,042
- This way.
- Yay.
1091
00:42:17,167 --> 00:42:21,250
[soft piano music]
1092
00:42:21,333 --> 00:42:24,167
- Me and you are gonna be
on this first bed here.
1093
00:42:24,250 --> 00:42:26,208
- Perfect.
1094
00:42:26,292 --> 00:42:27,708
I'm assuming
I'll just slide in.
1095
00:42:27,792 --> 00:42:29,625
- Yes.
1096
00:42:31,875 --> 00:42:35,375
♪
1097
00:42:35,500 --> 00:42:37,208
- Full nude there, husband.
1098
00:42:37,292 --> 00:42:38,500
[chuckles]
1099
00:42:38,583 --> 00:42:41,208
- Gotta embrace the moment.
1100
00:42:41,292 --> 00:42:43,958
I don't know about you.
I don't feel any discomfort,
1101
00:42:44,042 --> 00:42:46,000
like, just disrobing
and getting a couples' massage
1102
00:42:46,125 --> 00:42:46,875
in the same room as you.
1103
00:42:46,958 --> 00:42:48,500
- No.
1104
00:42:48,583 --> 00:42:50,667
Settled right
into married life.
1105
00:42:50,750 --> 00:42:52,458
- I'm just warning you, Chloe,
1106
00:42:52,542 --> 00:42:54,500
I make noises
when I get massaged.
1107
00:42:54,583 --> 00:42:56,625
- OK.
What can I expect?
1108
00:42:56,708 --> 00:42:58,500
- Just mmm's.
- [chuckles]
1109
00:42:58,583 --> 00:43:00,500
- Nothing--no exotic sounds.
1110
00:43:00,583 --> 00:43:01,458
- Well...
1111
00:43:01,542 --> 00:43:03,667
- Mmm.
1112
00:43:03,708 --> 00:43:06,333
[ambient music]
1113
00:43:06,375 --> 00:43:08,708
♪
1114
00:43:08,833 --> 00:43:11,667
So now that you see your most
wonderful and glorious husband
1115
00:43:11,750 --> 00:43:13,583
exposed for the most part...
1116
00:43:13,667 --> 00:43:15,333
- Naked.
1117
00:43:15,458 --> 00:43:16,500
- Is there anything
in particular
1118
00:43:16,542 --> 00:43:18,208
that catches your eye?
1119
00:43:18,208 --> 00:43:24,083
- I've never, ever dated a man
that had any tattoos.
1120
00:43:24,208 --> 00:43:27,500
And you've definitely journeyed
your life on your body,
1121
00:43:27,583 --> 00:43:29,167
and it's really beautiful.
1122
00:43:29,250 --> 00:43:30,583
You're just a handsome guy.
1123
00:43:30,708 --> 00:43:34,167
And I love your hair
and your curls.
1124
00:43:34,250 --> 00:43:35,958
- Well, thank you.
1125
00:43:36,042 --> 00:43:38,542
I tend to gravitate
towards dark features,
1126
00:43:38,667 --> 00:43:40,500
like dark eyes and darker hair.
1127
00:43:40,542 --> 00:43:42,958
So seeing you come
down the aisle,
1128
00:43:43,042 --> 00:43:44,333
the first thing
I saw was, like,
1129
00:43:44,458 --> 00:43:46,750
kind of your long,
flowing hair.
1130
00:43:46,833 --> 00:43:49,333
I find your smile
to be extremely inviting.
1131
00:43:49,417 --> 00:43:50,708
- Aw.
1132
00:43:50,792 --> 00:43:52,625
- I really like your lips.
- Oh.
1133
00:43:52,708 --> 00:43:55,833
- I don't--I can't explain
specifically why.
1134
00:43:55,917 --> 00:43:57,792
I just know that
I really like your lips.
1135
00:43:57,875 --> 00:44:01,667
And I feel like
you're so intentional
1136
00:44:01,750 --> 00:44:06,708
with showing me through
your gaze that you're present.
1137
00:44:06,792 --> 00:44:09,125
- I like that list.
1138
00:44:09,208 --> 00:44:11,750
- You two want to go ahead
and massage each other?
1139
00:44:11,833 --> 00:44:13,250
- [chuckles]
- Yes, Michael.
1140
00:44:13,333 --> 00:44:14,250
Come massage me.
- All right.
1141
00:44:14,333 --> 00:44:16,500
- OK.
[laughter]
1142
00:44:16,542 --> 00:44:18,708
- My feelings right now
for Chloe, I mean,
1143
00:44:18,833 --> 00:44:21,500
they just keep--they continue
to keep being reinforced.
1144
00:44:21,583 --> 00:44:25,000
I've just--I've really been
harping on the chemistry
1145
00:44:25,042 --> 00:44:26,875
and the momentum
that we've been able to build.
1146
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:29,750
And you know, each of these
moments that we spend together,
1147
00:44:29,833 --> 00:44:31,667
it continues to reaffirm that.
1148
00:44:31,708 --> 00:44:33,167
You'll have
to let me know if, like,
1149
00:44:33,250 --> 00:44:34,292
the pressure's too tough.
1150
00:44:34,375 --> 00:44:35,458
All right?
- OK.
1151
00:44:35,542 --> 00:44:36,792
Yeah.
- I got these strong hands.
1152
00:44:36,875 --> 00:44:38,167
- I know--
- They don't look like much.
1153
00:44:38,250 --> 00:44:39,500
- Well--
- But trust me.
1154
00:44:39,542 --> 00:44:41,042
- OK.
- All right?
1155
00:44:41,167 --> 00:44:43,292
I'm very interested
in being intimate with Chloe.
1156
00:44:43,292 --> 00:44:47,917
- ♪ This is one for the ages
1157
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:52,667
♪ We're slowly drifting
into temptation ♪
1158
00:44:52,750 --> 00:44:54,667
♪ Hold on
1159
00:44:54,708 --> 00:44:57,000
♪ Feeling so anxious
1160
00:44:57,042 --> 00:44:58,958
- You have
such magical hands, Michael.
1161
00:44:59,042 --> 00:45:01,750
- Now you know my evil plan.
1162
00:45:01,833 --> 00:45:03,833
I just booked this
so that I could massage you.
1163
00:45:03,875 --> 00:45:05,167
- [chuckles]
- That was my plan all along.
1164
00:45:05,292 --> 00:45:06,833
[T. Kelley's "Oceans"]
1165
00:45:06,917 --> 00:45:09,125
- ♪ This moment, don't it
1166
00:45:09,208 --> 00:45:13,250
♪ Feel like we're floating
on emotions ♪
1167
00:45:13,333 --> 00:45:14,417
- You know, I'll be honest.
1168
00:45:14,500 --> 00:45:18,375
I--as much as I hope
for the best,
1169
00:45:18,458 --> 00:45:24,708
I try to prep
for the least ideal scenario.
1170
00:45:24,792 --> 00:45:30,667
And I did not expect to have
such initial chemistry.
1171
00:45:30,750 --> 00:45:35,583
- ♪ Oh, baby, this could
change our lives ♪
1172
00:45:35,667 --> 00:45:40,250
♪ Oh, the type of love
that'll make an ocean cry ♪
1173
00:45:44,458 --> 00:45:47,208
[atmospheric music]
1174
00:45:47,208 --> 00:45:52,458
♪
1175
00:45:54,417 --> 00:45:55,500
[computer trills]
1176
00:45:55,542 --> 00:45:56,750
♪
1177
00:45:56,833 --> 00:45:58,542
- Hi.
- Hello.
1178
00:45:58,625 --> 00:46:02,208
I missed you
and your sweet face.
1179
00:46:02,292 --> 00:46:03,917
- I feel like we haven't
talked in a while.
1180
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:06,083
- But I've, like, kind of been
filling you in on this stuff.
1181
00:46:06,167 --> 00:46:07,708
- Yeah.
- But we haven't really, like,
1182
00:46:07,875 --> 00:46:09,250
talked about it face-to-face,
and I just--
1183
00:46:09,333 --> 00:46:11,292
- I also feel like
your text messages
1184
00:46:11,375 --> 00:46:13,167
are always very cryptic.
1185
00:46:13,208 --> 00:46:15,167
- Yeah, and because
it doesn't make sense,
1186
00:46:15,250 --> 00:46:16,500
because a lot of it
doesn't make sense.
1187
00:46:16,625 --> 00:46:18,333
- Yeah.
1188
00:46:18,417 --> 00:46:20,083
- I really think after
that visit with Pastor Cal,
1189
00:46:20,167 --> 00:46:22,208
it's honestly making me
more confused
1190
00:46:22,292 --> 00:46:24,667
where Brennan and I stand
moving forward.
1191
00:46:24,708 --> 00:46:27,667
But Kenzie's a good person
to confide in.
1192
00:46:27,708 --> 00:46:30,000
She's a good,
tough critic on me.
1193
00:46:30,042 --> 00:46:31,750
Like, she knows me sometimes
better than I know myself.
1194
00:46:31,833 --> 00:46:33,292
She will tell me how it is.
1195
00:46:33,375 --> 00:46:35,042
Sometimes I think
it's the only way
1196
00:46:35,167 --> 00:46:37,000
for me to understand things.
1197
00:46:37,083 --> 00:46:39,667
- I'm having
a really hard time
1198
00:46:39,750 --> 00:46:41,750
understanding where
he's coming from
1199
00:46:41,833 --> 00:46:43,292
or, like,
his feelings in this,
1200
00:46:43,375 --> 00:46:47,000
because I just feel like
they don't make any sense.
1201
00:46:47,083 --> 00:46:50,083
Did he think this was gonna
be, like, a walk in the park?
1202
00:46:50,208 --> 00:46:52,167
- I honestly do think
he thought that.
1203
00:46:52,208 --> 00:46:55,125
I think that's the tricky part,
is, like, I think people go
1204
00:46:55,208 --> 00:46:56,792
through the interview process,
they think these things,
1205
00:46:56,875 --> 00:46:58,458
and then they realize,
like, they're not.
1206
00:46:58,542 --> 00:47:01,833
- What has he done to, like,
make himself valuable to you?
1207
00:47:01,917 --> 00:47:04,000
- Like, we have
very similar characteristics
1208
00:47:04,083 --> 00:47:05,833
that are important to me.
1209
00:47:05,833 --> 00:47:08,542
Like, work, being driven,
like, values.
1210
00:47:08,667 --> 00:47:10,208
And we do have fun together.
1211
00:47:10,333 --> 00:47:12,000
And then I, like,
just get so upset,
1212
00:47:12,042 --> 00:47:14,667
because I'm just kind of like,
what is this?
1213
00:47:14,792 --> 00:47:16,458
- And I've told you
this before.
1214
00:47:16,542 --> 00:47:18,875
You're brutally honest, and
I appreciate that about you,
1215
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:20,208
but, like,
sometimes could be harsh,
1216
00:47:20,292 --> 00:47:21,917
and I always thought
you needed someone
1217
00:47:22,042 --> 00:47:24,250
that would kind of, like,
bring you down to Earth.
1218
00:47:24,375 --> 00:47:25,625
Like--
- That's the thing, is, like,
1219
00:47:25,708 --> 00:47:29,083
I don't--
as I am brutally honest,
1220
00:47:29,167 --> 00:47:31,458
I'm realizing too,
in these weeks,
1221
00:47:31,542 --> 00:47:35,458
like, I don't know if he has
had people call him out.
1222
00:47:35,542 --> 00:47:38,917
All the expert visits
we do are obviously heavy.
1223
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:40,292
It's like therapy.
- Mm-hmm.
1224
00:47:40,417 --> 00:47:42,417
- And things definitely
took a turn
1225
00:47:42,500 --> 00:47:44,292
for the worse with Dr. Pia.
1226
00:47:44,375 --> 00:47:46,542
I felt like it was
my opportunity,
1227
00:47:46,667 --> 00:47:48,292
when she asks us what happened,
1228
00:47:48,375 --> 00:47:50,083
to literally
answer her question.
1229
00:47:50,167 --> 00:47:52,542
And then, like, that turned
into me breaking his trust,
1230
00:47:52,625 --> 00:47:55,375
and, like, him being, like--
1231
00:47:55,458 --> 00:47:57,125
- You broke his trust
because you talked
1232
00:47:57,208 --> 00:48:00,333
about your problems
at therapy?
1233
00:48:00,375 --> 00:48:02,333
Biggest load of crap
I've ever heard in my life.
1234
00:48:02,375 --> 00:48:03,542
- And then I was just like,
what the--
1235
00:48:03,667 --> 00:48:06,458
- He's a master manipulator.
1236
00:48:06,542 --> 00:48:09,292
I feel like you're putting so
much into this, and he's not.
1237
00:48:09,375 --> 00:48:11,500
And it's like, at what point
do you just say, like...
1238
00:48:11,583 --> 00:48:13,167
- I know.
- He's not worth it.
1239
00:48:13,292 --> 00:48:14,958
- And that's where
I battle this battle
1240
00:48:15,042 --> 00:48:16,875
in my brain every day.
1241
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:19,083
I'm just, like, so confused.
1242
00:48:19,208 --> 00:48:21,875
Why do I still care
about this [bleep]?
1243
00:48:21,958 --> 00:48:24,292
- I mean, I met him.
He's very charismatic.
1244
00:48:24,375 --> 00:48:26,750
I thought he was, like,
a really sweet, nice guy.
1245
00:48:26,875 --> 00:48:27,958
- Yeah.
- I don't doubt that he cares
1246
00:48:28,042 --> 00:48:29,458
about you,
but I think that's--
1247
00:48:29,542 --> 00:48:32,333
- I really--but, like,
I really don't know if he does.
1248
00:48:32,375 --> 00:48:35,375
He says he was, like, fun
and friendly at the wedding.
1249
00:48:35,458 --> 00:48:37,667
I was like, you literally,
like, didn't try to talk to me.
1250
00:48:37,750 --> 00:48:39,375
We sat next to each other.
1251
00:48:39,458 --> 00:48:41,792
- Did other people
notice that?
1252
00:48:41,875 --> 00:48:43,042
- Yeah, and, like,
other people, again,
1253
00:48:43,167 --> 00:48:44,375
are coming to me,
and just being like,
1254
00:48:44,458 --> 00:48:45,833
why does Brennan
treat you that way?
1255
00:48:45,958 --> 00:48:47,750
Or, why does he say that?
And I'm like, mm-hmm.
1256
00:48:47,833 --> 00:48:49,167
It hurts my feelings.
I feel like
1257
00:48:49,208 --> 00:48:51,000
that's not how a friend
should be treated.
1258
00:48:51,125 --> 00:48:52,750
- No matter what kind
of relationship we're in--
1259
00:48:52,875 --> 00:48:54,167
friendship,
romantically, like,
1260
00:48:54,250 --> 00:48:56,750
you just need to stick up
for yourself...
1261
00:48:56,833 --> 00:48:59,833
- Yeah.
- In, like, a respectful way,
1262
00:48:59,875 --> 00:49:02,000
because, like, don't bring
yourself down to his level.
1263
00:49:02,083 --> 00:49:05,500
Just, like,
draw a line and be like,
1264
00:49:05,542 --> 00:49:08,667
these are things
that I won't tolerate.
1265
00:49:08,708 --> 00:49:11,458
- Yeah, like, what are--
I've been struggling to, like,
1266
00:49:11,542 --> 00:49:13,458
articulate, like,
what my boundaries are,
1267
00:49:13,542 --> 00:49:16,125
because he's made
his boundaries clear.
1268
00:49:16,208 --> 00:49:18,542
And it's more to me than just,
like, trust, whatever.
1269
00:49:18,667 --> 00:49:22,167
Like, I feel like I don't know
what my boundaries are,
1270
00:49:22,250 --> 00:49:25,208
now that he made his
and he needs his space,
1271
00:49:25,292 --> 00:49:28,167
other than, like, no disrespect
1272
00:49:28,250 --> 00:49:32,292
in the way you treat/talk to me
in public/private setting.
1273
00:49:32,292 --> 00:49:33,500
Like, I don't even know--
- Well, I think that's
1274
00:49:33,542 --> 00:49:35,167
the biggest one,
is, like, he's just been
1275
00:49:35,250 --> 00:49:37,958
so disrespectful to you
and your feelings,
1276
00:49:38,042 --> 00:49:40,083
and he acts like
it's the Brennan show,
1277
00:49:40,167 --> 00:49:43,208
and it's only--he's the only
person going through this.
1278
00:49:43,292 --> 00:49:45,042
- I've told him that.
I'm like, it just feels
1279
00:49:45,167 --> 00:49:46,667
like you care more
about the appearance,
1280
00:49:46,708 --> 00:49:49,042
and, like, you--
not me, not us,
1281
00:49:49,125 --> 00:49:50,833
because you make
all the decisions.
1282
00:49:50,875 --> 00:49:53,417
- Yeah. Like, it's important
to prioritize yourself.
1283
00:49:53,500 --> 00:49:56,167
Like, obviously,
you always come first.
1284
00:49:56,208 --> 00:49:59,250
But you still have to, like,
be kind to the other person.
1285
00:49:59,333 --> 00:50:02,250
He signed up for this.
Like, it feels like
1286
00:50:02,375 --> 00:50:04,833
he's acting like, you know,
someone kidnapped him
1287
00:50:04,875 --> 00:50:06,292
and forced him to do this.
1288
00:50:06,375 --> 00:50:07,458
- That's what I said.
I was like,
1289
00:50:07,542 --> 00:50:09,000
no one's [bleep]
forcing you to sleep here.
1290
00:50:09,042 --> 00:50:10,542
He's like,
"You're, like, making me try
1291
00:50:10,625 --> 00:50:12,250
and fall in love with you."
I'm like, I'm not trying
1292
00:50:12,333 --> 00:50:13,625
to make you fall
in love with me.
1293
00:50:13,750 --> 00:50:15,458
I don't want that right now.
- Oh, my God.
1294
00:50:15,542 --> 00:50:17,167
- I'm like, oh, my God.
1295
00:50:17,208 --> 00:50:18,917
I was like, friends talk
about feelings too.
1296
00:50:19,042 --> 00:50:21,208
- He would be so lucky...
- I know.
1297
00:50:21,292 --> 00:50:23,083
- To be in love
with someone like you.
1298
00:50:23,208 --> 00:50:24,583
- Correct.
- I mean, his loss big time.
1299
00:50:24,667 --> 00:50:25,958
His loss.
1300
00:50:26,042 --> 00:50:27,875
What are you gonna do?
1301
00:50:27,958 --> 00:50:31,333
- I'm at a loss.
I do want to, like,
1302
00:50:31,417 --> 00:50:34,333
see if we're able
to save the marriage.
1303
00:50:34,417 --> 00:50:36,042
And it's just hard when you're
dealing with someone
1304
00:50:36,125 --> 00:50:38,167
who really does not want
to be portrayed
1305
00:50:38,208 --> 00:50:40,500
at all bad on camera.
1306
00:50:40,625 --> 00:50:43,458
- Well, then maybe he should
be less of an [bleep].
1307
00:50:43,542 --> 00:50:45,125
- Yeah.
1308
00:50:45,208 --> 00:50:46,792
- I, like, support
whatever decision you make.
1309
00:50:46,875 --> 00:50:49,667
But, like, personally, I think
you should run for the hills.
1310
00:50:49,792 --> 00:50:51,375
♪
1311
00:50:55,375 --> 00:50:59,125
- ♪ Me and my friends
live in excellence ♪
1312
00:50:59,125 --> 00:51:00,750
♪ It will never end
1313
00:51:00,750 --> 00:51:02,375
♪
1314
00:51:02,458 --> 00:51:04,333
- All right,
this fits perfectly.
1315
00:51:04,417 --> 00:51:05,875
Look at that.
1316
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:07,333
[knock on door]
1317
00:51:07,375 --> 00:51:11,125
- [gasps]
It's our houseguest.
1318
00:51:11,208 --> 00:51:14,833
Mmm, can't believe
it's not cauliflower.
1319
00:51:14,875 --> 00:51:16,125
- Surprise.
- Hello.
1320
00:51:16,208 --> 00:51:17,750
- Hello.
How are you?
1321
00:51:17,875 --> 00:51:18,917
- Good.
How are you doing?
1322
00:51:19,042 --> 00:51:20,708
- Good, good.
- Becca's just inside
1323
00:51:20,792 --> 00:51:21,792
eating some pizza.
1324
00:51:21,875 --> 00:51:23,875
- It smells good in here.
1325
00:51:23,958 --> 00:51:24,833
- Hello!
- Becca!
1326
00:51:24,917 --> 00:51:26,875
- Wow, we all match today.
1327
00:51:26,958 --> 00:51:28,792
- It's a vibe.
I'm digging it.
1328
00:51:28,875 --> 00:51:30,000
- Do you want to meet our fish?
1329
00:51:30,042 --> 00:51:32,042
- I do.
Tell me about your fish.
1330
00:51:32,125 --> 00:51:34,542
- Their names are
Dani and Guinn.
1331
00:51:34,625 --> 00:51:36,042
- OK.
1332
00:51:36,125 --> 00:51:37,292
All right.
Sit here?
1333
00:51:37,375 --> 00:51:39,417
- Yeah.
1334
00:51:39,542 --> 00:51:42,500
- So you know,
we're just a few weeks out
1335
00:51:42,542 --> 00:51:44,208
from Decision Day.
1336
00:51:44,292 --> 00:51:46,042
How has intimacy been?
1337
00:51:46,125 --> 00:51:48,667
- Well, we did
the intimacy exercises
1338
00:51:48,708 --> 00:51:52,333
and, like, played around with,
like, the handcuffs--
1339
00:51:52,417 --> 00:51:54,500
not in the most sexual way,
1340
00:51:54,625 --> 00:51:56,333
but in a kind of fun,
cheeky way,
1341
00:51:56,417 --> 00:52:00,083
and then had, like,
a little romantic night.
1342
00:52:00,167 --> 00:52:02,833
- How sweet.
OK, did you appreciate that?
1343
00:52:02,875 --> 00:52:04,500
- Yeah, of course.
Definitely.
1344
00:52:04,542 --> 00:52:06,708
- OK.
Did it help set the mood?
1345
00:52:06,792 --> 00:52:08,542
- [laughs]
1346
00:52:08,625 --> 00:52:09,792
- Yeah.
1347
00:52:09,875 --> 00:52:11,417
And I think I've gotten better
1348
00:52:11,417 --> 00:52:14,125
about, like, initiating things.
1349
00:52:14,208 --> 00:52:15,583
- Is he right?
1350
00:52:15,708 --> 00:52:16,958
- Yeah.
- Yeah?
1351
00:52:17,042 --> 00:52:18,917
That was not all the way
believable, Becca.
1352
00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:22,167
- [laughing]
- Yeah, no, he's--
1353
00:52:22,250 --> 00:52:24,000
yeah, it's--yeah.
1354
00:52:24,042 --> 00:52:25,292
- OK.
1355
00:52:25,375 --> 00:52:27,417
- It was
my grandma's 97th birthday.
1356
00:52:27,542 --> 00:52:29,667
So like,
made a little progress,
1357
00:52:29,708 --> 00:52:32,708
and then had to, like, put it
on pause while we were away.
1358
00:52:32,833 --> 00:52:35,000
- OK.
- But I did feel it,
1359
00:52:35,083 --> 00:52:38,667
like, very much halt
on this trip.
1360
00:52:38,750 --> 00:52:41,000
- I've, like, developed
a new allergy to cats.
1361
00:52:41,083 --> 00:52:43,167
But my aunt and uncle
have two cats.
1362
00:52:43,333 --> 00:52:46,750
My throat and lungs,
like, closed up.
1363
00:52:46,833 --> 00:52:49,500
It was hard for me to think
about, like, anything else.
1364
00:52:49,542 --> 00:52:51,083
- So obviously,
we weren't going to be doing
1365
00:52:51,208 --> 00:52:53,167
sexual things
while we were there.
1366
00:52:53,208 --> 00:52:55,000
But like, for me,
it's again just about, like,
1367
00:52:55,083 --> 00:52:57,292
connection and stuff like that.
1368
00:52:57,375 --> 00:53:00,833
- Sure.
- So to have that halt was--
1369
00:53:00,958 --> 00:53:02,333
it put me on edge a little bit,
1370
00:53:02,417 --> 00:53:03,958
definitely.
- Mm-hmm.
1371
00:53:04,042 --> 00:53:06,500
- I did take it personally
at times.
1372
00:53:06,542 --> 00:53:09,000
Like, I was looking
for those little affirmations
1373
00:53:09,042 --> 00:53:11,833
to know that what I was doing--
like, I was doing a good job,
1374
00:53:11,917 --> 00:53:14,250
or that, like, I was doing OK.
1375
00:53:14,375 --> 00:53:17,125
- So the other question
I was gonna ask is--
1376
00:53:17,208 --> 00:53:18,250
I mean, everyone is different
1377
00:53:18,333 --> 00:53:20,542
about PDA
around family members.
1378
00:53:20,625 --> 00:53:22,375
And I'm just curious
if that was playing into it
1379
00:53:22,458 --> 00:53:23,750
for you a bit too, Austin.
1380
00:53:23,833 --> 00:53:25,167
- Yeah, for sure.
I mean,
1381
00:53:25,250 --> 00:53:26,708
like, we're affectionate
towards each other.
1382
00:53:26,792 --> 00:53:28,125
But we're not gonna, like,
1383
00:53:28,208 --> 00:53:31,292
make out in front
of a bunch of people...
1384
00:53:31,375 --> 00:53:33,292
- Yeah, and that's not
what I was...
1385
00:53:33,375 --> 00:53:34,500
- Especially family.
- Asking for or talking about.
1386
00:53:34,583 --> 00:53:36,167
- Yeah.
Yeah, no, no--I--yeah.
1387
00:53:36,250 --> 00:53:38,500
That's not to imply
that you were like that.
1388
00:53:38,500 --> 00:53:40,250
- Right, because I think what
I was just hearing you say,
1389
00:53:40,333 --> 00:53:43,333
it was not just, like,
not being as touchy-feely.
1390
00:53:43,333 --> 00:53:44,750
It was, like,
not being as present.
1391
00:53:44,833 --> 00:53:46,667
- Yeah, he was focused
on other things,
1392
00:53:46,708 --> 00:53:49,375
which I definitely get
and understand.
1393
00:53:49,500 --> 00:53:52,333
I do wish, like,
even when we were away,
1394
00:53:52,417 --> 00:53:55,417
like, that there was still
a little bit more flirting,
1395
00:53:55,542 --> 00:53:58,083
because I do often
initiate things.
1396
00:53:58,167 --> 00:54:00,667
But I just, like--
I don't want to--
1397
00:54:00,708 --> 00:54:02,500
I don't know, like,
push things too far
1398
00:54:02,542 --> 00:54:05,458
if he's not
feeling comfortable.
1399
00:54:05,542 --> 00:54:08,917
- So my recommendation would be
to add that extra layer
1400
00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:11,917
of vulnerability and
transparency with each other.
1401
00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:13,917
Lean into the vulnerability
1402
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,833
by expressing what's happening
internally for you,
1403
00:54:16,875 --> 00:54:19,042
or expressing what thoughts
you might be having.
1404
00:54:19,125 --> 00:54:20,792
There's always expectations.
1405
00:54:20,875 --> 00:54:22,667
And I think it's important
to communicate those
1406
00:54:22,750 --> 00:54:25,208
to one another so that we don't
get let down by expectations,
1407
00:54:25,292 --> 00:54:27,875
or don't develop
unrealistic expectations.
1408
00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:29,500
- Yeah.
- So I want you to spend
1409
00:54:29,583 --> 00:54:32,833
some time thinking about,
like, what do you all need
1410
00:54:32,917 --> 00:54:36,792
in order to stay in this,
like, positive progression?
1411
00:54:36,875 --> 00:54:38,417
- I want to move forward
with him sexually
1412
00:54:38,500 --> 00:54:40,833
because I want--
that's what I just want to do.
1413
00:54:40,917 --> 00:54:43,083
And like, for me,
it's just a matter of, like,
1414
00:54:43,167 --> 00:54:45,500
are we still moving forward?
1415
00:54:45,542 --> 00:54:46,625
- Yeah.
1416
00:54:46,708 --> 00:54:48,000
I don't think
we'll have any issues.
1417
00:54:48,083 --> 00:54:50,833
♪
1418
00:54:50,917 --> 00:54:52,375
[upbeat music]
1419
00:54:52,458 --> 00:54:55,875
- ♪ The stars aligned
when I saw you ♪
1420
00:54:55,958 --> 00:54:58,167
♪ I'm ready to say
1421
00:54:58,208 --> 00:55:00,292
♪
1422
00:55:00,375 --> 00:55:04,375
♪ I used to feel
empty-hearted ♪
1423
00:55:04,375 --> 00:55:06,833
♪ But when I'm with you
1424
00:55:06,958 --> 00:55:07,958
♪ I'm here to stay
1425
00:55:08,042 --> 00:55:09,500
♪
1426
00:55:09,542 --> 00:55:11,833
♪ Oh, I'm here to stay
1427
00:55:11,875 --> 00:55:13,625
- Hey, Michael.
1428
00:55:13,708 --> 00:55:15,958
♪
1429
00:55:16,042 --> 00:55:18,417
- This is what I get for taking
a long-ass bath, huh?
1430
00:55:18,542 --> 00:55:19,958
- [laughs]
- You have time
1431
00:55:20,042 --> 00:55:21,000
to set up a beautiful dinner.
1432
00:55:21,083 --> 00:55:22,792
- Aww.
1433
00:55:22,875 --> 00:55:24,042
- Mm.
1434
00:55:24,125 --> 00:55:26,292
- So have a seat.
1435
00:55:26,375 --> 00:55:27,875
- It's our own
little setup here.
1436
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:29,833
- It's our own little setup.
1437
00:55:29,917 --> 00:55:31,458
I'm gonna grab us dinner.
1438
00:55:31,542 --> 00:55:32,542
- Do you need me
to help with anything?
1439
00:55:32,667 --> 00:55:33,458
- You know what?
I feel like I'm gonna
1440
00:55:33,542 --> 00:55:35,250
go back to my serving days.
1441
00:55:35,333 --> 00:55:36,375
I--you know.
1442
00:55:36,458 --> 00:55:37,875
- I was a fast food employee.
1443
00:55:37,958 --> 00:55:40,833
I wasn't, like, a proper
sit-down restaurant employee.
1444
00:55:40,917 --> 00:55:44,292
- Might have just
put myself through school
1445
00:55:44,375 --> 00:55:48,500
with a little
of the old serving action.
1446
00:55:48,583 --> 00:55:50,833
As usual, I just kind of
want to pick at yours
1447
00:55:50,917 --> 00:55:52,833
instead of having my own, so--
[laughs]
1448
00:55:52,875 --> 00:55:54,708
- I was gonna say,
I need a reposition some
1449
00:55:54,833 --> 00:55:56,958
so that you can have
easy access here.
1450
00:55:57,042 --> 00:55:57,958
Boom.
1451
00:55:58,042 --> 00:56:00,042
- Perfect.
1452
00:56:00,125 --> 00:56:02,042
This has been so fun--and
we have to go home tomorrow.
1453
00:56:02,125 --> 00:56:04,208
- I know, and plunge back
into the real world?
1454
00:56:04,292 --> 00:56:05,750
- [laughs]
1455
00:56:05,833 --> 00:56:06,833
Tomorrow is gonna be
a big day for us.
1456
00:56:06,958 --> 00:56:08,667
- I know.
1457
00:56:08,750 --> 00:56:10,458
- And I've been single
a long time.
1458
00:56:10,542 --> 00:56:12,625
- Mm-hmm.
- I'm just like,
1459
00:56:12,708 --> 00:56:16,833
wow, I'm about to have
a full-blown husband
1460
00:56:16,875 --> 00:56:20,667
in our new apartment,
in our new place together.
1461
00:56:20,708 --> 00:56:23,542
Holy smokes.
We're really doing it.
1462
00:56:23,667 --> 00:56:27,125
And so yeah, it's been
a lot for me to process.
1463
00:56:27,208 --> 00:56:29,625
[tense music]
1464
00:56:29,708 --> 00:56:32,875
We have only just as much time
as we've now spent together.
1465
00:56:32,958 --> 00:56:37,250
We just don't have any point
of reference with each other.
1466
00:56:37,375 --> 00:56:38,667
And we...
- That's true.
1467
00:56:38,750 --> 00:56:40,625
- Were strangers
up until a few days ago.
1468
00:56:40,708 --> 00:56:43,000
- We are.
- We've had conversations
1469
00:56:43,042 --> 00:56:45,083
that I didn't even have
1470
00:56:45,167 --> 00:56:47,000
in relationships that I was
with for so many years.
1471
00:56:47,083 --> 00:56:50,708
So I'm emotionally overwhelmed.
1472
00:56:50,792 --> 00:56:52,875
- Yeah.
1473
00:56:52,958 --> 00:56:55,958
- I think I'm just kind of
processing emotions
1474
00:56:56,042 --> 00:56:59,750
that I've never, ever--
not only not felt before,
1475
00:56:59,833 --> 00:57:01,667
but didn't even know
I had the capacity to feel.
1476
00:57:01,750 --> 00:57:03,417
- Sure.
1477
00:57:03,500 --> 00:57:05,375
- So I think it just
kind of all hit me
1478
00:57:05,500 --> 00:57:07,667
that tomorrow, reality hits.
1479
00:57:07,708 --> 00:57:09,000
- Yeah.
- We are--
1480
00:57:09,042 --> 00:57:11,417
we are husband and wife.
1481
00:57:11,542 --> 00:57:14,250
We are moving in together.
1482
00:57:14,333 --> 00:57:16,292
And it's absolutely
freaking terrifying.
1483
00:57:16,375 --> 00:57:21,000
♪
1484
00:57:21,083 --> 00:57:23,500
- Um...
1485
00:57:23,625 --> 00:57:24,875
- I'm saying I don't know
if I can do this.
1486
00:57:24,958 --> 00:57:26,083
♪
1487
00:57:30,458 --> 00:57:33,583
- You're human.
1488
00:57:33,667 --> 00:57:36,000
Sure, we've only known each
other for a handful of days,
1489
00:57:36,042 --> 00:57:38,458
but it's been full immersion
handful of days.
1490
00:57:38,542 --> 00:57:40,458
And I'm still learning,
1491
00:57:40,542 --> 00:57:43,500
but I'm starting
to get a feel for you,
1492
00:57:43,583 --> 00:57:47,875
at least in terms of, like,
where your emotions are at
1493
00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:51,167
and how that affects
your demeanor.
1494
00:57:51,208 --> 00:57:53,583
Right now, my balance
that I'm trying to figure out
1495
00:57:53,667 --> 00:57:56,917
is when it's appropriate
to kind of ask you
1496
00:57:57,000 --> 00:58:00,333
and engage you verbally on it,
versus kind of giving you space
1497
00:58:00,375 --> 00:58:01,792
to work it out and feel
what you need to feel.
1498
00:58:01,875 --> 00:58:04,458
Um--
- No, you shouldn't have to.
1499
00:58:04,583 --> 00:58:06,167
- But--
- You shouldn't have to,
1500
00:58:06,250 --> 00:58:09,042
because it's not your
responsibility to read my mind.
1501
00:58:09,125 --> 00:58:10,417
It's not your responsibility
1502
00:58:10,542 --> 00:58:13,667
to feel that I'm having
an emotional moment
1503
00:58:13,708 --> 00:58:15,583
and try to figure out
what's wrong with me.
1504
00:58:15,667 --> 00:58:18,750
That's not fair.
I experienced today
1505
00:58:18,750 --> 00:58:22,708
what I have always
sort of done.
1506
00:58:22,792 --> 00:58:25,625
- Mm.
- I internalize things.
1507
00:58:25,708 --> 00:58:28,125
I try not to burden
people with them.
1508
00:58:28,208 --> 00:58:30,667
But the minute that I start
feeling them too deeply,
1509
00:58:30,708 --> 00:58:35,000
I shut down just enough
to make people uncomfortable.
1510
00:58:35,083 --> 00:58:37,333
It just got to a point
where I was saying,
1511
00:58:37,375 --> 00:58:38,917
I gotta talk about it.
- Sure.
1512
00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:41,833
- And if it's just
me having a moment of just
1513
00:58:41,875 --> 00:58:44,333
overwhelm of feelings
that I didn't even know I had.
1514
00:58:44,375 --> 00:58:45,708
- And I appreciate that.
1515
00:58:45,792 --> 00:58:51,958
And I also know that right now,
1516
00:58:51,958 --> 00:58:55,000
being supportive is
the best role for me to be in.
1517
00:58:55,083 --> 00:58:58,625
I want to get to a space
where you'd conclude,
1518
00:58:58,708 --> 00:59:02,000
what's best for me is to,
you know,
1519
00:59:02,125 --> 00:59:04,875
cry on his shoulder
and have him comfort me.
1520
00:59:04,958 --> 00:59:07,667
Like, I want you
to get to that space.
1521
00:59:07,708 --> 00:59:10,833
But I know that
that's gonna take a minute.
1522
00:59:10,875 --> 00:59:12,667
- Yeah.
- You know, I'm still learning
1523
00:59:12,708 --> 00:59:14,500
about you,
and I may never be able
1524
00:59:14,500 --> 00:59:16,750
to fully prescribe
what's best for you.
1525
00:59:16,875 --> 00:59:19,417
I may be able
to make suggestions and--
1526
00:59:19,500 --> 00:59:22,333
you know, if you give me
that audience, right?
1527
00:59:22,417 --> 00:59:25,375
But I know you know
what's best for you.
1528
00:59:25,458 --> 00:59:28,500
I think you deserve
1529
00:59:28,625 --> 00:59:32,292
to feel comfortable
with prioritizing yourself.
1530
00:59:32,375 --> 00:59:34,000
- Yeah.
1531
00:59:34,083 --> 00:59:38,875
- And so please, like,
act in your own interest.
1532
00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:42,792
And maybe what I would ask
is just trust that I trust you.
1533
00:59:42,875 --> 00:59:45,417
♪
1534
00:59:45,542 --> 00:59:47,542
- I believe Michael.
1535
00:59:47,625 --> 00:59:49,333
I've just never heard
those words before.
1536
00:59:49,375 --> 00:59:50,708
♪
1537
00:59:50,792 --> 00:59:52,500
[laughing] Please stop.
1538
00:59:52,542 --> 00:59:54,375
Can we stop?
1539
00:59:54,375 --> 00:59:56,167
♪
1540
00:59:56,208 --> 01:00:00,042
[sniffling]
1541
01:00:00,125 --> 01:00:02,167
[exhales deeply, laughs]
1542
01:00:02,250 --> 01:00:05,042
[soft music]
1543
01:00:05,125 --> 01:00:11,958
♪
1544
01:00:13,375 --> 01:00:15,167
Asking me
to become more selfish--
1545
01:00:15,208 --> 01:00:17,333
who on Earth says that?
1546
01:00:17,417 --> 01:00:19,500
Please tell me who says that.
1547
01:00:19,625 --> 01:00:22,042
Who is like,
"Please be more selfish"?
1548
01:00:22,125 --> 01:00:25,500
It's a lot to hear it.
It's a lot to hear it.
1549
01:00:25,583 --> 01:00:29,000
I know I went so long
without doing it, so...
1550
01:00:29,125 --> 01:00:30,917
♪
1551
01:00:31,042 --> 01:00:33,083
And so now I'm here
in this place,
1552
01:00:33,208 --> 01:00:36,042
and I've got
this really supportive partner
1553
01:00:36,125 --> 01:00:40,500
who is saying everything
I need to hear.
1554
01:00:40,542 --> 01:00:42,333
♪
1555
01:00:42,417 --> 01:00:44,667
Like, it's safe enough
to actually put myself first.
1556
01:00:44,708 --> 01:00:46,667
I know he's saying it.
I know he means it.
1557
01:00:46,833 --> 01:00:50,500
But it's like, how on Earth
could he possibly want me
1558
01:00:50,583 --> 01:00:53,000
to prioritize myself
before I prioritize him?
1559
01:00:53,083 --> 01:00:54,833
- ♪ As I feel
1560
01:00:54,958 --> 01:00:56,583
- He obviously told me
what I needed to hear.
1561
01:00:56,708 --> 01:00:58,667
[laughs and sniffles]
1562
01:00:58,792 --> 01:01:02,000
- ♪ In my dreams,
in my dreams ♪
1563
01:01:02,042 --> 01:01:06,333
- I want to work
on feeling like
1564
01:01:06,375 --> 01:01:12,958
it's OK to put myself first.
1565
01:01:13,083 --> 01:01:14,250
Now Michael's gonna
help me do that.
1566
01:01:14,333 --> 01:01:18,625
So, um, yeah.
1567
01:01:18,708 --> 01:01:21,500
I'm gonna give it 100%.
1568
01:01:21,625 --> 01:01:22,875
And he's gonna give it 100%.
1569
01:01:22,958 --> 01:01:24,667
We're gonna see where we land.
1570
01:01:24,833 --> 01:01:28,500
- ♪ In my dreams,
in my dreams ♪
1571
01:01:28,542 --> 01:01:31,375
♪ In my dreams
1572
01:01:31,500 --> 01:01:33,167
[upbeat music]
1573
01:01:33,208 --> 01:01:34,833
- Next time...
1574
01:01:34,917 --> 01:01:36,542
- Ready to roll?
- Yep.
1575
01:01:36,625 --> 01:01:38,542
♪
1576
01:01:38,625 --> 01:01:40,125
- Most of our couples embark
1577
01:01:40,208 --> 01:01:42,333
on a fun-filled
couples' retreat,
1578
01:01:42,417 --> 01:01:45,000
where they can reset, refresh,
1579
01:01:45,042 --> 01:01:48,458
and recount
their individual experiences.
1580
01:01:48,542 --> 01:01:50,042
- I could use
some luck of the Irish.
1581
01:01:50,167 --> 01:01:51,958
- You could use some luck,
and I could get lucky.
1582
01:01:52,042 --> 01:01:54,250
- Maybe this is where
you seal the deal.
1583
01:01:54,333 --> 01:01:56,625
- Come here.
1584
01:01:56,708 --> 01:01:58,708
- I really don't know
what happened.
1585
01:01:58,833 --> 01:02:00,333
He just rolled out of bed
and went.
1586
01:02:00,417 --> 01:02:02,125
[dramatic music]
1587
01:02:02,208 --> 01:02:04,125
- Honestly, Lauren,
I am glad you're here.
1588
01:02:04,208 --> 01:02:05,542
I'm glad you showed up.
1589
01:02:05,667 --> 01:02:07,833
- It just feels weird, I guess.
1590
01:02:07,958 --> 01:02:09,417
- I feel that.
- Yeah.
1591
01:02:09,500 --> 01:02:10,542
Like, I don't know
what I would gain
1592
01:02:10,625 --> 01:02:12,167
out of a conversation with him.
1593
01:02:12,250 --> 01:02:16,083
♪
1594
01:02:16,167 --> 01:02:17,167
- Is she all right?
- [bleep].
1595
01:02:17,250 --> 01:02:18,875
♪
1596
01:02:18,958 --> 01:02:20,833
- We need to get her out
of here and get an ambulance.
1597
01:02:20,958 --> 01:02:22,167
She's bleeding a lot.
1598
01:02:22,250 --> 01:02:24,708
♪
1599
01:02:24,833 --> 01:02:26,500
- Oh, it's [bleep] bad.
1600
01:02:26,542 --> 01:02:31,708
♪
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