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When I was growing up, I genuinely
thought I would be married with,
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like, five kids at the age of 30.
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I mean, I don't even have a
boyfriend.
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I'm nowhere near!
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I'm AJ Odudu, born and bred in
Blackburn, Lancashire,
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now living my dream in London,
earning my crust as a TV host.
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And plastering myself across
social media!
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Love a photo!
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But for all my humble successes,
if I'm honest,
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there's a big hole in my life.
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I feel like I can't fully celebrate
my achievements,
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because I've not achieved love.
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Ladies and gentlemen, the next stop
in a few moments will be Blackburn.
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We're here! Blackburn high street.
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All my past relationships have
gone tits up,
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and dating apps have failed
to deliver.
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I've been summoned back to my home
town by someone with a
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radical plan that could change my
romantic fortune...
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Hello!
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..Mum!
How are you?
Yeah!
At last, you're here now!
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I've been waiting for a long time!
Hiya!
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Come in, guys.
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Just checking there's still
some meat there!
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Yes. Yeah, skinny baby!
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It's not just because AJ is my
daughter, she's beautiful.
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I thought by now...
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..would have settled down
with one man.
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Maybe by now she'd have made
me two babies!
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Mum moved from Nigeria to England
in the early '70s
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and had eight children with my dad.
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They've been together for
over 40 years
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after having an arranged marriage.
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Oh!
That's Dad!
That's your dad.
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He looking cool!
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So, this photo was sent to
my parents,
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not to me, really,
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for my dad to show me
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who they are
arranging me to marry.
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Right. So did you have to send him
one?
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Yes, which is this one.
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Oh! Looking good, Mum!
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So you'd married a man that you'd
never met before?
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No, it was strange. When you go to
bed, let's be honest, then...
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Oh, God help me!
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Sleeping with a stranger,
you have to get used to it.
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Oh, Lord, switch off the light!
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Oh, God! I don't know if I
want to hear this.
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No, no, no. It was awful!
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Arranged marriages may be far
less common today,
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but Mum wants me to try it the
old-fashioned way,
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so potential suitors have been lined
up for me in Nigeria.
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I've given you enough time,
you know?
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And the clock is ticking - so
it's time for me to step in.
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Oh, God!
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If you'd have asked me whether I
would fly eight hours away to
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meet a load of random men,
I'd say,
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"No, I'm not going.
This is ridiculous."
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But now we're in the age of meeting
people on social media and on a
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telephone app, I think it's no
different.
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Get me out there!
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Mum, look at you!
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I feel...oh!
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Oh, babe! Yeah!
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We landed!
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After 3,000 miles,
with Mum fidgeting next to me,
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I'm relieved to reach Nigeria and
Africa's most populated city.
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Somewhere in this vast country I'm
hoping to find the love I've
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been searching for.
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Welcome come to Lagos - a free
spirit place, baby! Come on, baby!
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Sure. Chaos.
Yes.
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Loads of noise, it's loud,
it's busy!
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Oh, my gosh, the road is the
pavement,
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the pavement is the road!
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You get used to it!
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What? You do get used to it?
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Our first destination is 50 miles to
the west of Lagos,
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a small town called Badagry.
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It's here Mum wants me to meet my
first potential husband.
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There is a single man. Guy.
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Good-looking, but he's from
a royal family.
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You've hooked me up with a prince!
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Mum, you've got the connect!
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Yes. There you.
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Can I see a picture?
Yes.
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There is one of him.
This is him?
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Yes, that's the prince!
OK.
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OK. He's quite a good-looking guy.
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He's not smiling, though.
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I need to see his teeth.
Does he have good teeth?
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I know that you're into
teeth as well.
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You like good teeth.
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Mum, seriously, what am I going to
wear?
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It's quite a low-cut top, but it
is covered,
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and, like, some hot pants.
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Oh, no.
No?
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Ooh! It's too exposed.
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No, no, no.
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Fit to be a princess?
Yes.
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OK, it's time to get changed.
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Move over Meghan Markle!
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There's a new princess in town!
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There's dozens of royal kingdoms
in Nigeria,
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hopefully this one's a good 'un.
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THEY SING
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It turns out that all the local
chiefs have gathered to
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receive me and Mum to their kingdom.
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SINGING CONTINUES
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Thank you so much for welcoming
myself
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and my mum into your space today.
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After paying respects to the king...
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THEY CHANT
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..I'm introduced to the most
eligible bachelor in town.
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Prince Joshua!
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So, if we were to get married, would
that make me a princess?
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You walk with the prince
so definitely, automatically,
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you are a princess in the palace.
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OK, this is good.
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And what are the
qualities for that woman?
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That princess?
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I think I tick all of your boxes.
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Yeah.
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No. So, it's very visual for you.
Yeah.
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The first impressions count?
Counts, yes.
OK.
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So, visually you're on board?
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This is what we call Sato.
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Sato?
No, Sa-to!
Sa-to.
Yeah.
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First impressions of Joshua -
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decent, looks like a nice-looking
guy.
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A little bit shorter than what
I expected in real life.
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And he's very petite, isn't he?
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I think I'm a lot broader
than he is.
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Does that sound bad?
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I guess it's not what I thought a
kingdom would look like.
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I feel I'm a bit over-dressed.
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I'm walking around on like
sandy ground.
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There's goats. Yeah, I don't know!
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Maybe I expected something
a bit more grand.
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Good afternoon. Good afternoon.
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The prince is dead kind
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and provides me with an alternative
to my plunging banana jump-suit.
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It's bringing back memories,
actually.
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Really weirdly,
I used to be really embarrassed
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that my mum wore these clothes
when she'd come to pick me up at
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school in Blackburn, Lancashire.
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No other parents dressed like my mum
and I'd just was like,
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"Oh, Mum just put
on jeans and T-shirts,
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"like Kelly's mum."
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Oh, yes, Mum. Do I look like a
princess?
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This is a 21st-century princess.
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21st-century princess!
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Now that I look the part,
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I want to find out what being a
princess here really means.
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I track down the king's daughter,
Princess Avoseh Medese,
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who is busy preparing food for
the king's council.
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So, would you say that this is your
role as a princess?
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Yes.
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Yeah? You do this - the princess
always does the cooking?
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Yes, yes.
OK.
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And the prince never helps you?
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No.
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No.
In Africa, we don't allow our
husbands to go inside the kitchen.
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I'm given the honour of
serving the king.
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I can't help but notice the women
spend a lot of time
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on their knees here.
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I just served the king.
It's fine, but...
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..just two women going in
serving guys
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sat down just waiting for us
to serve them.
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Would I have to kneel to my
husband...
Yes.
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..even if we got married...
Yes.
I'd have to kneel to him?
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Not only you husband, the prince,
but everyone that's around you
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in the family, even the persons
you did not know.
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You know, greeting is about
culture.
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So, would the prince have
to bow to me?
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No, no, no, you don't do that here.
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No.
It's only the female - you have
to show the respect.
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OK.
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The first stop on my search for
a Nigerian husband has brought
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me to the Ajara Vetho kingdom.
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Prince Joshua has asked to escort me
to a drumming ritual
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on the other side of town.
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If I was expecting an intimate
stroll, I was wrong!
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More a family affair.
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What a way to make an entrance!
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Good afternoon.
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She's here!
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Honestly, it genuinely
feels like a royal visit.
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They've rolled out the red
carpet for me.
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I do actually feel really,
really special.
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Let's go.
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What do you think of the prince?
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He hasn't give me spice.
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He didn't give me anything
to make, "Wow!"
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OK.
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The prince is keen for me to
stay longer at the palace.
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But I'm thinking I'd like to kiss a
few more frogs before settling down.
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I just don't think, truly, that
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I would be able to honour,
or fulfil
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my duties as a princess.
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OK.
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I don't think I'd be a
good wife for you.
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You don't think you would be a
good wife for me?
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I don't think so.
Why do you say so?
I...
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..just don't think we're
compatible.
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You just think...you say...
You just think...
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You're thinking we're
not compatible.
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You're thinking...just thinking...
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just really not thinking you are
not compatible.
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I'm thinking I'm thinking I'm
not compatible? Maybe I am.
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You think you know that.
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No, I, no...I know that.
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OK, you know that deep down.
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Deep down in my heart,
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I know that we're not compatible.
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OK, deep down in your heart you
know we are not compatible. Why?
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I don't think I could kneel down
to you.
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To me?
I don't think I could.
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OK.
Every day. I don't think
I could do that.
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It's a sign of respect.
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Yeah, I understand and I would
respect you,
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but I don't think that I have
to show that respect
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by kneeling down to you.
No, no, no.
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Especially as you
wouldn't be bowing down to me.
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So, I can't be bowing down
to you, as a man.
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You know that?
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You calling me wife,
you not the husband.
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That means you are not being
submissive.
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You have to be submissive
and everything.
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I think we'll agree to disagree.
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Rejection is never easy.
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I'd be kneeling down,
I'd be cooking, I'd be cleaning.
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I wouldn't be treated
like royalty.
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He would be, but I wouldn't.
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Thank you so much for having me.
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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Great to see you, thank you for
having me.
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Prince Joshua puts on a brave face
as we make our farewells.
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Come on, Mum.
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I've got you in.
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The goodbye!
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I hate goodbyes, and
that was just really drawn out.
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Feel like I've just broke a man.
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Snapped him in half
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and left him.
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Did you kneel down to Dad?
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No way, thank you very much!
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Right,
that's what I'm talking about, Mum!
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Ooh!
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To be honest, I'm no stranger to
rejection.
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I've had loads of failed
relationships.
250
00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:18,960
Sometimes I'm just too
much for them,
251
00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:21,160
other times they're not
enough for me.
252
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And a couple of times I've
been cheated on.
253
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Great!
254
00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:34,040
Did your mum and dad check
Dad's moral values?
255
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Yes!
256
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Yeah.
257
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OK, good churchgoer.
258
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Yes.
259
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Good moral values.
260
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Yes, baby.
261
00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:07,240
And...?
262
00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:08,920
Good-looking!
263
00:18:25,720 --> 00:18:28,600
Many of us have to pray to God,
"Lord, help me find a wife!
264
00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:31,640
"Wherever she is, bring her, drag
her in," and stuff like that.
265
00:18:31,680 --> 00:18:34,840
You pray,
you hope that you find someone.
266
00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:37,040
And when you find someone,
you say,
267
00:18:37,080 --> 00:18:38,520
"Ah, God brought you my way!"
268
00:18:52,720 --> 00:18:55,280
Mum brought me up as a Christian
in Blackburn,
269
00:18:55,320 --> 00:18:58,040
but I'm not sure I'll meet up to
Nigerian standards.
270
00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:06,720
Hello.
Hello, how are you? I'm AJ.
271
00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:10,680
Kenechi is my name.
Kenechi?
Yes,
my friends call me KC.
272
00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:13,120
KC. My friends call me AJ.
273
00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:14,520
AJ, OK.
Perfect.
274
00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:16,120
So were you just praying?
275
00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:18,720
Yes, I was just praying,
having my quiet time.
276
00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:20,520
Do you go to church?
277
00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:22,600
Occasionally.
278
00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:25,400
Occasionally?
Yes, occasionally
I do.
279
00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:27,480
I grew up going to church, though.
280
00:19:27,520 --> 00:19:28,800
So what happened?
281
00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:30,680
I don't know!
282
00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:32,560
Let me hold you.
283
00:19:32,600 --> 00:19:33,720
Thank you.
284
00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:39,160
KC's asked me out on a picnic,
285
00:19:39,200 --> 00:19:41,240
so we can work out just
how compatible
286
00:19:41,280 --> 00:19:43,000
our spiritual sensibilities are.
287
00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:46,960
So, if you don't mind me asking,
288
00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:49,440
why are you still single
and not married?
289
00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:51,280
HE LAUGHS
290
00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:53,840
Why am I single and not married?
291
00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:55,840
I haven't found the right one.
292
00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:58,640
I've been single for about six years
and I've been very celibate too.
293
00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:01,800
So, it's not like I'm single
and I'm just jumping up and down.
294
00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:03,480
Hmm.
295
00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:06,200
So, you've been celibate for
six years as well?
296
00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:08,240
Yes. I'm celibate all my life.
297
00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:10,320
Really?
Yeah.
298
00:20:10,360 --> 00:20:12,200
Wow! And...
299
00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:15,720
..is...
300
00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:17,160
OK...
301
00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:18,760
..so...
302
00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:21,240
And that's shocking, right?
303
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:24,320
You don't know where to start
from!
304
00:20:24,360 --> 00:20:26,640
I guess I just wasn't expecting it,
I guess.
305
00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:29,880
A young, good-looking guy
in Nigeria
306
00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:33,200
keeping his chastity
307
00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:34,960
his entire life.
308
00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:38,240
Yeah, I want to do that, I want to
give it to my wife first.
OK.
309
00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:46,160
I'm not into porn, I don't
masturbate.
310
00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:50,480
So, I think the real satisfaction
for sex comes when you are married.
311
00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:53,760
Yes, it's not just
a physical act for me.
312
00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:55,880
It's not just you being
with any woman.
313
00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:59,520
It's about you doing it because
God created sex
314
00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:01,920
and he created sex for marriage.
315
00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:11,960
So, you've had sex before?
316
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:13,520
Have you?
317
00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:15,000
You're not chaste like me?
318
00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:17,000
You're not a virgin, are you?
319
00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:18,840
I'm not chaste like you.
320
00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,000
I don't have my chastity belt.
321
00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:22,400
OK.
322
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:25,040
And I'm not regretful of that.
323
00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:26,600
No, you shouldn't be.
324
00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:28,920
Yeah, for me, intimacy in a
relationship
325
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:31,400
is really important to me.
326
00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,000
I think it's another level of
communication.
327
00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:36,600
I like the fact that you're open
328
00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:38,880
and that you're honest.
329
00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:40,560
I would say I like you.
330
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,800
He's such a nice guy.
331
00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:49,440
I genuinely don't think he'd ever
cheat on me.
332
00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,040
That's so good!
333
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:55,000
That's so great! That's what I want!
334
00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:59,600
But the problem is teaching someone,
335
00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:01,440
taking someone's virginity -
336
00:22:01,480 --> 00:22:03,880
that's too much pressure for me.
337
00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:05,960
And I don't want to be responsible
for it.
338
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:16,840
In Nigeria today, men keeping their
chastity until marriage
339
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:18,880
isn't that common.
340
00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,520
But back in Mum's day, women were
expected
341
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:23,960
to be virgins before they married.
342
00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:26,400
You got married quite young.
Yeah.
343
00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:27,760
So, for you...
344
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:31,200
..chastity - fine.
345
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:32,960
What about Dad?
346
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:37,440
Your dad?
Yeah. Did he remain
celibate until he met you?
347
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:56,520
Would it be frowned upon if,
348
00:22:56,560 --> 00:22:58,520
in some instances,
349
00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:01,240
the woman trains the man in
that department?
350
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:16,320
We're back on the man trail again,
351
00:23:16,360 --> 00:23:19,160
this time heading to the
other side of southern Nigeria.
352
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:26,440
Did you ever used to carry
things on your head?
353
00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:28,160
Blimey!
354
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,600
Mum's upbringing was wildly
different
355
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:34,160
from mine in Blackburn.
356
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:41,080
I'm starting to suspect that
one of the reasons she's brought me
357
00:23:41,120 --> 00:23:45,600
here is to see how I'd have coped if
I'd grown up in Nigeria.
358
00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:49,280
We're going to Benin City for you
359
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:52,840
to stay with a family to learn...
360
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:57,440
..the Nigerian way of being
a housewife.
361
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:01,240
But you're a Nigerian wife,
362
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:04,560
so surely I'm all clued up
just by watching you?
363
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,480
I brought you up the Western way
364
00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:09,520
in Blackburn to suit you.
365
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,400
But if I'd brought you up the
Nigerian way,
366
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:15,840
it would have been tough.
367
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:18,520
I thought you were quite strict!
368
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:30,560
Benin City is one of the most
culturally rich cities in Nigeria.
369
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:35,160
It's here I'm to learn what's
expected of a Nigerian wife.
370
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:37,840
Wow! There's a lot of building
work going on!
371
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:40,960
Hello, guys!
Hello!
372
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:42,640
Hello!
373
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:50,840
My hosts are married couple Cyril
and Winnie and their two children.
374
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,480
Thank you. How are you?
375
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:53,840
I'm fine.
376
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:57,240
I will be leaving AJ in your capable
hands.
377
00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:58,840
No worries.
378
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:00,360
Because from Western life...
379
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:04,200
..back to Nigerian life...
the proper way!
380
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:06,040
Yes, the proper way!
381
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,840
This is the kitchen, where
we are going to be making our dishes
382
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:12,400
and where we are going to be
teaching you to cook Nigerian meals.
383
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,200
What?!
384
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:17,240
What?
385
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:20,160
OK! How important is cooking?
386
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:22,160
Well, it's the basic.
387
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:25,400
As a Nigerian wife, you must learn
how to cook
388
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:26,920
and cook real good.
389
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,600
Because if you don't cook it well,
it's going to be trouble.
390
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:31,040
OK!
391
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:32,320
Bye-bye, baby.
392
00:25:32,360 --> 00:25:34,480
See you.
393
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:39,040
Mum's off, leaving me wondering
what she's let me in for.
394
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:43,400
AJ thinks she was just going to stay
with the family.
395
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:47,200
But someone is turning up that she
would like.
396
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:06,000
I treat the ladies nicely
397
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:08,000
and I give them TLC.
398
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:11,000
I call TLC tender, love and care.
399
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,360
Mum has sent me to live
with a family in Benin City
400
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:34,960
to learn the role
of a Nigerian housewife.
401
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:43,520
What she didn't tell me was
that they have a guest coming.
402
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:46,120
Hello! How are you?
403
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:48,600
I'm fine, hello.
I'm AJ. Lovely to meet you.
404
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,800
Isaac. Pleased to meet you.
What was your name, sorry?
405
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,280
Isaac.
Isaac?
Lovely to meet you.
Same here.
406
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:54,920
So I'm cooking for you now.
Nice.
407
00:26:57,960 --> 00:26:59,280
Yes!
408
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,960
You can be the judge.
Yeah. Sure, sure.
409
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:03,440
I'll try my best to cook.
410
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:12,120
Does he have a wife?
411
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:13,240
No.
412
00:27:15,120 --> 00:27:16,440
Hmm!
413
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:22,240
She's cool, pretty, good height,
nice shape.
414
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:27,200
There you go.
415
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,400
60 out of 100?
416
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:40,160
Six out of ten.
417
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:42,880
60%?
Yeah. That's a B.
418
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:46,600
I feel like, deep down, you want to
give me more, but you're trying...
419
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:48,160
You're pushing your luck.
420
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,400
No.
No, I see you.
I see you.
421
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,000
I know he's playing hard to get.
He loves it.
422
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:55,560
What's he talking about?
423
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:09,640
I've never been a housewife.
424
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:13,760
I've never cooked for my own family.
425
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:15,760
I've not cooked for
my own brothers and sisters.
426
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:19,840
I'm an "eating out
in restaurants" kind of gal.
427
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:24,520
I'm warming towards the feel
for a Nigerian wife
428
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:29,080
because they're homemakers,
they make their husbands happy,
429
00:28:29,120 --> 00:28:31,240
they make their children happy.
430
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:35,920
They're the centre.
You really need the wife here.
431
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:38,760
I like the sense... I like that.
432
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:41,760
I like to be needed.
433
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:43,000
That feels really good.
434
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,040
I guess I've always been
very independent.
435
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:52,720
Never really
thought of myself as needy.
436
00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:54,120
Mum!
437
00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:59,800
Argh!
438
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:02,360
It's fine, she's fine.
439
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:04,360
I actually really miss
my mum today.
440
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:10,240
It turns out that Isaac's mother
died in his early 20s.
441
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:23,760
Oh, no.
442
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:26,920
Gosh, I feel emotional now.
Just give it a moment,
443
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:29,160
because I'm really...
444
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:31,080
I'm sorry.
It's fine.
445
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:35,760
Sorry.
446
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:38,800
Yeah, I'm really close to my mum.
447
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:44,640
Yeah. Yeah.
448
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:52,280
This is your sister, this is you,
this is Cyril,
449
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,120
this is your dad!
450
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:55,800
Everyone looks like Dad.
451
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,840
I knew he had a soft side to him.
I knew it.
452
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:07,080
And...
453
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:10,640
..I still think it's really sad,
454
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:16,280
but it's just so nice to meet
someone who is that open
455
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:17,640
from the get-go.
456
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:19,560
It's actually really refreshing.
457
00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:40,920
AJ.
I slept really well!
458
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:42,880
But...
459
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:44,720
I mean, I am knackered!
460
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:46,080
THEY LAUGH
461
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:48,840
While Isaac remains
in early hibernation
462
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:53,800
after yesterday's feast,
the women are getting busy.
463
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:03,880
Winnie seem so happy here.
464
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:06,480
So this isn't a miserable existence.
465
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:07,800
It's far from it.
466
00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:14,040
Despite the drudgery,
I could actually imagine
467
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:17,080
finding happiness here,
if I found the right man.
468
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:22,440
Good morning!
469
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,480
How are you?
I'm fine.
470
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:26,440
Sleep well?
Yeah, you?
471
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,320
All right, thank you.
472
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:37,160
Yeah, why not?
473
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:41,080
Blimey!
474
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:42,640
One minute I'm sweeping the floor,
475
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:44,680
the next I'm being
swept off my feet!
476
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:49,000
I can feel the heat from here.
477
00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:53,760
Thank you.
478
00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:56,320
I've got a massive head.
479
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:58,000
You look like a bride.
480
00:31:58,040 --> 00:31:59,760
Do I?
Wow!
481
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,960
Before I get too carried away
with his charm,
482
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:07,120
I want to get to the bottom of how
Isaac sees the role of his
483
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:10,840
Nigerian wife,
and if a self-sufficient girl
484
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:12,200
like me could fit in.
485
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:19,080
Naturally, no African man
wants the woman to provide.
486
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,480
But what about when
it comes to the chores?
487
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:23,600
Can you wash up in front
of your friends?
488
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,720
Can you sweep the floor
in front of your friends?
489
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:30,240
I can make the choice. But it's not
a normal Nigerian thing.
490
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,960
Also, it also depends on where
my wife is at the particular
491
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:35,560
point in time. If she's in the
house, then she'll do the chores.
492
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:38,400
Even though she's just come back
from work?
493
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:41,000
She would rest
and do the chores.
494
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,960
It doesn't matter if you are
top of your game, nobody cares.
495
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:47,560
The man keeps his pride, his ego.
496
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:52,360
So, irrespective of whether
the woman goes out and earns more
497
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:56,400
than the man...
OK.
..it's not 50:50.
498
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:59,720
No, it's never 50:50.
499
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:03,440
The least it can go,
a lot of times, is 60:40.
500
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:06,440
The woman always the lesser
percent?
Always.
501
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:10,120
Where the man is a lesser percent
is required as
502
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:12,840
an abusive relationship.
What?!
503
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:14,480
Africa terms it abusive.
504
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:20,000
The man is being abused where
the woman has a higher percent.
505
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:24,240
Just so that's my head completely
clear on this...
Yeah.
506
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:28,320
..if I go out to work
every single day...
OK.
507
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:34,120
..irrespective of that, I am still
less than the man in the household?
508
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:38,480
Sure! Because men have friends
and the friends come home and
509
00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:40,520
see that the woman is in charge,
510
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,400
his friends will
stop coming to his house,
511
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:43,960
they will stop talking to him.
512
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:50,680
I'm beginning to realise just
how set in stone the roles are
513
00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:52,840
in Nigerian marriages.
514
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:56,560
It's made me question this idea
of the man as the head of
515
00:33:56,600 --> 00:34:01,640
the family. Is it old-fashioned?
Is it really dated?
516
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:05,960
I don't know. Maybe this is
what nature intended.
517
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:10,640
I'm even starting to question
whether I'm being too stubborn.
518
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:15,280
Whether my ego's all the way up
there, which is why I can't fathom
519
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:18,640
having a man be the head of my home.
520
00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:24,520
It could be that my ego is too big
for the guys out here.
521
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:41,240
Come in.
522
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:44,880
I'm going to miss you.
523
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:46,200
Sit down.
524
00:34:49,720 --> 00:34:56,000
I think I'd love to spend more time
with you as a friend.
525
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:57,040
OK.
526
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:01,680
We can spend more time together,
get to know each other better
527
00:35:01,720 --> 00:35:03,360
as friends, yeah?
528
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:04,880
And from there...
529
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:06,480
HE SNAPS HIS FINGERS
530
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,240
From there what?
From there we'd know...
531
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:15,200
..there's a phase
after friendship probably, so...
532
00:35:15,240 --> 00:35:18,560
I'm just not sure there's
a phase after friendship with us.
533
00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:20,040
Hmm.
534
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:23,120
So, I think I'm going
to see you again...
535
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:29,640
OK!
536
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:35,960
Mama!
537
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:37,720
Come on, AJ, baby!
538
00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:42,840
Love you!
539
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:45,360
I've missed you!
540
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:48,880
Thank you.
541
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:56,000
Bye!
Bye! See you guys!
See you!
Bye-bye!
542
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:59,240
Ready to rock and roll, baby.
543
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:05,880
So good to see you, Mum.
544
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:09,360
I definitely don't say it enough,
but I really do appreciate you.
545
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:13,160
Lots of love.
546
00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:16,000
What kind of a man
do you really want?
547
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:20,680
What I want is a confident man,
someone quite accomplished
548
00:36:20,720 --> 00:36:25,760
career-wise, someone who is
accepting of my career, my culture
549
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:29,120
and someone who I could
just laugh with
550
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:33,240
and really build a good team with.
551
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:34,840
You like your...
552
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:36,640
You know, like yourself?
553
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:42,480
Yeah, I guess. I guess I do want
someone who is like-minded.
554
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:54,800
The men I've met here so far seem
to have very old-school values.
555
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:56,400
But we've not given up yet.
556
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:06,200
Mum's taking me to
fashionable, uptown Lagos -
557
00:37:06,240 --> 00:37:09,600
the epicentre
of Nigeria's explosive economy.
558
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:16,840
There's a big dollop of
Western culture emerging,
559
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:18,960
which didn't exist
back in Mum's day.
560
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:26,280
This is so different to the places
that we've been before.
561
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:31,520
Yeah. There is a lot of change
over the years when I left.
562
00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:35,200
Nigeria is moving forwards
and it's happening in this area now.
563
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:43,960
I think you need someone
who represents modern Nigeria.
564
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:47,640
You know? So now I'm going
to show you a photo!
565
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:48,840
Have a look.
566
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:52,840
That is already more like it.
567
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:55,720
Great taste, Mum.
568
00:38:25,720 --> 00:38:28,000
I feel like it would
be really magical.
569
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:33,200
Can't wait for that.
570
00:38:33,240 --> 00:38:34,960
I'm getting excited now.
571
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:49,440
I'm in Lekki, South Lagos,
where Mum is hooking me up
572
00:38:49,480 --> 00:38:52,800
with one of Nigeria's up-and-coming
Nollywood stars.
573
00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:01,120
Hello.
Hello!
574
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:03,080
How are you?
Really great.
575
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:06,400
Come on over here and let me hug
you.
Ha-ha, thank you!
576
00:39:07,720 --> 00:39:09,080
Cheers.
Yeah, cheers.
577
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:13,320
So...
So...
578
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:17,280
I have been, you know,
meeting different guys.
579
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:19,720
So, yeah, what I've learnt,
in a nutshell,
580
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:22,560
is that guys rule the household...
Hm.
581
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,040
..they want to be the boss...
Hm.
582
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:30,200
they have egos to maintain, a woman
can never bruise their pride.
583
00:39:30,240 --> 00:39:33,800
Everybody that you've met,
everything that you've learned
before today,
584
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:35,440
just flush in the toilet.
OK.
585
00:39:40,720 --> 00:39:43,840
It's not all barbaric and outdated.
586
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,320
I know that we're with the times.
587
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:48,040
It's sounding good.
588
00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:50,480
Could Timini be the one to keep my
dreams afloat?
589
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:06,960
Would you consider yourself
a beach girl?
590
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:08,160
Like, do you enjoy the beach?
591
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:09,320
I love the beach.
592
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:10,920
You ever heard of Blackpool?
593
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:12,960
No, I haven't, actually.
That's got a beach!
594
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:20,640
OK.
THEY SCREAM
595
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:21,720
Oh, my God!
596
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:25,160
Actually...
I thought we was going
to go over!
You're all right.
597
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:30,480
OK.
I will save you. Trust me.
598
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:37,840
There.
599
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:49,440
At last, a beach, and a chance to
test Timini's Insta skills.
600
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:52,080
THEY LAUGH
601
00:40:53,720 --> 00:40:57,040
Look like you're loving me.
Shut up!
602
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:58,560
I know what's going to happen here.
603
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:00,920
They are going to make
a montage of me
604
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:02,400
looking vain as...
605
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:03,480
SHE LAUGHS
606
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:15,080
I give up!
607
00:41:21,720 --> 00:41:25,280
I don't feel as vain when
I'm with you
608
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:28,160
because, like, you're a queen.
Oh, my God!
609
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:30,760
I mean, you had me taking 1,000
pictures, and guess what?
610
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:32,360
I enjoyed taking every one of them
611
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,600
because you're really beautiful
to look at.
612
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,240
Yay!
613
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:40,640
HE LAUGHS
614
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:45,920
No, I mean, on a more serious note,
I definitely want to see you again.
615
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,800
Um, I feel like I definitely want...
616
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:50,960
I feel there's a lot I can
learn from you,
617
00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:53,560
and I feel like there's a lot that
you can learn from me as well.
618
00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:57,800
Yeah, maybe I can talk you into
coming to Nigeria maybe in July.
619
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,320
I mean, this is just me assuming
that you definitely want to,
620
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:03,360
you know, see me again.
621
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:04,520
You tell me, like...
622
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:07,720
I'd love to see you again.
623
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:09,080
Perfect.
Yeah.
624
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:11,320
We should drink to that.
To seeing each other again...
625
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:12,760
Cheers.
Cheers.
626
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:18,160
Out of all the potential husbands
that I've met out here,
627
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:21,320
Timini is by far the best.
628
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:24,320
It's just been such a great day,
629
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:26,600
and I've loved getting to know him.
630
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:32,320
A few days ago, my mum said that I
need to meet someone who's a bit
more like me.
631
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:35,200
And I didn't agree with
her at first, but now...
632
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:37,920
..she's right!
633
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:40,320
I think, you know, having met you...
634
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:43,720
..it's been really brilliant,
635
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:46,360
and it's opened my eyes to the
possibility of
636
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:51,120
settling down here or in the UK,
but certainly with someone,
637
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:52,160
here maybe.
638
00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:54,960
My work is done.
639
00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:57,920
And I'd lost all hope before,
I'd lost all hope.
640
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,720
To be honest, I feel like now if
nothing happens, right,
641
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:08,880
she's definitely now had a different
sense of who a Niger boy is,
you know?
642
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,200
So Nigerian men should basically
thank me,
643
00:43:11,240 --> 00:43:13,280
this should be National Timini Day
644
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:17,600
for changing the perception of
British girls about Nigerian boys.
645
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:20,840
It beats Blackpool Pleasure Beach,
I can tell you that for nothing.
646
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:22,480
SHE LAUGHS
647
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:36,680
OK, reality check -
648
00:43:36,720 --> 00:43:38,600
I'm going to stay in contact
with Timini,
649
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,840
but we're not talking wedding cake
just yet.
650
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:47,840
I love Nigeria, and I'm going to be
so gutted to leave.
651
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:53,240
The energy, the colours,
the vibrancy...
652
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:55,840
..it's in my blood.
653
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:00,120
I think Nigerian men are gorgeous.
654
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:02,520
I think there's a compromise
to be had
655
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:06,600
within the Western way of thinking
and the Nigerian way of thinking.
656
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:09,400
I don't want to have to kneel down
to my husband.
657
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:14,320
I don't want to be submissive, and
if I have money and they don't,
658
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:18,120
I don't want to pretend that it's
theirs for the sake of their pride.
659
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:23,480
What I have found out here is my mum
660
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:27,440
and spending time together
in her homeland
661
00:44:27,480 --> 00:44:29,440
has brought us closer together.
662
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:32,400
And I think...
Come on, AJ, hurry up!
663
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:35,160
OK.
We are going to miss this flight
if we're not careful!
OK.
664
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:37,960
Hurry, hurry, pack your stuff!
665
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:39,360
Ready to rock and roll.
666
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:45,400
What I was going to say is I think
I appreciate her more than ever.
667
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:48,920
Have you got your passport,
everything?
Yeah.
668
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:51,440
You are impossible.
669
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:22,320
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