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{\an7}This programme contains full frontal
nudity, adult content
and strong language.
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Tantalising,
mysterious, mind-blowing.
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Oh my god,
I got lube all over my jacket!
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While blokes get there in the blink
of an eye,
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the female orgasm is an altogether
more elusive thing.
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My clit is literally going to fall
off.
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And as many as one in eight of us
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have never been able to climax
at all.
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Are you happy to just go through the
rest of your life and never orgasm?
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I'd be fine.
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Really?
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I'm Yewande Biala,
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biologist, writer and former
Love Island contestant.
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And at the age of 26,
I've still not managed to come.
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I don't even masturbate.
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Now I'm embarking
on a very personal journey...
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Can you see my vagina on screen?
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..in an attempt to enjoy my
first ever orgasm.
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I've got some lube.
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As I probe my body...
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Do you think
it's a good thing to masturbate?
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Oh, come on, Yewande.
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..and my mind...
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I didn't know this.
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The crazy thing is that nobody
knows this.
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..and meet people like me,
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for whom sex is all foreplay
and no big bang...
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It's such a huge thing.
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..can I finally discover the secret
of the female orgasm?
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This is a story to tell
my grandkids.
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I'm in the middle of nowhere.
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To kick off my orgasmic journey,
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I'm diving into unfamiliar
territory.
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This is something that a year ago,
I would have never imagined doing.
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Like, I've been so stuck in my ways
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and like, you know, been so scared
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to, like, colour outside the lines.
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And I guess to understand myself
a little bit more,
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you kind of have to start
where it begins.
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Today, I'm going to be looking
at my vagina,
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and it's the first time
I've ever done it.
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I've since learned that calling
it a vagina
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is a bit like calling your face
your throat,
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and the correct term is vulva.
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Either way, I've spent 26 years
expertly avoiding looking at it.
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To make sure I don't back out,
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I've come to West Sussex
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to join a class that helps people
like me
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get acquainted with their lady
bits.
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Hello! Hi, Yewande.
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It's run by Lacey Haynes, sex
and pleasure coach... Welcome!
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..who believes that getting to know
your sexual anatomy
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is the first step
to becoming orgasmic.
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Welcome to our pussy-gazing
workshop.
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We are here to look between our legs
and connect with ourselves
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in a totally new way.
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Most women who come to this class
feel sexually disconnected.
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Others are seeking to reignite
their erotic fires.
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My name is Briony,
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and I'm connecting more deeply
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to my body.
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Hi, my name is Yewande,
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and I've actually never looked
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at my vagina before.
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VOICEOVER: Sorry, vulva.
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Don't get me wrong, I'm not
a virgin.
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I have had a couple of partners.
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Yes, I slept with them.
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No, it wasn't earth-shattering.
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And after all that, I still feel
deeply inhibited
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by anything remotely sexual.
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Usually in these workshops, I find
that the majority of women
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have never looked beyond,
like, a cursory glance
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at their yoni, vulva, vagina, pussy.
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All right, I think we
need a few big breaths.
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ALL EXHALE
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Ahh.
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OK, so as you're stirring this
energy of this part of your body,
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you're just, like, exploring
the outer parts of your body.
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Ahh.
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You can feel
you have a pubic mound,
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your outer lips.
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Give your pussy a little squeeze.
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NERVOUS LAUGHTER
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Ahh.
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Why don't you unroll your mat?
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You're going to all...
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Let's all gather around,
and we're going to take a mirror.
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The prospect of looking down there
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in a room full of other
women is, quite frankly, mortifying.
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I feel like I don't know what I'm
doing. Yeah, that's great. OK.
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Yeah, perfect. Perfect, yes, good.
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I mean, I'm not wearing any undies,
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so you can just see my pussy in
there.
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But if I'm to achieve a mind-blowing
transformation, then Lacey insists
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that any feelings of shame
and embarrassment around my pussy
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have to be put aside.
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Put the mirror between your legs.
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If you can't see what's happening,
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open your legs and be really
curious.
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Keep your eyes on the mirror.
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Now, I'm the queen of burying my
head in the sand.
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But even I don't know how I've spent
26 years avoiding this moment.
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You're cracking up.
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You've got a funny pussy?
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LAUGHTER
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My clit looked like...
a squashed lettuce.
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Does that make sense?
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I just felt so uncomfortable looking
at it for more than a minute.
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I just wanted
to put the mirror down.
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I was trying to, like,
look at everyone else's without,
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like, being a creep!
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Because I just... I guess I just
wanted to know
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if there was an issue with mine.
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But it was interesting.
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I hate moving.
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But it's the first time
I am living by myself.
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All my friends, like, they make
a joke out of it
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and say that I'm so uptight because
I'm always, like, stressed
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and it's because I've never
had an orgasm.
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I've thought about what it
would feel like.
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And what I've come up with is,
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you know when a horse is like
riding into the sunset?
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And then all of a sudden
they feel this urge to, like,
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go up on their legs
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and they let out this, like, huge,
like, roaring kind of sound.
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HORSES NEIGH
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And then they just seem so relieved
and liberated
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and they just, like,
go off riding into the sunset.
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Hold your horses,
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serious scientist's head on now.
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I've never had an orgasm.
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Does that mean that there
could be something
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physically wrong with me?
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Hi. Come in.
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As someone who's spent years looking
through a microscope, it's my turn
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to be put under examination.
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Feel like I'm about to have surgery
or something.
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Don't worry. You're not.
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I'm meeting consultant gynaecologist
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and doctor in psychosexual medicine
Claire Bailey
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for my first ever check-up.
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All I'm going to do is just
very gently put a finger
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at the entrance of the
vagina. Is that all right?
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YEWANDE LAUGHS
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Yeah!
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I'm so sorry!
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Just touching there. How's that?
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Fine, it feels like there's a...
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I guess I can feel it.
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No pain?
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No, it just feels like there's
something there.
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All right... Ooh. Now, what happened
there?
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I think I didn't relax. OK.
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But that's OK there?
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Er, a little painful.
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And sex is never painful?
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No.
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If I give you a couple of minutes,
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get changed
and then we'll have a chat.
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All right? When doctors say that,
it actually terrifies me!
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Oh, so much notes.
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THEY LAUGH
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So everything looks really normal.
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The anatomy of the vulva
is entirely normal.
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You can feel things normally.
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Have you ever managed
to have an orgasm?
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No.
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And have you managed to have what
you would call normal sex?
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I would like to think so. Yes?
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It's not uncommon for women not
to manage to orgasm during sex.
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It's less common for women to not
be able to achieve an orgasm
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if they've tried to masturbate
themselves.
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Have you ever tried?
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No.
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Has anything stopped you trying?
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I grew up in Ireland, which is
obviously a Catholic country.
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My parents are Catholic
and Christian.
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Sex was never really spoken about in
my house
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and masturbation
was, like, the biggest sin
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and they would literally
tell you that.
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Um, because of that, I thought
it was an unnatural thing to do.
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And because of that,
I just never tried it.
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Moving forward, we can give
a diagnosis of anorgasmia,
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which means...
Is that actually a real...?
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..which means
you're not achieving orgasms.
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But I'm not sure that that's
necessarily fair,
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because you may
well be able to orgasm very normally
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and we just perhaps haven't tried.
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So the question is whether you can
go away and have a try
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at touching yourself.
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She gave me homework.
Haven't done homework in...years.
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My homework was to go home
and touch myself.
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Yay, I guess?
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I think I'm supposed to be excited,
but I am going to try.
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I really am going to try.
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I spent five years studying
biological sciences,
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but I've just learned a new word.
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It's believed that anorgasmia
affects 10-15% of women.
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To find out if I really fall
into that camp,
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I should get on with my homework.
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Trouble is, I genuinely
don't know where to start.
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I think the easiest thing
to type in is,
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"How to..." Oh, my God.
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"A dummy's guide to masturbation."
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"Beginner's female masturbation",
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"Tips for people with vaginas."
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That's me.
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The female orgasm has often baffled
scientists,
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so I'm excited I found a site that
appeals to my inner nerd,
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with a research-based approach
to female sexual pleasure.
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This is a website called OMGYES.
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Working with 20,000 women,
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they've identified 12 masturbating
techniques
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and have literally
updated the English language
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by giving them names.
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Framing, signalling, consistency,
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shallowing, pairing, rocking,
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God fucking knows.
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To help demystify female pleasure
further, they've even got videos
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of real women demonstrating
the ins and outs of it all.
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"She demonstrates
the clit sandwich."
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The place on my clit where
I like to be touched the most
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is on the right outer corner.
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Oh, my God.
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Why is she naked?
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What the hell is she...?
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I did not expect that.
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What can kind of even amp
this up more is, like,
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putting more pressure by putting my
other hand there,
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so it's, like, really...
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I feel like I shouldn't be watching
this. ..deep pressure.
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So out of all the techniques
that I watched,
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I am going to be trying orbiting,
which is like the figure eight
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when you kind of go this way.
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So I'm going to try that,
see how I get on.
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OK.
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It just feels tingly.
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Why does it feel tingly?
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Am I doing it right? Am I?
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Maybe I'm not.
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That felt...
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..like nothing.
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It felt like rubbing, like,
dry meat.
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Oh!
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Hi, guys.
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I've never had an orgasm,
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but I want to know -
am I the only one?
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Message me, I literally want
to speak to some people.
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It's done.
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I hate watching it back.
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It's like, ugh!
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I'm actually
really nervous about putting it out,
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because I don't think I've ever
talked about sex ever
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on my Instagram.
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Oh, my God, yeah, my mum follows
me.
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I think I'm probably going
to have to mute her.
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Sex chat with Mum is awkward
for most, but when I was 15,
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my mum grounded me for a whole year
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because she wrongly believed
I was sexually active.
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Having got the word out
about my little secret,
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it doesn't take long for
the messages to start pouring in.
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Oh, my God, so many people.
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Everyone's saying, "Yeah, you're not
alone. You're not alone.
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"OH, MY GOD, I FEEL SO SEEN"
in caps.
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I honestly didn't know
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that there was going to be this many
people, and I feel relieved.
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I'm surprised by the number of women
who sent messages of support,
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but more surprised at the sheer
number of women
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who are in the same boat as me.
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And one of them has even
agreed to meet up.
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You obviously are here
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because you've seen my story
that I've put up.
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This is 25-year-old Sarah,
the first person I've ever met
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who admits they can't orgasm.
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So I'm 26 now.
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It wasn't until I was, like, 21...
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Yeah. ..that I realised that, like,
women could actually orgasm.
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Oh, my God.
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Were you the same?
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No!
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THEY LAUGH
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I don't know, I think I thought
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that it was something that you kind
of had to learn to do yourself,
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and I think that's kind
of the case now.
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Like, so when you say you've never
orgasmed,
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do you mean ever
or with a partner? Ever.
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So have you tried? Kind of,
but not really.
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Myself, no, not really.
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Why haven't you tried, though?
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I just don't get the urge to.
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I like intimacy,
like, I like connections.
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I'm a very sexual person,
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so I personally think I've always
been sexually satisfied.
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And now that I'm in a long-term
relationship
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and it still hasn't happened,
I kind of came to the conclusion -
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oh, it's just not happening.
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Are you happy to just go
through the rest of your life
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and just never explore that route?
Yeah.
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Really? Yeah, I actually am.
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What if you never orgasm?
I don't know.
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Like, I'd be fine.
303
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Really? I feel like you say that
now
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because you don't know what it's
like.
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I feel like it's easy... When you
don't know what you're missing.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Unlike Sarah, I'm really curious
to know what's so earth-shattering.
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More than 50% of the female
population admits to using sex toys.
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So maybe that's the secret.
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Do you know if you like butt stuff?
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Here to help me find the right vibe
is Reed Amber,
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empowering sex educator, podcast
host, and more importantly,
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someone who can guide me
down the rabbit hole.
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They all look so scary.
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Do they look scary to you? No.
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That might just be the way
that my brain is wired.
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Yours will be wired
in a different way. Yeah.
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Do you know if you prefer external
stimulation or internal stimulation?
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Or are you not so sure? I'm not
so sure, but I know for a fact
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that I probably wouldn't be sticking
that up myself.
321
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Yeah, it's actually quite big.
I've found better.
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Yeah. All right, amazing.
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Oh, my God,
like, they're try before you buy.
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I love this. Yeah.
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So instead of what we get
as a normal vibration,
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this is kind of like a suction.
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For me, it is a lot.
328
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It's a bit much.
329
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It's a lot. I mean, amazing orgasms,
but very intense.
330
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I would highly recommend trying one
of these or getting one today.
331
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OK, can we go for this one, then?
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Yeah. OK, we've come to my
favourite place here. OK.
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The wands.
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Why are they so big?
335
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Like, where do you put this?
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Mine goes right underneath my bed
at arm's reach,
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so I can just,
"Oh, yeah, cool, yeah. Buzz!"
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It's just so impractical,
do you not think, like?
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You should make
space for your pleasure.
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It's like the size of an arm.
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With masturbating,
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it's about just listening
to your body
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and seeing what feels good for you.
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It's so complicated. It can be,
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which is why it's all about
exploring it for yourself.
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As much as I can tell you,
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you're the only person that's
going to be able to figure it out,
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even though we can try and give
you good techniques in the process.
349
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Yeah. There we go.
350
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Is that a good choice? Yes.
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Will I regret it?
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I'm shocked that I got so many.
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Thank you!
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I feel like it was a real
accomplishment for me.
355
00:17:52,960 --> 00:17:54,080
Look at me!
356
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Time to get back in the saddle.
357
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# Look in the mirror, girl,
you got it
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# You got it, girl
359
00:18:04,960 --> 00:18:06,000
# You got it
360
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# Save me a table for one... #
361
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OK.
362
00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:12,800
# It's after midnight,
but the night is still young... #
363
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I'm gonna try these two
bad boys here.
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And we've got some lube.
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Bye.
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# Don't need nobody else,
I'mma still have fun... #
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Yeah. Like that happened.
368
00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:34,040
The reality is, I spent
two weeks ignoring them.
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Then I rang Reed for a pep talk.
"I'm going to do this.
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"I'm going to enjoy myself
and I don't have to orgasm."
371
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And then that will help
unlock everything.
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Take that pressure off yourself.
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OK. Thank you.
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And I finally gave them a go.
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All right, here we go.
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I went in with the wand.
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My clit is literally going
to fall off.
378
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It was too much for me.
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It was way too much for me.
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It hurt. Like, I remember being
like, "Ooh!"
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Like, that actually physically hurt.
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And then I thought,
maybe I'm broken.
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You know what I mean?
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Like, I've never really looked at
that as an option.
385
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But maybe I do need to realise
that maybe I'm the fucking drama.
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Not in a million years
387
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did I think feeling pleasure
would be so hard for me.
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00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:51,320
So I'm putting my faith
in my favourite subject, science,
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to find out why.
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About one in three women reports
having a low sex drive.
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So what if my libido is the issue?
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I'm Yewande. Nice to meet you.
Very nice to meet you.
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I've been invited to the University
of Essex to find out.
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Dr Gerulf Rieger is one
of the leading UK scientists
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in female sexual arousal.
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Testing how aroused I get will be
PhD student Chloe Tasker.
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If you'd like to go in and sit down.
OK.
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00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:22,480
Inside this curious cubicle,
fittingly named the arousal booth.
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So this is the eye tracker.
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00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:27,320
Scary!
401
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I'm one of 350 women that Chloe's
testing for her doctoral thesis
402
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by measuring eye pupil dilation
and reading my vaginal pulse.
403
00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:40,200
This is the probe.
404
00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:43,920
There is some lube over there
if you need it.
405
00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:46,400
If you can get undressed
from the waist down for me. Yeah.
406
00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:49,440
Put this in and then call me
when you're ready.
407
00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:51,480
The idea is to measure how turned
on I
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get by watching alternating porn
clips of men and women masturbating.
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As someone who has spent years
pioneering life-changing vaccines,
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00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:04,320
it feels good to be back
in the world of scientific rigour.
411
00:21:04,360 --> 00:21:07,360
Oh, my God,
I got lube all over my jacket!
412
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:09,360
Oh, no!
413
00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:15,160
Guys, can you see my vagina
on screen?
414
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We can see what's basically
your pulse in your vagina.
415
00:21:18,360 --> 00:21:20,440
Oh, wow. It's cool.
416
00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:21,680
That's something.
417
00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:27,080
Female sexual pleasure remains
vastly understudied.
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00:21:27,120 --> 00:21:31,160
But watching porn with a probe
up my vagina is, believe it or not,
419
00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:35,320
the number one method to measure
genital arousal in women.
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00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:42,640
Why does he look like he's looking
directly into my soul?
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00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:47,320
When she starts seeing a sexual
video,
422
00:21:47,360 --> 00:21:51,600
there's a reaction
to it that's not necessarily sexual.
423
00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:55,760
This is very unusual that you don't
see that much arousal.
424
00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,440
Yewande, can you keep your eye on
the screen, please?
425
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:02,160
Sorry. Thank you.
426
00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:09,200
Not much so far.
427
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:12,800
Before we did this experiment,
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I would have told you
I guarantee you will get aroused,
429
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because women always do.
430
00:22:21,120 --> 00:22:22,120
Done!
431
00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:25,080
How did you find it?
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I don't think I liked any
of them much.
433
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:29,480
I would agree. OK!
434
00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:32,720
This is the start of the guy.
435
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:36,800
And this is where we can see
you were a little bit shocked.
436
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:39,280
It was really hard to figure
out where the porn clips were
437
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:42,080
because we couldn't see your arousal
438
00:22:42,120 --> 00:22:44,680
as clearly
as we would usually see it.
439
00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:48,440
Maybe because I wasn't sexually
attracted to them,
440
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:51,720
it was harder
for me to naturally be aroused.
441
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:55,560
Probably played a factor in my
really terrible graph.
442
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,160
THEY LAUGH
443
00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:59,120
Yeah.
444
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:03,600
Usually, women show some arousal
to something,
445
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:07,960
and based on that,
she could be asexual.
446
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:09,520
But I'm still not certain
447
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:13,360
if some of that was actually
more of a stress reaction.
448
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,200
You are a little bit of a puzzle.
449
00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:19,160
Yeah, I'm starting to to figure
that.
450
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:23,960
I know from experience that science
doesn't lie,
451
00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:27,520
but their conclusions
are a bitter pill to swallow.
452
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,640
Even though the results are there,
453
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:34,200
I feel like I don't necessarily
agree with them, in a way.
454
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:36,760
I know I'm definitely not asexual.
455
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,320
Dr Rieger's spent 20 years
measuring people's arousal.
456
00:23:43,360 --> 00:23:45,800
So to hear that I'm off the scale
457
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,000
has got me questioning why.
458
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:51,200
I think I feel fear when...
459
00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:56,480
..I think about masturbation.
460
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:59,760
It's like I feel the emotion there,
461
00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:03,720
but I don't know what I'm scared
of.
462
00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:17,200
My journey to becoming more orgasmic
isn't going well.
463
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,800
So far, I've struggled to
masturbate,
464
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:21,160
been deemed asexual
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00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:24,600
and find myself no closer
to feeling the elusive O.
466
00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:27,400
So let's rewind a bit.
467
00:24:32,120 --> 00:24:35,040
What exactly is this state
of blissful euphoria
468
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:37,120
I'm trying to achieve?
469
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:40,120
Someone who might be able to tell me
is Anna.
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00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:41,840
Major girl crush alert -
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00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:46,200
she's a mechanical engineer
and an orgasm influencer.
472
00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,040
As well as going viral,
473
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:52,120
she was listed on the prestigious
Forbes 30 Under 30 list
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for developing a sex toy that not
only gets you off,
475
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,560
but can also measure your pleasure.
476
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:00,720
Products are never made by women,
477
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:03,440
especially products
that have women in mind.
478
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:05,640
And then I
ended up meeting a founder
479
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:08,440
of a different sex toy company.
It was a guy, and I was like,
480
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:10,880
"How do you know what you're
building works for women?"
481
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:13,000
And he was like, "There's an
industry standard
482
00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:14,720
"where you put the vibration on your
nose,
483
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:16,800
"and that's what a clitoris feels
like." Oh, wow!
484
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:19,160
Yeah! That's... That is crazy.
485
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:23,120
We wanted to give people a tool
to actually understand their orgasms
486
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:26,720
and sexual pleasure better and do
it through, like, biofeedback data.
487
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,760
There's different things that
happen,
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like your heart rate increases,
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your pupils dilate,
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00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:35,840
your chemicals like oxytocin
get released in your brain.
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But one of the best things
492
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:39,440
that researchers will measure most
often
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00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,960
is your involuntary
pelvic floor contraction,
494
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:44,320
so how your vagina squeezes
and relaxes.
495
00:25:44,360 --> 00:25:47,720
Once you've done the deed,
the smart vibrator links to an app
496
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:49,560
which charts your orgasm.
497
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,280
So if you actually squeeze
the little sensor parts,
498
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,440
you can actually see it in real
time.
499
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:57,280
Then you pair it to your phone
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00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,880
and you get cool graphs like this.
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By analysing the orgasm data
502
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,000
users donated to Anna and her team,
503
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,320
they made some wild discoveries.
504
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:10,400
We found that there's three
unique patterns that happen
505
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,280
during an orgasm, and every
woman is uniquely different.
506
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:14,680
For me, I'm an ocean wave.
507
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:18,080
So this is actually my data.
Is it? Yeah!
508
00:26:18,120 --> 00:26:19,840
I'll show you so much of my
own data.
509
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:22,720
The ocean wave is a really rhythmic
pelvic floor function
510
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:26,000
where you're squeezing and relaxing
at a regular pace.
511
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:27,960
Then you have one called the
avalanche,
512
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:29,760
where it starts much higher in
force,
513
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:31,560
but then goes down in force
over time,
514
00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:34,320
but still this rhythmic
pelvic floor function.
515
00:26:34,360 --> 00:26:36,160
And then this is the volcano type.
516
00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:37,960
So this is like the classic,
517
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:40,360
how they show it in movies, you
know,
518
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,280
like it's all this regular force
519
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:46,040
and then a huge explosion of force
and then a quick drop down.
520
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:47,480
So there's three unique types
521
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:50,400
and so far, we've seen
every woman is one type.
522
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,400
Pretty sure my data
would be classified
523
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:54,560
as a natural disaster, too.
524
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:58,160
Can I show you how freaking stress
makes my O data look?
525
00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:01,160
But not all orgasms are
created equal.
526
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:02,640
And in the name of research,
527
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:05,040
Anna has become her own pleasure
guinea pig,
528
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,640
testing all the things that could
help or hinder her pleasure.
529
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:11,520
And a big one for many of us
is alcohol.
530
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:15,560
You can see, like, in the alcohol
session versus the normal session,
531
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:18,160
you see all these, like, crazy
spikes that happen,
532
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,320
but the orgasm itself is
really weak.
533
00:27:20,360 --> 00:27:21,960
You can tell this is taking much
longer
534
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:25,240
because I was trying to
concentrate, but I was, like, drunk,
535
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:26,720
so I couldn't really focus.
536
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:29,480
So one thing I know about myself
is, like, if I drink alcohol,
537
00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:31,840
it's going to affect how I feel,
like, sexually,
538
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:34,400
and then difficult to orgasm.
539
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:37,880
And we know that data helps people
feel confident about their body.
540
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,480
And confidence is one of the biggest
elements of, like,
541
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:42,360
getting to an orgasm.
542
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,240
Meeting Anna meant so much to me,
543
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:46,160
and it clicks with me a little bit
more
544
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:47,960
because I have an analytical mind.
545
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,680
It makes me feel comfortable
having the conversation
546
00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:56,240
and helping normalise it a bit more
and scientifically break it down.
547
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:05,160
It's reassuring to view my lack
of orgasms
548
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,840
as a science problem
rather than a me problem,
549
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:11,120
but I'm still going to need
a bit of help.
550
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:14,920
I never...! Yeah, I never thought
I'd be coming back here,
551
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:16,280
I really didn't.
552
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,920
I feel like I'm going
to see, like, an old friend
553
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:23,160
who is very sexually out there.
554
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:25,720
As well as pussy gazing,
555
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:28,440
Lacey helps women overcome
their sexual problems,
556
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:31,040
so I'm keen
to see how she can help me.
557
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:37,000
I went sex toy shopping
and I got a few toys.
558
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:40,640
I tried it on, like, different
zones of my vulva.
559
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:42,840
It didn't feel like how I thought
it would.
560
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:44,320
It wasn't enjoyable.
561
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,240
You know what I want you to do
with your toys? What?
562
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:50,480
I want you to throw them
in the fucking garbage.
563
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:54,800
There is a lot of sensation coming
through
564
00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,960
when you put that level of vibration
565
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,480
on one of the most sensitive parts
of your body.
566
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:02,960
It's no wonder that it was
a rude awakening for you.
567
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:05,280
And that doesn't make you broken.
568
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:06,800
That doesn't make you pussy broken.
569
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:10,040
That's just where you are
at this stage in your journey.
570
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:12,640
Yeah. It's just part of an
awakening process
571
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,560
of, like, turning yourself on
to your turn-on.
572
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:19,680
After an in-depth chat,
573
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:22,120
Lacey convinces me to ditch the toys
574
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:23,160
and go solo.
575
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:31,640
This is a story to tell
my grandkids. Exactly...
576
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,480
This is definitely one for the
books.
577
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:36,840
..when you're living
your multi-orgasmic life.
578
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:43,840
You are an orgasmic woman.
579
00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:45,680
YEWANDE LAUGHS
580
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:49,240
Is that funny? That is hilarious.
581
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:50,440
Why?
582
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:52,640
It's funny because I don't
believe it.
583
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:55,080
We'll see what your vulva has to
say.
584
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:59,200
Take a few more breaths.
585
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:02,720
Maybe one hand can stay on your
lower belly or just rest,
586
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:04,680
and the other hand can maybe
587
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:08,120
start to just kind of go down
the front a little bit.
588
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:15,440
Take your fingers and just kind
of move them around like this
589
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:18,280
so you've kind of touch your inner
labia
590
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:23,040
and, like, gently stroked
up towards your clitoral hood.
591
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,120
Maybe, like, do a little bit of
this.
592
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:29,440
After half an hour of fruitlessly
fingering, I'm done.
593
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:31,920
It just feels like touching.
594
00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:35,440
Would you like to move
from neutrality into pleasure?
595
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:38,800
No.
596
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:39,840
No.
597
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:45,080
Oh.
598
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:49,960
For me, it's like an emotional
disconnect.
599
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:55,160
And I don't know how to get
past that.
600
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,920
So this is the kind of sex education
that I'm very interested in.
601
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,880
What is sex education that's
not anatomical,
602
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:03,320
what's actually happening
as we touch our bodies,
603
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:05,000
where our blocks are.
604
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:09,960
Is there anything else that I can
offer you or anything that would be,
605
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:13,520
I don't know, just really helpful
right now for you?
606
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:15,560
I think it would be great to...
607
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:18,440
Like, it's so weird to say
608
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,720
because it's like...
it feels impossible.
609
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:24,480
But it would be great to see,
like, a simulation.
610
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:26,600
VOICEOVER: Yeah, a simulation -
611
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:28,480
my very nerdy and awkward way
612
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:31,360
of asking Lacey to show me
how to masturbate.
613
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,080
If that would be helpful,
I can definitely do that for you.
614
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:37,160
Yeah, yeah. Yeah? Yeah.
Let's do it. All right.
615
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,360
Back to the floor.
616
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:42,720
We're furthering your education. OK.
Yeah?
617
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:43,840
So this is all about you.
618
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:49,280
Watch how I interact with the whole
of myself.
619
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,960
So I've brought my hands down
and right away, like,
620
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:57,160
my pussy is coming online.
621
00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:00,960
I feel like arousal is coming
into my body.
622
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:04,160
I'm not just going for my clit,
which would be an easy fix.
623
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:07,480
So I'm just kind of stroking
along the inside.
624
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:10,400
So now I'm, like, moving.
625
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:13,880
Now I've kind of separated my inner
lips and found moisture
626
00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:16,800
and now I'm moving the moisture
around.
627
00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:19,120
What does it feel like for you?
628
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:21,400
It feels like pleasure.
629
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,920
It feels like the pleasure
is building.
630
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:31,520
Ah.
631
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:34,960
Never in a million years
632
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:37,320
would I ever think about someone
633
00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:40,200
actually showing me how to
masturbate.
634
00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:45,000
At this stage, it's not just my, you
know, clit that feels good.
635
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:46,320
It's the whole area.
636
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:48,080
Like, there's pleasure
in everything.
637
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:51,080
If I called my best friend
and I was like,
638
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:54,520
"I'm having issues masturbating,
can you show me?",
639
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:55,840
she'd laugh at me.
640
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:04,880
I felt honoured that she felt
like she could trust me in that way.
641
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:14,600
LACEY MOANS
642
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:29,520
LACEY LAUGHS
643
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:31,600
Ahh.
644
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:41,040
Seeing someone being patient,
staying there, it was like,
645
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:43,640
"Oh, maybe I can do it too."
646
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:44,800
Maybe.
647
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:49,160
I have that, like, just-fucked
energy where I feel very, like...
648
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:54,000
I'm like, "Who are these people?
What am I doing here?"
649
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:55,600
With a little bit of work,
650
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:57,320
could I push myself further?
651
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:58,360
I don't know.
652
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:05,080
Much of my focus up until now
has been flicking the bean.
653
00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:09,440
But orgasms during sex aren't easy
either
654
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:10,960
unless you're a man,
655
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:15,800
who gets their rocks off 95%
of the time during heterosexual sex,
656
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:18,080
a concept coined the orgasm gap
657
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:21,000
because us women find it much
harder.
658
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,960
But actually, women have a higher
orgasm rate when they have sex -
659
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,240
wait for it - with other women.
660
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:29,800
So what's their secret?
661
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:31,280
I'm off to find out.
662
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:35,440
For one night only,
663
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:38,320
I'm going to be a liberated woman.
664
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:41,480
What's the worst that could happen?
Did I mention
665
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:45,000
I'm going to an exclusive
members only sex club for women?
666
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:48,400
Whoever kidnapped the real Yewande,
you can keep her.
667
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:50,960
Hello!
668
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:52,640
Hi! Welcome. Thank you.
669
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:58,360
This is Skirt Club, where women take
control of their own desire
670
00:34:58,400 --> 00:34:59,960
without the male gaze.
671
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:04,920
I always thought I'd be the one
holding the coats at a sex party,
672
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:06,560
or in this case, the skirts.
673
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:09,840
But ever devoted to expanding
my sexual horizons,
674
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:13,120
I'm here for some serious
investigative work.
675
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:18,040
So why are women having more orgasms
with each other?
676
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:21,600
Someone who's experienced the best
of both worlds is Eugina,
677
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:25,400
who's conveniently left her
boyfriend at home tonight.
678
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:27,840
Women understand women better.
679
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:32,720
We understand each other's needs,
wants and desires so much more.
680
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:34,160
Orgasm, for example,
681
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:36,560
it's not only like physical thing,
682
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:40,480
but it starts
with the trust and understanding.
683
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:44,240
Most women, they do what
they would like to receive.
684
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:49,040
This is Toni.
685
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:52,000
Like me, she's come from
a conservative background
686
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:54,200
and is on a journey
of self-discovery -
687
00:35:54,240 --> 00:35:57,160
just a bit further down
the line than me.
688
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:01,080
VIBRATOR BUZZES LOUDLY
689
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:13,520
DEVICE WINDS DOWN, THEN STOPS
690
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:15,240
We got there!
691
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:16,280
Yes!
692
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:17,320
APPLAUSE
693
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:22,680
I think I was 13, and my mum
caught me masturbating.
694
00:36:22,720 --> 00:36:25,040
Yeah, and it was so embarrassing,
695
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:28,360
but her reaction was very much
over the top.
696
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:29,440
I was shamed.
697
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:31,080
I felt so guilty.
698
00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:34,080
And then after that, I never,
ever touched myself again.
699
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:38,800
Do you think it's important
to have a conversation
700
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:43,920
with your family, like, about sex,
sexuality, masturbation, pleasure?
701
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,120
I definitely think it's an important
conversation
702
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:47,680
to have with your family.
703
00:36:47,720 --> 00:36:50,400
But there are generational
differences.
704
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:53,000
You might not always get the
reaction that you want from them.
705
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:56,720
Tonight's been an eye-opener,
706
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:59,400
but I didn't expect to come to a sex
party
707
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:03,120
and leave thinking
about my relationship with my mum.
708
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:08,560
I'd love to get to a point
where I'm as liberated and as free
709
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:09,920
as the women here today,
710
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:11,680
but I think a massive block for me
711
00:37:11,720 --> 00:37:14,480
is my upbringing and religion
and culture.
712
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:18,240
So I think I really need to get
to the root of that.
713
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:27,040
Who knew that chasing an orgasm
would be this hard?
714
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:30,000
Open your legs
and be really curious.
715
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:31,640
Give your pussy a little squeeze.
716
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:33,760
You may well be able to orgasm
very normally.
717
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:36,160
The place on my clit where I like
to be touched the most...
718
00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:38,920
Take orgasms off of the table.
719
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:40,680
Maybe I'm broken.
720
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:48,080
It's all feeling a bit overwhelming,
and if I'm honest, unachievable.
721
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:54,080
I've decided that in order to dispel
some of these deep-rooted beliefs
722
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:55,720
that still linger in me,
723
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:59,400
there's one person I need
to confront - my mum.
724
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:04,560
Mum grew up in Nigeria,
and when I was three,
725
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,600
we moved as a family to Ireland.
726
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:09,240
Safe to say, we never spoke
about sex,
727
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:13,840
and the idea's so uncomfortable
that I've booked an activity for us.
728
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:18,680
Let's hope this candle-making
workshop melts away the awkwardness.
729
00:38:18,720 --> 00:38:22,120
Pour in your essential oils
and give it a good mix. Perfect.
730
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:25,200
You're all done. Now we just need
to wait for them to set. Thank you.
731
00:38:25,240 --> 00:38:27,960
Yeah. Do you remember the first
conversation we ever had about sex?
732
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:36,120
Never. Do you not think that women
should be more open
733
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:40,920
to exploring, like sex,
their sexuality?
734
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:42,600
Hmm...
735
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:47,840
I don't feel cool with it. Really?
No.
736
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:52,040
Is that why you never talked
about sex in the house, then, ever?
737
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:56,040
You know, the only thing I think
I can do
738
00:38:56,080 --> 00:39:00,000
and I believe other parents
might talk about, you know,
739
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:03,560
would be like, "Oh, if you do this,
you get pregnant.
740
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:06,240
"If you do that, you get
pregnant", and all that.
741
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:07,760
That's not sex education.
742
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:10,080
That is literally fearmongering.
743
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:13,000
What would you have me talking
about, then? I don't know.
744
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:16,440
Maybe the good things about sex.
745
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,000
Maybe what you should do.
746
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:20,040
Oh, come on, Yewande. Oh, my God.
747
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:23,640
Come on. Why? Come on, Yewande.
748
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:25,400
Why? Why wouldn't you?
749
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:28,200
Sex is...
750
00:39:28,240 --> 00:39:32,800
Yeah? It's something really special
and something really sacred
751
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:36,720
that has to be done between husband
and wife. Only?
752
00:39:36,760 --> 00:39:37,760
Only.
753
00:39:39,720 --> 00:39:41,840
Do you think it's a good thing
to masturbate?
754
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:46,520
You... Yeah, would say yes.
755
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:49,040
But then why didn't you say
that to me?
756
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:52,440
Why didn't you say that to anybody?
It's a personal thing.
757
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:54,880
If you didn't ask the question,
why would I bring...
758
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,720
Yeah, but I'm never going to walk
into the kitchen or the sitting room
759
00:39:57,760 --> 00:39:59,200
or anywhere and be like,
760
00:39:59,240 --> 00:40:02,880
"Oh, hey, hon, do you want
to talk about masturbation?"
761
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,240
Can I ask you a question?
What's the point of all this?
762
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:08,120
I think it was important for me
to have a conversation with you
763
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:09,640
because when I think about sex,
764
00:40:09,680 --> 00:40:11,040
I think about negative things.
765
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:13,240
I think about just growing up,
766
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:16,480
being constantly told to stay
away from sex.
767
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:19,960
I think at this point now,
768
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:24,400
I just have to put my hands up,
because I never did.
769
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:31,720
You're making me feel guilty.
770
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:34,320
I don't know.
771
00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:37,000
Maybe you need to sit
with that guilt.
772
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:46,120
I feel really drained.
773
00:40:46,160 --> 00:40:48,320
I think I was particularly
shocked
774
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:52,920
when I asked her, how does
she feel about masturbation?
775
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:54,720
And then she said it was
a good thing.
776
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:58,200
And then I just thought,
well, my whole entire life
777
00:40:58,240 --> 00:41:00,720
I thought it was like the worst
thing in the world.
778
00:41:00,760 --> 00:41:04,400
And I just... I think I was annoyed
at myself,
779
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:08,160
but also a little bit annoyed at her
780
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:13,400
for not quieting down the noise
in my head.
781
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:16,880
But maybe that's something
I need to work on.
782
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:18,240
Maybe.
783
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:25,960
Ever since I was young,
I've been motivated
784
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:27,600
by the desire to succeed,
785
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,200
intent on pleasing everyone
around me.
786
00:41:30,240 --> 00:41:34,040
It feels puzzling that the one thing
I want to do to please myself,
787
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:35,280
I'm unable to achieve,
788
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:37,960
and I'm running out of people
to turn to.
789
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:40,480
Hi!
790
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:44,520
Nice to see you. Nice to see you.
What's been going on?
791
00:41:44,560 --> 00:41:46,800
Last time I saw Claire, she told me
792
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:50,200
it was too early to give a diagnosis
of anorgasmia,
793
00:41:50,240 --> 00:41:52,680
and she gave me homework instead.
794
00:41:52,720 --> 00:41:54,320
I did try and masturbate.
795
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:58,080
The goal was to have an orgasm,
but I'm not there.
796
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,640
So what does it feel like?
797
00:42:02,720 --> 00:42:04,160
Hands on my vagina.
798
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:06,800
Totally emotionless?. Yeah.
799
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:10,400
Just thinking about,
"Why doesn't this feel good?"
800
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:16,440
OK.
And just changing tack a little bit,
801
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:20,640
you ended up on Love Island...
I know.
802
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,520
..which is a very sexualised
programme.
803
00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:24,720
Mm-hmm.
804
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:28,960
So how was that received
with family?
805
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,200
My mum, she was fine with it,
806
00:42:32,240 --> 00:42:35,960
but my dad hated every single
minute of it.
807
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:37,680
Was it rebellious?
808
00:42:37,720 --> 00:42:39,080
Probably, in a way.
809
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:40,480
How does that feel?
810
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:45,200
Great. Liberating? Definitely.
811
00:42:45,240 --> 00:42:49,120
At that point, you were working
in science?
812
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:51,040
Yeah, I was in biopharm.
813
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:54,640
So is that doing
what was expected of you?
814
00:42:56,720 --> 00:42:58,320
Probably. Yeah.
815
00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:01,720
That seemed to just jerk
a bit of an emotion.
816
00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:03,080
I don't know.
817
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:06,840
I sometimes feel like I live two
different lives,
818
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:09,800
and I don't know which one to pick.
819
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:13,120
I sense it's upsetting you
820
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:17,200
to have felt you've let your
parents down.
821
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:20,200
Yeah.
822
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:23,360
Um...
823
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:24,400
Yeah.
824
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:32,080
Yeah, I think I lived my life
just...
825
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:35,960
..doing everything that everyone
wanted.
826
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:39,680
So it's difficult now
827
00:43:39,720 --> 00:43:43,920
when I'm doing things for myself
828
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:47,400
and I feel
like I'm letting everyone else down.
829
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:49,800
But then I'm at an age now
830
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:51,080
where it's like
831
00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:53,520
I've got to stand up for myself
832
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:55,440
and do what I want to do.
833
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:57,560
And I think that's just hard.
834
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:02,080
Can you see how these emotions
835
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:04,080
can be inhibiting you
836
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:05,960
from being able to be
837
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:09,400
the person you want to be
in a bedroom?
838
00:44:10,720 --> 00:44:11,720
Yeah.
839
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:15,880
I don't think this is hopeless.
840
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:17,560
I think that in time,
841
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:22,960
that this is something that you will
achieve by yourself.
842
00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:26,440
And I think we just keep
working on that.
843
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:27,480
Yeah.
844
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:35,640
She pinpointed my relationship
with my family.
845
00:44:36,720 --> 00:44:41,000
Yeah. I just didn't expect so much
emotion.
846
00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:42,040
Jesus.
847
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:49,880
I've opened myself up physically
and emotionally
848
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:52,960
in a bid to unlock my potential
for sexual pleasure.
849
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:57,680
And I've learned the most
important gateway is my mind.
850
00:44:57,720 --> 00:44:59,480
I don't even know why I'm getting
so upset.
851
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:05,280
I worked so hard at everything.
852
00:45:06,720 --> 00:45:13,640
And to be able just to let myself go
a little bit more, it's just...
853
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:17,600
..so challenging.
854
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:23,640
As someone who used
to be so conservative,
855
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:25,280
such a huge thing.
856
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:29,640
And I'm happy I started it.
857
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:32,520
And... Yeah, I'm happy
I got through it.
858
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:35,160
So, yeah.
859
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:46,200
Three months trying to get
an orgasm.
860
00:45:46,240 --> 00:45:48,520
Three fucking months.
861
00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:50,280
SEX TOYS BUZZ
862
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:52,800
The first thing I'm going to do
is throw that wand away.
863
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:54,120
I fucking hate it.
864
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:59,320
Might keep the other two,
just in case it is for me
865
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:02,160
and I just didn't know how to use
it properly.
866
00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:03,720
Fingers crossed.
867
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:05,880
And... Yeah.
868
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:06,920
BUZZING
869
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:10,280
And that's the end of it.
So, bye.
870
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:19,000
# A little smile on show
871
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:21,640
# Fresh kicks,
a kiss to the mirror
872
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:24,000
# You know, I'm looking pretty,
let's roll
873
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:27,600
# Yeah, I wear, I wear my hat
real low
874
00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:29,280
# A little smile on show
875
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:31,520
# Fresh kicks,
one kiss to the mirror
876
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:34,960
# I'm looking real pretty,
let's roll
877
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:37,040
# I wear, I wear my hat real low
878
00:46:37,080 --> 00:46:39,120
# A little smile on show
879
00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:41,600
# Fresh kicks,
a kiss to the mirror
880
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:44,160
# You know, I'm looking pretty,
let's roll. #
68596
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