All language subtitles for The.Ultimatum.Marry.or.Move.on.S02E04.WEBRip.NF_HI.en

♪ Yeah, yeah, look at me go ♪

♪ Turn your head
And look my way ♪

♪ I'm a wildfire that can't be tamed ♪

[Riah] You ready to play this game?

[James] Are you?

Oh, these are good.

"Lights off or lights on during sex?"

Lights off.

Lights on or off,
it really doesn't matter.

-[Riah] On?
-[James] Sometimes you like to look, man.

We don't have to get into that.

"Do you prefer eyes open
or eyes closed in the bedroom?"

Eyes closed.

-What?
-I don't wanna see.

-You must have been having some bad sex.
-[laughs]

I wanna be blind. Okay.
[chuckles]

"One celebrity to have a threesome
with us. Who would you choose?"

Probably Ryan Reynolds.

I don't even wanna do anything.
I just wanna talk to him.

[James laughs]

It's like him s...

He's gonna be sitting in the corner like,
"Hello, I'm just here."

He is hilarious.

Yeah, me... me and him.

All right.

[giggling]

[Riah] Okay.

[James] Um...

"What do you wish health class
had taught you about sex?"

That it's not just a means to an end.

It's not just like...

making kids.

It can be a way
to strengthen a relationship,

build trust in the other...

and ultimately satisfy both parties.

What do you wish?

[Riah] Mmm...

That it talked more
about the satisfaction part.

-Is it weird I wanna have a date night?
-[softly] No...

Why? Is that what you do
when you're married?

-You just, go like...
-Go on a date night?

It's normally just, like,
leading into foreplay.

I don't even know what that is.

You don't know what foreplay is?

No, I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding.

I was, like, "Fuck Trey, really?"

Foreplay, it's like so many things.
It can start at the beginning of the day.

Most people normally attribute
it to making out,

kissing on the neck, all that.

But say it's a weekend
and you have some extra time.

You know you wanna have
a special night that night.

It can start out as, like,
making your wife breakfast in bed,

and maybe, like, cute, you know,
little asides throughout the day,

and doing stuff they appreciate.

Just something that lets you
get to build up more physical foreplay.

Does a hug count?

That's the least you could
do for foreplay, right?

I mean, like, if that's
what it leads into, then that's...

Yeah, it starts off like...

That's a weak attempt at foreplay.

But maybe I'm missing foreplay...

-in my life.
-Could be.

I'm here to satisfy my partner.

[James] You wanna take a picture?

Like, we're remembering this day together?

-Right.
-Duh.

Ready?

-Damn. That was bright.
-It's cute.

-You can hang it up.
-First memory to hang on the wall.

Oh, how cute.

Ready for bed?

[music playing]

♪ I'm addicted to you ♪

♪ I'm addicted to you ♪

[Roxanne]
So, how was your work day in the office?

I'm glad that we have offices
next to each other.

-It was good. I feel like...
-Your commute home was easy?

[chuckling]

Yeah, I'm gonna commute
back a little bit later too.

[Roxanne laughs]

I do think it's funny, though,
we're literally in meetings all day.

-When I'd do a meeting, I heard you...
-That's gonna be every...

-I know, it's kind of nice.
-Yeah.

So, yeah, Alex and I... He's hubs.

He's hubs right now.

[cat meows]

Oh, hi, cutie.

He has some words too. He bit Alex.

He was like, "Who is this guy?
Who is this new husband?"

We can invite
all of our friends for fun...

We don't have friends.

We only have exes.

["Get Up" by Slightly Stirred playing]

♪ We gonna have some fun now ♪

♪ Get up, gotta get down, gotta get up
If you wanna get down ♪

♪ Yup, yup, gotta get down
Gotta get up if you wanna get down ♪

[Trey]
I think it looks beautiful out here.

[Ryann] I know.

We have the perfect combo,
wine and ice cream.

-I know.
-Right? [chuckling]

Yeah.

I'm gonna try this out.

[chuckles]

You got butter pecan too, didn't you?

-[chuckling] Yes, I did.
-[Trey laughs]

We might have to both, like, try
each other's and see which one's better.

[solemn music plays]

I don't know.
I think I might like yours better.

I like mine better.

You know what I think would be good?

-To put the ice cream in the wine.
-Okay.

All right. You're doing too much.

All right.

How you feel about this first week? Like...

I don't know.
I feel like it went really well.

It went really smooth.

-I feel like it went by really fast too.
-Same.

I feel like it was easy.

We were still trying to, like,
read each other at the beginning.

Yeah.

You told me I was, um...

I was being awkward. You know what I mean?

I didn't say you were being awkward.
I said I wanted you to be comfortable.

I could tell you were, like,
uncomfortable sometimes.

-Yeah. How you feel now?
-I feel like you've...

come out of your shell a lot.

Come out of my shell?

I've heard that
so many times in my life.

Really?

"You've come out of your shell.
You've come out of your shell."

-Yeah. Not a bad thing.
-No.

I feel like in the first week,

we basically, like, learned how
each other kind of, like, lives...

And thinks... Everything... Yeah.

Yeah, but we haven't had
any, like, fights yet.

I'm trying to think
about what we will fight about.

You haven't done nothing to, like...

-throw up red flags yet.
-[Ryann laughs]

-You know.
-Well, that's a good thing, I guess.

I've never lived with someone,

and I've been in a relationship
for over seven years.

It was just weird coming
into this situation.

I feel like...

so far, I don't know,
it's been really easy.

Like, we have so much stuff in common...

So, I mean,
I feel like that's a good thing...

-Yeah.
-...to look for, for a future marriage.

I do think... I think it's important
to have some, like, similar qualities.

We have everything pretty much same.
It's smooth.

I still do wanna get married.

-I, you know... I still wanna get married.
-Yeah.

And I still feel like I'm in a place
to get married. That hasn't changed.

When I came into this, like,
I was just looking.

Like, I thought I was completely content
with where I was,

and all I wanted was to get married.

♪ I think I've fallen in love now
Don't know what's happened to me ♪

I'm still open to getting married,
but I'm kind of just more focused

on what I think
could make me happy instead.

♪ Don't wanna leave
Without you by my side now ♪

♪ Playing you on, playing you on repeat ♪

♪ Can you feel it?
I believe in love now ♪

♪ Can you feel it?
I think that I'm in love now ♪

This is so nice.

-[Riah] Hey.
-[James] Hey, how's it going?

-[Riah] This is so cute with the candles.
-[James] Yeah?

I think Riah lacked a little bit
of romance in her previous relationship,

and I want her to know,
like, she's special.

Riah's like a ten out of ten.
You know, she's beautiful.

I don't wanna stare
at her boobs all the time.

Like, "Yeah, this is really great,
but, damn!"

My... Never mind. Never mind.

-This is beautiful.
-Romanticism, important.

Well, I feel like
you're a romantic person, you know.

With the right person.

Yeah, I feel like you're knocking it
out of the park right now.

Yeah.

Grocery store ran out of roses.
So, there's only rose petals.

Rose petals.
As long as it's a rose, I'm okay.

So, is that always red roses?

-Yes.
-Always?

-Always.
-Wedding, red roses?

Everything gold on a wedding day.
I might have a gold dress.

Okay. That's different.
I like that, actually.

It could be white...

Everybody wearing white
and you wearing gold.

There's definitely gonna be a dress code.

How do you feel about kids at a wedding?

-Yeah, no kids at any wedding.
-Yeah, same here.

No kids. I don't wanna hear
any crying babies.

Like, no, no.

I'm probably more excited for kids
than I am marriage.

My mom, like, she's
the hardest-working person I know,

and I wanna carry
that forward into my children.

I want my children to be known
as, like, hard workers.

It's really hard for me
to picture that because, like...

It's always just me and my mom.

When you get married, like...

I mean, yes, you do have your mom,
but you have your partner.

Marriage is... different.

I think, for me, like,
saying the words, "I love you"

has always been really hard.

But I feel like
eventually it should be easy. Right?

This trial marriage,
and this process altogether...

has shown me, I just really want
to spend time with my partner.

["Feels Like" by HRDLY playing]

♪ I don't know what's happening to me ♪

♪ I wanna feel alive ♪

♪ One more touch
Electric runnin' through me ♪

♪ It's got me goin' like ♪

[Kat] This was a great date idea.
You did a good job.

-[Antonio] Thank you. Thank you.
-[Kat] Good planning.

[Antonio] Doing a little bit of research.

-[Kat] Your research paid off this week.
-[Antonio] Yeah.

-I'll lay this out real quick.
-[Kat] Okay.

Oh, nice.

[Antonio] Maybe you can hold these
for me really quick.

[Kat] Yeah.

-Oh, that's so sweet. Thank you.
-[chuckles]

[Antonio] You're welcome.

[Antonio] Well, let's take a seat.

[Kat chuckles]

-[Antonio] We got some Prosecco.
-[Kat] Nice.

That's the most
satisfying thing ever,

-I don't know why.
-It is.

-And that one didn't explode.
-Yeah.

[Kat] Nice.

-Cheers.
-Cheers.

[chuckling] The bubbles kind of went up
my nose a little bit.

Yeah, me too.

I should have waited
for that to settle for a second.

[laughs] I'm too eager.

I don't feel like I've been very good ever

in the history of all the relationships
that I've ever been in

in showing that, like,
I do have a romantic side.

And I don't really know why that is.

-Yeah.
-I'll be completely honest,

because I want to make someone feel like

I've considered them in everything.

And, you know, being the person who...

makes them feel like
they're taken care of.

-I think I was just selfish, honestly.
-Yeah.

I think a big reason for me too is, like,
I've never been financially stable.

And so, like, it is really hard for me

to think about what it is
that I wanna do for fun.

-Because I can't afford to.
-Right.

Like, I can't spend hundreds of dollars

-on these tickets and dinner and drinks...
-Yeah.

...and, you know, before I know it,
I've spent 500 bucks.

And it's like, that's like 35%
of what I'm gonna make this month.

Right.

You know, I feel like most women

want to feel like the person
that they're with

is always gonna be able
to take care of them,

the person that they're with

knows how to make them
happy and comfortable.

And, like, I don't feel like
I've really been very good at doing that.

When I'm not planning anything,
it comes across as

"I don't care about you", but really,
it's like, "I can't afford this."

-[chuckles]
-Yeah.

Like, I cannot pay for this.
I can't buy tickets.

I don't go to concerts.
I don't do anything.

-Right.
-And then that comes across as, like,

-I don't give a shit. But I do.
-Right.

And, I don't know, I think I hold
a lot of that back with Roxanne.

I just don't know
why I had this, like, crippling...

[inhales sharply]

...like, "Never make a mistake, ever,"
like, whatever...

-Yeah.
-Just don't even come close to it.

So I just, like, operated
in, like, this little square...

-Yeah.
-You know, and like,

you know,
I had harder time being myself.

I feel like, it's like, when there's

an imbalance in the relationship
where one person's

working really hard
and the other person isn't,

it's like, it's kind of tough
on whoever isn't working.

You start to resent them.

You know, like, there's a time
in my life that I was high for...

like, six years.

-That was a long time.
-And it was an absolute escape.

I was just ignoring the truth.

I was ignoring my shortcomings,
and it was a dark place.

And, you know, I was having sex.

And, like, just doing everything,
to just feel good.

-Yeah.
-You know, just like quick, quick hit.

-Yeah.
-This feels good.

"I just have to do this. It feels good."

-And that's...
-And then you feel better.

And then for a little bit,
yeah, I feel better.

-But it was just this emptiness.
-Yeah.

And it was just a cycle of things
that I could use to distract myself.

-Yeah.
-I think I was fortunate to get

to the other side of it,
and recognize it for what it was.

Yeah.

Which I feel like it sounds like you're
in a different direction now too.

That's the crazy thing,
people can be whatever they wanna be.

-Yeah. Oh, yeah.
-They just gotta be.

-Exactly.
-Make that commitment.

-Yep.
-Mm-hmm.

-Yeah.
-That's a cool realization.

-That's a powerful realization to have...
-Yeah.

...is that you can be anything
that you wanna be.

Exactly.

Would you say that, like, deep down,
like, you really know who you are?

Um...

I still think I'm trying
to figure that out.

♪ Even if the sky was falling ♪

♪ I'd hold you in my arms, darling ♪

If I called your parents, right?

And I was, like, "Do you think
Roxanne will ever get married?"

-How would they answer that question?
-They'd say "probably not."

-They never think I'll settle down.
-Yeah.

A lot of people I surround myself with,
who have crazy ambitions,

especially women who are super ambitious,
they don't wanna get married.

Like, they're just independent.

I think it's strong to be married, though.

Like, I like to be strong,
independent, ambitious for us.

Most married people,

I think even most divorced couples
would say, like,

marriage is the best thing
that can happen to you...

or it's the best part of life.

Hmm.

Like, somebody who's there,
like, "We're in this together."

Don't you think
in a really good relationship,

the relationship gets better over time?

Yes. 100%.

-Yeah.
-It gets better.

With my mind being
in this crazy spot right now,

the last whatever amount of days
we've been doing this experiment,

I'm opening my mind
about marriage,

but then it's opening my mind
to these other thoughts, "Okay, well,

if I'm open to marriage,
what kind of a husband would I want?"

And I just feel, like, I don't know.

You have qualities that are very
important to me in a husband.

It still goes back to the fact
that we're so similar,

the ambition to what we want in life,
and that you are so pro-marriage.

And I just love the things you talk about.

You talk about marriage
in such a high regard.

-I do, yeah, I really feel that way.
-Yeah.

-And I think that...
-A lot of people feel that way.

...really made me feel like it's okay

to let your guard down a little bit
and not be ultra-independent.

Like, you can be independent
but have a partner.

So, be vulnerable.

At some point in your life,
you're gonna just fall.

Yeah.

And if you can do it proactively
with your husband,

it's a little superpower, right?

Like, you can
think through things more clearly

'cause you don't have to worry about
the stress of whatever.

See? That's what I'm talking about.

-You don't have...
-You say shit like that, and I love it.

-Well, when you say it...
-Makes you better at work.

Yeah, when you let
your guard down...

-A weird way to get there, but...
-...that's a superpower.

I've never thought
of marriage as that.

Everybody has weakness...

and you gotta let it out...

So, like, do it with me.

And if you... If I know
you're comfortable enough to be, like,

"Oh, my God, like,
I really screwed up today,

blah, blah, whatever happened,
I'm feeling weak."

Like, that's super sweet.

It's like, "Oh, you love me."
Like, I know you do.

You can be comfortable around me.

Well, you know,
I wasn't feeling good earlier,

and I kept telling you... My head
was pounding, and it meant so much

to me that you literally asked me,
like, five times...

Like, "What do you need?"

You kept saying,
"What do you need?"

Like, I almost instantly
felt better 'cause... Safe.

I felt like if I didn't feel good,

you were gonna make sure
I got what I needed.

-Yeah.
-Look at us.

-I know.
-Doing good.

You wanna go home
and cuddle and watch a movie?

-Let's go.
-Can I hold your arm? I'm cold.

-Of course.
-Okay.

-"Yeah. Of course. These muscles?"
-"Of course, yeah!"

[Roxanne laughs]

♪ Right in the right moment ♪

♪ To this, we keep holding ♪

♪ Changes, changes, changes, changes
Changes coming in ♪

[sighs]

You going and getting my car cleaned,

that was very nice,
and I definitely appreciate it.

-Really?
-Yeah.

No, that was sweet.

That's all right... I mean, I...
That's what I do, like, with cars, like...

So, that's what you do
with all your girlfriends?

-No.
-Is that what you're telling me?

This is... Oh, my gosh.

I appreciate anything...
that there's thought put into.

Like, you know.

-Yeah, it was nice.
-I'm trying.

[snickering]

I just wanna do something nice for you.

You're a very good person in general.

-Thank you.
-Like, you're sweet.

I know, like, a lot of times
you think you being too nice is a flaw,

but I see the beauty in it.

Thank you. That's sweet.

I feel like...

I'm, like, bothering people when I...

say, when I don't like something
or something sometimes.

I know you. I could tell you feel like
you're bothering, but it's not.

I think you should own it...

because to me,
it's a really good quality.

I can tell you really care...

-Thank you.
-Specifically about me.

I appreciate how selfless you are.

I feel like you always put
other people above yourself.

Like, whether that's at work,
in this situation.

Like, you'll put other people's needs
above your own's.

But that's a good trait to have.

I feel like it's hard
because you can get

like, walked over sometimes
when you're that way.

I think that's true.

I feel like I stand
my ground when I need to.

Unless it's somebody I care about.
Then it's difficult for me to.

You feel like you would try
to walk all over me?

No, I don't think I would.

I feel like you're starting
to stand your ground more.

Starting? Yeah, I guess you'd say.

-Why? Do you not think that's true?
-I think that's true.

You read me like a book, you know that?

Yeah.

Well, I feel like the reason
I understand you is

'cause I feel like we're the same...

'cause I've had some
of the same exact struggles.

You take the time to understand me and...

I'm not used to that.

So, I really appreciate
that you do that. I really do.

And I just wanna make sure you feel heard
because what you say is important.

[clicks tongue] Thank you.

I feel that's what you should do,
like, in a healthy relationship.

-So, we have a healthy relationship?
-To know...

Yeah, I think so.

Yeah. I definitely appreciate that.

I didn't know if you were gonna be
comfortable to open up to me. So...

the fact that you trust me enough...

with your emotions and your feelings...

like, I don't take that for granted.

Ready for bed?

-Can you get these lights?
-[exhales] Okay, I got them.

[Trey] All right.

-Good night.
-[Ryann] Good night.

[music playing]

-[Alex] Hello.
-[Roxanne] Hello.

-[Alex's Dad] Hey, how are you?
-[Roxanne] Hi, fam.

-[Alex's Mom] Hello.
-[Alex] This is Roxanne.

-Nice to meet you.
-You too.

-Roxanne, nice to meet you.
-I'm Glen.

Thank you so much for having us,
Glen and Jennifer.

I was gonna say,
"What do I call you, guys?"

"Mom and Dad?"
'Cause we're married.

[laughter]

I'm never scared of parents.
I have my shit together.

I am gonna be super considerate.

Should we cheers to, you know,
Alex and I being married?

I feel like parents love me.

We'll toast that you both find
what you're looking for.

[Jennifer] So, wife? That's kind of weird.

[Alex] It is weird.

So, you know, we're on this experience
'cause of all different reasons, right?

People come on for whatever reasons

'cause they're in a relationship,
so they're trying to find something.

So, for me it's... I never have believed
in marriage, ever.

-Like, my whole life.
-Oh?

And I came on this because my ex
wanted me to see if it was, like, him,

or I don't believe in marriage,
or, you know, what is it?

I don't know. Just never believed in it.

And I have parents who've been
married for 35-plus years.

Incredible marriage.

Why wouldn't you believe in marriage
if they have an incredible marriage?

-That's what we're trying to figure out.
-[Alex] Great question.

In the last two weeks, it's kind of crazy
how much I've learned about myself.

I've been really focused on work,
so I just don't think about marriage.

Well, I understand you're an entrepreneur?

[Roxanne] Yeah.

-So, we have been entrepreneurs too...
-[Roxanne] Yeah.

-...and so being married's actually great.
-Yeah.

He has been giving me
so much insight on that.

-Like, that's kind of, I feel my...
-It was your number one thing.

-I feel like...
-...number one thing why I chose him.

It's a good thing for entrepreneurship.

-Oh, it's so good.
-Yes.

He's given me so much insight to that.
Like, you can be super successful, but...

-with a partner...
-Yeah.

...who supports you
and makes you look good,

and, you know,
you're a power couple. So...

Well, not just how it looks too,

but also because, like,
I can go home and go,

"Honey, I have this problem.
What do I do?"

-He's a fixer.
-[Roxanne] Yeah.

Well, I'll sit with you
and talk about business all day.

All day! Careful.

This is supposed to be
about relationships right now.

[Alex] Let's head out.

[Roxanne] Oh, this is perfect.

Y'all got a boat too, huh?

-[Jennifer] Yeah.
-[Glen] Yeah, we do.

[Roxanne]
We just hide out in the car.

I was like, if it ever gets
to a point where I'm very serious,

-parents have to meet parents, right?
-Yeah.

-Yeah.
-Families need to meet families.

Yeah. Christmas and Thanksgivings.
Do we get along?

We'd get along perfectly.

Nobody's getting married
without the parents meeting the parents.

Ever.

-It's a package deal.
-It is a package deal.

Well, it's also like a little bit
of vetting the...

future spouse.

She wants to give her opinion.
That's what she's saying.

You got to, it's your son.

So, why did you sign up for this?

-I did not sign up for it.
-[Glen] Oh, you didn't?

No, I did not.

Nope, my ex, he was, like,
"100% we have to do it...

Because if we don't do this,

I don't know how I'll ever
get you to understand marriage."

-I did not sign up for this.
-Really?

Nope. My cat's here with me.

[Glen] Alex brought a Kat too.

She's gone now.

[straining]

Too soon.

[laughs]

[Alex] Did you want to do it?
I mean, you ended up here.

No, I had been pushing it off,

saying it wasn't, you know, something
I was interested in doing.

Did your parents want you to do it?

-Yes, they want me to get married.
-Interesting.

-Yeah.
-So they like the guy?

Um...

No, I mean, they think he's fine.

I don't pick. I'm very particular.

Picking Alex,
someone who challenges me.

He has qualities
that I really see myself being with.

So...

-Alex was the perfect fit for that.
-[Alex laughs]

Both of our exes
were not like that at all.

You just need somebody
that holds you accountable.

-Yeah.
-Like, you could very easily...

just walk all over somebody...

Mm-hmm.

I'll let you do it a little bit,
but then I'll just be, like,

"No, you're not doing it anymore."

A gentle soul cannot take Roxanne.

-Right.
-Well, it...

-And applies... Same for me.
-Yeah.

I've never been with someone, you know,
who is on the same level with me.

Kat and my ex are...

so similar.

With my ex, I'm the challenger
in the relationship, constantly.

He's never had a... goal ever, ever.

Like, no path for career.

And I've been pushing.

I'm happy to help, but I need someone
who has some kind of vision.

With Alex, I don't have to worry about it.
I'm, like, he's doing what he's doing.

I don't have to literally worry
about his work at all. Literally.

What a refresher off my mind.

I've never been with someone like that.

-Roxanne, I'm a little scared for you.
-Why?

Because you're saying you've never
been with someone like that.

And so I'm thinking about who's the guy

you came here with
thinking he's not that guy.

I think this is the first time
that I've thought, "Oh, maybe there is...

something that
would not allow Alex to be

satisfied for the rest of his life
because Kat is very quiet."

-Yeah.
-He does like a challenging person.

Alex... is Kat challenging enough for you?

You both wake up ambitious
and challenge each other?

What is it about that that you like?

It's so wild because we haven't had
much time to spend having fun...

-Yeah.
-...because we're working so much.

-But isn't that really just...
-Life?

...who you are?

We don't switch off
our work brains as much.

I feel like we're both still just
hyper-focused on the grind,

that we haven't gotten to know...
Like, this is probably the most

I felt like I know you,
seeing your parents.

-I think you just learn a lot.
-Yeah.

This is how I'm gonna end up, I guess.

I guess, I could...

[Roxanne] You said, "I guess."
This is not a bad thing.

-Yeah. But...
-Well, it's a great thing.

Here I am at a point,
trying to figure out what to do.

-Yeah.
-He's helped a lot.

-Yeah, he's helped a lot.
-Yeah.

He came here wanting to get married.

He was like,
"I definitely wanna get married."

Well, that's news for us too.

-[Roxanne] Oh!
-[Jennifer] No, it's not. Well...

[Jennifer] Yeah, you've always said
you want to get married someday.

-I always wanted to get married.
-[Glen] Well, yeah.

-[Jennifer] Just to who?
-Yeah.

You guys are saying exactly
the things that make me think

-that you want to be married...
-Yeah.

...because you're saying things like,

"He's making me look at life
in a new and good way..."

Yeah.

"...and I want to improve that way."
And you're saying same thing.

-[Roxanne] Yeah.
-So, like, you're both promoting...

Mom, you're saying
the experience is working.

What do you guys want for him?

Well, I mean,
mostly that he's happy, you know.

It's all his choice
as to what he does, so...

So, at the end of the day,
you're okay with whoever he chooses?

Yeah. Generally, yes.

Well, we have always said
the most important decision

you're ever gonna make is your spouse.

Every single decision
is less important than...

your spouse.

♪ Take us back, take us back ♪

♪ Look back, let's see how far we'll go ♪

♪ Look back
Let's see how far we'll go ♪

Well, I must say, I enjoyed tonight.

-Yeah?
-Yeah.

-I appreciate...
-Was it the dinner or was it the...

-Everything.
-Everything? Well...

Yeah, I really... I feel like
it was really thoughtful.

I also enjoyed tonight.

I will apologize first for the food.

-I mean...
-I ate it.

-I know. I know. I know.
-I didn't die.

And it wasn't terrible, but, like...

-As long as it's made with love, it's fun.
-Made with love.

So, I think whenever
I'm doing something for somebody...

myself, showing them...

That's my way of showing them love,
and I want it to be, like, perfect, so...

I don't know...

Just a thought.

Sorry, you're showing me love?

Yes, it's my way of showing you love.

I'm gonna try to avoid the...

the deeper conversations
when we're doing dishes.

[Riah] Okay.

[blows air]

[Riah] Do you wanna sit on the floor
or do you wanna sit on the couch?

[James] Let's sit on the couch.

Be careful. The edges might be really hot.

The hotter the better.
How do you feel about affection?

-Like, do you want affection?
-No, affection is really important to me.

So, do you like holding hands?

Touching, holding hands,
hand on the hips, stuff like that.

You know, you haven't
held my hands in a while.

-We just, um...
-You don't like to hold my hand anymore?

It's not that. It's just time and a place.

Time and a place, where?

[mumbles] I don't know.

Remember we had our date
and you're like, "Can I hold your hand?"

-Third date.
-On our way out?

-Yeah, it was nice.
-Yeah. It was nice.

-And I held your hand, I had a choice.
-Mm-hmm.

But I feel like you don't
wanna hold my hand anymore.

-Do you wanna hold my hand?
-Right now?

-You wanna hold my hand?
-Sure, we can.

-Hold my hand.
-Okay.

But do you wanna hold my hand?
That's the question.

-Yes, I do.
-Do you feel nice when you hold my hand?

Do you wanna hold my hand?
That's the question, like...

Yeah?

-Yeah? Are you sure?
-[chuckles]

-Think so.
-I don't feel it.

-Hold it.
-[chuckles]

It's just... I mean, like,

I think it's just a time
and a place, and, like...

-I mean, we're at home.
-All right. Okay.

Like, even in past relationships,

I don't really hold hands
when we're just sitting beside each other.

It's more like we're walking down
the street holding hands

or we're in the car when, like,

my other hand's aren't gonna be
busy anytime soon.

-You hold hands in the car?
-Yeah, like...

You didn't hold my hand in the car.

When you're married to someone,
like, you want affection, right?

I would say so.

But do you feel like...
we have affection in our marriage?

Affection doesn't mean holding hands.

It doesn't mean putting my arm around you.

Affection is... Could be me
doing the dishes for you,

-cooking or it's not always...
-Physical?

...intimate or physical.

What about a hug?

I think I gave you a hug like yesterday.

-It was a side hug.
-You remember that?

I feel like it's hard to be
affectionate without touching,

like physical touch.

I don't know. Sometimes I feel like
it's just a little hard

to, like, get the full-on
marriage experience when...

I don't know, sometimes I feel like
we're like best friends.

Sometimes I feel like
we just live together.

So, what would push it
just a step further?

You being open.

There's no affection between us.

We don't hold hands.
We don't really hug.

It's just like,
when you tell me good night,

it's just good night.

If we were to sleep together,

I feel like this is something
you can't really come back from.

And I know that you're not feeling

like Trey cares at this point.

I mean, I don't feel like Trey cares,
but I feel like...

I'm not gonna know what
a different marriage would be like.

-So...
-Like, do you like me?

In what regard?

-Like, just... Do you like me?
-Yeah.

-I think you're a pretty great person.
-As a friend?

As a friend, as a...

potential partner, like...

But as a partner?

I guess, technically, we are partners.
So, yeah, as a partner.

I mean, yeah, 'cause you know,
apparently we're married now.

-But do you feel like we're married?
-No. Physically? No.

It sounds like you do want
to get physical.

-No, I don't.
-So...

Not like "physical" physical,
but it's just the little things

like holding hands
and giving each other hugs. Like, I feel...

But, for me, that's not
the only level of intimacy

I wanna get out of a marriage.

-Okay. Well...
-I'll be honest,

I don't think married couples
only hold hands.

I don't think married couples
only give each other the occasional hug.

It's like my whole
trial marriage experience,

like, I'm really just gonna be
with my friend.

-And then what's missing? What's missing?
-That's not a trial marriage for me.

I want to do things wh... Not saying like...

-Do what?
-Everything, like...

Like, what? What's missing?

-Everything else.
-Like what?

So, I'm... I cook, clean...

Yeah, you cook, you clean, like, I mean,
but is that all a marriage is?

Is a marriage just cooking
and cleaning and talking?

Talking, spending time with each other.

The only thing outside of that
I can think of right now is affection.

Don't get that. Clearly.

You also said that you weren't interested

in anything beyond
holding hands or hugging. So, like...

'Cause I felt that
it's definitely weird...

If that's physical for you, then we may
as well go back to middle school.

But when I get married, I'm not gonna
just hold my wife's hand

and give her a hug and be happy.

I'm gonna get in the shower with her.
I'm gonna make love to this person.

That's physical intimacy.

That's the physical connection
that I want in a marriage.

I feel like, if physicality is...

on or off in a marriage...

if it's off, it's this...

and if it's on...

But I feel like,
when it comes to a marriage,

I don't get a marriage.

Me leaving here at the end
of these three weeks,

I'm going back to Trey,

and I don't know what
a marriage would be like,

because the things that we're doing

is the same things I did with him
outside of a romantic dinner.

Like, for me, I want something different.

I feel like you're ready to get out
of the relationship with Trey so bad...

that you would be fine with starting
a new relationship tomorrow.

But, like, the last seven years
of my life,

I mean, I've seen this person
cry and beg. You just...

Clearly I love Trey,

but we're going through this experience
to be with another person.

I don't have to fuck somebody
to figure out

what it would be like to live with them.

I'm not saying we're fucking.

I understand. But, like, point being...

When I say physical,
physical does not mean sex.

And the level of self respect that I have

is not gonna allow me to commit that
because I've been in that place.

I cheated on Ryann.

-It was the worst year of my life.
-But, I mean, you're not...

You're not with Ryann anymore.
You guys broke up.

It doesn't matter.

You broke up with Ryann.
I broke up with Trey.

We can't be in a marriage if we care
so much about our other relationship.

There's no way for us to try and think

about what a life could be like
with somebody else if we don't...

I am thinking about
what that life could be like.

-Okay.
-I'm just not exploring it physically.

But I'm not asking you
to explore it phys... Okay, that's fine.

You kind of are.

-We don't have to...
-You kind of are.

We don't have to hold my hand.
You don't have to give a hug.

But because I don't have that.

I... That's why I feel like
there's no way it's a marriage.

I'm ready to go to bed.
You know, try again tomorrow, and...

tomorrow will be the same thing.

♪ Sometimes the hardest way ♪

♪ To say goodbye is not to have a fight ♪

[Riah] If I don't get to hold your hand
or if I don't even feel like

I can hold your hand
if I want to hold your hand,

I don't think that's kind of fair
because there's no way for you

to be open when you're guarded,
because clearly he's guarded.

I would never want to marry
someone like that.

♪ We want different things ♪

♪ And that's not gonna change ♪

♪ I feel like a kid again
Like summer nights that never end ♪

-[Ryann] The water's so still right now.
-[Trey] I know. It's, like, perfect.

You look amazing.

-Thank you. You do too.
-Well, thank you.

I've always wanted a house
in the mountains

and then a house on a lake.

-That's like my retirement plan.
-Yeah.

Yeah, I think that would be nice.

-I feel like I know everything about you.
-You know everything about me now?

No, not everything, but almost everything.

How do you see yourself
like, as a dad, like, raising kids?

What kind of values
do you want them to have?

I want my kids to know what it's like,
to, like, be loved by...

two parents
that's always gonna be there in it.

But also...
I want all my kids to be humble.

I want my whole family unit
to be successful.

But I want my kids to be the type of kids

that see the same thing in the janitor
that they see in the CEO of a company.

I want them to treat everybody the same.

I don't want them to be spoiled.
I don't want them to be spoiled at all.

-Yeah.
-Spoiled a little bit.

They're the part of me
'cause growing up,

I mean, I didn't have the nicest clothes
and all of that...

But I want my kids to have...

You want them to have what they need.

-Exactly. Exactly.
-I know, what you mean.

If we had kids together,
I think you would be...

protective.

I think you'd be a protective dad.

But, I mean, I feel like we have,

like, a lot of similar ways
we would want to raise our kids.

Like, all the things that you just named.

I'd want them to, I don't know,
understand the importance of family...

-Yeah.
-...and have a good foundation

to, like, build their life on.

Like, healthy, happy.

-They don't need to be spoiled rotten.
-Yeah. Yeah.

I just wanna be able to, like,
give them what they need...

and just, kind of,
be there emotionally, and...

-just...
-I agree.

-Have you ever thought about this?
-With me and you?

I have.

-I think you'll be a good husband...
-[chuckles]

...but I think you will be a good dad too.

I think you'd be an amazing mom.

And I'm not just saying it.
I'm being dead serious.

-Are you hungry at all?
-Sure.

You're, like, so prepared.

-You came with everything.
-You want fruits?

These blueberries are good.

-You wanna try them?
-Better than our blueberry cobbler?

That cobbler was amazing.
Oh, my God.

I won't lie...

I've seen a lot in the time
that we've been together.

If we were married,
we'd have to take turns on...

the responsibility.

I'm just curious.

In our marriage now,
I mean, it's like the same things,

and, I mean, for me, it'd be added.

Like, I feel like I'd take out the trash,
cleaning the cars'd be my responsibility.

I mean, what you do now
makes my life ten times easier

-'cause you just naturally do so.
-Yeah, I feel like us...

living together in a marriage
would be the same.

Like, I feel like we both are pretty good

about splitting stuff up
and, like, both doing our part.

Yeah.

-Us living together has been easy.
-I know.

I feel like unless anything changed,

I feel it would be the same in the future.

Yeah.

Living with you is messing with my head.
You know that, right?

I've experienced
living with people before...

Mm-hmm.

And... to me, based off of everything
that I've experienced,

this is, like, 10, 20 times
easier and better.

It's like a breath of fresh air.

-I'm not even lying to you.
-Yeah.

Yeah. No, it has been really easy,
and I just feel like that's how we are.

Like, our personalities
are just, like, in sync.

-Oh, yeah.
-I feel like we're...

-on the same page.
-Yeah.

Yeah, we're definitely on the same page.

I feel like, I owe it to you
to be 100% honest with you.

-I just wanna tell you...
-Okay.

...how I feel, all right?

Okay. Yeah, I want you
to be comfortable enough

to tell me how you feel.

Okay.

Through this experience, living with you,

with it being so easy
and stuff like that, not gonna lie...

I have developed some feelings for you.

I figured you could tell.
But then, I also wanna let you know why.

-Okay.
-All right?

-Just... I'm just being honest, right?
-Yeah, you're just being open and honest.

So, this feels extremely
weird for me to talk about.

Why?

Because I didn't come into this experience

with any expectations of, like,
even getting close to somebody.

If I'm being honest,
I'm throwing myself out there again.

This is the first time
in my life where I'm doing this.

I've never threw myself in...
I'm not going to lie to you,

I feel extremely uncomfortable right now
even having this conversation with you.

-Extremely uncomfortable.
-You don't need to feel uncomfortable.

I want you to be able
to be open and honest with me.

Like, I feel valued more than I have
in like last... I don't know how long.

Like, the dates you plan
and stuff like that for me,

I don't think I could explain to you
how big of a deal that is for me.

Like, I just can't explain it.

And I know,
we both got our own situations

that factors into a lot of everything
that's going on right now.

But it's really weird because I still...

I do love Riah. I do.

That's why, I mean,
she's the reason why I'm here.

But at the same time,
through this time I've spent with you,

I have grown a lot
of feelings for you as well.

We only have a short amount of time left
with each other,

which is why I wanna
have this conversation with you.

You are, like, the sole reason...
You made an impact on my life.

Whether... No matter what happens,
you made an impact on my life.

I appreciate you being
open and honest with me.

I feel like, with our last week,

we need to get everything
out in the open and express how we feel.

Like, through this experience,
we've learned so much

-about ourselves and each other.
-Yeah.

Like, I truly want
what's best for both of us.

I mean, we've come a long way,

and we know exactly
how each other feels. It's...

I don't know, it's really hard
to truly figure out what you want.

I've been around you long enough
to know at this point...

I feel like I make you happy.

♪ Heartbeat racing ♪

At least I feel like I do.

I mean, we've shared, like,
a strong bond, you know?

I feel like it keeps getting deeper.

I feel like I've kind of figured out,

like, what will make me happy
in the future.

I feel like now I know.

-You know?
-I feel like I do too.

Yeah.

[sighs]

So...

♪ You got me falling
And I can't stop it now ♪

♪ You got me falling ♪

♪ But my feet don't hit the ground ♪

♪ If I let go of my elbow ♪

♪ If I let you love me, I'll go ♪

♪ If I go all in ♪

♪ Would you catch me? ♪

♪ Now all I wanna be
Is floating up in the sky 'cause ♪

♪ You got me falling
And I can't stop it now ♪

♪ Would you catch me? ♪