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Over there, yeah.
Father, over there.
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Is it going to be OK
with you here, Father?
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Thank you.
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Just like that.
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OK.
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All right.
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Here we go.
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OK.
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ARCHIVE: The Tibetan people are
being exterminated,
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their culture and religion
are being stamped out.
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Since he was four years old,
the Dalai Lama was trained to lead
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his people, but lost control of his
country to the Chinese Government,
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and has led his people from
exile for decades.
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OBAMA: Amid tear gas
and police dogs,
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Desmond Tutu led a
people against apartheid.
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The idea of freedom has not yet come
to this last remaining bastion
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of white supremacy in Africa.
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When people decide to be free,
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absolutely NOTHING is going to
stop them from becoming free.
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Archbishop Desmond Tutu
of South Africa came to meet
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the Dalai Lama.
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An historic meeting of men
whose lifelong quests for justice
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and self-determination
for their people
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garnered each
the Nobel Prize for Peace.
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How are we doing, everyone?
Are we ready? Button there.
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Are we good?
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OK, great.
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His Holiness...
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Listen.
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Act like a holy man.
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THEY LAUGH
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I was actually with my dad when
he and the Dalai Lama first met
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at a museum in - of all places -
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Newark, New Jersey.
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It's a very great honour
to meet His Holiness
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and to know that one
is in the presence
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of a very great spiritual leader.
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I don't think you could find
two people on the planet
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who are more different than
the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu -
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or Arch, as his friends call him.
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One's from Africa, one's from Asia.
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One's a Buddhist, one's a Christian.
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One grew up in absolute poverty,
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the other grew up in
a thousand-room palace.
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But immediately, they recognised
each other as what they called
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their mischievous spiritual brother.
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I've sometimes said to him, "Shhhh!"
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LAUGHTER
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"The cameras are on us!"
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You know the word "mischievous"?
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You are mischievous, aren't you?
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LAUGHTER
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Honestly, the energy between them
is eight-year-old boy.
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I look at them and I think,
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"I am so glad that I was not
your third-grade teacher!"
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Because they're so playful,
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so much fun and teasing.
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Unfortunately, he's a Buddhist.
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LAUGHTER
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At the beginning of the dialogue,
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I was like, "Who the hell am I
to try to sit down with these two
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"incredible spiritual leaders
and try to distil their wisdom?"
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But, as Arch says, sometimes
you're the one in the room
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and it doesn't matter what your
strengths or your limitations are -
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you have to just show up and let
what wants to happen happen.
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I have worked with this young man...
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Since when? At least a decade.
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I think that Doug
sees my dad as another father.
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And my dad sees Doug as...
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Yeah, another of
his beloved children.
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Nothing will stop us,
for we are moving to freedom!
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I first learned about
Archbishop Tutu
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when I was an undergraduate
in college.
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It is my great honour to
introduce a man of courage -
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Bishop Desmond Tutu.
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CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
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At that time,
he travelled the world,
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speaking out against the white
South African government,
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and on college campuses
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across the US, he was treated
as something like a rock star.
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In a situation of injustice
and oppression,
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there can be no neutrality.
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You have to take sides.
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You have to say,
"Am I on the side of justice
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"or am I on the side of injustice?"
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I was so inspired.
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I wondered,
how does a man like this -
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how does he live day to day,
and what can I learn from that?
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Before we begin,
I want to thank Jinpa,
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who worked very hard
with me on the questions
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and any of the
good questions are his,
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any of the bad questions are mine.
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THEY LAUGH
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So, when we speak about Buddha,
Dharma and Sangha...
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Jinpa is the long-time translator
for the Dalai Lama.
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He was a Buddhist monk
who left monastic life,
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went to Cambridge and got a PhD
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and is one of the most
extraordinary translators
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and interpreters of Tibetan text.
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I'd become the interpreter
for His Holiness,
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which meant my service was not so
much to the Tibetan community,
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my service was to His Holiness,
to the world.
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I also want to ask us to just
forget about the cameras -
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this is not live.
If you fall asleep, that's fine.
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HE CHUCKLES
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If anyone could help us live with
more joy in the face of the pain
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in our lives and the pain in our
world, it was these two men.
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It's clear that laughter
is central to the way
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that you are in the world.
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Your spiritual practice hasn't
made you sombre and serious,
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it's made you more joyful.
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So, how can people cultivate
that sense of joy
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as a way of being,
not just a feeling?
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HE LAUGHS
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Yes.
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Yes. In fact, when you...
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..say you are pursuing happiness...
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..you are not going to find it.
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It's very elusive.
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Potential?
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But let me ask you.
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You've been in exile...
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50-what years?
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56!
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From a country that you love...
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..more than anything else.
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Why are you not morose?
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Sad, sad.
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His Holiness, the Dalai Lama was
born to an ordinary farmer's family.
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In fact,
his parents were illiterate.
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13th Dalai Lama passed away.
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The Tibetan succession system
for choosing the next Dalai Lama
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relies on this Buddhist
concept of reincarnation.
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There's a formal recognition
of a child at a very young age
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as the continuity of the Dalai Lama,
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and he was recognised
at the age of two.
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One of the method as part of the
process involves identifying
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what objects belonging
to the predecessor,
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which are mixed with other
objects, as well.
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He passed the test
with flying colours.
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Once he was formally recognised,
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he was brought to Lhasa, to central
Tibet, the Potala Palace.
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That meant the day-to-day
upbringing was handled by monks,
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tutors and attendants.
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His Holiness, in some of his books,
writes of loneliness.
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His curiosity was piqued by science.
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He had a fascination for
mechanical things.
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From the Potala Palace,
he would see these shepherds' kids,
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you know, coming home, bringing home
the goats and other animals,
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you know, singing freely and
whistling with a sense of abandon.
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You know, the expectation,
aspiration and hopes of the entire
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Tibetan people was placed upon -
you know, I would say unfairly -
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upon the shoulders of
this young kid.
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Communist China claims that Tibet
has been historically part of China,
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and it's reclaiming what
it sees as lost territory.
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And by 1951, they had completely
taken over the entire country.
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Up until 1959, the Dalai Lama really
made efforts to try to find
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a political solution
to the arrangement
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of China's presence in Tibet.
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March 10th 1959,
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thousands and thousands of people
came out into the streets,
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protesting against
the Chinese presence,
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which then created
the large-scale people's uprising.
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And soon after, there was
a bombardment by the Chinese.
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EXPLOSION
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Then the question was,
how do you get out of this
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without being noticed?
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What His Holiness did was to
disguise himself as a soldier.
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I can imagine those few moments when
he's stepping out of
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his palace compound and pretending
to be, you know, one of the guards.
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And he left Lhasa and then began
the long journey to India.
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NEWSREEL: No-one could have told
from his unruffled bearing,
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as he was greeted by high Indian
officials, that the Dalai Lama
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had been in mortal danger
since he left Lhasa -
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that he had been forced
to leave his capital.
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Reframing - cognitive reframing -
is really a powerful technique
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to change your mind-set.
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And in the Buddhist language,
we call it outlook.
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And this is a fundamental insight
in Buddhist psychology.
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That's why so much emphasis is
placed in Buddhist psychology
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on changing the way
you see the world
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instead of resentment
and bitterness.
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Reframing can help us, liberate us
from that resentment, and free us.
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I mean that, what you've said
is quite wonderful.
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I think, to add to it, is...
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The thing is not, how do you escape?
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It's, how can I use this
as something positive?
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And Your Holiness has indicated
that nothing, I think,
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can be more devastating,
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in many ways, than being turfed out
of your own country.
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I mean, it's part of you - and, by
rights, His Holiness should be...
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..a sourpuss!
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I mean, he should be...
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Just do that face - leave your
face as it is normally.
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You look like that.
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You look like you
are a real sourpuss.
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Oh!
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And then when you smile,
your face lights up.
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And it is because,
in very large measure,
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you have transmuted what would
have been totally negative -
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you've transmuted it into goodness.
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Because, again, you have not said,
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"Well, how could I be happy?"
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You've not said that -
you've said...
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.."How can I help to spread
compassion and love?"
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The idea of the dialogues
was to explore the nature of joy
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in the face of adversity.
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But they also wanted
us to bring in the science.
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They said this shouldn't be
a Buddhist dialogue
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or a Christian dialogue -
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this should be about
the nature of being human.
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And so they asked me to find out
whether what they were saying
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was confirmed
or contradicted by science.
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Dr Sonja Lyubomirsky, at the
University of California, Riverside
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has done some extraordinary studies
on the science of happiness.
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My lab and I started doing what we
call happiness interventions,
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so they are basically like clinical
trials, but instead of testing
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a new treatment - say, for Covid -
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we're testing a happiness strategy.
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In one typical study, we found that
people who did acts of kindness
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for others became happier
and actually stayed happier
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for about two to four weeks
after the study was over.
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And then people who did acts
of kindness for themselves
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felt good while they were doing it,
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but that didn't
change their happiness.
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So, what really was important
about kindness
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was that you're connecting
with another person,
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and it might actually
have effects on the body.
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So, we collected blood, and we found
that those who did acts of kindness
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for others showed changes in their
RNA gene expression in the blood
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that were associated with
a healthier immune profile.
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So it turns out that happiness isn't
just something that feels good -
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it's not just about pleasure -
but it's more than that.
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Happier people have more friends,
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they're also more productive
at work, they're more creative,
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they're physically healthier,
they have stronger immune systems -
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they even live longer.
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You're very good, yeah.
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You're wise.
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I wouldn't say wise selfish,
you are wise.
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THEY LAUGH
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You don't wake up
in the morning and say,
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"Hey, I'm going to become a friend
to the Dalai Lama."
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It just happens.
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I think it was
a communication of the heart.
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I thought you were non-violent!
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The Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu
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have only actually been together
half a dozen times.
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You know, global spiritual masters
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don't have a lot of time
to hang out with their buddies.
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That's great.
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LAUGHTER
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The Dalai Lama was invited to my
dad's 80th birthday in Cape Town.
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# Happy birthday to you... #
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The South African government
at that time
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had extensive trade
relationships with China,
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and they delayed the process
of issuing him a visa
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for weeks and weeks and weeks.
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It's quite unbelievable,
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the discourtesy
that they have shown
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to the Dalai Lama.
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I mean, Dalai Lama!
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I am warning you.
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One day, we will start praying
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for the defeat of
the ANC Government.
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For the African National Congress,
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for the ANC to prevent the Dalai
Lama from coming to South Africa -
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not giving him a visa -
was just a betrayal.
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So, we knew that the only way
to get them together
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was to bring Arch to Dharamsala.
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We just didn't know if his health
would be strong enough.
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My father had several recurrences
of prostate cancer.
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And so there was, you know,
constant concerns
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and in and out of hospitals
and all kinds of infections.
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So, eventually, all of the
pieces fell into place.
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My father was so happy to finally
see his dear friend again
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and to embark on a joint mission
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that spoke to their life's work -
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a mission of joy.
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LAUGHTER
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Now, people are now going to know
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that the Dalai Lama
comes into a room
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and he's looking around,
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maybe sitting
with presidents or something -
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he hopes that the chair
will break down.
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LAUGHTER
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He's doing very well.
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He's behaving like a human being!
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LAUGHTER
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What is the role of enjoyment
and enjoying your life for you?
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As a monastic, people may say,
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"Oh, he has renounced pleasure
or enjoyment of his life."
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What?
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Did you say that?
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You are a monk, remember?
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Have you renounced
pleasure and enjoyment?
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I sat next to you at lunch
the other day,
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it looked like you were enjoying
this wonderful food.
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And one of the most fascinating
things about that week together
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was that when we asked people
to send us their questions,
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we got thousands of responses.
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They definitely were interested
in the big questions
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of why we're here, the
nature of life, and about mortality.
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There's a question of how
you think about your own deaths.
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How do you think
about that possibility?
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THEY LAUGH
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Well, he doesn't mind too much
because there's reincarnation.
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The Chinese say they
are going to decide...
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You must be nice to them!
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Yes. Well, I should say
that, for a very long time,
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the thought of my demise...
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..brought a great deal of anxiety.
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I've had a number
of near-fatal illnesses.
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As a child, I had polio...
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..and my father went off to buy
the wood for making my coffin.
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And then, in my teenage years,
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I developed TB.
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I was quite surprised -
after, I said,
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"God, if this is curtains for me,
then it's OK."
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I have to admit that I was surprised
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at the calm and the peace
that came over me.
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Er...
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This is a fact of life -
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death is a fact of life.
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Yes. A-ha!
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LAUGHTER
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Hmm.
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Good 'un.
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Yes.
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I think there's a
lot of shared background -
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you know, both of them
are deeply spiritual people
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and also both of them
have deep history
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of struggle against
authoritarian systems.
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ARCHIVE: Bishop Desmond Tutu
has become
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the leading voice in South Africa
against that country's system
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of separation of the races,
apartheid,
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under which the best housing,
jobs and education are reserved
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for the white minority and are
denied to the 22 million blacks.
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Apartheid really began in 1948,
but separating black Africans
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from the white minority
had long been a policy aim.
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Many had no right to citizenship
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and were regarded as aliens
in major cities.
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Instead, they were made citizens
of Bantustans -
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homelands scattered
throughout South Africa.
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I'm from one of the townships
in South Africa.
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Black townships.
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Squalor-ridden.
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Archbishop, you were saying
how His Holiness has experienced
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great suffering in his exile,
but you too, in apartheid,
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and you and your people experienced
great suffering.
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And even in your personal life,
you have dealt with cancer,
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you're dealing
with prostate cancer now.
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You've been able to maintain
that joy
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in the face of that suffering.
How have you been able to do it?
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Well, I've certainly been helped
by many other people.
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You open, you blossom...
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..really because of other people.
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When I was about nine, my mother
was working as a domestic worker
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at a institute for blind people.
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I recall this white priest in
a long, flowing cassock,
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doffing his hat to my mother.
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That struck me as being quite odd.
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That was completely unheard of
in the South Africa of the time.
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White man would not treat a black
woman, and a washer woman at that,
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as a person worthy of
dignified respect.
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Trevor Huddleston was
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the superior of the Community
of the Resurrection,
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which was an Anglican order
of monks.
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Later, when my dad was hospitalised
with tuberculosis,
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Trevor was a regular visitor,
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used to bring him magazines
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and comic books.
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When you help someone who
is less well-off,
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when you are kind to someone else,
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you end up being joyful.
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But why? Because we realise
that we are made for goodness.
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I was the fourth child,
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and I remember being very young and
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having my dad teaching me to write.
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My parents had been teachers
before the Bantu Education Act.
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Both of them left teaching
in protest of that,
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and that was actually when my father
went to study for ministry.
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Basically, what the
apartheid government said was
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that there's no reason
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to educate black people
beyond their station,
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so anything beyond what enables you
to be a useful servant
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is more than you need to know.
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The system tries to destroy us.
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It won't succeed.
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I want to tell you,
it won't succeed.
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ARCHIVE: Police in South Africa
arrested Archbishop Desmond Tutu
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and several other church leaders
during a protest demonstration.
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Meanwhile, in South Africa,
police continue to use
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their emergency powers to stifle
anti-government opposition.
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I remember it as a moment when you
realised that black life was cheap.
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Tutu reiterated a commitment
to non-violence,
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but added, it's very important when
talking about violence to note
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that the primary violence in South
Africa is the violence of apartheid.
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DOG GROWLING
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There were 19 coffins
of those shot by police
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while marching to another
funeral three weeks ago.
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Someone is killed almost every day
in clashes with the police.
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And reflected by what was today the
greatest gathering of black grief
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and protest in this country ever,
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the passions aroused
in recent months seem,
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if anything, more intense.
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The crowd thought this man
was a police informer -
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he would have died here,
kicked to death.
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But Bishop Tutu saved his life,
rushing from his car and pleading
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with the crowd to leave him alone.
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They would have listened
to no-one else.
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I am saying...
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We were on the edge of a precipice.
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We were fortunate our country
did not go up in flames.
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Arch became one
of the central figures
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of the anti-apartheid struggle
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because so many of the
political activists,
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like Nelson Mandela,
were in jail or in exile.
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And it really became his ministry
and his mission
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to explain to the world what was
happening in South Africa.
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People are peace-loving
and have sought to bring about
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a change in that ghastly system
by conventional, peaceful methods.
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And the reaction of
the Government has been
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police bullets, tear gas,
detention and death.
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And he became
public enemy number one.
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Is there anyone here who says,
"We will not be free"?
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CROWD: No!
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He was ultimately significant in
bringing down the apartheid regime.
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You can, in fact, overcome some of
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the most horrendous circumstances
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and emerge on the other side...
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..not broken, with the eagerness
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to spread goodness and
compassion in the world.
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I was thinking of Nelson Mandela.
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When he went to jail, he was young.
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He was the head of the armed wing
of African National Congress.
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MANDELA: There are many people who
feel that it is useless and futile
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for us to continue talking peace
and non-violence
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against the Government, whose
reply is only savage attacks
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on an unarmed
and defenceless people.
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And I think the
time has come for us...
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He believed firmly that
the enemy had to be decimated.
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That is the guy who went in.
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He goes on to Robben Island
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and is mistreated.
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They are made to dig in a quarry.
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They were sleeping on the floor,
no mattress.
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He spent 27 years.
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And many would say,
"27, oh, what a waste!"
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No!
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That suffering in prison
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helped him
to become more magnanimous.
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Willing to listen to
the other side,
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to see the people
he regarded as enemy...
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You know, they too
were human beings who had
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fears, expectations,
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and they had been moulded
by their society.
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It's like being put in a kind
of fiery furnace to be refined.
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And in fact, in some ways,
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some suffering - maybe even intense
suffering -
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is a necessary ingredient
for developing...
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..compassion.
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Yes.
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Hmm.
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HE SPEAKS TIBETAN
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So, this shows the Tibetan
saying is really true. Mm-hm.
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And, you know, the suffering
is what makes you appreciate joy.
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A classical Buddhist education
involves many years
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of rigorous academic training,
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a large part of which is actually in
the format of a dialectical debate.
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You know, a concept needs to
be always examined thoroughly.
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If it is not tested,
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it's like a sand castle -
with one finger below,
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the whole thing crumbles down.
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And His Holiness has a very
sophisticated academic background.
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And this is one of the reasons why,
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when he sits down with scientists
and academics - you know,
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Western scholars - to engage in a
deep conversation of any topic,
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they are surprised
to see an intellect.
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They are fascinated by the way
in which his mind works.
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I first met His Holiness
the Dalai Lama in 1992.
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He invited me to talk with him
about the possibility of engaging
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in neuroscientific research
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with Tibetan monks,
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practitioners who have spent years
training their mind.
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I began my career studying
the disturbed mind,
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and when I met His Holiness
for the first time,
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he challenged me in a very direct
way and he said,
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"Why can't you use the same tools
of modern neuroscience
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"that you've been using to study
depression and anxiety and fear -
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"why can't you use those same
tools to study kindness
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"and to study compassion?"
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When we first proposed this,
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most people looked at us like
we were absolutely nuts.
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But here's the experiment.
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What we do is we bring people into
the laboratory
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and we put a kind of metal plate
that we strap onto a person's wrist.
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And through this plate,
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we can circulate water very,
very rapidly
500
00:42:51,220 --> 00:42:54,380
and we can regulate
the temperature of the water.
501
00:42:54,380 --> 00:42:57,860
And I could tell
you that this is damn hot.
502
00:42:57,860 --> 00:43:00,300
It feels like
it's burning your skin.
503
00:43:00,300 --> 00:43:02,500
So, we just give them
one experience of this
504
00:43:02,500 --> 00:43:05,300
so that they know
what we're talking about,
505
00:43:05,300 --> 00:43:06,780
they have the direct experience.
506
00:43:06,780 --> 00:43:09,180
Then we bring them
into the formal experiment
507
00:43:09,180 --> 00:43:10,900
and they're in the MRI scanner.
508
00:43:10,900 --> 00:43:13,580
And we tell them we're going to
give them two tones.
509
00:43:13,580 --> 00:43:18,220
When they hear one tone - which is
a high-pitched tone, "beep!" -
510
00:43:18,220 --> 00:43:21,820
then they know that, in ten seconds,
they're going to get zapped
511
00:43:21,820 --> 00:43:24,260
with this very painful stimulus.
512
00:43:24,260 --> 00:43:27,180
If they hear a low tone - "boop!" -
513
00:43:27,180 --> 00:43:31,060
they know that they
will just feel warm,
514
00:43:31,060 --> 00:43:33,260
but it won't be hot.
515
00:43:33,260 --> 00:43:34,700
Very simple.
516
00:43:34,700 --> 00:43:37,420
So, we have people who
have meditated
517
00:43:37,420 --> 00:43:41,460
and we have controls -
people who've never meditated -
518
00:43:41,460 --> 00:43:45,820
they're age- and gender-matched
and they go through this experiment.
519
00:43:45,820 --> 00:43:49,860
Now, we know where in the brain
the pain circuits reside,
520
00:43:49,860 --> 00:43:52,180
so we know exactly where to look.
521
00:43:52,180 --> 00:43:57,220
And when we look at those circuits
in the non-meditating controls,
522
00:43:57,220 --> 00:44:01,300
the moment we present the
high-pitched tone - "beep" -
523
00:44:01,300 --> 00:44:06,300
their brain responds as if it
received the actual pain.
524
00:44:07,420 --> 00:44:11,100
So, nothing's happened other
than they got a tone,
525
00:44:11,100 --> 00:44:14,420
but their brains are responding
as if they got the heat.
526
00:44:15,740 --> 00:44:18,580
When you do that
with the meditators,
527
00:44:18,580 --> 00:44:20,540
they receive the tone - "beep!"...
528
00:44:21,820 --> 00:44:23,380
Nothing happens.
529
00:44:23,380 --> 00:44:28,260
There's absolutely no significant
change in the pain matrix.
530
00:44:28,260 --> 00:44:29,700
They're flat.
531
00:44:29,700 --> 00:44:34,060
Then, when the actual heat
comes on, both groups respond.
532
00:44:34,060 --> 00:44:36,260
But then as soon
as the pain goes off,
533
00:44:36,260 --> 00:44:39,700
the meditators come right
back down to baseline,
534
00:44:39,700 --> 00:44:42,020
whereas the controls persist -
535
00:44:42,020 --> 00:44:44,940
their pain circuits
are still reverberating.
536
00:44:44,940 --> 00:44:49,420
It's as if they can't shut them off.
They're ruminating about the pain.
537
00:44:49,420 --> 00:44:53,060
The conclusion that our work
has led us to -
538
00:44:53,060 --> 00:44:56,980
very simply, but we think
it's a very radical conclusion -
539
00:44:56,980 --> 00:45:00,140
and that is that wellbeing
is a skill.
540
00:45:00,140 --> 00:45:03,220
Wellbeing can actually be learned,
541
00:45:03,220 --> 00:45:07,140
it can be nurtured, and it's a skill
that can enable us to live
542
00:45:07,140 --> 00:45:08,420
a happier life.
543
00:45:08,420 --> 00:45:12,140
When human beings first evolved
on this planet,
544
00:45:12,140 --> 00:45:14,740
none of us were brushing our teeth.
545
00:45:14,740 --> 00:45:18,460
This is a learned behaviour,
it's not part of our genome.
546
00:45:18,460 --> 00:45:21,420
And if we spent even the short
amount of time
547
00:45:21,420 --> 00:45:24,660
that we spend every
day brushing our teeth
548
00:45:24,660 --> 00:45:29,380
nurturing our mind, this world
would be a very different place.
549
00:45:47,260 --> 00:45:50,220
His Holiness and my dad are both
people who have
550
00:45:50,220 --> 00:45:54,980
very strong disciplines of prayer
and quiet time.
551
00:45:57,460 --> 00:46:01,180
When I went to seminary
and was ordained,
552
00:46:01,180 --> 00:46:07,500
I had the experience of learning
my dad's language
553
00:46:07,500 --> 00:46:10,260
in a way that allowed me to have
554
00:46:10,260 --> 00:46:14,020
a different quality
of conversation with him.
555
00:46:14,020 --> 00:46:17,420
The most important lesson that
I have taken
556
00:46:17,420 --> 00:46:22,020
is taking time for prayer,
and taking time for quiet.
557
00:46:22,020 --> 00:46:26,260
For him, that's the first priority,
and everything else flows from that.
558
00:46:39,420 --> 00:46:46,220
It's incredibly rare for anyone to
be able to go to the inner sanctum
559
00:46:46,220 --> 00:46:49,900
of the Dalai Lama's meditation room.
560
00:46:53,660 --> 00:46:56,260
It's this very private room
561
00:46:56,260 --> 00:46:59,100
where His Holiness
spends most of his time,
562
00:46:59,100 --> 00:47:00,540
where all of his texts are.
563
00:47:04,460 --> 00:47:06,940
And the seat is facing the altar,
564
00:47:06,940 --> 00:47:12,460
which contains a Kyirong Jowo -
the most sacred icon
565
00:47:12,460 --> 00:47:14,820
in the entire
Tibetan Buddhist world.
566
00:47:22,220 --> 00:47:25,500
The Dalai Lama is going to share one
of his meditations with us
567
00:47:25,500 --> 00:47:26,660
and he's like,
568
00:47:26,660 --> 00:47:29,860
"OK, so every morning I start
off with a death meditation."
569
00:47:40,740 --> 00:47:45,500
You know, and I think about how my
body and my identity will dissolve.
570
00:48:04,820 --> 00:48:07,420
We then had a Eucharist service.
571
00:48:09,900 --> 00:48:15,140
The Eucharist is a prayer of
thanksgiving for the life of Christ
572
00:48:15,140 --> 00:48:17,620
and for Christ's life in us.
573
00:48:17,620 --> 00:48:20,660
Blessed be God - Father,
Son and Holy Spirit.
574
00:48:20,660 --> 00:48:25,500
We share in the body and
blood of Christ,
575
00:48:25,500 --> 00:48:31,860
and so typically,
we have bread and wine.
576
00:48:43,180 --> 00:48:45,420
My father whispered in my ear,
577
00:48:45,420 --> 00:48:49,660
"Do I offer him the Eucharist?
Do I NOT offer him the Eucharist?"
578
00:48:49,660 --> 00:48:53,340
Serving communion to non-Christians
is controversial for some people.
579
00:48:54,940 --> 00:48:58,860
I think where my father has landed
580
00:48:58,860 --> 00:49:01,980
is that it's God's table,
it's not his table,
581
00:49:01,980 --> 00:49:05,700
and so whoever approaches
the table with reverence
582
00:49:05,700 --> 00:49:07,940
comes at God's invitation.
583
00:49:11,540 --> 00:49:14,340
His Holiness fully
participated in this.
584
00:49:14,340 --> 00:49:17,740
It was a very powerful experience
for me personally
585
00:49:17,740 --> 00:49:20,780
because Archbishop
led through the sacrament.
586
00:49:20,780 --> 00:49:25,140
Glory to God in the highest,
and peace to His people on Earth.
587
00:49:53,380 --> 00:49:54,740
Really?
588
00:49:56,860 --> 00:49:59,700
Yes, you are wonderful.
589
00:50:03,620 --> 00:50:05,340
LAUGHTER
590
00:50:07,540 --> 00:50:09,420
You won't keep him humble, though.
591
00:50:12,060 --> 00:50:14,380
I want to jump for a second
next to our next topic,
592
00:50:14,380 --> 00:50:16,820
which is about despair
593
00:50:16,820 --> 00:50:18,540
and hopelessness.
594
00:50:18,540 --> 00:50:20,180
According to the UN,
595
00:50:20,180 --> 00:50:22,620
350 million people in our world
596
00:50:22,620 --> 00:50:24,500
suffer from depression.
597
00:50:24,500 --> 00:50:27,020
They no longer have hope.
598
00:50:27,020 --> 00:50:30,020
What do you say to people
who come to this work
599
00:50:30,020 --> 00:50:34,060
where that sadness has become
despair and hopelessness?
600
00:50:46,300 --> 00:50:53,420
Yes, but I think he is wanting
to see how do we help people
601
00:50:53,420 --> 00:50:58,740
who really want to be joyful,
602
00:50:58,740 --> 00:51:03,820
but who are holding on
by the skin of their teeth?
603
00:51:03,820 --> 00:51:09,620
For me, when I have
some anguish in my life,
604
00:51:09,620 --> 00:51:14,260
what keeps me going is that
605
00:51:14,260 --> 00:51:17,980
I am a prisoner of hope.
606
00:51:17,980 --> 00:51:23,500
But it's not something that just
comes ready-made from heaven.
607
00:51:23,500 --> 00:51:27,460
We are human beings -
fallible human beings -
608
00:51:27,460 --> 00:51:31,060
and His Holiness points out that,
I mean, now...
609
00:51:31,060 --> 00:51:35,060
I mean, we see him so
610
00:51:35,060 --> 00:51:38,700
serene and calm,
611
00:51:38,700 --> 00:51:43,500
but there was a time when he, too...
612
00:51:43,500 --> 00:51:44,900
GGGGRRRRRRR!!!
613
00:51:44,900 --> 00:51:46,780
LAUGHTER
614
00:51:46,780 --> 00:51:52,020
And His Holiness' serenity
didn't come ready made.
615
00:51:52,020 --> 00:51:57,820
It was through the practice
of prayer, meditation...
616
00:51:59,540 --> 00:52:01,860
..that the gentleness,
617
00:52:01,860 --> 00:52:04,500
the compassion grew.
618
00:52:04,500 --> 00:52:06,820
It's like muscles
619
00:52:06,820 --> 00:52:09,780
that have to be exercised
620
00:52:09,780 --> 00:52:13,900
in order for them
to get their right tone
621
00:52:13,900 --> 00:52:15,860
and to be strengthened.
622
00:52:48,100 --> 00:52:50,220
The Tibetan Children's Village
623
00:52:50,220 --> 00:52:55,860
is where children who have come
as refugees from Tibet
624
00:52:55,860 --> 00:53:01,820
come to live - it's a sort
of an orphanage, really.
625
00:53:01,820 --> 00:53:03,860
It's an orphanage, a school.
626
00:53:07,860 --> 00:53:13,260
One of the things that is happening
in Tibet is the Chinese Government
627
00:53:13,260 --> 00:53:16,620
is really trying to suppress
Tibetan culture.
628
00:53:18,380 --> 00:53:20,220
Because of this,
629
00:53:20,220 --> 00:53:22,860
some parents who are in Tibet
630
00:53:22,860 --> 00:53:25,100
will send their children
631
00:53:25,100 --> 00:53:27,780
to the Tibetan Children's Village.
632
00:53:31,940 --> 00:53:34,500
I was originally sent to
the Tibetan Children's Village
633
00:53:34,500 --> 00:53:36,460
when I was four years old.
634
00:53:39,220 --> 00:53:42,780
My first memory of meeting
with the Dalai Lama is probably
635
00:53:42,780 --> 00:53:45,340
when I was about seven
years old, six years old.
636
00:53:45,340 --> 00:53:49,020
This was at the Tibetan Children's
Village in Shimla, northern India,
637
00:53:49,020 --> 00:53:52,380
and the entire school community
was busy preparing,
638
00:53:52,380 --> 00:53:54,980
you know, cleaning the roads and,
you know,
639
00:53:54,980 --> 00:53:58,740
drawing patterns on the ground
in the traditional Tibetan style.
640
00:53:58,740 --> 00:54:02,300
And it turned out that I was one of
the two children
641
00:54:02,300 --> 00:54:07,820
who was appointed to, you know,
walk beside him, holding his hand.
642
00:54:07,820 --> 00:54:10,220
One of the questions
I asked him was, you know,
643
00:54:10,220 --> 00:54:11,860
whether I can become a monk -
644
00:54:11,860 --> 00:54:14,100
so I don't know, there seemed
to have been some karma.
645
00:54:27,100 --> 00:54:29,980
First of all, I would
like to say tashi delek.
646
00:54:29,980 --> 00:54:31,380
My name is Tenzin Tsering.
647
00:54:31,380 --> 00:54:35,340
Now I'm going to share
how I escaped from Tibet.
648
00:54:35,340 --> 00:54:37,460
I'm Tenzin Dolma of Class 12.
649
00:54:37,460 --> 00:54:41,740
I was born in a small village called
Kanze, in Kham province, in Tibet.
650
00:54:41,740 --> 00:54:47,900
I came from Tibet when I was
five years old, in 2002.
651
00:54:47,900 --> 00:54:50,380
It was a great loss for me,
not being with my family,
652
00:54:50,380 --> 00:54:52,140
especially my mother.
653
00:54:52,140 --> 00:54:54,540
My journey is very difficult
654
00:54:54,540 --> 00:54:58,780
because we crossed Mount Kailash
and many rivers.
655
00:54:58,780 --> 00:55:01,100
We had to hide
from the Chinese police,
656
00:55:01,100 --> 00:55:04,100
so my grandmother hid me
among the luggage,
657
00:55:04,100 --> 00:55:06,100
or under the seat of the bus.
658
00:55:09,820 --> 00:55:13,340
I was only five and I had to leave
my family behind.
659
00:55:13,340 --> 00:55:16,420
the pain I went through,
leaving my family...
660
00:55:18,980 --> 00:55:20,980
SHE WEEPS
661
00:55:27,460 --> 00:55:28,620
Sorry.
662
00:55:32,340 --> 00:55:36,980
That was really an aching moment,
663
00:55:36,980 --> 00:55:39,180
an aching encounter.
664
00:56:07,100 --> 00:56:12,900
And His Holiness always is aware
that there is a kind of a...
665
00:56:12,900 --> 00:56:16,980
..expectation on his part
to be the rock,
666
00:56:16,980 --> 00:56:19,460
to be the anchor,
667
00:56:19,460 --> 00:56:22,660
you know, for every Tibetan.
668
00:56:22,660 --> 00:56:25,060
So I think that has
always sort of...
669
00:56:25,060 --> 00:56:27,700
On his part, it was more of a...
670
00:56:27,700 --> 00:56:31,380
Not so much giving comfort,
per se, but giving courage.
671
00:56:31,380 --> 00:56:34,660
Whereas Archbishop's immediate
response was to give comfort.
672
00:56:40,220 --> 00:56:44,220
Feelings - we have no control
over our feelings.
673
00:56:44,220 --> 00:56:48,500
Well, it is painful -
it IS painful - you know?
674
00:56:48,500 --> 00:56:52,500
And you have to acknowledge
that it is painful.
675
00:57:33,940 --> 00:57:40,180
Yes. But I think we ought not
to make people feel guilty.
676
00:57:41,820 --> 00:57:46,460
Emotions are spontaneous
things that arise.
677
00:58:08,500 --> 00:58:13,700
The Dalai Lama was saying, if
we do our spiritual practices,
678
00:58:13,700 --> 00:58:16,380
if we take the time to cultivate
ourselves,
679
00:58:16,380 --> 00:58:17,860
we can prevent ourselves
680
00:58:17,860 --> 00:58:20,260
from falling into fear,
anger and sadness.
681
00:58:20,260 --> 00:58:24,700
But, as Arch said, inevitably,
at some points, we are.
682
00:58:24,700 --> 00:58:26,580
Because we're human!
683
00:58:26,580 --> 00:58:28,220
I would say...
684
00:58:30,380 --> 00:58:35,340
..to everyone, you are...
You are made for perfection.
685
00:58:35,340 --> 00:58:37,060
You are made for perfection.
686
00:58:37,060 --> 00:58:38,940
You are not yet perfect.
687
00:58:38,940 --> 00:58:43,060
You are a masterpiece in the making.
688
00:58:55,860 --> 00:59:00,660
The concept that we have in South
Africa, the concept of ubuntu,
689
00:59:00,660 --> 00:59:07,020
where it says a person is a person
through other persons.
690
00:59:08,980 --> 00:59:13,740
I mean, I could not speak
as I'm speaking
691
00:59:13,740 --> 00:59:17,500
without having learnt
it from other human beings.
692
00:59:17,500 --> 00:59:20,260
I could not think as a human being,
693
00:59:20,260 --> 00:59:24,380
except through learning it
from other human beings.
694
00:59:24,380 --> 00:59:29,780
We belong in this delicate network.
695
00:59:29,780 --> 00:59:33,580
You know, I mean, when you think
of Doctors Without Borders -
696
00:59:33,580 --> 00:59:35,020
why do they go there?
697
00:59:35,020 --> 00:59:38,140
I mean, they could stay in France
or wherever
698
00:59:38,140 --> 00:59:40,780
and have a wonderful practice.
699
00:59:40,780 --> 00:59:42,500
But they don't!
700
00:59:42,500 --> 00:59:47,260
They go off to some of
the most poverty-stricken places.
701
00:59:50,900 --> 00:59:54,340
Those doctors and nurses,
702
00:59:54,340 --> 00:59:58,820
people going into a hugely
dangerous situation.
703
01:00:00,340 --> 01:00:03,860
You know, the outpouring of love
704
01:00:03,860 --> 01:00:06,620
and compassion and caring
705
01:00:06,620 --> 01:00:10,780
by people you... I mean, you don't
know them from Adam.
706
01:00:10,780 --> 01:00:14,660
And people just give and give
707
01:00:14,660 --> 01:00:20,140
because that's, see, that's actually
who we really are.
708
01:00:57,700 --> 01:00:59,900
Yes. It's...
709
01:00:59,900 --> 01:01:01,340
It's how we are made.
710
01:01:01,340 --> 01:01:04,820
We're wired to be compassionate.
711
01:01:04,820 --> 01:01:09,820
We're wired to be caring
for the other.
712
01:01:11,220 --> 01:01:14,180
If you live out ubuntu,
713
01:01:14,180 --> 01:01:17,220
ubuntu says,
714
01:01:17,220 --> 01:01:21,660
"We can be human only together."
715
01:01:24,900 --> 01:01:27,900
It's no surprise that when
716
01:01:27,900 --> 01:01:32,380
the essence of their wisdom
is distilled,
717
01:01:32,380 --> 01:01:35,660
the key to joy is to get in touch
718
01:01:35,660 --> 01:01:40,620
with your own natural compassion
and live from there.
719
01:01:40,620 --> 01:01:42,700
Find a way to live from there.
720
01:01:44,700 --> 01:01:46,380
SOBS
721
01:01:50,540 --> 01:01:55,780
At the end of the apartheid era,
many people didn't know
722
01:01:55,780 --> 01:01:58,180
how their loved ones had died,
723
01:01:58,180 --> 01:02:01,220
where their loved ones were buried,
724
01:02:01,220 --> 01:02:05,740
knew nothing of the ends
of their loved ones' lives.
725
01:02:06,900 --> 01:02:10,700
This is an opportunity
726
01:02:10,700 --> 01:02:14,980
to put the past behind you.
727
01:02:14,980 --> 01:02:19,900
The liberation movement wanted
to have Nuremberg-style trials
728
01:02:19,900 --> 01:02:23,860
for those who had been
the perpetrators of the worst
729
01:02:23,860 --> 01:02:28,780
of the human rights violations
under apartheid. The apartheid
730
01:02:28,780 --> 01:02:33,700
government wanted amnesty for all
of those who had been perpetrators.
731
01:02:33,700 --> 01:02:36,540
The Truth and Reconciliation
Commission was something
732
01:02:36,540 --> 01:02:42,140
of a compromise. In exchange for
telling the truth of their actions,
733
01:02:42,140 --> 01:02:46,780
people would be immune from
prosecution.
734
01:02:48,220 --> 01:02:51,580
There's one thing that I will have
to live till the day I die.
735
01:02:51,580 --> 01:02:55,940
It's the corpses that I will
have to drag with me to my grave
736
01:02:55,940 --> 01:02:57,980
of the people whom I've killed.
737
01:02:57,980 --> 01:03:04,420
Forgiveness meant, "I'm wiping
the slate clean so that we can work
738
01:03:04,420 --> 01:03:07,340
"together for a better tomorrow,
739
01:03:07,340 --> 01:03:09,820
"a different narrative of who we are
740
01:03:09,820 --> 01:03:12,500
"as a South African community."
741
01:03:14,580 --> 01:03:18,980
And my father was invited to chair
the commission.
742
01:03:18,980 --> 01:03:22,900
We are charged to unearth
the truth about our dark past.
743
01:03:24,780 --> 01:03:28,100
To lay the ghosts of that past
744
01:03:28,100 --> 01:03:30,860
so that they will not return
to haunt us,
745
01:03:30,860 --> 01:03:33,780
and that we will thereby contribute
746
01:03:33,780 --> 01:03:37,740
to the healing of a traumatised
and wounded people.
747
01:03:38,980 --> 01:03:41,900
When you shot this man,
what did you see?
748
01:03:41,900 --> 01:03:44,740
HE SPEAKS AFRIKAANS
749
01:03:44,740 --> 01:03:48,340
TRANSLATION: I shot him on
the side of his head.
750
01:03:48,340 --> 01:03:51,580
Captain Ryan Bellingham
was accompanied by this colleague,
751
01:03:51,580 --> 01:03:55,140
Constable Thapelo Mbelo.
752
01:03:55,140 --> 01:03:59,540
TRANSLATION: A man approached
us raising his arms.
753
01:03:59,540 --> 01:04:03,860
One sergeant from the right unit -
he was a white sergeant -
754
01:04:03,860 --> 01:04:08,300
said I should shoot this man.
755
01:04:08,300 --> 01:04:11,340
I shot him whilst he was lying
on his back.
756
01:04:11,340 --> 01:04:15,820
We had mothers of some young
people who were killed.
757
01:04:15,820 --> 01:04:19,420
One man who betrayed these
young people
758
01:04:19,420 --> 01:04:22,180
appeared in front of these mothers
759
01:04:22,180 --> 01:04:24,700
and asked for their forgiveness.
760
01:04:26,260 --> 01:04:30,660
And one of the mothers said,
"My child, I forgive you."
761
01:04:33,980 --> 01:04:38,700
There is an incredible kind of
nobility and strength.
762
01:04:38,700 --> 01:04:40,980
We have the potential
763
01:04:40,980 --> 01:04:45,540
to be instruments of incredible
764
01:04:45,540 --> 01:04:48,300
compassion and forgiveness.
765
01:05:25,340 --> 01:05:27,820
THEY LAUGH
766
01:05:27,820 --> 01:05:29,460
Absolutely, yes.
767
01:05:29,460 --> 01:05:31,980
I was just going to say
768
01:05:31,980 --> 01:05:35,980
those who say forgiving
is a sign of weakness
769
01:05:35,980 --> 01:05:37,500
haven't tried it.
770
01:05:39,060 --> 01:05:42,780
But often the people that
we have the hardest time forgiving
771
01:05:42,780 --> 01:05:45,700
are the people who are closest
to us. Yes, yes.
772
01:05:48,220 --> 01:05:52,140
My father's father
was the headmaster of the school
773
01:05:52,140 --> 01:05:54,260
across the street from their home.
774
01:05:55,380 --> 01:05:59,380
My grandfather was
wonderful, fun, bright
775
01:05:59,380 --> 01:06:02,220
and all of those positive
attributes.
776
01:06:02,220 --> 01:06:06,660
But when he got drunk,
he became violent and abusive.
777
01:06:08,500 --> 01:06:12,780
My mother, she was just such
a very gentle person.
778
01:06:14,940 --> 01:06:16,820
An incredible human being.
779
01:06:19,580 --> 01:06:22,260
And that just made it,
I think, worse.
780
01:06:24,420 --> 01:06:27,780
I used to get so, so angry.
781
01:06:27,780 --> 01:06:30,540
If I'd been bigger,
782
01:06:30,540 --> 01:06:32,580
I would wallop him.
783
01:06:32,580 --> 01:06:34,900
SHOUTING
784
01:06:34,900 --> 01:06:37,420
I was very angry with myself
785
01:06:37,420 --> 01:06:41,820
for being too small to intervene
786
01:06:41,820 --> 01:06:44,620
when she was being roughed up.
787
01:06:52,180 --> 01:06:55,140
If he were here, looking at you,
788
01:06:55,140 --> 01:06:57,620
what would you say to him?
789
01:07:01,180 --> 01:07:03,220
I would certainly tell him
790
01:07:03,220 --> 01:07:06,740
I was deeply hurt
791
01:07:06,740 --> 01:07:09,180
by how he treated my mother.
792
01:07:11,460 --> 01:07:14,980
One great regret I have is when my
793
01:07:14,980 --> 01:07:18,940
father said he wanted to talk to me,
794
01:07:18,940 --> 01:07:22,740
there was something he wanted
to tell me, and, um...
795
01:07:25,100 --> 01:07:28,500
..I was too tired and I said,
"No, well, we'll talk.
796
01:07:28,500 --> 01:07:31,060
"Can we talk tomorrow?"
797
01:07:32,580 --> 01:07:35,740
It sometimes happens only in novels.
798
01:07:35,740 --> 01:07:37,060
CHUCKLES
799
01:07:38,500 --> 01:07:41,940
We were awakened early
in the morning...
800
01:07:44,980 --> 01:07:50,380
..by someone telling us that my
father died the previous evening,
801
01:07:50,380 --> 01:07:55,540
and so I've never known
what it was he wanted to tell me.
802
01:07:55,540 --> 01:07:59,420
I hope it was that maybe he
803
01:07:59,420 --> 01:08:04,980
had a premonition of his death
804
01:08:04,980 --> 01:08:09,540
and wanted to say
805
01:08:09,540 --> 01:08:13,420
how sorry he was for the treatment
806
01:08:13,420 --> 01:08:16,020
that he had meted out to my mother.
807
01:08:19,820 --> 01:08:22,220
And so I...
808
01:08:22,220 --> 01:08:26,780
Yes, I regret that and, um...
809
01:08:30,700 --> 01:08:35,540
It is...it is a burden on my heart
and my spirit,
810
01:08:35,540 --> 01:08:40,620
and I can only hope that, uh...
811
01:08:40,620 --> 01:08:44,060
..he...he will have forgiven me.
812
01:09:02,460 --> 01:09:04,900
CHILDREN SING
813
01:09:07,540 --> 01:09:12,300
We went to the Tibetan Children's
Village for the birthday party.
814
01:09:17,460 --> 01:09:20,860
We wanted to throw a little surprise
party for the Dalai Lama.
815
01:09:20,860 --> 01:09:23,140
Ended up having 2,500 people.
816
01:09:32,660 --> 01:09:36,300
As we arrived, of course,
there were literally
817
01:09:36,300 --> 01:09:41,580
over 1,000 students, all wearing
their Tibetan school uniforms.
818
01:09:41,580 --> 01:09:46,780
I just remember being struck
by the quality of attention
819
01:09:46,780 --> 01:09:48,700
that the children gave.
820
01:09:52,780 --> 01:09:56,380
We are now going to have a brief
question-and-answer session.
821
01:09:58,780 --> 01:10:02,180
Your Holiness,
can joy be the ultimate means
822
01:10:02,180 --> 01:10:04,300
for world peace? Thank you.
823
01:11:05,620 --> 01:11:10,500
Reverend Tutu, how can we achieve
true joy and happiness?
824
01:11:10,500 --> 01:11:16,540
Joy is the reward really
825
01:11:16,540 --> 01:11:21,580
of seeking to give joy to others.
826
01:11:21,580 --> 01:11:28,580
When you are caring, compassionate,
827
01:11:28,580 --> 01:11:33,460
more concerned about the welfare
828
01:11:33,460 --> 01:11:36,780
of others than of your own,
829
01:11:36,780 --> 01:11:40,380
you suddenly feel a warm glow
830
01:11:40,380 --> 01:11:45,420
in your heart because you have,
831
01:11:45,420 --> 01:11:48,740
in fact, wiped the tears
832
01:11:48,740 --> 01:11:52,220
from the eyes of another.
833
01:11:52,220 --> 01:11:53,620
Thank you.
834
01:11:53,620 --> 01:11:56,180
APPLAUSE
835
01:11:57,260 --> 01:12:00,060
MUSIC PLAYS
836
01:12:00,060 --> 01:12:03,180
# We are the world
837
01:12:03,180 --> 01:12:06,700
# We are the children
838
01:12:06,700 --> 01:12:09,740
# We are the ones who make a
brighter day
839
01:12:09,740 --> 01:12:11,500
# So let's start giving
840
01:12:11,500 --> 01:12:15,580
Arch is dancing with this
fantastic sway,
841
01:12:15,580 --> 01:12:18,100
and he's so cool and, you know,
842
01:12:18,100 --> 01:12:21,980
the Dalai Lama is standing there
kind of nervous.
843
01:12:21,980 --> 01:12:25,100
# We are the world...
844
01:12:25,100 --> 01:12:28,940
Now, to be frank, monastics members
are not supposed to dance.
845
01:12:28,940 --> 01:12:32,780
It's actually one of the precepts!
LAUGHS
846
01:12:32,780 --> 01:12:34,580
No singing and no dancing.
847
01:12:34,580 --> 01:12:37,780
# There's a choice we're making
848
01:12:37,780 --> 01:12:41,260
# We're saving our own lives
849
01:12:41,260 --> 01:12:45,420
# It's true we'll make a better day,
just you and me
850
01:12:45,420 --> 01:12:48,820
He was able to persuade His Holiness
to stand up
851
01:12:48,820 --> 01:12:52,220
and at least do some moves!
LAUGHS
852
01:12:53,700 --> 01:13:03,860
# It's true we'll make a better day,
just you and me
853
01:13:05,620 --> 01:13:11,020
# It's true we'll make a better day,
just you and me
854
01:13:12,460 --> 01:13:17,540
# It's true we'll make a better day,
just you and me. #
855
01:13:17,540 --> 01:13:20,340
CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
856
01:13:23,980 --> 01:13:30,060
The whole week went from being about
gathering wisdom to just getting
857
01:13:30,060 --> 01:13:34,220
to witness them enjoy each other
and crack a lot of jokes.
858
01:13:34,220 --> 01:13:35,820
Wait, wait, wait...
859
01:13:35,820 --> 01:13:39,260
# Happy birthday to you
860
01:13:39,260 --> 01:13:43,780
# Happy birthday to you. #
861
01:13:43,780 --> 01:13:46,820
CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
862
01:13:48,580 --> 01:13:50,620
CHEERING
863
01:13:52,580 --> 01:13:54,100
LAUGHTER
864
01:13:57,460 --> 01:13:59,820
CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
865
01:14:03,060 --> 01:14:06,180
I think my last question for you
both is... Yay!
866
01:14:06,180 --> 01:14:07,580
HE LAUGHS
867
01:14:09,500 --> 01:14:12,820
..I think you might be excited, but
everybody else is sorry
868
01:14:12,820 --> 01:14:16,660
to see this incredible
conversation come to a close.
869
01:14:16,660 --> 01:14:20,340
The last question is about the joy
in your friendship,
870
01:14:20,340 --> 01:14:24,100
and I'm wondering what is it about
your friendship with each other
871
01:14:24,100 --> 01:14:28,540
that allows you to have this kind
of extraordinary joy?
872
01:14:31,380 --> 01:14:33,140
He's always troubling me.
873
01:14:33,140 --> 01:14:35,540
LAUGHTER
874
01:14:36,980 --> 01:14:38,740
I admire him enormously.
875
01:14:39,860 --> 01:14:41,940
Oh, oh, he's going to get proud!
876
01:14:41,940 --> 01:14:45,020
LAUGHTER
877
01:14:48,300 --> 01:14:52,260
I'm just saying he is there for us
878
01:14:52,260 --> 01:14:56,420
as a beacon, and maybe
879
01:14:56,420 --> 01:14:59,900
the Chinese, without intending it,
880
01:14:59,900 --> 01:15:04,580
have given the world
a wonderful gift.
881
01:15:08,820 --> 01:15:11,180
Pay me, pay me, pay me!
882
01:15:11,180 --> 01:15:13,060
LAUGHTER
883
01:15:23,860 --> 01:15:25,260
Yes.
884
01:16:09,940 --> 01:16:11,620
You are mischievous!
885
01:16:11,620 --> 01:16:13,060
THEY LAUGH
886
01:16:25,780 --> 01:16:27,420
Yes, mm.
887
01:16:32,900 --> 01:16:35,180
LAUGHTER
888
01:16:35,180 --> 01:16:36,940
HE CHUCKLES
889
01:16:47,820 --> 01:16:49,220
Thank you.
890
01:17:40,100 --> 01:17:45,460
Our best friendships are friendships
that are really based
891
01:17:45,460 --> 01:17:48,660
in profound respect for one another.
892
01:17:48,660 --> 01:17:54,940
It grows us in ways that we don't
necessarily choose to grow.
893
01:17:58,620 --> 01:18:01,060
At the fundamental level,
894
01:18:01,060 --> 01:18:04,420
every single human
being is exactly the same.
895
01:18:04,420 --> 01:18:09,300
Vulnerable to pain, fear,
unhappiness
896
01:18:09,300 --> 01:18:13,100
and aspiring to be happy,
to seek connection,
897
01:18:13,100 --> 01:18:16,420
to find meaning, to find love.
There is no difference.
898
01:18:16,420 --> 01:18:18,580
It doesn't really matter
where you come from.
899
01:18:18,580 --> 01:18:21,420
That is the fundamental
human condition,
900
01:18:21,420 --> 01:18:25,980
and compassion speaks
to that reality of who we are.
901
01:18:30,340 --> 01:18:36,900
I think there's nothing
more profound than recognising
902
01:18:36,900 --> 01:18:40,300
the joy that is at the heart
of our shared humanity.
903
01:18:44,060 --> 01:18:48,820
And that all the fear and the anger
and the sadness that consumes
904
01:18:48,820 --> 01:18:53,260
so much of our life is actually
to get us back to that joy,
905
01:18:53,260 --> 01:18:55,460
to get us back to one another.
906
01:18:57,540 --> 01:19:01,500
And I think the Dalai Lama and
Desmond Tutu's message
907
01:19:01,500 --> 01:19:04,980
is that we can reconnect
to our humanity
908
01:19:04,980 --> 01:19:06,900
and to one another's humanity.
909
01:19:06,900 --> 01:19:09,700
And that is where we find joy
and happiness
910
01:19:09,700 --> 01:19:12,100
that we can access at any time.
911
01:19:27,260 --> 01:19:28,980
LAUGHTER
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