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All right welcome to the first lesson so

We're going to be working with the breath this is really

The foundation of sexual Kung Fu practices

It's important to understand that your body and your physical state

Your mental state your emotional state

And your breath are all intertwined

When you are physically tense

You know when you're when you're tense and your body

Your breath becomes tense it becomes shallow your mind becomes tense it becomes agitated right

Just as if you're mine becomes agitated by something you know maybe something triggers you

It starts to cause tension in your body physical agitation your breath changes right so these things are all

So the easiest way to shift your mental state to shift your physical state your emotional state is to work with

Of the breath

This is also one of the easiest ways to

Stay in

Parasympathetic State and avoid ejaculation control is working with the breath what's happening during sex is there's all this

Stimulation is all this excitement

You're focusing on your partner you're looking at them

Where your awareness is that's where your energy flows did she goes or where the Mind goes that she flow so

So when you're you know all the stimulation like damn look at their body I'm having sex with them you know we're getting it on but it's like oh this is arousing

Signing up oh you know

It's

Andover stimulate you

So one of the keys to ejaculation control

Is being able to keep your awareness within your body

Stay centered during all this

You know excitement and the arousal stay centered so that you don't overheat

And ejaculates you don't you know short circuit right

So keep me awareness within your body helps you to

Keep your energy within your body contained so it doesn't explode out of you in an ejaculation right

And working with the breath is one of the most simple ways

To do this okay

So right now just notice how are you breathing

What's your breath like right now just kind of check in

The shallow is a deep

Where does it feel like it's centered from what part of your body is moving when you breathe just notice that

So now put your hands on your chest you know

Who decides your chest here and breathe into your chest

Notice how that feels breathing into the chest

Do you feel calm when you do that do you feel relaxed and grounded or do you feel like kind of uptight do you feel like you're kind of lifting

Up

Chest breathing

Is

Often a sign of stress

Sign of tension

It lifts you out of your center right

And activates the sympathetic nervous system most people are stuck in Shallow chest breathing because their breasts unconscious

And because they have a lot of tension lot of

Emotional triggers

Place your hands on your belly

Just blow your navel just blow the belly button

Put your hands here and try to breathe into your hands and expand the belly

Axle and relax

Pulling the belly back in and

Expanding

Doing a few times

It may be weird if you've never breathe like this before

Let me take some work

So how did that feel

Typically breathing from the belly from the abdomen

It's very calming

It's very grounding you feel like you're it's like you it settles you down into your body right

It helps you to stay in that parasympathetic State the deep belly breathing and massages the internal organs

It

Basically

Balances at your nervous system

So this is going to be

The foundational key

In ejaculation control training

You're going to train this everyday

As much as you can

As often as you can I should say

Minimum of 5 minutes a day I want you to set some time maybe first thing in the morning maybe before you

You go to sleep there's going to be a very great calming practice in the evening

Or anytime during the day you be doing this when you're commuting to work whatever right

Anytime you have 5 minutes to be completely focused

You're just going to belly breathe so you place your hands on your belly

Cuz your eyes and just

See how slow you can make the inhale see how deep you can make it

Excel feel like you're releasing all attention as you exhale

It's your inhaling and exhaling

Do that for 5 minutes even 10 minutes 10 minutes is even better but at least

5 minutes

And there's another thing we can do

We're going to add in a bit more this is optional

But it can be very effective as well to increase the mental training

A large part of ejaculation control is being able to focus your mind again during sex is all the stimulation when you get

Solely focused on the stimulation

It makes your arousal grow out of control pulls your energy out of your body so you need to be in control of your mind

You must have a Jedi Mind during sex

All right to be sexual Kung Fu Master

We're going to count as we breathe cuz you may notice when you sit there and you do this breathing your mind starts to wander before you know what you're thinking about

You know your ex-girlfriend I text her

What am I having for dinner tonight your mind just goes all over the place right

When you count

Your breath it gives your mind something to focus on and you know when your mind is wandering because you

You've Lost Your count

So it's a very effective mental training that will carry right over into

The bedroom

So same thing

Same breathing but now you're going to count so each inhalen exhale each breath cycle

That's one

So you inhale you Excel

You count

And Helen Excel you count two

Hold that number in your mind

As you're breathing feeling the belly expanding and Contracting

You go to the next number you're going to count to 10

See if you can count to 10 without losing count if you lose count you know that you're mind wandered you start back over at 1:00

Do this for 5 minutes

I just keep you know when you get to 10 start back over at 1:00

You give me try counting to you know 20 30 100 whatever but the idea is that you're counting from 1 to 10

Keep keeping count of your breath

Breathing deeply do this for 5-10 minutes

You

It will really calm your nervous system and really develop your mental control

This is a very effective sort of meditative practice

So how does this carry over to sex so first of all you know do that maybe

You know have a couple of sessions just doing that just meditating on the breath

Not counting right just doing the breath

Once you feel confident with that now we integrate it into sexual practice

With all these techniques I highly recommend you practice them by yourself

Because it's difficult to shift your sexual patterns in the context of

Having sex with a partner you know there's a there's

It was excitement things are getting out of control and it's like

You know you're enjoying sex and you're like ooh this feels good like oh yeah this technique I think I need to breathe and oh oh that feels good you know it's just

It's just too much in the beginning so it's really

Effective to train by yourself of self-stimulation masturbation whatever

The way you do this with this breath is

Stimulate yourself

And focus primarily on

The brat

I don't recommend using pornography I don't recommend using external stimulation because you need to learn internal control and these things will

Pull your awareness out

P*** is over stimulating

So

You're stimulating yourself

Focusing primarily on keeping this breathing going if you lose the breathing

Come back to it

You noticed that you're going back into your old habit so you focus primarily on the breath

Being mindful of your arousal level as well just notice what's happening to my arousal level you know we say between 1 and 10

Nintendo be an ejaculation

Where you hit the point of ejaculation

Try not to let yourself go over about

Seven or eight for the first 5 to 10 minutes

So if you do get over stimulated you get up to you know nine just

Lego stimulation and keep the Deep

Breathing

And again

You'll notice that as your arousal increases

There's a tendency to want to kind of rush you want to

Forget about the breath you want to kind of you start to tense up your body like oh the pleasure you know you start becoming completely focused on that

Release that

Focus on the breath say I'm going to spend

10 to 15 minutes

Just focusing on the breath you know going stimulating a bit slower than you normally would probably so you keep it more meditative

This will enhance the pleasure you're able to feel and it will help you to hold more of a sexual

Charge in your body without a jacket because again

What happens is during sex

Dream masturbation arousal's building up

Precious building up has to be released

Because you often tense up in response to that

When you're breathing deeply you're creating more space in the body so you can hold a greater charge you can hold more pleasure you start to get full

Full body pleasure you start to feel in your belly

Everywhere and you can hold more without ejaculating

So that's the premise of this exercise so against to sum it up

You're stimulating yourself

You're focusing primarily on keeping that deep breath going if you if

Really having a hard time keeping your arousal in control you can add in accounting so that will give you something to focus on

Other than you know the the pleasure in the building arousal that's pushing over the edge right

That's your practice

I recommend spending the least 10 to 15 minutes doing this without ejaculating right because you need to build your

Insurance when you can go 10 to 15 minutes

Deep belly breathing consistent stimulation without

Really going over the edge then

You know that you can do this during sex so boost your confidence

And that's the practice right

And just just you know how do you finish this if you're practicing semen retention if you're not ejaculating then

Stop the stimulation and just do the deep belly breathing until

Your arousal subsides until your ex goes away you can also take a cold shower or something like that

That's your practice now how now you want to again practice this by yourself to get competent with with it

So you can start

Noticing that wow okay my arousal is much more under control I can go longer without going over the edge

Also very important to keep your pelvic floor relaxed as you're doing this we'll get more into that in the next video but

You don't want to be squeezing your pelvic floor that will push you over the edge

Integrate this with the partner it's the same thing when you're having sex you're Focus primarily on keeping this deep

Rhythmic breeding going

Cuz you're thrusting whatever your deep breathing and you might want to amp up your breath a bit you know breathing really deeply you can try this during

Stimulation swelling

But that deep fluid breath keeps your energy moving keeps you from going over

The Edge so that's your first practice again

Work with it consistently do it everyday

And you will make

Really great practice progress so have fun with that