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Hello.
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I'm Alan Strauss.
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Dr. Strauss.
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- Y-You're...?
- Candace.
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Sorry.
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I'm Sam's mother.
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Oh.
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Is this... your house?
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Sam moved back in with me
when he split up with Mary.
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- Ah, I see.
- Did he...
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You know about Mary, don't you?
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I'm sorry, I can't
really discuss that.
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Of course. Yes.
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So, you know who I am?
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Of course I do.
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I loved your book.
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When his father left,
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I started reading
all these books.
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You know, self-help.
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The Cactus and the Mirage
was one of my favorites.
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I had Sam read it, too,
but it didn't really help him,
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so I...
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told him he should try
real therapy.
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This isn't trying real therapy.
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Of course.
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I know how terrible this is.
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Believe me, I know.
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Unlock me.
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I don't have a key.
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Well...
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call the police.
Then we can help Sam.
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Please understand.
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I don't support him
in this at all.
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I'm not... like him.
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But I can't turn in my own son.
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You're his mother.
Can't you tell him to stop this?
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He's trying to stop.
I know it's-it's...
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Candace, please.
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I have kids.
A son and a daughter.
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They need me,
just like he needs you.
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I know this isn't right.
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But you have to help him.
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He's my baby.
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You ever had pho?
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- Yes.
- Not like this, you haven't.
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I'm gonna get bowls.
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Sam, hold on a second.
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When you were gone,
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I heard someone
moving around upstairs,
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and I called up to them
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and asked them to come down.
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Did they come down?
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- So you met my mother.
- Yes.
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I was a little surprised.
Y-You said she was dead.
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Yeah, my parents aren't dead.
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I-I lied about that, too.
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Sorry.
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One of the reasons
that I didn't want
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to go into therapy
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was because I know it's all
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"mothers, mothers, mothers."
My mother is not my problem.
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Let me get the bowls.
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I'm going to
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need you to take off this chain.
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There's no way to do
this work effectively
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with the therapist tied up.
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The chain's on your leg,
not on your mouth.
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Sam, I present
no physical threat to you.
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You're young and strong,
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and I-I... I sit
in a chair all day.
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What do you imagine
would happen if I attacked you?
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I... I pictured this
with you chained to the floor.
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I understand,
and I am asking you
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to adjust that
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so I can help you
more effectively.
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Sam, there is no way that
this is going to work
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unless you take off this chain.
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She usually doesn't
come down here.
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Before, when we were
in my office...
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you told me that your mother
took care of you
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when your father
was being violent.
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"Mothers, mothers, mothers."
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It's just one part of things,
Sam, but we can't ignore it.
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Your mother told me
that he left.
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Can you tell me about that?
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He left us.
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How old were you?
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Fourteen.
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And what do you remember
about that?
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He left us.
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So, he didn't hit me anymore.
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Did you see him after that?
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This is the house
you grew up in?
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Yup.
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Do you have memories,
um, like...
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Did he hurt you in this room?
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If I was in this room...
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it was in this room.
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And you'd be here and...
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And he'd say something
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that I was supposed to do,
and if I didn't do it
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within one second...
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I didn't know what he meant
sometimes. I... He was...
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I needed time to think,
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but...
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Like, one time,
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he got a whole load of grout
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for the kitchen
and the bathroom, and...
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he got a deal, right,
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so he ordered a ton of it,
and it came in these boxes.
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And he was yelling at me,
"Break 'em down."
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Screaming. "Break 'em down."
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I didn't know what he meant
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because I'd never
heard that before
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'cause he... he wasn't
pointing at the boxes.
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Then he just,
he just went at me,
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like he did.
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You said your mom got it, too.
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She's a good mother.
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She made me sandwiches
every day.
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She did the laundry.
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It's a terrible situation
for a mother and a son.
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- Everyone, please.
- Everyone, please.
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People!
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People. People!
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I have something to say.
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People, people.
I have something to say.
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I understand that
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the mother of the chat an
has some
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words she'd like to share
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with the new couple.
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We don't have women sing.
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Rabbi, it's my son's wedding.
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Hi. I'm Ezra's mom.
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Where are you going?
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I'm also the cantor
at Temple Sinai.
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Talk to me, Sam.
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I know you're struggling
with your feelings
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about the manager
at the restaurant.
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Is there anything else
you can tell me about it?
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Uh...
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You should help me.
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Hmm...
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I have a thought for us.
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- Mm-hmm.
- You know,
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your mother
is an impressive woman,
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and she would clearly
do anything
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to help you feel better,
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help you live the life
that you want to live,
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and I think that
she can help us now.
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We are all part
of family systems.
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You, me, everyone.
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Changes to those systems
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can have a profound effect
on us,
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even at your age.
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And I was thinking
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that it might be beneficial
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if we were to do
some family therapy work
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with you and your mother.
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Mm.
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She's been through enough.
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She doesn't need to be dragged
into what we're doing here.
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I think that's kind of you,
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and I can see why
you'd want to protect her.
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But I don't think you need
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to worry about her feeling
dragged into this.
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I think she might
find it helpful, too.
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Sam.
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You don't have to take
this next step alone.
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There is someone
who wants to be there with you.
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She doesn't want you struggling
with this by yourself.
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He was always
a very physical man,
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and it was always
a very intense relationship.
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- I think Sam and I...
- He was an asshole.
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It's pretty simple.
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He was a terrible father,
and Sam and I...
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Worse than terrible.
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Let's try to slow down
a little bit.
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In this space, let everybody
finish what they're saying.
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When we go more slowly,
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usually, everyone thinks
a little more clearly,
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and sometimes, when we wait,
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people don't say what we think
they are going to.
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Sam and I took refuge
in each other.
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I learned that from one
of the books I read.
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Not yours.
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Hmm.
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That it was a refuge.
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You were in this together.
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Mm-hmm.
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You still are.
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You are bonded to each other.
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It's very moving.
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- Sam.
- Yup.
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You love your mother,
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and I think that can give us
a way to help you.
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I want you to think
in a new way of how
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you can protect your mother.
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As you struggle
with this impulse
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to become violent,
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I want you
to protect your mother
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by not acting on that impulse.
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So that she can be free
from this source of pain.
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So...
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you think to yourself,
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"I will not do this,
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so that I can
protect my mother."
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Will you do that for me, Sam?
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Okay.
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Pastitsio.
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That guy at the...
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This restaurant
where I did the inspection.
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I went back there tonight.
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Mmm.
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I figured I'd be okay,
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maybe,
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you know, with you here.
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I was just looking at him.
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How did that feel?
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I got my food.
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There he was.
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Mm, I sat in my car
across the street,
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and I did the whole thing
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in my head, every second.
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You said with me here.
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Was this a test for yourself?
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Yeah, I guess so.
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Seems like you did well.
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I-I want to show him...
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I-I want to teach him
how to behave
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to other people
in the world. I...
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I still want to do it.
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Okay.
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Mmm. Mmm.
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Thanks.
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Was it like that
with the other ones who you...
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Did they do something
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that made you want
to teach them a lesson?
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Yes.
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They were all... I...
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Every one of them deserved it.
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Candace?
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Candace, we need to talk.
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No. No. No. No.
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Stop.
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