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Today we're going to talk about bonding

For under a ten

You don't have to spend a lot of money

An epic

This is a very important

It's a big part of

You know the idea of cheap dating

It seems like

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But dating is all about impressing a Girl by throwing cash

Situation

Responding

It's not about how much

Spend

It's about demonstrating your intelligence in class

I'm using your brain

That's your biggest advantage

If you spend a little time thinking

You can save yourself massive amounts of money

They get wasted on dating

You know

A lot of people think it's all about the money

But is it really

In my experience in my studies there is zero correlation

Between how much money you spend with a woman

And whether or not you get laid

I spent a year living in London hanging out at the highest

Of high-end clubs

I'm talking about the clubs where the guys

Have a tab of anywhere from 25 to $100,000 in one night

I've seen guys

By women

Of thousands of dollars of overpriced alcohol to impress

And still

Go home alone

I want time was at one of these clubs

Hanging out with a guy

Who had three of his own

Personal

That's real money

That's a level of money that I know in my life I'll never get to I'll never have oil

And most people won't that's billionaire money that's

Crazy crazy money

And this guy

Couldn't get a woman to save his life

Okay

Money didn't make a

Difference the only person impressed by oil tanker special iPhone

That was me

Wait to see where the oil tankers were at any given

Thinking that you need to spend money

More and more money spent on a date the less likely you are to have

A lot of girls when you spend money before they sleep with you think oh

He's taking me out to dinner he's giving me presents by me flowers chocolates jewelry whatever

He's taking me out to nice restaurants taking me out to nice movies

Take about to see if 3D movie or the IMAX or all these things

That are expensive

Without me sleeping with

So why would I sleep with him and change the pattern

So

Your training her

To think oh I get expensive things when I don't sleep with

So you actually rewarding her for

I consider bad behavior or behavior you don't want

So you don't want to be caught

The idea

Then spending more money on dates leads to more success

Is 100% FL

And I'm going to show you some really

Powerful examp

It's important to know

About bonding Secret

These are the four ingredients

Of having a blast and making a powerful

Awful connection

Logistics conversation Intrigue and adventure

Now you don't have to have all four elements on every day

As long as you have

Or three you're going to kill

And that's why I want you to have some really powerful

Let's talk about logistics Logistics is probably my favorite word

Napoleon Bonaparte used to say

That amateur

Talk about strategy and

A professionals talk about log

If you ever heard phrases like

An army marches on its stomach that's about logist

Logistics was everything about World War II I just met this amazing

Biography of patent the one

The whole movie was based on it's a 700 almost 800 page book

And you find out that one of the reasons we didn't win World War II faster

It's because Pat and didn't have enough gasoline for his

That's logist

So in your situation

Logist

How close are you to your house when you're on a date with

Okay Logistics means

If she has a kid so she has to spend the night at her own house every night because she has a babysitter

That's a logistics is

This is the types of things we have to deal with so the main thing I want you to think of

With a

The key to a successful date

Is being as close to your house

As possible

The farther you are away from

Warehouse

The less likely you are to have anything

I have an order to get her back to your house

Okay if you take her on an amazing date

It's like 2 hours away from your house

In a hot air balloon and everything after the date she's just going to go home

It's much better to have a cheap date close to home than expensive date far away

So always think about

Staying as close to your house as

The second most important tool is convers

You want to be in situations where you guys can talk

To each other

It doesn't matter if

If you're not great conversationalist you're not super Charming

You can just let her do all the

But think about dates

We are not allowed to do any talking

Okay or conversation is broken

Expensive dates provide s***** convers

You go to a really expensive French restaurant

The other ones where they got

Cloth napkins

And they got a special

Tableclo

Perfect starch White

Looks like it could be as an operating room

And what happens

Every time you try and talk to her she's really far across

The table so it feels like a job interview

Cuz she's like three or four feet away

And every time you start to kind of have some good conversation

The waiter comes up interrup

I told you before I don't like waiters this is why they break the conversational FL

So we want places where

You can have good conversation and you can have good conversation

In a lot of different places

You go to a movie guess what you barely talk to each other

You talked before and after the movie but

But most of her emotional input

She receives from the movie screen rather than from you

That's why movies are bad dates

So think about

Simple

Like if you go to the park

And you sit on a little

Blanket I just talked for 2 hours or you just listen to her talk about her story

For a woman that's a better date

That's a date more likely to end

Because rather than her measuring how much

What you spent

She measures how much you listen

That's really important

The next thing is intrig

Do you want to get a girl to the bedroom

You need to remember that mystery

Is sexy

Taking her places she doesn't know about

Showing her things that she's never known

We're kind of

Opening up her world

And taking advantage

Missed the more mystery

You got to bring into your

Or bring into your bonding session being in whatever you take your girl out of the house

That's what's really

It's all about being fun

As soon as you remove away

Like the financial equation from dating

Suddenly it's really fun to go

On dates or trips or bonding sessions whatever word you want to use

It's so much better

So just remember Logistics conversation Intrigue and adventure

And don't worry I'm just beginning to break into these I'm going to give you

A lot more detail in

But let me take you through

A couple of real example dates that I've used

To have sex with many many women

When I used to live in Guilford England which is in Surrey and if you live in Guilford right now

You're probably going to steal my day cuz it was so power

It's about Adventure intrig

And logist

Now what I did is a little bit of research about Guilford I said I want to have

Have an awesome date and I want my date

You have good logist

And Guilford

The guy Lewis Carroll who wrote Alice in Wonderland

Lived in

He didn't write Alice in Wonderland why give Guilford but he lived there for about a year working on another book

And so in Guilford there are three hidden statues

Did follow the story of Alice in Wonderland

And most people don't realize that

Okay

If you live in this town I can tell you exactly where the statues are

At the top the statue people f****** never find the most hidden one is the start of the story

Okay

Picture of Al

Going through a giant piece of glass it actually the statue is a little bit creepy cuz

What are the darker parts

Of the sequel

And they have that statue up at the top of hill at the top

Of the High Street hid

In a park even when I had directions it took me a while to find

So I took a girl with me today I want to find the Statue let's find it together

And then we found the second statue halfway down the hill and the third statue

Was actually

It shows the little version of Alice is a little five year old girl chasing a rabbit as it's going towards the rabbit

And so you start off at

At the top of the hill

Or the top of town

And you work your way down

And guess whose house was near the bottom of town mine

So we had like the secret statues which was all about

Adventure and Intrigue we're going to find something and I'm used to take girls who were born

Even girls

Born in Guilford

Did not know there were

They knew they were one or two

They never seen the Looking Glass one is the one that never

So I take them through

And they would have the most amazing wonderful Adventure

So we start at my house and you could just as easily

Okay if you're a complete moron you can do the exact same Venture in the opposite direction

Start the statue closest to my house

And work your way too far away

That's a great adventure

You're working your way uphill with the girl for the entire day instead of downhill so you're getting more tired

And it's a great way to have the date and without you

That's the alternative version so

The exact same date the exact same three statues in the wrong order

It's bad logist

Unless you live at the top of the hill if you live at the top of the hill then do it in that

But I find

That it's really great to start at the top because

That's the hardest to find statue that builds up the entry

Gets her into that treasure hunt

Feeling

That's what kind of story you want and another great thing

Is sometimes on my way to start the statue Adventure

We going to one of the art gall

You know where the paintings are for sale

And we go and look at paintings for 5 or 10 minutes

Kind of get us into a little bit of that mindset

A little bit of the looking art a little bit of the culture minds and a little bit of

Adventure mindset

And then we start doing the statues I wouldn't always tell her that we're going to do a statue hunt

Usually I would say hey

We're going on a

Dress cute but make sure you wear sneakers don't wear heels

That's all the information I'll give her and I'll take her on

Adventure

And it would end at my house

Doing what I love to do the

So Logistics are so important

It's really great to have a date that ends as close to your house as possible

This one ended

About 150 M for my front door

It's hard to get closer

When you're using

You know

Statues and parts of town that are real

So that's really effective so basically we'd be on foot for the whole day it's a three to five minute walk from the end of the day to

Front door and I always use

To get a girl into my house from the end of the day I'd

We have a drink along the way you know bottled water or something like that

And then by then you got to pee I'm like hey I need to pee

What's your bathroom my house is right here

And that's usually a great way to end the date I often use that I need to PD

Close to my house that's my

Simple way of doing it

So let's then look at my London Bond

Concession

This is really built upon a tree conversation

As you can see

Similar end

I'd start out at a high energy bar

There's a bar

Near my house I lived in London East End

And there's a bar in Brick Lane

That really

Great high energy

Okay you had people from all over the road for some reason it's one of the biggest

Bars I can't remember the name I can remember exactly where it is

It's got like a red Bann

And people go to this bar

And from everywhere it's called the big jail there it is and it was in my

From all over the world do you meet people that have just flown to England from Brazil they sell their

And they went to this bar as their first stop while they're waiting for the friend to bring

The keys to the new

You could get a really really good culture on mix it has a great vibe

And has a DJ on with live music all the time

But also you

You can get a glass of

And if you sit down and talk to each other it's not too loud to talk

That's the key to high energy

You want it to be something that creates an environment where you're talking to each other

So even though me and a girl are in a really crowded

Kind of high energy bar with lots of people this is a pretty large bar

We could just sit down at a little table or sit down on a bench

And create our own world

So she doesn't feel like she's alone

It's just her and me

She doesn't have that

That feeling

Of Solitude

She feels like she's in a crowd this provides kind of a feeling of safety for a first date

This is a really great

First state that ends in

Then we go from there to the trendy bar that I've talked about

And my other lessons right around the corner

About 200 M away

Or 200 yards

If your American like me

We'd find a bar called exit unfortunately this bar is gone

I went back to London

Last year

Working on a project

That's coming out very soon another book I'm working on and it turned out my favorite bar EX

It's gone which is

Because this

Was really small and they would always been super cool things I don't remember like 50 people at most in this bar

And only seating like in these cool couches for like 10 or

They used to have like a DJ playing minimalist techno in the back corner

And then they would just play Old Danger Mouse cartoons on a big screen

Like a projector screen not a big screen TV and it was cool

These are the kind of things that are like oh that's so trendy and cool and hip right

And this part is really

Easy to have

Quiet convers

It's never

Super I would never take it when it's super crowded like if you got like 4 a.m. sometimes it's absolutely Ram

But you go on a date

Or on a bonding session at like 7:00 or 8:00 it's not so bad you go there

There's open seating there's like 10 or 15 people there

And you can have a really quiet conversation

And I go in and because I did my strategy to become a local in the bar

The bartender would make me two tequila sunrises

You know one for me and one for the

And I'll just hold up two fingers I wouldn't even say a word to the guy

And I know how much they cost cuz I go through all

So if you're counting this date is more expensive than the last date

I've now bought two glasses of wine at the high energy bar

And

Tunic sunrises at the trend

At the trendy bar I've spent just around a 10

Just around

Maybe it's like

10:50 and I apologize

If it's going over dinner

The state's so

Okay and then so we have really great conversation

We've got some cool adventure because the first bar is so cultural

The second bar has intrigued cuz it's a bar

It's really like a hole in the wall bar that most girls never noticed

You know the sign like exit and it kind of in the middle of nowhere people would often miss

She might have walked by at a hundred times

But soon as we go inside she was wow this bar is super cool

And that's Intrigue showing her something new

Showing her

Her inexper

That's what's so cool

And then I'd say hey let's go to a third bar

And we'd walk and the walk from

The trading part of my house was about 10 minutes

And I'd say oh

The next bar is down the street but I need to use the bathroom

And once we're in my house

I

You know we have an advanced training lesson exactly how to close once you have a girl in your house

But this is the basic idea

How did you buy trendy bar my house

Logistics was the key I always want to end up near my house

Specially when you're in a city

Like New York

Or London where it's really heavy where you're walking or anywhere in Europe you know

Anyway I've been in Europe it's all walking

Like Prague

It was all walking

Same even when I was in Sweden

So

If you can really focus on

Being sure your day kind of ends in a Lo

Back at your house

As much as possible that's logist

If you have an amazing day that ends

30 minute walk from your house you're in trouble

That's a big challenge

You don't want to create that

And even in a town like Tampa

Which doesn't seem

I like would have much going on in fact I lived in St Petersburg which is south of Tampa across from the bridge

I felt like the same city to me because the only break

Can you drive from one side of the Hemet bridge to the other you're still

In a big city but

This was really based on

Logistics conversation and more logist

There's a sushi bar

Near my house I'm 30 minute walk from my house

If you were to make a mistake of walking

I need a girl at the sushi bar for one drink

Sometimes you have sushi if it's not a first date or whatever

If it's not you know if we've kind of been spending time together we're already having and we already have an intimate relationship maybe we'll have a full dinner there

Either way there's a lot of options

Okay because it was it's not super expensive

Hey if you have a full dinner and you order like a lot of sushi you're going to go over 10 bucks

But if you just have one drink each or two drinks

You got to set the tone your summer cool and trendy she hasn't been before

Then right outside

Half a block away

I don't know people never noticed this

There's a park and on the big side of the park

Is all these boats

It's one of the most expensive places to dock your boats in Florida

In fact the waiting list

Is years and years to put your boat in

And I would just take her for a walk to look at all these yachts and when girls look at yacht

They get turned

You don't have to own a yacht you just have to show her one and they kind of

Enjoy the walk it's a little bit romantic

And then we would end up back at my place

For a little bit of the sexy time

Let me know it's a lot of talking a lot of logistics

And a little bit of intrigue

The simple date

Not very complicated

And

I probably

Slept with

I like 30 girls on the state this is the date when I started getting worried

Because I took

Oh God like seven or nine girls in a row to the sushi bar in the course of like 10 days

So I started thinking maybe I'm going here too much

But no one ever said anything which was good because

But I was kind of ready for it after

After about five girls I started getting nervous I'm like am I pushing this too hard

It's only been one day I took a girl who yesterday and sometimes two girls in one day

So this is a really successful date

I can't remember the name of this sushi restaurant

So if you live in St Pete sorry

Right but I'm sure you can figure it out

I'm downtown

Near where all the cool bars are

You're all the action

And the other good thing is that you're always in places where

If you need to

Like very of the date or you kind of need to add on extra activities you can't

The sushi bar is also downstairs of a really happening Club on the 14th floor

So you can say hey

Let's go have

Let me talk about this in a minute

Let's go have a drink upstairs and you can go upstairs

14 floors or something or 28 floors

I can't remember the name of the club is whatever floor it's on

And you can go outside and have a drink and kind of look over this amazing

He kind of have

A modifications available and hey it's right down the street from one of the cool museums

To go on dates

Too as well

So those things are always good to think about

With all of your dates

My Guilford date ended near really cool Pub

So if it wasn't quite ready to transition to my house

I can say hey let's have a drink in this

And again you're really controlling cost

Okay so we're having one drink together and then you make

One of the things that's important to remember about

Good bonding

Is multiple locations is so powerful

If you take a girl

To a 5-hour date to One restaurant

Like a really expensive French restaurant

You spend like 400 bucks or 500 bucks

And I've done that before okay

You only create one memory

But if you take the same girl

To a ten

Bonding s

I go to three different locations or two locations

She's going to remember

And store twice as much or three times as much information

We store memories based on background

That's why even if you work with someone if

If you never see them outside of work

There are two dimensional character you never really think of them as a real person

All the people that I've ever worked with

That I never a socialized with

I don't really remember them very much

Because I only saw them in one location

So even though you spend more time with a guy in the cubicle next to you than anyone else

They're not a solid memory until you see your location

And that's how dating

And bonding

Bonding is about creating

A connection

And just by seeing in multiple locations

You can create that connection

Conversation skills don't have to be that high

You make up for them

By using

Location

So let's dig into the idea of Adventure

Responding

If you get her heart racing you can go straight to the bedroom

One of the great places for this type of bonding is museums

A lot of museums have really cool after dark programs or other cool sexy events

People don't really pay attention but museums are always desperate to make more money

For example the science museum in London once a month

Has a museum after dark event where they sell wine and beer in the museum

And you can see all these exhibits that are special just for adult

No kids allowed in the science museum

And a drink there costs

For a drink for you and a girl way less than a 10 or each have a glass of wine and they have cool things like a silent disco where you wear headphones

And you can only hear music through your headphones you're still

I'm doing the museum quiet thing they'll show you experiments and all these different things

You can have an amazing adventure

And there's museums in every city that are kind of like this there's always different programs and no not every city has the specific drinks and kind of

You know science where you can touch everything

So that's really cool great London date

But you can still do lots of museums even in

A terrible Museum it's not always the best first date

First bonding session

But it's really great

For once you've kind of hooked up or connected

Once or twice

I took a girl for our second session after we've been intimate

After I take her for the sushi session

In Tampa then I took her to a museum

And we will just go through Museum I'm like let's

Let's be bad

Let's make fun of these

Exhibit and let's just kiss every

So we go into all the different rooms and just make out

And I kind of set the tone of where like a couple of bad kids breaking the rules

And so we look at this art and I was like you know you ever notice how

From more than 500 years ago so bad

Cuz they always show you these Art Exhibit

And it's like a giraffe that looks like a piece of crap it's never impressive

Like people were incapable of drawing well

Until 500 years

So everything more than that and I'll just make fun of all the exhibit

And if you're you know

A history Professor or something you're probably pretty offended right now

And I'm sorry

But by having an irreverent

A connection where you're just not trying hard to impress her with your knowledge and showing off all the art museum said you're

Making fun of everything it's way easier

The second thing that's really cool

Is animal sanctuaries in Ze

Girls love animals

And every town has amazing for your cheap places to see

Now as you

Live in a bigger and bigger city you're going to have more cool Museum events like in New York

It's hard to see animals but if you love someone more rural

Or somewhere more small town you're going to have cooler and cooler animal

There's line Sanctuary elephant sanctuaries

In St Pete alone which is a small town there's like

Different sanctuaries there's a crazy seabird sanctuary

And you go there and they're most of them are free or for a donation you know

You leave my buck or two and they're more than grateful because you're helping to save animals anyways

So you're not even spending money on her you're kind of putting money towards a good cause

And that's really a great thing

And it kind of gets people excited girls never get taken on good Adventures

When people think date

And that's why the word is so s*****

They think movie dinner awkward conversation

Annoying waiter

Bad connection spending a lot of money they're all negative things but if we

Switch to our bonding we're just having fun

And we're doing things

That are actually enjoyable even if you're by yourself

My

For any bonding session is something that I would do with a guy and have a blast

Like a body or by

The third thing

That's really great for getting Adventure going it's going to look at point or the tallest building

You get to look down in your city like God

You know most people never go up to the tallest building in the city they live

That's why

In my Tampa date going up to that really high bar and looking down over the city was really cool

You know how many people who live in New York have actually been

To the top of

The Empire State Building how people in New York have been in Chicago

I've been to the top of the Sears Tower

How many people in London have been to the top of the pickle

Or the gherkin whatever you call that building that looks like an

So people actually live in cities where there's really tall stuff and they never go up there

You know and for most people being high in the air is very romantic

For girls it's very head

It activates

Certain switches in their brain and it's just really cool

And you can also just make it part

Of an adventure you go for a drink go to the top of building go for other drink

And she's really like wow this guy showed me things I've never seen before

It's exactly taking advantage of the fact that you're an older guy that's the advantage of dating younger woman

When you show her new things

It turns on

You taking older women an older woman on a lot of these days and you're just going to get a lot of complaining

She's it's going to be the wrong Vibe but you take someone who has a sense of wonder sense of adventure

Has that youthful energy

And everything you

Going on all these different bonding Adventures

You're just going to have an amazing experience and she's really

Going to get turned on

And be excited

So the things that have been disadvantages for you

For so long

All of those things are now advant

Because now

You're the older wiser sexy Father Figure older brother

Hover the girl kind of seize

Let's look a little bit more about bonding intr

The idea of intrigues like the entire

Entire mystery

The idea of the unknown women are way more into intrigued than men

Think about

Women you know women are far

More interested

And tarot cards

In fortune telling

In crystal balls

And all those kind of things astrology why because that's kind of interfacing with the unknown

90% of people that call astrologers are women

We're not as interested in that part of the Intrigue some guys are and maybe you're one of those guys

I've definitely done a lot of research

Only because I knew how effective it was

I'm eating women you know learning to read palms

Can totally

Change your life

Because women love that

Stuff it gives them the in

So the first thing to really ratchety drink is know your city

Every city has something amazing about it that makes it amazing and

And most people don't pay attention

In every city I've lived in for more than 6 months

I found something secret and amazing

In Richmond Virginia

One of the most amazing things about that City

And most people do not know about

I didn't even

Grow up there I went to college in

If you go to the big bridge there's a big bridge on Richmond in Richmond that goes over the entire River

There's a really wide river on its way to the ocean

Okay the river is like half my wide or

And under the bridge between two pylons is a hidden

With a like

A ladder put inside the river

If you're on either side of the river

Well you're on the bridge

You cannot see the

It's completely

If you don't know it's there you don't know which pilot to go behind

It's not there

That's an awesome thing to do

For a

Okay go to the secret

Breaux Bridge and go Rupert swinging in the river

Blast

Absolute BL

Okay

Secret things

The other people don't know about

Or the other people never take the time to learn about

What was my house and Wonderland date

I took a little research on my city I said what's cool

About the city

You take any town and you Google what's great about her what's interesting

Or secrets about this town

And you're going to find

There's so many things in London no one knows about you can take a girl to all of the Honda bars or to the vampire bar

There's all these kind of things that people don't think about

But if you

Put in a little effort this is why it's about using your brain

You don't have to spend money

If

If you're willing to spend half an hour on Google

You can

Just develop one really great day or bonding session

One really great strategy

Where you can bond with the girl I

Do it over and over and over again just repeat you

What's up one grade

You can do it

Historical Honda bars are cool for two reasons

No historical bars are a chance for you to kind of demonstrate your knowledge and show her some cool things

You know

Show her where someone famous

Had a drink or other things like that if it's haunted

It also activates her

You know her wonder about the unknown her mystery

A little bit of that fear when girls get scared they get turned on that's why

They like horror movies you know if she's really afraid of ghosts

And I've been with women

Believe in ghosts are afraid of that they're more interested in the unknown

You called the that part of the world

Well when you take a girl to like a ghost bar and she thinks there's a real ghost

What you going to do when she's scared she's going to snuggle up to you and hug

Okay and again you can take her on the ghost bar Advent

300 Bars and make sure the last ones really close to where you live

The next thing that's really good for intr

Is take her to the high school make

If your girl is like 18 this isn't as good

But if she's not if she's 20 or older

If she gets to relive like the wildness of high school but with a real man

And do something amazing and every city has one of these Lookout points to

I was never really cool enough in high school

I can tell you the place in Nashville is called Love Circle

I finally went there after I graduate high school I went when I was in college

And we took

You got to bring a blanket because

Disc brake all their bottles up there so it's always broken glass but it's like a radio tower and you can look over the city and it's really romantic

And you know it's not when you're an adult it's not as scary right when you're a kid

The cops might come and roused you if they think you're having sex you know where they happen to one of my friends

And then you both end up in jail waiting for your parents to show up or something horrible like that

But if you're for your adults it's not as big a deal

You're not afraid of the police hassling you anymore

They're not going to stop you if you're too adults that make out of

Can't Point anymore

So it's really cool and that's kind of one of those things that kind of does a little bit of intrigue a little bit of Adventure cuz you're doing something that's a little bit

But naughty but now it's not against the rules anymore

And you're a little bit this is a chance for her

To do something she's closer to and your father away from

So you spent

So much time showing her

Now she can show you and you can even ask the girl you know what's the secret do you know

When you in high school where would you go to make out with guys what was the secret spot

If you don't happen to

I only know the one in Nashville because that's where I went to high school but every town has it

If you think your time doesn't

You're

It does

If you don't know just

You might have to

Aston police still

Now let's get physical physical bonding

Is a really

Really great way to spend a day

Again these are not all these are great for first bonding session I'm trying to mix it up

So you don't own so you can take a girl out more than one time or have fun with her more than once

Batting cages and golf range are blast I love doing both of these

You sweat a little

You don't have to be that great it's super fun to relax especially if you have like a good batting cage

Would have different speeds

That can be great

It's not every girl

Not every girl can handle

Super fast speedball

It's super fun and it's relaxed girlfriend is great

Because

There's no speed there's no cost

Most girlfriends that I go to

They have a bunch of golf clubs and like a basket with the head sticking out and used pick

Okay and then you buy a bucket of balls

For like $3

And you're good to go

For like an hour

Also one bucket of ball

If your person is not a serious golfer they're going to be worn out

Okay

So you take her she's having fun she's doing something she doesn't get to do here's why it's cool number one these are usually things only guys

Do with each other

So she's a little bit

Getting to see what it's like to be a guy or hang out with the guys

So you're showing her a love of respect she doesn't normally get

This is the stuff that a younger guy would exclude her

I don't know why because girls love

The stuff and it's a lot of fun

Number

If she's not good

Or you're not good you guys get to do that stuff where you're like wrap your arms around each other and you're helping each other

Yvette once when you're doing something like physical think about how much would people play Real Sports

You know when they're out there playing soccer or football or baseball they're all slap at each other's asses and touching each other

Sports

Are naturally lead to physical touch

So if you're one of those guys especially that like

You feel uncomfortable making the first move

It's so natural when you're doing sporty stuff

Like batting cages or golf range you can do like go karts

Things like that are really good or if you're more adventurous you're my favorite

Thing to do

The girl I'm seeing right now my favorite thing is to go a wakeboarding

And it's a really a boss we do a lot of Adventure and physical style stuff together

We do a lot of two person kayaking

We do a lot of surfing

We do a lot of stand-up paddleboarding she's way better than me

That that's one of the things

Some things I'm better at something she's better at and that's what the mixes I'm better with kayaking cuz I'm stronger

And right now she's better at wakeboarding instead of paddleboarding cuz she's so light

So you can have a really cool physical Adventure

It's kind of makes it together

You know if you live in the kind of place we can easily go snowboarding like Colorado or Austria or whatever

Things like that can be really really cool

If she's having a good time

Physical stuff

And can make up for

Conversation you don't need conversation if you have really good physical stuff

Like snowboarding you do almost no talking

But if you take your snowboarding

You're having so much fun

Right it makes up for that that's why I kind of said

We have our four elements but you don't need all

You always want to think about logistics another great date

Before I get ahead of myself when you're being physical is the gun range

No

Lots of countries like Australian and there's no guns I know that

This is Messi for America in Nashville right my family lives

Girls just turned guns on

Guns turn girls on that's crazy

You don't need to own one I've never owned a gun

But you can go even in most countries lots of different countries you can just go and rent a

Now you don't want to go

And

An AK-47 or an M16 you don't rent a machine gun or an assault rifle that's

That's the way to f****** this idea

You want to rent something small that she can do I usually do like a 22 she's never shot a gun before this is a

Dance For You

To demonstrate a little bit of knowledge now do not make your first trip ever in your life to the gun range of

Remember don't

Take a girl to do something you haven't done before

Do the actual

I recommend going and taking gun safety class I did one when I was a kid

And learned everything about a gun and go practice and do a couple s*** together actually going to the range

Is a blast that's

All the things that I think are great are great bonding sessions are things that I love to do either way

And girls get really excited this is one of those things where it's a little bit forbidden it's a little bit dangerous you just have to be very fastid

Be very careful about safety the gun range

You know if you follow the rules it's not really a big deal you know always in the gun down range you have to know how to unload a Reload the stuff

Stop and all that stuff

As long as you're not a moron guns are quite

And you don't accidentally point a load of gun at someone like an a****** then you're

But I recommend

Take a gun to save you

Class maybe even take a conceal and carry course

You don't have to own a gun I find no reason or desire to own one

But I love going to the range and shooting one cuz it's so interesting

Play a lot of video games

But it's so different and I'm actually a really good shot my friend

Was on a shooting team and he told me I'd be terrible and it turned out I was great

It turns out playing video games does translate into the gun

So

If you spend a little time in a gun safety course okay

Maybe that's 50

But once you've taken 10 girls to the gun range you're good

Renting a gun for the day is anywhere from 10 to 20 bucks

Forgot an

So it's not that expensive

Maybe it's a 10 or each or something

But you go

You rent a gun and you just have a blast and you shoot targets

For like an hour or two together anything

You need again you can't really talk cuz it's so loud it's a minimal talking

She's just having a good time and you're demonstrating

That you're more mature that you know how to keep her safe in a situation that's a little bit dangerous

The danger is not real unless you do something stupid

But she'll feel it because

At the end of the day guns are very dangerous

So by demonstrating her that you know how to be copper on guns you know how to be safe around gun

That you not have fun and you're not risking the I hate guns crowd because you don't own one you're just renting

And you know it

If they don't have guns for rent then you don't do it but this is kind of the idea

The next thing is fishing

I did a great

Day

My day bonding session with a girl

We went fishing

And

I am

I have this fishing pole my friends made me buy from Walmart for like $20

And

Crappy like children's tackle set

Okay because they want it we went

I went with these guys on a camping and fishing trip one time and of course the lake we went to

Had no fish in

No one caught anything

And then it turned out we had the wrong license because we were in a different state

So you have to get different like fishing permission slip

In every different state even if you're not going to keep

The fish right

So it was like a total

Did I

Fiasco I'd

But I had this fishing rod and I took this girl

That lived this was a logistics problem the girl lived like an hour away from me

And she didn't own a car so I had to drive to her

This girl was super super cute so this is one of the few times in my life I drove to the girl

I was like okay

I looked and I found a fishing spot near her I was like okay I'll come to you

Because I want to go fishing at this one spot near you

No I don't know s*** about fishing

My hair was my plan my plan

Was to pretend to fish while we have conversation and then

I kind of make my move at like 10 in the morning on a Monday or Tuesday

So we go there

I don't even know if I had B

Or maybe we bought beta can't remember that part exactly or I just had a lure

They kind of looked cute like I let her pick it

She was a country girl so I assumed

She would know how to handle

You know like setting the line and fishing up my plan was to not catch a fish

And we're fishing at this Lake

That was really like a big pool and it's between other people's houses you're not supposed to be fishing there there's like a sign don't fish here

So of course we're fishing there there's no one around it's early in the morning

I assume the lake is empty

We kind of God damn

So big

We catch this giant fish

The hooks right through its face and it turns out

She's not a country girl she might be from the country which doesn't have that

Like deal with Wilderness mindset

Neither of us was comfortable

Try to take the hook out of the fish's face I'm so upset I'm like I wasn't trying to really

Okay

So it's really important when you take a girl fishing don't kill the fish

Unless she says hey if you kill it I'll cook it and clean it

I will eat it you know

Unless she says that throw the fish back no matter what

This is a really good like day bonding session cuz you're doing something wild adventures together

Especially if you both are not good at fishing

This is just like a really cool another idea that you can make it up with

And you just throw the fish back in our situation we couldn't get the

Hook at the fish's face he kept fighting us so we didn't really know to do it

And I was afraid like he's going to flop is a big fish

I don't know

Like almost

I wish I could tell you but everyone's fish draws the fish gets bigger and bigger I have a picture

Of the fish so I took a picture of it

With me and this girl but anyways

So we cut the wire cuz you know

I do know that the hook will eventually fall out of the fish's face after a few days

The fish's mouths are really good at breaking down hooks

So and it was cool because the girl had like a lip piercing too

She's like wow the fish looks just like me

So we throw the fish back

Pushing back into the water

And that was kind of

The end of our bonding session was really cool so we kind of had good conversation a little bit of Adventure and surprise

And we just kind of

Experience something together

So these are all nine really different powerful bonding ideas you only need one

And then this is what I do now I'm with the most girls for a first date

This is why I skipped the date

My most advanced technique

You had a really be just comfortable

Saying what you want

And this is how to get sexual binding without leaving your house

You know I invite a girl on a date and we never go anywhere

So

I really don't like to take her out until after we've had sex I'm kind of past the point of my life where I wanted

To dance

Like a monkey for food

I want the sex first

So I don't want to invest resources in someone that isn't

So a lot of these bonding sessions

Are things I'll take a lot of these bonding sessions are things I'll take girls on

After we've been intimate so there's no more kind of of that wondering that's why I love bonding

Cuz once you sleep together on the first

Encounter the first bonding at your house

The b*******'s out of the way

And then I don't mind I don't mind taking a girl

And spending a little bit more money doing something that I already want to do

I never take a route to do something I don't want to do that's not something I'd ever do

So for me all bonding it starts off

I want to do

And now it's backwards for most people most people think hey

You got to spend one month or 3 months kind of wooing a girl before you get sex but

That's how I do it that's me

And it's all about getting her to meet your house before the date usually I say hey

Bring

Drive your car to my house

And so that way at the end of our date you can easily get home

It's kind of saying

It's providing her level

Security saying hey

No matter what you can get home so she goes I make the girls come to me from all

Sites whatever I want them to come to my house

You know if she has a car

If she doesn't have a car obviously this becomes more challenging

But I say hey maybe the house for a date

And she comes in I say let me show you around let me give you the tour

The five cent tour or whatever

And I break out a drink and

Crack into a bottle of champ

You know opening a bottle champagne's very excited cuz it explodes and shoots the cork everywhere and you Dent your ceiling

And you can actually one of the things I recommend

Is if you look online there's a really cool technique

Where you can get the cork to shoot at the bottom of the wine

By sliding a knife along the bottle

Just look it up just look up cool ways to open a bottle of champagne or

Now bottle of champagne

Is like $6.99 and it didn't take Oak taste okay

As far as I can tell everything between $7 and $100 tastes pretty much the same

And you know you crack it up in a one drink Institute she's like wow this is so classy

Cuz you know

Younger guys never break up the champagne nobody no one speaks the time to go to the liquor store and see what stuff

Okay and once you've had a couple of drinks it's so easy to go for the kiss

You have two or three drinks to you oh now we have too much drink I can't drive

And you go for the kiss

And then just take her to the bedroom

Yeah this is a little bit more advanc

It does require

A little bit more confidence but you can totally fake

Okay

The first time I tried this

I was just like let's just see if this works I have no idea what's going to happen

I'm going to pretend I'm confident doing this

And it just

Because we had a lot of conversation they'll just couldn't be better

Once A girl's got a couple glasses of wine into

She feels comfortable with you she seen you have a nice

You've given her champagne so she's a little bit loose you're a little bit loose you're both more comfortable

Everything just kind of falls together

So this is like the most

Dance level of skipping the

This is really

When you get

Where you want to be this is like the best

And even then even sometimes you know

I take the girl

We have a couple glasses champagne then we have sex for an hour too and then I take her to the sushi

Or then I take her out you know

She's now earned

Or maybe that's not the right word

Now that I know that she likes me we're not we're past the games playing face

I'm ready to go out and have a blast

And start real bonding at the next level

So this is how you skip the date

This is the most advanced

Level and it's awesome

So this is really how you can do bonding for a tenor now you've got 10 amazing ideas for ways to meet and take her out

You don't have to spend a lot of money to have an epic time