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Hi, my name is Tracy. And today

we're going to talk about what is communication. Now, there

are two forms of communication external communication when

you're communicate in with more than one

person, right and then there's the internal

communication the communication within your

mind and body and that's what

I would like to focus on today that internal communication

because a lot of times our body

and our mind is telling us something and that

is the reaction that we are having in our communication

with someone else right now. What causes

us to feel that internal communication?

So there's something called the automatic nervous

system and automatic nervous system

is responsible for any type of automated systems

within your body and automatic habits

that you have. Right? So like we breathe

without thinking about it and then when we wake up in the

morning, we do a regular morning routine.

Out thinking about it. Right but it

has two major systems. There's the

parasympathetic system in the sympathetic system.

Now with the parasympathetic system it

triggers your body into rest and

digest and when you're resting and digesting you

are typically in a place where you feel

relaxed, right and and you feel safe. So

usually if you're having a conversation and

you're around someone who you feel safe around and

it's a genuine conversation, then you are

in parasympathetic mood, right? But then

we have the sympathetic system that is

triggered and that's usually triggered during stress. If

you're having a stressful conversation and there's

three ways that we will react when

we are stressed when that sympathetic system

is triggered one is is that you're going

to fight and fight can look anything like you

want to argue back or you may want to use

Cool contact or you may want

to take flight which is walk away run away

from the conversation and then there's

freeze like freezing in like that

there and and the headlights right like you just freeze

and you have nothing to say you just shut down,

right? So now breaking down

what external and internal is the importance with

internal is is because in most

cases, right we are reacting to

how we are perceiving what

is going on in that conversation. Right?

And I will perception is based on our thoughts

about it in our feelings about it. Now, there is different levels

that we can react different intensities. So

if the feeling is strong you may react in

a negative way and if the feeling is subtle

it's calm then you may react just in a

calm sense or manner, right? So

now understanding that right like

How can you and just think about what and what

way do you communicate? Right and what do

you want to work on and just thinking about

that for yourself? Right and I know in most

cases like we all want to really focus

on the wellness right and responding

instead of reacting. Right? But

before we can get to that point, we really have to

understand in which way are or

even just knowing when we are triggered. What

mode are we in? Are we in Paris empathetic or we

in sympathetic right and then just always having that

compassion right and empathy for

yourself and know that you are always doing

the best that you can now the

steps that you can take towards like having that

more parasympathetic reaction is

is self-awareness being aware of

what's going on internally and then

it's just so observation. Just observing.

Out a story just taking a pause

and just observing what you're feeling in your mind

body and soul either breathing meditating. Right?

But just like in the moment. This is when you use

those tools that you have been working on right

and then just rinse and

repeat like every time you are in that

sympathetic mode, you just want to again be

self aware self observant without judging yourself and

just feel what you need to feel as

you breathe through it and understand with emotions

whether they're good or they bad or they're

just something that you don't want to feel it doesn't last forever. So

all I would say is just check in

with yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed. So

this was a video on communication the

two types of communication the internal and external communication and

you can look forward to more videos.