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Good morning.
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This is Sam.
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Sam recently got married
to her husband, Mark.
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Sam took Mark's last name.
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Sam was able to navigate the legal
name change process fairly easily,
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and her friends, family and coworkers
adjusted to the change quickly as well.
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This is Finn.
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Finn also changed their name,
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but they had a lot harder time
doing so with the same entities.
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Finn had to get a court order,
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had to publish their name change
in the local newspaper for two weeks
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so anyone who wanted to
could object to it.
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Finn is often asked
if that’s really their name
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or what their real name was.
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Finn has been made
by complete strangers in restaurants
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and house parties
to produce their driver’s license
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for no reason other than to prove
that Finn was their legal name.
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Finn has been told by friends
and loved ones:
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“You’ll have to understand
I’m going to mess up.
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This is really hard for me.”
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So what happened?
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Why was Sam’s switch
so smooth and Finn’s so not?
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Finn changed their name because Finn
is a non-binary transgender person.
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That change was part of Finn’s transition.
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Finn’s based on a true story.
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I’m willing to wager most of you
in the crowd tonight
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know somebody who is married.
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Maybe you’re married yourself.
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Maybe you’ve been
to a couple weddings, of course.
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But for some of you, I’m the first
nonbinary person you’ve ever met
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face-to-face.
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You might be encountering
a little confusion
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because your brain hasn’t figured out
what box to put me in yet.
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See, it’s human nature
to classify things, right?
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Everything has a name
and a box it goes in,
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and everything is all
a part of this grand reality.
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That reality was built
for the Sams and Marks of the world.
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See these boxes that we put
so many things into
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were built long before you and I got here.
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A lot of people, mostly
people the same skin color I am,
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like to split things into binaries,
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sets of two.
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Day and night.
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Rich and poor.
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White and Black.
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Man and woman.
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Good and evil.
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Us and them.
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We’ll come back to that one.
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These binary boxes are social constructs,
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classification systems put in place
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by people in positions of power who wanted
very much for things to stay that way
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and perpetuated, knowingly or unknowingly,
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by similar groups of people
who benefit from those systems today.
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But where did this power come from?
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How did we get here?
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When a binary is established,
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the two entities naturally oppose
one another in our minds
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like poles on a magnet.
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Day is the opposite of night.
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Good is the antithesis of evil.
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When you apply this to groups of people,
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something interesting happens.
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You end up with a macro-binary
of self and other,
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where one group, usually the group
that looks or behaves most similarly
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to the group that established the binary,
is held in favor over the other.
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When someone comes along
who disrupts this binary,
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the people who benefit from it
don’t like it very much.
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So what happens?
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That group, that person,
is ostracized, silenced,
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legislated to the margins,
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or worse, eliminated entirely.
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Sam had a lot easier time
changing her name
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because Sam was following
the socially constructed framework.
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Sam is cisgender,
heterosexual, white woman
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marrying a cisgender,
heterosexual, white man
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and replacing her last name with his.
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Sam is following a path set before her
by generations on generations,
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on generations of people
in positions of power.
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When someone comes out as transgender,
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they’re directly challenging
this binary system.
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So what have we learned?
What happens?
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Marginalization.
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Other-ization.
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Suddenly the trans community are sick,
perverted groomers leering in bathrooms
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waiting to prey on your children.
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Won't somebody think of the children?
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Any attempt to empathize with
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or connect to or support
the trans community
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is seen as wokeness taking over
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or entertaining the delusions
of the mentally ill.
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No nuance allowed.
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You get in your box and you stay there,
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or be eliminated.
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And I’m not just strawmanning here.
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In 2022 alone, 370 anti-trans bills
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have crossed the legislative floors
in the United States,
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mostly affecting trans kids.
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These are bills that forbid trans people
from using the bathroom
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that most closely aligns
with their gender identity.
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These are bills that force teachers
to out trans children to their families.
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These are bills that deny trans people
life-saving medical care.
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These bills lead to abuse.
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They lead to violence,
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and they lead to
other heartbreaking outcomes.
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In 2021, over 350 trans people
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were murdered in hate crimes in the U.S.
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To this very day,
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murderers of queer people are walking free
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because LGBTQ+ or gay panic defenses
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are still seen as a viable defense
the courts of 21 U.S. states.
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And this is about so much more
than just the gender binary.
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Look at our collage here.
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Do we see a pattern?
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Most of the trans people
who were murdered last year
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are Black and Latine trans women.
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So you see, these binaries intersect.
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The binary of gender,
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and the self/other binary of race.
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So what do we do?
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How do we stop this?
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We expand.
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We expand the ways we think about
and talk about the world around us.
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We learn about the binaries
that exist in our society
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and the ways in which they work towards
certain groups of people positively
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or negatively.
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We call out when these binaries
are being enforced.
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And call upon expansion
in multiple different avenues.
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We support and uplift the groups
of people who are being marginalized.
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And we call out bigotry
and small-mindedness when we see it.
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It can be simple.
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It can be as simple as introducing
yourself by saying:
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“Hi. My name is Finn.
My pronouns are they/them.
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What are yours?”
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It can be as simple as researching
your governmental candidates
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and voting in every election, every time,
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to make sure that harmful legislation
never sees a House or Senate floor.
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It can be as simple
as donating time or money
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to organizations that uplfit
marginalized groups.
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It can be as simple as having
those difficult,
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uncomfortable conversations
with your ignorant friends and family.
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It can be simple.
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But we have to make
the conscious decision to do it.
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You know,
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I’m often told by people
who I give these diversity educations to:
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“Yeah, I support the queer
community and everything,
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but I just wish you didn’t have to make it
your whole personality.
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We get it.
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You’re trans. Big deal.
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Why can’t people just be people?”
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And you know what?
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I agree with them.
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I would want nothing more than to be seen
for the multifaceted person that I am.
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I want my transness to be the least
interesting thing about me.
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But the truth of the matter is,
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there are people in this world
who look at me and people like me
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and see one thing.
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A mistake.
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A threat that must be erased.
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They see this in me, and they see this
in so many of my trans siblings.
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Now, I have the benefit of carrying
a certain level of privilege.
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So if me being here and trans and loud
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convinces even one trans child
to love themselves
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for all their many facets,
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it’s worth it.
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The sooner we stop thinking
in terms of day and night.
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the more space we leave
for sunrises and sunsets.
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The sooner we stop
splitting things in half,
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the sooner we create a world more whole,
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more safe and more successful.
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Not just for ourselves,
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but for the generations to come.
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Thank you.
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(Applause)
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