Original subtitles

- Hi. I'm DeeDee. - And I'm Whitney.

Three years ago, we fell in love.

And me and my three kids...

[DeeDee] And me and my four kids...

[Whitney] Decided to move in together.

[DeeDee] And we became one big family.

We're marching. We're marching.

We're marching down the road.

[Whitney] I decided to propose to her.

Yes.

[Whitney] Then she proposed to me.

Now, would you marry me back?

[screams]

And we're engaged.

So, now, we're headed down the aisle

with our blended family.

- Let's go! - Let's go!

- Let's go! - Let's go!

Ugh! Everything's okay.

Mom. [laughs]

[DeeDee] But being a lesbian couple

with seven kids, in a small town in North Carolina,

definitely has its challenges.

- Oh, shoot! - [Whitney] Oh!

[Mickey] They have a lot working against them.

The town we live in, splitting from their exes.

Still have mixed reversed feelings to you.

[Mickey] Family.

[Davena] But every relationship has issues.

I don't think they're ready for marriage.

I think these girls are in over their heads.

[Whitney] Through it all,

[Whitney] Through it all,

we've grown together, stronger.

- [screams] - She's just my sister.

Don't worry about it.

[Whitney] We may look a little different

than your average family,

but we promise, we love the same,

we laugh the same.

[DeeDee] We're just like everyone else.

[Whitney] No. Two moms is better.

[all] This is our life with two moms.

[Whitney] One per kid, okay?

[DeeDee] One per kid.

We are one, two, three, four, five, six, seven.

You're all here.

You're all here.

- Say cheese. - Cheese.

- All right, you ready? - Mmm-hmm.

- Okay. - Are you ready?

- Mmm-hmm. - Okay.

- Three, two-- - One.

Action.

- [Whitney] Thumbs up. - [all] Thumbs up.

- [Whitney] Elbows back. - [all] Elbows back.

- Feet apart. - Feet apart.

- Knees together. - Knees together.

We're marching. We're marching.

We're marching down the road.

I have no explanation on how two straight women

just fell in love with each other.

[Whitney] Okay. You done?

[Whitney] Sexy mama.

[Whitney] Sexy mama.

I love you.

- I mean, hop up. - I couldn't do it.

[DeeDee] But you know what? We did.

[Whitney] Oh, I'm sorry, babe.

It's over here.

Your arms are gonna... [laughs]

At your service.

I'm from New York.

I was born and raised in Brooklyn.

Whoo-whoo.

Growing up in New York, we had a nice, big home.

My parents had a really good relationship,

so I think I had a really good childhood.

I wouldn't trade it or change it

for anything in the world.

For anything in the world.

Tell mommy. There you go.

- Oh, my God. Oh! - Oh!

- Jealousy. - Oh!

Whoa!

We share Mommy, okay?

[DeeDee] When I was in grad school,

I met my now ex-husband, Will.

Will and I were together for nine and a half years.

And while we were together, we had three amazing children,

Kailynn, Zuri, and Zamir.

When I grow, I wanna be a surgeon

'cause they make a lot of money.

[DeeDee] My fourth kid is my stepdaughter, Damiya,

who I've known since she was five years old.

What do you wanna be in the wedding?

You wanna be the Pride?

Oh, okay.

I always pictured the "perfect life."

Like, white picket fence.

You know, the picture-perfect family,

the mom, the dad, the kids.

And now, I mean, I'm a lesbian,

I'm in an interracial relationship.

I didn't expect any of this for myself.

You wanna support your mommies?

You wanna support your mommies?

Yeah, you love us?

You do? We love you too, bud.

I married my high school sweetheart

at the age of 18,

and we were married for 11 years.

My ex-husband was my first,

because I was taught that you have to be a virgin

when you get married.

Follows married.

I had three kids, a daughter, Brooklyn,

a son Beckham,

and another little girl, Brennan.

Which one do you guys like more,

Mama or Mommy?

- Mama. - Who's the meanest?

- Mommy. - Ma.

- Ma. - Mommy.

What?

I'm Mommy.

And I'm Mama,

because DeeDee didn't like how southern that sounded.

- [Whitney] Who's the nicest? - Me.

Who thinks Mommy is the nicest?

- Raise your hand. - Yeah.

- I, I think-- - [DeeDee] I'm offended.

Y'all wanna get ice cream?

[all] Yeah!

All right, follow Mommy.

- One, two, three-- - Four, five, six, seven.

Okay.

The world is changing.

The world is changing.

Unfortunately, our town is not changing quickly.

All right. We have a big order.

And same sex relationships are still very iffy.

Mommy, I'm ready.

How do girls and girls have baby?

[Kailynn] So, how about two girls,

how do they have babies?

How do two girls have babies?

- [DeeDee] Uh-huh. - Damiya, you wanna answer it?

- [laughter] - LGBTQ is not heard of

where we're at.

So, that community is definitely one we don't have here.

- You look so cute. - I'm so excited.

So ready to dance.

We met doing dance class.

I was her instructor.

[Whitney] It had been about six months

after I had been divorced before I met DeeDee.

Ask him what you want to ask him with the arm.

Oh, okay. So, for every day, I'm still confused on it,

'cause I go, and then I go to the right or the left first?

You go to the... She go this way

and I go to this way.

[clear throats]

I do.

[laughter]

- Right. - No.

- Oh. - [DeeDee] See?

Yeah, that one's pretty cute.

She has better rhythm because...

- Mmm-hmm. - She was born with it.

But I had to work for mine.

I was not blessed with the best rhythm,

but I worked hard,

and I really feel like...

I don't dance like a crazy White girl.

- Eyy! Eyy! - [laughter]

I'm so White.

I'm so White.

- All right, y'all. - Left first?

- Yeah. - All right.

Hey!

Hey!

So, my connection with DeeDee,

it was instant.

Hey!

Now, we step it up.

As months went by, and we became friends...

I started to confide in her about a lot of things,

you know, my relationship issues.

- Eyy! Eyy! - [woman] What? What?

- Eyy! Eyy! - [woman] What? What?

Eyy!

[Whitney] We're talking a lot about, like, the men in my life

that were just constantly giving me problems.

- Eyy! - Eyy!

- Eyy! - Eyy!

- Eyy! - Eyy!

But we just became closer and closer.

And then, I started asking her more questions, like,

"Have you ever thought about being with the woman?"

Uh, no. I... [chuckles]

- Eyy! Eyy! Eyy! - Wait!

- Eyy! - Okay!

So, one day after dance class,

we drove, and we went into, like, a parking lot,

and she ended up winning over, and kissing me.

I had never kissed a woman,

and I didn't really know how it was gonna be.

But that was a big change for me

But that was a big change for me

because I felt butterflies,

and I began seeing DeeDee in another way.

Kissing Whitney, I just put sparks in my eyes

and in my body and...

[sighs]

And that's when I realized that I loved her.

Her kiss stole me away.

I don't know how you all feel when you all kiss people.

When I kiss her, it goes everywhere.

[Whitney] I didn't expect a little fun kiss

[Whitney] I didn't expect a little fun kiss

to completely change my entire identity,

but it did.

And it was scary as hell,

because I instantly knew I could not lose her.

[DeeDee] After I kissed her, every night,

like, I would go to sleep, I would think about her.

It just kept building and building.

And I couldn't get her out of my mind.

Yes, look at you.

- That is... - No.

- Teamwork, babe. - I thought it was just--

- I love you. - I love you too.

I was aware that I was falling in love with Whitney,

and it made me very confused and scared,

and it made me very confused and scared,

because at the time, I was married to Will,

and struggling to make my marriage work.

[woman speaking]

[DeeDee] We're hoping for this fall.

- [Whitney] Yes, definitely. - [DeeDee] Fall 2022.

It was kind of, like, a boom explosion.

It was just, like, one day popped up,

boom, we're a couple.

And we were all like, "What?

When?"

It was confusing because we knew them

to be straight.

She wants to take my last name, y'all.

[woman speaking]

Griffith.

We're gonna take her last name.

[Mickey] They have a lot working against them.

The town we live in, splitting from their exes,

church, family.

I think these girls are in over their heads.

[Whitney] You are so gonna be the event planner, girl.

You're, like, mad good...

- [DeeDee] Mad creative. - At planning events.

[Whitney] All of our kids were...

- [laughter] - Yeah. Yeah. I am creative.

[DeeDee] LaQuana is my oldest sister,

and Davena is the middle sister.

The sisterhood we have together is so important to me.

Hello. My name is LaQuana

and I am DeeDee's oldest sister.

I'm Davena.

I'm Davena.

And I'm DeeDee's middle sister.

Things with my sisters right now are really awkward.

They don't like Whitney.

[Davena] I think that Whitney makes DeeDee happy

from what I see.

But every relationship has issues.

I don't think they're ready for marriage still.

Thank you y'all for coming, guys.

[DeeDee] Whitney helped me to embrace me,

and she is my future.

I want her forever.

- Yeah, it was good. - You were awesome.

[Whitney] Did everybody have a good day?

- Yes. - Yes.

[sighs] This one's a long day,

but it's time to wind down.

All right, guys, we need to say our prayers,

and then we're gonna have to go to sleep,

because me and Mommy are tired.

[DeeDee] Exhausted, guys.

- Who wants to pray? - Me.

All right, Kai. You can say our prayer.

All through my childhood,

I mainly did everything in the church.

♪ Kiss me like you Wanna be loved ♪

♪ Kiss me like you Wanna be loved ♪

I was a worship leader for 10 years.

That was my favorite thing to do.

It was how I showed my heart for the Lord.

♪ Falling in love ♪

All right, everybody, quiet mouth.

Close your eyes.

[Kailynn] Now, I lay me down to sleep,

I pray the Lord my soul to keep.

When I came out, I was no longer allowed

to lead worship. As a Christian,

you're able to come to church as a lesbian,

but you cannot be in a lesbian relationship,

and be on the leadership team of our church.

So, I was made to step down.

That was the hardest thing that I've ever experienced.

I was open and honest

about loving a female.

That is the only thing that changed.

[Kailynn] If I should die before I wake,

I pray the Lord my soul to take.

I lost who I was for the first,

you know, 20-something years of my life.

I lost friends

that I thought were truly my deep friends.

And my family is super conservative.

And my family is super conservative.

My grandmother still prays

that I will get back with my ex.

She does not condone my relationship with DeeDee.

[Kailynn] Amen. I love my family.

- [DeeDee] Aww! - [Whitney] Awesome, guys.

So, to go from having a support system for years,

the same people that loved me that, you know,

looked up to me, to then them completely turning their backs

and being, like, "You're no longer accepted as a leader."

I never thought that it would happen to me, you know?

I'm tired.

I'm tired.

I don't wanna go to work in the morning.

- Well. - Got to make this money.

It's just getting what, money? Yeah.

[Whitney] I was forced to choose between

who I love, and what I love.

By keeping DeeDee,

I chose who I love,

and it has been the biggest blessing

that I've ever experienced.

- I love you. - I love you, too.

[Whitney] I'm so tired.

[all] Coming up...

- Dad! - Oh.

We decided to invite Will,

and DeeDee's sisters.

[DeeDee] Oh, they're here.

[Will speaking]

Come on here.

Careful.

[DeeDee] Hi, baby!

I missed you.

Look how big I get.

Look how big I get.

- [Zuri speaking] - Go ahead.

[DeeDee] Look how big I get. Look how big I get.

Oh! Hey, Zuri, how was school?

Okay. Mmm-hmm.

Okay. Mmm-hmm.

- How was school, y'all? - It was boring.

[DeeDee] Oh, gosh, look at your hair.

Who did your hair? Your dad?

Went and got his haircut today, so--

I see. It looks so good.

- I have a bald head. - [woman] You have a bald head?

[Will] It's not... Not completely.

I met Will when I was clubbing. [laughs]

I used to like partying all the time.

I was young, fun, and I knew how to turn up.

- And what's going on with you? - [Will] Typical teen.

- [laughter] - Okay.

[Will] She wanna TikTok all day.

Ah. You all can go in,

Ah. You all can go in,

I'll talk to your dad for a second.

[Will] All right. Where my hug at?

- Don't act new. - [DeeDee chuckles]

- All right. Love you. - [Zuri] Bye.

When I saw DeeDee at the club back then, I was, like,

"She's all right." And we exchanged numbers

and kept it going from there.

[DeeDee] Look at those muscles.

[Will] All right, big man.

He's strong like me, anyway.

- Like you? - [laughter]

- No. - I decided to marry Will

because I thought that's what I was supposed to do.

You know, I was in my mid-20s,

who was about to start a family.

I just felt comfortable and safe.

I just felt comfortable and safe.

And it felt right at the time.

So, how was the kids this weekend at the house?

[sighs] Zamir, his attitude

all weekend has been up and down.

What DeeDee and I had was very unique.

It was a one of a kind relationship.

Some of our friends were looking at us

as relationship goals at the time,

and it was just a wonderful situation

between the two of us.

When me and Will started dating, I made it really clear to him

that I like women. He thought it was cool.

He didn't see nothing wrong with that.

He didn't see nothing wrong with that.

He asked me like, "Are you still,

you know, into women?" I'm like, "Yeah."

I knew she was attracted to women,

but I never knew that that was a void

that she was missing.

How's everything going?

Uh, I'm making it, just still sore from surgery,

but other than that, I'm good.

When I told Will I wanted a divorce,

he was furious.

Like, he started crying.

It was bad.

You know, I was truly in love with that woman.

And I felt like that was the woman

that I was gonna be with until I took my last breath.

You got somebody helping you?

You got somebody helping you?

No. I'm all by myself.

Solo-dolo.

It's not that I don't wanna date,

it's just like, um, still have

mixed reserved feelings to you, unfortunately.

I never really wanted to leave him

or break up my marriage. But the things

that were missing in my relationship

was all within me. The emptiness that I felt

was me wanting to be with a female.

He was fulfilling his role

as the husband and the man in the house,

but I just wasn't happy.

Good morning, girls.

It's time to wake up, baby.

Hmm.

We've blended our family about a year

after we had gotten together.

After we had gotten together.

We decided to move in together,

and put all of our kids in the same household,

and start our life.

You're so cute.

[DeeDee] Our triplets don't have the same color skin,

but they are definitely triplets.

- [kids] We're triplets. - [woman laughs]

[woman] How old are you, guys?

Four.

Three.

Four.

Cheese.

My name is Brynnen.

My name is Brynnen.

[DeeDee] Brynnen is talkative, loud, and curious.

My name is Zuri.

[Whitney] Zuri is shy, sweet, and very smart.

My name is Zamir.

[DeeDee] Our Zamir,

he is loud, skeptical,

and has a mind of his own.

It's time we go for school. We gotta catch the bus, okay?

Beckham is seven. And he's the epitome

of a middle child.

Of a middle child.

Get him on, bang!

He is a video gamer and he is quite the jokester.

It's chocolate just like your wife.

- Did you hear him? - [laughter]

Oh, my gosh, Beckham. You're right, though.

The best part of having a family

is having a lot of siblings.

[evil laugh]

[Whitney] It's time to get up, baby girl.

We gotta get up. The bus will be here soon, okay?

- Okay. - Mmm-hmm.

[DeeDee] Brooklyn and Kailynn are our twins.

Ooh, bless their souls.

[screams]

[screams]

We might not have the same color skin,

but we're still twins.

- Twins. - Twins.

- Twins. - Twins.

[Whitney] They fight like twins.

And they love like twins.

Brooklyn stole all of my stuff.

You did steal my... The makeup?

Oh, my gosh. I love having a sister.

It's just so fun.

[Whitney] Kailynn is a little introverted,

somewhat shy. She's a straight-A student,

and very mature for her age.

[DeeDee] Brooklyn is outgoing, creative, and messy.

I've got this.

I've got this.

You've got this, girl.

She's a tough, sassy cookie.

- [DeeDee] Hold it. - [laughs]

- [DeeDee] Morning. - [all] Morning.

- I don't know. - She'd better be awake

and dressed. We gotta go.

[Whitney] Damiya is the most lovable kid we have.

She's 16 years old, and out of all of our kids,

she would be the one to come cuddle with us.

We wouldn't didn't tuck you in.

Guys, we're playing the game.

We call it the quiet game.

Mama DeeDee and Mama Whitney

make me watch all the kids, all the time.

Three, two, one, go.

Three, two, one, go.

I can't. I can't do this no more.

[laughs] Zuri.

These kids are the best birth control

- that I wanted. - Mama.

- Why do you call me Mama? - Mama.

[screams]

Blending the families at first was difficult.

It was challenging.

Our kids were not ready

for two moms and a bunch more kids in the house.

The first time we met each other,

The first time we met each other,

you were hiding behind the couch.

- Yeah. - You're like...

Stop calling my name.

It's too much.

- I was scared... - We're together.

Of her before, but now,

she's scared of me sometimes.

I'm scared of you?

All right, guys, let's go. Come downstairs.

[indistinct chatter]

We'll be home around 5:00 baby. Okay?

You start this one.

Everybody have your snack and drink?

- [all] Yes. - [Whitney] All right.

- Everybody's happy. - Whoo-whoo!

Let's have a good day at school, okay?

[DeeDee] We have a lot of talks with them.

Like, "How do you feel about us being gay?"

Come on, we gotta catch the bus.

- Thank you, baby. - I mean, having

a blended family, that's what you have to do.

- It's hard. - A lot of conversations,

a lot of family talks, and getting everybody

on the same page.

When Whitney and DeeDee got together,

I remember being sad and angry

because in my eyes, Whitney broke up my family.

Because in my eyes, Whitney broke up my family.

But after that time, I grew to like Whitney.

I feel like she made it better.

[DeeDee] At first, the kids did not tell

their friends that they had two moms.

They were really embarrassed.

But now, they're more open.

- We're leaving the house. - Bye, guys.

- Bye-bye. - Bye.

The other day, this kid on the bus was like,

"But she is Black. How is she your sister?"

And I was like "She's just my sister.

- Don't worry about it." - Yup.

I don't really wanna tell them

I don't really wanna tell them

because that would be embarrassing.

Because nobody else has two moms.

It's like they'll think they are gay, and stuff.

At the end of the day, we're still a family,

and we're happy, and our kids are happy,

and that's all that matters.

- You have a great day. - [smooches] You too.

- Are you late? - Yeah.

- I'm always late. - [laughter]

- [Whitney] Y'all have fun. - Bye.

- [Whitney] Y'all have fun. - Bye.

- Have a good day at work. - [Whitney] You too, babe.

- Do I help? - You just relax.

We want you to just watch the kids.

[indistinct]

[DeeDee] Everybody's okay?

[girl] Yeah, we're gonna stick our foot in it.

- Oh. - [girl] I'm cold.

That's amazing.

Please be careful around the water, guys.

[girl] Okay.

[girl] Okay.

Babe, I'm so nervous.

I think we're gonna be fine, though.

You really had to invite Will, too, though?

- [DeeDee] Zamir invited him. - Okay.

Don't you want your daddy here?

Yeah, we need a little help.

[Whitney] You want daddy at the barbecue?

He could just hang out with him.

[Whitney] Well, hopefully, it'll go well.

Today is about coming together as a family.

So we decided to invite Will

and invite DeeDee's sisters.

My anxiety is a little high.

I had to invite them.

Me, LaQuana, and Davena always had a really close bond.

It wasn't up until I met Whitney

It wasn't up until I met Whitney

when we started having conflicts.

Her sisters, they'll say exactly what they feel

no matter how it makes you feel.

[DeeDee] Oh, they're here.

They are brutal.

But they are sweet.

Ish.

[all] Coming up...

[Whitney] Oh, these are gonna burn.

It was very awkward to say the least.

Everything's okay.

Okay, guys, are your eyes closed?

[all] Yes.

[Whitney] Three, two, one.

[Whitney] Three, two, one.

[all gasp]

- [woman] That's not the one. - No, it's not the one.

[sighs]

Hey, guys.

Hey.

[DeeDee] I'm glad y'all came.

Yes. What we got going on?

Because y'all know I like to eat.

[laughter]

Things with my sisters right now are really awkward.

My sisters are very judgy.

They have a big heart, though.

- We're fishing? - He's fishing.

We both got to fish?

[DeeDee] No, Beckham knows how to fish.

He could teach you how to fish.

- He knows how to fish? - No.

- He knows how to fish? - No.

Oh, I thought you said he knows.

I said he can teach you how to fish.

How? He doesn't even know.

You asked me teach you how to fish.

I don't know how to fish.

So he could teach you how to fish.

[LaQuana] Our sisterhood right now is a little rocky.

It used to be three peas in a pod.

We had a really, really good sisterhood.

We all did everything basically together.

- Can I take my shoes off? - Give me two minutes.

Sure. You should ask your auntie.

We should take our shoes off?

No, absolutely not.

[Davena] I don't even like sand.

We a little boujee over here.

I cannot.

[girl] Thank you.

[girl] Thank you.

I want so badly for Davena and LaQuana

to just accept me into their sisterhood.

I honestly don't know why they don't accept me,

but I do know that they are very big on blood.

And I am just kind of another female

that is stepping into that territory

and it's a hard place to be in.

I'm hungry, I'm about to start cooking.

- I wanna grill, babe. - [DeeDee] You wanna grill?

[Whitney] Um, I can I do it? Yeah.

[DeeDee] I ain't gonna say no to that.

- [Whitney] Okay. - What?

[chuckles]

I got this.

We gotta give her a chance.

We gotta give her a chance.

[Davena] No.

We use a language to talk about people

when it's something we don't like,

we just go ahead and say it

and nobody knows what we're saying.

That's cool.

It's frustrating because I want to be involved,

so I wanna do it, too.

[Davena] Oops.

[laughing]

My sisters are being a little mean and rude,

and it makes me really upset.

And it makes me really upset.

[Whitney] I'm gonna go cook. Wish me luck.

- [DeeDee] All right. - [Davena] All right, girl.

[LaQuana] Wish her luck. Good luck.

- [Whitney] I got this. - Be nice. She's good.

Like, she really can grill.

[Whitney] One, two, three, four, five,

six, seven, eight, nine, 10, 11.

We need more.

Babe, you look good on the grill.

[Davena] Looking on the grille does not mean

- she can cook though. - Oh, God.

Whitney cannot grill.

- At all. - Period.

[Whitney] Oh, shoot.

[Whitney] Oh, shoot.

[Davena] She needs some assistance back there.

All right. I got this. I got this.

Oh.

I felt so much pressure like I have to cook well

because I have to impress them and I have to

say the right things or they're not gonna like me.

Oh, these are gonna burn.

It was like awkward to say the least.

- Everything's okay. - [laughter]

[DeeDee] She's not okay, guys.

Everything's fine.

[Kailynn] Dad!

Oh, you're trying to knock me over?

I'm excited my dad's at the barbecue today,

but he's gonna eat all the hot dogs.

[Brooklyn] He might not be my dad,

but he's still my friend.

Like, he always sees me, he's like, "Hey, Brooklyn."

And I'm like, "'Sup."

- [Davena] Who that? - [LaQuana] Brother.

[DeeDee] Will in the house.

Sexy chocolate.

It's okay. Just put this here.

All right. I need you to start grilling.

[DeeDee] I got you.

I love Will and I was pissed

I love Will and I was pissed

when DeeDee left Will, like, pissed.

At the top of pissosity.

I think she had a thing for W's?

[gasps]

Weird and weirdoes.

[laughter]

Weird and weirdest.

Okay. I'm done.

[Whitney sighs]

Something smells like it's burning.

[Davena] Because DeeDee not cooking.

- [Will] Oh, snap. - But Whitney's trying to impress us, though.

I think she's trying to impress us,

but you definitely the cook-cook for real.

- Check with our Will. - [LaQuana] Yes.

[laughs]

What up, Will?

Hey, what's happening?

Hey, what's happening?

[DeeDee] Will and Whitney, it just depends on the day.

He does like her 75 percent of the time,

the 25 percent, he's angry, he's bitter,

and he feels like she stole us away.

Oh, my gosh.

Okay. Just stay.

[DeeDee] Hey, guys, the food is ready.

- [laughter] - [Davena] Food is ready.

- [laughter] - [Davena] Food is ready.

[Whitney] Let's go.

I'm coming.

[DeeDee] All right, y'all.

Let's eat.

Yum.

Eat, eat, eat, eat.

We need some buns, too.

I'm not like a maid or anything,

so, like, we can come and get it.

I gave you kids, give me a bun, please.

[laughter]

- [Davena] He gave you a... - That's not even funny.

[laughs]

He can say whatever he want

because he did give DeeDee these kids.

And did.

And did.

That's facts.

- How do you feel? - If I had to say that though.

- That was very annoying. - Its Will.

- That's him. - You're right.

I do miss my family.

Same one with my kids,

to tell you the truth I don't like it,

because it's what I used to have.

- [sighs] - Breathe.

We did make it.

Thanks for doing with, uh, with me.

- Where? - Get it out. Get it out.

- Where? - Get it out. Get it out.

[laughs]

Sorry, guys.

One, two, three, four, five, six.

Five, seven, eight, nine, let's go.

Let's go!

Where are we going?

We're gonna look at some wedding dresses.

We're gonna go wedding dress shopping.

- Oh. - We are?

[DeeDee] Yeah.

[Whitney] I was ready to propose to DeeDee

the day that I asked her to be my girlfriend,

the day that I asked her to be my girlfriend,

but she would've said no,

- so... - She's serious.

I decided to wait.

Um, but when I got to a point where I was really,

like, I want this girl and I wanna show her

that I am devoted to her,

I decided to put a ring on her finger.

Yes, babe, of course.

Just to kind of symbolize, like,

you are mine and I am... My eyes are nowhere else,

like you are exactly what I want

and I'm dedicating my heart to you.

[Whitney] Yes.

- A pink one? - A pink dress?

- A pink one? - A pink dress?

- [Whitney] Oh. - Hmm.

[Whitney] That's an idea.

[Dee and Whitney] Aw.

I really want a wedding like emerald green, um, dress.

And then mommy, what do you guys think about like

a black dress on mommy?

- I think-- - Yes.

You think I'm gonna be pretty?

- A demon? - Oh, my goodness.

[Whitney] We have a lot of stuff to do.

So much planning and I'm a planner,

so I wanna know everything and it's like every detail.

So I wanna know everything and it's like every detail.

Babe, I'm, like, nervous to see your sisters.

You're gonna be all right.

Ever since I got with Whitney,

things have been really tough with me and my sisters.

I invited my sisters today because I honestly

don't see myself doing this without them.

But this is my girl, so they're gonna have

to just learn how to just accept

who I'm with and how she is.

[all] Coming up...

Never had a family bond, I've never had a sister.

Never had a family bond, I've never had a sister.

[DeeDee] Now, I feel like, um, I have to choose.

But I don't wanna feel like I have to choose.

We're gonna need an intervention.

[woman laughing]

Oh, my God. Look, guys.

- Are you excited? - [boy] Whoa.

- [girl] Yes. - [Whitney] Hi.

[boy] Dresses, dresses.

[Brooklyn] Dresses. Whoa, look at those.

I found mommy's wedding dress.

Oh, my goodness.

I've never been to a colorful wedding.

All the weddings I've ever been to

- were just white. - White.

Mommy, look, there's these two.

- They're ready. - They're the bosses.

They are ready.

[DeeDee] You got a surprise for me?

Oh, thank you.

Oh, thank you.

Lesbian weddings are hard.

It's like, who walks the other person down the aisle?

I don't know how it all works.

What kind of dress is she gonna wear versus what I'm gonna wear?

Are we gonna clash?

You like that one? The sparkles?

- Um, mommy-- - [Kailynn] You guys are gonna

- try these on? - [Whitney] Oh, that's pretty.

And how about this one?

- Oh, yeah. - [Kailynn] Oh, yeah.

She wants a horse-drawn carriage,

a harp player, and she wants a peacock.

Like, she just goes crazy, it makes no sense.

And we're both very femme,

like we are definitely the stereotype

like we are definitely the stereotype

of a femme lesbian.

So I'm like we both want to have pretty diamond rings,

we both want that experience.

So those colors together...

[DeeDee] But she can't see my dress though,

- I'm not gonna say yes. - [girl] Mommy. Mommy.

I think that fits me pretty well, actually.

- [woman] Hello. - [LaQuana] Hey, girl, hey.

- Hi. - [LaQuana] Hey, Brooklyn.

Hey, KK.

[DeeDee] I'm glad y'all made it.

Bring it in. Bring it in, girl.

[LaQuana] Brooklyn.

[LaQuana] Brooklyn.

Hey, little man. Don't do me like this.

Give me my hug.

[LaQuana] Brennan.

Why aren't they saying hi to me?

What is that? A cactus? Are you a cactus?

[laughter]

[Whitney] It feels so awkward.

But LaQuana and Davena

are very important to DeeDee,

so I have to make this work.

- [girl] Come on. - [Whitney] Hey, guys.

If you hear me, clap once.

Brennan, you just sit over here.

Me and mommy are gonna go and get fitted

to see what sizes we are.

To see what sizes we are.

Beckham, on the floor, really?

They met, they were then friends.

Then the ring.

- Then the other thing. - And then the other ring.

[Davena] It was just like friend, friend, dating,

kids, dogs, cats, rabbits, engaged.

[LaQuana] It was just a lot.

A lot at one time just...

It's a lot at one time.

It's too much.

These are like my dream color scheme.

[DeeDee] When I told my sisters I wanted to propose to Whitney,

they was like, "Are you sure?" They're asking so many questions.

They was like, "Are you sure?" They're asking so many questions.

They thought that she was trying to take their spot.

Uh, that's what I feel like they think.

I cannot be this excited, right? Right?

Right. No, you should be this excited.

[Whitney] Okay.

All right, Whitney and DeeDee, we're gonna go ahead

- and get started. - [both] Okay.

Is there any of the outfits you found?

I really like this one.

Babe, I just picked that one.

Well, you guys both can try it on.

Like in a lesbian wedding, can you wear the same dress?

Is that, like, acceptable?

I think it's your wedding

and if you both wanna wear the same dress,

and there's always different ways you can style.

Are you gonna try and pick up my dress?

Are you gonna try and pick up my dress?

I mean...

You didn't pick it up. I will try it on first.

I haven't had a lesbian couple book the same appointment

and come together at the same time before.

Simon says,

everybody come to the circle and grab hands.

- I need help. - [woman] I got you.

Usually, she would help me, but she can't.

Not today.

[LaQuana] Touch your head.

I didn't say, "Simon Says."

- Hey. - Hey.

I just wanna know what's taking them so long.

I just wanna know what's taking them so long.

[Whitney] Three, two, one.

Oh, my gosh. Can I guess?

Like, what color are you wearing?

Purple.

I know that's a lie.

Let's go. So we can see these dresses.

So I really wanna go show my sisters.

I don't wanna show you, because I'm really obsessed

- with this dress. - [Whitney] Okay, babe.

I'm gonna close my curtain,

so I can't see you.

Hey, guys, you're closing your eyes?

Okay, everybody, close your eyes.

[DeeDee] All right. I'm coming.

Don't peek yet.

Don't peek yet.

All right. Y'all can open.

- [screaming] - [DeeDee] Are you okay?

- You wanna give me a hug? - You look pretty.

[DeeDee] I love it a lot, like a lot, a lot.

So what do you all think? A ten, a five?

- It's a... It's a nine, 9.5. - [DeeDee] It's a nine?

You like it? You like that?

You just need to see more dresses.

Okay. All right. I'll be back.

I want rainbow dress

and I want rainbow wedding.

And I want rainbow wedding.

Uh, rainbow.

If I wear a rainbow shirt,

it will show that my moms are in love.

Okay, guys. Are your eyes closed?

[all] Yes.

Okay, don't open them. Not yet.

Three, two, one.

[indistinct chatter]

It's a no for 500, Alex.

Strong no.

It's a no for me.

You got the same face. [laughs]

You got the same face. [laughs]

No, it's a no.

[LaQuana] That's not the one.

No, it's not the one.

[sighs]

[Whitney] Seeing the way that DeeDee's sisters feel about me

is very, very hurtful.

I like the back. The back is beautiful.

I'm also kind of bummed that my family isn't here.

They just don't wanna be around

and it's sad.

[LaQuana] I don't like that outfit. No.

[LaQuana] I don't like that outfit. No.

[insects chirping]

[DeeDee] It was a little weird going today.

Something about my sisters just like...

When I'm talking to them, when I see them,

when we have conflict, I just...

- Puts me here. - I get it.

My sisters are being a little mean and rude.

When it's all said and done,

they are my sisters, but I love Whitney.

She's not going nowhere.

She's not going nowhere.

We're gonna need an intervention.

There has to be that back and forth

or, you know... Nothing's gonna come out of that other than hurt.

This is not how a healthy communication,

conversation should go.

And I don't wanna freaking cry.

It's not about me.

That's the hardest part in all of this, is I feel like

I'm not supposed to be able to hurt in this situation

because this is your sister and your family.

[DeeDee] I don't know if they're intimidated

or they think that you're trying to break us apart.

I see your side, I see your heart.

I see your side, I see your heart.

I know where you're coming from when you do things.

And now I feel like, um, I have to choose,

and if I have to choose, like you're the person

I wanna be with forever.

But I don't wanna feel like I have to choose.

I want you and I want them.

Like, I do understand why, like, it's okay to cry

and be upset about it.

I've never had a family bond, I've never had a sister,

I've never had a close relationship

like that, and... Sorry.

To see what you had with them,

I've never had nieces or nephews.

I've never had nieces or nephews.

And I chose you,

I chose your children,

I chose your sisters, I chose your family.

And it's hard.

[all] Coming up...

I swear I feel like you just like push us to the sidelines.

Whitney is swallowing DeeDee. She needs to give

- her time to breathe. - Yes.

You treat us as if we're not your sisters

when you can just, you know, dispose of us when you want to.

- No, we're not down with that. - I feel attacked.

- No, we're not down with that. - I feel attacked.

[Davena] Because my feet look a hot mess.

You're a magician. Do your thing, do your thing.

Girl, are you ready to have this conversation?

- No. - Hmm.

I just want her to understand how we feel.

I just think we just need to figure it out from here because we can't

- continue to... - No.

Be going this path that we're going.

This shouldn't be continued. That's the difference.

Like I said, this is just to address the elephant in the...

- in the room and move on. - And she's the elephant.

- In the room and move on. - And she's the elephant.

[DeeDee] I wanted to invite my sisters to the nail salon

because despite all my efforts,

they're still not being respectful to Whitney,

and it is very important that my sisters

are involved in my life, stay in my life, and be a part of my life.

But we need to get everything out on the table.

I just want her to understand sisterhood,

because when you have sisters, it's supposed to be important, so...

DeeDee can't separate her relationship with her family

and then from her girlfriend.

That's our biggest issue with her, separate them.

Also because we don't have mommies, so I feel like

why wouldn't you keep that bond between us?

Why wouldn't you keep that bond between us?

We're sisters first. You have to be sisters first.

Like, we're all we have.

- Hey. - [DeeDee] I'mma sit here.

- [woman speaking] - Right here?

[woman speaking]

- [DeeDee] Thank you. - [woman speaking]

Seems like it's the elephant in the room.

Just a little bit...

[laughs]

I'm trying.

I feel like I'm in a horror movie right now.

I feel like I'm in a horror movie right now.

- [imitate evil laugh] - I hate that noise.

The problem is you're dating a female, right?

Because it's two females, we're getting confused with...

- Yeah. I agree. - Partners and sisters.

Every time you get around... You got with her.

I swear I feel like you just, like, push us to the sidelines.

Since you got with her, I don't even have a,

"Hey, girl, let's hang out."

That's not her fault, though.

To me, it seems like it's Whitney not allowing DeeDee

to be free or be with her family.

To be free or be with her family.

Whitney is swallowing DeeDee.

She needs to give her time to breathe.

Yes. That space.

I just feel like I'm getting older

and I'm doing things different.

And there's nothing wrong with that.

I'm not... That's not my issue. I'm not knocking that.

But you can't get older and do things different

and push us to the side.

That doesn't make sense to me. It doesn't add up.

- Like, she is trying. - That has nothing to do

with us. That's your household.

But I just feel like I don't have y'all to kind of vent to,

like, I went to my safe place.

Like, I went to my safe place.

Y'all was my safe place and y'all took that way.

We wanna build our relationship with you,

- we have issues with her. - But I'm okay with that, too.

I still wanna protect her.

I don't want her to be looking at as being crazy.

- She's not. - So that's what I'm saying,

this whole victim part and then you get upset

- what we're saying. - [DeeDee] I never tried

to play the victim. I'm just telling you how I'm feeling.

You always got something to say

- and every time I talk-- - So you don't think that's victim?

Well, I feel a victim because you're always attacking me.

Y'all do it at the same time.

Girl...

I'm not attacking you...

I feel attacked.

You are not attached by the umbilical cord to that girl.

You are my sibling.

- She brings me happiness. - And... But we don't?

I enjoy being around her.

- That's the problem. - That's the problem.

- She threw herself at us. - Right, we know.

Like, "Oh, I want... I always want a sister."

Okay, well, we have enough of us.

You treat us as if we're not your sisters.

We just like your home girls and you can just,

you know, dispose of us when you want to.

No, we're not down with that.

[LaQuana] How can we move forward?

What's next?

We was a puzzle.

The puzzle done broke up into pieces.

The puzzle done broke up into pieces.

[Davena] We lost one of the pieces.

Now we have to put the puzzle back together.

It's baby steps, baby steps.

We got to work on baby step.

So the first step we're trying to make right now,

- DeeDee, is being your sister. - [Davena] Your sister.

And then once we start getting us together,

once we're right,

everything else will fall into place.

We just wanted to try to work on our sisterhood

and try to build a relationship back with her.

So are we done?

Are we gonna work on our relationship?

Are we gonna try to put the pieces back together slowly?

Are we gonna try to put the pieces back together slowly?

I'm willing to work on our relationship.

I just really want us to,

like, be aware of what we're doing to each other.

- To me, that's it. - Okay.

[Davena] I'm just crawling to see where we get to.

I mean, I could see as only going up,

because we already been down.

We're gonna hug it out. Is that what we're gonna do?

[sighs] Okay.

I know they still have reservations about her,

but Whitney is going to be my wife.

So they're just gonna have to accept her.

So I feel like we all need each other, to be honest.

Bring it in. Bring it in.

Stop. Don't do that to me.

So as much as they think that they don't need me,

So as much as they think that they don't need me,

they really do need me.

And they just like to hide it.

- [Davena] Yes, you do. - [DeeDee] No, I don't.

Can you stop?