All language subtitles for 32 - Habit 11 Dont Be So Hard on Yourself English

How about 11 is ruminating, ruminating is going over and over mistakes you've made or perceive yourself

to have made, asking yourself why was I such a jerk?

What will those people think of me?

How come I keep making the same mistakes over and over?

Research shows that women are more prone to ruminating than men are.

We give ourselves a harder time.

My co-author Marshall Goldsmith on this book says he has never worked with a woman, no matter what

senior level she has had, where he didn't at some point have to say to her, don't be so hard on yourself.

Ruminating is a way of remaining stuck and being hard on ourselves.

We need to find a way to let it go.

Often we believe that if we keep ruminating going over and over a mistake, it will help us avoid it

in the future.

But in fact, ruminating will only keep us stuck.