Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated:
1
00:00:04,482 --> 00:00:07,702
Superstar?
2
00:00:07,833 --> 00:00:11,193
Why wouldn't you sleep
with a celebrity?
3
00:00:11,315 --> 00:00:13,315
Doing sexual activities,
4
00:00:13,448 --> 00:00:15,448
he would make me disguise
my voice, like...
5
00:00:15,580 --> 00:00:16,670
"Yes, Daddy."
6
00:00:16,799 --> 00:00:19,109
I felt literally ill having sex
7
00:00:19,236 --> 00:00:21,406
with him
when I knew that there were
8
00:00:21,543 --> 00:00:23,283
fetishes involved in it.
9
00:00:23,414 --> 00:00:26,684
And it was feeding a sickness.
10
00:00:26,809 --> 00:00:27,849
Robert
11
00:00:27,984 --> 00:00:30,164
can smell a wounded woman
12
00:00:30,291 --> 00:00:32,081
a mile away.
13
00:00:32,206 --> 00:00:34,156
Said that I was important.
14
00:00:34,295 --> 00:00:35,985
Make me feel
like I'm not going crazy.
15
00:00:37,950 --> 00:00:40,130
After all of
us have come forward,
16
00:00:40,257 --> 00:00:42,687
people are still saying
he's not guilty.
17
00:00:42,825 --> 00:00:44,435
This has been
18
00:00:44,566 --> 00:00:47,826
going on
for close to 30 years now
19
00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:49,660
- because of silence.
- Aaliyah's part of the pattern.
20
00:00:49,788 --> 00:00:51,918
Tiffany Hawkins
is part of the pattern.
21
00:00:52,052 --> 00:00:54,052
48 women whose names I know
are part of the pattern.
22
00:00:55,838 --> 00:00:57,748
It was like he crushed
23
00:00:57,883 --> 00:01:00,283
my life.
24
00:01:30,481 --> 00:01:32,791
It should have ended
with Tiffany Hawkins
25
00:01:32,918 --> 00:01:34,308
filing the first lawsuit.
26
00:01:34,442 --> 00:01:36,492
I was just one girl.
I was the first girl.
27
00:01:36,618 --> 00:01:38,878
And nobody believed me.
28
00:01:39,011 --> 00:01:41,671
There
was nothing to benefit anybody
29
00:01:41,797 --> 00:01:43,707
by locking this guy up.
30
00:01:43,842 --> 00:01:45,452
They said to me
and another executive,
31
00:01:45,583 --> 00:01:47,463
"You guys need to buy up
all the tapes you can find."
32
00:01:47,585 --> 00:01:50,195
- And we did.
- Mr. Kelly has been indicted.
33
00:01:50,327 --> 00:01:52,017
He had an incredible stroke
34
00:01:52,155 --> 00:01:53,155
of good fortune.
35
00:01:53,287 --> 00:01:55,377
The judge kicked that case out.
36
00:01:55,506 --> 00:01:57,376
Ten years later,
37
00:01:57,508 --> 00:01:59,948
how in the world
38
00:02:00,076 --> 00:02:02,596
is he still getting away
with this?
39
00:02:02,731 --> 00:02:04,521
The only thing I can do,
40
00:02:04,646 --> 00:02:05,946
just say my truth.
41
00:02:06,082 --> 00:02:08,782
My name is Lanita Carter,
42
00:02:08,911 --> 00:02:11,651
and I was the hair braider
for R. Kelly.
43
00:02:18,312 --> 00:02:22,582
I was 24 years old
when I met him.
44
00:02:22,707 --> 00:02:25,147
It made me more proud
when I thought about it.
45
00:02:25,275 --> 00:02:28,055
You know, like, everybody wanted
46
00:02:28,191 --> 00:02:30,371
to be doing something
for this guy,
47
00:02:30,498 --> 00:02:31,848
and I'm doing his hair.
48
00:02:31,977 --> 00:02:34,277
It didn't matter
how much I got paid.
49
00:02:34,415 --> 00:02:37,505
I just wanted to be,
you know, a part of that.
50
00:02:37,635 --> 00:02:41,805
And, um, it made me feel good
to be doing it for a celebrity.
51
00:02:41,944 --> 00:02:44,564
I gained the respect
52
00:02:44,686 --> 00:02:46,596
of many people
for doing his hair.
53
00:02:46,731 --> 00:02:49,341
My family,
they let me finish sentences...
54
00:02:49,473 --> 00:02:51,133
...when, normally,
55
00:02:51,258 --> 00:02:53,698
they didn't really care
what I had to say.
56
00:02:53,825 --> 00:02:56,085
But it was more like, "Lanita,
57
00:02:56,219 --> 00:02:59,049
"who's doing hair
for a celebrity,
58
00:02:59,179 --> 00:03:02,359
she succeeded."
59
00:03:02,486 --> 00:03:04,356
Everybody was proud of me.
60
00:03:04,488 --> 00:03:06,838
It definitely felt...
61
00:03:06,969 --> 00:03:09,619
wonderful.
62
00:03:09,754 --> 00:03:12,544
When I first started working
for Robert,
63
00:03:12,670 --> 00:03:14,980
a typical day would be
64
00:03:15,107 --> 00:03:18,847
I would get a phone call
at any day or time,
65
00:03:18,981 --> 00:03:21,851
and I would be allowed
66
00:03:21,984 --> 00:03:24,074
an hour to get there.
67
00:03:24,204 --> 00:03:25,994
I would wait for approximately
68
00:03:26,118 --> 00:03:27,558
eight hours.
69
00:03:27,685 --> 00:03:29,765
I would do his hair for ten,
70
00:03:29,905 --> 00:03:33,255
15 minutes, tops,
71
00:03:33,387 --> 00:03:35,557
and then I could go.
72
00:03:35,693 --> 00:03:39,263
I could get called
every two days,
73
00:03:39,393 --> 00:03:43,013
and I would just get $100.
74
00:03:43,135 --> 00:03:47,265
But I paid my babysitter for,
$20 per child.
75
00:03:47,401 --> 00:03:49,231
I had three kids at the time,
76
00:03:49,359 --> 00:03:53,619
and the cab ride home was $20,
77
00:03:53,755 --> 00:03:56,535
so I got a hot $20.
78
00:03:56,671 --> 00:04:00,591
But by me doing his hair,
79
00:04:00,718 --> 00:04:04,638
I was able to get
more clientele,
80
00:04:04,766 --> 00:04:06,716
and that provided me
81
00:04:06,855 --> 00:04:10,075
the opportunity to make
more money for my kids.
82
00:04:10,206 --> 00:04:11,686
Here it is, a celebrity,
83
00:04:11,816 --> 00:04:14,856
and they take an interest
84
00:04:14,993 --> 00:04:17,743
in me being a better person.
85
00:04:17,866 --> 00:04:21,126
I could just be doing his hair
and he never talked to me.
86
00:04:21,261 --> 00:04:24,051
And, instead, he was giving me,
like, sound advice
87
00:04:24,176 --> 00:04:26,396
on my life.
88
00:04:26,527 --> 00:04:29,697
R. Kelly told me so much
89
00:04:29,834 --> 00:04:33,324
about, like...
90
00:04:33,447 --> 00:04:35,577
who I am.
91
00:04:45,807 --> 00:04:48,027
He made me feel like...
92
00:04:48,157 --> 00:04:51,597
he believed in me.
93
00:04:51,726 --> 00:04:54,466
I always told him
everything about me.
94
00:04:54,598 --> 00:04:56,598
I told him about
95
00:04:56,731 --> 00:05:00,341
my abusive relationship
with my husband, and...
96
00:05:00,474 --> 00:05:04,354
he helped me get out
of that situation.
97
00:05:06,218 --> 00:05:08,478
And I did.
98
00:05:20,929 --> 00:05:24,449
He made me feel like...
99
00:05:24,585 --> 00:05:26,795
he believed in me.
100
00:05:26,935 --> 00:05:28,715
Here it was.
101
00:05:28,850 --> 00:05:31,770
I come to do his hair.
102
00:05:31,896 --> 00:05:34,196
I'm a nobody.
103
00:05:36,597 --> 00:05:39,467
And he see I'm depressed,
104
00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:41,990
I'm hurt, I have no family,
105
00:05:42,124 --> 00:05:44,654
I have little friends.
106
00:05:44,779 --> 00:05:48,869
He knows
that I didn't have nobody.
107
00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:53,000
He knew I didn't have nothing.
108
00:05:57,357 --> 00:05:59,397
And he told me, like,
109
00:05:59,533 --> 00:06:01,673
"You stronger than that.
You better than that.
110
00:06:01,796 --> 00:06:03,096
Don't be weak."
111
00:06:04,973 --> 00:06:08,373
And...
112
00:06:08,498 --> 00:06:11,458
I just...
113
00:06:11,588 --> 00:06:15,028
I believed everything he said.
114
00:06:15,157 --> 00:06:17,377
That was the first time
somebody, like,
115
00:06:17,507 --> 00:06:20,287
sat down, spent time with me.
116
00:06:20,423 --> 00:06:23,513
That showed respect.
117
00:06:23,644 --> 00:06:26,434
He didn't gain anything
from telling me
118
00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:29,170
I was a smart person.
119
00:06:29,301 --> 00:06:31,611
He didn't gain anything
from telling me
120
00:06:31,739 --> 00:06:34,389
I was talented.
121
00:06:39,703 --> 00:06:42,273
I told him...
122
00:06:42,402 --> 00:06:46,192
I don't desire to be a singer.
123
00:06:46,318 --> 00:06:49,018
I don't desire
124
00:06:49,147 --> 00:06:52,237
to do anything.
125
00:06:52,368 --> 00:06:55,418
That I was just as satisfied
with just doing his hair.
126
00:06:55,545 --> 00:06:58,415
And he told me to think.
127
00:06:58,548 --> 00:07:01,898
R. Kelly told me to think beyond
128
00:07:02,030 --> 00:07:04,550
just doing his hair.
129
00:07:04,685 --> 00:07:07,815
He was the first person
130
00:07:07,949 --> 00:07:10,599
to claim to be my big brother
131
00:07:10,734 --> 00:07:14,704
that-that wasn't my big brother.
132
00:07:19,177 --> 00:07:24,437
There was a lot of nice,
beautiful women down there.
133
00:07:24,574 --> 00:07:28,584
And, clearly, all of 'em
was there for him.
134
00:07:28,709 --> 00:07:32,759
I wanted my own husband, always,
135
00:07:32,887 --> 00:07:35,797
not somebody else's.
136
00:07:40,242 --> 00:07:41,372
I-I want to be married.
137
00:07:41,504 --> 00:07:44,254
I want somebody to respect me.
138
00:07:44,376 --> 00:07:45,896
I always thought, like,
139
00:07:46,030 --> 00:07:48,210
"My brother will sing
at my next wedding"
140
00:07:48,337 --> 00:07:50,377
and blah, blah, blah.
141
00:08:03,308 --> 00:08:05,958
I remember asking Robert.
142
00:08:06,094 --> 00:08:09,844
I said, "If I'm
gonna be working for you,
143
00:08:09,967 --> 00:08:13,537
"everyone is telling me
not to be bothered with you,
144
00:08:13,667 --> 00:08:16,537
"that you have all
these different things going on
145
00:08:16,670 --> 00:08:19,800
and that you have a case
going on with a young girl."
146
00:08:19,934 --> 00:08:23,204
And he said, "Thank you."
147
00:08:23,328 --> 00:08:25,978
Robert was like, "Thank you
for bringing that to me.
148
00:08:26,114 --> 00:08:26,984
"Thank you
for keeping it real with me.
149
00:08:27,115 --> 00:08:28,675
"That is not me.
150
00:08:28,812 --> 00:08:30,342
"That's my brother.
151
00:08:30,466 --> 00:08:32,856
"This will all be done with.
152
00:08:32,990 --> 00:08:34,250
"You will see.
153
00:08:34,383 --> 00:08:35,913
"But I like
that you brought it to me
154
00:08:36,037 --> 00:08:38,257
instead of talking."
155
00:08:38,387 --> 00:08:40,867
When I went down to the studio,
156
00:08:40,998 --> 00:08:43,518
I met Ron Isley
157
00:08:43,653 --> 00:08:45,873
from the Isley Brothers.
158
00:08:46,003 --> 00:08:49,623
Um, I met Michelle Williams
from Destiny's Child.
159
00:08:49,746 --> 00:08:53,966
I know-- She was down there at
the studio with R. Kelly a lot.
160
00:08:54,098 --> 00:08:56,538
One-one day in particular, um,
161
00:08:56,666 --> 00:08:59,186
Michelle Williams looked at me
and she said,
162
00:08:59,321 --> 00:09:01,721
"How old are you?"
163
00:09:01,845 --> 00:09:05,545
And I said, "I'm 24."
164
00:09:05,675 --> 00:09:08,895
And R. Kelly saw her and said,
165
00:09:09,026 --> 00:09:10,416
"Pull out your I.D.
166
00:09:10,550 --> 00:09:13,810
"She is 24,
married with children.
167
00:09:13,944 --> 00:09:17,474
You see how people
would think that she's young?"
168
00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:21,130
And I was so happy
169
00:09:21,256 --> 00:09:23,736
to pull out my I.D.
170
00:09:23,867 --> 00:09:27,177
I didn't-- I didn't find it
disrespectful at all.
171
00:09:27,305 --> 00:09:30,395
I felt like, "Here is my I.D.
172
00:09:30,526 --> 00:09:33,826
I am proving everyone wrong."
173
00:09:33,964 --> 00:09:37,534
I was often asked
174
00:09:37,664 --> 00:09:42,104
to be careful going
to his studio.
175
00:09:42,233 --> 00:09:43,843
They're saying that, you know,
176
00:09:43,974 --> 00:09:47,414
he's a pedophile
and he mistreats women.
177
00:09:47,543 --> 00:09:50,423
And I stood up for him
every time.
178
00:09:50,546 --> 00:09:52,236
I mean,
there-there were even times
179
00:09:52,374 --> 00:09:54,864
where people
weren't talking to me
180
00:09:54,985 --> 00:09:58,245
and I would interrupt
the conversation and say,
181
00:09:58,380 --> 00:10:00,690
"Excuse me, I know him.
182
00:10:00,817 --> 00:10:03,687
"I'm sorry, but I work for him,
183
00:10:03,820 --> 00:10:06,210
and that's not who he is."
184
00:10:06,344 --> 00:10:10,004
I would go back and tell Robert
185
00:10:10,131 --> 00:10:11,961
what had transpired.
186
00:10:12,089 --> 00:10:14,829
And I would always get,
like, a warm look,
187
00:10:14,962 --> 00:10:17,232
like, "Thank you for--
188
00:10:17,355 --> 00:10:19,175
"thank you for believing in me.
189
00:10:19,314 --> 00:10:23,194
"Thank you for having my back
and being loyal behind my back
190
00:10:23,318 --> 00:10:25,708
and not just in my face."
191
00:10:25,842 --> 00:10:30,372
R. Kelly was big on... loyalty.
192
00:10:30,499 --> 00:10:35,029
R. Kelly is preoccupied
with loyalty.
193
00:10:37,201 --> 00:10:39,991
And I proved myself to be loyal.
194
00:10:40,117 --> 00:10:41,987
Our commitment
195
00:10:42,119 --> 00:10:44,949
to celebrity culture is our--
196
00:10:45,079 --> 00:10:47,649
we want to get
as close as we can to it.
197
00:10:47,777 --> 00:10:51,297
If access is where
the grooming process starts,
198
00:10:51,433 --> 00:10:56,003
then celebrities have
a million-mile start.
199
00:10:57,308 --> 00:11:01,658
I told him everything about me
200
00:11:01,791 --> 00:11:04,711
because he was easy to talk to.
201
00:11:04,838 --> 00:11:07,098
R. Kelly
202
00:11:07,231 --> 00:11:09,801
shared with me
203
00:11:09,930 --> 00:11:13,150
that... he was molested.
204
00:11:13,281 --> 00:11:15,241
I shared with him
205
00:11:15,370 --> 00:11:19,420
that I was molested...
206
00:11:19,548 --> 00:11:21,458
raped...
207
00:11:21,593 --> 00:11:23,733
and kidnapped.
208
00:11:23,857 --> 00:11:27,897
I was molested
between the ages of
209
00:11:28,035 --> 00:11:30,645
eight...
210
00:11:30,777 --> 00:11:33,517
to 12.
211
00:11:33,649 --> 00:11:36,519
There was one time
212
00:11:36,652 --> 00:11:39,962
I was at a bar with my mother.
213
00:11:40,090 --> 00:11:41,530
She was a barmaid.
214
00:11:41,657 --> 00:11:45,967
Her boss sat me on his lap.
215
00:11:46,096 --> 00:11:47,266
And...
216
00:11:47,402 --> 00:11:48,882
he started molesting me,
217
00:11:49,012 --> 00:11:50,232
fondling me.
218
00:11:50,361 --> 00:11:53,101
And I just sat there,
219
00:11:53,234 --> 00:11:56,114
eating potato chips.
220
00:12:01,198 --> 00:12:03,108
Little black girls--
221
00:12:03,244 --> 00:12:05,684
we are told
from very young ages--
222
00:12:05,812 --> 00:12:08,162
you don't let men touch
your private parts,
223
00:12:08,292 --> 00:12:09,902
you don't sit on a man's lap,
224
00:12:10,033 --> 00:12:12,343
you don't go anywhere
with strangers, right?
225
00:12:12,470 --> 00:12:14,430
We get this litany of rules,
226
00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,169
and it gets told to us over
and over and over again.
227
00:12:17,301 --> 00:12:19,301
And it gets reinforced
in all kind of ways.
228
00:12:19,434 --> 00:12:21,924
A man comes in the house, they
say, "Go put some clothes on."
229
00:12:22,045 --> 00:12:24,265
You know, or, "You can't be
left alone with so-and-so."
230
00:12:24,395 --> 00:12:26,395
Those are the things
that you hear all the time.
231
00:12:26,528 --> 00:12:28,268
But let me tell you
what you don't hear.
232
00:12:28,399 --> 00:12:30,489
What you don't hear often enough
233
00:12:30,619 --> 00:12:33,579
is the parent
or the adult saying,
234
00:12:33,709 --> 00:12:35,759
"If any
of these rules are broken,
235
00:12:35,885 --> 00:12:37,885
"it is not your fault.
236
00:12:38,018 --> 00:12:39,928
It is always
the adult's fault."
237
00:12:40,063 --> 00:12:41,333
And so,
238
00:12:41,456 --> 00:12:43,196
you have generations of children
239
00:12:43,327 --> 00:12:45,717
who are being raised to believe
that they are complicit
240
00:12:45,852 --> 00:12:48,682
in their own abuse because
they "broke a rule," right?
241
00:12:48,811 --> 00:12:51,251
Because
I shouldn't have been there.
242
00:12:51,379 --> 00:12:53,289
I shouldn't have worn that.
243
00:12:53,424 --> 00:12:55,644
I must have projected something
that said
244
00:12:55,775 --> 00:12:58,255
that I was available
to be taken advantage of.
245
00:12:58,386 --> 00:13:01,256
I have lost
246
00:13:01,389 --> 00:13:05,999
self-esteem for staying
in situations I shouldn't.
247
00:13:06,133 --> 00:13:09,273
I didn't see nothing past
being a hair braider.
248
00:13:09,397 --> 00:13:11,787
And now
I'm at the top of my game.
249
00:13:11,921 --> 00:13:14,011
I'm doing hair for a celebrity.
250
00:13:16,447 --> 00:13:18,537
When someone has
been abused, they are
251
00:13:18,667 --> 00:13:21,367
at greater risk of being abused
again later in their life.
252
00:13:21,496 --> 00:13:24,626
Oftentimes,
a lot of, the ailments
253
00:13:24,760 --> 00:13:27,280
that they've experienced from,
254
00:13:27,415 --> 00:13:30,895
you know, anxiety, depression,
suicidal ideation,
255
00:13:31,027 --> 00:13:33,067
questioning their own,
um, reasoning
256
00:13:33,203 --> 00:13:35,513
and their own, decision-making,
257
00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:37,640
are a challenge because
258
00:13:37,773 --> 00:13:40,123
of what they experienced
as children.
259
00:13:40,254 --> 00:13:43,044
Child sexual abuse is
the most pervasive health risk
260
00:13:43,170 --> 00:13:46,260
and problem that young people
face, and it carries
261
00:13:46,390 --> 00:13:48,350
with them throughout life.
262
00:13:50,438 --> 00:13:52,138
I thought I could trust...
263
00:13:52,266 --> 00:13:54,216
Robert.
264
00:13:54,355 --> 00:13:56,225
I thought...
265
00:13:58,359 --> 00:14:00,009
I thought
I could trust his entourage.
266
00:14:03,886 --> 00:14:06,276
Everyone talked to me
like I'm one of the guys.
267
00:14:06,410 --> 00:14:08,760
You know, it's like, you know,
the little sister or something.
268
00:14:08,891 --> 00:14:10,501
There was
269
00:14:10,632 --> 00:14:13,812
one day in particular
that I was at the studio,
270
00:14:13,940 --> 00:14:16,770
and one of the members
of the entourage tried
271
00:14:16,899 --> 00:14:18,509
to talk to me.
He's like,
272
00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:19,950
"Come on, let's make out."
273
00:14:20,076 --> 00:14:22,036
I said,
274
00:14:22,165 --> 00:14:23,775
"I got three kids."
275
00:14:23,906 --> 00:14:27,076
So...
276
00:14:27,214 --> 00:14:29,654
that was it.
I went home.
277
00:14:29,781 --> 00:14:31,571
I didn't think no more of it.
278
00:14:31,696 --> 00:14:33,516
And I got a phone call,
279
00:14:33,655 --> 00:14:37,045
and it was Robert, irate,
280
00:14:37,180 --> 00:14:39,230
over the phone,
281
00:14:39,356 --> 00:14:41,396
asking me,
282
00:14:41,532 --> 00:14:44,322
"Why didn't you tell me
this was going on?
283
00:14:44,448 --> 00:14:46,538
What happened?" He said,
"I'm like your brother, man.
284
00:14:46,668 --> 00:14:48,978
I can't have
you down here like this."
285
00:14:50,498 --> 00:14:52,668
I-I said, "I'm so sorry.
286
00:14:52,804 --> 00:14:55,424
I would've told you, but
I didn't think it was nothing."
287
00:14:55,546 --> 00:14:57,416
He said, "You're supposed
to give me the heads-up
288
00:14:57,548 --> 00:14:59,378
on **** like this."
289
00:15:02,727 --> 00:15:04,157
And that was the first day
290
00:15:04,294 --> 00:15:06,344
that...
291
00:15:06,470 --> 00:15:09,430
I felt like
I was unloyal to him.
292
00:15:12,650 --> 00:15:14,650
People
293
00:15:14,783 --> 00:15:17,923
who are abusers
or, you know, who are, um,
294
00:15:18,047 --> 00:15:21,307
trying to take advantage of,
particularly, young people,
295
00:15:21,442 --> 00:15:23,232
will use shame for sure.
296
00:15:23,357 --> 00:15:26,057
Like, a big part
of what I experienced
297
00:15:26,186 --> 00:15:28,666
as a survivor
of child sexual abuse
298
00:15:28,797 --> 00:15:33,667
is the shame
of not having been a good girl.
299
00:15:33,802 --> 00:15:36,072
And so,
once they get that nugget,
300
00:15:36,196 --> 00:15:38,846
the abusers, they can take that
and twist that
301
00:15:38,981 --> 00:15:41,161
and use it against you
in all kinds of ways.
302
00:15:41,288 --> 00:15:42,638
And then you sort of carry...
303
00:15:42,767 --> 00:15:44,547
It's like
you do the work for them,
304
00:15:44,682 --> 00:15:46,862
because the shame
makes you feel so bad.
305
00:15:46,989 --> 00:15:49,769
And you carry it. It's like
an albatross around your neck.
306
00:15:49,905 --> 00:15:52,905
So it's-it's...
it's a... a weapon
307
00:15:53,039 --> 00:15:54,949
that is used and wielded
308
00:15:55,084 --> 00:15:58,004
against lots
and lots of survivors.
309
00:15:59,741 --> 00:16:02,571
I stopped getting called
to come and do his hair.
310
00:16:02,700 --> 00:16:04,440
So I started calling.
311
00:16:04,572 --> 00:16:08,102
I would call, and I would say,
"Hey, this is Lanita.
312
00:16:08,228 --> 00:16:09,968
Can I speak to Rob?"
313
00:16:10,099 --> 00:16:11,969
"He's not here."
314
00:16:12,101 --> 00:16:14,191
So I was puzzled.
315
00:16:14,321 --> 00:16:16,851
I think it was for about...
316
00:16:16,976 --> 00:16:20,106
maybe a month or two
317
00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:21,850
that I was not able
318
00:16:21,981 --> 00:16:24,681
to go and do his hair.
319
00:16:24,809 --> 00:16:27,989
And then, all of a sudden,
320
00:16:28,117 --> 00:16:30,337
I get a call.
321
00:16:31,555 --> 00:16:33,465
I get a phone call
322
00:16:33,601 --> 00:16:35,431
to do his hair.
323
00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:09,200
All of a s
324
00:17:09,332 --> 00:17:11,812
I get a call.
325
00:17:11,943 --> 00:17:14,993
"Lanita, can you come down
and braid Rob's hair?"
326
00:17:15,121 --> 00:17:18,301
And I was there
in about 45 minutes.
327
00:17:18,428 --> 00:17:20,428
And I had...
328
00:17:20,561 --> 00:17:23,131
I-I told Robert
while I was doing his hair,
329
00:17:23,259 --> 00:17:26,739
I said,
"Look, I'm apologizing to you
330
00:17:26,871 --> 00:17:28,961
"because I wasn't trying
331
00:17:29,091 --> 00:17:31,051
"to be down there or anything,
332
00:17:31,180 --> 00:17:33,050
and nothing happened."
333
00:17:33,182 --> 00:17:35,402
And he says, "I know.
334
00:17:35,532 --> 00:17:37,672
But I know
it won't happen again."
335
00:17:37,795 --> 00:17:40,055
After that,
336
00:17:40,189 --> 00:17:43,759
I did his hair every two days.
337
00:17:48,589 --> 00:17:53,549
February 18, 2003.
338
00:17:53,681 --> 00:17:57,381
I get there,
and everything feel different.
339
00:17:57,511 --> 00:17:59,691
He always, you know,
340
00:17:59,817 --> 00:18:01,647
had his hands in his pants
or whatever.
341
00:18:01,776 --> 00:18:03,556
And he says, "I want
342
00:18:03,691 --> 00:18:05,431
a head massage."
343
00:18:09,175 --> 00:18:10,605
And I laughed it off.
344
00:18:10,741 --> 00:18:12,831
I said, "I don't do massages."
345
00:18:12,961 --> 00:18:15,221
And he said,
"No, not-not that head.
346
00:18:15,355 --> 00:18:17,265
This head."
347
00:18:19,576 --> 00:18:22,226
And I remember him walking,
348
00:18:22,362 --> 00:18:25,192
you know, toward me.
349
00:18:25,321 --> 00:18:27,411
I had my hair
in two French braids,
350
00:18:27,541 --> 00:18:30,851
and he,
351
00:18:30,979 --> 00:18:34,809
pulled my braid down,
like toward him.
352
00:18:34,939 --> 00:18:37,549
And... and I go like this.
353
00:18:37,681 --> 00:18:39,601
And he just started hocking
his spit and go...
354
00:18:45,515 --> 00:18:48,125
He spit like...
he spit seven times.
355
00:18:50,172 --> 00:18:52,352
He was like,
"Suck it. Suck it for Daddy."
356
00:18:58,224 --> 00:19:00,184
I wanted to make a living
357
00:19:00,313 --> 00:19:03,403
just off of doing his hair.
358
00:19:03,533 --> 00:19:07,323
It was like he crushed my life.
359
00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:13,150
And I started crying so hard.
360
00:19:13,282 --> 00:19:15,202
He immediately got mad at me.
361
00:19:17,373 --> 00:19:19,513
"Did I beat you
like your husband?"
362
00:19:24,163 --> 00:19:28,693
He asked me to fix...
fix my **** face.
363
00:19:28,819 --> 00:19:32,869
I walk to the bathroom
364
00:19:32,997 --> 00:19:34,867
with my eyes squinting,
365
00:19:34,999 --> 00:19:36,999
I grab this towel,
366
00:19:37,132 --> 00:19:39,532
and I-I wipe my face.
367
00:19:39,656 --> 00:19:41,526
It was sticky.
368
00:19:41,658 --> 00:19:43,358
And I look up at my eyelashes,
369
00:19:43,486 --> 00:19:45,876
and my eyelashes are,
like, stuck together.
370
00:19:46,010 --> 00:19:48,450
Like, pointy, stuck together.
371
00:19:50,189 --> 00:19:52,229
He ejaculated on my face.
372
00:19:52,365 --> 00:19:54,755
That's why
my eyelashes were sticky.
373
00:19:54,889 --> 00:19:56,799
After I wipe-wiped my face,
374
00:19:56,934 --> 00:19:59,294
I wet the corner of the towel,
and I, like,
375
00:19:59,415 --> 00:20:01,675
just keep wiping my face
and wiping my face.
376
00:20:01,809 --> 00:20:05,069
Like, this is the face
I kiss my kids with.
377
00:20:05,204 --> 00:20:09,644
This... I got... I go home,
and I kiss my kids good night.
378
00:20:09,773 --> 00:20:11,993
I kiss my kids
goodbye for school.
379
00:20:12,123 --> 00:20:16,653
And I just started feeling
so dumb and stupid.
380
00:20:16,780 --> 00:20:20,180
Everybody I told to trust him--
381
00:20:20,306 --> 00:20:22,216
"This man not like this,"
382
00:20:22,351 --> 00:20:24,751
"He not that type of person,"
383
00:20:24,875 --> 00:20:27,835
"Pray for him, care about him" --
384
00:20:27,965 --> 00:20:29,835
it's like...
385
00:20:31,795 --> 00:20:34,225
And I stood up
for him every time.
386
00:20:48,203 --> 00:20:51,513
In the black community,
oftentimes, we are
387
00:20:51,641 --> 00:20:54,251
trained to protect black men
based on the history
388
00:20:54,383 --> 00:20:57,213
of incarceration
and slavery in this country.
389
00:20:57,343 --> 00:21:00,613
And so the last thing
we are told is, call the police.
390
00:21:00,737 --> 00:21:02,777
If it's in your family
or if it's in the community,
391
00:21:02,913 --> 00:21:05,003
in the neighborhood, you don't
want to get people in trouble.
392
00:21:05,133 --> 00:21:07,743
So many black women,
in particular,
393
00:21:07,875 --> 00:21:10,965
do not report sexual violence
and sexual harassment
394
00:21:11,095 --> 00:21:14,615
because of our long history
with law enforcement.
395
00:21:14,751 --> 00:21:17,581
We're all socialized
to understand the vulnerability
396
00:21:17,711 --> 00:21:21,631
that black men have
in terms of being overpoliced.
397
00:21:21,758 --> 00:21:25,278
We all know that, and we all
are, um, in this together.
398
00:21:25,414 --> 00:21:28,074
So, to say that you're a victim
of sexual assault
399
00:21:28,199 --> 00:21:30,159
when it's a black man
who does it,
400
00:21:30,289 --> 00:21:32,289
you're the one who's seen as,
401
00:21:32,421 --> 00:21:35,731
um, somehow harming
the community, when in fact,
402
00:21:35,859 --> 00:21:38,079
the person who violates you
is the person
403
00:21:38,209 --> 00:21:42,209
who-who has broken ranks
and who has committed a-a deeply
404
00:21:42,344 --> 00:21:46,134
traumatizing act
that... breaks us apart.
405
00:21:46,261 --> 00:21:49,001
And I kept on thinking,
"Well, he didn't rape me,
406
00:21:49,133 --> 00:21:52,533
so it ain't no case," you know?
407
00:21:52,659 --> 00:21:55,839
And I called my brother-in-law.
408
00:21:55,966 --> 00:22:00,536
I said, "Eddie, I want you
to beat up R. Kelly.
409
00:22:00,667 --> 00:22:03,797
"Beat him. I ain't never
asked you to fight nobody.
410
00:22:03,931 --> 00:22:08,681
What y'all was making jokes
about-- it happened."
411
00:22:08,805 --> 00:22:13,585
And he said, "You're so silly.
412
00:22:13,723 --> 00:22:16,033
"You don't fight
somebody like R. Kelly.
413
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:17,990
"He got bodyguards.
414
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:20,639
"You call the police.
415
00:22:20,774 --> 00:22:23,734
"He spit on you
and **** on your face?
416
00:22:23,864 --> 00:22:26,654
That's assault and battery."
417
00:22:26,780 --> 00:22:28,390
And...
418
00:22:28,521 --> 00:22:30,481
I said,
"Let me call somebody else."
419
00:22:30,610 --> 00:22:32,050
I called his friend,
420
00:22:32,176 --> 00:22:33,996
and I tell him what happened.
421
00:22:34,135 --> 00:22:35,825
And he says, "Yeah, baby,
422
00:22:35,963 --> 00:22:37,833
"you got to...
you got to call the police.
423
00:22:37,965 --> 00:22:39,525
"There's nothing
nobody can help you with.
424
00:22:39,662 --> 00:22:42,012
I hate that happened to you."
425
00:22:42,143 --> 00:22:45,583
I call the police.
426
00:22:45,712 --> 00:22:48,412
I tell them what happened to me.
427
00:22:48,541 --> 00:22:50,891
And she said, "Can you
describe the assailant?"
428
00:22:51,021 --> 00:22:53,281
And I tell her, "R. Kelly."
429
00:22:54,938 --> 00:22:57,548
That was the worst thing
I could've ever did.
430
00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:59,810
The whole block filled up
with police cars.
431
00:22:59,943 --> 00:23:03,433
There's no room
to get in or out.
432
00:23:03,556 --> 00:23:05,906
The first police that get there,
433
00:23:06,036 --> 00:23:08,076
she's a black lady.
434
00:23:08,212 --> 00:23:12,612
I immediately feel like...
435
00:23:12,739 --> 00:23:15,609
I'm so grateful
this is not a man.
436
00:23:15,742 --> 00:23:17,402
Thank you. Thank you, God.
437
00:23:17,526 --> 00:23:21,176
I start to tell her
what happened to me,
438
00:23:21,312 --> 00:23:23,582
and she says...
439
00:23:23,706 --> 00:23:26,226
"Well, you know you...
you not gonna be able
440
00:23:26,361 --> 00:23:28,101
"to go back down there
441
00:23:28,232 --> 00:23:30,932
"if you make this police report.
442
00:23:31,061 --> 00:23:34,111
How do I know you're not crazy?"
443
00:23:34,238 --> 00:23:37,848
And everything I was saying
to the woman police officer,
444
00:23:37,981 --> 00:23:40,681
I could hear it echoing
in the cars behind me.
445
00:23:40,810 --> 00:23:43,120
So everybody was just parked
446
00:23:43,247 --> 00:23:47,427
so that they can listen
to what was happening.
447
00:23:48,514 --> 00:23:50,864
I was...
448
00:23:50,994 --> 00:23:54,694
told to go upstairs
to my apartment, and...
449
00:23:54,824 --> 00:23:58,184
a police called me and told me
that they were coming to get me.
450
00:23:59,786 --> 00:24:03,046
And they came
with their sirens on.
451
00:24:03,180 --> 00:24:04,530
I got in this police car--
452
00:24:04,660 --> 00:24:08,270
it was my first police ride--
453
00:24:08,403 --> 00:24:13,103
where you have to sit slanted,
with your knees like this,
454
00:24:13,234 --> 00:24:16,934
and I'm being whisked away
to the police station.
455
00:24:17,064 --> 00:24:20,854
So, I meet
this nice young gentleman.
456
00:24:20,981 --> 00:24:23,161
His name was Detective Daly.
457
00:24:23,287 --> 00:24:26,027
And at that moment, he was,
like, my savior, you know?
458
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:27,470
He introduced hisself.
459
00:24:27,596 --> 00:24:29,416
I told him everything,
460
00:24:29,555 --> 00:24:33,425
and he didn't act
like he didn't believe me.
461
00:24:33,559 --> 00:24:36,869
After me being at the
police station for eight hours
462
00:24:36,997 --> 00:24:39,567
and Detective Daly took me home,
463
00:24:39,695 --> 00:24:42,655
he asked me for my clothes,
464
00:24:42,785 --> 00:24:45,565
and I gave it to him.
465
00:24:45,701 --> 00:24:48,101
I first met Lanita Carter
466
00:24:48,225 --> 00:24:52,525
the day after
she was assaulted by R. Kelly.
467
00:24:52,665 --> 00:24:54,795
She had already made
a complaint to the police,
468
00:24:54,928 --> 00:24:56,628
and I believed her.
469
00:24:56,756 --> 00:24:58,926
Making a report,
making an allegation,
470
00:24:59,062 --> 00:25:01,462
making a complaint
against a celebrity,
471
00:25:01,587 --> 00:25:03,587
you know, as the victim,
472
00:25:03,719 --> 00:25:05,899
that you're gonna be
highly scrutinized,
473
00:25:06,026 --> 00:25:09,026
that you are making a report
that will upset
474
00:25:09,159 --> 00:25:10,899
not only the celebrity
475
00:25:11,031 --> 00:25:13,291
but the whole world around him.
476
00:25:15,383 --> 00:25:18,343
This is all over the
news, this is everywhere,
477
00:25:18,473 --> 00:25:20,003
and I'm just nervous.
478
00:25:20,127 --> 00:25:21,217
They put me in, um,
479
00:25:21,345 --> 00:25:23,695
the Essex Inn hotel.
480
00:25:23,826 --> 00:25:25,476
I sent my kids away,
481
00:25:25,611 --> 00:25:28,881
and I try to deal
with this thing.
482
00:25:29,005 --> 00:25:33,005
Detective Daly calls me when
I'm at the Essex Inn and says,
483
00:25:33,140 --> 00:25:35,400
"Lanita,
we've run into a problem."
484
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,360
He said, um...
485
00:25:40,495 --> 00:25:42,665
"They don't know you.
486
00:25:42,802 --> 00:25:44,802
"I've taken them your picture,
I've told them your name.
487
00:25:44,934 --> 00:25:47,594
"Nobody down at that studio
488
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:49,590
says that they know you."
489
00:25:52,725 --> 00:25:55,985
He says, "Were you there?"
490
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:57,899
"Yes, I was there.
491
00:25:58,034 --> 00:26:00,564
"My hair bag is in his office.
492
00:26:00,689 --> 00:26:02,079
"It's a black plastic bag.
493
00:26:02,212 --> 00:26:03,782
"I have a blow-dryer.
494
00:26:03,910 --> 00:26:06,130
"I have pictures.
I have dry shampoo.
495
00:26:06,260 --> 00:26:07,960
I was there."
496
00:26:09,742 --> 00:26:12,662
And he says, "Okay.
We're gonna raid the studio."
497
00:26:17,967 --> 00:26:20,357
Detective Daly calls me
and says he's at the studio
498
00:26:20,491 --> 00:26:22,101
and that they're
actively raiding the studio.
499
00:26:22,232 --> 00:26:23,802
But he says, "Wake up,
500
00:26:23,930 --> 00:26:26,320
"wake up, wake up,
wake up, wake up.
501
00:26:26,454 --> 00:26:28,024
"We're running out of time.
502
00:26:28,151 --> 00:26:31,241
This... this is about to end.
Wake up."
503
00:26:31,372 --> 00:26:34,552
And I'm groggy,
and he's like, "Look...
504
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:36,460
"you got to give us
more information.
505
00:26:36,595 --> 00:26:38,065
"'Cause your stuff ain't here.
506
00:26:38,205 --> 00:26:40,985
"Tell me something
that nobody else would know
507
00:26:41,121 --> 00:26:41,951
unless they were here."
508
00:26:46,126 --> 00:26:48,296
And I says...
509
00:26:50,086 --> 00:26:52,516
"There's two Osco Drug
pill bottles
510
00:26:52,654 --> 00:26:55,144
in front of three Grammys
on a glass stand."
511
00:26:55,265 --> 00:26:57,305
And you could hear him running.
512
00:26:57,441 --> 00:26:59,571
And he say, "It's here.
513
00:26:59,705 --> 00:27:01,315
I believe you now."
514
00:27:28,690 --> 00:27:30,080
Detective Daly calls me
515
00:27:30,213 --> 00:27:31,433
and says he's at the studio
516
00:27:31,562 --> 00:27:33,832
and that they're
actively raiding the studio.
517
00:27:33,956 --> 00:27:36,346
But he says, "You got
to give us more information.
518
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:38,090
"'Cause your stuff ain't here.
519
00:27:38,221 --> 00:27:40,881
"Tell me something
that nobody else would know
520
00:27:41,007 --> 00:27:43,307
unless they were here."
521
00:27:50,538 --> 00:27:52,408
And I says...
522
00:27:54,107 --> 00:27:56,327
"There's two Osco Drug
pill bottles
523
00:27:56,457 --> 00:28:00,027
in front of three Grammys
on a glass stand."
524
00:28:00,156 --> 00:28:01,976
And you could hear him running.
He's, like, panting.
525
00:28:04,770 --> 00:28:07,030
And he say, "It's here.
526
00:28:07,163 --> 00:28:09,513
You just gained us two hours
in this studio."
527
00:28:09,644 --> 00:28:12,604
In the dumpster, they found
the black plastic bag
528
00:28:12,734 --> 00:28:14,744
with all my hair products in it.
529
00:28:14,867 --> 00:28:17,167
And they also found
the couch cushion
530
00:28:17,304 --> 00:28:20,664
that later they found out
possibly had semen on it.
531
00:28:21,874 --> 00:28:24,144
And so now everybody who lied,
532
00:28:24,267 --> 00:28:26,567
who said they didn't know me,
533
00:28:26,705 --> 00:28:29,485
had to change their story
and say that they knew me.
534
00:28:31,318 --> 00:28:33,098
I think Lanita had
a very strong case.
535
00:28:33,233 --> 00:28:37,283
I think that she had the facts
totally under her control.
536
00:28:37,411 --> 00:28:39,371
When Lanita made the report
to the police,
537
00:28:39,500 --> 00:28:41,550
and then that was turned over
to the state's attorney
538
00:28:41,676 --> 00:28:44,416
for prosecution,
that becomes their decision.
539
00:28:44,548 --> 00:28:46,588
They go to a grand jury process,
540
00:28:46,725 --> 00:28:48,725
and that is, an interview
541
00:28:48,857 --> 00:28:50,817
with the complaining witness,
542
00:28:50,946 --> 00:28:53,166
with the victim,
with Lanita in this case,
543
00:28:53,296 --> 00:28:54,946
and they decide
544
00:28:55,081 --> 00:28:57,431
whether a crime
has likely been committed,
545
00:28:57,561 --> 00:29:00,131
and then they decide whether
they want to bring charges.
546
00:29:00,260 --> 00:29:03,350
During that time, Shauna Boliker
547
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:05,830
took me to the grand jury,
548
00:29:05,961 --> 00:29:08,091
and I testified,
549
00:29:08,224 --> 00:29:11,184
and... everyone
badgered me there.
550
00:29:11,314 --> 00:29:13,234
Basically told me,
551
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:15,060
"Why wouldn'tyou sleep with a...
552
00:29:15,188 --> 00:29:16,538
superstar?"
553
00:29:16,667 --> 00:29:18,367
"Why wouldn't you sleep
with a celebrity?"
554
00:29:18,495 --> 00:29:19,795
I was in tears.
555
00:29:19,932 --> 00:29:21,592
I was uncomfortable.
556
00:29:21,716 --> 00:29:23,106
And, um...
557
00:29:23,239 --> 00:29:25,239
they were so mean to me.
558
00:29:26,547 --> 00:29:29,327
They were so mean.
559
00:29:29,463 --> 00:29:31,473
Nobody was there for me.
560
00:29:33,946 --> 00:29:37,206
I think our legal system
has to really do an atoning
561
00:29:37,340 --> 00:29:41,210
for how we've treated,
um, cases of-of sexual abuse.
562
00:29:41,344 --> 00:29:42,914
Sexual abuse, sexual assault
563
00:29:43,042 --> 00:29:45,392
is one of themost
underreported crimes.
564
00:29:45,522 --> 00:29:48,092
And I think
that's because victims
565
00:29:48,221 --> 00:29:50,401
fear that they
won't be believed.
566
00:29:50,527 --> 00:29:52,137
Lanita was disappointed
567
00:29:52,268 --> 00:29:54,968
and pretty devastated
568
00:29:55,097 --> 00:29:58,617
to know that they were not gonna
be bringing criminal charges.
569
00:29:58,753 --> 00:30:02,103
She had put herself on the line.
570
00:30:02,235 --> 00:30:05,845
She had done what she knew
was right for her.
571
00:30:05,978 --> 00:30:08,678
She followed
her own responsibility
572
00:30:08,807 --> 00:30:10,627
to herself and her conscience,
573
00:30:10,765 --> 00:30:13,985
and she felt that she was being
ignored by the system.
574
00:30:14,116 --> 00:30:15,726
At that point,
575
00:30:15,857 --> 00:30:19,027
Lanita and I discussed
where was this case
576
00:30:19,165 --> 00:30:21,515
in terms of criminal charge
577
00:30:21,645 --> 00:30:23,945
and where was a possible case
578
00:30:24,083 --> 00:30:27,483
in terms of a civil action
on her behalf.
579
00:30:27,608 --> 00:30:31,128
In criminal court,
it's about punishing the conduct
580
00:30:31,264 --> 00:30:34,884
of the perpetrator,
deterring this conduct,
581
00:30:35,007 --> 00:30:37,967
and, um, essentially making sure
it doesn't happen again.
582
00:30:38,097 --> 00:30:39,837
In a civil case,
583
00:30:39,968 --> 00:30:43,708
a victim of sexual assault
is seeking money damages.
584
00:30:44,973 --> 00:30:47,453
I did not want to sue R. Kelly
585
00:30:47,584 --> 00:30:49,594
at any time.
586
00:30:49,717 --> 00:30:51,847
I wanted him to apologize,
587
00:30:51,980 --> 00:30:54,070
or I wanted him...
588
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:57,460
to be criminally charged
589
00:30:57,594 --> 00:31:00,514
Shauna Boliker,
she told me, "Lanita,
590
00:31:00,641 --> 00:31:03,171
"maybe this is bigger
than you and me.
591
00:31:03,296 --> 00:31:07,296
Have you ever thought
about just suing Robert?"
592
00:31:11,391 --> 00:31:14,441
So everybody had talked
593
00:31:14,568 --> 00:31:18,348
about not taking
the bitch money...
594
00:31:18,485 --> 00:31:21,655
not settling,
standing up for yourself,
595
00:31:21,792 --> 00:31:25,972
and now I'm being told to,
um, contact Susan Loggans.
596
00:31:26,101 --> 00:31:27,931
Hi. I'm attorney
Susan E. Loggans.
597
00:31:28,060 --> 00:31:30,190
If you have a case,
we will fight for you.
598
00:31:30,323 --> 00:31:31,453
Susan...
599
00:31:31,585 --> 00:31:33,935
has brokered,
600
00:31:34,066 --> 00:31:38,896
settlements for silence
for victims of R. Kelly's abuse.
601
00:31:39,027 --> 00:31:42,467
She definitely has done that
on the cheap.
602
00:31:42,596 --> 00:31:46,856
And whatever money
she made, she...
603
00:31:46,992 --> 00:31:49,912
she took a third
of whatever she settled,
604
00:31:50,038 --> 00:31:53,558
and that's
sort of what happened.
605
00:31:53,694 --> 00:31:55,224
Word got out on the street.
606
00:31:55,348 --> 00:31:58,258
You want money from Robert,
see Susan Loggans.
607
00:31:58,394 --> 00:32:01,754
A nondisclosure agreement
would be signed.
608
00:32:01,876 --> 00:32:05,356
The girl promised never to speak
about it as she took this money.
609
00:32:05,488 --> 00:32:08,448
Some people would have a problem
with what Susan Loggans did.
610
00:32:08,578 --> 00:32:10,888
I think other people
would say...
611
00:32:11,016 --> 00:32:14,316
she was a civil attorney
doing her job.
612
00:32:14,454 --> 00:32:17,154
I contact
Susan Loggans & Associates.
613
00:32:17,283 --> 00:32:19,023
She was, like, very aggressive.
614
00:32:19,154 --> 00:32:21,294
She was, "I don't believe it.
615
00:32:21,417 --> 00:32:23,507
"I have tried many cases,
616
00:32:23,637 --> 00:32:25,897
"and this
doesn't sound right to me.
617
00:32:26,031 --> 00:32:28,251
You're... you're too old."
618
00:32:28,381 --> 00:32:29,951
You know?
619
00:32:33,255 --> 00:32:36,075
She didn't take my case.
620
00:32:36,215 --> 00:32:39,085
But she told me that, um,
she would send me somewhere,
621
00:32:39,218 --> 00:32:41,478
and she sent me
to David Pritchard
622
00:32:41,611 --> 00:32:44,011
of Salvi, Shostok & Pritchard.
623
00:32:44,136 --> 00:32:47,266
I mean, he had the case settled
in three months.
624
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:49,140
How many settlements
has R. Kelly done?
625
00:32:49,271 --> 00:32:52,011
That right there tells you
that he's hiding in plain sight.
626
00:32:52,144 --> 00:32:53,544
I mean, a settlement is...
627
00:32:53,667 --> 00:32:56,097
is not legally
an admission of guilt,
628
00:32:56,235 --> 00:32:59,925
But you're settling
for a reason, you know?
629
00:33:00,065 --> 00:33:02,065
I did what everybody else
wanted me to do
630
00:33:02,197 --> 00:33:04,807
instead of what
I believed for myself.
631
00:33:04,939 --> 00:33:07,419
A part of me...
632
00:33:07,550 --> 00:33:09,990
did not want him
to be in trouble,
633
00:33:10,118 --> 00:33:14,208
but I did want him to...
634
00:33:14,340 --> 00:33:17,820
acknowledge
that he had wronged me.
635
00:33:17,952 --> 00:33:20,042
And it's been, like,
the big thing.
636
00:33:20,172 --> 00:33:23,182
Nobody acknowledges
that they-they mess over me.
637
00:33:25,351 --> 00:33:27,401
Say that you wronged me.
638
00:33:27,527 --> 00:33:29,307
Say that I was important.
639
00:33:29,442 --> 00:33:31,842
Make me feel
like I'm not going crazy.
640
00:33:31,966 --> 00:33:33,916
Like, you know
nobody care for me.
641
00:33:34,055 --> 00:33:35,535
Black women
642
00:33:35,665 --> 00:33:38,055
are not allowed to be victims.
643
00:33:38,190 --> 00:33:40,020
We are...
644
00:33:40,148 --> 00:33:42,018
It's so funny, because...
645
00:33:42,150 --> 00:33:45,020
we are able to... help,
646
00:33:45,153 --> 00:33:47,903
we are able to save,
647
00:33:48,026 --> 00:33:51,246
we are able to nurture,
648
00:33:51,377 --> 00:33:54,377
we are able
to do everything strong.
649
00:33:56,991 --> 00:33:59,301
Yet we can't be anything weak.
650
00:34:01,474 --> 00:34:03,304
But our men can.
651
00:34:05,304 --> 00:34:07,524
Black women
are very much disposable
652
00:34:07,654 --> 00:34:08,834
in the face
653
00:34:08,959 --> 00:34:10,959
of needing to protect
654
00:34:11,092 --> 00:34:13,362
the mythology of a celebrity,
655
00:34:13,486 --> 00:34:15,656
um, particularly
a black male celebrity
656
00:34:15,792 --> 00:34:17,792
who seems
to have accomplished anything.
657
00:34:17,925 --> 00:34:21,315
So the demand for us is silence
658
00:34:21,450 --> 00:34:22,500
so that the rest
of the community
659
00:34:22,625 --> 00:34:25,585
gets to keep this mythology.
660
00:34:25,715 --> 00:34:27,935
I signed
a nondisclosure agreement,
661
00:34:28,066 --> 00:34:29,236
and I was
662
00:34:29,371 --> 00:34:33,641
told not to speak about it ever.
663
00:34:33,767 --> 00:34:35,377
We rely heavily
664
00:34:35,508 --> 00:34:37,728
on victim accounts
and witness statements
665
00:34:37,858 --> 00:34:41,038
to prosecute cases
involving sexual assault
666
00:34:41,166 --> 00:34:43,166
and domestic violence.
667
00:34:43,298 --> 00:34:46,738
I'm here today
to encourage victims
668
00:34:46,867 --> 00:34:49,347
of sexual assault
or domestic violence,
669
00:34:49,478 --> 00:34:51,518
um, related to these allegations
670
00:34:51,654 --> 00:34:54,484
to please get in touch
with our office.
671
00:34:54,614 --> 00:34:58,714
The documentary
opened the door to justice
672
00:34:58,835 --> 00:35:01,185
for all of Kelly's accusers.
673
00:35:01,316 --> 00:35:03,616
The attorney general
called for women
674
00:35:03,753 --> 00:35:06,453
who-who had these experiences
to come forward.
675
00:35:06,582 --> 00:35:07,632
I mean, that was huge.
676
00:35:07,757 --> 00:35:09,107
She had watched all of the show
677
00:35:09,237 --> 00:35:10,717
and asked for any witnesses
678
00:35:10,847 --> 00:35:12,237
to come forward who had evidence
679
00:35:12,371 --> 00:35:13,461
against R. Kelly.
680
00:35:13,589 --> 00:35:14,939
People watch
681
00:35:15,069 --> 00:35:16,639
a documentary and think,
"Well, now all of a sudden
682
00:35:16,766 --> 00:35:18,116
something's gonna happen."
683
00:35:18,246 --> 00:35:20,206
99% of our cases
684
00:35:20,335 --> 00:35:22,945
rely on victims and witnesses
685
00:35:23,077 --> 00:35:25,427
coming forward
and telling their stories.
686
00:35:25,558 --> 00:35:27,168
That it wasn't enough
687
00:35:27,299 --> 00:35:29,039
that someone watched something
on television
688
00:35:29,170 --> 00:35:31,560
and think
that something would happen.
689
00:35:31,694 --> 00:35:33,484
In order for us
to prosecute cases
690
00:35:33,609 --> 00:35:35,389
of sexual abuse
or sexual assault,
691
00:35:35,524 --> 00:35:38,354
regardless of who
the offender may be,
692
00:35:38,484 --> 00:35:41,444
we need victims and witnesses
to come forward.
693
00:35:41,574 --> 00:35:43,494
She just wanted
all those individuals to know
694
00:35:43,619 --> 00:35:45,529
she was open to hear.
695
00:35:45,665 --> 00:35:47,005
We were like,
"You know, it's coming.
696
00:35:47,145 --> 00:35:48,145
Absolutely, it's coming."
697
00:35:48,276 --> 00:35:50,966
Please come forward.
698
00:35:52,976 --> 00:35:54,016
Someone texts me,
699
00:35:54,152 --> 00:35:57,502
"Lanita, did you see the news?"
700
00:35:57,633 --> 00:36:00,383
There's nothing that can be done
to investigate these allegations
701
00:36:00,506 --> 00:36:02,986
without the cooperation
702
00:36:03,117 --> 00:36:05,157
of both victims and witnesses.
703
00:36:05,293 --> 00:36:06,823
I said to myself,
704
00:36:06,947 --> 00:36:08,507
"If this comes up again,
705
00:36:08,644 --> 00:36:10,524
I'll have to move on it."
706
00:36:38,500 --> 00:36:39,940
The first time I broke
707
00:36:40,067 --> 00:36:42,547
the nondisclosure agreement was
708
00:36:42,678 --> 00:36:45,198
when I did an interview for CBS.
709
00:36:45,333 --> 00:36:47,073
One of the anonymous accusers
710
00:36:47,205 --> 00:36:49,335
in R. Kelly's criminal case
is speaking out publicly
711
00:36:49,468 --> 00:36:50,728
for the very first time.
712
00:36:50,860 --> 00:36:52,780
Celebrities are powerful.
713
00:36:52,906 --> 00:36:56,906
Celebrities have...
support systems.
714
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,910
I-I have no support system
715
00:37:00,043 --> 00:37:02,393
outside of my immediate family.
716
00:37:02,524 --> 00:37:04,184
I did think
717
00:37:04,309 --> 00:37:07,569
that I would go to jail
for, in fact,
718
00:37:07,703 --> 00:37:08,883
speaking out.
719
00:37:09,009 --> 00:37:10,399
She signed an agreement
not to speak.
720
00:37:10,532 --> 00:37:11,712
How is she able to speak now?
721
00:37:11,838 --> 00:37:12,968
Is she just disregarding
that agreement?
722
00:37:13,100 --> 00:37:14,620
She's disregarding
that agreement,
723
00:37:14,754 --> 00:37:17,064
and, again,
it's a process for her.
724
00:37:17,191 --> 00:37:20,061
She heard the call
from the state attorney.
725
00:37:20,194 --> 00:37:22,074
And she said,
"You know what? He gets to talk
726
00:37:22,196 --> 00:37:23,806
"about what he says
is his truth.
727
00:37:23,937 --> 00:37:25,237
I'm gonna speak out."
728
00:37:25,373 --> 00:37:27,723
Money does not heal you.
729
00:37:27,854 --> 00:37:30,684
Money does not cover up
730
00:37:30,813 --> 00:37:33,603
what you feel.
731
00:37:33,729 --> 00:37:35,779
I took the chance
732
00:37:35,905 --> 00:37:38,645
of going to jail because
733
00:37:38,778 --> 00:37:40,778
I had already imprisoned myself,
734
00:37:40,910 --> 00:37:43,440
so I was already in jail.
735
00:37:43,565 --> 00:37:45,645
How can you lock up somebody
who already locked up?
736
00:37:45,785 --> 00:37:47,435
It's about holding people
737
00:37:47,569 --> 00:37:48,919
accountable for their behavior.
738
00:37:49,049 --> 00:37:50,489
And it's about the fact
739
00:37:50,616 --> 00:37:53,966
that it in the history
of American society,
740
00:37:54,097 --> 00:37:57,097
women who are survivors of abuse
741
00:37:57,231 --> 00:38:01,101
rarely see their abusers
get held accountable.
742
00:38:01,235 --> 00:38:03,145
In myself speaking out,
743
00:38:03,281 --> 00:38:06,631
I hope to help someone
744
00:38:06,762 --> 00:38:09,202
but, most importantly, myself.
745
00:38:09,330 --> 00:38:10,770
I've always wanted
to be a nurse,
746
00:38:10,897 --> 00:38:13,467
and I've always tried
to go to school to be a nurse,
747
00:38:13,595 --> 00:38:16,685
and life always got in the way.
748
00:38:16,816 --> 00:38:20,036
Education saved my life.
749
00:38:20,167 --> 00:38:22,777
It helps you learn
how to love yourself.
750
00:38:22,909 --> 00:38:25,779
I am a nurse,
751
00:38:25,912 --> 00:38:29,442
and I advocate
for so many people,
752
00:38:29,568 --> 00:38:31,958
and I never advocated
for myself.
753
00:38:32,092 --> 00:38:33,492
I needed to...
754
00:38:33,615 --> 00:38:35,965
start the process of healing,
755
00:38:36,096 --> 00:38:38,876
and so this is my first part
of healing.
756
00:38:40,187 --> 00:38:42,407
There is the real risk
757
00:38:42,537 --> 00:38:44,627
that women rightfully feel
758
00:38:44,757 --> 00:38:46,667
that if they come forward,
759
00:38:46,802 --> 00:38:49,242
"What am I going to lose?"
760
00:38:49,370 --> 00:38:51,330
You risk your place
in the community.
761
00:38:51,459 --> 00:38:55,249
You risk being ostracized
even by family members.
762
00:38:55,376 --> 00:38:59,156
So to have this moment
says that those voices
763
00:38:59,293 --> 00:39:01,603
and those people
who were harmed and injured
764
00:39:01,730 --> 00:39:03,820
and then had the bravery
to come forward
765
00:39:03,950 --> 00:39:05,390
and say,
"Yes, this happened to me,"
766
00:39:05,517 --> 00:39:08,037
they deserve this moment.
767
00:39:08,171 --> 00:39:09,871
They deserve this moment.
768
00:39:09,999 --> 00:39:13,309
Um, and we have to know
that there is some possibility
769
00:39:13,438 --> 00:39:15,088
that if we come forward
770
00:39:15,222 --> 00:39:16,832
about the ways
that we've been assaulted,
771
00:39:16,963 --> 00:39:19,273
that something
is going to be done.
772
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:22,530
R. Kelly,
what do you want to say to your fans?
773
00:39:24,884 --> 00:39:27,064
- Are you innocent?
- R&B singer R. Kelly
774
00:39:27,190 --> 00:39:29,190
is now in police custody.
775
00:39:29,323 --> 00:39:31,933
R. Kelly, le chanteur de R&B...
776
00:39:33,806 --> 00:39:35,286
...Robert Kelly.
777
00:39:40,465 --> 00:39:42,725
Earlier today,
Robert Kelly was indicted
778
00:39:42,858 --> 00:39:44,898
before a Cook County grand jury
779
00:39:45,034 --> 00:39:48,264
on ten counts of aggravated
criminal sexual abuse
780
00:39:48,386 --> 00:39:51,036
involving four victims.
781
00:39:51,171 --> 00:39:53,571
I was surprised
when he was charged.
782
00:39:53,695 --> 00:39:57,085
Most folks see and accept
as abusers or perpetrators
783
00:39:57,220 --> 00:39:59,920
over and over again getting away
with these kind of crimes,
784
00:40:00,049 --> 00:40:02,659
so I think this time around,
785
00:40:02,791 --> 00:40:04,011
folks want to get it right.
786
00:40:04,140 --> 00:40:05,930
Mr. Kelly is strong.
787
00:40:06,055 --> 00:40:08,055
He's got a lot of support,
788
00:40:08,188 --> 00:40:11,538
and he's gonna be vindicated
on all these charges.
789
00:40:11,670 --> 00:40:13,110
I think all the women
are lying, yes.
790
00:40:13,236 --> 00:40:15,846
This has become, "Hey, R. Kelly.
791
00:40:15,978 --> 00:40:18,548
I can say R. Kelly
did something. Boom."
792
00:40:18,677 --> 00:40:22,247
Everybody's trying to profit
off of R. Kelly.
793
00:40:22,376 --> 00:40:23,856
The 52-year-old performer
794
00:40:23,986 --> 00:40:25,896
turned himself in
to Chicago police Friday night.
795
00:40:26,032 --> 00:40:27,902
He is being charged
with ten counts
796
00:40:28,034 --> 00:40:30,694
of felony sexual abuse,
each of which carries with it
797
00:40:30,819 --> 00:40:32,779
three to seven years in prison.
798
00:40:32,908 --> 00:40:34,688
It's a bunch of disgruntled
people who are looking
799
00:40:34,823 --> 00:40:37,653
for their 15 minutes
of TMZ fame.
800
00:40:37,783 --> 00:40:40,483
There's no facts
to back up these claims.
801
00:40:40,612 --> 00:40:42,222
So many people saw
802
00:40:42,352 --> 00:40:44,572
the Surviving R. Kelly
documentary and thought,
803
00:40:44,703 --> 00:40:46,313
"Why isn't he in jail?"
804
00:40:46,444 --> 00:40:48,104
That was so significant,
805
00:40:48,228 --> 00:40:51,058
because while
our particular goal
806
00:40:51,187 --> 00:40:52,967
had always been
807
00:40:53,102 --> 00:40:56,282
about trying to convince
the black community
808
00:40:56,410 --> 00:40:58,930
to financially divest itself
from R. Kelly,
809
00:40:59,065 --> 00:41:00,845
the overall goal
810
00:41:00,980 --> 00:41:04,510
has always been so that charges
can be brought against him
811
00:41:04,636 --> 00:41:07,026
and he can be brought
to justice.
812
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:08,900
Because his victims deserve it.
813
00:41:09,031 --> 00:41:11,771
The ones who've come forward
and the many who have not.
814
00:41:11,904 --> 00:41:13,474
They deserve this justice.
815
00:41:14,907 --> 00:41:16,337
Are you innocent?
816
00:41:16,474 --> 00:41:18,264
As far as a sentence,
817
00:41:18,388 --> 00:41:21,088
Kelly's facing
three to seven years in prison
818
00:41:21,217 --> 00:41:24,527
for each count of aggravated
criminal sexual abuse.
819
00:41:24,656 --> 00:41:28,486
He's facing a fine
of up to $25,000 on each count,
820
00:41:28,616 --> 00:41:30,966
and he's facing
sex registration.
821
00:41:31,097 --> 00:41:32,837
There are four victims
in this case.
822
00:41:32,968 --> 00:41:35,008
One is Jerhonda Pace.
823
00:41:37,233 --> 00:41:39,803
Jerhonda was
a 15-year-old superfan--
824
00:41:39,932 --> 00:41:42,062
her language--
from the Southern suburbs
825
00:41:42,195 --> 00:41:44,065
who cut high school class
826
00:41:44,197 --> 00:41:47,027
to attend every day
of Kelly's public trial.
827
00:41:47,156 --> 00:41:50,026
Sheriff's officers were supposed
to be carding at the door
828
00:41:50,159 --> 00:41:53,159
so nobody under 18 was admitted.
829
00:41:53,293 --> 00:41:55,083
Jerhonda lied about her age.
830
00:41:55,208 --> 00:41:57,988
Six months or so
after the trial ended,
831
00:41:58,124 --> 00:42:00,214
after the acquittal,
he begins...
832
00:42:00,343 --> 00:42:02,303
initiates sexual contact
with her.
833
00:42:02,432 --> 00:42:04,222
If you're trying
to just walk away
834
00:42:04,347 --> 00:42:05,647
with just blaming R. Kelly,
835
00:42:05,784 --> 00:42:07,574
then you are out of touch.
836
00:42:07,699 --> 00:42:09,529
Parents need to know
837
00:42:09,657 --> 00:42:11,087
where your kids are.
838
00:42:11,224 --> 00:42:13,884
I am a grown-ass man
839
00:42:14,009 --> 00:42:15,969
who travels around the world.
840
00:42:16,098 --> 00:42:19,668
My mother knows where I am now.
841
00:42:19,798 --> 00:42:20,928
I would ask their parents.
842
00:42:21,060 --> 00:42:22,450
I would question them,
843
00:42:22,583 --> 00:42:24,113
and I would say, "Why did you
844
00:42:24,237 --> 00:42:27,107
"allow your daughter
to go through this abuse?
845
00:42:27,240 --> 00:42:29,810
"What were your motives
as parents,
846
00:42:29,938 --> 00:42:32,108
and why didn't you help
your daughter?"
847
00:42:32,245 --> 00:42:34,375
Choosing men
and being in relationships
848
00:42:34,508 --> 00:42:35,938
that are ultimately harmful...
849
00:42:36,075 --> 00:42:38,595
These are points of decisions,
850
00:42:38,730 --> 00:42:41,560
but what's important to remember
is that the material
851
00:42:41,689 --> 00:42:44,469
that they're making
decisions with is corrupted.
852
00:42:50,176 --> 00:42:53,006
Honestly,
I had never received counseling
853
00:42:53,135 --> 00:42:55,045
for everything
I've been through,
854
00:42:55,181 --> 00:42:56,751
from the time I was
855
00:42:56,878 --> 00:42:58,788
sexually abused
at age four, six and eight
856
00:42:58,924 --> 00:43:01,144
and then, um, then Rob.
857
00:43:01,274 --> 00:43:03,494
He abused me again at 16,
858
00:43:03,624 --> 00:43:06,244
so abuse was my comfort zone.
859
00:43:06,366 --> 00:43:07,666
It really did damage me.
860
00:43:07,802 --> 00:43:09,152
Growing up,
861
00:43:09,282 --> 00:43:11,462
I knew my mom
was a nonchalant mom.
862
00:43:11,589 --> 00:43:15,459
I knew she was one of those
that-that didn't care.
863
00:43:15,593 --> 00:43:18,733
Like, she didn't care
whether or not I showed up.
864
00:43:18,857 --> 00:43:20,467
So, like,
what I was going through?
865
00:43:20,598 --> 00:43:22,818
It didn't matter.
866
00:43:22,948 --> 00:43:24,778
When you come
from a broken home,
867
00:43:24,906 --> 00:43:27,996
it's like a part of you knows
when somebody else is broken
868
00:43:28,127 --> 00:43:29,687
or if they come
from a broken home.
869
00:43:29,824 --> 00:43:32,654
And what Rob did was normal.
870
00:43:35,090 --> 00:43:38,530
When I started out with Rob,
I didn't get this...
871
00:43:38,659 --> 00:43:40,659
overly sexual guy.
872
00:43:40,792 --> 00:43:42,792
It was more, "I care about you.
873
00:43:42,924 --> 00:43:44,844
"You've been through this,
and I want to protect you
874
00:43:44,970 --> 00:43:47,060
from all of that stuff."
875
00:43:47,189 --> 00:43:50,149
He offered me security.
He offered me protection,
876
00:43:50,279 --> 00:43:52,589
and that's something
that I didn't have growing up.
877
00:43:52,717 --> 00:43:55,547
If he wasn't starving me,
he was asking me if I ate.
878
00:43:55,676 --> 00:43:58,066
I was so grateful
for that. Like,
879
00:43:58,200 --> 00:43:59,460
he actually asked me if I ate.
880
00:43:59,593 --> 00:44:01,813
Like, my mom has never in life--
881
00:44:01,943 --> 00:44:05,083
to this day--
she has never asked me if I ate.
882
00:44:05,207 --> 00:44:07,817
So I was like,
"That is something."
883
00:44:07,949 --> 00:44:11,429
And it was those small things
that meant the most to me.
884
00:44:11,561 --> 00:44:13,871
He did speak
885
00:44:13,999 --> 00:44:17,049
about how bad
his childhood was growing up,
886
00:44:17,176 --> 00:44:18,656
how he was sexually abused
as a child.
887
00:44:20,701 --> 00:44:23,531
He was talking about some
pretty dark times in his life
888
00:44:23,661 --> 00:44:25,311
and how he was just
889
00:44:25,445 --> 00:44:27,485
never able to find someone
that he could trust.
890
00:44:27,621 --> 00:44:29,061
But when it came
891
00:44:29,188 --> 00:44:31,488
to me, he trusted me
with everything.
892
00:44:31,625 --> 00:44:34,365
He told me
about him being abused,
893
00:44:34,497 --> 00:44:36,407
how we shared similar pasts.
894
00:44:36,543 --> 00:44:38,983
So he made me feel safe
and comfortable,
895
00:44:39,111 --> 00:44:40,331
and he promised me
that he would never be like
896
00:44:40,460 --> 00:44:41,980
the other men in my life.
897
00:44:42,114 --> 00:44:43,514
As a child,
898
00:44:43,637 --> 00:44:45,157
I was sexually abused.
899
00:44:45,291 --> 00:44:46,731
You know,
900
00:44:46,858 --> 00:44:48,988
by a family member, as well.
901
00:44:49,121 --> 00:44:52,081
So when he opened up,
902
00:44:52,211 --> 00:44:54,911
I felt a connection to him
because of that.
903
00:44:56,171 --> 00:44:58,091
That manipulation goes so...
904
00:44:58,217 --> 00:45:00,737
Look at me still t-today.
I still
905
00:45:00,872 --> 00:45:04,222
am talking about the little boy
that I feel...
906
00:45:04,353 --> 00:45:07,533
needs to be saved.
907
00:45:07,661 --> 00:45:09,231
If a perpetrator appears broken,
908
00:45:09,358 --> 00:45:12,358
he doesn't come off as a threat.
909
00:45:12,492 --> 00:45:13,582
They might be thinking
they're gonna take care
910
00:45:13,711 --> 00:45:15,021
and they're gonna love
911
00:45:15,147 --> 00:45:16,707
and they're gonna be
the comfort for him.
912
00:45:16,844 --> 00:45:19,374
It's just such a manipulation
913
00:45:19,499 --> 00:45:22,069
that I've never seen before.
Like that, like,
914
00:45:22,197 --> 00:45:24,157
he's mastered that.
915
00:45:24,286 --> 00:45:25,936
You could have
a party in the house,
916
00:45:26,071 --> 00:45:27,991
and he would just look
for the one that's kind of
917
00:45:28,116 --> 00:45:32,026
off to the side, not mingling
too much and be like, "Okay,
918
00:45:32,164 --> 00:45:34,734
"this person just over there
keeping to themselves,
919
00:45:34,862 --> 00:45:36,472
you're hiding something
or you're uncomfortable."
920
00:45:36,603 --> 00:45:38,913
And he would go
grab that person.
921
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:42,090
And it was usually
the youngest one in the room.
922
00:45:42,217 --> 00:45:44,517
Robert can smell a wounded woman
923
00:45:44,654 --> 00:45:46,274
a mile away.
924
00:45:46,395 --> 00:45:49,135
It was a different side
of him that I-I'd seen.
925
00:45:49,268 --> 00:45:52,708
I didn't expect him
to be this-this monster.
926
00:45:52,837 --> 00:45:54,927
I didn't expect him
to be so evil.
927
00:46:21,430 --> 00:46:25,090
To grow up and not have
928
00:46:25,217 --> 00:46:27,647
my, my father present...
929
00:46:27,785 --> 00:46:29,655
And to just not have, you know,
930
00:46:29,787 --> 00:46:32,397
a positive mother
931
00:46:32,528 --> 00:46:35,008
present, then to just
all of a sudden
932
00:46:35,140 --> 00:46:37,360
have R. Kelly choose you.
933
00:46:37,490 --> 00:46:39,230
It was a-a high for me.
934
00:46:39,361 --> 00:46:41,321
It was, like,
the highlight of my life.
935
00:46:41,450 --> 00:46:43,320
Like, you don't
understand, like,
936
00:46:43,452 --> 00:46:45,282
this is R. Kelly-- he chose me.
937
00:46:45,411 --> 00:46:47,891
Nobody in my life had valued me.
938
00:46:48,022 --> 00:46:49,982
You know, when I graduated,
nobody showed up
939
00:46:50,111 --> 00:46:52,551
for my graduation
and it was like
940
00:46:52,679 --> 00:46:54,329
I was always the ugly duckling.
941
00:46:54,463 --> 00:46:57,163
I was always looked over.
942
00:46:57,292 --> 00:47:00,212
And Rob, he just treated me
so much better than,
943
00:47:00,339 --> 00:47:02,429
you know, my family
had treated me.
944
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:06,520
Often what we see is that
945
00:47:06,649 --> 00:47:09,739
what starts off as comforting
and warm and loving,
946
00:47:09,870 --> 00:47:12,180
that begins
to lay the groundwork
947
00:47:12,307 --> 00:47:15,657
for the oncoming
and upcoming abuse.
948
00:47:15,789 --> 00:47:17,659
It was a different side
of him that I-I'd seen.
949
00:47:17,791 --> 00:47:19,451
That I did not expect.
950
00:47:19,575 --> 00:47:21,705
I was just scared.
951
00:47:23,623 --> 00:47:25,283
You're not allowed
to speak to any other men.
952
00:47:25,407 --> 00:47:27,277
You're not allowed to speak
to friends or family.
953
00:47:27,409 --> 00:47:30,279
You can only use
the cell phone I give you.
954
00:47:30,412 --> 00:47:32,282
You must ask my permission
to go to the bathroom
955
00:47:32,414 --> 00:47:35,424
or to take a drink,
and if you break my rules,
956
00:47:35,548 --> 00:47:38,378
you are punished
physically and mentally.
957
00:47:38,507 --> 00:47:41,207
Any time Rob would flip out,
958
00:47:41,336 --> 00:47:43,856
it always resulted in him
959
00:47:43,991 --> 00:47:45,861
becoming physical with me.
960
00:47:45,993 --> 00:47:47,603
I knew I couldn't
defend myself, because if I,
961
00:47:47,734 --> 00:47:49,524
if I hit him, it would be worse.
962
00:47:49,649 --> 00:47:51,999
If I say something,
it would be worse.
963
00:47:52,130 --> 00:47:53,740
If I tried to run...
964
00:47:53,871 --> 00:47:55,131
like, no,
it wasn't gonna be right.
965
00:47:55,263 --> 00:47:56,663
He was gonna grab me and he was
966
00:47:56,786 --> 00:47:58,266
gonna do more damage,
967
00:47:58,397 --> 00:48:00,177
so all I could do
was just sit there
968
00:48:00,312 --> 00:48:03,662
and just take
whatever he was dishing.
969
00:48:03,793 --> 00:48:06,323
It's a really messed-up
thing, but it's
970
00:48:06,448 --> 00:48:08,228
what I grew up around,
and I feel like
971
00:48:08,363 --> 00:48:10,763
that's why I ended up with Rob.
972
00:48:10,888 --> 00:48:13,368
Ultimately, humans
973
00:48:13,499 --> 00:48:15,329
are seeking comfort
and familiarity.
974
00:48:15,457 --> 00:48:17,587
So, I want love,
975
00:48:17,720 --> 00:48:19,160
he's giving me love.
976
00:48:19,287 --> 00:48:20,987
But I just don't want the abuse.
977
00:48:21,115 --> 00:48:23,285
In interpersonal
violence relationships,
978
00:48:23,422 --> 00:48:26,692
the perpetrator also is
the person that gives hope.
979
00:48:26,816 --> 00:48:29,686
Right, and the perpetrator
gives pain,
980
00:48:29,819 --> 00:48:32,299
but also gives relief
from that pain.
981
00:48:32,431 --> 00:48:35,651
And in a disorganized state,
982
00:48:35,782 --> 00:48:38,262
or in the midst
of the chaos of violence,
983
00:48:38,393 --> 00:48:40,873
that is relieving.
984
00:48:41,005 --> 00:48:42,525
Right, and so then,
you seek relief,
985
00:48:42,658 --> 00:48:44,308
and you seek it
from the person closest to you.
986
00:48:44,443 --> 00:48:47,103
Which happens to be
your perpetrator.
987
00:48:47,228 --> 00:48:49,008
I think what we all had
in common was that we had
988
00:48:49,143 --> 00:48:52,363
compassion and empathy
for his past.
989
00:48:52,494 --> 00:48:54,714
Whatever fetishes
and desires that he had,
990
00:48:54,844 --> 00:48:57,894
we were willing to please him.
991
00:48:58,022 --> 00:48:59,982
We wanted his approval.
992
00:49:03,810 --> 00:49:06,730
Sexual abuse at a really
early age can
993
00:49:06,856 --> 00:49:09,596
affect the way
you relate with sex.
994
00:49:09,729 --> 00:49:11,429
It can make you see sex
as a tool
995
00:49:11,557 --> 00:49:14,167
to get closer to people.
996
00:49:14,299 --> 00:49:16,779
To, um, control people.
997
00:49:16,910 --> 00:49:19,390
It can be used as
a tool to dominate.
998
00:49:22,437 --> 00:49:24,527
I guess it's, like,
999
00:49:24,657 --> 00:49:26,217
sexual abuse
because I was forced
1000
00:49:26,354 --> 00:49:28,664
to perform sexual acts
that I didn't agree with.
1001
00:49:28,791 --> 00:49:30,491
You know, I would say,
"No, I don't want to do it."
1002
00:49:30,619 --> 00:49:31,789
But again,
he would intimidate me.
1003
00:49:31,925 --> 00:49:33,615
He would scream at me, and say,
1004
00:49:33,753 --> 00:49:35,103
"Well, you know,
there's other women
1005
00:49:35,233 --> 00:49:36,803
"that'd be happy to be here.
1006
00:49:36,930 --> 00:49:38,280
"See, so-and-so don't
have a problem doing it.
1007
00:49:38,410 --> 00:49:39,980
"I thought you loved Daddy.
1008
00:49:40,107 --> 00:49:41,457
You would do anything
to please Daddy."
1009
00:49:41,587 --> 00:49:43,757
And so when he do that,
it's, like, okay,
1010
00:49:43,893 --> 00:49:46,073
I have to do whatever
I need to do to please you,
1011
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:47,550
whether I agree with it or not.
1012
00:49:50,900 --> 00:49:53,080
And, then, once I'm finished,
I'm just going
1013
00:49:53,207 --> 00:49:56,167
in my room crying with regret
that I actually did it.
1014
00:49:56,297 --> 00:49:58,777
I was summoned to sex
whenever he wanted me to
1015
00:49:58,908 --> 00:50:01,908
have sex with him
and with whoever, other girls.
1016
00:50:02,042 --> 00:50:05,002
It just made you feel
so belittled.
1017
00:50:05,132 --> 00:50:08,532
I felt literally ill,
you know, having sex with him
1018
00:50:08,657 --> 00:50:11,657
when I knew that there were...
1019
00:50:11,791 --> 00:50:13,361
fetishes involved in it.
1020
00:50:13,488 --> 00:50:15,318
And it was
1021
00:50:15,447 --> 00:50:18,057
feeding a sickness.
1022
00:50:18,189 --> 00:50:19,629
So I would feel ill
to my stomach,
1023
00:50:19,755 --> 00:50:21,315
because I felt like...
1024
00:50:21,453 --> 00:50:23,673
you know, I compare it to...
1025
00:50:26,110 --> 00:50:29,240
...someone you know
and love on drugs.
1026
00:50:29,374 --> 00:50:31,334
And then you're
just giving it to them
1027
00:50:31,463 --> 00:50:34,423
every day, and as long
as they don't go off and do it
1028
00:50:34,553 --> 00:50:36,293
somewhere else
and they're in the safety net
1029
00:50:36,424 --> 00:50:37,994
of your home
and in front of you,
1030
00:50:38,122 --> 00:50:39,342
you're okay with it.
1031
00:50:39,471 --> 00:50:40,561
But you're still responsible
1032
00:50:40,689 --> 00:50:42,739
because you're feeding it.
1033
00:50:42,865 --> 00:50:44,165
He don't like women.
1034
00:50:44,302 --> 00:50:45,612
He treat women so badly
1035
00:50:45,738 --> 00:50:47,568
because he have a hate for them.
1036
00:50:47,696 --> 00:50:51,396
And I-I really think
that hate is,
1037
00:50:51,526 --> 00:50:53,616
because of his sexual abuse.
1038
00:50:53,746 --> 00:50:56,306
And he talked about how
his mom didn't protect him.
1039
00:50:56,444 --> 00:50:59,754
Even though he loved his mother
with everything in him,
1040
00:50:59,882 --> 00:51:02,842
he always talked about
how she never protected him.
1041
00:51:02,972 --> 00:51:05,712
So, I think that's a part
of his hate for women.
1042
00:51:42,882 --> 00:51:45,802
So we're-we're very happy
with the bond that the judge set.
1043
00:51:45,928 --> 00:51:47,888
I think it's fair and reasonable
given the allegations.
1044
00:51:48,017 --> 00:51:50,147
We hope that,
Mr. Kelly's able
1045
00:51:50,281 --> 00:51:53,021
to get the money together
and post bond.
1046
00:51:53,153 --> 00:51:55,683
Look, I finally got around
to watching that documentary.
1047
00:51:55,808 --> 00:51:59,288
It was a rehash of things
they've known for years.
1048
00:51:59,420 --> 00:52:02,210
The police have investigated
and everybody rejected it.
1049
00:52:02,336 --> 00:52:03,726
I think all the women are lying.
1050
00:52:03,859 --> 00:52:07,169
Everybody's trying to profit
off of R. Kelly.
1051
00:52:07,298 --> 00:52:11,038
I know on-on one of the cases,
1052
00:52:11,171 --> 00:52:13,521
there are a number of interviews
where the young lady says,
1053
00:52:13,652 --> 00:52:15,352
"I lied about how old I was.
1054
00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:17,400
I lied to him about
how old I was."
1055
00:52:17,525 --> 00:52:19,045
And then recently said, "No,
1056
00:52:19,179 --> 00:52:21,919
I lied about lying
about how old he was."
1057
00:52:22,051 --> 00:52:23,881
We'll have to look at it.
1058
00:52:31,104 --> 00:52:32,154
Well...
1059
00:52:39,373 --> 00:52:42,683
So, so, you have
a book coming out.
1060
00:52:42,811 --> 00:52:46,511
And I hope you sell,
I hope you sell lots of books.
1061
00:52:49,427 --> 00:52:52,647
What else is your question?
1062
00:52:52,778 --> 00:52:54,388
When I blew up
at Steve Greenberg,
1063
00:52:54,519 --> 00:52:55,909
you know...
1064
00:52:56,042 --> 00:52:57,482
It's not very professional,
you know?
1065
00:52:57,609 --> 00:53:00,739
But I had just seen
Jerhonda and,
1066
00:53:00,873 --> 00:53:03,273
she had sat in the court room
1067
00:53:03,397 --> 00:53:05,617
as the charges were read
against Kelly.
1068
00:53:05,747 --> 00:53:08,787
Greenberg is saying
point blank that
1069
00:53:08,924 --> 00:53:11,624
everyone in
the new Illinois case,
1070
00:53:11,753 --> 00:53:14,583
all of these people
who have accused R. Kelly
1071
00:53:14,713 --> 00:53:17,463
are liars,
and-and I said what I said.
1072
00:53:17,585 --> 00:53:19,145
You're calling victims liars.
1073
00:53:19,283 --> 00:53:21,723
What is wrong with you,
Mr. Greenberg?
1074
00:53:21,850 --> 00:53:23,420
This is not about women
finding their voices.
1075
00:53:23,548 --> 00:53:25,508
We have always had our voices.
1076
00:53:25,637 --> 00:53:28,207
This is about people's
ability to hear, right?
1077
00:53:28,335 --> 00:53:29,855
We've just finally
found a frequency
1078
00:53:29,989 --> 00:53:31,509
that people can hear us.
1079
00:53:31,643 --> 00:53:33,733
But, ultimately,
our work is not finished
1080
00:53:33,862 --> 00:53:36,522
until those people
who have suffered at the hands
1081
00:53:36,648 --> 00:53:39,608
of R. Kelly have what they
need to feel whole again.
1082
00:53:39,738 --> 00:53:42,518
When it comes to all the abuse
that I've suffered,
1083
00:53:42,654 --> 00:53:46,224
growing up, I still have
trust issues from it.
1084
00:53:46,353 --> 00:53:48,793
And another thing that--
1085
00:53:48,921 --> 00:53:51,141
this may be too much
information, but...
1086
00:53:51,271 --> 00:53:53,191
I still have, um,
1087
00:53:53,317 --> 00:53:55,317
problems with having sex
with my husband.
1088
00:53:55,449 --> 00:53:57,669
Of everything
that I went through,
1089
00:53:57,799 --> 00:54:01,499
I don't really know
how to enjoy sex.
1090
00:54:01,629 --> 00:54:03,889
Because I'm so used
to being controlled.
1091
00:54:04,023 --> 00:54:06,773
My relationship with Rob
has really affected me.
1092
00:54:06,895 --> 00:54:08,415
I don't trust men.
1093
00:54:08,549 --> 00:54:10,989
I feel like everybody
have a hidden agenda.
1094
00:54:11,117 --> 00:54:13,467
They'll just want to hear
your past and take your pain
1095
00:54:13,598 --> 00:54:15,248
and use it against you.
1096
00:54:15,382 --> 00:54:18,262
It's very hard to start
trusting a guy again, you know.
1097
00:54:18,385 --> 00:54:20,685
After your name is in public,
1098
00:54:20,822 --> 00:54:23,482
now I can't just sit down
to dinner and the guy's like,
1099
00:54:23,608 --> 00:54:24,908
"Yeah, you know,
I-I work construction.
1100
00:54:25,044 --> 00:54:26,444
What do you do?"
1101
00:54:26,567 --> 00:54:29,307
And then I just freeze.
1102
00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:32,230
You know, I'm like,
"Wow, I don't want him
1103
00:54:32,356 --> 00:54:34,576
"to know this background,
but if he googles me,
1104
00:54:34,706 --> 00:54:36,096
it's everywhere, so..."
1105
00:54:36,229 --> 00:54:37,749
It's just one of my fears.
1106
00:54:37,883 --> 00:54:39,493
I don't want to talk
about him all the time.
1107
00:54:39,624 --> 00:54:41,454
I am 30-something years
1108
00:54:41,582 --> 00:54:42,502
removed from the first time
1109
00:54:42,627 --> 00:54:44,717
I was sexually abused,
1110
00:54:44,846 --> 00:54:47,276
and I still have to deal
with the trauma of that.
1111
00:54:47,414 --> 00:54:49,334
I still carry that in my body.
1112
00:54:49,460 --> 00:54:51,900
I, um, am also a survivor
1113
00:54:52,027 --> 00:54:54,637
of sexual assault and...
1114
00:54:54,769 --> 00:54:57,209
We don't get to just move on.
1115
00:54:57,337 --> 00:55:00,857
There's never a day
we don't think about it.
1116
00:55:00,993 --> 00:55:02,563
It's never just
news of the week,
1117
00:55:02,690 --> 00:55:04,300
and now we've moved on
to something else.
1118
00:55:04,431 --> 00:55:06,611
And the very least we can do
1119
00:55:06,738 --> 00:55:08,868
for R. Kelly survivors
1120
00:55:09,001 --> 00:55:11,221
is not be too tired to care.
1121
00:55:11,351 --> 00:55:13,961
They live with this
every single day.
1122
00:55:14,093 --> 00:55:16,053
We can, at the very least,
1123
00:55:16,182 --> 00:55:18,622
match that energy and make sure
1124
00:55:18,750 --> 00:55:20,450
that we see this thing
all the way through.
1125
00:55:22,536 --> 00:55:24,406
For me to tell my story,
1126
00:55:24,538 --> 00:55:26,318
it was really,
really, really hard.
1127
00:55:26,453 --> 00:55:27,853
It definitely
1128
00:55:27,976 --> 00:55:29,536
triggered PTSD for me.
1129
00:55:29,674 --> 00:55:32,154
And it brought back
all the memories.
1130
00:55:32,285 --> 00:55:33,455
You know, I thought
I was over it.
1131
00:55:33,591 --> 00:55:34,721
It showed me that
1132
00:55:34,853 --> 00:55:36,513
I wasn't over those things.
1133
00:55:36,637 --> 00:55:40,377
And it showed me that
it really did damage me.
1134
00:55:40,511 --> 00:55:43,561
So, it-it definitely
took me back.
1135
00:55:45,559 --> 00:55:48,949
With-with Rob,
1136
00:55:49,084 --> 00:55:51,094
I was a part of
a suicide pact with him.
1137
00:55:51,217 --> 00:55:54,217
And if anything
was to happen to him,
1138
00:55:54,351 --> 00:55:56,571
if he was to go to jail
1139
00:55:56,701 --> 00:55:58,881
or if someone was to harm him,
1140
00:55:59,007 --> 00:56:02,577
I was supposed to kill myself.
1141
00:56:02,707 --> 00:56:04,747
And... I'm sorry.
1142
00:56:04,883 --> 00:56:07,153
I'm getting emotional.
1143
00:56:14,588 --> 00:56:16,718
He's the mastermind.
1144
00:56:16,851 --> 00:56:18,981
I watched this man
1145
00:56:19,114 --> 00:56:21,604
manipulate my little sister.
1146
00:56:21,726 --> 00:56:23,116
Rob, he was everything
1147
00:56:23,249 --> 00:56:25,769
to me... like, Rob was my life.
1148
00:56:25,904 --> 00:56:28,124
I would think I would be done,
but you know,
1149
00:56:28,254 --> 00:56:31,084
I would leave feeling
like I had nothing.
1150
00:56:31,213 --> 00:56:33,693
He **** my daughter up.
1151
00:56:33,825 --> 00:56:35,165
Emotionally.
1152
00:56:35,304 --> 00:56:37,134
Dominique, are you ready?
1153
00:56:37,263 --> 00:56:38,403
CAPTIONING PROVIDED BY
A+E NETWORKS
84257
Can't find what you're looking for?
Get subtitles in any language from opensubtitles.com, and translate them here.