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Beverly Hills adalah rumah bagi beberapa orang paling kaya
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dan orang-orang kuat di dunia.
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Mereka mengendarai mobil terbaik, berbelanja di butik terbaik,
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dan mereka tinggal di rumah yang paling keterlaluan.
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Mereka juga memiliki akses ke yang paling eksklusif
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dan klub erotis kelas atas yang pernah ada.
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Saya menciptakan klub itu. Ini disebut Sctm.
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Snctm adalah masyarakat rahasia
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di mana kami melakukan topeng dasi hitam,
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pesta makan malam pribadi, dan teater erotis.
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Ini adalah tempat bagi anggota saya untuk mengeksplorasi fantasi terliar mereka
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dan belajar tentang diri seksual mereka yang sebenarnya.
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Selamat Datang di dunia saya.
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Saya memiliki beberapa seperti, tanda degil dari dipukul dan sebagainya.
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Apa yang akan aku lakukan denganmu, Jacque?
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Seperti apa pengalaman BDSM paling gila yang pernah Anda alami?
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Apakah Anda suka dicekik?
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Ya. - Oh ya.
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Apakah Anda pernah tersedak?
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Hampir. Ya.
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Dan apakah itu sesuatu yang Anda nikmati,
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or were you like, what the fuck are you doing?
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No I loved it. It was an ex of mine.
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You do, you loved it.
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It was a lot of fun. - You liked it.
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I feel like sexuality is kind of a taboo thing,
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and alternative interests, sexually, especially,
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and I feel like Snctm allows people
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to start that conversation a little bit more.
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What's the most extreme kind of fetish
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experience you've personally had?
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To be honest I never really had an extreme fetish.
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Come on. - I never did.
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Come on. - That's crazy, really.
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That's such bullshit.
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No, I have... I have like... - Okay, what's the craziest?
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Yeah, I mean I like to watch all kinds of fetishes,
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I have like this fetish for fetish,
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so I like to watch and create things.
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I watch some porn, sometimes,
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and like, I get like ideas from there,
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which are put into the shows.
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I also like to talk to some of the guests sometimes,
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and like see like what's their fetishes,
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what they like, would like to have,
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what they would like to see,
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so I kind of like trying to create this vision,
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this fantasy world for them.
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I like to see different fetishes,
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and then, you know base those stories around those fetishes.
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But never anything crazy that I like really did.
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Tied up, spanked?
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I'm not into that at all.
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None of it at all. - No.
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You look nervous.
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What are you thinking about?
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No I'm not nervous, but I think I'm pretty,
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vanilla when it comes to fetish.
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I don't think so, I know what you're into.
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I don't know what he's talking about. - When you describe, like...
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I mean you like to eat ass and pussy and..
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Oh, Nick. - And like anal, and all that.
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That's not a fetish like...
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Not everyone's down forever.
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But that is fairly advanced.
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I mean you've got a fairly advanced palate,
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you know, you do.
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I would not call you vanilla.
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With Snctm I've learned that it's good to have desires,
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and it's okay to be uncertain
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whether your partner will want those desires or not,
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and if she doesn't, or he doesn't,
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then it's fine, you've said it.
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And it goes for anything from different positions,
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to bringing other people in your relationship.
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There's a wide range of desires and fetishes
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and kinks that everybody has.
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So this is very interesting, because I'm the same.
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I would consider myself pretty vanilla, myself.
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Like I am, I love sex, and I love sexuality,
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and like I can tie someone up and I enjoy it,
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but like, I don't need it.
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Snctm has begun a conversation
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about the exploration of our fantasies and our desires,
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and sexuality is still incredibly repressed,
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and I think Sanctum represents the opposite of repression.
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And this is weird, because as the people who run this thing,
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we're all pretty... - Crude.
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I have an incredible life, and it's beautiful,
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and I'm grateful as fuck.
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My philosophy on dating right now lierally, is just to be real,
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and just be open and be honest, and that's what I'm doing.
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And I'm finding that I'm with some really beautiful, intelligent,
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wonderful people who seem to really care for me,
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and I care for them,
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and I can feel connections happen,
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people get close to me,
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but I'm not committing myself to anybody.
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There's a part of me that feels uncomfortable or bad about it,
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because I know that I'm not really giving anyone my heart.
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But there's really not a day that goes by,
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that I don't wish that I was falling asleep with Melissa,
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and waking up with my kids upstairs.
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I found my person 20 years ago,
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you know, but we both changed so much.
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We love each other deeply and we always will,
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and we talk about that thing of getting back together,
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but I don't know if it's possible.
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We're both very different.
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We have like this,
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we connect in a different dimension,
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is what I was saying. - Yeah... Yeah...
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I can talk with you about things
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that I can't talk with other people about.
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Like what?
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Like what, our crazy stuff at night?
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Yeah, I know what you mean.
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My boyfriend is Eyal, he is from Israel.
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We've been together for almost five years.
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Bread looks good. - I know you like it.
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We know, always when we go to restaurants,
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if the bread is good...
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So everything else is good.
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I met Alina through a friend.
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Her ex-business partner,
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she was a friend of mine before,
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and Alina used to have a boyfriend
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and I was just waiting for her and him to separate.
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Waiting on the side, waiting, waiting, waiting,
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until the day came, and then we dated.
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I was following the shoes, remember?
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Like the ballet shoes? - Yeah.
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And they supposed to be black, they turned out blue,
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so I have to like fix it, like now.
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Yeah. I saw the painting at the apartment.
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Yeah. - That's okay.
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I don't even know like what to do for that.
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Stop being so stressed on this, come on.
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But it is, it's stressful. - Everything will be good.
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Yeah, but it always works very good, everyone's happy. - I know.
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I know that a lot of people think of her as like very cold.
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She seems very unintimidated, at the beginning,
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she's very stiff, but I mean I see her differently.
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When she's home she's like a marshmallow.
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What is gonna be in the party?
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Jonathan's working?
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Jonathan is working, Arya, Jacque, Holly, the usual.
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Tonight is the big Allegma Creatives, our big main party,
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so yeah, there's a lot of like stress.
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What else are you planning?
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So it's gonna use the unicorn painting, the ballerina,
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and then later for the main show, I have a piano player. - Yeah.
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So he's gonna play piano,
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and then the ballerina comes in, and she does like a dance.
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I will try to do it on the piano.
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Really? - Yeah.
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What is he a porn star
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or just some piano player? - he is a piano player.
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What? Who's gonna be the painter?
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Johnathan?
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Yeah, I'm making him a unicorn,
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and then he's gonna paint like a picture.
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I should make something like on his dick,
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like with a brush, like an extension or something.
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The best part of the relationship with Alina is the trust.
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We trust each other, I trust her 100%.
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We're different, but we also a lot of similarity.
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She just understands me and I understand her.
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So where do you find all these people?
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I know, right?
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I want to go to the party, Johnathan.
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We have another event out here in Los Angeles tonight,
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and it's always a great time,
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but there are times that I have these roles at Snctm
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that I'm not happy with, and playing those roles.
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You already know Alina.
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She wants me to do a few things I don't want to do,
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and she's you know,
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pushing for it, and I'm pushing back.
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Are you comfortable telling me like what,
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what it is that she wants you to do?
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I don't think your mind would be able to wrap around it.
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Being in a relationship with Tracy,
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while I do these Snctm events is, pretty hard.
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I try to keep them two separately,
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and I always have to kind of sugarcoat everything.
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I mean it can't be worse than
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you being in the hot tub with the naked girls the other day.
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Where are my floaties?
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She's actually had me do far worse things.
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You know she asked me to come, right? - Really?
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Why do you look so, uh, stressed out about that?
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There's a reason why I don't invite you,
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because I know you too well.
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I really didn't even know about this world,
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until him, I've never had a threesome.
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I've never done anything publicly,
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like I'm for all intents and purposes of a word,
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like a conservative.
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But I feel like I want to find these things out,
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you need to know, even if it's gonna hurt me,
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like I need to know.
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There are certain things that
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are gonna happen that you might not like.
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I have roles to play,
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and I have things that I've got to take care of.
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So, you've been warned.
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Okay. What else do we have to do?
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When we do a masquerade there's a lot to think about.
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Whether it's LA or New York, I've got work to do,
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and I'm trying to be set up the day before, already.
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That one has a lip gloss mark on it.
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I'm gonna text Sonja to make sure.
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'Will you be bringing...'
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I have everything that I need by the day before,
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so on the day of, I hit my checklist,
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and all the way leading up to 10 o'clock.
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Ice is here? - Yep.
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It just got delivered? - He already delivered it.
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You have a Sharpie for that?
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Okay that's good.
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You think you'll be able to like, stand still for a while?
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The parties in L.A. they're just like so much better.
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The energy, the weather is like the furnace.
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It's a different feel.
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So it's very easy to find just more open-minded girls,
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that are just more like, you know a little bigger boobies,
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and they're much more like, cutesy girls,
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more easy going I guess.
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Like how LA is.
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Bring my fucking pens.
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I'm gonna need like at least three.
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For myself.
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No, actually we can't have people drinking.
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I'm usually not...
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I can leave, it's not a big deal. It's okay.
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Worst thing that can happen,
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we had this situation before,where I had a lamp,
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she was part of the show, she's supposed to stand still,
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and then there was a performance happening around her.
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She had one too many drinks I guess,
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so she was like, wobbly, she couldn't even stand.
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So first you stay lamp, for like,
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a little bit longer.
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It's not easy to be a lamp.
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So, this is was like really one of the bad situations,
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where the lamp was like,
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I was scared that she's gonna fall or something.
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Please, drink you water, no alcohol, okay?
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You know about us through Donna.
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No, I know about you through kind of everybody in LA.
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Why have we not talked before this moment?
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Probably because both of our lives are insane. - Okay.
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Neil Strauss is a writer,
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and has forums and conversations around sexuality,
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and what it is to be a man, and how to, sort of,
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navigate through the rules
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that have been set up around sexuality.
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This butt. - That butt.
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It's all about this butt right here.
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So he's knowledgeable,
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and we got to know each other a bit before the party.
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I don't know what's right or wrong,
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I just know that, the sex,
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the endless stream of sexuality,
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is like eating so much lobster,
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and burgers and mashed potatoes,
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and never getting full. - It's a black hole.
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Yeah, it's clear to me now that that's not what I want.
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Now the other side of the coin is, is monogamy. - Right.
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And, you know, that is also hard for me.
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Right, 'cause you're gonna be there,
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and you're gonna wanna go taste the lobster.
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Yeah, I mean,
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and no matter how in love I am,
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it's been challenging for me to be monogamous.
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Are we meant to be monogamous?
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Or is it a wound that needs to be healed,
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that causes us to cheat or to stray from our partner, et cetera?
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We're not designed to be monogamous. - Right.
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We're designed for serial monogamy
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with clandestine adultery.
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That's the way that we're designed.
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I know now, after two years of full exploration.
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Yeah, exactly. - I mean I've had every fantasy fulfilled,
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Right. - everything that I could ever dream of,
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Right. - with multiple partners, I mean just...
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That's what I did. - I know you did.
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I went, I tried living with a girlfriend.
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Did it fulfill you? - Absolutely not.
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It didn't fulfill me either.
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So now I'm coming back to this place where, I want love.
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We need to have this discussion.
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We need to like, you know test the water,
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and be honest and be real.
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I mean that's part of the reason I started Snctm in the first place.
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There was no one to talk to,
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so I created like a little world around me,
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where I could talk about it, and explore it,
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and indulge in it with other people that I,
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must be asking the same questions as I was.
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The question is,
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do you really want to like have love and intimacy,
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or do you walk around kind of saying you do,
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but making the same mistakes over and over again?
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Right.
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I learned something from that conversation.
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All this stuff doesn't work.
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And I've known it for a while,
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but it hasn't stopped me from walking this path.
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I keep repeating this story,
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about wanting to be with my wife,
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and wanting to put my family back together.
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I've told that story so many times that I believe it,
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but I don't know if it's true.
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And I don't want to be walking around
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telling myself some story that's bullshit.
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I'm searching for something right now,
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and I'd be lying if I didn't say that there was a pain in my heart,
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and I'd be lying if I didn't say
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that I feel it every day of my life.
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But like, I don't know that I'm a monogamous creature.
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I don't know that I could just give up all of them for one.
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How are you tonight? - Good.
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Welcome. - Thank you.
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Hey, how are you doing?
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Good to see you, welcome. I'm doing great thank you.
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Where you from? You just got here?
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I'm Johnathan's girlfriend.
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The painter, the artist? - Yeah.
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Oh.
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I've never been to his work before.
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The way it felt, by Tracy being there,
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and me being a unicorn and painting,
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was the fact that I'm facing a painting.
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I know Tracy's in the background.
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I don't know what to do with myself.
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Oh my.
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I'm worried about what she was doing,
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how she was looking at me, what she felt.
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I don't know.
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How do you like Johnathan as a unicorn?
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It's very different, I'm very grateful also that you allowed me.
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Like he really didn't want me to come.
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Oh, really.
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So we were like kind of fighting about it.
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So maybe that's why the painting is not that great.
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Because it just moves.
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Let me know at the end of the night,
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like how you liked it, or like if there was something,
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I just hope like you guys will be okay,
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and you're not gonna flip out if you see something wrong.Please?
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Oh yeah, I will, thank you.
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But you know it means a lot to me, so I want everyone to be happy.
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It's just the only thing is like when the guests come
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and they're touching, I just can't be seen.
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Like that is hard to get used to.
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Do I feel any special by these women touching me? No.
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It's just another day at work.
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Oh, oh, oh my.
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But having her there,
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I'm afraid that she might explode,
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and create a scene, while I'm working.
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How many minutes do we got?
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What do you mean? No minutes, it's like now.
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Before my performance,
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I wanted to check in with Tracy,
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to make sure that she's comfortable with what they're doing,
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and what's going on in front of her.
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So what did you think?
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You have to give me time to like, warm up to this.
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This is the first time I've ever seen you do,
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anything that you do.
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It just makes me think about everything.
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Well, I don't think this is the right environment for you.
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You know, I care about you a lot, and you mean a lot to me.
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I just don't want you to hate me, okay?
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Okay.
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I gotta get going. I have to perform next.
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I should leave, but I don't like to ever like, just give up.
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Everybody has their own way of looking at life.
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Everyone has their own way of living their own lives,
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but this is a whole new world to me,
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and some of the things, this is too much.
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He told me that,
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he will do these events as long as they let him.
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If I were to be with him,
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and want to have a family with him,
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I know that he would still be doing these events,
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and it's really hard because,
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I've just spent so many of my emotions on him,
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and I feel like like,
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sorry,
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sorry, I get so worried and upset and stressed.
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It just makes me a mess and I never used to be like this.
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I do want him to leave this lifestyle,
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but I don't think he's ready to do that.
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So, I don't know.
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Hi, you've reached Melissa, leave me a message.
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I'll call you back.
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Hey Mel, it's Damon, how are you?
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Just wanted to see you.
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Give me a call when you get the message.
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Okay, I love you, bye.
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You know, seeing Johnathan and his girlfriend unhappy and fighting,
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and confused and hurting, like I could totally relate.
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Thinking about my wife and my kids, and wanting that back,
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and I start to feel sad or lonely,
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and the biggest thing standing in between me and her
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being back together is Snctm.
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I miss you, I love you.
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I know, I love you too.
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My heart is still with Melissa.
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And I miss her and my kids, every day.
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But I've got to make some changes if I want them back.
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Hello?
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Hey Damon.
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Hey Mel, how are you?
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Good.
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