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You know, the non doers. They're
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Yes. Now notice the setups a

little bit different since we're
going to be talking about public

speaking, how to be a more
confident speaker. So see, we

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today's class, or tonight's
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because I'll be teaching you

different techniques, then you
can kind of go alongside while

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if you're taking notes, but if

you follow along, you'll get
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one thing to just listen
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address those questions. So if
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How many of you have done some
public speaking in the past?

Maybe when you back when you
were in school, you have to

present you had to do some kind
of presentation or at work, you

have to present to some kind of
a group or Toastmasters or even

speaking professionally. Many of
them said yes. You know from

high school for business
business. Yes. Somewhat. Yes.

College. Very nervous. See,
isn't a statistic that says that

people are more afraid of public
speaking than dying. That's

right. That's right. People
rather the people talk about a

funeral people would rather give
the eulogy versus would rather

die in a coffin than giving the
eulogy a eulogy shows so tell me

the your biggest challenges when
it comes to public speaking?

What are some of the things that
you want to get out of tonight's

class? So some Katherine rule of
public speaking it was public

humiliation very tense. Yep.
Then he says usually it's been

very tense Okay. What else? What
else? How to get content how to

get the content interesting or
get content interesting good.

I'm gonna teach you nervous fear
of running short of words you're

wanting shorting okay? It's kind
of forget what to say. Right?

Shell says closing on stage
closing on stage. Okay, we're

going to cover a little bit of
this but that's that's too big

of a topic to cover him in a two
three hour class Curtis is not

focusing on the audience, but
about how I sound how I look.

more confident stuttering
increasing memorability. Okay,

so forgetting forgetting what to
say, Okay, how to be my

authentic self on stage. How not
to cry too much. To stay on

topic. Yes, that's good. Speak
from subconscious mind more

professional sounding. Very
good. Very, very good. And these

are very common challenges from
anyone that's present or as

presenters, speakers, right? You
get a little nervous, you know

what to say? How do you look how
the audience perceive you. And

most of the time, a lot of this
comes from childhood

programming. Because you think
about back in school, right?

When you have the teachers
standing in front of the class,

we were taught to learn right,
in a certain way, in, let's say,

in the Asian culture, right? You
don't see any you don't see

anything you don't put up. You
don't put up your hand, you just

take notes, and then you know,
you start your bowel and the

beginning of class. Yes, right.
And that's it. So a lot of that

is culture, cultural
conditioning, that we we are

not, we will not giving the
chance the opportunity to kind

of stand out to be in front of
the room to share ideas, your

thoughts, right. So she's got a
lot to share with you. If you're

ready.

Put in the chat.

Tell me you're ready. Yes, yes.
Ready? Ready, ready? Here we go.

Very good. Okay. So how to have
unshakable confidence when

speaking to a group of people.
The very first lesson I want to

share with you is this, write it
down. All speaking, is public

speaking.

All speaking is public speaking,
the first thing you have to get

out of your head is, oh, if I'm
speaking to a group of people,

five people, 10 people, I should
be very different. Versus

speaking to one on one. Know, if
speaking of one on one that is

public speaking, okay, you speak
in a group of two, that is

public speaking, you speak to a
group of 100 1000, there is

public speaking,

it is the same. So in your mind,
why you get nervous, because in

your mind, you have this kind of
this idea of, Oh, I speak a

certain way if I'm one on one,
but the minute I'm stage Oh, I

need to be like completely,
totally different. That is

simply not true. So all speaking
is public speaking. So let's

talk about secret number one.

And that is this speaker is May
and is not born, say with me

speaker is May and is not a born
because you may think, well, you

know seafood, some people they
are naturally born, they have a

lot of confidence, and they're
naturally charismatic, and

they're naturally very good on
stage. There's some people that

you may perceive that that's who
they are. That's what they're

like. They are always just
confident. But I think when you

met me, I'm fairly extroverted,
extroverted, but I remember what

the first few times you put, I
think about six months worth of

the first six months, you know,
see if we put me up on stage six

times, maybe eight times, you
know, once per month, every

month, and I was terrified each
time. There's also desk it's

very good one on one. Yes to
him. That's no problem. You can

do it all day. Like that's no
problem. But somehow when you're

in front of people, yes. Right.
Because in your mind, you think

that's different? Or I would get
up there and I'll ramble. Yeah,

I would paste too. I did all I
try to tell bad jokes. jokes.

Yes. I realize you know what,
yeah. bad jokes, and no one

laughs on stage. Right. You
thought it's funny, but no one

thought is funny. Yeah. And I
did all the classic mistakes,

then he showed me you know how
to be broken down. That's right.

Okay. Pay attention. He's gonna
show you just a fraction of

those and you can apply lessons
will prove that to you. Okay. So

you see Siva presenting today?
TEDx, right. Yeah, speaking to

1000s of people. Australia.
We're going to November con

we're going to Australia con
4000. entrepreneurs. Yes. Right.

I'll be one of the keynote
speakers alongside with some

amazing Yes, amazing CEOs,
entrepreneurs being negotiated

where you're one of the main
panelists deciding the million

dollar winner. Yeah, I'm gonna
be also investing some money

like taking on like looking at
what kind of like a shark tank

type of kind of people pitch us
a deal. And I'll see a bone

invest. So let me prove to you
This is sivut today, right? This

is t foo many, many years ago.
So I want you to take a look at

the picture. There was seafood
back in Toastmasters when I was

probably I don't know. 20 years
old. 20 something years old.

Many many years ago, he's
nothing so I want you to look at

the picture and tell me about
this man. Tell me about this

young man. How would you see
just described glasses glasses.

What else? studious, studious,
nerd. Cute nerd nerd. No, no, no

Don't don't don't pull any
punches. spiky hair nervous.

That's right. You can tell he's
a little nervous. What else

here? Yeah. Nervous teenager
scared insecure? uncertain.

uncertain. Yes. shy. You can you
can see like, you know, you can

see the shy. not confident.

Right, not 100% confident.
That's correct. Yes. It needs a

makeover. Yes. Look for young,
super young experienced, right

hesitant. This smile is more to
cover up their nervousness,

right.

Jenny Yeah, that's right. That's
right. No rattles. Oh, no red

sweet notice video. So what I'm
saying is this, you can see

that's where SQL came from.

So I know for a fact speakers
may not born. So the speaker

that you see today to
communicate that you see me

today presenting and teaching to
millions around the world. Guess

what?

I learn how to do this. It is
not natural. It is not natural

bond skill. Every thing that I
do the skills that I have, I

developed it I hone the skill
and I learn it.

I learn it one at a time. So
don't me give me an excuse. Oh

seafood. I'm not looking. I'm
not naturally charismatic. I'm

not desert. I speak with an
accent and all they don't really

want to hear any of those
fucking excuses. None. Because

if I could go from that what you
see today, this

At least you can improve. Yes.

That's where I came from. So
from there when I joined

Toastmasters, then later on now
first you have to understand

when I joined Toastmasters, my
goal was never to be a speaker.

My goal was very simple. My goal
was simply to improve my

English. That was it. Because I
was shy, I was nervous. And I

thought maybe joining
Toastmasters in case you don't

know what Toastmasters is, is a
nonprofit speaking kind of club,

right? You go there, and you
would practice in front of

people and people give you
feedback. And I joined

Toastmasters because I wanted to
improve my English, reduce my

accent just by a little bit.
That was it. That was my goal.

Right? So after I joined
Toastmasters, I was practicing

and practicing and practicing.
And I was showing up, what's the

word showing up every single
week, every single week, I would

do something every single week I
would, I would present I would

do a speech, I would volunteer,
I would do something after both

three to six months of that.
Now, in Toastmasters, they

always give you these new forms
kind of feedback form. After you

do a speech, people could give
you a bit of feedback. Yes.

Right. And they would say so
first couple months? Oh, yeah,

you know, you could you could
improve on this. And maybe you

should do this, you should, you
should speak a little bit

louder. Because you speak a
little slower, you can do

whatever it is, right? It gives
you a feedback. After about, I

know, five, six months or so
people started giving me

feedback. Listen to this, they
say, oh, great job, the feedback

gets shorter and shorter.
Outstanding.

You are natural. Give me a
fucking break. There's nothing

natural about what you see
there. Right. But there's your

natural. And I'm like this
nothing natural about what I do

at all, if anything is very
unnatural, and high. force it I

make it natural. Right. And from
there, if you thought, you know,

maybe you've got something and
remember, there was the

president of the club back then
running Toastmasters. He said to

me that you know, Dan, you got

this, there's something about
you, you've got an you cause an

X Factor. There's something
about you that on stage it even

though your English is not the
best and and your delivery is

not the best. But there's
something about the way you

communicate that people
resonates with you somehow.

Maybe because you're not so
perfect. Maybe because you speak

an accent? I don't know. It's
Oh, that's it. That's

interesting. So then from there,
I don't know how I don't know

why. But I was studying a lot of
the great speakers like Tony

Robbins, and a lot of great
people back then. Zig Ziglar.

Yes. The old days, so a lot of
speakers and I thought to

myself,

wouldn't it be great? If someday
I could do that.

That was it. I had this thought
if someday I could be onstage

just just like them and I could
talk to people I could. I could

inspire people. Like wouldn't
wouldn't that be awesome. There

was just this kind of like, it's
like, you know, when you were a

kid dream, like, it wouldn't be
nice. Like he's like, I saw the

county nice without that car. Or
you see something on a magazine?

Wouldn't it be nice if I can go
on there for vacation? And there

was it right, because I was
listening to these like

motivational tapes. Yes.
cassette tapes, by the way. Yes.

Right. cassette tapes back then.
I know y'all are young young

people.

What is cassette tape man like?
No, not CD before CD like

cassette it

anyway. So I had that thought.

And because of as I was learning
about different high income

skills, and I was already very
entrepreneurial. So even though

a lot of entrepreneur activities
I was doing copywriting was on

computer with computer a hiding
behind a computer. I didn't have

to deal with people, right? I
didn't have to deal with people.

But because I was so good at it.
I was making very good living as

a young guy. And people started
asking me like, how, how do you

do what you do? And I was like,
Okay, what do you mean? Like you

just do this? I show them on the
computer. I do much kind of

geeky kind of thing I do. My
thing is Okay, here we go. Yep.

And they're like,

what did you do?

Like, can you show us more? So
what do you mean like,

Okay, there you go. That's how
you do SEO like to do this stuff

like to me because it's so
second nature. They're like, No,

no, no, like, can you teach us
huh? I said what I mean, like

teach you can you can you do
some kind of a workshop, right?

Like to speak to our people is
that when you discovered you

really enjoyed teaching, I
actually had a good question. I

enjoyed teach. I later
discovered but actually enjoy

teaching vacuum. I was already
in high school when I was

learning martial art. And I was
already teaching martial art,

right in high school, because I
got bullied, right? So from

there are they? I don't I don't
know. I didn't know what it was

like. I didn't know it's called
teaching, right? I just knew I

like to share, right what I do
and what I know. And when I see

People using and using what I
teach and it's impacting the

lives I get a kick, I get a kick
out of it right? I remember a

phrase once learn, do teach.
That's right. And then I also

remember you telling the story
it is a video a YouTube video of

yours where you're talking about
when you're at school, you got

bullied, then when you did
martial arts, you used to have

like, all the other kids come
out. Yes. So that's when it

started really when I saw Wow,
okay, so it was back in high

school in cafeteria that I was
just in lunchtime, I would teach

martial art. Is it a way for you
to better your skill when you

you know, you learn you do it?
And of course, naturally if you

have to teach it, it I it is but
back then I didn't think about

that guy. Just something that I
do. We just like oh, you asked

me I didn't charge anything.
Right? He asked me what what

what would you so just just do
this and I was just thought he

asked me and and I share with
you. I guess the problem with a

lot of people that do learn to
teach is they don't even do it

properly. They try to teach it.
So now they're teaching the shit

to other people. Right? That's
right. So So from there, that's

our teaching, like this
Toastmasters back then you can

see me in the middle, right?
That was my father's jacket.

Right? Right back in
Toastmasters, right?

Yeah, like just mean, the middle
you can see right there. Now at

the time was very interesting is
we had a lot of people who would

go through Toastmasters that
would come to the club. Right?

And you would hear stories like,
wow, you know,

wouldn't be great if they could
be a like, I'd be a professional

speaker, including at the time,
the President told me I've got

expected he wanted to be a
professional speaker right now.

But guess what, over the years,
as far as I know, as far as I

know, because I still know, as
far as I know, guess how many

people eventually went on and
become a professional speaker?

Only you Yep, that's right. Zero
except me. Zero.

None.

Why?

Why?

Nobody implements? Adam says
nobody implements? Yes. You kept

at it. commitment, consistency.
consistency. Yes. No drive is a

nice idea to have. But you know,
they're not that serious. Many,

many, many, many reasons. Right?
So then I was speaking as a

young guy, right. You know,
speaking at, you know, business

type setting, was speaking to
people small group at first, you

know, you can see three people,
five people, 10 people, 20

people, right. wasn't wasn't
like it wasn't a big crowd. I

think this I was speaking at a
local cash flow club at a time.

Oh, yeah. You can see the cash
flow. Yeah, cash flow club,

right. It's more like in a
community centers, small group

of people was 20, some odd years
old, right? I was already. I

think at this point, I was 23.
Four, maybe something like that

you had a better a better suit,
I think already by then. Right?

So at the time, so just think
about that.

That's how simple is it from
there, then to lead on more and

more time or practice to this?

Being the opening speaker for
TEDx. Now, once, twice this TEDx

Danny Park, I believe I was
speaking to 2600 people in

Vancouver,

being the opening speaker, in my
red suit,

from the shy,

nervous, uncertain, like, kind
of young guy to being the

opening speaker for TEDx Sandy
Park.

A speaker it's made. It's not
born.

I may, myself, a great
presenter, and speaker took many

years,

many, many years. And over the
years, I've learned a lot of

lessons, I'm going to teach some
of the most important lessons

that I've learned with you
tonight. But I want you to know,

doesn't matter if you're
speaking with an accent, doesn't

matter. If you're not tall
enough. Doesn't matter if you're

not articulate enough. Doesn't
matter if you lack confidence

doesn't matter. If you get
nervous. None of this shit

matters. With practice with the
right training and coaching, you

could get now you're going to
get to this level, maybe maybe

not. Yeah, but at least you
could get better. Yes, you get

just a little bit better.

Yes, I know one thing for
certain seafood because you gave

me that opportunity to learn how
to, you know, speak publicly. It

may not I may not be as good as
you. But I know certainly for a

fact that I'm able to when I'm
put on stages, I can get up

there, I can emcee I can do
different things. So it may not

be a high income skill for me.
But the confidence is definitely

conveyed through. I see the
world a different way. When I go

when I see speakers now. I
understand differently about

what they're doing. And think
about your own life, how many

opportunities you missed because
you didn't have this the

ticular skill set, how many
opportunities just slip through

your fingers when maybe it's an
in a business setting? That Hey,

you there's a there's
opportunity for you to lead to

present but you were nervous.
Are you like, ah, maybe not me,

maybe somebody else, right? Or
maybe opportunities where you

could speak to very important
client, but because you're

nervous, you want the pair, you
didn't have the skill sets, and

you kind of you lose the you
lose the deal. Could that be a

possibility? Just one, just
think about how many

opportunities how much money
you've lost as a result of not

having the skill set?

Many, too many effects the
quality of life. Yes, it builds

the confidence to

Adam, Sam was offered to speak
at TED. Yeah, awesome. Awesome.

Very good. So what's the number
one speaker is May and not born

made? Right is made. Okay. So as
a speaker, this is Lehren Darren

lacrosse. Now, you may or may
not know who Darren Yes, there

was actually World Champion
speaker for Toastmasters

one of the years meaning that
out of worldwide 25,000

contestants. And he's the he's
the number one number one

worldwide.

So would you wouldn't you say
that's pretty good. Right? The

only you have out of all the
clubs from all over the world.

But out of the 25,000 in a local
level Club by club, district by

district meeting everybody. Yes,
we're on stage and to become the

number one world champion
speaker. Yes. Impressive. Very,

very impressive, right.

They're impressive. And guess
what, many years ago, there was

so many years, these many years
ago.

You can see a post that he did.

He was growing his speaking
business. He saw me speak at a

conference. Right? And the time
was already

pretty successful. You saw what
I did.

He asked me to be his mentor.

I was the one who told him to be
on YouTube. Then you can see a

little thing they said can you
see Yeah. Many years ago I made

a great decision about
consistency. You too coaxing

from a marketing mentor, Dan
Locke, I created a habit of

putting up one video a day on
YouTube. Though I did not have a

perfect track record of that. I
have consistently added many

each week. I'm not exactly
hitting the goal of one each

day. But this has nervous
nevertheless brought me

marketing momentum over the
years, I now have over 2.5

million views on over 12 190
videos this these videos bring

me an average of 7000 views
weekly that was opposed from

many many years ago. That's
crazy. That's awesome. But what

I want to share with you you
don't know once you have the

skill, who didn't know from that
kid I wanted to do was improve

my English and and reduce my
accent, right to then coaching

the world champion. Like the
speaker champion of the like, of

the world, like just think about
the journey, isn't it insane?

Anything is possible Anything is
possible in life, right?

So I want you to just remember
everything I'm going to teach

you I wanted you to look at both
pictures

from this to that

tell me about the man deceiver
that you know today in the red

suit.

It's coming in on the chat here
powerful, polished, certainty

confident speak with conviction.

It's all authority. I'm not
gonna read that one posture is

totally different. clarity,
empowerment, evolution look like

money well known

can move mountains, a role model
that I look up to rule number

one, the king of high ticket
sales. don't give a fuck what

anyone else thinks. Clearly well
practice progress, progress,

brave authority, progress. Maybe
you started off like what Cebu

was like many years ago, maybe
you a little bit better. Maybe a

little bit worse. Doesn't
matter. Doesn't matter.

You just need to forget
comparing yourself to everybody

else. Who would you compare
yourself to yourself? You want

to be a better version of
yourself. You want to be just a

little bit better as a speaker
forget trying to compete compare

you yourself to me to anybody
else. Forget that.

Compare that to yourself to the
to the EU yesterday to the EU a

month ago than a year or a year
ago. That's the only competition

you need to worry about. forget
forget everything else. Makes

sense. Right?

So secret number two, eliminate
stage fright. Now how do you

eliminate stage fright? How many
of you get nervous when you have

to present especially before you
go up to stage or before kind of

step in front of the room, and
you just get you get sweaty

palms you get nervous, dizzy,
dizzy, all you like cambree is

very fast, right? Or you're
sweating right? How many you

experienced, huh? Right? This is
the worst for me here. Yes.

He I forget everything he was
about to say. Yes, that's right.

That's right. Okay, I get
scatterbrain and a scatter

blink. Yes, scatter. So So now
all you throw too much. I'm

gonna say this, what should I
start off with all these things,

right.

So

let me clear this once and for
all. Stage fright occurs because

you're more concerned about
yourself and you than your

audience. It's very simple. I
used to have huge, like, some

terrible stage fright, I would
get very, very, very nervous.

Because whenever I have to go
out and go on stage, I will

remember when I was in just in
high school when I couldn't

speak a word of English, right?
So I would remember a lot of

scenarios or they're gonna laugh
at me, they're not gonna

understand what I say. And then
they're gonna laugh in my

accent, I'm not gonna react,
you're not gonna react to you,

they're not gonna pay attention
to like, a lot of these stories

in my mind. And I notice
whenever you get nervous,

whenever I get nervous, it's
simply because you are focusing

so much on yourself and not on
your audience. It's very, very

simple. Why do you get nervous?
Because before we walked up to

walk up to the stage before you
present what's going through

your mind, is this

thing gonna like me?

Am I gonna be well received?

Do I look good?

Do I sound smart?

All these things? What am I
forget what I what is I get?

Which again? Sending? What if?
What if I embarrass myself?

Whenever you get nervous, the
only reason you get nervous is

because you're focusing on
yourself and not on your

audience. The minute when I got
that, when I when I kind of put

myself just just just put put
that aside. Put your audience

first. Put your audience first.
You notice your your

nervousness, your stage fright,
dramatically reduced,

dramatically reduce when you're
only focusing on Okay, what's

the outcome that I want my
audience to get? What what I

want to walk I want them to walk
away with what's the value I'm

delivering? Does that make
sense? The minute you stop

focusing on yourself, just
focusing on audience, you see,

you're a lot less nervous.

Because all this Tell me if it's
not true, everything that you're

thinking about everything,
anything that makes you nervous,

guaranteed tell me

it's all you

it's all you're focusing on self
you get nervous.

Period.

Right? But when you're focusing
on the audience, you don't get

nervous. Because you don't
really care.

You're not focusing on Do I look
good? Do I sound good or look

smarter or no? I care about if
my audience is getting value. I

care about if they're walking
away with something. I care if

they get it. I care if I help
them I care if they if I even

make some kind of impact
transform their lives. That's

that's your number one focus.

Then this stuff, or the mee, mee
mee mee mee or your ego. Put

aside Get out of the way. Get
out of ego write it down. Get

out of your ego kanji audience
ego

get out your ego