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♪♪♪
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♪ Don't care what
you think about it ♪
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♪ Ain't here
to please nobody ♪
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♪ I'm a-running undercover
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♪ Here comes trouble now
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♪♪♪
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♪ Me and my wicked ways
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♪ I'll get you
into trouble now ♪
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♪ It's just
so hard to behave ♪
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♪ Got you
seeing double now ♪
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♪♪♪
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♪ I'm the one
your mama told you ♪
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♪ Oh, boy,
the world is torture ♪
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♪ A risk you can't afford
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♪ And here comes trouble now
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♪ Turning it up all night
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♪ Got you feeling high
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♪ Turning it up all night
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♪ Got you feeling high
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♪ Get you into trouble now
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♪♪♪
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- Currently, I am in
a polyamorous relationship.
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There is a variety
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[ laughing ]
of ways to have sex.
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- We just became sexual
about two months ago.
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- We went out for dinner,
and you were like,
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"I'm dating four guys.
Would you like to be the fifth?"
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And I was like, "What?"
- And I said,
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"I think you're hot as hell.
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"If you're down for these
guidelines, let's try it."
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- So right now I'm dating,
like, this married couple
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and we had, um,
this really cool threesome.
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I guess that's adventurous
to me because they were older.
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Like, I've never been
with older people like that.
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I was like, "Oh, wow," like,
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"This is what
older penis looks like."
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[ laughs ]
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- You learn
to really love someone
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without being possessive,
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and I think
that's very important.
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- It seems to complicate
the situation.
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It's not something
I would want to do,
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I have a lot of friends
that have open relationships.
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I was actually in
a polyamorous relationship.
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In polyamorous relationships,
there's a lot of
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emotional work
that needs to be done
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with jealousy and insecurity
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and time and scheduling,
and I want to be the queen bee.
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I've been with multiple girls
at one time.
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I've never been
with multiple men.
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I would love to do a gang bang.
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I've never had a gang bang.
And I like dick, so--
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you know, the more dicks,
the merrier.
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- I'm Ashley.
- And I'm Timothy.
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- I'm Meg.
- Adam.
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- Sydney.
- Marvin.
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- And this--
- This--
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- This--
- And this--
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- This is my wild sex life.
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Whatever you like to do,
as long as
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you're not harming someone,
go ahead and do it.
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♪♪♪
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- One of the reasons a lot of
people are alone in the world
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is 'cause they're waiting
for the perfect person.
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What if instead people were
sharing their partners,
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their husbands, their wives?
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There'd be less lonely people
in the world.
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[ moaning ]
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For me, polyamory
was about creating
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a more connected world
and a world
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there was
just more love going around.
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- Oh, harder. Fuck me--
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- We wanted to create
a community that makes
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all of this safe and supportive.
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- I'm hoping to inspire people
to reach for something
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outside of their comfort zones
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to really increase community.
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♪♪♪
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I was born in Alabama.
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I mean, I grew up
a hippie kid in communes
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and we had this utopian idea
about the world.
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And it's just something
I think I took on
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way more than
the rest of my siblings.
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Growing up in a sexually
permissive and open family,
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I just came by it naturally,
and began to explore.
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I'm definitely someone
who's changed a lot
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from being solo polyamorous and
a single woman dating couples
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or being in a pretty
significant relationship
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and having two or three other
significant relationships,
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to now being mostly with John.
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[ cork pops ]
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♪♪♪
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- To the last day.
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- We've been together
for three and a half years
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and we just got married
this past December.
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- We do have
an open relationship
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in comparison to people who
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live strictly monogamously.
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We look like any relationship
between two people
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who love each other very much
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and are monogamous,
except that we aren't.
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- Cold!
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- When Gabriella and I met,
I was still involved with
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one or two other people,
and Gabriella was involved
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with a number of people, too,
and we didn't want
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to just leave
those people hanging
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in our excitement
for each other.
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- And for me,
it always felt like
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I couldn't have just one person.
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I wanted to let my partner also
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have other connections
that would be meaningful.
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We do have way more sex
probably than a lot of people
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in the general population.
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♪♪♪
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For John and I,
we want to keep growing
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as a couple.
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[ gasping ]
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We want to keep deeply connected
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and deeply serving each other.
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[ moaning ]
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The definition of good sex--
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is the sex--
the amount of sex you want,
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when you want
with who you want.
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Our sex life will continue
to be a source
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of intimacy,
a source of excitement,
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a source of play,
a source of personal growth
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that sometimes is challenging,
but those things come out
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of a number of aspects
of our relationship.
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But one of the funnest
is sex.
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[ moaning quietly ]
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♪♪♪
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There's gonna be a party
at the house tonight.
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- That's right.
- As we know,
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and let go of it.
- Mm-hmm.
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- Some people we don't know
at all.
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- And some people
we know really well.
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Some people we kind of know,
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and some people we know
really well.
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- What are your expectations?
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What are you interested
in doing?
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- For tonight?
- Yeah.
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- Sometimes they're just dinner,
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and sometimes they're, like,
orgy in the lounge.
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- I don't know who's
gonna be there.
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I don't know
what it's gonna be like,
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what type of connections people
already have with each other.
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I'm actually feeling
really superb
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in my body right now.
- Okay.
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- Better than last weekend.
- Any insecurities
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or anything like that
we should talk about?
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I would love to actually
spend most of the night
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in a onesie.
[ laughs ]
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- Are you feeling insecure
about your body?
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- A little bit.
- You're so sexy.
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- I'm not.
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We're lifestyle,
and "lifestyle" means
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we have sex with people
who are our friends
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and we maintain
those friendships.
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So lifestyle versus poly--
polyamory is,
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we have multiple
loving relationships.
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I love you, you love me,
she loves me...
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which is way too much for me.
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It feels like
it would be too easy
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just to run away
from the hard things
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to another relationship.
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- Mm-hmm.
- Then the lifestyle
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is a happy medium in between
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where we like to have sex
with other people
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but we like them
to be people we know,
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and we may even love them,
but we're not responsible
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for their emotional wellbeing
as a whole.
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[ saw buzzing ]
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We're looking to meet people
who we really like a lot,
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and we hang out with them.
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- And we sleep with them.
- And we sleep with them, yeah.
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♪♪♪
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[ indistinct greetings ]
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- This evening we're having
a group of friends over,
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and we know everyone
who's coming over.
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- Most of the people
that we've invited
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are lovers with us
and/or each other.
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- Hey, guys!
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- Hey.
- Hey! Hoo hoo!
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[ laughs ]
Oh, my gosh.
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- Emily, who we dated but
haven't been with for a while,
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she's bringing someone
that we haven't met yet.
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So we'll see what happens there.
- His name is Eli.
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- I'm Eli.
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I've been poly forever,
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very happily so, and it seems
to suit me well.
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- And I'm Emily.
I'm bisexual,
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and I've been connecting with
John and Gabriella as a couple.
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However, it kind of
petered out a little bit.
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You guys, we were thinking
maybe some massages later.
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- We were thinking
the same thing.
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- I was just doing that.
- Yeah.
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- It's a little hard
to not touch you, so...
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- I know, I know, I know.
- [ laughs ]
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- We have wanted to continue
the lover-ship,
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but just, I live in the Bay,
they live in Oregon.
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It's been a little bit
challenging.
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And so, I kind of
was uncertain about like,
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okay, how do they want to
connect and relate with me now?
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How is it gonna be
with bringing Eli in?
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And there's just--we didn't
have communication,
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so there's a lot
of uncertainty.
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- Remember the, uh,
sensual cooking class?
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- Mm-hmm.
- That was really fun, and--
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- Was that the one where you
mixed up the vegetables
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on my back?
- Yeah. [ laughs ]
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- Gus and Marianne
are gonna be here tonight,
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the couple that we've been
dating for
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several months now.
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- So there's a strong,
warm affection with them
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that's playful
and sometimes erotic.
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Some of the people
that are coming
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we're not in relationship
with anymore, but we were.
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[ indistinct chatter ]
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For instance,
Natesh and I were lovers,
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but we're
still really good friends,
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and he's got a partner
who I'm not lovers with.
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But they're lovers,
or have been lovers,
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with some of the people
who are coming.
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- That's beautiful, love.
- Look at that.
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- Gorgeous.
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Getting together the way we do,
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and connecting as friends,
as future lovers,
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as current lovers,
I love bringing people together
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because it's just
such a good way
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to build a stronger community.
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So we have two, four,
six, eight...
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...nine?
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All right, let's do this.
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- Hello.
- Eli.
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- Hi, Eli. I'm Amelia.
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- Hi, Amelia.
- Nice to meet you.
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- Yeah, you too.
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You guys remember Emily,
right?
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- Natesh.
- Natesh?
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- You guys, should we
hold hands?
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[ laughter ]
I want to hold hands.
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I want to hold hands.
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I just want to take a moment
and thank Gabriella and John
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for just bringing
this tribe together,
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and for all of you
that contributed to this meal
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and blessings,
and thank you so much.
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♪♪♪
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- So are you guys living
in a bus, then? Is that what--
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- We recently purchased a bus
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that we are converting
into our home.
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- Awesome.
- Just over there by that shed.
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- Very cool.
I feel like there's some energy
253
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between Emily and Eli and us,
254
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we're kind of excited to see
where that's gonna go.
255
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It feels like there's
a possibility.
256
00:12:01,155 --> 00:12:04,811
- Emily and both her and Eli
kept my gaze,
257
00:12:04,854 --> 00:12:07,683
and I was like, "Wow, I can't
look away from you.
258
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I can't look away."
259
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Blessings on
your grand adventure,
260
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wherever it leads you.
- Thanks.
261
00:12:12,819 --> 00:12:14,821
- That's one thing I enjoy
about those evenings,
262
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just, like, watching the
connections other people make
263
00:12:18,433 --> 00:12:21,131
and getting
to bear witness to that
264
00:12:21,175 --> 00:12:23,525
and sometimes I just, like,
sit there,
265
00:12:23,568 --> 00:12:26,528
maybe from a distance
and look at the goings-on
266
00:12:26,571 --> 00:12:30,314
and just think,
"Wow, this is beautiful."
267
00:12:32,839 --> 00:12:35,667
♪♪♪
268
00:12:35,711 --> 00:12:40,324
- How about if you help me move
this back about eight inches?
269
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Just so we can get the--
270
00:12:42,022 --> 00:12:45,721
It takes a lot of skill
and grace to get people
271
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to start to connect
with each other
272
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in a way where
they feel comfortable
273
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and also build comfort,
274
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but don't feel coerced.
275
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That's what Gabriella does
really well.
276
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- Well, like, what we usually
do, like, just go around
277
00:13:00,431 --> 00:13:02,259
and just kind of say
how we're feeling right now
278
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and then--
- A place for boundaries
279
00:13:05,872 --> 00:13:07,830
or limits, too.
- Yeah.
280
00:13:07,874 --> 00:13:10,833
- What our work will be
is to get people talking
281
00:13:10,877 --> 00:13:13,357
and communicating about
what they'd like to have happen
282
00:13:13,401 --> 00:13:16,012
and what they wouldn't
want to have happen,
283
00:13:16,056 --> 00:13:19,624
and then for us to get creative
from there.
284
00:13:19,668 --> 00:13:24,107
- I mean, I'm open
to a lot of things if we feel--
285
00:13:24,151 --> 00:13:25,761
if the connection is there.
286
00:13:25,805 --> 00:13:26,980
The most important thing to me
287
00:13:27,023 --> 00:13:29,112
is Gabriella and I's connection
288
00:13:29,156 --> 00:13:31,811
bubbles over to others.
289
00:13:31,854 --> 00:13:34,291
- Yeah, people could just
brush my hair
290
00:13:34,335 --> 00:13:36,946
and rub my head
and braid it really tight.
291
00:13:36,990 --> 00:13:40,167
- Touch. Just have touching
and connection.
292
00:13:40,210 --> 00:13:42,560
- I wanna get in the tub,
fo' sho'.
293
00:13:42,604 --> 00:13:44,998
- I'm kinda interested
in kissing someone.
294
00:13:45,041 --> 00:13:47,000
- Mm-hmm.
- If there's someone you're
295
00:13:47,043 --> 00:13:50,873
interested in and they express
what they're looking for
296
00:13:50,917 --> 00:13:52,657
in the evening, maybe that
gives you an idea
297
00:13:52,701 --> 00:13:54,616
of how you can approach
that person.
298
00:13:54,659 --> 00:13:56,618
- I'm looking forward
to having some fun.
299
00:13:56,661 --> 00:13:59,795
- I am probably on the side
of more, like, wanting
300
00:13:59,839 --> 00:14:01,753
to receive than give.
301
00:14:01,797 --> 00:14:04,756
- If I engage in any kind
of sexual behavior,
302
00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:06,149
it'd probably be oral sex.
303
00:14:06,193 --> 00:14:07,847
- You must tolerate nothing.
304
00:14:07,890 --> 00:14:10,545
Everything should come
from a place of desire,
305
00:14:10,588 --> 00:14:15,245
and if you do move into,
like, a sexual space,
306
00:14:15,289 --> 00:14:18,031
make sure that it's within
the agreements
307
00:14:18,074 --> 00:14:19,815
of your relationship.
308
00:14:19,859 --> 00:14:22,209
- Rowr.
- Yeah.
309
00:14:22,252 --> 00:14:24,602
- Let's do it.
- Something's happening.
310
00:14:24,646 --> 00:14:27,867
♪♪♪
311
00:14:27,910 --> 00:14:30,347
Can I sit, like, kind of
in between your legs?
312
00:14:30,391 --> 00:14:31,783
Like--and lean back?
313
00:14:34,308 --> 00:14:36,701
- Is it okay if I touch you?
- Yes, thank you for asking.
314
00:14:36,745 --> 00:14:37,877
- Mm-hmm.
315
00:14:41,141 --> 00:14:43,447
- You want one of these?
316
00:14:43,491 --> 00:14:45,754
- Um, probably not.
- What is that?
317
00:14:45,797 --> 00:14:50,063
- Boner pill.
- [ laughs ] Oh, okay.
318
00:14:50,106 --> 00:14:51,542
- [ chuckles ]
319
00:14:51,586 --> 00:14:54,110
- Fuck...
320
00:14:54,154 --> 00:14:56,939
- You guys should keep going.
That sounds amazing.
321
00:14:56,983 --> 00:14:59,159
Yeah.
[ plays bongo ]
322
00:14:59,202 --> 00:15:09,212
♪♪♪
323
00:15:09,256 --> 00:15:14,174
♪♪♪
324
00:15:14,217 --> 00:15:19,875
- It's fun to watch people
open and just connect
325
00:15:19,919 --> 00:15:23,487
and experience themselves
in a way that they don't get to
326
00:15:23,531 --> 00:15:25,228
in life in general.
327
00:15:25,272 --> 00:15:35,282
♪♪♪
328
00:15:35,325 --> 00:15:39,068
♪♪♪
329
00:15:55,041 --> 00:15:57,086
- I--I'm definitely
heterosexual,
330
00:15:57,130 --> 00:16:01,134
but I'm open to sensual touch
with men.
331
00:16:01,177 --> 00:16:03,397
There's like, this beautiful,
like, brotherly
332
00:16:03,440 --> 00:16:05,660
kindred spirit of
being able to just, like,
333
00:16:05,703 --> 00:16:08,619
you know, touch and connect
and massage and so,
334
00:16:08,663 --> 00:16:11,057
I love that, like,
it ended up turning into
335
00:16:11,100 --> 00:16:13,798
this five-men massage chain,
336
00:16:13,842 --> 00:16:15,539
massaging
each other's shoulders.
337
00:16:15,583 --> 00:16:17,280
♪♪♪
338
00:16:17,324 --> 00:16:19,456
- The men just
spontaneously started
339
00:16:19,500 --> 00:16:21,328
connecting with each other.
340
00:16:21,371 --> 00:16:24,157
It feels so much safer
for the women.
341
00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:26,159
They just know that they've
got each other.
342
00:16:26,202 --> 00:16:29,597
They're not gonna be putting
as much pressure on us
343
00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:31,425
to meet their touch needs
344
00:16:31,468 --> 00:16:34,819
or to meet their needs
for affection or intimacy.
345
00:16:34,863 --> 00:16:39,824
♪♪♪
346
00:16:39,868 --> 00:16:44,568
- I got to look over and see
you and Gabriella and John
347
00:16:44,612 --> 00:16:46,701
all having that beautiful
three-way kiss...
348
00:16:46,744 --> 00:16:48,094
- Oh.
- ...between you two?
349
00:16:48,137 --> 00:16:49,834
That was just so hot
to watch that.
350
00:16:49,878 --> 00:16:52,924
- And I love to know
that you were watching.
351
00:16:52,968 --> 00:16:54,970
♪♪♪
352
00:16:55,014 --> 00:16:57,755
- I enjoyed the way Emily
showed up
353
00:16:57,799 --> 00:16:59,670
and was so playful.
354
00:16:59,714 --> 00:17:02,064
♪♪♪
355
00:17:02,108 --> 00:17:05,067
- Wow. That's hot.
356
00:17:05,111 --> 00:17:07,983
- I really loved watching the
way they connected with John.
357
00:17:08,027 --> 00:17:10,203
- That--that was kind of hot.
358
00:17:10,246 --> 00:17:12,292
I thought that
was really beautiful.
359
00:17:12,335 --> 00:17:13,815
♪♪♪
360
00:17:13,858 --> 00:17:15,947
- It's always just
a microscopic bit edgy
361
00:17:15,991 --> 00:17:17,558
for me to kiss another guy.
- Of course.
362
00:17:17,601 --> 00:17:19,255
- Like, I haven't done that.
363
00:17:19,299 --> 00:17:23,346
- See, I get so turned on
by that. I'm like, "Yes!"
364
00:17:23,390 --> 00:17:25,044
- I love watching John
be with other people,
365
00:17:25,087 --> 00:17:29,048
being validated in his--
in his masculinity
366
00:17:29,091 --> 00:17:31,398
and his attractiveness.
367
00:17:33,182 --> 00:17:36,533
- Our love and our excitement
368
00:17:36,577 --> 00:17:39,449
works so well for us
and it's really fun for us
369
00:17:39,493 --> 00:17:41,103
when other people--
- And it's really fun
370
00:17:41,147 --> 00:17:44,150
for them, too,
when we're together. [ laughs ]
371
00:17:44,193 --> 00:17:47,240
'Cause we just sort of--
we work really well together.
372
00:17:47,283 --> 00:17:50,199
- All right, let's go--
let's, uh--
373
00:17:50,243 --> 00:17:52,506
Should we head up
to the snuggle space?
374
00:17:52,549 --> 00:17:54,856
- We're gonna start
moving upstairs, guys.
375
00:17:54,899 --> 00:17:58,555
♪♪♪
376
00:17:58,599 --> 00:18:01,819
- We'll run the evening with--
377
00:18:01,863 --> 00:18:03,734
facilitating it
and guiding people.
378
00:18:03,778 --> 00:18:07,086
So we--we should climb
into the bed here.
379
00:18:07,129 --> 00:18:08,826
- Mmm.
- Find a place,
380
00:18:08,870 --> 00:18:11,133
and just--and we'll
just start snuggling.
381
00:18:11,177 --> 00:18:13,135
The way we do the snuggles is,
you know,
382
00:18:13,179 --> 00:18:17,270
everyone starts together.
We do, like, a big spoon,
383
00:18:17,313 --> 00:18:19,098
so everyone is connected.
384
00:18:19,141 --> 00:18:21,665
Normally I would say we should
all start by asking
385
00:18:21,709 --> 00:18:23,363
"What kind of touch
do you want?"
386
00:18:23,406 --> 00:18:27,106
But we're past that.
[ laughter ]
387
00:18:27,149 --> 00:18:29,543
- Gabriella does this, like,
beautiful job
388
00:18:29,586 --> 00:18:34,200
of guiding us all through this,
like, wonderful way to connect.
389
00:18:34,243 --> 00:18:36,202
- And we kind of shuffle
throughout the evening
390
00:18:36,245 --> 00:18:39,379
so that people get to
experience different people.
391
00:18:39,422 --> 00:18:42,338
Okay, so, I recommend
that two people
392
00:18:42,382 --> 00:18:47,300
get out, just randomly,
and move to the ends.
393
00:18:48,779 --> 00:18:51,130
And the nice thing about that
is you--you might have
394
00:18:51,173 --> 00:18:53,828
some ideas in your mind
about, like,
395
00:18:53,871 --> 00:18:55,482
whether I'm gonna be attracted
to this person
396
00:18:55,525 --> 00:18:58,049
or have good energy
with that person.
397
00:18:59,703 --> 00:19:02,010
Then you get really surprised.
398
00:19:02,053 --> 00:19:04,665
Okay, so now we're gonna
turn over.
399
00:19:04,708 --> 00:19:06,275
- All right.
400
00:19:06,319 --> 00:19:10,540
♪♪♪
401
00:19:10,584 --> 00:19:13,804
- [ moaning ]
Oh, yeah. Oh, God!
402
00:19:16,459 --> 00:19:24,119
♪♪♪
403
00:19:24,163 --> 00:19:27,688
- I think at one point
it was you between Emily and I
404
00:19:27,731 --> 00:19:29,994
and then Eli
was in front of us
405
00:19:30,038 --> 00:19:31,126
and you're like,
"Whose hand is this?
406
00:19:31,170 --> 00:19:32,040
Whose leg is that?"
407
00:19:32,083 --> 00:19:35,826
♪♪♪
408
00:19:45,401 --> 00:19:48,709
- I want to say that when I tell
my mom some of these things
409
00:19:48,752 --> 00:19:51,973
she's like, "Oh, my God, babe,
we were doing that in the '60s."
410
00:19:52,016 --> 00:19:54,628
[ laughs ]
So it's nothing new.
411
00:19:54,671 --> 00:19:57,326
♪♪♪
412
00:19:57,370 --> 00:19:59,023
I think orgies
are more common, maybe,
413
00:19:59,067 --> 00:20:01,112
in our world than in
some other people's worlds.
414
00:20:01,156 --> 00:20:04,855
♪♪♪
415
00:20:04,899 --> 00:20:08,642
People have a really negative
connotation about orgies.
416
00:20:08,685 --> 00:20:10,600
When I say "orgy,"
I'm really talking about
417
00:20:10,644 --> 00:20:14,474
an environment or situation
where everything's possible,
418
00:20:14,517 --> 00:20:16,215
nothing is expected.
419
00:20:16,258 --> 00:20:24,832
♪♪♪
420
00:20:24,875 --> 00:20:27,661
- Eli and Emily,
with the two of them,
421
00:20:27,704 --> 00:20:29,184
it was feeling very right.
422
00:20:29,228 --> 00:20:31,795
And we decided maybe
the four of us should go
423
00:20:31,839 --> 00:20:34,668
connect with each other without
all these other distractions.
424
00:20:34,711 --> 00:20:37,105
We took them to our room.
425
00:20:37,148 --> 00:20:39,803
- Good, good. I was thinking
it'd be good for us
426
00:20:39,847 --> 00:20:42,284
to just have, like,
the STD talk?
427
00:20:42,328 --> 00:20:43,764
- Yes.
- Talk.
428
00:20:43,807 --> 00:20:47,071
- I was last completely tested
last July,
429
00:20:47,115 --> 00:20:48,203
and I'm clean.
430
00:20:48,247 --> 00:20:50,161
- I think that a lot of people
431
00:20:50,205 --> 00:20:52,251
don't like to talk
about STIs,
432
00:20:52,294 --> 00:20:53,991
and there's a lot of fear.
433
00:20:54,035 --> 00:20:57,256
- We are without STIs.
434
00:20:57,299 --> 00:21:00,302
Every time we have a connection
with somebody we don't know,
435
00:21:00,346 --> 00:21:02,565
we have that conversation.
436
00:21:02,609 --> 00:21:05,525
- Um, I was tested
eight weeks ago.
437
00:21:05,568 --> 00:21:09,311
- It doesn't take away
from the energy
438
00:21:09,355 --> 00:21:11,792
'cause we can still be
having that conversation
439
00:21:11,835 --> 00:21:12,836
and cuddling and touching.
440
00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:14,751
- I've had a vasectomy.
441
00:21:14,795 --> 00:21:20,844
Um, I've got, um,
two partners currently active.
442
00:21:20,888 --> 00:21:22,324
- I don't think
it ruins the mood.
443
00:21:22,368 --> 00:21:24,544
I think it is actually
a super sexy thing
444
00:21:24,587 --> 00:21:26,197
to be safe and to talk about.
445
00:21:26,241 --> 00:21:36,251
♪♪♪
446
00:21:36,295 --> 00:21:40,429
♪♪♪
447
00:21:52,441 --> 00:21:57,968
- It's exciting to play
with somebody new or different.
448
00:21:58,012 --> 00:22:02,364
- [ laughs, moans ]
Yes.
449
00:22:02,408 --> 00:22:05,367
- Oh, baby! You're back!
450
00:22:05,411 --> 00:22:08,196
I really felt Amelia
like super open to me,
451
00:22:08,239 --> 00:22:09,937
and I was like, "Okay,
this is feeling really good."
452
00:22:09,980 --> 00:22:13,375
♪♪♪
453
00:22:13,419 --> 00:22:17,640
- [ gasps ] Yeah. Yeah.
Oh, yeah.
454
00:22:17,684 --> 00:22:19,338
Oh, my God!
455
00:22:19,381 --> 00:22:20,730
Feeling you right next to me,
456
00:22:20,774 --> 00:22:22,602
and feeling Eli
next to me as well
457
00:22:22,645 --> 00:22:24,908
while I receiving the pleasure
she was giving me was--
458
00:22:24,952 --> 00:22:29,826
I just felt so loved.
I felt all, all of the support.
459
00:22:29,870 --> 00:22:34,396
[ moaning ]
Ah, yes.
460
00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:37,007
[ moaning ]
461
00:22:37,051 --> 00:22:40,533
- The way Emily uses her voice
and interacts with me
462
00:22:40,576 --> 00:22:43,187
made me feel really safe
and it gave me the ability
463
00:22:43,231 --> 00:22:45,451
to release and experience
the orgasm that I had.
464
00:22:45,494 --> 00:22:47,757
[ screaming ]
Oh, yes!
465
00:22:47,801 --> 00:22:51,892
[ screaming continues ]
466
00:22:51,935 --> 00:22:55,112
Oh, yeah,
I was squirting, baby!
467
00:22:55,156 --> 00:22:57,158
- [ laughs ] Oh, my God.
- Yeah.
468
00:22:57,201 --> 00:23:01,815
- That was incredible.
An amazing, amazing experience.
469
00:23:01,858 --> 00:23:04,600
- All of a sudden, just
gush, gush, gush, gush, gush.
470
00:23:04,644 --> 00:23:07,081
Gush, gush, gush, ♪ gush!
All over.
471
00:23:07,124 --> 00:23:09,300
- [ laughs ]
472
00:23:09,344 --> 00:23:12,695
- You fucking squirted
all over me!
473
00:23:12,739 --> 00:23:14,175
- Oh, it was so good.
474
00:23:14,218 --> 00:23:18,440
- That was so--
that was such a gift.
475
00:23:18,484 --> 00:23:21,704
- That was such a gift to me.
- That was so good.
476
00:23:21,748 --> 00:23:24,446
That was such a gift.
477
00:23:24,490 --> 00:23:27,797
- I am really concerned about
478
00:23:27,841 --> 00:23:31,714
a world where we're moving
further and further away from
479
00:23:31,758 --> 00:23:34,238
connecting
on the physical level.
480
00:23:34,282 --> 00:23:36,110
♪♪♪
481
00:23:36,153 --> 00:23:38,068
- We're primates, you know.
We're meant to connect.
482
00:23:38,112 --> 00:23:42,029
We're meant to share.
We're meant to bond.
483
00:23:42,072 --> 00:23:45,032
What we want to do
in an open relationship
484
00:23:45,075 --> 00:23:48,470
is just share with others what's
really working well for us.
485
00:23:48,514 --> 00:23:50,994
And when they're
attracted to that
486
00:23:51,038 --> 00:23:55,477
and we're attracted to them,
it feels like more.
487
00:23:57,087 --> 00:23:59,481
Once you've, like, made love
in front of people
488
00:23:59,525 --> 00:24:03,659
or watched them make love,
there's trust that comes.
489
00:24:05,226 --> 00:24:08,229
These little gatherings are kind
of like food for the soul.
490
00:24:08,272 --> 00:24:11,537
But it's also about
how do you bring
491
00:24:11,580 --> 00:24:14,975
more love into the world?
How do you have more,
492
00:24:15,018 --> 00:24:18,195
deeper, loving connections
with people?
493
00:24:20,241 --> 00:24:21,808
I think that's
what I'm here to do.
494
00:24:23,113 --> 00:24:26,073
I really feel like I'm here
to change the world.
495
00:24:31,470 --> 00:24:39,608
♪♪♪
496
00:24:39,652 --> 00:24:41,044
How do you feel about
497
00:24:41,088 --> 00:24:43,046
getting naked
and sitting on a cake?
498
00:24:43,090 --> 00:24:45,222
- Getting naked
and sitting on a cake.
499
00:24:45,266 --> 00:24:47,529
- It's a thing
to sit on a cake naked?
500
00:24:47,573 --> 00:24:51,054
- Getting--I've--
Ooh, that sounds--
501
00:24:51,098 --> 00:24:53,404
- Sploshing.
I'm into it.
502
00:24:53,448 --> 00:24:56,669
- Sitting on a cake?
Oh, we should try that.
503
00:24:56,712 --> 00:24:57,626
- I've never heard of that
before, actually.
504
00:24:57,670 --> 00:24:58,932
- That's--that's good.
505
00:24:58,975 --> 00:25:00,150
That's good.
I want to do that.
506
00:25:00,194 --> 00:25:01,543
Hmm. Hold on, wait.
507
00:25:01,587 --> 00:25:02,979
That sounds sexy.
- How do I feel about
508
00:25:03,023 --> 00:25:03,806
getting naked
and sitting on a cake?
509
00:25:03,850 --> 00:25:04,938
- A cake?
510
00:25:04,981 --> 00:25:07,506
If I sat on a cake naked?
511
00:25:07,549 --> 00:25:09,290
- I would probably eat
the cake after we had sex,
512
00:25:09,333 --> 00:25:11,031
but I would not sit on
a cake naked.
513
00:25:11,074 --> 00:25:12,554
- We like both things.
- We do.
514
00:25:12,598 --> 00:25:14,513
- Man, that was weird.
Who asked that question?
515
00:25:14,556 --> 00:25:15,731
- [ laughs ] No!
516
00:25:15,775 --> 00:25:18,081
I would to sit on
a cake naked.
517
00:25:18,125 --> 00:25:21,563
- [ inhales, exhales ]
That wouldn't do a thing for me.
518
00:25:21,607 --> 00:25:22,782
A cake?
519
00:25:22,825 --> 00:25:24,566
- Cake's pretty greasy, right?
520
00:25:24,610 --> 00:25:26,263
It's good moisturizer.
- Yeah.
521
00:25:26,307 --> 00:25:28,309
That too. You know, the--
- I would probably be, like,
522
00:25:28,352 --> 00:25:31,704
digging myself into
the cake as much as possible.
523
00:25:31,747 --> 00:25:34,968
- My ex and I used
to joke around
524
00:25:35,011 --> 00:25:38,058
about having sex with cakes.
525
00:25:38,101 --> 00:25:40,103
We would always talk about it
and like, go to cake shops
526
00:25:40,147 --> 00:25:41,931
and be like,
"Ooh, let's fuck that cake."
527
00:25:41,975 --> 00:25:44,020
I would still do that.
528
00:25:44,064 --> 00:25:46,980
- Sponge cake?
Depends on how to sit on it.
529
00:25:47,023 --> 00:25:48,764
[ laughter ]
530
00:25:48,808 --> 00:25:51,288
- Can't say I wouldn't try it,
but...
531
00:25:51,332 --> 00:25:53,595
- Yeah.
- I'd say...
532
00:25:53,639 --> 00:25:55,902
I would do it right now.
That would be inappropriate.
533
00:25:55,945 --> 00:25:57,512
- I hate frosting in my mouth,
534
00:25:57,556 --> 00:26:00,297
and I would not want it
in my asshole.
535
00:26:00,341 --> 00:26:02,212
[ laughs ]
536
00:26:02,256 --> 00:26:03,562
- Agreed. On all the counts.
537
00:26:03,605 --> 00:26:04,650
- Yeah, I don't know that
I'm opposed to it.
538
00:26:04,693 --> 00:26:06,042
That sounds really sexy.
539
00:26:06,086 --> 00:26:07,783
Sounds like it would feel
really good.
540
00:26:07,827 --> 00:26:09,219
I would love to sit
on a cake naked.
541
00:26:09,263 --> 00:26:11,134
I would--do you have a cake?
542
00:26:11,178 --> 00:26:21,188
♪♪♪
543
00:26:21,231 --> 00:26:29,936
♪♪♪
544
00:26:29,979 --> 00:26:32,939
I was nine years old.
I was in the bathtub shaving.
545
00:26:32,982 --> 00:26:35,071
Got a little too much
shaving cream on me,
546
00:26:35,115 --> 00:26:37,030
and I was like, "Okay.
547
00:26:37,073 --> 00:26:38,509
There needs to be
more on me."
548
00:26:40,424 --> 00:26:42,644
It was just like, wow.
549
00:26:42,688 --> 00:26:44,254
Why do I just like lathering?
550
00:26:44,298 --> 00:26:47,562
Or just feeling myself?
551
00:26:47,606 --> 00:26:50,652
♪ It's loud and clear
552
00:26:50,696 --> 00:26:53,046
- That orgasm
through sploshing
553
00:26:53,089 --> 00:26:54,917
was my first orgasm.
554
00:27:00,140 --> 00:27:04,797
♪♪♪
555
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:06,494
- Start getting
all the food in place.
556
00:27:06,537 --> 00:27:08,496
Bill and I will get
the lights ready.
557
00:27:10,324 --> 00:27:12,152
- Oh, there's so many cakes,
I love it.
558
00:27:13,544 --> 00:27:15,459
- Let's see if we can
get this scene lit.
559
00:27:20,073 --> 00:27:22,815
- I think one of the most
appealing sights
560
00:27:22,858 --> 00:27:25,600
is a line of cakes
at the bakery,
561
00:27:25,644 --> 00:27:28,298
all freshly decorated,
very beautifully done.
562
00:27:28,342 --> 00:27:30,736
It looks like all the bakers
took their sweet time
563
00:27:30,779 --> 00:27:33,173
on each single one of them.
564
00:27:33,216 --> 00:27:35,828
And what runs through my head
whenever I see that is
565
00:27:35,871 --> 00:27:37,351
"I wanna smush 'em."
566
00:27:39,570 --> 00:27:42,704
Sploshing is erotic food play...
567
00:27:42,748 --> 00:27:44,575
...with certain textures.
568
00:27:44,619 --> 00:27:46,752
Frostings,
569
00:27:46,795 --> 00:27:50,712
cakes, pies.
570
00:27:50,756 --> 00:27:53,584
That sensation...
571
00:27:53,628 --> 00:27:57,458
having that covering,
you're losing yourself
572
00:27:57,501 --> 00:27:58,764
into the texture.
573
00:27:58,807 --> 00:28:04,421
♪♪♪
574
00:28:04,465 --> 00:28:06,206
- Put this over this one
real fast.
575
00:28:06,249 --> 00:28:07,860
What draws a lot of people
into the sploshing interest
576
00:28:07,903 --> 00:28:10,427
is everybody's taught
don't play with your food,
577
00:28:10,471 --> 00:28:13,735
use your silverware correctly,
you're not supposed to be messy.
578
00:28:13,779 --> 00:28:16,042
What we do is
the antithesis of that.
579
00:28:16,085 --> 00:28:19,132
Down a little bitty bit more.
580
00:28:23,745 --> 00:28:25,791
Okay, let me have you hop back
in the pool, pretty please.
581
00:28:27,227 --> 00:28:29,882
♪ So much confidence
582
00:28:29,925 --> 00:28:32,841
♪ Let me show you
my present tense ♪
583
00:28:32,885 --> 00:28:35,931
♪ Baby, there is
no consequence ♪
584
00:28:35,975 --> 00:28:37,367
♪ Feel me...
585
00:28:37,411 --> 00:28:39,848
- Give me a big ol' bite
of marshmallows.
586
00:28:39,892 --> 00:28:42,764
♪ Who's this new girl?
587
00:28:42,808 --> 00:28:45,724
♪ Who's this new skin?
588
00:28:45,767 --> 00:28:48,770
♪ What's this new life
589
00:28:48,814 --> 00:28:51,555
♪ She been fighting?
590
00:28:51,599 --> 00:28:53,644
- Gonna have you extend
this guy out at me
591
00:28:53,688 --> 00:28:54,645
so we get that 3-D punch.
592
00:28:54,689 --> 00:28:58,345
- [ giggles ]
593
00:28:58,388 --> 00:29:00,521
I got sent to etiquette
school when I was younger.
594
00:29:00,564 --> 00:29:02,001
- Right there, perfect.
595
00:29:02,044 --> 00:29:03,350
- My mom was like,
"Stop touching your food.
596
00:29:03,393 --> 00:29:04,743
Stop playing with you food."
597
00:29:04,786 --> 00:29:06,222
'Cause I would always get
ice creams,
598
00:29:06,266 --> 00:29:09,138
then have it slipping
all over my mouth.
599
00:29:09,182 --> 00:29:12,838
♪ I've been hiding so much
of myself ♪
600
00:29:12,881 --> 00:29:16,015
♪ I don't know where to start
601
00:29:16,058 --> 00:29:18,800
♪ This new girl
602
00:29:18,844 --> 00:29:22,630
♪ Who's this new skin?
603
00:29:22,673 --> 00:29:24,806
- This is insane.
Sploshing with a view?
604
00:29:24,850 --> 00:29:25,938
Whaa!
605
00:29:25,981 --> 00:29:27,940
♪ She been fighting
606
00:29:27,983 --> 00:29:29,158
[ camera shutter clicking ]
607
00:29:29,202 --> 00:29:30,594
♪♪♪
608
00:29:30,638 --> 00:29:33,119
- Fucking thick, I love it.
609
00:29:33,162 --> 00:29:36,078
I knew Clix as a really
cool photographer.
610
00:29:36,122 --> 00:29:38,472
Let's see what we can stick
onto the butt.
611
00:29:38,515 --> 00:29:40,430
[ camera shutter clicks ]
612
00:29:40,474 --> 00:29:43,346
And I was going on Instagram,
613
00:29:43,390 --> 00:29:46,306
and I came across
MessyHot's page.
614
00:29:46,349 --> 00:29:47,611
I started really looking at it.
615
00:29:47,655 --> 00:29:49,048
I was like, "Wait a minute."
616
00:29:49,091 --> 00:29:50,353
These girls are in cakes.
617
00:29:50,397 --> 00:29:52,791
These girls are covered
in icing.
618
00:29:52,834 --> 00:29:56,925
I was like, "This is exactly
what I'm doing
619
00:29:56,969 --> 00:29:58,361
at home by myself."
620
00:29:58,405 --> 00:30:01,669
♪ Who this new girl?
621
00:30:01,712 --> 00:30:04,454
♪ What's the new plan?
622
00:30:04,498 --> 00:30:07,022
- She messaged me a while back
and said,
623
00:30:07,066 --> 00:30:10,069
"Hey, I like what you do.
I'd like to give this a shot."
624
00:30:10,112 --> 00:30:12,811
And she had bright blue hair,
and I was like, "Ah,
625
00:30:12,854 --> 00:30:14,682
this is right up my alley.
I'll do the thing."
626
00:30:14,725 --> 00:30:18,207
So came out to California,
and we did our first shoot
627
00:30:18,251 --> 00:30:19,861
on a beach in Malibu.
628
00:30:19,905 --> 00:30:23,430
♪♪♪
629
00:30:23,473 --> 00:30:24,910
Basically we just
went on the beach,
630
00:30:24,953 --> 00:30:26,389
made a huge mess.
631
00:30:28,914 --> 00:30:31,873
And she had this constant
look of joy on her face.
632
00:30:31,917 --> 00:30:35,268
So we wrapped our shoot
and I put it online,
633
00:30:35,311 --> 00:30:38,575
and then all of a sudden I was
just getting all these messages.
634
00:30:38,619 --> 00:30:40,839
"Hey, we really like
this new model."
635
00:30:40,882 --> 00:30:43,667
Lum has become one
of the faces of MessyHot.
636
00:30:43,711 --> 00:30:47,497
♪♪♪
637
00:30:47,541 --> 00:30:50,109
- When I'm in the zone
and I'm sploshing,
638
00:30:50,152 --> 00:30:52,154
I'm just letting go.
639
00:30:52,198 --> 00:30:55,070
It's honestly made me
such a happier person,
640
00:30:55,114 --> 00:30:57,899
because it's my release.
641
00:30:57,943 --> 00:31:01,598
It's my freedom, my safe space.
642
00:31:01,642 --> 00:31:03,513
One, two, three!
643
00:31:03,557 --> 00:31:05,298
Oh!
644
00:31:05,341 --> 00:31:07,735
[ gasping, giggling ]
Oh, my God, that feels so good!
645
00:31:08,954 --> 00:31:09,998
And there you have it.
646
00:31:10,042 --> 00:31:11,478
There's a lot of people who have
647
00:31:11,521 --> 00:31:13,697
a very specific
response trigger
648
00:31:13,741 --> 00:31:18,224
to the feeling of being sticky
or the feeling of being messy.
649
00:31:18,267 --> 00:31:21,227
A lot of people that I shoot
with love the sensation
650
00:31:21,270 --> 00:31:24,056
of sprinkles just
pouring over their face.
651
00:31:24,099 --> 00:31:25,709
- [ gasps ]
- and you can feel each
652
00:31:25,753 --> 00:31:29,017
little individual ball
bouncing off your face.
653
00:31:29,061 --> 00:31:34,501
♪♪♪
654
00:31:34,544 --> 00:31:38,418
The feeling of slipping
on the frosting...
655
00:31:38,461 --> 00:31:43,336
♪♪♪
656
00:31:43,379 --> 00:31:45,164
Sometimes it's the sound
of the crunching
657
00:31:45,207 --> 00:31:46,774
from stepping on
the crunchy stuff.
658
00:31:46,817 --> 00:31:48,558
- Ooh!
- It just gives
659
00:31:48,602 --> 00:31:52,519
a really powerful emotional
and neurological response.
660
00:31:52,562 --> 00:31:54,869
There's just something
that pushes people's buttons
661
00:31:54,913 --> 00:31:57,437
and for a lot of people, that's
wired to a sexual response.
662
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:01,615
♪♪♪
663
00:32:01,658 --> 00:32:03,095
- Gorgeous!
664
00:32:03,138 --> 00:32:08,752
♪♪♪
665
00:32:08,796 --> 00:32:11,364
- Is it cupcake o'clock?
- Mm-hmm.
666
00:32:11,407 --> 00:32:12,931
[ gasps, laughs ]
667
00:32:12,974 --> 00:32:14,628
- Ooh, what's wrong
with my aim today?
668
00:32:14,671 --> 00:32:17,457
♪♪♪
669
00:32:17,500 --> 00:32:19,154
[ cheering ]
670
00:32:19,198 --> 00:32:20,373
All right, let's make
that whipped cream
671
00:32:20,416 --> 00:32:21,504
explode real quick.
- Yes!
672
00:32:25,073 --> 00:32:27,249
- All right, give me a three.
673
00:32:27,293 --> 00:32:30,600
- Three, two, one.
674
00:32:30,644 --> 00:32:31,819
[ exclaims ]
675
00:32:31,862 --> 00:32:33,952
I got it right in my face!
676
00:32:33,995 --> 00:32:36,215
- Beautifully well-executed.
677
00:32:36,258 --> 00:32:43,178
♪♪♪
678
00:32:43,222 --> 00:32:45,833
Oh, my God.
Here we are, um,
679
00:32:45,876 --> 00:32:48,227
shopping for the first time
with my cutie,
680
00:32:48,270 --> 00:32:50,751
and this is the first time
we're gonna do this,
681
00:32:50,794 --> 00:32:52,753
and get really messy together.
682
00:32:52,796 --> 00:32:55,277
I'm really excited to see what
kind of cake options they have,
683
00:32:55,321 --> 00:32:57,410
so... [ laughs ]
684
00:32:57,453 --> 00:32:59,020
Mwah.
685
00:32:59,064 --> 00:33:01,283
Let's see how messy we can get.
686
00:33:01,327 --> 00:33:03,198
The most consistent question
I would get--
687
00:33:03,242 --> 00:33:04,373
"How do I get into this?"
688
00:33:04,417 --> 00:33:06,245
Look at how excited she is.
689
00:33:06,288 --> 00:33:08,073
"Where do I even start?"
690
00:33:08,116 --> 00:33:10,031
- [ laughs ]
691
00:33:10,075 --> 00:33:11,946
- Oh, my God, that one's
really cute, though.
692
00:33:11,990 --> 00:33:13,295
You go to the grocery store,
693
00:33:13,339 --> 00:33:14,514
picking out
your favorite colors,
694
00:33:14,557 --> 00:33:16,081
what kind of icings,
695
00:33:16,124 --> 00:33:18,561
what kind of sprinkles
that you want to use--
696
00:33:18,605 --> 00:33:21,738
just incorporating
your specific thing.
697
00:33:24,263 --> 00:33:26,178
I want to get frosting
on me already.
698
00:33:26,221 --> 00:33:28,441
- That cake is bigger than you.
699
00:33:29,833 --> 00:33:33,620
Get the full experience
of picking out your groceries
700
00:33:33,663 --> 00:33:36,057
and getting really personalized.
It builds up.
701
00:33:36,101 --> 00:33:37,928
It builds up
the sensual connection.
702
00:33:42,455 --> 00:33:44,587
This is so exciting.
[ laughs ]
703
00:33:44,631 --> 00:33:47,329
♪♪♪
704
00:33:47,373 --> 00:33:50,506
- I don't think I've ever seen
a cake that big before.
705
00:33:50,550 --> 00:33:52,900
Especially not my own cake.
706
00:33:52,943 --> 00:33:55,424
- It's our cake, oh, my God.
707
00:33:55,468 --> 00:33:59,124
- We got a cheesecake.
We got, like, confetti cake.
708
00:33:59,167 --> 00:34:01,778
We got the sheet cake.
Oh, my God.
709
00:34:01,822 --> 00:34:03,563
- Do you think we have too much?
710
00:34:03,606 --> 00:34:05,304
- Mmm, I don't think so.
- [ laughs ]
711
00:34:05,347 --> 00:34:06,479
- I think it's
just the right amount.
712
00:34:08,046 --> 00:34:10,526
- I met Lum Through Clix.
713
00:34:10,570 --> 00:34:13,312
He needed a little help
doing a photo shoot.
714
00:34:13,355 --> 00:34:15,009
So I helped take some pictures,
715
00:34:15,053 --> 00:34:17,968
and it just kind of
sparked something in me.
716
00:34:18,012 --> 00:34:20,232
I was like,
"That looks really fun."
717
00:34:20,275 --> 00:34:21,755
♪ Pie!
718
00:34:21,798 --> 00:34:23,931
"Maybe I could try
getting messy myself."
719
00:34:23,974 --> 00:34:27,413
- I'm, like, eyeballing
this jelly so hard.
720
00:34:27,456 --> 00:34:28,936
I'm...[ laughs ]
721
00:34:28,979 --> 00:34:32,287
One...two...
722
00:34:32,331 --> 00:34:33,897
Three!
723
00:34:35,421 --> 00:34:37,466
Four.
724
00:34:37,510 --> 00:34:40,165
Five.
725
00:34:40,208 --> 00:34:42,341
Six.
- Six whipped cream.
726
00:34:42,384 --> 00:34:44,343
- Seven! Let's say seven.
727
00:34:44,386 --> 00:34:46,388
- I have to work in a very
professional environment
728
00:34:46,432 --> 00:34:49,957
where I can't truly
be myself.
729
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:51,915
How may corn syrups
do we have?
730
00:34:51,959 --> 00:34:54,440
I don't like having to pretend
I'm somebody else
731
00:34:54,483 --> 00:34:57,007
or hide certain aspects
of myself.
732
00:34:57,051 --> 00:34:59,706
I think everyone should be
able to be who they are.
733
00:34:59,749 --> 00:35:02,143
- Yum!
734
00:35:02,187 --> 00:35:04,624
Yes, okay. I think it's time
I take these clothes off.
735
00:35:04,667 --> 00:35:06,060
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
736
00:35:09,585 --> 00:35:11,283
Much better.
737
00:35:11,326 --> 00:35:13,807
- You look so cute.
- Youlook so cute!
738
00:35:13,850 --> 00:35:18,159
- Okay, so we need to add
more whipped cream.
739
00:35:18,203 --> 00:35:19,900
Lum definitely is
an inspiration to me
740
00:35:19,943 --> 00:35:22,772
to be myself
and to not be afraid
741
00:35:22,816 --> 00:35:25,558
to take chances and experiment.
742
00:35:25,601 --> 00:35:28,909
- All right, one, two, three.
743
00:35:28,952 --> 00:35:31,781
- Oof!
[ laughter ]
744
00:35:31,825 --> 00:35:35,002
Oh...
745
00:35:35,045 --> 00:35:36,438
♪♪♪
746
00:35:36,482 --> 00:35:39,441
- It's being able
to just fully let go
747
00:35:39,485 --> 00:35:42,705
and be in a moment, and
wherever that moment takes you.
748
00:35:42,749 --> 00:35:44,446
[ laughter ]
749
00:35:44,490 --> 00:35:47,841
However messy you get.
750
00:35:47,884 --> 00:35:49,190
However wet you get.
751
00:35:51,149 --> 00:35:53,890
Whatever texture,
whatever liquid,
752
00:35:53,934 --> 00:35:57,503
whatever the sensation of
you're messing yourself up with,
753
00:35:57,546 --> 00:36:01,071
you are having that kind
of mental freedom.
754
00:36:01,115 --> 00:36:02,943
How do you feel,
being all messy?
755
00:36:02,986 --> 00:36:04,205
- Amazing.
- Yeah?
756
00:36:04,249 --> 00:36:06,338
- Mm-hmm. So soft and squishy.
757
00:36:06,381 --> 00:36:08,166
Show me your butt.
758
00:36:10,646 --> 00:36:13,997
Oh, my God! [ laughs ]
759
00:36:14,041 --> 00:36:15,695
- This is intense.
760
00:36:15,738 --> 00:36:18,088
This is
a really nice sensation.
761
00:36:18,132 --> 00:36:19,960
Or having another person here,
762
00:36:20,003 --> 00:36:21,962
being able to feel
textures with.
763
00:36:22,005 --> 00:36:23,529
- Aww.
764
00:36:23,572 --> 00:36:25,705
- I've been very lucky to be
765
00:36:25,748 --> 00:36:27,881
around people
and meeting partners
766
00:36:27,924 --> 00:36:31,885
that have been very willing
and very open.
767
00:36:31,928 --> 00:36:35,193
It's not weird, it's not wrong
to understand what you like
768
00:36:35,236 --> 00:36:37,499
and know what you like
specifically.
769
00:36:37,543 --> 00:36:39,284
♪ Can't control
770
00:36:39,327 --> 00:36:41,503
I like to tell people,
"Start lightly.
771
00:36:41,547 --> 00:36:44,811
"Start slow.
Know what you want to do,
772
00:36:44,854 --> 00:36:46,900
and play around
and just be openminded."
773
00:36:46,943 --> 00:36:50,295
♪ Roll, let it roll
774
00:36:50,338 --> 00:36:52,558
Even if it's really just
straight down to just
775
00:36:52,601 --> 00:36:55,213
lathering yourself up
in a tub.
776
00:36:55,256 --> 00:36:56,997
♪ 'Cause you can't control
777
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:58,216
♪ When the thunder
meets the lightning ♪
778
00:36:58,259 --> 00:37:00,522
♪ Let it roll
779
00:37:00,566 --> 00:37:02,220
- A lot of people,
for some reason,
780
00:37:02,263 --> 00:37:04,439
imagine that participating
in this sort of thing
781
00:37:04,483 --> 00:37:06,006
would be degrading.
782
00:37:06,049 --> 00:37:07,747
- [ laughter ]
783
00:37:07,790 --> 00:37:09,531
- With MessyHot,
it's a celebration.
784
00:37:09,575 --> 00:37:10,924
It's a celebration of beauty.
785
00:37:10,967 --> 00:37:12,012
It's a celebration
of sensuality.
786
00:37:12,055 --> 00:37:13,927
♪ Let it roll
787
00:37:13,970 --> 00:37:17,800
- It's sparked
this beautiful journey
788
00:37:17,844 --> 00:37:21,108
that I'm apparently on of
just understanding my sexuality
789
00:37:21,151 --> 00:37:22,414
and understanding who I am.
790
00:37:22,457 --> 00:37:24,067
♪ You can't control
791
00:37:24,111 --> 00:37:25,417
♪ When the thunder meets
the lightning ♪
792
00:37:25,460 --> 00:37:28,507
Sploshing really...
793
00:37:28,550 --> 00:37:32,424
It really opened me up
to be just me, 24/7.
794
00:37:32,467 --> 00:37:42,695
♪♪♪
795
00:37:42,738 --> 00:37:45,088
- Unlikeliest person I've
ever fantasized about?
796
00:37:45,132 --> 00:37:47,352
Is that someone who's like
not traditionally hot?
797
00:37:47,395 --> 00:37:49,005
I don't think
this is that weird,
798
00:37:49,049 --> 00:37:50,572
but I have, like, massive
crushes on Will Ferrell
799
00:37:50,616 --> 00:37:53,488
and Jason Seagal.
They're like my--my dream men.
800
00:37:53,532 --> 00:37:56,056
- I do have a hard-on
for Anthony Hopkins.
801
00:37:56,099 --> 00:37:57,710
I have to admit.
It's just something
802
00:37:57,753 --> 00:37:59,799
that I really find
myself drawn to as opposed
803
00:37:59,842 --> 00:38:01,322
to say, you know, Brad Pitt,
where it's like,
804
00:38:01,366 --> 00:38:03,237
"Yeah, aesthetically,
you're really hot,
805
00:38:03,281 --> 00:38:05,370
but I don't really think I'd
keep you in the bed very long."
806
00:38:05,413 --> 00:38:07,502
I'd probably just be like,
"Okay, we're done. Get out."
807
00:38:07,546 --> 00:38:10,940
- The unlikeliest person
I've ever fantasized about was
808
00:38:10,984 --> 00:38:12,551
my law professor.
809
00:38:12,594 --> 00:38:15,423
He was like...
had to have been 70.
810
00:38:15,467 --> 00:38:17,730
He's passed away now,
that's how old he is.
811
00:38:17,773 --> 00:38:19,471
But I totally thought
he was a dirty boy,
812
00:38:19,514 --> 00:38:21,777
so I really fantasized
about him all the time.
813
00:38:21,821 --> 00:38:23,301
And he gave me a good grade.
814
00:38:23,344 --> 00:38:26,086
- Theo Von.
He's a comedian.
815
00:38:26,129 --> 00:38:27,957
I'm a comedian,
but I can't ever fuck him
816
00:38:28,001 --> 00:38:29,829
because I'm not
as famous as him.
817
00:38:29,872 --> 00:38:32,571
So then I'd just be known as
like the chick who fucked
818
00:38:32,614 --> 00:38:33,963
a famous comedian.
819
00:38:34,007 --> 00:38:35,835
- I think Carrot Top's
really hot.
820
00:38:35,878 --> 00:38:37,489
I know it's odd.
821
00:38:37,532 --> 00:38:39,142
Yeah, I mean, yeah, I have
a thing for redheads,
822
00:38:39,186 --> 00:38:40,535
Covered in freckles, redhead,
I'll lie in bed
823
00:38:40,579 --> 00:38:42,363
and like, play connect the dots.
824
00:38:42,407 --> 00:38:45,323
- The unlikeliest person
I've fantasized about
825
00:38:45,366 --> 00:38:47,803
is the Hound
from "Game of Thrones."
826
00:38:47,847 --> 00:38:49,631
His, like, whole face
is burned,
827
00:38:49,675 --> 00:38:52,373
and he's got, like,
this, like, greasy wig,
828
00:38:52,417 --> 00:38:54,680
but he's like 6'6"
and super hairy
829
00:38:54,723 --> 00:38:56,246
and I'm just so into him.
830
00:38:56,290 --> 00:38:58,336
My friends make fun of me
all the time for it.
831
00:38:58,379 --> 00:38:59,815
- You know what, I've been
fantasizing a lot
832
00:38:59,859 --> 00:39:01,382
about older women.
For whatever reason,
833
00:39:01,426 --> 00:39:02,731
now that I've got older,
834
00:39:02,775 --> 00:39:05,299
I have a crazy fetish,
sometimes,
835
00:39:05,343 --> 00:39:07,040
depending on my mood
when I wake up,
836
00:39:07,083 --> 00:39:08,171
for older ladies.
837
00:39:08,215 --> 00:39:09,956
Sometimes it can be GILF porn.
838
00:39:09,999 --> 00:39:12,698
If a grandma looks nice
and it's crazy,
839
00:39:12,741 --> 00:39:15,483
and it's spontaneous,
and it's spun the right way,
840
00:39:15,527 --> 00:39:18,399
it'll fucking get me off.
841
00:39:18,443 --> 00:39:21,359
- Fidel Castro is probably
the unlikeliest person
842
00:39:21,402 --> 00:39:23,883
I've had a sexual fantasy about.
843
00:39:23,926 --> 00:39:26,189
I was going through
a dark phase in my time
844
00:39:26,233 --> 00:39:29,628
and a dictator
just seemed sexy to me.
845
00:39:29,671 --> 00:39:32,239
I've grown out
of that phase now.
846
00:39:32,282 --> 00:39:42,292
♪♪♪
847
00:39:42,336 --> 00:39:51,650
♪♪♪
848
00:39:51,693 --> 00:39:54,696
- A successful model,
she knows how to talk
849
00:39:54,740 --> 00:39:56,176
and she's a real person.
850
00:39:57,917 --> 00:39:59,875
And that's how she grabs you.
851
00:40:01,137 --> 00:40:03,096
Before I started camming,
I was working
852
00:40:03,139 --> 00:40:04,576
for a pharmaceutical company.
853
00:40:04,619 --> 00:40:07,274
So I went from doing, like,
a modest job
854
00:40:07,317 --> 00:40:09,624
to something that's more,
like, on the edge.
855
00:40:09,668 --> 00:40:13,411
- You are in Hollywood
and you come into an office,
856
00:40:13,454 --> 00:40:15,456
like everybody else,
but what you're doing
857
00:40:15,500 --> 00:40:16,805
is not what they're doing.
858
00:40:19,721 --> 00:40:22,768
- Well, hello there.
859
00:40:22,811 --> 00:40:25,858
Studio 20, they pretty much
groomed me
860
00:40:25,901 --> 00:40:27,120
to be a successful model.
861
00:40:27,163 --> 00:40:35,563
♪♪♪
862
00:40:35,607 --> 00:40:37,086
- So it starts in free chat,
863
00:40:37,130 --> 00:40:39,654
where you have lots
of members,
864
00:40:39,698 --> 00:40:41,395
and you're meeting everybody.
865
00:40:41,439 --> 00:40:43,441
But the moment they press
the "private" button
866
00:40:43,484 --> 00:40:44,659
is when you start making money.
867
00:40:56,018 --> 00:40:57,585
How are you doing today?
868
00:41:00,588 --> 00:41:01,937
[ chuckles ]
That's good.
869
00:41:01,981 --> 00:41:03,286
What's your name, baby?
870
00:41:06,202 --> 00:41:08,378
Oh, Cowboy.
871
00:41:08,422 --> 00:41:09,902
Where you from?
872
00:41:12,731 --> 00:41:15,690
Texas.
Of course you're from Texas,
873
00:41:15,734 --> 00:41:19,085
Cowboy. So I heard everything
is bigger in Texas.
874
00:41:19,128 --> 00:41:20,913
Is that true?
875
00:41:20,956 --> 00:41:23,263
It's not a myth? Really?
876
00:41:23,306 --> 00:41:24,264
[ chuckles ]
877
00:41:24,307 --> 00:41:27,441
♪♪♪
878
00:41:27,485 --> 00:41:29,225
Ooh, I can be your cowgirl?
879
00:41:29,269 --> 00:41:32,838
I've been camming for about
a year and three months.
880
00:41:32,881 --> 00:41:34,796
I like to describe myself
as an onion.
881
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:37,320
I have lots of different layers
of different people
882
00:41:37,364 --> 00:41:40,062
when I'm in mistress mode,
when I'm in teacher mode,
883
00:41:40,106 --> 00:41:41,803
when I'm being seductive.
884
00:41:43,544 --> 00:41:45,154
The thing I really like
about camming
885
00:41:45,198 --> 00:41:48,418
and when we're online
is like, I'm in control.
886
00:41:48,462 --> 00:41:50,986
These guys know
a lot about your life,
887
00:41:51,030 --> 00:41:52,858
but we can text them on an app
888
00:41:52,901 --> 00:41:54,512
so we can get,
like, FaceTime calls,
889
00:41:54,555 --> 00:41:56,688
text messages,
so they really feel like
890
00:41:56,731 --> 00:41:58,646
they're your friends, like
they're a part of your life.
891
00:41:58,690 --> 00:42:01,910
You're their therapist,
you're their fantasy,
892
00:42:01,954 --> 00:42:03,521
you're their everything.
893
00:42:03,564 --> 00:42:05,566
You like me like that,
don't you?
894
00:42:05,610 --> 00:42:13,182
♪♪♪
895
00:42:13,226 --> 00:42:14,880
- Yeah? Okay.
896
00:42:14,923 --> 00:42:16,490
Hi there, Katie.
897
00:42:16,534 --> 00:42:18,579
- I'm Andra. I'm the P.R.
and marketing manager
898
00:42:18,623 --> 00:42:19,798
for Studio 20.
899
00:42:19,841 --> 00:42:21,408
- The problem that we have
900
00:42:21,451 --> 00:42:22,409
is that you don't
look into the camera.
901
00:42:22,452 --> 00:42:23,932
- I have a law degree.
902
00:42:23,976 --> 00:42:27,501
I worked in marketing
and social media before,
903
00:42:27,545 --> 00:42:29,895
so when this job opened up,
I was very curious about it.
904
00:42:29,938 --> 00:42:33,289
- You're looking at the TV,
but the camera's here, you know?
905
00:42:33,333 --> 00:42:36,684
So let's look at how--
let's move the camera a bit,
906
00:42:36,728 --> 00:42:39,165
and let's look
at how it looks afterwards.
907
00:42:39,208 --> 00:42:41,602
A lot of people have
this preconceived idea
908
00:42:41,646 --> 00:42:43,517
that webcamming is
just about sex,
909
00:42:43,561 --> 00:42:45,650
but it's more about
creating the connection
910
00:42:45,693 --> 00:42:48,348
with our members.
That is actually how you get
911
00:42:48,391 --> 00:42:50,306
to become a good webcam model.
912
00:42:50,350 --> 00:42:52,004
♪♪♪
913
00:42:52,047 --> 00:42:55,485
Studio 20 is the biggest
livecam network in the world.
914
00:42:55,529 --> 00:42:57,400
We provide facilitation
for the girls
915
00:42:57,444 --> 00:42:59,533
that want to work
as webcam models.
916
00:42:59,577 --> 00:43:02,188
A webcam model
is a performer
917
00:43:02,231 --> 00:43:04,669
that broadcasts from our studio
918
00:43:04,712 --> 00:43:07,019
onto a cam site platform.
919
00:43:07,062 --> 00:43:09,108
So it's basically like
broadcasting live
920
00:43:09,151 --> 00:43:11,023
on a social media platform,
921
00:43:11,066 --> 00:43:13,678
just that for this one,
you get paid for it.
922
00:43:13,721 --> 00:43:16,376
For a model that has
been working for a year,
923
00:43:16,419 --> 00:43:21,076
she should expect around
6,000, even 8,000,
924
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:22,817
after two weeks.
925
00:43:22,861 --> 00:43:25,167
It's also a safe environment
for them,
926
00:43:25,211 --> 00:43:27,300
because we provide the rooms,
the training,
927
00:43:27,343 --> 00:43:28,780
the cameras, the lighting,
928
00:43:28,823 --> 00:43:32,000
the bedsheets, everything
for the performers
929
00:43:32,044 --> 00:43:33,175
to come and do their work.
930
00:43:33,219 --> 00:43:35,482
Okay, awesome, Katie.
931
00:43:35,525 --> 00:43:37,049
You look gorgeous, by the way.
- Thank you.
932
00:43:38,354 --> 00:43:41,357
We're trying to help every
girl that domes into the studio
933
00:43:41,401 --> 00:43:43,446
explore her full potential.
934
00:43:43,490 --> 00:43:47,276
♪♪♪
935
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:50,279
- Camming is an occupation
like any other.
936
00:43:50,323 --> 00:43:52,717
It's a career,
not just a job.
937
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:57,635
So we invest a lot more
time into it,
938
00:43:57,678 --> 00:44:00,072
and enjoy our work.
939
00:44:00,115 --> 00:44:01,900
- You know, she's gorgeous.
I love her.
940
00:44:01,943 --> 00:44:03,423
There's powder in her room.
941
00:44:03,466 --> 00:44:05,643
- Oh, yeah. She never--
- Okay? Always.
942
00:44:05,686 --> 00:44:07,035
All the time.
- We bought her some.
943
00:44:09,037 --> 00:44:10,517
- The staff cares about us
a lot.
944
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:12,911
They get really excited for us,
945
00:44:12,954 --> 00:44:14,739
and they're not faking it,
either.
946
00:44:14,782 --> 00:44:16,871
They're, like, really happy
when we do well.
947
00:44:16,915 --> 00:44:19,308
- Like, real close. Real close.
948
00:44:19,352 --> 00:44:22,137
The role of the trainers is
to help the girls,
949
00:44:22,181 --> 00:44:24,836
so we're giving constant
feedback and support
950
00:44:24,879 --> 00:44:26,925
to every performer that we have,
951
00:44:26,968 --> 00:44:29,754
and seeing them grow
and seeing them develop
952
00:44:29,797 --> 00:44:32,495
and learning about themselves.
953
00:44:32,539 --> 00:44:34,889
We're actually building them up
for success.
954
00:44:37,065 --> 00:44:38,719
Now, awesome.
955
00:44:38,763 --> 00:44:41,635
- You like it better?
- Yeah. What do you think?
956
00:44:41,679 --> 00:44:43,289
- She's still not looking
at the camera.
957
00:44:43,332 --> 00:44:46,205
- She's not looking
at the camera, but it's...
958
00:44:46,248 --> 00:44:48,033
because she's
not looking at the camera.
959
00:44:48,076 --> 00:44:51,079
Camming is about
being empowered,
960
00:44:51,123 --> 00:44:53,212
and being free to explore
who you are.
961
00:44:53,255 --> 00:44:55,127
Oh, okay, there we go.
- Okay, much better.
962
00:44:55,170 --> 00:44:56,345
- There we go, see?
963
00:44:56,389 --> 00:44:57,956
Awesome.
- Okay.
964
00:44:57,999 --> 00:45:01,176
- Awesomeness. And you
see her beautiful face.
965
00:45:01,220 --> 00:45:05,267
This is the empowerment,
and this is why we do it.
966
00:45:05,311 --> 00:45:07,835
- When I first got
to Studio 20,
967
00:45:07,879 --> 00:45:09,750
I had no idea what to expect,
968
00:45:09,794 --> 00:45:12,579
but people were friendly.
It didn't seem like
969
00:45:12,622 --> 00:45:16,365
a cam studio.
I was very, very comfortable.
970
00:45:16,409 --> 00:45:18,498
There's all women here,
971
00:45:18,541 --> 00:45:21,283
so the team really is
supportive.
972
00:45:21,327 --> 00:45:23,633
It's not like you're in a room
by yourself
973
00:45:23,677 --> 00:45:25,418
and they're just sticking you
in a camera
974
00:45:25,461 --> 00:45:26,854
and you're just gonna
masturbate all day.
975
00:45:26,898 --> 00:45:29,770
Like, no, it's nothing
like that.
976
00:45:29,814 --> 00:45:34,383
So, Mr. Cowboy, are you single?
977
00:45:34,427 --> 00:45:36,342
Are you married?
978
00:45:37,909 --> 00:45:41,129
You are--ooh.
Naughty, naughty boy.
979
00:45:41,173 --> 00:45:42,740
Where's your wife?
980
00:45:42,783 --> 00:45:44,567
You want to keep them talking,
that's the thing.
981
00:45:44,611 --> 00:45:46,221
That's where you're gonna make
982
00:45:46,265 --> 00:45:47,962
the majority of your money
is from the conversation.
983
00:45:48,006 --> 00:45:50,748
My trainer told me, you know,
the first private I had.
984
00:45:50,791 --> 00:45:53,838
As soon as I go in there,
I'm like, taking my clothes off.
985
00:45:53,881 --> 00:45:56,536
My trainer was like,
"Whoa, like, slow down."
986
00:45:56,579 --> 00:45:59,757
I'm gonna introduce you
to Coco and Chanel.
987
00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:03,848
Mmm, they're my new twins,
Cowboy.
988
00:46:03,891 --> 00:46:07,286
Mm-hmm, Cowboy.
989
00:46:07,329 --> 00:46:09,636
Just let him tell you
what he wants,
990
00:46:09,679 --> 00:46:11,551
'cause not everybody
wants you to get naked.
991
00:46:13,509 --> 00:46:17,557
Some tight shorts?
Really naughty.
992
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:19,167
But I think when you're online,
993
00:46:19,211 --> 00:46:21,474
it kinda gives the guy
an opportunity
994
00:46:21,517 --> 00:46:22,823
to get to know you better,
995
00:46:22,867 --> 00:46:24,433
because they can't actually
touch you
996
00:46:24,477 --> 00:46:26,218
so if I can't touch you
I have to figure out
997
00:46:26,261 --> 00:46:28,394
another way to get to you,
so that's through your mind.
998
00:46:28,437 --> 00:46:31,223
That's through the conversation.
999
00:46:31,266 --> 00:46:33,747
There's different guys that want
different things in a private.
1000
00:46:33,791 --> 00:46:36,097
You can be asleep.
Some guys want to watch you
1001
00:46:36,141 --> 00:46:38,360
do your makeup.
So it's not all sexual
1002
00:46:38,404 --> 00:46:43,104
and this is what people
misunderstand about camming.
1003
00:46:43,148 --> 00:46:45,628
It's whatever you want it to be,
whatever your fantasy is,
1004
00:46:45,672 --> 00:46:47,065
is just on the camera.
1005
00:46:47,108 --> 00:46:48,980
You have your own will.
1006
00:46:49,023 --> 00:46:50,982
That's the thing I really like
about camming is
1007
00:46:51,025 --> 00:46:52,679
you're in control
of what you do.
1008
00:46:52,722 --> 00:46:55,160
If you don't feel comfortable
in doing anything,
1009
00:46:55,203 --> 00:46:56,770
you don't have to do it.
1010
00:46:56,814 --> 00:46:58,554
They tell me all the time,
1011
00:46:58,598 --> 00:46:59,904
like, I can be myself here.
1012
00:47:01,819 --> 00:47:05,126
I love girls and guys.
1013
00:47:05,170 --> 00:47:07,825
I'm greedy. I like both.
1014
00:47:07,868 --> 00:47:09,391
[ chuckles ]
1015
00:47:11,002 --> 00:47:13,482
Hello, hello, ladies.
1016
00:47:13,526 --> 00:47:16,224
- Hello.
- Hey, how's your day going?
1017
00:47:16,268 --> 00:47:17,617
- All right.
1018
00:47:17,660 --> 00:47:18,705
"We succeed together"
1019
00:47:18,748 --> 00:47:20,489
is the motto of Studio 20.
1020
00:47:20,533 --> 00:47:24,145
It means that we cannot do
anything without each other.
1021
00:47:24,189 --> 00:47:26,321
We need people in our lives,
1022
00:47:26,365 --> 00:47:29,847
and we need each other
to help each other grow.
1023
00:47:29,890 --> 00:47:32,588
- This environment is kinda
like a family here.
1024
00:47:32,632 --> 00:47:35,461
You know, it's really like
a family setting.
1025
00:47:35,504 --> 00:47:38,203
Just being in a studio is great,
'cause there's lots of girls
1026
00:47:38,246 --> 00:47:40,901
who come through
that have been cam models
1027
00:47:40,945 --> 00:47:43,208
and cammed from home and it's
a totally different experience.
1028
00:47:43,251 --> 00:47:44,862
- I was.
- Camming from home
1029
00:47:44,905 --> 00:47:46,515
than being here
and having the support
1030
00:47:46,559 --> 00:47:49,040
and having--yeah.
- It's a lot better.
1031
00:47:49,083 --> 00:47:52,217
- I always knew sexuality
was something that I need to
1032
00:47:52,260 --> 00:47:53,958
find a job with.
- Right.
1033
00:47:54,001 --> 00:47:55,742
- And then I found this place
and I was like, "Oh."
1034
00:47:55,785 --> 00:47:57,091
- Yeah, it's like you can
get into it,
1035
00:47:57,135 --> 00:47:58,701
and it's a professional setting.
1036
00:47:58,745 --> 00:48:01,443
- The studio holds us
accountable to our goals.
1037
00:48:01,487 --> 00:48:02,967
- Exactly.
1038
00:48:03,010 --> 00:48:04,533
- Regardless of
all the sexuality,
1039
00:48:04,577 --> 00:48:09,495
the staple of what we do
is about the intimacy,
1040
00:48:09,538 --> 00:48:12,063
and in the day-to-day
check-ins.
1041
00:48:12,106 --> 00:48:14,979
- As soon as you have this type
of conversation with them
1042
00:48:15,022 --> 00:48:16,937
in private and they find out,
you know,
1043
00:48:16,981 --> 00:48:19,592
more about your personal life
and you start to let them in,
1044
00:48:19,635 --> 00:48:21,811
then they realize
that you're a real person
1045
00:48:21,855 --> 00:48:24,292
and these are just fantasies
that we all have.
1046
00:48:24,336 --> 00:48:26,338
Once you start sharing things
with them, they're like,
1047
00:48:26,381 --> 00:48:28,122
"Oh, my god,
I feel the same way."
1048
00:48:28,166 --> 00:48:29,994
And it's like they just didn't
have anybody to talk to
1049
00:48:30,037 --> 00:48:31,865
that's just open 'cause they
didn't want to seem weird
1050
00:48:31,909 --> 00:48:33,954
to anybody or seem like
you were too sexual.
1051
00:48:33,998 --> 00:48:35,825
- I know I've talked to you
many times about it
1052
00:48:35,869 --> 00:48:39,090
and you really--you involve your
own sexuality a lot.
1053
00:48:39,133 --> 00:48:40,613
- Mm-hmm.
- And you like--you like
1054
00:48:40,656 --> 00:48:42,528
hearing their voice,
remember we said, right?
1055
00:48:42,571 --> 00:48:44,660
- Like when they're coming or
while they're wanking,
1056
00:48:44,704 --> 00:48:47,315
you can hear their voice quiver.
They're like, "Oh, baby."
1057
00:48:47,359 --> 00:48:49,622
It's hot.
[ laughter ]
1058
00:48:49,665 --> 00:48:51,363
Like, I love that part.
It's like, I want to hear you.
1059
00:48:51,406 --> 00:48:52,930
And then, like, I'll tell them,
1060
00:48:52,973 --> 00:48:54,801
"I want to hear
out of your mouth--
1061
00:48:54,844 --> 00:48:57,021
tell me how you feel. Tell me
what you want to do to me."
1062
00:48:57,064 --> 00:48:59,327
And it's just like--
I think it makes them, like,
1063
00:48:59,371 --> 00:49:02,200
have a better orgasm because
they're actually saying it.
1064
00:49:02,243 --> 00:49:03,810
They're confessing it
with their mouth.
1065
00:49:03,853 --> 00:49:05,768
So it's like,
I want to push them to do
1066
00:49:05,812 --> 00:49:08,467
stuff that they normally
wouldn't do, you know.
1067
00:49:08,510 --> 00:49:09,990
So it is a power thing.
1068
00:49:10,034 --> 00:49:13,602
♪♪♪
1069
00:49:13,646 --> 00:49:17,955
But I'm not gonna stop
until it's throbbing, baby.
1070
00:49:17,998 --> 00:49:19,782
Until it's leaking come.
1071
00:49:19,826 --> 00:49:21,741
For me to go back
to a 9-to-5,
1072
00:49:21,784 --> 00:49:24,091
I would never want to.
Like, I feel like
1073
00:49:24,135 --> 00:49:26,093
you're successful
when you get paid
1074
00:49:26,137 --> 00:49:27,312
doing the things
that you love to do.
1075
00:49:29,879 --> 00:49:33,883
Now I want you to brush it
across my lips.
1076
00:49:33,927 --> 00:49:37,409
Women that judge me
and other cam models,
1077
00:49:37,452 --> 00:49:40,064
they're actually doing
the same thing that we're doing
1078
00:49:40,107 --> 00:49:44,024
with the sexting and sending
nudes and all that stuff.
1079
00:49:44,068 --> 00:49:45,895
Hey, you can send nudes.
I send 'em, too,
1080
00:49:45,939 --> 00:49:48,115
but the difference is I get paid
for it and you don't.
1081
00:49:48,159 --> 00:49:50,465
We can do this
whenever you want.
1082
00:49:50,509 --> 00:49:53,555
Did you add me
to your favorites?
1083
00:49:53,599 --> 00:49:55,905
We're here for us
not to be judged
1084
00:49:55,949 --> 00:49:58,343
and for us to do the things
that we like to do.
1085
00:49:58,386 --> 00:50:01,389
It was nice meeting you.
Mwah.
1086
00:50:01,433 --> 00:50:04,871
Bye, shy Cowboy.
[ chuckles ]
1087
00:50:04,914 --> 00:50:07,221
Talk to you soon, babe.
1088
00:50:07,265 --> 00:50:09,049
Bye.
1089
00:50:09,093 --> 00:50:17,057
♪♪♪
1090
00:50:18,537 --> 00:50:20,626
♪ Ain't it crazy
1091
00:50:20,669 --> 00:50:23,063
♪ How you love someone
1092
00:50:23,107 --> 00:50:25,544
♪ Ain't it crazy
1093
00:50:25,587 --> 00:50:28,068
♪ Whoo-hoo
1094
00:50:28,112 --> 00:50:30,331
♪ Ain't it crazy
1095
00:50:30,375 --> 00:50:32,507
♪ When you can't get enough
1096
00:50:32,551 --> 00:50:35,380
♪ Ain't it crazy
1097
00:50:35,423 --> 00:50:37,512
♪ Whoo-hoo
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