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- We are obsessed with women's vulvas

and their sexuality.

What is it that happened

billions of years ago that they felt

they had to do this to our bodies?

They had to control it, cut it, mutilate it, beat us,

rape us, blame us after they rape us

because of our gender.

We live in an environment where women

are constantly judged on everything,

from the way they speak to the way they walk

to their sexuality, to their just being women.

The judgment is everywhere.

- I learned as a child that all bad things that happen

are actually God punishing the world

for the way that we as young women dress.

- Women do not have the right to their own bodies worldwide.

Women do not have the right to their own

sexuality so to say.

It is all about what others expect them to be.

- [GPS] Next right.

- I grew up in Brooklyn in New York,

in the Hasidic community.

Even though there was no wall around my community,

there was a very effective, invisible barrier around us.

As a child I could glimpse

the skyline of Manhattan.

Very shiny, but it was simply

the dangerous and scary far way,

and we knew we would never go there,

and we knew that they never came to us.

So it could have been another planet.

My grandfather, who I admired a lot as a child,

they used to say to me,

"God made women in such a way that she will always

ask too many questions.

She's not capable of blind faith."

This is why all books were forbidden to women.

My grandfather just saw me as a potential baby-maker.

There is no word for I love you

in the Yiddish dialect I grew up with.

There is no word for tenderness.

It does not exist.

In my community, marriages were always arranged,

so you didn't really know who you were marrying.

I was 17 years old,

taking wedding classes to learn about my new obligations.

Male and female genitalia were explained to me

for the first time, and how they're supposed to work.

The teacher didn't call them by their names.

She used Hebrew words that I didn't understand,

and explained that the woman has a place where it fits in.

It's a beautiful hallway that leads

to the source of all life.

That's how babies happen.

I was to have intercourse with someone I didn't know,

whether I wanted to or not.

I felt forced, both by the community and by our family.

They told me there were no other options for me.

So I had sex.

It was extremely painful, I cried.

And the following week I found out I was pregnant.

And I thought, so now I'm responsible

not just for my own life in this community,

but also for forcing it upon someone else.

This made me realize just how powerful

the community is in containing women.

Once I grew into my full feminine power as a woman,

that's when I became completely crushed.

- Growing up as a girl child in India

means being touched, being groped,

and being sexually harassed at any given point of time

in any public space.

I started to hate myself for being a girl.

When I hit puberty and when there were body changes,

I was on the roads and I was pinched.

It happened a couple of times.

And for me, that experience is still very painful.

I used to cry, but I used to always find a place

where nobody knew that I would cry.

And I always felt if I tell somebody about it,

they'll be like, "It's your fault."

Then I started reacting.

There was no other option.

And I decided to break the culture of silence.

- [Man] I know why your boss

is promoting you every year.

---- ----

Just go and ---- yourself!

- Okay so we have, this is done?

Sound system is the same guy.

I talk about sex.

If you're not gonna talk about sex

and healthy relationships,

then you're not even talking about

rape or sexual harassment or sexual violence.

- I've done it already.

- Already, good, good.

I created Love Matters as the first digital platform

in India to talk about love, sex, and relationships.

Because in our society, anything to do with sex

is still a taboo.

We are not only fighting against this taboo online,

but we are also taking these conversations offline,

through our very first public event.

We have a lot of pleasure out here.

Like a table full of hearts.

We are the land of Kama Sutra.

And it's quite strange that it's the same culture

that basically does not let you talk about love,

sex, and female pleasure.

If you have a girl child, you're doomed for life.

A girl child is considered a liability.

Girl children are being killed.

They are being killed every single day.

A rape every two hours.

Even recently, there have been statements made

by politicians in India saying that rape is okay.

Boys will be boys.

You should not be punishing them.

Your whole identity as a woman

is basically just to entice somebody.

So you cover yourself up because somebody

might do something to you.

Sex as a subject in India

is all about a man and a man's desires.

Most women in India wouldn't even know what pleasure means.

Women are considered a property.

Women suffer, women suffer every single day.

It's a global issue.

- It was a very sunny morning.

At the age of seven,

I've endured a practice called female genital mutilation.

Female genital mutilation,

it's when you partially or totally remove

the female genitalia.

Myself and 200 million other women

are living with this practice today.

Three million alone are at risk in the African continent.

Half a million are living in Europe as we speak.

FGM, it's a global issue.

This is about oppressing women.

It's about oppressing women's bodies.

It's about controlling women's sexuality,

and that's a global issue.

That's not an African issue.

That is not an Asian issue.

That's a global issue.

The idea that a woman or a girl is sexually free

and can own her sexuality,

it's the biggest taboo.

It's the biggest challenge we all face everywhere.

And FGM happens to be just one of them.

- [Woman] You should save the rest.

- The moment I knew I was different as a girl

is when FGM took place.

On the other side of the house,

I could hear my sister screaming.

So they took her first.

I was pinned down, and my legs were spread apart.

And before I knew it,

a sharp knife was taken to my body.

I felt the whole thing.

But what's confusing for a child,

people who were surrounding me were

aunties and neighbors and people you trusted.

It's not your body that you lose.

You lose trust.

I distinctly remember my first

day in school during playtime.

One of the girls went, "Have you had this done?"

And I said yes.

And she literally shouted across the playground.

She said, "We can all play with her now!"

Because if I didn't have this done,

nobody would play with me.

And can you imagine as a seven year old,

the idea that no one's gonna play with you?

I was 22 when a health professional asked me

what my pregnancy was like.

And I said it was horrible.

She said to me straight away,

"I know you're from Somalia.

I know in Somalia they practice Islam.

Have you been through FGM?"

Actually, what your body was experiencing was flashback.

And when she said that, I sobbed.

We were sexually assaulted.

That's what happened to us as children.

That's what happened to me.

Why is it so frightening that a woman

has sexual feelings, that she's a sexual being?

Is this all happening around the world out of fear?

- [Deborah] When my son was born, I just panicked.

I didn't want to have to raise my son

the way I was raised.

That's what motivated me to strive so hard

towards another future.

I knew I had to start by getting an education,

and I was really close to leaving,

but I was afraid to take the last step.

Then I had a really bad car accident,

but I crawled out without a scratch.

I was so convinced as the car was flipping over

that this was God punishing me

for thinking of leaving.

That everything I was ever told was real.

But the next day, I rented a car,

and I packed it with everything that could fit in.

I remember my son, he was a baby,

looking around like, why is there so much stuff in the car.

But he put his thumb in his mouth and went to sleep,

and I drove away.

If I didn't leave when you were a baby

and take you with me,

this is how you would grow up.

And this is what you would look like,

and this is what your life would be like.

And I just didn't think that would make you happy.

- Oh my God, they look so weird.

- [Deborah] My family wrote me emails saying

that they're preparing a gravestone for me.

They told me to commit suicide.

That they cannot wait to dance on my grave.

Isaac, did you know that when

your dad and I got married, he looked like that?

- [Isaac] I know.

- [Deborah] I don't like to come here you know, Isaac.

- [Isaac] Why?

- [Deborah] 'Cause it reminds me

that I used to feel really stuck.

That I couldn't go out,

and I don't like to feel stuck.

I like to always feel like I can go

wherever I want.

My community was extremely furious at me.

They set up websites and blogs all over the internet

to say that I'm a traitor,

that I'll cause anti-Semitism,

that I'll start another Holocaust.

One Jewish newspaper compared me to Joseph Goebbels.

Do you want me to move back here?

- [Isaac] No, definitely not.

- [Deborah] The whole experience of being a woman

in radical Judaism is just a huge turnoff.

We're given no freedom to define ourselves

within the religious community,

within the context of religion.

The woman is considered the antithesis to spirituality,

necessary and yet something to be overcome.

- [Woman] Whooo!

- The people who made Judaism so misogynous

were these fundamentalist rabbis.

They interpreted the Torah and created

this gigantic cannon of Jewish text

that we accept as God's words.

But they are men's words.

A woman has to contend with the fact

that she is very evil and very holy at the same time.

Women menstruate.

They say this menstrual blood is impure

and can make men impure, and is therefore threatening.

You were not allowed to touch your husband.

Your husband cannot see your body.

In Hebrew, we say,

She is kicked aside.

This is all in regards to your body.

The body that you have been told is shameful

and disgusting your whole life.

Almost every woman in this community

develops a very intense shame around their body.

They have never been seen naked by anyone,

let alone the walls in their own house.

And we are taught to change our clothes in such a way

that actually the ceiling cannot see us.

Women are necessary,

at the same time as they are the enemy.

The reality of being impure for two weeks

is very psychologically confusing

and debilitating to my sense of self.

And the back and forth made me very confused

and almost rattled.

There was a whole system of laws and rituals

to protect men from my impurity,

and then to make me pure again

to have sex and procreate.

When you are finished bleeding,

you have to go to a ritual bath, the mikvah,

where your immersion is supervised

to make sure that you are now kosher, you are now pure.

Going to the mikvah I felt

that my body will never belong to me.

And that there's no way to ever achieve

a sense of ownership over it.

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♪ Coming for to carry me home

♪ Swing low, sweet chariot

♪ Coming for the carry me home

♪ Swing low, sweet chariot

♪ Coming for to carry me home

♪ Swing low, sweet chariot

- I think religion is one of the biggest

killers in the world.

The most confrontation in any part of the world,

it is all about religion.

People who say that this is an expectation from the women,

and this is an expectation from men,

and this is what relations are.

And the people who think that they're upholders

of religion, they're not.

And we are idiots, if you believe that.

We clearly are idiots if we believe that.

As a woman, you're the pride of the family.

So if you marry anybody who's out of your caste,

or who's not from your religion,

that's going to be like a black spot on the family.

Honor killing is still very common.

The concept of love does not exist in India.

When I shared with my parents

that I want to marry the man I love,

I was afraid my parents would give in

to the community pressure and say no.

- Papa!

Can I see my new shoes?

- That's what you're waiting for?

- [Vithika] My husband is a pilot.

So we often don't know how long we'll have together.

- For how many days?

- Three days.

- Yeah!

Then we are gonna see my new shoes?

- Yeah.

Let's go, let's see your stuff.

- I'm very proud of marrying the person

that I wanted to marry.

The football shoes!

- Do you like it?

- Yeah.

- I'm the first one in my family

to not have an arranged marriage.

- "Pim and Pom will be ours forever and ever."

Is that a nice thing to do?

I don't think so.

- No it's mean.

- It's mean.

- [Vithika] There are religious authorities

and Hindu fundamentalist groups

that are beating up people.

They are saying that love marriage is a Western concept

and not a part of our culture.

- We want that love should be spread in so many ways.

We have to love our country.

We have to love our wife.

We have to love our children.

We have to love our father.

In relationship, the woman should be respected.

That's it, that's it.

- But are women respected?

- No, so that is the principle is like that.

There is one principle, and there is one behavior.

Principle is strong, behavior can vary,

and behavior has fluctuations.

So we believe in eternal relationship.

And how eternal relationship will come

when we follow certain rituals,

when we follow our tradition,

when we follow our roots.

- What specific things do you talk about

when saying that a man should behave like this

and a woman should behave like this?

Like what are the expectations?

What is it that you focus on on teaching?

- Expectations are there.

Expectation that both have to follow Dharma.

That's it.

- So what do you think

about homosexuality and relationships

between gays and lesbians?

- We are not in the mood to think about it, actually.

- [Vithika] Okay, that's not important.

- That is not important.

It is the part of Western culture.

West is West.

God is present in everything.

God is present everywhere.

So that is also part of life,

but it is not the part of our Indian cultural life.

- I get really frustrated when people can't say to me,

this is a cultural practice.

It's not my bloody culture.

I'm Somali, I'm African.

I love my culture.

But FGM is definitely not my culture.

I'm not claiming it, I refuse to claim it.

The diaspora communities in London,

whether they're Somali, Nigerian, Sierra Leonian,

they still practice FGM.

- So this is our table number.

Okay, give your number.

- Nice to meet you finally.

- Nice to meet you!

Because they left their home,

they feel very close to their traditions.

And then she goes, oh no.

Especially with their girls.

And FGM is just one of those things

they really want to keep.

In the Somali community, 97% of the women

have undergone the practice.

I really wanted to understand,

'cause I'm very close with my mother.

But when I got involved in this work,

I could see the anger just re-surfacing.

Thinking, oh, why does she do it, like really?

And I have a daughter as well.

So I thought, mm.

So listening to her for the first time,

I felt I was sitting in front of another victim

of this practice.

I started to realize there's a grooming process with this,

so my mother was groomed, my grandmother was groomed

into this idea to be a good mother,

this is what you need to do.

The grooming also happens with men.

You're not man enough.

Your manhood will be questioned

if you dare marry a woman

who hasn't undergone the practice.

It's practiced across all religions.

But none of the holy books mention FGM.

It originates from the Pharaonic times.

The books were picked up by misogynistic men,

and interpreted the way they wanted,

hence why they can keep women not as sexual beings,

but as carriers of family honors.

Women's sex and sexuality was always controlled

in the name of religion.

They're practicing patriarchy,

which is, you know, that's a religion.

I hate that terminology, marital rape.

There's no marital rape, it's rape.

There's no domestic violence, no no no.

It's nothing domesticated about violence.

It's just full stop violence.

Child marriage, it's not child marriage,

it's legalized pedophilia.

Let's use the bloody right language.

It's not FGM, it's sexual assault on children.

If you're a woman challenging patriarchy,

and you're bringing sex and sexuality to that conversation,

run for your life.

I had to move home three times.

My address is protected.

I have a panic alarm.

My daughter was isolated.

I remember there was one incident

where my daughter was with me,

and some guy spat on the floor

and he said to my daughter,

"That is better than your mom."

There was another incident where

a group of people came and just

punched me in the face and told me to shut my mouth.

- As I started, I started doing a nice drawing here.

- Yeah.

- And then I just cut,

first I got even worse, but I just build it up

a little bit.

- So this was your final version.

- Yeah, final version of this.

- [Leyla] I'm very proud

that I've saved my daughter from FGM.

More flowers.

My daughter knows a lot about my work.

What about the girls who I work with,

who have undergone FGM, and they got abused?

- Yeah, that's worrying,

but I didn't get embarrassed, though.

- [Leyla] You don't get embarrassed?

You don't get embarrassed of mommy talking about that stuff?

- Mm-mm.

- [Leyla] No.

But even today, you pick up biology books.

It doesn't have the clitoris organ.

That sense of shame.

That as a woman you can't even say

that you were given a body part that you can have pleasure.

- So what I like.

- So we'll go swimming.

- What's the official name?

- Come on, you know it.

If we were chopping off the whole penis of men,

there would be an outrage.

Actually, I said there wouldn't be a war in Iraq,

because the money would have been spent on that,

saving men's genitals would have been.

You know, the argument's always been, oh no,

men also undergo circumcision.

Listen, personally, I'm against any children being,

their genitals being cut off.

I think it's wrong.

Touching a child's genitals is wrong, full stop.

But you cannot compare FGM to male circumcision,

because to actually compare,

you have to remove the whole penis.

- One of the stranger stories from the 3D printing world.

An artist in Tokyo has been arrested

for 3D printing an image of her vagina.

- Follow me.

After leaving the Hasidic community,

I wrote my story.

And that for me was very empowering.

Finally taking my life story into my own hands.

See, isn't that crazy?

On a social and political level,

the book did something really incredible.

It allowed me to be the first woman

who left this community and keep custody of her child.

The book was written mostly to make me a public person.

So that I would be able to use that

as leverage against the community,

and prevent them from taking my child from me.

Hi, I'm Deborah Feldman, author of "Unorthodox."

And you've got to go your own way.

Because this community doesn't want any press attention.

They don't want their private customs and rituals

in the media.

So as soon as they realized that I was causing that,

they said, okay, we have to let her be,

because this is gonna look very bad for us.

I wasn't ready to be physical with someone.

And I just, my body and my mind and my heart said no.

I feel like I stood up

in a very quiet room and I said something shocking,

and people were taken aback.

But then, people stood up and joined me.

Look straight ahead.

Next to the sign with the red line on it,

on the right is building with crisscrosses.

I never had access to the rights

that most Americans have.

Because this country had already decided

before I was born that women in my community

did not have to be protected,

or did not deserve the same Constitutional protection

as any other American citizen.

Why?

Because of my culture.

I decided to move to Berlin.

This might be the place where

I'm finished with trying so hard to just adjust.

- Everybody needs to know about male orgasms,

female orgasms, all kinds of orgasms.

I am sure you know.

- Nothing to know

about male orgasms there.

The male orgasm is like a quickie.

- You know something on that,

on the fact that of course women also like orgasms

just like men.

That should be really the context.

Why can't you just make it much more straightforward

saying that women want to have orgasms

and men want to give them?

- Men would do anything to give it to them.

- No, because you're making a statement there.

Not all men are that great.

- [Man] Really?

- Yeah, maybe you are.

Women want to have orgasms.

More than one.

And three dots.

- [Woman] And don't forget the clitoris.

Once she's ready, you could explore deeper.

- The idea of enjoying sex is a journey.

That's why a lot of women don't enjoy sex.

Just in general, 'cause they just hate their bodies.

So if you hate your body, you're intense the whole time.

How are you supposed to enjoy it?

The amount of women that fake orgasm, oh my God.

Oh my, it's like a choir around the world.

Women just, ah, it's just like an,

it's just like screaming, shouting,

pretending they came or they can do it, but no.

Our bodies have been controlled for so long,

we didn't even know what we enjoyed

or what was pleasurable.

Women need to remember that they actually own their bodies.

We still live in a society where our body still feels

it belongs to others.

We are told how our breasts should look like.

Designer vaginas are one of the biggest

cosmetic surgeries today.

This idea of women's bodies

and genitals being tucked or pricked or trimmed

for the sake of men, it's a global issue.

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The Girl Generation is a program to end FGM

within 10 African countries.

I was involved in it from day one.

As a therapist, my work has been based

on working with women in order to reclaim their sexuality,

and to reclaim their bodies.

Welcome, Fatima.

So Fatima's an award winning lawyer, human rights lawyer.

So I wanted this session to be not me inspiring.

I think all of us learning together at the same time.

The way the world is right now,

my biggest allies are women.

I am the biggest preacher of sisterhood.

- [Woman] But, just how important is FGM and purity

to young men from practicing communities?

Living in the UK.

- Sex before marriage is a no no no no no go.

- It would be nice that a future wife,

that she would be a virgin.

- I heard if you take off,

then it calms the person down.

- First, I need them to understand

what's going to be lost.

This is the great wall of vaginas.

So, basically, the whole point of this is to show

that we are all different.

I mean, you can come closer if you want to have a look.

And just see, no?

No, you want to stay distant?

- [Man] Yeah.

- Are you embarrassed?

First thing I'm gonna show you is how FGM type one happens.

Yeah?

So, that's clitoris, and that's the clitoris hook.

Pricking like that, and then blood has to flow through.

In certain communities, type one usually means

cutting this off.

A lot of women who have gone through FGM

don't feel pleasure because of what has happened,

'cause that part of their body was traumatized, basically.

Now I'm gonna show you how type three is performed.

All of this has to be cut away.

See, all of it.

All of it.

This is the small labia I'm cutting away now, yeah?

Next, the large labia is also removed.

- [Man] No.

- [Leyla] Yeah.

So this is a needle and a thread.

Then you start sewing that through.

So basically all of this will be closed to a point.

And you see that small hole?

- That's torture, innit?

- [Leyla] I feel like you guys are in shock or something.

I showed them images of FGM taking place.

And it's effects.

- That's babies.

- Those are babies.

- [Leyla] Yes.

That's type three.

- Sad one.

- And that's a real person who lives like that every day.

- That's not fair.

Madness.

- Why are we doing this?

Why are our elders doing this?

Why are they not doing nothing about it?

'Cause me, this is my first time I've ever seen this,

and now I'm completely against it.

- Can someone put the light on for me, please?

Thanks.

Anyone want to say something, a comment?

- I kept just imagining my cousins.

And in all this-- - It's okay.

- In my family, I'm the only male child in my family.

Just seeing this has really,

but it's good to speak out,

because the more it's inside, it kills you.

So it's good to let it out.

It goods to speak.

Don't be ashamed to speak how you feel.

- I will confess, I haven't had the courage

to look at myself.

I have been cut, but I haven't had the courage

to look at myself.

So even looking at everything you presented was hard,

and instead I was busy drawing my own little flower,

and I just blacked out.

I have a daughter now.

She is three years old.

For sure, she's not going to be cut.

And there is the whole stereotype of,

I'm Muslim, I'm veiled.

And my question is, how do we change

the whole narrative in their head?

And that has been my struggle.

- The muse of my work, it's my daughter.

So my vision has always been how do I protect her from this.

Sorry.

Sorry, I think I'm holding all your stuff.

Sorry.

It's protecting the children.

Guys, it's not easy.

I promise you it's not.

You guys know, it's not an easy thing to do.

You pinned a child, you grabbed them,

pulled their legs apart, you went for their genitals,

and you took a knife to it.

It's just unbelievable.

Unbelievable, I'm so literally,

in just these last three weeks,

I've just been so like...

Sorry.

How it upsets me.

It's just so upsetting.

We have to keep explaining to people that this is wrong.

I'm sick of it.

I'm so sick of it.

- We're talking about consent here.

We're talking about respecting each other.

We're talking about equal rights for women and girls.

One thing is clear.

Young people have questions around sex.

And the only answers they can find online

are from pornography.

This leads to major issues.

How they look at gender.

How they look at respect,

and consent and relationships.

Because all of these things

are just nonexistent in most porns.

What happened in Delhi,

the gang rape that happened,

there's so many of these cases that happen every single day.

Every single day you will hear about

women and girls being raped.

Guys, I am Vithika.

I am the head of Love Matters.

I just want to say a big big big thank you

to each one of you for working so hard

to put things together.

Really big heartfelt thanks from Love Matters Globally.

It is amazing.

- [Deborah] Benjamin was one of the very few people

that I knew in Berlin.

He grew up in a Hasidic community in Israel.

He was gay, but he was forced into an arranged marriage,

had a child, and then left.

Benjamin and I decided that we'd work together

to challenge people's ideas of what femininity can be.

To question this barrier between the two genders.

- It was worse to have the film

just for this shooting already, for me.

- There was a famous saying in the secular world.

Prettiness is a rent you pay

for existing in the female space.

Something like this, yeah?

I have to be feminine, attractive, sweet,

before I can accomplish anything else

or even talk about anything else.

I have to establish this fact first.

Who fixed that?

That's still what defines our difference from men.

When they go after an education or a career,

they don't first think, am I pretty enough?

Women often ask themselves,

am I beautiful enough to deserve this life?

- Wow, this is great.

Amazing, amazing.

- Calm down.

This world that we live in

that offers so many pressuring messages to women

also offers on the other side of the coin

this message to men, you don't have to.

You don't have to understand the woman.

You don't have to give pleasure to the woman.

You don't have to support the woman,

because this is not the priority.

And in a sense, we are all victims of these messages.

We cannot isolate the role of men

and the role of women.

They are influencing each other.

- [Leyla] So this is where your shoot is based.

- Yeah, this is where we did the song.

- So this is where the magic happens, right?

I'm assuming people say to you,

this is a women's issue.

Why would you get involved?

- I have to be in the forefront as a man,

and I must make sure that other men follow the suit.

First of all, the biggest challenge I had was that

I'm not from the Maasai community.

Coming to a community where you don't belong

and telling them ending female genital mutilation,

it is war.

A moron wanted to spear me up.

- [Leyla] He wanted to throw the spear at you?

- Yeah.

- Oh my God.

- Yeah, just because I was saying that

we are the guys who are telling the girls

not to undergo the cut.

♪ Make a difference

♪ If we say no to FGM

♪ You and I

The terrains are very hard to cross.

You see the terrain.

- [Woman] Yeah.

I mean, it was raining, you can see.

- [Man] They are our boys.

- And their Kenyan flag right in the middle, love it.

So is this a ritual that they do

when someone comes?

She's flirting with you.

Oh bless her, so cute.

- [Leyla] Are we saying then FGM

is actually really bad for men?

♪ Rokudenashiko

♪ Will you be mine

♪ From Stockholm to Glasgow

♪ You've torn up my mind

♪ Rokudenashiko

♪ Love is the sweetest of words ♪

♪ Rokudenashiko

- Are you excited?

We're talking about love.

We're talking about healthy relationships.

We're talking about consent.

Or if you want to declare your love for someone,

please come up on the stage.

- I want to say one thing only.

That Prateek, I love you.

- Wow, that's great!

- I love you too, Rupat.

- We have the power to communicate with men

about the most difficult issues.

It's very difficult to have men talk about things

which actually questions their masculinity

or patriarchal structures that we have in this society.

Women are no different from men.

If we think that pleasure is important for men,

which of course it is,

it is also equally important for women.

It is really important to just acknowledge

that women are not aliens.

You know, we all enjoy sex.

Let's just accept it.

- Benjamin brought along with him

a religious prayer shawl called a Tallit.

Something that men use to pray.

Something that normally a woman

is not even allowed to touch.

Having it on my body,

you announce to yourself, to the world, to God,

that the female body is just as holy,

just as precious, just as valuable as the man's.

It's an enormous victory.

This was a way to feel the body is a natural thing,

like the water, like the trees, like the sand.

It cannot be that God hates women

as much as the religion seems to do.

How can you be a loving God and hate women?

It doesn't work.

It's not a question of fixing one gender

before the other.

This is a group effort.

We all have to change.

- Can you imagine if all our children

learned this at a very young age?

That you don't rape.

That you own your body.

That you protect your body.

That you have a voice.

Imagine we taught that to children every day from nursery.

♪ I love you Jesus

♪ You are my savior

I just wanted to look at this beautiful view.

Yeah, so beautiful.

Can I ask a personal question?

Who has been cut?

Me too.

They're surprised that I had it done.

- Yeah, very much.

- I was, too, yeah.

I could see their face, it looked shocked.

It happens, it happens to girls

who live in London, too.

It's not just Kenya in a village somewhere.

Would they want that for their daughters?

- They say no.

They will not do that for their daughters.

- I'm sitting here, just overwhelmed,

because I know what it's like to undergo this practice,

and I wish I had women like these

who came to my rescue.

'Cause let me tell you, when women come together

and protect you, no one can get past that circle.