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- We are obsessed
with women's vulvas

and their sexuality.

What is it that happened

billions of years
ago that they felt

they had to do
this to our bodies?

They had to control it, cut
it, mutilate it, beat us,

rape us, blame us
after they rape us

because of our gender.

We live in an
environment where women

are constantly
judged on everything,

from the way they speak
to the way they walk

to their sexuality, to
their just being women.

The judgment is everywhere.

- I learned as a child that
all bad things that happen

are actually God
punishing the world

for the way that we
as young women dress.

- Women do not have the right
to their own bodies worldwide.

Women do not have the
right to their own

sexuality so to say.

It is all about what
others expect them to be.

- [GPS] Next right.

- I grew up in
Brooklyn in New York,

in the Hasidic community.

Even though there was no
wall around my community,

there was a very effective,
invisible barrier around us.

As a child I could glimpse

the skyline of Manhattan.

Very shiny, but it was simply

the dangerous and scary far way,

and we knew we would
never go there,

and we knew that they
never came to us.

So it could have
been another planet.

My grandfather, who I
admired a lot as a child,

they used to say to me,

"God made women in such a
way that she will always

ask too many questions.

She's not capable
of blind faith."

This is why all books
were forbidden to women.

My grandfather just saw me
as a potential baby-maker.

There is no word for I love you

in the Yiddish dialect
I grew up with.

There is no word for tenderness.

It does not exist.

In my community, marriages
were always arranged,

so you didn't really know
who you were marrying.

I was 17 years old,

taking wedding classes to
learn about my new obligations.

Male and female genitalia
were explained to me

for the first time, and how
they're supposed to work.

The teacher didn't call
them by their names.

She used Hebrew words
that I didn't understand,

and explained that the woman
has a place where it fits in.

It's a beautiful
hallway that leads

to the source of all life.

That's how babies happen.

I was to have intercourse
with someone I didn't know,

whether I wanted to or not.

I felt forced, both by the
community and by our family.

They told me there were
no other options for me.

So I had sex.

It was extremely
painful, I cried.

And the following week I
found out I was pregnant.

And I thought, so
now I'm responsible

not just for my own
life in this community,

but also for forcing
it upon someone else.

This made me realize
just how powerful

the community is in
containing women.

Once I grew into my full
feminine power as a woman,

that's when I became
completely crushed.

- Growing up as a
girl child in India

means being touched,
being groped,

and being sexually harassed
at any given point of time

in any public space.

I started to hate
myself for being a girl.

When I hit puberty and when
there were body changes,

I was on the roads
and I was pinched.

It happened a couple of times.

And for me, that experience
is still very painful.

I used to cry, but I used
to always find a place

where nobody knew
that I would cry.

And I always felt if I
tell somebody about it,

they'll be like,
"It's your fault."

Then I started reacting.

There was no other option.

And I decided to break
the culture of silence.

- [Man] I know why your boss

is promoting you every year.

---- ----

Just go and ---- yourself!

- Okay so we have, this is done?

Sound system is the same guy.

I talk about sex.

If you're not gonna
talk about sex

and healthy relationships,

then you're not
even talking about

rape or sexual harassment
or sexual violence.

- I've done it already.

- Already, good, good.

I created Love Matters as
the first digital platform

in India to talk about love,
sex, and relationships.

Because in our society,
anything to do with sex

is still a taboo.

We are not only fighting
against this taboo online,

but we are also taking
these conversations offline,

through our very
first public event.

We have a lot of
pleasure out here.

Like a table full of hearts.

We are the land of Kama Sutra.

And it's quite strange
that it's the same culture

that basically does not
let you talk about love,

sex, and female pleasure.

If you have a girl child,
you're doomed for life.

A girl child is
considered a liability.

Girl children are being killed.

They are being killed
every single day.

A rape every two hours.

Even recently, there
have been statements made

by politicians in India
saying that rape is okay.

Boys will be boys.

You should not be
punishing them.

Your whole identity as a woman

is basically just
to entice somebody.

So you cover yourself
up because somebody

might do something to you.

Sex as a subject in India

is all about a man
and a man's desires.

Most women in India wouldn't
even know what pleasure means.

Women are considered a property.

Women suffer, women
suffer every single day.

It's a global issue.

- It was a very sunny morning.

At the age of seven,

I've endured a practice called
female genital mutilation.

Female genital mutilation,

it's when you partially
or totally remove

the female genitalia.

Myself and 200
million other women

are living with
this practice today.

Three million alone are at
risk in the African continent.

Half a million are living
in Europe as we speak.

FGM, it's a global issue.

This is about oppressing women.

It's about oppressing
women's bodies.

It's about controlling
women's sexuality,

and that's a global issue.

That's not an African issue.

That is not an Asian issue.

That's a global issue.

The idea that a woman or
a girl is sexually free

and can own her sexuality,

it's the biggest taboo.

It's the biggest challenge
we all face everywhere.

And FGM happens to
be just one of them.

- [Woman] You should
save the rest.

- The moment I knew I
was different as a girl

is when FGM took place.

On the other side of the house,

I could hear my
sister screaming.

So they took her first.

I was pinned down, and my
legs were spread apart.

And before I knew it,

a sharp knife was
taken to my body.

I felt the whole thing.

But what's confusing
for a child,

people who were
surrounding me were

aunties and neighbors
and people you trusted.

It's not your body
that you lose.

You lose trust.

I distinctly remember my first

day in school during playtime.

One of the girls went,
"Have you had this done?"

And I said yes.

And she literally shouted
across the playground.

She said, "We can all
play with her now!"

Because if I didn't
have this done,

nobody would play with me.

And can you imagine
as a seven year old,

the idea that no one's
gonna play with you?

I was 22 when a health
professional asked me

what my pregnancy was like.

And I said it was horrible.

She said to me straight away,

"I know you're from Somalia.

I know in Somalia
they practice Islam.

Have you been through FGM?"

Actually, what your body was
experiencing was flashback.

And when she said
that, I sobbed.

We were sexually assaulted.

That's what happened
to us as children.

That's what happened to me.

Why is it so
frightening that a woman

has sexual feelings, that
she's a sexual being?

Is this all happening around
the world out of fear?

- [Deborah] When my son
was born, I just panicked.

I didn't want to
have to raise my son

the way I was raised.

That's what motivated
me to strive so hard

towards another future.

I knew I had to start
by getting an education,

and I was really
close to leaving,

but I was afraid to
take the last step.

Then I had a really
bad car accident,

but I crawled out
without a scratch.

I was so convinced as
the car was flipping over

that this was God punishing me

for thinking of leaving.

That everything I was
ever told was real.

But the next day,
I rented a car,

and I packed it with
everything that could fit in.

I remember my son,
he was a baby,

looking around like, why is
there so much stuff in the car.

But he put his thumb in his
mouth and went to sleep,

and I drove away.

If I didn't leave
when you were a baby

and take you with me,

this is how you would grow up.

And this is what
you would look like,

and this is what your
life would be like.

And I just didn't think
that would make you happy.

- Oh my God, they look so weird.

- [Deborah] My family
wrote me emails saying

that they're preparing
a gravestone for me.

They told me to commit suicide.

That they cannot wait
to dance on my grave.

Isaac, did you know that when

your dad and I got married,
he looked like that?

- [Isaac] I know.

- [Deborah] I don't like to
come here you know, Isaac.

- [Isaac] Why?

- [Deborah] 'Cause it reminds me

that I used to
feel really stuck.

That I couldn't go out,

and I don't like to feel stuck.

I like to always
feel like I can go

wherever I want.

My community was
extremely furious at me.

They set up websites and
blogs all over the internet

to say that I'm a traitor,

that I'll cause anti-Semitism,

that I'll start
another Holocaust.

One Jewish newspaper compared
me to Joseph Goebbels.

Do you want me to
move back here?

- [Isaac] No, definitely not.

- [Deborah] The whole
experience of being a woman

in radical Judaism is
just a huge turnoff.

We're given no freedom
to define ourselves

within the religious community,

within the context of religion.

The woman is considered the
antithesis to spirituality,

necessary and yet
something to be overcome.

- [Woman] Whooo!

- The people who made
Judaism so misogynous

were these
fundamentalist rabbis.

They interpreted the
Torah and created

this gigantic cannon
of Jewish text

that we accept as God's words.

But they are men's words.

A woman has to
contend with the fact

that she is very evil and
very holy at the same time.

Women menstruate.

They say this menstrual
blood is impure

and can make men impure, and
is therefore threatening.

You were not allowed
to touch your husband.

Your husband cannot
see your body.

In Hebrew, we say,

She is kicked aside.

This is all in
regards to your body.

The body that you have
been told is shameful

and disgusting your whole life.

Almost every woman
in this community

develops a very intense
shame around their body.

They have never been
seen naked by anyone,

let alone the walls
in their own house.

And we are taught to change
our clothes in such a way

that actually the
ceiling cannot see us.

Women are necessary,

at the same time as
they are the enemy.

The reality of being
impure for two weeks

is very psychologically
confusing

and debilitating to
my sense of self.

And the back and forth
made me very confused

and almost rattled.

There was a whole system
of laws and rituals

to protect men from my impurity,

and then to make me pure again

to have sex and procreate.

When you are finished bleeding,

you have to go to a
ritual bath, the mikvah,

where your immersion
is supervised

to make sure that you are
now kosher, you are now pure.

Going to the mikvah I felt

that my body will
never belong to me.

And that there's no
way to ever achieve

a sense of ownership over it.

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♪ Coming for to carry me home

♪ Swing low, sweet chariot

♪ Coming for the carry me home

♪ Swing low, sweet chariot

♪ Coming for to carry me home

♪ Swing low, sweet chariot

- I think religion
is one of the biggest

killers in the world.

The most confrontation
in any part of the world,

it is all about religion.

People who say that this is
an expectation from the women,

and this is an
expectation from men,

and this is what relations are.

And the people who think
that they're upholders

of religion, they're not.

And we are idiots,
if you believe that.

We clearly are idiots
if we believe that.

As a woman, you're the
pride of the family.

So if you marry anybody
who's out of your caste,

or who's not from your religion,

that's going to be like a
black spot on the family.

Honor killing is
still very common.

The concept of love
does not exist in India.

When I shared with my parents

that I want to marry
the man I love,

I was afraid my
parents would give in

to the community
pressure and say no.

- Papa!

Can I see my new shoes?

- That's what
you're waiting for?

- [Vithika] My
husband is a pilot.

So we often don't know how
long we'll have together.

- For how many days?

- Three days.

- Yeah!

Then we are gonna
see my new shoes?

- Yeah.

Let's go, let's see your stuff.

- I'm very proud of
marrying the person

that I wanted to marry.

The football shoes!

- Do you like it?

- Yeah.

- I'm the first one in my family

to not have an
arranged marriage.

- "Pim and Pom will be
ours forever and ever."

Is that a nice thing to do?

I don't think so.

- No it's mean.

- It's mean.

- [Vithika] There are
religious authorities

and Hindu fundamentalist groups

that are beating up people.

They are saying that love
marriage is a Western concept

and not a part of our culture.

- We want that love should
be spread in so many ways.

We have to love our country.

We have to love our wife.

We have to love our children.

We have to love our father.

In relationship, the
woman should be respected.

That's it, that's it.

- But are women respected?

- No, so that is the
principle is like that.

There is one principle,
and there is one behavior.

Principle is strong,
behavior can vary,

and behavior has fluctuations.

So we believe in
eternal relationship.

And how eternal
relationship will come

when we follow certain rituals,

when we follow our tradition,

when we follow our roots.

- What specific things
do you talk about

when saying that a man
should behave like this

and a woman should
behave like this?

Like what are the expectations?

What is it that you
focus on on teaching?

- Expectations are there.

Expectation that both
have to follow Dharma.

That's it.

- So what do you think

about homosexuality
and relationships

between gays and lesbians?

- We are not in the mood to
think about it, actually.

- [Vithika] Okay,
that's not important.

- That is not important.

It is the part of
Western culture.

West is West.

God is present in everything.

God is present everywhere.

So that is also part of life,

but it is not the part of
our Indian cultural life.

- I get really frustrated
when people can't say to me,

this is a cultural practice.

It's not my bloody culture.

I'm Somali, I'm African.

I love my culture.

But FGM is definitely
not my culture.

I'm not claiming it,
I refuse to claim it.

The diaspora
communities in London,

whether they're Somali,
Nigerian, Sierra Leonian,

they still practice FGM.

- So this is our table number.

Okay, give your number.

- Nice to meet you finally.

- Nice to meet you!

Because they left their home,

they feel very close
to their traditions.

And then she goes, oh no.

Especially with their girls.

And FGM is just
one of those things

they really want to keep.

In the Somali community,
97% of the women

have undergone the practice.

I really wanted to understand,

'cause I'm very
close with my mother.

But when I got
involved in this work,

I could see the anger
just re-surfacing.

Thinking, oh, why does
she do it, like really?

And I have a daughter as well.

So I thought, mm.

So listening to her
for the first time,

I felt I was sitting in
front of another victim

of this practice.

I started to realize there's
a grooming process with this,

so my mother was groomed,
my grandmother was groomed

into this idea to
be a good mother,

this is what you need to do.

The grooming also
happens with men.

You're not man enough.

Your manhood will be questioned

if you dare marry a woman

who hasn't undergone
the practice.

It's practiced
across all religions.

But none of the holy
books mention FGM.

It originates from
the Pharaonic times.

The books were picked
up by misogynistic men,

and interpreted the
way they wanted,

hence why they can keep
women not as sexual beings,

but as carriers
of family honors.

Women's sex and sexuality
was always controlled

in the name of religion.

They're practicing patriarchy,

which is, you know,
that's a religion.

I hate that terminology,
marital rape.

There's no marital
rape, it's rape.

There's no domestic
violence, no no no.

It's nothing domesticated
about violence.

It's just full stop violence.

Child marriage, it's
not child marriage,

it's legalized pedophilia.

Let's use the bloody
right language.

It's not FGM, it's sexual
assault on children.

If you're a woman
challenging patriarchy,

and you're bringing sex and
sexuality to that conversation,

run for your life.

I had to move home three times.

My address is protected.

I have a panic alarm.

My daughter was isolated.

I remember there
was one incident

where my daughter was with me,

and some guy spat on the floor

and he said to my daughter,

"That is better than your mom."

There was another incident where

a group of people came and just

punched me in the face and
told me to shut my mouth.

- As I started, I started
doing a nice drawing here.

- Yeah.

- And then I just cut,

first I got even worse,
but I just build it up

a little bit.

- So this was your
final version.

- Yeah, final version of this.

- [Leyla] I'm very proud

that I've saved my
daughter from FGM.

More flowers.

My daughter knows a
lot about my work.

What about the girls
who I work with,

who have undergone FGM,
and they got abused?

- Yeah, that's worrying,

but I didn't get
embarrassed, though.

- [Leyla] You don't
get embarrassed?

You don't get embarrassed of
mommy talking about that stuff?

- Mm-mm.

- [Leyla] No.

But even today, you
pick up biology books.

It doesn't have
the clitoris organ.

That sense of shame.

That as a woman
you can't even say

that you were given a body part
that you can have pleasure.

- So what I like.

- So we'll go swimming.

- What's the official name?

- Come on, you know it.

If we were chopping off
the whole penis of men,

there would be an outrage.

Actually, I said there
wouldn't be a war in Iraq,

because the money would
have been spent on that,

saving men's genitals
would have been.

You know, the argument's
always been, oh no,

men also undergo circumcision.

Listen, personally, I'm
against any children being,

their genitals being cut off.

I think it's wrong.

Touching a child's genitals
is wrong, full stop.

But you cannot compare
FGM to male circumcision,

because to actually compare,

you have to remove
the whole penis.

- One of the stranger stories
from the 3D printing world.

An artist in Tokyo
has been arrested

for 3D printing an
image of her vagina.

- Follow me.

After leaving the
Hasidic community,

I wrote my story.

And that for me was
very empowering.

Finally taking my life
story into my own hands.

See, isn't that crazy?

On a social and political level,

the book did something
really incredible.

It allowed me to
be the first woman

who left this community and
keep custody of her child.

The book was written mostly
to make me a public person.

So that I would be
able to use that

as leverage against
the community,

and prevent them from
taking my child from me.

Hi, I'm Deborah Feldman,
author of "Unorthodox."

And you've got to
go your own way.

Because this community doesn't
want any press attention.

They don't want their
private customs and rituals

in the media.

So as soon as they realized
that I was causing that,

they said, okay, we
have to let her be,

because this is gonna
look very bad for us.

I wasn't ready to be
physical with someone.

And I just, my body and my
mind and my heart said no.

I feel like I stood up

in a very quiet room and
I said something shocking,

and people were taken aback.

But then, people stood
up and joined me.

Look straight ahead.

Next to the sign with
the red line on it,

on the right is building
with crisscrosses.

I never had access to the rights

that most Americans have.

Because this country
had already decided

before I was born that
women in my community

did not have to be protected,

or did not deserve the same
Constitutional protection

as any other American citizen.

Why?

Because of my culture.

I decided to move to Berlin.

This might be the place where

I'm finished with trying
so hard to just adjust.

- Everybody needs to
know about male orgasms,

female orgasms, all
kinds of orgasms.

I am sure you know.

- Nothing to know

about male orgasms there.

The male orgasm
is like a quickie.

- You know something on that,

on the fact that of course
women also like orgasms

just like men.

That should be
really the context.

Why can't you just make it
much more straightforward

saying that women
want to have orgasms

and men want to give them?

- Men would do anything
to give it to them.

- No, because you're
making a statement there.

Not all men are that great.

- [Man] Really?

- Yeah, maybe you are.

Women want to have orgasms.

More than one.

And three dots.

- [Woman] And don't
forget the clitoris.

Once she's ready, you
could explore deeper.

- The idea of enjoying
sex is a journey.

That's why a lot of
women don't enjoy sex.

Just in general, 'cause
they just hate their bodies.

So if you hate your body,
you're intense the whole time.

How are you supposed
to enjoy it?

The amount of women that
fake orgasm, oh my God.

Oh my, it's like a
choir around the world.

Women just, ah,
it's just like an,

it's just like
screaming, shouting,

pretending they came or
they can do it, but no.

Our bodies have been
controlled for so long,

we didn't even know
what we enjoyed

or what was pleasurable.

Women need to remember that
they actually own their bodies.

We still live in a society
where our body still feels

it belongs to others.

We are told how our
breasts should look like.

Designer vaginas are
one of the biggest

cosmetic surgeries today.

This idea of women's bodies

and genitals being tucked
or pricked or trimmed

for the sake of men,
it's a global issue.

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The Girl Generation is
a program to end FGM

within 10 African countries.

I was involved in
it from day one.

As a therapist, my
work has been based

on working with women in order
to reclaim their sexuality,

and to reclaim their bodies.

Welcome, Fatima.

So Fatima's an award winning
lawyer, human rights lawyer.

So I wanted this session
to be not me inspiring.

I think all of us learning
together at the same time.

The way the world is right now,

my biggest allies are women.

I am the biggest
preacher of sisterhood.

- [Woman] But, just how
important is FGM and purity

to young men from
practicing communities?

Living in the UK.

- Sex before marriage
is a no no no no no go.

- It would be nice
that a future wife,

that she would be a virgin.

- I heard if you take off,

then it calms the person down.

- First, I need
them to understand

what's going to be lost.

This is the great
wall of vaginas.

So, basically, the whole
point of this is to show

that we are all different.

I mean, you can come closer
if you want to have a look.

And just see, no?

No, you want to stay distant?

- [Man] Yeah.

- Are you embarrassed?

First thing I'm gonna show you
is how FGM type one happens.

Yeah?

So, that's clitoris, and
that's the clitoris hook.

Pricking like that, and then
blood has to flow through.

In certain communities,
type one usually means

cutting this off.

A lot of women who
have gone through FGM

don't feel pleasure because
of what has happened,

'cause that part of their body
was traumatized, basically.

Now I'm gonna show you how
type three is performed.

All of this has to be cut away.

See, all of it.

All of it.

This is the small labia
I'm cutting away now, yeah?

Next, the large labia
is also removed.

- [Man] No.

- [Leyla] Yeah.

So this is a needle
and a thread.

Then you start
sewing that through.

So basically all of this
will be closed to a point.

And you see that small hole?

- That's torture, innit?

- [Leyla] I feel like you guys
are in shock or something.

I showed them images
of FGM taking place.

And it's effects.

- That's babies.

- Those are babies.

- [Leyla] Yes.

That's type three.

- Sad one.

- And that's a real person
who lives like that every day.

- That's not fair.

Madness.

- Why are we doing this?

Why are our elders doing this?

Why are they not doing
nothing about it?

'Cause me, this is my first
time I've ever seen this,

and now I'm
completely against it.

- Can someone put the
light on for me, please?

Thanks.

Anyone want to say
something, a comment?

- I kept just
imagining my cousins.

And in all this--
- It's okay.

- In my family, I'm the only
male child in my family.

Just seeing this has really,

but it's good to speak out,

because the more it's
inside, it kills you.

So it's good to let it out.

It goods to speak.

Don't be ashamed to
speak how you feel.

- I will confess, I
haven't had the courage

to look at myself.

I have been cut, but I
haven't had the courage

to look at myself.

So even looking at everything
you presented was hard,

and instead I was busy
drawing my own little flower,

and I just blacked out.

I have a daughter now.

She is three years old.

For sure, she's not
going to be cut.

And there is the
whole stereotype of,

I'm Muslim, I'm veiled.

And my question is,
how do we change

the whole narrative
in their head?

And that has been my struggle.

- The muse of my work,
it's my daughter.

So my vision has always been
how do I protect her from this.

Sorry.

Sorry, I think I'm
holding all your stuff.

Sorry.

It's protecting the children.

Guys, it's not easy.

I promise you it's not.

You guys know, it's not
an easy thing to do.

You pinned a child,
you grabbed them,

pulled their legs apart,
you went for their genitals,

and you took a knife to it.

It's just unbelievable.

Unbelievable, I'm so literally,

in just these last three weeks,

I've just been so like...

Sorry.

How it upsets me.

It's just so upsetting.

We have to keep explaining
to people that this is wrong.

I'm sick of it.

I'm so sick of it.

- We're talking
about consent here.

We're talking about
respecting each other.

We're talking about equal
rights for women and girls.

One thing is clear.

Young people have
questions around sex.

And the only answers
they can find online

are from pornography.

This leads to major issues.

How they look at gender.

How they look at respect,

and consent and relationships.

Because all of these things

are just nonexistent
in most porns.

What happened in Delhi,

the gang rape that happened,

there's so many of these cases
that happen every single day.

Every single day
you will hear about

women and girls being raped.

Guys, I am Vithika.

I am the head of Love Matters.

I just want to say a
big big big thank you

to each one of you
for working so hard

to put things together.

Really big heartfelt thanks
from Love Matters Globally.

It is amazing.

- [Deborah] Benjamin was
one of the very few people

that I knew in Berlin.

He grew up in a Hasidic
community in Israel.

He was gay, but he was forced
into an arranged marriage,

had a child, and then left.

Benjamin and I decided
that we'd work together

to challenge people's ideas
of what femininity can be.

To question this barrier
between the two genders.

- It was worse to have the film

just for this shooting
already, for me.

- There was a famous saying
in the secular world.

Prettiness is a rent you pay

for existing in
the female space.

Something like this, yeah?

I have to be feminine,
attractive, sweet,

before I can accomplish
anything else

or even talk about
anything else.

I have to establish
this fact first.

Who fixed that?

That's still what defines
our difference from men.

When they go after an
education or a career,

they don't first think,
am I pretty enough?

Women often ask themselves,

am I beautiful enough
to deserve this life?

- Wow, this is great.

Amazing, amazing.

- Calm down.

This world that we live in

that offers so many
pressuring messages to women

also offers on the
other side of the coin

this message to men,
you don't have to.

You don't have to
understand the woman.

You don't have to give
pleasure to the woman.

You don't have to
support the woman,

because this is
not the priority.

And in a sense, we are all
victims of these messages.

We cannot isolate
the role of men

and the role of women.

They are influencing each other.

- [Leyla] So this is
where your shoot is based.

- Yeah, this is where
we did the song.

- So this is where the
magic happens, right?

I'm assuming people say to you,

this is a women's issue.

Why would you get involved?

- I have to be in the
forefront as a man,

and I must make sure that
other men follow the suit.

First of all, the biggest
challenge I had was that

I'm not from the
Maasai community.

Coming to a community
where you don't belong

and telling them ending
female genital mutilation,

it is war.

A moron wanted to spear me up.

- [Leyla] He wanted to
throw the spear at you?

- Yeah.

- Oh my God.

- Yeah, just because
I was saying that

we are the guys who
are telling the girls

not to undergo the cut.

♪ Make a difference

♪ If we say no to FGM

♪ You and I

The terrains are
very hard to cross.

You see the terrain.

- [Woman] Yeah.

I mean, it was
raining, you can see.

- [Man] They are our boys.

- And their Kenyan flag
right in the middle, love it.

So is this a ritual that they do

when someone comes?

She's flirting with you.

Oh bless her, so cute.

- [Leyla] Are we saying then FGM

is actually really bad for men?

♪ Rokudenashiko

♪ Will you be mine

♪ From Stockholm to Glasgow

♪ You've torn up my mind

♪ Rokudenashiko

♪ Love is the
sweetest of words ♪

♪ Rokudenashiko

- Are you excited?

We're talking about love.

We're talking about
healthy relationships.

We're talking about consent.

Or if you want to declare
your love for someone,

please come up on the stage.

- I want to say one thing only.

That Prateek, I love you.

- Wow, that's great!

- I love you too, Rupat.

- We have the power to
communicate with men

about the most difficult issues.

It's very difficult to
have men talk about things

which actually questions
their masculinity

or patriarchal structures
that we have in this society.

Women are no different from men.

If we think that pleasure
is important for men,

which of course it is,

it is also equally
important for women.

It is really important
to just acknowledge

that women are not aliens.

You know, we all enjoy sex.

Let's just accept it.

- Benjamin brought
along with him

a religious prayer
shawl called a Tallit.

Something that men use to pray.

Something that normally a woman

is not even allowed to touch.

Having it on my body,

you announce to yourself,
to the world, to God,

that the female body
is just as holy,

just as precious, just
as valuable as the man's.

It's an enormous victory.

This was a way to feel the
body is a natural thing,

like the water, like the
trees, like the sand.

It cannot be that
God hates women

as much as the
religion seems to do.

How can you be a loving
God and hate women?

It doesn't work.

It's not a question
of fixing one gender

before the other.

This is a group effort.

We all have to change.

- Can you imagine
if all our children

learned this at
a very young age?

That you don't rape.

That you own your body.

That you protect your body.

That you have a voice.

Imagine we taught that to
children every day from nursery.

♪ I love you Jesus

♪ You are my savior

I just wanted to look
at this beautiful view.

Yeah, so beautiful.

Can I ask a personal question?

Who has been cut?

Me too.

They're surprised
that I had it done.

- Yeah, very much.

- I was, too, yeah.

I could see their face,
it looked shocked.

It happens, it happens to girls

who live in London, too.

It's not just Kenya in
a village somewhere.

Would they want that
for their daughters?

- They say no.

They will not do that
for their daughters.

- I'm sitting here,
just overwhelmed,

because I know what it's like
to undergo this practice,

and I wish I had
women like these

who came to my rescue.

'Cause let me tell you,
when women come together

and protect you, no one
can get past that circle.