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(film clicking)
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(dramatic chord)
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(dramatic music)
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(soul music)
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♪ It's alright ♪
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♪ Gonna be okay ♪
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♪ Just keep on praying
till he makes a way ♪
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♪ He might not come when you want him ♪
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♪ But he'll be on time ♪
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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪
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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪
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- Smells good.
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Looks even better.
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How are we doing?
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- Oh, we are great.
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- That's what I want to hear.
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- How's breakfast, Jade?
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- Good.
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- That's good.
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All right, babe, enjoy.
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- All right.
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♪ Gonna be alright ♪
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♪ Well maybe that's not your testimony ♪
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- Oh baby, thank you for my lunch.
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- You're welcome, baby.
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- [Man] Gotta go,
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- Mmm, you have a great day.
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- Girl, don't start
anything with me, round two.
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♪ Gonna be alright ♪
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♪ Gonna be alright ♪
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♪ Gonna be okay ♪
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♪ Just keep on praying
till he makes a way ♪
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- You know he can do that by himself.
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- I know but that's my baby.
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- I know that's your baby
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but your baby also needs
to be self sufficient.
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Okay?
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- Okay.
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- Come on, I'll race you to the bus stop.
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All right, five o'clock?
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- Yes.
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- All right.
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Ooh, mmm, I see why I married you.
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Bye, don't be late.
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♪ It might seem dark but your
future's looking bright ♪
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♪ So just hold on. ♪
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♪ It won't be long ♪ ♪ Blessings Coming ♪
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♪ Gonna be alright ♪
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♪ Say, gonna be alright ♪
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- Come on man.
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- Why is she steady calling your phone?
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Hello, hello?
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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪
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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪
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Weeping may endure for a night but..
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♪ Listen to me ♪
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♪ Joy is coming ♪
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♪ It's coming in the morning ♪
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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪
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- Good day to you too.
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♪ Its gonna be alright ♪
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- Hey, Mrs. Anderson.
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- Good morning, honey.
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♪ The lord has never failed me yet ♪
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♪ Its gonna be alright ♪
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- As always, thank you for tuning in
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to Mix 99.5, the heart
and soul of St. Louis.
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This is your girl signing out,
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Dee Marie from Be the Voice Live
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and I know you guys are
out there in those streets
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trying to get that last minute turkey
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but please slow down
because it's cold out there,
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they said the snow is coming,
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but the most important
thing I want to know
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who is inviting me over for
that Thanksgiving dinner?
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'Cause I know y'all's making it.
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♪ Gonna be all, gonna be alright. ♪
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- Tell me why they denied
my vacation request.
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- First of all, good morning.
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- Well, it's not a good morning to me.
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- What's going on Renee?
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- This stupid office
and their stupid rules.
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They're gonna deny my vacation request
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for the Friday after Thanksgiving?
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- Did they say why?
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- She's talking about that
I don't have enough days,
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even after I already told
her that you approved it.
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- Okay, so who denied it?
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- Mary.
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- Give me a sec.
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- [Renee] Yeah, call her.
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(dramatic music)
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(phone rings)
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- This is Mary.
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- Yes, Mary, this is
Kelly, your office manager.
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I have Renee standing here at my desk
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and she stated at you
denied her vacation request
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after she told you it was
already approved by me?
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- Yes, Kelly, that's true,
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but Renee has already used all
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of her personal and vacation days.
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- Yes, I understand
that, but I approved it.
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So I'm telling you as your manager
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to place the approval
slip in her files, okay?
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Thank you.
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(phone beeps)
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(phone clatters)
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- How am I ever gonna
be successful at my job
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if she keeps overriding everything I say?
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- You must talk to her and
tell her how it makes you feel.
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- She's never gonna listen.
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Excuse me.
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- All done, it's approved.
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- That's what I'm talking about.
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Ain't nothing like having
your girl as a boss.
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(both laughing)
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- Look, I do not understand
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how you be out there in all that mess.
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- With finances like mine,
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you have to go to Black Friday
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for that free TV, that Keurig.
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- And I'm pretty sure it's Keurig.
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- Whatever Kelly, thanks boo.
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(Renee laughs)
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(both kisses)
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- Keurig.
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(Kelly chuckles)
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- Hey, what was that all about?
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- Oh, Mary tried to deny my vacation time.
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I had to get my girl Kelly
to put her in her place.
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- I wish Kelly was my supervisor.
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She seem real cool.
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- Yeah, that's my girl.
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Uh oh, here come your boy Thirsty Rick.
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I'm bout to act like I'm doing some work,
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you can listen to him.
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- You wrong.
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- Hey Renee.
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- No Rick.
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- Why is she always acting
busy when I come around?
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- Probably 'cause she don't want
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to be bothered with you, bro.
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Just give it up, Rick.
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(Dance Of The Sugar Plum
Fairy by Tchaikovsky)
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- So Julie, are you
still not wanting to know
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if you're having a girl or a boy?
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- Oh girl, no, I definitely want to know
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and I'm really hoping for a boy.
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I just want my family to be complete.
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- Oh, that'd be so perfect.
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- Right, you have your girl
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and your boy done and out of the way.
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- That's what I'm talking about.
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- Oh, I'm so happy to be a teetee again.
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- A teetee?
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When are you gonna join
the club and be a mommy?
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- Right, come join the club.
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- Trust me, that won't be
happening any time soon.
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- Why not, Kelly?
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- Tasha girl, me and Stan
have too much going on
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to be bringing an innocent child
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into this mess of a life of ours.
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- [Tasha] Girl.
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- Anyway, how is baby boy doing
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at his new school girl?
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- He is doing so good.
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He is making so many new friends.
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He even got invited to a
birthday party next week.
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He is so excited about that.
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- That's so good, Tasha.
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I'm so happy to hear that.
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- [Kelly] Yeah.
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- I think I'm done with it.
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I really need to sit down.
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So I'll take it.
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- Uh uh, girl, go ahead,
I'll take care of this.
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- Thank you, girl.
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So ladies, what are you asking
Santa for for Christmas?
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- Girl, I'm not asking Santa for anything,
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but I'm asking Jesus for a new husband.
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- Kelly, what are you talking about?
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- Clearly, there is something
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you need to get off your chest.
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What is it?
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- So y'all know how close
me and Stan used to be.
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We were like Bonnie and Clyde, baby.
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But since I've given my life to Christ,
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it's like we can't see
eye to eye on anything.
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- [Julie] Really?
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- Girl, it's gotten so bad,
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I can't even stand to
see him walk in the room.
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- Oh my God, so what you gonna do, girl?
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- Have you all thought about counseling?
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- Girl, please, Stan ain't gonna step foot
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in nobody's church, let alone counseling.
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- Well go to a counselor
that's not at the church.
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- I've been married to the man
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long enough to know he
is not going for it.
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- Happy holidays, ladies.
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- Mommy, mommy, daddy got me an apron.
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- Oh really?
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Look at that.
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Now you get to help mommy
cook in the kitchen.
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Will you put it away for me?
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- Yes.
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- Thank you.
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- That is so sweet.
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James, you're such a good dad.
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- Hey Kelly, tell Stan I said,
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if he thought last year's
turkey was banging,
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this year, he's gonna
bite his fingers off.
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- Hey, if it's better than
what it was last year,
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I might bite my fingers off too, shoot.
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- You just might.
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(women laughing)
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- My God.
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- Y'all are still coming
to Friendsgiving, right?
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- Girl, I guess.
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- You better.
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And don't forget about
the theme this year.
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- We are, okay?
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- [Julie] Great.
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- I gotta go.
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Sorry, I got to head out.
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- Did I interrupt something?
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- Uh uh, no you fine,
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I just got to pick up a couple
of things before I head home.
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- I'm gonna go ahead
and head out with Kelly.
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- [Julie] Okay.
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- Oh don't y'all forget
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to mail your check in
and your contribution.
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- Already done.
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- Thank you, much!
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- Hey, thanks ladies so much
for helping me out today.
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- You're welcome.
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- All right girl.
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- Bye.
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- Did I just walk in on something?
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Is something going on?
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- Nothing, just girl talk.
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Did you bring me something?
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- We keeping secrets now?
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- No, babe, Kelly going
through things with Stan.
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You know how it is.
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- Look, Kelly's not going
through anything with Stan.
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Kelly going through it by herself.
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- Why would you say that?
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- Kelly and Stan were doing just fine
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before Kelly got all
into church like that.
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She needs to let that man be.
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And you know what?
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The same way God was all patient
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and long suffering with her,
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she need to extend that same graces.
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If you remember, Kelly
ain't always been saved.
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- Mommy, can we bake cookies now?
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- Yeah, let's go wash our hands
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and we will bake those cookies.
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- Hey Boo.
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- Hey.
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- Is everything okay, out here?
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- Yes.
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- Good, good, good, good.
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Oh girl, make sure you check
out on the lipstick line.
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We got some colors that will pop on you.
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Welcome ladies to the grand
opening of Nettie Kelly.
267
00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:24,230
I see you divas finally made it.
268
00:10:24,230 --> 00:10:25,129
- Yes we did.
269
00:10:25,129 --> 00:10:26,846
Ebony, this is beautiful.
270
00:10:26,846 --> 00:10:28,088
I love it, girl.
271
00:10:28,088 --> 00:10:29,779
- Eb, this is so nice.
272
00:10:29,779 --> 00:10:30,612
- Well thanks to the finest
designers in the city, baby,
273
00:10:30,612 --> 00:10:31,445
Yassss!
274
00:10:34,341 --> 00:10:37,069
- You know, this has
Candice name all over it.
275
00:10:37,069 --> 00:10:38,689
- Well, I'm glad you noticed.
276
00:10:38,689 --> 00:10:39,569
- Noticed?
277
00:10:39,569 --> 00:10:41,637
Candice, this looks amazing.
278
00:10:41,637 --> 00:10:43,089
You did your thing, girl.
279
00:10:43,089 --> 00:10:44,828
- Thank you so much, my loves.
280
00:10:44,828 --> 00:10:46,269
Y'all just missed Julie.
281
00:10:46,269 --> 00:10:48,997
- Yeah, she told me she could
only stop by for a minute.
282
00:10:48,997 --> 00:10:51,704
You all are coming to the
Friendsgiving this year, right?
283
00:10:51,704 --> 00:10:53,132
- Of course we are.
284
00:10:53,132 --> 00:10:55,651
The question is will you be there?
285
00:10:55,651 --> 00:10:57,136
- What's that supposed to me, Ebony?
286
00:10:57,136 --> 00:10:58,544
- So anyway, Eb,
287
00:10:58,544 --> 00:11:01,295
I know this location had
to cost a pretty penny.
288
00:11:01,295 --> 00:11:03,319
What you do girl, hit the
lottery, didn't tell us?
289
00:11:03,319 --> 00:11:05,199
- Um, excuse me?
290
00:11:05,199 --> 00:11:07,476
Don't worry about how
I get what I get, boo.
291
00:11:07,476 --> 00:11:09,424
You just keep on doing you.
292
00:11:09,424 --> 00:11:11,895
Let me get mine how I get mine
293
00:11:11,895 --> 00:11:14,669
and you get yours however you get yours.
294
00:11:14,669 --> 00:11:16,471
And I ain't even gonna
charge you for that.
295
00:11:16,471 --> 00:11:19,443
That's stay in your lane, 101.
296
00:11:19,443 --> 00:11:21,409
- Whatever Ebony, you crazy.
297
00:11:21,409 --> 00:11:24,775
- Um, excuse me, I don't
even have that much left.
298
00:11:24,775 --> 00:11:26,960
And these are for the people I don't know.
299
00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:28,377
Here, drink mine.
300
00:11:30,583 --> 00:11:34,001
Welcome ladies to the grand
opening of Nettie Kelly.
301
00:11:34,001 --> 00:11:35,314
Have a mimosa.
302
00:11:35,314 --> 00:11:36,981
- [Woman] Thank you.
303
00:11:38,135 --> 00:11:39,268
- Y'all been wonderful.
304
00:11:39,268 --> 00:11:41,987
Follow your boy on social
media, I'm Steve, the comede.
305
00:11:41,987 --> 00:11:42,909
I'm out.
306
00:11:42,909 --> 00:11:46,076
(audience applauding)
307
00:11:47,733 --> 00:11:51,019
- Keep giving it up for bead-a-bead Steve.
308
00:11:51,019 --> 00:11:52,108
That boy is funny.
309
00:11:52,108 --> 00:11:53,906
(audience applauding)
310
00:11:53,906 --> 00:11:55,513
Be sure to come out every Wednesday night
311
00:11:55,513 --> 00:11:57,727
here at Lowes Cafe for open mic night.
312
00:11:57,727 --> 00:11:59,049
Be blessed.
313
00:11:59,049 --> 00:12:02,216
(audience applauding)
314
00:12:03,293 --> 00:12:05,866
- You doing your thing
huh? Ole bead-a-bead!
315
00:12:05,866 --> 00:12:06,804
- Come on now man.
316
00:12:06,804 --> 00:12:07,637
- What up James?
317
00:12:07,637 --> 00:12:08,470
- Trying to take over man?
318
00:12:08,470 --> 00:12:09,303
- Yeah.
319
00:12:09,303 --> 00:12:10,766
Scott.
320
00:12:10,766 --> 00:12:12,158
- Hey, you really trying to take
321
00:12:12,158 --> 00:12:13,717
this comedy thing serious huh?
322
00:12:13,717 --> 00:12:16,213
- You doggone, right, I mean,
did I do my thing or what?
323
00:12:16,213 --> 00:12:17,678
- He did all right.
324
00:12:17,678 --> 00:12:19,898
- All right, he did great.
325
00:12:19,898 --> 00:12:21,408
- Henry you were laughing, hard.
326
00:12:21,408 --> 00:12:22,286
- He was laughing hard.
327
00:12:22,286 --> 00:12:23,474
- You was dead laughing.
328
00:12:23,474 --> 00:12:24,307
- Don't worry about it Donte,
329
00:12:24,307 --> 00:12:25,140
you know its always one
hater out the bunch.
330
00:12:25,140 --> 00:12:25,973
- Come on man, you did
your thing bead-a-bead,
331
00:12:29,215 --> 00:12:30,415
I'm just messing with you.
332
00:12:30,415 --> 00:12:33,830
- Hey, hey, hey, hey,
you had me dying man.
333
00:12:33,830 --> 00:12:34,674
You a clown boy.
334
00:12:34,674 --> 00:12:37,484
- That's what's up, but excuse me fellas,
335
00:12:37,484 --> 00:12:41,237
I gotta go entertain one of my many fans.
336
00:12:41,237 --> 00:12:44,784
- [Henry] Go do your thing player.
337
00:12:44,784 --> 00:12:46,281
- That dude is hilarious man.
338
00:12:46,281 --> 00:12:47,114
- Yeah.
339
00:12:47,114 --> 00:12:48,057
- Straight up, straight up.
340
00:12:48,057 --> 00:12:49,868
Hey but Stan, I mean you gonna apply
341
00:12:49,868 --> 00:12:52,160
for my old position or what man?
342
00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:53,317
- Man you know what man,
343
00:12:53,317 --> 00:12:54,995
it's crazy that you're
asking me that right now
344
00:12:54,995 --> 00:12:57,719
cause I have been thinking
about it real tough lately.
345
00:12:57,719 --> 00:12:58,607
- You should.
346
00:12:58,607 --> 00:12:59,440
- Man, you might as well.
347
00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:01,016
You're the team lead so gone
348
00:13:01,016 --> 00:13:02,927
and climb that corporate ladder dog.
349
00:13:02,927 --> 00:13:04,113
- You sure right.
350
00:13:04,113 --> 00:13:06,112
Cause you got Henry and Steve on.
351
00:13:06,112 --> 00:13:07,211
My potna put my name
352
00:13:07,211 --> 00:13:09,648
on his application, he
aint even get hired.
353
00:13:09,648 --> 00:13:12,878
- I'm so glad I didn't put that
boy name on my application.
354
00:13:12,878 --> 00:13:17,211
- Scott, Scott, Scott, it
wasn't even like that man.
355
00:13:18,252 --> 00:13:19,085
Stanley look,
356
00:13:19,085 --> 00:13:19,918
I really need you to apply
for that position man.
357
00:13:22,192 --> 00:13:24,533
And I know where you at,
I know that look man,
358
00:13:24,533 --> 00:13:26,261
look I felt like I was disqualified to,
359
00:13:26,261 --> 00:13:28,101
you know for the position I'm at
360
00:13:28,101 --> 00:13:31,864
but I just went for it man,
and the rest is history man.
361
00:13:31,864 --> 00:13:32,781
- I guess.
362
00:13:33,874 --> 00:13:35,115
- What's up lames?
363
00:13:35,115 --> 00:13:36,446
- Dog, what's up.
364
00:13:36,446 --> 00:13:39,883
What it be like, what it
be like, what it be like?
365
00:13:39,883 --> 00:13:41,775
- Finally showed up, what up dog?
366
00:13:41,775 --> 00:13:42,608
- What's happening, what's happening.
367
00:13:42,608 --> 00:13:43,441
- You missed the show.
368
00:13:43,441 --> 00:13:45,202
- I know, I know man, I had
to handle some business.
369
00:13:45,202 --> 00:13:46,271
- I get it.
370
00:13:46,271 --> 00:13:48,141
- I know you did your thing.
371
00:13:48,141 --> 00:13:50,081
- What's up boy?
372
00:13:50,081 --> 00:13:51,414
Big money Tuan.
373
00:13:52,291 --> 00:13:53,628
Man I tell you, when your wife got
374
00:13:53,628 --> 00:13:56,438
that makeup lounge going on.
375
00:13:56,438 --> 00:13:58,467
What kind of loan you had
to take out for that one?
376
00:13:58,467 --> 00:13:59,300
- Its one of them loans that
377
00:13:59,300 --> 00:14:00,686
you gotta mind your business on.
378
00:14:00,686 --> 00:14:03,269
(men laughing)
379
00:14:04,396 --> 00:14:07,382
- Well I'm glad Tasha's
content with her eight to five.
380
00:14:07,382 --> 00:14:08,905
- Hey whoa, hold on now.
381
00:14:08,905 --> 00:14:10,884
You gonna have to keep your eye on Tasha,
382
00:14:10,884 --> 00:14:12,636
cause if she come up with a
game plan man, on something,
383
00:14:12,636 --> 00:14:14,635
you gonna be investing in it.
384
00:14:14,635 --> 00:14:16,666
- Hold up, all y'all
know each other wives,
385
00:14:16,666 --> 00:14:18,968
and y'all hangout like
they do in the movies?
386
00:14:18,968 --> 00:14:19,801
- Sure.
387
00:14:19,801 --> 00:14:20,634
- Yeah.
388
00:14:20,634 --> 00:14:21,875
- So y'all are happily married huh?
389
00:14:21,875 --> 00:14:23,275
- Yeah.
390
00:14:23,275 --> 00:14:25,433
- Man that's not the case
with me, man I'll tell ya.
391
00:14:25,433 --> 00:14:27,905
- Don't look at me, I'm happily single.
392
00:14:27,905 --> 00:14:31,763
- You know what I can honestly
say, I'm happily married man.
393
00:14:31,763 --> 00:14:33,753
(men laughing)
394
00:14:33,753 --> 00:14:35,185
- I thought I was the comedian.
395
00:14:35,185 --> 00:14:36,161
- Okay, wait a minute, wait, wait, wait.
396
00:14:36,161 --> 00:14:37,923
So y'all honestly don't think
397
00:14:37,923 --> 00:14:41,552
that it's possible to be happily married?
398
00:14:41,552 --> 00:14:42,385
- [All] No.
399
00:14:42,385 --> 00:14:43,262
- Absolutely not.
400
00:14:43,262 --> 00:14:45,732
I mean you can pretend
to be, but you're not.
401
00:14:45,732 --> 00:14:47,712
- Well wait a minute, wait
a minute, now wait a minute.
402
00:14:47,712 --> 00:14:48,891
God...
403
00:14:48,891 --> 00:14:50,420
You all really going to sit here
404
00:14:50,420 --> 00:14:52,925
and tell this man that
he could not be married?
405
00:14:52,925 --> 00:14:53,883
Happily married?
406
00:14:53,883 --> 00:14:54,716
- Yeah.
407
00:14:54,716 --> 00:14:57,125
- To his wife, his true love.
408
00:14:57,125 --> 00:14:59,129
- Hey look, Jesus, let me tell you
409
00:14:59,129 --> 00:15:00,235
from me and Kelly stand point.
410
00:15:00,235 --> 00:15:01,068
- [Man] Enlighten me.
411
00:15:01,068 --> 00:15:03,403
- Look man, at one point in our marriage,
412
00:15:03,403 --> 00:15:06,365
I can honestly say that we was happy.
413
00:15:06,365 --> 00:15:09,373
But right now I can't say the same thing.
414
00:15:09,373 --> 00:15:10,676
So check this right,
415
00:15:10,676 --> 00:15:12,482
I just don't understand how is it
416
00:15:12,482 --> 00:15:14,028
that we can go from doing everything
417
00:15:14,028 --> 00:15:15,847
up under the sun together,
418
00:15:15,847 --> 00:15:18,017
to now, its like we hate each other.
419
00:15:18,017 --> 00:15:19,527
Look bro, I can tell you
420
00:15:19,527 --> 00:15:21,767
that she hate the sight of me coming,
421
00:15:21,767 --> 00:15:24,635
and to be honest the feeling
is starting to become mutual.
422
00:15:24,635 --> 00:15:26,236
- And you know, I feel you man,
423
00:15:26,236 --> 00:15:28,366
cause you know, everybody
know my situation.
424
00:15:28,366 --> 00:15:30,335
Me and EB, she crazy as all get out.
425
00:15:30,335 --> 00:15:31,168
- [Man] crazy.
426
00:15:31,168 --> 00:15:32,750
- I mean when we good, we good.
427
00:15:32,750 --> 00:15:35,825
But when she started that
woody woo woo, it's bad.
428
00:15:35,825 --> 00:15:36,658
- [Man] The who?
429
00:15:36,658 --> 00:15:39,287
- Hey, but it's 50, 50,
it wight itself out.
430
00:15:39,287 --> 00:15:40,207
So I take it.
431
00:15:40,207 --> 00:15:43,047
- Well shoot, You know my
wife, she a workaholic bro.
432
00:15:43,047 --> 00:15:45,053
So that kinda worked
out for the both of us.
433
00:15:45,053 --> 00:15:45,981
You know what I mean?
434
00:15:45,981 --> 00:15:49,471
Man I don't know if she happy or not.
435
00:15:49,471 --> 00:15:51,532
So I guess I'm safe.
436
00:15:51,532 --> 00:15:52,940
- Safe?
437
00:15:52,940 --> 00:15:55,681
Man its not safe, matter
of fact you tripping.
438
00:15:55,681 --> 00:15:57,791
You better know if your
wife happy or not man.
439
00:15:57,791 --> 00:16:01,321
- Hold on, why it always
important that they always happy?
440
00:16:01,321 --> 00:16:03,036
What about us?
441
00:16:03,036 --> 00:16:04,691
Man we need to change that mindset.
442
00:16:04,691 --> 00:16:07,216
- Listen, now you talking.
443
00:16:07,216 --> 00:16:10,936
- Well truth be told, the
bible did say be careful
444
00:16:10,936 --> 00:16:14,916
how you treat our wives,
lest our prayers be hindered.
445
00:16:14,916 --> 00:16:16,097
- Yup.
446
00:16:16,097 --> 00:16:19,457
The liquor most certainly
started to kick in.
447
00:16:19,457 --> 00:16:21,988
Man every time this dude get to drinking,
448
00:16:21,988 --> 00:16:23,087
he start quoting scripture.
449
00:16:23,087 --> 00:16:25,880
- Hey, hold, hold, hold, hold, hold on.
450
00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:27,028
He aint lying though.
451
00:16:27,028 --> 00:16:28,586
The bible does say that.
452
00:16:28,586 --> 00:16:33,003
- Yup, this most definitely
about to be a long night.
453
00:16:35,217 --> 00:16:37,967
(dramatic music)
454
00:17:03,556 --> 00:17:04,956
- Hey mama.
455
00:17:04,956 --> 00:17:06,634
- [Mama] Hey baby, what you doing?
456
00:17:06,634 --> 00:17:08,269
- [Kelly] Nothing just
At Style-Taneous Styles
457
00:17:08,269 --> 00:17:09,271
looking for something to wear
458
00:17:09,271 --> 00:17:10,938
to the company Christmas party.
459
00:17:10,938 --> 00:17:13,334
- Oh that's right, that
is coming up isn't it?
460
00:17:13,334 --> 00:17:15,275
Send me a picture of your
outfit when you get it.
461
00:17:15,275 --> 00:17:17,640
I'm just going to wear
something I already have.
462
00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:18,966
- Now make sure it's burgundy
463
00:17:18,966 --> 00:17:21,265
because you know that's the
color we wearing this year.
464
00:17:21,265 --> 00:17:22,843
- Oh yeah, that's right.
465
00:17:22,843 --> 00:17:25,081
Did you start your Christmas shopping yet?
466
00:17:25,081 --> 00:17:26,723
- Not yet, but I will soon.
467
00:17:26,723 --> 00:17:28,294
I know you're probably already done.
468
00:17:28,294 --> 00:17:30,563
When you get finished, in June?
469
00:17:30,563 --> 00:17:32,014
- child, you know I don't mess around.
470
00:17:32,014 --> 00:17:32,912
I don't have time to be in the store
471
00:17:32,912 --> 00:17:34,613
with all those crazy folks.
472
00:17:34,613 --> 00:17:36,592
Anyway, I was just
calling back from earlier.
473
00:17:36,592 --> 00:17:39,062
Call me when you get done.
474
00:17:39,062 --> 00:17:39,895
- Oh mama.
475
00:17:40,763 --> 00:17:41,763
- Yeah baby?
476
00:17:42,683 --> 00:17:44,392
- Never mind.
477
00:17:44,392 --> 00:17:45,975
- What is it Kelly?
478
00:17:47,190 --> 00:17:48,628
- Nothing.
479
00:17:48,628 --> 00:17:49,878
It's just Stan.
480
00:17:50,805 --> 00:17:52,143
I'm getting really frustrated.
481
00:17:52,143 --> 00:17:54,904
I feel like he's not for me anymore.
482
00:17:54,904 --> 00:17:58,765
- Oh, here we go, singing
that same old song.
483
00:17:58,765 --> 00:18:00,293
Did you do what I told you to do?
484
00:18:00,293 --> 00:18:02,422
- Yes, I demanded that he get it together,
485
00:18:02,422 --> 00:18:04,339
but he has not changed.
486
00:18:05,225 --> 00:18:06,058
- No.
487
00:18:06,058 --> 00:18:07,933
You have to tell him that he either
488
00:18:07,933 --> 00:18:10,544
has to get it together
or he needs to leave.
489
00:18:10,544 --> 00:18:12,464
I mean, he sitting up in that house,
490
00:18:12,464 --> 00:18:16,182
you serving God and he's
disrespecting you and God,
491
00:18:16,182 --> 00:18:17,525
and want to act like the devil himself.
492
00:18:17,525 --> 00:18:19,011
Aint nobody got time for that.
493
00:18:19,011 --> 00:18:21,395
- Right, and do, you know, the other day
494
00:18:21,395 --> 00:18:23,645
I kept calling him over and over again
495
00:18:23,645 --> 00:18:25,563
and he wouldn't answer
his phone for nothing.
496
00:18:25,563 --> 00:18:27,435
And when I got home, he was sitting
497
00:18:27,435 --> 00:18:30,184
on the couch with his
friends, playing a video game.
498
00:18:30,184 --> 00:18:34,383
He spent all his free time
doing that, it's so frustrating.
499
00:18:34,383 --> 00:18:35,352
- That don't make any sense.
500
00:18:35,352 --> 00:18:36,197
You could have been stranded on
501
00:18:36,197 --> 00:18:37,906
the side of the road or anything.
502
00:18:37,906 --> 00:18:39,336
- That's what I'm saying.
503
00:18:39,336 --> 00:18:40,600
- Now did you put blessed oil over
504
00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:42,276
the house like I told you?
505
00:18:42,276 --> 00:18:43,829
- No mama, I haven't done that.
506
00:18:43,829 --> 00:18:45,570
- Child, that's what you need to do.
507
00:18:45,570 --> 00:18:48,616
Put it on his pillow, put it in his shoes,
508
00:18:48,616 --> 00:18:51,290
on his toothbrush if you have to.
509
00:18:51,290 --> 00:18:52,443
I mean do what you need to do.
510
00:18:52,443 --> 00:18:55,287
Pray those demons right
on up out your house.
511
00:18:55,287 --> 00:18:58,349
- Wait a minute, on his toothbrush mom?
512
00:18:58,349 --> 00:18:59,757
(Kelly laughing)
513
00:18:59,757 --> 00:19:03,029
Look, I know you serious
but that is hilarious.
514
00:19:03,029 --> 00:19:06,726
I really appreciate you
talking to me ma, I do.
515
00:19:06,726 --> 00:19:07,815
But look, I'm going to go ahead
516
00:19:07,815 --> 00:19:10,071
and try to find what I need to
get and get on up outta here.
517
00:19:10,071 --> 00:19:12,497
I'll call you later, okay?
518
00:19:12,497 --> 00:19:13,844
- [Mama] All right, baby.
519
00:19:13,844 --> 00:19:15,098
- I love you.
520
00:19:15,098 --> 00:19:17,657
- I love you too, baby.
521
00:19:17,657 --> 00:19:18,990
(paper crinkles)
522
00:19:18,990 --> 00:19:21,740
(dramatic music)
523
00:19:23,789 --> 00:19:24,622
What?
524
00:19:29,251 --> 00:19:32,684
(dramatic music)
525
00:19:32,684 --> 00:19:35,290
- This dude is a beast man.
526
00:19:35,290 --> 00:19:36,790
It is no stopping him.
527
00:19:39,634 --> 00:19:41,200
Hey what's up babe, you good?
528
00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:42,117
- I'm fine.
529
00:19:43,114 --> 00:19:45,153
- That you most definitely are.
530
00:19:45,153 --> 00:19:47,495
You look real good in that
dress girl, fine, fine.
531
00:19:47,495 --> 00:19:49,763
Like a whole snack, come
on over and sit down.
532
00:19:49,763 --> 00:19:52,735
- Stan I am not in the mood, okay?
533
00:19:52,735 --> 00:19:54,383
- Yeah, of course you're not.
534
00:19:54,383 --> 00:19:55,592
You're never in the mood.
535
00:19:55,592 --> 00:19:58,072
I wasn't doing nothing but
giving you a compliment anyway?
536
00:19:58,072 --> 00:19:59,805
- A compliment?
537
00:19:59,805 --> 00:20:02,209
I could care less about
a compliment from you.
538
00:20:02,209 --> 00:20:04,561
I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
539
00:20:04,561 --> 00:20:07,061
I don't need your reassurance.
540
00:20:08,902 --> 00:20:11,228
- Is that what you learned
at church today Kelly?
541
00:20:11,228 --> 00:20:14,429
- I'm not about to put up
with your sarcasm today.
542
00:20:14,429 --> 00:20:15,450
I'm not gonna do it.
543
00:20:15,450 --> 00:20:16,596
- Look, you the one that came in here
544
00:20:16,596 --> 00:20:17,863
with his little attitude
545
00:20:17,863 --> 00:20:19,503
and being that you just came from church,
546
00:20:19,503 --> 00:20:20,490
I'm just trying to see.
547
00:20:20,490 --> 00:20:21,485
Is that what you learned today?
548
00:20:21,485 --> 00:20:23,789
- What ever Stan, I have every
right to have an attitude.
549
00:20:23,789 --> 00:20:25,118
When are you going to get it?
550
00:20:25,118 --> 00:20:26,044
- Get what Kelly.
551
00:20:26,044 --> 00:20:27,629
- That I've changed.
552
00:20:27,629 --> 00:20:28,997
- Oh, have you?
553
00:20:28,997 --> 00:20:31,025
- Yes, but you won't acknowledge it,
554
00:20:31,025 --> 00:20:32,971
look, I'm ready for you to come on.
555
00:20:32,971 --> 00:20:34,846
- Come on and do what, what?
556
00:20:34,846 --> 00:20:36,788
- Quit dragging your feet.
557
00:20:36,788 --> 00:20:39,392
Get your life together and live for God.
558
00:20:39,392 --> 00:20:41,396
- Is that what I was doing when
we first got married Kelly.
559
00:20:41,396 --> 00:20:42,705
- No and neither was I,
560
00:20:42,705 --> 00:20:44,356
and what does that have
to do with anything?
561
00:20:44,356 --> 00:20:47,457
Look, I'm ready for you to come on.
562
00:20:47,457 --> 00:20:48,958
You're supposed to be the head
563
00:20:48,958 --> 00:20:50,859
and I'm supposed to be following you.
564
00:20:50,859 --> 00:20:53,373
I'm to follow you as you follow Christ,
565
00:20:53,373 --> 00:20:54,859
but you're not even following him.
566
00:20:54,859 --> 00:20:56,979
You make it so hard for me.
567
00:20:56,979 --> 00:20:59,696
- Look, let's just calm down
568
00:20:59,696 --> 00:21:01,404
because I've been in this house all day,
569
00:21:01,404 --> 00:21:02,952
waiting for you to come home from church
570
00:21:02,952 --> 00:21:05,196
so I can enjoy the rest
of the day with my wife.
571
00:21:05,196 --> 00:21:06,413
But instead you want to come here
572
00:21:06,413 --> 00:21:07,740
with this whole little attitude.
573
00:21:07,740 --> 00:21:09,695
- You know how your day
could have been enjoyed?
574
00:21:09,695 --> 00:21:13,445
If you would've came to
church with me, Stan.
575
00:21:15,202 --> 00:21:16,824
- You know what?
576
00:21:16,824 --> 00:21:20,521
I'm just going to go
get me something to eat.
577
00:21:20,521 --> 00:21:23,688
- Leave Stan, that's what you do best.
578
00:21:27,551 --> 00:21:28,551
Blessed oil.
579
00:21:29,689 --> 00:21:31,423
Father in the name of Jesus.
580
00:21:31,423 --> 00:21:33,357
God, I come to you right now
581
00:21:33,357 --> 00:21:36,912
praying against all these
spirits in my house.
582
00:21:36,912 --> 00:21:39,804
Lord, especially for my husband.
583
00:21:39,804 --> 00:21:41,567
He is allowing the enemy to use him.
584
00:21:41,567 --> 00:21:44,650
I need you to help him to understand.
585
00:21:46,532 --> 00:21:49,953
Oh my God, Mrs. Anderson, what,
586
00:21:49,953 --> 00:21:52,633
how did you get, what, is
there something you need?
587
00:21:52,633 --> 00:21:54,540
- It sounds as if there's
something you need, honey.
588
00:21:54,540 --> 00:21:56,437
So I'm here to check on you.
589
00:21:56,437 --> 00:21:58,655
- Look, I'm fine, I'm just praying
590
00:21:58,655 --> 00:22:00,538
and about to put blessed
oil over this house
591
00:22:00,538 --> 00:22:02,986
and pray these demons
up out of my husband.
592
00:22:02,986 --> 00:22:05,628
- Whatever are you going
to do that for dear?
593
00:22:05,628 --> 00:22:08,301
- Look, I need to see a change in Stan.
594
00:22:08,301 --> 00:22:09,134
- And you think you're going to see
595
00:22:09,134 --> 00:22:11,556
change by putting blessed oil everywhere?
596
00:22:11,556 --> 00:22:13,510
- I don't know, but I'm
willing to give it a shot
597
00:22:13,510 --> 00:22:15,555
because things have gotten
too far out of control.
598
00:22:15,555 --> 00:22:20,270
- Sweetheart, please just
hear me out, that's all I ask.
599
00:22:20,270 --> 00:22:21,497
- Sure, go ahead.
600
00:22:21,497 --> 00:22:22,539
- All right, now listen.
601
00:22:22,539 --> 00:22:24,364
When I say this, it is coming
602
00:22:24,364 --> 00:22:26,895
from a place of love, all right?
603
00:22:26,895 --> 00:22:28,229
Okay, listen.
604
00:22:28,229 --> 00:22:31,430
The first thing you need
to do, honey is to pray.
605
00:22:31,430 --> 00:22:34,487
- Mrs. Anderson, I was praying.
606
00:22:34,487 --> 00:22:35,879
- Yes, I heard you, sweetheart.
607
00:22:35,879 --> 00:22:38,650
It sounded like the prayer
of the self righteous,
608
00:22:38,650 --> 00:22:40,739
which availeth not much, honey.
609
00:22:40,739 --> 00:22:45,239
Listen, you must first pray
and ask God to change you.
610
00:22:46,210 --> 00:22:47,156
- Change me?
611
00:22:47,156 --> 00:22:48,029
- Yes.
612
00:22:48,029 --> 00:22:51,511
- Trust me, Mrs. Anderson,
I have definitely changed.
613
00:22:51,511 --> 00:22:54,424
- Sweetheart listen, you
are the one who proclaims
614
00:22:54,424 --> 00:22:56,381
to be the believer in
this marriage, right?
615
00:22:56,381 --> 00:22:57,214
- Yeah.
616
00:22:57,214 --> 00:23:01,341
- So that means that you've
given God permission to use you.
617
00:23:01,341 --> 00:23:03,258
- Well, I do let him use me.
618
00:23:03,258 --> 00:23:06,256
I serve and worship him faithfully.
619
00:23:06,256 --> 00:23:08,682
- Do you really Kelly?
620
00:23:08,682 --> 00:23:11,536
Listen, the Bible tells us in Romans 12:1
621
00:23:11,536 --> 00:23:13,770
that we are to present our bodies
622
00:23:13,770 --> 00:23:15,847
as a living sacrifice dedicated
623
00:23:15,847 --> 00:23:17,885
to his service and pleasing unto him.
624
00:23:17,885 --> 00:23:18,718
- Now Mrs. Anderson.
625
00:23:18,718 --> 00:23:21,293
- Now that there is the true worship
626
00:23:21,293 --> 00:23:22,780
that you ought to be offering up.
627
00:23:22,780 --> 00:23:23,962
- Okay, so you really don't have
628
00:23:23,962 --> 00:23:25,146
to throw all this word at me
629
00:23:25,146 --> 00:23:27,322
because I know it very well.
630
00:23:27,322 --> 00:23:28,155
Trust me.
631
00:23:29,366 --> 00:23:31,165
- Child you do know your word,
632
00:23:31,165 --> 00:23:34,538
but it's not enough just
to know it, now is it?
633
00:23:34,538 --> 00:23:36,902
The Bible tells us to be doers of the word
634
00:23:36,902 --> 00:23:38,906
and not hearers only.
635
00:23:38,906 --> 00:23:41,402
Deceiving your own selves.
636
00:23:41,402 --> 00:23:44,189
- But it's so hard and
I'm getting tired of Stan.
637
00:23:44,189 --> 00:23:46,523
It takes two to make a marriage work.
638
00:23:46,523 --> 00:23:48,268
- Well sweetheart I'm not a firm believer
639
00:23:48,268 --> 00:23:51,023
in all them little popular
sayings y'all have today.
640
00:23:51,023 --> 00:23:55,495
I don't know if it takes two
to make a thing go right.
641
00:23:55,495 --> 00:23:58,453
Will it make things easier, maybe.
642
00:23:58,453 --> 00:24:01,396
But let me tell you what
I do believe sweetheart.
643
00:24:01,396 --> 00:24:04,783
I believe that if there's
at least one willing vessel
644
00:24:04,783 --> 00:24:07,695
that will allow God to have his way.
645
00:24:07,695 --> 00:24:09,124
Well then you at least have a chance
646
00:24:09,124 --> 00:24:11,644
of seeing things turned
around for your good.
647
00:24:11,644 --> 00:24:14,635
- Well you are speaking the truth.
648
00:24:14,635 --> 00:24:16,955
You sure do have a lot of wisdom
when it comes to marriage,
649
00:24:16,955 --> 00:24:19,500
how long have you been married?
650
00:24:19,500 --> 00:24:21,073
- I think its been, it seems
651
00:24:21,073 --> 00:24:23,959
like it's been about 2,000 years.
652
00:24:23,959 --> 00:24:27,187
Honey, that man was
crazier than a road lizard.
653
00:24:27,187 --> 00:24:30,442
I want to tell you, we had
our share of ups and downs.
654
00:24:30,442 --> 00:24:32,542
And you know what, I'd be willing
655
00:24:32,542 --> 00:24:35,434
to be your accountability partner
656
00:24:35,434 --> 00:24:37,836
if you will allow me to.
657
00:24:37,836 --> 00:24:39,372
- I'm willing to do.
658
00:24:39,372 --> 00:24:40,779
- All right, good.
659
00:24:40,779 --> 00:24:42,887
Now your first point of focus is to pray
660
00:24:42,887 --> 00:24:45,554
and ask God to change you, okay?
661
00:24:46,506 --> 00:24:49,637
And oh, may I make one
more suggestion honey?
662
00:24:49,637 --> 00:24:50,691
- What's that.
663
00:24:50,691 --> 00:24:51,774
- You know you can't always
664
00:24:51,774 --> 00:24:54,691
take everybody's advice, all right.
665
00:24:56,123 --> 00:24:59,138
Even those who are closest to you.
666
00:24:59,138 --> 00:25:00,377
- Yes ma'am.
667
00:25:00,377 --> 00:25:01,913
- Happy holidays sweetheart.
668
00:25:01,913 --> 00:25:04,663
(dramatic music)
669
00:25:08,361 --> 00:25:13,361
♪ Together we walk side by side ♪
670
00:25:13,925 --> 00:25:18,925
♪ That's how it was meant to be yeah ♪
671
00:25:19,499 --> 00:25:22,855
♪ You see nothing else matters, no ♪
672
00:25:22,855 --> 00:25:27,743
♪ Our love is for eternity ♪
673
00:25:27,743 --> 00:25:32,743
♪ And you are my shining star, yes ♪
674
00:25:34,631 --> 00:25:39,631
♪ Our love will never depart ♪
675
00:25:39,665 --> 00:25:44,665
♪ Holding your hand
with my hand in yours ♪
676
00:25:46,174 --> 00:25:51,174
♪ It is such a wonderful feeling ♪
677
00:25:51,759 --> 00:25:56,759
♪ This Christmas holiday we share ♪
678
00:25:57,651 --> 00:26:02,112
♪ I believe in you and me ♪
679
00:26:02,112 --> 00:26:06,189
♪ I believe in you and me ♪
680
00:26:06,189 --> 00:26:11,189
♪ And our love will always be ♪
681
00:26:13,002 --> 00:26:15,799
♪ I believe ♪
682
00:26:15,799 --> 00:26:17,941
♪ I believe ♪
683
00:26:17,941 --> 00:26:21,627
♪ Dance with me baby, step with me sugar ♪
684
00:26:21,627 --> 00:26:23,796
- And so that will be your total need.
685
00:26:23,796 --> 00:26:26,360
That actually concludes my
presentation this morning.
686
00:26:26,360 --> 00:26:27,501
So again, I thank you all
687
00:26:27,501 --> 00:26:29,829
for choosing Erickson insurance agency
688
00:26:29,829 --> 00:26:31,376
for your insurance needs again,
689
00:26:31,376 --> 00:26:33,743
I am Susan Erickson and
I will be representing
690
00:26:33,743 --> 00:26:36,364
you guys from the Northern
division moving forward.
691
00:26:36,364 --> 00:26:37,872
Thanks again for your time.
692
00:26:37,872 --> 00:26:39,224
- Thank you Mrs. Erickson.
693
00:26:39,224 --> 00:26:41,631
The information you
shared was very valuable.
694
00:26:41,631 --> 00:26:42,464
- [Susan] No problem.
695
00:26:42,464 --> 00:26:43,697
- Renee, will you be sure to have
696
00:26:43,697 --> 00:26:46,488
my meeting minutes out by noon tomorrow?
697
00:26:46,488 --> 00:26:48,429
- Sure Mary, I will have
698
00:26:48,429 --> 00:26:51,929
your meeting minutes out by noon tomorrow.
699
00:26:58,436 --> 00:27:00,770
She aint the boss, but she
always tell me what to do.
700
00:27:00,770 --> 00:27:02,411
- Renee, Renee, you want
701
00:27:02,411 --> 00:27:04,002
to take a break and go get some lunch?
702
00:27:04,002 --> 00:27:08,293
- Sorry Ricky I have to work
on these meeting minutes.
703
00:27:08,293 --> 00:27:11,196
- Come on Renee, you gotta
take a break at some point.
704
00:27:11,196 --> 00:27:14,036
- I'm fasting and as a matter of fact,
705
00:27:14,036 --> 00:27:16,203
I'll be fasting all month.
706
00:27:19,289 --> 00:27:20,773
- Renee, right?
707
00:27:20,773 --> 00:27:22,021
- The one and only.
708
00:27:22,021 --> 00:27:23,529
- And you're Kelly's assistant, correct?
709
00:27:23,529 --> 00:27:24,516
- I sure am.
710
00:27:24,516 --> 00:27:25,349
- Great.
711
00:27:25,349 --> 00:27:26,829
I actually wanted to stop by next week
712
00:27:26,829 --> 00:27:27,726
when I'm in the area
713
00:27:27,726 --> 00:27:29,405
and drop her off some more brochures.
714
00:27:29,405 --> 00:27:32,182
So if you could fit me on her
schedule, that'd be perfect.
715
00:27:32,182 --> 00:27:34,747
- Okay, I'll take a look at her schedule
716
00:27:34,747 --> 00:27:38,734
and I'll contact you
with the time and date.
717
00:27:38,734 --> 00:27:39,816
- Well thank you.
718
00:27:39,816 --> 00:27:40,807
- Mhm.
719
00:27:40,807 --> 00:27:41,640
- Mhm.
720
00:27:45,799 --> 00:27:48,115
(Renee laughs)
721
00:27:48,115 --> 00:27:50,948
(cart clattering)
722
00:27:52,937 --> 00:27:55,195
- Hey, are you seriously
gonna let Gary sit over there
723
00:27:55,195 --> 00:27:56,381
and do nothing while we over working
724
00:27:56,381 --> 00:27:58,406
our butts like we crazy?
725
00:27:58,406 --> 00:27:59,445
- Crazy.
726
00:27:59,445 --> 00:28:01,989
- Well first of all we all know that Gary
727
00:28:01,989 --> 00:28:03,678
hurt his back not too long ago
728
00:28:03,678 --> 00:28:06,085
and he asked to be on
light duty for a while.
729
00:28:06,085 --> 00:28:07,080
That's it.
730
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,079
- For a while, he been on light duty for,
731
00:28:09,079 --> 00:28:11,624
carry the two, for two and a half years.
732
00:28:11,624 --> 00:28:15,881
You know what, I hurt my back
too, I'm on light duty too.
733
00:28:15,881 --> 00:28:17,478
- Now see that's your problem Steve,
734
00:28:17,478 --> 00:28:18,762
you always trying to be funny.
735
00:28:18,762 --> 00:28:20,324
Its not the time right now.
736
00:28:20,324 --> 00:28:22,026
Now look, how about y'all stop crying
737
00:28:22,026 --> 00:28:23,446
and complaining all the time man,
738
00:28:23,446 --> 00:28:25,082
and just worry about
getting your own job done?
739
00:28:25,082 --> 00:28:27,674
Let's start with that.
740
00:28:27,674 --> 00:28:31,732
- Hey Stan, many hands
make light work, ya know?
741
00:28:31,732 --> 00:28:35,367
- Well we got many hands,
let's make light work.
742
00:28:35,367 --> 00:28:36,772
And you're out of uniform.
743
00:28:36,772 --> 00:28:38,439
- I'm on light duty.
744
00:28:43,065 --> 00:28:44,023
- Hey, its Stan.
745
00:28:44,023 --> 00:28:45,145
- Hey baby.
746
00:28:45,145 --> 00:28:46,499
- Hi, what's going on
with you baby, what's up?
747
00:28:46,499 --> 00:28:50,330
- Nothing, I tried to call
you a few times earlier today.
748
00:28:50,330 --> 00:28:52,648
- Yeah, its been a
little crazy around here,
749
00:28:52,648 --> 00:28:53,481
its been a little busy.
750
00:28:53,481 --> 00:28:54,314
- Oh.
751
00:28:54,314 --> 00:28:55,147
- Why, what's going on though, what's up?
752
00:28:55,147 --> 00:28:58,194
- Look I know you're busy so
I will make it quick okay, umm
753
00:28:58,194 --> 00:28:59,622
You know that lady I be listening to on
754
00:28:59,622 --> 00:29:01,536
the radio all the time, Minister Norton?
755
00:29:01,536 --> 00:29:03,883
- Nah, not really, why what's up with her?
756
00:29:03,883 --> 00:29:07,256
- Anyway, so the girls
are going to Chicago
757
00:29:07,256 --> 00:29:08,145
because she's going to be speaking
758
00:29:08,145 --> 00:29:10,459
at a women's conference
in a couple of weeks
759
00:29:10,459 --> 00:29:11,732
and they wanted me to go.
760
00:29:11,732 --> 00:29:15,252
So just wanted to clear it with you first.
761
00:29:15,252 --> 00:29:16,881
How long is that for Kelly?
762
00:29:16,881 --> 00:29:19,799
- We leaving on Wednesday
and coming back Sunday.
763
00:29:19,799 --> 00:29:21,720
- Hey, look, I don't know about that babe.
764
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,218
- What do you mean you're not feeling it?
765
00:29:23,218 --> 00:29:24,455
- I mean what I said Kelly.
766
00:29:24,455 --> 00:29:27,394
Like that's five whole days
you're talking about being gone.
767
00:29:27,394 --> 00:29:29,086
Look babe, I'm a little busy right now.
768
00:29:29,086 --> 00:29:31,028
Can we please just talk about
this later when I get home?
769
00:29:31,028 --> 00:29:34,876
- Hold on, I was just
calling you to be respectful.
770
00:29:34,876 --> 00:29:36,644
I really don't have to
ask you for anything
771
00:29:36,644 --> 00:29:39,802
and furthermore, you
know what you sure right,
772
00:29:39,802 --> 00:29:41,584
yes, we can talk about it later.
773
00:29:41,584 --> 00:29:42,846
- All right babe, I love you.
774
00:29:42,846 --> 00:29:44,118
- Love you too.
775
00:29:44,118 --> 00:29:45,118
- All right.
776
00:29:47,718 --> 00:29:50,488
(phone clatters)
777
00:29:50,488 --> 00:29:51,774
- You're still going right?
778
00:29:51,774 --> 00:29:52,776
- Renee what are you doing
779
00:29:52,776 --> 00:29:54,128
ear hustling in on my conversation?
780
00:29:54,128 --> 00:29:56,690
- Sorry girl, anyway, I needed favor.
781
00:29:56,690 --> 00:29:58,293
- What is it, Renee?
782
00:29:58,293 --> 00:30:01,092
- Well, you know that guy I
was telling you about right?
783
00:30:01,092 --> 00:30:03,738
- Which one, and why do
you keep playing Rick?
784
00:30:03,738 --> 00:30:05,143
He seems like a really nice guy
785
00:30:05,143 --> 00:30:06,964
and I think he like
you for real, for real.
786
00:30:06,964 --> 00:30:08,941
- Who likes nice guys plus
787
00:30:08,941 --> 00:30:11,155
those the ones you gotta watch out for.
788
00:30:11,155 --> 00:30:12,240
- My God.
789
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:16,576
- Anyway, I'm talking about
the one from Michigan.
790
00:30:16,576 --> 00:30:17,789
(women laughing)
791
00:30:17,789 --> 00:30:18,871
- [Kelly] Girl.
792
00:30:18,871 --> 00:30:20,202
- [Renee] You know what I told you.
793
00:30:20,202 --> 00:30:22,100
- Girl, what is it?
794
00:30:22,100 --> 00:30:25,946
- Well he asked me to go
out on a date with him,
795
00:30:25,946 --> 00:30:27,332
for his company party,
796
00:30:27,332 --> 00:30:31,652
so I'm just gonna need maybe
two, three days off tops.
797
00:30:31,652 --> 00:30:33,799
- Okay Renee seriously, going
forward you're gonna have
798
00:30:33,799 --> 00:30:36,544
to submit your time off
requests to human resources.
799
00:30:36,544 --> 00:30:39,629
- Why Kelly, you the
head of human resource.
800
00:30:39,629 --> 00:30:42,276
- I know Renee, look
I'm working on a new me
801
00:30:42,276 --> 00:30:44,695
and they have guidelines
that need to be followed.
802
00:30:44,695 --> 00:30:48,381
So we as in you, are
gonna have to follow them.
803
00:30:48,381 --> 00:30:51,019
- Wait a minute Kelly, I don't
know what's gotten into you,
804
00:30:51,019 --> 00:30:53,431
this has never been a problem before.
805
00:30:53,431 --> 00:30:55,426
- I know, and listen,
806
00:30:55,426 --> 00:30:56,839
please don't take it personal
807
00:30:56,839 --> 00:30:59,214
because I promise you its not like that.
808
00:30:59,214 --> 00:31:01,780
Look, I'm just trying to change okay,
809
00:31:01,780 --> 00:31:03,149
and I gotta do things different.
810
00:31:03,149 --> 00:31:03,982
- Change?
811
00:31:05,392 --> 00:31:07,783
I don't think I like
all this change Kelly,
812
00:31:07,783 --> 00:31:10,906
I don't know what's wrong with you lately,
813
00:31:10,906 --> 00:31:14,841
but friend to friend, I'm not liking it.
814
00:31:14,841 --> 00:31:19,344
I'm not liking it Kelly,
what's getting into you?
815
00:31:19,344 --> 00:31:22,364
- And we are back,
right here are Mix 99.5,
816
00:31:22,364 --> 00:31:24,153
the heart and soul of St. Louis,
817
00:31:24,153 --> 00:31:25,494
this is your host Dee Marie
818
00:31:25,494 --> 00:31:27,379
right here with Be The Voice Live
819
00:31:27,379 --> 00:31:28,543
and we are at the question
820
00:31:28,543 --> 00:31:30,092
and answer part of our program
821
00:31:30,092 --> 00:31:32,776
and it looks like we have
quite a few callers today.
822
00:31:32,776 --> 00:31:34,374
So we're gonna get right to it,
823
00:31:34,374 --> 00:31:37,385
caller number one, are you there?
824
00:31:37,385 --> 00:31:38,428
- [Woman] My name is Claire
825
00:31:38,428 --> 00:31:40,863
and I have a question for Minister Norton.
826
00:31:40,863 --> 00:31:43,851
- Praise God Claire,
what's your question today?
827
00:31:43,851 --> 00:31:45,154
- [Claire] My question is, my husband
828
00:31:45,154 --> 00:31:49,110
and I, we are, we were
high school sweethearts
829
00:31:49,110 --> 00:31:52,662
however when we got
married I wasn't saved.
830
00:31:52,662 --> 00:31:53,495
- Okay.
831
00:31:53,495 --> 00:31:55,350
- [Claire] My husband
still likes to party,
832
00:31:55,350 --> 00:31:57,340
he doesn't want to come to church with me,
833
00:31:57,340 --> 00:32:00,604
I just really feel that
we're unequally yoked.
834
00:32:00,604 --> 00:32:02,236
And I just want to know
if you have any type
835
00:32:02,236 --> 00:32:04,704
of advice that you could offer.
836
00:32:04,704 --> 00:32:06,463
- Fist I wanna say congratulations
837
00:32:06,463 --> 00:32:09,210
on accepting Jesus as your savior,
838
00:32:09,210 --> 00:32:11,913
that is absolutely the best decision
839
00:32:11,913 --> 00:32:13,374
that you could have made.
840
00:32:13,374 --> 00:32:16,486
Second, I want to
congratulate you on accepting
841
00:32:16,486 --> 00:32:19,471
your God given assignment
in your marriage,
842
00:32:19,471 --> 00:32:23,852
yes you are on assignment in
your marriage to be a light
843
00:32:23,852 --> 00:32:26,588
and be obedient to Gods word.
844
00:32:26,588 --> 00:32:31,174
Also you know part of
your assignment is to pray
845
00:32:31,174 --> 00:32:34,300
for your husband and his deliverance
846
00:32:34,300 --> 00:32:36,666
and then you also have an assignment
847
00:32:36,666 --> 00:32:39,660
to be the light to your husband.
848
00:32:39,660 --> 00:32:44,660
To be patient, to pray for
him and his deliverance,
849
00:32:44,732 --> 00:32:48,038
and then to take all of
your frustrations to God
850
00:32:48,038 --> 00:32:51,587
because truly he is the only one that
851
00:32:51,587 --> 00:32:55,130
can change your husbands heart, not you.
852
00:32:55,130 --> 00:32:58,377
Also I wanna recommend
that you read 1st Peter,
853
00:32:58,377 --> 00:33:02,210
Ch 3 and just meditate on that, okay?
854
00:33:04,038 --> 00:33:06,166
- [Claire] Thank you so
much Minister Norton.
855
00:33:06,166 --> 00:33:08,435
- Oh absolutely, its my pleasure.
856
00:33:08,435 --> 00:33:11,878
I also wanna recommend another
book, its an excellent book,
857
00:33:11,878 --> 00:33:15,683
its called Are You Really His Good Thing
858
00:33:15,683 --> 00:33:18,555
by Kyria Williams and Chrissie Appleby.
859
00:33:18,555 --> 00:33:20,924
In that book is an entire section
860
00:33:20,924 --> 00:33:24,207
that is dedicated to
those sorts of situations
861
00:33:24,207 --> 00:33:26,766
and Claire I thank you
again for calling in
862
00:33:26,766 --> 00:33:28,627
and I hope that helps.
863
00:33:28,627 --> 00:33:29,766
- [Claire] Thank you so much.
864
00:33:29,766 --> 00:33:31,507
- Oh wonderful, God bless you.
865
00:33:31,507 --> 00:33:32,371
- [Claire] Thank you.
866
00:33:32,371 --> 00:33:34,067
- Minister Norton, that was awesome.
867
00:33:34,067 --> 00:33:34,927
- Praise God, praise God.
868
00:33:34,927 --> 00:33:35,804
- So it looks like we
still have some callers.
869
00:33:35,804 --> 00:33:36,637
- Okay, okay, wonderful.
870
00:33:36,637 --> 00:33:40,027
- That you can take so, caller
number two, are you there?
871
00:33:40,027 --> 00:33:41,996
(door knocks)
872
00:33:41,996 --> 00:33:43,075
- Who is it?
873
00:33:43,075 --> 00:33:45,320
- [Ebony] It's Ebony.
874
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,181
- Give me a sec Ebony.
875
00:33:47,181 --> 00:33:49,357
- [Ebony] Kelly, open the door.
876
00:33:49,357 --> 00:33:50,357
- Oh my God.
877
00:33:54,417 --> 00:33:55,881
Hey Ebony.
878
00:33:55,881 --> 00:33:59,217
- Dang Kelly, what took you so long?
879
00:33:59,217 --> 00:34:03,549
- Girl I am so sorry,
but I've been very busy.
880
00:34:03,549 --> 00:34:07,484
- Busy getting lit, girl
and you didn't call me?
881
00:34:07,484 --> 00:34:09,709
What kind of friend are you?
882
00:34:09,709 --> 00:34:13,836
- Ebony girl, look, Stan
and his friends just left,
883
00:34:13,836 --> 00:34:16,009
they were here celebrating
a promotion he just got.
884
00:34:16,009 --> 00:34:18,011
- Please, Stan and his friends?
885
00:34:18,011 --> 00:34:20,090
They would be here
getting this mess up too.
886
00:34:20,090 --> 00:34:23,077
- Don't start with me,
I'm not in the mood, okay?
887
00:34:23,077 --> 00:34:25,860
- Kelly when are you gonna wake up?
888
00:34:25,860 --> 00:34:26,773
When are you gonna quit letting
889
00:34:26,773 --> 00:34:28,789
this man just walk all over you?
890
00:34:28,789 --> 00:34:31,228
- And what make you think he's
walking all over me Ebony?
891
00:34:31,228 --> 00:34:35,390
- First of all you been saved
going on four years now.
892
00:34:35,390 --> 00:34:38,179
This man aint thinking about
getting himself together.
893
00:34:38,179 --> 00:34:40,346
He's still drinking Kelly.
894
00:34:43,072 --> 00:34:44,720
Girl he smoke.
895
00:34:44,720 --> 00:34:47,252
I just ran into him in the club last week.
896
00:34:47,252 --> 00:34:48,330
Don't you think you deserve a man
897
00:34:48,330 --> 00:34:50,420
that's gonna live for God the way you are?
898
00:34:50,420 --> 00:34:52,842
- Yes, I deserve a man
that's living for God,
899
00:34:52,842 --> 00:34:56,106
but unfortunately I'm not
married to one right now.
900
00:34:56,106 --> 00:34:59,093
And anyway who's knows
what his future holds.
901
00:34:59,093 --> 00:35:00,826
- Girl, nothing.
902
00:35:00,826 --> 00:35:02,999
- Listen you right Ebony I've been saved
903
00:35:02,999 --> 00:35:04,336
for about four years now,
904
00:35:04,336 --> 00:35:06,359
but you know what I've
been doing the whole time?
905
00:35:06,359 --> 00:35:07,539
- Girl what?
906
00:35:07,539 --> 00:35:11,056
- I've been lipping God to my
husband, not living for God.
907
00:35:11,056 --> 00:35:12,243
- You've been doing what?
908
00:35:12,243 --> 00:35:13,610
(kelly chuckles)
909
00:35:13,610 --> 00:35:16,826
- Okay, so look the bible
says that we as wives
910
00:35:16,826 --> 00:35:20,451
are to draw our unsaved
husbands by the way we live,
911
00:35:20,451 --> 00:35:23,421
not by our words, but by our actions.
912
00:35:23,421 --> 00:35:27,159
- Girl you serious about this Jesus stuff.
913
00:35:27,159 --> 00:35:29,411
My girl is changing for real.
914
00:35:29,411 --> 00:35:30,819
- I am.
915
00:35:30,819 --> 00:35:33,808
I really am, I even have
an accountability partner
916
00:35:33,808 --> 00:35:36,045
that helps me out so much.
917
00:35:36,045 --> 00:35:37,456
- Well pray for your girl babe
918
00:35:37,456 --> 00:35:39,815
because I ain't no where near that point.
919
00:35:39,815 --> 00:35:42,231
- Trust me, I will.
920
00:35:42,231 --> 00:35:44,900
But look, I appreciate you coming over
921
00:35:44,900 --> 00:35:47,571
and seeing about little old me,
922
00:35:47,571 --> 00:35:50,683
but girl you see I got
all this work to do.
923
00:35:50,683 --> 00:35:53,872
- Girl look I was just coming
by to check on you boo.
924
00:35:53,872 --> 00:35:57,482
Make sure Stan aint have you
locked in no cage or nothing.
925
00:35:57,482 --> 00:35:59,584
But if you need anything call me okay?
926
00:35:59,584 --> 00:36:01,072
- Okay, I will.
927
00:36:01,072 --> 00:36:02,858
- Oh, Kelly.
928
00:36:02,858 --> 00:36:06,254
Julie invited me to some
conference thing, are you going?
929
00:36:06,254 --> 00:36:08,259
- Stan doesn't want me to go.
930
00:36:08,259 --> 00:36:10,119
- Stan don't want you
to go, wait a minute,
931
00:36:10,119 --> 00:36:13,524
so now think you his
daughter and not his wife?
932
00:36:13,524 --> 00:36:16,032
- No Ebony, he doesn't think that.
933
00:36:16,032 --> 00:36:19,741
Look all you need to
know, just understand,
934
00:36:19,741 --> 00:36:23,533
that I'm trying to draw
my husband by what I do.
935
00:36:23,533 --> 00:36:25,227
Not by what I say.
936
00:36:25,227 --> 00:36:28,609
- You know what Kelly, let
me tell you something baby.
937
00:36:28,609 --> 00:36:30,493
You already know me honey,
938
00:36:30,493 --> 00:36:34,176
I'll never understand nothing like that.
939
00:36:34,176 --> 00:36:35,676
I'm gone, call me.
940
00:36:36,622 --> 00:36:39,267
(dramatic music)
941
00:36:39,267 --> 00:36:41,415
- Oh my God, I can't believe
she's still mad at me.
942
00:36:41,415 --> 00:36:43,323
I need y'all to help me with this apology.
943
00:36:43,323 --> 00:36:45,733
Okay, okay, I can go in
there, I can go in there
944
00:36:45,733 --> 00:36:48,756
and I can just be like,
please, please, Kelly, please.
945
00:36:48,756 --> 00:36:50,253
- Nah, that's too much begging.
946
00:36:50,253 --> 00:36:51,192
- You right, you right.
947
00:36:51,192 --> 00:36:52,501
I'm not a beggar.
948
00:36:52,501 --> 00:36:55,169
I know I can just write
an old school letter,
949
00:36:55,169 --> 00:36:57,714
say I'm sorry and slip it under her door.
950
00:36:57,714 --> 00:37:00,433
- No, no, no, no, much too cowardly.
951
00:37:00,433 --> 00:37:01,515
Make it natural.
952
00:37:01,515 --> 00:37:03,339
- You right, cause I'm not a coward.
953
00:37:03,339 --> 00:37:06,943
I know, take her her
favorite cup of coffee
954
00:37:06,943 --> 00:37:08,538
and just apologize.
955
00:37:08,538 --> 00:37:12,714
old school, I'm sorry best friend, period.
956
00:37:12,714 --> 00:37:14,090
- [Woman] Yes, sounds good to me.
957
00:37:14,090 --> 00:37:15,048
- On my way.
958
00:37:15,048 --> 00:37:18,605
(dramatic music)
959
00:37:18,605 --> 00:37:19,438
Kelly.
960
00:37:21,088 --> 00:37:22,005
Hey friend.
961
00:37:22,984 --> 00:37:25,146
- Renee, what's going on?
962
00:37:25,146 --> 00:37:27,245
- I just wanted to apologize.
963
00:37:27,245 --> 00:37:29,454
You know, for the other day,
964
00:37:29,454 --> 00:37:32,951
the way I ran up out of
your office the other day.
965
00:37:32,951 --> 00:37:34,605
I don't want to seem unappreciative
966
00:37:34,605 --> 00:37:35,975
because I really do thank you
967
00:37:35,975 --> 00:37:38,532
for this opportunity
that you're giving me.
968
00:37:38,532 --> 00:37:40,573
It's just this new you,
969
00:37:40,573 --> 00:37:42,128
it's going to take some getting used to.
970
00:37:42,128 --> 00:37:45,959
Now I'm not going to say I
like it, but I do respect it.
971
00:37:45,959 --> 00:37:48,610
- Oh Renee, that's sweet, thank you.
972
00:37:48,610 --> 00:37:50,196
Apology accepted.
973
00:37:50,196 --> 00:37:51,542
- Awwee, so friends for life?
974
00:37:51,542 --> 00:37:53,798
- Of course, you know you're my girl.
975
00:37:53,798 --> 00:37:54,631
- All right.
976
00:37:54,631 --> 00:37:56,355
(Women kiss)
977
00:37:56,355 --> 00:37:59,037
- Girl, let me go and get back to work.
978
00:37:59,037 --> 00:38:00,080
- Please.
979
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:01,373
- Now don't say it like that Kelly.
980
00:38:01,373 --> 00:38:03,693
Like I'm not the only one
around her doing all the work.
981
00:38:03,693 --> 00:38:04,698
I do everything, you don't want me
982
00:38:04,698 --> 00:38:07,781
to take no lunch, can't
eat my chicken, huhh
983
00:38:09,049 --> 00:38:11,037
Oh, I forgot to tell you Mrs. Erickson's
984
00:38:11,037 --> 00:38:13,084
out here to see you,
want me to send her in?
985
00:38:13,084 --> 00:38:14,346
- Yes please.
986
00:38:14,346 --> 00:38:15,951
- Okay.
987
00:38:15,951 --> 00:38:17,539
(Susan knocks)
- Hello.
988
00:38:17,539 --> 00:38:18,372
- [Kelly] Hi.
989
00:38:18,372 --> 00:38:19,205
- Hi.
990
00:38:19,205 --> 00:38:20,038
- [Kelly] How are you?
991
00:38:20,038 --> 00:38:20,996
- Good, and you?
992
00:38:20,996 --> 00:38:21,829
- Nice to see you again.
993
00:38:21,829 --> 00:38:23,249
- Same here.
994
00:38:23,249 --> 00:38:25,860
Thank you so much for fitting
me into your schedule.
995
00:38:25,860 --> 00:38:26,860
I know you're busy,
996
00:38:26,860 --> 00:38:28,367
but I'm wanting to definitely drop
997
00:38:28,367 --> 00:38:30,405
these brochures off as promised.
998
00:38:30,405 --> 00:38:31,682
- Thank you.
999
00:38:31,682 --> 00:38:32,775
I will get these to Renee
1000
00:38:32,775 --> 00:38:34,005
and make sure she puts them in
1001
00:38:34,005 --> 00:38:36,055
their mailboxes before this evening.
1002
00:38:36,055 --> 00:38:37,474
- Perfect.
1003
00:38:37,474 --> 00:38:38,500
Is this you and hubby?
1004
00:38:38,500 --> 00:38:40,301
- Yes, that is my baby.
1005
00:38:40,301 --> 00:38:42,384
- You guys look so happy.
1006
00:38:44,282 --> 00:38:45,512
How long have you been married?
1007
00:38:45,512 --> 00:38:47,013
- Seven years.
1008
00:38:47,013 --> 00:38:47,846
- Wow.
1009
00:38:48,984 --> 00:38:51,592
- I remember Scott and I were happy.
1010
00:38:51,592 --> 00:38:52,509
My, my, my.
1011
00:38:53,413 --> 00:38:55,410
How things change.
1012
00:38:55,410 --> 00:38:58,072
- Mrs. Erickson, are you okay?
1013
00:38:58,072 --> 00:39:02,489
- I'm fine, I'm sorry, and
please just call me Susan.
1014
00:39:03,983 --> 00:39:05,517
We're just going through
a divorce right now
1015
00:39:05,517 --> 00:39:07,096
and things are really hard
1016
00:39:07,096 --> 00:39:09,258
because we're still
living in the same home.
1017
00:39:09,258 --> 00:39:11,355
- I'm so sorry to hear that.
1018
00:39:11,355 --> 00:39:13,066
How long have you all been married?
1019
00:39:13,066 --> 00:39:15,346
- Four years and a day.
1020
00:39:15,346 --> 00:39:18,466
- Wait a minute, your
anniversary was yesterday?
1021
00:39:18,466 --> 00:39:19,299
- I shouldn't be bothering you
1022
00:39:19,299 --> 00:39:21,057
with my personal issues, I apologize.
1023
00:39:21,057 --> 00:39:22,477
- Susan, you are fine.
1024
00:39:22,477 --> 00:39:26,496
Listen, I believe nothing
happens by coincidence.
1025
00:39:26,496 --> 00:39:27,646
- Why do you say that?
1026
00:39:27,646 --> 00:39:28,775
Well, my girlfriends and I,
1027
00:39:28,775 --> 00:39:31,481
we started a wives' book club recently
1028
00:39:31,481 --> 00:39:34,513
and I would love to invite
you to the next one.
1029
00:39:34,513 --> 00:39:36,044
- I couldn't.
1030
00:39:36,044 --> 00:39:39,822
- Susan, listen, marriage is hard work.
1031
00:39:39,822 --> 00:39:41,244
That's why we started this book club.
1032
00:39:41,244 --> 00:39:43,662
So that we can hold
one another accountable
1033
00:39:43,662 --> 00:39:47,324
and encourage each other
and from the sound of it,
1034
00:39:47,324 --> 00:39:49,444
you don't want your marriage to end.
1035
00:39:49,444 --> 00:39:50,277
Why don't you think about it?
1036
00:39:50,277 --> 00:39:52,284
- I think it's a little too late for that.
1037
00:39:52,284 --> 00:39:53,422
- Trust me.
1038
00:39:53,422 --> 00:39:56,073
I think, I think it will help.
1039
00:39:56,073 --> 00:39:58,301
Have you heard of Minister Norton?
1040
00:39:58,301 --> 00:39:59,134
Tracy Norton?
1041
00:39:59,134 --> 00:40:01,382
- her name sounds familiar.
1042
00:40:01,382 --> 00:40:04,871
- Okay, so she has a podcast,
I listen to it all the time
1043
00:40:04,871 --> 00:40:07,575
and recently she recommended this book.
1044
00:40:07,575 --> 00:40:08,768
Are You Really His Good Thing
1045
00:40:08,768 --> 00:40:11,924
by Kyria Williams and Chrissie Appleby.
1046
00:40:11,924 --> 00:40:14,494
I recommend you pick it
up and bring it with you
1047
00:40:14,494 --> 00:40:16,606
when you come to the book club.
1048
00:40:16,606 --> 00:40:19,728
- I'll think about it, I'll consider.
1049
00:40:19,728 --> 00:40:22,525
- Okay, well I'll text you the address
1050
00:40:22,525 --> 00:40:24,902
and I really, really hope you can make it.
1051
00:40:24,902 --> 00:40:26,568
I think it will help you.
1052
00:40:26,568 --> 00:40:27,476
- Thank you so much.
1053
00:40:27,476 --> 00:40:29,262
I really appreciate that.
1054
00:40:29,262 --> 00:40:32,520
- I know we just met,
but I'm here for you.
1055
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:35,599
I can understand how
it could be, you know,
1056
00:40:35,599 --> 00:40:37,356
and I'll keep you in my prayers.
1057
00:40:37,356 --> 00:40:38,332
- Thank you so much.
1058
00:40:38,332 --> 00:40:39,165
- No problem.
1059
00:40:39,165 --> 00:40:40,101
You have a good day.
1060
00:40:40,101 --> 00:40:41,059
- Have a good one.
1061
00:40:41,059 --> 00:40:41,892
- [Kelly] You to.
1062
00:40:41,892 --> 00:40:42,975
- Thank you.
1063
00:40:45,261 --> 00:40:46,972
- Hey, what's up with
the Mrs. Business woman?
1064
00:40:46,972 --> 00:40:47,843
- Hi baby.
1065
00:40:47,843 --> 00:40:49,115
- What I gotta do, pull a number
1066
00:40:49,115 --> 00:40:51,294
or something just to speak to you?
1067
00:40:51,294 --> 00:40:52,127
you poppin' now
1068
00:40:52,127 --> 00:40:54,751
- Stop acting silly,
what are you doing here?
1069
00:40:54,751 --> 00:40:55,929
- Well since I was in the area,
1070
00:40:55,929 --> 00:40:58,287
I decided to stop by and
ask you on a date tonight.
1071
00:40:58,287 --> 00:41:01,276
- Stan, you know it's Friday,
1072
00:41:01,276 --> 00:41:05,609
I have church tonight and
we're handing out turkeys.
1073
00:41:06,556 --> 00:41:08,070
- See what I mean Kelly?
1074
00:41:08,070 --> 00:41:08,903
- [Kelly] What?
1075
00:41:08,903 --> 00:41:10,290
- Its like I got to pull a number just
1076
00:41:10,290 --> 00:41:12,009
to spend some time with my wife.
1077
00:41:12,009 --> 00:41:13,494
- Stan don't be like that.
1078
00:41:13,494 --> 00:41:16,098
Listen, I've been going to
Friday night service for years,
1079
00:41:16,098 --> 00:41:18,508
you know I don't like to miss it.
1080
00:41:18,508 --> 00:41:22,258
- I'm sorry that I even
came down to ask you.
1081
00:41:23,174 --> 00:41:24,341
- Really Stan?
1082
00:41:28,057 --> 00:41:31,724
Don't nothing and nobody
come before my God.
1083
00:41:34,038 --> 00:41:36,463
- Minister Norton you
are preaching here today.
1084
00:41:36,463 --> 00:41:38,985
You said something that was so profound,
1085
00:41:38,985 --> 00:41:43,794
you said that as wives our
first ministry is at home.
1086
00:41:43,794 --> 00:41:47,030
Can you please talk to our
listeners more about that?
1087
00:41:47,030 --> 00:41:48,962
- Absolutely, I would love to.
1088
00:41:48,962 --> 00:41:52,264
You know, we as women must realize
1089
00:41:52,264 --> 00:41:55,041
the season that we're in, in our lives.
1090
00:41:55,041 --> 00:41:58,186
If you are a married woman,
there's a season for you.
1091
00:41:58,186 --> 00:42:01,028
If you're unmarried,
there's a season for you.
1092
00:42:01,028 --> 00:42:04,096
In the Bible in 1st Corinthians 7:34,
1093
00:42:04,096 --> 00:42:07,953
it talks about the difference
between a wife and a Virgin.
1094
00:42:07,953 --> 00:42:11,244
And it says that the unmarried woman cares
1095
00:42:11,244 --> 00:42:14,971
about the things of God
and how she may be Holy,
1096
00:42:14,971 --> 00:42:17,640
both in body and in spirit.
1097
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:19,642
But that the married woman,
1098
00:42:19,642 --> 00:42:22,942
she cares about the things for her husband
1099
00:42:22,942 --> 00:42:24,972
and how she may please him.
1100
00:42:24,972 --> 00:42:26,376
And I want to say something
1101
00:42:26,376 --> 00:42:28,543
to all of your listeners out there today.
1102
00:42:28,543 --> 00:42:32,460
I do not care what your
title is in the church.
1103
00:42:32,460 --> 00:42:34,502
I'm not concerned about that.
1104
00:42:34,502 --> 00:42:38,142
What I am concerned about
is that you are running
1105
00:42:38,142 --> 00:42:41,390
to the church every time
the doors swing open
1106
00:42:41,390 --> 00:42:42,702
and you're volunteering
1107
00:42:42,702 --> 00:42:46,292
for every opportunity that comes by you.
1108
00:42:46,292 --> 00:42:48,920
All the while you are neglecting
1109
00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:51,881
your family and your husband.
1110
00:42:51,881 --> 00:42:53,797
But your first ministry,
1111
00:42:53,797 --> 00:42:57,380
your first ministry is
at home, sweetheart.
1112
00:42:59,296 --> 00:43:00,296
- Oh my God.
1113
00:43:01,297 --> 00:43:02,697
I'm neglecting Stan.
1114
00:43:02,697 --> 00:43:05,447
(dramatic music)
1115
00:43:18,019 --> 00:43:19,635
I'm glad you're still here.
1116
00:43:19,635 --> 00:43:23,150
Look, I'm sorry, I change my mind.
1117
00:43:23,150 --> 00:43:26,114
I would love to go on a
date with you tonight.
1118
00:43:26,114 --> 00:43:27,438
- I'm good Kelly.
1119
00:43:27,438 --> 00:43:28,322
You can go ahead and pass out
1120
00:43:28,322 --> 00:43:29,480
your little turkeys or whatever
1121
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:30,870
I don't want to
inconvenience you or nothing.
1122
00:43:30,870 --> 00:43:32,330
You got your little church thing going on,
1123
00:43:32,330 --> 00:43:33,676
so go ahead and do that, its cool.
1124
00:43:33,676 --> 00:43:35,900
- Baby I promise you it's fine, okay?
1125
00:43:35,900 --> 00:43:37,630
- Yeah alright.
1126
00:43:37,630 --> 00:43:39,218
- I love you.
1127
00:43:39,218 --> 00:43:40,051
- Yup.
1128
00:43:43,277 --> 00:43:44,194
- Mm mm mm.
1129
00:43:45,379 --> 00:43:48,129
Again, Holy spirit have your way.
1130
00:43:49,084 --> 00:43:50,834
- Yes, have your way.
1131
00:43:52,241 --> 00:43:54,479
- Renee, get back to work.
1132
00:43:54,479 --> 00:43:55,812
- I'm om lunch.
1133
00:43:57,633 --> 00:44:01,252
- Hey ladies, so we have a visitor.
1134
00:44:01,252 --> 00:44:03,554
- Everybody, this is my girl, Susan,
1135
00:44:03,554 --> 00:44:06,446
Susan, this Tasha, Candice, and Ebony,
1136
00:44:06,446 --> 00:44:07,431
and you already know Julie.
1137
00:44:07,431 --> 00:44:08,264
- Hi.
1138
00:44:08,264 --> 00:44:09,097
- Hey Susan.
1139
00:44:09,097 --> 00:44:09,930
- [Susan] Nice to meet you ladies.
1140
00:44:09,930 --> 00:44:10,763
- Hey.
1141
00:44:10,763 --> 00:44:12,121
- Thanks so much for
allowing me to join you all.
1142
00:44:12,121 --> 00:44:14,180
I've actually never been
to anything like this,
1143
00:44:14,180 --> 00:44:16,476
so I don't really know what to expect.
1144
00:44:16,476 --> 00:44:18,109
- Girl, let me warn, you can expect
1145
00:44:18,109 --> 00:44:19,773
a whole lot a bougieness.
1146
00:44:19,773 --> 00:44:21,896
- Cut it out Ebony.
1147
00:44:21,896 --> 00:44:24,263
Susan please don't pay her any attention.
1148
00:44:24,263 --> 00:44:27,446
But its okay, we're just
glad that you could make it.
1149
00:44:27,446 --> 00:44:29,474
Actually we're just about to get started,
1150
00:44:29,474 --> 00:44:32,413
so feel free to listen
in or if you wanna jump
1151
00:44:32,413 --> 00:44:34,532
in at any moment feel free to do so.
1152
00:44:34,532 --> 00:44:35,365
- Thank you.
1153
00:44:35,365 --> 00:44:36,607
- Yeah.
1154
00:44:36,607 --> 00:44:40,099
All right ladies, so go ahead
and make yourself comfortable.
1155
00:44:40,099 --> 00:44:42,374
All right ladies so we are on chapter two,
1156
00:44:43,391 --> 00:44:44,224
romance and riches.
1157
00:44:45,729 --> 00:44:47,319
- [Woman] Yes honey.
1158
00:44:47,319 --> 00:44:49,553
- Okay, so Susan, what we do is we read
1159
00:44:49,553 --> 00:44:51,384
a chapter of the book each week.
1160
00:44:51,384 --> 00:44:53,177
At the end of each chapter,
1161
00:44:53,177 --> 00:44:54,823
there are little things that you can do
1162
00:44:54,823 --> 00:44:57,561
to enhance your marriage, you know.
1163
00:44:57,561 --> 00:45:00,186
We come back together, sitting like so,
1164
00:45:00,186 --> 00:45:01,773
and each lady gets a chance to talk
1165
00:45:01,773 --> 00:45:03,583
about what she got out of that chapter.
1166
00:45:03,583 --> 00:45:04,796
- Okay, great.
1167
00:45:04,796 --> 00:45:05,909
I'm just listening.
1168
00:45:05,909 --> 00:45:07,244
- Oh, that's fine.
1169
00:45:07,244 --> 00:45:09,338
All right, so we'll go ahead
and begin with you Tasha.
1170
00:45:09,338 --> 00:45:10,849
What'd you get out of this chapter?
1171
00:45:10,849 --> 00:45:13,501
- Okay well, this chapter
actually helped me a lot.
1172
00:45:13,501 --> 00:45:14,409
In this section she focused
1173
00:45:14,409 --> 00:45:18,115
on making her obligation as
a wife, our first priority,
1174
00:45:18,115 --> 00:45:20,105
over everything we have going on
1175
00:45:20,105 --> 00:45:22,167
and you all know I have a lot going on.
1176
00:45:22,167 --> 00:45:23,817
(group agreeing)
1177
00:45:23,817 --> 00:45:25,115
Whatever.
1178
00:45:25,115 --> 00:45:26,856
There was one thing that really stood out
1179
00:45:26,856 --> 00:45:29,796
to me in this section
and I highlighted it.
1180
00:45:29,796 --> 00:45:31,897
The enemy will play on your emotions.
1181
00:45:31,897 --> 00:45:33,545
And have you thinking that withholding sex
1182
00:45:33,545 --> 00:45:36,384
from your husband will teach him a lesson,
1183
00:45:36,384 --> 00:45:38,025
but she pointed out that in the bible,
1184
00:45:38,025 --> 00:45:39,967
it states that by withholding sex,
1185
00:45:39,967 --> 00:45:42,369
we're actually placing
them in a tempting state.
1186
00:45:42,369 --> 00:45:43,318
- Whoa, wait a minute.
1187
00:45:43,318 --> 00:45:45,097
What about the wives that don't withhold
1188
00:45:45,097 --> 00:45:47,649
from their husbands and
he still ain't no good?
1189
00:45:47,649 --> 00:45:49,354
And out here giving his baby mama money
1190
00:45:49,354 --> 00:45:50,404
that we aint even got?
1191
00:45:50,404 --> 00:45:51,684
- Ebony.
1192
00:45:51,684 --> 00:45:54,516
Come on, that's not the
focus right now, okay?
1193
00:45:54,516 --> 00:45:56,636
We'll deal with that in
another subject girl.
1194
00:45:56,636 --> 00:45:58,146
- Positive vibes only Ebony.
1195
00:45:58,146 --> 00:46:00,484
- Girl didn't I tell you,
a whole lot of bougieness.
1196
00:46:00,484 --> 00:46:05,143
- Anyways, Tasha that was
really good, and you know what?
1197
00:46:05,143 --> 00:46:07,975
That was certainly a word for me.
1198
00:46:07,975 --> 00:46:09,295
Ebony.
1199
00:46:09,295 --> 00:46:11,987
What'd you get out of this week's chapter?
1200
00:46:11,987 --> 00:46:13,908
- skip me, I wasn't feeling it this week.
1201
00:46:13,908 --> 00:46:14,866
- Ebony.
1202
00:46:14,866 --> 00:46:17,417
- Girl look, I be doing all this stuff
1203
00:46:17,417 --> 00:46:19,885
and he act like he still
don't see me changing.
1204
00:46:19,885 --> 00:46:22,755
And you already know, I'm not
about to be nobody's fool.
1205
00:46:22,755 --> 00:46:25,005
- Ebony, look we all agreed
1206
00:46:25,925 --> 00:46:28,204
that we were gonna take this seriously.
1207
00:46:28,204 --> 00:46:31,193
This is not a journey
that you can take lightly.
1208
00:46:31,193 --> 00:46:32,788
Look, we ought to be this way
1209
00:46:32,788 --> 00:46:35,610
as wives whether they notice it or not.
1210
00:46:35,610 --> 00:46:37,636
I mean because, we're not doing
1211
00:46:37,636 --> 00:46:41,300
this unto them, we're doing it unto God.
1212
00:46:41,300 --> 00:46:42,402
- You know what?
1213
00:46:42,402 --> 00:46:43,760
We already said it before,
1214
00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:46,269
let's say it on the count of three again.
1215
00:46:46,269 --> 00:46:48,375
One, two, three.
1216
00:46:48,375 --> 00:46:51,068
- [All] We're doing this unto God.
1217
00:46:51,068 --> 00:46:54,413
- Yes, okay ladies let's get
back to our book discussion.
1218
00:46:54,413 --> 00:46:55,371
- Thank you Candice.
1219
00:46:55,371 --> 00:46:57,010
- So in section three she talks about
1220
00:46:57,010 --> 00:46:59,224
being good managers of our homes
1221
00:46:59,224 --> 00:47:00,985
and a good example she wrote about
1222
00:47:00,985 --> 00:47:03,311
was the husband being the thermometer
1223
00:47:03,311 --> 00:47:05,772
and the wives being the thermostat.
1224
00:47:05,772 --> 00:47:09,215
Now the thermometer, it just reacts
1225
00:47:09,215 --> 00:47:11,511
to what's happening around it right,
1226
00:47:11,511 --> 00:47:14,028
but that thermostat, that thermostat
1227
00:47:14,028 --> 00:47:16,428
it monitors the environment.
1228
00:47:16,428 --> 00:47:18,578
And if it gets to hot or to cold
1229
00:47:18,578 --> 00:47:22,278
it decides what to do to
correct the situation.
1230
00:47:22,278 --> 00:47:23,944
- [Woman] Girl now that's good.
1231
00:47:23,944 --> 00:47:25,657
- No it really is good, though
1232
00:47:25,657 --> 00:47:27,157
because when he comes home with
1233
00:47:27,157 --> 00:47:30,062
an attitude I instantly get one too.
1234
00:47:30,062 --> 00:47:32,388
Look, I don't care what
you've been through today,
1235
00:47:32,388 --> 00:47:35,257
don't walk up in my
house with an attitude.
1236
00:47:35,257 --> 00:47:36,923
- Now that's what I'm talking about boo.
1237
00:47:36,923 --> 00:47:38,250
- [Woman] No.
1238
00:47:38,250 --> 00:47:40,792
- I'm saying that's how
I used to react to it.
1239
00:47:40,792 --> 00:47:43,959
But now I see that I am the thermostat
1240
00:47:45,342 --> 00:47:47,921
and I can just adjust the temperature
1241
00:47:47,921 --> 00:47:49,457
in the environment baby.
1242
00:47:49,457 --> 00:47:51,977
(women cheers)
1243
00:47:51,977 --> 00:47:54,125
- Can I just cut in here
ladies and say something?
1244
00:47:54,125 --> 00:47:55,992
- Sure, go ahead.
1245
00:47:55,992 --> 00:47:59,495
- First of all, what you all
are doing here is amazing.
1246
00:47:59,495 --> 00:48:00,722
I mean, I really wish that
1247
00:48:00,722 --> 00:48:03,218
I had met you guys before Scott
1248
00:48:03,218 --> 00:48:05,537
and I got on this page in our marriage.
1249
00:48:05,537 --> 00:48:06,935
- Sweetheart, look, if you want
1250
00:48:06,935 --> 00:48:09,026
your marriage to work, it can,
1251
00:48:09,026 --> 00:48:11,147
nothing is too hard for God.
1252
00:48:11,147 --> 00:48:13,189
- And I know, but you know,
1253
00:48:13,189 --> 00:48:16,290
Scott and I are going
through a divorce right now.
1254
00:48:16,290 --> 00:48:19,097
And honestly, I'm just listening
1255
00:48:19,097 --> 00:48:21,882
for when God gives me an instruction
1256
00:48:21,882 --> 00:48:24,318
and blesses me with my next husband.
1257
00:48:24,318 --> 00:48:26,261
- Your next husband?
1258
00:48:26,261 --> 00:48:27,858
- Baby, cause he would
give you another one honey.
1259
00:48:27,858 --> 00:48:28,997
- Stop it girl.
1260
00:48:28,997 --> 00:48:31,347
- Susan you married to Scott right now.
1261
00:48:31,347 --> 00:48:33,486
That should be your focus.
1262
00:48:33,486 --> 00:48:36,258
Why is it that we could trust God,
1263
00:48:36,258 --> 00:48:38,405
you know, for jobs, you know,
1264
00:48:38,405 --> 00:48:41,707
we can trust him to watch
over and save our kids,
1265
00:48:41,707 --> 00:48:44,638
heal our bodies, but when
it comes to relationships,
1266
00:48:44,638 --> 00:48:46,952
most importantly, our marriage,
1267
00:48:46,952 --> 00:48:48,991
we don't believe that he could fix it.
1268
00:48:48,991 --> 00:48:51,241
Girl, God can fix anything.
1269
00:48:52,845 --> 00:48:53,806
- [Woman] That's right.
1270
00:48:53,806 --> 00:48:56,219
- All he needs is a willing vessel,
1271
00:48:56,219 --> 00:49:00,363
a yielded vessel in your house
in order for him to work.
1272
00:49:00,363 --> 00:49:02,318
Trust me, I know.
1273
00:49:02,318 --> 00:49:04,430
- [Woman] That's good.
1274
00:49:04,430 --> 00:49:08,729
- I honestly do want our marriage to work.
1275
00:49:08,729 --> 00:49:11,444
I just don't think it can in this state.
1276
00:49:11,444 --> 00:49:13,233
- Oh my God.
1277
00:49:13,233 --> 00:49:15,706
- Honey have y'all tried counseling?
1278
00:49:15,706 --> 00:49:19,402
- Listen, this church,
the pastor and his wife,
1279
00:49:19,402 --> 00:49:22,260
they hold these marriage
sessions every month called
1280
00:49:22,260 --> 00:49:24,586
Marriage Works If You Work It.
1281
00:49:24,586 --> 00:49:27,003
I really think you should go.
1282
00:49:27,889 --> 00:49:28,775
- And the pastor also has
1283
00:49:28,775 --> 00:49:29,796
a book out now called
1284
00:49:29,796 --> 00:49:32,455
The Marriage Cup and The
Covenant, Kelly did you read it?
1285
00:49:32,455 --> 00:49:34,845
- I did, I've been trying to
get Stan to read it with me,
1286
00:49:34,845 --> 00:49:37,650
but you know how that is.
1287
00:49:37,650 --> 00:49:39,164
- Do they do counseling at all?
1288
00:49:39,164 --> 00:49:41,051
- You know what I believe they do,
1289
00:49:41,051 --> 00:49:42,494
but I'll find out for you.
1290
00:49:42,494 --> 00:49:43,585
- Please do.
1291
00:49:43,585 --> 00:49:44,810
- Okay.
1292
00:49:44,810 --> 00:49:46,196
It's going to be all right girl.
1293
00:49:46,196 --> 00:49:49,029
(dramatic music)
1294
00:49:52,071 --> 00:49:55,038
Welcome home Mr. Stevenson.
1295
00:49:55,038 --> 00:49:58,304
- Hey now, that's sexy right there.
1296
00:49:58,304 --> 00:50:00,868
- You talking about the food or me baby?
1297
00:50:00,868 --> 00:50:03,886
- Most definitely not the food.
1298
00:50:03,886 --> 00:50:05,053
- Bonappetit.
1299
00:50:06,151 --> 00:50:08,314
- Now look, Kelly, I could
get used to this right here.
1300
00:50:08,314 --> 00:50:09,147
- Oh yeah?
1301
00:50:09,147 --> 00:50:10,020
- Yeah.
1302
00:50:10,020 --> 00:50:12,359
- Well good because I just wanted
1303
00:50:12,359 --> 00:50:16,705
a nice romantic dinner
with my husband tonight.
1304
00:50:16,705 --> 00:50:17,652
- I'm a tell you what, let me get out
1305
00:50:17,652 --> 00:50:21,118
of these sweaty gym clothes,
and I'm a be back to join.
1306
00:50:21,118 --> 00:50:23,400
- Okay, you better hurry up.
1307
00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:25,301
- I'm coming, believe that,
1308
00:50:25,301 --> 00:50:28,051
(Kelly chuckles)
1309
00:50:30,836 --> 00:50:33,122
I don't know what got into her
1310
00:50:33,122 --> 00:50:36,496
but what ever it is I'm most definitely
1311
00:50:36,496 --> 00:50:39,121
about to take advantage
of it, I know that much.
1312
00:50:39,121 --> 00:50:40,502
(computer clicks)
1313
00:50:40,502 --> 00:50:43,252
(dramatic music)
1314
00:50:52,834 --> 00:50:54,427
- Baby what are you doing?
1315
00:50:54,427 --> 00:50:56,618
You're supposed to be in the shower.
1316
00:50:56,618 --> 00:50:57,704
- Well you know I was planning on getting
1317
00:50:57,704 --> 00:50:59,410
into the shower until I seen
1318
00:50:59,410 --> 00:51:01,854
that all our money is
going down the drain.
1319
00:51:01,854 --> 00:51:03,614
Kelly what is this?
1320
00:51:03,614 --> 00:51:05,339
- Baby, they're small tithes
and offering statements,
1321
00:51:05,339 --> 00:51:07,298
put that down okay.
1322
00:51:07,298 --> 00:51:09,686
I'm in here waiting on you.
1323
00:51:09,686 --> 00:51:11,007
- Are you telling me that you
1324
00:51:11,007 --> 00:51:13,359
are giving this church this much money?
1325
00:51:13,359 --> 00:51:17,034
- Stan, I pay my Tithes,
and I give a little
1326
00:51:17,034 --> 00:51:19,347
more tithes and offering,
why are you tripping?
1327
00:51:19,347 --> 00:51:21,140
- Why am I tripping?
1328
00:51:21,140 --> 00:51:22,515
Kelly this statement
say that you been giving
1329
00:51:22,515 --> 00:51:26,183
that church over $10,000 within a year.
1330
00:51:26,183 --> 00:51:27,940
What is wrong with you?
1331
00:51:27,940 --> 00:51:29,319
You lost your mind or something?
1332
00:51:29,319 --> 00:51:31,760
- Baby you really need
to calm down for real.
1333
00:51:31,760 --> 00:51:35,410
Look, I got dinner ready, come on boo.
1334
00:51:35,410 --> 00:51:37,015
- Like some thing is
certainly wrong with you,
1335
00:51:37,015 --> 00:51:39,543
like them people got you brain washed.
1336
00:51:39,543 --> 00:51:41,238
Do you know that you
living in an apartment
1337
00:51:41,238 --> 00:51:42,169
but I you that little preacher,
1338
00:51:42,169 --> 00:51:43,887
he got a nice little lavish home
1339
00:51:43,887 --> 00:51:46,858
with nice cars and taking
care of his family.
1340
00:51:46,858 --> 00:51:48,383
But you giving him all our money.
1341
00:51:48,383 --> 00:51:49,292
- I'm not about to go back
1342
00:51:49,292 --> 00:51:51,792
and forth with you about
no tithes and offerings.
1343
00:51:51,792 --> 00:51:54,125
You don't even go to church.
1344
00:51:56,505 --> 00:51:58,869
Stan I went and dressed sexy for you,
1345
00:51:58,869 --> 00:52:01,017
I went and got sushi for god sakes,
1346
00:52:01,017 --> 00:52:02,709
trying to set up this
whole romantic evening
1347
00:52:02,709 --> 00:52:04,867
and you wanna sit up and
argue about some tithes
1348
00:52:04,867 --> 00:52:07,436
and offerings, you are unbelievable.
1349
00:52:07,436 --> 00:52:08,306
I can't believe you.
1350
00:52:08,306 --> 00:52:10,386
- Now see typical Kelly, you always try
1351
00:52:10,386 --> 00:52:12,159
to make it like I'm tripping or something,
1352
00:52:12,159 --> 00:52:13,647
well you aint gonna get it off this time
1353
00:52:13,647 --> 00:52:16,684
cause at the end of the
day Kelly, you were wrong.
1354
00:52:16,684 --> 00:52:18,567
You act a complete fool when I go out
1355
00:52:18,567 --> 00:52:21,977
to spend some money, its
always we're on a budget,
1356
00:52:21,977 --> 00:52:23,596
we can't spend too much money here.
1357
00:52:23,596 --> 00:52:26,869
I see why now Kelly, cause you
spending it at that church.
1358
00:52:26,869 --> 00:52:30,073
- Baby you are not about
to make me feel guilty
1359
00:52:30,073 --> 00:52:32,771
about my obedience to God, okay.
1360
00:52:32,771 --> 00:52:35,646
You kill me Stan when you want prayer or
1361
00:52:35,646 --> 00:52:38,021
you want God's favor to help
get your out of some trouble,
1362
00:52:38,021 --> 00:52:40,607
then it all good, but
the moment God requires
1363
00:52:40,607 --> 00:52:44,891
something from you like
money, now its a problem.
1364
00:52:44,891 --> 00:52:47,693
And he the one that blessed
you with it in the first place.
1365
00:52:47,693 --> 00:52:49,254
- Wow.
1366
00:52:49,254 --> 00:52:51,997
So instead of you understanding
where I'm coming from
1367
00:52:51,997 --> 00:52:52,830
you're really going to sit
1368
00:52:52,830 --> 00:52:55,552
over there and defend this foolishness?
1369
00:52:55,552 --> 00:52:59,094
Kelly, I don't get you like, I don't.
1370
00:52:59,094 --> 00:53:01,385
- I don't want to do this tonight okay.
1371
00:53:01,385 --> 00:53:03,901
We were having such a nice evening.
1372
00:53:03,901 --> 00:53:07,484
Can we please just finish what we started?
1373
00:53:08,326 --> 00:53:10,630
We have a long day tomorrow
1374
00:53:10,630 --> 00:53:13,459
and I just want to enjoy this night
1375
00:53:13,459 --> 00:53:15,507
and not let this ruin it.
1376
00:53:15,507 --> 00:53:17,254
- Well, it's too late for that.
1377
00:53:17,254 --> 00:53:19,437
It's certainly been ruined.
1378
00:53:19,437 --> 00:53:21,443
- Stan are you serious?
1379
00:53:21,443 --> 00:53:23,075
- As a heart attack.
1380
00:53:23,075 --> 00:53:24,825
I'll be on the couch.
1381
00:53:25,990 --> 00:53:28,573
(upbeat music)
1382
00:53:33,208 --> 00:53:34,878
- Look at this.
1383
00:53:34,878 --> 00:53:36,795
Girl look, come on now.
1384
00:53:38,223 --> 00:53:39,723
- Lord have mercy.
1385
00:53:40,603 --> 00:53:41,867
Smell like your mamas, and grandmas,
1386
00:53:41,867 --> 00:53:44,337
and auntie, and all them been
in here cooking with y'all.
1387
00:53:44,337 --> 00:53:45,441
- Hey, hey you funny man,
1388
00:53:45,441 --> 00:53:47,452
but hurry up with that
sweet potato though.
1389
00:53:47,452 --> 00:53:48,410
- At your service.
1390
00:53:48,410 --> 00:53:49,410
- Thank you.
1391
00:53:50,850 --> 00:53:52,552
- Hey everyone.
1392
00:53:52,552 --> 00:53:53,552
- Hey Tasha.
1393
00:53:55,516 --> 00:53:56,349
- What's up, what's up big man.
1394
00:53:56,349 --> 00:53:58,495
- What's up man.
1395
00:53:58,495 --> 00:54:01,423
- Everything looks so
good, and smells so nice.
1396
00:54:01,423 --> 00:54:04,479
- [Julie] Thank you girl,
you knew we try honey.
1397
00:54:04,479 --> 00:54:07,022
- Yo, yo, yo, what up with it family.
1398
00:54:07,022 --> 00:54:09,284
- What's going on people.
1399
00:54:09,284 --> 00:54:10,519
- Hey yo, hey J dude.
1400
00:54:10,519 --> 00:54:11,352
- Yes sir?
1401
00:54:11,352 --> 00:54:12,617
- So I hear that the turkey that you got
1402
00:54:12,617 --> 00:54:15,454
is supposed have me biting my fingers off.
1403
00:54:15,454 --> 00:54:17,370
Well I'm here to be the judge of that.
1404
00:54:17,370 --> 00:54:19,252
- Yeah cause you know me big J.
1405
00:54:19,252 --> 00:54:21,917
I'm ready, I got a big
old healthy appetite.
1406
00:54:21,917 --> 00:54:23,274
- Five to ten minutes and guess what?
1407
00:54:23,274 --> 00:54:24,107
- What's up?
1408
00:54:24,107 --> 00:54:27,050
- Y'all are gonna be, tasting greatness.
1409
00:54:27,050 --> 00:54:28,238
You feel what I'm saying?
1410
00:54:28,238 --> 00:54:29,970
(men chatters)
1411
00:54:29,970 --> 00:54:32,556
Hey but, he Stan, is Scott coming or what?
1412
00:54:32,556 --> 00:54:35,029
- Nah man, no Scott man,
you know what I'm saying.
1413
00:54:35,029 --> 00:54:37,153
Him and his wife, they're
going through it right now,
1414
00:54:37,153 --> 00:54:38,384
he thought it was gonna
be a lil fellas night,
1415
00:54:38,384 --> 00:54:40,469
but when I told him it
was a couples thing,
1416
00:54:40,469 --> 00:54:42,787
he was Like ah, he'll pass.
1417
00:54:42,787 --> 00:54:45,870
- Ladies, come help me set the table.
1418
00:54:46,770 --> 00:54:49,776
- We don't want you doing
anything, we got it girl.
1419
00:54:49,776 --> 00:54:50,609
- Right.
1420
00:54:50,609 --> 00:54:51,526
- Let's go.
1421
00:54:56,723 --> 00:54:58,105
- Now James, look.
1422
00:54:58,105 --> 00:55:00,601
I aint gonna lie, I still got my fingers
1423
00:55:00,601 --> 00:55:03,491
but that turkey was good though.
1424
00:55:03,491 --> 00:55:04,800
- Thank you.
1425
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:07,030
- Everything was absolutely amazing.
1426
00:55:07,030 --> 00:55:08,110
- [Man] True that, true that.
1427
00:55:08,110 --> 00:55:11,725
- But it is my favorite
part of the evening.
1428
00:55:11,725 --> 00:55:14,077
We're about to play a new game
1429
00:55:14,077 --> 00:55:16,752
and its inspired by the newly wed game.
1430
00:55:16,752 --> 00:55:18,417
Just a little bit different, right babe?
1431
00:55:18,417 --> 00:55:21,149
- That's right, check this
out, so real simple game.
1432
00:55:21,149 --> 00:55:23,609
Each couple gets a note card, okay.
1433
00:55:23,609 --> 00:55:26,864
Now women, you're going to
have the note cards first.
1434
00:55:26,864 --> 00:55:29,466
We got men and women on
opposite sides of the table.
1435
00:55:29,466 --> 00:55:31,359
Just to make things a
little more interesting.
1436
00:55:31,359 --> 00:55:32,390
- [Man] All right.
1437
00:55:32,390 --> 00:55:35,131
- All right, we're going
to ask 10 questions.
1438
00:55:35,131 --> 00:55:36,368
After those 10 questions,
1439
00:55:36,368 --> 00:55:37,280
ladies, you're going to write down
1440
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:39,616
what you think your husband would answer.
1441
00:55:39,616 --> 00:55:40,509
- [Woman] Okay.
1442
00:55:40,509 --> 00:55:42,307
- Men, you give the answer
1443
00:55:42,307 --> 00:55:45,344
and ladies we'll see how
well you know your man.
1444
00:55:45,344 --> 00:55:46,251
- We got it babes, we got it.
1445
00:55:46,251 --> 00:55:47,084
- We got this.
1446
00:55:47,084 --> 00:55:47,917
- Simple enough, right?
1447
00:55:47,917 --> 00:55:48,750
- Absolutely.
1448
00:55:48,750 --> 00:55:49,583
- Well let's get started.
1449
00:55:49,583 --> 00:55:51,798
(group chattering)
1450
00:55:51,798 --> 00:55:53,974
- All right, y'all ready?
1451
00:55:53,974 --> 00:55:55,845
- Question number one.
1452
00:55:55,845 --> 00:55:58,845
When and where did y'all first kiss?
1453
00:56:01,283 --> 00:56:02,361
- Easy one.
1454
00:56:02,361 --> 00:56:03,216
- Come on.
1455
00:56:03,216 --> 00:56:04,049
- Let's start with Henry.
1456
00:56:04,049 --> 00:56:04,882
- Yeah let's start with him.
1457
00:56:04,882 --> 00:56:05,715
- Yeah that's easy.
1458
00:56:05,715 --> 00:56:06,548
- Okay.
1459
00:56:06,548 --> 00:56:08,628
- In the bat-mobile on her lunch break.
1460
00:56:08,628 --> 00:56:11,378
(group laughing)
1461
00:56:13,041 --> 00:56:16,208
- Girl you was getting it in on break?
1462
00:56:17,798 --> 00:56:19,510
- Go ahead and reveal your answer.
1463
00:56:19,510 --> 00:56:21,424
- He is correct.
1464
00:56:21,424 --> 00:56:24,007
(group laughs)
1465
00:56:28,291 --> 00:56:32,453
- Well for us it was the
first day that we met.
1466
00:56:32,453 --> 00:56:35,703
- Dang, my girls are some undercovers.
1467
00:56:37,171 --> 00:56:39,705
- Slow up Ebony because it was actually
1468
00:56:39,705 --> 00:56:42,456
a week after we met at my house.
1469
00:56:42,456 --> 00:56:44,970
- Girl please, same difference.
1470
00:56:44,970 --> 00:56:46,339
- Girl stop it.
1471
00:56:46,339 --> 00:56:50,256
- Come to think of it,
I think I remember that.
1472
00:56:51,568 --> 00:56:56,568
- Okay, okay, listen, listen,
Donte, what you got to say?
1473
00:56:56,784 --> 00:56:57,617
- Oh yeah.
1474
00:56:59,030 --> 00:57:00,494
Under the mistletoe.
1475
00:57:00,494 --> 00:57:01,827
- [Woman] What?
1476
00:57:01,827 --> 00:57:04,994
- At my family's annual holiday party.
1477
00:57:06,496 --> 00:57:07,329
- The mistletoe.
1478
00:57:07,329 --> 00:57:09,833
- You ole romantic fellow, you.
1479
00:57:09,833 --> 00:57:12,224
- I will never forget that day.
1480
00:57:12,224 --> 00:57:13,641
- Oh my goodness.
1481
00:57:15,763 --> 00:57:18,200
- Okay, Antwan, what about you?
1482
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:19,112
- [Antwan] Oh me?
1483
00:57:19,112 --> 00:57:19,945
- Yeah.
1484
00:57:19,945 --> 00:57:21,362
- I have no idea.
1485
00:57:22,294 --> 00:57:23,542
- Really?
1486
00:57:23,542 --> 00:57:26,109
This guy here, Ebony what did you write?
1487
00:57:26,109 --> 00:57:27,694
- I knew this fool didn't knew
1488
00:57:27,694 --> 00:57:30,944
but yall may as well gone
and give us our point.
1489
00:57:32,064 --> 00:57:33,072
- Clueless.
1490
00:57:33,072 --> 00:57:34,464
(group laughing)
1491
00:57:34,464 --> 00:57:35,580
- She the one that didn't know.
1492
00:57:35,580 --> 00:57:38,057
- You know what, while we're
here, just go on and tell us
1493
00:57:38,057 --> 00:57:39,109
when and where it was.
1494
00:57:39,109 --> 00:57:40,332
- Right here.
1495
00:57:40,332 --> 00:57:43,374
- I couldn't tell you when
and where it was neither.
1496
00:57:43,374 --> 00:57:44,207
- My God.
1497
00:57:44,207 --> 00:57:47,230
- Wait a minute, y'all not participating?
1498
00:57:47,230 --> 00:57:48,635
- No, we're hosting.
1499
00:57:48,635 --> 00:57:49,624
- So sweet.
1500
00:57:49,624 --> 00:57:52,786
- Anyway, all right next question.
1501
00:57:52,786 --> 00:57:56,580
What one word best describes
you in the morning,
1502
00:57:56,580 --> 00:58:01,580
and remember gentlemen, its
what she would say about you.
1503
00:58:01,780 --> 00:58:05,057
All right, this time we're
gonna start with Antwan.
1504
00:58:05,057 --> 00:58:07,710
- Babe, it's a good pie.
1505
00:58:07,710 --> 00:58:08,928
My baby know I be horny.
1506
00:58:08,928 --> 00:58:11,437
(group laughs)
1507
00:58:11,437 --> 00:58:13,431
- We may as well go on and end the game,
1508
00:58:13,431 --> 00:58:15,848
cause we already the winners.
1509
00:58:17,099 --> 00:58:18,682
I know my man baby.
1510
00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:22,285
That's my man.
1511
00:58:22,285 --> 00:58:24,952
- [Julie] Donte, what about you?
1512
00:58:24,952 --> 00:58:25,952
- Energetic.
1513
00:58:26,835 --> 00:58:28,925
- Hyper, energetic, its
the same thing right?
1514
00:58:28,925 --> 00:58:29,758
- It is.
1515
00:58:31,468 --> 00:58:33,301
Stan, what about you.
1516
00:58:34,656 --> 00:58:36,863
- I'm gonna say hasty.
1517
00:58:36,863 --> 00:58:38,260
- Hasty?
1518
00:58:38,260 --> 00:58:40,285
Why in the world?
1519
00:58:40,285 --> 00:58:42,599
Bro you use the word hasty bro?
1520
00:58:42,599 --> 00:58:44,432
- What you write down.
1521
00:58:45,859 --> 00:58:47,674
- I wrote lost.
1522
00:58:47,674 --> 00:58:49,776
What does hasty even mean Stan?
1523
00:58:49,776 --> 00:58:51,655
- Oh so now you trying to front me out?
1524
00:58:51,655 --> 00:58:54,224
Well it mean rushed,
swift, hurried, you know?
1525
00:58:54,224 --> 00:58:57,360
- Okay boy, you better
know those synonyms.
1526
00:58:57,360 --> 00:58:58,193
- [Stan] Thank you.
1527
00:58:58,193 --> 00:59:00,720
- Don't encourage him.
1528
00:59:00,720 --> 00:59:02,887
- All right so, you Henry.
1529
00:59:06,550 --> 00:59:07,383
- Cranky.
1530
00:59:09,273 --> 00:59:10,940
- Crabby, extremely.
1531
00:59:12,677 --> 00:59:13,708
- Maybe you need to adjust
1532
00:59:13,708 --> 00:59:15,427
the temperature in the environment.
1533
00:59:15,427 --> 00:59:17,868
(women laughing)
1534
00:59:17,868 --> 00:59:19,577
- Wait a minute, now listen.
1535
00:59:19,577 --> 00:59:23,267
Y'all already know his
attitude changes after that.
1536
00:59:23,267 --> 00:59:24,305
- I'll bet it does.
1537
00:59:24,305 --> 00:59:25,911
(women laughing)
1538
00:59:25,911 --> 00:59:27,521
- Wait, hold on everybody, hold on.
1539
00:59:27,521 --> 00:59:29,933
Okay now Julie, get your pen
1540
00:59:29,933 --> 00:59:31,948
and your piece of paper ready
and write down your answer.
1541
00:59:31,948 --> 00:59:33,889
- Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
1542
00:59:33,889 --> 00:59:35,908
You need to let us be great man.
1543
00:59:35,908 --> 00:59:37,921
We just here hosting bruh.
1544
00:59:37,921 --> 00:59:39,562
- Right.
1545
00:59:39,562 --> 00:59:42,122
- On to question number three.
1546
00:59:42,122 --> 00:59:43,671
What is the first thing that your
1547
00:59:43,671 --> 00:59:46,559
spouse would do if they won the lottery.
1548
00:59:46,559 --> 00:59:49,229
- That's a good one, that's a good one.
1549
00:59:49,229 --> 00:59:51,891
- So that's what I would do right?
1550
00:59:51,891 --> 00:59:52,724
- [Julie] Right.
1551
00:59:52,724 --> 00:59:56,189
- Right, okay what would she say?
1552
00:59:56,189 --> 00:59:57,352
Pay tithes.
1553
00:59:57,352 --> 00:59:59,571
- Henry you don't even go to church,
1554
00:59:59,571 --> 01:00:01,892
where would you pay tithes to?
1555
01:00:01,892 --> 01:00:02,894
- Baby I can send my money
1556
01:00:02,894 --> 01:00:04,731
through Kelly, or Julie, or James.
1557
01:00:04,731 --> 01:00:07,542
I mean they go to church.
1558
01:00:07,542 --> 01:00:09,541
- The bible says you have to bring
1559
01:00:09,541 --> 01:00:11,972
your tithes, not send them Henry.
1560
01:00:11,972 --> 01:00:14,260
- [Ebony] I was gonna try to send mine to.
1561
01:00:14,260 --> 01:00:15,093
- Wow.
1562
01:00:18,036 --> 01:00:20,104
- Trust me, listen to Kelly
1563
01:00:20,104 --> 01:00:23,070
cause she know all about that, don't you?
1564
01:00:23,070 --> 01:00:24,545
- That's what we doing Stan?
1565
01:00:24,545 --> 01:00:25,378
Really?
1566
01:00:25,378 --> 01:00:27,689
- Let's keep the positive vibes going.
1567
01:00:27,689 --> 01:00:30,856
But Stan you're next, what would you do?
1568
01:00:32,743 --> 01:00:35,947
- You know what I'd start up a church
1569
01:00:35,947 --> 01:00:39,883
so I can get rich off all these
people paying their tithes.
1570
01:00:39,883 --> 01:00:42,833
- Right, now that's a good idea bro bro.
1571
01:00:42,833 --> 01:00:44,740
- Antwan shut up.
1572
01:00:44,740 --> 01:00:45,573
- You shut up.
1573
01:00:45,573 --> 01:00:48,954
- Okay Kelly, what did you write down?
1574
01:00:48,954 --> 01:00:53,037
- Certainly not that, so
again, no points for us.
1575
01:00:55,047 --> 01:00:58,254
- Hey Donte, what you got man?
1576
01:00:58,254 --> 01:00:59,087
- Simple.
1577
01:01:00,196 --> 01:01:04,093
Invest in the indoor
golf facility, of course.
1578
01:01:04,093 --> 01:01:07,760
- I know this man, like
the back of my hand.
1579
01:01:08,821 --> 01:01:11,135
- That is good, okay.
1580
01:01:11,135 --> 01:01:12,968
Anton, what about you?
1581
01:01:14,186 --> 01:01:16,441
- I'd get like an amusement
park, something like that.
1582
01:01:16,441 --> 01:01:18,303
- You know what, that's what's up.
1583
01:01:18,303 --> 01:01:19,362
Ebony, what you write down?
1584
01:01:19,362 --> 01:01:22,779
- Give a majority of it to his baby mama.
1585
01:01:24,568 --> 01:01:26,498
- Come on with all that shade Eb.
1586
01:01:26,498 --> 01:01:27,331
- [Ebony] Boy please.
1587
01:01:27,331 --> 01:01:29,007
- You tripping, you need to chill out.
1588
01:01:29,007 --> 01:01:30,523
- All right, all right,
all right, check this out.
1589
01:01:30,523 --> 01:01:32,293
We're going to switch it
up a little bit, okay?
1590
01:01:32,293 --> 01:01:34,567
Ladies, now y'all in the hot seat.
1591
01:01:34,567 --> 01:01:35,400
Okay.
1592
01:01:35,400 --> 01:01:36,233
- [Woman] Right.
1593
01:01:36,233 --> 01:01:37,499
- Question number one,
1594
01:01:37,499 --> 01:01:39,922
which one of y'all are
better with finances?
1595
01:01:39,922 --> 01:01:41,183
- [Woman] Yeah, that's good.
1596
01:01:41,183 --> 01:01:42,504
- Kelly, we'll start with you.
1597
01:01:42,504 --> 01:01:44,626
- Well, I think we all know
1598
01:01:44,626 --> 01:01:48,543
that I am much better at
managing the finances.
1599
01:01:51,023 --> 01:01:52,354
- Really Kelly?
1600
01:01:52,354 --> 01:01:54,251
Are you?
1601
01:01:54,251 --> 01:01:56,171
You know, I did believe that to be true
1602
01:01:56,171 --> 01:01:57,490
until I realized how much money
1603
01:01:57,490 --> 01:01:59,132
you was taking out of our household.
1604
01:01:59,132 --> 01:02:00,549
- Oh my goodness.
1605
01:02:02,005 --> 01:02:04,588
- Really Stan, are you serious?
1606
01:02:05,435 --> 01:02:06,602
You know what?
1607
01:02:07,882 --> 01:02:09,215
I'm sorry y'all.
1608
01:02:10,405 --> 01:02:11,655
We about to go.
1609
01:02:12,651 --> 01:02:14,866
- [Julie] No Kelly.
1610
01:02:14,866 --> 01:02:16,792
- It's okay, it's just a lot of
1611
01:02:16,792 --> 01:02:18,351
negative energy coming from over here
1612
01:02:18,351 --> 01:02:21,355
and I do not to ruin the vibe.
1613
01:02:21,355 --> 01:02:23,805
Come on Stan I'm ready to go.
1614
01:02:23,805 --> 01:02:26,541
- Hold up, so now you're
just gonna leave me here?
1615
01:02:26,541 --> 01:02:29,154
- No I'm not leaving
here Stan, you coming to,
1616
01:02:29,154 --> 01:02:31,821
come on I'm ready to go, please.
1617
01:02:35,570 --> 01:02:36,487
- Hey Stan.
1618
01:02:37,627 --> 01:02:39,269
- Alright yall.
1619
01:02:39,269 --> 01:02:40,632
Y'all have a good night.
1620
01:02:40,632 --> 01:02:41,778
- [Man] Alright.
1621
01:02:41,778 --> 01:02:42,945
- [Woman] Bye.
1622
01:02:48,683 --> 01:02:51,602
- I cannot believe that
you humiliated me in front
1623
01:02:51,602 --> 01:02:53,880
of our friends like that,
what is wrong with you?
1624
01:02:53,880 --> 01:02:54,713
- What's wrong with me?
1625
01:02:54,713 --> 01:02:55,546
I can't believe that you've
1626
01:02:55,546 --> 01:02:58,138
been humiliating me behind my back.
1627
01:02:58,138 --> 01:02:59,488
- How am I humiliating you Stan?
1628
01:02:59,488 --> 01:03:00,321
- What you mean Kelly?
1629
01:03:00,321 --> 01:03:02,925
- You know what, you are unbelievable.
1630
01:03:02,925 --> 01:03:04,192
I just came home the other day and you
1631
01:03:04,192 --> 01:03:06,736
and your boys was in the
house smoking and drinking.
1632
01:03:06,736 --> 01:03:07,569
- And your point Kelly?
1633
01:03:07,569 --> 01:03:08,695
- That's my house Stan.
1634
01:03:08,695 --> 01:03:09,528
- Yours?
1635
01:03:09,528 --> 01:03:11,036
- Yes, you know what you do what ever
1636
01:03:11,036 --> 01:03:12,867
you want to do when you want to do it,
1637
01:03:12,867 --> 01:03:14,732
I'm tired of the disrespect Stan.
1638
01:03:14,732 --> 01:03:16,534
- Hold on who you think you talking to?
1639
01:03:16,534 --> 01:03:19,161
Oh so you my mama now?
1640
01:03:19,161 --> 01:03:21,536
- Nah, nah, nah, Stan aint ruin the vibe,
1641
01:03:21,536 --> 01:03:24,416
that was Ebony over here with
all that woody woody woo.
1642
01:03:24,416 --> 01:03:27,296
Getting all negative and now
its just spread like wild fire.
1643
01:03:27,296 --> 01:03:28,425
Look.
1644
01:03:28,425 --> 01:03:30,633
- So its negative cause
I'm speaking the truth huh?
1645
01:03:30,633 --> 01:03:31,466
- Yes.
1646
01:03:31,466 --> 01:03:32,521
- Don't get mad at me cause you a fool
1647
01:03:32,521 --> 01:03:35,673
for your baby mama and you the
only one who don't know it.
1648
01:03:35,673 --> 01:03:37,715
- Stop it please.
1649
01:03:37,715 --> 01:03:40,715
You guys are disrespecting
each other and its not cool.
1650
01:03:40,715 --> 01:03:42,058
- You know what Julie you right.
1651
01:03:42,058 --> 01:03:42,988
We shouldn't bring this vibe
1652
01:03:42,988 --> 01:03:45,304
into your home, it is Friendsgiving.
1653
01:03:45,304 --> 01:03:46,970
Kelly aint the only one leaving,
1654
01:03:46,970 --> 01:03:47,803
I'm gone too, I'm outta here.
1655
01:03:47,803 --> 01:03:48,636
I can't stand her
1656
01:03:50,169 --> 01:03:53,490
- that's that 50 50 I
was telling y'all about.
1657
01:03:53,490 --> 01:03:54,557
Right there.
1658
01:03:54,557 --> 01:03:56,000
- [Ebony] Antwan, let's go.
1659
01:03:56,000 --> 01:03:56,833
- Antwan.
1660
01:04:02,528 --> 01:04:04,945
(door bangs)
1661
01:04:09,149 --> 01:04:09,982
- [Julie] I'm sorry.
1662
01:04:09,982 --> 01:04:14,649
- Well we can stay and finish
the game if you guys want.
1663
01:04:19,593 --> 01:04:22,111
- Stan, I have every right to have
1664
01:04:22,111 --> 01:04:24,118
a say so in what goes on in this house,
1665
01:04:24,118 --> 01:04:26,649
look I've been holding
so much in for so long,
1666
01:04:26,649 --> 01:04:28,832
I'm not doing it anymore, I'm tired.
1667
01:04:28,832 --> 01:04:29,720
- But when we were smoking
1668
01:04:29,720 --> 01:04:31,952
and drinking together it wasn't a problem.
1669
01:04:31,952 --> 01:04:33,584
- You doggone right its a problem.
1670
01:04:33,584 --> 01:04:35,289
Look that was our life style before Stan
1671
01:04:35,289 --> 01:04:36,911
but I'm not living like that anymore,
1672
01:04:36,911 --> 01:04:38,694
why can't you get that through your head?
1673
01:04:38,694 --> 01:04:39,773
- You do understand this is my house
1674
01:04:39,773 --> 01:04:41,274
just as much as yours, right?
1675
01:04:41,274 --> 01:04:42,127
So you can't be telling me what
1676
01:04:42,127 --> 01:04:44,346
I can and cannot up in here Kelly.
1677
01:04:44,346 --> 01:04:45,304
And you most definitely aren't going
1678
01:04:45,304 --> 01:04:46,607
to be taking no money out of here neither.
1679
01:04:46,607 --> 01:04:48,035
- Look, I said, what I said.
1680
01:04:48,035 --> 01:04:50,134
- And I'm saying what I'm saying.
1681
01:04:50,134 --> 01:04:52,524
Look, I've been dealing with
you, with your whole change
1682
01:04:52,524 --> 01:04:54,168
and I don't say nothing to you about it,
1683
01:04:54,168 --> 01:04:55,535
but then you want to pull this up on me?
1684
01:04:55,535 --> 01:04:57,087
Like what more is it that
you want from me Kelly?
1685
01:04:57,087 --> 01:04:59,404
- What more I want, I want
you to listen to me Stan.
1686
01:04:59,404 --> 01:05:00,237
- Man look.
1687
01:05:00,237 --> 01:05:04,652
- See look at you, that's
what I'm talking about Stan.
1688
01:05:04,652 --> 01:05:06,316
I'm trying so hard.
1689
01:05:06,316 --> 01:05:07,436
To be a good wife to you.
1690
01:05:07,436 --> 01:05:09,369
When you told me I
couldn't go out of town,
1691
01:05:09,369 --> 01:05:12,319
I didn't go out of respect
for you as my husband.
1692
01:05:12,319 --> 01:05:14,316
But you, baby it's so unfair
1693
01:05:14,316 --> 01:05:15,806
because you do whatever you want to do
1694
01:05:15,806 --> 01:05:16,870
whenever you want to do it
1695
01:05:16,870 --> 01:05:18,406
and I'm tired of it Stan.
1696
01:05:18,406 --> 01:05:21,011
I'm sick of your mess, I
deserve so much better.
1697
01:05:21,011 --> 01:05:22,353
- You're tired of and you sick of my mess?
1698
01:05:22,353 --> 01:05:23,186
- Yes.
1699
01:05:23,186 --> 01:05:24,019
- And you deserve better?
1700
01:05:24,019 --> 01:05:24,852
- Yes I do.
1701
01:05:24,852 --> 01:05:26,138
- You know what Kelly, you right
1702
01:05:26,138 --> 01:05:27,999
and I've been doing some serious thinking.
1703
01:05:27,999 --> 01:05:31,399
You just not the same woman
that I married seven years ago.
1704
01:05:31,399 --> 01:05:33,760
You all into this whole
new religious stuff
1705
01:05:33,760 --> 01:05:35,320
and you always trying to force it on me
1706
01:05:35,320 --> 01:05:37,403
and I'm just not with it.
1707
01:05:38,551 --> 01:05:42,218
- Okay, look babe you
right, I'm sorry okay.
1708
01:05:43,903 --> 01:05:45,713
Look, we ain't getting nowhere.
1709
01:05:45,713 --> 01:05:47,045
It's like we talking at each other
1710
01:05:47,045 --> 01:05:49,628
and not to each other baby.
1711
01:05:49,628 --> 01:05:52,617
Look yes, I decided to
serve God and prayerfully
1712
01:05:52,617 --> 01:05:55,664
you will to one day, but
that has to be your decision.
1713
01:05:55,664 --> 01:05:57,668
- Exactly Kelly my decision
1714
01:05:57,668 --> 01:05:59,530
and that's just not it right now.
1715
01:05:59,530 --> 01:06:00,944
Look I can't do this no more.
1716
01:06:00,944 --> 01:06:03,527
- You can't do what anymore,
Stan what you talking about?
1717
01:06:03,527 --> 01:06:07,136
- Us Kelly, this marriage,
its just not gonna work.
1718
01:06:07,136 --> 01:06:08,711
- Wait, wait, hold up.
1719
01:06:08,711 --> 01:06:09,669
You don't know if you want
1720
01:06:09,669 --> 01:06:11,471
our marriage to work, are you serious?
1721
01:06:11,471 --> 01:06:14,208
- Look like I said Kelly,
we on two different pages.
1722
01:06:14,208 --> 01:06:16,958
(dramatic music)
1723
01:06:18,676 --> 01:06:20,245
You just said that you deserve better
1724
01:06:20,245 --> 01:06:21,976
and you do, cause the truth of the matter
1725
01:06:21,976 --> 01:06:24,750
is our marriage is not what it once was.
1726
01:06:24,750 --> 01:06:26,267
We're unequally yoked.
1727
01:06:26,267 --> 01:06:28,670
Aint that what your bible said?
1728
01:06:28,670 --> 01:06:32,087
- Hold up babe, Stan, Stan hold up, Stan.
1729
01:06:36,667 --> 01:06:41,250
Baby look I am so sorry, look
I want out marriage okay.
1730
01:06:42,099 --> 01:06:43,636
No Stan when I said I want better,
1731
01:06:43,636 --> 01:06:45,281
I want better with you babe.
1732
01:06:45,281 --> 01:06:47,214
- Kelly don't do this.
1733
01:06:47,214 --> 01:06:48,427
I want a divorce.
1734
01:06:48,427 --> 01:06:49,260
- What?
1735
01:06:50,164 --> 01:06:52,504
Wait hold on, Stan.
1736
01:06:52,504 --> 01:06:54,921
(door bangs)
1737
01:06:55,979 --> 01:06:57,345
- Sweetheart.
1738
01:06:57,345 --> 01:06:58,606
Now tell me what happened.
1739
01:06:58,606 --> 01:07:00,740
- I can't, I can't do it anymore.
1740
01:07:00,740 --> 01:07:02,363
I give up.
1741
01:07:02,363 --> 01:07:04,177
I've been giving my
all, I've been praying,
1742
01:07:04,177 --> 01:07:06,094
I've been fasting, I've been submitting,
1743
01:07:06,094 --> 01:07:07,622
I've been doing everything
that the bible tells
1744
01:07:07,622 --> 01:07:11,678
me to do as a wife but its
like he's forgotten about me.
1745
01:07:11,678 --> 01:07:13,786
- Who do you feel has
forgotten you sweetie?
1746
01:07:13,786 --> 01:07:17,311
- God, Mrs. Anderson, he is
punishing me for something,
1747
01:07:17,311 --> 01:07:18,882
I just don't know what it is.
1748
01:07:18,882 --> 01:07:21,179
- Oh Kelly listen to me.
1749
01:07:21,179 --> 01:07:24,116
Okay, anytime storms
in life come your way,
1750
01:07:24,116 --> 01:07:27,242
don't always assume that
you're being punished.
1751
01:07:27,242 --> 01:07:30,447
As long as you're walking
up right before God,
1752
01:07:30,447 --> 01:07:32,292
it's either one of two things.
1753
01:07:32,292 --> 01:07:35,700
He's either testing you or
baby he is showing you off.
1754
01:07:35,700 --> 01:07:38,317
- I know what it is, I've
been too nice to him.
1755
01:07:38,317 --> 01:07:39,982
Letting him walk all over me.
1756
01:07:39,982 --> 01:07:41,761
I should have been mean and cruel
1757
01:07:41,761 --> 01:07:43,415
like any other wife would have been.
1758
01:07:43,415 --> 01:07:45,757
- Not a wise wife Kelly.
1759
01:07:45,757 --> 01:07:48,416
Honey listen, you are doing
the right thing right now,
1760
01:07:48,416 --> 01:07:50,748
I know it don't feel like it but you are,
1761
01:07:50,748 --> 01:07:53,207
you are being obedient to the word of God.
1762
01:07:53,207 --> 01:07:54,957
Well look what my obedience has gotten me.
1763
01:07:54,957 --> 01:07:56,269
Headed to divorce court
1764
01:07:56,269 --> 01:07:57,666
- Divorce court?
1765
01:07:57,666 --> 01:08:00,171
Who told you to go to divorce court?
1766
01:08:00,171 --> 01:08:01,083
That is the first thing
1767
01:08:01,083 --> 01:08:03,793
that comes to mind among
marriages these days.
1768
01:08:03,793 --> 01:08:04,922
We don't even get to experience
1769
01:08:04,922 --> 01:08:07,356
the fullness of God and all his promises
1770
01:08:07,356 --> 01:08:10,273
because we just give up too easily.
1771
01:08:11,544 --> 01:08:14,398
Why don't you turn in this bible
1772
01:08:14,398 --> 01:08:17,439
to 1st Peter, Ch 3.
1773
01:08:17,439 --> 01:08:21,106
- Mrs. Anderson, right
now is not the time.
1774
01:08:22,930 --> 01:08:26,379
- Right now is the perfect time, honey.
1775
01:08:26,379 --> 01:08:30,046
Come on, turn to 1st Peter, Ch 3.
1776
01:08:31,383 --> 01:08:34,449
And I want you to read verses one and two.
1777
01:08:34,449 --> 01:08:35,866
Come on, come on.
1778
01:08:39,567 --> 01:08:41,567
- Wives in the same way,
1779
01:08:43,285 --> 01:08:46,535
submit yourselves to your own husbands.
1780
01:08:48,168 --> 01:08:52,399
So if any of them do not believe the word,
1781
01:08:52,399 --> 01:08:55,232
they may be won over without words
1782
01:08:57,171 --> 01:08:59,657
by the behavior of their wives when they
1783
01:08:59,657 --> 01:09:02,740
see the purity and
reverence of your lives.
1784
01:09:05,260 --> 01:09:06,976
- That's right, see there?
1785
01:09:06,976 --> 01:09:09,605
Now you are doing exactly that honey.
1786
01:09:09,605 --> 01:09:12,402
What the word of God instructs you to do.
1787
01:09:12,402 --> 01:09:14,863
So whatever happens out of all this baby,
1788
01:09:14,863 --> 01:09:16,946
it is supposed to happen.
1789
01:09:18,162 --> 01:09:20,697
Look you're right when you
say you can't handle this,
1790
01:09:20,697 --> 01:09:22,857
that its too much for you to bare.
1791
01:09:22,857 --> 01:09:25,724
Because this is not your battle.
1792
01:09:25,724 --> 01:09:28,364
Honey this battle belongs to the lord.
1793
01:09:28,364 --> 01:09:30,197
- But what about Stan?
1794
01:09:31,113 --> 01:09:33,280
You know like, I have you.
1795
01:09:35,567 --> 01:09:38,374
Here you're talking to
me and you helping me
1796
01:09:38,374 --> 01:09:40,874
but who, who's gonna help him?
1797
01:09:42,439 --> 01:09:43,439
Who's gonna.
1798
01:09:45,874 --> 01:09:48,130
Who's gonna be there for him?
1799
01:09:48,130 --> 01:09:50,879
- Well that's your next prayer.
1800
01:09:50,879 --> 01:09:52,079
Okay?
1801
01:09:52,079 --> 01:09:53,737
You need to start to pray and ask God
1802
01:09:53,737 --> 01:09:55,932
to send him someone into his life
1803
01:09:55,932 --> 01:09:59,375
who can speak godly wisdom to him.
1804
01:09:59,375 --> 01:10:00,354
Okay?
1805
01:10:00,354 --> 01:10:01,187
- Yeah.
1806
01:10:01,187 --> 01:10:02,831
- And you know what?
1807
01:10:02,831 --> 01:10:05,484
I want you to take this journal
1808
01:10:05,484 --> 01:10:07,391
and I want you to write your thoughts
1809
01:10:07,391 --> 01:10:10,210
in this journal every single day.
1810
01:10:10,210 --> 01:10:14,830
And anytime God answers a
prayer, write that in here too.
1811
01:10:14,830 --> 01:10:15,830
- Thank you.
1812
01:10:16,735 --> 01:10:18,982
- Well sweetheart, we all could
1813
01:10:18,982 --> 01:10:21,116
use a little guardian angel sometimes.
1814
01:10:21,116 --> 01:10:23,866
(dramatic music)
1815
01:10:25,270 --> 01:10:26,103
- Scott.
1816
01:10:27,026 --> 01:10:30,844
You've been quiet the whole
ride here, what's wrong?
1817
01:10:30,844 --> 01:10:32,991
- One minute you're
talking about a divorce.
1818
01:10:32,991 --> 01:10:35,513
Now you got us in a counseling
session with a pastor.
1819
01:10:35,513 --> 01:10:38,956
I don't even know him, you don't either.
1820
01:10:38,956 --> 01:10:39,789
- You remember I told you
1821
01:10:39,789 --> 01:10:41,522
I was going to the book clubs, right?
1822
01:10:41,522 --> 01:10:43,084
- Said something about it.
1823
01:10:43,084 --> 01:10:45,403
- Well they've actually been helping.
1824
01:10:45,403 --> 01:10:49,986
And I just, looks lets just,
we'll talk about it later.
1825
01:10:53,120 --> 01:10:54,214
- Hello, Scott and Susan.
1826
01:10:54,214 --> 01:10:55,596
Very nice to meet you both.
1827
01:10:55,596 --> 01:10:58,502
- Nice to meet you too pastor.
1828
01:10:58,502 --> 01:11:01,175
So the reason that I
arranged this session is
1829
01:11:01,175 --> 01:11:03,026
because my husband and I,
1830
01:11:03,026 --> 01:11:06,822
Scott we're currently
going through a divorce.
1831
01:11:06,822 --> 01:11:07,897
- [Pastor] Okay.
1832
01:11:07,897 --> 01:11:09,986
- However, we're still
living in the same home.
1833
01:11:09,986 --> 01:11:10,854
- Okay, all right.
1834
01:11:10,854 --> 01:11:11,938
So share with me some
1835
01:11:11,938 --> 01:11:14,721
of the details and background information.
1836
01:11:14,721 --> 01:11:15,634
- Sure.
1837
01:11:15,634 --> 01:11:18,476
So Scott and I have been
married for four years.
1838
01:11:18,476 --> 01:11:20,252
I was a customer service representative
1839
01:11:20,252 --> 01:11:24,514
at a rental car company and
he was a frequent customer.
1840
01:11:24,514 --> 01:11:28,647
He asked me out one day,
but I wasn't interested.
1841
01:11:28,647 --> 01:11:30,460
- You wasn't interested?
1842
01:11:30,460 --> 01:11:33,087
- No, initially I wasn't
interested Scott, you know that.
1843
01:11:33,087 --> 01:11:34,863
- Yeah, yeah okay.
1844
01:11:34,863 --> 01:11:37,046
- However, he was very persistent.
1845
01:11:37,046 --> 01:11:40,166
So I finally gave in
and we went to dinner.
1846
01:11:40,166 --> 01:11:42,914
He was such a gentleman.
1847
01:11:42,914 --> 01:11:45,628
He wowed me with his conversation
1848
01:11:45,628 --> 01:11:47,330
and things were really great.
1849
01:11:47,330 --> 01:11:48,364
I mean, we started spending more
1850
01:11:48,364 --> 01:11:50,918
and more time together and we clicked,
1851
01:11:50,918 --> 01:11:53,561
almost a perfect relationship.
1852
01:11:53,561 --> 01:11:55,311
Until things changed.
1853
01:11:56,278 --> 01:11:57,958
After he cheated.
1854
01:11:57,958 --> 01:11:59,961
- You would just skip to some
cheating stuff, wouldn't you?
1855
01:11:59,961 --> 01:12:01,532
- But that is what happened.
1856
01:12:01,532 --> 01:12:04,425
- No things changed way before I cheated.
1857
01:12:04,425 --> 01:12:07,270
You act like you can't just get past it.
1858
01:12:07,270 --> 01:12:09,337
Like I said, I did it.
1859
01:12:09,337 --> 01:12:12,489
She forgave me, now she's
still just going on with it.
1860
01:12:12,489 --> 01:12:14,806
Like I said, man, things
changed way before I cheated.
1861
01:12:14,806 --> 01:12:16,246
- What changed Scott?
1862
01:12:16,246 --> 01:12:17,686
- Everything.
1863
01:12:17,686 --> 01:12:20,470
We had way more sex before we
got married than we do now.
1864
01:12:20,470 --> 01:12:22,172
- And I wasn't saved then either.
1865
01:12:22,172 --> 01:12:23,673
- What does that have to do with anything?
1866
01:12:23,673 --> 01:12:24,506
- Everything.
1867
01:12:24,506 --> 01:12:25,798
- Saved women can't have sex?
1868
01:12:25,798 --> 01:12:27,115
- Whatever.
1869
01:12:27,115 --> 01:12:29,458
- When it's time for intimacy,
she used to come to bed,
1870
01:12:29,458 --> 01:12:31,772
looking all sexy and beautiful.
1871
01:12:31,772 --> 01:12:33,945
Now she come to bed all wrapped up
1872
01:12:33,945 --> 01:12:35,937
with this helmet looking thing on,
1873
01:12:35,937 --> 01:12:37,417
looking like a linebacker.
1874
01:12:37,417 --> 01:12:39,010
- A linebacker what?
1875
01:12:39,010 --> 01:12:40,210
Seriously?
1876
01:12:40,210 --> 01:12:42,298
You're not looking to hot yourself.
1877
01:12:42,298 --> 01:12:44,001
- She only look like
this when she going out,
1878
01:12:44,001 --> 01:12:45,316
she don't look like this all the time.
1879
01:12:45,316 --> 01:12:47,412
Like when we at home,
she don't look like this.
1880
01:12:47,412 --> 01:12:49,745
This aint the same woman in the crib.
1881
01:12:49,745 --> 01:12:51,242
You have no sex appeal at the crib,
1882
01:12:51,242 --> 01:12:53,919
but you go out you looking all good.
1883
01:12:53,919 --> 01:12:57,764
- I am so sorry, clearly
we can never resolve
1884
01:12:57,764 --> 01:13:01,050
anything because it always
ends up in argument.
1885
01:13:01,050 --> 01:13:02,682
We obviously need some help.
1886
01:13:02,682 --> 01:13:05,015
- Yeah, she needs some help.
1887
01:13:05,994 --> 01:13:06,919
- God.
1888
01:13:06,919 --> 01:13:09,812
- Scott, Susan, what I
hear right now is nothing
1889
01:13:09,812 --> 01:13:13,753
that I don't hear on
an every session basis
1890
01:13:13,753 --> 01:13:15,802
as I counsel lots of couples.
1891
01:13:15,802 --> 01:13:17,196
Scott I'm a start with you.
1892
01:13:17,196 --> 01:13:20,390
As the husband and in
Gods order he's made you
1893
01:13:20,390 --> 01:13:22,640
the leader of your marriage
1894
01:13:23,729 --> 01:13:26,788
and for you the two things
you need to focus on
1895
01:13:26,788 --> 01:13:30,801
is protecting and providing for your wife.
1896
01:13:30,801 --> 01:13:31,828
And unfortunately what happens
1897
01:13:31,828 --> 01:13:34,562
in infidelity is that you broke trust.
1898
01:13:34,562 --> 01:13:38,283
And once you break trust its
difficult to get it back.
1899
01:13:38,283 --> 01:13:42,292
Because trust is not given
Scott, its actually earned.
1900
01:13:42,292 --> 01:13:44,715
And trust is time tested
1901
01:13:44,715 --> 01:13:47,880
and in order for it to
be earned, you got to get
1902
01:13:47,880 --> 01:13:49,462
to a point where you give her what
1903
01:13:49,462 --> 01:13:53,129
she needs and not what
you want her to have.
1904
01:13:54,408 --> 01:13:56,712
And Susan as it relates
to your faithfulness
1905
01:13:56,712 --> 01:13:59,124
God puts a tremendous,
big responsibility on
1906
01:13:59,124 --> 01:14:02,747
the wife to care for her
husbands needs as well.
1907
01:14:02,747 --> 01:14:06,489
And so as it relates to
you, listen to Scott.
1908
01:14:06,489 --> 01:14:08,522
What I hear form Scott is not anything
1909
01:14:08,522 --> 01:14:11,692
out of the ordinary that I
hear from men all the time.
1910
01:14:11,692 --> 01:14:13,969
What he wants is to enjoy his wife,
1911
01:14:13,969 --> 01:14:15,771
and the way God has set things up,
1912
01:14:15,771 --> 01:14:19,646
he can only enjoy that
level of intimacy with you
1913
01:14:19,646 --> 01:14:21,366
and with you alone.
1914
01:14:21,366 --> 01:14:23,862
Scott and Susan are you
both willing to put forth
1915
01:14:23,862 --> 01:14:28,862
the effort that's needed in
order for this marriage to work?
1916
01:14:28,923 --> 01:14:29,756
- Yeah.
1917
01:14:29,756 --> 01:14:30,835
- Yes.
1918
01:14:30,835 --> 01:14:35,125
- Okay, well if you are, if
you would mind joining hands.
1919
01:14:35,125 --> 01:14:37,230
We'll touch and agree together
1920
01:14:37,230 --> 01:14:40,194
and I go before the lord in prayer.
1921
01:14:40,194 --> 01:14:42,465
Lord God, we thank you for our time today.
1922
01:14:42,465 --> 01:14:45,214
We thank you for speaking
specifically to my heart
1923
01:14:45,214 --> 01:14:49,797
about what you wanted both
Scott and Susan to hear God.
1924
01:14:53,316 --> 01:14:54,400
- Hey.
1925
01:14:54,400 --> 01:14:56,698
You finished with the microwave?
1926
01:14:56,698 --> 01:14:57,615
- Yeah bru.
1927
01:15:02,426 --> 01:15:03,505
Hey man, let me get that man.
1928
01:15:03,505 --> 01:15:07,005
I don't even like my food that hot anyway.
1929
01:15:10,404 --> 01:15:12,840
- Man, guess what Gary just made him do.
1930
01:15:12,840 --> 01:15:13,673
- What?
1931
01:15:13,673 --> 01:15:14,506
- He was at the microwave,
1932
01:15:14,506 --> 01:15:15,339
Gary made him take his food out
1933
01:15:15,339 --> 01:15:16,858
the microwave and it wasn't
even done warming up.
1934
01:15:16,858 --> 01:15:18,010
- Stop it bro.
1935
01:15:18,010 --> 01:15:19,858
- You letting Gary take your lunch money.
1936
01:15:19,858 --> 01:15:21,058
(men chuckling)
1937
01:15:21,058 --> 01:15:23,644
- Real funny man, aint
nobody scared of no Gary.
1938
01:15:23,644 --> 01:15:24,637
- What's wrong with you boy?
1939
01:15:24,637 --> 01:15:28,155
Why he sitting all up with is
tail tucked between his leg?
1940
01:15:28,155 --> 01:15:29,322
You all right?
1941
01:15:30,897 --> 01:15:33,209
- Hey look bruh, I left Kelly man.
1942
01:15:33,209 --> 01:15:34,042
- What?
1943
01:15:34,042 --> 01:15:34,875
- Say what?
1944
01:15:34,875 --> 01:15:36,097
- What?
1945
01:15:36,097 --> 01:15:38,759
- I just couldn't do
it no more, so I left.
1946
01:15:38,759 --> 01:15:41,821
- So y'all thinking
about getting a divorce?
1947
01:15:41,821 --> 01:15:43,751
- Listen, man, she said out her own mouth
1948
01:15:43,751 --> 01:15:45,804
the other day that she deserved better
1949
01:15:45,804 --> 01:15:48,013
and she fed up with me
and I'm fed up with her.
1950
01:15:48,013 --> 01:15:49,428
- Well I know what you shouldn't be doing
1951
01:15:49,428 --> 01:15:51,697
is sitting here and beating
up yourself about it.
1952
01:15:51,697 --> 01:15:54,013
I mean, from everything you're saying,
1953
01:15:54,013 --> 01:15:55,121
if she didn't change too much for you
1954
01:15:55,121 --> 01:15:56,689
and you can't deal with it,
1955
01:15:56,689 --> 01:15:58,244
then you need to do what you need to do,
1956
01:15:58,244 --> 01:16:00,877
but our break almost over,
1957
01:16:00,877 --> 01:16:03,096
you know, we only get 30 minutes.
1958
01:16:03,096 --> 01:16:06,490
We outta here and I'll see
you later. Mr. Stevenson, sir.
1959
01:16:06,490 --> 01:16:09,323
(chairs scraping)
1960
01:16:20,368 --> 01:16:22,326
- What's up Stan?
1961
01:16:22,326 --> 01:16:23,466
- What's going on with you?
1962
01:16:23,466 --> 01:16:25,985
- You mind if I sit here for
a minute and rap with you?
1963
01:16:25,985 --> 01:16:27,068
- Not at all.
1964
01:16:28,135 --> 01:16:29,741
- I don't mean to get
in your business man,
1965
01:16:29,741 --> 01:16:31,204
but I couldn't help but to overhear
1966
01:16:31,204 --> 01:16:34,231
your conversation with your guys right.
1967
01:16:34,231 --> 01:16:36,151
And I have some advice for you.
1968
01:16:36,151 --> 01:16:38,337
- All right, what's up what's that?
1969
01:16:38,337 --> 01:16:42,036
- Your story, it reminds
me so much of my own bro.
1970
01:16:42,036 --> 01:16:43,885
But you see the only difference is
1971
01:16:43,885 --> 01:16:46,476
it was me that gave my life to God
1972
01:16:46,476 --> 01:16:48,877
and my wife stayed out of the world.
1973
01:16:48,877 --> 01:16:49,968
- Hey man, that's crazy.
1974
01:16:49,968 --> 01:16:53,472
Like that's the exact
way that I feel, man.
1975
01:16:53,472 --> 01:16:56,640
- Let me ask you something Stan.
1976
01:16:56,640 --> 01:17:00,733
Have you ever asked
your wife how she feels?
1977
01:17:00,733 --> 01:17:02,160
- Be honest with you I haven't.
1978
01:17:02,160 --> 01:17:03,366
Like there ain't no reason to
1979
01:17:03,366 --> 01:17:05,430
cause I already know how she feel man.
1980
01:17:05,430 --> 01:17:06,319
Look, check this out.
1981
01:17:06,319 --> 01:17:09,199
When I say to my wife, like
she has completely changed,
1982
01:17:09,199 --> 01:17:10,614
like, I mean it.
1983
01:17:10,614 --> 01:17:13,078
Me and my wife, we used
to do everything together,
1984
01:17:13,078 --> 01:17:16,137
go to the clubs, party,
hang out, drink, smoke
1985
01:17:16,137 --> 01:17:17,735
or whatever the case may be.
1986
01:17:17,735 --> 01:17:21,898
But now she is totally
different man and I mean that.
1987
01:17:21,898 --> 01:17:25,089
- You know, I met my wife in the club,
1988
01:17:25,089 --> 01:17:29,639
but I was deep in the dope
gang, running the streets.
1989
01:17:29,639 --> 01:17:33,092
But then I went to the
penitentiary for seven years
1990
01:17:33,092 --> 01:17:36,118
and that's when I gave my life to God.
1991
01:17:36,118 --> 01:17:37,651
You know, man, my wife hung in there
1992
01:17:37,651 --> 01:17:40,954
with me the whole time I was locked up.
1993
01:17:40,954 --> 01:17:42,202
But you know she thought I was playing
1994
01:17:42,202 --> 01:17:44,113
because that's what brothers do.
1995
01:17:44,113 --> 01:17:47,113
When they go to jail, they find God.
1996
01:17:48,065 --> 01:17:50,585
And when they get out,
they leave God in there.
1997
01:17:50,585 --> 01:17:53,919
- We all know them kind, now don't we?.
1998
01:17:53,919 --> 01:17:55,854
- That wasn't the case with me.
1999
01:17:55,854 --> 01:17:57,021
I was serious.
2000
01:17:57,910 --> 01:18:02,226
When I came home, I was
a completely changed man.
2001
01:18:02,226 --> 01:18:04,998
And when she saw this change in me bro,
2002
01:18:04,998 --> 01:18:06,662
she thought I was trying to be a preacher,
2003
01:18:06,662 --> 01:18:08,674
but I'm like, baby, no, I'm
just trying to, you know,
2004
01:18:08,674 --> 01:18:10,674
I'm just living for God,
2005
01:18:11,771 --> 01:18:12,643
but she didn't want to hear it.
2006
01:18:12,643 --> 01:18:14,331
She thought she be getting
in the way of my calling.
2007
01:18:14,331 --> 01:18:15,331
So she left.
2008
01:18:16,869 --> 01:18:17,752
- That's crazy, man.
2009
01:18:17,752 --> 01:18:20,325
Like that's the exact
same way that I feel.
2010
01:18:20,325 --> 01:18:22,097
Like don't get me wrong or nothing.
2011
01:18:22,097 --> 01:18:24,502
I love the new woman that Kelly becoming.
2012
01:18:24,502 --> 01:18:27,504
But then again, I just feel
like she deserves better.
2013
01:18:27,504 --> 01:18:29,415
And I can't give her that right now, man.
2014
01:18:29,415 --> 01:18:32,080
- Stan what you mean, bro?
2015
01:18:32,080 --> 01:18:35,696
You can't be that better for your wife?
2016
01:18:35,696 --> 01:18:36,904
- Hey look Gary I aint
gonna even lie to ya.
2017
01:18:36,904 --> 01:18:40,831
I don't even know if I
can or a how to be it.
2018
01:18:40,831 --> 01:18:43,498
- Stan, listen man can't you see
2019
01:18:44,976 --> 01:18:47,296
that's just the enemy's
way of distracting you
2020
01:18:47,296 --> 01:18:49,590
for what all God called you to be.
2021
01:18:49,590 --> 01:18:52,814
See, look, when you give your life to God,
2022
01:18:52,814 --> 01:18:55,385
he becomes your GPS system
2023
01:18:55,385 --> 01:18:56,961
and all you got to do bro,
2024
01:18:56,961 --> 01:18:58,628
is just be obedient to his voice.
2025
01:18:58,628 --> 01:18:59,545
He got you.
2026
01:19:01,115 --> 01:19:02,976
- Hey man, that's deep.
2027
01:19:02,976 --> 01:19:03,809
Hey well tell me something,
2028
01:19:03,809 --> 01:19:04,749
so how long have you and your wife,
2029
01:19:04,749 --> 01:19:07,029
y'all been divorced now?
2030
01:19:07,029 --> 01:19:09,568
- Stan, I can happily say me and my wife
2031
01:19:09,568 --> 01:19:13,153
have been back together
now four and a half years.
2032
01:19:13,153 --> 01:19:14,664
Let me ask you a question.
2033
01:19:14,664 --> 01:19:17,028
You ever heard of this
lady named Minister Norton?
2034
01:19:17,028 --> 01:19:18,720
- Have I heard of Minister Norton?
2035
01:19:18,720 --> 01:19:21,930
Yes, man like that's
all my wife listen to,
2036
01:19:21,930 --> 01:19:24,021
all day, all night.
2037
01:19:24,021 --> 01:19:26,312
- My wife is Minister Norton.
2038
01:19:26,312 --> 01:19:27,518
- Straight up?
2039
01:19:27,518 --> 01:19:30,493
That's great man, that's
a small world man.
2040
01:19:30,493 --> 01:19:34,126
- But listen, bro, let
me tell you what we did.
2041
01:19:34,126 --> 01:19:36,622
My pastor wrote this book.
2042
01:19:36,622 --> 01:19:40,158
It's called The Marriage
Cup and The Covenant.
2043
01:19:40,158 --> 01:19:42,325
I got a copy of that book.
2044
01:19:43,174 --> 01:19:45,656
I really would like for you to read it
2045
01:19:45,656 --> 01:19:48,998
and prayerfully, it'll help
you understand what God
2046
01:19:48,998 --> 01:19:52,714
ordained married to be and not to be.
2047
01:19:52,714 --> 01:19:54,378
Don't take for granted,
2048
01:19:54,378 --> 01:19:58,211
your wife praying and
her faithfulness to God.
2049
01:19:59,606 --> 01:20:03,939
I'm gonna keep you and your
situation in my prayers.
2050
01:20:05,282 --> 01:20:07,586
- All right Gary man,
I appreciate that, bro.
2051
01:20:07,586 --> 01:20:08,646
- No problem.
2052
01:20:08,646 --> 01:20:11,396
(dramatic music)
2053
01:20:16,023 --> 01:20:17,888
- [Julie] Ladies, I promise as soon
2054
01:20:17,888 --> 01:20:21,221
as Ebony gets here, we will get started.
2055
01:20:23,543 --> 01:20:24,739
- Yall, I'm so sorry.
2056
01:20:24,739 --> 01:20:27,301
I couldn't find my keys no where.
2057
01:20:27,301 --> 01:20:28,134
- Oh my God, girl.
2058
01:20:28,134 --> 01:20:30,716
You lose those keys more
than anybody I know.
2059
01:20:30,716 --> 01:20:32,865
- Girl, we're gonna get you
one of them clap things.
2060
01:20:32,865 --> 01:20:36,478
- Girl no, what I need it that
shirt, better late than ugly.
2061
01:20:36,478 --> 01:20:37,867
I shouldn't even be here.
2062
01:20:37,867 --> 01:20:39,397
- Let's get started.
2063
01:20:39,397 --> 01:20:40,888
- I ain't all the only
one y'all waiting on
2064
01:20:40,888 --> 01:20:42,216
I see, where Kelly at?
2065
01:20:42,216 --> 01:20:44,216
- Well, just between us.
2066
01:20:46,104 --> 01:20:47,779
Kelly called me the other day
2067
01:20:47,779 --> 01:20:49,639
and she asked me to pray with her
2068
01:20:49,639 --> 01:20:51,936
and she also asked me not to say anything
2069
01:20:51,936 --> 01:20:54,307
but I figured since we're all girls,
2070
01:20:54,307 --> 01:20:59,307
we all could just pray
together about her situation.
2071
01:20:59,393 --> 01:21:01,276
- [All] What situation?
2072
01:21:01,276 --> 01:21:02,576
- Don't say nothing y'all.
2073
01:21:02,576 --> 01:21:03,591
- [Woman] Okay.
2074
01:21:03,591 --> 01:21:05,091
- Stan left Kelly.
2075
01:21:05,997 --> 01:21:07,319
- [All] What?
2076
01:21:07,319 --> 01:21:08,152
- Are you serious?
2077
01:21:08,152 --> 01:21:08,985
- Yes.
2078
01:21:08,985 --> 01:21:12,815
- Girl wait a minute,
you mean Kelly left Stan?
2079
01:21:12,815 --> 01:21:15,207
- Stan left Kelly, and check this out,
2080
01:21:15,207 --> 01:21:17,897
he said he didn't want
to be with her anymore
2081
01:21:17,897 --> 01:21:19,912
because he's not ready to change
2082
01:21:19,912 --> 01:21:22,057
his life the same way that she had.
2083
01:21:22,057 --> 01:21:23,357
- You know what, I don't feel
2084
01:21:23,357 --> 01:21:25,167
sorry for her, that what she get.
2085
01:21:25,167 --> 01:21:27,569
- Why would say such a thing?
2086
01:21:27,569 --> 01:21:30,027
- Girl look, I told Kelly a long time ago
2087
01:21:30,027 --> 01:21:31,989
that their relationship
was not gonna work.
2088
01:21:31,989 --> 01:21:33,861
She's so submissive.
2089
01:21:33,861 --> 01:21:37,567
The bible says this,
and the bible says that,
2090
01:21:37,567 --> 01:21:40,101
girl that stuff is for women
back in the bible days,
2091
01:21:40,101 --> 01:21:41,638
that is not for women today.
2092
01:21:41,638 --> 01:21:43,146
(women chatters)
2093
01:21:43,146 --> 01:21:44,630
- Girl look, I stopped by the other day
2094
01:21:44,630 --> 01:21:47,220
because she hadn't been
answering the phone for me.
2095
01:21:47,220 --> 01:21:49,387
Girl, Stan and his potnas had just left,
2096
01:21:49,387 --> 01:21:51,626
girl they had stuff everywhere.
2097
01:21:51,626 --> 01:21:55,192
- I remember a time when
Stan was laid off from work.
2098
01:21:55,192 --> 01:21:58,722
- Girl, Stan used to always be laid off.
2099
01:21:58,722 --> 01:22:01,090
- I called Kelly just to
ask her if she can loan me
2100
01:22:01,090 --> 01:22:03,930
some money until Friday when I got paid.
2101
01:22:03,930 --> 01:22:08,510
- Oh, James and Julie
needed to borrow money? Hmm
2102
01:22:08,510 --> 01:22:10,056
- Be quiet Ebony.
2103
01:22:10,056 --> 01:22:14,736
Y'all know she told me to
let her discuss it with Stan?
2104
01:22:14,736 --> 01:22:17,221
- That's probably why she
was so mad last week when
2105
01:22:17,221 --> 01:22:20,574
she told Ebony she wasn't
taking the book seriously.
2106
01:22:20,574 --> 01:22:23,187
- Right, talking about some, Ebony,
2107
01:22:23,187 --> 01:22:26,463
we all agreed not to take
this journey lightly.
2108
01:22:26,463 --> 01:22:27,296
- Stop.
2109
01:22:28,152 --> 01:22:31,091
- You ladies ought to
be ashamed of yourselves
2110
01:22:31,091 --> 01:22:33,886
and you all are supposed
to be her friends?
2111
01:22:33,886 --> 01:22:36,149
And you, she told you something
2112
01:22:36,149 --> 01:22:39,789
in confidence so that
you can pray for her.
2113
01:22:39,789 --> 01:22:42,908
Not broadcast her business to everybody.
2114
01:22:42,908 --> 01:22:46,691
Kelly is going through a dark
season in her life right now.
2115
01:22:46,691 --> 01:22:50,395
And all you all can do is sit
around and talk about her?
2116
01:22:50,395 --> 01:22:54,000
You may say that the
word is for the old days,
2117
01:22:54,000 --> 01:22:57,638
but honestly I have never
seen the righteous forsaken.
2118
01:22:57,638 --> 01:22:59,848
And it's working in my life.
2119
01:22:59,848 --> 01:23:01,672
If you all are her friends,
2120
01:23:01,672 --> 01:23:03,974
she definitely don't need enemies.
2121
01:23:03,974 --> 01:23:06,807
(dramatic music)
2122
01:23:09,299 --> 01:23:10,382
- Who is she?
2123
01:23:11,435 --> 01:23:13,140
Girl anyway, she don't come around here
2124
01:23:13,140 --> 01:23:14,789
and try to tell us how
we discuss our friend.
2125
01:23:14,789 --> 01:23:18,302
Kelly is our friend and she
the new kid on the block.
2126
01:23:18,302 --> 01:23:21,719
Anyway onto the next chapter of the book.
2127
01:23:22,816 --> 01:23:23,899
Girl please.
2128
01:23:25,286 --> 01:23:27,953
Oh, there's power in submission.
2129
01:23:28,825 --> 01:23:31,478
I guess Kelly found out
all about that power huh?
2130
01:23:31,478 --> 01:23:32,311
- Ebony.
2131
01:23:33,433 --> 01:23:35,472
I feel horrible.
2132
01:23:35,472 --> 01:23:36,639
Susan's right.
2133
01:23:39,731 --> 01:23:43,033
We should just pray for Kelly.
2134
01:23:43,033 --> 01:23:46,307
Man, I know this is gotta be hurting her.
2135
01:23:46,307 --> 01:23:49,436
(phone ringing)
2136
01:23:49,436 --> 01:23:50,531
- This is Kelly.
2137
01:23:50,531 --> 01:23:51,364
- Put her on speaker.
2138
01:23:51,364 --> 01:23:52,197
- No, sh.
2139
01:23:55,021 --> 01:23:55,854
Hello?
2140
01:23:57,661 --> 01:23:58,494
Oh honey.
2141
01:23:59,785 --> 01:24:01,683
Okay sweetie, yeah.
2142
01:24:01,683 --> 01:24:03,116
Yeah, okay, yup.
2143
01:24:03,116 --> 01:24:04,074
I'm on my way.
2144
01:24:04,074 --> 01:24:04,907
- What's going on?
2145
01:24:04,907 --> 01:24:06,456
- What she say?
2146
01:24:06,456 --> 01:24:08,004
What did she say.
2147
01:24:08,004 --> 01:24:11,504
- Candice, first we need to know, Candice.
2148
01:24:18,111 --> 01:24:19,611
- This is not you.
2149
01:24:20,763 --> 01:24:23,368
Have you even left the house?
2150
01:24:23,368 --> 01:24:25,785
- I can't eat, I can't sleep.
2151
01:24:27,874 --> 01:24:29,457
I can't do nothing.
2152
01:24:31,477 --> 01:24:33,326
Candice, why did it end up like this?
2153
01:24:33,326 --> 01:24:36,946
Like this is not supposed
to be the end result.
2154
01:24:36,946 --> 01:24:38,914
(door knocking)
2155
01:24:38,914 --> 01:24:40,195
Oh my God!
2156
01:24:40,195 --> 01:24:41,028
- Are you sure?
2157
01:24:41,028 --> 01:24:42,195
- [Kelly] Yes.
2158
01:24:44,167 --> 01:24:46,711
What are you guys doing here?
2159
01:24:46,711 --> 01:24:49,362
- Kelly, we came over as soon
as we heard what happened.
2160
01:24:49,362 --> 01:24:50,741
How could he just walk out of your life
2161
01:24:50,741 --> 01:24:52,962
like this as good as you've been to him?
2162
01:24:52,962 --> 01:24:54,331
Where is he at?
2163
01:24:54,331 --> 01:24:56,434
Matter of fact, where's his clothes at?
2164
01:24:56,434 --> 01:24:59,157
- Sweetheart I am so sorry.
2165
01:24:59,157 --> 01:25:01,736
Is there anything I can do?
2166
01:25:01,736 --> 01:25:04,736
- No, there's nothing nobody can do.
2167
01:25:06,789 --> 01:25:09,887
Look, I'm just going to
continue to pray for him.
2168
01:25:09,887 --> 01:25:10,847
- Okay, hold on.
2169
01:25:10,847 --> 01:25:13,378
Enough is enough, you mean to tell me
2170
01:25:13,378 --> 01:25:15,077
that you still want to pray for this man
2171
01:25:15,077 --> 01:25:17,973
after he walked out of
your life that easy Kelly?
2172
01:25:17,973 --> 01:25:20,805
Girl you saved now, God
has a better husband
2173
01:25:20,805 --> 01:25:22,341
in store for you, someone that's saved
2174
01:25:22,341 --> 01:25:24,277
and not still out here in these streets.
2175
01:25:24,277 --> 01:25:27,087
- Maybe Stan is a stumbling
blocking in your way
2176
01:25:27,087 --> 01:25:29,295
and God just had to remove him.
2177
01:25:29,295 --> 01:25:30,375
- You Know what Kelly, we have
2178
01:25:30,375 --> 01:25:32,643
been through a lot of things together
2179
01:25:32,643 --> 01:25:36,317
and I have just never seen
you play this role before.
2180
01:25:36,317 --> 01:25:37,712
- [Julie] Never.
2181
01:25:37,712 --> 01:25:40,351
- The submitting, and that loyalty stuff,
2182
01:25:40,351 --> 01:25:43,689
you know men now a days,
they take that for granted.
2183
01:25:43,689 --> 01:25:45,309
- I know you said that God told
2184
01:25:45,309 --> 01:25:47,018
you your marriage would work,
2185
01:25:47,018 --> 01:25:49,094
but clearly he isn't speaking of this one.
2186
01:25:49,094 --> 01:25:50,096
- [Ebony] Couldn't have been.
2187
01:25:50,096 --> 01:25:52,442
- There is nothing in scripture
2188
01:25:52,442 --> 01:25:56,376
that says to be this way only
if your husband is saved.
2189
01:25:56,376 --> 01:25:58,993
Yes, God did tell my marriage would work,
2190
01:25:58,993 --> 01:26:01,552
thank you for reminding me of that Tasha.
2191
01:26:01,552 --> 01:26:04,144
Look, if God said it I'm gonna believe him
2192
01:26:04,144 --> 01:26:06,644
because it shall come to pass.
2193
01:26:07,994 --> 01:26:11,744
You know what, I'm going
through a real rough
2194
01:26:13,015 --> 01:26:15,181
time right now and the last thing
2195
01:26:15,181 --> 01:26:18,039
I need around me is non believers.
2196
01:26:18,039 --> 01:26:18,872
Look.
2197
01:26:18,872 --> 01:26:19,705
- No.
2198
01:26:19,705 --> 01:26:21,456
- Please, y'all just let yourselves out.
2199
01:26:21,456 --> 01:26:23,395
- You can be a fool all
you want, don't call me.
2200
01:26:23,395 --> 01:26:25,453
- Ebony get out of my house.
2201
01:26:25,453 --> 01:26:26,703
- I'm so sorry.
2202
01:26:30,192 --> 01:26:35,192
♪ Oh I know if I leave ♪
2203
01:26:35,471 --> 01:26:39,405
♪ I'll take a chance at being alone ♪
2204
01:26:39,405 --> 01:26:44,405
♪And honestly I'm afraid cause
I don't wanna live that way♪
2205
01:26:46,167 --> 01:26:50,064
♪ See late at night
when you hold me close ♪
2206
01:26:50,064 --> 01:26:52,704
♪ Baby I feel so safe ♪
2207
01:26:52,704 --> 01:26:56,583
♪ And its a cold cruel world out there ♪
2208
01:26:56,583 --> 01:27:01,583
♪ And baby I'm leaning on faith ♪
2209
01:27:02,570 --> 01:27:05,703
♪ Can we get to love ♪
2210
01:27:05,703 --> 01:27:09,328
♪ Can we get to love ♪
2211
01:27:09,328 --> 01:27:12,700
♪ Can we get to love ♪
2212
01:27:12,700 --> 01:27:16,336
♪ Can we get to love baby ♪
2213
01:27:16,336 --> 01:27:19,948
♪ Can we get to love ♪
2214
01:27:19,948 --> 01:27:23,094
♪ Get to love ♪
2215
01:27:23,094 --> 01:27:26,132
♪ Can we get to love ♪
2216
01:27:26,132 --> 01:27:30,494
♪ Can we get to love ♪
2217
01:27:30,494 --> 01:27:33,998
♪ Can we get to, get to love ♪
2218
01:27:33,998 --> 01:27:34,958
♪ Can we get to ♪
2219
01:27:34,958 --> 01:27:37,272
- Y'all I just feel so bad for Kelly.
2220
01:27:37,272 --> 01:27:38,880
- Girl so do I.
2221
01:27:38,880 --> 01:27:40,875
Y'all know this is the
first time that Stan's
2222
01:27:40,875 --> 01:27:43,048
not here for her
companies Christmas party?
2223
01:27:43,048 --> 01:27:45,256
- She seems to be holding
up pretty good though.
2224
01:27:45,256 --> 01:27:47,009
- Girl you know how it is.
2225
01:27:47,009 --> 01:27:48,568
She is in the presence of company,
2226
01:27:48,568 --> 01:27:50,008
she got to put on her game face.
2227
01:27:50,008 --> 01:27:50,841
- That's true.
2228
01:27:50,841 --> 01:27:53,825
- Why are y'all over here
looking all gloomy in the face?
2229
01:27:53,825 --> 01:27:57,137
I mean come on, its Christmas
eve, snap out of it already.
2230
01:27:57,137 --> 01:28:00,408
- Ebony, we're just really
feeling sad for Kelly right now.
2231
01:28:00,408 --> 01:28:02,552
- Girl, feeling sorry for Kelly for what?
2232
01:28:02,552 --> 01:28:05,012
- You know this is her favorite holiday
2233
01:28:05,012 --> 01:28:06,907
and Stan's not even here with her.
2234
01:28:06,907 --> 01:28:09,426
- Girl, well whatever, life goes on.
2235
01:28:09,426 --> 01:28:11,170
And anyway from my understanding,
2236
01:28:11,170 --> 01:28:12,620
wasn't she just praying and asking
2237
01:28:12,620 --> 01:28:14,913
God for a new husband for Christmas?
2238
01:28:14,913 --> 01:28:17,553
And girl with all these fine,
2239
01:28:17,553 --> 01:28:19,717
successful men in here, girl,
2240
01:28:19,717 --> 01:28:21,492
she might be getting her prayers answered.
2241
01:28:21,492 --> 01:28:24,202
- Goodness Ebony just stop.
2242
01:28:24,202 --> 01:28:26,948
- Oh Lord, here come Ms suchy much.
2243
01:28:26,948 --> 01:28:29,044
- She looks so beautiful.
2244
01:28:29,044 --> 01:28:30,266
- Must be her husband.
2245
01:28:30,266 --> 01:28:32,212
- I just love when marriages work out.
2246
01:28:32,212 --> 01:28:34,629
- Girl, I need another drink.
2247
01:28:36,196 --> 01:28:37,029
- Hey Scott.
2248
01:28:37,029 --> 01:28:37,862
- What's up.
2249
01:28:37,862 --> 01:28:39,603
- Man this is my beautiful wife Susan.
2250
01:28:39,603 --> 01:28:41,769
- Nice to meet you Susan.
2251
01:28:41,769 --> 01:28:43,901
That's Donte, and that's my man James.
2252
01:28:43,901 --> 01:28:44,843
- Nice to meet you.
2253
01:28:44,843 --> 01:28:46,291
- Pleasure to meet you all.
2254
01:28:46,291 --> 01:28:48,860
Babe, I'm gonna go to the
rest room, be right back.
2255
01:28:48,860 --> 01:28:51,888
- All right, okay, all right.
2256
01:28:51,888 --> 01:28:55,392
- Good God, please tell
me she got a sister.
2257
01:28:55,392 --> 01:28:58,092
A cousin, friend, anybody.
2258
01:28:58,092 --> 01:29:00,492
- Gentlemen, gentlemen, have we purchased
2259
01:29:00,492 --> 01:29:02,857
our raffle tickets yet?
2260
01:29:02,857 --> 01:29:05,038
- No sweetie I haven't, my name is Steve.
2261
01:29:05,038 --> 01:29:05,952
- [Woman] Steve.
2262
01:29:05,952 --> 01:29:06,785
- How much are they?
2263
01:29:06,785 --> 01:29:09,726
- Only one for 150, and five for 600.
2264
01:29:09,726 --> 01:29:12,739
- No sweetie, one for 150, five for 600?
2265
01:29:12,739 --> 01:29:14,335
No, I'm talking about the raffle tickets.
2266
01:29:14,335 --> 01:29:15,836
- And so am I.
2267
01:29:15,836 --> 01:29:18,138
- My wife already purchased
our tickets, so thank you.
2268
01:29:18,138 --> 01:29:19,950
- You must be James.
2269
01:29:19,950 --> 01:29:20,783
- I am.
2270
01:29:20,783 --> 01:29:21,616
- Julies husband.
2271
01:29:21,616 --> 01:29:22,861
- Nice to meet you.
2272
01:29:22,861 --> 01:29:24,361
- Nice to meet you.
2273
01:29:24,361 --> 01:29:25,296
- You as well.
2274
01:29:25,296 --> 01:29:28,570
- And thank you so much for
that annual contribution.
2275
01:29:28,570 --> 01:29:32,294
- Listen we're blessed to be a blessing.
2276
01:29:32,294 --> 01:29:34,886
- Raffle tickets, we sell raffle tickets.
2277
01:29:34,886 --> 01:29:36,969
- Oh my God, fellahs, hi.
2278
01:29:38,627 --> 01:29:41,049
You don't know how
happy I am to see y'all,
2279
01:29:41,049 --> 01:29:42,944
thank you so much for
coming again this year.
2280
01:29:42,944 --> 01:29:45,015
- Of course, why wouldn't
you think we wanna come?
2281
01:29:45,015 --> 01:29:46,736
- Well you know, things
have been kinda crazy
2282
01:29:46,736 --> 01:29:48,800
and given the circumstances,
I just wasn't sure.
2283
01:29:48,800 --> 01:29:53,146
- Hey Kelly, you and Stan are our friends
2284
01:29:53,146 --> 01:29:55,412
and we're going to support
you all no matter what, okay?
2285
01:29:55,412 --> 01:29:58,957
- Oh, Donte, Thank you, that is so sweet.
2286
01:29:58,957 --> 01:30:00,612
Thank you, I appreciate that.
2287
01:30:00,612 --> 01:30:01,466
- Hey Kelly.
2288
01:30:01,466 --> 01:30:02,299
- Yeah?
2289
01:30:02,299 --> 01:30:03,767
- Stan normally volunteer
for the raffle auction
2290
01:30:03,767 --> 01:30:06,020
every year, so who gonna do it this year?
2291
01:30:06,020 --> 01:30:07,715
- I asked my daddy to it.
2292
01:30:07,715 --> 01:30:09,293
- Man, your dad is old.
2293
01:30:09,293 --> 01:30:11,283
- Henry don't clown my
daddy, I know it won't
2294
01:30:11,283 --> 01:30:14,032
be like last time, but
trust me it'll be fine.
2295
01:30:14,032 --> 01:30:15,653
- Excuse me, hi everyone.
2296
01:30:15,653 --> 01:30:17,914
Would you excuse Mrs.
Stevenson for just a second,
2297
01:30:17,914 --> 01:30:20,349
we're gonna go ahead and get
started with the raffles.
2298
01:30:20,349 --> 01:30:22,138
- Okay, I'll catch up with
you guys later, all right?
2299
01:30:22,138 --> 01:30:22,971
- All right.
2300
01:30:22,971 --> 01:30:23,804
- Later Kelly.
2301
01:30:23,804 --> 01:30:24,637
- See you.
2302
01:30:24,637 --> 01:30:25,594
- Call her daddy old?
2303
01:30:25,594 --> 01:30:27,094
- I'm just saying.
2304
01:30:28,212 --> 01:30:29,436
Just saying man.
2305
01:30:29,436 --> 01:30:31,198
- If I can have everyone's
attention please,
2306
01:30:31,198 --> 01:30:33,120
we're gonna start our raffle drawing now.
2307
01:30:33,120 --> 01:30:36,287
(audience applauding)
2308
01:30:37,620 --> 01:30:38,784
- Oh hey Susan.
2309
01:30:38,784 --> 01:30:40,464
- Julie, how are you?
2310
01:30:40,464 --> 01:30:42,659
- I am ready for my bundle of joy.
2311
01:30:42,659 --> 01:30:44,848
- I see, how adorable.
2312
01:30:44,848 --> 01:30:46,155
- Thank you.
2313
01:30:46,155 --> 01:30:48,461
Susan, I really wanted to apologize
2314
01:30:48,461 --> 01:30:51,472
for how we acted at our
last book club meeting.
2315
01:30:51,472 --> 01:30:54,125
We have all acknowledged
that we were wrong,
2316
01:30:54,125 --> 01:30:56,210
and we've even apologized to Kelly.
2317
01:30:56,210 --> 01:30:58,384
- That's so good to hear because honestly
2318
01:30:58,384 --> 01:31:01,608
the apology to Kelly is
what's most important.
2319
01:31:01,608 --> 01:31:04,698
I mean you guys have known
her far longer than I have
2320
01:31:04,698 --> 01:31:06,260
and I just, I was shocked to hear
2321
01:31:06,260 --> 01:31:07,830
you guys speak of her in that manner.
2322
01:31:07,830 --> 01:31:08,663
That's all.
2323
01:31:08,663 --> 01:31:10,327
- Oh my God, we shouldn't have,
2324
01:31:10,327 --> 01:31:12,810
and I promise we will never do so again.
2325
01:31:12,810 --> 01:31:15,064
- We're good girl, because true,
2326
01:31:15,064 --> 01:31:18,813
genuine friendship is so
hard to find these days,
2327
01:31:18,813 --> 01:31:21,716
and Julie you all really
do have something special.
2328
01:31:21,716 --> 01:31:22,832
- Thank you Susan.
2329
01:31:22,832 --> 01:31:23,888
- Your welcome.
2330
01:31:23,888 --> 01:31:25,844
- And I see that you and hubby
2331
01:31:25,844 --> 01:31:28,173
has decided to work things out.
2332
01:31:28,173 --> 01:31:30,477
- We have and let's just say,
2333
01:31:30,477 --> 01:31:33,176
I'm a adjusting the
temperature in my environment.
2334
01:31:33,176 --> 01:31:35,724
- Well okay, girl that is
what I'm talking about.
2335
01:31:35,724 --> 01:31:37,161
- Yes.
2336
01:31:37,161 --> 01:31:38,457
- Congratulations girl.
2337
01:31:38,457 --> 01:31:39,538
- Thank you girl.
2338
01:31:39,538 --> 01:31:42,205
(both laughing)
2339
01:31:45,609 --> 01:31:47,725
- Kelly, what's wrong?
2340
01:31:47,725 --> 01:31:48,902
- Sorry.
2341
01:31:48,902 --> 01:31:51,052
It's just not the same
without him being here.
2342
01:31:51,052 --> 01:31:52,949
I miss him so much Susan.
2343
01:31:52,949 --> 01:31:54,437
- I'm so sorry Kelly.
2344
01:31:54,437 --> 01:31:56,309
You are such a strong woman.
2345
01:31:56,309 --> 01:31:59,709
- You are but you don't
have to be strong for us.
2346
01:31:59,709 --> 01:32:01,220
- Susan's right.
2347
01:32:01,220 --> 01:32:03,755
We all have our breaking point.
2348
01:32:03,755 --> 01:32:05,825
But listen, we're are your girls.
2349
01:32:05,825 --> 01:32:09,075
So it is okay not to be okay sometimes.
2350
01:32:10,681 --> 01:32:13,681
- I mean, you know I've been praying
2351
01:32:15,572 --> 01:32:17,655
and asking God to help me
2352
01:32:19,172 --> 01:32:22,362
because I thought it was
going to be different.
2353
01:32:22,362 --> 01:32:25,465
I didn't know it was going
to turn out like this.
2354
01:32:25,465 --> 01:32:26,457
- [Susan] Oh Kelly.
2355
01:32:26,457 --> 01:32:28,554
- Look at me, I'm alone.
2356
01:32:28,554 --> 01:32:29,887
- No you're not.
2357
01:32:30,775 --> 01:32:32,882
Listen, listen to me.
2358
01:32:32,882 --> 01:32:34,921
I don't care how it looks.
2359
01:32:34,921 --> 01:32:36,377
You keep trusting God
2360
01:32:36,377 --> 01:32:38,967
and you believe that
whatever your heart desires,
2361
01:32:38,967 --> 01:32:43,088
if it is in God's will,
he will give it to you.
2362
01:32:43,088 --> 01:32:46,150
Kelly you were there for
me in my darkest season.
2363
01:32:46,150 --> 01:32:47,921
and I'm going to be here for you in yours.
2364
01:32:47,921 --> 01:32:49,921
- Yes, we all are Kelly.
2365
01:32:51,074 --> 01:32:54,259
- Girl, just to shed a little light,
2366
01:32:54,259 --> 01:32:55,457
didn't you just pray
2367
01:32:55,457 --> 01:32:57,878
and ask God for a new
husband for Christmas?
2368
01:32:57,878 --> 01:33:01,326
And girl with all these fine men in here.
2369
01:33:01,326 --> 01:33:04,435
You better dry your face and
come get your prayers answered.
2370
01:33:04,435 --> 01:33:06,018
- Oh my God, Ebony.
2371
01:33:07,062 --> 01:33:08,645
Girl you are crazy.
2372
01:33:09,662 --> 01:33:13,425
I can always depend on
you for a good laugh.
2373
01:33:13,425 --> 01:33:15,701
I really appreciate y'all.
2374
01:33:15,701 --> 01:33:19,712
I do, you're my girls and I don't know how
2375
01:33:19,712 --> 01:33:22,897
I would have gotten
through this without y'all.
2376
01:33:22,897 --> 01:33:24,199
I love you all so much.
2377
01:33:24,199 --> 01:33:26,116
- [All] We love you too.
2378
01:33:29,476 --> 01:33:31,309
- Thank y'all so much.
2379
01:33:32,792 --> 01:33:34,462
- Kelly, you need to get out here,
2380
01:33:34,462 --> 01:33:37,281
you need to see this,
come on y'all, let's go.
2381
01:33:37,281 --> 01:33:39,393
- What in the world, Renee, hold on.
2382
01:33:39,393 --> 01:33:41,086
What's going on?
2383
01:33:41,086 --> 01:33:44,919
- All right and the last
ticket number is 311.
2384
01:33:46,712 --> 01:33:47,545
307.
2385
01:33:48,395 --> 01:33:49,931
- [Woman] That's me!
2386
01:33:49,931 --> 01:33:50,962
(audience applauding)
2387
01:33:50,962 --> 01:33:53,497
- All right, all right, all right.
2388
01:33:53,497 --> 01:33:55,055
That's it, that's it, that's it.
2389
01:33:55,055 --> 01:33:56,515
You got it, you got it.
2390
01:33:56,515 --> 01:33:57,638
All right, make sure you check
2391
01:33:57,638 --> 01:34:00,922
with Mary to get your prize
at the end of the night.
2392
01:34:00,922 --> 01:34:04,159
And to the rest of y'all we
appreciate y'all for coming out,
2393
01:34:04,159 --> 01:34:05,436
thanks for the support
2394
01:34:05,436 --> 01:34:08,786
because this event is
very, very dear to my wife
2395
01:34:08,786 --> 01:34:10,169
so we appreciate y'all, now party on,
2396
01:34:10,169 --> 01:34:12,839
and, a Merry Christmas to y'all.
2397
01:34:12,839 --> 01:34:13,672
(audience applauding)
2398
01:34:13,672 --> 01:34:15,382
- Girl see, I told you he was here.
2399
01:34:15,382 --> 01:34:16,434
What you gonna do?
2400
01:34:16,434 --> 01:34:19,360
(audience applauding)
2401
01:34:19,360 --> 01:34:21,573
- Can't believe he came.
2402
01:34:21,573 --> 01:34:24,573
(people chattering)
2403
01:34:27,258 --> 01:34:28,216
- What's up with it?
2404
01:34:28,216 --> 01:34:29,633
- Catch up with yall in a minute.
2405
01:34:32,823 --> 01:34:34,672
Merry Christmas Mrs. Stevenson.
2406
01:34:34,672 --> 01:34:36,997
- Stan what are you doing here?
2407
01:34:36,997 --> 01:34:39,665
- Hey, what am I not welcome this year?
2408
01:34:39,665 --> 01:34:41,007
Well I did say I would be
2409
01:34:41,007 --> 01:34:43,511
the raffle ticket announcer, right?
2410
01:34:43,511 --> 01:34:45,220
So I'm just here to honor that.
2411
01:34:45,220 --> 01:34:46,389
And plus besides, you
know this party wouldn't
2412
01:34:46,389 --> 01:34:50,442
be nothing without old Stan the man right?
2413
01:34:50,442 --> 01:34:52,695
- Is that the only reason why you came.
2414
01:34:52,695 --> 01:34:56,963
- Of course, what other
reason would I be here?
2415
01:34:56,963 --> 01:34:59,837
- Thanks for honoring your commitment.
2416
01:34:59,837 --> 01:35:04,023
- Kelly, Kelly, sweetheart,
sweetheart, I'm kidding.
2417
01:35:04,023 --> 01:35:05,940
Seriously, I miss you.
2418
01:35:07,238 --> 01:35:10,237
- I um, You do?
2419
01:35:10,237 --> 01:35:11,706
- I do.
2420
01:35:11,706 --> 01:35:14,621
And I have some things
I'd like to say to you.
2421
01:35:14,621 --> 01:35:16,001
- I'm listening.
2422
01:35:16,001 --> 01:35:18,125
- Can we step outside.
2423
01:35:18,125 --> 01:35:19,770
- Sure.
2424
01:35:19,770 --> 01:35:20,770
- After you.
2425
01:35:22,858 --> 01:35:24,324
- So why did you have to bring me
2426
01:35:24,324 --> 01:35:26,436
out here to talk, it's freezing.
2427
01:35:26,436 --> 01:35:27,549
- Look, I know babe, I just wanted
2428
01:35:27,549 --> 01:35:29,111
to get you away from the noise.
2429
01:35:29,111 --> 01:35:30,119
I just got a few things on my chest
2430
01:35:30,119 --> 01:35:31,823
I wanted to get off, that's all.
2431
01:35:31,823 --> 01:35:33,156
- I'm listening.
2432
01:35:34,446 --> 01:35:35,988
- All right so Kelly.
2433
01:35:35,988 --> 01:35:39,386
Never in a million years,
would I have thought
2434
01:35:39,386 --> 01:35:41,476
that my mindset would change
the way they that it did
2435
01:35:41,476 --> 01:35:43,661
like in the short span of time.
2436
01:35:43,661 --> 01:35:45,546
you know the same week that I had left
2437
01:35:45,546 --> 01:35:49,313
this guy, my job, he had
sat down, spoke to me
2438
01:35:49,313 --> 01:35:50,874
and he I gave him this book to read,
2439
01:35:50,874 --> 01:35:52,554
he invited me to come out to his church.
2440
01:35:52,554 --> 01:35:53,387
- Okay.
2441
01:35:53,387 --> 01:35:54,220
- Now the name of the book is called
2442
01:35:54,220 --> 01:35:55,732
The Marriage Cup and The Covenant.
2443
01:35:55,732 --> 01:35:57,821
- Oh wait, hold on.
2444
01:35:57,821 --> 01:35:58,957
You mean to tell me the
book I've been trying
2445
01:35:58,957 --> 01:36:01,713
to get you to read with me Stan?
2446
01:36:01,713 --> 01:36:04,076
- I knew that book had sounded familiar.
2447
01:36:04,076 --> 01:36:04,909
- Oh my God.
2448
01:36:04,909 --> 01:36:06,343
It's too cold for you to be playing.
2449
01:36:06,343 --> 01:36:08,318
- Hey well everything happens
in God's timing right.
2450
01:36:08,318 --> 01:36:09,310
- You right.
2451
01:36:09,310 --> 01:36:10,470
- So anyway like I was saying,
2452
01:36:10,470 --> 01:36:12,550
like the book is so powerful Kelly.
2453
01:36:12,550 --> 01:36:14,391
You know, you read the book
2454
01:36:14,391 --> 01:36:17,277
but what got me is the way
they speak on the roles
2455
01:36:17,277 --> 01:36:19,654
and responsibility of
a husband and a wife.
2456
01:36:19,654 --> 01:36:20,487
- Yeah.
2457
01:36:20,487 --> 01:36:21,930
- And when I was reading the
part about a wife, Kelly,
2458
01:36:21,930 --> 01:36:23,407
like you was doing everything that
2459
01:36:23,407 --> 01:36:25,677
you were supposed to do in
our marriage, it was me.
2460
01:36:25,677 --> 01:36:26,797
Like I wasn't leading the way
2461
01:36:26,797 --> 01:36:29,168
I should have been leading you.
2462
01:36:29,168 --> 01:36:31,956
So, but anyway, the crazy part
2463
01:36:31,956 --> 01:36:34,925
about it is the author
of the book is actually
2464
01:36:34,925 --> 01:36:37,530
the pastor of the church the
guy invited me to go out to.
2465
01:36:37,530 --> 01:36:38,965
- Wow, did you go?
2466
01:36:38,965 --> 01:36:40,245
- Yes, I had to go, like,
2467
01:36:40,245 --> 01:36:42,715
cause I had to speak to
him like, personally,
2468
01:36:42,715 --> 01:36:44,755
like in that very moment,
2469
01:36:44,755 --> 01:36:49,115
and I really understood
my role more as a husband.
2470
01:36:49,115 --> 01:36:51,034
So I even joined the church.
2471
01:36:51,034 --> 01:36:52,992
- Wait a minute, you
joined the church Stan?
2472
01:36:52,992 --> 01:36:54,721
- Yes I joined the church.
2473
01:36:54,721 --> 01:36:56,643
That's not even the crazy part about it.
2474
01:36:56,643 --> 01:36:59,640
- What's the crazy part Stan?
2475
01:36:59,640 --> 01:37:02,602
- I gave my life to Christ Kelly.
2476
01:37:02,602 --> 01:37:04,202
- Wait a minute.
2477
01:37:04,202 --> 01:37:05,784
You gave your life to Christ?
2478
01:37:05,784 --> 01:37:06,853
- Yes.
2479
01:37:06,853 --> 01:37:07,686
- Really?
2480
01:37:07,686 --> 01:37:08,519
- I did.
2481
01:37:08,519 --> 01:37:09,424
- Baby, that's so good.
2482
01:37:09,424 --> 01:37:12,473
- To be honest, like the
real reason I'm here Kelly is
2483
01:37:12,473 --> 01:37:14,853
because on this past Sunday
2484
01:37:14,853 --> 01:37:17,152
the message was about forgiveness.
2485
01:37:17,152 --> 01:37:19,504
So I just simply came here and
ask you for your forgiveness.
2486
01:37:19,504 --> 01:37:20,653
- I forgive you.
2487
01:37:20,653 --> 01:37:24,520
- And if you don't want to
forgive me, I totally get that.
2488
01:37:24,520 --> 01:37:26,243
- I forgive you.
2489
01:37:26,243 --> 01:37:27,883
- You do?
2490
01:37:27,883 --> 01:37:30,216
- I said I forgive you baby.
2491
01:37:31,508 --> 01:37:33,443
Merry Christmas, Mr. Stevenson.
2492
01:37:33,443 --> 01:37:35,538
- Merry Christmas Mrs. Stevenson.
2493
01:37:35,538 --> 01:37:37,246
(dramatic music)
2494
01:37:37,246 --> 01:37:38,079
Thank you Jesus.
2495
01:37:38,079 --> 01:37:40,227
(dramatic music)
2496
01:37:40,227 --> 01:37:41,144
- [All] Aw.
2497
01:37:42,680 --> 01:37:43,513
- Oh my God.
2498
01:37:43,513 --> 01:37:44,945
- [All] Merry Christmas.
2499
01:37:44,945 --> 01:37:47,695
(people yelling)
2500
01:37:58,410 --> 01:38:01,160
(dramatic music)
2501
01:38:04,450 --> 01:38:07,117
- Antwan, it reads, do understand
2502
01:38:08,549 --> 01:38:12,882
that forgiveness and trust
are two different things.
2503
01:38:14,308 --> 01:38:16,550
Just because you might forgive,
2504
01:38:16,550 --> 01:38:21,448
does not mean trust is going
to automatically be restored.
2505
01:38:21,448 --> 01:38:23,448
I really like this book.
2506
01:38:24,901 --> 01:38:26,312
Learning your husband's style
2507
01:38:26,312 --> 01:38:28,895
of communicating is beneficial.
2508
01:38:29,780 --> 01:38:31,930
- That's what I'm talking
about right there.
2509
01:38:31,930 --> 01:38:33,013
Keep reading!
2510
01:38:34,014 --> 01:38:35,900
Nah, nah, here, I'll read.
2511
01:38:35,900 --> 01:38:37,232
It said learning your husband's
2512
01:38:37,232 --> 01:38:40,069
style of communicating is beneficial.
2513
01:38:40,069 --> 01:38:42,688
Okay, every man is not the same.
2514
01:38:42,688 --> 01:38:45,717
However, one thing they all have in common
2515
01:38:45,717 --> 01:38:49,214
is that they all want to be respected.
2516
01:38:49,214 --> 01:38:51,478
Speaking to him as if he is
2517
01:38:51,478 --> 01:38:54,702
a child will not be received very well.
2518
01:38:54,702 --> 01:38:56,008
Amen to that.
2519
01:38:56,008 --> 01:39:00,654
Many times we, y'all have
a valid point and are right
2520
01:39:00,654 --> 01:39:02,854
in what y'all are trying to communicate,
2521
01:39:02,854 --> 01:39:06,119
conversely, meaning at the same time,
2522
01:39:06,119 --> 01:39:08,187
the way y'all communicate at times
2523
01:39:08,187 --> 01:39:10,354
is where the challenge is.
2524
01:39:11,270 --> 01:39:14,054
This is one heck of an author.
2525
01:39:14,054 --> 01:39:15,406
Where's your highlighter?
2526
01:39:15,406 --> 01:39:18,073
(upbeat music)
2527
01:41:49,716 --> 01:41:52,466
(Kelly knocking)
2528
01:41:55,040 --> 01:41:56,457
- Mrs. Anderson?
2529
01:41:58,316 --> 01:41:59,149
Hello?
2530
01:42:06,955 --> 01:42:08,363
- Excuse me.
2531
01:42:08,363 --> 01:42:10,859
Are you the lady that lives downstairs?
2532
01:42:10,859 --> 01:42:12,860
- Yes, hi, I'm Kelly Stevenson.
2533
01:42:12,860 --> 01:42:14,159
- Are you okay?
2534
01:42:14,159 --> 01:42:16,931
- Yes, I'm just looking for Mrs. Anderson.
2535
01:42:16,931 --> 01:42:18,031
Her apartment is empty
2536
01:42:18,031 --> 01:42:19,539
and she didn't tell me she was moving.
2537
01:42:19,539 --> 01:42:20,847
- I'm sorry, who?
2538
01:42:20,847 --> 01:42:23,222
- Mrs. Anderson, she lives here.
2539
01:42:23,222 --> 01:42:26,734
- No, this apartment has been
vacant now for over a year.
2540
01:42:26,734 --> 01:42:27,799
- Excuse me?
2541
01:42:27,799 --> 01:42:31,815
- No one has lived here in over a year.
2542
01:42:31,815 --> 01:42:34,260
- Okay, so it couldn't
have possibly been vacant
2543
01:42:34,260 --> 01:42:36,865
because I've spent time with her here
2544
01:42:36,865 --> 01:42:40,904
talking many times over this past year.
2545
01:42:40,904 --> 01:42:43,000
- No, Mrs. Stevenson, right?
2546
01:42:43,000 --> 01:42:43,833
- Yes.
2547
01:42:43,833 --> 01:42:44,666
- Okay.
2548
01:42:44,666 --> 01:42:46,184
Mrs. Stevenson, you may want
2549
01:42:46,184 --> 01:42:48,250
to give the leasing office a call.
2550
01:42:48,250 --> 01:42:50,945
I know it's the holidays, so
you may have to wait a week,
2551
01:42:50,945 --> 01:42:53,587
but give them the call, they may be able
2552
01:42:53,587 --> 01:42:55,170
to help you out with the situation.
2553
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- Okay, but I know I'm not crazy.
2554
01:42:58,601 --> 01:43:01,690
Are you 100% certain that no one has lived
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01:43:01,690 --> 01:43:03,455
in this apartment in the past year?
2556
01:43:03,455 --> 01:43:05,955
- I am 200% certain dear.
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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.
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01:43:11,128 --> 01:43:14,418
(upbeat music)
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01:43:14,418 --> 01:43:17,168
- Wow, God you are truly amazing.
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01:43:19,407 --> 01:43:22,074
(upbeat music)
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