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- (man):Bikes vs. cars: today's topic.
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You're on the air.- (other man):You're right.
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Cars should be forced to share the road,
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and bikes should stop aiming to run us over.
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- And cyclists should rememberroads were built for bikes in
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the first place. It's gonna taketime for everybody to get along.
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Let me tell you a story, OK?
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One time, I ran a red light onmy bike and there happened to be
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a cop on the corner.I wasn't paying attention.
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He pulls me over with his littlefinger and he says, "Here.
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Have a nice day." He gives me a$50 ticket. That's a true story.
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So I wish there were more cops on corners...
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- I saw that eye-roll.You gotta give the guy a chance.
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He defends people on both sides,and plus, he's hilarious.
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- I'm just not a bigfan of Cinco Dublin.
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But I am a big fan of yourcoffee, Sam. Thank you.
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- Too nice, Lea Townshend.-Next caller.
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- (Lea):So, J.R., what do you think?
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- I love this character.
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What a riot.- Oh, good. I'm so relieved.
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- Jodie Bellarusa. She's strong,but feminine. Knows what
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she wants, isn't afraid to gofor it. She's my kind of gal.
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- I'm so glad you like her.I... Because the way
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I made the story flow--- Quick question.
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I have no idea whatthis book is about. Do you?
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- Um... of course I do.
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- Well, that's a relief,
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because that is notreflected in these pages.
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There's no drama.There's no conflict.
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Zilch. It's just 310 pages
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of rainbows.- Oh.
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- More like, "Uh-oh." Lea,
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your first book came so easy.What's going on?
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- Well, remember,I was writing about myself.
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I'm a senator's daughter, andKathleen is a senator'sdaughter....
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And, um, you know, I tookexperiences from my childhood
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and I guess made a few tweaks.- You think what you usedthe first time
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will work again?- I guess I'm just having
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a wee bit of trouble witha character that's so different.
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- Oh, come on.Don't get all demure on me.
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You're an insightfuland gifted writer.
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Now a book needs conflict,it needs struggle,
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it needs a character whoconfronts everyone whogets in her way.
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- She does struggle, in her way.
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- Well, I need Jodie Bellarusato struggle MY way.
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And fast.
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I'm gonna give it to youstraight. You're down tofour weeks to deliver.
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So here's your manuscript.
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And... here are some thoughts
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that the marketing departmentand I have come up with.
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Don't look so worried,it's only a couple of chapters.
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Margaret! Where's my salad?
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- Ugh! It took me six monthsto write this book,
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and now I have towrite it again?
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- I thought you said she onlywants a couple chapters redone.
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- (sighing): Yeah, but they haveto be redone her way
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and I'm not really surewhat way that is.
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- Well, you are brilliant.You will come up with something.
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Here, taste.- What is that?
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Is that dukkah spice?
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- Only you would taste that.It's not too much?
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- No.- Good. I've gotta put the duckin. There will be leftovers...
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- I can't, it's Friday.- Oh, right!
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Date night. Let me guess,Edward is whisking you off
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to Le Sélect Bistro? You willboth have the Dover sole
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and a garden salad,split a bottle of red wine,
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skip the coffee and headstraight for the cheque.
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- That is so not true.- That's a relief.
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- Sometimes I get the cheque.- You are so predictable.
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- We're not predictable,it's just that that restaurant
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treats us so well.- OK...
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What time doeshe always get you home by?
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- I don't know,approximately 10...
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15. That's a lucky guess.
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- You are a people-pleaser.- And you are distracting me
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from my work.I will call you later.
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- OK, but only call me if you dosomething new, like having
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Crêpe Suzette for a change.- I can do that.
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- So I was gonna start thespeech off with a joke.
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- OK.- Two uranium-238 nuclei
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are having drinks in a bar.
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One says to the other,"How about one more round?"
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Now, the other nucleus says,"Can't. Gotta split."
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(strained laugh)- "Gotta split."
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- Maybe it's nota very good joke.
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- No, Edward, I'm sure it is.
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- I'll try it out at DeanGlendale's party tomorrow night.
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You watch how they react.
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Is everything OK?
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- Yeah! Um, I don't know.
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My publisher won't accept mybook without some prettybig changes.
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- But your last book was sogood. I'm sure you cando it again.
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Why didn't you say anything?- I didn't want to worry you.
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- That's sweet,but I meant to J.R.
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- No, um...
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Don't worry. Let's order.
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Have you ever felt like youshould be moving forward,
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but you're just goingaround in a circle?
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- Good evening Professor Crowse,Ms. Townshend.
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- Ethan, hello.We would both like to have...
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(throat clearing)
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...the Dover soleand a green salad, please.
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- Excellent choice.- Actually,
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I'd like the Crêpe Suzette.
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- Do you meanthose flaming pancakes?
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- Yeah. Doesn't that look fun?- But it's...
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such a spectacle.
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- The Dover sole is fine.
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- Are you sure? I mean,have what you want.
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- Oh, no, yeah.It's always good here.
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(giggle)
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- You did not!- Yes, I did. Crêpe Suzettes,
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just like you said.- Were they as good as mine?
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- I don't know.
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As soon as I sawEdward's face, I...
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- You went back tothe Dover sole? Oh, Lea.
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Don't be such a doormat.What is your problem?
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- My problem isI have nothing to wear,
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and I need to look good forEdward's reception tonight.
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- Well, you always look good,and he won't notice
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what you're wearing, anyway.- You're right.
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I've spent the last two hours
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laying out wardrobewhen I should be writing,
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because I can't come up withconflict for my main character.
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- Why don't you use the conflictthat you have with Edward?
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- 'Cause we don't have any.We don't argue
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about anything at all. I loveEdward, he's great. He's just--
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- Boring? You're bored. You feelboring when you're with him,
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and that makes him bored.- Not at all.
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We're perfect for each other.We've been together two years.
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- You know what you need?
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Something that he will notice.
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- Whoa.
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- Do you like it?- Um...
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That is... some red dress.
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- Are you OK?- Yes, yeah.
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No, I'm, I'm fine.
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- Is it too much? It's too much.I can go change.
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Do you want me to change?- There's no time.
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So we will have to go with it.
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- OK. Well, if you're sure.
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- I, I am.- OK.
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- OK.- OK!
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(crickets chirping)
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(classical music plays)
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- Your glass is empty, dear.Um, I'll get you another drink.
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- Oh, no, don't worry about it.I can get it.
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You need to talk to yourprofessor friends.
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Go ahead.
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- Dr. McKinley!
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- (man):The Medinilla Magnifica.
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Otherwise known asPink Lantern.
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- Or a Filipino Orchid.
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- And here I was tryingto impress you.
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- Sorry, I didn'tmean to intrude.
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- You're Lea Townshend.
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- Yes. And you're Cinco Dublin.
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- Well, this has thepotential to get awkward.
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- I'm sure youwere just doing your jobwhen you reviewed my book.
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- Well,
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now we're right in the middleof awkward, aren't we?
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Who remembers a stupid littleon-air book review?
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- "Although well-written,Ms. Townshend's safe,
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"Leave it to Beavertake on her childhood
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"leaves me wantingabsolutely nothing more
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from this author, ever."
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- Wow. That's pretty brutal.
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(indistinct chatterand laughter)
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Would you hold that?Throw it in my face.
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- What?- Throw it in my face.
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- I'm not going tothrow wine in your face.- I deserve it. Please.
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Red's your colour.
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- There you are.I've been looking for you.
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- Uh, I've been right herethe whole time.
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- Is this becauseI don't like your dress?
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- You don't?- No, I-- I'm sorry.
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I didn't... I didn't mean that.
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It's just, you don't needall that fancy stuff.
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- I was just trying...
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- To what?- Nothing. Don't worry about it.
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Let's enjoy the party.- OK.
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(knocking)It's Edward!
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- Come in?- Hi!
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- Hi...- I apologize for not calling
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before coming over.- No, I think it's great
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that you did somethingspontaneous. Wow!
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What's going on?
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They're really lovely.
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- Aren't you gonnaread the card?
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- "I want to do everythingto make us work,
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"and I know you wantto make it work too.
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XO."
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"20% off four-week course
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"in conflict management,
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paid in full."- When I saw this ad,
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I thought this is perfect.You know, conflict is harder
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for some, morethan it is for others.
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- Yes. What does thishave to do with us?
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- Well, things were a littleawkward the other night
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and you have been saying howmuch trouble you're having
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with the character in your book.- Yeah, that was really nothing.
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- No, but it got me thinking.You know, maybe we should...
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"learn to deal with conflict
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in a proactive,life-enhancing way."
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What do you say?- Uh, I guess if you think
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this will help us.- Great!
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OK! OK, good!
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Um... right.First session is tonight.
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Address is right here on thecoupon. I have to run to work.
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This is gonna be so good.
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You'll see.(loud kissing sound)
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I am so excited.
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(song:Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairyby Tchaikovsky)
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- I'm sorry?
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- (whispering): Carol.- Carol, Carol.
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Yeah, you paid cash, so you canjust have a seat right there.
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Oh! Just a sec. Hello, there.
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Welcome. Name, please.
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- Edward Crowse?
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Oh, no, I'm Lea Townshend.But, um,
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Edward Crowse signed us upfor this group.
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- Lea Townshend, as inThe Senator's DaughterLea Townshend?
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- Yes.- I was wondering!
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Wow, I really loved that book.
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- Oh, thank you.- But you know, don't worry.
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They don't need to knowthat there's a celebrity.
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I'm sure you get reallybothered by all the fans.
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Oh, yeah, here you are.Here you are.
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But no Edward Crowse.
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- Oh, well, Edward's never late.Can we wait for him?
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- Well, if he's not on the list,he's not in the class,
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so looks likeyou're on your own.
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- No, I'm surehe'll be here any minute.
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That's probably him!
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- Well, made it witha minute to spare!
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Hi, you must be Marilyn.- I am.
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- I'm Cinco Dublin and thisis my court order.
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Yeah, that's me.
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I lost my cool witha guest that was rude...
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- Oh, Ms. Townshend,we haven't quite
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finished yourregistration yet.
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- What are you doing here?
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This is my favourite novelist!
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One word...
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awkward.(Marilyn mouthing silently.)
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- Hello, everyone. Welcome.My name is Marilyn Hawkins,
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and I will be helping younavigate your way
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through various degrees ofconflict management.
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So why don't we start byintroducing ourselves?
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- I'm Glenda,and if you must know,
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the husband thoughtthis was a good idea.
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- Robert, "the husband."
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I thought this was a good ideabecause "the wife"
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has a hard time keepingher opinions to herself.
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- Well, if someone actuallydid the things he said
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he was gonna do, I wouldn't--- Do you know how busy I get?- OK.
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OK, Robert? Glenda?That's why you're here.
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This is actually perfect. OK.
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- Oh, hi. I'm Ernie,
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and I'm so happy to be here.
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- And why are you here?- That's an excellent question.
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On my last performance review,
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it was noted thatI have the tendency
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to be "passive aggressive."
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- Not to worry,we can help you with that.
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- Great.
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(whispering)
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- I'm sorry?- (whispering): I'm Carol.
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I would like peopleto listen to me.
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- I think that's an excellentdecision, Carol.
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So that just leaves you.- Uh, I'm Lea Townshend.
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I don't really have anyproblems with conflict,
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so I don't know why I'm here.- OK, well,
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maybe we can startwith Edward Crowse
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and why you thinkhe should be here.
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- Um, Edward is my second cousin
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and this was reallyall his idea, so...
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- Your second cousin signed youboth up for a conflictmanagement group?
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- Yeah.- OK, so,
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why do you supposehe's not here?
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- You know, he reallyhasn't been feeling well.
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He's recovering from surgery.
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Kidney surgery.- Oh... wish hima speedy recovery.
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OK, so before we begin,I just have a little bitof housekeeping here.
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So, Ernie, it says here
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that you did notpay for the class.
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- What? No, I paid online.Who said I didn't pay?
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- Kidney surgery. That'sa pretty serious procedure,
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did you know that?
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- Mm-hmm. Who do youthink the donor was?
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- You know, Ernie, I have toreport all your actionsto your supervisor.
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- Since when?- Well, you know what? Ifyou have a receipt, then we can
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clear this up right now.
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- That was nice of you. Does itstill hurt a little bit,right here?
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- Yes, but I thinkwe should be listening.
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- That's so funny, because youknow, your kidneysare back here.
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Should be hurting there.- Right.
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- No, I don't have the receipt.- Well, I guess
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that's a lesson in itself.
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But I'm sorry, you can't stay.- What?!
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- You see, conflict will almostalways take us by surprise.
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It's not something you can planfor. See, Ernie here,
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he didn't realize his actionswould result in conflict.
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- Hey. I don't likebeing made to look stupid.
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- Too late.- Maybe you shouldstay out of this.
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- Are you threatening my wife?- Hey, guys, guys! It'sconflict-management group,
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remember? I'm sure Erniedidn't mean anything by it.
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- It's OK, guys. Why don't youhave a seat? Alright. So you cansee how layered conflict can be.
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- That was a stunt?- Yes, it was.
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Thank you very much, Ernie.You can sit down.
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- Was that too much? 'Cause itkind of felt... Yeah? OK.
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- So this is veryinteresting. So Glenda,
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you deal with conflictby using sarcasm.
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And Robert, you takeconflict by the horns.
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And Cinco, I was very impressed.You really jumped in there.
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But just be careful, becausesometimes jumping incan backfire.
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Carol. You looked like you wereready to flee the scene.
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It's OK, we'll workon that. And Lea...
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judging by the lookon your face,
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you look like you'd ratherget a root canal
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than deal with conflict,am I right?
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- I just think everybodyshould be able to get along.
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- Hear, hear!- OK, well,
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I'm very happy thatyou guys are all here.
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So why don't we start offwith the first exercise.It's very simple.
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(knocking)
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- Lea! Oh, you didn't call.
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- Sorry about that.
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Where were you?- Excuse me?
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- The flowers, the coupon,the class... that was tonight!
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- Yes, yes, I know.How did it go?
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- How did it go?- Mm-hmm.
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- I...- Please tell meit was helpful for you.
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- I thought you got it
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to be helpful for us,not just me.
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- I don't havea problem with conflict.
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- Neither do I!
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I don't!- Lea...
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The fact that you came all theway over here tonight
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to tell me how you really feelis a really big step for you.
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- It is?- I think this isgonna be really good for you.
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OK, think of itas an investment...
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in our relationship. I mean,I know that I am committed
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to doing whatever it takesto make this work.
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Aren't you?
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- Yes, sure. Of course I am.
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- OK. So this next exercise
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is called Address and Accept.
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One partner has to address theother with a strong opinion.
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The other one has to just acceptand respond honestly,
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but without challenging or fear.Let's start with Cinco and Lea.
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(quietly):OK, Lea, you can start.
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- (laughing): I can't.- OK. Just,
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you don't like his clothes,he interrupts people...
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- I just can'tthink of anything.
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- OK, alright.So Cinco, you can start.
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- I think you need this class
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more than anyone elsein here. Respectfully.
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- What do you thinkof that? You tell him.
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What do you think of that?
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- Uh... I, I...
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I think that he doesn'tactually know me,
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and how could he possiblymake a comment like that?
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- OK, that's good.Tell Cinco, not me.
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- You know what? No.I think my cousin, Edward,
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made a mistake and didn't knowwhat kind of class this was.
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I'm sorry, but I thinkI'm wasting everybody's time.
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- OK, but don't leavewith your problem, alright?
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- My problem?
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You know what?Maybe you have a problem,
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with your nice voice and calmdemeanor, and maybe it's all
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just a front, and maybe youdon't know how to deal withanything at all, ever!
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- That's fantastic. Great work.
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But say it to Cinco, not to me.What she's experiencing
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right now is calledmisplaced anger.
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It's very, very common.You can just have a seat.
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Let's have Robertand Ernie up next.
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Good work.
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- For what it's worth,Professor,
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I entirely concurwith your assessment.
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- Thank you.
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That actually sounded sincere.
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- And I would hate to haveyou turn that piercinginsight on me.
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(Cinco):A lot of you have been wondering, you know,
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how my court-ordered conflict...- OK, hear me out. First,
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I don't have anyconflict in my life.
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Edward and I have literally...have not had
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one single argument.
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Plus, you know what? I don'teven like to hurt people.
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I don't like tohurt people's feelings.
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What does she know aboutmisplaced anger? What anger?
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I'm not going backto that class.- Wait...
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- ...OK, so she claims she hasno conflict issues whatsoever.
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So naturally, I tell herI think she needs this class
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more than anybody else in there.- So weird. He is talking about
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his group, and so are you.-And her reply is,
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"I really don't think I need tobe here." So folks, obviously,
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I beg to differ. Now I'm notgoing to name names, because
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I'm not that kind of guy. Did I just say that out loud?
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I think I did.OK, here's the point.Here's what I want to say.
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I think this classis a great thing
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for people who have conflictissues of all kinds,
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not just for anger management...
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- When did you startlistening to this nut?
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- Since you told me that he wasin your group. It is you, right?
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- It's all for show.- My question is this:
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why is it so difficult for us
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to face the truthabout ourselves?
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(Lea laughs.)- Mm-hmm.
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- Someone so convinced they donot have issues with conflict...
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Get this. She then --
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instead of doing the exercisewith me, her partner --
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she goes after the teacher.She goes right after her.
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She lets her have it.- No, that's not what happened.
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- She's got no conflict issueswhatsoever, she's good to go.
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It's a question that ison my mind, callers.
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And I want to hear from you.
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- What are you doing?(beeping)
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- Cinco D, you're on the air.- Well, um,
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I... I...
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- OK, let's start with somethingvery easy. What is your name?
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- Jodie.
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Jodie Bellarusa.(mouthing silently)
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- Jodie. Hi, Jodie. What do youthink of my confused Madame X?
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- You know what? Maybe that girldoesn't belong in the group.
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Maybe you just love conflict somuch that you thrive on it,
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and you've become, like,this conflict vampire.
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And then when you'reattracted to someone
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who doesn't have the sameconflict issues, you get uneasy
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and defensive. When in truth,it's really you
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not being able to dealwith how you really feel.
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- What makes you sayI'm attracted to her?
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(beep)
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- Wow. It's too bad that youcouldn't say that as yourself.
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- I think I mademy point clear enough.
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You should take this. Take that.-This is Cinco Dublin
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in the morning, and we're gonnabe right back after this break.
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- I'm glad you could make it.
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Your mother saidyou were trying to cancel.
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- I did not say that, Douglas.I said she was working.
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- I would never cancel on you.- Good girl.
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- Douglas, what didthe doctor say? No salt.
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He also said,"Avoid stressful situations,"
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and I caught him listening tothe Cinco Dublin show today.
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(cutlery clattering)
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- No! You should reallylisten to your doctor.
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- The kid's a fool.- Your doctor isabout 70 years old.
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- No, Dublin. It's outrageous.He's got a platform topoison the public mind --
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just like his old man.I mean, that father of his
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devoted his entire newspapercareer to attacking
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every stand that I took.- Douglas, don't exaggerate.
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- I believe in the good,solid middle of the road.
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And if I was a little bitto the left of an issue,
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he claimed I was too liberal.If I had one foot to the right,
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he claimed I was tooconservative. I mean,is that fair to me?
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Lea?- Me?
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Um, well, I think
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whatever his fatherdid to you is...
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well, it's between youand Dublin Sr.
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It doesn't really haveanything to do with Cinco.
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- Lea, I'm surprised. Did youhear the broadcast?
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- Yes, dear. We allheard the broadcast.
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It wasn't that bad.- You agree with that, Lea?
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- I'm sure it was an outrage.
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- Good, exactly. At least I cancount on someone for the truth.
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- Hope you're rememberingto shower.
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- Yes, of course I am.
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- I remember the last book.You wore the same pair ofsweatpants for days.
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- Well, that was because thewashing machine was broken.
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Mm-hmm.
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Have you, um...ever had flaming pancakes?
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- You mean Crêpe Suzette?Many times.
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- And Daddy wasn't embarrassed?- Never with your father!
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- So have you always donewhatever Daddy wants?
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- We're settled in our ways.- Yeah, see,
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I keep trying to spicethings up with Edward
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by suggesting we try new things,
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and he looks at me as if I'vesaid we should rob a bank.
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- (chuckling): It's calleda relationship, Lea.
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It has ebbs and flows. It can'talways be smooth sailing.
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- So it took me a couple of daysto kick in, but then it really
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clicked. I totally see yourpoint. And writing all this
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conflict, it really kicks upthe drama, and it's exciting.
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I'm excited about the revisions.
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I'm almost done!- No.
489
00:27:01,908 --> 00:27:03,908
- No?- Nooo.
490
00:27:03,950 --> 00:27:05,825
Yes, now there is someconflict in Jodie's life,
491
00:27:05,908 --> 00:27:09,242
but it's not handled right.- Is she too aggressive now?
492
00:27:09,326 --> 00:27:11,951
- Sweetie, I'm goingto read you something
493
00:27:11,951 --> 00:27:13,909
straight from the dictionary.
494
00:27:13,951 --> 00:27:16,576
"Conflict: to come intocollision or disagreement.
495
00:27:16,659 --> 00:27:19,493
A struggle oran opposition, a clash.
496
00:27:19,577 --> 00:27:21,285
(slam)There's no clash.
497
00:27:21,327 --> 00:27:25,118
Everything happens in her head.She doesn't do anything.
498
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:28,453
- She will, J.R. She will.
499
00:27:28,536 --> 00:27:30,411
I'm not going to let you down.
500
00:27:30,411 --> 00:27:32,411
I can rewrite as muchas you want.
501
00:27:32,453 --> 00:27:35,204
Besides, wasn't itHemingway that said,
502
00:27:35,245 --> 00:27:37,412
"A good novel should takeat least 10 years"?
503
00:27:37,454 --> 00:27:40,245
- Hemingway didn'thave a huge advance
504
00:27:40,287 --> 00:27:42,746
he might have had to pay back.
505
00:27:46,330 --> 00:27:49,413
(whispering)
506
00:27:49,455 --> 00:27:52,956
- Hi.- Hi!
507
00:27:54,664 --> 00:27:57,247
- I'm giving the booka second chance.
508
00:27:57,247 --> 00:27:59,457
Like I do with people.
509
00:27:59,498 --> 00:28:03,373
- Thank you?- Thank you.
510
00:28:04,957 --> 00:28:08,333
- I suppose I have conflict withthe buyers I deal with.
511
00:28:08,374 --> 00:28:11,333
I've been written up seven times
512
00:28:11,374 --> 00:28:13,916
because of peopleI considered friends.
513
00:28:13,916 --> 00:28:18,834
What about you?- Uh, I really haveno conflict in my life.
514
00:28:18,875 --> 00:28:21,250
In fact, my publishersays I have no conflict
515
00:28:21,250 --> 00:28:23,418
in my new book, which... I mean,there is, but apparently
516
00:28:23,460 --> 00:28:26,918
it's not the right kind.- What about the father-daughter
517
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,293
relationship in your first book?Wasn't that based on your life?
518
00:28:30,376 --> 00:28:31,919
- No, I'm not that character.
519
00:28:32,002 --> 00:28:35,919
I mean, I would never doanything to disappointor embarrass my father.
520
00:28:35,919 --> 00:28:37,919
- Is that because youhave an easy, breezy,
521
00:28:37,919 --> 00:28:42,170
carefree relationship with him?Or is it because youavoid conflict?
522
00:28:42,212 --> 00:28:43,920
- It's pretty breezy.
523
00:28:43,962 --> 00:28:46,420
- Excuse me, I wantto say something.
524
00:28:46,462 --> 00:28:49,171
I'm re-readingyour old book, as you know.
525
00:28:49,213 --> 00:28:52,463
And it's got a little Victorianplotting in it, but onceyou get past that,
526
00:28:52,504 --> 00:28:54,963
it seems like it's written fromthe heart. So now you're saying
527
00:28:55,004 --> 00:28:58,464
you want to rewrite the conflictto pander to your publisher.
528
00:28:58,505 --> 00:29:01,380
- I'm not pandering, and that'snot even what pandering means.
529
00:29:01,422 --> 00:29:03,380
I didn't say I agreedwith my publisher.
530
00:29:03,422 --> 00:29:06,590
And by the way, can we rememberfor a moment that you don'tactually know me?
531
00:29:06,631 --> 00:29:10,465
- I know that I'm not a doormatfor a publisher or a father.
532
00:29:10,506 --> 00:29:14,382
- Thanks, Ernie. Really? Becausemany believe that most men
533
00:29:14,424 --> 00:29:17,424
have unresolved issueswith their fathers.
534
00:29:17,424 --> 00:29:19,591
- I'm not most men.(scoffing)
535
00:29:19,632 --> 00:29:22,842
- I've heard your show.- What's that supposed to mean?
536
00:29:22,883 --> 00:29:25,050
- Well, your dad is a respectedman in this city.
537
00:29:25,092 --> 00:29:28,217
You're an entertainer.He's a political journalist.
538
00:29:28,258 --> 00:29:31,843
- I'm a journalist.- You're a shock jock.
539
00:29:31,926 --> 00:29:34,009
- OK, loud and fast, withoutthinking about it,
540
00:29:34,093 --> 00:29:37,219
I want you to tell me a sourceof your conflict. Go!
541
00:29:37,260 --> 00:29:39,302
- Bullies!
542
00:29:42,010 --> 00:29:44,260
- Pretty much everyoneI work with.
543
00:29:44,260 --> 00:29:46,261
- Her.- Him!
544
00:29:46,261 --> 00:29:48,470
- Excellent. OK, so let's goplay Conflict
545
00:29:48,511 --> 00:29:51,220
Snakes and Ladders. Let's go!
546
00:29:53,345 --> 00:29:55,637
- Go! Come on, let's go.
547
00:29:55,679 --> 00:29:58,596
- I didn't mean to upset you.
548
00:29:58,596 --> 00:30:01,179
- Not at all,it's not a big deal.
549
00:30:01,262 --> 00:30:03,138
You're just a know-it-all.
550
00:30:03,222 --> 00:30:05,638
- I call them as I see them.
551
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:08,722
- Maybe you need some glasses.
552
00:30:08,763 --> 00:30:12,223
- Maybe, but there are certainthings I see clearly.
553
00:30:24,557 --> 00:30:26,475
(Cinco):In my opinion, this is a crisis
554
00:30:26,475 --> 00:30:30,100
that everyone in this country --not just us here today --
555
00:30:30,100 --> 00:30:31,808
needs to pay attention to.
556
00:30:31,850 --> 00:30:35,351
Should your educationcost more than a sedan?
557
00:30:35,392 --> 00:30:37,934
Or two? When I wasa student here,
558
00:30:37,976 --> 00:30:42,142
I just had to pay for books and,you know, party favours.
559
00:30:42,184 --> 00:30:45,227
(chuckling)But today, it's out of control.
560
00:30:45,268 --> 00:30:47,518
We're gonna hear frommy good friend the dean
561
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,268
in a minute, but right nowI wanna hear from you guys.
562
00:30:50,310 --> 00:30:54,103
How do you think, uh...
563
00:30:54,144 --> 00:30:57,728
What do you feel?
564
00:31:02,145 --> 00:31:05,145
- There's no class until 10.
565
00:31:05,187 --> 00:31:07,270
- (giggling): Hello.
566
00:31:07,312 --> 00:31:09,688
- Lea! What's wrong?
567
00:31:09,730 --> 00:31:13,230
- Nothing's wrong. I... Don'tworry, you didn't forget a date.
568
00:31:13,271 --> 00:31:15,771
I just wanted to surprise youbefore your morning class.
569
00:31:15,771 --> 00:31:17,647
- Great.
570
00:31:17,689 --> 00:31:20,272
Yeah, no, that, that, that...I'm so glad you did.
571
00:31:20,272 --> 00:31:23,731
- Yeah, me too. Here, muffins.
572
00:31:25,357 --> 00:31:29,607
And I have coffee, fresh fromSam's Coffee Truck. Coffee?
573
00:31:33,149 --> 00:31:35,024
- (quietly): Oh, thank you.
574
00:31:35,066 --> 00:31:37,941
- So what are youlecturing on today?
575
00:31:38,024 --> 00:31:41,109
- We are halfway intoHeisenberg's theory.
576
00:31:41,150 --> 00:31:44,567
- Oh. That sounds interesting.
577
00:31:44,567 --> 00:31:46,442
- Really?- Mm-hmm.
578
00:31:46,484 --> 00:31:48,442
- The theory is that duringquantum experiments,
579
00:31:48,442 --> 00:31:50,776
there is a seeminglyunavoidable tendency of humans
580
00:31:50,776 --> 00:31:53,151
to influence any givensituation. Just as you have
581
00:31:53,193 --> 00:31:55,568
influenced this situation.
582
00:32:09,028 --> 00:32:12,153
- Hey. Lea.
583
00:32:12,195 --> 00:32:14,446
- Hi. What are you doing here?
584
00:32:14,488 --> 00:32:17,279
- We like to get the showon the road sometimes.
585
00:32:17,279 --> 00:32:20,238
Um, that's funny,because I thought I saw you
586
00:32:20,279 --> 00:32:23,197
watching the broadcasta few minutes ago.
587
00:32:23,239 --> 00:32:25,822
What brings you here?
588
00:32:25,864 --> 00:32:28,864
- I was here to see my cousin,
589
00:32:28,905 --> 00:32:32,698
but I'm leaving. I was just,I was just leaving.
590
00:32:32,740 --> 00:32:36,948
- Edward.- Yeah. He's a professor here
591
00:32:36,990 --> 00:32:38,907
and it's his firstweek back at work,
592
00:32:38,949 --> 00:32:42,282
and, uh, I just wanted tosee if he settled in OK.
593
00:32:42,324 --> 00:32:44,116
- That was veryconsiderate of you.
594
00:32:44,199 --> 00:32:47,575
- Yeah, thank you.- You're welcome.
595
00:32:47,617 --> 00:32:49,783
I want to apologize for, um...
596
00:32:49,825 --> 00:32:52,117
if I offended youat the last class.
597
00:32:52,158 --> 00:32:55,493
- Don't be. There'sreally no need. I'm fine.
598
00:32:55,576 --> 00:32:58,034
- OK, well, at tonight's class,
599
00:32:58,118 --> 00:33:00,659
I'm going to make an effort tobe a little more sensitive.
600
00:33:00,701 --> 00:33:03,035
And I feel like I'm learning.
601
00:33:03,119 --> 00:33:07,744
- That's very generous, butI won't be going back to class.
602
00:33:07,785 --> 00:33:10,952
I'm really behind on my bookand if I don't turn it in,
603
00:33:10,994 --> 00:33:15,203
like, yesterday...- Um, that's really too bad.
604
00:33:15,286 --> 00:33:17,120
I kinda like you,Lea Townshend.
605
00:33:17,203 --> 00:33:20,246
Now I'm gonna haveto bond with Carol, so...
606
00:33:20,287 --> 00:33:22,204
She scares me, I gotta tell you.
607
00:33:22,287 --> 00:33:24,329
Well, good luck with your book.
608
00:33:24,371 --> 00:33:26,871
And, um...
609
00:33:26,912 --> 00:33:30,288
I'm gonna try to be gentleron my next review.
610
00:33:30,330 --> 00:33:33,622
(small laugh)
611
00:33:37,373 --> 00:33:39,331
(knocking)
612
00:33:39,373 --> 00:33:41,581
- Edward.
613
00:33:41,623 --> 00:33:44,039
(loud kissing sound)Hi. Oh!
614
00:33:44,082 --> 00:33:46,332
What's all this?- You know, I was so taken
615
00:33:46,374 --> 00:33:48,124
with your spontaneousgesture this morning,
616
00:33:48,165 --> 00:33:52,291
and your interest in my work,that I wanted to reciprocate.
617
00:33:52,333 --> 00:33:56,083
- Are those student papers?
618
00:33:56,125 --> 00:33:58,458
- Mm. My advanced class.
619
00:33:58,500 --> 00:34:00,959
I thought what fun it would befor you and I to spend
620
00:34:01,001 --> 00:34:02,917
the evening reviewingthem together.
621
00:34:02,959 --> 00:34:07,709
- Edward, I need to apologizefor barging in on you
622
00:34:07,751 --> 00:34:10,293
this morning. It wasreally a silly idea.
623
00:34:10,335 --> 00:34:13,627
- Yeah, it reallywas unlike you.
624
00:34:13,627 --> 00:34:16,710
- Well, you know, sometimesit's good to be unlike me.
625
00:34:16,752 --> 00:34:20,294
- Why would it be goodto be unlike you?
626
00:34:20,336 --> 00:34:23,169
- Right. Sorry.
627
00:34:23,211 --> 00:34:26,295
- Listen, why don't you ordera pizza? If we start now,
628
00:34:26,295 --> 00:34:28,629
we could be finishedall this by 11.
629
00:34:31,045 --> 00:34:34,505
- You know what? I forgot.I have my group tonight.
630
00:34:34,546 --> 00:34:36,671
- Tonight?- Yeah.
631
00:34:36,671 --> 00:34:40,005
I hope you're notterribly disappointed.
632
00:34:40,046 --> 00:34:42,547
- So, so it's going well, then?
633
00:34:42,631 --> 00:34:45,047
- It's a process.
634
00:34:45,089 --> 00:34:48,006
- Wow. You know, I am so gladthat you are getting --
635
00:34:48,089 --> 00:34:51,382
whoa -- what you need from it.- I am.
636
00:34:51,423 --> 00:34:53,965
- Well, OK.(Edward chuckles.)
637
00:34:59,341 --> 00:35:01,216
- Sorry I'm late.Oh! Is it over?
638
00:35:01,258 --> 00:35:04,591
- We're going on a field trip.- Well, this is a nice surprise.
639
00:35:04,633 --> 00:35:06,216
- I think I was in conflict.
640
00:35:06,258 --> 00:35:09,634
- So you came in to work it out!- No, I came to avoid it.
641
00:35:09,675 --> 00:35:11,634
(laughing)
642
00:35:11,634 --> 00:35:14,801
- OK, so I'm going to split youup into teams of two.
643
00:35:14,801 --> 00:35:17,510
I thought it would be fun if weadded a little competition.
644
00:35:17,551 --> 00:35:21,468
And the winner getsa gift card to Mangallo's.
645
00:35:21,510 --> 00:35:23,886
OK, everybody choose a colour.
646
00:35:23,927 --> 00:35:27,094
- (quietly): That place isimpossible to get in,it's so hot.
647
00:35:27,136 --> 00:35:29,552
- (whispering):We should team up, OK?
648
00:35:31,178 --> 00:35:34,470
- OK, now find the person thathas the matching colour.
649
00:35:34,512 --> 00:35:37,512
- Oh.
650
00:35:40,388 --> 00:35:43,054
- Now, the objectiveof this exercise
651
00:35:43,096 --> 00:35:46,096
is to stall in the lineas long as you can.
652
00:35:46,138 --> 00:35:49,805
So I want you to feel the heatof the conflict rising
653
00:35:49,847 --> 00:35:52,805
around you, because you'reholding up the line. Got it?
654
00:35:52,805 --> 00:35:55,722
(beep)Go.
655
00:35:57,140 --> 00:35:59,473
- What does it say? Do I evenwanna know what it says?
656
00:35:59,473 --> 00:36:01,223
- Oh, yes, you do, partner.
657
00:36:01,265 --> 00:36:04,349
"Haggle the cashier for10 cents, claiming youwere short-changed.
658
00:36:04,391 --> 00:36:08,891
"Partner two: escalate thesituation by becoming agitated
659
00:36:08,932 --> 00:36:10,974
and claim to be in a rush."I'll take that one. Easy.
660
00:36:10,974 --> 00:36:13,767
- Cinco Dublin just got chosenfor the losing team.
661
00:36:13,808 --> 00:36:16,225
- I don't think so. I never losewhen there's a prize at stake.
662
00:36:16,267 --> 00:36:20,559
- There's a firsttime for everything.- No, I don't think so.
663
00:36:25,143 --> 00:36:27,559
- $8 and 30 cents.
664
00:36:27,601 --> 00:36:30,602
- Lea Townshend, is that you?
665
00:36:30,644 --> 00:36:34,102
- Wow, Mrs. Musgrave.What are you doing back in town?
666
00:36:34,144 --> 00:36:37,936
- Well, we moved back. Didn'tyour mother tell you?- No.
667
00:36:37,978 --> 00:36:40,436
- I hear your novelis doing great.
668
00:36:40,478 --> 00:36:42,478
- OK, let's not writea novel right now
669
00:36:42,478 --> 00:36:44,145
and keep things moving,shall we?
670
00:36:44,145 --> 00:36:47,104
- You're not listening. One ofus has to go get another item
671
00:36:47,146 --> 00:36:49,187
to hold up the line!- You always do this!
672
00:36:49,229 --> 00:36:51,354
I just said I would goand get some spinach.
673
00:36:51,396 --> 00:36:53,730
- (barely audible): May I havea price check on that?
674
00:36:53,772 --> 00:36:56,938
- (whispering): Louder.She can't hear you.
675
00:36:56,980 --> 00:36:59,313
- (whispering): May I havea price check on that?
676
00:36:59,313 --> 00:37:01,313
- Carol. You can do it.
677
00:37:01,313 --> 00:37:05,231
- It was very nice to see you.- Oh, maybe we can doa ladies' brunch.
678
00:37:05,273 --> 00:37:09,481
- That would be perfect.- That's wonderful. Let's pullout our calendars and set a date
679
00:37:09,481 --> 00:37:13,565
for brunch rightnow. Yeah. Yeah?
680
00:37:13,607 --> 00:37:16,315
- (whispering): Robert, Robert.Glenda. Hi. Hi.
681
00:37:16,399 --> 00:37:18,858
From now on, when youaddress each other,
682
00:37:18,941 --> 00:37:21,650
I want you to usephrases like, "I feel..."
683
00:37:21,691 --> 00:37:23,816
(groaning)
684
00:37:23,816 --> 00:37:27,526
Instead of "you, you, you, you."- 'K, fine, fine, fine, fine.
685
00:37:27,567 --> 00:37:29,401
- Uh, excuse me? Your change.
686
00:37:29,442 --> 00:37:33,484
- If we were moving any slower,I'd be frozen in time.
687
00:37:33,484 --> 00:37:35,902
- I'm sorry, I thinkyou shorted me 10 cents.
688
00:37:35,943 --> 00:37:39,652
- Come on, lady. Lady.- I just counted it.Did you drop it?
689
00:37:39,652 --> 00:37:41,402
- Nope.
690
00:37:41,443 --> 00:37:45,153
- I feel... like an item fromthe frozen foods section,
691
00:37:45,194 --> 00:37:48,611
which is way over on the otherside of the grocery store,
692
00:37:48,653 --> 00:37:51,695
would buy us more timethan the produce,
693
00:37:51,779 --> 00:37:53,695
which is right here.- And I'm feeling
694
00:37:53,779 --> 00:37:56,279
like you're telling mewhat to do.
695
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:59,738
- Just let mehelp him first, then.- Oh, no, I can't wait for that.
696
00:37:59,738 --> 00:38:02,071
I need my dime right now.
697
00:38:02,113 --> 00:38:04,530
- Lady, it's a dime! Let it go.
698
00:38:04,571 --> 00:38:07,656
- OK, fine!(Cinco clears throat.)
699
00:38:07,656 --> 00:38:09,947
I'm sorry, I am owed
700
00:38:09,989 --> 00:38:12,489
and, um, I cannot letthis store cheat me
701
00:38:12,489 --> 00:38:15,531
out of what is rightfully mine.
702
00:38:15,572 --> 00:38:17,198
- OK!
703
00:38:17,240 --> 00:38:19,615
I'm sorry for being so bossy.
704
00:38:19,657 --> 00:38:22,198
- Apology accepted!
705
00:38:22,240 --> 00:38:23,907
Frozen peas it is.
706
00:38:23,948 --> 00:38:25,908
- Nicely done!- Thank you.
707
00:38:25,949 --> 00:38:28,283
- (high-pitched): Nicely done!
708
00:38:28,324 --> 00:38:31,324
Nicely done.
709
00:38:31,366 --> 00:38:33,367
- Carol, you can do it.
710
00:38:33,409 --> 00:38:38,200
- (shaky): May I havea price check of that?
711
00:38:39,492 --> 00:38:42,368
If you don't have time to checkthe price, it's fine.
712
00:38:42,410 --> 00:38:47,368
I mean, if I were doing yourjob, I would be checkingevery price.
713
00:38:47,410 --> 00:38:49,994
- And maybe a pricecomparison, too.
714
00:38:50,036 --> 00:38:53,827
- Yes. We wanna make surewe get the best deal.
715
00:38:53,869 --> 00:38:56,702
- On those peppers.- Mm. Mm-hmm.
716
00:38:56,786 --> 00:38:58,495
- Lady, come on.Let her check me out,
717
00:38:58,537 --> 00:39:01,328
and then you can have yourprecious 10 cents. Please!
718
00:39:01,328 --> 00:39:04,495
I'm going grey!- Maybe you cantake this 10 cents
719
00:39:04,578 --> 00:39:06,746
and things are just gonnawork out just fine.
720
00:39:06,788 --> 00:39:08,538
- Yeah, you know what, lady?That's very nice of you,
721
00:39:08,579 --> 00:39:12,496
but this woman does notdeserve to be bailed out.
722
00:39:14,705 --> 00:39:17,830
- It's just...if you must know, um...
723
00:39:17,872 --> 00:39:20,164
right beforemy favourite uncle died,
724
00:39:20,247 --> 00:39:22,498
he gave me this reallyold dime and, you know,
725
00:39:22,540 --> 00:39:25,415
dimes just have a very specialmeaning to me since that day.
726
00:39:25,498 --> 00:39:28,623
And, you know, I knowit's silly. It's been,like, 10 years and I should be
727
00:39:28,665 --> 00:39:30,999
over it, but... 10!10, like a dime!
728
00:39:31,041 --> 00:39:34,291
See, that...it's really, it's...
729
00:39:34,332 --> 00:39:36,749
Wow!
730
00:39:36,791 --> 00:39:40,583
Oh, OK. Thank you!
731
00:39:40,625 --> 00:39:43,667
- I feel so bad about yourfavourite dead uncle.
732
00:39:43,667 --> 00:39:45,917
(laughing)That was just genius.
733
00:39:45,958 --> 00:39:49,501
- It was absolutely ridiculous.It was the only thingI could come up with
734
00:39:49,543 --> 00:39:52,168
that wouldn't get me locked upfor being certifiably insane.
735
00:39:52,168 --> 00:39:54,126
You were an awfulperson in there.
736
00:39:54,168 --> 00:39:55,960
- Yes, I was.We made a great team.
737
00:39:56,002 --> 00:39:59,252
- OK, everybody.Very, very good work today.
738
00:39:59,294 --> 00:40:02,085
You all took a major stepforward in confronting conflict
739
00:40:02,169 --> 00:40:05,628
in a very public way. You shouldall be very proud of yourself.
740
00:40:05,628 --> 00:40:08,336
- Thanks. Now hand over theprize, so I can take my wife
741
00:40:08,378 --> 00:40:10,420
to the fanciestrestaurant in town.
742
00:40:10,461 --> 00:40:13,837
- Well, according to my timing,Cinco and Lea actually won.
743
00:40:13,879 --> 00:40:16,171
- They won?How is that possible?
744
00:40:16,212 --> 00:40:18,587
- It's possible by four seconds.(guffawing)
745
00:40:18,629 --> 00:40:22,713
- Uh, well, you know, I reallydon't ever have time to eat,
746
00:40:22,755 --> 00:40:24,547
like, ever. So whydon't you take it?
747
00:40:24,588 --> 00:40:27,631
- Oh, oh, guys, before you go,I have a field assignmentfor you.
748
00:40:27,673 --> 00:40:30,881
So, staying in the same teams,I want you guys to go
749
00:40:30,923 --> 00:40:33,548
and confront the person you havethe most conflict with.
750
00:40:33,589 --> 00:40:36,674
Engage with them and payattention to what itis about them
751
00:40:36,674 --> 00:40:39,590
that triggers it in you.- When do we do it?
752
00:40:39,632 --> 00:40:42,007
- Both team members have tohave it done by next week.
753
00:40:42,007 --> 00:40:44,008
So come on, let's go
754
00:40:44,050 --> 00:40:46,008
- Oh, man.
755
00:40:46,050 --> 00:40:49,050
Well, I'm not sure
756
00:40:49,133 --> 00:40:52,967
why you're not excited. I mean,it can't be me, so it must bebecause you heard
757
00:40:53,009 --> 00:40:55,384
the place stinks.- No, actually,
758
00:40:55,426 --> 00:40:58,634
I heard the place is amazing.- Oh.
759
00:40:58,676 --> 00:41:00,802
So then?
760
00:41:02,677 --> 00:41:06,218
- Uh, I guess we could do...I guess we could do lunch.
761
00:41:06,260 --> 00:41:08,343
- We can do lunch, tomorrow.
762
00:41:08,385 --> 00:41:11,553
That's the kindof homework I like.
763
00:41:30,221 --> 00:41:32,305
(knocking)
764
00:41:32,346 --> 00:41:35,681
- Hard at work already, I see.- Hi...
765
00:41:35,764 --> 00:41:38,389
This is a surprise.
766
00:41:38,431 --> 00:41:43,390
Shouldn't you be at work?- Yes, but...
767
00:41:43,473 --> 00:41:45,848
this can't wait.
768
00:41:45,848 --> 00:41:49,265
Lea, I'm sorry things have beenso strained between us lately.
769
00:41:49,307 --> 00:41:53,474
I know I've been busy and you'vebeen stressed out aboutyour book.
770
00:41:53,516 --> 00:41:55,808
- Yeah, a little bit.- Yeah.
771
00:41:55,849 --> 00:41:58,517
Takes me a while to catch onsometimes, but I get it.
772
00:41:58,517 --> 00:42:01,934
And I think I knowwhat you need right now.
773
00:42:01,975 --> 00:42:04,434
- Really?
774
00:42:09,851 --> 00:42:12,310
A laptop?- Yes!
775
00:42:12,351 --> 00:42:14,268
I know your old desktophas been acting up,
776
00:42:14,351 --> 00:42:16,936
and you would never actuallygo and buy one yourself,
777
00:42:16,977 --> 00:42:19,436
so this morningon my way to work,
778
00:42:19,477 --> 00:42:21,561
I decided, what the heck?
779
00:42:21,644 --> 00:42:23,687
And, well, here you are.
780
00:42:23,687 --> 00:42:27,520
- That's really sweet!Thank you.
781
00:42:29,437 --> 00:42:31,271
- Now I really mustget to campus,
782
00:42:31,354 --> 00:42:34,771
but one more thing: I'm takingyou to lunch on Saturday.
783
00:42:34,813 --> 00:42:38,896
- You, me and the laptop?- I'll email you the details.
784
00:42:38,938 --> 00:42:40,855
So what are you up to today?
785
00:42:40,897 --> 00:42:44,397
- You know, justlocked away in here.
786
00:42:44,439 --> 00:42:47,314
Writing.- Then I won't keep you.
787
00:42:47,355 --> 00:42:49,731
I'll see you Saturday.
788
00:42:56,441 --> 00:42:58,607
(piano music plays)
789
00:43:00,524 --> 00:43:04,275
(phone ringing)- Hello?
790
00:43:04,317 --> 00:43:06,650
- How's it going?-
791
00:43:06,692 --> 00:43:09,108
Maybe he's not coming.Is it wrong to hope he forgot?
792
00:43:09,150 --> 00:43:12,150
- Why are you so nervous?- Because my boyfriendjust bought me
793
00:43:12,193 --> 00:43:14,443
a new laptop this morning, andnow I'm sitting in a restaurant,
794
00:43:14,484 --> 00:43:16,943
waiting for another man.- Relax.
795
00:43:16,984 --> 00:43:20,068
It's just a lunch.It's not like it's a date.
796
00:43:23,485 --> 00:43:26,069
Right?- He's here, I gotta go.
797
00:43:28,569 --> 00:43:32,695
- Sorry I'm late.- Hi.
798
00:43:32,778 --> 00:43:36,403
You look--(small laugh)
799
00:43:36,445 --> 00:43:38,737
- Reservations?
800
00:43:38,779 --> 00:43:41,154
- Um...- Um...
801
00:43:41,196 --> 00:43:43,862
We have these guys.- Oh, you know what?
802
00:43:43,904 --> 00:43:46,030
I thought I had mine,but I don't. Darn it. So...
803
00:43:46,030 --> 00:43:47,988
have a great lunch.- Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
804
00:43:48,030 --> 00:43:50,613
I'm sure that's not gonnamatter. Will that matter?
805
00:43:50,697 --> 00:43:53,113
- Of course not.
806
00:43:54,406 --> 00:43:57,406
- (whispering): It's not a date.- I'm sorry, what's that?
807
00:43:57,448 --> 00:43:59,781
- Uh, I hear the food's great.
808
00:44:01,782 --> 00:44:04,740
- You know, you baffle mea little bit.
809
00:44:04,782 --> 00:44:07,365
I don't know whya woman like you
810
00:44:07,449 --> 00:44:09,740
is in any way unsure of herself.
811
00:44:09,782 --> 00:44:11,866
- A woman like me?What does that mean?
812
00:44:11,866 --> 00:44:14,366
- You're very smart,you're very, very, funny,
813
00:44:14,366 --> 00:44:17,866
and you don't know you're funny,which makes you even funnier.
814
00:44:17,908 --> 00:44:20,576
- I don't think anybody's evercalled me funny before.
815
00:44:20,617 --> 00:44:22,659
- I think you're a riot.
816
00:44:22,701 --> 00:44:26,535
And, uh... you're really,really pretty.
817
00:44:26,577 --> 00:44:29,077
And you have an effect on me.
818
00:44:31,660 --> 00:44:34,327
I think when two peoplehave things in common,
819
00:44:34,368 --> 00:44:38,703
it helps one to see things inoneself a little more easily.
820
00:44:38,703 --> 00:44:41,203
You know?- You are the last person
821
00:44:41,203 --> 00:44:43,537
I can imagine havingsomething in common with.
822
00:44:43,537 --> 00:44:45,620
- Oh, really?We're both very smart,
823
00:44:45,662 --> 00:44:47,787
we both like to reacha lot of people...
824
00:44:47,829 --> 00:44:49,870
You're prettier than I am.(chuckling)
825
00:44:49,912 --> 00:44:52,205
But, you know,we both have father issues.
826
00:44:52,205 --> 00:44:55,496
- I don't.- Really? Marilynled us right there
827
00:44:55,538 --> 00:44:58,746
and you don't want to admitthat? Well, I admit it.
828
00:44:58,830 --> 00:45:01,581
I have father issues.
829
00:45:01,581 --> 00:45:03,789
- Was your father tough?
830
00:45:03,872 --> 00:45:06,372
- Tough, yes.
831
00:45:06,414 --> 00:45:08,540
Brilliant.
832
00:45:08,540 --> 00:45:10,165
Passionate.
833
00:45:10,207 --> 00:45:12,457
- So what's the problembetween you two?
834
00:45:12,540 --> 00:45:14,748
- We only argue,
835
00:45:14,832 --> 00:45:16,416
so now we don't talk.
836
00:45:16,458 --> 00:45:20,291
- Have you ever thought aboutusing a different tacticwith him?
837
00:45:20,374 --> 00:45:21,583
- Like what?
838
00:45:21,583 --> 00:45:25,459
- Have you ever thought ofhugging him?(coughing)
839
00:45:28,500 --> 00:45:32,293
- I'm sorry. Did you just saygive him a... hug?- Uh-huh.
840
00:45:32,335 --> 00:45:35,460
- Clearly, you havenever met my father.- No, but think about it
841
00:45:35,501 --> 00:45:38,793
for a second. The next timehe goes into his usual...
842
00:45:38,835 --> 00:45:41,002
- Attack mode?- ...instead of barking back,
843
00:45:41,044 --> 00:45:43,461
try to diffuse it.- With a hug.
844
00:45:43,502 --> 00:45:45,627
- Yeah. A real hug,a metaphorical hug,
845
00:45:45,669 --> 00:45:47,711
any kind of hug you would like.
846
00:45:47,752 --> 00:45:50,378
- Alright, I'll make thatmy field assignment.
847
00:45:50,420 --> 00:45:53,920
- That's a good choice.- Are you free Saturday morning?
848
00:45:53,962 --> 00:45:55,712
- You want to confront yourfather on a weekend?
849
00:45:55,712 --> 00:45:59,046
Won't that put him off?- He doesn't believein weekends.
850
00:45:59,088 --> 00:46:01,213
He never did, so we're fine.
851
00:46:01,213 --> 00:46:03,879
How about you? Is therea conversation you wanna have
852
00:46:03,879 --> 00:46:06,005
with a certain senatorthat I could be present at?
853
00:46:06,047 --> 00:46:09,464
- No. That would be a very lightand breezy conversation,
854
00:46:09,505 --> 00:46:11,964
so he's definitelynot my assignment.
855
00:46:12,005 --> 00:46:13,840
- OK. How about Edward?
856
00:46:13,881 --> 00:46:17,256
- Edward?What do you mean, Edward?
857
00:46:17,298 --> 00:46:19,298
- Well, wheneverEdward's name comes up,
858
00:46:19,340 --> 00:46:22,091
you get a little agitated,so I'm thinking
859
00:46:22,132 --> 00:46:25,424
maybe there's something you'renot dealing with with Edward,
860
00:46:25,466 --> 00:46:28,549
your second cousin?- No. As I've said before,
861
00:46:28,591 --> 00:46:32,800
and often, I don't have anyproblems with Edward.
862
00:46:32,842 --> 00:46:35,842
And besides, anyways,he's on a skiing trip.
863
00:46:35,883 --> 00:46:38,551
- Wow. New kidney workingthat well, huh?
864
00:46:38,551 --> 00:46:42,551
- Yeah, that side of the familyhas amazing recuperative skills.
865
00:46:42,551 --> 00:46:45,343
- Ah, wow. How about your side?
866
00:46:47,177 --> 00:46:49,177
- You know, I didn'twant to say anything,
867
00:46:49,219 --> 00:46:51,844
but I haven't been feeling sogreat the last few minutes.
868
00:46:51,885 --> 00:46:55,136
So I think I should probably go.
869
00:46:55,178 --> 00:46:57,761
- Can I give you a ride home?- No, I have a car.
870
00:46:57,803 --> 00:47:00,928
- Is there really an Edward?
871
00:47:03,179 --> 00:47:05,012
- Do you thinkI signed myself up
872
00:47:05,054 --> 00:47:07,387
for a conflict management courseand then changed my mind
873
00:47:07,387 --> 00:47:09,304
and then made upa fake relative?
874
00:47:09,346 --> 00:47:11,263
- Yes, I do, becauseyou're one of those people
875
00:47:11,305 --> 00:47:14,388
who doesn't have the heart tohurt anyone's feelings.
876
00:47:17,347 --> 00:47:20,556
- That's very sweet,but not very accurate.
877
00:47:20,598 --> 00:47:22,556
(chair clattering)
878
00:47:22,556 --> 00:47:25,764
(quietly): Excuse me.
879
00:47:46,017 --> 00:47:50,017
- (Cinco):And I just need someone to explain it to me --
880
00:47:50,059 --> 00:47:51,934
this Venus versus Mars equation.
881
00:47:51,976 --> 00:47:55,227
I am so tired of trying to crack that code.
882
00:47:55,268 --> 00:47:57,893
I'm at lunch with a very attractive,
883
00:47:57,977 --> 00:48:00,603
very interesting, intelligent woman, and
884
00:48:00,644 --> 00:48:04,978
though it wasn't technicallya date-date... althoughit was starting
885
00:48:05,019 --> 00:48:06,561
to feel like a bit of a date...
886
00:48:06,603 --> 00:48:08,729
And we have some nice banter going back and forth.
887
00:48:08,729 --> 00:48:10,979
She asks mea whole bunch of questions,
888
00:48:11,062 --> 00:48:13,729
and I ask her some questions,
889
00:48:13,729 --> 00:48:16,062
and BAM!
890
00:48:16,104 --> 00:48:18,813
Out of nowhere,
891
00:48:18,855 --> 00:48:22,230
she makes up anobviously fake excuse
892
00:48:22,271 --> 00:48:24,188
and storms out.
893
00:48:24,230 --> 00:48:27,231
Can someone run that through the
894
00:48:27,272 --> 00:48:30,314
opposite sex app for me,please, and translate?
895
00:48:30,356 --> 00:48:33,690
Please. Anybody. What do you make of this
896
00:48:33,732 --> 00:48:36,023
dance between the sexes?
897
00:48:36,065 --> 00:48:38,232
Caller, you're on the air.
898
00:48:38,273 --> 00:48:42,066
Enlighten me, please? Um...
899
00:48:42,066 --> 00:48:44,858
Hello?
900
00:48:44,899 --> 00:48:47,483
You're on the air,but not for much longer.
901
00:48:47,524 --> 00:48:50,192
- This is Jodie.Jodie Bellarusa?
902
00:48:50,234 --> 00:48:53,692
- Jodie, hi. You sound familiar.
903
00:48:53,734 --> 00:48:55,984
- Well, you know,I'm a regular caller.
904
00:48:56,025 --> 00:48:59,026
- OK. And what are yourthoughts on this topic?
905
00:48:59,068 --> 00:49:01,901
- You know,you're a lot to handle.
906
00:49:01,943 --> 00:49:04,526
You're very, very direct,and while admirable,
907
00:49:12,069 --> 00:49:15,195
to yourself. Maybe that's whatthis person was thinking
908
00:49:15,237 --> 00:49:17,195
when she decided to leave.
909
00:49:17,237 --> 00:49:21,445
- Lea? Is that you?
910
00:49:23,238 --> 00:49:25,071
- No... Who's Lea?
911
00:49:25,071 --> 00:49:28,363
- Lea, if you havesomething to say to me,
912
00:49:28,404 --> 00:49:30,404
just go ahead and say it.
913
00:49:30,404 --> 00:49:32,822
I'm all ears.
914
00:49:34,447 --> 00:49:37,572
We are all listening.(beep)
915
00:49:37,572 --> 00:49:40,615
Jodie? Lea?
916
00:49:46,198 --> 00:49:49,324
(knocking)- OK!
917
00:50:01,242 --> 00:50:03,075
Yes?
918
00:50:03,158 --> 00:50:05,534
- Jodie Bellarusa, I presume.
919
00:50:05,534 --> 00:50:07,951
Cinco Dublin. Nice to meet you.
920
00:50:07,993 --> 00:50:11,076
- What are you doing here?- We have our field assignmentthis morning.
921
00:50:11,118 --> 00:50:13,577
- No, we don't. We do? Today?- Mm-hmm, we do.
922
00:50:13,577 --> 00:50:15,952
So can we do it now, please?Before I change my mind?
923
00:50:15,994 --> 00:50:21,036
Can we go?- Wait, no. I need shoes.
924
00:50:22,828 --> 00:50:25,078
- Uh, Jodie Bellarusa, why doyou keep calling into my show
925
00:50:25,078 --> 00:50:29,079
as somebody else? Am I somebodythat you're afraid to be inconflict with?
926
00:50:29,121 --> 00:50:33,454
- No, I suppose it'sbecause as Lea Townshend,
927
00:50:33,496 --> 00:50:36,079
I always say and do the rightthing, and I really didn't want
928
00:50:36,079 --> 00:50:38,622
to say the right thingto you. Are you mad?
929
00:50:38,663 --> 00:50:40,580
- Listen. My audiencegot a sneak peek
930
00:50:40,580 --> 00:50:43,080
at the soap opera of my personallife, my ratings spiked,
931
00:50:43,122 --> 00:50:45,831
and now my producer wants tomake it a regular thing.
932
00:50:45,914 --> 00:50:48,414
- What? I cannot.Are you kidding?
933
00:50:48,456 --> 00:50:50,623
- I'm kidding!
934
00:51:05,083 --> 00:51:07,666
(phone ringing)
935
00:51:09,751 --> 00:51:13,626
- You ready?- Are you?
936
00:51:13,667 --> 00:51:16,084
- ...important that we all worktogether. We have to keep these
937
00:51:16,084 --> 00:51:18,585
in synchronize. I want it by theend of the week, alright?
938
00:51:18,585 --> 00:51:20,502
Good, thank you.
939
00:51:20,543 --> 00:51:23,585
Well, isn't this a surprise?
940
00:51:27,753 --> 00:51:30,461
- Oh, no. I think this issomething you have to do alone.
941
00:51:30,503 --> 00:51:32,878
Or I could go with you, sure.
942
00:51:38,629 --> 00:51:40,504
Hi, I'm Lea.
943
00:51:40,545 --> 00:51:42,420
- Nice to meet you. I apologize,
944
00:51:42,462 --> 00:51:45,255
but my son caught me off guardwith this ambush.
945
00:51:45,296 --> 00:51:48,255
- Ambush... ambush.
946
00:51:49,546 --> 00:51:53,172
A son can't just drop byand visit his father withouthaving some ulterior motive?
947
00:51:53,214 --> 00:51:56,714
- A son can just drop by, yes,but you never do. Never does.
948
00:51:56,756 --> 00:51:59,047
I think the last timehe dropped by,
949
00:51:59,089 --> 00:52:02,548
he stormed in here and accusedme of sabotaging his radio show.
950
00:52:02,590 --> 00:52:05,590
- You did sabotagemy radio show.
951
00:52:05,632 --> 00:52:07,508
You called in and on the air
952
00:52:07,549 --> 00:52:09,674
you took down... he took downmy whole argument.
953
00:52:09,716 --> 00:52:11,716
- It's called a debate.Google it.
954
00:52:11,758 --> 00:52:15,299
- Ha! Oh... I'm sorry.
955
00:52:18,675 --> 00:52:21,925
- Alright, look. I've gota plane to Boston in an hour.
956
00:52:21,967 --> 00:52:23,926
What do you want?
957
00:52:24,010 --> 00:52:26,676
- To talk.
958
00:52:26,718 --> 00:52:29,218
- Fine. What's the topic?
959
00:52:29,260 --> 00:52:31,718
- Nothing. Just, you know...
960
00:52:31,718 --> 00:52:35,886
talk. Breezy conversation?
961
00:52:35,927 --> 00:52:38,136
- We don't do breezyconversation.
962
00:52:38,177 --> 00:52:41,762
- That's true. You know, I knewit. This was a waste of time.
963
00:52:41,845 --> 00:52:44,470
- You know, for some hotshotwho's made a successful career
964
00:52:44,553 --> 00:52:46,512
out of talking all the time,you're awfully quiet.
965
00:52:46,512 --> 00:52:50,429
Why don't we just agree thatnothing has been added ordropped, and we can both
966
00:52:50,429 --> 00:52:53,513
get on with our day.Does that work for you?
967
00:52:53,554 --> 00:52:56,096
Lea, Lea.
968
00:52:56,138 --> 00:52:59,264
Yes. I'm going to presume thatyou're in a position
969
00:52:59,264 --> 00:53:01,597
to tell me what'sactually going on here.
970
00:53:01,597 --> 00:53:05,765
- Well, sir, I believeI'm here to remind Cinco
971
00:53:05,765 --> 00:53:09,431
that you can't avoidsome things forever.
972
00:53:15,974 --> 00:53:19,016
- What are you...what are you... what?
973
00:53:20,557 --> 00:53:24,767
Oh, boy.(Cinco sighs.)
974
00:53:24,767 --> 00:53:28,600
OK... We're good.
975
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:32,101
- I love you, Dad.
976
00:53:38,144 --> 00:53:40,769
Thank you forchallenging me to...
977
00:53:40,769 --> 00:53:44,269
be the best man I can be.
978
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:50,145
- Come here.
979
00:53:53,270 --> 00:53:56,021
(whispering):I love you too, kid.
980
00:54:06,313 --> 00:54:08,813
- You haven't said a word inabout six blocks.
981
00:54:08,855 --> 00:54:11,564
Is this some sortof a record for you?
982
00:54:13,106 --> 00:54:15,231
- I could not have donethat without you.
983
00:54:15,273 --> 00:54:17,689
- I really didn't do anything.
984
00:54:17,689 --> 00:54:19,982
I mean, you would haveconfronted him
985
00:54:20,024 --> 00:54:21,649
no matter who your partner was.
986
00:54:21,649 --> 00:54:24,149
- Yeah, but you hadthe idea to give him a hug.
987
00:54:24,190 --> 00:54:27,065
It was the right idea.
988
00:54:27,107 --> 00:54:28,941
You have a veryunique perspective
989
00:54:28,983 --> 00:54:31,900
on dealing with conflict.Not everyone shares it,
990
00:54:31,941 --> 00:54:33,441
but more people should.
991
00:54:33,525 --> 00:54:36,109
- It's just about being honest.- Hey, you know what?
992
00:54:36,151 --> 00:54:37,776
We're on a roll here, OK?
993
00:54:37,776 --> 00:54:41,234
Who are you in conflict with?Let's go see them right now.
994
00:54:41,276 --> 00:54:43,276
(phone ringing)
995
00:54:43,276 --> 00:54:45,110
(beep)
996
00:54:45,152 --> 00:54:48,443
- Hello?- Lea! Are you alright?
997
00:54:48,443 --> 00:54:51,277
- Hi. Yeah, I'm fine. Why?
998
00:54:51,318 --> 00:54:54,194
- It's Saturday. It's noon.
999
00:54:54,236 --> 00:54:56,903
- Oh, my gosh. Lunch.
1000
00:54:56,944 --> 00:54:58,819
- You forgot.
1001
00:54:58,861 --> 00:55:01,487
- No, I most certainlydid not forget.
1002
00:55:01,529 --> 00:55:05,154
Uh... but I did forget,where are you?
1003
00:55:05,195 --> 00:55:07,070
- Didn't you read my email?
1004
00:55:07,112 --> 00:55:09,738
Forget it. I'll send it againwith the address.
1005
00:55:09,780 --> 00:55:11,613
(beep)
1006
00:55:11,655 --> 00:55:15,155
- Lunch date?- Uh, yeah, with my publisher.
1007
00:55:15,196 --> 00:55:17,239
This book is just all-consuming.
1008
00:55:17,281 --> 00:55:20,114
Um, I gotta go.
1009
00:55:20,156 --> 00:55:24,197
- Thank you again, Lea.I mean it.
1010
00:55:25,865 --> 00:55:28,615
- It was my pleasure. I'm reallyglad everything worked out.
1011
00:55:28,657 --> 00:55:31,448
We'll do my, my thing soon.Um, I just have to
1012
00:55:31,490 --> 00:55:34,283
figure out where I'm going.
1013
00:55:34,324 --> 00:55:36,241
Oh, no.
1014
00:55:36,283 --> 00:55:38,491
- Bad news?- Oh, no.
1015
00:55:38,533 --> 00:55:40,991
(classical music)
1016
00:55:45,117 --> 00:55:48,284
(long exhale)
1017
00:55:50,285 --> 00:55:53,118
Sorry, hi.- Hi.
1018
00:55:53,118 --> 00:55:55,118
- Welcome back.
1019
00:55:55,118 --> 00:55:58,411
- Thanks, but actually,we've never been here before.
1020
00:56:00,494 --> 00:56:02,827
- Wow, how did you getreservations here?
1021
00:56:02,827 --> 00:56:05,786
- I pulled some strings throughthe university. Is it...
1022
00:56:05,827 --> 00:56:08,453
is it too much? I was goingfor something different.
1023
00:56:08,453 --> 00:56:10,412
- Couldn't be more different.
1024
00:56:10,453 --> 00:56:12,287
And you ordered hors-d'oeuvres.
1025
00:56:12,328 --> 00:56:14,328
- No clue what they are,but they were the hardest
1026
00:56:14,371 --> 00:56:16,121
thing on the menuto pronounce, so...
1027
00:56:16,163 --> 00:56:20,621
- Edward, you're going, like,all out. What's going on?
1028
00:56:20,663 --> 00:56:24,289
- I need to talk to you,and if I don't do it now,
1029
00:56:24,330 --> 00:56:27,122
I may lose my nerve.
1030
00:56:27,122 --> 00:56:30,414
- OK...
1031
00:56:30,455 --> 00:56:33,123
- Lea, I...
1032
00:56:33,123 --> 00:56:37,123
I can't date you anymore.
1033
00:56:41,832 --> 00:56:45,166
- Hi, Mom, Dad.What are you doing here?
1034
00:56:48,875 --> 00:56:51,625
(gasp)- Lea Townshend,
1035
00:56:51,625 --> 00:56:53,625
will you marry me?
1036
00:56:53,667 --> 00:56:56,626
- (quietly): Things are justas they should be.
1037
00:56:59,543 --> 00:57:02,543
- Edward, I don't knowwhat to say.
1038
00:57:02,584 --> 00:57:05,710
- All you have to say is "yes."
1039
00:57:08,460 --> 00:57:10,877
- Yes?
1040
00:57:10,919 --> 00:57:14,003
(loud breathing)(clapping)
1041
00:57:17,836 --> 00:57:20,128
- Please, come. Yes, sorry.
1042
00:57:20,170 --> 00:57:22,921
Phew. Wow.
1043
00:57:26,087 --> 00:57:29,172
- Well, all I have to sayis it's about time.
1044
00:57:29,255 --> 00:57:32,505
And you are the perfect matchfor Lea, son, and I mean that.
1045
00:57:32,547 --> 00:57:37,214
- Thank you, sir.- Lea, we are gonna havesuch fun planning the wedding.
1046
00:57:37,214 --> 00:57:39,464
When were you two thinking?- Mom, I just--
1047
00:57:39,464 --> 00:57:41,423
- Actually, that's something
1048
00:57:41,423 --> 00:57:43,631
that I wanted to talkto all of you about.
1049
00:57:43,631 --> 00:57:46,965
My grandmother is turning98 this year,
1050
00:57:46,965 --> 00:57:50,257
and she would love nothing morethan to be at our wedding.
1051
00:57:50,299 --> 00:57:53,175
Unfortunately, she's beenrather ill this past year
1052
00:57:53,216 --> 00:57:57,216
and, well, if it would bealright with you, Lea,
1053
00:57:57,258 --> 00:57:59,341
I thought we'd get marriedon her birthday.
1054
00:57:59,383 --> 00:58:01,300
- That's very gallantof you, Edward.
1055
00:58:01,300 --> 00:58:05,801
- In three weeks.- That's, uh, rather soon
1056
00:58:05,801 --> 00:58:10,302
but I don't see any reason whywe couldn't manage it.
1057
00:58:10,343 --> 00:58:12,343
Right, Douglas?- But, but, but, but...
1058
00:58:12,385 --> 00:58:15,343
three weeks is onlythree weeks away.
1059
00:58:15,385 --> 00:58:19,469
- You just say when and whereand I'll be the one in the tux.
1060
00:58:19,469 --> 00:58:22,844
(Edward pats Douglas.)- Alright.
1061
00:58:25,136 --> 00:58:28,262
- Well, OK. I guess a wholethree weeks it is.
1062
00:58:28,304 --> 00:58:32,637
- To Lea Townshend, who will bemy beautiful bride
1063
00:58:32,679 --> 00:58:35,471
in just three weeks.
1064
00:58:35,471 --> 00:58:38,430
Cheers!- (all): Cheers.
1065
00:58:38,471 --> 00:58:40,763
(clinking)
1066
00:58:51,515 --> 00:58:53,723
(voices inaudible)
1067
00:59:03,349 --> 00:59:05,391
- You sure?- Yes.
1068
00:59:05,433 --> 00:59:07,309
- Honey, it's thefirst one you put on.
1069
00:59:07,309 --> 00:59:11,309
- I'm only gonna wear it once.- Doesn't that make it special?
1070
00:59:11,350 --> 00:59:13,517
(tapping)
1071
00:59:20,768 --> 00:59:22,643
- We're going to the mall.
1072
00:59:22,643 --> 00:59:24,894
Each of you will return an item
1073
00:59:24,936 --> 00:59:28,894
for various reasons, which arelisted on cards in your bags.
1074
00:59:30,977 --> 00:59:34,062
- You OK over there?- Mm-hmm. Yep. I'm fine.
1075
00:59:34,145 --> 00:59:39,020
- Yeah? 'Cause you look likeyou'd rather have a root canal
1076
00:59:39,062 --> 00:59:40,979
than deal with conflict today.
1077
00:59:41,021 --> 00:59:44,021
- That would be so niceright about now.
1078
00:59:44,063 --> 00:59:46,521
- Now the point of this exercise
1079
00:59:46,563 --> 00:59:48,897
is to face anembarrassing situation
1080
00:59:48,939 --> 00:59:51,439
with grace and dignity.
1081
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:55,147
This is where it gets exciting.
1082
00:59:55,230 --> 00:59:58,356
Come on. Let's go!
1083
01:00:04,440 --> 01:00:07,107
OK.- OK, excuse me.
1084
01:00:08,399 --> 01:00:12,149
Hi, I need to return this.I've decided it's too expensive.
1085
01:00:12,191 --> 01:00:14,608
- You've decided now this itemis too expensive?
1086
01:00:14,650 --> 01:00:17,150
- That's right.I can't afford it.
1087
01:00:18,942 --> 01:00:21,192
- Well, if it was damaged,I'd understand...
1088
01:00:21,233 --> 01:00:23,901
but this is an expensivestore. Obviously.
1089
01:00:23,943 --> 01:00:26,068
- I realize that,but you know what?
1090
01:00:26,109 --> 01:00:28,568
That shirt is justnot worth $200.
1091
01:00:28,609 --> 01:00:30,277
- It's a William Rast.
1092
01:00:30,319 --> 01:00:32,985
- I don't really careif it's solid gold.
1093
01:00:33,027 --> 01:00:35,610
- Maybe you shouldn't shop hereif you can't afford it.
1094
01:00:35,610 --> 01:00:39,153
- That's a veryinspired idea, "Sheila."
1095
01:00:39,195 --> 01:00:41,736
Here's another. Could you gofind me your manager?
1096
01:00:41,778 --> 01:00:44,195
- No need.
1097
01:00:49,737 --> 01:00:51,612
Here's your money.
1098
01:00:51,654 --> 01:00:56,113
- Uh, Sheila? Thisis not the full amount.
1099
01:00:56,155 --> 01:00:59,863
- We have a restocking fee.- Mm-hmm, OK.
1100
01:01:01,655 --> 01:01:05,739
Consider that baby restocked.
1101
01:01:05,781 --> 01:01:07,656
- OK, Lea? Lea, Lea,
1102
01:01:07,656 --> 01:01:09,698
Lea, honey.It's just an exercise.
1103
01:01:09,739 --> 01:01:12,074
And you are right on the borderof losing both grace
1104
01:01:12,115 --> 01:01:14,532
and dignity.- I'm sorry.
1105
01:01:14,574 --> 01:01:16,199
I've made a terrible mistake.
1106
01:01:16,240 --> 01:01:18,490
- No, no, no, no. There are nomistakes in this class.
1107
01:01:18,532 --> 01:01:20,991
It's just about how we feel--- No, really.
1108
01:01:20,991 --> 01:01:23,408
Seriously. I haven't beenhonest. I haven't been
1109
01:01:23,450 --> 01:01:26,700
honest to any of you.Like, at all.
1110
01:01:31,992 --> 01:01:34,242
- I did not see that coming.- Me neither.
1111
01:01:34,284 --> 01:01:36,160
- I told youshe needed this class.
1112
01:01:36,202 --> 01:01:39,618
- This is a prime example of nothandling yourself with dignity
1113
01:01:39,660 --> 01:01:42,827
or grace, when your boyfriendof two years proposes to you,
1114
01:01:42,827 --> 01:01:46,453
and you say yes, when in realityyou really have no idea
1115
01:01:46,494 --> 01:01:48,661
how you feel about him...like, at all.
1116
01:01:48,703 --> 01:01:52,662
- Edward?- Yes.
1117
01:01:52,704 --> 01:01:56,037
Edward and I have beentogether for two years.
1118
01:01:56,120 --> 01:01:58,912
He signed me upfor this group. Just me.
1119
01:01:58,995 --> 01:02:02,663
He's the kidney-disease-stricken, second fake-cousin.
1120
01:02:02,663 --> 01:02:05,288
And I made up that whole story
1121
01:02:05,330 --> 01:02:07,163
because I didn't want you guysto know I was being stood up,
1122
01:02:07,246 --> 01:02:10,456
and then I couldn't leavebecause I didn't want todisappoint him.
1123
01:02:10,497 --> 01:02:13,872
- So naturally,you're going to marry him?
1124
01:02:19,540 --> 01:02:21,248
- I'm so sorry,
1125
01:02:21,332 --> 01:02:23,665
but you have to excuse me,
1126
01:02:23,707 --> 01:02:27,249
'cause I have a wedding to plan.
1127
01:02:39,750 --> 01:02:41,960
- You were supposedto call me yesterday
1128
01:02:42,001 --> 01:02:45,335
to set a time to look atinvitation samples today?
1129
01:02:45,376 --> 01:02:46,960
- Sorry, Mom. I've just been
1130
01:02:47,001 --> 01:02:49,460
really caught upin the book and stuff.
1131
01:02:49,501 --> 01:02:51,169
- You're hiding.
1132
01:02:51,169 --> 01:02:53,169
(Lea grunts.)The last time you did this
1133
01:02:53,169 --> 01:02:56,044
was when you switchedfrom political science
1134
01:02:56,086 --> 01:02:59,087
to an arts degree and you wereterrified to tell your father.
1135
01:02:59,128 --> 01:03:02,878
So, uh... this time?- Nothing.
1136
01:03:02,920 --> 01:03:06,713
Nothing at all. You walked inwhen I was clearing my head.
1137
01:03:06,796 --> 01:03:09,171
- Well, honey,
1138
01:03:09,171 --> 01:03:12,754
maybe I need somehead-clearing too.
1139
01:03:12,796 --> 01:03:15,672
- What do you mean?What's wrong?
1140
01:03:15,714 --> 01:03:18,547
Is it somethingwith you and Dad?
1141
01:03:20,339 --> 01:03:22,047
(throat clearing)
1142
01:03:22,089 --> 01:03:23,923
- I didn't tell you this before,
1143
01:03:23,965 --> 01:03:27,131
but I was dating somebody elsewhen I met your father.
1144
01:03:27,173 --> 01:03:30,423
He was very nice.His name was Howard.
1145
01:03:30,465 --> 01:03:34,049
He was in medical schooland my father adored him,
1146
01:03:34,091 --> 01:03:37,507
but the only problemwas I didn't.
1147
01:03:37,507 --> 01:03:40,675
I liked him and I just assumed
1148
01:03:40,717 --> 01:03:44,592
that we were probably gonna getmarried. It seemed inevitable.
1149
01:03:44,675 --> 01:03:46,675
But then, um...
1150
01:03:46,675 --> 01:03:49,884
then I went to a freshman party,
1151
01:03:49,926 --> 01:03:53,884
and I met this strong-willed,
1152
01:03:53,926 --> 01:03:57,594
opinionated senior...
1153
01:03:57,635 --> 01:03:59,802
who had his heart set
1154
01:03:59,844 --> 01:04:04,178
on a precariouscareer in politics.
1155
01:04:04,220 --> 01:04:05,720
- Dad.
1156
01:04:05,761 --> 01:04:10,095
- Oh, I ruffledquite a few feathers.
1157
01:04:11,553 --> 01:04:15,221
But I never regrettedmy decision,
1158
01:04:15,262 --> 01:04:20,638
because it was exactlythat, my darling.
1159
01:04:20,680 --> 01:04:23,638
MY decision.
1160
01:04:23,680 --> 01:04:26,180
And I often do things
1161
01:04:26,222 --> 01:04:30,389
your father's waybecause I choose to.
1162
01:04:32,889 --> 01:04:35,389
- So you and Dad are very happy.
1163
01:04:37,307 --> 01:04:40,974
- And what I want youto understand
1164
01:04:41,015 --> 01:04:45,475
is that I'm happy in my life...
1165
01:04:46,933 --> 01:04:49,641
but that doesn't mean youhave to do the same thing
1166
01:04:49,683 --> 01:04:52,641
to be happy in yours.
1167
01:05:00,351 --> 01:05:03,143
(upbeat music plays)
1168
01:05:07,143 --> 01:05:10,061
(music stops)- (whispering): Ah, shit.
1169
01:05:11,853 --> 01:05:15,686
I shouldn't thinkeveryone is smarter
1170
01:05:15,686 --> 01:05:18,229
and more talented than me.
1171
01:05:18,270 --> 01:05:20,979
- Excellent.- I'll take the next turn.
1172
01:05:21,020 --> 01:05:23,895
If that's OK.
1173
01:05:26,688 --> 01:05:30,688
- Welcome back.(Lea sighs.)
1174
01:05:30,688 --> 01:05:33,563
- I admit I need this class.
1175
01:05:33,605 --> 01:05:36,356
I'm in an impossible situation.
1176
01:05:36,397 --> 01:05:38,314
I'm actually going throughwith this wedding
1177
01:05:38,356 --> 01:05:40,981
because I can't stop myself.I don't want to hurt
1178
01:05:41,022 --> 01:05:44,398
Edward and I don't wantto embarrass my father.
1179
01:05:44,440 --> 01:05:46,898
I can't evendisappoint my publisher.
1180
01:05:46,940 --> 01:05:49,023
- It's good, Lea.
1181
01:05:49,023 --> 01:05:51,108
It's really good.You gotta let it out.
1182
01:05:51,149 --> 01:05:55,691
OK. Now let's walk throughan imaginary confrontation.
1183
01:05:55,774 --> 01:05:58,358
OK, I'll be Edward.
1184
01:05:58,399 --> 01:06:00,609
- I'll do it.
1185
01:06:02,984 --> 01:06:06,525
- OK, so wheneveryou're ready, Lea, just...
1186
01:06:06,525 --> 01:06:08,693
just talk from the heart.
1187
01:06:08,693 --> 01:06:11,693
(Lea sighs.)
1188
01:06:11,735 --> 01:06:15,819
- Edward, we need to talk.
1189
01:06:15,861 --> 01:06:18,819
- Is it aboutour upcoming wedding?
1190
01:06:18,861 --> 01:06:21,736
- Yes.
1191
01:06:26,778 --> 01:06:29,028
I can't marry you.
1192
01:06:30,862 --> 01:06:32,529
- Why not?
1193
01:06:32,529 --> 01:06:37,321
- You're a kindand wonderful man,
1194
01:06:37,363 --> 01:06:38,946
but...
1195
01:06:38,988 --> 01:06:42,697
we're just notright for each other.
1196
01:06:42,739 --> 01:06:44,780
- We've been datingfor two years
1197
01:06:44,822 --> 01:06:46,864
and you're justfiguring this out now?
1198
01:06:46,905 --> 01:06:51,031
- Yes. I'm sorry.
1199
01:06:51,031 --> 01:06:54,031
But when you start to thinkabout the rest of your life,
1200
01:06:54,073 --> 01:06:56,824
you wanna make sure you do itwith the right person.
1201
01:06:56,866 --> 01:06:59,324
(Cinco sighs.)
1202
01:07:04,157 --> 01:07:07,367
- What kind of personis the right person?
1203
01:07:07,408 --> 01:07:11,408
- Someone who can see mefor who I clearly am.
1204
01:07:11,450 --> 01:07:15,118
Or at least wants to find outwho I really am.
1205
01:07:15,159 --> 01:07:18,534
(Cinco sighs again.)
1206
01:07:18,534 --> 01:07:20,659
- Why did you lie to me?
1207
01:07:26,619 --> 01:07:28,535
- I told you aboutthe kidney thing.
1208
01:07:28,577 --> 01:07:32,370
- I knew that was a completefiction from day one
1209
01:07:32,370 --> 01:07:34,495
and I thought itwas pretty hilarious.
1210
01:07:34,536 --> 01:07:37,036
I'm talking about Edwardbeing your boyfriend.
1211
01:07:37,036 --> 01:07:40,954
- Oh, I toldthe whole class why.
1212
01:07:43,162 --> 01:07:45,371
- After we did my fieldassignment together,
1213
01:07:45,371 --> 01:07:47,705
I thought we'd built up sometrust in each other.
1214
01:07:47,747 --> 01:07:50,830
I let you in.
1215
01:07:50,872 --> 01:07:54,163
You didn't let me in.
1216
01:07:59,539 --> 01:08:01,456
- Probably becauseI'm the type of person
1217
01:08:01,498 --> 01:08:05,040
who doesn't have the heartto hurt someone else.
1218
01:08:05,082 --> 01:08:07,874
- OK. OK, Lea.
1219
01:08:07,874 --> 01:08:09,999
Now are you ready to admit
1220
01:08:09,999 --> 01:08:12,208
who it is you're mostafraid to confront?
1221
01:08:12,291 --> 01:08:16,458
Is it your father? Is it Edward?
1222
01:08:33,960 --> 01:08:36,211
- That person is here.
1223
01:09:10,965 --> 01:09:13,382
(door closing)
1224
01:10:09,055 --> 01:10:12,139
(applause)
1225
01:10:31,725 --> 01:10:34,267
(happy sigh)(clapping)
1226
01:11:04,229 --> 01:11:06,312
- You weren't in grouplast night.
1227
01:11:06,354 --> 01:11:09,854
Doesn't that riskyour court order?
1228
01:11:11,604 --> 01:11:13,188
- Did you miss me?
1229
01:11:13,230 --> 01:11:16,105
- Actually, I came to thank youfor what you did.
1230
01:11:16,147 --> 01:11:20,189
It made some thingsfall into place and...
1231
01:11:20,231 --> 01:11:22,689
I finished my book.
1232
01:11:25,064 --> 01:11:28,482
- Well, that's great.That's great.
1233
01:11:32,565 --> 01:11:35,107
Now you can focuson your wedding.
1234
01:11:39,441 --> 01:11:42,858
- I know thissounds crazy, but, um...
1235
01:11:44,901 --> 01:11:48,484
...I can't stopthinking about you.
1236
01:11:53,902 --> 01:11:56,235
- Have you spoken to Edward?
1237
01:11:58,152 --> 01:12:01,944
- You and I,we barely know each other.
1238
01:12:01,986 --> 01:12:05,069
- So what I'm hearing
1239
01:12:05,111 --> 01:12:07,236
is you are stillgonna get married?
1240
01:12:07,236 --> 01:12:10,320
Or you want to knowif you and I have a chance
1241
01:12:10,362 --> 01:12:12,904
before you go and break it off?
1242
01:12:12,987 --> 01:12:16,070
- That's not fair.
1243
01:12:16,112 --> 01:12:20,071
- Sounds like you'rewalking a tightrope.
1244
01:12:24,738 --> 01:12:27,072
The tightrope walkerwho makes it across
1245
01:12:27,072 --> 01:12:29,822
is the one who knowsshe doesn't need a net.
1246
01:12:32,031 --> 01:12:34,532
I'm not goingto be your safety net.
1247
01:12:59,868 --> 01:13:02,076
- Lea! What a nice surprise.
1248
01:13:02,118 --> 01:13:06,368
- Edward, sometimes I needto wear a red dress.
1249
01:13:06,410 --> 01:13:10,952
And sometimes I needto order the flaming pancakes.
1250
01:13:10,994 --> 01:13:13,369
- (stammering): OK.
1251
01:13:13,411 --> 01:13:15,912
- No, but it's not OK.Because when I tried
1252
01:13:15,953 --> 01:13:17,995
those things,it made you uncomfortable.
1253
01:13:18,037 --> 01:13:20,953
- Is everything alright?
1254
01:13:20,995 --> 01:13:23,621
- Yeah, I need to come in.
1255
01:13:33,747 --> 01:13:35,539
- So Lea,
1256
01:13:35,580 --> 01:13:38,122
the promotional team hasread the revised manuscript
1257
01:13:38,164 --> 01:13:41,748
and quite frankly,you disappointed them.
1258
01:13:41,790 --> 01:13:45,373
What you wrote is notwhat they said would sell.
1259
01:13:45,415 --> 01:13:48,081
Now this puts me in a bitof an uncomfortable position,
1260
01:13:48,081 --> 01:13:50,999
because the owners of FloraBooks are pushing me
1261
01:13:51,041 --> 01:13:53,541
to terminate your deal.
1262
01:13:57,083 --> 01:13:58,750
- I'd rather not have a deal
1263
01:13:58,750 --> 01:14:02,042
than publish a bookthat isn't my own voice.
1264
01:14:02,083 --> 01:14:05,209
And I'm willing to go into debt
1265
01:14:05,251 --> 01:14:07,334
to repay the advance.
1266
01:14:07,376 --> 01:14:11,209
But corporate branding aside,
1267
01:14:11,251 --> 01:14:13,085
just between you and me,
1268
01:14:13,127 --> 01:14:16,127
what did you thinkof the book? Honestly?
1269
01:14:16,169 --> 01:14:19,210
- Honestly?
1270
01:14:19,252 --> 01:14:21,336
Honestly, I think
1271
01:14:21,378 --> 01:14:24,461
it's one of the mostrefreshingly original
1272
01:14:24,503 --> 01:14:27,586
and moving worksthat I've read in years.
1273
01:14:27,586 --> 01:14:31,087
You're a terrific writer, Lea.
1274
01:14:33,754 --> 01:14:36,379
- Thank you.
1275
01:14:36,421 --> 01:14:39,380
And I'm really grateful foreverything you've done for me,
1276
01:14:39,422 --> 01:14:43,297
but yeah, I have to stick true
1277
01:14:43,338 --> 01:14:45,672
to what matters to me most,so if you want
1278
01:14:45,713 --> 01:14:48,464
to drop the release,I'll be gone.
1279
01:14:51,173 --> 01:14:53,839
- Not so fast.
1280
01:14:53,881 --> 01:14:57,049
You know what? Forget thepromotions department.
1281
01:14:57,090 --> 01:15:00,757
Enchanted Summer.Let's do it your way.
1282
01:15:00,799 --> 01:15:04,716
- Actually, I havean idea for a new title.
1283
01:15:09,133 --> 01:15:12,426
- We made it! Congratulations.
1284
01:15:12,467 --> 01:15:15,092
Glenda. Robert.
1285
01:15:15,134 --> 01:15:16,759
Congratulations.
1286
01:15:16,759 --> 01:15:19,052
I just wish we could get backall the hours we lost,
1287
01:15:19,093 --> 01:15:20,927
fighting for the sakeof fighting.
1288
01:15:20,927 --> 01:15:24,468
- Well, we're going on our firstcruise, so it's a start.
1289
01:15:24,510 --> 01:15:27,219
- That sounds great.
1290
01:15:27,261 --> 01:15:29,094
Ernie.
1291
01:15:29,094 --> 01:15:31,428
- Thanks.I got a raise last week.
1292
01:15:31,428 --> 01:15:34,844
- Hey! That's fantastic.Well done.
1293
01:15:37,220 --> 01:15:39,054
Carol.
1294
01:15:39,095 --> 01:15:42,470
- (loudly): I signed up forsinging lessons!
1295
01:15:42,470 --> 01:15:44,721
(cheering)- Hey!
1296
01:15:44,763 --> 01:15:48,096
And Lea.
1297
01:15:48,180 --> 01:15:50,971
Congratulations.- Thank you.
1298
01:15:51,013 --> 01:15:53,972
And my bookcomes out next month,
1299
01:15:54,014 --> 01:15:57,764
but I wanted you allto see the dedication first.
1300
01:15:57,764 --> 01:16:01,640
-"My Life As A Doormat,by Lea Townshend."
1301
01:16:08,683 --> 01:16:11,266
"For Marilyn and thatgroup of strangers
1302
01:16:11,308 --> 01:16:15,266
"that have becometrusted friends.
1303
01:16:15,308 --> 01:16:18,642
This book wouldn't existwithout all of you."
1304
01:16:21,267 --> 01:16:23,850
I hope it's a huge success.
1305
01:16:23,892 --> 01:16:27,185
- Well, that's the thing.It could totally flop
1306
01:16:27,226 --> 01:16:28,935
and disappear without a trace.
1307
01:16:28,976 --> 01:16:31,268
And if that happens I'll cryand eat cake for a month...
1308
01:16:31,310 --> 01:16:33,144
(laughing)- Right, but...
1309
01:16:33,186 --> 01:16:38,019
- ...right, but at least it'stotally and completely me.
1310
01:16:38,061 --> 01:16:40,644
-There's a much larger issuehere and I think it's something
1311
01:16:40,686 --> 01:16:43,187
that your generation's gotta deal with down the line...
1312
01:16:43,228 --> 01:16:45,270
- Hey. I'll be back in time
1313
01:16:45,270 --> 01:16:47,270
to help pack the foodfor my parents' party.
1314
01:16:47,312 --> 01:16:50,063
- Have you seen this week'sbestsellers list?
1315
01:16:50,104 --> 01:16:52,229
- No, I try not to worryabout those things.
1316
01:16:52,271 --> 01:16:54,104
- Well, somebody has to.
1317
01:16:54,104 --> 01:16:57,563
It's gone up two positionssince last week. You did it.
1318
01:16:57,605 --> 01:17:00,105
- Thanks, Kate.(voices arguing)
1319
01:17:00,147 --> 01:17:02,105
- (Cinco):Yeah, but I like sharing with people,
1320
01:17:02,147 --> 01:17:04,730
obviously. I like...- Share with them face-to-face.
1321
01:17:04,772 --> 01:17:06,731
- I love finding out what myfriends are doing, creatively...
1322
01:17:06,773 --> 01:17:09,065
- Oh, I'm sorry.You can just turn it off.
1323
01:17:09,106 --> 01:17:11,065
- Don't worry about it, it's OK.-I love access...
1324
01:17:11,106 --> 01:17:15,149
- See you later.-Hold on a second. I love access to music and opinions.
1325
01:17:15,191 --> 01:17:16,774
Listen.
1326
01:17:16,816 --> 01:17:19,066
I think there's somethingwe can agree on, OK?
1327
01:17:19,107 --> 01:17:22,942
And that is: talkingis still the best form
1328
01:17:22,983 --> 01:17:24,942
of communication. - Absolutely. I do not,
1329
01:17:24,942 --> 01:17:26,983
I do not need-- - Old and primitive as it is.
1330
01:17:27,067 --> 01:17:30,108
-I do not need an emoticonwhen I can see your face.
1331
01:17:30,150 --> 01:17:33,776
- OK, that's the point,beautifully illustrated by
1332
01:17:33,776 --> 01:17:37,526
my father, folks. Thank you.A man of generous spirit
1333
01:17:37,568 --> 01:17:41,610
and wisdom and he grillsa pretty mean T-bone.
1334
01:17:41,652 --> 01:17:43,277
I tell you what. You know what?I'm going to bring you back
1335
01:17:43,319 --> 01:17:45,819
and we'll get into it again.- Ah, you're kicking me out.
1336
01:17:45,860 --> 01:17:48,111
- You like my style.It's been really nice
1337
01:17:48,153 --> 01:17:51,570
finally havingyou on the show, Dad.- It's good to be here.
1338
01:17:51,611 --> 01:17:55,862
-I'm Cinco Dublin. Come back tomorrow and we'll talk.
1339
01:18:04,488 --> 01:18:06,697
- Hi, how are you?
1340
01:18:11,739 --> 01:18:14,489
There you go.Thank you. Bye.
1341
01:18:14,531 --> 01:18:16,698
Hi.
1342
01:18:21,949 --> 01:18:24,490
(dog barking)
1343
01:18:24,574 --> 01:18:27,490
(jazzy music plays)(indistinct chatter)
1344
01:19:06,954 --> 01:19:09,079
- What are you doing here?
1345
01:19:09,120 --> 01:19:12,163
- Well, I just finishedreading your new novel
1346
01:19:12,205 --> 01:19:14,830
and I'm so moved, I, um...
1347
01:19:14,871 --> 01:19:17,914
needed to get an autograph.
1348
01:19:17,956 --> 01:19:19,956
- You were moved.
1349
01:19:19,997 --> 01:19:21,914
- Actually, I was moved.Especially by the ending.
1350
01:19:21,956 --> 01:19:25,539
- Really? That's weird, becauseshe doesn't marry the guyin the end.
1351
01:19:25,622 --> 01:19:28,748
- Exactly. So she's free to meetthe guy that really loves her
1352
01:19:28,790 --> 01:19:31,332
in the sequelthat you're gonna write.
1353
01:19:32,957 --> 01:19:35,874
- So then it's up to me?- Well, why don't you
1354
01:19:35,916 --> 01:19:38,624
invite me in for a drinkand we can discuss it?
1355
01:19:38,666 --> 01:19:40,333
- If my father sees you...
1356
01:19:40,374 --> 01:19:42,875
- (Douglas): What on earthis he doing here?
1357
01:19:42,917 --> 01:19:46,709
- Douglas, your blood pressure.- OK, um, OK.
1358
01:19:46,750 --> 01:19:48,667
Mom, it's OK. Dad? Dad, hi.
1359
01:19:48,709 --> 01:19:51,251
I'd like youto meet Cinco Dublin.
1360
01:19:51,293 --> 01:19:54,210
- Yes, I know whohe is. The question iswhat's he doing in my house?
1361
01:19:54,251 --> 01:19:57,001
- Uh, he's with me.- Well...
1362
01:19:57,043 --> 01:19:58,961
You're friends with this man?
1363
01:19:58,961 --> 01:20:02,586
- Actually, he's somebodyvery special to me
1364
01:20:02,627 --> 01:20:05,461
and because of that, I'd likeyou to give him a chance.
1365
01:20:05,502 --> 01:20:10,045
- Special? So why would you keepsomething like this from me?
1366
01:20:11,795 --> 01:20:14,337
- Probably because I was afraidyou wouldn't approve.
1367
01:20:14,378 --> 01:20:17,546
- You think you needmy approval?
1368
01:20:21,963 --> 01:20:24,505
- Yes, I do.I really, really do.
1369
01:20:24,547 --> 01:20:27,089
But if you don't, we're stillgonna be together anyway,
1370
01:20:27,089 --> 01:20:29,797
so...- And why wouldn't you be?
1371
01:20:29,797 --> 01:20:33,465
You're an adult, sweetie.I only want you to be happy.
1372
01:20:33,506 --> 01:20:35,798
Hey...
1373
01:20:35,798 --> 01:20:38,340
We may never agree on much,
1374
01:20:38,381 --> 01:20:40,299
but if you care for my daughter
1375
01:20:40,341 --> 01:20:45,216
then I imagine we're gonnahave to learn to get along.
1376
01:20:45,257 --> 01:20:48,842
- I appreciate that,sir. Um, I...
1377
01:20:48,883 --> 01:20:53,842
do care very much about her.- Good.
1378
01:20:53,883 --> 01:20:56,509
Welcome.
1379
01:20:58,509 --> 01:21:00,468
(Douglas): I just want to say
1380
01:21:00,468 --> 01:21:03,634
how truly proudthat I am of you,
1381
01:21:03,676 --> 01:21:06,844
not because of the success ofa wonderful book that you wrote,
1382
01:21:06,885 --> 01:21:10,677
or because of thefine woman that you are,
1383
01:21:10,719 --> 01:21:14,386
but because I get to say thankyou for being my daughter.
1384
01:21:14,428 --> 01:21:16,886
- (various): Aww...- To Lea.
1385
01:21:16,928 --> 01:21:19,970
- (all): Lea.
1386
01:21:19,970 --> 01:21:22,887
- Sir, may I say something?
1387
01:21:24,554 --> 01:21:27,721
Thank you.
1388
01:21:30,138 --> 01:21:34,763
My grandparentswere married for 75 years.
1389
01:21:34,805 --> 01:21:38,973
and the love they shared
1390
01:21:38,973 --> 01:21:43,389
is something I spentmost of my life looking for.
1391
01:21:46,932 --> 01:21:50,099
The truth is
1392
01:21:50,140 --> 01:21:52,515
that you can't find love;
1393
01:21:52,557 --> 01:21:54,475
you can only hide from it.
1394
01:21:54,516 --> 01:21:58,558
Whether it's familyor marriage...
1395
01:22:00,141 --> 01:22:02,392
...love finds you.
1396
01:22:06,267 --> 01:22:08,351
My grandfather proposedto my grandmother after
1397
01:22:08,392 --> 01:22:11,143
only two weeks of dating.
1398
01:22:13,893 --> 01:22:16,143
Now you're probably notready to have me propose yet,
1399
01:22:16,185 --> 01:22:18,811
but I do have a question.
1400
01:22:18,853 --> 01:22:23,311
Lea Townshend, will youplease be my girlfriend?
1401
01:22:23,353 --> 01:22:27,062
(cheering)
1402
01:22:27,104 --> 01:22:30,187
- I would loveto be your girlfriend.
1403
01:22:30,229 --> 01:22:34,520
- ♪ Always on your mindOn the go ♪
1404
01:22:34,562 --> 01:22:38,563
♪ Oh so far from home again
1405
01:22:38,605 --> 01:22:41,313
♪ Thinking 'bout those times
1406
01:22:41,355 --> 01:22:43,313
- Wanna dance?- No.
1407
01:22:43,355 --> 01:22:46,147
- Little bit? Just for a second?
1408
01:22:46,189 --> 01:22:50,106
- ♪ RememberingEvery thought of you ♪
1409
01:22:50,147 --> 01:22:52,023
♪ Picks me up
1410
01:22:52,065 --> 01:22:54,315
♪ Helps me to get through
1411
01:22:54,357 --> 01:22:57,898
♪ The dayI got to find ♪
1412
01:22:57,940 --> 01:23:00,608
♪ A way and tell myself (cheering)
1413
01:23:00,649 --> 01:23:03,274
♪ It's gonna be OK
1414
01:23:03,316 --> 01:23:06,066
♪ 'Cause when I see you
1415
01:23:06,108 --> 01:23:09,275
♪ My love, you're beautiful
1416
01:23:09,317 --> 01:23:11,817
♪ Crowds disappear
1417
01:23:11,817 --> 01:23:16,943
♪ When you're nearYour magic smile ♪
1418
01:23:16,985 --> 01:23:21,068
♪ Chases my blues away
1419
01:23:21,110 --> 01:23:25,111
♪ When I see you, oh, girl
1420
01:23:25,152 --> 01:23:27,402
♪ I can't get enough
1421
01:23:27,402 --> 01:23:30,236
♪ There's no one elseI'm so in love ♪
1422
01:23:37,737 --> 01:23:41,321
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