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MORGAN: Abbey Road, London.
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Five decades ago, four young
men made this street famous
all around the world and just
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a few steps up the
street there on June 25, 1967
they performed a song
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live by satellite to an
audience of almost half
a billion people.
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That song was "All You
Need Is Love."
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It was the summer of love.
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I was working at a little
theater in Vermont when I
heard it and like so many
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young people everywhere,
we were swept up by the
sense of hope
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that love was all you
needed to end war,
poverty and oppression.
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It's easy, right?
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It seems naïve now.
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But stop and think for a
minute about how our lives
are built around love.
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Families and our communities.
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Is it really naïve
to think that love
can change the world?
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What happens when
we don't have love?
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Why these children
rocking back and forth?
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IZIDOR: Because children
were never held as infants.
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MORGAN: Why are we willing
to suffer for love?
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Even die for it.
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WILL: What happens
on those battlefields forges
something that truly cannot
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be repeated anywhere else.
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MORGAN: Should passion
be left to fate?
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HINA: Is it really meant to
just be chance that you meet
someone that you're meant to
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spend the rest of
your life with?
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MORGAN: And can
love reach everyone?
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JOSHUA: It's a way of making
someone feel like that there's
someone out there who cares.
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(theme music plays)
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MORGAN: This is my journey to
discover the ties that bind us
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and the common
humanity inside us.
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This is The Story of Us.
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I'm in Southern California
to meet Izidor Ruckel.
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Izidor grew up in a
Romanian orphanage and didn't
experience the love most of us
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take for granted,
the love of a parent.
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You were born in Romania?
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-That is correct.
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-But you wound up in an
orphanage at an early age?
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-I did.
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My parents took me to a
hospital to be treated
for my flu or cold.
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The doctor gave me an
injection and instead of the
needles being sterilized and
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disinfected it was
used time after time, on
children after children.
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And I contracted polio.
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So my parents said "What on
earth did you do to his leg?
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His leg is dead, he can't move
it any more."
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The doctor said "He'd
have to stay here for a
couple of weeks."
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Once my parents left me
there they never came back.
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At the age of three years old
I was put in the hospital for
the irrecoverable children and
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grew up there until
I was 11 years old.
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MORGAN: In the 24 years
that Nicholai Ceausescu
ruled Romania many children
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shared Izidor's fate.
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Ceausescu decreed that
every family must have at
least five children or pay an
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extreme tax penalty.
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If you couldn't afford
to feed five children,
often the only option was
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to give some of them
to one of Romania's over
crowded state orphanages.
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So Izi, you spent
eight years growing up
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in an orphanage.
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What was that like?
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-There are moments
where you wonder am
I gonna survive this?
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None of us were taken outside.
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-No sunlight?
-No sunlight.
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-Looking around at where
we are, playground,
the trees, the grass.
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-We did not have
anything like this.
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-Nothing close to it?
-No.
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I wanted to show you this
video, so you could actually
see it for yourself what my
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life in the institution
was in Romania.
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-I mean even the
building from the outside
looks intimidating.
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-When you walk into the
building you smell nothing
but soaked urine and feces.
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-Oh my goodness gracious.
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About how many kids can you
think lived in that orphanage?
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-It would be about
400, 500 children.
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-400 or 500 children and
not nearly enough people
to look after them.
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-No.
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-Why are these children
rocking back and forth?
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-Because children were never
held as infants and they were
developing ways to nurture
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themselves and rocking back
and forth was one of the ways.
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-You experienced this?
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-I experienced it,
I used to rock back and
forth for a long time and
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I grew out of that eventually.
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-Who is that kid?
-That was me.
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That was me in 1990.
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I had more opportunity
than others.
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I had a worker named
Onesha and I actually
still have her picture.
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And um, I will never forget
this woman, she was one
of the most amazing workers
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that worked there.
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Onesha took me
home for one night.
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I forgot about
the institution.
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My experience at home
was the greatest gift.
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She cared for me like I was
her son, from that moment on.
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Other workers
saw my potential.
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OK, I wanna take him home too.
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And from there it just
gradually grew till I went
home with almost the entire
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staff that worked there.
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It's because of them that
I learned how to love, how to
have compassion, how to care,
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how to have sympathy.
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I mean I had never
done that before.
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I never could have
hugged someone.
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-Did you see this happen
for any other kids?
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-No.
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I was very fortunate and
lucky and because of their
love I believe I was able to
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grow and develop a lot
better than others.
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-So how did you get
out of this orphanage?
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-These workers called
out my name and another
boys name, Ciprian.
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Izidor and Ciprian, come here.
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You're going to America.
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-Just like that?
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-Just like that and
we were shocked.
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So they put us in a
nurses office and I asked
who's gonna be my Mom?
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And Marlys said
"I'm gonna be your Mom" and
I said then that's what I
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want my Mom to be.
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-So your parents are here?
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-Yes, Mom and Dad,
come right in.
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-Good morning, Danny.
-Good morning.
-I am Marlys.
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-How do you do?
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You've got your own kids,
you've got three lovely
children that you're
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gonna bring this...
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-Mutt.
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-Mutt into...
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-All five of us
really wanted him.
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I thought he was the
most charming thing.
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-Pretty much hooked?
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-Yes.
-Okay.
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At first life in America was
new and exciting for Izidor.
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He went to school, played
sports and experienced
something he'd never had before,
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a family
that loved him.
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But then things
start to go wrong?
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They start to go bad?
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-I wasn't used to the family.
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I didn't care for them.
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They were not my
family and they were
nothing, I hated them.
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All the bitterness I held it
in and when I exploded I took
it out on them because they
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were the closest to me.
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There are times where
I was so out of hand the
police had to come over.
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-Did you have any clue why?
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-I don't know, it
didn't make sense to me.
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I mean, I couldn't
understand it.
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-I think there were just
some attachment issues
as a result of, you know,
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growing up without, you
know, someone cuddling him and
hugging him and loving on him.
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-When a child grows and
develops they need to be
nurtured, cared and loved.
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Without it they are
mentally affected.
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MORGAN: By the time Izidor
turned 16 his rejection
of his adoptive family
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reached a boiling point.
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He moved out of the house,
severed all ties with them.
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But then when he was 18,
he learned that Marlys and
his adoptive sisters were
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in a serious car accident.
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-I was so devastated
and I was very scared that
I was gonna lose them.
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I had done so much
damage in the family that
I didn't think I was gonna be
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accepted or even talked to.
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They opened the door and
I apologized from then.
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-I remember, still
to this day, he told
us that he loved us.
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And I'm not sure that
we'd ever heard that.
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-But that was a
turn around for him.
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-The beginning.
-I wasn't willing to give up.
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He's my son.
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Whether he's my flesh
and blood didn't matter.
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I refused to give up.
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-Once that I saw that
they were able to forgive
me, at that moment I made
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like a covenant with myself.
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I did not want to
lose them again.
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-Right, so now what?
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-We're still doing
the same thing.
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We have five more children,
we've adopted them.
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-Gluttons for punishment huh?
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And you, what are you doing?
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-I'm advocating for several
things because I definitely
don't wanna see children,
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not only in Romania,
but anywhere in the world,
to endure what we endured.
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I think that the greatest
gift of all was being
adopted and be able to
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have the best family.
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I have to admit that.
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I do realize that.
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It took me a while, but...
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-Now you do.
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When I was a little
boy I had all this.
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Trees, grass, sound of birds.
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I had a loving family.
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It is heartbreaking to learn
what Izidor and so many
young Romanian children had
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to live through.
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Izidor himself was lucky.
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He had his nursemaids
and his adoptive parents.
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Now he dedicates
himself to helping other
orphans, securing for them
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something that was as vital
to their wellbeing as
food and shelter, love.
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All of us
need to receive love.
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But giving love often
requires sacrifice.
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Many parents stop
putting themselves first.
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They sacrifice their
careers, work second jobs or
give up their social lives to
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care for their children.
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In some cases the sacrifices
we make for love cause
physical pain and leave
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lasting scars.
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I'm traveling
to a remote region of
Southern Ethiopia to visit a
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village of the Hamar Tribe.
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Anthropologist
Dr. Samuel Tefera,
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who has lived with the Hamar,
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tells me they will be
happy to show me the pain
they endure for love.
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Is this an village,
tell me how old is it?
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DR TEFERA: It
has been here for two,
three, four centuries.
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-So they're pastoral?
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-Yes, they have goats, they
have cows, they have sheep.
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-Cause I was gonna ask if
I could get eggs Benedict
here, but I guess not huh?
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-Yeah, no.
-Okay.
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The Hamar in this
village are all members
of an extended family.
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Those tight family bonds
are vital to their survival
in this dry and rugged land.
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I hear this sort of
joyous sound going on.
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-We are about to witness
an age-old ceremony.
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Men of the Hamar
jump over the bulls.
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It's a right of transition
from a childhood
through adulthood.
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-Oh, ok.
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-And then that makes
them eligible to marry.
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-That makes them
eligible to marry?
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-Yeah.
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MORGAN: The Hamar have
invited us to witness their
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traditional bull
jumping ceremony.
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Samuel tells me
most of the days events aren't
focused on the young man who's
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coming of age, but
on his female relatives.
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MORGAN: A crucial part of
the ceremony is the display
of love the women make
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for the young boy.
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This is abuse.
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(whip cracking)
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MORGAN: The Hamar people
have been holding coming of
age ceremonies for
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young men, here on the
banks of the Omo River,
for hundreds of years.
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A central part of
the event is his female
relatives being whipped.
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I've heard of other painful
ritual practices often
directed against women,
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but something about
this seems different.
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-They choose?
-They choose to do it yeah.
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-Hard for me to fathom because
I don't understand why the
woman wants to get whipped.
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MORGAN: Samuel explains that
these women know the boys who
are coming of age will make
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sacrifices and face
dangers herding cattle in
Ethiopia's rugged landscape.
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Being whipped is
their way of declaring that
they are willing to endure
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hardship as well.
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But this is all so shocking,
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that I want to
ask the women directly
why they are doing this.
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I've been watching for
a good while and I see
women getting whipped.
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It seems painful and cruel.
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Why do you do it?
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(speaking in native language).
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-For them to feel
like it's jumping they
have to be whipped.
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-OK.
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-And they cannot
separate the two.
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MORGAN: Fresh cuts laid
down on top of old scars
serve as proof of the
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women's love
for the bull jumper.
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It's time now for him
to show his bravery.
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-These are the cattle.
-These are the cattle.
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-And a young man is gonna
come and they will jump
over a bunch of them?
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-Yeah he's going to jump.
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Very young.
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-Yeah very young.
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-OK, so they don't move?
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-What happens if he falls?
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MORGAN: The young men must
run over the cattle at least
four times to complete his
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transition to adulthood.
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The more runs he makes, the
more of a man he is in the
eyes of his extended family.
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-This is number four.
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-Yeah, he's coming
back for number five.
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-Now he has become a big man.
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-How many cows
could you jump over?
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-I probably could make
it over one, maybe.
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The strength of the
Hamar women is remarkable.
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They manage to take something
painful and turn it into
something that empowers them.
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The scars that they carry
are like a signature
on a contract that says,
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"We are bound by love."
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Strikes me that human society
may not have made it without
this kind of love between
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siblings and parent and child.
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It's the basic glue that
holds humankind together.
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The bonds of the
family are cemented by this
form of sacrificial love,
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but they are also built
on another type of love.
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The passion that
strikes two people.
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Antony and Cleopatra, Tristan
and Isolde, Romeo and Juliet.
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These romantic tales are the
epitome of how we view love.
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To paraphrase William
Shakespeare, 'Love is a fire,
sparkling in lovers eyes.'
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But I wonder if romantic
love alone is enough
to sustain a marriage?
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Only recently, and mostly
only in developed countries,
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has marriage based
on passionate love between
strangers replaced marriages
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arranged by families
as the norm.
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I'm on my way
to Hertfordshire, England to
meet lawyer Hina Belitz whose
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Pakistani heritage presented
her with the choice between
both forms of marriage.
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How do you do?
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HINA: Very well, thank you.
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Come on, come,
come on in.
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-Tell me about your
family background?
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-Well, I was brought up in
Andover in Hampshire, although
I was actually born in Pakistan.
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-So you grew up
here in the UK?
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-Yes.
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It was completely all
white, all English.
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And so we grew up secluded
from anyone of a similar
cultural background to us.
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-What about schooling?
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Did you go to college?
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-I did and I met
someone at university.
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-Were you married?
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-Yes.
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It was what you
would conventionally
call a love marriage.
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It was all very idyllic
for a short while.
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-How short?
-A year.
-Yeah that's a shorty.
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-Yeah I discovered that
actually he'd been unfaithful.
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-OK, so that means divorce?
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-It did, yes.
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So I threw myself into
my career and I worked
very hard and became
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a successful attorney.
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-Life in the city, as a
single girl, was actually
quite a lonely experience.
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Even though I had so many
friends I knew that there
was something hollow and
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empty and missing in my life.
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And it wasn't very easy
for me with the experience
that I had been through to
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easily just trust another.
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And I had a sort of instinct
that I knew I wouldn't find it
just by bumping into someone
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in the local supermarket.
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-You had to have made
some sort of change.
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-I think that's
absolutely right.
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MORGAN: After a failed first
marriage, Hina felt the urge
to get reacquainted with her
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Pakistani routes.
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-I then had a very good
job opportunity arise.
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So I took that opportunity to
take a break between jobs and
take some proper time out.
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So I decided to go to Pakistan
and meet my Grandmother.
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After a few days of arriving,
I noticed that when we went
out to a restaurant that a
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strange man would appear
and just be shuffled
over to sit next to me.
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And at first I was unsure
as to what the reason was and
then my Grandmother would sort
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of come over and nudge me
afterwards and say "What
did you think of him?"
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and I'm like "Oh it'd be nice
if he could actually string
a sentence together."
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But, then the penny dropped
quite quickly that my family
were effectively trying to
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introduce me to a
possible suitable match,
an arranged marriage.
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-What was your
thinking about the idea
of arranged marriages?
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-Well it was strange.
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I felt very much
that I was a Western woman,
that had been brought up
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in the UK and this was
all just not for me.
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This is not something...
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-Kind of foreign?
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-Yes it's foreign,
it's a bit backward.
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Why would I think about
marrying someone in this way?
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But that's OK, I'll humor
you all for a bit, I'll
sort of go along with it.
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-How many persons do you
think your Grandmother
paraded before you?
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-There were about four
or five as I recall.
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And then just as
we were about to leave, it
was probably the day before
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there was another chap.
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And he was very different,
extremely charming, had a
wonderful smile, good looking.
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I noticed from across
the room, my Grandmother
looking at me.
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She had these long, slim, dark
eyes and she was looking at me
then looking at him like this.
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But what happened was I
flew back to the UK and
literally a day after
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I arrived my Mother got a
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phone call from my
Grandmother who said "I'd
like to propose a match,
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a marriage match between
Kameron and Hina.
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Can you ask her
if that's something that
she would be interested
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in proceeding with?"
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On the one hand I
thought dive in, jump off
the cliff and have a go.
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On the other hand
I was thinking what's
gone wrong with you
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that you're considering this?
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So there was conflict
in my own mind because of
course, I'd only met Kam
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for about half
an hour to an hour.
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-Then what?
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-Well I think I had a bit of
an Epiphany when I was out
there because I realized it
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may be culturally different
to something that I
had been brought up around,
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but maybe it
wasn't a bad thing.
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Maybe there was something
that it had to offer.
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I actually said yes I
would like to proceed.
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And I was thinking
you're crazy.
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MORGAN: Hina Belitz agreed to
marry a man whom she had only
met once, for half an hour.
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-Yeah.
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MORGAN: Who lived more
than 4000 miles away from
her home outside London.
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She chose to trust the opinion
of her Pakistani family,
rather than simply rely on the
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spark of passion.
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-It was virtually
no time at all that we were
married, over the telephone,
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via a telephone
Nikah ceremony.
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A Nikah ceremony is a
wedding ceremony which is
like the actual wedding,
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since it's sort of at
the point of commitment.
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-So you're on a telephone...
-On a telephone.
-He's in Pakistan?
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-Yes.
-And you're here in the UK?
-That's right.
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-And you're married now?
-We're technically married.
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But, afterwards I
went for a proper full
ceremony in Pakistan.
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-It worked out wonderfully.
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I can honestly say I believe
I've found my soul mate.
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Would you like to meet him?
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-Yeah of course.
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00:26:08,434 --> 00:26:09,602
Hello Kameron.
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-Hi Morgan, nice to meet you.
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-How are you?
-I'm fine.
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-So did you know you
were being set up?
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-No, not at all.
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My Father, he said
"Kameron what do you think
about the girl you saw?"
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and I said "Wow"
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(laughter)
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00:26:31,290 --> 00:26:34,827
and I said I
wish that she'll be my wife.
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00:26:34,861 --> 00:26:37,329
-So how long have
you been together?
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-15 years.
-15 years.
-Yeah.
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We have an eight and
a ten year old now.
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Two beautiful sons.
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-So maybe it's a good thing
to have a family involved in
such a momentous decision?
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-I think you're right.
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I think part of the reason
why there are so many website
dating applications is because
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there isn't an easy
access to people.
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Is it really meant to just be
chance that you meet someone,
that you're meant to spend the
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rest of your life with?
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Do we really want
to leave that purely to a
chance meeting at a party?
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-In Pakistan you always
see arranged marriages
and they last long.
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They're a blessing
from parents.
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-I had a lot more confidence
and trust because I knew that
my family was involved and so
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there was a lot more
comfort that I had.
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-OK.
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So how wrong would I be
if I said yours is not
an arranged marriage?
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Yours is a marriage
by consent.
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-The core of the difference
is simply that when
a marriage is arranged,
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it is arranged because the
objective is to introduce two
people for the purposes of
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getting married, rather
than for the purposes of
going out and having fun.
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There are such things
as forced marriages.
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Anyone being compelled
to marry someone they don't
want to is completely wrong.
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An arrangement should be
by choice, ultimately.
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-Do you think love
has to be learned?
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-There is something
powerful about going into
a relationship with clear
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expectations on either side
and clear hopes and desires
on either side and not having
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those aspects clouded by the
more superficial feelings.
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00:28:23,970 --> 00:28:27,173
There's a possibility
I think that that could
lead to a longer term,
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more lasting,
more fulfilling relationship.
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00:28:29,809 --> 00:28:32,244
-You do look properly
matched, to me.
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I mean I can certainly
see how it could come
about between you two.
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It looks right, feels right.
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(sniffing)
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Even smells right.
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So long guys.
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-Thank you.
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-It never occurred to me
that an arranged marriage
could be the foundation of
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a loving relationship.
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Not to Hina either.
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But, she and Kam have
built upon the expectations
placed on their match
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by their families.
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It built a bond that is
founded on both passion
and practicality.
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-Bye!
-Bye-bye.
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-And they're raising a
couple of wonderful boys.
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Love has so many forms.
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It's passionate, it's
painful, it's nurtured.
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Love binds people together,
even when love is the
last thing on their minds.
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I'm meeting Army Major
William Swenson, who received
the Medal of Honor for
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his bravery in Afghanistan.
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PRESIDENT OBAMA: Will Swenson
was there for his brothers.
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He was there for us all.
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MORGAN: The story of how
he risked his life for
his brothers in arms is
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a true story of love.
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-Brothers in arms.
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What does that
term mean to you?
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WILL: It's a term
that's always defined
our relationship to one
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00:30:11,510 --> 00:30:12,845
another in the military.
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Friendship.
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A family that's forged.
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Whether it's basic training
or whether it's an experience
that was forged in war.
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-Now you were in Afghanistan.
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-That's correct.
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We had US Army, US Air
Force and the US Navy assets
all participating in a joint
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operation to help pacify a
troubled part of our region.
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00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,842
We were all collectively
working with respective
Afghan partners.
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Sergeant First Class Kenneth
Westbrook and I were working
with our Afghan border patrol.
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Sergeant Westbrook was in
effect my right hand man.
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00:30:55,955 --> 00:30:58,991
-Sergeant Westbrook
is a friend of yours?
447
00:30:59,025 --> 00:31:02,161
-We had not known each other
prior to this deployment.
448
00:31:02,194 --> 00:31:04,363
We got to know each
other, very well.
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00:31:04,396 --> 00:31:06,165
I could rely on him.
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We were very different
in every way.
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However, we ultimately saw
that we had an objective, a
goal and that we were gonna
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get there, together.
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MORGAN: On September 8th
2009, Major Swenson, Sergeant
Westbrook and their Afghan
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border patrol unit, were
tasked with escorting a
contingent from the Afghan
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Army and the US Marines.
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They were headed to
a meeting of elders in
the village of Ganjgal.
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00:31:34,793 --> 00:31:37,964
-But this was not a mission
that intended on being combat.
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We were there to
support that operation.
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00:31:40,332 --> 00:31:42,101
-OK, so what happened?
460
00:31:42,134 --> 00:31:44,736
-You pick your
battles, but sometimes
your battles pick you.
461
00:31:47,473 --> 00:31:49,375
-The mission came under fire?
462
00:31:49,408 --> 00:31:52,078
-That's correct.
463
00:31:52,111 --> 00:31:54,947
We never entered the village
before we were fired upon.
464
00:31:54,981 --> 00:31:59,451
And it gradually escalated
into a significant amount of
direct, accurate, lethal fire.
465
00:32:08,627 --> 00:32:13,099
MORGAN: Major William Swenson
had set out on a mission to
help Afghani soldiers broker a
466
00:32:13,132 --> 00:32:15,667
peace deal with tribal elders
in the village of Ganjgal.
467
00:32:20,506 --> 00:32:25,111
All of a sudden the
mission came under attack
and they were surrounded
468
00:32:26,112 --> 00:32:28,780
by as many as 60
insurgent fighters.
469
00:32:30,649 --> 00:32:34,120
He and his entire
unit were battling to
save their own lives.
470
00:32:36,788 --> 00:32:41,060
-We had received at least
four of our first casualties
within the first five minutes.
471
00:32:43,729 --> 00:32:45,797
This battle extended
over six hours.
472
00:32:45,831 --> 00:32:48,300
-Six hours!
473
00:32:48,967 --> 00:32:53,972
-And over these six hours
we had a number of heroic
acts that occurred
474
00:32:55,174 --> 00:32:57,143
across that battlefield.
475
00:32:57,176 --> 00:33:00,846
We were firmly
committed to one goal,
extracting our survivors,
476
00:33:02,714 --> 00:33:05,684
recovering our wounded and
dead and getting off that
battlefield so that we could
477
00:33:05,717 --> 00:33:07,886
come back and
fight another day.
478
00:33:08,654 --> 00:33:11,623
MORGAN: Major Swenson
repeatedly entered the kill
zone to rescue wounded and
479
00:33:11,657 --> 00:33:13,925
fallen US and
Afghani soldiers.
480
00:33:15,761 --> 00:33:18,497
But he wasn't alone
in his efforts.
481
00:33:20,166 --> 00:33:23,335
-Sergeant First Class
Westbrook was providing
supporting fire, heroically,
482
00:33:24,203 --> 00:33:26,638
and he was wounded.
483
00:33:26,672 --> 00:33:30,576
And he called out to me "Will,
I'm hit" and he didn't tell
me how badly wounded he was.
484
00:33:32,611 --> 00:33:36,115
He never indicated how
significant his injuries
were, but they were grave.
485
00:33:37,749 --> 00:33:41,653
And I was watching
him, just checking to
make sure he was OK.
486
00:33:41,687 --> 00:33:44,090
And he was.
487
00:33:45,057 --> 00:33:50,529
And he provided covering fire
for who knows how long, before
he finally said "I'm losing
488
00:33:50,562 --> 00:33:53,932
it, I need help over here"
and I knew he was serious.
489
00:33:55,634 --> 00:33:58,737
And I went over to him and
he and I began to extract
off the battlefield.
490
00:34:01,140 --> 00:34:04,210
And he, on his own two feet,
walked hundreds of yards.
491
00:34:04,743 --> 00:34:07,213
Hundreds of yards
through complex terrain.
492
00:34:07,246 --> 00:34:10,316
Again, I had not at this point
understood the severity of it.
493
00:34:11,083 --> 00:34:13,252
We'll watch this together.
494
00:34:19,625 --> 00:34:22,261
This helicopter crew was
under fire at this time.
495
00:34:23,662 --> 00:34:28,434
For them to land it,
a helicopter full of fuel,
in that area is testament to
496
00:34:28,467 --> 00:34:30,136
their bravery as well.
497
00:34:30,769 --> 00:34:31,903
-Who's that?
498
00:34:31,937 --> 00:34:33,939
-This is me.
499
00:34:33,972 --> 00:34:36,342
The dust you see
is providing some level of
protection from direct fire.
500
00:34:38,110 --> 00:34:40,646
You can see here, that's
Sergeant First Class
Westbrook coming up.
501
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:43,749
The bullet had
destroyed his shoulder.
502
00:34:44,183 --> 00:34:46,952
Significant internal
damage and bleeding.
503
00:34:46,985 --> 00:34:48,920
At this point he'd
lost so much blood that
it was difficult for him
504
00:34:48,954 --> 00:34:51,757
to maintain consciousness.
505
00:34:58,664 --> 00:35:01,800
This is Sergeant First
Class Westbrook walking,
on his own two feet,
506
00:35:01,833 --> 00:35:04,370
off that battle field
after him doing his job.
507
00:35:08,540 --> 00:35:12,278
At that point, told him
he'd done his job, it's time
to go home and I gave him
508
00:35:12,311 --> 00:35:15,013
a kiss on the head.
509
00:35:17,949 --> 00:35:21,119
-Your brother in arms, you
gave a kiss on the head.
510
00:35:25,891 --> 00:35:29,728
Would you agree it
qualifies as love?
511
00:35:32,331 --> 00:35:34,800
-It does qualify as love.
512
00:35:34,833 --> 00:35:37,836
The people you serve
with, the people you
go to conflict with,
513
00:35:39,571 --> 00:35:43,175
the people that you
have an experience and that
intensity, forges friendships.
514
00:35:43,809 --> 00:35:45,677
It forges bonds.
515
00:35:45,711 --> 00:35:48,714
It forges something
that truly cannot be
repeated anywhere else.
516
00:35:49,381 --> 00:35:52,684
What happens on those
battlefields, what happens
amongst our service members in
517
00:35:52,718 --> 00:35:56,087
those situations creates
something that really
cannot be described.
518
00:35:57,155 --> 00:35:58,490
It can be seen.
519
00:35:58,524 --> 00:35:59,858
It can be witnessed.
520
00:35:59,891 --> 00:36:01,860
But it really has to be felt.
521
00:36:01,893 --> 00:36:06,498
It's powerful and it extends
beyond just the soldier, just
that sailor, that marine,
522
00:36:06,532 --> 00:36:08,967
it extends to even
their families.
523
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,837
You feel like you've forged
a new family, a new bond.
524
00:36:13,739 --> 00:36:17,376
-So Sergeant Westbrook was
rather severely wounded,
but not mortally right?
525
00:36:19,911 --> 00:36:21,913
What happened to him?
526
00:36:25,551 --> 00:36:27,886
-Sergeant Westbrook had
the opportunity to go home.
527
00:36:29,455 --> 00:36:33,892
He didn't want to, he wanted
to stay and keep fighting.
528
00:36:35,060 --> 00:36:38,430
He got to go home, he
got to see his family.
529
00:36:39,965 --> 00:36:43,735
Unfortunately as a
result of complications he
passed away a month later.
530
00:36:45,604 --> 00:36:49,040
Back in the United States,
with his family by his side.
531
00:36:51,643 --> 00:36:55,113
-So out of all
of that, he died?
532
00:36:57,048 --> 00:36:59,084
-This is war.
533
00:36:59,117 --> 00:37:01,253
It's not fair.
534
00:37:01,287 --> 00:37:03,689
He would have returned to that
battlefield if he could have.
535
00:37:03,722 --> 00:37:07,225
He would have returned right
by my side and he and I would
have continued our mission.
536
00:37:07,259 --> 00:37:10,562
But he gave everything
for what he loved.
537
00:37:10,596 --> 00:37:13,399
For what he believed in.
538
00:37:13,432 --> 00:37:17,135
And I take some solace in
knowing that he got home.
539
00:37:19,004 --> 00:37:20,439
-Yeah.
540
00:37:20,472 --> 00:37:22,908
Tough talking
about it isn't it.
541
00:37:25,143 --> 00:37:27,112
Thank you.
542
00:37:29,981 --> 00:37:33,419
The courage that Major
Swenson showed on that
fateful day is inspiring.
543
00:37:34,953 --> 00:37:40,492
But, what strikes me most is
that kiss and what it reveals.
544
00:37:43,128 --> 00:37:45,931
It's not romantic, no.
545
00:37:47,165 --> 00:37:49,868
It's a kiss of fellowship.
546
00:37:51,970 --> 00:37:56,342
A profound bond with someone
you have no blood ties with.
547
00:37:59,845 --> 00:38:04,950
How can we ever have
moved beyond small tribes
without that bond?
548
00:38:06,217 --> 00:38:10,956
Our cities, our entire
nations could not exist...
549
00:38:13,158 --> 00:38:15,226
without love.
550
00:38:18,497 --> 00:38:21,700
Love has built our world.
551
00:38:21,733 --> 00:38:24,536
But not everyone receives
the love they need.
552
00:38:25,804 --> 00:38:29,941
Around us there are
people who are excluded,
who feel invisible to the
553
00:38:29,975 --> 00:38:31,677
rest of society.
554
00:38:33,244 --> 00:38:36,715
Can we help bring them back
simply by offering them love?
555
00:38:45,591 --> 00:38:48,994
MORGAN: Across Europe
and North America there are
nearly five million homeless.
556
00:38:50,529 --> 00:38:53,031
Some of us are moved to help
these people through charity.
557
00:38:54,500 --> 00:38:56,768
You could call charities,
organizations built from love.
558
00:38:59,104 --> 00:39:05,043
In the US 63 million
volunteers donated eight
billion hours to homelessness
559
00:39:05,944 --> 00:39:08,346
and other causes in 2016.
560
00:39:09,715 --> 00:39:12,718
But suffering
persists all the same.
561
00:39:12,751 --> 00:39:15,721
I wonder if there's
a better way to show
love to those in need?
562
00:39:24,463 --> 00:39:27,633
I'm in London
to meet Joshua Coombes.
563
00:39:29,601 --> 00:39:33,739
He's a hairdresser and
he believes small acts of
love can make a big impact.
564
00:39:35,741 --> 00:39:36,842
JOSHUA: How you doing?
565
00:39:36,875 --> 00:39:37,876
-I'm doing good.
566
00:39:37,909 --> 00:39:39,010
Good to see you.
567
00:39:39,044 --> 00:39:40,211
-It's lovely to meet you,
great to meet you.
568
00:39:40,245 --> 00:39:41,447
-Yeah what uh...
569
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:42,714
-What am I doing
with this stool?
570
00:39:42,748 --> 00:39:44,950
-Yeah.
-I'm gonna show you.
-OK.
571
00:39:44,983 --> 00:39:47,886
-So I'm gonna take
you around Peckham.
572
00:39:47,919 --> 00:39:50,756
MORGAN: Peckham was once
one of London's most down
trodden neighborhoods.
573
00:39:52,491 --> 00:39:54,059
Today it's in transition.
574
00:39:55,894 --> 00:40:00,732
On the same block you
can find trendy coffee shops,
street gangs and the homeless.
575
00:40:06,004 --> 00:40:07,138
-I'm gonna talk to
this guy, down here.
576
00:40:07,172 --> 00:40:08,406
-OK.
577
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:10,341
-Just a sec.
578
00:40:17,683 --> 00:40:21,286
MORGAN: Joshua hopes he can
help the homeless, not by
offering them money or food.
579
00:40:23,321 --> 00:40:25,757
But by giving them a haircut.
580
00:40:26,592 --> 00:40:28,960
-OK Stewart, when was the
last time you had a haircut?
581
00:40:30,662 --> 00:40:32,130
-In November last year.
582
00:40:32,163 --> 00:40:33,431
-December, January, February.
583
00:40:33,465 --> 00:40:34,600
-Five months ago.
584
00:40:34,633 --> 00:40:36,001
-March, April.
585
00:40:36,034 --> 00:40:37,736
How do you come to
be homeless Stewart?
586
00:40:37,769 --> 00:40:40,472
-I broke my hip and they
stopped my benefits.
587
00:40:41,940 --> 00:40:44,743
And at the time I was
like, I was stupid and I
was getting involved with
588
00:40:44,776 --> 00:40:46,845
drugs and things.
589
00:40:46,878 --> 00:40:48,814
I didn't really care and
next thing I know, you know,
they came round and said
590
00:40:48,847 --> 00:40:50,516
"Right, you're out".
591
00:40:50,549 --> 00:40:55,386
That was the 24th January 2016
and I've been homeless since.
592
00:40:59,658 --> 00:41:02,227
It's another world
on the streets.
593
00:41:03,529 --> 00:41:06,331
You can't go home anymore.
594
00:41:06,898 --> 00:41:09,334
And now you're alone.
595
00:41:11,703 --> 00:41:14,540
-Well I came close
once, in 1962.
596
00:41:15,974 --> 00:41:18,577
Couldn't pay my rent and
I had four roommates.
597
00:41:21,079 --> 00:41:24,983
But I couldn't pay my rent
for a couple of months and
they said well you gotta go.
598
00:41:26,685 --> 00:41:30,021
I had my duffel bag on
my shoulder and thinking
now where am I gonna go?
599
00:41:31,322 --> 00:41:34,025
-Where abouts was that?
-San Francisco.
-San Francisco.
600
00:41:34,059 --> 00:41:36,361
-Luckily I had friends.
601
00:41:36,394 --> 00:41:38,697
Somebody who took me in.
602
00:41:40,231 --> 00:41:42,801
-A lot of people look
at you and think it's
your fault you're there.
603
00:41:42,834 --> 00:41:44,002
You deserve it.
604
00:41:44,035 --> 00:41:45,403
You've done something wrong.
605
00:41:45,436 --> 00:41:48,740
It wasn't my case, I
mean it just built up.
606
00:41:50,041 --> 00:41:52,343
-Mmm, how long you
been doing this Josh?
607
00:41:53,511 --> 00:41:55,080
-For a couple of years now.
608
00:41:55,113 --> 00:41:57,182
-So what got you started?
609
00:41:57,215 --> 00:41:59,751
-I think it was
feeling a bit helpless
really, if I'm honest.
610
00:42:00,185 --> 00:42:02,320
Like it came from a
feeling of helplessness.
611
00:42:02,353 --> 00:42:04,923
Of how can I affect a
problem that seemed so big?
612
00:42:04,956 --> 00:42:08,359
How do I even begin to
start, from that feeling of
helplessness came like I had
613
00:42:08,393 --> 00:42:10,028
to start with one person.
614
00:42:10,061 --> 00:42:12,363
And just talking to
one person, finding
out about them,
615
00:42:12,397 --> 00:42:15,967
I think that makes
you feel empowered to
make bigger changes.
616
00:42:17,102 --> 00:42:19,437
-It's a bit more than giving a
haircut or getting a haircut.
617
00:42:19,470 --> 00:42:20,538
-Yeah.
618
00:42:20,572 --> 00:42:22,874
Yeah exactly, right.
619
00:42:22,908 --> 00:42:26,544
Just because we're not
related, I feel like there's
got to be that support for the
620
00:42:26,578 --> 00:42:30,048
people who don't have
that and, look I know a
hair cuts not a big thing,
621
00:42:30,081 --> 00:42:33,685
I know it's not gonna change
somebody's world, but for me
it's just a way of spending
622
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:36,121
time with someone.
623
00:42:36,154 --> 00:42:37,723
It's a way of making someone
hopefully feel like there's
someone out there who cares.
624
00:42:38,289 --> 00:42:39,625
You know, even if that
is a stranger, right?
625
00:42:39,658 --> 00:42:41,392
-Yeah.
626
00:42:42,961 --> 00:42:46,231
-This is it, it's
just coming off.
627
00:42:49,801 --> 00:42:51,603
-I've got a chin
under there I think.
628
00:42:51,637 --> 00:42:54,039
Probably got two or three.
629
00:42:54,072 --> 00:42:55,907
-OK are you ready to say
goodbye to this mustache?
630
00:42:55,941 --> 00:42:56,908
It's gone.
631
00:42:56,942 --> 00:42:58,977
It's going, going gone.
632
00:42:59,010 --> 00:43:01,079
-Well I must say
Stewart, you look human.
633
00:43:01,112 --> 00:43:02,413
-Oh thank you.
634
00:43:05,183 --> 00:43:08,586
I must say, with you
saying "Stewart", saying
my name and talking to me
635
00:43:08,620 --> 00:43:10,121
and I recognize your voice.
636
00:43:10,155 --> 00:43:15,126
-Oh do you now?
637
00:43:16,294 --> 00:43:18,730
Do you have a
special sleeping place
or do you whatever you?
638
00:43:18,764 --> 00:43:20,331
-I do, yes,
in Convent Garden.
639
00:43:20,365 --> 00:43:21,733
-Ah OK.
640
00:43:21,767 --> 00:43:24,569
-It's a doorway that I've
slept in a few months now.
641
00:43:24,602 --> 00:43:27,338
The security don't bother me.
642
00:43:27,372 --> 00:43:29,841
-On the street, your
day-to-day, what would
you say love means to you?
643
00:43:31,843 --> 00:43:34,813
-Usually it hits me,
like the first person to
say "Good morning" to me.
644
00:43:35,613 --> 00:43:38,016
You know I'll be lying
there, I'm just undoing
my sleeping bag,
645
00:43:38,817 --> 00:43:41,286
just climbing out and somebody
walks past and says "Morning"
and you're like whoa, lovely.
646
00:43:42,553 --> 00:43:44,856
But when you don't hear a
good morning from anybody,
it's like nobody cares.
647
00:43:47,392 --> 00:43:49,160
-Another big reason
for doing this.
648
00:43:49,194 --> 00:43:51,529
When people walk past
and they see someone
helping another person I
649
00:43:51,562 --> 00:43:52,630
think it's infectious.
650
00:43:52,664 --> 00:43:54,465
It ripples.
651
00:43:54,499 --> 00:43:57,903
You know and I think
that's part of this, to try
and inspire other people.
652
00:43:59,237 --> 00:44:03,875
So we've created
a social media movement
#dosomethingfornothing.
653
00:44:04,542 --> 00:44:07,545
And people are using this
hashtag in different places
to perform good will acts.
654
00:44:07,578 --> 00:44:09,748
You know, so it's not
just about hairdressing.
655
00:44:11,416 --> 00:44:16,554
-So Stewart, I'm thinking
now what's got Josh here
with you, is his sense
656
00:44:17,388 --> 00:44:19,524
of love thy neighbor.
657
00:44:21,592 --> 00:44:23,929
Do something for
someone, for nothing.
658
00:44:26,898 --> 00:44:29,034
What do you think about that?
659
00:44:29,067 --> 00:44:30,468
-There'd be a lot more done.
660
00:44:30,501 --> 00:44:31,703
-Wouldn't there.
661
00:44:31,737 --> 00:44:33,471
Yeah.
662
00:44:33,504 --> 00:44:35,673
-Yeah man and final touch.
663
00:44:35,707 --> 00:44:37,008
We're ready.
664
00:44:37,042 --> 00:44:38,343
I think you're ready.
665
00:44:38,376 --> 00:44:40,178
-Yeah, there you are, bet
you don't recognize this guy.
666
00:44:40,211 --> 00:44:41,980
-I don't yeah.
667
00:44:42,013 --> 00:44:45,450
-In five, four...
668
00:44:46,084 --> 00:44:49,287
three, two, one,
669
00:44:49,687 --> 00:44:52,090
Ta-dah!
670
00:44:52,123 --> 00:44:55,393
-Jesus, I look
20 years younger!
671
00:44:56,561 --> 00:45:00,298
-Yeah, Stewart what we said.
-Nobody's gonna recognize me.
672
00:45:00,698 --> 00:45:02,667
-Mate, you're a
new man right now.
673
00:45:02,700 --> 00:45:04,069
-Yeah, thank you.
674
00:45:04,102 --> 00:45:07,138
-How do you feel?
-Like a new man.
-Like a new man.
675
00:45:08,039 --> 00:45:09,741
-Do you recognize
yourself there?
676
00:45:09,775 --> 00:45:15,814
-Um, yes, I used to look
like that once, when
I was a lot younger.
677
00:45:19,317 --> 00:45:22,954
-Alright, so what I want
to say to the both of you
is thank you very much.
678
00:45:23,388 --> 00:45:25,723
-Thank you very much.
-Thank you.
679
00:45:25,757 --> 00:45:27,926
-Quite a new experience.
680
00:45:27,959 --> 00:45:31,963
Someone like you walking
around the city doing
good stuff like that.
681
00:45:31,997 --> 00:45:34,399
-Thank you, means
a lot, really does.
682
00:45:34,432 --> 00:45:35,767
-Thank you.
683
00:45:35,801 --> 00:45:37,568
Stewart.
684
00:45:41,106 --> 00:45:43,274
It's really terrific
what Josh is doing.
685
00:45:43,308 --> 00:45:44,542
-I'm gonna see you again soon.
686
00:45:44,575 --> 00:45:46,344
-Thanks.
687
00:45:48,446 --> 00:45:49,915
MORGAN: Joshua doesn't
expect these small acts of
kindness to end homelessness.
688
00:45:52,083 --> 00:45:56,321
But he hopes the love he
shows people will boost their
self-esteem and may help them
689
00:45:56,354 --> 00:45:58,256
rebuild their lives.
690
00:46:01,860 --> 00:46:07,432
-Just imagine if each
of us took five minutes out
of your day to do something
691
00:46:07,933 --> 00:46:10,335
loving for another person.
692
00:46:10,368 --> 00:46:13,171
I don't care if it's
a family member or your
friend or a total stranger.
693
00:46:17,008 --> 00:46:20,545
Imagine what a transformation
it would make in this world.
694
00:46:27,685 --> 00:46:32,457
*
695
00:46:32,490 --> 00:46:35,493
Love is the most
powerful force we know.
696
00:46:35,526 --> 00:46:38,997
Back when we all lived
in small tribes it kept our
extended families together.
697
00:46:41,132 --> 00:46:44,035
But it has grown into
so much more than that.
698
00:46:45,136 --> 00:46:47,805
Today, love can reach all
the way around the world.
699
00:46:49,474 --> 00:46:52,743
It is endlessly adaptable,
surprising and healing.
700
00:46:54,712 --> 00:46:58,516
It has the power to
inspire us, to push
our society forward.
701
00:47:01,552 --> 00:47:05,823
I still believe love
can change the world,
like I did in 1967.
702
00:47:06,925 --> 00:47:09,895
We just have to remember
703
00:47:11,162 --> 00:47:15,733
there's nothing we can do
that can't be done with love.
704
00:47:15,766 --> 00:47:17,102
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