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Me, yes, I knew it was legal until
very recently.
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Because he told me it was legal.
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He read it in the Reader's Digest
that it was legal in marriage,
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so he felt confident.
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He felt confident. He was confident
he could behave like an animal
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at home. He couldn't do that
in the street,
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or in someone else's home or if we
separated or in Scotland even,
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but he could do what he liked at
home, in England,
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behind our curtains.
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Curtains made by moi.
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Yes, because I was his wife.
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I am his wife.
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The problem with all the fuss and
the change in the laws
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is that before yesterday, before
last week, I was a person,
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a woman married to a man.
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And twice a week, that man, my
husband, he went to the pub.
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And he came home wanting to have sex
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and sometimes there would be a bit
of a tussle - he'd call it a tussle,
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a tussling, and eventually he'd
get what he wanted.
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He'd make me have oral sex and then
the lying down kind of sex.
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If he's trying to have sex with me
and I get bruised by him,
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that would have been something I
could've gone to the police about
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before but not, not the main event,
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not that bit, because that
bit was legal.
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So a sore arm I could complain
about, but not the main event.
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Very bureaucratic.
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But after he has sex with me,
and I know it isn't me wanting it,
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because I say no, I don't want it.
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And I'm sleeping in my own room
now for clarity,
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it honestly feels that when I
agreed to marry him,
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he had a right to access me,
body and soul.
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And when he hits me or beats me up
a little bit,
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I would never feel like crying or
anything like that,
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but after that kind of sex,
I cry a lot. Because...
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..I don't know.
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I think it breaks my heart.
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I would say so, yes, but I always
try not to make too much noise
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about it, not too much fuss,
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because I don't want to wake up
our little girl.
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Especially when he drags me
into his room,
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that can be a bit noisy and I'm
not...
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I'm not sort of thinking to myself,
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"What's happening to me?
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"What's going on, why does he do
this to me?"
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I'm thinking he's got a point,
this is what I signed up to.
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Because it is - legally speaking,
my body does belong to him.
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It was in the Reader's Digest.
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This is married life.
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No wonder my mother is such a
misery guts.
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No wonder my neighbour's such a cow.
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It was a trick, I fell for a
trick, it's a trick.
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They're nice to you and then they
think they own you
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because they do, and all these girls
agreeing to sign their rights away.
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Silly, isn't it? Isn't it silly?
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Ever so silly.
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I think if someone sort of grabs you
in an alley
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and they force themselves on you,
OK, maybe I can get over that.
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I think I would get over that quite
quick, but not...not quickly,
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but more quickly. I think I would be
over it by now, let's say.
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Yeah, I would have preferred that.
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If you could choose between the two,
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that would have been my
personal preference.
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But when you have to have breakfast
together and do the washing,
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wash the sheets, watch the telly
together, go to the park together,
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do all that and you can
see his face,
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and this is a face you used to be
really attracted to.
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Or to really like who he is
behind the eyes.
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We used to sort of make love or
whatever, make love,
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make love and...
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Make love...
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And you can see what he's thinking,
and you know what he's thinking,
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because you know him very well.
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He's your husband.
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After a while I find it better
to think of him as a pig instead.
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"Morning, Piggy," I'll say.
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"It's OK, piggy, you're just a
piggy, you're a pig, aren't you?
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You're living a pig life,
you and your pigsty
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with your pig snoring, and pig
farting, and pig burping,
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and your pig meals, and your pig
drinks, and your piggy friends,
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your pig job, and your pig clothes,
and your pig socks and shoes,
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and then you have your pig coat,
and your pig lunch,
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and your pig dinner, and then
he has his pig sex with me
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and I'm not so surprised because
I think that's all part of it -
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that's pig life. It's not your fault
that you're a pig
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and that pigs have pig lives.
Oh, poor piggy wiggy.
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And I'm just sort of used to it.
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And now they've changed the law.
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I have to accept he's not actually
an actual pig, he's my husband.
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And when he wanted to have pig sex,
it's not actually pig sex, is it?
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Ivy, it's rape, and he's been
raping you all this time.
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I know, yeah, I do know,
but before the law changed
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I didn't have to think -
I could just get on with it.
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I didn't have to do
anything about it.
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Now I have to get on with him being
a rapist, and me being raped.
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I've been really worried about that.
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I've been worried about how much it
might cost, getting time off work,
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talking to the police.
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I've been worried about what people
would say about me
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because I work in fashion.
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Sometimes people think my
clothes are a bit daffy.
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They think, oh, hang on why is
she wearing that?
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Who does she think she is? Now it'll
be who does she think she is,
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with her rapist husband?
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Having a husband who is
a rapist now
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is even more for me to sort out.
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Now I have to worry about being a
rape victim too,
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I have to say, "Oh, OK, that's OK,
I'm a victim of rape.
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"More admin, being a rape
victim, admin,
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"it's just another task on the
list for muggins, here."
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Before I was a victim of marriage,
which sounds quite funny,
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like a bit of a good joke.
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Anyone can laugh at that,
it's quite funny.
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And now I have to prove
he's a rapist.
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Instead of just a pig. If I had
told you my husband is a pig,
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you'd believe me,
no questions asked.
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If I said he's a rapist,
you want it to be wrong.
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You want me to prove it,
so they sort of made it my problem
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to deal with it. It's a risk,
it's another risk
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and you just don't know
everything it involves.
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I don't want to be a rape victim.
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So I'm not. Thank you very much.
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I'd rather be a wife.
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Have I been swearing my head off?
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I feel as if I've been
screaming my head off.
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Have I? Am I?
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I haven't, have I?
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I'm fine.
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I'm fine.
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I could take him to court,
but I couldn't really,
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because I just can't face
the pig courts.
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And the pig judges,
and the pig police
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so I've been thinking I'll move out
and he can keep our house,
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and his job, and all of that
and I'll try to start again
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from scratch at my mum's,
which is fine -
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it's home from home, really.
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Just like home.
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A change in the law.
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Just last week.
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Bit too late in the day.
Too late for me,
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too late for you too, Ivy.
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There was a time when we'd
just got married,
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and I wanted to go to Spain.
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Said he didn't fancy it.
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There was this other time when
I wanted to stop eating meat,
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and he said he just couldn't.
Fair enough.
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There was this time I thought
I might grow my hair long,
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he said it looks daft when you're
past your 20s.
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There was this time when we ate our
dinner in our lap and watched
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something, something boring on TV
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and there was this time when I
waited all day for the plumber.
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There was this time when I thought
I put the choc-ices in the...
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There was this time
I planted daffodils...
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This time limes not lemons.
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This time, bus quicker than car.
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This time the curtains time,
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looking bored with no time coming,
having songs, car time.
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Wake early, cries time, back door
time, waiting here he thinks time,
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joint decision time.
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Wake night time, time suck,
time drag, time hush.
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Time, time, time.
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Hold still time, take it time,
time over soon, time gone.
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Time mine, time mine.
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All that lovely time of mine, gone.
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Thank you for talking to us, Ivy,
you're welcome, Ivy.
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Thank you for taking the time.
You're welcome.
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I've got time.
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