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My name is Jessica Taylor
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and I am a Highly
Sensitive Person.
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They say San Francisco is one
of the happiest places on Earth
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but today, like many days,
I am not in a happy place.
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I'm also a 'Fil-Am' - short for
Filipino mixed with American.
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Like many days, I am feeling
overwhelmed by the World.
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My family, my job, my relationships; why do
I have to be so sensitive about everything?
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I feel the weight of every
living creature's emotions.
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I'm so overwhelmed when I
think about climate change.
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I feel like there's
something wrong with me.
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Some days I feel like I'm
too sensitive to live.
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About twenty to thirty percent of our
population exhibit a survival strategy
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of observing and processing
especially carefully,
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looking for threats and for
opportunities that others miss.
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Approximately this percentage is found
in at least one hundred other species
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always in a minority.
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Biologists can spot them by observing
behavior, as if looking before acting.
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We categorize them
as Highly Sensitive.
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In humans there are about equal numbers
of men and women with the trait.
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Among the many brain differences of Highly
Sensitive people there's activity in the insula
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- the brain area that some researchers
call 'The Seat of Consciousness'
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- and because of that we see
greater depth of processing,
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we see more awareness of
subtle stimuli
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and greater emotional
responsiveness, including empathy.
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So we've come to use the acronym D.O.E.S.
or 'Does' or you can say "Doze"
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and that stands for 'Depth of Processing',
being more easily over stimulated,
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stronger emotional responsiveness and empathy,
and sensitive to subtle stimuli and...
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...Excuse me Doctor Aron?
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Will Highly Sensitive people
be happier in a relationship
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with another Highly
Sensitive person?
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That's an important question. The research
shows that two Highly Sensitive people
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H.S.P's as we call them, and a couple
where only one is Highly Sensitive,
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are about equally satisfied
in their relationship.
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There is advantages to both people in both combinations,
although the benefits are a little different.
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Sorry, I'm Jessica. I
know about your books, er, my question is;
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how can I make my partner understand my high
sensitivity without thinking I'm strange or crazy?
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I just want to keep
it under control.
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Well, many highly sensitive people have this
issue of, quote; "getting under control",
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it's an innate trait. We really think the main
issue is appreciating the trait of 'sensitivity'.
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Can I add something? Jessica, clearly your relationship
is very important, and that's not trivial,
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in fact I see a lot of you here in the audience
are couples, so this applies to all of you:
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the research shows that the 'quality' of your
relationship strongly predicts how long you'll live,
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even more strongly than
obesity or smoking.
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I'm a dead woman then!
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I beg your pardon?
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I'm sorry. Look, is there any sort
of cure for High Sensitivity?
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Because my boyfriend
can't stand it
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and to be honest, I can't
stand it sometimes too.
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And we fight about it a lot
- I mean a lot.
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High Sensitivity
is not a disorder
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it's not something to be cured
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Second, 69% of couples have serious conflicts they
can't resolve
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and your differences in temperament
could be a source of conflict,
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but happy couples just manage
those conflicts better.
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And since many Highly
Sensitive people feel there
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might be something wrong with
them because they're different
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they tend to have
low self esteem,
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that means in a conflict they
don't stand up for themselves
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and that's not good
in a conflict.
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About a third of all break-ups
appear to be due to certain
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innate traits, traits that
can't be changed, but,
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if the partners understand
each other's traits
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that seems to help a lot.
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Does that answer your question?
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Uh, yes, yes, thank
you very much.
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What do you think the chances
are that she's late?
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Your sister, or the baby?
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The elder.
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But at least when she's late she
apologizes, and she means it.
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Unlike Lyle who never
apologizes for anything,
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he just cares about himself.
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You know, I thought that
being an expectant Dad
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would make you go a
little easier on yours.
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Okay okay I get it - I
get enough from Jess.
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Oooh, ooh!
What, what? Cramps, cramps?
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You okay? - Yeah I'm okay. Just
breathe, just breathe, just breathe.
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Does it hurt? - Yeah it hurts!
- It's okay, okay.
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Hey take it easy, take
it easy, be nice!
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You're going to be
nice to people.
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Okay okay, just
breathe, just breathe.
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Jessica?
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Well you're one of the few people
whose name I've learned today
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You look a little upset.
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Oh I ... I'm fine. I'm sorry I'm just
in a bit of a weird place right now.
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Um, I'm sorry I
interrupted earlier.
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That's no problem.
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Well my brother and I we're both Highly
Sensitive, but, we're like night and day.
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My brother, he's fine, he's in a
great marriage. I on the other hand,
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I can't seem to get it right;
that's actually why I'm here today.
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Well this one's on the house.
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Really?
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Thank you so much.
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I'll go ahead.
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Er ... Jessica?
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Yes?
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You know, boundaries are really
important for Highly Sensitive people
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and because we have so
much empathy, sometimes
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we don't have them and we're
afraid of hurting other people
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but we shouldn't hurt
ourselves in the process.
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Thank you.
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Their lecture - it spoke to me in
so many ways I wasn't prepared for;
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their cases sparked so many memories
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I began to notice a pattern.
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I was constantly making choices
that put
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somebody else's needs above my own.
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I knew that I had to set boundaries
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that I should take control of my own life,
but how?
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Hey! Jessica: Ay!
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Why do you do that to me Todd?!
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I told you I don't like it when
you do - ssh!
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Hello? Hi Monica.
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It's not your boss,
it's me, Lizzie.
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Lizzie, sorry, can I call you right back?
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Ah ... hello?
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Hey! Jessica: Hello?
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One second - sorry this is an
emergency, it's my boss. Hi Monica,
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- yeah I just ... I just wanted to talk to you
about, you know ... - Hey!
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No I'm not getting writer's
block, erm actually
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- I can't do another post about fashion ...
- erm - Hello? Jess!
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Erm, yeah, I just really want to write about
things that will make a difference you know?
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- Er no, no I don't want to do fashion, I ...
- I ... I mean ...
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You know what I ... I didn't want
to put it this way but it's ...
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it's lifestyle or nothing.
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Great, I have my resignation
email right here
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I'll send it to you right away.
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Ah-ha? Ah-ha? We're finished?!
Great! Bye! Bye! Arrgh!
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Hey, have you seen my flats?
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Mila baby come here!
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Yes we saved her, we saved her
so they wouldn't put her down!
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Shut up!
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Oh my gosh! Lizzie!
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- Hey!
- Hey, love, I'm sorry. Jess!
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I ... you know, I think
I just quit my job.
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Oh is that so? Yes.
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Um, babe, can I call
you back - one second?
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No but I just wanted to ...
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Hey baby - what's up?
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It's very perceptive of you.
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What? Is everything okay? It's almost like
you're highly sensitive or something.
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Did you not hear the
conversation I just had?
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I, I just quit my job.
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Really? Yeah 'cause it sounded
like you were getting fired.
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No, they didn't even have time to say it.
I beat them to the punch.
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That was dumb. And the dog?
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She's so sweet babe.
Come here Mila!
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Come here Mila. They were going to put her
down, I saved her, Isn't she so cute?
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What's happening?
Where are you going?
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Well, you and I finally have something
in common. 'Cause I quit my job too.
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What? Why?
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And er ... I'm leaving.
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Wait wait. Can you, can
you just talk to me?
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What are you talking about?
Where are you going?
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Can you just relax
for one second?
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I'm going to a law
firm in Hollywood.
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You're going to Hollywood
for a law job?
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Yes.
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Okay is this another one of your - you're
gonna be partners in a big law firm ...
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... and it doesn't happen ... Wait,
hold on - they screwed me over!
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They screwed you over? Yes.
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Is this about that legal secretary?
Oh, you know what, come on.
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Is she going to Hollywood too?
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No. Then what?
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You know ... ...
What's it matter?
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It's you I'm done with
'Miss Sensitive', okay?
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I've always got to pick you up,
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like you just get
nervous all of a sudden
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or god forbid you read an article in The
Chronicle and you just start crying.
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This 'Highly Sensitive' thing?
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It's what makes you a loser.
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This, feeling what other
people feel, is just ...
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... it's just, loser noise.
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I'm done with you okay? I gotta
tidy you up out of my life.
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I gotta de-clutter you, so I
can focus on my own things.
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"I, I, I, I, I, I ..." Screw you, you you!
Wake up! You are a curse!
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You're bad JuJu!
You're bad energy!
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And I'm so ... aargh ... tired of you being
such a loser, and dragging me down with you.
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Get over yourself Todd! Keep your
dog!
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In an instant, I
no longer had a job or a boyfriend.
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There was part of me, deep down in my gut,
that always knew it would come to this.
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That it was only a matter of
time before my sensitivity
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brought everything in my life
crashing down around me;
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the part of me that felt like
nobody would ever love me.
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That I didn't belong anywhere.
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There was only one person who
could make me feel otherwise -
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- who would make me feel less ...
broken.
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Hey Jess. I've been texting you.
How'd it go?
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Sorry, I, I had to
turn off my phone.
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Oh, I thought maybe just the lecture was
that bad.
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Actually, that was the only good
thing that happened to me today.
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Oh boy. I know that sound.
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Let me guess, 'cause I'm not a
psychic or anything, but er ...
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... this boyfriend of
yours, erm, Todd, he's,
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floating like a butterfly,
stinging like a bee. Am I right?
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Can I make a suggestion?
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I think you need to get away.
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Why don't you come out here to
the Philippines and visit me
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and just get away
from all of that
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you can clear your head, and, I
think it'll be really good for you?
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I need to stay close to Dad.
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Oh Dad will be fine. He's a big
boy, he can take care of himself.
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Everything you do for that guy
anyway, he doesn't even appreciate.
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If you want to pick up and go you can.
He didn't have a problem doing it.
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Robbie, we all make mistakes.
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Jess, I know you want some
connection with him but ...
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... you gotta stop
living in the past.
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If you keep this up, you're
just gonna fade away,
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and I don't want to see that
happen, I want to be here for you
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but in order for me to do
that, I need you to be here.
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So get your butt on a plane
and come visit your brother!
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We'll have some fun - just
get away from all of that.
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Maria would love to see you.
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Just, trust me.
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Okay brother.
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Okay, I love you.
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I love you too.
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Maria! Jessica's
coming to visit!
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We're going to have to fix
her the back room okay?!
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And, she eats a lot ... so...!
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Before I could make
my way to the other side of the World
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there was something I needed to
handle - or, someone, I should say.
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He had been a constant
source of pain in my life
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and yet I could never stop
trying to build a relationship.
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My brother had warned me
that it was pointless
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and yet I kept hoping
that each encounter ...
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Yeah? Who is it?
... would be a breakthrough.
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It's me Dad.
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Jessica? Come in - door's open.
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Cup of tea? Yes please.
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Why are these ... why
are these photos out?
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I was just tidying up. Came across
them, you know, had a good look.
232
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Here.
233
00:16:01,502 --> 00:16:03,504
It's my favorite photo of Mom.
234
00:16:03,796 --> 00:16:05,006
Yeah me too. It's lovely huh?
235
00:16:05,381 --> 00:16:06,799
Reminds me of Robbie.
236
00:16:09,010 --> 00:16:10,011
Yeah.
237
00:16:11,012 --> 00:16:14,015
We've never really been
the 'family type' huh?
238
00:16:15,808 --> 00:16:17,894
Yeah, well, you know,
not everybody is.
239
00:16:19,812 --> 00:16:22,815
Or maybe I'm just unloveable.
240
00:16:23,399 --> 00:16:24,559
Unloveable.
241
00:16:24,609 --> 00:16:30,406
So. You've split up with your
boyfriend, you've lost your job.
242
00:16:30,781 --> 00:16:33,784
You need a place to crash?
Or is it money?
243
00:16:35,411 --> 00:16:37,788
Actually I'm here to
tell you that ...
244
00:16:39,790 --> 00:16:42,418
I'm leaving for a bit, maybe
a couple of months or so.
245
00:16:44,503 --> 00:16:45,004
Why?
246
00:16:45,379 --> 00:16:47,798
Do you think you can watch
over Mila while I'm gone?
247
00:16:48,799 --> 00:16:53,546
Yeah, I guess. I like the dog.
But why the trip?
248
00:16:53,596 --> 00:16:55,890
I was thinking of visiting
Robbie in Manila.
249
00:16:56,807 --> 00:16:58,968
You're running away to Brother.
250
00:16:59,018 --> 00:17:00,970
Why can't you call
him by his name?
251
00:17:01,020 --> 00:17:04,557
Because he's stubborn, and he's
got no respect for anyone ...
252
00:17:04,607 --> 00:17:05,933
... let alone his old man.
253
00:17:05,983 --> 00:17:07,610
Does he remind you of anyone?
254
00:17:08,194 --> 00:17:10,354
Your brother's always
been a runaway;
255
00:17:10,404 --> 00:17:14,734
first New York, then
Hollywood, then Manila,
256
00:17:14,784 --> 00:17:17,787
You know, I think he only married a
Filipina because your Mom was a Filipina.
257
00:17:18,788 --> 00:17:20,740
He just can't face things.
258
00:17:20,790 --> 00:17:23,743
I know, I know, you're
going to say it -
259
00:17:23,793 --> 00:17:25,002
he's just like me.
260
00:17:26,796 --> 00:17:29,749
At least you know that much.
He's just like you;
261
00:17:29,799 --> 00:17:33,511
can't face things, runs away,
buries himself in work.
262
00:17:33,803 --> 00:17:36,964
Just another one of us that's not
the family - type, right Dad?
263
00:17:37,014 --> 00:17:39,809
Yeah, Jess, and he knows that.
264
00:17:40,601 --> 00:17:42,019
So, tell me,
265
00:17:43,187 --> 00:17:45,139
which one of us
can't you forgive?
266
00:17:45,982 --> 00:17:47,817
I guess it's me.
267
00:17:48,609 --> 00:17:51,821
I
suppose it was time to set a boundary.
268
00:17:52,196 --> 00:17:56,784
And that boundary was
7,000 miles wide.
269
00:18:03,791 --> 00:18:11,799
"You don't know how beautiful,"
270
00:18:13,009 --> 00:18:22,343
"You don't know how
beautiful, no,"
271
00:18:22,393 --> 00:18:30,935
"You don't know how beautiful,"
272
00:18:30,985 --> 00:18:36,148
"and lost, and frightened,"
273
00:18:36,198 --> 00:18:41,996
"and angry, and broken,"
274
00:18:42,788 --> 00:18:48,419
"and so I have to go"
275
00:18:49,211 --> 00:19:09,982
"'cause you don't know
how beautiful you are."
276
00:19:11,984 --> 00:19:13,986
Excuse me young lady,
you need some help?
277
00:19:15,905 --> 00:19:17,990
Robbie!
278
00:19:18,908 --> 00:19:20,151
From the moment I landed
279
00:19:20,201 --> 00:19:23,154
I already felt a sense
of a fresh start.
280
00:19:23,204 --> 00:19:26,791
My brother is one of the only
people who understands me.
281
00:19:27,792 --> 00:19:29,919
And I, understand him.
282
00:19:48,521 --> 00:19:49,814
Maria, look who's here!
283
00:19:50,981 --> 00:19:53,142
Oh you look so beautiful!
284
00:19:53,192 --> 00:19:54,819
Oh, you look beautiful!
285
00:19:55,194 --> 00:19:57,938
Look, look, look, look!
286
00:19:57,988 --> 00:19:59,940
Hi! I'm your auntie!
287
00:19:59,990 --> 00:20:02,943
Yes he's been waiting to meet you.
These are for you.
288
00:20:02,993 --> 00:20:06,947
Wow they're beautiful!
Thank you so much.
289
00:20:06,997 --> 00:20:08,949
Take a look, take a look.
Look what we got here.
290
00:20:08,999 --> 00:20:10,000
Is this a hotel?
291
00:20:10,418 --> 00:20:12,002
No this is my home -
292
00:20:12,420 --> 00:20:15,164
- and your home for the next few days.
What? Wow! Are you kidding me?!
293
00:20:15,214 --> 00:20:16,799
This is your house?! Yeah.
294
00:20:18,217 --> 00:20:22,012
I love love
love Robbie's wife, Maria!
295
00:20:23,389 --> 00:20:27,017
She was born here to a
Filipina mom and a Jewish dad.
296
00:20:27,393 --> 00:20:31,347
Then she went to the U.S. and
struggled in elementary school
297
00:20:31,397 --> 00:20:34,934
but thrived at a big
city university,
298
00:20:34,984 --> 00:20:37,937
so naturally, her
and I can relate.
299
00:20:37,987 --> 00:20:41,941
But now she's back
home with her people,
300
00:20:41,991 --> 00:20:46,946
and because of it, Robbie got
lucky and found a great wife.
301
00:20:46,996 --> 00:20:51,367
They both existed in two different worlds
and were seeking an emotional home.
302
00:20:51,417 --> 00:20:53,794
They found it, in each other.
303
00:20:54,211 --> 00:20:54,954
Wait wait wait wait!
304
00:20:55,004 --> 00:20:56,380
Where's the sign I
told you to put up
305
00:20:56,797 --> 00:20:59,959
that says 'No Boys Allowed'?
No boys allowed?
306
00:21:00,009 --> 00:21:01,961
It's so beautiful.
307
00:21:02,011 --> 00:21:03,804
We're going to keep it clean.
308
00:21:04,180 --> 00:21:05,965
I could live here for ever.
309
00:21:06,015 --> 00:21:09,602
Hey Jess? Do you
recognize any of this?
310
00:21:18,611 --> 00:21:20,938
You kept all these?
311
00:21:20,988 --> 00:21:25,910
At the end of the day, all we're
left with are our memories.
312
00:21:27,495 --> 00:21:29,413
It's up to us to make
sure they're good ones.
313
00:21:30,789 --> 00:21:33,000
I'm so happy you're here.
314
00:21:35,794 --> 00:21:39,381
I'm so happy to be here too.
315
00:21:44,512 --> 00:21:46,805
Todd
and I never really connected.
316
00:21:47,515 --> 00:21:49,016
I don't think he
really loved me.
317
00:21:49,517 --> 00:21:52,811
I mean the 'real' me -
the 'sensitive' me.
318
00:21:53,521 --> 00:21:56,607
He's just a narcissistic
jerk and a liar.
319
00:21:56,982 --> 00:21:58,609
Where'd you meet this guy again?
320
00:21:59,902 --> 00:22:00,936
The internet.
321
00:22:00,986 --> 00:22:03,906
The internet, that's right,
you met him on the internet.
322
00:22:04,782 --> 00:22:05,908
Grow up.
323
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:07,910
Hey, I'm not knocking
it, I'm just saying ...
324
00:22:09,787 --> 00:22:11,997
... how do you really get to
know someone on the internet?
325
00:22:12,790 --> 00:22:15,918
Now Maria and I,
we met in person,
326
00:22:16,210 --> 00:22:19,380
through mutual friends,
with real people.
327
00:22:20,798 --> 00:22:22,833
That's just something
you get with that,
328
00:22:22,883 --> 00:22:25,594
that you're not going to get
with some online dating site.
329
00:22:26,011 --> 00:22:28,180
You know what my
biggest mistake was?
330
00:22:28,597 --> 00:22:31,308
That I got carried
away with his looks.
331
00:22:32,017 --> 00:22:35,020
He looked so good in his
photos, but in person ...
332
00:22:35,604 --> 00:22:36,981
'Awoogah!'
333
00:22:37,898 --> 00:22:38,983
He was even hotter!
334
00:22:39,984 --> 00:22:41,819
How does that even happen?
335
00:22:42,903 --> 00:22:45,614
So what you're
trying to say is ...
336
00:22:45,990 --> 00:22:49,493
... he is now another ... 'Ex'.
337
00:22:51,787 --> 00:22:52,997
Game! Ha ha ha!
338
00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:59,003
Sometimes I want to call him
and just ask for him back.
339
00:23:00,004 --> 00:23:04,383
Other times I just want to fly
across the world - literally.
340
00:23:05,009 --> 00:23:07,303
I really wish Mom was here.
341
00:23:08,012 --> 00:23:09,805
To talk to you about
all this stuff.
342
00:23:10,806 --> 00:23:12,016
I don't mind listening but ...
343
00:23:13,517 --> 00:23:17,396
... I don't know, if she was
here, she'd be there for you.
344
00:23:18,397 --> 00:23:22,818
Something went wrong, huh?
For the both of us?
345
00:23:23,819 --> 00:23:25,988
I just never thought there
was anything to talk about.
346
00:23:27,781 --> 00:23:29,783
You were two years old.
347
00:23:30,409 --> 00:23:35,205
You seemed pretty happy with Dad's
new wife he got for Christmas.
348
00:23:35,789 --> 00:23:40,586
I already had Mom. I
didn't need another one.
349
00:23:41,420 --> 00:23:43,797
And I didn't want to
disillusion my little sister.
350
00:23:45,382 --> 00:23:47,885
Well I'm a grown-up now,
351
00:23:48,802 --> 00:23:50,596
so, disillusion me.
352
00:23:54,016 --> 00:23:57,394
The story I've
never been told - Rob!
353
00:23:57,811 --> 00:24:02,399
- the real reason why
Robbie and I could be the way we are.
354
00:24:02,983 --> 00:24:05,694
The truth about our Mother.
355
00:24:07,988 --> 00:24:10,941
I hear you've not been doing
what Sarah asks of you.
356
00:24:10,991 --> 00:24:15,863
You are going to start treating her
like a son should treat a mother ...
357
00:24:15,913 --> 00:24:18,415
... with respect.
Do you hear me?
358
00:24:18,707 --> 00:24:19,416
And another thing -
359
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,953
- stop talking
about your Mother!
360
00:24:23,003 --> 00:24:26,799
She has gone! Get that
through your head!
361
00:24:27,383 --> 00:24:31,887
It'll be better for Sarah, better for
Jessica and better for you - do you get me?
362
00:24:33,389 --> 00:24:34,515
Look at me Rob;
363
00:24:35,015 --> 00:24:36,016
this is serious.
364
00:24:36,517 --> 00:24:38,969
I'm going to be going away
for a few days, alright?
365
00:24:39,019 --> 00:24:44,400
And I need you to be strong, that's
something new for you isn't it? Strong!
366
00:24:44,900 --> 00:24:48,404
You are going to be the man here,
and I need you to be the man,
367
00:24:48,821 --> 00:24:51,991
I need you to be strong so that
Sarah has someone to trust.
368
00:24:52,783 --> 00:24:58,414
So do not rock the boat; and for
goodness sake, stop crying!
369
00:25:04,002 --> 00:25:06,880
I'm sorry, right, this
is hard for me too.
370
00:25:07,798 --> 00:25:16,390
Rob! When I see your face, either you or your
sister, I see your Mother - I see her face.
371
00:25:18,809 --> 00:25:25,399
Sarah is the best I can do, okay?
- Okay?!
372
00:25:29,194 --> 00:25:33,407
Oh, how did you deal
with all the grief throughout the years?
373
00:25:35,909 --> 00:25:39,788
Well I guess I had it stored
away on the old 'hard drive'.
374
00:25:40,497 --> 00:25:45,419
I didn't want to bum you out
- you seemed to like Sarah.
375
00:25:47,504 --> 00:25:50,382
Well now can I disillusion you?
376
00:25:51,300 --> 00:25:52,384
Do it.
377
00:25:53,218 --> 00:25:56,013
I tried so hard to please Dad.
378
00:25:57,014 --> 00:26:00,392
And to please Dad I
had to please Sarah.
379
00:26:03,187 --> 00:26:08,901
Imagine, I had to do all that,
just to get them to love me.
380
00:26:09,985 --> 00:26:13,614
And if I was good at one thing, I
was good at 'people pleasing'.
381
00:26:14,990 --> 00:26:18,786
The whole time I thought we
were getting closer, and I ...
382
00:26:19,787 --> 00:26:24,792
... and one day, Dad and her were
fighting about something and ...
383
00:26:26,001 --> 00:26:29,797
Did you ever really like me Ma ...
Sarah?
384
00:26:30,798 --> 00:26:34,885
She outright said,
she did not like me.
385
00:26:36,804 --> 00:26:41,809
Thought I was stuck up
and high maintenance.
386
00:26:42,184 --> 00:26:43,811
She's one to talk.
387
00:26:47,481 --> 00:26:50,984
She thought you and I had
some sort of disease,
388
00:26:52,486 --> 00:26:56,490
that was passed on from Mom.
Wow.
389
00:26:56,782 --> 00:26:58,784
She said it was bad genetics.
390
00:27:07,209 --> 00:27:11,797
I'm sorry. You must have
felt, back-stabbed.
391
00:27:12,214 --> 00:27:14,007
More like, worthless.
392
00:27:48,792 --> 00:27:50,794
Geez - Louise guy!
393
00:28:40,010 --> 00:28:47,392
Okay. I want this to be a recording
of where I am presently.
394
00:28:48,393 --> 00:28:54,608
June 25th. Physically I'm here
in Manila with my brother,
395
00:28:54,983 --> 00:28:59,404
but mentally ... I guess ...
396
00:29:00,989 --> 00:29:05,202
I've known for
most of my life that I was different.
397
00:29:05,786 --> 00:29:08,997
I thought that there was
something wrong with me.
398
00:29:09,581 --> 00:29:13,210
It all started
when Mom was gone.
399
00:29:13,585 --> 00:29:16,588
Without her, Dad grew more
distant than ever before.
400
00:29:17,005 --> 00:29:20,717
All too soon he moved
on with a new wife,
401
00:29:21,009 --> 00:29:24,388
and I suspected he wished he could
move on with new children as well.
402
00:29:24,805 --> 00:29:27,758
I never knew how much my
Father had hurt my Brother.
403
00:29:27,808 --> 00:29:32,763
But Robbie threw himself into his music
and found a wife that understood him,
404
00:29:32,813 --> 00:29:35,766
and I found Todd.
405
00:29:35,816 --> 00:29:38,352
At first I thought we
were a great match,
406
00:29:38,402 --> 00:29:42,731
it wasn't until later that I
realized he was a narcissist.
407
00:29:42,781 --> 00:29:46,735
I was so willing to open my heart
and my mind to another, but ...
408
00:29:46,785 --> 00:29:48,946
... it was all about Him.
409
00:29:48,996 --> 00:29:53,951
When I would get upset or
overwhelmed he would get so angry.
410
00:29:54,001 --> 00:29:56,453
He could not deal
with my sensitivity.
411
00:29:56,503 --> 00:30:04,302
You see, I am an HSP A
Highly Sensitive Person.
412
00:30:06,805 --> 00:30:11,309
Oh, but for now, more
sibling bonding time.
413
00:30:12,602 --> 00:30:13,311
There she is.
414
00:30:14,312 --> 00:30:15,314
Oh sorry.
415
00:30:16,398 --> 00:30:17,315
Hi, good morning!
416
00:30:17,607 --> 00:30:18,350
You're up.
417
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:21,144
Guess that jet
lag's no joke huh?
418
00:30:21,194 --> 00:30:24,406
Well I've been feeling a little
queasy, but I think I'll be fine.
419
00:30:24,781 --> 00:30:26,783
I think you'll be fine.
What are you up to?
420
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:30,362
I was looking at this map
earlier and I was thinking,
421
00:30:30,412 --> 00:30:32,739
maybe I should go
explore our Motherland.
422
00:30:32,789 --> 00:30:33,740
Really? Hm hm.
423
00:30:33,790 --> 00:30:36,159
Well I could take you - or
I can get you a driver?
424
00:30:36,209 --> 00:30:38,745
No no no no. I want to go
like 'full explore mode' -
425
00:30:38,795 --> 00:30:40,213
I want to do it the
way the locals do it.
426
00:30:40,797 --> 00:30:44,459
But maybe you can drop me
off at the Guadalupe Ferry?
427
00:30:44,509 --> 00:30:48,130
Nice. Done. You're really
going to enjoy this,
428
00:30:48,180 --> 00:30:49,965
it's an amazing
experience there.
429
00:30:50,015 --> 00:30:53,101
Yeah well you know me, I am the
'sensitive type' that gets bored easily.
430
00:30:53,518 --> 00:30:55,762
Yeah I do know you:
one foot on the gas,
431
00:30:55,812 --> 00:30:57,981
one foot on the brake
at the exact same time.
432
00:30:58,315 --> 00:31:01,560
Well this time it's, on the gas.
433
00:31:01,610 --> 00:31:06,064
Alright, get your stuff and I'll meet you out
front. Okay, okay, wait one second okay?
434
00:31:40,190 --> 00:31:44,403
Hello my love, I'm so happy to see
your face - so glad you called.
435
00:31:45,403 --> 00:31:47,781
I missed you too!
436
00:31:48,198 --> 00:31:51,151
Can you see where I am?
Isn't this beautiful?
437
00:31:51,201 --> 00:31:54,946
It's beautiful. So,
how's Rob and Maria?
438
00:31:54,996 --> 00:31:58,950
They're great. Oh my gosh,
you should hear Rob's music,
439
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:00,952
he's producing crazy stuff!
440
00:32:01,002 --> 00:32:03,296
And guess what - they
have a kid on the way.
441
00:32:03,797 --> 00:32:06,958
What?! A kid?!
442
00:32:07,008 --> 00:32:08,009
Hm hm.
443
00:32:08,385 --> 00:32:10,220
I can't imagine Rob with a kid.
444
00:32:10,804 --> 00:32:13,181
Anyway, I saw your video.
445
00:32:14,599 --> 00:32:17,185
What are you talking about?
I didn't post any videos.
446
00:32:17,811 --> 00:32:20,188
The video, that you posted?
447
00:32:21,815 --> 00:32:28,196
No. Oh, erm, can you remind
me of what it was like?
448
00:32:28,780 --> 00:32:33,201
You were talking about Rob and Lyle?
About your parents?
449
00:32:33,493 --> 00:32:37,080
Girl, I, I never knew that.
You went really deep.
450
00:32:39,207 --> 00:32:40,917
You saw that?
451
00:32:41,293 --> 00:32:43,295
Hm hm.
452
00:32:43,587 --> 00:32:46,748
Oh my gosh Elizabeth,
I'm so scattered.
453
00:32:46,798 --> 00:32:50,010
That wasn't for the public.
That was a personal video.
454
00:32:50,802 --> 00:32:53,180
Um, what am I going to tell Rob?
455
00:32:53,805 --> 00:32:56,016
You've got really good feedback.
456
00:32:56,391 --> 00:32:59,603
You know what, can you hold on
for a second? I'll just check.
457
00:33:00,020 --> 00:33:01,605
There's so many comments.
458
00:33:01,980 --> 00:33:05,192
Oh my god. One person said...
459
00:33:09,696 --> 00:33:11,406
Another said...
460
00:33:15,202 --> 00:33:17,154
Tell me about it!
461
00:33:17,204 --> 00:33:18,997
Ah this is nice ...
462
00:33:22,792 --> 00:33:25,003
I mean this is crazy but ...
463
00:33:26,004 --> 00:33:28,540
... erm, you know what
Elizabeth, I'll call you back
464
00:33:28,590 --> 00:33:32,335
because, we're going to get off the boat
and I'll just talk to you later okay?
465
00:33:32,385 --> 00:33:33,595
Thanks for telling me.
466
00:33:34,804 --> 00:33:35,180
Love you!
467
00:33:35,805 --> 00:33:37,182
Love you!
468
00:33:54,699 --> 00:33:56,359
Hi darling!
469
00:33:56,409 --> 00:33:58,620
Hey! How are you? You look nice.
470
00:33:59,204 --> 00:34:02,207
Nice to see you again. Nice to see you!
Have a seat.
471
00:34:02,582 --> 00:34:05,535
You seem to have put
on a little weight.
472
00:34:05,585 --> 00:34:06,953
Okay!
473
00:34:07,003 --> 00:34:10,957
I guess I'm getting a little too comfortable
in my new home recording studio.
474
00:34:11,007 --> 00:34:14,010
I hardly leave the house any more and
I just sit around eating all I want!
475
00:34:14,511 --> 00:34:16,012
Attaboy!
476
00:34:17,389 --> 00:34:18,807
So, what's up?
477
00:34:21,017 --> 00:34:25,814
You seem to look a little, anxious
for someone who's so 'comfy.'
478
00:34:27,607 --> 00:34:29,818
I'm just going to come
out and say it ...
479
00:34:30,610 --> 00:34:32,821
My sister, she's
in town, visiting.
480
00:34:33,405 --> 00:34:35,782
And I think she needs help;
481
00:34:36,199 --> 00:34:38,151
I think she could use your help.
482
00:34:38,201 --> 00:34:41,363
She's going through this really
bad break up with her boyfriend,
483
00:34:41,413 --> 00:34:43,581
and she's miserable.
484
00:34:44,416 --> 00:34:49,421
Was she miserable in the relationship?
Do you see this as a pattern?
485
00:34:50,005 --> 00:34:55,010
I mean she's always gone from guy
to guy, she's real, clingy, but,
486
00:34:55,385 --> 00:34:58,755
she's the kind of person, all she's
ever wanted was to find that one person
487
00:34:58,805 --> 00:35:00,598
to give her heart to.
488
00:35:01,016 --> 00:35:04,761
And she's beautiful, she's so smart,
she's a brilliant writer but,
489
00:35:04,811 --> 00:35:07,981
when it comes to men, she's
just really, really bad.
490
00:35:08,607 --> 00:35:12,986
I'm afraid to answer the phone; 'Hey Rob,
I've met this new guy and I'm in love!'
491
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:16,698
And ... crash and
burn, every time.
492
00:35:17,490 --> 00:35:21,703
But I'm coming to you because,
what makes things worse is,
493
00:35:21,995 --> 00:35:24,497
she's an HSP
494
00:35:25,290 --> 00:35:27,417
Worse? Or better?
495
00:35:29,419 --> 00:35:34,591
Robbie, Highly Sensitive People
learn faster from their mistakes,
496
00:35:35,008 --> 00:35:37,010
at least from my experience.
497
00:35:37,302 --> 00:35:40,180
Yeah but first they have to accept the
fact that they've made a mistake.
498
00:35:42,015 --> 00:35:45,894
Just between us, I think
499
00:35:46,186 --> 00:35:49,481
Highly Sensitive People
can change the World.
500
00:35:49,981 --> 00:35:52,692
So ... all right,
send her to me.
501
00:35:52,984 --> 00:35:53,768
Really?!
502
00:35:53,818 --> 00:35:55,612
Yes.
503
00:36:01,993 --> 00:36:03,995
So tell me, how's
it going with Lyle?
504
00:36:05,789 --> 00:36:07,415
Well you know Lyle.
505
00:36:08,291 --> 00:36:12,796
Well my sister, the mother
hen that she is, she er ...
506
00:36:13,588 --> 00:36:15,882
... keeps trying to get me
to break the ice with him.
507
00:36:16,299 --> 00:36:19,219
She even wants me to call him
Dad every once in a while.
508
00:36:20,512 --> 00:36:22,681
But why not? He is your Father.
509
00:36:24,516 --> 00:36:29,020
Listen Rob, I'm going to
tell you this as a friend,
510
00:36:29,521 --> 00:36:31,606
not as a therapist.
511
00:36:33,900 --> 00:36:38,613
You need to deal with this.
You need to heal yourself.
512
00:36:38,988 --> 00:36:41,816
What do you really want?
513
00:36:41,866 --> 00:36:45,286
You don't want to be stuck in the past,
all right then let's look at your future.
514
00:36:46,830 --> 00:36:52,919
You have to choose to try to either forgive
and embrace the man who is your Father,
515
00:36:53,336 --> 00:36:55,004
and accept all his flaws.
516
00:36:57,507 --> 00:36:58,800
Or what?
517
00:36:59,801 --> 00:37:04,514
Ask yourself what is it exactly
you want to see happen.
518
00:37:07,892 --> 00:37:11,020
And I'm telling you that for
free.
519
00:37:13,189 --> 00:37:19,195
"I find
myself again, deep in the arms of Manila"
520
00:37:20,196 --> 00:37:27,203
"I lose myself again, right in
the back streets of Manila"
521
00:37:28,079 --> 00:37:30,498
"I left my heart and soul"
Jessica: Wait! Wait!
522
00:37:31,416 --> 00:37:34,210
"I hope the DJ understands"
523
00:37:35,587 --> 00:37:37,589
"Tonight I lose control"
524
00:37:38,381 --> 00:37:42,218
"And all my senses win again"
525
00:37:43,803 --> 00:37:50,185
"For in your paradise your time just slips away"
526
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:55,932
I had already been
overwhelmed by the City when I saw it.
527
00:37:55,982 --> 00:38:00,937
Children ... the poor
children laughing and playing
528
00:38:00,987 --> 00:38:04,783
while behind them the innocent
backdrop of the sea of garbage;
529
00:38:05,283 --> 00:38:08,495
endless litter giving tragedy
to their surroundings.
530
00:38:12,415 --> 00:38:14,918
I felt the pain
behind their eyes.
531
00:38:16,419 --> 00:38:19,881
The suffering of the life
they'd been born into.
532
00:38:22,008 --> 00:38:25,887
Their stares ripped through me,
533
00:38:26,221 --> 00:38:31,017
destroying the last safe
thread I was gripping on to.
534
00:38:58,002 --> 00:38:59,796
Hi ma'am. Are you all right?
535
00:39:00,380 --> 00:39:02,006
Are you okay?
536
00:39:03,007 --> 00:39:05,009
Yes, I'm sorry.
537
00:39:06,010 --> 00:39:08,012
Do you ... do you need anything?
538
00:39:10,014 --> 00:39:12,016
Why are you crying?
539
00:39:12,517 --> 00:39:16,312
Erm, nothing. I've just ... I've
never seen anything like this.
540
00:39:16,896 --> 00:39:21,484
Don't worry, we're doing something
about it, something positive.
541
00:39:21,985 --> 00:39:26,940
Our River Warriors are doing everything
they can to clean the rivers and waterways.
542
00:39:26,990 --> 00:39:31,945
What happened? It was neglected
by the people before us.
543
00:39:31,995 --> 00:39:34,948
We need people like
you to educate them,
544
00:39:34,998 --> 00:39:38,001
and to teach them that what
they are doing is wrong.
545
00:39:38,585 --> 00:39:41,796
Take pictures and show
everybody around the world.
546
00:39:42,213 --> 00:39:44,832
Yes I will. You're doing
a wonderful thing.
547
00:39:44,882 --> 00:39:46,009
Thank you ma'am.
548
00:39:48,303 --> 00:39:50,513
I was
gutted by what I had seen.
549
00:39:51,180 --> 00:39:53,967
Something about those
children stuck with me.
550
00:39:54,017 --> 00:39:57,971
They were living in such horrible
conditions, completely impoverished,
551
00:39:58,021 --> 00:39:59,981
and yet, they fought on.
552
00:40:00,982 --> 00:40:05,486
Their faces lit up with bright smiles,
and their eyes were full of hope.
553
00:40:05,987 --> 00:40:10,491
I knew that if they could show so
much strength in their daily lives,
554
00:40:10,909 --> 00:40:13,494
then I should try to
show more in mine.
555
00:40:14,996 --> 00:40:17,498
Our obstacles were not the same,
556
00:40:17,915 --> 00:40:21,919
but those children were an
amazing source of inspiration.
557
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:26,007
There was a new day in Manila,
and a new chapter in my life.
558
00:40:31,888 --> 00:40:32,805
It's Rob.
559
00:40:33,181 --> 00:40:37,810
Robbie? I actually called because
I need to tell you something.
560
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:45,935
Erm ... I'm really sorry but I may have
posted some very private and personal
561
00:40:45,985 --> 00:40:49,489
matters of the family
online and, and,
562
00:40:49,781 --> 00:40:51,566
I didn't do it intentionally
but now its ...
563
00:40:51,616 --> 00:40:52,784
... I saw it.
564
00:40:53,284 --> 00:40:55,945
For something that happened 25
years ago it's kinda weird.
565
00:40:55,995 --> 00:40:58,289
I'm so sorry, I really
didn't mean it.
566
00:40:58,581 --> 00:41:00,291
I forgive you okay? It's okay.
567
00:41:00,583 --> 00:41:01,501
It's not a big deal.
568
00:41:02,210 --> 00:41:04,295
I doubt anyone important
is going to see it,
569
00:41:04,796 --> 00:41:06,881
and if they do, then,
all the better.
570
00:41:07,215 --> 00:41:08,883
I'm so sorry Robbie,
571
00:41:09,217 --> 00:41:12,095
I know how private
you are and ...
572
00:41:12,387 --> 00:41:14,964
the last thing I'd want
to do is hurt you.
573
00:41:15,014 --> 00:41:17,967
Hey, I love you okay?
574
00:41:18,017 --> 00:41:21,930
I'm proud of who we are - you came
here to relax and have a good time,
575
00:41:21,980 --> 00:41:24,607
so I don't want you stressing
over anything okay?
576
00:41:26,484 --> 00:41:28,611
Thank you for understanding.
577
00:41:30,279 --> 00:41:30,780
I love you.
578
00:41:31,489 --> 00:41:34,409
All right. I love you.
I'll see you soon.
579
00:41:34,701 --> 00:41:36,411
Bye.
580
00:41:43,710 --> 00:41:45,211
Okay guys I'm ready.
581
00:41:45,503 --> 00:41:47,330
Baby we're gonna
count you in okay?
582
00:41:47,380 --> 00:41:49,382
I'm feeling really good about this one.
Sweet, bud.
583
00:41:49,716 --> 00:41:53,386
Okay, here we go: 3-2-1
584
00:42:08,693 --> 00:42:11,487
'You're a treasure
from the Almighty'
585
00:42:12,113 --> 00:42:15,408
What'd I tell you bud? That voice!
It's gold dust man!
586
00:42:15,783 --> 00:42:18,619
'Such a beautiful river'
587
00:42:20,788 --> 00:42:25,585
We have lift off eh! 'Your scent
that we love to breathe in'
588
00:42:26,294 --> 00:42:31,382
'Brings passion into our lives'
589
00:42:32,508 --> 00:42:34,168
Trust me!
590
00:42:34,218 --> 00:42:38,598
'But now your blue
has turned to black'
591
00:42:39,015 --> 00:42:44,395
'Will that darkness
continue on?'
592
00:42:45,021 --> 00:42:54,405
'Pasig River, what I want to
see is joy in your every wave'
593
00:42:54,989 --> 00:42:58,735
She's only 16! She's got
a long way to go man!
594
00:42:58,785 --> 00:43:04,415
'Pasig River, today
we will revive you'
595
00:43:04,999 --> 00:43:11,380
'And bring back your
magnificent waves'
596
00:43:11,798 --> 00:43:14,167
I've never been this
excited for a talent man!
597
00:43:14,217 --> 00:43:26,813
'Pasig River, what I want to
see is joy in your every wave'
598
00:43:27,188 --> 00:43:48,209
'Pasig River, today we will revive you
And bring back your magnificent waves'
599
00:43:53,798 --> 00:43:57,218
Wow! What did I tell you man?!
600
00:43:58,219 --> 00:44:01,389
Wow, what can I say? You
nailed it - that's our winner!
601
00:44:01,806 --> 00:44:04,183
Come on in here, I got
somebody I want you to meet.
602
00:44:04,892 --> 00:44:06,185
That was amazing!
603
00:44:06,602 --> 00:44:08,980
What are you doing here? I didn't
even know you were going to come!
604
00:44:09,605 --> 00:44:11,140
Oh that sounded great.
605
00:44:11,190 --> 00:44:13,142
This is my sister
from San Francisco,
606
00:44:13,192 --> 00:44:14,769
finally here to
visit her brother;
607
00:44:14,819 --> 00:44:16,988
this is my music agent
and good buddy, Mark.
608
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:18,990
Hi, nice to meet you.
609
00:44:19,282 --> 00:44:21,492
Your sister huh?
So what's her deal man?
610
00:44:21,993 --> 00:44:23,995
Her deal? Sure you want to know?
611
00:44:24,620 --> 00:44:25,997
Come on, give me the scoop.
612
00:44:26,581 --> 00:44:26,914
The scoop?
613
00:44:27,206 --> 00:44:28,291
I want the whole scoop.
614
00:44:28,583 --> 00:44:30,293
Okay, here's the scoop.
615
00:44:30,710 --> 00:44:33,212
She just went through a really
bad break-up with some asshole,
616
00:44:33,504 --> 00:44:36,215
she lost her job, she's going
through a real rough patch,
617
00:44:36,507 --> 00:44:39,961
so I had her come down here to hang
out with me and clear her head,
618
00:44:40,011 --> 00:44:42,129
and maybe she could
figure some stuff out.
619
00:44:42,179 --> 00:44:44,632
But she's not here long
enough to meet anybody new.
620
00:44:44,682 --> 00:44:46,133
What are you trying to say?
621
00:44:46,183 --> 00:44:47,393
I know what you're thinking.
622
00:44:48,811 --> 00:44:49,812
Okay...
623
00:44:51,188 --> 00:44:53,482
She got a number? Come on!
624
00:44:54,191 --> 00:44:55,935
Hey! You want her
number, you ask her.
625
00:44:55,985 --> 00:44:56,986
And be nice.
626
00:44:57,403 --> 00:44:57,987
I am nice!
627
00:44:58,404 --> 00:45:00,197
Yeah. Maybe I will ask her.
628
00:45:00,781 --> 00:45:02,199
Hey man, good show
tonight, right.
629
00:45:03,284 --> 00:45:06,787
Hey, put in a good word for me ...
come on.
630
00:45:07,205 --> 00:45:09,790
Go home man, go home!
See you soon!
631
00:45:16,797 --> 00:45:19,800
Today I went to
Estero De Magdalena.
632
00:45:27,183 --> 00:45:30,603
It triggered these
anxious feelings of ...
633
00:45:32,188 --> 00:45:34,607
maybe there isn't saving
the World any more.
634
00:45:35,608 --> 00:45:38,611
And it broke my heart
a million times over.
635
00:45:40,780 --> 00:45:47,411
And I thought to
myself - have mercy.
636
00:45:50,289 --> 00:45:56,420
And out of nowhere - a
gentle giant appeared.
637
00:45:57,588 --> 00:46:00,166
And with three little words:
638
00:46:00,216 --> 00:46:03,386
"Are - you - okay?"
639
00:46:06,013 --> 00:46:11,602
That act of compassion meant the
world to me, and gave me hope.
640
00:46:15,314 --> 00:46:18,768
I am so overwhelmed
with how many of you
641
00:46:18,818 --> 00:46:22,613
have connected with this feeling
of being adrift and lonely,
642
00:46:24,198 --> 00:46:28,619
and I want you to know
that you are not alone.
643
00:46:29,495 --> 00:46:31,998
We are all here for each other.
644
00:46:44,510 --> 00:46:49,015
That was the best Robbie! You have
to invite me to the next one.
645
00:46:49,307 --> 00:46:50,132
Well you're going to be here.
646
00:46:50,182 --> 00:46:54,020
We do those once or twice a week when
we're not doing bigger sessions downtown.
647
00:46:54,395 --> 00:46:57,556
Well I am so proud of
you, and you know what?
648
00:46:57,606 --> 00:46:59,934
I think Dad would be
pleasantly surprised.
649
00:46:59,984 --> 00:47:03,562
Oh pleasantly surprised, is that what
he would say? 'Pleasantly surprised.'
650
00:47:03,612 --> 00:47:04,780
It's the story of my life.
651
00:47:05,614 --> 00:47:07,283
Look at that! Oooh.
652
00:47:08,784 --> 00:47:13,289
So ... about your friend Mark.
653
00:47:14,206 --> 00:47:17,868
What about my friend Mark? The
guy you started flirting with?
654
00:47:17,918 --> 00:47:20,955
I was not flirting!
Was I flirting?
655
00:47:21,005 --> 00:47:23,958
Did it look like I was flirting?
I'm pretty sure yeah.
656
00:47:24,008 --> 00:47:25,593
I told him the truth;
657
00:47:25,885 --> 00:47:28,963
that you were going through some
stuff and you came here to visit me,
658
00:47:29,013 --> 00:47:30,840
and you're not going
to be here that long.
659
00:47:30,890 --> 00:47:33,017
So I didn't give him
your number or anything.
660
00:47:33,684 --> 00:47:37,980
What? Wait? Did he even
ask for my number?
661
00:47:38,397 --> 00:47:39,899
Of course he asked
for your number.
662
00:47:40,399 --> 00:47:42,610
He even wants me to put
in the 'good word.'
663
00:47:44,904 --> 00:47:47,907
Well yes, boys should
not be on my mind.
664
00:47:48,616 --> 00:47:49,700
Exactly!
665
00:47:50,201 --> 00:47:52,945
But ... I'll think about it.
666
00:47:52,995 --> 00:47:54,580
I knew you were
going to say that.
667
00:47:55,790 --> 00:47:57,583
All right, cheers, come on.
668
00:47:59,001 --> 00:48:05,007
Cheers. Here's to you in the Philippines
visiting your big brother for a new start.
669
00:48:05,382 --> 00:48:07,168
Cheers! Cheers!
670
00:48:07,218 --> 00:48:15,017
'I wonder if you
will fall in love with me.'
671
00:48:16,519 --> 00:48:21,982
Yesterday was an emotional
day; the lows hit low and the highs hit high.
672
00:48:22,983 --> 00:48:26,487
But when you're sensitive,
and potentially in love,
673
00:48:26,821 --> 00:48:29,990
it starts to feel like
the sky's the limit.
674
00:48:34,787 --> 00:48:38,157
Are you still jet lagging? No I actually
overslept the other night. Good morning.
675
00:48:38,207 --> 00:48:39,950
Good morning brother.
That looks good.
676
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,503
You want some? Are you hungry?
I ate all your food. She did.
677
00:48:42,795 --> 00:48:44,747
Yeah I can see that. I mean
you're just sitting there eating.
678
00:48:44,797 --> 00:48:49,301
I have a meeting, I don't want to be late.
Bye. See you. Have a good day.
679
00:48:50,594 --> 00:48:56,600
Are you serious? Is he really out
and about before 9 am? So weird.
680
00:48:57,017 --> 00:48:58,519
I know he's really on it.
681
00:48:59,311 --> 00:49:00,980
The baby's keeping him on track.
682
00:49:03,315 --> 00:49:04,817
Are you excited?
683
00:49:06,193 --> 00:49:08,612
Hm? About the baby?
Are you excited?
684
00:49:08,988 --> 00:49:10,990
Yeah of course.
685
00:49:11,991 --> 00:49:13,701
Is everything okay Maria?
686
00:49:14,285 --> 00:49:17,788
Hm? Yeah. Yeah I'm fine.
687
00:49:19,498 --> 00:49:23,085
Hey. You know you can
talk to me right?
688
00:49:27,006 --> 00:49:29,884
You know, honestly Jess, erm ...
689
00:49:31,010 --> 00:49:33,387
... you know I think Robbie's
really nervous to have a kid.
690
00:49:34,597 --> 00:49:37,183
And before we got
married he agreed.
691
00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:40,519
He agreed that we were going to have
children; that was my bottom line.
692
00:49:42,479 --> 00:49:44,607
So I mean he acts cool
about it, but ...
693
00:49:47,401 --> 00:49:49,111
... he's not excited.
694
00:49:49,486 --> 00:49:53,991
I mean the whole concept, the whole idea
of birth is completely freaking him out.
695
00:49:54,491 --> 00:49:56,994
He won't even come to
Lamaze classes with me.
696
00:49:57,786 --> 00:50:00,581
Honestly I think that
he's just scared, erm ...
697
00:50:01,999 --> 00:50:05,794
... well I think that he's scared that
it's going to end up like, with your Mom.
698
00:50:10,507 --> 00:50:11,592
I mean ...
699
00:50:12,509 --> 00:50:17,465
Ever since we found out, it's like
he's haunted about it and ...
700
00:50:17,515 --> 00:50:22,186
I just don't think that he can handle being
completely like, triggered all the time.
701
00:50:24,188 --> 00:50:27,191
Can I ask? Do you
remember what happened?
702
00:50:28,484 --> 00:50:30,194
I was two.
703
00:50:32,488 --> 00:50:35,199
Nobody really explained to
us what happened medically.
704
00:50:37,993 --> 00:50:40,204
Dad never talks about it.
705
00:50:42,581 --> 00:50:46,502
When I got a little older, Robbie
explained to me what had happened.
706
00:50:47,294 --> 00:50:50,331
He told me that ...
there was a fight ...
707
00:50:50,381 --> 00:50:53,217
Get out! You can't be in here!
708
00:50:53,592 --> 00:50:57,221
Then he heard Dad
crying in another room.
709
00:51:04,395 --> 00:51:07,189
And he just knew what it meant.
710
00:51:22,413 --> 00:51:26,208
He told me once that he was never
going to be ready for a family.
711
00:51:29,795 --> 00:51:34,508
So erm, I don't know. That's it.
712
00:51:35,884 --> 00:51:41,015
Well ready or not, we
are already a family.
713
00:51:41,390 --> 00:51:44,310
And a quickly growing
one at that!
714
00:51:47,313 --> 00:51:51,483
You know Jess? At least it's
reassuring, and somewhat comforting,
715
00:51:51,984 --> 00:51:53,986
to know why he's like this.
716
00:51:56,780 --> 00:52:00,784
Love you. I'm so
glad you're here.
717
00:52:01,201 --> 00:52:02,995
I'm happy to be here too.
718
00:52:03,287 --> 00:52:05,497
And I can't wait
to meet this one!
719
00:52:05,789 --> 00:52:07,499
Me neither, trust me!
720
00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:10,002
And I'm sure it's excited
to meet you too.
721
00:52:10,294 --> 00:52:12,004
Hopefully he looks more
like you than Rob.
722
00:52:13,213 --> 00:52:14,631
I won't tell him you said that!
723
00:52:15,591 --> 00:52:18,669
It's been great to get
away and catch my breath,
724
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:23,549
so much beauty here,
but also so much pain,
725
00:52:23,599 --> 00:52:27,811
but it's been the people
that make it all worthwhile.
726
00:52:29,855 --> 00:52:32,933
Jess, Joe finally
said yes to my leave
727
00:52:32,983 --> 00:52:37,196
and I think it has to do with
my awesome flirting skills.
728
00:52:38,781 --> 00:52:42,943
So, speaking of how's the
boy situation out there?
729
00:52:42,993 --> 00:52:47,323
Have you met any hot,
spicy islanders lately?
730
00:52:47,373 --> 00:52:49,908
Boys are
the last thing on my mind.
731
00:52:49,958 --> 00:52:51,035
So?
732
00:52:51,085 --> 00:52:54,455
Okay, I may have met someone
through my brother.
733
00:52:54,505 --> 00:52:57,333
Do tell, do tell.
734
00:52:57,383 --> 00:52:59,209
We haven't gone out on
a date or anything,
735
00:52:59,259 --> 00:53:01,837
but we kind of hung
out while Robbie
736
00:53:01,887 --> 00:53:03,631
and his friends were jamming.
737
00:53:03,681 --> 00:53:05,007
And then?
738
00:53:05,057 --> 00:53:08,469
And he's nice, but I feel
like I may have scared him
739
00:53:08,519 --> 00:53:11,305
off with my whole Estero
de Magdalena story.
740
00:53:11,355 --> 00:53:12,264
Girl.
741
00:53:12,314 --> 00:53:14,933
If he can't deal with
you at your saddest,
742
00:53:14,983 --> 00:53:17,194
then he doesn't deserve
you at your best.
743
00:53:18,445 --> 00:53:19,521
Well don't get me wrong.
744
00:53:19,571 --> 00:53:21,357
He is pretty sweet
745
00:53:21,407 --> 00:53:23,233
and at least I met
him through family.
746
00:53:23,283 --> 00:53:26,528
I am staying away from
dating apps like dengue.
747
00:53:26,578 --> 00:53:29,907
Well, you always make a better
second impression anyway.
748
00:53:29,957 --> 00:53:30,324
I don't know.
749
00:53:30,374 --> 00:53:32,493
I guess I'm just anxious.
750
00:53:32,543 --> 00:53:34,586
I don't even know if he
likes me or anything?
751
00:53:35,462 --> 00:53:38,624
Jess, you just have to
accept the fact that
752
00:53:38,674 --> 00:53:40,000
some people will like you
753
00:53:40,050 --> 00:53:42,836
and some people
won't. Like pizza.
754
00:53:42,886 --> 00:53:45,839
Everyone loves pizza,
but some people like
755
00:53:45,889 --> 00:53:49,009
pepperoni toppings, other
people like anchovies,
756
00:53:49,059 --> 00:53:51,512
weird people like Hawaiian.
757
00:53:51,562 --> 00:53:53,972
Highly sensitive people
would go for something
758
00:53:54,022 --> 00:53:56,600
like goat cheese and pesto,
759
00:53:56,650 --> 00:54:01,313
very out there, but for
my taste very special.
760
00:54:01,363 --> 00:54:04,733
You know, at the same time
I shouldn't even be focusing
761
00:54:04,783 --> 00:54:07,152
on if boys like me or not.
762
00:54:07,202 --> 00:54:10,956
Unless it's the right guy.
763
00:54:13,125 --> 00:54:14,368
I love you.
764
00:54:14,418 --> 00:54:15,335
Bye-bye.
765
00:54:19,298 --> 00:54:23,377
You remember when I
talked about going to
766
00:54:23,427 --> 00:54:29,800
Estero de Magdalena yesterday,
I wish I wasn't so emotional,
767
00:54:29,850 --> 00:54:33,262
but at the same time I guess,
768
00:54:33,312 --> 00:54:35,022
no emotions are wrong.
769
00:54:36,940 --> 00:54:41,228
They help us learn and
help you remember
770
00:54:41,278 --> 00:54:42,738
moments even more.
771
00:55:00,589 --> 00:55:03,375
Oh, whoops.
772
00:55:03,425 --> 00:55:04,543
Hello.
773
00:55:04,593 --> 00:55:06,887
Hi, sorry, did I
just drop your call?
774
00:55:09,598 --> 00:55:10,140
Uh huh.
775
00:55:12,476 --> 00:55:13,927
Okay, can you wait one second?
776
00:55:13,977 --> 00:55:15,604
I'll just check my schedule.
777
00:55:22,653 --> 00:55:23,946
Yeah, I think I'm free.
778
00:55:25,614 --> 00:55:26,240
Okay.
779
00:55:27,824 --> 00:55:28,659
See you then.
780
00:55:42,756 --> 00:55:45,667
Eat that and it will make you
forget your beautiful girlfriend
781
00:55:45,717 --> 00:55:46,760
oh dear.
782
00:55:50,013 --> 00:55:51,381
Welcome to my palace.
783
00:55:51,431 --> 00:55:55,177
Oh my goodness, it's Venus
rising from the sea.
784
00:55:55,227 --> 00:55:56,553
Welcome. My name is Jetro.
785
00:55:56,603 --> 00:55:58,972
Hi, my name is Jessica.
786
00:55:59,022 --> 00:56:00,349
Hello Jessica.
787
00:56:00,399 --> 00:56:01,600
Oh my goodness.
788
00:56:01,650 --> 00:56:02,851
Are you looking for someone?
789
00:56:02,901 --> 00:56:04,561
Actually, I have a
friend that invited me,
790
00:56:04,611 --> 00:56:05,812
his name is Mark.
791
00:56:05,862 --> 00:56:06,647
Mark.
792
00:56:06,697 --> 00:56:08,482
What do you do with
Mark that ruffian?
793
00:56:08,532 --> 00:56:10,192
Mark, you have a friend here,
794
00:56:10,242 --> 00:56:11,235
come on here. Come on in.
Oh Jessica.
795
00:56:11,285 --> 00:56:12,027
Make yourself comfortable.
796
00:56:12,077 --> 00:56:13,120
Hi, how are you?
797
00:56:15,581 --> 00:56:17,366
Obviously, you've met Jetro.
798
00:56:17,416 --> 00:56:18,875
Oh yes, obviously.
799
00:56:21,461 --> 00:56:22,913
Believe it or not, I
used to work here.
800
00:56:22,963 --> 00:56:23,872
Really? Yeah.
801
00:56:23,922 --> 00:56:24,665
That's right.
802
00:56:24,715 --> 00:56:27,834
He was my worst employee, but
all the patrons loved him.
803
00:56:27,884 --> 00:56:28,919
It must have been his, you know,
804
00:56:28,969 --> 00:56:30,921
his dark sex appeal.
805
00:56:30,971 --> 00:56:33,423
Anyway, now he comes
running back here looking
806
00:56:33,473 --> 00:56:37,135
for a nice table and to
impress a pretty girl.
807
00:56:37,185 --> 00:56:40,347
What he didn't tell me was
how gorgeous she was.
808
00:56:40,397 --> 00:56:41,598
Come on, sit down, sit down,
809
00:56:41,648 --> 00:56:44,017
come on, make yourselves
comfortable over here,
810
00:56:44,067 --> 00:56:44,768
my dear.
811
00:56:44,818 --> 00:56:45,894
Thank you.
812
00:56:45,944 --> 00:56:46,270
All right.
813
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:47,729
Can I get you guys anything?
814
00:56:47,779 --> 00:56:49,481
Before anything else,
I tell you something
815
00:56:49,531 --> 00:56:50,816
about Jessica.
816
00:56:50,866 --> 00:56:55,529
She is a writer from San
Francisco here for some R & R
817
00:56:55,579 --> 00:56:59,032
in what better place
than your place, Jetro.
818
00:56:59,082 --> 00:57:00,033
I'll be right back.
819
00:57:00,083 --> 00:57:01,743
I'm going to get you
some really hot drinks.
820
00:57:01,793 --> 00:57:03,745
Hey go easy on the drinks,
821
00:57:03,795 --> 00:57:05,414
we are just having coffee.
822
00:57:05,464 --> 00:57:07,833
You? sure you are,
823
00:57:07,883 --> 00:57:08,333
sure you are.
824
00:57:08,383 --> 00:57:09,209
Yeah, coffee, ok?
825
00:57:09,259 --> 00:57:10,878
I'll be right back.
826
00:57:10,928 --> 00:57:11,795
Just wait, Okay.
827
00:57:11,845 --> 00:57:13,881
Thank you, I love your
place by the way.
828
00:57:13,931 --> 00:57:15,340
Thank you, thank you very much.
829
00:57:15,390 --> 00:57:19,219
So, how's Manila, how is
it treating you so far?
830
00:57:19,269 --> 00:57:23,390
Well actually, I did something
weird the other day.
831
00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:27,394
I accidentally posted
something really personal.
832
00:57:27,444 --> 00:57:30,522
I spilled my guts online
and it went viral.
833
00:57:30,572 --> 00:57:31,648
Spilled your guts online?
834
00:57:31,698 --> 00:57:33,025
Yeah, I know, right?
835
00:57:33,075 --> 00:57:34,318
What was in the video?
836
00:57:34,368 --> 00:57:36,903
It was family stuff,
personal stuff,
837
00:57:36,953 --> 00:57:38,822
family issues. Oh shit, no.
838
00:57:38,872 --> 00:57:40,240
How did that happen?
839
00:57:40,290 --> 00:57:41,700
I don't know.
840
00:57:41,750 --> 00:57:43,243
Maybe I was half
asleep, half awake.
841
00:57:43,293 --> 00:57:45,746
Yeah, if you don't
mind me asking,
842
00:57:45,796 --> 00:57:48,290
like how do you feel
like, you know,
843
00:57:48,340 --> 00:57:51,960
strangers gawking at your
dirty laundry?
844
00:57:52,010 --> 00:57:57,507
Honestly, I - I'm
loving the support.
845
00:57:57,557 --> 00:57:58,008
Tell me, okay.
846
00:57:58,058 --> 00:58:02,012
It's overwhelming and that
outweighs all the dumb stuff,
847
00:58:02,062 --> 00:58:04,014
because there were a lot
of comments and all that.
848
00:58:04,064 --> 00:58:04,723
Okay.
849
00:58:04,773 --> 00:58:07,851
It feels good to know that
you can have that feeling
850
00:58:07,901 --> 00:58:09,645
of being able to help someone.
851
00:58:09,695 --> 00:58:10,312
Yes.
852
00:58:10,362 --> 00:58:12,064
It's like indirectly
you're helping people.
853
00:58:12,114 --> 00:58:13,023
That's cool.
854
00:58:13,073 --> 00:58:15,692
Yeah, I think some
people connected
855
00:58:15,742 --> 00:58:16,485
with it and it's nice.
856
00:58:16,535 --> 00:58:18,445
That supposed to happen,
something like that.
857
00:58:18,495 --> 00:58:19,613
Yeah, I guess.
858
00:58:19,663 --> 00:58:21,740
It's all -- it's all
out there now,
859
00:58:21,790 --> 00:58:23,533
there is nothing I can do.
860
00:58:23,583 --> 00:58:24,418
Oh, I'm sorry.
861
00:58:45,188 --> 00:58:46,732
Everything okay?
862
00:58:49,234 --> 00:58:50,068
Sorry.
863
00:58:51,111 --> 00:58:56,108
Just my ex keeps messaging
me these nasty messages
864
00:58:56,158 --> 00:58:57,526
day and night.
865
00:58:57,576 --> 00:59:01,488
Ooh, Good start.
866
00:59:01,538 --> 00:59:03,448
I'm sorry; I know you're
not supposed to be talking
867
00:59:03,498 --> 00:59:05,200
about exes.
868
00:59:05,250 --> 00:59:07,202
You wanted to know, so
I wanted to be honest.
869
00:59:07,252 --> 00:59:08,328
I'm just kidding,
870
00:59:08,378 --> 00:59:09,579
I am not being sarcastic.
871
00:59:09,629 --> 00:59:11,081
It's actually okay, you know,
872
00:59:11,131 --> 00:59:14,084
I like it straightforward,
just tell me upfront,
873
00:59:14,134 --> 00:59:15,419
whatever you know.
874
00:59:15,469 --> 00:59:16,378
Are you serious?
875
00:59:16,428 --> 00:59:18,547
You want to know? Yeah, come on.
876
00:59:18,597 --> 00:59:19,423
I am curious actually.
877
00:59:19,473 --> 00:59:21,933
Let me -- let me
find you a good one.
878
00:59:23,351 --> 00:59:25,345
Fine. Don't talk to me.
879
00:59:25,395 --> 00:59:26,972
I'm done with you.
880
00:59:27,022 --> 00:59:30,350
And I don't need your
sensitive bullshit,
881
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:33,812
and you are a neurotic loser,
882
00:59:33,862 --> 00:59:35,155
charming, right?
883
00:59:40,786 --> 00:59:43,155
Sorry, I'm late as
my mom used to say,
884
00:59:43,205 --> 00:59:44,489
perfection takes time.
885
00:59:44,539 --> 00:59:47,743
You my friend, you
could use a "blow job"
886
00:59:47,793 --> 00:59:53,465
while you maybe or
definitely "sex on the beach".
887
00:59:56,343 --> 00:59:58,587
I'll leave you two
beautiful people.
888
00:59:58,637 --> 01:00:01,506
Just you know, enjoy,
don't do anything,
889
01:00:01,556 --> 01:00:02,132
I won't do.
890
01:00:02,182 --> 01:00:03,216
Thank you.
891
01:00:03,266 --> 01:00:04,301
Oh my god.
892
01:00:04,351 --> 01:00:07,020
I'm having so much fun
by the way, cheers.
893
01:00:10,524 --> 01:00:11,767
Spare no details.
894
01:00:11,817 --> 01:00:13,393
Tell me everything.
895
01:00:13,443 --> 01:00:15,312
Wow, he was really nice.
896
01:00:15,362 --> 01:00:18,190
We went to this place
called Van Gogh is Bipolar
897
01:00:18,240 --> 01:00:19,983
and it was really interesting.
898
01:00:20,033 --> 01:00:21,610
Okay.
899
01:00:21,660 --> 01:00:23,236
Did he plant one on you?
900
01:00:23,286 --> 01:00:27,165
No, but we did have
sex on the beach.
901
01:00:30,377 --> 01:00:32,037
But anyways, you
know, I don't know.
902
01:00:32,087 --> 01:00:33,830
I do like him but
at the same time,
903
01:00:33,880 --> 01:00:34,998
I don't really have a reference.
904
01:00:35,048 --> 01:00:36,833
Yeah, I dated Todd
and all these guys,
905
01:00:36,883 --> 01:00:39,836
but Mark is different.
906
01:00:39,886 --> 01:00:42,088
How did it happen
with you and Robbie?
907
01:00:42,138 --> 01:00:47,302
Okay, we were at this
party in Commonwealth
908
01:00:47,352 --> 01:00:51,723
and my sister had invited
me and I saw this guy
909
01:00:51,773 --> 01:00:54,851
standing on the balcony
all by himself.
910
01:00:54,901 --> 01:00:57,687
And he wasn't necessarily alone
911
01:00:57,737 --> 01:00:59,406
but he was definitely lonely.
912
01:01:15,213 --> 01:01:16,373
Hi.
913
01:01:16,423 --> 01:01:17,332
Hi.
914
01:01:17,382 --> 01:01:19,134
What are you doing all
the way over here?
915
01:01:20,343 --> 01:01:22,387
Just minding my business.
916
01:01:24,890 --> 01:01:27,843
Okay, let me try that one again.
917
01:01:27,893 --> 01:01:29,636
My name is Maria De Los Santos.
918
01:01:29,686 --> 01:01:32,138
I'm helping my
sister, the hostess,
919
01:01:32,188 --> 01:01:34,891
who I assume invited
you or your friends.
920
01:01:34,941 --> 01:01:36,768
I can introduce you
to a couple of people.
921
01:01:36,818 --> 01:01:38,862
She says that you're
in the music industry.
922
01:01:40,447 --> 01:01:42,691
Thanks, but no thanks.
923
01:01:42,741 --> 01:01:46,403
So, I'm kind of enjoying my
solo performance right here.
924
01:01:46,453 --> 01:01:49,289
Ah well then, I guess that
makes us out of tune.
925
01:01:51,082 --> 01:01:51,875
Wait.
926
01:01:53,335 --> 01:01:53,702
I'm sorry.
927
01:01:53,752 --> 01:01:55,420
I didn't mean to sound rude.
928
01:01:56,087 --> 01:02:00,342
Just not a party person,
it's not really my scene.
929
01:02:02,135 --> 01:02:04,838
Besides, it is starting to sound
like a barnyard from
930
01:02:04,888 --> 01:02:05,972
this distance.
931
01:02:11,061 --> 01:02:14,097
Well, if you come from
a quieter pasture,
932
01:02:14,147 --> 01:02:17,392
I presume that cows are quieter.
933
01:02:17,442 --> 01:02:18,610
Fair enough.
934
01:02:21,071 --> 01:02:25,191
It's a company requirement
that I attend this party,
935
01:02:25,241 --> 01:02:28,328
rub elbows with
the industry folk
936
01:02:29,579 --> 01:02:30,872
between the two of us,
937
01:02:31,706 --> 01:02:33,700
your sister has
gotten really pushy
938
01:02:33,750 --> 01:02:35,627
since she started
hosting these events.
939
01:02:37,045 --> 01:02:40,131
Yeah well, she actually told
me a little bit about you.
940
01:02:41,424 --> 01:02:42,417
Really?
941
01:02:42,467 --> 01:02:45,378
Yeah, she -- she
actually thought
942
01:02:45,428 --> 01:02:47,380
that we might hit it off.
943
01:02:47,430 --> 01:02:48,924
Is that what she said?
944
01:02:48,974 --> 01:02:50,216
Wow.
945
01:02:50,266 --> 01:02:52,052
What?
946
01:02:52,102 --> 01:02:52,302
What?
947
01:02:52,352 --> 01:02:54,804
She speaks really highly of you.
948
01:02:54,854 --> 01:02:57,015
She says that you are smart,
949
01:02:57,065 --> 01:03:03,063
funny, sensitive,
just enough sarcasm
950
01:03:03,113 --> 01:03:05,565
to tie it all together.
951
01:03:05,615 --> 01:03:09,444
That's quite the grocery
list out there,
952
01:03:09,494 --> 01:03:12,697
but careful what you wish for.
953
01:03:12,747 --> 01:03:15,659
Most women will tell you,
"Oh, I want a sensitive man",
954
01:03:15,709 --> 01:03:18,703
but few actually do.
955
01:03:18,753 --> 01:03:19,913
What do you mean?
956
01:03:19,963 --> 01:03:23,249
Well, we can get very defensive,
957
01:03:23,299 --> 01:03:27,337
misunderstood, temperamental
and when that happens,
958
01:03:27,387 --> 01:03:28,630
it's not eloquent.
959
01:03:28,680 --> 01:03:33,635
I start sounding like
a angry teenage boy
960
01:03:33,685 --> 01:03:36,012
and then that makes someone
else defensive and hostile,
961
01:03:36,062 --> 01:03:37,681
which makes me
defensive and hostile.
962
01:03:37,731 --> 01:03:41,484
Wow, really selling me on
this whole sensitive thing.
963
01:03:45,572 --> 01:03:46,364
Wow.
964
01:03:47,115 --> 01:03:50,193
You know, I can tell
that you're different,
965
01:03:50,243 --> 01:03:52,912
but maybe give me the
benefit of the doubt.
966
01:03:54,039 --> 01:03:56,624
Don't put me in a box
labeled with all the rest.
967
01:04:01,421 --> 01:04:02,497
Okay.
968
01:04:02,547 --> 01:04:04,841
Thank you, you are very eloquent.
969
01:04:07,010 --> 01:04:07,969
Start with a walk.
970
01:04:09,429 --> 01:04:10,722
Oh, walk sounds good.
971
01:04:22,692 --> 01:04:24,060
You caught him in flight.
972
01:04:24,110 --> 01:04:27,063
He's been running away
ever since mom died
973
01:04:27,113 --> 01:04:28,907
and you tamed him.
974
01:04:30,492 --> 01:04:32,360
Hey, speaking of the devil.
975
01:04:32,410 --> 01:04:33,737
Hello.
976
01:04:33,787 --> 01:04:36,239
I never thought you were
coming out of that room.
977
01:04:36,289 --> 01:04:37,991
Just getting some extra work done,
978
01:04:38,041 --> 01:04:39,909
trying to make
myself stay up late,
979
01:04:39,959 --> 01:04:40,869
getting ready for the baby.
980
01:04:40,919 --> 01:04:41,953
I was going to make dinner,
981
01:04:42,003 --> 01:04:42,620
do you want to order anything?
982
01:04:42,670 --> 01:04:43,922
No, it's too late,
I don't want anything.
983
01:04:46,508 --> 01:04:47,417
What is that?
984
01:04:47,467 --> 01:04:48,426
It's coffee.
985
01:04:49,761 --> 01:04:51,671
Oh, you've had your third cup?
986
01:04:51,721 --> 01:04:53,214
You're only supposed to
have two cups a day,
987
01:04:53,264 --> 01:04:53,673
you are pregnant.
988
01:04:53,723 --> 01:04:55,008
No, don't worry, this
is my second cup,
989
01:04:55,058 --> 01:04:56,301
it's going to be okay.
990
01:04:56,351 --> 01:04:58,219
What's with the attitude?
991
01:04:58,269 --> 01:04:59,721
Attitude?
992
01:04:59,771 --> 01:05:01,181
There's no attitude Robbie,
993
01:05:01,231 --> 01:05:03,058
everything's fine.
994
01:05:03,108 --> 01:05:05,393
Okay Jess, I need you out.
995
01:05:05,443 --> 01:05:06,186
What?
996
01:05:06,236 --> 01:05:08,271
I'm having a conversation
with my wife.
997
01:05:08,321 --> 01:05:09,230
You can't do that to me.
998
01:05:09,280 --> 01:05:10,440
I'm not a child.
999
01:05:10,490 --> 01:05:11,357
It's my house.
1000
01:05:11,407 --> 01:05:12,817
Go to your room.
1001
01:05:12,867 --> 01:05:14,736
What is wrong with you,
you sound like dad.
1002
01:05:14,786 --> 01:05:16,154
Robbie. What does it have to...
1003
01:05:16,204 --> 01:05:17,238
Robbie.
1004
01:05:17,288 --> 01:05:20,867
From now on after 6:00 pm
no one has coffee, okay?
1005
01:05:20,917 --> 01:05:21,910
Okay, what has gotten into you?
1006
01:05:21,960 --> 01:05:23,578
It's bad -- it's bad
for the baby's nerves.
1007
01:05:23,628 --> 01:05:26,790
It's -- it's bad for
your nerves if anything,
1008
01:05:26,840 --> 01:05:27,999
everything is fine Rob.
1009
01:05:28,049 --> 01:05:29,551
This is my second cup.
1010
01:05:32,762 --> 01:05:34,506
Things aren't as
perfect in this home
1011
01:05:34,556 --> 01:05:36,466
as I imagined they were.
1012
01:05:36,516 --> 01:05:38,176
I thought Robbie had
figured everything out
1013
01:05:38,226 --> 01:05:41,096
when he married Maria. That
being sensitive would get
1014
01:05:41,146 --> 01:05:43,306
better once you found the
right person to shoulder
1015
01:05:43,356 --> 01:05:46,351
the emotion with, it
seems I was wrong.
1016
01:05:46,401 --> 01:05:48,478
If Robbie was still untamed
and out of control,
1017
01:05:48,528 --> 01:05:50,947
then what hope do any
of the rest of us have?
1018
01:06:10,091 --> 01:06:14,095
About last night,
I'm really sorry.
1019
01:06:16,181 --> 01:06:17,682
I didn't mean for
that to happen.
1020
01:06:22,353 --> 01:06:23,096
You reminded me of dad.
1021
01:06:23,146 --> 01:06:24,931
I know.
1022
01:06:24,981 --> 01:06:28,902
You said that and that
really bothered me.
1023
01:06:30,236 --> 01:06:34,699
I don't know why that
happened just on edge,
1024
01:06:37,118 --> 01:06:38,411
but I hate myself when I do it.
1025
01:06:41,414 --> 01:06:45,952
Listen, I know someone that
I want you to talk to,
1026
01:06:46,002 --> 01:06:47,954
that I think will help you
with everything you're
1027
01:06:48,004 --> 01:06:51,633
going through, your
issues with men.
1028
01:06:55,303 --> 01:06:56,554
Okay, I will talk to Maria.
1029
01:06:57,889 --> 01:06:59,724
It's not Maria. It's
a friend of mine.
1030
01:07:00,600 --> 01:07:04,137
She's the one who told me
that I was highly sensitive,
1031
01:07:04,187 --> 01:07:06,806
that we grew up with
this thing where
1032
01:07:06,856 --> 01:07:10,226
our parents are superheroes
that we couldn't grasp
1033
01:07:10,276 --> 01:07:14,397
the concept of our
mom or dad failing,
1034
01:07:14,447 --> 01:07:16,816
but HSPs like us, there's
just a little bit more
1035
01:07:16,866 --> 01:07:18,117
impact there.
1036
01:07:18,826 --> 01:07:21,321
When you have a really
shitty childhood.
1037
01:07:21,371 --> 01:07:22,830
I know we're not kids anymore.
1038
01:07:24,415 --> 01:07:27,827
We can't change the past, but
I think if you talk to her,
1039
01:07:27,877 --> 01:07:30,371
she can help you with
this whole deal with
1040
01:07:30,421 --> 01:07:32,840
Todd and everything else.
1041
01:07:34,092 --> 01:07:36,503
Well, she sounds
like a smart lady.
1042
01:07:36,553 --> 01:07:39,130
We should have coffee
all three of us.
1043
01:07:39,180 --> 01:07:41,174
That's the thing.
1044
01:07:41,224 --> 01:07:43,676
It's probably best if
it's just the two of you
1045
01:07:43,726 --> 01:07:49,432
because she's a therapist, but
she's the best in Manila.
1046
01:07:49,482 --> 01:07:51,351
She's talked to a
few of my friends.
1047
01:07:51,401 --> 01:07:54,229
I asked her if she'd
consider talking to you
1048
01:07:54,279 --> 01:07:55,947
and she said, yes.
1049
01:07:58,366 --> 01:08:00,610
A therapist?
1050
01:08:00,660 --> 01:08:03,029
Why are you butting
into my business,
1051
01:08:03,079 --> 01:08:05,615
telling a complete stranger
what I'm going through?
1052
01:08:05,665 --> 01:08:07,283
Who are you to talk
about strangers.
1053
01:08:07,333 --> 01:08:10,411
You just went viral
to the whole world,
1054
01:08:10,461 --> 01:08:14,799
talking about your issues
and mine, too. Remember that.
1055
01:08:15,842 --> 01:08:19,721
Hey, you said that you
would owe me one.
1056
01:08:21,973 --> 01:08:23,508
You really think I
need a therapist?
1057
01:08:23,558 --> 01:08:28,096
Hey, her name is
Gina and she cares.
1058
01:08:28,146 --> 01:08:30,807
It's not about the time;
it's not about the money.
1059
01:08:30,857 --> 01:08:31,891
If I didn't think
she could help you,
1060
01:08:31,941 --> 01:08:33,351
I wouldn't even bring it up,
1061
01:08:33,401 --> 01:08:36,529
just talk to her, please.
1062
01:08:38,406 --> 01:08:44,112
Say yes, do it, say
yes, say yes, say yes.
1063
01:08:44,162 --> 01:08:44,862
I'll think about it.
1064
01:08:44,912 --> 01:08:45,863
Oh, you'll think about it.
1065
01:08:45,913 --> 01:08:46,864
I'll think about it.
1066
01:08:46,914 --> 01:08:49,784
Well, think fast, you
are not here that long.
1067
01:08:49,834 --> 01:08:50,877
Think about it.
1068
01:08:55,965 --> 01:09:00,044
So, I've agreed to
see a therapist.
1069
01:09:00,094 --> 01:09:02,380
I hope she's not the type
that just keeps looking at
1070
01:09:02,430 --> 01:09:04,223
the clock and says time's up.
1071
01:09:05,433 --> 01:09:07,135
I didn't have the
heart to tell Robbie,
1072
01:09:07,185 --> 01:09:10,054
but I've actually already
seen quite a few
1073
01:09:10,104 --> 01:09:13,316
and I don't think it's for me.
1074
01:09:15,443 --> 01:09:18,479
My take on all of this is
that if someone doesn't
1075
01:09:18,529 --> 01:09:22,525
want to learn about you,
or your sensitivity,
1076
01:09:22,575 --> 01:09:26,821
run, get out of there
even if they're nice.
1077
01:09:26,871 --> 01:09:31,409
I once had a nice guy compare
my sensitivity to diabetes,
1078
01:09:31,459 --> 01:09:34,704
saying all I needed was
a shot of insulin,
1079
01:09:34,754 --> 01:09:40,460
really, a shot of insulin
or in his words,
1080
01:09:40,510 --> 01:09:41,928
antidepressants.
1081
01:09:43,221 --> 01:09:44,472
I agree.
1082
01:09:45,556 --> 01:09:48,351
You totally need therapy.
1083
01:09:55,024 --> 01:09:57,477
Welcome to my sanctuary.
1084
01:09:57,527 --> 01:09:58,486
It's beautiful.
1085
01:10:00,822 --> 01:10:01,773
Have a seat.
1086
01:10:01,823 --> 01:10:02,448
Thank you.
1087
01:10:09,288 --> 01:10:11,074
You don't look at all like Rob.
1088
01:10:11,124 --> 01:10:13,326
They say Rob is more like my mom
1089
01:10:13,376 --> 01:10:15,370
and I'm more like my dad.
1090
01:10:15,420 --> 01:10:18,331
He's an introvert and
I'm an extrovert.
1091
01:10:18,381 --> 01:10:20,833
Well, then I'm happy to
meet the extroverted
1092
01:10:20,883 --> 01:10:22,126
half of the pair.
1093
01:10:22,176 --> 01:10:27,014
So tell me, tell me
anything about yourself.
1094
01:10:28,391 --> 01:10:34,180
Okay well, Robbie says
I'm a textbook case,
1095
01:10:34,230 --> 01:10:36,808
whatever that means,
I don't really know.
1096
01:10:36,858 --> 01:10:41,529
You mean being a highly
sensitive person.
1097
01:10:42,447 --> 01:10:44,649
Well, first of all, you
have to understand
1098
01:10:44,699 --> 01:10:48,027
there's nothing wrong with being
a highly sensitive person,
1099
01:10:48,077 --> 01:10:50,738
because in fact, highly
sensitive people
1100
01:10:50,788 --> 01:10:54,367
tend to actually function
just as well as the others,
1101
01:10:54,417 --> 01:10:57,578
in fact, sometimes better
and because I myself,
1102
01:10:57,628 --> 01:10:59,664
I'm a highly sensitive person.
1103
01:10:59,714 --> 01:11:00,623
Really?
1104
01:11:00,673 --> 01:11:05,211
In fact, the only problem
there is that when they
1105
01:11:05,261 --> 01:11:09,549
go through a very traumatic
experience in the past,
1106
01:11:09,599 --> 01:11:15,012
they tend to become more
anxious and depressed
1107
01:11:15,062 --> 01:11:18,057
and end up in hurtful
relationships
1108
01:11:18,107 --> 01:11:20,101
and have even more problems,
1109
01:11:20,151 --> 01:11:22,937
then that's when the
work has to start.
1110
01:11:22,987 --> 01:11:24,489
That sounds a lot like me.
1111
01:11:27,742 --> 01:11:29,735
Look, you have to be
able to understand
1112
01:11:29,785 --> 01:11:32,905
what you went through to
be able to reframe it.
1113
01:11:32,955 --> 01:11:34,031
Reframe it?
1114
01:11:34,081 --> 01:11:34,907
Yes.
1115
01:11:34,957 --> 01:11:39,003
You didn't know you were a
sensitive person until when?
1116
01:11:40,296 --> 01:11:45,301
Probably recently,
maybe a year or so.
1117
01:11:47,053 --> 01:11:49,672
You were sensitive
your whole life.
1118
01:11:49,722 --> 01:11:52,550
And you just didn't
know how to factor that
1119
01:11:52,600 --> 01:11:53,976
into your childhood.
1120
01:11:54,602 --> 01:11:57,221
You see, when highly
sensitive children have
1121
01:11:57,271 --> 01:11:59,599
traumatic stressful childhoods,
1122
01:11:59,649 --> 01:12:01,809
they deal with it in two ways.
1123
01:12:01,859 --> 01:12:04,562
They develop an anxious
style of relating,
1124
01:12:04,612 --> 01:12:06,364
or avoidant style.
1125
01:12:07,448 --> 01:12:09,233
Perhaps you can
begin by telling me
1126
01:12:09,283 --> 01:12:11,986
what your relationship was
like with your father.
1127
01:12:12,036 --> 01:12:14,121
My father wasn't
really around much.
1128
01:12:14,747 --> 01:12:17,116
I spent most of my time
with my stepmother
1129
01:12:17,166 --> 01:12:18,993
or in daycare.
1130
01:12:19,043 --> 01:12:22,705
And such as in your case,
what you had to do as a child
1131
01:12:22,755 --> 01:12:27,794
was hang on to them even if
you were angry or resentful,
1132
01:12:27,844 --> 01:12:30,505
especially towards
your stepmother,
1133
01:12:30,555 --> 01:12:32,848
pleasing them, so
they don't leave you.
1134
01:12:35,351 --> 01:12:40,014
This is like an
automatic response.
1135
01:12:40,064 --> 01:12:43,226
Your mind tells you, I need
to cling on to these people,
1136
01:12:43,276 --> 01:12:45,895
no matter how abusive
they may have been,
1137
01:12:45,945 --> 01:12:48,990
because I don't want
to be abandoned.
1138
01:12:49,407 --> 01:12:50,441
I don't want to be left behind.
1139
01:12:50,491 --> 01:12:51,651
So, no matter what they do,
1140
01:12:51,701 --> 01:12:54,153
or no matter what happens,
you do everything to
1141
01:12:54,203 --> 01:12:57,990
please them and exactly,
that's what's happening
1142
01:12:58,040 --> 01:12:59,867
to you as an adult.
1143
01:12:59,917 --> 01:13:02,328
You are hanging on to
a partner you know is
1144
01:13:02,378 --> 01:13:03,871
bad for you.
1145
01:13:03,921 --> 01:13:07,124
Your mind says there
is no one else.
1146
01:13:07,174 --> 01:13:10,419
I have to keep him
whatever he does.
1147
01:13:10,469 --> 01:13:13,431
You stay on in spite of knowing
1148
01:13:14,724 --> 01:13:16,350
that it's not good for you.
1149
01:13:17,643 --> 01:13:20,054
Well, how about the second one?
1150
01:13:20,104 --> 01:13:23,808
The avoidant style.
1151
01:13:23,858 --> 01:13:28,479
Those are the kids who think
they can do without anybody
1152
01:13:28,529 --> 01:13:29,939
and that they don't need anyone
1153
01:13:29,989 --> 01:13:32,483
when faced with an
abusive parent.
1154
01:13:32,533 --> 01:13:35,736
And as adults, they're the same.
1155
01:13:35,786 --> 01:13:36,579
Robbie.
1156
01:13:37,830 --> 01:13:39,991
Although he was never abused.
1157
01:13:40,041 --> 01:13:45,454
Right, but Rob thinks,
his father more or less
1158
01:13:45,504 --> 01:13:50,835
disappeared for him and told
him he was too sensitive.
1159
01:13:50,885 --> 01:13:54,380
So, Rob thought it
was all his fault.
1160
01:13:54,430 --> 01:13:57,967
That's a kind of abuse
and on top of that,
1161
01:13:58,017 --> 01:14:00,845
Rob experienced far
more trauma than you
1162
01:14:00,895 --> 01:14:03,097
when your mother
died with child.
1163
01:14:03,147 --> 01:14:03,981
I am so sorry.
1164
01:14:23,125 --> 01:14:24,660
Can we, can we stop?
1165
01:14:24,710 --> 01:14:25,745
I have to go.
1166
01:14:25,795 --> 01:14:26,954
Is everything okay?
1167
01:14:27,004 --> 01:14:27,788
Yes.
1168
01:14:27,838 --> 01:14:29,081
It was very nice to meet you.
1169
01:14:29,131 --> 01:14:31,000
Very nice to meet you, you know,
1170
01:14:31,050 --> 01:14:32,585
you can come and see me anytime.
1171
01:14:32,635 --> 01:14:34,211
Thank you very much.
And I'm sorry.
1172
01:14:34,261 --> 01:14:35,596
Alright, take care.
1173
01:14:41,727 --> 01:14:44,347
I had never felt more
welcome or at peace in
1174
01:14:44,397 --> 01:14:48,392
my entire life, but I
could tell the sentiment
1175
01:14:48,442 --> 01:14:50,686
was not shared by everyone.
1176
01:14:50,736 --> 01:14:53,397
Robbie seemed to be struggling
1177
01:14:53,447 --> 01:14:55,441
and I could understand his pain.
1178
01:14:55,491 --> 01:14:57,610
More than anything he
wanted to give his child
1179
01:14:57,660 --> 01:15:00,863
what he never had - a good father,
1180
01:15:00,913 --> 01:15:03,115
he was scared that his
sensitivity would set him
1181
01:15:03,165 --> 01:15:04,116
up for failure.
1182
01:15:04,166 --> 01:15:06,869
And he didn't know how to
move past that anxiety.
1183
01:15:06,919 --> 01:15:09,580
When a strong mood hits an HSP,
1184
01:15:09,630 --> 01:15:12,333
it's impossible to make
small talk or be social.
1185
01:15:12,383 --> 01:15:14,251
You want to get along,
but you often end up
1186
01:15:14,301 --> 01:15:15,378
a wallflower.
1187
01:15:15,428 --> 01:15:17,922
I hated seeing him
upset and wanted
1188
01:15:17,972 --> 01:15:21,634
so badly to have some
miracle cure to fix it.
1189
01:15:21,684 --> 01:15:24,270
Yeah, just had to get away
for a couple of minutes.
1190
01:15:26,605 --> 01:15:28,274
I really love that family.
1191
01:15:29,734 --> 01:15:31,102
I don't want to
mess anything up,
1192
01:15:31,152 --> 01:15:32,737
when it's my turn, you know.
1193
01:15:34,447 --> 01:15:36,657
You are doing an amazing job.
1194
01:15:38,743 --> 01:15:39,618
Thanks.
1195
01:16:07,563 --> 01:16:12,860
Hello, I'm not busy.
1196
01:16:15,529 --> 01:16:16,063
Sure.
1197
01:16:16,113 --> 01:16:17,031
Okay.
1198
01:16:17,823 --> 01:16:18,657
Sounds good.
1199
01:16:19,742 --> 01:16:20,451
I'll see you there.
1200
01:16:21,243 --> 01:16:21,694
Bye.
1201
01:16:31,837 --> 01:16:33,372
Here we go again.
1202
01:16:33,422 --> 01:16:35,583
I knew this feeling
all too well.
1203
01:16:35,633 --> 01:16:37,793
The butterflies that came
from being on the edge of
1204
01:16:37,843 --> 01:16:40,337
something new, the feeling
of wanting to dive
1205
01:16:40,387 --> 01:16:44,091
head first and also run
away as fast as you can.
1206
01:16:44,141 --> 01:16:47,895
I love this feeling and
I was terrified of it.
1207
01:16:48,604 --> 01:16:50,147
It's just like Robbie said,
1208
01:16:50,731 --> 01:16:53,067
one foot on the gas,
one on the brake.
1209
01:16:53,567 --> 01:16:55,603
But something felt
different about Mark,
1210
01:16:55,653 --> 01:16:58,272
you see, most people don't
understand when I talk
1211
01:16:58,322 --> 01:17:02,026
about my sensitivity,
they reject me.
1212
01:17:02,076 --> 01:17:06,247
It seemed like he wanted to
try and that was exciting.
1213
01:17:11,335 --> 01:17:15,381
Well, sorry good night.
1214
01:17:16,298 --> 01:17:16,799
Okay.
1215
01:17:18,509 --> 01:17:18,959
Okay.
1216
01:17:19,009 --> 01:17:20,836
Okay. Thank you.
1217
01:17:20,886 --> 01:17:21,637
Thank you.
1218
01:17:22,680 --> 01:17:23,848
Hey, Jessica wait.
1219
01:17:24,473 --> 01:17:25,800
Yeah.
1220
01:17:25,850 --> 01:17:31,847
I have a crazy idea,
would you consider
1221
01:17:31,897 --> 01:17:34,275
going with me to Palawan,
1222
01:17:35,192 --> 01:17:38,187
if you want, it's...
1223
01:17:38,237 --> 01:17:39,939
Perhaps, I will consider it.
1224
01:17:39,989 --> 01:17:41,031
Perhaps.
1225
01:17:41,824 --> 01:17:42,316
Goodnight.
1226
01:17:42,366 --> 01:17:44,743
Goodnight, perhaps.
1227
01:18:04,889 --> 01:18:07,049
They say laughter is
the best medicine,
1228
01:18:07,099 --> 01:18:09,510
but whoever said that
probably didn't see
1229
01:18:09,560 --> 01:18:13,556
the beautiful cliffs, beaches
and rivers of Palawan.
1230
01:18:13,606 --> 01:18:16,692
This place is paradise.
1231
01:18:17,818 --> 01:18:19,395
I just couldn't resist.
1232
01:18:19,445 --> 01:18:21,939
Sure a part of me hopes
that I'm not moving too
1233
01:18:21,989 --> 01:18:24,692
fast with Mark repeating
my usual mistakes
1234
01:18:24,742 --> 01:18:27,403
over and over again,
meeting his friends,
1235
01:18:27,453 --> 01:18:29,288
staying in some fancy hotel,
1236
01:18:30,289 --> 01:18:33,701
him letting me in like
this, trusting me,
1237
01:18:33,751 --> 01:18:34,835
means a lot.
1238
01:18:36,420 --> 01:18:39,623
This feels different than others
1239
01:18:39,673 --> 01:18:42,501
or maybe I'm just too
foolish to realize that
1240
01:18:42,551 --> 01:18:44,094
this is how they all start.
1241
01:18:45,012 --> 01:18:48,048
All I know is that right now,
1242
01:18:48,098 --> 01:18:53,395
in this moment, falling in
love feels all too easy.
1243
01:18:54,939 --> 01:18:57,224
Yay, cheers, cheers, cheers.
1244
01:18:57,274 --> 01:18:58,434
Good life.
1245
01:18:58,484 --> 01:19:00,152
Ooh to the good life.
1246
01:19:01,111 --> 01:19:02,146
To the good life,
1247
01:19:02,196 --> 01:19:04,565
I know, I have an idea.
1248
01:19:04,615 --> 01:19:05,232
Yes.
1249
01:19:05,282 --> 01:19:07,151
Have you heard about
36 Questions?
1250
01:19:07,201 --> 01:19:09,278
No. What is that 36 Questions?
1251
01:19:09,328 --> 01:19:11,822
It's a good way to
get to know someone.
1252
01:19:11,872 --> 01:19:12,948
I'll check that on my phone.
1253
01:19:12,998 --> 01:19:13,908
Okay, okay, let's play it.
1254
01:19:13,958 --> 01:19:16,035
I have it on my phone.
1255
01:19:16,085 --> 01:19:17,203
That's just like go
around with the question.
1256
01:19:17,253 --> 01:19:18,579
Okay, okay.
1257
01:19:18,629 --> 01:19:19,955
Okay, I'll ask you.
1258
01:19:20,005 --> 01:19:21,081
Oh yeah, that's okay.
1259
01:19:21,131 --> 01:19:22,708
Go Mark.
1260
01:19:22,758 --> 01:19:28,505
If you were to die this
evening
1261
01:19:28,555 --> 01:19:31,508
okay, and you couldn't
communicate with anyone...
1262
01:19:31,558 --> 01:19:32,259
Okay.
1263
01:19:32,309 --> 01:19:34,803
What would you regret
not telling someone
1264
01:19:34,853 --> 01:19:37,856
and why haven't
you told her yet?
1265
01:20:13,183 --> 01:20:16,595
You know what, it was
so much fun today.
1266
01:20:16,645 --> 01:20:17,805
Yeah.
1267
01:20:17,855 --> 01:20:20,224
The whole day was amazing.
1268
01:20:20,274 --> 01:20:23,185
I don't really feel
like seeing anybody.
1269
01:20:23,235 --> 01:20:25,396
Can I just stay here?
1270
01:20:25,446 --> 01:20:27,940
You go you have fun, I
know you guys want to go
1271
01:20:27,990 --> 01:20:29,733
okay, I just stay here.
1272
01:20:29,783 --> 01:20:31,694
Come on, it's going to be fun,
1273
01:20:31,744 --> 01:20:34,071
come on let's get up, please.
1274
01:20:34,121 --> 01:20:35,864
I know it's gonna be fun.
1275
01:20:35,914 --> 01:20:37,700
So you should go, and
you should let me
1276
01:20:37,750 --> 01:20:41,412
just stay here, please.
1277
01:20:41,462 --> 01:20:42,871
Jesse, come on.
1278
01:20:42,921 --> 01:20:46,000
just get out of bed,
put on something.
1279
01:20:46,050 --> 01:20:47,001
Mark, I really --
do you want to,
1280
01:20:47,051 --> 01:20:48,877
they want to party with
the great Jessica,
1281
01:20:48,927 --> 01:20:51,213
the famous Jessica,
come on, come on.
1282
01:20:51,263 --> 01:20:52,056
Let's go.
1283
01:20:52,765 --> 01:20:55,551
You know what, I really want
to spend time with you,
1284
01:20:55,601 --> 01:20:58,679
but I just don't feel
like partying right now.
1285
01:20:58,729 --> 01:21:01,231
Is it okay if you
go ahead please?
1286
01:21:02,524 --> 01:21:04,852
I've been a people
pleaser my whole life.
1287
01:21:04,902 --> 01:21:08,689
I just want to say
no this time, okay?
1288
01:21:08,739 --> 01:21:11,900
It was times like this that
me being highly sensitive,
1289
01:21:11,950 --> 01:21:13,369
so frustrating.
1290
01:21:14,495 --> 01:21:17,197
I just wanted to be understood
1291
01:21:17,247 --> 01:21:19,583
and it felt like no
matter what I said,
1292
01:21:20,459 --> 01:21:23,629
my feelings were still
such a mystery to others.
1293
01:21:31,887 --> 01:21:34,214
I'd like to pass
down something to
1294
01:21:34,264 --> 01:21:37,768
my highly sensitive friends.
1295
01:21:38,644 --> 01:21:41,555
It's okay to want to take time,
1296
01:21:41,605 --> 01:21:45,017
to be alone and I am
definitely having
1297
01:21:45,067 --> 01:21:47,861
the ultimate downtime.
1298
01:21:49,071 --> 01:21:50,030
I should know.
1299
01:21:51,490 --> 01:21:54,827
It's okay to want to
be alone sometimes.
1300
01:22:04,378 --> 01:22:06,580
Guys, look at this
place, come on.
1301
01:22:06,630 --> 01:22:08,999
Palawan. Palawan.
It's so beautiful.
1302
01:22:09,049 --> 01:22:10,375
Awesome.
1303
01:22:10,425 --> 01:22:14,588
And guys, I just want
to thank you for
1304
01:22:14,638 --> 01:22:22,971
welcoming my girlfriend.
1305
01:22:23,021 --> 01:22:24,731
Can I call you my girlfriend?
1306
01:22:26,900 --> 01:22:28,894
I'll think about it.
1307
01:22:28,944 --> 01:22:30,062
Okay.
1308
01:22:30,112 --> 01:22:32,523
Hey guys, can I
take a quick vlog?
1309
01:22:32,573 --> 01:22:35,442
Hey guys we would like to
thank Palawan for being
1310
01:22:35,492 --> 01:22:37,027
our love nest this weekend.
1311
01:22:37,077 --> 01:22:38,028
Thank you Palawan.
1312
01:22:38,078 --> 01:22:40,038
Thank you so much.
1313
01:22:46,461 --> 01:22:47,296
You're in love.
1314
01:22:51,175 --> 01:22:53,419
What do you know about love?
1315
01:22:53,469 --> 01:22:55,470
Why, because you say it?
1316
01:22:56,680 --> 01:23:00,134
My dad didn't say I love
you to my mom, to me.
1317
01:23:00,184 --> 01:23:01,260
You don't need to hear "I love",
1318
01:23:01,310 --> 01:23:01,935
while you think...
1319
01:23:13,947 --> 01:23:16,733
So, it's nice to see
you back Jessica.
1320
01:23:16,783 --> 01:23:19,453
You ran away the other day
like a scared rabbit.
1321
01:23:20,120 --> 01:23:20,996
What happened?
1322
01:23:24,541 --> 01:23:27,661
Okay, so I get it.
1323
01:23:27,711 --> 01:23:31,081
I'm the anxious type and
I cling to men and...
1324
01:23:31,131 --> 01:23:33,175
I think you got it
just about right.
1325
01:23:35,010 --> 01:23:35,844
What do I do?
1326
01:23:37,137 --> 01:23:42,551
You know, oftentimes
highly sensitive people,
1327
01:23:42,601 --> 01:23:45,762
Are thought to be the wrong ones,
1328
01:23:45,812 --> 01:23:48,357
that they're the ones
who need to change,
1329
01:23:49,274 --> 01:23:50,776
because they're not typical.
1330
01:23:51,568 --> 01:23:53,478
So, when they're
in a partnership,
1331
01:23:53,528 --> 01:23:55,272
and with a partner who
puts them down....
1332
01:23:55,322 --> 01:23:58,400
Screw you, you,
you, you are a curse,
1333
01:23:58,450 --> 01:23:59,943
all right, you are bad energy.
1334
01:23:59,993 --> 01:24:02,487
They have no safe place.
1335
01:24:02,537 --> 01:24:05,073
They have to create
one for themselves.
1336
01:24:05,123 --> 01:24:07,284
At least I care about
something more than
1337
01:24:07,334 --> 01:24:08,869
just myself.
1338
01:24:08,919 --> 01:24:13,540
You know what, I tell
sensitive women in
1339
01:24:13,590 --> 01:24:18,095
particular to take
time off from men.
1340
01:24:20,555 --> 01:24:22,341
They need to heal.
1341
01:24:22,391 --> 01:24:26,053
They need to reframe the past.
1342
01:24:26,103 --> 01:24:29,223
Create a lifestyle
that suits them
1343
01:24:29,273 --> 01:24:31,275
and not that of their partners.
1344
01:24:33,527 --> 01:24:36,480
Once you build your own person,
1345
01:24:36,530 --> 01:24:39,900
you'll be surprised with the
good men that you'll start
1346
01:24:39,950 --> 01:24:41,985
attracting and then
you'll start scaring
1347
01:24:42,035 --> 01:24:43,412
away the bad ones.
1348
01:24:46,707 --> 01:24:50,285
What if the good
ones don't want me?
1349
01:24:50,335 --> 01:24:56,049
What if I let the
good one slip away?
1350
01:24:59,469 --> 01:25:05,133
Then, all the more reason
that you have to build
1351
01:25:05,183 --> 01:25:09,229
a life for yourself
that you love.
1352
01:25:11,481 --> 01:25:17,980
Travel, man or no man,
deep friendships,
1353
01:25:18,030 --> 01:25:22,901
you know what I tell my
highly sensitive friends?
1354
01:25:22,951 --> 01:25:24,194
You know what I recommend
1355
01:25:24,244 --> 01:25:27,072
they do? meditation.
1356
01:25:27,122 --> 01:25:29,950
Are you saying I should
take a power nap?
1357
01:25:30,000 --> 01:25:32,244
Well, it's beyond a power nap.
1358
01:25:32,294 --> 01:25:35,080
I like to call it
my daily quiet zone.
1359
01:25:35,130 --> 01:25:38,508
The ultimate downtime sanctuary.
1360
01:25:39,843 --> 01:25:41,470
I do it diligently.
1361
01:25:43,180 --> 01:25:44,056
It's worth a try.
1362
01:25:44,973 --> 01:25:46,975
And maybe through that
you'll see the light.
1363
01:25:47,642 --> 01:25:50,304
My therapist told me
to have downtime,
1364
01:25:50,354 --> 01:25:53,899
quality friendships and
to try to see the light.
1365
01:25:55,984 --> 01:25:58,937
There was one person I
knew who could help me
1366
01:25:58,987 --> 01:26:00,113
with all three.
1367
01:26:00,489 --> 01:26:02,657
And She had just
arrived at Manila.
1368
01:26:03,950 --> 01:26:06,153
So I just went to my
therapist to talk about
1369
01:26:06,203 --> 01:26:07,946
Mark and Palawan.
1370
01:26:07,996 --> 01:26:09,531
It's girl time.
1371
01:26:09,581 --> 01:26:10,449
No boys.
1372
01:26:10,499 --> 01:26:12,743
Lizzie and I are
polar opposites.
1373
01:26:12,793 --> 01:26:15,462
She is not an HSP.
1374
01:26:16,296 --> 01:26:17,664
Smells like Nanna's feet.
1375
01:26:17,714 --> 01:26:19,666
And yet we get along great.
1376
01:26:19,716 --> 01:26:22,794
Also did I mention
that she is amazing
1377
01:26:22,844 --> 01:26:24,179
and hilarious. I'll eat anything.
1378
01:26:25,847 --> 01:26:27,007
What's wrong?
1379
01:26:27,057 --> 01:26:29,551
How did they do
this and display it
1380
01:26:29,601 --> 01:26:32,262
this way it's so inhumane.
1381
01:26:32,312 --> 01:26:34,222
Girl, it's a pig.
1382
01:26:34,272 --> 01:26:36,725
It could very well
pass as my brother
1383
01:26:36,775 --> 01:26:38,018
and I'm over it.
1384
01:26:38,068 --> 01:26:39,353
I'm moving on.
1385
01:26:39,403 --> 01:26:40,320
Let's go.
1386
01:26:52,165 --> 01:26:54,368
I'll be honest, I don't
think I'd be remembering
1387
01:26:54,418 --> 01:26:57,454
anyone's names tonight
except for this guy.
1388
01:26:57,504 --> 01:27:00,957
Oh wow, you might want
to watch it Jess.
1389
01:27:01,007 --> 01:27:04,503
Here she might steal your
little crush from you.
1390
01:27:04,553 --> 01:27:06,630
I heard a lot about you.
1391
01:27:06,680 --> 01:27:07,422
I'm through.
1392
01:27:07,472 --> 01:27:08,632
Don't believe her.
1393
01:27:08,682 --> 01:27:09,724
I didn't think anything.
1394
01:27:10,767 --> 01:27:13,011
I swear I did not say
anything to her.
1395
01:27:13,061 --> 01:27:15,013
Rob, Rob, Rob, don't worry,
1396
01:27:15,063 --> 01:27:16,556
you don't have to be jealous.
1397
01:27:16,606 --> 01:27:17,557
Oh my God.
1398
01:27:17,607 --> 01:27:19,643
I know you've always
had a crush on...
1399
01:27:19,693 --> 01:27:26,108
Oh my God that party was popping.
1400
01:27:26,158 --> 01:27:28,276
I can't believe you
are leaving me.
1401
01:27:28,326 --> 01:27:30,487
I know, we are in a good place.
1402
01:27:30,537 --> 01:27:32,739
I'm so happy for you.
1403
01:27:32,789 --> 01:27:37,411
Can I just remind you
about this smart guy,
1404
01:27:37,461 --> 01:27:39,830
I can see that Mark loves you
1405
01:27:39,880 --> 01:27:44,176
and he's coming from a good
place but guard your heart.
1406
01:27:44,968 --> 01:27:46,803
I don't want to see
you get hurt again.
1407
01:27:48,263 --> 01:27:51,550
And never set your eyes
on that vile, disgusting,
1408
01:27:51,600 --> 01:27:55,554
good for nothing narcissistic
Hollywood playboy,
1409
01:27:55,604 --> 01:27:56,855
Todd.
1410
01:27:59,065 --> 01:28:00,775
I promise to you.
1411
01:28:01,776 --> 01:28:05,105
After posting my vlogs, I
loved reading the comments.
1412
01:28:05,155 --> 01:28:07,399
It was amazing to see that
there was a community of
1413
01:28:07,449 --> 01:28:10,861
people out there who were
like me and understood
1414
01:28:10,911 --> 01:28:12,696
what I was going through.
1415
01:28:12,746 --> 01:28:15,991
I also loved that I could
help in some small way by
1416
01:28:16,041 --> 01:28:17,918
sharing my experience.
1417
01:28:19,419 --> 01:28:23,373
Oh my God, she is
spewing her guts, so emotional.
1418
01:28:23,423 --> 01:28:25,876
I was scrolling through
the comments of my latest
1419
01:28:25,926 --> 01:28:28,595
video when something
serious caught my eye.
1420
01:28:30,430 --> 01:28:34,134
It was Mark and he was
being sarcastic about
1421
01:28:34,184 --> 01:28:35,886
my sensitivity.
1422
01:28:35,936 --> 01:28:39,139
Before my posts, he had asked
me to move in with him
1423
01:28:39,189 --> 01:28:40,974
and I couldn't
answer right away.
1424
01:28:41,024 --> 01:28:42,726
I said, I had to think about it,
1425
01:28:42,776 --> 01:28:45,103
and he seemed to take
that as a rejection.
1426
01:28:45,153 --> 01:28:47,814
It wasn't a no, just not a yes.
1427
01:28:47,864 --> 01:28:50,525
I knew he was upset, but
to take it out like this,
1428
01:28:50,575 --> 01:28:53,862
I mean, he wrote about
our private moments,
1429
01:28:53,912 --> 01:28:56,072
and all the ways I
had let him down.
1430
01:28:56,122 --> 01:28:57,824
Why would he do that to me?
1431
01:28:57,874 --> 01:29:01,870
He knew that I had limits
and he was now using them
1432
01:29:01,920 --> 01:29:03,213
against me.
1433
01:29:10,095 --> 01:29:13,715
If you are mad or hurt,
that I turned you down
1434
01:29:13,765 --> 01:29:16,343
then you should have
just said it to my face.
1435
01:29:16,393 --> 01:29:19,221
It's not fair for you to
make unilateral decisions
1436
01:29:19,271 --> 01:29:22,474
about us, although it was
sweet, and just expect me
1437
01:29:22,524 --> 01:29:24,943
to answer right then and there.
1438
01:29:27,404 --> 01:29:28,939
It's simple for me.
1439
01:29:28,989 --> 01:29:31,024
Why do you have to make
things complicated?
1440
01:29:31,074 --> 01:29:32,158
Simple to you?
1441
01:29:34,411 --> 01:29:36,238
My home is in San Francisco,
1442
01:29:36,288 --> 01:29:38,740
my family, my friends,
my father lives there.
1443
01:29:38,790 --> 01:29:40,292
And now I have Mila.
1444
01:29:40,875 --> 01:29:42,577
Okay, then we can
make them move here.
1445
01:29:42,627 --> 01:29:43,370
You know, you're a writer.
1446
01:29:43,420 --> 01:29:45,664
You can write anywhere, you
can make friends anywhere.
1447
01:29:45,714 --> 01:29:47,382
I can't move because of my work.
1448
01:29:49,342 --> 01:29:51,086
Okay, it might be a
bit complicated,
1449
01:29:51,136 --> 01:29:53,421
but how will I know what
you're even thinking?
1450
01:29:53,471 --> 01:29:55,090
You know if I don't ask
you don't tell me.
1451
01:29:55,140 --> 01:29:57,384
For someone who writes so much,
1452
01:29:57,434 --> 01:30:00,470
you have a real problem
expressing yourself in person.
1453
01:30:00,520 --> 01:30:02,272
Are you kidding me?
1454
01:30:04,065 --> 01:30:06,434
Isn't it obvious how
hard this decision
1455
01:30:06,484 --> 01:30:07,444
is for me to make?
1456
01:30:08,778 --> 01:30:11,064
Do I have to spell
it out for you?
1457
01:30:11,114 --> 01:30:13,325
You either spit it out
or you just shut down.
1458
01:30:14,743 --> 01:30:17,195
I told you this is who I am.
1459
01:30:17,245 --> 01:30:18,196
Yeah and that's another thing,
1460
01:30:18,246 --> 01:30:19,781
but maybe I shouldn't
even be saying this,
1461
01:30:19,831 --> 01:30:22,367
but I just feel like this
whole highly sensitive
1462
01:30:22,417 --> 01:30:23,827
thing is just a crutch for you.
1463
01:30:23,877 --> 01:30:25,912
You use it as an
excuse like a family
1464
01:30:25,962 --> 01:30:27,088
emergency at work.
1465
01:30:27,881 --> 01:30:30,133
Maybe you don't understand me.
1466
01:30:31,384 --> 01:30:33,461
Maybe you were just
trying to get me to bed.
1467
01:30:33,511 --> 01:30:36,882
What, are you even feeling
yourself right now,
1468
01:30:36,932 --> 01:30:39,342
just be rational, you
are being neurotic,
1469
01:30:39,392 --> 01:30:41,803
you are making the
butterflies nervous.
1470
01:30:41,853 --> 01:30:43,513
You know what, for
someone who claims to be
1471
01:30:43,563 --> 01:30:47,309
such a good listener, you
don't hear me at all.
1472
01:30:47,359 --> 01:30:50,145
You know what, I think you're
stubborn and you're a...
1473
01:30:50,195 --> 01:30:51,521
A what?
1474
01:30:51,571 --> 01:30:53,023
Nevermind.
1475
01:30:53,073 --> 01:30:54,074
Go ahead.
1476
01:30:56,076 --> 01:30:57,160
Just say it.
1477
01:31:01,247 --> 01:31:03,500
Whiner, you are a highly
sensitive whiner.
1478
01:31:17,305 --> 01:31:19,633
Is that what you think of me?
1479
01:31:19,683 --> 01:31:21,476
That's what you
really think of me?
1480
01:31:24,479 --> 01:31:25,355
I can't believe you.
1481
01:31:27,315 --> 01:31:28,892
Sometimes you think you know
1482
01:31:28,942 --> 01:31:32,437
how badly someone can
hurt you and yet,
1483
01:31:32,487 --> 01:31:35,156
it always managed
to surprise me.
1484
01:31:36,700 --> 01:31:41,112
Jesse, what's wrong?
1485
01:31:41,162 --> 01:31:42,747
What happened?
1486
01:31:44,124 --> 01:31:48,036
It made all the difference
that Gina understood.
1487
01:31:48,086 --> 01:31:53,124
I cried my heart out. But
some place deep inside,
1488
01:31:53,174 --> 01:31:54,209
I also got it.
1489
01:31:54,259 --> 01:31:56,670
I think Mark and I broke up.
1490
01:31:56,720 --> 01:31:58,763
Ah listen,
1491
01:32:03,351 --> 01:32:05,136
the most important
thing is to get past
1492
01:32:05,186 --> 01:32:07,230
those knee jerk reactions.
1493
01:32:07,897 --> 01:32:11,810
And listen, always take
the other person's
1494
01:32:11,860 --> 01:32:13,820
perspective into consideration.
1495
01:32:17,824 --> 01:32:18,533
Are you okay?
1496
01:32:19,242 --> 01:32:20,944
Yeah.
1497
01:32:20,994 --> 01:32:23,697
I needed someone like her
when I was growing up not
1498
01:32:23,747 --> 01:32:26,825
what I got and not
what I'm getting now.
1499
01:32:26,875 --> 01:32:27,575
Are you okay?
1500
01:32:27,625 --> 01:32:28,868
I gotta run, I am so sorry.
1501
01:32:28,918 --> 01:32:29,327
Thank you.
1502
01:32:29,377 --> 01:32:31,538
No -- no, I am fine,
thank you so much for
1503
01:32:31,588 --> 01:32:33,039
taking the time.
1504
01:32:33,089 --> 01:32:33,623
No problem.
1505
01:32:33,673 --> 01:32:35,542
It was almost fate
that I met her
1506
01:32:35,592 --> 01:32:37,218
and Mark at the same time.
1507
01:33:03,828 --> 01:33:04,863
Baby, Baby, it's gonna be okay.
1508
01:33:04,913 --> 01:33:07,248
Okay so sir, can you
please stay there, sir?
1509
01:33:14,172 --> 01:33:15,632
When did the pain start ma'am?
1510
01:33:17,842 --> 01:33:19,419
can we just
check, ma'am ....
1511
01:33:19,469 --> 01:33:21,588
just check ma'am.
1512
01:33:21,638 --> 01:33:22,764
Oh,....
1513
01:33:24,390 --> 01:33:26,384
Doctor, please help her,
she is in a lot of pain.
1514
01:33:26,434 --> 01:33:27,552
We are calling the security.
1515
01:33:27,602 --> 01:33:28,762
You are just not helping us
1516
01:33:28,812 --> 01:33:29,679
can you please stay outside?
1517
01:33:29,729 --> 01:33:30,513
I am not going anywhere.
1518
01:33:30,563 --> 01:33:31,598
I'm not leaving my wife.
1519
01:33:31,648 --> 01:33:34,642
Stay outside please sir,
we will do everything.
1520
01:33:34,692 --> 01:33:37,395
Baby, baby, I am going
to be outside, okay?
1521
01:33:37,445 --> 01:33:38,730
Baby.
1522
01:33:38,780 --> 01:33:42,066
Rob, no, no, no.
1523
01:33:42,116 --> 01:33:43,860
Ah ah ah.
1524
01:33:43,910 --> 01:33:44,994
Check the vital signs.
1525
01:33:49,165 --> 01:33:51,201
Nurse, do the
internal examination.
1526
01:33:51,251 --> 01:33:51,951
Okay.
1527
01:33:52,001 --> 01:33:54,212
Ma'am we will do the
internal examination,
1528
01:33:56,548 --> 01:33:57,799
just check ma'am.
1529
01:33:58,675 --> 01:34:01,886
No, no, no, ...God.
1530
01:34:11,479 --> 01:34:12,647
Ah, ah.
1531
01:34:22,699 --> 01:34:23,867
What happened?
1532
01:34:24,325 --> 01:34:25,785
What happened?
1533
01:34:32,125 --> 01:34:35,703
I told Robbie that
everything would be okay,
1534
01:34:35,753 --> 01:34:37,330
that Maria was strong,
1535
01:34:37,380 --> 01:34:39,174
that she would get through this.
1536
01:34:40,091 --> 01:34:43,419
The truth is that I wasn't sure,
1537
01:34:43,469 --> 01:34:46,180
but we both needed to hear
and believe that now.
1538
01:34:56,941 --> 01:34:58,234
Sir Robbie,
1539
01:34:59,652 --> 01:35:01,279
Maria will be fine.
1540
01:35:02,030 --> 01:35:04,232
You can see her
in a few minutes,
1541
01:35:04,282 --> 01:35:06,401
and I am sure you
have realize she had
1542
01:35:06,451 --> 01:35:09,329
a miscarriage and lost the baby.
1543
01:35:10,121 --> 01:35:11,789
It's a natural thing.
1544
01:35:12,832 --> 01:35:14,459
Don't worry, it will be okay.
1545
01:35:23,551 --> 01:35:35,396
I am so sorry, I am so sorry,
1546
01:35:36,814 --> 01:35:38,107
I am so sorry.
1547
01:35:51,746 --> 01:35:53,656
It was deep and profound sadness
1548
01:35:53,706 --> 01:35:56,242
unlike anything I
had ever known.
1549
01:35:56,292 --> 01:35:58,912
Robbie had felt this pain
before when our mother died
1550
01:35:58,962 --> 01:36:01,623
trying to give us
a sibling at 43,
1551
01:36:01,673 --> 01:36:02,882
feeling it again.
1552
01:36:27,824 --> 01:36:28,524
Hello.
1553
01:36:28,574 --> 01:36:29,492
Dad.
1554
01:36:31,202 --> 01:36:33,988
Jessica, everything okay?
1555
01:36:34,038 --> 01:36:35,581
No, it's not okay.
1556
01:36:36,833 --> 01:36:43,206
Maria, Maria lost the baby
and Robbie is going insane
1557
01:36:43,256 --> 01:36:46,584
I just wanted to
make you guys closer,
1558
01:36:46,634 --> 01:36:52,432
closer to each other,
I need your help.
1559
01:36:54,976 --> 01:36:56,853
I can't do this alone.
1560
01:37:05,653 --> 01:37:06,612
Dad.
1561
01:37:08,322 --> 01:37:10,700
Yeah, Jessica I am still here.
1562
01:37:15,747 --> 01:37:17,457
No, you are not here.
1563
01:37:19,167 --> 01:37:20,793
You are not here.
1564
01:38:31,656 --> 01:38:33,441
Do you realize what
happened after four months,
1565
01:38:33,491 --> 01:38:35,777
that's what we get, "that happens",
1566
01:38:35,827 --> 01:38:37,370
four fucking months.
1567
01:38:38,996 --> 01:38:40,406
Stop yelling please.
1568
01:38:40,456 --> 01:38:41,407
Okay, we can talk about this,
1569
01:38:41,457 --> 01:38:42,825
you don't need to start
packing right now.
1570
01:38:42,875 --> 01:38:43,835
Come on.
1571
01:38:44,710 --> 01:38:46,329
Everything they said,
1572
01:38:46,379 --> 01:38:48,081
everything that they wanted
us to do, the doctors,
1573
01:38:48,131 --> 01:38:49,874
everything that they
told us we did it.
1574
01:38:49,924 --> 01:38:50,541
We did it, yes.
1575
01:38:50,591 --> 01:38:51,626
You took care of yourself.
1576
01:38:51,676 --> 01:38:52,585
I did.
1577
01:38:52,635 --> 01:38:54,545
Everything that you were
supposed to do, you did.
1578
01:38:54,595 --> 01:38:56,005
Did it, Rob calm down.
1579
01:38:56,055 --> 01:38:57,715
Please just be quiet
for two seconds.
1580
01:38:57,765 --> 01:38:58,599
Okay.
1581
01:39:01,644 --> 01:39:02,678
Alright, no of course,
1582
01:39:02,728 --> 01:39:04,814
we didn't do anything
wrong, Rob.
1583
01:39:05,731 --> 01:39:06,432
We just ....
1584
01:39:06,482 --> 01:39:07,975
Four months, the four months,
1585
01:39:08,025 --> 01:39:09,360
that's what's gonna happen.
1586
01:39:16,409 --> 01:39:19,112
Losing a baby is always
going to be hard.
1587
01:39:19,162 --> 01:39:21,072
Even at the hands of
really natural causes,
1588
01:39:21,122 --> 01:39:22,323
even at this stage of growth,
1589
01:39:22,373 --> 01:39:24,659
it's still pretty common,
1590
01:39:24,709 --> 01:39:27,745
but maybe our grief for our
little guy has been enough.
1591
01:39:27,795 --> 01:39:28,796
Don't you get it?
1592
01:39:29,130 --> 01:39:29,789
Don't you get it?
1593
01:39:29,839 --> 01:39:31,541
You've -- you've always
wanted a family,
1594
01:39:31,591 --> 01:39:33,543
but I'm not the one who
could do that for you.
1595
01:39:33,593 --> 01:39:35,503
I tried and I couldn't do it,
1596
01:39:35,553 --> 01:39:37,305
no and I'm not going
through that again.
1597
01:39:38,973 --> 01:39:40,675
Please help her, she
is in a lot of pain.
1598
01:39:40,725 --> 01:39:42,510
I am not going anywhere, I
am not leaving my wife.
1599
01:39:42,560 --> 01:39:44,178
Rob, Rob, come on, please.
1600
01:39:44,228 --> 01:39:46,973
Stop, stop, stop, stop stop
stop please stop packing.
1601
01:39:47,023 --> 01:39:47,640
What are you doing?
1602
01:39:47,690 --> 01:39:48,266
I love you, I love you.
1603
01:39:48,316 --> 01:39:49,225
I love you too.
1604
01:39:49,275 --> 01:39:50,393
So ..
1605
01:39:50,443 --> 01:39:51,978
I want you to find someone
1606
01:39:52,028 --> 01:39:54,230
who's gonna give you
everything you deserve.
1607
01:39:54,280 --> 01:39:55,273
I found you, I want you Rob.
1608
01:39:55,323 --> 01:39:57,608
Hey listen, I am
not good enough.
1609
01:39:57,658 --> 01:39:58,818
I'm not good enough.
1610
01:39:58,868 --> 01:39:59,986
I can't do it.
1611
01:40:00,036 --> 01:40:01,237
I couldn't do it.
1612
01:40:01,287 --> 01:40:03,781
Rob, Rob, and I tried
and I couldn't do it.
1613
01:40:03,831 --> 01:40:04,991
Rob, just please calm down.
1614
01:40:05,041 --> 01:40:05,992
Okay, we can talk about this.
1615
01:40:06,042 --> 01:40:08,995
Okay, just give us two -- two
seconds to talk about this.
1616
01:40:09,045 --> 01:40:10,329
Please.
1617
01:40:10,379 --> 01:40:11,422
Can you just,
1618
01:40:15,468 --> 01:40:17,795
okay, okay.
1619
01:40:17,845 --> 01:40:21,140
Look Rob, we can try this again.
1620
01:40:22,975 --> 01:40:24,802
Something happened to me
1621
01:40:24,852 --> 01:40:26,888
watching you go
through that inside,
1622
01:40:26,938 --> 01:40:27,847
something that happened
1623
01:40:27,897 --> 01:40:29,849
and I'm not gonna let myself
go through that again.
1624
01:40:29,899 --> 01:40:31,350
I don't want you to go
through that again.
1625
01:40:31,400 --> 01:40:33,444
You! everything is you.
1626
01:40:35,363 --> 01:40:37,114
What do you think
happened to me?
1627
01:40:37,573 --> 01:40:39,650
Rob please. Nope, just nope.
1628
01:40:39,700 --> 01:40:42,904
Can you just, look at me
for two seconds please,
1629
01:40:42,954 --> 01:40:44,405
the things that I
have to go through,
1630
01:40:44,455 --> 01:40:46,157
the things that I
put up with it.
1631
01:40:46,207 --> 01:40:50,536
Everything just to make
sure that you were okay.
1632
01:40:50,586 --> 01:40:54,290
And I was not okay, and
I did that for you,
1633
01:40:54,340 --> 01:40:56,008
so please do this for me.
1634
01:41:10,940 --> 01:41:12,149
You don't have to go.
1635
01:41:20,533 --> 01:41:21,575
Rob...
1636
01:41:44,724 --> 01:41:45,725
I left Maria.
1637
01:41:55,735 --> 01:41:58,779
And just like that,
he was gone.
1638
01:42:00,823 --> 01:42:02,700
I feel paralyzed.
1639
01:42:03,075 --> 01:42:06,445
The worst part is that
I understand him,
1640
01:42:06,495 --> 01:42:08,781
I would need to run away too,
1641
01:42:08,831 --> 01:42:11,200
every time you look at her face,
1642
01:42:11,250 --> 01:42:15,629
you feel her pain and
feel responsible.
1643
01:42:25,222 --> 01:42:27,008
What would Gina say?
1644
01:42:27,058 --> 01:42:29,894
She would call it dissociation.
1645
01:42:30,728 --> 01:42:33,022
He locked away the
terrible trauma.
1646
01:42:34,190 --> 01:42:37,351
Then he saw Maria at the
hospital in horrible pain
1647
01:42:37,401 --> 01:42:40,279
and unborn child and
he had to run from it.
1648
01:42:41,489 --> 01:42:44,775
Shut it away too, he
couldn't connect the dots,
1649
01:42:44,825 --> 01:42:48,779
see the link, but
I can get him to.
1650
01:42:48,829 --> 01:42:50,448
I can do it.
1651
01:42:50,498 --> 01:42:52,583
Tell me everything
about our mother.
1652
01:42:55,503 --> 01:42:59,540
There are so many different
kinds of love in the world.
1653
01:42:59,590 --> 01:43:02,593
And while we talk a lot
about romantic love,
1654
01:43:03,511 --> 01:43:06,722
I want to focus on something
that doesn't get us much play
1655
01:43:07,681 --> 01:43:09,433
and that sibling love.
1656
01:43:12,061 --> 01:43:15,306
My brother never had a
choice on having me
1657
01:43:15,356 --> 01:43:16,691
as his little sister,
1658
01:43:20,569 --> 01:43:23,989
but he loved me and
loves me just the same.
1659
01:43:26,450 --> 01:43:28,536
We don't even need
to talk about it
1660
01:43:30,329 --> 01:43:32,832
and we barely touch
the mushy stuff.
1661
01:43:35,209 --> 01:43:41,841
But it's there's and
that's real love.
1662
01:44:51,952 --> 01:44:55,281
There is so much that
happened this last week
1663
01:44:55,331 --> 01:44:57,708
between the hospital
and my brother,
1664
01:44:58,459 --> 01:45:00,044
Robbie's grief,
1665
01:45:01,003 --> 01:45:04,298
meanwhile, no sign of Mark.
1666
01:45:05,299 --> 01:45:08,586
I'm not sure how I
feel about that.
1667
01:45:08,636 --> 01:45:10,337
I'm so tired.
1668
01:45:10,387 --> 01:45:11,889
I'm exhausted.
1669
01:45:13,098 --> 01:45:15,593
Robbie and Maria are better.
1670
01:45:15,643 --> 01:45:18,512
And believe it or not, I helped.
1671
01:45:18,562 --> 01:45:20,681
Sometimes we take
that for granted
1672
01:45:20,731 --> 01:45:25,186
our own inner strength. Our
highly sensitive depth.
1673
01:45:25,236 --> 01:45:28,439
And how that can just
show up when we need it.
1674
01:45:28,489 --> 01:45:30,691
And we can also take for granted
1675
01:45:30,741 --> 01:45:32,785
just someone being around.
1676
01:45:33,953 --> 01:45:36,322
This is my advice to you,
1677
01:45:36,372 --> 01:45:39,408
whatever you hold valuable
1678
01:45:39,458 --> 01:45:41,460
don't ever take it for granted.
1679
01:45:46,257 --> 01:45:47,458
Jess, is that you?
1680
01:45:47,508 --> 01:45:48,634
Yeah, I got it.
1681
01:45:52,471 --> 01:45:53,347
Is Robbie Home?
1682
01:45:54,932 --> 01:45:55,891
Dad.
1683
01:45:57,101 --> 01:45:59,520
Don't worry about Mila,
she's in safe hands.
1684
01:46:02,523 --> 01:46:04,108
I'm sorry. Come in.
1685
01:46:04,692 --> 01:46:06,235
Hey Jess, who is it?
1686
01:46:20,749 --> 01:46:21,875
Can we talk?
1687
01:46:24,128 --> 01:46:25,504
Yeah.
1688
01:46:55,326 --> 01:46:59,371
I'm sorry Rob about
all those years.
1689
01:47:00,289 --> 01:47:02,992
I appreciate you invited
us to your graduation,
1690
01:47:03,042 --> 01:47:04,743
your wedding.
1691
01:47:04,793 --> 01:47:07,171
Maria, she's a wonderful woman,
1692
01:47:08,255 --> 01:47:12,176
but all those bits before that,
1693
01:47:14,470 --> 01:47:16,263
just so sorry.
1694
01:47:21,101 --> 01:47:24,763
I mean, I guess I could
have tried to understand
1695
01:47:24,813 --> 01:47:27,566
what you were going
through after mom died.
1696
01:47:28,525 --> 01:47:29,902
You mean marrying Sarah?
1697
01:47:31,320 --> 01:47:33,439
We were never crazy
in love meaning
1698
01:47:33,489 --> 01:47:37,234
how could I be, not after
your mom died, you know,
1699
01:47:37,284 --> 01:47:39,069
and I tried to warn Sarah.
1700
01:47:39,119 --> 01:47:42,206
I knew I'd have to throw
myself into my work to try to
1701
01:47:43,457 --> 01:47:50,289
stop the sorrow. Stop
it or avoid it? Yeah,
1702
01:47:50,339 --> 01:47:52,049
and that was another
mistake I made.
1703
01:47:52,758 --> 01:47:53,676
Yeah, I heard.
1704
01:47:55,010 --> 01:47:58,305
The whole avoiding thing,
I'm not doing any better.
1705
01:47:59,348 --> 01:48:00,891
I even got labeled avoidant.
1706
01:48:02,893 --> 01:48:06,522
You know, whenever I
looked at you or Jessica,
1707
01:48:07,356 --> 01:48:08,315
I'd see your mother.
1708
01:48:10,484 --> 01:48:12,778
We are both like her
in so many more ways.
1709
01:48:14,530 --> 01:48:19,818
You know, I thought I wanted
a different kind of son
1710
01:48:19,868 --> 01:48:21,662
and you grew up knowing that.
1711
01:48:22,454 --> 01:48:26,291
I didn't try to hide that,
I wanted to change you,
1712
01:48:28,001 --> 01:48:31,046
I wanted to wipe away
that sensitivity.
1713
01:48:32,005 --> 01:48:34,333
I didn't like it
when you were weak,
1714
01:48:34,383 --> 01:48:35,467
when you were shy.
1715
01:48:36,927 --> 01:48:38,420
You were like
my project
1716
01:48:38,470 --> 01:48:39,596
when your mom was alive.
1717
01:48:40,514 --> 01:48:43,592
I wanted to toughen you
up and make you into a man
1718
01:48:43,642 --> 01:48:45,352
I thought that would be
really good for you.
1719
01:48:47,938 --> 01:48:50,315
You know, what hurts me now,
1720
01:48:53,152 --> 01:48:54,561
I used to think there was
something the matter
1721
01:48:54,611 --> 01:48:57,648
with you, but now -- now I
think there's something
1722
01:48:57,698 --> 01:48:58,741
the matter with me.
1723
01:49:00,033 --> 01:49:03,070
I just don't understand all
that sensitivity thing.
1724
01:49:03,120 --> 01:49:06,248
I wasn't born with
it so I never can.
1725
01:49:09,043 --> 01:49:10,661
I guess that's what I
deserve, you know,
1726
01:49:10,711 --> 01:49:15,799
for making you suffer
all those years.
1727
01:49:20,345 --> 01:49:23,924
There's no shame in
just being the person
1728
01:49:23,974 --> 01:49:25,392
you are born to be.
1729
01:49:26,727 --> 01:49:29,763
You can have differences and
still be equally as good.
1730
01:49:29,813 --> 01:49:33,225
I think sometimes having
differences can even help
1731
01:49:33,275 --> 01:49:34,902
and that's what I
learned from Maria.
1732
01:49:38,614 --> 01:49:40,032
I'm really glad you're here.
1733
01:49:42,367 --> 01:49:43,577
I need your family.
1734
01:49:46,288 --> 01:49:47,498
My family needs you.
1735
01:49:55,464 --> 01:49:56,298
I love you, dad.
1736
01:50:10,771 --> 01:50:12,890
I'm gonna start to bug you
about a lot of things.
1737
01:50:12,940 --> 01:50:13,724
Yeah.
1738
01:50:13,774 --> 01:50:18,028
And the first one, I'm going
to start with the smoking.
1739
01:50:20,948 --> 01:50:23,066
Robbie, I might even give
up drinking, you know.
1740
01:50:23,116 --> 01:50:26,078
Oh wow, you
really mean this, don't you.
1741
01:50:37,422 --> 01:50:41,009
I love you and there is
nothing you can do about it.
1742
01:51:01,738 --> 01:51:06,235
Hey, promise me something,
you'll engage the brain
1743
01:51:06,285 --> 01:51:10,906
before putting your mouth
into gear, especially
1744
01:51:10,956 --> 01:51:12,249
when it goes to men.
1745
01:51:14,001 --> 01:51:14,710
I love you.
1746
01:51:17,379 --> 01:51:19,206
Okay my turn now.
1747
01:51:19,256 --> 01:51:20,340
Maria.
1748
01:51:25,762 --> 01:51:29,383
You know that family means
everything to me huh,
1749
01:51:29,433 --> 01:51:31,510
and the fact that you were
able to bring Robbie here
1750
01:51:31,560 --> 01:51:32,644
with his dad.
1751
01:51:33,562 --> 01:51:35,689
It means everything to me.
1752
01:51:37,024 --> 01:51:38,317
Take care Jessica.
1753
01:51:39,943 --> 01:51:42,396
You know what's funny
is you came to
1754
01:51:42,446 --> 01:51:45,357
the Philippines to find
healing for yourself,
1755
01:51:45,407 --> 01:51:48,535
but really, you just healed us.
1756
01:51:53,081 --> 01:51:55,367
Come on, come on, squeeze it,
1757
01:51:55,417 --> 01:51:57,211
squeeze it tight.
1758
01:52:00,672 --> 01:52:02,749
Hey, what's up Mark?
1759
01:52:02,799 --> 01:52:03,467
Hey Rob.
1760
01:52:09,181 --> 01:52:12,676
Hey man, I'm sorry, I couldn't
be there for you guys.
1761
01:52:12,726 --> 01:52:13,969
I'm sorry. You are
always there, man.
1762
01:52:14,019 --> 01:52:15,137
I appreciate that.
Thank you, man.
1763
01:52:15,187 --> 01:52:15,938
I appreciate.
1764
01:52:22,653 --> 01:52:24,396
Oh, I'm sorry, dad.
1765
01:52:24,446 --> 01:52:26,732
This is my friend Mark.
1766
01:52:26,782 --> 01:52:28,233
Mark, my dad.
1767
01:52:28,283 --> 01:52:29,359
Hey Mark.
1768
01:52:29,409 --> 01:52:30,444
It's good to meet you.
1769
01:52:30,494 --> 01:52:31,486
Hoped, it would?
1770
01:52:31,536 --> 01:52:32,079
Really.
1771
01:52:33,956 --> 01:52:35,916
Nice to meet you sir. Yes, I do.
1772
01:52:36,792 --> 01:52:39,745
So dad, coffee on you.
1773
01:52:39,795 --> 01:52:40,579
On me?
1774
01:52:40,629 --> 01:52:41,872
Coffee, I would
love some coffee.
1775
01:52:41,922 --> 01:52:44,333
Alright I don't mean I think.
1776
01:52:44,383 --> 01:52:45,550
Love you guys.
1777
01:52:54,726 --> 01:52:59,056
So, I am sorry we had that
fight and I just thought
1778
01:52:59,106 --> 01:53:00,857
I'd be the last person
you want to see.
1779
01:53:04,361 --> 01:53:07,522
You're definitely the last
person I'd expected to see,
1780
01:53:07,572 --> 01:53:11,985
but I'm happy.
1781
01:53:12,035 --> 01:53:14,321
I am happy, I saw
you before I left.
1782
01:53:14,371 --> 01:53:18,041
Can you remember when you
asked me back in Palawan,
1783
01:53:18,959 --> 01:53:21,795
when we did 36 Questions,
1784
01:53:24,214 --> 01:53:28,468
the thing that I would regret
most, not telling someone.
1785
01:53:30,470 --> 01:53:34,016
I remember, but you
-- you never told us.
1786
01:53:38,145 --> 01:53:39,229
I love you.
1787
01:53:54,745 --> 01:53:56,571
I have something for you.
1788
01:53:56,621 --> 01:53:59,074
I usually don't get
my Hollywood ending,
1789
01:53:59,124 --> 01:54:01,285
where the guy runs to the
airport with flowers to
1790
01:54:01,335 --> 01:54:05,122
confess his love for
me, but for once,
1791
01:54:05,172 --> 01:54:07,466
I'm not going to think
I don't deserve it.
1792
01:54:07,966 --> 01:54:10,335
I'm not sure how I
feel about Mark
1793
01:54:10,385 --> 01:54:12,004
or if we could
ever make it work,
1794
01:54:12,054 --> 01:54:15,132
but I'm really happy that we
shared our time together.
1795
01:54:15,182 --> 01:54:17,050
I'm heading back
to San Francisco
1796
01:54:17,100 --> 01:54:18,602
with the new outlook.
1797
01:54:30,322 --> 01:54:32,449
I missed you a lot.
1798
01:54:38,288 --> 01:54:40,907
Baby Mila, Mila.
1799
01:54:40,957 --> 01:54:43,827
Hi baby,
1800
01:54:43,877 --> 01:54:45,537
you look so pretty.
1801
01:54:45,587 --> 01:54:47,873
You look so pretty.
1802
01:54:47,923 --> 01:54:50,383
Come here, what's this?
1803
01:54:53,095 --> 01:54:55,839
Thank your dad for letting
me take care of Mila
1804
01:54:55,889 --> 01:54:59,101
that was a treat,
better than therapy.
1805
01:54:59,810 --> 01:55:02,854
I thought you would love to
see her welcoming you home.
1806
01:55:03,730 --> 01:55:06,900
Definitely, I love
you, I missed you.
1807
01:55:20,122 --> 01:55:20,614
Hi guys.
1808
01:55:20,664 --> 01:55:22,949
So, I'm back home in my house.
1809
01:55:22,999 --> 01:55:25,702
I can't believe this all
started with an accidental
1810
01:55:25,752 --> 01:55:29,414
vlog post and now this
is an intentional
1811
01:55:29,464 --> 01:55:33,752
sending of love to all
my sensitive friends.
1812
01:55:33,802 --> 01:55:36,088
I had the opportunity
to get to know myself
1813
01:55:36,138 --> 01:55:38,924
and love myself more
and I hope you guys
1814
01:55:38,974 --> 01:55:41,259
all share this with me
1815
01:55:41,309 --> 01:55:43,929
and have your own
experience of that growth
1816
01:55:43,979 --> 01:55:47,307
and acceptance that love for you
1817
01:55:47,357 --> 01:55:49,768
and your sensitivity as a whole.
1818
01:55:49,818 --> 01:55:54,356
And I just want to give a
special shout out to Mark;
1819
01:55:54,406 --> 01:55:56,733
I want you to know that
I'm thinking of you
1820
01:55:56,783 --> 01:55:59,286
and never say never.
1821
01:56:04,416 --> 01:56:05,041
Come in.
1822
01:56:08,503 --> 01:56:10,288
May I come in?
1823
01:56:10,338 --> 01:56:12,958
Hi.
1824
01:56:13,008 --> 01:56:13,717
Hi,
1825
01:56:20,849 --> 01:56:23,593
what -- what are you doing here?
1826
01:56:23,643 --> 01:56:25,137
I thought you were in LA?
1827
01:56:25,187 --> 01:56:25,770
Yeah.
1828
01:56:26,605 --> 01:56:30,275
Just for the weekend,
visiting friends.
1829
01:56:31,234 --> 01:56:33,311
It's actually the first
time I've been back,
1830
01:56:33,361 --> 01:56:35,147
I have been so busy
with the new job
1831
01:56:35,197 --> 01:56:37,282
and then finally get
to be the boss.
1832
01:56:38,033 --> 01:56:39,492
Wow, that's great.
1833
01:56:40,744 --> 01:56:42,746
I'm -- I'm happy for you.
1834
01:56:46,291 --> 01:56:48,326
I think about you all the time.
1835
01:56:48,376 --> 01:56:49,995
I mean, I'm sorry
about what happened,
1836
01:56:50,045 --> 01:56:53,456
but -- Todd -- hold on,
1837
01:56:53,506 --> 01:56:57,961
I still love you and I
think you still love me.
1838
01:56:58,011 --> 01:57:00,630
I mean yeah, I know
about the other guy.
1839
01:57:00,680 --> 01:57:02,507
All right, but he's
-- he's there,
1840
01:57:02,557 --> 01:57:06,011
and I'm here and I know you,
1841
01:57:06,061 --> 01:57:07,971
don't deny that.
1842
01:57:08,021 --> 01:57:10,649
I've known you
longer and better.
1843
01:57:12,400 --> 01:57:14,144
I mean, I know we fall apart,
1844
01:57:14,194 --> 01:57:16,855
but we've always
come back together,
1845
01:57:16,905 --> 01:57:17,614
haven't we?
1846
01:57:19,866 --> 01:57:23,787
Jess, can you ever forgive me?
1847
01:57:25,330 --> 01:57:27,574
Of course, I can.
1848
01:57:27,624 --> 01:57:30,494
Todd, you know, when
I first met you I,
1849
01:57:30,544 --> 01:57:34,706
I needed someone to take
care of and needed someone
1850
01:57:34,756 --> 01:57:39,628
to take care of me also,
and I thought that
1851
01:57:39,678 --> 01:57:41,546
that was all I deserved.
1852
01:57:41,596 --> 01:57:44,591
Even if you thought
that I needed fixing
1853
01:57:44,641 --> 01:57:46,851
and I was defective.
1854
01:57:48,144 --> 01:57:50,138
You're gonna hold
that against me?
1855
01:57:50,188 --> 01:57:51,640
No, not at all.
1856
01:57:51,690 --> 01:57:53,066
I mean, I let it go.
1857
01:57:54,359 --> 01:57:56,436
I just want to be
a new person now.
1858
01:57:56,486 --> 01:57:59,564
Right, oh, same, you know,
1859
01:57:59,614 --> 01:58:00,949
we can have a new start.
1860
01:58:04,202 --> 01:58:06,746
Yes, but not together.
1861
01:58:11,459 --> 01:58:12,127
Excuse me.
1862
01:58:13,586 --> 01:58:16,039
Todd, I don't need
fixing anymore
1863
01:58:16,089 --> 01:58:20,135
and you don't need to fix
me because I'm not broke.
1864
01:58:20,969 --> 01:58:25,348
You know, I thought before that
my sensitivity was a curse,
1865
01:58:26,558 --> 01:58:31,354
but now I know it's a gift
and I understand that now
1866
01:58:32,314 --> 01:58:34,190
and now I know who I am.
1867
01:58:36,067 --> 01:58:39,696
I am so sorry; you came all
the way here to hear this.
1868
01:58:41,448 --> 01:58:44,234
I hope that maybe we
can still be friends
1869
01:58:44,284 --> 01:58:46,536
and still get along, Todd.
1870
01:59:01,199 --> 01:59:06,199
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