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[Andi] Previously on "90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way."

This is the surprise for you.

[turkey gobbles]

Hold it.

Um, what exactly am I supposed to do with this thing?

You are going to kill it and give it to your wife.

[Niles] I'm not gonna be the only one on the proverbial chopping

block once I break the news to Matilda that I'm staying here.

From the start of our relationship, I said,

"I'm gonna marry a man who provides.

If not, I'm gonna be single." -[Jonathan] Mm-hmm.

I don't wanna break up.

[Ally] I can't deal with this [bleep].

Like, my love for you is not unconditional.

[Jonathan] Yeah.

[speaking French]

You have to take, like, some etiquette class.

[Zuri] Oh, I don't care what class I have to take.

I'm not gonna spend the rest of my life

being like the dumb American.

[both speaking French]

-Oh, she understands. -Very nice.

If you want all of this social status, go be with

an Italian girl.

Shut the [bleep] up.

Last night was tough to fight with someone you really

care about. -[Vittorio] Jessy, I'm sorry.

"Kissing you is like landing on cotton candy, and being

with you is having arrived to Paradise."

The way you spoke to me last night is not going to be

resolved with a poem on a napkin.

I just hope that things get better.

[speaking Italian]

[Andi] Is it weird for you?

Running into some of my past lovers?

I feel like you are kind of like building these little mini

relationships with these women.

I was thinking maybe we could

be monogamous for right now.

That's bull[bleep].

I'll be back. I'm going to call Felix.

I'm so [bleep].

He keeps lying to me about things.

It's like a compulsive liar.

I want to know if somebody's there with you.

[Felix speaking]

You keep lying to me,

and I don't want to talk to you anymore.

[bleep] you, I'm blocking you. Don't [bleep] call me.

[singing in French]

[Zuri speaking French]

OK, so we better switch to English?

-I got it in English. -Oh, thank God.

I got really nervous for a second.

[Thomas] It's all good, I'm gonna explain you everything.

After dinner with Ben's sister the other night,

I think I finally get it.

Living in France isn't just baguettes and berets.

So I took her suggestion and I did book an etiquette class.

I really want Ben to see the effort that I'm willing to

assimilate into the culture.

Just explain me where you come from, why you're here.

Tell me everything.

Yeah, so I'm from Connecticut.

I...

-I've fallen in love with a French man. -Oh, great, that's great.

And his family loves dining, and growing up,

I didn't really do that much

with my family, so like I just want to fit in more.

Well, in France... You're right.

Of course, you're gonna eat some meal, taste some great

wine, and talk about culture,

about weather.

Don't talk about politics, don't talk about money.

No, never.

True.

When you are at table and you are served, there's one thing

you have to forget, "Bon appétit."

-So "Bon appétit" is a red flag. -"Bon appétit!"

Yep.

Oh God, I said it last night.

[Thomas] I don't know why you did.

But everybody says it, but...

-Oh, "Mistake." -[Thomas speaking]

[Zuri] OK.

[Zuri] This is fancy!

[Thomas] Yeah. So here are some rules.

With your salad, you will never use your knife.

OK.

I didn't know that.

-Easy. -[Thomas speaking French]

And that means "Let's go for it."

Even.

Can you use it like a pen?

[Zuri] I hold my pens really weird.

-[Thomas] OK, but -- -[Zuri] But I can...

[Thomas] Try.

OK, so.

Like this.

In fact, if you -- if you hold it that way, it cannot slip.

You'd be surprised. It works.

[Thomas] I'm already surprised.

And I know things have been around, but that I'm very,

very surprised.

I'm going to need some wine and some champagne

to get less surprised.

OK, ready? Let's try it.

Let's try it. Ooh, almost.

Wow, great.

Zuri has a very original way of using that fork.

And in France, people do remember bad manners.

-[speaking French] -So?

It's -- so the first time they see you, five seconds,

they're already judging you.

And now first of all, we have a problem.

Switch. OK, do like me.

Pick.

-Small piece. -[Zuri] Oh, yeah.

That was an American bite. So...

Uh-oh.

[Thomas] With your right hand?

I'm nervous.

No, don't be nervous. I don't want you to be nervous.

You're taking too much.

-Small, small, small. -[Zuri] Little bites.

Fitting into French culture is like a league of their own.

So clearly, I've got my work cut out for me

if I really want to fit in here.

I guess, like, starting with the basics.

No, no, not on the table. Always inside.

[Zuri] The French are, like, very particular

about their behavior.

And, like, I'm a bit of a walking "faux pas."

And after you talk, you talk, you talk,

it's going to be hours.

And one day, you'll be French enough to enjoy it.

Yes, one day.

-Oh, yes, sorry. -[Thomas] No.

[singing in foreign language]

[Niles] Here we are.

And here you about to go, brother.

Sorry, Ut Ut. I, um...

gonna have to give you to Mat to prepare you for dinner.

I named you and everything.

Why did I do that to myself?

[singing in foreign language]

[Niles] Mat!

Mat?

It's a gift from Dad to you.

Yeah.

[Matilda speaking]

So, I imagine we have to slaughter this thing.

That's where you come in, actually -- I thought --

[Matilda speaking]

-Really? -Yeah.

Well, Ut Ut, you get to live.

[Matilda] Yeah.

I am a-OK with the fact that Matilda wants to

keep the turkey.

I named him Uturuki, or Ut Ut for short,

which just means Turkey in Swahili.

And, you know, I've bonded pretty well with the guy.

Is it male or female? Do female turkeys have waddles?

-I don't know. -He's a pretty cool guy.

So yes, you got lucky, Ut Ut.

Though, you might still be here for the fallout of me having to

tell Mat that I'm staying here permanently.

[singing in foreign language]

♪ Let me be Let me be ♪

[Matilda speaking]

[gobbles]

Come on eat.

Nope.

But I'll be back. Don't worry.

[singing in foreign language]

[Niles] Should probably put that in there.

-All right, that'll have to do. -[Matilda] I'm done.

[Niles] OK.

Mat and I are about to go away for our anniversary,

and, well, it's a trek.

All right, everything's packed.

But I do want to do something special for her before I just

drop the news that I'm not going back to

the United States.

Maybe this getaway will finally give me the nerve

to tell her the truth.

-Yeah, we're just fine. -[Matilda speaking]

When it's time for us to go somewhere nice, I will wear

the good shit that you bought me.

Not really.

We're gonna be sitting in, you know, around people.

We're also gonna be walking a lot.

[Matilda speaking]

[Niles] Ah, the life of a married man.

I would say you're overdressed to be going to an airport.

-I'm overdressed? -[Niles] Yes, you are.

OK.

OK, so I don't ask you to always be sexy now.

I'm a woman. I have to be sexy always.

-Let's go. -Well, you married me, did you not?

And it doesn't mean I'm gonna do everything you say either.

OK, then follow me. Follow me.

Look, it's gonna be a very, very long day.

An hour in a plane, three hours in a car.

I personally want to be comfortable.

[Matilda] Good morning.

[Niles] You know, Matilda isn't exactly dressed to

the nines either.

She might be dressed to the sixes, but not the nines.

The door isn't unlocked.

Matilda has a reputation of being quick to anger,

and it's a lot when it's all the time.

And what she's teaching me is how to tune her out.

Hi, Mommy. Hi, Baba.

Over the years, I have gotten better at lying and hiding

things from my parents.

It is getting harder and harder to hide

the pregnancy from them.

I think he's sad. He don't think I'm coming.

He kept calling me back-to-back.

I tried to be nice this morning.

I took the call after four rings.

I'm going to read you a message that he sent.

"Let's be happy again and make babies, make a family,

and live together happily. Love you."

So yeah, he lured me back to Ghana with that love bombing.

For real. I'll see you on the other side.

♪ I ended up in the mezzanine between pessimism and fantasy ♪

♪ I got off of the nicotine ♪

♪ Is that enough for you to look at me differently? ♪

♪ And now I'm just dreaming to find the same kind of meaning ♪

After the huge argument I had with Jon,

I just want to have a reset.

At the end of the day, our love is really strong,

and I know it's definitely stronger than all the obstacles

that we are facing.

[phone ringing]

Hello?

Mama, I'm in a bookstore, so I'll call you right back.

OK, bye.

Over the years, I have gotten better at lying and hiding

things from my parents.

I'm not proud of it, but it is getting harder and harder to

hide the pregnancy from them.

-Hi Mommy, hi Baba. -How's things with you?

-How's it coming along? -[Ally] It's good.

-Jon is here. -[Hathijath indistinct]

Of course.

I grew up in an extremely strict household with staunch

Muslim parents.

They want me to be like this religious, halal, Indian Muslim

girl, and it made me rebellious.

When I was 22, I had my first boyfriend.

This guy convinced me to move out of my parents' place.

And in my culture, it's not right for you to move

out unless you're married.

So that was like a major disappointment to them.

Ever since then, I've been working to repair

my relationship with my parents.

So what's the plans now?

Plans for what?

Oh, the conversion?

They love Jon because Jon promised my parents that

he would convert to Islam.

To me, it's not very important because I'm not really

religious myself, but it means a lot to my parents.

Jon knows a bit the basics of Islam?

I was hoping maybe you could teach him.

[Hathijath] OK.

I really miss you.

[Ally] I miss you too, Mama.

[indistinct]

-I love you, darling. -I love you, too, Mama.

[Hathijath speaking]

-Have a kid? -Could be so nice.

Does she know something, that I'm pregnant?

Because she has like sixth sense sometimes, like she can tell

like when something is wrong.

Is there anything that you want us to do?

Uh...

No.

It's nice to know that they want us to have a kid.

But at the same time, like, I know that my family would

definitely not be OK with me being pregnant and unmarried.

I'm hoping that Jon's conversion would definitely

help soften the blow. -[Hathijath] OK, bye-bye.

[Ally] Bye.

I really don't know how it's gonna turn out.

[rock music plays]

♪ [indistinct lyrics] ♪

[Michelle sighs]

Oh, all right. Look at this stuff.

Oh, man, it's horrible.

I'm having anxiety because Felix and I had a fight,

so we weren't talking.

But he kept calling me back-to-back.

I tried to be nice this morning.

I took the call after four calls, after four rings.

He was immediately apologizing, telling me he's sorry.

I think he's sad. He don't think I'm coming.

Yeah, he's sad, but you don't want to act right.

I'm going to read you a message that he sent.

"You mean the world to me and I want to offer my apologies for

"the thoughtless words,

"my behavior and misunderstanding.

"I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me so we can

"move forward together.

"Let's be happy again and make babies, make a family and live

together happily. Love you."

I'm so hot. Let me turn the AC on.

Oh my gosh, I'm having a hot flash.

After our fight the other day,

doubt started creeping back in my head.

Like, am I really doing the right thing?

I really want to believe him, so I'm really gonna try

and trust that he's telling the truth.

Ma! I need help.

So, yeah, he lured me back to Ghana with that love bombing.

For real.

I want you to stuff this in here, please.

-[Shelly] This isn't gonna go. -You're gonna do it.

You can hold it.

Look, you have to put it in here.

You can do it. I know, I believe in you.

-[Shelly] It's not gonna go. -[Michelle] All right, listen.

All right, put on.

-[Shelly] It's not going to work. -[Michelle] Yeah, it is.

I don't like your negativity.

I'm nervous about moving back to Ghana, but I am grateful

that my mom got to stay a few more days to see me off.

All right, I think your car's here.

So, Mom, before you turn the keys in or whatever, I want

you to take all this, put it in the garage in those boxes,

take all the trash out.

-OK. -[Michelle] Thank you.

I really don't want her to go, but Michelle doesn't listen to

my advice. -It's been fun, house.

I'll see you on the other side.

It breaks my heart that she's gone all the way across

the world for this guy. And he's done nothing for her.

Nothing.

-[driver] How are you? -Hi, how are you? I love your cowgirl boots.

[driver] Thank you. Thank you.

Thank you. Thank you.

I know my family thinks I'm nuts, giving up my life here,

my hustle, my money,

everything to go back to Ghana.

But I think he's worth the risk, especially because

I'm convinced it's Felix's family that's turning him

into someone different.

I think we can have a great future together.

-Thank you so much. -[driver] You're welcome.

All right, so we're ready?

Let's go.

[Shelly speaking]

[Michelle speaking]

I've never seen her act like this with anybody.

Usually, you know, nobody manipulates her.

How long is this flight going to be?

-I'll be there tomorrow. -But she really loved this guy.

And he has just torn her to pieces.

-[Michelle] OK, well, I love you, Mama. -All right, I love you too.

Bye, bye-bye.

-[Shelly] Alright, give him hell. -Goodbye.

Bye.

♪ I hear you calling me, a fatal melody ♪

[Michelle] My heart is fluttering because I can't keep living like this.

I mean, just yesterday I'm crying and screaming and upset

and hurt and he's being mean to me.

But you know, I do love him.

It's like I miss that good part of him.

We're boarding. Finally, the doors open.

See? I'm so happy, but I don't know.

Am I happy? I'm kind of scared.

I'm freaking out. I don't know what to do.

Judge me if you want, but I'm going.

I'm trying. I'm not giving up.

He's the best man I ever had,

I think. So I'm going back.

I just pray that I'm not setting myself up for

the biggest heartbreak ever.

♪ This love's gonna kill me ♪

♪ What a way, oh what a way, oh what a way to go ♪

So, so, so, so, so, so...

Perfetto. We do like this, we have an 84.

I don't see why you have to touch her chest so much.

[Irma speaking Italian]

Don't be jealous.

[singing in Italian]

[worker speaking]

[singing in Italian]

[both speaking Italian]

You say you will scream in the hill.

Aiuto, aiuto! Help me, help me.

[speaking Italian] I thought it was vorrei.

Vorrei. Vorrei is "I would like."

"Voglio" is "I want."

I could say, [speaking Italian].

I want you to be quiet.

Next time, maybe I can use this term

instead of shut the F up.

-Not really. -Oy, oy, oy.

-You got everything? -Yes.

Claudio! Ciao!

[Claudio] [Vittorio!

[Vittorio] Claudio, Jessy.

[all speaking Italian]

[Jessy] Ah, the famous Claudio.

[Jessy] Thank you, happy to be here.

[Vittorio] Claudio is so special for me.

So I had some of the designs that I wanted to show you.

-[Claudio] Oh, OK. -[Vittorio] So the gilet that we do in Kashmir, I love so much.

This one, I wanted to do the fitting on this one.

-This is amazing. Look at the color. -[Jessy] Gorgeous.

-[Claudio] Yeah, OK, super beautiful, eh? -[Jessy] Gorgeous.

Oh, ciao.

How are you? Welcome.

Irma, nice to meet you.

Hi, nice to meet you. How are you?

Nice to meet you. Oh my gosh, it's a party.

-We're all here. -Only for you.

To meet you.

-Exactly. -Aw, I'm excited to meet you all.

[speaking Italian]. We start.

Irma, if you're ready, Claudio. Let's start the show.

From you, I wanted to try this on you for the proportion, so.

OK, perfect, so.

[speaking Italian]. Right here.

Let's make sure the hair doesn't get in the way.

OK, you know, I like it a bit oversized also.

[Claudio] Yeah, I know.

[Vittorio] We take the measurement, we see how everything is.

-OK. -Irma.

You see, Jessy, this is what I do.

When you ask me, what do you do at the tailor?

What do you do at Claudio?

Maybe we can do, see, four centimeter less

a little bit. -[Claudio] Four, four.

Here on the bust, four centimeter less.

The length also, let's see. Here we have the length.

We can do a little bit like, you know, up here.

-[Claudio] You can shorten. -[Vittorio] Exactly.

-[Claudio] Maybe the seam. -[Vittorio] Exactly.

Let me see then from the inside how it is.

Yeah, maybe, yeah. We can take a little bit.

How do you like, Jessy? What do you think?

-Oh, it's gorgeous, yeah. -Do you like?

-Yeah. -[Vittorio] And then she's perfect.

Irma is perfect for my design.

Yeah, do you typically always measure?

Or do you guys go back and forth between measuring?

No, no, I do the measure.

Claudio teach me so well.

-This is the normal standard we do, you know. -OK.

-[Vittorio] Should we do this? -[Claudio] Yes.

[Vittorio] This is traditionally more of a menswear.

I love this color.

Yeah, this is really beautiful.

[Jessy] And what's the price point

for to make an outfit here, a garment?

This is high-end stuff.

-Yeah. -[Jessy] Oh, wow.

-Good to know all these things. -[Vittorio] You will get to pick up on it.

A lot of dos and don'ts, I'm seeing.

OK.

But make your mistake, I'll be there next to you to teach you.

Yeah.

[Vittorio] Allora, this is fantastic. Look at the light it takes.

It's fantastic fabric. But we fine-tune a little bit.

Irma's proportion, perfetto. We do like this.

We have an 84, perfetto.

I don't see why you have to touch your chest so much if

you're just measuring the jacket open.

No, clearly because we need to measure her circumference.

[Claudio] We have to imagine how big should be this for the chest.

Fashion is touch touch, but I don't.

[Irma] Yeah, yeah.

[Claudio] Like when you are at the doctor is the same.

We don't care about the body.

Body's body, you know, he has this, she has this,

you have this,

who cares, voilà. -Yeah.

[Vittorio] That's why we go to the beach,

we are naked sometimes, we don't care.

-No, we don't care down here. -Oh.

-No, no, no, here no one take care. -Yeah, it's OK.

We don't have nude beaches in New York, so.

Ah.

[Jessy] So it's not something normal for us.

It's like a lot of temptation to see people walking around

naked and you might get ideas or...

Now that I have you here, Jessy, no temptation

[indistinct]. We've lived --

In past? Yeah, yeah.

In past, when I was not in a serious relationship.

-[Jessy] Right, right. -We are friends.

See, see, but back before you, before you.

-Yeah, before you. -Before you.

So, don't worry, don't think that I did not do professional.

Don't be jealous.

Irma's a cute girl.

But she was a little bit like,

you know?

Oh, she make it seem like, you know, when she gets in

the toilet, like, her [bleep] don't stink.

-Like. -Why you gotta talk like this?

-No, because she's very like. -[bleep] don't stink.

"I'm better than you," she was like, "Measure me, I'm skinny."

No, no, she was not. She's a little sister.

-Irma is my little sister. -That you see naked?

Non è vero, nobody said that and it's not true.

-[Irma] Are you happy to be here? -Yes, I am.

It was a rough couple of first days, but we're working

through it. A lot of adjustments, so.

Are you sure about it?

Who? Me or her?

Both. Are you sure about it?

I moved here.

How more sure can I get? I'm here.

But yeah, she's right. Are you sure about it?

Of course.

[speaking Italian]

-It was nice meeting you. -Bye, Jessy, we'll see you.

See you.

[speaking Italian]

I think it's really beautiful. I love it.

[Vittorio] I bring you here not to make it worse.

I bring you here to make it better.

But clearly, something is not working.

[Jessy] Yeah, this was a lot.

It's like every time I meet somebody new, like I feel like

I'm walking on eggshells and I'm saying the wrong things

or I'm doing the wrong things, like,

I don't know what to say or do at this point.

[speaking Italian]. You're perfect.

You were perfect. They love you.

You're perfect, Jessy.

You are getting so tied up into certain things and connotation.

To give it time.

I want you to get along with everybody, but most likely,

I want you to get along with me.

And I want you to feel sheltered, protected.

I will not anything do wrong to you.

-OK. -[Vittorio] OK?

I feel bummed that today is like another example of like

how different we are and like how we come from such

different backgrounds.

I saw how things went with tennis.

Now we're at your tailor.

You're groping this girl that I just met.

Like, there's just so much going on.

I really do love Vittorio, but all of these things are

like creating doubts in my mind.

I'm sorry for everything.

-[Ally speaking] -Stay tuned to find out.

Things have been really rocky since I got here, so I want to

take Ally out for a real date. -You look so daddy.

I woke up like this.

Excuse me?

[Nigel] Why would you need to be flirting with somebody?

I was curious that you think that that would be harmless.

I was surprised by her hypocrisy because,

if anything, she's actually been bending the rules.

I want a deep

[bleep] emotional connection.

That's kind of where I felt like I needed to find

that elsewhere.

[traditional drumming plays]

[Niles] Happy anniversary, squishy mommy.

Squishy mommy,

time to wake up.

It's our anniversary today.

[Matilda speaking]

Finally, after six very grueling hours by air and road,

we are finally here in Cape Coast.

[host speaking]

Thank you so much. You know what?

I'm so happy that you're here with me, squishy mommy.

-We got a day planned for us, don't we? -Mm.

I promise you I will do my part

to make sure that we would have

a good anniversary.

We're not going to fight.

Yes.

[Matilda speaking]

What's that?

Why would you ask that?

[Niles] Yes, of course.

It is not because you're not attractive, or you're not

beautiful, and you're not sexy.

You are all three of those things.

[Niles] So I'm trying to tell you the truth.

Tell the truth, and that's what I want to hear.

When we argue, like we did specifically about the clothes,

that was a bit of a mood killer, to be honest with you.

When you're angry like that at me, shouting orders,

I don't like it when we argue. You know why?

I don't like it either.

So intimacy should be exactly that, intimate, relaxing.

If we argue beforehand, I just cannot get that going.

I will admit, when my wife's yelling at me,

it is hard for me to stay aroused.

It is hard for me to stay in the mood.

When I am getting intimate, I don't want it.

I want to do the Hakuna Matata thing.

No worries. Just this moment right here.

I promise you, the first time when we were together,

you didn't do any of that.

[Niles] This time around, you did that, and you know it.

Quite frankly, that

that doesn't make me feel like a man.

That makes me feel like you're my mother screaming at me.

And I don't wanna, I don't touch my mother.

I'm gonna tell you that right now.

I married a wife. I married you.

You will be the mother to our children.

OK?

Just like I'm your husband, I am not your father.

Yes.

-[Niles] That was right. -OK.

Then I'm sorry. Please forgive your wife.

I didn't mean to do that.

-Squishy, that means, yes, I forgive you. -Alright, thank you.

I've been wanting to make love to Matilda and pick up where

we left off when I left Ghana the first time.

But all the fighting, it really does kill the mood.

Plus the fact that until I tell her the full truth,

it's going to be hard for me to keep my head in the sex game.

Go take your shower, brush your teeth, and let's go.

-[Ally speaking] -Stay tuned to find out.

-Hello, my love. -[Ally] I'm very excited.

-[Jonathan] Are you excited? -[Ally] Yeah.

[Jonathan] Yeah, I'm excited too.

Things have been really rocky since I got here.

So I want to take Ally out for a real date and do a bit

of a reset. After you, my love.

I made reservations at a restaurant that you actually

have to take a cable car to get to.

So I think it's going to be really special.

-Ooh, ooh. -Wow.

Have you ever been on this before?

-No, I've never. -No?

It's my first time too.

-It feels really nice. -[Jonathan] Watch your step.

Finally, I can just relax and be with Jon after

the difficult times that we've had.

♪ Yeah, yeah ♪

♪ Yeah, yeah ♪

This way, sir.

Tonight, the red wine we're going to serve you,

Casillero, sir? -Oh, actually, no wine.

-No wine for you, huh? -[Jonathan speaking]

-Yes. -That'll be excellent.

-[server] Sure, that'll be a mocktail for you. -Yes, thank you so much.

Hey, you know that's the whole we're pregnant thing, right?

-Yeah. -Yeah, you're so sweet.

-You look so handsome. -[Jonathan] Thank you, babe.

You look so daddy.

I woke up like this.

[Ally] With your tall socks.

[Jonathan] My tall socks and shorts are a winner.

Have you noticed Singapore people are doing it, right?

-Yes, it's hot. -[Jonathan] Is it?

Oh, look at that.

[Ally] Ooh.

[Jonathan] Thank you. That looks amazing.

I appreciate it.

Hey, here's to, you know, new beginnings,

new life, new place, amazing. -[Ally] Yeah.

-Cheers. -[Jonathan] Cheers.

-Oh, baby, we've come so far. -Yes.

Yeah, sitting there in that

yellow dress. -[Ally] With my braces.

[Jonathan] With your braces.

Excuse me.

[server] Hi! You doing all good, sir?

[Jonathan] Wow.

-[Ally] Thank you. -[server] Cherries tomato.

-OK. -Would you mind doing us a favor?

-We want to take some selfies of the sunset. -Yeah, sure, sure, sure.

-OK, sir. -There you go.

I'll take a few pictures for you, sir.

-And you wanna stand? -Yeah.

Ally is the love of my life.

And I hate the fact that she may have lost a little

faith in me.

Can I get one facing?

I want to reassure her that she and the baby are the most

important thing to me.

I am going to spend the rest of my life doing my damnedest song

and dance to show her I'd be willing to do anything for her.

I mean, I just love her so much.

You know you're my favorite person in the world, right?

You changed my life

and you actually made me feel loved again.

The gift that you've given me to bring back that spark,

I can't thank you enough, and I absolutely want to spend

the rest of my life with you.

So I just have one question.

[speaking foreign language]

Will you be my forever Bub?

Yes.

It's about damn time.

I'm so happy that we're finally engaged because I've been

waiting for so long.

Oh my God, it's so pretty!

To me, it signifies that like,

OK, this guy is like really serious about me.

Like, come on, look at that. It wasn't...

I'm pretty sure that was not cheap.

[Jonathan] I know Ally wanted a sunset proposal, so I was getting

a little nervous there.

The sky was not quite cooperating, so when that sun

just peeked through just a little bit on the horizon,

I knew that was my chance and I had to spring into action.

You did good.

-It's official. -Yeah.

-Hey. -What?

I can call you my fiancé now.

[both giggle]

I moved literally to the other side of the planet.

Gave up a lot of things. I don't want a casual...

-[Nigel] It's not that... -Friendly love.

I see where she's coming from, but... that's not something

I can do.

♪ Breathe out Breathe in ♪

I downloaded a dating app, and I did meet somebody,

and we do text flirt sometimes.

Actually, there's two people that I text flirt sometimes.

One of them I have slept with, and one I have not.

[Nigel] So you're still texting these guys

even though you're in Australia now?

Well, yeah, if they text me, I'm going to text them back.

I actually think it's crossing a line.

-Really? -[Nigel] Yep.

I don't have, like, ongoing text message

relationships with any of these other lovers, babe.

So I'm not, like, tied up emotionally or mentally

with anybody else.

I noticed Andi was texting this guy a lot on her phone,

and I'm kind of surprised by her hypocrisy, because she's

giving me heaps of pushback and questioning, whereas really

the shoe's on the other foot.

She's actually been the one who's been seeking an emotional

connection with other people, and I've not been doing that.

We're just happy to be friends and hook up

and have a good time.

So if anything, she's actually been bending the rules.

Why would you need to be flirting with somebody?

I was curious that you think that that would be harmless.

-Is it? -Mm-hmm.

[Andi] I like the flirting, you know?

I like the communication, you know?

-[Nigel] Yeah. -That's something I've asked for more of from you a lot.

Mm-hmm.

And you haven't made it a huge priority, so I think that's

kind of where I felt like I needed to find that elsewhere.

Because I was feeling a lack of emotional support from Nigel,

I did meet somebody on a dating app a couple months before

I came out here. We did hook up.

Like, we only saw each other one time,

but our text conversations

spanned longer than that.

And I would say that those kind of

did cross a line a little bit in going a little bit more of,

like, emotional connection.

Does it really give you the validation

that you want?

[Andi] I'm not looking for validation.

I'm looking for communication and connection.

Sometimes you don't answer my text message for days.

Because you're out at a festival,

you're hooking up with somebody.

[Nigel] That's not why.

It's because I have no reception for days, babe.

OK, I understand that.

[Nigel] I don't answer anybody's text messages.

[Andi] I'm actually surprised that Nigel feels like I had crossed

a line by texting with this guy that I met on the dating app.

I didn't think he would care,

because he's had so many little mini relationships with people,

and then I go and have something that's similar,

but maybe quite less, I think,

and he thinks that I'm in the wrong?

[Nigel] I mean, you know, if you want to be monogamous,

then we shouldn't be flirting or texting or on any dating

apps or anything like that.

So that should stop.

OK, I'll put a stop to that.

So that's it?

We're going to be monogamous from now on?

-That's what you want? -For the time being.

[Nigel] I just don't know if you're making this decision out of

like some sort of jealousy or...

It's not.

...an idea that's not really what's been going on.

[Andi] We're starting a whole new chapter.

I moved

literally to the other side of the planet.

-Mm. -[Andi] Gave up a lot of things.

I don't want a casual...

-[Nigel] It's not that, though. -Friendly love.

-Like I want a deep... -It's not that, babe.

...[bleep] emotional connection.

I just want to see what we're capable of when we can really

focus on each other.

-Mm-hmm. -[Andi] And it shouldn't feel like a punishment.

Like it should feel like something that we're doing for

each other because we love each other that much.

-[Nigel] Yeah. -You know?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but down the track you would be

open to us exploring other things,

you know? -Yeah.

[Nigel] At a future time when you feel more secure, when you really

settled in here. -[Andi] Mm-hmm, yeah.

And it makes sense for us, yeah?

Absolutely.

-It doesn't change who we are. -[Andi] Right.

But we're locking in for each other right now.

Yes.

It's exactly what I want.

-So yeah, let's do it. -[Andi] OK.

OK.

-I just want to grow our love. -[Nigel] Yeah.

I want to feel your love.

-Mm-hmm. -'Cause when I feel your love, I can give you my love.

Of course, baby.

I understand why she's asking for us to remain monogamous

right now.

She needs to really feel like their relationship is going to

survive and is going to be worth it.

[Andi] All right, let's get out of here.

[Nigel] Let's get out of here.

I see where she's coming from, but if she's expecting that

we'll always be monogamous for the rest of our life,

forever, ever, that's not something I can do.

-I got you. -[Andi] Aww.

[Samuel] This is the first bridge.

So Niles, you're going to start for us.

This is going to be romantic because Matilda might

get scared. She's going to grab onto me.

Don't say, "Matilda, help me. I'm dying," don't say that.

-So I'm going to be her king. -[Matilda] Hey!

-You OK? -Why would you say that?

Let me keep my balance.

[upbeat music plays]

♪ [indistinct lyrics] ♪

[Niles speaking]

Thank you.

I'm making more of an effort to listen to you and also to

just do what makes us happy. Happy times, here we come.

[Matilda] Oh.

[Niles] All me and Mat have done since I've been here is fight.

So yeah, I do want to try and keep her as happy as

possible, because I'm going to have to break the news

about my move.

Very.

If you want to see an African rainforest, this is

the place you go.

We're going to trek through the treetops today, about 130

feet above the rainforest, across some canopy bridges.

My name is Samuel, and I'm going to be with you as

we take a tour through Kakum Rainforest.

There's about seven bridges, I hear, and we're about almost

a mile above the ground.

Hope those bridges are well-maintained.

Also too, this is going to be romantic because Matilda might

get scared. She's going to grab onto me.

And you know, hey, that's a win-win.

[Niles] I will do my best.

My wife's right. I have to be bold.

I have to follow my heart and I have to be a man.

-I can do this. -[Matilda] Of course you can do it.

[Niles] Even if I'm dead afraid, the king of the jungle still

operates whether he's afraid or not.

So I'm going to be her king.

[Samuel] All right.

When you enter the rainforest, like ours, you feel connected

to nature.

So let's stop and listen to the forest.

You have energy to get from the forest.

The freshness of the air, you breathe, and you see that,

whoa, we are breathing something different.

You OK?

OK.

Wow, um...

[Samuel] You look refreshed and energized.

I can see the forest energy is indeed at work in you.

[Niles] You know what?

I don't...

I don't even feel scared anymore.

I didn't expect that to work.

Let's go before the forest revokes that gift.

[Samuel] The walkway staring at us is the first bridge.

So, Niles, you're gonna start for us.

Don't really need these.

Don't want them to get fogged up and then obscure --

-[Matilda speaking] -[Niles] Yeah.

Don't say, "Matilda, help me, I'm dying," don't say that.

I don't think I'll get a chance to if something like

that happens.

At this point, each one to himself.

Niles, prove yourself.

-[Matilda] Hey, you OK? -Why would you say that?

Let me keep my balance.

Whoa.

[Matilda] No, no, no, no, no.

Let's see.

OK, that makes me nervous.

Niles, please, please, please, please let me go.

It's OK, squishy mommy.

I got you.

-[Matilda speaking] -[Niles] I can't walk for you.

Just make it to your husband.

It's funny how she was worried about me chickening out.

Turns out she's the one who needs to grow a pair.

But don't worry, squishy mommy.

I've got a big enough pair for the both of us.

-[Samuel] How are you feeling? -[Niles] I'm OK.

Mat?

Somebody wasn't listening to the forest.

So with the last one, you're going to try crossing it

without holding the bridges.

[Matilda] Oh.

[Niles] The Lord has you. Don't worry.

[Matilda] Ah.

Oh. Go, girl.

Go, girl. Go, girl.

Forest, give me your power.

I took your advice.

I manned up and said, "All right, here's what's going

"to happen. This is happening.

Let's get my wife through it too."

And so we did.

-[Samuel] So how was the feeling like? -[Niles] It was invigorating.

It was amazing.

Ghana is much more wonderful than America so far.

I've had nothing but good times here.

-Then that is good -- Mat? -[Matilda] Yes, and I conquer everything.

I'm ready for everything. I'm ready for America.

No matter how much I say Ghana is awesome, Mat just keeps

talking about how she's ready to be in America.

You know, I really think that I need to somehow tell her.

I cannot keep hiding this secret from her.

I just can't.

Now that Matilda's in a good mood, that bandaid's gonna have

to get ripped off tonight.

[Ben speaking]

...and they want to

do a party.

Why would I put myself in that position?

I'm defending myself.

You don't like when I defend myself.

Now you're mad.

I need Ben to know that any inkling of disrespect I feel,

I'm not gonna just be silent and like laugh it off.

This is like the new me, like standing up for myself.

[speaking French]

-[Zuri] Oh, you're home! -[Ben] Oh, hi!

I'm back with some goodies.

-Oh, how was your day? -[Zuri] It was good.

I went grocery shopping on my own.

Oh, nice. What did you get?

[both speaking French]

I felt really confident today.

-Everyone at the market was so kind to me. -Really?

-This is nice. -[Zuri] Yeah.

And so, how was your etiquette class?

[Zuri] It was really nice, you know, the guy was

really sweet.

I like when people are passionate about things

and like you can tell the guy cares.

-[Ben] Yeah -- US. -Yeah.

I feel like there's etiquette in the US, like,

you know, you never talk about like religion, money.

But you guys really go hard.

Sometimes I see you cutting a pizza with a fork and knife

and it like, ouch.

Just pick it up and like get a little messy, you know?

I'm OK to get messy, but it's just like,

you know, like, getting the pizza. -With fries, babe.

-[Ben] No. -With French fries, babe.

Yeah, but I don't want to get my hand messy, like you never

know if you're going to find a bathroom to clean or like.

-[Ben] Try it. -[Zuri] Uh-oh.

-I'm scared. -Don't be scared.

[Zuri] OK.

-Wait, it's good. -Yeah, you see?

-[Zuri] Yeah. -Like, sometimes it smells bad, but it's really good.

I thought I loved cheese, like mozzarella, cheddar,

like good pepper jack, you know, if I'm crazy,

like a little blue cheese. -Mmm.

No.

[Zuri] But like, they're serious here.

And like, I guess this is like the real cheese.

Like sometimes Ben gives me cheese and it just smells

like rotten. Like, ugh, it tastes so bad.

I'm shocked.

I thought it was gonna be gross.

[Zuri] Wow, that was actually good.

What friends?

And they want to do a party.

No.

-Nope. -It's not only them, you know?

Like, we can spend time with my family, my sister too.

So like, we can spend like the weekend all together.

Like the party with friends would be just a part

of the weekend, you know?

[Zuri] Your sister, I'm happy to do the restart.

She opened up to me and like I understand why she felt weird

about me.

Like your friends have just been

horrible to me.

And like why would I put myself in that position?

Like, oh, like, kumbaya, like let's make peace.

Like, no.

I don't want to.

Like...

I told you many times, sometimes they can be sometimes

a little bit stupid with their jokes.

They think it's funny.

They're like, "Oh, my God, the American girl.

"Let's make sure she has a horrible time and never

comes back," 'cause like. -No, it was that one time.

-It's not like -- -No, no, it wasn't one time.

It wasn't one time.

You know it wasn't one time.

But you can just say, "Bonjour," and that's all.

I don't ask you to be friends with them.

I just ask you to be able to be around them.

Put myself in an uncomfortable situation?

My friends are a big part of my life, and I don't want to

have to choose between Zuri or my friend.

They know she's here, so if she don't come to this party,

it will just make everything harder.

[Zuri] Why do I have to go?

Like, why can't you just go and enjoy yourself?

I won't go, like, by myself at the party.

And, like, everybody will, like, "Where's Zuri?"

Oh, she's at home because she think you're assholes?

-No. -At least that's honest.

Like, you're friends.

They think it's OK to just, like, disrespect me, and no.

Like, enough is enough.

This is like the new me, like standing up for myself.

I feel like so many times I have put on a brave face

and like not been happy. Like, I don't want to do that.

Call me crazy, but like, I don't want to see people that

like influenced my decision to leave.

I'm kind of upset that Ben is like even asking me to do this.

And like, I need Ben to know that any inkling of disrespect

I feel, I'm not gonna just be silent and like laugh it off.

I'm just sad about this.

[Zuri] But you knew it was coming.

I can't imagine my girlfriend can't be with my friend.

In France, people like do dinner with their friends

and it's all the couples.

Like, I don't want to be the man like for the rest of

my life, like alone at the end of the table.

We had like very constructive discussion that first day.

-Me too. -Like I was like, "OK, this girl's

on a new mind, like she don't

want like to do the same as the first time," I really was

thinking that. And like, now

I'm thinking like, "Oh, maybe I was wrong."

Like, she don't want, like --

Oh, please, just because I'm standing up for myself.

[Ben] No, 'cause you're exactly the same.

Now everything is -- no, I'm not exactly the same.

-I'm defending myself. -You're saying exactly the same things

that you were saying before.

You don't like when I defend myself.

Now you're mad.

Can you get it?

I think Zuri is acting like a child right now.

Very close-minded.

I don't like to be in this position.

She need to try like she did with my sister.

Like, how can she expect better things this time

if she don't try?

I don't get it, like...

I just know like...

It's very, very important that my man can know how to dance.

If you can dance on the dance floor,

then you can dance in the bedroom.

I like to be handled

in the bedroom. Good?

-[Vittorio speaking Italian] -You're very tense.

-[speaking Italian]. -[Vittorio] OK.

[speaking Italian]

I thank you for renting the car.

-Of course. -I needed it.

I mean, I was trying to get used to the motorcycle life,

but I want to give my ass a break, so.

You're always so nice and elegant with your words.

"Give your ass a break."

Since being here in the hills of Italy, Vittorio has been

testing my patience.

For one, I'm in the middle of nowhere.

Number two, Vittorio is just over the top when it comes

to playing games.

And number three, I was judged by his friends.

Like I was getting the elevator eye from his friend Irma,

which I don't know why, like I come in peace.

Let's roll.

-[Vittorio] Ay, ay, ay, ay, ay. -[indistinct]

You know how to drive this thing?

Si, si, si. Of course, of course.

I know how to drive everything.

Yeah, you're right. You drive me crazy.

But Vittorio has planned a romantic getaway for us.

And it's honestly the least he can do after all the crap

he's been putting me through so far.

Tell me the name of where we're going.

Which means fortress of marble.

That sounds so nice. Forte dei Marmi.

It's like, you know, very special beach town,

like the Palm Beach of Tuscany. -Wow.

[Vittorio] And I wanted to create something romantic for you.

Thank you, bambino. I'm excited.

Yeah, and also I organized a little class for dancing,

so you can teach me, you can teach me. -Ooh.

I grew up in a very Latin household.

I feel like I knew how to dance before I could walk.

You know, when I was a little girl, when I was a bambina,

I was enrolled in like so many dance classes.

[Vittorio] OK, wow.

Like every Saturday, I would pack my little bag, go to dance

school and just spend the whole day there.

-But dance like ballet? -Yeah, I did ballet.

-With the tutu? -With the tutu, yes.

It's very, very important to me

that my man can know how to dance. -[Vittorio] OK.

[Jessy] Because if you can dance on the dance floor, then you could

dance in the bedroom. -[Vittorio] OK, OK.

So look at it that way.

-OK, OK. -No pressure, but pressure.

Our day is going to start with a commitment from my side to

improve my dancing.

Improve is a big word, to learn the dancing, because I know how

for Jessy, dancing is important.

Like Shakira.

My experience with dancing is zero.

Move the hips.

How do you move the hips on that?

OK, shoulder, shimmy.

-Shoulder, shimmy. -Shimmy this way.

Shimmy, OK.

-OK, now this way. -Boom, boom, boom.

This way.

I'm a bit scared, honestly, because I'm always

used to do things that I'm good at, and maybe I'll make a fool

of myself. -Oh.

Wow.

And maybe move a bit the shoulder.

[speaking Italian]

We're here for the class of bachata.

[speaking Italian]

He needs a lot of help.

[speaking Italian]

How do you say two left feet in Italian?

[speaking Italian]

[Jessy] So let's get going, right?

OK, bye, I take this off to you.

I'm gonna be sweating, I know. OK.

-So, this is -- -It's right here, the problem.

Here is the problem. How do I do this?

-Ta. -[Lorenz speaking Italian]

I bring --

[Jessy] Bend the knees.

-I bend the knees. -OK?

-[Lorenz speaking Italian] -Ah, OK.

Ah, but not too much.

-Not too exaggerated. -[Vittorio] Not too much.

[speaking Italian]

[overlapping chatter]

[Lorenz counting in Italian]

[indistinct].

You try now.

-[Vittorio speaking] -[Jessy] You, yeah, you do.

But this is the bread and butter.

The feet is the most important part.

Bread and butter, we don't have butter in Italy.

We have olive oil. Bread and oil.

Olive oil is a perfect lubricant.

So, you know, so. [speaking Italian].

-Be nice. -Cover your ears.

No, don't be like me on the tennis court, please.

-You really suck at dancing. -Perfetto.

I mean, it's worse than I thought.

-Ouch, Jesus. -OK.

Vittorio really struggles with rhythm.

[speaking Italian].

He struggles with moving his hips.

[Lorenz speaking Italian]

Like a figure eight, that's it. He needs severe help.

I never and would never say that you suck at tennis.

-I screamed at you. -You said way worse, yeah.

[Vittorio] No, no, no, no.

And how does it compare?

-OK, OK. -See, bambino?

-OK, OK, OK. -[speaking Italian].

-You good? -[Vittorio speaking Italian]

You're very tense, I feel you.

[speaking Italian], I don't feel as loose.

Do you wanna get a drink? Are you OK?

Maybe, yeah, can we get a shot of something?

-[Jessy] To loosen up? -It help to loosen up?

-It's OK, bambino. -[Vittorio] It's tough.

-[Jessy] It's tough. -I know, I want to be perfect all the time.

But I'm not, clearly.

[Jessy] It's OK to not be good at certain things.

OK, not like me.

I just want you to know how to dance for fun.

-[Vittorio] Grazie. -Honestly.

You're right about that, you're right.

-You're doing good. -[Vittorio] Grazie.

And I appreciate you for trying.

I do realize Jessy has not been the happiest

since she moved,

but I want her to understand that I'll be forever grateful

because she picked up everything and come to a new

country for me.

That's what I really like about you, is like the effort

you put in, and like you figure out

these little things that I like.

And this is nice because it makes me feel like a little

piece of home, which is some type of dancing, and you know,

we've been through a lot. -Yeah, I know, I know.

It's been a lot for you to adjust to all of this.

I always have the fear that maybe for you, this is not

enough, you're used to other ways, so.

Well, you make me feel also that I'm not enough sometimes,

and that, you know, I'm not meeting certain standards. -Because of --

-OK. -So listen to what you just said, that's important.

We've been going through a lot since me getting here,

and this is the first time that we're finally gonna be alone

on this getaway.

I'm very anxious to get intimate with Vittorio because

I like to be handled

in the bedroom.

I want him to like jump in and like really take ownership

of the situation. -I'm blessed that you are here.

You are a gift every day that we have together.

I can't get enough of you.

I don't know if we'll have the right sexual chemistry.

You never know until you try, so.

I can't keep up the lie anymore.

I know we've been talking about building our life in the US,

but I was thinking moving here and staying in Ghana

more permanently.

[singing in foreign language]

♪ [indistinct lyrics] ♪

[Niles speaking]

Matilda and I [indistinct] those canopies today, and we didn't

have a single fight.

But honestly, a pit is developing in my stomach

because my biggest regret right now is that

I've waited way too long to tell her that I'm staying

here permanently.

But I just haven't really had the guts to drop this bomb.

Good evening.

I sure did.

[Niles] What do you think?

Just like a movie, isn't it?

Was this the anniversary that you were expecting?

Beachfront, out here in the sunset.

And I'm looking at something very amazing.

The beach is also nice too.

Tonight's a special night. You want to get some palm wine?

Wine, yeah.

Wow, two years ago today.

-Can't believe it's flown by, huh? -Mm-hmm.

When I was with you on our wedding night,

I felt like a man.

A real, actual, factual, this is what a man is supposed

to be, man.

-[Matilda speaking] -I try to be.

And you are a very good woman to stand by me.

[Niles] Yes, ma'am. I love you, too.

[Matilda speaking]

A very bad boy.

Thank you.

[Niles] I am too.

I could just be with you, you know that?

Oh, I plan to make sure you're by my side.

Don't you worry. You will be by my side.

I pray that God allows me to do my part to make sure that

you get what you need.

That you want to further your education?

I'm right here for you.

Anything that you want to do,

understand, your husband's right here with you.

[Niles] I understand you want to go to the United States.

-I do. -Yeah.

[Niles] She's basically packing all of her bags

to come to the States.

I just, I feel like a dick at this point.

I can't keep up the lie anymore.

I can only hope she forgives me.

So...

there is one other thing that I feel is necessary for me

to tell you right now.

So Mat, I've had a very - every time I've been here,

I've had a great experience.

I've been treated very well here in Ghana,

and... I've been thinking about this for two years, and I know

we've been talking about building our life in the US,

but you know,

I was thinking moving here and staying in Ghana

more permanently.

[Matilda speaking]

I did not want to tell you this over the phone.

This does not, I don't think this is a conversation

we should have over the phone.

[Jessy] Next time on "90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way."

We did buy a timeshare together

on the second day in Mexico.

She's still hanging on to like that this is a good deal.

It was not a good deal.

[Andi] Well, I'm hanging on to it because somebody is still

paying for it, and it is not you.

We did this together, yet you are super fine leaving

me holding the bag and walking away from this.

Do you regret that?

[Michelle speaking]

I'm gonna go to customs, and then I'm out, yay!

Hey.

Felix.

Now that I'm here, I want to see the good part of Felix,

because there's such a good part, the part I love.

No. No.

[speaking French]

[Zuri] I think your parents should know the truth.

[Ben speaking]

I was really excited to bring Zuri to my family again,

but this discussion, like, ruined everything.

OK, no, because it's...

[Vittorio] A few days ago.

I've just left that gate open with my ex in case Vittorio

and I don't end up together.

Why didn't you tell me? So you wait till this time?

Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

[Ally] My heart is beating like...

like, nonstop, like.

I wanna hide under a rock. I'm just really, really scared.

I don't wanna do this.

Shh. OK.

Hey, remember, we've got to be calm.