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The one sexual secret above all others is being confident in yourself and your

sexual ability.

If by the end of this program you are happily aware of all the things in it

and have tried all the things you wish, then you can be fairly sure that you are

pretty good in bed.

If the skin is the largest sex organ, the brain is the most powerful.

How good your sex life is has an awful lot to do with your head.

The first thing is to be totally comfortable about yourself.

This means, first of all, accepting that nobody is perfect, but that everyone, of

whatever shape, size or age, is capable of being a thoroughly sexy person.

Learn how to have vocal sex.

Open up your heart and talk sexually to one another to help remove inhibitions.

Although you may feel silly or embarrassed, try saying what you would

really like.

You will soon find talking sexually comes naturally and is intensely

arousing. Open up. Try saying what you'd really like.

Ring each other during the day or send emails and describe what you want to do

to your lover that night. Write each other love notes.

Experiments with fantasy and masturbation to discover your own on

-buttons and encourage your partner to do the same.

Nothing ensures a great night as much as building expectations during the day.

It can be great fun to learn how to talk sexually.

Although you may feel you don't know what to say, all you need to do is

describe what you're going to do to your lover or what you want them to do to

you.

Talking this way will really help in opening up to one another and prove an

instant turn-on for both of you.

Be honest. Try saying what you really like.

Find out what your boundaries are and those of your partner.

Discuss them with your lover.

Always respect each other's limits, but don't be too rigid and always try to

expand your horizons.

talk about sexy things you have seen or read and make a point of reading sexy

literature and watching sexy programs or videos and you don't have to go to the

top shelf many magazines have a device on sex discuss what they say and how

much you would like to try them out

It will all help to sort out your own thoughts and attitudes.

That way you will be happy with yourself in your head.

Real sexual intimacy is about opening your heart to a partner as candidly as

you reveal your body.

In a long-term relationship, the depth and richness of lovemaking is built on

foundations of knowledge, trust and deep, deep understanding.

Sharing your wants and needs improves communication between you and deepens

your sexual involvement.

At times, though, the two people involved may want different things from

a relationship.

Some may be looking for long-term commitment, while others are only

seeking short-term pleasure.

As long as you are in tune together, that's fine, whichever option you

prefer. But if you want more than your partner is able to give, you may find it

difficult to have fulfilling sex together.

Opening your heart means showing your feelings and letting your partner know

how much you care.

Give love tokens such as chocolates, perfume, flowers or sexy underwear to

show your partner you've been thinking of them, just because you love them, not

because there is an anniversary or birthday to celebrate.

Planning a sexy night in together can help build the anticipation and heighten

your enjoyment.

Allowing your emotions free rein before, during and after sex can enhance your

lovemaking and bring you closer together.

Feel good about yourself and your body. No one pleases all the people all of the

time, so make sure you feel good about yourself and that your partner does too.

Doubts about yourself can be self-fulfilling and lead to poor sexual

performance.

problems with orgasms in women and erectile difficulties in men.

Whatever has happened in the past needs to be left there.

Previous embarrassments and upsets are part of your personal learning curve.

Like learning to ride a bike, you may have the odd tumble before you can fully

enjoy the fun, adventure and freedom that comes from being able to do it

properly.

So leave bad experiences in the past and work on shedding any inhibitions you

have. Leave old baggage behind and look to present and future joys. If you want

to develop the relationship with your partner, then you can build deeper love,

understanding and friendship by spending quality time together.

And if kids come along, don't forget to keep your love life alive and to

continue having a long and passionate affair as the years go by.

Discovering what your emotional needs are and keeping properly in touch with

your feelings and those of your partner will all help get your heart right.

While you should accept yourself the way you are whether you are lanky, broad or

short make the best of what you cannot change.

It is being good, both to yourself and your partner, to be as fit and toned as

you can be.

The erogenous zones are sensitive areas of skin packed with extra nerve endings.

When these are stimulated in the right way, they trigger sensual feelings and

act as shortcuts to full-blown arousal.

The major erogenous zones include all the obvious sites.

In men, the major zones are the lips, penis and scrotum. In females, these are

the lips, buttocks, breasts and external genitals, including the clitoris and

vaginal entrance.

Erogenous zones can be stimulated in numerous ways.

The nipple is the primary erogenous zone that become erect in both men and women

during sexual excitement.

Some like gentle, sensitive handling of these delicate structures, while others

prefer slightly rougher fondling, squeezing and sucking.

The pigmented area surrounding the nipples, the areolae, may swell so much

they look bruised.

One can even be more sensitive than the other.

Experiment to see which sensations your partner prefers.

Everyone also has secondary erogenous zones.

These include the eyelids, ears and ear lobes, nape of the neck, soft skin at

the top of the inner thighs, the backs of the knees, plus the extra sensitive

toes.

As the secondary erogenous zones vary from person to person, working out where

your own erogenous zones are, and those of your partner, can be one of the fun

pursuits of good lovemaking.

Some people might be shocked, but the anus is another exquisitely sensitive

area. especially around the part of the rim nearest the vagina or testicles.

Try stimulating these areas with a well-lubricated finger.

Some people enjoy having the tip of a finger slipped inside, but others don't.

The real secret here is to relax and realise that it may take time for you

both to enjoy it.

Experiment to find out what you both feel comfortable doing.

Either wash your hands afterwards or in the height of passion, keep one hand for

anal stimulation and one for vaginal. This is because they both have different

bacteria that shouldn't be mixed.

Learn the art, skills and techniques of giving a sensuous massage.

Use aromatherapy oils, some of which act like pheromones to produce an

aphrodisiac effect.

Try using Ambrept, Patchouli, Vetiver, Jasmine or Rose to increase your

partner's desire.

Mix a few drops of your chosen essential oils to the massage oil or lotion.

Warm some of the oil in your hands before using it to lubricate the skin.

as you explore and massage your partner's body.

Indeed, one of the nicest ways of finishing a sensual massage is to lie

your partner on their front, raise their hips on a pillow and teasingly massage

their most sensitive parts from behind.

Use plain oil alone, though, on the genitals themselves.

Massage allows you both to fantasize while you luxuriate in your partner's

caresses.

Take turns to explore, stimulate and arouse each other. As well as fondling,

squeezing, sucking, nibbling and even biting these sensitive areas, try also

wetting them and blowing them dry.

Try a range of different textures, velvets, fake fur, silk.

Try eating food of one another.

Much better than having a big meal before sex.

So enjoy

your own body and each other's.

Accept the way you look and enjoy all the wonderful feelings our bodies can

give.

The real secret of masturbation is that it's a pleasure in its own right.

It is now acknowledged not only to be something almost everyone does, but also

something that everyone should do.

It provides sexual relief, increases libido, and develops suppleness in both

men and women.

It should not be viewed as a substitute for sex, but as a useful way of

expanding your sexual repertoire, your fantasy life and training yourself for

intercourse.

For women, masturbation is also useful in developing full orgasmic capability.

And men can use it to train themselves to last as long as they want in

penetrated sex.

Men and women can use stop-start techniques, both to give themselves

stronger orgasms and to develop the kind of control that allows them to come when

they want to.

Bring yourself to the brink of orgasm, then stop while your arousal level drops

back and take yourself back to the brink again.

Repeat this several times before allowing the waves of what by now should

be a sensational orgasm to flood over you.

Once a man can last say half an hour whilst masturbating, he will be able to

keep intercourse going as long as any lover would want.

As with intercourse, variety can be the spice of life.

Try different positions.

Some men say it can be difficult for them to cum during sex when they're

lying on their back with their partner on top.

By practicing masturbation in this position, you should be able to overcome

any problems with this.

Try masturbating with lubricants. They prevent soreness, and practicing with

them can help gain more control over ejaculation, as the sensation is similar

to that of penetration.

If you always masturbate the same way, try different techniques.

Try using a vibrator.

And if you are both feeling adventurous, insert a dildo or even a chilled

cucumber into her vagina while masturbating.

The secret is to go with the flow and let all the sensations wash over you and

take you to even higher pinnacles of passion.

Women could try thigh power as a novel way to reach orgasm. Building to the

brink manually, then adding in the squeezing of the thighs to bring you to

orgasm.

You could also try deeper and shallower penetration with one or more fingers.

Try tugging on the labia.

or using circular motions while stimulating yourself.

Men can try varying the grip and speed of how they stimulate themselves.

See if rubbing the ligaments in the abdomen just above the penile root does

anything for you.

Try stimulating your perineum and fondling your balls.

Stimulate other erogenous zones, such as tweaking your nipples.

as arousal builds and particularly at the point of orgasm.

It's also a time to practice slipping a well-lubricated finger into your anus

and perhaps starting to develop this as another pleasure area before you've had

anyone else try.

Explore different feelings to give yourself a more sensational orgasm.

For example, try tensing your muscles, particularly pelvic floor, and relaxing

them near the point of climax.

Take ten deep breaths near the point of orgasm.

Try masturbating in different places.

It adds a free song to be playing with yourself in places you normally wouldn't

or don't feel you should.

So add an extra dimension of fantasy while you masturbate. Try getting your

partner to spy on you.

It may help you feel less inhibited in what you do and is bound to be a huge

turn-on for your partner, too.

Masturbation in front of one another not only shows that you feel very

comfortable and uninhibited together, but also allows your partner to discover

what you like and how you do it.

While sex should not be goal-orientated, one thing you could aim to do is to

masturbate your partner better than they can do it for themselves.

Men need to learn all about how the woman likes her clitoris stimulated.

Is it too sensitive for a direct approach?

If so, rub the side and the ridge above.

Does she like a lighter or stronger stroke? How fast?

Does she like the pressure, pace and rhythm to be varied?

Only she can truly guide you.

And another secret you need to know is that the clitoris changes in sensitivity

as arousal peaks.

Some women may want firmer, faster stimulation, while others prefer a

slower, more gentle touch.

Sensitivity can also change from day to day, and from orgasm to orgasm.

You can also explore whether she likes to be penetrated with your fingers, and

if so, how many?

Some women like the sensitive lips of the vagina to be stretched, to feel more

filled up.

Try the thumb secret.

What it lacks in length, it gains in width.

Circular motions allow the thick base of the thumb to stimulate the clitoris, the

vaginal opening, and its inner lips.

When masturbating him, explore how firm a grip he likes you to use,

and how you can best stimulate the head of his

penis. For example, by running a lubricated finger round the rim.

And how to stimulate the ridge of the skin underneath, the frenulum, where all

his nerve endings are focused.

There are several ways you can massage his penis.

The simplest is to make a tight ring with a finger and thumb and to massage

him up and down with this.

Try ringing the changes by going fast then slow, firm then gentle.

and be guided by how he responds and what he seems to like.

Another technique is to palm the tip of his penis by literally rubbing your palm

all over the tip while perhaps stroking his balls at the same time.

Perhaps the most delicious sensation of all for most men is to use a continuous

hand-over-hand technique.

in which you make a finger-thumb ring with both hands and run these one after

the other down the shaft using plenty of lubrication.

This tight continuous downwards movement feels like deeper and deeper penetration

to him and will soon have him writhing in ecstasy.

For more advanced masturbation you can even use the end of his penis to

stimulate your clitoris.

You'll usually find it brings him off as well.

You can also try getting him to lie on his back with you on top, then rub your

clitoris and labia backwards and forwards over his penis, though you'll

probably need lots of lubricant for this.

One of the sensational secrets of mutual masturbation is the three finger

technique in which you gently stimulate her clitoris, vagina and anus together.

This drives many women wild.

Not every woman likes having her anus stimulated, however, so experiment to

see what goes down well.

One secret known to advanced lovers is the G-spot.

A controversial, erogenous zone named after its discoverer, Ernst

Brachtenberg. It is a button-like area of tissue on the front wall of the

vagina that swells during sexual arousal. When the G-spot is stimulated

and gently pressed, it can trigger a rapid and intense orgasm.

Hunting the G-spot is an erotic game you can both play.

To look for the female G-spot, your partner should lie on her back with her

knees bent and apart, while you kneel between her legs.

Using lubrication, insert your index finger two to three inches into her

vagina.

Make a beckoning gesture with your finger to bring the fingertip up against

the front vaginal wall until you can feel the underlying hardness of her

pubic bone.

Press your fingertip firmly but gently up against this bone and move round and

round in a small circle, slowly working upwards or downwards.

If she suddenly feels a strange, pleasant and intense sensation, you've

found it.

It only appears when she is fully aroused, and you may find it feels like

a small coin under a blanket.

Don't be too disappointed if it remains elusive, as not every woman seems to

have one.

And don't worry either if it makes you feel like you want to pee.

The G-spot is close to the bladder.

Some women also ejaculate a small amount of fluid when they orgasm, especially

through G-spot stimulation.

This is thought to come from glands in the vaginal wall that become engorged

during intense arousal, then squeeze during climax.

You will also notice while hunting for a G-spot that the upper vagina actually

expands or balloons during arousal. It's not as tight as you might imagine. It is

only the vaginal entrance that tightens as arousal increases.

The male g-spot lies in his prostate gland.

Some men love having this stimulated while others find it strange at first

and may take time to enjoy it.

The only way to find out if he likes it or not is to gently try and see how you

go. But do make sure your fingernail is short and use plenty of lubrication.

So masturbation is an activity everyone should practice.

It has all sorts of benefits when you do it.

And is an important part of your sexual repertoire with your partner.

Oral sex is a huge complement to one another. The ultimate acceptance of our

most intimate parts and a powerful involvement with our most personal

sense.

Nature has designed your body shape, hair and odors as a turn-on for your

partner.

Don't be embarrassed about the way you look or smell.

Get to know your partner's unique body smells which contain pheromones,

powerful sexual attractants that activate your heart and instincts to

help bring you closer together.

Oral sex should be seen as one of the most pleasuring things one can do for

another, and empowering to you in giving you control over their sensations and

arousal.

Let it be as big a turn-on for the giver as the receiver.

Realize that far from being demeaning, it gives you the power to control the

sensations and pleasures felt by your partner.

Don't worry too much about hygiene.

As long as people bathe regularly and have no infections, it is relatively

safe. If you prefer, you can include washing your partner as part of your pre

-oral sexual technique.

As for semen, it is mostly a slightly salty tasting mixture of simple proteins

and sugars, which will do no harm when swallowed.

It is up to you whether you want him to come in your mouth, however, and if he

does, whether you want to swallow.

You could wipe it away with a tissue.

When it splashes on the back of your throat, it will trigger a natural

swallowing reflex, which you need to know about.

Don't be surprised by its warmth and how small an amount it is. Only around half

a teaspoon, not the gallons you might expect from porn clips.

If you are fine with oral sex but don't want him to come in your mouth, bring

him to the brink, then finish him off with your hand.

Do try, though, by tasting a little bit to overcome any revulsion you might

feel.

All sorts of techniques can be used in oral sex.

Lick all over the whole area to give your partner an intimate tongue bath.

The rim of the helmet or glands and the ridge or frenulum.

Underneath at the back are the most sensitive parts of the penis.

While the clitoris and surrounding areas are usually the most sensitive parts of

a woman.

Try first licking the tip of the tongue on the clitoris or women to men on the

frenulum.

Another secret here is for the man to keep his tongue still and let the woman

rub against it at her own pace and pressure to give herself maximum

pleasure.

You can also try getting him to hum on your clitoris, like a human vibrator.

One well-kept secret of oral sex is just how fantastic sucking can be for your

partner instead of simply licking.

Do cover your teeth with your lips so you don't accidentally bite these

sensitive areas.

You can take the entire clitoris and inner labia into your mouth and gently

suck on these and even rub the end of your nose on the pubic mound at the same

time for extra stimulation.

Women can draw more blood into his penis, giving him literally explosive

feelings as they do plenty of loveless tongue work.

Try inserting the tip of your tongue into the sensitive hole or urethral

opening at the end of his penis.

Use your fingers as well as your mouth.

Add in all the manual techniques you've learned from masturbating your partner.

Men love the sensation of their partner's tongue interacting with her

probing fingers, especially a firm grip on the base of their penis while her

tongue swirls around the head and ridge at the back.

To stimulate the penis, lick him while using a tight finger thumb ring to

massage him up and down with your hand.

Stimulating the clitoris with your tongue is an art, as it can be so

delicate and sensitive.

Most women, for example, prefer downwards rather than upwards movements,

so experiment to see what she likes best.

Try circular movements of the tongue all around the clitoris.

Use your hands as well as your tongue.

Try palming her vulva and as you lick, use a long slow continuous finger-over

-finger technique on either side of the clitoris.

Many women like having their vaginal entrance gently stretched during oral

sex by inserting a finger. Try inserting two fingers and opening them slightly to

stretch the entrance.

She may even want more.

Women can also try gripping their thighs together for greater friction and making

him have to dig deeper with his tongue.

For mutual oral sex, Soissons Neuf, the 69 position, is the best known.

It's also a great position for mutual G-spot hunting.

Lie facing one another in the Soissons Neuf position.

Using lubrication, gently place the pad of your index finger against his anus

and gently push so it slips inside.

Gently and slowly advance your finger 2 to 3 inches up.

the front wall, until you feel a firm, rubbery swelling, the prostate gland.

Press your fingertip firmly but gently up against this swelling and slowly

massage it using small circular movements.

Some men find this exquisitely pleasurable and stimulation of this

alone may even trigger ejaculation.

When removing your finger, do so slowly and gently and wash your hands before

touching each other's genitals again.

One advantage of using the classic 69 position is that, as a bonus, it gives

him access to you if you want to try some mutual G-spot searching.

For really different oral sex, try the love triangle.

She leans forward to take her partner's peanut in her mouth.

while he has open access to lick her at the same time.

A more advanced position for neutral oral sex is the Big O, which gives you

both improved access for simultaneous oral and manual stimulation.

For the duplicate and adventurous, the vertical 69 position is worth trying,

although you're unlikely to be able to keep this up for long.

Remember, oral sex is the real way of showing your partner how intimately you

are involved with them, and how much you appreciate the most private parts of

their body.

Particularly for intercourse, the importance of safe sex cannot be

underestimated. Unless you're in a long-term relationship and know your

partner's sexual history, you really should use condoms.

The secret of realizing your full orgasmic potential in intercourse, or

making your climaxes deeper, stronger and longer, is to take all the time you

need.

Banish any negative thoughts so you can fully let yourself go.

In the end, it's your orgasm.

Of course, your partner can add a lot, but it means abandoning yourself fully

to one of the most powerful feelings any human being can have.

You should have learnt a lot about your arousal and climax from masturbation.

If you were fine to come alone but not with penetrative sex, then it is a

matter of sorting out your concerns with a partner.

One idea is to take the pressure off orgasming in intercourse by coming

before penetration.

Apart from quickie sex, any good male lover should ensure his partner has at

least one climax before he enters her.

Some women need a helping hand, their own or their man's, to bring them off

during intercourse.

At birth she may need continued clitoral stimulation with his hand too.

This is most easily done if you both lie curled side by side facing the same way.

He should be able to reach over and gently stimulate her clitoris with one

hand while inserting his penis from behind.

Some women prefer penetration only to occur at the point of climax.

Others prefer to feel you inside her from the beginning using this position.

One position that gives clitoral stimulation with the fingers is this.

This position gives him full access to her breasts, and as she moves up and

down, it's possible to stimulate her clitoris with one hand using a good

amount of lubrication.

Women on top positions let her gain control and can be extremely satisfying

for both of you.

By moving up and down and varying the speed and depth of penetration, she can

set her own pace and reach orgasm more easily.

If you feel she's going too fast for you, hold her hips so she knows to slow

down a little.

These positions are also good if the man is particularly tired and his partner is

happy to make the effort.

For deeper, longer, stronger sex, you can also try various techniques for

penetration.

Circling and semicircling thrust during penetration help to stimulate larger

areas of the vagina and can produce exquisite sensations and orgasms.

Vary the pace and rhythm.

Slow rhythms with alternating shallow and deep strokes can help to make her

orgasm stronger.

by long, deep strokes followed by almost complete withdrawal.

And another secret is to totally disengage the penis from the vagina

between deep thrusts to provide maximum clitoral stimulation.

This is especially delicious for her if the man slowly rubs the tip of his penis

down the length of her clitoris during his approach for the next penetration.

He can also try using just the tip of his penis in shallow motions at the

opening of her vagina as this is where most of her sensitive nerve endings are

and where she becomes most engorged and so tighter during arousal.

During intercourse, you can also stimulate her clitoris with the base of

your penis during deep penetration by simply lying further up her body in the

missionary position.

Alternatively, with the man lying on his back and the woman lying on top, she

brings her legs inside his for a snugger fit.

By keeping her legs inside his, she can increase the friction between his penis

and her vagina and clitoris as he thrusts into her.

Finally, if he's come and you haven't, try leaving his wilting penis inside you

as you bring yourself off by rubbing up against him and stimulating yourself

with your hand.

Men need just as much caressing and stimulation as women.

Holding his penis at the base as it moves in and out of you can really

increase his pleasure.

It can be very arousing for both of you if you slip a finger inside yourself

while he is moving in and out of you.

You will feel even more filled up and you can stimulate the sensitive head of

his penis too.

Try this position for the tightest grasp of his penis.

She squeezes her fingers together to grip him firmly as he moves in and out.

This position also lets her stimulate her clitoris with her hand at the same

time, and gives him access to caress her breasts, clitoris, or buttocks.

A real turn on for him is to stimulate his balls with your fingers during

penetration, and especially at the moment of ejaculation.

The base of the penis is also quite sensitive.

Pressing firmly against his perineum, the area between his anus and scrotum

during penetration, will help to increase the intensity of his orgasm.

Lubrication is a very useful sex aid for avoiding soreness.

heightening arousal, and increasing sexual sensations.

A variety of water-based gels are available, but if you haven't any,

nature provides saliva.

Near the point of coming, there are various techniques for making your

orgasm all the more sensational.

Use the stop-start routine learned in masturbation.

Stop near the brink, letting your arousal subside a little, then start

again.

The more you repeat this, the more shattering your climax will be.

The bigger the build-up, the more intensive the contractions will be and

the release of orgasm. You can also try tensing and flexing your muscles to

increase the sensations.

Women can try pushing out their pelvic floor muscles instead of drawing them in

for a totally different yet exquisite sensation of release.

Try deep breathing just as you are about to come.

To develop these techniques, it helps if you are both able to tell when your

partner is about to come, so you can stop what you are doing and allow the

suspense to build almost indefinitely.

It's up to you how long you want to linger and enjoy the pleasurable

sensations your bodies can produce, and at what point you want to strive ahead

for your climax.

In men, telltale signs of being near the brink include tensing of the scrotum,

thighs and abdomen, and the balls rising tight against the base of the penis.

In women, it can often be more difficult to tell, although the clitoris will

usually feel more engorged. Her nipples will be swollen, and though you may feel

her vaginal muscles gripping you more tightly at the base, the upper part of

the vagina will balloon and so feel looser.

In both men and women, breathing will become more rapid, and one in four

people develop a reddening sex flush that starts on the lower abdomen or

chest and can spread to the neck, face and limbs.

It is also common to start perspiring more than would be usual for this amount

of exercise.

Communicate verbally or with your body to let your partner know when to slow

down or speed up to maximise the sensations.

Expressing yourself is one of the secrets of sensational sex.

Know and cry out if you want to.

It's all part of letting yourself go.

Don't feel inhibited and be prepared to ask for what you want and to show your

partner so that they can get it right for you.

Give simple words of encouragement or a gentle message to try something else.

Your processes of sexual arousal are finely tuned, so you need to be able to

interpret each other's modes of pleasure to know when you're doing something the

other likes, and equally need warning when you do something they're less

female.

A helping hand is often the best way of bringing you both to a simultaneous

orgasm. But it's wise not to make coming together too much of a goal.

Let each other know where you like being touched, either by telling her or by

taking their fingers in yours and showing them what to do.

If you're unsure what your partner is trying to tell you, it really helps to

ask. A whispered, is that good, or do you want me to stop, will usually get

you back on track.

If you develop the techniques that delay orgasms and make them deeper, longer and

stronger when they do come, then you and your partner will be well on the way to

enjoying truly sensational sex.

Having a varied repertoire requires knowing a number of sexual positions,

some simple, some quite advanced.

Each has benefits, usually for both partners, and different ones can be used

for different needs and occasions.

Experimenting with the many hundreds of ways that two bodies can be intertwined

is very arousing and great fun in itself.

So test which ones heighten pleasure for one or both of you. Some allow deeper

penetration, improved stimulation of the clitoris, G-spot, or a tighter grip on

the penis.

While others offer greater visual delights or accessibility of erogenous

areas.

Getting into some of the more advanced ones shouldn't be taken too seriously,

though. Have a laugh trying, sex after all should be great fun.

Penetration from behind often gives the most satisfying orgasms for women, as

this stretches the front wall of the vagina where the G-spot is found.

Another position good for stimulating the G-spot is to make love when lying

curled up side by side, with his front to her back.

This is especially good when you both want a close cuddle.

This position allows him to penetrate her very deeply.

And this one allows full stroke movement and deep penetration.

For deeper, tighter penetration, this position lets him push forward, where he

can penetrate her as fully as possible.

In this position, you could slip a pillow under her buttocks, which allows

you to thrust deeper.

And, as a bonus, it also helps increase the sensation of tightness.

More energetic couples can enjoy lovemaking standing up with the woman's

arms around his neck and her legs entwined around his waist.

This one is particularly good for the second time around, when his penis may

not be fully erect.

It allows her to control the rate of movement and the depth of penetration.

He has the freedom to move up and down with the knees and to thrust forwards if

he wishes.

Let your imagination run away with you.

Not to mention your body.

and adventurously explore all the many different ways you can entwine

yourselves in the discovery of ever more sensational sex.

One of the great secrets of sensational sex is variety.

One exciting way to keep bringing the changes is for you and your partner to

think of your love life as a secret affair.

With this way of thinking, you're unlikely to fall into the trap of doing

the same things time and time again, and let your appetites become jaded.

Vary the time of day.

Don't wait until night when you're both tired.

Make time for sex.

Weekends and holidays provide great opportunities, but what if you both take

a long lunch in bed together or a few hours off work just for the two of you?

Vary the location all around the house or try sex outside for some added

excitement.

Try rooms you've never used for sex before.

The bathroom can be one of the most erotic rooms in the house.

Don't just vary the setting, spend some time getting the atmosphere right.

Using a large mirror near the bed can also increase excitement.

and adds a voyeuristic element letting you watch each other's facial responses

and see your partner's body from different angles.

Surprise each other while watching TV.

Try sexy clothing.

Make love through it. Don't always be naked.

Find things, books, videos, fantasies to turn you on and expand your repertoire.

Anything that will help.

Go to sex shops together, get their catalogues or look them up on the

internet.

Use melting ice cubes.

Even slip one into the vagina or anus, but make sure it is half melted first.

One secret of advanced lovers is applying a little spearmint or

peppermint toothpaste under the foreskin for an extra tingle. This is especially

helpful second time round to re-stimulate an erection.

Sex toys also have an important role to play. For example, vibrators have been

available for years and continue to be popular because they work faster than

any hand or tongue.

They can produce exquisite sensations when used around the clitoris that can

be used on all the erogenous zones.

Vibrators are not just for women.

Use them to stimulate the penis, especially the frenulum, which is the

sensitive ridge of skin at the back of the foreskin.

His perineum, scrotum and nipples too.

Many couples find mild bondage a real turn-on.

Alternate taking control in one session and then being really passive in

another.

Lying there submissively while your partner does exactly what he or she

likes to you can be one of the most erotic ways to make sex more

sensational.

It is important, though, to know your limits.

Be adventurous, but don't get carried too far beyond what you're comfortable

with.

Being a good lover means maximising your own and your partner's pleasure.

It doesn't have to involve weirder and weirder practices, but it should involve

keeping your sex life fresh, exciting and adventurous for you both.

Remember to keep your sexuality as an integral part of your lives.

Physical and emotional intimacy are two of the key elements in maintaining a

healthy sex life.

Sensitivity and sensuality are equally important.

Keep romance alive in your relationship and keep your partner feeling wanted and

sexy.

The way you behave in the rest of your relationship can directly impact on your

sex life so have a great time always treat

your lover with respect and try to understand their wants and needs

sensational sex comes from being free of inhibitions so try

not to be embarrassed when things don't always go to plan

Ultimately keeping a sense of fun and openness will help ensure that your sex

life is alive and well.