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When we talk about intercourse, one of the things we talk about is positions.

Positions being how do we put the bodies together.

And there are an infinite number of ways of putting the bodies together.

I've experimented with quite a variety of sexual positions.

We'll just make up positions as we go along or whatever we're in the mood for,

so it's really exciting.

We do try things, but we usually end up going back to what we like the best.

We use probably about 87 or 88 that we know work. I definitely...

Use five or six of them during lovemaking.

Variety is the spice of life.

For a couple to become deeply intimate, there are several factors they must

establish in their relationship.

These include mutual respect, caring, and communication.

Once these basic elements are present, a couple may want to progress to greater

intimacy. But many people find it difficult to grow beyond the most basic

level when it comes to sex.

reaching higher in sexuality is something which can be easily attained

and provide great satisfaction along the way one of the best ways to start

enhancing your lovemaking is by experimenting with a variety of sexual

positions this video is going to present a selection of positions which couples

can easily try feel free to stop the tape and discuss anything you see with

your partner

remember when it comes to sex there are no rules except that both partners agree

on the activity creative positions for lovers beyond the

bedroom

Guest consultants you'll see in this video include Linda Banner, a sex

therapist in private practice, Dr.

Marty Klein, a certified sex educator, author, and licensed therapist, and

Bernie Zilbergeld, sex therapist and author of the best-selling The New Male

Sexuality. Now, one of the positions that a lot of people enjoy is the man.

on top of his partner. And some people like that because they like the feel of

their weight on top of their partner. Some people like that because they like

to be able to look into that other person's eyes and really feel connected

to them.

Other people just like that feeling of being in charge.

A lot of men like the male superior position because that's their way, if

you will, of controlling the pace, the thrust, the sensations on their penis.

One basic position is known as male superior.

Benefits of this position include strong stimulation for the clitoris, especially

if the man rides high, pressing his pubic bone against the vulva.

Couples are face to face, enhancing feelings of intimacy.

shallow thrusting teases sensitive areas around the vaginal opening and also

provides pleasing stimulation to the head of the penis the rhythm and pace of

thrusting can be varied from slow and light to rapid and deep by varying the

speed many men find they can extend intercourse before ejaculating

The woman shares considerable control over the pace of intercourse and gentle

upward thrusting is pleasurable for her.

This technique can result in greater arousal and orgasms for some women

because of the steady clitoral stimulation from the man riding high.

Here's how one woman feels about this position.

Ironically, I think the position that I'm most stimulated by is the standard

traditional position.

missionary position because of the way Jonathan has an erection

I feel like it just kind of enters me in just the right spot and I also we're

kind of matched in strength so I can kind of move him around however I want

even if he's on top of me

The male superior position can be just a starting point to a whole new world of

sexual excitement.

I believe that great sex, if you will, if there is such a thing as great sex,

requires communication, caring, and creativity.

Ann Landers asked her readers what had happened to sex after they got married,

and something like 82% said that it had got boring, dull.

routine. Guess why?

Because they did pretty much the same thing every time or they just had a few

little variations.

Some people want to look into their partner's eyes. Other people want to

look at their partner's butt.

Some people like to be able to touch certain parts of their partner's body.

Other people like something else. So different positions offer all sorts of

different opportunities both for the physical connection and the emotional

connection.

Some couples are creative and experiment on their own some prefer books or videos

to see what other people have tried Whatever way you're comfortable with is

usually the best

As

a variation from entering his partner from above the man can approach her from

a vertical position

he can push off against the bed into his partner.

She helps increase contact by wrapping her legs around him.

By sliding his partner down to the end of the bed so that her legs are hanging

over the edge, the man can lean forward on her body, taking most of his weight

on his forearms, while she relaxes and lets herself be taken completely.

Movement and penetration are limited so that arousal can be controlled.

Pushing them both up the bed, his knees thrusting her legs wide apart, the man

can penetrate his partner quite deeply.

For her the sensation is increased by having her knees close to her chest.

using these positions the man is able to control his thrusting and the speed at

which he reaches orgasm this kind of control is especially beneficial if the

man is at all worried about losing his erection or if he wants to delay

ejaculation for the woman being on her back is relaxing and allows her freedom

to enjoy the sensations

This way, she doesn't have to be responsible for anything but her own

pleasure. However, complete unresponsiveness by the woman can have

the opposite effect.

The feelings that women have about this position also run kind of the same

gamut. Some women really enjoy the sense of their partner's weight on top of

them. Some women like to be looked at adoringly from above.

Some women really like the feeling of, wow, he's in charge and he's really

taking me.

Other women are not so comfortable with that. Some women feel a little bit

intimidated. Some women feel like, oh, you're kind of heavy. Get off of me.

When both partners lean back to create a V, it takes the weight off both their

backs while still facing each other and gives them the freedom to use their

hands to stimulate each other's genitals.

Leaning farther apart can be comfortable for women during pregnancy.

And in most cases, there is no danger to the baby when you engage in intercourse

during pregnancy.

Turner and I communicate about different sexual positions simply by saying, let's

do this.

I just pretty much say it. I say, hey, you want to give this a whirl? Or, hey,

I read about this. Or, hey, I saw this.

Sometimes it's verbally communicated. Other times it's just kind of

physically, gently communicated.

Oftentimes we'll bring in a new book that we've read or something in a

magazine that we've found.

You could say, you know, honey, I really love making love with you, but it's

occurred to me, you know, we tend to do the same thing.

I'd like to do something different. I'd like to be on top, you know, next time.

Or I'd like to try it from the rear. Remember we saw that movie and blah,

blah, blah?

I'd like to try that. Or you know that weird sideways position we saw in the

movie and we couldn't imagine how you'd get into it?

Well, how about we find out? I think that if one person...

has read something about a new position or seen it on a video or talked to a

friend or wherever they got the idea to try a new position, I think it's

important for them to talk about that and negotiate it before they get into

the act and into the moment.

Usually the person who's on top sets the pace. They're kind of in control.

Okay, and the missionary position is sort of the standard sexual position in

the Western world.

Okay, so the guy has most of the control.

That's fine.

Women like that position too.

But why not sometimes let her on the show?

Many men and women both find the woman on top positions extremely pleasurable.

With the man underneath and relatively immobile, she can stimulate his penis

easily by moving up and down and more readily control the depth of

penetration.

Some men enjoy when their partner takes the lead and is responsible for setting

the pace and depth of penetration.

As she nears orgasm, he can get really turned on by watching her excitement.

Amy's very good about letting me know either by moving my body,

moving my hand, or shifting her own weight, or just verbal.

instruction with getting us to the optimal position.

So I just try to listen to what she's saying and take clues

from the way her body's moving and even listen to her breath to see what's going

on for her.

In a variation on this position, the woman squats over the man and raises and

lowers her pelvic region onto his penis.

The woman can also playfully tease her partner by almost withdrawing and then

bringing him back inside her.

When the man thrusts upward, the two can come together for really deep

penetration.

The biggest reason I like to be on top is because I like when Jonathan massages

my back.

and my breasts and kind of rubs his arms all over the rest of my body which when

I'm on the bottom he can't do very well because he's supporting his weight.

So I'm most happy when I'm getting more parts of my body stimulated and it feels

really exciting to have him inside me when I'm on top of him.

By leaning back and away from her partner's body, she can once again

change the angle and depth of penetration.

In this position she can rotate her pelvic area.

With her leaning away, the man can add manual stimulation to her clitoris.

I've had difficulty learning to become orgasmic. I often encourage them to try

the woman superior, if you will, position the woman on top, because that

allows her, number one, control of the pace and the position and penetration.

It gives her a sense of control of her body and her responsiveness.

Oftentimes the man can report lasting longer.

you know, doesn't respond as quickly that way.

And so for me it's kind of, and the woman can get her breast stimulation

while she's having penetration and clitoral stimulation all at the same

time. The man laying there looking up at the woman who's sitting on him basically

has a different view of her, her face, her body than he has from any other

position. Well, why not enjoy that? She has a different view of him. So let

her... Set the pace, be in charge, be in control, let her manage the situation,

let him be more passive.

These kinds of positions afford a woman the chance to feel strong, to feel like

she's in charge, to feel like she can express herself in a really complete

way. They also give a woman a chance to dominate a man if that's what the two of

them enjoy. Some men really like to be held down during sex some of the time.

Some men really like to feel like, wow, she's in charge and there's no stopping

her.

When the woman on top faces forward with her knees flat, she can use her hands to

raise or lower herself at will.

This position can provide her with the amount and type of stimulation she

needs. Such positions also provide the woman with sensations she can't achieve

any other way

Facing

the opposite direction she can stimulate her clitoris This position gives the man

back some of the control over her movements

he can also reach up and fondle her breasts from behind.

the simplest version of the sitting position is with the woman on the man's

lap rocking back and forth gently as the man thrusts from underneath he has easy

access to her clitoris and can kiss her breasts some women become really aroused

when their nipples are gently nibbled on

To add to the woman's stimulation she can also stroke her clitoris.

Straddling her partner she's in control of the pace and depth of thrusting.

This position is most comfortable when you have a chair without arms.

These sitting positions are beneficial for couples who are looking for an easy

variation to sexual activities.

Rear entry position can also be made easy with the woman leaning over the

chair, keeping the pressure off her arms, legs and back.

For most people, sitting position sex can be very intimate, because usually

it's slower. You're closer together.

I mean, if my sweetie is sitting on my lap, I mean, she's right here.

Hello?

You know, you can really be face-to-face, eye-to-eye, you know, if

you want to be eye-open.

Kissing is possible, which it is not possible in some other positions.

Again, that's assuming she's facing toward me.

I've made love in places other than the bed, such as on the stairs and chairs,

on the floor.

Couches, tables, in boats, on floors, lots of different areas.

Well, I'm not saying we'll do it anywhere also, but we'll kind of do it

almost anywhere. So it's really exciting.

I guess where you go and when it happens, spontaneity is everything.

If you're alone and are in the mood, sex can be an appetizer to any meal.

The kitchen can become an exciting and new location for intercourse when the

situation presents itself.

While the man enters from behind, his lover can face forward and grasp the

edge of the counter.

She can use it to push herself back with more force.

I like the variety.

It's the icing on the cake.

It cuts down on the monotony and the routineness.

We just get along great. We just seem to really be the right people for each

other, physically and, I guess, spiritually.

Sometimes we'll try something different and not knowing how either one of us is

going to like it and then, you know, have it just be great.

So I think it's very important to try different things because it can get

boring and, you know, couples sort together for a long time.

If you just do the same thing all the time, then it can get as boring as just

eating cheeseburgers every day.

As we do on the kitchen counter, and in that case, I would be sitting up on the

counter and wrapping my legs around him.

Some men find intercourse pleasurable when the woman lies on the kitchen

counter. This way, there is little pressure on either partner's back.

This standing position can be an exciting variation and enhance your

sexual arousal.

Height may play a factor in this position since kitchen counters are

usually about 36 inches high.

If this makes the position awkward or uncomfortable try something else

instead.

Variety actually leads to much more excitement.

Experimenting, being playful, having fun, being more spontaneous and

not being so goal-oriented for me means having a more

exciting relationship because there's a way to let go of expectation

and a way to let go of having a goal of an orgasm.

It's like, who am I in this moment and how can I really accept the pleasure

that's going on inside my own body and be present to the pleasure that's going

on in my partner's?

There's a way in which I actually feel younger and younger each year because I

do experiment with Roy and because we feel like each time we discover new

things about each other or ourselves, we're just more alive.

The dining room table is an easy substitute for the counter and is lower

as well.

The woman can lie back with her legs hanging over as her lover penetrates

her. This way she has a great deal of movement available since her lover is

standing away from her.

Leaning over the table can provide an excellent opportunity to experiment with

rear entry positions.

Making love in places other than the bedroom can add an exciting new

dimension to sex play.

Sex variety is really important.

It's important to have variety of location.

Don't always do it in bed, no matter how comfortable that is. Force yourself to

use the kitchen counter or the hallway floor or something.

My partner and I do make love in places other than the bed.

One of our favorite places is the shower.

Some couples find a shower can provide an erotic and exciting sexual

experience. The warmth and spray of the water can add to the sensuality of the

moment. A shower can also be a good place to experiment with standing

positions for intercourse.

Using a lubricant may be necessary for comfortable intercourse and it should be

oil based so it won't wash off.

in a more athletic standing position the woman wraps her legs around her lover

and he holds her up she can place her arms around his neck and raise herself

up and down he can also propel her with his pelvic area

If your shower isn't large enough for two people to move around in, manual

stimulation may provide great pleasure as well.

With both partners stroking each other, orgasm can be very pleasurable.

after a shower or bath when both partners are clean the bathroom vanity

or counter can also provide a position for oral sex while the man sits on the

counter his partner can pleasure him with fellatio

Thank you.

He can return the pleasure with cunnilingus.

Bye. Bye.

really do like the rear entry position sometimes that gets a little

uncomfortable for me so we have to be careful but it's it's a fun one for both

of us i really like if he's behind me because i think that he can reach me

better the rear entry positions are rather appealing to me any way you talk

about it it involves the woman being on her hands and knees and a man coming

behind her either standing up or lying down on top of her and for some couples

this is just the cat's meow for some couples they really like the feeling

that he's taking her they really like the feeling that he can pour his energy

into that sexual situation and some women like to kind of be anonymous and

hide their face a little bit and that can be a great deal of pleasure for some

people rear entry is one of the favorite positions i mean women like it men like

it it's a different kind