Original subtitles

[crickets chirping]

[wind howling]

[leaves rustling]

[birds chirping]

[adult Sasha] "I struggle now to remember much of my childhood.

It only comes back to me in small fragments, and

even those memories are hard to trust.

I do remember his maps."

[soft music playing]

[adult Sasha] " It's true, I spent most of my life

being angry at him.

The older I get,

the more I feel like I never even knew him at all.

My image of him now, I know, falls flat compared to reality.

Thank you for your memories."

[kid laugh]

[adult Sasha] "They're all I have now."

[boy 1] ...you got whip cream to the to the mat.

[girl 1 laughs]

[girl 1] I have 4 pillows in my car.

[kids chattering, laughing]

[van moving sound]

[♪♪♪]

[van stops]

[van door opens, shuts]

[♪♪♪]

[grunts]

[birds chirping]

[man exhales]

[box scrapes]

Okay, boys,

grab each one thing, and come with me in the house.

-Now. -Yeah.

-[in Hungarian] Look after her, okay? -Okay.

Jeremy, help me with the mattress, please.

[Dad groans]

[insects, birds chirping]

[flicksswitch]

[whirs]

[chiming]

[indistinct speech]

[camera shutter clicks]

[girl 1] I am Miss Mousey.

[boy 2 mumbles]

[Mom] Hm.

[girl 1 chuckle]

[girl 1] Closing her eyes...

She's eating your leg.

[camera shutter clicks]

Uh-huh.

Uh-huh. But why, what did she say?

[kid making playful sound]

At least everyone,

or almost everyone will have their own room.

Because I didn't want Jeremy to take that big ferry to school.

Um-hm.

[kid making playful sound]

You never want to hear about the problems.

You always want to hear about the nice and good things.

Yes, but this way we can't discuss anything!

I don't know...

No. You know the answer is no.

You should come up here.

You pay us a visit.

[kid making playful sound]

[kid laughs]

Are you ready to leave? I should be working.

Yes, yes, in a minute.

Okay, I've got to hang up, we must go.

-Mom, your car keys! -Oh.

Come on! Get out of my way, come on!

[Mom] Come. Okay.

[door shuts]

Some guy--

[car doors shutting]

[engine starts]

[birds chirping]

-[wind howling] -[leaves rustling]

[boy 1] Woah.

[laughs]

[girl 1] "And eventually become an evergreen forest.

The first plants to occupy a disturbed site

are called pioneer species.

The process of processing into forest called succession."

[camera shutter clicking]

[wind howling]

[bird flapping wings]

[seagulls squawking]

[wildlife narrator] The heron has two methods of fishing.

Either he waits for the prey to come to him,

or else he stalks it very carefully.

[cracks seed]

[birds chirping]

[wildlife narrator] While one protects the nest,

the other fishes, to meet the daily increasing need for food

[kids chattering indistinctly]

[wildlife narrator] As time passes,

the ritual exchanges between adults

become less and less frequent,

and the strong bond between them begins to weaken.

By the time they finally leave the colony,

these bonds will have completely disappeared.

[kids chattering indistinctly]

[wildlife narrator] His flight path is sometimes

obstructed by a bird.

The direction and force of the wind

can also prevent him from landing.

So he takes off again and tries a new approach.

[Mom] No, please, no touching!

[wildlife narrator] Young herons have now reached

their full growth and are left on their own.

They find food either guided by their instinct

or by following the adults to the feeding grounds.

[kids chattering indistinctly]

[car doors open, shut]

[engine starts, revs]

[birds chirping]

[soft instrumental music playing]

[♪♪♪]

[kids chattering indistinctly]

-Thank you. -Be careful.

-Come on, let's go. -Yeah.

[girl 2] Let's go to my place first.

[girl 3] I can't wait.

Maybe you can ask your mom if we can go in the pool.

-[kids chattering indistinctly] -[girl 2] Yeah.

[girl 3] We could borrow you some of the shoes. It's fine.

Let's go!

Right over here.

[girl laughs]

-[girl 2] Did you do your dance? -[girl 3] Yes I did do my dance.

-[girl 2] I didn't see you! -Dance!

I know.

You have to do a dance before we do it.

-It's our-- it's our tradition. -Make sure you do a dance.

[girl 2] Let's go.

[indistinct speech]

Just wait here.

[birds chirping]

[phone ringing]

-[indistinct speech] -[laughs]

-[water splashes] -[girl 2 gasps]

-[girl 1] You guys! -[door opens]

-[girl 1] Help! -[man 1] Stay calm.

-[girl 1] Help! -[man 1]You grab a hold of this.

Stay calm.

Here we go, here we go!

Just hold on!

Why did you do that, sweetheart?

[humming]

[engine revving in distance]

[humming continues]

[insects, birds chirping]

[bike engine revving in distance]

[Dad] He wants to upset me. He wants to upset you.

Why are you talking to me in English?

Because this was our agreement.

OK.

-I can talk in Hungarian. -No.

[Mom] He's troubled, but he's not crazy.

[Dad] And-- and-- and...

[Mom] Crazy means something else.

[Mom] I just I don't want you

to say something like this about my son.

He is my son too, you know that.

[Mom] I mean, it's crazy to leave him like this.

[Dad] That's what they told us: don't react,

just let him get bored of his own jokes.

[door shuts] Well, I don't know.

[crow cawing]

[Mom] Please check on him, please.

[take a deep breath]

[birds chirping]

[phone beeps]

[door opens]

Is he still out there?

Mm-hm.

What do you think about Jeremy? How he's behaving?

I don't know.

Why do you think he's like this?

I don't know, mom.

[Dad] How did it go?

Why is your hair wet?

We played in the sprinkler.

[phone ringing]

Would you pick it up?

[phone beeps]

Hello?

Yeah, we've seen him.

Yeah, he's just acting out.

No. No, I appreciate it.

Yeah.

Um, yeah, yeah.

No, I'm with you. Yes. Yeah.

-[Mom] Who was that? -[Dad] Jason.

From across the street.

He wanted to let us know

that our son is dead on the front step.

My god.

I told him we are aware, and not to worry.

He will come back to life soon.

[laughs]

[birds chirping]

[leaves rustling]

[pours cereal and milk in bowl]

[boy 1] I woke up-- I woke up at 6:47.

[boy 2] Same. Around maybe 7:00.

Did you know that in the ocean--

You know how? You know a fun fact about dolphins?

[boy 1] I don't know. What fun fact?

Sometimes dolphins will find a puffer fish,

and gang up on it, and...

bite onto it and toss it around like a football

just to get high.

It's true.

Stop it!

I don't want to watch you eat.

Finish eating, we are leaving in five minutes.

[soft instrumental music playing]

Boys, do you know where's your swimsuit?

[boy 2] I don't have one.

[Mom] Okay, then you should wear these underwears,

so, no one will notice.

[boy 2] Yeah.

[♪♪♪]

[basketball thumping on wall]

Listen, you gotta stop this non-stop... "work".

I can't entertain the kids every day during the whole summer.

Oh, god...

I'm going crazy.

Even more?

Sasha, come.

Let's go.

Bye.

[door shuts]

[basketball thumping on wall]

Jeremy, come.

Jeremy.

Jeremy!

Jeremy, come!

Come with me now!

[indistinct chatter, laughter in background]

[car door shuts]

[Mom] Seat belts on.

[engine starts]

[basketball thumping]

[wind howling]

[waves crashing]

[boy 1 laughs]

[seagull squawking]

[kids chattering indistinctly]

[waves crashing]

You can't do it, it's too heavy dude, it's like 50 pounds.

[boy 1] There's not a lot.

-[boy 2] Let me see. -[boy 2] There's like four.

[boy 2] There's a decently big one right here.

Oh, he-- he lost an arm.

[boy 1] Oh, put it back, put it back!

-[waves crashing] -[seagull squawking]

[boys laughing, chattering]

[water splashes]

[cheers]

Don't.

[waves crashing]

[seagulls screeching]

[Sasha] No!

-[boy 1] No! -[boy 2 laughs]

[waves crashing continuously]

[kids chuckling]

[seagulls squawking]

[crickets chirping]

Did he take the money I gave you?

Hm?

No.

[Mom] Come on, let's go to the car.

[thunder rumbling]

[grunts]

[boy 1 speaks indistinctly]

[boy 2] I don't know what to...

Where's Jeremy?

[boy 1 speaks indistinctly]

[thunder rumbling]

[car door opens]

[car beeping]

[car door shuts]

[engine starts]

[intense music playing]

[Kids] 704, 705, 706,

707, 708, 709,

710, 711,

712, 713, 714, 715.

[rain patterns]

[vehicles whooshing]

[car beeping]

Come!

Come, now!

[♪♪♪]

[vehicles whooshing]

[Mom] Stop it!

Do you want me to crash?!

[Mom exhales]

[slurps]

[music fades]

[upbeat music playing]

[♪♪♪]

[keyboard keys clattering]

[grunts]

[instrumental music playing on computer]

Let me try.

Ah, damn.

It didn't land over there.

[kids speaks indistinctly]

[keyboard clattering]

[cutlery clinking]

Dad, where's mom?

She's at an appointment.

What kind of appointment?

Dad, what kind of appointment?

Come, draw something for me.

[mouse clicks]

Ta-dam!

Take a seat.

What are you doing?

Oh.

What's this do?

Try.

÷{gasps] Wow!

That's nice.

[mouse clicking]

[Sasha] I need to...

[Dad] That one.

It's going to be Miss Mousey.

[Sasha] Yeah!

[Dad] I know.

-[Sasha] Oh, that's big. -[Dad] That's one ear.

[Dad] I can move it back.

[Sasha] Oh, wait, I'll do the bucket.

[Dad] Pull some way just a little.

[Sasha] Oh no!

Yeah, and then this. You have to do it, like, slowly.

And can you take this?

[soft music playing]

[paper rustling]

-[boy 1] A boat. -[boy 2] Yeah.

There we go.

Yeah, dude.

Hey. Mine has water.

Hey, blue boat is still alive.

And so are mine.

[boy 2] Ki-- looking kind of rough, though.

[boy 1] Yep.

-[boy 2] Look at this. -[boy 1] You want one?

No.

[boy 2] She wish.

[boys speaking indistinctly]

[both boys laughing]

[camera shutter clicking]

[♪♪♪]

[soft piano music playing]

[♪♪♪]

[papers rustling]

Just try to find nice shapes,

and focus on the arrangements, okay?

-[boy 1] Hm. -[Dad] Um-hm.

[Dad] Nice so far, nice.

[switch flicks]

Lesson number one, never do that.

Henry.

Time, now.

[Sasha] Who is that?

[boy 2] Me.

[Dad] Time is going backwards. It's a time warp.

[Henry] Yeah.

-[boy 2] It's awesome. -[Sasha] That's really cool.

-[Dad chuckles] -[Henry] Yeah.

[door shuts]

Hey!

[soft piano music playing]

You spot instantly during this phase--

Jeremy, can you put it in the fixer, please?

[door knocks, opens]

[Dad] How did it go?

-Hm? -[Dad] How did it go?

Wha-- what do you mean?

I was terrible. But what is this?

What are you doing?

You're not working.

Where, where is... where are the children?

I will show you something in the darkroom.

[Mom] I don't know. I...

So now you get to be the hero,

and I'm going to the child psychiatrist?

I don't know so it's...

It seems like you don't really see that

we are in a crisis somehow.

-[Dad] So... -I...

Dadly, I guess.

[Mom exhales]

Did they have any advice this time?

[laughs]

You can listen to this whole thing.

He let you record it?

[crickets chirping]

[psychologist on recording] It's difficult.

You're correct, yes.

It's not clear entirely what is causing

this disruptive behaviour.

Even after meeting with him several times.

[Mom on recording] Can you say what he was telling you or no?

[psychologist on recording] No, I can't tell you that.

But I can tell you my professional opinion.

[Mom on recording] You mean a diagnosis?

[psychologist on recording] I know this is what you are after

but a diagnosis is not always as helpful as you might think.

[Mom on recording] You don't have one?

[psychologist chuckles]

[psychologist on recording] While areas of weakness

have been identified in his learning abilities.

They do not alone seem sufficient enough

to account for the level of social difficulty,

the relationship issues,

and adaptive living issues that you've reported to me.

As far as a diagnosis is concerned,

I would only feel confident

in suggesting that Jeremy has signs

of what we would call Oppositional defiant disorder.

[Mom on recording] What is this?

[psychologist on recording] It's what it sounds like.

-It means-- -[recorder clicks]

He is such an asshole!

He didn't get me at all.

Switch it back, I want to hear the end of it.

[recorder clicks]

[psychologist on recording] That somewhere along the line,

he decided that he is the boss.

And you just have to show him, and I mean really show him

but that's not the case. You are the boss.

[laughs]

[recorder clicks]

Okay, now I see what you mean.

-This didn't help. -No.

-What an asshole! -Yeah.

That's what he is.

Sasha!

You're too old for this now.

And too big.

Aw, but I can't sleep.

Oh you.

[man 1 in TV show] I'll slide this off.

It's so flavourfull.

[woman in TV show speaks indistinctly]

We are having now um... a girls night.

[applause in TV show]

-What, am I kicked out? -Uh-huh.

Sasha, Miss Mousey, and me. We're sleeping here.

You can sleep in her bed.

[grunts]

-Bye. Good night. -Good night.

[Dad] Nighty-night.

[man in TV show speaks indistinctly]

[woman 1 in TV show] Can you forget about it?

[woman 2 in TV show] You just said it, and then forget it.

[woman 3 in TV show] You just said it, and forget it.

[woman 4 in TV show] Said it, and forget about it.

[man 2 in TV show] You said it, and forget it.

[all together in TV show] Said it, and forget it.

[woman 5 in TV show] Of course-

Is she asleep?

Yeah, I think so.

I'm taking her out.

[cheering, clapping in TV show]

[man 1 in TV show] Thank you, thank you.

Just push it through.

[woman 5 in TV show] That's a very little effort...

[man 1 in TV show] Of course.

Well, absolutely. [speaks indistinctly]

Come on.

[grunts]

Miss Mousey.

[man 1 in TV show] I'll put it in the machine, slide it back,

turn up the window and...

If you can lift that up...

[woman 5 in TV show] You got it.

[man 1 in TV show] Alright, I'll do it in my show.

[water sprinkling]

[Sasha] Oh, no! Can I run through it?

[girl 3] No! Don't run through it.

[laughs]

It's fine. Oh no.

[laughs]

[indistinct chatter]

[Sasha] Guys, look at how fast it's going!

[girls shouting]

Wait she's gonna-- she's gonna pick it up,

and pop it this time.

[girls shouting]

[Sasha] Emma!

Um, Becky! Becky!

Drop it!

[Becky] Okay, okay, okay!

[screaming]

Pick it up! Pick it up!

3,2,1!

[screaming, laughing]

[girls shouting indistinctly]

[Emma] Now, everyone try to get me.

[Becky] Okay.

[Emma] Not yet! Not yet!

-[Becky] Now! Now! -[screams, laughs]

[Emma] That was so much fun.

[girls shouting indistinctly]

It's... [indistinct]

[car door opens, shuts]

Can you hold this for me?

[car door opens, shuts]

[water pump whirring]

[knocks door]

[police officer] Ma'am, is this your son?

He gave us this address.

[Mom] Yes.

[police officer] Your son was caught shoplifting.

We apprehended him in the parking lot.

Can you-- can you take off these?

He'll need to appear in court.

[handcuffs clicking]

[birds chirping]

Man, talk to me!

What--

What's happening?!

Are you out of your mind?!

Calm down, stop it!

Talk to me. Hey! Talk to me!

Get away from me!

-Hey, stop it! -[Jeremy] Get away from me!

Calm down!

Calm-- calm down!

Calm!

Hey, hey, hey!

Shush, shush, shush...

[Jeremy breathing heavily]

[mouse clicking]

[soft music playing on computer]

[keyboard keys clattering]

[♪♪♪]

[dog barking in distance]

Can I try?

Yeah.

[♪♪♪]

[Sasha] Woah.

[Mom] Um-hm.

[Sasha speaks indistinctly]

[Mom] Yeah.

And...

We are putting it here.

[water dripping]

-[Sasha] Like this? -[Mom] Yeah.

Like.

Yes.

[Sasha] Can Emma come over for dinner?

[potatoes squishing]

[Mom] Um...

I don't know, I...

I think it's not a good idea.

So I'm really very happy that you are making friends, and...

you can go to their houses anytime.

But...

I don't want you to feel embarrassed...

because what is happening here, you know?

I'm not embarrassed.

[Mom] But you don't know what people are saying.

So, it...

You know, it feels natural for you, but it shouldn't.

What do you mean?

[Mom] If Jeremy is coming home by the police,

then people are talking about it.

You know?

Yes, I think it's,

it's better like this, believe me.

To keep it separate, you know?

[sizzling]

[thudding sound]

Listen, come out already!

Listen, do you hear me? Come out already! [door opens, shuts]

-Come, for fuck's sake! -What is it?

-What is it? He is up there! -Who?

Jeremy!

[dog barking in background]

[Mom] Hey! Hey-hey-hey-hey!

[Dad] Devil got into you?

Out of your mind?

-He's gonna die. -He's out of his mind.

Hey, stop this now, okay?

Come down!

[Mom] Jeremy, can you hear me?

Please, get down, please.

[Dad] Jeremy!

[Mom] Jeremy...

Look at me.

Look at me, please.

[kid laughing in background]

Jeremy.

Get down, please.

Jeremy...

[breathes shakily]

-[wind howling] -[waves crashing]

[siren wailing]

[birds, insects chirping]

[night crickets chirping]

[water draining]

[water splashing]

Give me the towel. Thanks.

[night crickets chirping]

[glass shatters]

[Mom gasps]

[dogs barking]

[door opens]

[footfalling]

[Mom] Jeremy...

What have you done?

[dog barking continuously]

[Jeremy breathing shakily]

[shushes]

[Jeremy taking deep breaths]

[girl 5 on TV] Oh, there she goesShe is such a loser.

[girl 6 on TV] I know.

[laughing in TV show]

[girl 6 on TV] What a geek!

-[loud thud in TV show] -[laughing in TV show]

[girl 5 on TV] Get lost!

[girl 7 on TV] Words hurt. Don't be a part of it.

[wildlife narrator on TV] The North American house hippo

is found throughout Canada and Eastern United States.

House hippos are very timid creatures that are rarely seen

but they would defend their territory if provoked.

They come out at night to search for food, water,

and deterrents for their nests.

The favourite foods of the house hippo are chips, raisins,

and the crumbs from peanut butter and toast.

They build their nests in bedroom closets,

using lost mittens, dryer lint, and bits of string

The nests have to be very soft and warm.

House hippos sleep about 16 hours a day.

[woman on TV] That looked really real.

But you knew it couldn't be true, didn't you?

That's why it's good to think about

what you're watching on TV.

And ask questions, kind of like you just did.

A message from Concerned Children's Advertisers.

[looney tunes music playing]

-Hi. -Hello.

I'm from the Social Services.

-We had scheduled a house visit. -Yes.

Thank you.

[Dad] This way, please.

[Social services worker] I wanted to come by

and see how things are with Jeremy.

[Mom] Oh yeah, we have moved so many times.

And I always worry, what the neighbours are thinking of us.

That maybe we are bad parents.

The thing is that...

now in the last couple of days...

were some...

some moments, were not that easy with him.

Again.

[trampoline squeaking]

[kids chuckling]

[birds chirping]

[kids chuckling]

[sombre music playing]

[♪♪♪]

[Mom] She...

suggested...

um...

to...

um...

to... take him away.

And...

and I...

I said yes.

I just, I said yes.

[♪♪♪]

[patient's mother on phone] It is like some big ping pong.

The doctor says to talk to the psychologist.

The psychologist says

you need to call the police when he's acting like this.

But the police do nothing.

[adult Sasha] Mm-hm, I know.

[patient's mother on phone] I-- I just can't get over this.

[adult Sasha] I don't think anyone expects you to.

It's a very complicated situation,

and I think, you know.

You know that.

[patient's mother on phone] I just worry that

if someone else had him...

Maybe, you know, maybe it was me.

It's my fault.

That maybe with someone else, he could be a superstar.

[traffic moving]

[birds chirping]

[footsteps reaching]

[flicks switch]

How are you all? How are your days?

Nice to meet you.

Nice to meet you.

Thank you for meeting me.

Hi.

Hi, nice to meet you.

Nice to meet you.

Hi. Hello everyone.

Hi. Nice to meet you.

Hi.

Hi.

Hi. Nice to meet you.

[cup clunk]

[adult Sasha clears throat] Hi.

-[social worker 1] Hi. -[social worker 2] Hi.

[adult Sasha] How's everybody doing?

-[social worker 1] Good. -How are you?

[adult Sasha] As you can tell, you're on camera.

And, I'm a filmmaker here to present you with a case file.

[paper rustles]

[adult Sasha] There is an eldest child who's presenting,

issues within the family.

Some risk taking behaviours.

And was assessed, treated,

evaluated over the course of many years.

Family sort of rightfully

felt some frustrations in their availability to care.

And so I would love to get a sense of how you see this case,

and assess it.

And see how those options are different now,

how the case might be handled differently now.

[paper rustles]

[social worker 3] How old was the was the child when he first

started experiencing some of these things?

[adult Sasha] Um, I would say there was an observation of...

sort of behavioural concerns at like 3 or 4,

but 14--

14 years was really around the time things started escalating.

Right.

[adult Sasha] I have some information here about...

They give some insight into his goals.

Sure.

I just read it to you here.

Um, he describes the best time of his life as

"Can't think of one."

He says the best thing that could happen to him would be

"To be rich and famous."

He feels the worst time of his life was

"When I got caught stealing twice in a row."

He feels the worst thing that could happen to him would be

"To be like a junkie, to have a life I don't like."

He describes his three wishes as

"To have something to travel through time in the universe,

to have lots of money, and be old enough to drive."

[papers rustling]

[adult Sasha] There's a suggestion

of a personality disorder,

and then there's sort of a...

...a backtracking of that so.

So...

-[pen scribbles] -[adult Sasha clears throat]

There's a lot of confusion I find in the documents itself

about how to assess his well-being,

his sense of himself, his sense of himself,

when talking to different professionals.

Um, but this is what we have of how he felt.

Uh, I'm curious how that changes anybody's perspective.

The report talks a lot about, requiring considerable support.

Um, and I know that this is, 20 years ago.

I wonder what sort of support was available,

uh, for this young person.

Now, I think us as social workers, we see that,

fast forward 20 years,

there's still not a lot of support out there

to help transition these folks from crises to stabilization.

And-- and-- and um, going--

going down a path that's going to be helpful and goal-oriented.

And so I can't imagine what it looked like 20 years ago.

[social worker 2] I mean the piece that I read about

around having a little bit of respite,

I think sounds important,

provided that it's qualified with not being punitive.

I think that's really important.

If this young man, he's the eldest, you're saying,

just-- just so I'm clear in terms of the family history.

He's the eldest.

And he is the result of

the mother's relationship with another man,

and the younger three children are,

the mother's relationship with a different biological father?

[adult Sasha] Yes, yes, that's correct.

Yeah.

Um, so as the eldest...

And given what I'm hearing here, this whole family is in crisis.

They're feeling, I'm sure, at their wit's end.

[adult Sasha] Um-hm.

And probably holding two things,

wanting to get their son help,

and protect their other children.

Right. So the suggestion would be to sort of,

uh, ask the family to implement more of a...

structure to involve and provide.

-[social worker 1] With support, -[adult Sasha] Yeah.

you know, because they're not necessarily

feeling good about him.

So how does-- how do we change that?

And-- and using things he's interested in.

Yeah.

And so sometimes, voluntary placements

can-- can be a good intervention.

And then looking towards reunifying the family

and doing that work to help reunify the family.

Uh, and-- and sometimes it could create these voids and vacuums

and more problems, right?

And often, it's hard to see what the outcome is going to be.

And the initial decision is just made on,

is more made on...

Okay, the here and now what's happening intersectionaly,

in terms of like risk and danger,

and best interest of the child, whatever that means.

And so um, so it's hard to predict.

And I've seen it in the instances

that I have been involved with,

uh, go quite well and not go so well.

This is hard to say.

[sombre music playing]

Hm.

[waves crashing]

[♪♪♪]

[seagulls squawking]

[social worker 3 on laptop] Simple straight up assurance

is such a strong currency.

Just providing that reassurance to the parents that

"Okay, you're feeling the vortex of things right now

and it's okay."

Similar to what we're training the parents

to teach the child that it's okay if you're feeling...

...that are feeling these things,

and this is why you're feeling them.

And you have a right to feel these things.

I think even just that currency of reassurance could maybe,

just maybe help them take that breather, and try again.

Try again tomorrow.

[♪♪♪]

[clicks key]

[Mom speaks indistinctly]

[indistinct speech]

[wind whooshing]

[birds chirping]

[wind whooshing]

[Hildy on TV] I'm getting married Walter,

and I'm also getting as far away from the...

newspaper business as I can get.

[Walter on TV] What?

[Hildy laughs]

[Hildy on TV] I'm through!

[Walter on TV] Get married if you wanted,

but you can't quit the newspaper business!

[Hildy on TV] Oh, why not?

[Walter on TV] I know you, Hildy,

I know what quitting'd mean to you.

[Hildy on TV] What would it mean?

-[Walter on TV] It'd kill you! -[Hildy laughs]

[Hildy on TV] You can't sell me that, Walter Burns!

[Walter on TV] Who says I can't? You're a newspaperman.

[Hildy on TV] That's why I'm quitting!

I want to go some place where I can be a woman.

[Walter on TV] You mean be a traitor.

[Hildy on TV] A traitor? A traitor to what?

[Walter on TV] A traitor to journalism. You're a journalist.

[Hildy on TV] A journalist? What does that mean?

Peeking through keyholes?

Chasing after fire engines?

Waking people up in middle of the night to ask them

if Hitler's going to start another war?

[tea boililing]

[car honking in distance]

[adult Sasha] Hecky!

Ready?

Yeah.

[Hecky munching]

[adult Sasha] I've been working on a project,

that looks back at my time with my family,

and that period of time in my life, and um,

I-- I thought of you because you, in many ways,

are the key to those memories.

And I'm just so grateful to talk to you about it.

It's funny because I remember these...

more feelings, these moments of chaos.

And then I remember moments that,

you know, were not so disruptive, um...

[social services worker] Yeah.

Not so dramatic.

And I remember Jeremy being, you know,

as sweet as he was unpredictable.

So it's very hard to square some of my memories sometimes

of that time.

[social services worker] You know, he...

he certainly was struggling.

And you know, that was I think, why your parents reached out for

as much help as they did, because he just...

He really... And I don't, I just...

Your mom in particular just didn't know what to do

or where to get the help for him.

[adult Sasha] Yeah.

[social services worker] So I really had a-- a lot of

respect for your parents,

and everything that they were trying to do

-to raise you and your brothers. -[adult Sasha] Hm.

[social services worker] In many families

they had a breaking point.

And it becomes unsafe not just for that-- that person

that is going to move into a foster home,

but it becomes unsafe for the other people in the home.

And it's a very difficult decision.

[social services worker] So... -[adult Sasha] Yeah.

[social services worker] He had some pretty unique behaviours.

And they were really upsetting for your mom.

She was always very worried about...

where that would lead.

And disappointed in the services

and-- and support and answers that she got.

She didn't get answers that really made sense,

-or that were supportive. -[adult Sasha] Yeah.

[social services worker] He didn't have a lot of friends.

And when he would come out of his room,

he had the ability to just

take whatever was happening in the room,

and just upset it and spin it.

And, you know,

he demanded a lot of attention in that moment.

And I do remember that he would have gasoline in his room.

He would have not very much,

but he would have some in his room.

And I remember your mom being so scared

because he had made this threat,

that he was going to burn the house down

with everybody in it.

I can't even imagine, as your parents being in the house,

knowing that threat has been made

and there are things in place

that could make it happen in a split second.

You know, that's something I always wondered,

it's maybe why he didn't get a diagnosis.

But we'll never know.

We'll never know, you know, the truth I don't think.

It's really hard to sort that through.

But he...

The character that I saw, the person that I saw

certainly demonstrated or looked like someone

who was really suffering.

Who was really struggling, who was really...

alone and isolated and...

invested in...

Yeah, invested in the chaos,

really invested in the chaos.

I hope some day to be able to, you know,

be in the presence of your parents again.

They're both very strong people.

They're very resilient, you know?

And-- and I have a lot of respect for them, for sure.

And so I hope someday that I cross paths with them too.

[sobbing]

[exhales]

[keys jangling]

[exhales]

[door opens]

[engine starts, revs]

[soft instrumental music playing]

[♪♪♪]

[wind howling]

[waves rippling]

[♪♪♪]

[indistinct speech]

[sombre music playing]

[waves crashing]

[birds chirping]

[♪♪♪]

[birds chirping]

[♪♪♪]

[engine whirring]

[engine stops]

[phone beeps]

[keys jangling]

[birds chirping]

[kids chattering in background]

[indistinct speech on TV]

[knocks door]

[dog barking in background]

[looney tunes music playing]

[door opens]

-Hello. -Hi.

-You're from Social Services? -Yes.

Sorry. That's right.

It's nice to meet you.

This way please.

[adult Sasha] Do you mind if I look around first?

[Dad] Yeah, that's fine.

[footsteps reaching]

Miss Mousey.

[adult Sasha chuckles]

[laughs]

[Looney Tunes playing on TV]

[laughs]

[Looney Tunes playing on TV]

[tearing sound on TV]

[laughs]

[looney tunes music playing]

[exhales]

[sniffling, sobbing]

[chuckling]

[door opens, shuts]

[soft music playing]

[♪♪♪]

[music fades]

[birds chirping]

Can I turn this light on?

Yes. It's okay now.

[flicks switch]

[footfalling]

[birds chirping]

-[Mom] Hi. -[social services] Hi.

[Mom] It's nice to meet you.

[adult Sasha] Nice to meet you too.

Please have a seat.

[adult Sasha] Thank you.

[birds chirping]

[adult Sasha] Hi.

[Mom] Hi, hello.

[adult Sasha] Um, How are you both doing?

[Mom] Yeah.

We are fine, thanks.

[adult Sasha] How are things with Jeremy?

[birds chirping]

You can talk, too, you know?

Yes, I will. But please, you start.

Um.

It feels like...

somehow I'm cursed.

[looney tunes music playing in background]

He's so troubled.

We tried everything.

Therapy...

special school, homeschooling.

It didn't work.

He doesn't want to listen to anybody.

Not us, not any adult could ever control him.

He was six years old,

when one day, something happened with his eyes.

You can tell this one.

We were playing catch with a ball,

just back and forth, and...

then suddenly he could not catch it anymore.

I would throw it for him and...

his hands would cross the air in front of him,

but he just could not see the ball anymore.

It was something very strange, but

his eyes just sudden went crossed.

It was very bizarre, and...

and I think it scared him.

-It scared us too, of course. -Yeah.

So I don't know...

This is one of the unlucky things

that comes to my mind.

And he had to get these big glasses

with such a very young age.

And I think because of this, and um,

from his accent at the beginning,

and the kids at the school were not nice to him.

[adult Sasha] You mean he was picked on?

Yes.

[adult Sasha] Did he talk to either of you about this?

Um, he...

He doesn't care about what others saying about him.

He never cared about

making friends.

He's just...

He likes to be the clown

to everyone.

He was always like this.

And how is he with his siblings?

Sometimes he's really nasty with them,

but sometimes he's very sweet.

[adult Sasha] Why do you think he's like this?

[sighs]

He's uncontrollable completely.

He's doing really big and risky things.

And he can hurt himself or...

others.

And he doesn't care if he's getting caught.

So one day, he stole a bicycle from a yard,

and he came home totally beaten up, and his face was blue.

I don't know what he was thinking.

And he told me it was just for fun.

I don't know what, what is he thinking?

And...

and he's stealing from us.

We can't keep any money where he can find it.

He takes whatever he sees.

Sometimes he's taking things from the house,

and brings them to the pawn shop just to get a few dollars.

He would even steal from his siblings.

Yeah, he thinks that he's some kind of gangster guy.

He tried to sell fake drugs

to some boys on the street at 14 years old.

Uh, we...

So we can't, we...

We can't tell him anything.

He doesn't listen to us.

Grounding, rules, nothing.

[adult Sasha] Is it true that he once

threatened to burn the house down?

Yeah, I know he hates me.

Uh, what should we do now?

That's what we need to know, yeah?

What are we supposed to do?

[adult Sasha] From what I understand,

the best option would be something

called voluntary placement.

[Mom] Voluntary placement? What does it mean exactly?

[adult Sasha] It means he would be placed

with a foster family, essentially.

[Dad] I-- I'm sorry.

This is a very hard thing for us to hear.

I'm sure you understand.

We-- we are trying so hard for so many years with Jeremy.

Listen, do something, cos she wants to take my child.

[Dad laughs]

-What should I do? -I don't know, but...

She thinks we're horrible parents, and she wants to take him.

No! She didn't say that! Calm down!

She did.

You are the one who's too calm, okay?

- We must say something, don't we? - You talk to her then!

Where are you going now?

[Mom] I need some water.

[footfalling]

[adult Sasha] I'm sorry.

I didn't mean to upset her.

[water running]

It's okay.

We're just both so exhausted from all of this.

And we feel like there is no good options left.

Have you ever heard...

about a family like this?

How come nobody has to give their children away?

Just alcohol addicts or people who are beating their children.

I don't understand why.

I wish I had a better answer.

[looney tunes music continues in background]

[Dad] What if we try this?

Just for a little while.

Maybe if he goes away

he can do better

and then he comes home.

[Mom] Could we see him still?

[sniffling]

You will see him again.

You will try many, many times to keep him at home.

You will do everything in your power to help him.

[sniffles] It will consume you entirely.

You won't give up, but you will get tired

as the years go on and on.

[sniffles]

He will go to foster care,

but it will be a temporary solution.

You will doubt yourself as a parent,

and at times, your life.

You will begin to close yourself from the world.

No one will understand.

And it will only worsen.

[sniffles]

He himself will have no explanation,

other than he cannot manage.

You will beg for change and solutions.

He will grow into an adult,

and the help he needs, he will not get.

It won't get better.

Countless professionals will come in and out of your life.

But it won't change.

Despite what you know of him and yourself,

you will lose him.

[sniffles]

[door opens]

[looney tunes music playing on TV]

[social services worker] This doesn't have to be

a permanent solution.

It could also be a temporary one as well.

[Mom] To-- to-- to send him to a totally stranger family?

Do you think that...

[wind whooshing]

[sombre music playing]

[waves rippling]

[insects, birds chirping]

[adult Sasha] Did you have a friend named Elijah?

[Jeremy] Mm-hm.

[adult Sasha] How come I don't remember that?

[Jeremy] I think there's a lot you don't remember.

"Dear Sasha.

I grew up with your brother Jeremy.

We were never really close,

but he was one of the most memorable of my friends

from school.

In grade ten we were suspended

together for stealing from lockers.

That's a long story, but...

Jeremy wasn't really involved.

Even though I took the blame, Jeremy still got in trouble.

And I felt pretty bad about that.

He invited me over to hang out one time,

and he showed me his maps of towns and cities.

They remain some of the most unique art I've seen.

I would sometimes see him out with people,

who were not very good influences.

I was really unsure how to help.

I began seeing less and less of him.

After high school, I didn't see much of him,

but I would think of him often.

Recently, I tried to look him up on Facebook,

but couldn't find anything.

But I came across you...

and your films.

That's where I learned about his passing.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I saw in your film what you said about being angry at Jeremy,

and your regrets about that now.

I also have a brother,

who I've been angry with for most of my life.

I just wanted to share my memories of your brother.

And that I always knew him as a special soul,

who had a kind heart."

[waves rippling, crashing]

[crickets chirping]

[seagulls squeaking]

[waves rippling, crashing]

[birds chirping]

[ship honks horn]

[birds, insects chirping continuously]

[sombre music playing]

[♪♪♪]

♪ Your picture ♪

♪ Is still ♪

♪ On my wall ♪

♪ On my wall ♪

♪ The colours ♪

♪ Are bright ♪

♪ Bright ♪

♪ As ever ♪

♪ The red is strong ♪

♪ The blue is pure ♪

♪ Somethings left a long time ♪

♪ Somethings left a long time ♪

♪ Your picture ♪

♪ Is still ♪

♪ On my wall ♪

♪ On my wall ♪

♪ I think ♪

♪ About you ♪

♪ Often ♪

♪ Often ♪

♪ I won't forget ♪

♪ And the things we built ♪

♪ Somethings left a long time ♪

♪ Somethings left a long time ♪

[♪♪♪]

[music fades]