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Hello?

Martin?

- Christ. - Oh, fuck.

Sorry.

Sorry about that.

I told you I was going to call the police

if you didn't stop,

but you just keep doing it.

I don't know what else to do.

Say this won't happen again, please.

Please.

Er... You... You've no right to ask us that.

Come.

Police.

Thank you.

5 Verona Walk, NW5 3CS.

Amanda Powell.

Er, I... I'm sorry,

I don't know the protocol for something like this.

My mother's elderly,

she has advanced dementia.

She doesn't have the capacity to give sexual consent,

and her husband knows that.

But he continues having sex with her.

Anyway, I just walked in on it.

No, he's my stepfather.

No, no, I don't think so.

Yes, he's here.

Yes.

No, no, no, no.

Do you know how long that'll be?

No, I don't think so.

Thank you.

I'm sorry, I won't be able to take you to school.

No, no, no, I'll just take the train.

You're gonna be late, I'm sorry.

It's fine.

I'll call the school.

This station is Tufnell Park.

This is a Northern Line train via Charing Cross.

Did she resist him?

Was there a struggle between your mother and stepfather?

Well, she doesn't resist

because she doesn't know what's happening to her.

Well, is she lucid at times?

Are there times when she can consent

and other times when she can't?

Well... I mean, that's...

that's the issue, right?

Even if she is lucid enough at times,

how can you make

an accurate judgment of when that is?

-It's incredibly subjective. -Mmm.

-Yeah. -And I know for a fact

they're having sex when she definitely isn't

lucid enough.

Okay. Where is your mother now?

She's upstairs in the kitchen.

-And your stepfather? -Upstairs.

How's his demeanour?

Is he aggressive, angry?

No, he's gentle.

He's... elderly.

Okay. So I think what we should do now

is head upstairs,

we'll speak to your mother and stepfather,

and then we'll take it from there.

-Okay. -Okay.

What are their names?

Leslie and Martin Carville.

Hello, Mr Carville. I'm PC Ali.

I'm just going to ask you to come with me, please.

Come with you where?

Just to the other room.

Could you come with me, please?

- Please have a seat. - Thank you.

- Hello, Mrs Carville. - Hey-ho.

I'm a police officer.

Er, my name's Kate. Can I call you Leslie?

Yes.

Do you know why I'm here today?

No.

So, I've come to see how you're doing.

How are you feeling today?

Fine.

Do you have anything on your body

that is sore or painful?

- Mmm? - Do you have anything

on your body that hurts, Mum?

Is that what you were wearing this morning?

Yes.

-You mean during the incident? -Yes.

No, she was in her nightgown.

Where's that now?

Upstairs in the bedroom.

Who are you?

I'm a police officer.

My name's Kate.

Why are you here?

What do you reckon?

Fuck if I know.

All right, let's call it in.

Met Control

from 3-8-2-9 Tango.

Go ahead, over.

Can I get a SOCO, CID,

and a SOIT on CAD 1-4-2.

The bedroom upstairs is considered a crime scene,

so what that means is

that nobody can go in there, not even myself.

I'm going to call in some specialised officers

to continue the investigation.

Where were you?

I just saw an old dude's hard-on.

-Where? -We walked in

on my grandma having sex.

The crazy one?

She's not crazy.

What did it look like?

- I don't know. - What did it look like?

I don't know. Google it.

Why would I Google that?

'Cause you're asking me what it looked like.

Well, I don't want to see it.

I want you to describe it to me.

Hold on.

Why'd it look like that?

-That's it. -What?

-Oh, no. -Ooh.

That one's infected.

Oh, oh.

- Yeah. - And it looked like that?

- That one's all right. - No.

- That one's all right. - No.

It's not.

Mum?

Hello, Leslie.

My name's Emma Walker. I'm a police officer.

I've just come to see how you're doing today.

How are you?

Have you had anything to eat

or have you been to the loo this morning?

-Yes. -She has?

Okay.

Leslie, do you have any pain?

Do you hurt anywhere on your body at all?

Mum?

Do you have anywhere on your body

that hurts?

You hurt somewhere, Mum?

Mum?

Do you hurt somewhere?

You do?

Where, Mum?

Okay.

Shall we pop outside and have a quick chat?

-He's being arrested? -He's been arrested.

No, don't... Please don't arrest him.

-You know, arresting... -I just wanted you

to wake him up so that he stops. That's all.

But arresting isn't the same as charging, Amanda.

It's safeguarding.

It allows us to separate them to make sure that she's safe.

But they can't be separated. He's her caregiver.

-Mmm... -She's... She's... She's...

He... He... She's completely dependent on him.

-I understand. -He loves her dearly.

It's just this one thing

-that needs to stop. -Okay.

Let's not worry...

...too much about Martin, okay?

My main concern is your mother's welfare.

And in my professional capacity,

I think she should have a medical.

I think she should be seen by a doctor

to make sure there are no injuries

that we're unaware of.

And if Martin had

penetrative sex with her this morning,

she could have internal injuries

given her age.

The medical will take place at a specialist unit.

A specialist unit?

Er, so it's a rape exam?

Well, it's a forensic medical examination, yes.

- God. - There'll be a doctor there

who's specially trained in this.

There'll be a crisis worker there

who'll go through the whole process with you.

And I will take you and your mum

and I will make sure I'm there with you throughout.

-Oh, my God. -I know. I'm... I'm...

I appreciate how you feel,

but the doctor can check your mum over,

and if she's got any injuries,

she can attend to those straight away.

And...

she will also want to take some forensic medical samples,

and some of those will be from...

Why does she need to be examined?

Sir, would you go back with the officer?

You already know we had sex.

I'm not refuting it.

-We had sex this morning. -Make a note of that.

-What is the point... -You have nicked him?

...of forcing her to endure this hideous procedure...

Sir, please go back with the officer.

...which will only tell you something you already know?

It would be beneficial if you co-operate, sir.

Please.

Amanda, they're arresting me for having sex with my wife.

You stay with her.

I will.

Here, her place, not yours.

No, we'll stay here.

I'll... I'll be back soon, sweetheart.

I promise.

I love you.

Where is he going?

He's... going away for a few days, mum.

But I'm staying with you.

Why?

That's just how it is for now.

Okay, we're ready. Okay.

Where are we going?

You're going to have a medical exam, Mum.

-Am I ill? -No, no, you're healthy.

We just want to be safe. Mmm?

-Is he coming? -No, I'm going with you.

Mmm?

Come.

I'm going to start the examination now.

I'm just going to put your legs

in the right position. All right, Leslie?

Tell me if it hurts, 'cause I don't want it to hurt.

There you go. Perfect.

And this leg, I'm going to put that there.

Is that all right?

There you go.

-Here you are. -You okay, Mum?

- All right. - Mmm?

All right. I'm going to do the first couple of sets

of swabs now.

And what you'll feel will just be a little bit ticklish,

okay?

Here's the first one.

Gonna be two always.

And here comes the second one.

Here we go, thank you.

And then I'm gonna put the other set.

And I'm just gonna touch you

just on the outside of the vagina, okay?

So it comes just on the inside, this one.

Here it comes.

You shouldn't really feel this one.

This is just on the inside.

And then the second one

in exactly the same place.

Okay?

Now I'm going to do the ones inside the vagina

and for that I'm going to have to use the speculum.

That might feel a little bit cold, okay?

Just be mindful that it comes in a minute.

- All right? - This shouldn't hurt.

Right. You're going to feel my fingers touching you

and here comes the speculum.

-Ooh. -It's okay, Mum.

-Breathe. Breathe, Mum. -Is that okay?

Breathe. It's okay.

Are you okay for me to continue?

Yeah?

Yeah.

Mmm.

- Am I okay to go on? - Yes.

- Yes. - Okay, thank you.

Here it comes again.

Okay? Here it comes.

- No! - Stop! Stop! Stop!

I'm stopping. I'm stopping.

Mum!

You...

- Go away! - I'm stopping.

- Go away! - It's okay, Mum.

-It's okay. -No.

- I'm sorry. I'm sorry. - No.

- No, no. - I'm so sorry.

Come, Mum.

Come. I'm sorry. Mum.

Mum, I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Mum.

We made a bad mistake.

We're gonna go now, okay?

Do you need anything from us right now? Can we go?

Er, how about you get changed

and go back to the room where we had a chat,

because I'd still like to talk to you.

Okay, Mum, we're gonna go,

we're gonna change,

and then we'll speak with the lady,

and then we go home.

Is that okay? You come with me?

Come with me.

Come with me, Mum.

It's gonna be all right. It's gonna be all right.

We just made a mistake. Come on.

Mum?

- Are you okay? - She's tired.

She's very tired. Yes, I can see.

Yeah.

I'm sorry the examination was so upsetting.

Erm, I wasn't able to fully examine her

because she wouldn't let me do the speculum examination.

But for as far as I could see, there were no injuries.

I do need to talk to you

about something called a safeguarding referral

because I would like to do one today.

Do you know what that means?

-I... No, I don't. -Okay.

Basically, that means

that I'm going to do... put in a referral to social services

er, to come and assess Leslie

-and your house and yourself. -Why?

To come and see if Leslie is okay,

if everything in the house is...

She is okay.

Yeah, just, what they do is

they do a risk assessment

of how you're living, and how it's going...

-We don't need that. -...who is looking after her.

Well, I think you do need that.

I think you do need that.

We need some rest at the moment

because it's been overwhelming.

-Yes. -And we don't need

anybody else to come into the house.

It's been... The whole day, it's been like that.

I apologise for that,

but I think it's important

that I make that decision today

and I do that referral today.

So do you mean that they...

that they could be separated, er...

Martin and... and... my mother?

That's a decision

the social worker is going to make.

I can't guarantee

what the outcome of that decision will be,

so I can't guarantee

that that's not going to happen.

So what will happen to Martin?

I can't tell you that, I'm afraid.

All the agencies still need to meet.

But here are your keys.

You've got my details. If there's anything I can do,

-just let me know, okay? -Okay.

Thank you. Bye-bye.

Let's have a bath.

Then you can lie down again.

Maman.

I'll wash your hair.

Would you like that?

Mmm?

Yes.

Come on, let's go.

Mum,

get in the bath.

Sit in the bath now, Mum.

Sit down.

Yes.

- Hey. - Hey.

-Are you home? -Yeah.

I'm at Nan's.

Er, I have to stay here tonight.

I can't leave. Er...

I need some things from the flat.

Do you think you could bring them to me?

Okay. What happened after I left?

Oh, she went for an exam.

Why? Is she okay?

She's okay, yes. Erm...

I'll tell you more when you get here, okay?

Okay.

What do you need?

What are you doing here?

I'm not leaving her.

You can't be here.

If they find you here, we're fucked.

They've reported this to Social Services.

Someone's coming by tomorrow at 10:00.

You can't be here when they're here.

Coming by to do what?

Hi, hang on.

Okay, I'm going outside.

Hey, I'm sorry, Andrew.

I'm freaking out about my mother,

and I really need to talk to you. Is that okay?

When I walked in on them,

she was just lying there underneath him...

looking at me with this expression

I've never seen before.

It was... It was so disturbing.

I don't know what it was.

I don't know what's going on in there any more.

She's unreadable.

I'm not sure she recognised me.

I don't know if she's recognising Martin either.

I don't know what to do.

Should I just stick my head in the sand

and pretend this isn't happening?

I'm not the police.

I don't want to be this person.

Fuck.

I'm sorry, I shouldn't be dumping all of this on you.

It's the worst thing for us right now.

These aren't your crises any more,

right?

Oh, er, Sarah just walked up.

Hi.

What's wrong?

I'm talking to your dad.

-Do you want to talk to him? -Yeah.

Hello.

I'm fine. How are you?

Were you just fighting?

No.

Oh, thank you.

Thank you, darling.

-She had a rape exam? -Yes, part of one.

But it was stopped.

She's okay now.

Why are you staying here?

Well, they arrested Martin.

He wasn't supposed to come back to the house tonight,

so I need to stay with her.

But now he's back.

I'm going to stay anyway.

Will you be okay alone tonight?

-They arrested him? -Yes.

She might have to come

stay with us for a while, though.

We might need to come stay here.

I don't know.

Would that be okay?

Will he be here?

I don't know. I need to talk to Martin.

Can we go downstairs and talk?

Well, we have to convince them this is going to stop.

Or they're going to separate you.

Can we talk about Dr Kaufman's opinion?

Well, sure, if we can talk about

other opinions as well.

What other opinions?

Well, the opinions of those geriatric psychiatrists

who believe that physical intimacy

is beneficial

for someone with dementia.

It makes them feel less...

less lonely, less anxious.

It gives them comfort and security.

What psychiatrists?

Are you getting this off the Internet?

You're grabbing for whatever you can

to rationalise something you know is wrong.

I'm not grabbing at anything.

I found Viagra in your cabinet

from a prescription you filled

one week after the Kaufman meeting.

He told you to stop.

And you went out and refilled your prescription instead.

I refilled my prescription

because we've been married for 18 years

and she enjoys physical intimacy.

I'm sorry, Amanda,

but in this regard, I know her better than you do.

You don't know her because she's not the same woman!

None of us can know what she's feeling now

because she can no longer communicate it to us.

You're... You...

You're using reasoning that applies to a woman who...

no longer exists.

You're basing all this on one man's opinion.

Since you're so keen on professional opinions,

wouldn't it be better to take them all into account?

There are as many who disagree with Kaufman

as agree with him.

Okay, let's take them all into account.

Let's say it's 50-50.

Are you really willing to risk your wife's well-being

on 50-50 odds?

Those are horrible odds.

There's a 50% chance you're harming her,

and there's no way for her to communicate it to you.

She communicates to me very clearly

what she wants and what she doesn't want.

How?

How?

When I hug her,

or kiss her forehead, or brush her hair,

she smiles.

She's happy.

And it's the same

when...

when we have sex.

You seem to think your mother doesn't want sex,

but...

but more often than not, she's the one

who instigates it.

The disinhibition...

is the consequence of the disease eroding

the areas of the brain

that used to keep the primal instincts in check.

-Why... -Dr Kaufman made that

very clear to you.

Hunger, thirst,

sex, sleep,

she's dealing with primal instincts now.

Why are you so keen to deprive her of something

that gives her comfort and pleasure

at a time in her life when she needs them most?

I'm only asking you to stop having sex with her.

That's all. You can do whatever you want.

-No, you're not... -I'm not talking

about anything else.

No, you're... Bollocks, Amanda.

You're talking about dumping her

in a care home

where she'll sit lolling in an armchair all day

and spend night after night lonely and terrified.

Just tell them you're going to stop!

Just lie to them!

Oh, Mum.

Mum, I'm sorry, just...

Can we go back upstairs?

Mum?

Mum, where are you going?

- Come. Come up. - We haven't had

our walk yet today.

You need to put some clothes on

before you walk, Mum.

-You all right? -Yeah.

-You? -Yes, thanks.

I'm so cold, though, I can't even lie.

From the top, go nine down, 'cause there's 30 floors.

-There's 30 floors? -Yeah.

-It's high up there. -What floor are you on?

-Twenty-one. -Twenty-one.

Twenty-one.

Twenty-one.

What were you doing? Homework or something?

-Yeah. -What was it?

-Histograms. -What is that?

-I don't know. -Histograms?

-Is that history? -...I could even figure out

-what it was. No, no. -Is that history?

-Maths. Maths. -Maths. Yeah.

Just run. Just dash it.

You got it. You got it.

-You got it. -This is scary.

Nah, bro. What you dashing here for?

Do you want me to come out like this?

-Ooh. -Wait, spin faster.

-I can't spin faster. -It'll look cooler.

-I can't. -It'll look cooler.

Oh, my God.

60 seconds.

-Are you ready? -That's long. Any flash?

-Flash or no flash? -No flash.

So I like... So I hit it?

-So I hit the phone? -Yeah.

I'll spin round and then I'll come to you, okay?

-Okay. Okay. -Okay?

Three, two, one.

♪ You said that I'm really fucking boring ♪

That was so good.

♪ You said that I'm really fucking boring ♪

Oh!

...if you go like this.

Like, you hold it with your hand like that.

-Oh, that's sick. -You know what I mean?

Okay. Ready?

You ready? Okay.

♪ Well, that's rich coming from you ♪

♪ 'Cause when you... ♪

-Wait, wait, wait. -Three, two, one.

♪ Pouring ♪

♪ I can't win, I can't lose, and it's... ♪

-Wait, I'll go down here... -Yeah.

- ...I think. - Right.

That's my fork.

Well, if she's going to...

keep doing it all night,

I think you should just go back to bed with her, Martin.

Go, Mum.

Have you ever been down here before?

-No. -Really?

I don't even know where this is.

-It's a nice place, though. -Yeah, it is nice.

So, what is this, a brutalist, you know...

-Brutalist? -That's what they...

That's what they called the architecture.

And the whole thing, really.

-Yeah, well... -It's like the Barbican.

Have you ever been to the Barbican?

-No. The what? -No?

-The Barbican. -No.

-Have you not? -No.

No, it's the same design, the same, like...

erm, what's it called, architecture.

I really need to pee.

Well, we're almost there, aren't we?

21 floors. That's...

-That's a lot of floors. -I know.

There's 30, though.

Must be a hell of a view.

Oh, I really need to pee.

-It's through there. -Oh. Thank you.

Very kind of you.

Oh, my. All right. Let's dash it.

Come on, then.

You're gonna fall. I swear.

Wait, wait, which one's yours?

You got it?

Oh, my God.

Wait.

Okay. Okay.

I thought you had to pee.

I'm just gonna pee on you.

Your heart's racing.

Hi.

Sorry, erm,

I just came back from there.

I just came back home.

Okay.

Wait.

That's so funny.

Oh, my God, she came out of nowhere.

She was supposed to be at my grandma's.

Do you speak fluent French?

-A little bit. Not fluent. -So not fluent?

Not fluent, no.

-A little bit. -Give me a little demo.

- No, no. - Come on.

No. I only speak it with her.

-I don't know it, like, a lot. -Okay, fair enough.

-Yeah. -What about your dad?

-My dad? -Yeah.

He's teaching in Montreal at the moment.

-He's in Canada? -Yeah.

Yeah, so they split, but, erm,

he's teaching at a uni.

-Oh, right. Okay. -Yeah.

Cool.

What about you?

-Hmm? -Where are your parents from?

Oh, erm...

Well, my dad, he's actually French.

-Half French and erm, Italian. -Oh, really?

Yeah. But I can't speak either.

-Oh. -My mum's, like, half Asian.

-Cool. -So I'm, like, a... I'm like

a tropical mix...

I should go see if she's okay.

Yeah. Yeah.

-Got to go. -Sure.

How come you're home?

It wasn't helping her for me to be there.

You okay?

Yes.

Come here.

What happens now?

I don't know.

I'm sorry, Sarah.

For what?

For uprooting you from your life and...

vanishing on you like this.

I know this wasn't the deal we made.

You haven't vanished.

Your mum needs you. I'm fine.

I don't even know what's going on with you now.

Who's this boy?

A friend.

From school?

Yeah.

What's his name?

James.

We haven't talked about him.

Why does he think it's okay to keep doing this?

-Martin? -Yeah.

He says it's love.

Do you think she feels love?

I don't know how she experiences love now.

I mean, is it possible to feel love for someone

if you've got

no memory of the life you've had with them?

I don't know.

How is he still able to have sex?

Viagra.

-Seriously? -Mm-hmm.

I thought the desire goes at that age.

It's not desire. It's...

fear.

Shall it be eggs

or shall it be porridge?

Porridge.

- Hello. - There you go.

Thank you. Hello.

Leslie Carville.

What's her address, please?

Er, 5 Verona Walk.

Oh. Ma...

You can't be here.

I'm staying right here.

No, she's coming in half an hour.

Tough.

You have to leave the house. We...

That was the deal between us.

Yeah, I'm not budging. Not one inch.

The... The police are going to...

You...

-Can I have your coat? -Yes, lovely, thank you.

This electricity.

How was your mum overnight? How is she this morning?

Yeah, she's doing okay right now.

Oh, that's good.

And she knows that I'm coming? Yeah?

Yes, they're upstairs waiting.

Oh, they're upstairs waiting?

-Is someone with her? -Martin.

Okay, so Martin has bail conditions,

erm, and he's not supposed to be here.

You did speak to the safeguarding team.

Yes, I know,

but, er, I thought he was supposed to be here,

er, for this meeting.

I'm sorry, I misunderstood.

I asked him to come.

Okay, so we can still have a discussion.

Let's just keep things nice and calm for your mum.

-Yes. -And can we go see her?

-Yes, please follow me. -Yeah.

These stairs are quite steep.

Is that something you painted, Leslie?

She's asking you

about your painting, Leslie.

It's a beautiful painting.

Who lives in that house?

I do.

That's your house?

Erm...

Home.

Purchase.

Home.

And is that the home that you lived in as a child?

Where did you grow up, Leslie?

Cranleigh.

And who was your best friend as a child?

Wasn't me, sweetheart.

I'm your best friend...

now.

So how did you and Martin meet?

Well, it was a concert,

wasn't it, in Paris?

Classical music.

Er...

I was over there

for a gathering of

recording engineers.

Yes, we'd both recently lost our spouses.

At a concert.

Yes, we were sitting next to one another

and...

Leslie...

started to ask me about the programme

and I told her

which was my favourite part

and she liked it too.

And it became something

we always remembered.

Tchaikovsky.

Yeah.

♪ Little Leslie Carville ♪

♪ Isn't very tall ♪

♪ When I take her dancing ♪

♪ She don't have far to fall ♪

Beautiful.

Mmm.

And you still go and listen to music together?

Yes.

Oh, yes, we do. We do, don't we?

And, erm...

you have your...

er, your recordings at home

that you like to listen to, don't you?

You just...

like them very much.

Tell... Leslie,

tell her

how we like fun.

I like fun.

Sometimes we have a little dance.

And sometimes...

Sometimes I stand on your foot,

but not on purpose.

Who's your best friend?

Who's my best friend?

Can you go now?

So who determined

that she doesn't have capacity to give consent?

Her doctor.

Okay, so that came...

the evidence came from her doctor,

and is that her GP?

- Yes. - Yes, okay.

And who's her GP?

Er, Dr Kaufman.

Dr Kaufman, okay.

So has she had a mental capacity assessment

from a consultant psychiatrist?

No, no.

I'm trying to schedule it now.

Okay.

And Martin, was Dr Kaufman's decision communicated to you?

It was communicated to me,

er, that that was his opinion.

Okay. And you didn't agree with that?

Er...

Geriatric psychiatrists have widely differing opinions

on the subject.

So has she seen a psychiatrist?

I thought you said that she hadn't.

No, she hasn't.

Okay.

That's fine. So I can go back to the GP

and ask to see what's been explored medically.

But just to go back

to what you said earlier, Martin,

erm, because psychiatrists have different... opinions,

in your view,

is that why you've acted against Dr Kaufman's opinion?

I acted

in accordance with my wife's desires.

Okay.

And I know this is a really sensitive area,

erm, to talk about,

but how do you know what your wife's desires are?

I'm sorry,

but you're giving me the impression

that you think you might have a better idea

of what my wife wants than I do.

I'm sorry, Martin, I'm not suggesting...

Yes, you fucking are!

You come here with your questions,

you make these judgements

and you don't know the first thing about us!

Martin.

Martin, what is it that's really worrying you?

Okay. Can I just ask how you're managing

with your wife's day-to-day care?

I'm managing just fine.

No, you're not managing fine.

And have you discussed any other care options?

Yes, we've been discussing a care home.

We went to visit Springview Care Home last month.

The dementia care is very good there.

Yeah. Springview Care Home, my arse.

Erm...

If we were to proceed with Springview,

would you need to pursue this any further?

She'd no longer be at risk.

Shall we have our walk?

Okay, so I understand

that your home is in Newcastle,

but you're here in London for a period of time.

- Yes, for a year. - Okay.

And is that to be with your mum?

Yes, and to finish work on a book I'm writing.

- Okay. - Taking my sabbatical.

Is there any possibility you could stay in London

and teach here?

No, I have tenure at Newcastle.

Erm,

I own a house. Our life is there.

Okay, that's absolutely fine.

So it's just to understand your lifestyle really,

erm, and the possible networks of support for your mum.

I'll need to go back home eventually.

The idea really is a care home.

Erm, it's just not safe here for so many reasons

and things are going to get a lot worse.

- Okay. - It's so dangerous here

for both of them.

They can't live in a house with so many stairs.

- Okay. - He can't handle this alone.

- Mmm. - He can't.

- Okay. - And she has some stocks

that she and my father owned,

and it was the plan that they'd use the money

for something like this...

- Okay. - ...when they got older.

Okay, and you've got

power of attorney in place.

Is that right?

Yes, we did that after my father died.

Okay.

So there is an alternative if your mum's in agreement.

Erm, would you consider respite care,

which is, erm, placement...

short-term placement in a residential home,

not long-term?

Erm, it would give you the opportunity

to really consider the long-term plan,

but also for Martin

to be able to come to terms with the situation

and for them as a couple

to make decisions on their future life.

Oh, hello.

What gives you the right

to make this decision?

She's my mother.

What? You've hardly been present in her life.

I'm here, Martin.

Not counting Christmases,

where have you been for the last 18 years?

You can't judge me for having a life

in a different city than my mother.

I've been with her for every minute

of every hour of every day.

I'm with her through all she's going through.

But you can't give her the kind of care

she needs now,

despite how much you love her.

You're in denial

about how quickly she's declining.

And it's putting her in danger.

She needs specialised care,

in a memory unit, round the clock.

You can't leave the house without her any more.

Look at the stairs, look at the bathroom,

it's too dangerous.

Yeah, er, there's no way

I'm in denial.

When I found her washing her hands

in the toilet on Friday,

you acted like I was lying to you.

Do you think I was lying to you

or do you accept she was doing that?

Er...

I'm not putting her in a home.

You know I can do that without you?

Erm...

The police are going to investigate you

for sexually assaulting your wife.

If they charge you,

you'll be barred from seeing her.

Is that what you want?

If we don't have help, this is going to overwhelm us.

"To the memory of my beloved wife."

Ooh!

"Edith."

-Edith? -"Edith Alice...

"Spag."

When did she die?

"19... Born.

-"30th of July. 1936." -"193..."

This one's pretty, though.

-I like this one. -This one?

-With all the... Yeah. -With all the flowers.

All the blue flowers, only on one grave.

Maybe that was a really good person, yeah.

-It was a really good person. -Maybe that...

No. Relax, bro.

Can you do this?

Oh! I hate it.

Hi.

Hey.

What happened with the social worker?

We're moving your grandmother into a home on Thursday.

Are they separating?

No, he'll be able to come and see her

as much as he wants to.

He'll just have a support structure now too.

Do you think she'll understand where she is?

I hope it'll just feel like a new environment

with lots of people and...

activities.

I don't know if she'll understand it's a...

care home.

Do I go with you?

No.

You should go to school.

I just wanted you to know it was happening.

Just to have.

Follow me through here.

This is our common room, where...

as you can see,

the residents like to socialise and relax.

And we also have some activities here,

like quizzes.

We've got a music activity later on this afternoon,

so maybe you would like to see that.

Hi, June and Lydia. How are you?

- Oh, hello. - How are you?

I'm fine, thank you.

This is Mrs Carville and her family.

Do you mind if we come in and say hello?

- Not at all. - Okay, thanks.

Have you been out today?

Have you been outside at all? Or...

No, we haven't had a chance to.

- No. - And it's such a lovely day

- Hmm. - Too many games to play.

Fair enough.

We're enjoying playing cards, aren't we?

We are, we love it.

Have you heard about the quiz

that's happening later down in the hall?

- No. - The movie quiz?

No, that would be interesting.

Film stars from the '50s.

I'm told you're an artist,

Mrs Carville.

I hear that you're a very talented artist.

We've got a beautiful art room just down here.

-It's got paints... -Shall we go?

...and drawing paper.

-Would you like to see it? -Yeah, I think.

-Let's go down here. -Fantastic. Just follow me.

Okay.

Could you please open, please?

Yes, of course.

Martin,

will you have dinner with us tonight?

Do you think she doesn't know

what we've just done to her?

Hello.

We brought dinner.

I'm not hungry.

Can we sit together?

I'd rather you didn't.

Well, I'll... I'll leave it for you.

You have one new message

and one saved message.

First new message

received today.

Hi Amanda, it's Jonathan Rita at Springview Care Home.

I'm calling because

I just wanted to share with you

what I'm looking at right now

because it's a very nice image.

I'm in the art room with your mother

and several other women.

They've been drawing and laughing

and just enjoying each other's company

this afternoon.

She's sitting on a sofa right now

with two other women

and she's got a big warm smile on her face.

And she's already made several very beautiful drawings.

Erm, I'm going to send you a couple of photos now.

I reckon. I'm not joking,

I've had a migraine all day.

Oh, this is like fear of the sublime.

What's this? It's something so big

that you can't comprehend how big it is.

Ooh, I don't like that.

It inspires me. I already love her.

I remember watching a bit...

She gives me you vibes.

She gives me, like, old-fashioned you vibes.

- Really? - Yeah.

Like I've known--

'Cause I'm thinking about her, yeah.

- Hi. - Hey.

Come back. Come back.

Do you know how much human shit

is on that door?

What if we stayed here?

For how long?

What if we moved here?

To be with your mum?

Yes, and...

'cause I'm wondering whether you prefer it here.

It seems like you do.

Would you prefer to finish school here,

stay with your friends?

What about your job?

I'd take one here.

Did you talk to Dad?

No, I wanted to see what you thought first.

What would happen to our house?

We'd sell it.

Dad doesn't want to sell it.

Well, because you and I are still living there,

but if we leave, he wants to sell it.

I thought... I thought Grandma and Martin were

going to come back to Newcastle.

Mmm. He won't do it.

You said you could do it without him.

I can't move her without him.

If you move her, he'll come too.

-He won't just leave her. -No, no.

I can't do that to him.

But he can do that to us?

Are you angry at me?

No.

I thought you'd like this idea.

Tell me what you're thinking.

Sarah.

-Mmm? -We can't sell it.

Why?

Because once there's no house to go back to,

we won't go back.

The plan was you guys would spend some time apart,

work on your shit for a while by yourselves,

and then we'd go back.

Who would come back?

All of us.

Maybe not at the same time, but...

eventually.

It wasn't the plan that your dad would come back.

It's just a temporary job.

He's not going to stay there permanently.

Sarah,

we're not together any more.

Yeah, I know.

Thank you.

Hello?

Yes, hi.

Hi, there.

Sorry to keep you waiting.

Erm...

Thank you both for coming.

Er, I'm sorry if I caused you to worry on the phone.

Leslie's fine.

I just thought it was important

that you both came up and we talked about it.

What happened?

Er, Leslie was involved in an incident yesterday

with another resident.

What kind of incident?

We think it was sexual in nature.

Er, we don't know everything yet, but...

there's some video that I'd like you to see.

Is it okay if I show it to you now?

- Yes. - Okay.

If you just follow me. Thanks.

Okay, so we'll be looking up

at this window first.

And we see Leslie appear

here.

- Who's that? - Mr Earl.

He's one of our residents.

- Where are they going? - That's his room.

And we lose her here for 11 minutes.

You mean there's no cameras in the rooms?

I'm afraid not. Only in the public areas.

And we see Leslie

come out of here again.

She's naked!

And we don't know what happened in the room?

We don't, I'm afraid.

The nurse...

...finds her here and...

covers her up and takes her back to her room.

That's the end of the footage.

When was this?

Yesterday afternoon.

And you didn't call us till this morning?

The nurse had no reason to suspect

that anything had happened.

It's not uncommon for residents

to forget to dress

before leaving their rooms.

But the same nurse found,

erm, Leslie's trousers and underwear

in Mr Earl's room this morning

and realised at that point

that something had happened or...

...may have happened.

She told me about it immediately and...

we came to the security footage.

I called you as soon as we saw this.

Did you ask either of them what happened?

Yes, but Mr Earl's memory is severely impaired

and... Leslie doesn't remember either.

She doesn't seem to recognise who he is.

Residents do act sexually with each other sometimes.

It's not frequent, but it does happen.

Is it frequent with this man, Mr Earl?

He's been more sexual than others.

Then why didn't you keep a watch on him?

Oh, we do watch for it.

Erm, it's just,

it's impossible to see everything, unfortunately.

She's been here two days.

Two days.

And she's already been...

er,

sexually assaulted.

Er, what's her room number?

Going up.

Doors closing.

First floor.

Doors opening.

Mum?

Mum?

You call us up here

to tell us this man

assaulted my wife?

You show us the horrible video

and you don't even bother

to watch out for the old cunt

while we're here talking about him!

We need to get her things, Martin.

No. No, we don't.

- Going up. - Yeah.

You stay there.

Er, would you open the door?

I need help.

You're right.

We need a nurse.

There'll be no more sex.

Mum, Janise will be staying with you

for a few hours...

...today.

Do you understand, Mum?

She'll stay here with you.

Do you understand?

What are you going to do now?

I don't know.

I'll see you at 5:00?

I'll cook something.

Mmm?

Wha... What are your...

intentions when your sabbatical ends?

What do you mean?

Do you intend to take her to Newcastle with you?

I don't have any intentions about anything right now.

Do you need a lift somewhere?

No, I'll have a walk.

-I'll see you at 5:00. -Yes.

We should have brought two lighters.

- Thank you. - You all right?

You got what you asked for.

What is in yours?

Why do you keep going like that?

- So the air escapes... - I am her.

...from the thing.

So cool.

You have to go in. In.

There. See?

Give me some of that one but not this one.

- Buss. Buss. - Buss me.

- Buss. - Buss me the zoot..

Now I actually need some warmth.

I'm gonna burn your hand.

-Does that hurt? -That doesn't hurt? No?

No, it does hurt. It does hurt when you put it right above.

See who can hold it there for the longest.

- Put two fingers... - No, don't do that.

- Hold it in the fire? - She'll burn

- her finger. - Yeah... No, no,

put both your fingers together like that,

so this is someone else's finger

and this is someone else's finger.

Now hold it under and see who pulls out first.

- Okay, let's do it then. - What?

Look.

Ow.

Yeah.

I'll go in there.

- How was she? - Oh, she's been lovely.

We had a nice afternoon.

She's been asleep about half an hour.

I'm happy to stay a bit longer

if you'd like to go and get a cup of tea.

-No, It's fine. You can go. -Okay.

-Thank you very much. -Yeah.

Mum,

why aren't you eating?

Do you feel okay? Do you feel ill?

Do you feel okay or you feel ill?

I'm cold.

Are they rooftop?

No, it's basically, see how the...

You can sit outside on this side,

but on my side, there's a...

- Do you have a balcony? - Yeah, yeah, a balcony,

but it's on there. You can't see it.

- Cute. - It's on the other side.

It's so pretty.

- Did you just get Irish? - Yeah.

On the other side.

- But, yeah, this is... - I like it a lot.

This is me up here, man.

Cute. See you later.

It's good to see you too.

- All right. - See you later.

Adios.

Adios.

- Oh, hello, Janise. Yeah. - Hello.

-How are you? -I'm fine.

Ah, you said you'd come.

I made you food.

I'll lose my whole Saturday.

But it's only two hours.

Just eat a sandwich with us and then you...

you can leave from there and have your day.

What do you want? Ham?

-Ham? -Neither.

-Cheese? -No.

Janise?

-I'm going out now. -Okay.

-She's still asleep. -Right.

Can you try with the soup at 12 o'clock?

Yeah.

Thank you.

I'll see you later.

Yeah.

Yeah.

- Hi. - Hi.

Hello there, Sarah.

Hi.

How is she this morning?

Er, her stomach's upset.

Worse than last night?

Yes, yeah.

Did... did she eat any breakfast?

She had a bite of pear,

and then she went to the bathroom.

To throw up?

No, it's intestinal.

Does she have a fever?

Don't know.

Well, should we go back up?

I think someone should be with her, Martin.

Well, the nurse is with her.

No, but I mean...

one of us too...

until we know what this is.

I'm confused.

Er, you say

I should trust the nurse,

get out of the house,

and that's what I'm doing.

But...

...now you're telling me

I'm neglecting her.

No, I'm not saying that, Martin.

Yes, you are. I don't know what you're saying.

You say one thing and then you say the opposite.

Look,

I'm happy to...

go back upstairs

or come and have lunch with you.

You tell me what you want me to do and I'll do it.

She's trying to help you.

Give her a break.

Do you even realise

what she's sacrificing to be here in London

'cause you won't go back to Newcastle?

- Sarah. - No, 'cause you only think

- about yourself. - Sorry.

- Sarah. - Sorry.

But you're not actually sorry

'cause you don't change

- what you're sorry for. - Sarah.

What?

Stop.

Oughtn't you to go after her?

She wants to be alone.

I know what's happening to her.

I know what comes next.

But she doesn't.

Mercifully, she's ignorant

of what the disease is doing to her.

So I have to be also.

I have to consciously block out of my mind what I know,

because if I don't,

I fall into such a black,

hopeless void

that I can't function.

And I'm not going to let

hopelessness ruin our lives together.

I have to function

for her sake.

Understand?

I do.

But it means she's completely vulnerable.

What if we just accept that?

What are you going to do now?

I'll have a bit of a walk.

I'll take a cab home.

I'll see you at 5:00.

No!

No!

No!

Leslie, stay in the bathroom.

Stay in the bathroom, though, Leslie.

What? L... Leslie.

It's me. It's me, Leslie. It's me.

It's all right.

What...

What happened?

She has diarrhoea.

Well, I can see that.

How did she get in this state?

I tried to clean her in the bathtub, couldn't,

so I've just been trying to clean her with a towel.

It's all right, sweetheart.

It's all right.

It's all right.

It's me.

It's me.

Yeah.

We'll just...

We'll...

We'll go and clean you up,

shall we?

You'll feel better.

Just you and me.

- No! - N... Y...

You better leave, Janise. I'm sorry.

Okay. Erm, do you want me to come back tomorrow?

Yes, of course. I'm sorry.

Oh, yes, indeed.

But...

I'll tell you what.

We'll go and clean you up.

Mmm? And then we'll...

we'll wash your hair.

Hair.

Nice hair.

Wash your hair.

You like that.

Don't you?

Yeah.

Come on.

Off we go.

No, no, she's gone, she's gone.

She's gone.

Just you and me

now.

Where are you?

Pretty close.

Come... Come over.

Like, whereabouts are you?

Oh.

There's no one here?

No.

Hello?

♪ And I'm sick of your puppy eyes ♪

♪ You said boys should never cry ♪

♪ Well, surprise... ♪

♪ Ever told you ♪

♪ You bought me some flowers ♪

♪ I gave them to someone else ♪

♪ Told me that you loved me ♪

♪ You're just talking to yourself ♪

♪ I don't wanna know... ♪

It's so clean.

♪ Let yourself out ♪

♪ You're so conceited ♪

♪ Yeah, yeah ♪

♪ You bought me some flowers ♪

♪ I gave them to someone else ♪

♪ Told me that you loved me ♪

♪ You're just talking to yourself ♪

♪ And I don't wanna know ♪

♪ I don't wanna hear it ♪

♪ Let yourself out ♪

♪ You're so conceited, yeah, yeah ♪

♪ You're far too easy ♪

♪ You hide between the lines but I read you ♪

♪ It's a pity ♪

♪ I get off when I mislead you ♪

♪ And say I, I, don't want no other guy ♪

♪ Pretend I love your suit and tie ♪

♪ It's fun playing with a man's mind... ♪

♪ You say come over ♪

♪ Say please, I might think... ♪

♪ You lost composure ♪

♪ And I don't think you ever found it ♪

♪ Sick of your puppy eyes ♪

♪ You said boys should never cry ♪

♪ Well, surprise ♪

Let's get these off. That's it.

No?

Well, let's take your...

your blouse off

so it doesn't get wet.

No?

Never mind.

In we get.

All right. In there.

Turn around.

Erm...

Yes.

Just hold that there.

There we are.

Feels hot?

Can you turn around?

Can you turn...

Turn around. Yeah.

That's the way.

That's the way, then we can clean the back.

And this.

No!

Mum?

I'm here.