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Oh, hi, Lex, I'm coming in.

Welcome.

Relax, you look tense?

Yeah.

Sorry, I haven't had therapy in a while.

Wow, I mean, you can relax because this is a situation

safe environment.

So just several.

I do want to let you know, there's a camera up here.

I like to do that for security, but don't be alarmed.

It's just for my personal security in my office here.

But just like one of you would be aware.

All right, so let me see.

Let me see.

All right.

What are the savings undermines today?

I just really want to feel normal again.

I've been the super stressed having a lot of trouble

just balancing work.

I just recently started as a paramedic.

How are you liking the job so far?

Honestly, it's good for you.

Just you wait, you've been missing these lazy days.

It's a lot more exciting than that.

It's a station seven traffic collision.

Oh, sorry. Don't move. Where are you hurt?

It's a deal with that massive bone, or did you see that?

I didn't notice.

So you want to tell us what actually happened here?

I don't want to tell you.

I don't know if the hospital is going to have time.

I think it will.

It's like that.

We have to do something.

That's what we just do.

It will fashion life.

Oh, yeah.

And then bam.

And balancing family life and work.

Honestly, I bring work home with me.

I'm on call.

So, I mean, I have to go back to work at any moment's notice

and I just don't have any time to decompress really at all.

All right.

Well, I mean, the first thing I'd like to say,

these are all just normal things that almost everyone goes through.

You're obviously starting a new thing.

So, I mean, that's stressful for a lot of people.

Do you feel like...

Is the balance between home and life?

I mean, do you know where that should be?

Do you know where you want it to be?

I mean, I'm just feeling a lack of enjoyment.

I guess, and it's like, you know, I feel like because of how young I am.

That's supposed to have more fun.

So, it's really like not...

Yeah, I don't know.

That's like...

And I feel comfortable saying...

Well, I mean...

We have to...

Every...

The whole...

Your body posture, everything is...

It's all very, like, you're well and so tight right now.

Like, we need to get you...

We need to get you to just be in a flow state somehow.

Let me think how to do that.

There's a technique here where...

Instead of speaking...

You just...

Be just point.

So, yes or no.

You just react to it.

So, like I ask you a question and, you know...

You just kind of indicate what you think.

So, maybe that might be a way to get you to sort of unwind a little bit.

Alright, so...

Yeah, just hold it there and let me see what you say.

Alright, so...

Are you excited about your new job?

Yes.

Okay.

Do you like your coworkers?

Yes.

Is your family supportive of what you're doing right now?

I mean, remember, we're just...

We're supposed to be just flowing.

And you don't even have to...

I think thinking too much might be part of your problem.

So, I'd just want you to, like, your first gut reaction.

This is trying to capture your first reaction.

Flow state.

Yes.

So, how about your overall personal life?

Is your overall personal life good?

I see if you're, like, looking at...

You got to just, like...

You have an immediate reaction to that problem.

You're just afraid to express it.

But you must have a reaction to that.

To that question.

I guess I feel like it's a loaded question because it's not sometimes...

Again, again, again, again.

This is just, like, so much complex.

We're just, like, it's just simple.

Just...

Yes or no, it was my personal life good.

I mean...

Yes or no?

Okay. Now we're...

Now we're sure again.

It's like, okay, so...

Is the amount of time that you spend...

Out of work, adequate.

Are the people that you spend time with outside of work?

But is it the right set of people or are they supportive?

Hmm.

Hi.

So...

All right.

You had one, no, and a whole bunch of guesses.

Hmm.

I guess...

So, I gotta, I gotta try to understand the no area a little more.

And in turn, of course, you need to understand yourself a little more.

So, do you have a close friend?

Yes.

Um, do you have a boyfriend?

I don't really have time for a boyfriend, so...

It's like, you know, pretty non-existent.

Okay, but I mean, you already said no.

You don't have a boyfriend, so...

I was moving off that I'm trying to understand just physically, like, sexual activity.

So, I guess, even without a boyfriend, I mean, there's casual sex, do you have casual sex?

No.

And what about masturbation?

Uh...

No, I don't really have time.

I guess, we need to examine, like, is it really time?

Is it a barrier?

Is something keeping you from exploring that?

Because it really doesn't take that much time if you think about it.

I mean, there's plenty of ways, there's your hands, there's toys, there's all kinds of ways.

So, I guess...

Basically, it's not functioning area then.

The sexual area.

I don't really know how...

I know you said it's like a part of a system.

I just feel comfortable with these, like, really personal questions.

Well, I mean, this system thing is the answer, but I...

Let me try to illustrate it in another way.

Like, we talked about a bunch of things in the beginning.

Your answers were very tense.

You were very closed.

Everything was in work.

And then, we tried to break it open a little bit with the yes, no thing.

And everything was yes.

Except for this one area, right?

This one area was in no.

So, we got it, like, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, and then no.

So, really, I mean, I'm not doing my job, obviously.

If we got to get to where we unpack why that one null happened.

And therefore, this line of reasoning is the way to do that.

I mean, I'm comfortable, but I guess that makes sense.

I mean, obviously, like, you went to a professional, because you...

You need someone you can trust and, like, has knowledge of, like, unpacking this kind of stuff.

So, I mean, I think that's...

I think that's why we need to go there.

So, I mean, again, the not-master-ration thing is that you don't think about it,

or is it that, like, you don't have the right toys?

Like, what is the barrier?

Like, you live with the wrong people?

Are you asking if I use toys?

Well, you said you don't match for me.

I guess I'm asking, do you even have access to toys?

Do you have access to the things that would help you match for me?

I mean, I like toys, but I don't use toys.

It seems to me, like, like, there's just a lot of paralysis with thinking and, like, you don't.

I don't, I think you don't just, like, go for it sometimes.

Let me think what?

Didn't I, didn't you bring a water bottle or something with you?

Yeah.

All right, I have an idea.

I have an idea.

Let's just, let's just set this.

The question is, I just stand up for me.

Take the water, take the water.

Now, just have a drink water first.

Just breathe, relax, just have a drink water.

You'll see where I'm going with this, I think.

Now, so, that's conventional, that's whatever we would do.

Just pour the water in yourself.

Do you want to pour the water in myself?

Yeah, sure.

Just pour the water in yourself.

Just do crazy things.

Just, like, let go just pour the water in yourself.

But, what about the camera?

The security camera?

Yeah.

I mean, the security camera is like to protect my office

and he's only breaks in or something like that.

It doesn't matter that I was just telling you that it was there to be proper.

I mean, again, this isn't, I mean, this isn't a visual thing.

I just, it's a behavioral thing.

I just want to see, like, do something not so rigid.

Okay.

Right.

That's still kind of a little rigid.

Just better, better.

I mean, kind of felt good.

So look, you just got to go for it.

You just got to go for it.

Yes.

Okay.

Now, and now, let me see, when you don't live so, so, so tight and confined.

Doesn't, doesn't it just, I mean, that's the first time you smile this whole time.

Yeah.

I guess, I mean, now we'll wet and cold, but it is hot.

I mean, it is a hot way and whatever, I mean.

It just feels a lot better.

I mean, I can't believe I did that.

So you just, you just got to be in that zone.

You know?

I mean, like, here, look, I'll bet.

Let's see here.

Yeah, see?

Like, like, there was much more tension in you when you, when you first got here.

I mean, I mean, everywhere, really.

I mean, again, to get your mind free.

It's like, normally.

Your body needs to be free.

No, I mean, every, every patient you need to get at the moment,

the core of what they need.

Do you understand me?

What they need?

So, like, I say, it's so nice.

I mean, as I was asking you earlier, like, so no one, I mean, no one in your life is there to do this kind of thing then.

No.

Yeah, God, that is so kind of what I hear.

Let's just, let's just open this up a little bit.

No.

What are you doing?

I just think it'll dry off when I hear her.

Let's just hang this up.

I mean, that was a useful exercise, but there's no reason to just,

but it's okay, there's only professionals here.

I mean, that's right, that's fine.

All right, so let's see.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I think it's good.

I think, I think, I think...

I mean...

You know, there's a lot of crucial stress nerves here in here.

Ask you that.

That's so, really good.

Here, just...

You get it.

You get it.

Remember the water?

Just right now, like, just right now in this moment, just be the water.

Just...

You see?

Yeah, you know, like, this is just all so can wet.

I think we just got to hang this up, too.

I mean, I don't know about this.

Yeah, it's like, soaking wet and, like, you're on a couch and everything,

so let's just... let's just lose this.

Okay.

Let's just...

There we have a sea out.

I can take care of it there.

There.

All right.

Again, here, whenever you...

Whenever you lose focus on what we're doing,

just... just think the water flow would like the water.

You know?

Free.

Okay.

Now, let's just...

Ah, yes.

This is a part of the therapy?

Well, if your body is...

as tight as a... as a wound-up coil,

do you really think you can relax your mind enough for therapy to work correctly?

I mean, your core coil...

has to be uncoiled.

I wonder what I'm touching, I mean, is a key pressure point.

It might not be acknowledged in this country, but...

Eastern science or African science.

I mean, there's some place that would acknowledge that

these are the right places to touch.

You know?

Okay.

I guess that's really good, actually.

I see the breathing helps.

Is it still part of the therapy?

Great.

We need to establish a human contact,

a human sensuality.

I don't know about that.

How does the flow feel?

Let's see.

How is the flow?

Oh, the flow's good, I think.

The flow's okay.

I feel like if you let yourself,

you really just flow through a lot of things and way.

It's just so constraining.

I'm not, I'm not sure.

All right, so here's a key point now.

You can feel.

I see, see the, see your body is,

your body is telling you something.

You have to listen to your body at this time.

You feel your body, your body is communicating.

Your body is flowing, flowing.

And then, when you're energy flows,

you can have an effect on the people around you.

A very positive effect, see that effect.

I mean,

did you realize that your flow state can actually,

like facilities such a strong reaction in people?

What about the camera?

I mean, I'm no one's breaking in right now,

so I'm not going to watch it.

But you said you haven't really addressed these needs in a long time.

I mean, this is a safe way to do it.

Can you do it for a while to get in my hands?

So, I mean,

I'm just like,

play it in the mouth.

That is the flow.

I think I can feel artificial barriers set aside.

Can you feel it?

I can feel it.

I can feel it.

You're just so full.

That felt very free.

Let me see.

There's ways I can tell.

Just go in here.

I mean,

I mean,

we were talking about the toy thing,

but this is in many ways superior to the toy situation.

But I think really,

reasonable feeling, version.

I don't know, yes.

That's right.

I can feel my stress, lady.

You're starting.

I can feel my stress, lady.

What, what, what, what, what, what?

You're starting to release this, but I want you to take control of your own treasure.

I want you to just get up on top here and you control the motion you know.

That's.

That's it.

You see how you can place the pleasure inside.

You see how you can place the pleasure inside.

You see how you can place the pleasure inside.

I'll be back in there.

Let's get to a more intimate level of this.

I'm too so good.

That's it.

That's it.

That's it.

All right, I have a crazy idea like the water.

Go outside now.

Trust me.

I don't know how long to be.

I need to come to you.

I don't know.

Such a breather.

Such a breather.

Honestly, I didn't think there could be this one.

I think I may.

My daughter takes that quality classes.

Well, on the meantime, we can continue sessions, of course.