All language subtitles for S01E07.Fate.Comes.Knocking.eng

Narrator:
Coming up on
"Marriage Boot Camp: Reality
Stars"...

Now it's time
for the really hard work.

You allow men to hurt you.

- I despise and hate you.
- Such a [ bleep ].

- You're turning on me.
- That's what I'm doing.

Shut the [ bleep ]--
shut up, shut up.

- You get mad!
- Shut up.

I'm about to punch you
in your face.

I dare you!

What the [ bleep ], don't--
don't [ bleep ] with me.

You will be asked
to make a choice, a sacrifice.

- This is my final decision.
- I don't think I can choose.

Something's wrong here.

Five famous couples
face a whole new reality.

- Gonna hit me?
-
They must fight to save
their failing relationships

or decide
whether to call it quits.

Gretchen:
I might love him
more than he loves me.

Jenni:
I don't want to know what
it's like to be without you.

- Kevin:
You degrade me.
- Traci:
Treat me like a child.

Ryan:
You make me feel
like I'm not a priority.

Tanisha:
Stand up and be a man.

Narrator:
When reality
comes crashing down...

[ bleep ] this place.

Jim and Elizabeth Carroll
are their last chance.

This is "Marriage Boot Camp:
Reality Stars."

[ laughs ]

[ indistinct conversations ]

Ryan:
Look at chef Clive, man.

Dude, I'm gonna come give you
my order every morning now.

I'm gonna get you a shirt
that says Chef Clive.

Look at that.
That's awesome.

- I try, I try.
- Dude.

It's been an exhausting
few days in Boot Camp,

but we've finally
rounded the corner,

and were going down
the final stretch.

Yeah, today's gonna be
really interesting

because the exercises
are all about choices.

Jim:
This first drill will
help them grow as individuals

then the second drill will force
them to make a decision

as to whether or not they
will grow together or apart.

First, Jenni and Roger
aren't here,

and I'm extremely
disappointed.

Yeah, I think today could have
really helped them.

Elizabeth:
On the other hand,
I think the fact that Roger

accompanied Jenni
to the East Coast

is a real a sign
of self-sacrifice.

So I think that's a really
good sign for them.

Trista and Ryan, I mean,
they seem like they got

all their stuff together,

but they got hate
toward this ex.

My girlfriend, she was naked
in bed with this guy.

If they can let go of
the bitterness and anger

that they have towards
their past,

it will revolutionize
their relationship.

- Jim:
Now Tanisha and Clive--
- There is so much pain here.

Everything is about you,
and your whole attitude

and personality towards me,
it changed.

Because I couldn't
respect you anymore.

Until they can let go of this
and work on themselves,

the anger inside both of them
will continue to fester

and hold him back from growing
individually and as a couple.

Okay,
let's go take care of it.

Tanisha:
What's happening?

Oh, my God.
Oh, my God, I'm so happy.

I'm so happy.
[ laughs ]

Wow, oh, my God,
I'm so excited.

I just got a call
from my manager.

She goes, "I heard back
from the audition that you did,

and they pretty much said
that you are hired."

Oh, my God,
thank you so much.

Yes, oh, my God.

It's a big deal for me.

Take care, bye-bye.

Nothing. [ sighs ]

I got to get water.
Hi, guys.

Really good news.
I got all the jobs I wanted.

Like, now they're fighting
for me, so I'm happy.

[ all chattering excitedly ]

I really wish my dad
was here to share this.

Yeah.

Clive is here.
[ giggles ]

I just got a job,
that's all.

Thanks.

I feel like you are always
feel like I'm leaving you.

You're upset that I'm moving up
and I'm moving forward.

Where is this coming from?

I've always felt like that.

That's why I stopped
telling you things.

So you shall not
tell me anything,

that's what you're trying
to tell me.

I never Shakespeare'd it.

I never said
I shall not do anything.

Clive:
But that's the way
you're making it seem.

I'm overwhelmed with emotion.

Tanisha:
Thank you again.
Thank you for everything.

I'll call you later
so we can talk--

we can call the production
company together and thank them.

Okay, bye-bye.

- Can I ask you something?
- What?

Do you feel like that
it's gonna take me leaving

to get you
to take care of yourself?

I don't
want
you to do that.

You're not in control of it.

I know
I'm not in control of it,

but you can't
help but wanting to fix it.

But how are we gonna do that
if you sit here and you sulk?

I get what you're saying.
It's just not that easy.

I'm mentally exhausted.

Jim:
Attention all couples,
come to the Boot Camp Room now.

Good morning,
Boot Campers.

We are near
the end of the Boot Camp,

and we've seen tremendous growth
in each of you.

We've put you through
challenges and tests

that have forced you
to look hard in the mirror.

And now it's time
for the really hard work.

Today we will be turning
a corner,

but we will be pushing
you harder than ever.

Jim:
We all have
somebody in the past

or several people in the past

that have caused hurt
and damage.

Most of the time,
that has a major impact

on the way we go forward
in our lives.

When you hold on to bitterness,
resentment, and anger, okay,

ultimately you are transferring
that into your relationship.

So not only are you hurting
yourself by hanging onto it,

you're hurting your spouse

and you're hurting
your marriage.

And by forgiving
someone who's wronged you,

you release yourself
from the pain.

If you can dig
into the pain and forgive,

then you've released
this thing for good and forever.

So I want you to close
your eyes for a second.

I want you to think
of somebody or something

that has hurt you bad.

Who do you have
the most resentment toward

at this very moment in time?

Open your eyes.

All right, Slade.

I personally feel like
I've spent so much time

kind of putting up a wall

and trying to push
the past aside

that I'm not very excited

about having to strip
all of those feelings.

Who do you need to forgive?

I don't even know
where to start.

I really don't know
where to start.

Start by being real,
the real feelings,

the real emotion,
the real you, got it?

Who am I?

My God.

What are you mad at me about?

For using my son.

Slade:
My 13-year-old son
was diagnosed with brain cancer

at age five.

He is currently recovering
from his 16th brain surgery,

which left him in ICU
in New York

for five and a half months.

Why my son?

Jim:
Is the bitterness you have
making it worse

or better
by hanging onto it?

I have to let it go,
and I really don't know how.

I despise and hate you
beyond all measure.

Hate's hurting you,
your son,

and that hate's hurting
this relationship.

Not one good reason
for you to keep that.

Slade:
I feel like
I don't deserve anything.

I have a hard time
focusing on me

knowing that he's struggling
every single day.

Will you forgive me
for not healing him?

I forgive you.

I want you to take care of your
son as long as you can, okay?

Tanisha:
I really, really
got to like Slade a lot,

and I am literally, like,
shaking.

I am hurting for him.

I'm upset for him.
It's heartbreaking.

Gretchen:
I'm so proud of you.

Jim:
All right, Tanisha?

Ilsa is your caretaker.

- All right?
- Okay.

And first I want you to tell her
what she did to you

and how it's impacting
your life.

My parents, they thought
they were putting me

in the care of someone
that could be trusted,

and unfortunately,
that was not the case.

I know, baby,
but you want to be free?

I want you to be free.

That was just a job for me.

And I was gonna do
my own thing,

and I was gonna get rid of you
the best that I could.

So I was setting you up
with those little kids.

They weren't that bad.

They weren't that bad on you,
were they?

Well, they weren't little kids.
They were teenagers.

Oh, whatever.
You can handle yourself.

Five or six?

- Really?
- Yes.

So you felt the need to abuse
a helpless five-year-old.

It was not abuse.
That's dramatic.

I'm-- I'm like--
this is not good.

This is not--
I'm not doing good with-- I--

Jim: You are doing exceptional.
Stay with it.

I can't do it.
I can't. I'm upset.

- Can you help me?
- Give her just a second.

Can you help me?
[ breathing heavily ]

I'm so pissed.

She's not the person I'm mad at.
It's not fair to hit her.

That's the only--
I only know--

I don't know how to say it.

What I want to do is just go
"boom!" like that.

I just want to go
"boom! boom!"

- Elizabeth:
Tell her.
- I don't know
what to say to you.

- I just want--
I want to kick your ass.
- Let's trade out for second.

- I am the caretaker.
- Jim. [ laughs ]

I am the caretaker.

You've wanted to hit me
all your life,

and you think that takes
care of the problem,

and so you swing your arms
in the air

and you yell and you come
over-the-top at everybody.

- It's your fault.
- And it's my fault!

And I have control,

and the only way you get it
back is what?

You got to hit me?
Let's do it.

Jim, this is not gonna
be good for you.

You want to hit me?

I really do want to hit you.

Narrator:
Coming up
on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

You allow men to hurt you.

I hate you.
You're such a [ bleep ].

I can't do this anymore.

I came here to make a decision.
We're getting a divorce.

Jim:
I am the caretaker.

You've wanted to hit me
all your life,

and you think that takes
care of the problem,

and so you swing your arms
in the air

And I have control,

and the only way you get it
back is what?

You got to hit me?
Can you take it back?

You pound me and put me
on the floor?

Let's do it.

Jim, this is not gonna
be good for you.

You want to hit me?

I really do want to hit you.

I am never, ever going away.

You are going away today.

The only way you've gonna
take it back is to beat me up,

but you've gotta do it
the right way.

You have to forgive me.

I'm not gonna [ bleep ]
forgive--

that's not happening!

- Who has control?
- Me!

- No, who has control?
I control you.
- You do not control me.

You used to control me
back then.

I'm still mad
about what you did,

- but you don't control me.
- Look at you! [ growls ]

But I am who I am because
I made myself that way.

I'm successful.
I'm intelligent.

All of that stuff happened as
a result of your bull [ bleep ].

So in a way,
I did win.

The only thing that you hold
over me is the past.

Okay, and I control you.
You can't see that?

I can't do this anymore.

I want you to forgive me
for the first fight.

I'm not forgiving you.
I'm can't.

Jim, I'm gonna be lying
if I told you I forgive her.

I can't forgive her.

I'm angry.
I'm shaking.

You abused me emotionally.
You were there.

[ crying ] You let a guy
take advantage of me.

I can't even tell my parents.

When I told me dad,
he had a heart attack.

I'm so upset!

I don't know how to forg--
I can't.

This is too bad.
It's too much, guys.

Who's forgiveness for?

I don't know what to say.

You.
It's for you.

It's for you, sweetie.

[ Tanisha sobs ]

I forgive you for everything.

Okay, now say it and mean it.

I feel like I can't breathe.

Come on, come on.
Come on, you're almost there.

I forgive you for everything,

for...
all the pain,

all the suffering
you caused me...

and all the things I'm too
embarrassed to talk about.

Yeah.
Good job.

- You've taken a big step.
- Thank you.

Thank you.

Jim:
Kevin,
you'll come stand up here.

All right, Kevin,
who are you mad at?

- My father.
- I'm your dad.

You tell me what I did
that's pissing you off so bad.

You wasn't there.

My whole young life,
you wasn't there.

You neglected me.

You cheat on your wife?
I am disappointed in you.

I'm not like you.

How are you not like me?
You're worse than me.

I'd never let that happen.

Who do you need to forgive?

I feel like I need
to forgive myself.

Jim:
What do you need
to forgive yourself for?

For making bad decisions,

and now it's hurting
my relationship

'cause of the things that you
allowed to have happen to me.

Jim:
Ilsa is your ex-girlfriend.

You-- you lied to me.

You took my confidence.

You took the belief
I had in myself.

It's your fault
I did what I did.

This is you.

The pain that you're bringing me
is running through me

into other people
in my life.

She was like
one of my best friends.

Tell her how she hurt you.

You were supposed to be
a sister to me.

When I couldn't depend
on my husband, you left.

When hard times was coming,
you left.

I am just so mad you.

I hate you.

I don't want you to be happy.

Jim:
How long are you gonna
let her have this power?

[ voice breaks ]
I don't her to anymore.

Son, I am sorry that I am
such a lousy dad.

Will you forgive me?

For me and my family,
I will.

We all make mistakes, right?
How can you be free?

I forgive you.

I just forgive you
so that I be free of this.

I forgive you.

I forgive you for everything.

Jim:
How'd that feel?

Very powerful stuff.

Jim: Clive.

Tell Jim
who you want to forgive.

Clive:
Um... Tanisha.

You come be Tanisha.

Tanisha:
Whoa, out of all the things,

I'm the biggest issue?

It's hard to hear,
and I'm--

I'm hoping I can stay
in my seat the entire time.

This is gonna be tough.

Mnh-mnh. Mnh-mnh.

You say
a lot of hurtful stuff.

Sometimes
you just don't listen.

I gotta try to go over you--

Because you don't listen
to what
I'm
saying.

Of course,
why would I listen to you?

Because you never shut up
so I can talk.

- There's respect.
- You bother me. Respect?

- Yeah, respect.
- You need to earn my respect.

Why would I respect you?

Man...

Because you want that respect.

Yeah, of course,
I deserve respect.

Are you kidding me?
I provide for myself.

- I provide for you.
- No, you don't provide for me.

Who got you dressed?

I buy my own things.

I help you get dressed.
I helped with your ear.

I helped with your mom.
I provide.

I earn respect.
You don't.

You're a loser.

Ilsa's portrayal of me
was kind of so accurate,

and, to my surprise,
I feel bad.

Grab hands.

I do the best I can.

For all the mean-ful things
you ever said to me,

I always do forgive you.

I'm sorry I don't
appreciate you more.

Clive:
Wow.

I'm sorry I don't
show you a respect

the way you feel respected.

Will you forgive her
for her being who she is?

I honestly don't want
to lose you, you know?

I forgive you, Tanisha.

How does it feel now
to know that that person

that hurt you
no longer has any power,

that you've let
go of the bitterness,

you've let go of the anger
and the resentment,

and you can now start growing
and going on

to bigger and better things?

We want you to take this time
to cool off and relax

because the next drill
will bring you face-to-face

with some tough decisions.

[ Slade sighs ]
I hate this.

Gretchen: Heavy, yeah.
Do you guys feel better?

I actually do feel better.

I didn't realize
how deep it affected me.

Did you even realize
how much it was affecting her?

Ryan:
I knew it was affecting her,

but I just didn't realize
a lot of the arguments,

a lot of my insecurities
I think

are stemming from that stupid
little failed relationship,

and I didn't give it,
I guess, enough credit.

It's eye-opening, what--
yeah.

I just feel like--
Slade,

like we've known each other
when we were 18.

And I feel like
he's still there,

and I feel so guilty,
and I feel so bad,

and I swear to you,
I feel like-- yesterday,

when I got a little frazzled,
he was helpless.

- Help me, Clive!
- These pieces--

- Help me!
- [ bleep ]

I'm just like, Jesus.

I honestly just feel
I don't have any problem.

The only thing is just
she has her issue

of maybe no self-control.

That's her defense mechanism,
man.

Gonna [ bleep ] you up!

You [ bleep ]!
[ bleep ] you!

She have to work on that.

If I change,

will that be good enough
for Tanisha?

Is it enough for you?

Yeah.

She actually ahead of the game.

It's gonna make you whole,
right?

- Yeah.
-
That's the key.

I came here to make a decision.

I really don't know
what I'm gonna do yet.

One day I am, like, yes,
I can see this working.

The next day, I'm like,
"We're getting a divorce."

If I was your daughter...

would you be okay with me
staying married to Clive?

I would not.

Narrator:
Coming up
on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

One door represents
the dream of motherhood

but without Slade.

I don't think I can choose.

What's the problem?

You're turning on me.

I'm done.

- So what's the deal?
- You know what? Don't--

No, I don't know what.

You just keep mentioning
if I know what.

I don't know what.

- What's the problem?
- You're turning on me.

[ laughs ] No, I'm not.

I've come to realize that
I'm afraid

of that whatever I might do

might not be
good enough for you.

You know,
something has changed.

'Cause all of a sudden,
you have a different tone.

You want me to speak up.
That's what I'm doing.

Tanisha:
Today your hearing is clear.

You can hear.
God has healed you.

and you're speaking clear--

baby, you sound like you came
straight from Harvard,

and you have this stance
like Chuck Norris,

and I don't know
what the [ bleep ]

is about to go down
in this mother [ bleep ],

but I don't got
the nails for it.

I don't got the nails for it.

You need to go talk to Slade.

- Why?
- Because--

- Slade...
- Excuse me.

And I and you
and the rest of the people

who are in this house
are here for reasons,

to fix issues
in their marriage.

I'm done.

I hope you freeze out here.

Now we told you earlier today
that today was gonna be a day

about making tough choices,
and earlier,

you went through forgiveness,

and you found
by forgiving others,

you inadvertently
free yourself.

This next exercise
will force them

to make a difficult decision

that will define
the direction of that growth.

You will be asked
to make a choice.

For some, a sacrifice.

There may not necessarily
be a right or wrong

to your decision,
but I promise you

these will be
life-changing choices.

One at a time, we'll take you
into the other room.

Man, you will be
coming with me.

Women, you'll be going
with Elizabeth.

Elizabeth:
The rest of you will
stay here with Bobby and Ilsa.

We will be back
for you shortly.

Gretchen and Slade,
please come with us.

The purpose of this exercise
is to force

each of the campers
to make a choice.

Standing before them
are two doors.

One door represents
the selfless choice,

and one door represents
the selfish choice.

Jim:
The only way for couples
to meet in the middle

is for both of them
to make the selfless choice.

In this exercise,

the selfless act
hopefully leads to a future

with your spouse in it,
where the selfish act

probably leads
to a future alone.

Stop right there.

You can take
your blindfold off.

Here are two choices.

Here are two doors
that represent

your life's dilemma.

"Heal yourself"...

and "Gretchen."

One door represents
the dream of motherhood.

It's the one thing
that you've talked about most

during this Boot Camp.

This door represents that
but without Slade.

This door represents
your life as it is now,

with the man that you love
but without children.

Jim:
If you go through
this door on the right,

you choose to remain
with Gretchen, but

you're never gonna be able to
give her the things she needs

and wants the most.

If you go through the door
on your left,

you're choosing
to heal yourself

regardless of the effect
it'll have on your relationship.

I mean, I can't imagine
my life without Slade

because when I think of
motherhood,

I think of it as Slade
and I together.

If I choose to heal myself,

I'm walking away from
that thing that I love most.

Those are your two choices.

I don't think I can choose.

I need you to make a choice.

Pick a door.

[ crying ]

Slade chose
to heal himself

rather than be in
a relationship with Gretchen

where he can't fulfill
her needs.

That was actually
a selfless act.

Elizabeth:
Gretchen,
on the other hand,

chose her desire
to have children

over the man that she loves.

This was an act
of self-interest

as opposed interest
in the relationship.

In this case, however,

Gretchen choosing
the selfish act

might be a good thing
for her and Slade

given their
codependency issues.

Gretchen,
you face a choice,

which is to be-self interested
versus selfless

and giving up my dreams

and potentially being bitter
and angry about that.

If you want to be together,
you're gonna have to be

self-interested,
at the same time,

a giving, loving person,
and it's hard

with the kind of personalities
that the two of you have.

It felt like I got punched
in the gut.

Even though in my head,

I'm thinking
it's the right decision

and this is what we're
being taught at this camp,

it's a horrific feeling
to know

that the person you love most
in this world didn't choose you.

You can take
your blindfold off.

Kevin,
you've been very clear

about the issues
in your marriage.

You do not feel like
a priority in Traci's life.

Look at these two
different doors.

The door here on the left,

you will always remain
second priority

to her sisters
and to her career.

If you go through
the door on the right,

your partner will put you

and your marriage
above all else,

but that partner
won't be Traci.

This door represents
putting Kevin at the top

of your priority list--

no television career,
no music career.

This door over here
represents your sisters,

your passion for your music,
your career,

but then Kevin falls down
on the priority list,

and your relationship
could be destroyed.

The question is,
where does your husband fall

in the priority list
of your life?

Tell me what you see
if you go down this path.

I will have to sacrifice

and allow Traci
to continue to grow.

I love what I do,
and I love my sisters.

Mm-hmm.

I'm just confused.

I love him.

But I sacrificed before.

If you go down this path,
what's gonna happen to you

in five years, 10 years?

I don't know.

I feel like we're in a major
transition right now.

You gonna be able
to handle that?

So I'd like you
to step up in front of

the door that you choose.

Go stand
in front of that door.

Elizabeth:
Go ahead.

Narrator:
Coming up
on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

I don't see anything
but a door.

It's like
I just got hit in my gut.

This is my final decision.

I see where this is going.

Jim:
Something's wrong here.

She should've come in
through the door by now.

You should focus 100%
on figuring out

what is gonna
make you happy.

- You got it in you.
- Let me ask you a question--

when you have to cook,
does it feel like work?

No, it's like it feels good.
Feel like a passion.

I mean, I like food,

so I'm gonna go
to school for that.

Do you know how excited
she would be to be able to say,

"Hi, this is Clive, my husband.
He's a chef"?

- No doubt.
- I see it in you.

Clive:
Man...

I'm telling you.
That's powerful.

Go stand
in front of the door.

I don't see anything
but a door.

Elizabeth:
What's going
through your head right now?

It's a blow.

It's like I just got hit
in my gut.

Jim:
All right, go ahead.

[ laughs ]

[ crying ]

Kevin chose to take you
and be in second place

the rest of his life
to your sisters and career

instead of getting
to be first place

in somebody else's life
and be number one.

Elizabeth:
And Traci had the same dilemma

to choose priorities.

She chose a sacrifice.

She sacrificed
for me before, though.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

And I'm--
I'm willing to do it again.

I don't like that.

If I had to do it
all over again,

I would do it all over.

Felt good to see you there.

It did.

So, Trista, I want you
to look at these two doors.

There are two pathways
in front of you.

If you go through this door,

you get the Ryan
that you wish he was,

the romantic,
the less critical,

- more outgoing.
- Mm-hmm.

and if you choose this door,

you go home with the Ryan
that you came with.

Um...

Ryan, if you go through
this door on your left,

you will be leaving here
the Ryan

that Trista wants you to be--
more affectionate,

a Ryan that that's not jealous
about her career.

On the other hand,

there's a Ryan
that you want to be,

which is adventurous
and successful,

but in order to have this,
you have to leave Trista behind.

I wasn't worried
about our relationship,

but I think we realize
that we're flawed.

I mean, I'm here
because I want to grow.

Everything that I do
is because I want to grow.

If it's everything that I want,
then it would have Trista.

This door is why we came here.

I'm an ambitious person.

Perhaps
I'd be more happy there.

So I'm gonna have you
make a decision.

So I'm gonna ask you
which of these you would pick.

Step up in front of the door
that you choose.

So if Ryan is on
the other side of this door,

you guys are clearly
on the exact same path.

Three, go.

Let's walk
back around there,

- and we'll figure out
what happened, okay?
- Okay.

So what what this represents
is the path

and the vision that you have
for your relationship.

He made the decision to do--
to change himself.

But that's not necessarily
in his self-interest.

[ laughs ]

I don't know why
he would be here

if he didn't want to change.

Ryan picked a path
where he becomes

what Trista wants him to be.

That was a selfless act.

Trista also chose the Ryan
that she wants him to be,

but that was a selfish act.

If she had chosen the door

that represented Ryan
as he is now,

she would have found
her husband.

I don't know that I've ever
been able to tell you

completely,
with 100% certainty

that it hurts me when--

when you make me feel
like I'm not a priority.

It brings back
the insecurities that I have.

I'm sorry for hurting you.

Can you forgive me?

I forgive you.

Trista:
We chose the same door

because I think we're
on the same page.

- We didn't choose
the same door.
- Yes, we did, essentially.

- I love you.
- I love you, too.

Here we go.

Okay.

Clive, I want you to turn
and look at the doors.

I'm gonna give you
a tough choice, okay?

If you go through
the door on your left,

your life will continue as is--
beside the Tanisha's side

while she puts
her career first.

The door on the right
represents a chance

for you and your career
to blossom,

but it does not include
Tanisha.

You have two doors
in front of you.

[ groans ]

This door marked "career"

represents the career
you've been driving towards,

but...
it may not include Clive.

This door over here represents
your life with Clive,

the man you married,

the man you've been
committed to,

but... it may cause
your career to falter.

I have to choose?

Oh, wow.

I see where this is going.

I worked hard
to get everything that I have.

He's been with me
from day one.

If it wasn't for him,
I wouldn't even be here.

I'm never worried
about her career or the money.

I was just afraid that I'd
probably lose her, you know?

This is unfair.

I know it is.
Life is unfair.

Got to make a decision.

[ sighs ] All right.

Stand in front of the door
that you're gonna go through.

I hope I don't regret this.

This is my final decision.

Elizabeth:
Three...

two...

one.

Walk through your door.

You've chosen to make
your career your priority.

What's not in this picture?

[ chuckles ]

You chose your career over me?

What the hell
has gotten into you?

That I got to focus on myself

and stop worrying
about what you're doing.

Elizabeth:
As we're seeing
with Tanisha and Clive,

they both chose a path
that represented

individual growth
for each of them.

Unfortunately,
it was also a door

of separation as a couple.

I don't know if I could wait
for you again.

I already lost
eight years of my life

that I can never get back.

Elizabeth:
Clive,
isn't that also true for you?

You told me
you don't respect me

because I don't step up
to the plate or do anything.

I feel like you could look
at me as the man

that you want as your husband
so that you can respect me.

Clive, I've gambled with you
many times.

If you give me
that second chance...

Hopefully I can show you
something better.

I don't like this.

Narrator:
Coming up
on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

I dare you!

What the [ bleep ], don't--
don't [ bleep ] with me.

- Don't [ bleep ] with me.
- I'm not scared of you!

So get up!
What's up?!

So today was about working
through really tough issues.

Elizabeth:
In the first drill,

you guys had to choose
to forgive someone,

let go of the past,
and move on to healing.

And the second drill
was about choices

that could potentially
and dramatically

affect your future
and what that looks like.

We gave you a really tough
choice to make,

but now you've seen how you
and your partner have chosen.

This was just a door.

The really hard choice
is coming up.

Jim:
Tonight,
there will be no evaluation.

Elizabeth:
Instead,
we'd like you to think

about today's exercises

and the decisions
you will need to make.

We will see you guys tomorrow.

[ indistinct conversations ]

Jenni:
We're back from New York.

I am so exhausted.
I know Roger is.

But, you know, I'm really
excited to go to bed and wake up

because I know tomorrow's
gonna be a rough day.

Tanisha:
Clive, come here.
Come here.

Cli-- [ growls ]

- What?
- Come here.

I'm trying
to get away from that.

I don't want to argue.

This is what happens
when you have a spouse

who just kind of remains
a little bit stagnant.

They get jealous--
I feel like you're jealous.

- No, I'm not jealous.
- Yes, you are.

Why do you like--
why do you like trying

to put me down
every [ bleep ] time, yo?

That's your problem.

- [ chuckles ] Here we go.
- That's your problem
right there.

You always feel--
you know what it is?

You want
that attention from me.

You want to feel that, you know?
That's the way I feel.

You have a lot
that you do to me, too.

Yes, but I'm trying
to say I want to change,

and I want to do other things.

That's not even important
right now.

Wow.

Apparently, I talk at you
and not to you, so...

It's worse than that.

Tanisha:
Wait a minute, shut up.
I'll let you speak.

You have every right--
shut up.

- No. No. No.
- Shut up. Shut up.

- No. No.
- Okay.

You see? That's the problem.
You do not respect me.

I don't!

Is that a [ bleep ] secret?!

Oh, so now you get
a little phone call.

Now you're taking it to your
[ bleep ] head now, right?

Here we go.

Oh, my God,
thank you so much.

I just got a job,
that's all.

The fact that you got
a little happy--

you got a happy moment,
and I thought I could have been

happy to hear that for you,
but obviously,

you didn't want me
to hear [ bleep ]

because you don't give
a damn about me.

- I don't.
- Exactly.

You know, the way you doing,
I just let it slide, you know?

When I sit down and I think
about all the stuff

you tell me during
our little arguments,

I just sit down and just think,
meditate.

When I'm thinking that, oh,
this is my wife.

I can trust her.

I can talk to her
about anything.

No, it's not safe.

I can't talk [ bleep ] to you
about anything no more

because you take that info--

Shut the [ bleep ]--
shut up, shut up.

- You get mad!
- Shut up. Shut up.

- You mad now? You mad now?
- Yeah, 'cause you pushing me.

- Shut up! Shut up!
- You see?

- Shut up! Shut up! Shut up!
- When I speak the truth,
you don't like it.

Clive, I'm about
to punch you in your face.

- Why?
- Because you
keep coming for me.

This is so unhealthy
for both of us.

That's the way I feel.

- Lower your voice.
- Why?

- Because I said so.
- I dare you!

What the [ bleep ]?
Don't [ bleep ] with me.

- Don't [ bleep ] with me.
- I'm not sacred of you, yo!

- So get up! What's up?!
- I'm not sacred of you.

So what up?!
Come on, get up! Get up!

I'm not getting up for you.

All right, so then [ bleeping ].
Stop talking [ bleep ].

I'm not a waste of time.
You a waste of time.

Hit harder!
Hit harder!

- I'm done with this interview.
- Get out of here, man!

I'm gonna kick your ass, Clive.
That's [bleep ] up of you.

I'm done with this interview.
Carlos, get secur--

Listen, I'm not talking to--
shut the [ bleep ] up!

- That's not disrespectful.
- I will punch you
in your face, Clive.

- That's not disrespectful.
- Yes, it is disrespectful.

Punk-ass.
You a punk!

-
Get the [ bleep ]
out of here, man.
-
Bye! Bye!

[ Tanisha coughs ]
Oh, this is bad.

[ bleep ]
I'm having a heart attack.

It's really bad.
You have to call 911.

Seriously.
Tell them to call it now.

Man:
I need help.
Tanisha needs a doctor.

Call an ambulance.
She's having chest pains.

- Tanisha:
I'm scared.
- Ryan:
I know, I'm here.

Knowing that Ryan
is am EMT,

I know that he's gonna know
what to do.

Ryan:
Run some aspirin
over here ASAP, guys.

We're finding out that Tanisha
seems like

she might be having
a heart attack.

It was--
it was tough to watch.

Ryan:
What's going on, Tanisha?

Let me just ask you
a couple questions.

You got any tingling in
your arms or legs or anything?

Tanisha:
My heart is beating fast.

Ryan:
Do you have
any medical conditions?

- Tanisha:
Nothing. Mnh-mnh.
- Ryan:
Nothing?

Ryan:
What about family history?

-
Did your dad have
a heart attack?
-
Yeah.

- Ryan:
Your dad had
a heart attack?
- Tanisha:
Yeah.

Tanisha?
Where's Tanisha?

Roger:
Just give her some space.
Don't get her more upset.

Jenni:
We just got back.
We're extremely tired.

But now who can sleep when
Tanisha's going to the hospital?

Scary stuff.

Ryan:
Tanisha, can you keep
looking at us really quick?

I gotta keep you with me
for a couple minutes.

Do you see me?
Do you know where you are?

[ siren chirps ]

- Man:
They're just
pulling up now.
- Ryan:
They're here?

Here they come.
They're here.

I'm like, oh, my God.

[ siren wailing ]

Narrator:
Next time
on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

We are going to tackle truth.

Oh [ bleep ].

Elizabeth:
Do you really
want to get married?

Have you been faithful
to Traci?

Oh, the truth [ bleep ] hurts
[ bleep ]!

Elizabeth:
You will have to make
a very important decision.

I love you, but--

Are you guys
not gonna be together?

Please open your ring boxes.