All language subtitles for S01E02.Ring.of.Fire.eng

On this episode of
"
Marriage Boot Camp"...

Welcome to the ring of fire.

Have both of y'all
had infidelity?

Yeah, but I didn't start it
until he started.

If I did to you
what you've done to me...

I wouldn't be with you.

This is the only place that I
know where to come to get help.

It's the real sad,
ugly truth.

I will knock your ass out!

- Don't [ bleep ] touch me!
- What's up?!

Five famous couples
face a whole new reality.

- Gonna hit me?
-
They must fight to save
their failing relationships

or decide
whether to call it quits.

Gretchen:
I might love him
more than he loves me.

Jenni:
I don't want to know what
it's like to be without you.

- Kevin:
You degrade me.
- Traci:
Treat me like a child.

Ryan:
You make me feel
like I'm not a priority.

Tanisha:
Stand up and be a man.

Narrator:
When reality
comes crashing down...

[ bleep ] this place.

...Jim and Elizabeth Carroll
are their last chance.

This is "Marriage Boot Camp:
Reality Stars."

Slade: There's a failure to
communicate between those two.

- Go be a man.
- I put it right there.

All you had to do
was just drag it in there.

Does that actually
motivate him?

And escalating the volume

isn't gonna help the message
sink in any better.

Gretchen:
Hearing Tanisha
and Clive screaming

and yelling at each other--

- Did you get anxiety?
- Are you kidding me?
I got major anxiety.

But the point is
is that I want to focus on us,

and if I have cray-cray
happening over here,

I don't feel like I'm gonna
be able to focus on us

because I'm gonna be so focused
on keeping her

from not killing me.

That's the only thing
they're missing

because you know
they love each other.

What is it?

A three-four shot.

It's a new day.
You ready? Ready for this?

[ blows air between lips ]

This is what you call
a breakfast vodka.

[ Trista laughs ]

- Good morning.
-
Did you sleep okay?

I literally heard
her snoring last night.

Oh, you heard her snoring,
too?

You could hear it
through the wall.

- You sure it wasn't her?
- Oh, right?

Y'all heard us?

[ snores ]

- Oh, wait--
- That that would have been me.

That was the other thing.

- What's up?
What's up?
-
Good morning.

Roger:
Clive comes in by himself,

and then he kind of just drops
a bombshell on us

about him being deaf.

I like to communicate and talk,
have a little joke or laughter,

but sometimes it's hard
to kind of communicate.

I woke up one day,

and I realized that my hearing
is just fading.

So sometimes I will hear clear,
sometimes I won't.

Last night, me and Tanisha
had a little situation.

Roger:
Did you guys work
through that this morning?

Did you talk about it?
You're better now?

I really, honestly don't know.

I want to see Clive
stand up more for himself.

That's hard for me to watch.

- He went deaf because of her.
- It's possible. It's possible.

Later on, she's gonna
probably say she sorry.

Like, come on.

- Traci:
Can I be Tanisha?
-
I'm gonna try to be Clive.

Nobody have time for that!
I mean, what?

I can't hear you.
What?

You need to listen right now!

I can't hear you.

So now you gonna turn
your hearing aid off?!

I can't hear you.

I think that you should talk
to, you know, Jim and Elizabeth

about those things,
and maybe they can be

kind of a moderator for you,

and you can say what
you really feel, you know?

I don't-- I don't--
I don't really know.

Jim:
Attention, all couples
to the Boot Camp room now.

Tanisha:
Oh, God, man, listen, man...

Enquirer."

What is it with this damn press?
I just can't get away from it.

What kind of man lets
his wife sleep around?

You know me personally?

After going through
what I went through

yesterday
at the press conference,

I really don't want
to blow up like that again.

Well, good morning,
Boot Campers.

Last night's
press conference drill

was about your relationships
being under siege.

Elizabeth:
And once your issues
become public,

they can take on
a life of their own.

As you have noticed,
we have a newsstand here.

These publications
are headlined

with different
relationship issues.

So you will pick out
all the headlines

that match your problems.

Be honest.

Elizabeth:
We're gonna help you fix these

before they become
public fodder.

Gretchen and Slade,
come on up.

Let's go shopping together,
honey.

I'm so excited
for this experience.

[ laughs ]

Okay.

"The past" for us.

Mm-hmm,
"public opinion."

Sometimes you're not good
at communicating.

Ooh, yeah, big one.

That really did surprise me
that "money" was pulled,

especially for that couple.

I see you with Louis Vuittons
on that are, like, $1,500 shoes.

So what if you get gout
and some calluses?

- Just save money.
- That's what I'm saying.

Slade:
Oh, yes,
we're definitely codependent.

Gretchen:
Children, big-time.

I'm not getting any younger,

and I know that the doctor
told me that my eggs

are plush and plump.

Weren't they talking
about healthy follicles?

- The point is--
- Not eggs.
You're not a chicken.

Potato, po-tah-to, the point
is, is that I'm plushy

and juicy somewhere,
and I just don't want to run out

- of plushy, plushy juiciness.
- I don't agree with that.

Jenni and Roger,
come shop.

[ grunts ]

I see three right off the bat--
"resentment."

-
"The past" and "anger."
- Exactly.

"Communication,"
without a doubt.

- "Fighting."
- Oh, "fighting."

Gretchen:
You be Jenni.
I'm gonna be Roger.

Well, you know,
this is what I think.

- I think it's very easy.
It's black and white.
- Hey, hey, I'm--

No, don't talk to me.
Don't talk down to me like that.

I don't respect you.

I'm gonna punch you
in the neck right now.

- I'm gonna punch you
in the neck.
- [ laughs ]

- Quality time together.
- "Intimacy," without a doubt.

He means sex.

Roger considers intimacy sex.

I consider it, like,
together time, quality time.

Roger:
Butt sex.

But sex?
So intimacy, but not sex?

Or do you mean
the other butt sex?

I meant your butt and sex.

Oh, I'm the only one here
that doesn't get laid? Okay.

[ laughs ]

Traci and Kevin,
come on up.

My husband has a little bit
of a problem of trust...

jealousy.

- You have jealousy, too.
- No, I don't.

'Cause I know
you ain't going nowhere.

There's some insecurity there.

"The past."
"Fighting," yeah.

We debate a whole lot of time.
Communication skills suck.

Infidel-- yes, that is.
Put that up in there.

I brought the infidelity
into our relationship.

I think that bring
all this other stuff.

Yeah.

It drove me to drink!

Addiction.

- All right, has that got them?
- Yeah.

Okay, y'all can sit down.
Trista and Ryan, come on.

Trista:
I wouldn't say
our marriage is in trouble.

I think we're
in a really, really,

really happy place,
and we just want to be happier.

Uh...
[ clucks tongue ]

Trista:
I saw one over here, I know,

and I can't remember
where it is.

What you think?

Elizabeth:
Even couples that
don't appear to have problems

on the surface, once they start
going through the Boot Camp,

they come to realize that there
are underlying issues

that are affecting
their relationships immensely.

Jim:
I'm willing to bet
that this is the case

with Ryan and Trista, who appear
to be the perfect couple.

[ chuckles ]
I think just "public opinion"

because, you know,
I don't want to let people down.

Traci:
They're like
the American family.

[ hums "Hail to the Chief" ]

Like a box.

When I met her,
I didn't know if I should sing

a Disney song or what,
I didn't know.

What song were you gonna sing?

Every last one of them.
It would be a medley.

[ laughs ]

"Communication."

"Money."
That always stresses me out.

What do you think?

I don't know, that's
a pretty good list, I think.

Okay.

Oh, "insecurity," actually.
Yeah, insecurity.

Where is it?

"Insecurity."

We got our work cut
out for us.

Tanisha and Clive,
let's do it.

All right, here we go.

So, you pick first.

All right.

- "Anger." Okay.
- Mm-hmm.

- "Trust."
- Okay.

"Communication."

"Honesty."

"Infidelity."

"Respect."

And "money."

Take two.

Clive:
"Fighting."

All right,
so was "insecurity" in there?

That's for you.

Oh,
you are very jealous.

I thought she was just gonna
take the whole newsstand.

"Self-control,"
I think we both...

I thought it would have been
easier if it was just on wheels

and they could've
wheeled it over.

"Past," definitely.

"Selfishness."

That basket
was getting real heavy.

We might need two.
[ laughs ]

I think you have
every single problem.

- I think so.
- And two moneys.

Jim:
We want you to take some
time to discuss these issues

that you've chosen,
and then we'll see you back here

to meet them head-on
in just a little while.

- Can you just grab yours?
- I don't know,
I might step outside...

Tanisha:
So listen,
this is a serious question.

How do you stay faithful
past the first two, three years?

Because I have a hard time
staying faithful.

Clive:
Infidelity has created
a big issue for this marriage.

Well, people have different
definitions of cheating.

- Kissing?
- Cheating.

- Hugging?
- Cheater.

I know you ain't talking.

- Me?
- Yeah.

- I'm not a cheater.
- Clive, don't, don't.

Clive, could you tell Jenni
what you did when I allowed you

to go get a private dance?

I tried to have sex
with the stripper.

Whoa, whoa, whoa, she took you,
and you tried to bang a chick?

- And what happened?
- She refused.

But, you know,
it was my birthday.

You guys operate by a whole
separate set of rules

than I've ever heard of.

I'll be honest with you,
Internet porn

is pretty much keeping
my relationship together.

What she requires
in a relationship

is to be touched
and held and loved,

and it's kind of funny
'cause I guess I require that

in one department, and that
would be in the bedroom.

Every time, he has to call
his best friend Louie

to fix our [ bleep ] laptop.

He broke three [ bleep ] laptops
in the house in the past year.

Like you bang me?
I have to do something.

- You get it with your hand
all the time.
- That's right.

Never borrow a pair of socks
in my house, I'm just saying.

Tanisha:
Now would be
a good time for you

to order your stuff.

If you want me to look
a certain way,

do [ bleep ]
and call it a day.

-
That's what I'm doing,
but you up here--
-
No, you're not doing it.

-
Shut up!
-
You're not doing it.

[ bleep ]
Are they fighting again?

I don't give a [ bleep ]
about none of this [ bleep ]!

- I don't care!
- So why are you here?!

Oh, my God.

How many things am I gonna fix
in your life?!

[ Tanisha shouting
indistinctly ]

Oh, Tanisha and Clive
are going at it.

- I don't want to go there.
- I don't want to go there.

What more
do you want from me?!

I'm done talking, man.
Don't touch me, man!

- Stop touching me, man!
- Don't grab me!

Let's go for a walk.
Come on, let's go de-stress you.

I'm gonna punch you.

You're gonna punch me,
and I'm gonna slap

- the [ bleep ] out of you.
- I [ bleep ] dare you, Clive.

Get the [ bleep ]
out of here, man.

- What you gonna do?!
- Don't [ bleep ] touch me!

I told you
don't touch me, man!

- Have you lost your mind?!
- You keep touching me!

Totally breaks my heart.

- Keep that [ bleep ] up.
- What are you gonna do?!

I'm gonna knock your ass out.
Keep that [ bleep ]--

I'm not-- I'm not--
what's up?!

- What's good?!
- What's up, you gonna hit me?!

What the [ bleep ]?!

Narrator:
Coming up
"on Marriage Boot Camp"...

Welcome to the ring of fire.

- I don't wanna go to hell.
- Me neither.

Clive:
Keep that [ bleep ] up.

- What are you gonna do?
- I'm gonna knock your ass out.

- Keep that [ bleep ]--
- I'm not-- what's up?!

- What's good?!
- What's up, you gonna hit me?!

What the [ bleep ]?!

You can hear everything.
It's not a quiet conversation.

- Ryan:
What's going on,
Tanisha?
- Get out.

I apologize for interfering
with you guys

'cause I know this
is your personal issue,

but I can't-- I would feel bad
if something happened.

Jim:
As Boot Camp directors,
sometimes we step in right away

to resolve these things.

Other times,
we take a step back

and see if they can
resolve themselves.

I heard some, "Don't push me."
"I'm gonna knock you out."

I like you guys.

I don't want anything
like that to happen.

Maybe this is the time for one
of you to just take a walk.

Would you like
to take him with you?

Just come with me,

and let's just let it
calm down for a second.

You can come back at it later.

Clothing, man.
For clothing?

You coming at me
for clothing?

If there's a [ bleep ] problem,
just fix it.

Be a [ bleep ] wife for once!

- I am not your wife anymore!
- You're not?

- No!
- All right.

- Come on.
- All right.

Can I have y'all for a minute?

Here we go.
I'm in trouble again.

I know what you're thinking.
This is not my fault.

Why are we thinking
it's your fault?

Because you guys came
to talk to me first.

Well, we actually came
to talk to both of y'all.

Why should I go out there
and waste my money

if you gonna look at me and say,
"Oh, that doesn't look right"?

Tell me what's going on.

I wasn't able to get
everything in order

in time to get here,
so I left him

with specific instructions
to get everything done,

and I came back home.

Nothing--
nothing
was done,

not any initiative to get
his hearing aid in time,

none of the clothes,
and I had to deal with

getting ready for this
and him.

So then we get into
an argument.

Let's go find out what
he's gonna say about this.

All right.

Hey.
Come over here, sweetie.

- Oh, I have to sit next to him?
- Yeah. Please.

We kind of got Tanisha's
point of view.

- Why are you upset?
- She claims that I'm a baby.

If you feel that way because
of my whole hearing thing

and you got to keep
repeating things, you know,

I may understand that,
but for clothing?

Are you okay?

No, it was, like,
kind of a big deal.

Do you know how frustrating
it is to be with you

with your hearing
disability?

It's a burden
on our relationship,

and it hurts me
to see you go through that.

Jim:
Tanisha and Clive
are in this vicious cycle

of lashing out
and hurting each other.

And because of all this pent-up
anger and pain from their past,

a seemingly meaningless
little thing

can trigger them
into an explosion.

I want to introduce you
to a tool called

"what I heard you say."

I want you to repeat
back to her,

"What I heard you say
is that my hearing problem

is hard on you."

What I heard you say was that,
you know,

about my hearing situation
and that, you know,

you get very frustrated
from it.

So what are you frustrated
about?

You know, I got a little
hearing situation,

and it's kind of, you know,
driving me and you apart.

So mirror back,
"What I heard you say is..."

What I heard you say
was that you feel

like your hearing impairment

is driving us
away from each other.

I sense
there's some love here.

I'm not gonna sit here
and lie to you.

I am not in love with him.

Sometimes for couples who have
been through a lot of turmoil

together like Tanisha and Clive,
they'll say

they just don't feel like
they love each other anymore,

and that's because
those feelings of love

have been masked
by anger and resentment.

Hopefully, we can get
this thing fixed,

but you've got a lot
of work to do to get there.

Ryan:
I have a daughter.

- Hey.
-
There she is.

- Y'all all right?
- Yeah, everything's good.

-
Everything's great, right?
- Everything's good.

Ryan stepped in like Superman.
I was like, Lord.

I was like the scaredest
Superman of all time.

- [ laughter ]
- You shook him up.

Really?
I'm not that bad!

Tanisha, I came down here
and started crying

- in the bathroom.
- Why?

Because you guys really
are upsetting me physically.

No offense to anybody,
you guys don't know--

you guys only known for a day.

I'm married to a guy
who cannot hear.

No, you don't.
You're dealing with the fans.

You're dealing
with invasive people.

And then your husband
has his hearing issue

that he's not taking seriously,

and every chance
he starts to slip,

he expects you to pick up
all of the pieces,

and I'm tired.

So I apologize
if it's hurting your feelings.

But guess what?
This is my truth.

And this is the only place
that I know

where to come to get help.

I came to Jim and Liz
because I felt

like they're our only option.

I don't know what's gonna happen
at the end of this thing,

but this is real.

Jim:
Attention, Boot Campers,

grab your baskets
and meet us outside.

[ coyote howls in distance ]

- You ready, baby love?
- Almost.

You want to get the basket
or you want me to grab it?

-Yeah. Forgot.
- Got it.

- That's Tanisha's.
- I know,

I was just gonna hand
it to them.

We do not want to go
through their list of problems.

Thank you, sir.

Whoa.

[ bleep ]

Tanisha:
Oh, my God.

Gretchen:
Oh, my gosh,
we've entered hell.

- Freaking me out a little bit.
- Holy hell.

Scary.

Welcome to the ring of fire.

[ all exclaim ]

- I don't want to go to hell.
- Me neither.

Narrator: Coming up
on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

Have both of y'all
had infidelity?

I didn't start it
until he started it.

Don't play get-back.
My enemies get back at me.

This issue is your fault.
You don't want to have kids.

When you feel this way,
it makes me want to let you go.

Tanisha:
Oh, my God.

Gretchen:
Oh, my gosh,
we've entered hell.

- Freaking me out a little bit.
- Holy hell.

Scary.

Welcome to the ring of fire.

[ all exclaim ]

- I don't want to go to hell.
- Me neither.

Really? Now they're gonna
burn us at the cross, like--

[ laughs ]
What the hell?

The more unresolved issues
you have in your marriage,

the more heat it's gonna bring
to the relationship.

Elizabeth:
Eventually,
this can start a fire,

and if you're not careful,
this fire can burn

your relationship
completely to the ground.

One at a time, each couple
will be standing

inside the ring of fire.

I'll be holding up an issue
that you chose earlier,

and together,
you will have to decide

who is responsible for
this issue in your relationship.

Each half of the ring
is fueled

by its own incinerator,

and as you assign blame
for an issue,

this is thrown
into your incinerator.

Tanisha:
I damn near took
the whole friggin' newsstand,

and now it has to go
in a furnace for one of us?

Oh, [ bleep ],
they gonna burn us alive.

Jim:
Judging by the size
of these flames,

we'll be able
to determine which of you

is more responsible for the
problems in your relationship.

Let's see how long
you can take the heat

of your baggage
and your damage.

Gretchen and Slade,
suit up.

Where's the extra-small?
Over here?

I've been waiting to take him
to a ring of fire

for a long time now.

I am ready.

I get in there and box with
Slade and just deal it all out.

I love you,
but I will knock you out.

Okay, here we go, guys.
Who's this issue belong to?

- Gretchen.
- Yeah, that's definitely me.

"Public opinion,"
give that one to Gretchen.

Tanisha:
Whoa!

Holy hell, this is hot.

"Resentment."

Okay by me.

- Oh, yeah, we both are screwed.
- We're both
totally codependent.

Jim:
Both of 'em.

Gretchen:
We can absolutely
feel the heat.

There's a lot of fire
coming out of there.

Did we plan to have
a child together?

We have planned a lot
of things together.

It's not happening.

It's because
of your procrastination.

It's your fault.
You don't want to have kids.

Did we go to the doctor together
and plan on having a child?

We could go to the doctor
all day long.

If you don't actually
take the thing

and make it happen,
it doesn't work.

Slade:
13 years ago is when
the vasectomy took place.

The individual I was with really
couldn't have any more kids,

and the easiest and simplest
thing to do was the vasectomy.

Gretchen:
If I could,
I would just accidentally

forget to take the pill,
but it's not like that.

You make me feel like I'm not
important enough to you

to make these things happen.

This issue is your fault.

Don't look at him.
Look at me.

Now the latest thing is that
you want to get married

before we have kids,
and you keep changing the story.

Somebody here
is not telling the truth.

She's been pouring
her heart out,

and you're not doing anything.

Who's the problem here?

Apparently,
it's my issue.

Jim:
Light it up.

I feel like I need a can of aloe
to take care of the burns.

"Money."

- That's still your issue.
- What is my issue with money?

I feel like if I don't go out
and work my ass off

every single day,
we're not gonna be able

to pay the bills.

I have to be the breadwinner.

And how are you able
to do that?

Does anyone else make sure
that happens for you?

What does that mean?

I'm intimately involved
in everything you do.

Stop helping me.
Help yourself.

You're too afraid
of the failure

if you go after
what you actually want.

That's you, Slade.

[ laughter ]

When you feel this way,

it literally makes me
want to let you go.

You guys,
this is your fire,

and you can physically feel
what this feels like.

We got some work to do.

Jim:
Trista and Ryan,
let's do it.

- Okay.
- All right.

All right there in we
had the fewest number of issues

compared to all
the other couples.

- Which meant we had
less fuel for the fire.
- Yeah.

Anybody that pretends that
they are the perfect couple

and that there's
nothing wrong are lying.

"Insecurity" belongs to?

"Insecurity" belongs to me.

Light 'em up.

Next one?

I have problems putting down
my computer, and that's mine.

Jim:
Okay.

Tanisha:
Ryan and Trista's
whole fairy tale?

Clive:
They just seem perfect,
you know?

I don't get it.
You guys don't need help.

Ryan:
I didn't know you at all
prior to meeting you

and getting married to you,

and so you had
your journals around,

and you would be reading them
in our room and then shut it

and say you don't want
to read that one

because they're filled with
all your past relationships.

I shouldn't care,
but that makes me think,

well, what's going on?

Trista:
I kept the journals
because they are my memories.

There're guys that I dated.

They have no relevance
in our present life right now.

I closed it because
I didn't want to add

to that insecurity
by you reading it.

So in your attempt to protect,
it made it worse.

"The past,"
this is my issue.

Jim:
Light it up.

"Communication"?

Trista:
We don't even
necessarily fight,

but when we get
into disagreements

that if you do shut me out,
if you walk away

and you don't tell me
what's wrong...

I internalize it and think
that something is really,

truly wrong
in our relationship.

And just you know
how my mind spins.

I'm a worrywart,
and I worry about everything,

especially because
my parents were divorced.

You don't want me
to be emotionally heated,

yet you don't want me to leave.

I don't want it to spin
out of control.

I just need to know,

and then we can face it
together.

People get upset.
That's normal.

People get angry,
and that's normal.

And if you try to suppress it,
you're hurting both of you.

Okay, "communication"
belongs to...?

- That belongs to me.
-
Okay.

Tanisha:
Honestly,
I'm just like, yes,

so they aren't
the perfect couple after all.

Okay, Traci and Kevin,
let's go.

- Come on.
- Tanisha:
Give it up, Traci.

Traci:
[ bleep ] That's both of us.

[ both laugh ]

'Cause our communication sucks!

Both of 'em.

Okay, next one.

Traci:
"The past."

Jim:
Okay, so who's
"the past" belong to?

Both of us.

Jim:
Light 'em both up.

Traci:
That's both of us.

Why, though?

You can't just do infidelity
and think, okay,

it's gonna be okay and think
I'm not gonna react on it.

Narrator:
Coming up
on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

This is a [ bleep ]
horror movie!

Oh, [ bleep ]!
Why do you want to roast me?!

You say what you think
I want to hear.

- That's not true.
- Whatever, I'm-- whatever.

Jenni:
First season,
we didn't get paid a dollar.

I think we got like 100 bucks
a week from the Shore store

to, like, get cigarettes.

It was huge.

I mean, you guys
were everywhere.

We filmed it. We went home.
Never heard of production again.

Didn't know
the name of the show.

All my jobs fired me
for leaving 'cause I was like,

"I might be back next week, or I
might be back in six weeks."

Went from 20 grand in the bank
to 500 bucks

when the "Jersey Shore" aired.

I'm like, I made
the biggest mistake of my life.

Those risks turned out
to be the best decisions

of her life, really.

Have both of y'all
had infidelity?

Yeah, but I didn't start it
until he started it.

Don't play get-back.
My enemies get back at me.

My enemies get back at me.

I was hurting.

That's not right, though.

Jim:
So did you really
cheat on him

because you wanted
to get back at him,

or did you cheat
'cause you wanted to cheat?

I wanted him to hurt
just as much as I did.

I wanted to feel like
I am a woman,

that I'm special,
that I'm beautiful.

I mean, didn't want
to look at me like that.

It wasn't
that I wasn't feeling you.

Then why would you give
someone else that attention

instead of me?

What you did was wrong.
What
you
did was wrong.

Elizabeth:
And you're still
punishing each other

for this old,
old business.

You're both gonna take it.

Light 'em up.

It's obvious to me
that this ring of fire

is something you guys
never get out of.

The past, the infidelity,
the resentment,

you're just spiraling around,

and your relationship
hasn't grown in a long time.

Jenni, Roger, come on up.

Roger:
I'm more scared of you
than Mike Tyson.

Actually, I would be too.

Elizabeth:
All right.

[ sighs ]
I'm pretty selfish.

Jenni it is.

So how come y'all
can't compromise?

Your career
and your selfishness

and your unwillingness
to compromise,

frankly, pisses me off.

Who never compromises?

Me.

When I think of intimacy,
I think of romance

and being a couple.

When he thinks of it,
he's just like,

"I just want to have sex
and eat a sandwich after."

- Yeah. I'm a guy.
- [ laughter ]

Nothing wrong with a BJ
at the end of the night.

See?
And this is what I deal with.

And he says it
every single day.

Roger's.
Light it up.

Why did we hump like jackrabbits
when we first met, then?

You started resenting me,
and it was a turnoff.

And go.

My current-day resentment
all stems

- from our early relationship.
- If you don't let go
of the resentment,

how am I supposed
to be intimate?

If I did to you what you've done
to me, would you resent me?

I wouldn't be with you.

- My issue.
- No doubt. Put it in.

I mean, honestly and truly,
you are the girl

that I am
completely in love with

and want to spend
the rest of my life with,

but I can't just forget
about all that.

You've done bad things to me,

and I really have a hard time
to just completely let them go.

Jenni:
I was a crazy psycho bitch

in the beginning
of our relationship.

I lied to Roger
about multiple things.

- Trust.
- I did not trust Roger at all.

I withheld information,
but I never blatantly lied.

This is not where you want
your relationship to be, is it?

No.

Tanisha and Clive,
come get in the ring of fire.

Oh, gosh.

Elizabeth:
This drill
will be a real opportunity

for Tanisha and Clive
to refocus their attention

on the issues that plague
their marriage

and then take responsibility
for them.

Tanisha and Clive are about
to get into the ring of fire.

I'm hoping somebody
has alerted Los Angeles Fire,

because as a fire professional,

I know that is not gonna be
an easy fire to put out.

"Infidelity." Go.

You started off cheating,
um--

You are the one that's
been doing the cheating

'cause you were never around.

I just feel that you're
the one that started everything.

Jim:
Whose issue is it?

- It's your issue.
- It's my issue?

- It's your issue.
- You cannot be faithful.

Fine.

Issue goes here.

Elizabeth:
Tanisha.

Oh, whoa!

Holy hell, this is hot.

- Okay, next one.
- "Fighting."

- Jim:
"Fighting."
- That's you.

- I'm calm and laid back.
- It's us. It's us.

No, but you go crazy.
You blow up at the--

- It's you!
- You blow up
at the slightest thing!

You proved today
that it's all you.

- I told you to not touch me.
- I talked to you, Clive--

And you decide to hit me.

It's both of them!

- Next issue.
-
Oh, my God.

-
"Trust."
- "Trust."

I think
we both have trust issues.

I know that, uh--
this fire's getting higher.

Oh, [ bleep ].

That's a good thing.
Keep going.

What are you talking about?
You like-- you're Satan.

I felt like it was hell.
I'm about to pee.

I think I have to do
number two.

My stomach is doing
something crazy,

and my weave is getting hot.

My hair's getting hot.
[ laughs ] It's my fault.

It's my fault.
Just burn it, fine.

I'll just take it, hurry!

Elizabeth:
Tanisha!

Oh, [ bleep ]!
That's gonna get bigger!

Oh, help, Clive!
Oh, my God!

- Don't push me! Don't push me!
- You're touching
me!

I feel the fire.

I feel it burning.

You have 23 issues left to go.

No! Oh, my God!

They didn't tell me
about this!

[ blows sharply, yelps ]

Okay, all right.
Here we go, here we go.

- You're wasting time.
- "Selfishness."

That don't apply to me.

You're gonna put me
in the fire, literally.

Why do you want to roast me?!

Elizabeth:
Tanisha!

Oh, [ bleep ]!

This ain't no hope!

This is a [ bleep ]
horror movie!

"The past."
Mine again, isn't it?

- Elizabeth:
Tanisha!
-
Oh, [ bleep ]!

All right, this is me again!
I can't take it!

I am panicking
because everything

is going into my furnace,
and it is getting hot.

Oh, [ bleep ]! Hurry!

I feel like a shish kebab.

They gonna burn me!
I'm gonna taste like pork!

[ laughter ]

Oh, my Father!

Oh, my God, Jesus got me.

- I can't breathe.
- This is it.

He done closed the gates,
and I'm not allowed in.

I'm happy I'm holding you.

That was nice!

That was noble.
That was noble.

Yay, Clive!

Tanisha:
That was a big moment for me

because we're not
on good terms.

We haven't been on good terms
for a long time.

We haven't slept together
in a while.

Well, I just tried
to step up to the plate.

I saw the fire,
and I was just trying

to protect you and your weave.

Elizabeth:
You know what
the harsh reality is here?

All of this stuff,
it might be Tanisha's

got the fire going here,

but when you become one
in marriage,

both of you guys
own this problem.

When you're married,
you are both affected

by every problem brought
into the marriage,

and any attempt to assign blame

adds fuel
to the fire of conflict.

Regardless of who
the problem is,

they both have to take
responsibility for fixing it,

or they're both
gonna get burned.

This right here
is your marriage.

You gonna fight for this?

You gonna fight
for your marriage?

- I don't give up.
- No, we don't give up.

Are you going to take all
these issues and work on them?

I'm willing to.

Same thing here.

Jim:
Step out.

This exercise has shown you
that if you have an issue,

you both have an issue
because when you get married,

you become one, and these issues
are now
our
issues.

The blame
part of it is irrelevant.

Kevin:
Yeah, we definitely
create our own fires.

Traci:
Yeah.

Don't let them mo-fos start.

Right.

Jim:
Go back inside,
get cooled off,

and we'll see you
for evaluations.

- Oh, jeez.
- Evaluation?

- Evalua--
- Okay.

Slade:
Everyone says
that I got my ass

handed to me tonight.

- Ryan:
Totally.
- See?

Yeah, you were way too hard
on him about the kids thing.

- He's totally right.
- Really?

- Yeah
- Oh, I totally disagree.

I know you do.

You made it sound like tonight
that I'm delaying the process.

I feel like right now,
you are, yes, I do.

Every time that I talk
about wanting to have a baby,

you say,
"But we have to do this,

and this has to be first,
and I want to get married."

This is really important to me,
and I don't feel

like you're taking the steps
necessary to fix the issues

that we have in order
for that to get resolved.

I'm determined
to have that again.

Do you have
some bitterness and malice?

We never let go of,
you know, the betrayal.

There's still
some freshness to it.

- Want some ice?
- No.

You saw that I was afraid,
and you stepped in.

Clive, if you were
like that with everything,

we wouldn't [ bleep ] be here.

I would be at home [ bleep ]
the [ bleep ] out of you.

You know what, babe, words
don't mean much to me anymore.

I feel like a lot of times,
you say what you think

I want to hear and especially
in front of other people,

- and I don't like that.
- That's not true.

I feel like that a lot.

Whatever I'm-- whatever,
I'm-- I gotta go.

'Cause I'm gonna just say things
that I don't want to say.

Narrator:
Coming up
on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

Their fighting
affected me today.

- You guys
are not professionals.
- I was scared, though.

You all have your issues.
Put a muzzle on it.

If you don't let go,

you will destroy
everything that you have.

It's our first evaluation,
and honestly,

I don't know what's
about to happen

because Lord knows
our relationship

is a hot rotisserie mess.

Today we focused on what
problems you think you have

in your marriage as represented
by these magazine covers.

Elizabeth:
Y'all's goal here
is to work through

as many of these issues
as you possibly can,

and we're gonna give you
the tools to do just that.

So on your TV shows,
you get nightly ratings

to tell you how well
or how poorly you're doing.

Here at the Marriage Boot Camp,

we do things
a little differently.

Each night ends
with an evaluation.

I think the last few days,
Slade and I have nailed it

and me especially
in the ring of fire.

I must say I really brought it,
and we opened up,

and we were raw,
and I'm hoping

that they're gonna give us
a good evaluation.

Gretchen and Slade, you're up.
Gretchen?

Gretchen:
I need to say
something real quick.

I'm really surprised how much
their fighting affected me.

What's up?!

Let's go for a walk.
Come on, let's go de-stress you.

As I evaluated it, it has a lot
to do with my past.

I've been in relationships
like that,

and hearing Tanisha and Clive
scream like that

gives me major anxiety.

Can I jump in here?
I don't like that.

I was scared, though.
I was scared.

I came to get help
from professionals.

And that's
why I didn't go in there.

You guys are not professionals,
and the truth of the matter is,

- you all have your issues.
- Right.

So I would rather
take direction from them.

Gretchen, the white Oprah,
puts her two cents in,

and I'm like,
"Why are you giving your input?

The last time I checked,
the only experts here

are Jim and Elizabeth.

Put a muzzle on it,
seriously."

Jim:
As tough as it is
to hear sometimes,

a large part of Boot Camp is
hearing feedback from your peers

and learning from each other.

Elizabeth:
Gretchen and Slade,

something's not adding up
for us with you two.

Seems like you guys got
into a relationship,

and you've been
very clear and concrete

about what you want--
you want children,

and you want
financial security.

We have planned
a lot of things together.

It's not happening.

It's because
of your procrastination.

It's your fault.

You got into a relationship
with a man

- who didn't want
any more children...
- No, that's not true.

but agreed
to have children with you.

Wait, help me understand that.

Well, a man who has a vasectomy
is basically saying

to the world, "I don't want
to have any more children."

That's interesting.
I never thought of it that way.

There's less permanent ways
to make that statement.

Slade,
you come across as fake.

It's interesting
you have that opinion, though,

'cause I don't think
any of them that have spent

any time with me
would say that.

Gretchen and Slade
have been accused in the media

of having a staged relationship
for the sake of popularity.

If they are genuinely in this
relationship for the long haul,

which we hope they are,

then they need to take
a hard look

at how far apart they are
in the bigger issues in life.

Trista and Ryan.

I see you guys
growing old together,

but not growing
emotionally together.

You're so afraid that looking
at your problems

might lead to divorce,
like your mom.

I worry about everything,

especially because
my parents were divorced.

You've just been avoiding them.

In this case
with Trista and Ryan,

small, deep-rooted issues
can grow into a big ugly problem

if they ignore them
and don't face them head-on.

And even though they may look
like the perfect couple,

they realize that they have
some issues they need to fix.

Traci and Kevin.

You guys have so much unresolved
bitterness and resentment.

Have both of y'all
had infidelity?

Yeah, but I didn't start it
until he started it.

Y'all have just let it build
and build and build.

You haven't dumped it,
and that's gonna be

your biggest challenge
during the Boot Camp.

What I hear
from the two of you is,

"He did this,
so I did this."

"Well, she did this,
so I did this."

You're just missing
the whole point.

We need to help Traci
and Kevin break the cycle

of trying to get back
at one another.

Otherwise, this could lead
to even more infidelity,

or worse, to divorce.

You guys can sit down.
Jenni and Roger.

They used to be
where you're at,

but then they let
this resentment start growing,

and you're making
the same mistake

by having old resentments
toward her.

You lie about things,
and frankly, it pisses me off.

And if you don't
let go of them,

you will destroy
everything that you have.

If it was just in the past,
I really think I can do that.

It's still happening, and that's
where I drag that resentment on.

[ bleep ], like,
I just don't want to tell you

'cause I don't want to deal
with your attitude.

Okay, since he doesn't
know the real you,

you're gonna learn that lying
by omission really doesn't work.

Roger needs to let go of Jenni's
past lies, and in turn,

Jenni needs to start
trusting Roger more

and being more open
and truthful

or this relationship
is going to always struggle.

Tanisha and Clive,
stand up.

I can't take
any more negativity tonight.

I can't take
any more drama tonight.

We need a good evaluation,

and I'm hoping that Jim
and Elizabeth gives it to us.

[ laughs ] I doubt that.

Shut up.

What do you think
you accomplished so far?

I... saw Clive
in another light tonight.

He stepped in to protect me.

I'm happy I'm holding you!

That was nice!

I so want to do you right now.

[ laughter ]

- We could start right here.
- Oh, my God, Clive!

You're a freak. Stop it.
You're a creep.

- [ mumbles indistinctly ]
- [ laughs ]

Today I pulled you
into your first one-on-one

because, girl,
you got triggered again.

How many things
am I gonna fix in your life?!

- Stop touching me, man!
- Don't grab me!

And so instead of you two
bonding together through that,

you split apart.

Tanisha,
anger is very often

a secondary emotion to hurt,

and until you start responding
to some of your triggers

from that vulnerable place,
it's going to be hard to grow.

On the positive side now,
on the ring of fire,

I thought you guys
were both honest and open,

and so I think if you had
the same tools

to learn about marriage
and being in a relationship,

you would dominate
those things, too.

- Thank you. Thank you.
-
Thank you, guys.

So you survived
the first two days

of the Marriage Boot Camp,
but it gets tougher.

We're gonna throw you
into some stuff

that you're gonna say,
"No, I quit."

Don't.

Continue to give 100%,
and I promise you

you're gonna see the fruit,
all right?

And we will see
you guys tomorrow.

[ Roger grunts ]

Roger:
I'm anxious to get
to the next step,

and I fully expected
these first few days

to be really tough love,
and that's what I want.

I feel like I'm a guy
that needs to be punched

directly in the face to get it,
you know what I mean?

So why, when I do that,
you get angry?

Well,
it's a little different.

I'm really mad Gretchen was
making a couple of statements

about how uncomfortable
our fight made her.

My husband and I have
real-life issues.

Who the [ bleep ] are you
to tell me what the [ bleep ]

to do when you got problems
of your own, boo?

Don't throw stones
when you live in a glass house.

Narrator:
Next time
on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

Every couple has hot buttons.

- I can't stand fake people.
- You can be a [ bleep ].

Your ass don't cook at all,
but you can eat.

[ bleeping ]

Jim:
We need you
to identify Clive's body.

I'm sorry! Get up!

[ vomits ]

I love you so much.

I might love him
more than he loves me.

Traci said she's leaving.

Get out, thank you.

We should have never
signed up for this.