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Announcer: The following film
is about sex work,
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and contains depictions of sex,
sexual assault,
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and substance use.
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Please take care.
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My name is Andrea Werhun.
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I'm a writer and performer,
and I'm...
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also a sex worker.
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In books, movies,
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and every syndicated crime
drama imaginable,
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sex workers are typically
portrayed as victims
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or villains.
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Shame and stigma
can silence us.
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It's high time we told our
own damn stories.
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Here's mine.
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In my early 20s,
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I worked as an escort.
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Clients hired me
to a play a role,
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and I love to perform.
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It wasn't always glamourous.
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Can I jizz on your titties, baby?
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That costs extra, baby.
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And I wasn't always the
professional you see here.
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Here it comes, baby.
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Here it comes!
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Andrea:
Once upon a time,
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Iwas a university student
with a dream.
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A dream of making more than
minimum wage.
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I quickly realized the power of
a little unzipping.
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I went to university to study
English literature.
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That was my major,
and I minored in religion.
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The first time I went to
a strip club,
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what I saw was a kind of
sexy church.
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I saw these poled priestesses
on the stage,
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being worshipped by this doting
male congregation
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who are, you know, being given
the opportunity
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to go to confession for like,
$20 a song.
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And so I thought,
"I want to do that."
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And I did eventually become
a stripper.
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More on that later.
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I had a friend in one of the
classes I was taking in school
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tell me that I should consider
escorting instead.
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One night, I noticed that all
the stories I'd penned
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for my creative writing class
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involved the exchange of sex
for money.
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It became clear...
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Ethereal voice:
Whoredom is your destiny...
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Whoredom is...
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...your destiny!
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Andrea: And how does one
become a sex worker?
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Well, let me show you.
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Under the cover of darkness,
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I stalked the streets like
a cat in heat,
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fondling for society's
sexy underbelly.
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Woman: Password?
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Come in.
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Cloaked in the darkness of
night and little else,
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I penetrated a secret set of
sinful sluts.
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Just kidding.
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I looked up escort agencies,
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picked the best-looking
website,
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and sent them an email.
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And they contacted me
immediately for an interview,
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which opened with...
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Woman:
You got the job.
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Oh.
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Great.
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The agency owners were a
suburban couple
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- named Trina and Craig.
- Here's how it works.
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We'll do your advertising
for you.
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I'll pick you up,
drop you off.
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You collect the money and
text me that it's all good.
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I'll start the clock,
you do the deed,
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and I'll wait outside and let
you know when the hour is up.
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- Any questions?
- Yeah.
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Do you provide the condoms?
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No.
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Okay. Um...
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How often should I get
an STI test?
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Like, every month?
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Every month would probably
be too much.
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And how likely is it that
I would get an STI?
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Uh, not likely.
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That would be very rare.
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Andrea: You know, some people
get away from sex work
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without ever having had
an STI.
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Me, I had chlamydia,
I got gonorrhea,
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and then I did a seven-day,
you know, round of antibiotics
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and they were gone.
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And that's because
I got tested regularly.
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Also, I was wondering,
is this legal?
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Yes and no.
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But the cops have bigger
to fry.
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And we've never had a run-in
with law enforcement.
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You're fine.
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The fact that she's saying
she's been able to run
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a successful escorting agency
doesn't change the fact
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that criminalization
impacts us as workers
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in a way that it doesn't
impact her
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as someone who is not
sucking cock for money.
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How dangerous is this job?
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We've been in this business
a long time.
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You're totally safe,
nothing's gonna happen to you.
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She is not going to be
transparent about the risks
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that I face,
and the vulnerable situations
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she is about to put me in
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because she doesn't want
to scare me away.
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So, what do you want to be
called? You need a fake name.
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I'd thought about
this a lot.
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I was taking a romantic poetry
class at the time,
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and I had fallen
head over heels in love
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with William Blake.
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In Visions of the Daughters
of Albion,
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a virgin goddess named Oothoon
walks in woe
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when her eye is caught
by a marygold.
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"I see thee now a flower,
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"now a nymph.
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"I dare not pluck thee
from thy dewy bed."
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Pluck thou my flower,
Oothoon the mild.
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Another flower shall spring.
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Because the soul of
sweet delight
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can never pass away.
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Andrea: That virginity
is forever.
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Marygold!
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Nah.
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How about Mary Ann?
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You kinda look like Mary Ann
from Gilligan's Island.
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Sure.
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Mary Ann.
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The Virgin Mary,
and her mother, Saint Anne.
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Two generations of maternal
divinity
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to protect me
on this whorish path.
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I remember signing an
agreement,
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but I'm not sure what it said.
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Trina and Craig couldn't get me
on the schedule fast enough.
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Trina: His name is Sanjay.
He's nice.
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He's more nervous than you are.
Trust me.
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Come in, come in.
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Hi.
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Jacket?
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Oh. Thanks. Um...
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- I'll be right back.
- Sure.
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- Hey.
- Hi.
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So, how long have you
been doing this?
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Not very long.
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Um, this is actually
my first appointment.
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You're my first client.
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Really?
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Wow...
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That's great. That's great.
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He was being kind,
he was being respectful,
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and we were pleasuring each
other.
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And I thought,
"If this is what it is...
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"...that's kinda fun!"
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Sanjay leaves me in the room
with half an hour left.
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Please lock up the room
whenever you are done.
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Goodnight, Mary Ann.
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Goodnight?
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Okay, I've just, like,
hit the jackpot here.
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I get to like,
relax in a room by myself
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after this momentous occasion
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where I feel like I had just
lost my whore virginity.
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Was it really me?
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A new friend, companion,
and partner in crime
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smiled back at me.
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And her name was Mary Ann.
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Toronto Sirens.
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Man on phone: Well, hi there, - Trina.
- It's Chuck from Texas.
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You have a gal for me
this evening?
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Trina: Have I got the girl
for you! She's new.
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Her name is Mary Ann,
and it's her first night.
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You're gonna love her.
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Yee-haw!
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Andrea: Who is next?
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So, Mary Ann,
do you like Mozart?
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Yeah.
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Good, good.
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Do you like butt play?
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Um...
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I don't know.
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How about rimming?
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Uh... I...
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I don't know.
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Client: Come on.
Lick my ass.
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Please?
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I should have charged him
extra for that.
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By the time I reached
my final client,
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I was feeling like
a triumphant sexual queen.
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Max and I were sucked into
a flurry of mutual interests.
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Poetry, religion, politics.
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When he asked the dreaded...
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What's your story?
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Oh, I'm just a travelling
painter,
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passing through.
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Wow. I thought maybe you were
in university.
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No...
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No.
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You have a really
intellectual vibe.
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I've read a lot of books.
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Come here.
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We had some time left,
so I read him some tarot cards.
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Max was smart and courteous.
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Had I just met my ideal client?
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I made $700,
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and that was life-changing
for me.
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To go from minimum wage,
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where I worked at a cafe
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and I might get $700 on
two paycheques,
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Here I'd made it in one night
and had a ball.
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My new job was exciting,
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but the prospect of telling
my friends and family was not.
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So I kept my whoring a secret.
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Max had been my ideal client
when I met him.
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The next time I saw Max,
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I was selling tickets
to a psychology conference
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when he showed up in line,
and I almost had a heart attack.
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I was so freaked.
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I revealed that I was not,
in fact,
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a travelling painter
passing through.
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And was, of course,
a university student.
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And that more than that,
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what I really wanted to be
was a writer.
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You could come over, you know,
just to write.
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You mean, you'd pay me?
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Yeah. Why not?
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Let's do a two-hour
writing session.
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Okay.
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I thought, "Could my life get
any better?"
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So I show up to this paid
writing session,
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and as soon as I get there and
we're sitting in his apartment,
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he starts asking me questions.
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What was your childhood like?
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What happened to you to lead you
down this path?
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Are your parents still together?
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Were you abused?
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Mary Ann, I deal with people in
your field every day.
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They either come from
a broken home,
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or they have a long history
of sexual trauma.
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You claim you have neither,
which...
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I find hard to believe.
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You just don't fit the mould
of someone
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who does this
kind of work.
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Shall we go to the bedroom?
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I thought I was here to write.
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Come on.
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He was trying to enter me.
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You know, he was trying
to open doors
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for which he had no key.
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He was trying to barge into me
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and I did not like it at all.
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Max.
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I'm not comfortable.
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Max:
That was great.
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Do you want to go home now?
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Yeah.
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Andrea: I just felt like
such a naive baby whore,
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to have believed a client
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when he said that he wanted
a paid writing session.
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I would not go into it
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without being prepared
to have sex.
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You don't get any training
for this stuff.
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I mean, you kinda
have to walk through the fire
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to learn these lessons.
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Bottom line,
you can't trust clients.
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Personally, I don't think there
is anything more important
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than community.
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You know, especially
for an industry
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that's as isolated as ours.
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When sex workers get together
and we talk shop, magic happens.
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Even if we are experiencing
our work in isolation,
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we can hear each other and
totally understand each other.
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My name is SJ Raphael.
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I have done everything from
escorting to stripping,
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cam work, street work.
274
00:17:12,323 --> 00:17:15,001
I was mailing my underwear
to weird men overseas
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for a really long time, until it
didn't become lucrative anymore.
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You name it, I've done it.
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00:17:19,831 --> 00:17:22,750
Andrea: SJ, they are one of
my most cherished friends.
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We met through advocacy work.
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I'm Vixen, I am a former escort.
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I've now transitioned into being
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00:17:31,375 --> 00:17:33,186
a nude online cam girl.
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00:17:33,386 --> 00:17:37,728
Vixen is a good friend of mine,
and we met at an orgy.
283
00:17:37,928 --> 00:17:42,270
My name is Kitoko, and I am a
former escort and pro sub,
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or professional submissive.
285
00:17:44,326 --> 00:17:45,782
Oh, and a current artist.
286
00:17:45,982 --> 00:17:50,320
Kitoko is an incredibly gifted
artist and collaborator.
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00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:52,288
We made a short film together.
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00:17:52,488 --> 00:17:56,034
I'm Robin. I've been a stripper
for five years now,
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and I am also a formally trained
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00:17:59,112 --> 00:18:01,256
animator and illustrator.
291
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Robin is an amazing performer.
292
00:18:04,579 --> 00:18:07,503
We worked at the same
strip club.
293
00:18:09,214 --> 00:18:12,033
Being white, cisgendered,
and conventionally feminine
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has definitely benefited me
in this industry.
295
00:18:15,053 --> 00:18:19,015
How have these factors
impacted my friends?
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00:18:19,215 --> 00:18:20,725
Certainly there is that
archetype
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of what a "whore"
should look like,
298
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what a sex worker should
look like.
299
00:18:23,728 --> 00:18:25,797
The lingerie, the hair,
the makeup, the clothes,
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00:18:25,997 --> 00:18:28,066
the this, the that.
As a gender diverse person,
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I present far more femme
than I feel
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00:18:30,247 --> 00:18:31,871
because I make more money
doing it.
303
00:18:32,071 --> 00:18:33,496
It's easier for me
to get clients,
304
00:18:33,696 --> 00:18:35,073
it's easier for me to have
the long blonde hair,
305
00:18:35,273 --> 00:18:36,583
like, put on the dress, like,
do the thing,
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00:18:36,783 --> 00:18:38,743
and then make, you know,
the money that I am charging.
307
00:18:38,943 --> 00:18:42,351
The way that I look,
the way that I carry myself,
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00:18:42,551 --> 00:18:45,759
isn't quite a reflection of
who I am internally.
309
00:18:45,959 --> 00:18:50,755
But money talks, and I very much
curate to the male gaze.
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I applied to a a bunch of
different agencies
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00:18:52,966 --> 00:18:55,869
multiple times, like, up to,
like 20 times for some of them.
312
00:18:56,069 --> 00:18:58,650
They told me not to expect to be
as successful as any of
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the, like, white women there or
the Asian women there.
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00:19:01,638 --> 00:19:04,021
They see Black women as like,
kind of like, alien.
315
00:19:04,221 --> 00:19:06,404
Like, they're just like,
"Who would ever desire you?"
316
00:19:06,604 --> 00:19:10,108
Or like, "We don't know to get
people to, like, come book you."
317
00:19:10,308 --> 00:19:13,444
As someone who is mixed race and
spent a lot of their time
318
00:19:13,644 --> 00:19:16,593
being told that I am barely
Black to begin with,
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00:19:16,793 --> 00:19:19,742
to walk into a strip club and
face this, sort of,
320
00:19:19,942 --> 00:19:22,921
1970s style racism
where I am told verbatim
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00:19:23,121 --> 00:19:26,749
that I am too fat and too Black
to work in an establishment
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00:19:26,949 --> 00:19:28,218
blew me away.
323
00:19:28,418 --> 00:19:31,087
Walking into a change room and
seeing that sign on the wall
324
00:19:31,287 --> 00:19:33,527
that just said "No braids,
no buns, no Afros."
325
00:19:33,727 --> 00:19:35,767
And the only thing more
offensive than that sign
326
00:19:35,967 --> 00:19:38,887
is the fact that it wasn't
actually a rule for everyone,
327
00:19:39,087 --> 00:19:40,188
- it was a rule for Black women.
- Yeah,
328
00:19:40,388 --> 00:19:43,808
I have never had trouble making
money in a club
329
00:19:44,008 --> 00:19:45,151
no matter what my hair
looks like.
330
00:19:45,351 --> 00:19:47,753
Customers love the hair,
they love the beads,
331
00:19:47,953 --> 00:19:50,356
they love the dreads,
they love the locs.
332
00:19:50,556 --> 00:19:51,825
It's managers.
333
00:19:52,025 --> 00:19:55,612
Andrea: We'll get into
strip club managers later.
334
00:19:55,812 --> 00:19:57,739
And now, back to escorting.
335
00:19:59,490 --> 00:20:02,327
Western-style narration: And so,
Mary Ann kept on whoring.
336
00:20:02,527 --> 00:20:06,589
Lucky lads across
the Greater Toronto Area
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00:20:06,789 --> 00:20:10,960
met the cutest little gal
they'd ever seen.
338
00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:12,429
And boy...
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00:20:12,629 --> 00:20:15,215
...Could that cowgirl ride!
340
00:20:18,468 --> 00:20:21,079
Soon, I had regulars
341
00:20:21,279 --> 00:20:23,690
who booked me regularly.
342
00:20:23,890 --> 00:20:25,608
Mmm. Mary Ann.
That's very good.
343
00:20:25,808 --> 00:20:27,647
Mr. McAllister
was an English teacher
344
00:20:27,847 --> 00:20:30,168
and a writer in his spare time.
345
00:20:30,368 --> 00:20:32,690
I really like it when
you do that.
346
00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:38,079
We always had quick sex
off the top.
347
00:20:38,279 --> 00:20:41,115
All the character development
leads to the inevitable...
348
00:20:41,315 --> 00:20:42,876
Followed by talking about
our shared love
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00:20:43,076 --> 00:20:46,454
of crafting stories.
Occasionally, he blurted...
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00:20:46,654 --> 00:20:49,165
I'm a lonely man, Mary Ann.
351
00:20:49,365 --> 00:20:51,292
A lonely...
352
00:20:51,492 --> 00:20:53,419
...lonely man.
353
00:20:55,922 --> 00:20:58,767
Which, over time, became...
354
00:20:58,967 --> 00:21:03,429
I feel like you're my
girlfriend, Mary Ann.
355
00:21:04,681 --> 00:21:07,433
I am like your girlfriend.
356
00:21:13,147 --> 00:21:15,174
I prefer new clients
to regulars.
357
00:21:15,374 --> 00:21:17,202
People kind of like,
fall in love
358
00:21:17,402 --> 00:21:19,237
or think they're falling in love
and then suddenly,
359
00:21:19,437 --> 00:21:21,239
they are like,
"What about this money?
360
00:21:21,439 --> 00:21:22,832
"Can we, like, throw it away?"
361
00:21:23,032 --> 00:21:24,334
And it's like, that's not
the point of this.
362
00:21:24,534 --> 00:21:28,338
Yes, a regular is great until
they get possessive.
363
00:21:28,538 --> 00:21:31,875
But they always do! I'm sorry,
it always ends like that, right.
364
00:21:32,075 --> 00:21:32,926
Yeah.
365
00:21:33,126 --> 00:21:34,544
Don't be so good
at your job, then!
366
00:21:34,744 --> 00:21:35,678
Well...
367
00:21:35,878 --> 00:21:39,490
I definitely broke the number
one rule.
368
00:21:39,690 --> 00:21:43,273
I ended up dating
my very first client.
369
00:21:43,473 --> 00:21:46,270
And, uh, we're not...
we're not together,
370
00:21:46,470 --> 00:21:49,267
so, probably made the wrong
choice there.
371
00:21:49,467 --> 00:21:51,352
It's such an intimate thing.
372
00:21:51,552 --> 00:21:53,238
It's such an intimate booking.
373
00:21:53,438 --> 00:21:57,192
It would be crazy to think that
people don't get attached.
374
00:21:57,392 --> 00:22:00,737
That people feel a deep
emotional connection.
375
00:22:00,937 --> 00:22:02,831
Personally, I like regulars.
376
00:22:03,031 --> 00:22:05,783
My preference is to have
long-term relationships
377
00:22:05,983 --> 00:22:08,045
with my clientele.
378
00:22:08,245 --> 00:22:10,047
For me, it comes down
to whether
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00:22:10,247 --> 00:22:12,049
a clientrespects
your boundaries.
380
00:22:12,249 --> 00:22:15,485
We've established that clients
can lie to our faces.
381
00:22:15,685 --> 00:22:18,922
But how do they behave beyond
the appointment?
382
00:22:27,055 --> 00:22:30,250
Sex worker review boards are
the domain of hobbyists,
383
00:22:30,450 --> 00:22:33,645
that is, men whose hobby
is paying for sex
384
00:22:33,845 --> 00:22:34,905
and writing about it,
385
00:22:35,105 --> 00:22:37,695
employing a variety
of colourful acronyms
386
00:22:37,895 --> 00:22:40,485
to degrade sex workers for fun.
387
00:22:41,653 --> 00:22:44,573
So, of course I searched
my name.
388
00:22:46,825 --> 00:22:49,086
Client: Mary Ann
has a great sex body,
389
00:22:49,286 --> 00:22:53,048
very soft, but firm,
if that makes sense.
390
00:22:53,248 --> 00:22:55,792
Client 2: Mary Ann resembled
Mary Tyler Moore,
391
00:22:55,992 --> 00:22:58,095
but with slightly bigger boobs.
392
00:22:58,295 --> 00:23:01,048
Client 3: Mary Ann's legs
were not memorable
393
00:23:01,248 --> 00:23:03,642
as they are fairly short.
394
00:23:03,842 --> 00:23:07,429
Andrea: It's hard to describe
the feeling of reading someone
395
00:23:07,629 --> 00:23:09,314
write about you
396
00:23:09,514 --> 00:23:12,768
and what it's like
to have sex with you.
397
00:23:12,968 --> 00:23:15,228
This was, like,
a genre of erotica
398
00:23:15,428 --> 00:23:17,489
that was written by men
for men.
399
00:23:17,689 --> 00:23:21,985
A user named Don Juan posted
my first review on the board,
400
00:23:22,185 --> 00:23:25,247
which was entitled "Wow."
401
00:23:25,447 --> 00:23:29,476
Handsome Don Juan: I had noticed
Mary Ann ever since her photos
402
00:23:29,676 --> 00:23:33,705
went up on the Sirens site.
My first impression was "Wow."
403
00:23:33,905 --> 00:23:36,708
I would estimate her figure
at five foot five,
404
00:23:36,908 --> 00:23:40,712
120 pounds, 34D-24-35.
405
00:23:41,838 --> 00:23:44,433
We started with LFK.
406
00:23:44,633 --> 00:23:48,470
I was gently massaging her
breasts when she said...
407
00:23:50,055 --> 00:23:52,683
You intrigue me.
408
00:23:52,883 --> 00:23:55,027
Why, baby?
409
00:23:55,227 --> 00:23:59,198
Most guys want to take a look
before they feel.
410
00:23:59,398 --> 00:24:02,701
Andrea: I remember things
a little differently.
411
00:24:02,901 --> 00:24:06,363
Don Juan told me he was a
plastic surgeon from Florida.
412
00:24:06,563 --> 00:24:09,241
I went to school
with Barack Obama, baby.
413
00:24:09,441 --> 00:24:11,001
What do you think of that?
414
00:24:11,201 --> 00:24:14,604
My duty was to act impressed,
not to sniff out facts.
415
00:24:14,804 --> 00:24:17,866
I suspected the plastic surgeon
thing to be true
416
00:24:18,066 --> 00:24:21,128
because Don Juan had
a technical fascination
417
00:24:21,328 --> 00:24:22,429
with my breasts.
418
00:24:22,629 --> 00:24:23,847
I don't believe it, baby.
419
00:24:24,047 --> 00:24:27,784
These are too good to be real.
420
00:24:27,984 --> 00:24:31,522
Then we progressed to DFK.
421
00:24:31,722 --> 00:24:33,315
My tongue in her mouth...
422
00:24:33,515 --> 00:24:34,942
Handsome Don Juan:
Her tongue in mine...
423
00:24:35,142 --> 00:24:37,728
Our tongues meeting
outside of our mouths.
424
00:24:41,273 --> 00:24:45,527
- Hungrily.
- Passionately.
425
00:24:46,862 --> 00:24:51,375
It did get her wet.
426
00:24:51,575 --> 00:24:54,286
Real Don Juan: Then she took me
into her mouth.
427
00:24:54,486 --> 00:24:56,088
I propped myself up...
428
00:24:56,288 --> 00:24:58,499
Handsome Don Juan: On some
pillows to get a better look.
429
00:24:58,699 --> 00:25:01,814
She told me that she wanted
to taste me.
430
00:25:02,014 --> 00:25:05,130
Okay, I definitely did not
say that, okay?
431
00:25:05,330 --> 00:25:07,090
I didn't say any of this!
432
00:25:07,290 --> 00:25:08,600
Cut, cut, cut, cut.
433
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:10,385
All right, darling, you're doing
great, you're doing fabulous.
434
00:25:10,585 --> 00:25:13,805
However, that's not the line.
The line is...
435
00:25:14,005 --> 00:25:16,057
"I want to taste you,
436
00:25:16,257 --> 00:25:18,110
"I want to taste you."
437
00:25:18,310 --> 00:25:20,963
You know, pretend you're eating
a, uh, portobello mushroom,
438
00:25:21,163 --> 00:25:23,816
you know, and it's in your
mouth, and you can taste it,
439
00:25:24,016 --> 00:25:25,200
and it's swirling around
in there.
440
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:27,611
And then you just enjoy it all.
All right, you got it?
441
00:25:27,811 --> 00:25:29,738
Good. Great. Action!
442
00:25:33,492 --> 00:25:37,246
I want to taste you.
443
00:25:38,330 --> 00:25:39,506
Yes!
444
00:25:39,706 --> 00:25:41,917
Handsome Don Juan: We finished
with a mind-blowing...
445
00:25:42,117 --> 00:25:43,960
Real Don Juan: CIM?
446
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:45,804
No. COF? Hmm.
447
00:25:46,004 --> 00:25:47,681
I'm not sure which.
448
00:25:47,881 --> 00:25:49,391
And I really didn't care.
449
00:25:49,591 --> 00:25:52,135
Handsome Don Juan: Whatever
it was that Mary Ann did,
450
00:25:52,335 --> 00:25:53,687
oh, baby.
451
00:25:53,887 --> 00:25:57,599
Oh-ho-ho. It was fabulous.
452
00:26:04,273 --> 00:26:07,651
Everything that he says
that the did and that he said
453
00:26:07,851 --> 00:26:09,244
just didn't happen.
454
00:26:09,444 --> 00:26:11,238
What do you guys think
about reviews?
455
00:26:11,438 --> 00:26:13,582
I don't get to review them.
456
00:26:13,782 --> 00:26:17,369
I needed one review
and that launched me.
457
00:26:17,569 --> 00:26:18,420
Mm-hmm.
458
00:26:18,620 --> 00:26:20,506
It can really make or break
your career.
459
00:26:20,706 --> 00:26:22,508
The dark side of reviews is that
they are definitely
460
00:26:22,708 --> 00:26:25,919
a form of coercion. Clients will
take the threat of a bad review
461
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:27,650
and use it to push your
boundaries.
462
00:26:27,850 --> 00:26:29,181
There's, like, so much pressure,
463
00:26:29,381 --> 00:26:31,383
and you feel like you have to
consent to everything, and...
464
00:26:31,583 --> 00:26:35,512
It feels like being a product
in an Amazon review.
465
00:26:35,712 --> 00:26:37,439
- It's definitely violating.
- Yeah.
466
00:26:37,639 --> 00:26:40,104
Andrea: Reviews taught me
that sex work is more
467
00:26:40,304 --> 00:26:42,769
than just what happens behind
closed doors.
468
00:26:47,649 --> 00:26:52,821
There was something fun about
performing this role for people.
469
00:26:54,698 --> 00:26:57,601
And then going back into
my regular life.
470
00:26:57,801 --> 00:27:00,737
Mary Ann was me,
but obviously heightened
471
00:27:00,937 --> 00:27:03,874
and more curious and more
adventurous.
472
00:27:04,074 --> 00:27:05,968
It was sexy, it was sexy
473
00:27:06,168 --> 00:27:09,213
to have this little juicy
secret.
474
00:27:22,935 --> 00:27:24,686
My secret life was fun until...
475
00:27:24,886 --> 00:27:27,197
Hey, baby!
476
00:27:27,397 --> 00:27:31,068
Yeah, baby!
You lookin' good to me.
477
00:27:31,268 --> 00:27:33,820
Oh, yeah!
478
00:27:34,988 --> 00:27:36,999
Stupid ugly bitch.
479
00:27:37,199 --> 00:27:40,786
Until shame crept in.
480
00:27:43,247 --> 00:27:45,257
There's two sides to a secret.
481
00:27:45,457 --> 00:27:49,378
It can be incredibly
emotionally taxing
482
00:27:49,578 --> 00:27:52,014
to hide from people,
483
00:27:52,214 --> 00:27:53,515
especially the people
you love.
484
00:27:53,715 --> 00:27:57,369
We all have this internalized
whorephobia within us.
485
00:27:57,569 --> 00:28:01,223
This is a prejudice that is,
you know, 2,000 years old.
486
00:28:01,423 --> 00:28:04,518
This is nothing new.
We are all born out of
487
00:28:04,718 --> 00:28:07,750
this whorephobic muck.
And I have it too.
488
00:28:07,950 --> 00:28:10,783
The shame that I felt
wasn't in the act.
489
00:28:10,983 --> 00:28:14,032
{\an8}It was the shame of others,
and it was inside me,
490
00:28:14,232 --> 00:28:17,281
{\an8}and I could hear its voice,
and it was awful.
491
00:28:17,481 --> 00:28:19,345
You think you're so great, huh?
492
00:28:19,545 --> 00:28:21,210
Making all that easy money.
493
00:28:21,410 --> 00:28:23,954
Shame believes that sex workers
are lazy.
494
00:28:28,750 --> 00:28:30,636
And disgusting.
495
00:28:30,836 --> 00:28:35,424
What is the difference between
a Corvette and a dead hooker?
496
00:28:35,624 --> 00:28:37,226
Shame likes dead hooker jokes.
497
00:28:37,426 --> 00:28:39,678
I don't have a Corvette
in my garage!
498
00:28:39,878 --> 00:28:41,105
You're nothing
499
00:28:41,305 --> 00:28:43,941
but a dirty, stinky...
500
00:28:44,141 --> 00:28:46,685
Shame tries to make me
hate myself.
501
00:28:46,885 --> 00:28:50,105
Trash whore!
502
00:28:51,606 --> 00:28:53,826
Shame makes you lonely.
Like, it really does.
503
00:28:54,026 --> 00:28:56,445
And it's also, like, shame goes
hand in hand with fear, too.
504
00:28:56,645 --> 00:28:58,280
That's the thing.
It's like, I don't disclose,
505
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:00,115
or I didn't use to disclose
because I don't know
506
00:29:00,315 --> 00:29:01,583
what's gonna happen to me
if I do.
507
00:29:01,783 --> 00:29:04,619
During the pandemic, I had to
stop full-service sex work
508
00:29:04,819 --> 00:29:07,039
and so I was thinking about
creating an OnlyFans,
509
00:29:07,239 --> 00:29:09,833
but I was like,
super stressed out because
510
00:29:10,033 --> 00:29:11,301
if I have nudes on the internet,
511
00:29:11,501 --> 00:29:14,758
could that make it impossible
for me to, like,
512
00:29:14,958 --> 00:29:17,571
adopt a child, or just pivot
and like, teach?
513
00:29:17,771 --> 00:29:20,208
I feel like it's not so much
that sex work itself
514
00:29:20,408 --> 00:29:22,846
oppresses me, but like,
the stigma that follows it,
515
00:29:23,046 --> 00:29:25,149
um, is like, always a threat.
516
00:29:25,349 --> 00:29:28,502
I have never been very good
at hiding.
517
00:29:28,702 --> 00:29:31,855
But I understand that there are
risks,
518
00:29:32,055 --> 00:29:34,524
and so I continued to hide,
519
00:29:34,724 --> 00:29:37,965
and it took a great toll on me.
520
00:29:38,165 --> 00:29:41,406
Especially when it came to...
521
00:29:41,606 --> 00:29:42,949
My mom.
522
00:29:45,327 --> 00:29:48,497
You probably never expected
we'd be here.
523
00:29:48,697 --> 00:29:49,882
Um, well,
524
00:29:50,082 --> 00:29:53,377
I wouldn't say it's beyond
my imagination.
525
00:29:53,577 --> 00:29:55,837
You were always a free spirit.
526
00:29:56,037 --> 00:29:58,757
And I respect that.
527
00:29:59,758 --> 00:30:01,551
I learned from the best.
528
00:30:04,388 --> 00:30:05,856
No, you're more free,
529
00:30:06,056 --> 00:30:08,400
more free than
I ever was,
530
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:10,852
but I'm free in a
different way.
531
00:30:11,052 --> 00:30:13,906
Ooh. In what way?
532
00:30:14,106 --> 00:30:15,820
No. This is about you.
533
00:30:16,020 --> 00:30:17,534
It's not about me.
534
00:30:17,734 --> 00:30:19,703
- We were always very close.
- Mm-hmm.
535
00:30:19,903 --> 00:30:22,406
- At least I always felt.
- Oh, definitely.
536
00:30:22,606 --> 00:30:24,082
Andrea:
Yeah. Like, I felt
537
00:30:24,282 --> 00:30:26,747
like I could always
be myself around you.
538
00:30:26,947 --> 00:30:29,413
We could always
joke around about stuff.
539
00:30:29,613 --> 00:30:30,631
Right. I don't think
540
00:30:30,831 --> 00:30:32,541
there was ever anything
we didn't talk about.
541
00:30:32,741 --> 00:30:33,759
That's right,
and so,
542
00:30:33,959 --> 00:30:36,653
when it came
to doing sex work,
543
00:30:36,853 --> 00:30:39,348
that was the first
time in my life
544
00:30:39,548 --> 00:30:43,260
that I really felt like I was
keeping a secret from you,
545
00:30:43,460 --> 00:30:47,556
and that was really,
really hard for me to do.
546
00:30:48,473 --> 00:30:50,442
My mom is a
beautiful angel,
547
00:30:50,642 --> 00:30:53,937
and she's also a very
religious person.
548
00:30:54,137 --> 00:30:55,614
She's a Catholic.
549
00:30:55,814 --> 00:30:57,950
There were always pictures
550
00:30:58,150 --> 00:31:02,454
of the Virgin Mary
around in my childhood.
551
00:31:02,654 --> 00:31:05,949
I like to joke that she
venerates a virgin mother
552
00:31:06,149 --> 00:31:08,410
so she got a
whore daughter.
553
00:31:08,610 --> 00:31:10,128
No parent is like,
554
00:31:10,328 --> 00:31:12,798
"I want my kid to
become a sex worker!"
555
00:31:12,998 --> 00:31:16,626
It's, like, kind of a nightmare
scenario for a parent, right?
556
00:31:19,296 --> 00:31:22,507
I would say you were
pretty devastated.
557
00:31:22,707 --> 00:31:24,560
Mm-hmm. Well, I
was happy for you
558
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:28,430
that you were not carrying
that burden anymore.
559
00:31:28,630 --> 00:31:31,308
You know, you had
been set free.
560
00:31:31,508 --> 00:31:32,893
So, I can deal
with that.
561
00:31:33,093 --> 00:31:34,457
I can deal with truth.
562
00:31:34,657 --> 00:31:35,821
That's not a
problem,
563
00:31:36,021 --> 00:31:39,983
but I do remember not sleeping
for about three nights.
564
00:31:40,183 --> 00:31:41,276
You did call me
in the middle
565
00:31:41,476 --> 00:31:42,369
- of the night...
- Mm-hmm.
566
00:31:42,569 --> 00:31:44,241
you know, during those
first three nights,
567
00:31:44,441 --> 00:31:46,114
and you were concerned
about my safety.
568
00:31:46,314 --> 00:31:48,784
Right,
and your soul.
569
00:31:50,327 --> 00:31:51,745
And my soul.
570
00:31:59,169 --> 00:32:02,343
En route to our respective
appointments with a co-whore,
571
00:32:02,543 --> 00:32:05,717
I mentioned my most regular
client, Walter Wack.
572
00:32:05,917 --> 00:32:07,135
He's the worst.
573
00:32:07,335 --> 00:32:08,824
Oh, my God. I know.
574
00:32:09,024 --> 00:32:10,314
He's so rough
with me.
575
00:32:10,514 --> 00:32:13,350
Yeah. He does this thing where
he, like, crunches me up,
576
00:32:13,550 --> 00:32:15,352
and it really hurts
my hips.
577
00:32:15,552 --> 00:32:17,354
Yeah, well, he
fists me,
578
00:32:17,554 --> 00:32:18,906
and he's rough.
579
00:32:19,106 --> 00:32:20,699
Okay. He's definitely
never fisted me.
580
00:32:20,899 --> 00:32:23,485
And he calls me a dirty,
stinky cum bucket trash whore.
581
00:32:23,685 --> 00:32:25,704
You name it.
Weird guy.
582
00:32:25,904 --> 00:32:28,365
Okay. He's only ever
called me nice things.
583
00:32:28,565 --> 00:32:30,742
Well, I guess he
likes you.
584
00:32:30,942 --> 00:32:31,960
Violet.
585
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,121
Andrea: I was one of
many escorts who saw Walter.
586
00:32:34,321 --> 00:32:35,122
Sarah.
587
00:32:35,322 --> 00:32:36,227
Addison.
588
00:32:36,427 --> 00:32:37,634
Rebecca.
589
00:32:37,834 --> 00:32:38,842
Uh, Andrea.
590
00:32:39,042 --> 00:32:41,345
I mean Mary Ann!
591
00:32:41,545 --> 00:32:45,590
Going to Walter Wack's place
was, like, Groundhog Day,
592
00:32:45,790 --> 00:32:47,676
because it was
always the same.
593
00:32:47,876 --> 00:32:49,561
His door would be ajar.
594
00:32:49,761 --> 00:32:52,389
He'd yell from the
shower, "Come on in!"
595
00:32:52,589 --> 00:32:54,349
There'd be a boom box
on the floor
596
00:32:54,549 --> 00:32:55,359
playing the same music.
597
00:32:55,559 --> 00:32:58,487
I always entered on
the same song.
598
00:32:58,687 --> 00:33:03,442
I would undress and
wait for him to emerge.
599
00:33:03,642 --> 00:33:05,068
We'd have the same
sex every time.
600
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:09,114
One evening, he
did something unusual.
601
00:33:09,314 --> 00:33:12,284
He booked me twice
in one night,
602
00:33:12,484 --> 00:33:15,454
bookending five
appointments total,
603
00:33:15,654 --> 00:33:17,873
and by that fifth
appointment,
604
00:33:18,073 --> 00:33:20,634
I was pretty sore.
605
00:33:20,834 --> 00:33:23,462
Walter was doing his
usual plow,
606
00:33:23,662 --> 00:33:25,756
crunching up my hips.
607
00:33:25,956 --> 00:33:27,850
I was in pain,
608
00:33:28,050 --> 00:33:29,384
trying to be
a trooper,
609
00:33:29,584 --> 00:33:30,769
get to the end,
610
00:33:30,969 --> 00:33:35,057
but finally, I felt
like it was necessary
611
00:33:35,257 --> 00:33:36,733
to say something
to him.
612
00:33:36,933 --> 00:33:39,061
And I was kind of scared to
say something to him,
613
00:33:39,261 --> 00:33:43,774
because... it meant going
off script.
614
00:33:45,484 --> 00:33:47,536
But I said,
615
00:33:47,736 --> 00:33:50,655
"Walter, you're my
fifth appointment of the night,
616
00:33:50,855 --> 00:33:52,449
and it kind of hurts."
617
00:33:55,452 --> 00:33:57,871
And he said...
618
00:33:59,998 --> 00:34:01,958
"That just makes me want
to fuck you harder."
619
00:34:04,795 --> 00:34:05,962
And so he did.
620
00:34:08,340 --> 00:34:10,559
Ten minutes of torture left.
621
00:34:10,759 --> 00:34:14,471
He called me every horrible
name he'd called Sarah,
622
00:34:14,671 --> 00:34:16,648
but I was afraid
to leave.
623
00:34:16,848 --> 00:34:19,651
You never have
to see him again.
624
00:34:19,851 --> 00:34:21,736
Andrea: Walter
was blacklisted...
625
00:34:21,936 --> 00:34:25,115
for me, not for the
other girls.
626
00:34:25,315 --> 00:34:27,400
If someone has had a
client blacklisted,
627
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:28,618
then there should
be transparency
628
00:34:28,818 --> 00:34:30,637
so that everyone at
the agency can choose
629
00:34:30,837 --> 00:34:32,656
whether they want to
see that person or not.
630
00:34:32,856 --> 00:34:34,124
These guys, they're
repeat offenders.
631
00:34:34,324 --> 00:34:37,118
They eventually do the same
thing to every single one of us,
632
00:34:37,318 --> 00:34:39,162
and it's not fair that we
don't get to decide
633
00:34:39,362 --> 00:34:40,505
if that happens
to us or not.
634
00:34:40,705 --> 00:34:42,582
We're not trying to even
punish the predator.
635
00:34:42,782 --> 00:34:44,092
We just want to
not see them.
636
00:34:44,292 --> 00:34:46,110
We don't want to have to
be prey. Yeah. Like...
637
00:34:46,310 --> 00:34:48,788
But if, you know, sex
work were decriminalized,
638
00:34:48,988 --> 00:34:51,253
we'd actually maybe be able
to build a relationship
639
00:34:51,453 --> 00:34:53,361
with law enforcement if
that's what we wanted to do.
640
00:34:53,561 --> 00:34:55,470
Or at the very least, labour,
you know, sort of rights...
641
00:34:55,670 --> 00:34:57,272
- Labour.
- You know, which involves
642
00:34:57,472 --> 00:34:59,933
workplace safety, and this
is a workplace safety issue.
643
00:35:01,643 --> 00:35:04,525
Andrea: Exchanges like
this one were rare.
644
00:35:04,725 --> 00:35:07,607
I worked at the same
agency as Andrea,
645
00:35:07,807 --> 00:35:09,201
and we never met.
646
00:35:09,401 --> 00:35:12,487
And a part of me
thinks it's by design.
647
00:35:12,687 --> 00:35:16,500
We were two
opinionated girls.
648
00:35:16,700 --> 00:35:19,869
The conversation would
have never stayed surface level.
649
00:35:20,069 --> 00:35:23,131
Having us have
too much knowledge
650
00:35:23,331 --> 00:35:28,169
is never a good thing in terms
of an agency perspective.
651
00:35:28,369 --> 00:35:29,679
Like, knowledge
is power,
652
00:35:29,879 --> 00:35:32,132
and they don't want us
to have that kind of power.
653
00:35:34,968 --> 00:35:36,144
Being an escort,
654
00:35:36,344 --> 00:35:40,390
you don't only see
people physically naked.
655
00:35:40,590 --> 00:35:42,234
It's emotionally naked.
656
00:35:42,434 --> 00:35:46,479
To find out how
much hate and negativity
657
00:35:46,679 --> 00:35:50,233
people carry
within themselves,
658
00:35:50,433 --> 00:35:51,401
it affects your soul.
659
00:35:53,028 --> 00:35:56,406
Andrea: We're supposed to
keep your secrets,
660
00:35:56,606 --> 00:35:57,624
and that includes
the secret
661
00:35:57,824 --> 00:36:01,002
of how you
truly behave, you know.
662
00:36:01,202 --> 00:36:03,580
And that's why we experience so
much violence from people,
663
00:36:03,780 --> 00:36:05,173
because there's this
assumption
664
00:36:05,373 --> 00:36:07,525
that we're not going
to tell anyone.
665
00:36:07,725 --> 00:36:09,452
We don't have
anyone to turn to.
666
00:36:09,652 --> 00:36:11,379
There's no one to
protect us.
667
00:36:15,884 --> 00:36:18,328
My mom was concerned
about my safety,
668
00:36:18,528 --> 00:36:20,972
and she was right to
be concerned.
669
00:36:22,557 --> 00:36:25,310
On the day that I
graduated university,
670
00:36:25,510 --> 00:36:27,562
- we went out to lunch.
- Mm-hmm.
671
00:36:27,762 --> 00:36:29,197
We sat down
at the table,
672
00:36:29,397 --> 00:36:32,409
and the first thing that
you said was,
673
00:36:32,609 --> 00:36:34,277
"When you going to quit
that job of yours?"
674
00:36:34,477 --> 00:36:35,328
Right.
675
00:36:35,528 --> 00:36:38,657
And I'm like...
..."Okay.
676
00:36:40,408 --> 00:36:41,376
By my
next birthday,"
677
00:36:41,576 --> 00:36:43,370
which was a
year from then,
678
00:36:43,570 --> 00:36:44,829
and you said...
679
00:36:46,373 --> 00:36:47,749
"I'd like to have that
in writing."
680
00:36:47,949 --> 00:36:49,426
Yeah.
681
00:36:49,626 --> 00:36:53,254
Andrea: And so I signed
a contract with my mother.
682
00:36:53,454 --> 00:36:54,556
"I, Andrea Werhun,
683
00:36:54,756 --> 00:36:57,592
"vow to stop hooking on
my 24th birthday.
684
00:36:57,792 --> 00:36:59,352
You have it in
writing."
685
00:36:59,552 --> 00:37:02,097
I had one year
of whoring left.
686
00:37:09,270 --> 00:37:10,380
With these
appointments,
687
00:37:10,580 --> 00:37:11,490
these hour-long
appointments
688
00:37:11,690 --> 00:37:12,857
with people you've
never met before,
689
00:37:13,057 --> 00:37:15,452
it's like
I'm a comet
690
00:37:15,652 --> 00:37:19,864
entering the stratosphere of
somebody else's world,
691
00:37:20,064 --> 00:37:21,637
and then I get to
see them naked.
692
00:37:21,837 --> 00:37:23,410
And then I get to
have sex with them,
693
00:37:23,610 --> 00:37:24,849
and I get to make them come.
694
00:37:25,049 --> 00:37:26,423
And I, like,
hit the Earth,
695
00:37:26,623 --> 00:37:27,798
and I'm gone. And that's it.
696
00:37:27,998 --> 00:37:29,582
You get to the
core of a person,
697
00:37:29,782 --> 00:37:31,384
and then
you're gone.
698
00:37:31,584 --> 00:37:34,129
There's just, like,
something really fascinating
699
00:37:34,329 --> 00:37:37,007
about how close
you can get to a person
700
00:37:37,207 --> 00:37:38,433
in such a
short period of time
701
00:37:38,633 --> 00:37:40,760
and the level of intimacy
that you can feel
702
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:43,513
with someone you've
never met before
703
00:37:43,713 --> 00:37:45,015
and then just be gone.
704
00:37:48,852 --> 00:37:51,479
You know, you have sex
with a few hundred clients,
705
00:37:51,679 --> 00:37:53,365
and you start to
notice a few patterns.
706
00:37:53,565 --> 00:37:58,320
So I think I could teach
a class on sex work.
707
00:37:59,863 --> 00:38:01,364
No matter what you
call them...
708
00:38:01,564 --> 00:38:03,375
clients, johns, tricks...
709
00:38:03,575 --> 00:38:06,102
the men who pay for
sex have a bevy of reasons
710
00:38:06,302 --> 00:38:08,630
for procuring the services
of a professional.
711
00:38:08,830 --> 00:38:11,666
{\an8}Take your travelling
businessman, for instance,
712
00:38:11,866 --> 00:38:13,627
{\an8}tired and in need of a relaxing,
713
00:38:13,827 --> 00:38:15,337
{\an8}no-strings-attached fu...
714
00:38:16,630 --> 00:38:18,381
{\an8}However, many of our clients
715
00:38:18,581 --> 00:38:20,008
{\an8}are very much attached.
716
00:38:21,301 --> 00:38:22,644
{\an8}Shocking, I know.
717
00:38:22,844 --> 00:38:24,229
{\an8}Here's a line I often heard.
718
00:38:24,429 --> 00:38:25,872
{\an8}I'm just paying you for
a service.
719
00:38:26,072 --> 00:38:27,315
{\an8}It's not like we're having
720
00:38:27,515 --> 00:38:29,208
{\an8}a passionate affair
or anything.
721
00:38:29,408 --> 00:38:31,102
{\an8}Then why not tell your wife?
722
00:38:32,395 --> 00:38:34,297
{\an8}Having a wife is too good a deal
723
00:38:34,497 --> 00:38:36,199
{\an8}to screw up with
a truth bomb like,
724
00:38:36,399 --> 00:38:38,860
{\an8}"When I tell you I'm staying
late at the office,
725
00:38:39,060 --> 00:38:40,871
{\an8}"I'm really doing lines of coke
726
00:38:41,071 --> 00:38:43,657
{\an8}with an escort in a motel room
off the highway."
727
00:38:44,866 --> 00:38:47,018
{\an8}Perhaps I seem like some kind
728
00:38:47,218 --> 00:38:49,362
{\an8}of husband-humping femme fatale,
729
00:38:49,562 --> 00:38:51,706
{\an8}the heartless, scheming villain
730
00:38:51,906 --> 00:38:52,883
{\an8}of the story,
731
00:38:53,083 --> 00:38:55,026
{\an8}but my madam
would always say...
732
00:38:55,226 --> 00:38:56,970
{\an8}I think we save marriages.
733
00:38:57,170 --> 00:38:58,847
{\an8}It's safer for men
to see an escort
734
00:38:59,047 --> 00:39:02,592
{\an8}than have an affair with
the secretary at the office.
735
00:39:02,792 --> 00:39:03,802
{\an8}It's a lot less mess.
736
00:39:06,596 --> 00:39:07,522
But...
737
00:39:07,722 --> 00:39:08,899
Enough about them.
738
00:39:09,099 --> 00:39:11,418
How about our clients
with disabilities?
739
00:39:11,618 --> 00:39:13,937
My client Paul was
a favourite of mine.
740
00:39:14,137 --> 00:39:16,189
His legs may have
been paralyzed,
741
00:39:16,389 --> 00:39:17,574
but my word,
742
00:39:17,774 --> 00:39:20,072
that tongue was limber.
743
00:39:20,272 --> 00:39:21,905
{\an8}And of course,
744
00:39:22,105 --> 00:39:23,948
{\an8}the lazy bachelor,
745
00:39:24,148 --> 00:39:25,991
{\an8}sometimes too lazy.
746
00:39:27,534 --> 00:39:29,619
{\an8}Do you watch hockey?
747
00:39:29,819 --> 00:39:30,629
{\an8}Sort of.
748
00:39:30,829 --> 00:39:32,672
I see you're
a big fan.
749
00:39:32,872 --> 00:39:35,542
Oh, yeah, ever
since I was a kid.
750
00:39:35,742 --> 00:39:37,427
How old are you?
751
00:39:37,627 --> 00:39:39,212
- Why don't you guess?
- Twenty-seven?
752
00:39:42,549 --> 00:39:44,009
I'm older.
753
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:46,937
Andrea: A whiff of his dick
754
00:39:47,137 --> 00:39:49,764
conveyed notes of
cheese and black mold.
755
00:39:50,932 --> 00:39:52,901
Why didn't I ask Gus to
hit the showers?
756
00:39:53,101 --> 00:39:56,771
Why did I let his curdled
cheese string into my mouth?
757
00:39:56,971 --> 00:39:58,690
Man: We've got Mary
Ann in the head zone.
758
00:39:58,890 --> 00:40:00,609
She appears to
be struggling, Bob.
759
00:40:00,809 --> 00:40:01,701
She sure is, Tim.
760
00:40:01,901 --> 00:40:03,578
And the blow job
761
00:40:03,778 --> 00:40:05,455
comes to an end.
762
00:40:05,655 --> 00:40:07,202
- Is that it?
- Mary Ann is now going
763
00:40:07,402 --> 00:40:08,750
into the cowgirl
position.
764
00:40:08,950 --> 00:40:10,622
Oh! And it looks like
Gus has got
765
00:40:10,822 --> 00:40:12,295
some stubble going
on down there.
766
00:40:12,495 --> 00:40:15,961
It must be scraping the shit
out of her you-know-what, Bob.
767
00:40:16,161 --> 00:40:19,627
Mary Ann is determined to ride
this john through the pain.
768
00:40:19,827 --> 00:40:21,638
- Wow.
- She is working for the money
769
00:40:21,838 --> 00:40:24,049
- tonight, boys.
- Mary Ann is dismounting.
770
00:40:24,249 --> 00:40:25,225
- Your turn.
- Bob: And it looks
771
00:40:25,425 --> 00:40:28,845
like Gus is remaining in
the reclined position.
772
00:40:29,045 --> 00:40:30,347
He's going soft.
773
00:40:31,973 --> 00:40:34,309
Mary Ann's got
her hand on the stick.
774
00:40:36,478 --> 00:40:37,737
He shoots!
775
00:40:37,937 --> 00:40:41,074
She scores! Mary Ann
has done it again,
776
00:40:41,274 --> 00:40:42,776
proving why she's one of
the most valuable escorts.
777
00:40:44,361 --> 00:40:46,413
Yes! Yes!
778
00:40:46,613 --> 00:40:51,159
And finally, there are the
heartbroken newly single men
779
00:40:51,359 --> 00:40:53,578
in need of a
bosom to cry on.
780
00:40:54,704 --> 00:40:56,164
{\an8}I don't want to play games.
781
00:40:57,958 --> 00:41:01,178
{\an8}I just want sex.
782
00:41:01,378 --> 00:41:02,804
{\an8}Andrea: I heard
that Jeremy had seen
783
00:41:03,004 --> 00:41:04,381
{\an8}every escort at
the agency but me.
784
00:41:04,581 --> 00:41:06,516
Excuse me. What?
785
00:41:06,716 --> 00:41:08,176
Andrea: He was a
typical finance guy...
786
00:41:08,376 --> 00:41:09,728
You got to be kidding me!
787
00:41:09,928 --> 00:41:11,930
Andrea: Drunk,
volatile, loves hookers.
788
00:41:12,130 --> 00:41:12,898
Is he always
like that?
789
00:41:13,098 --> 00:41:14,749
Jeremy: Oh, for
fuck's sake!
790
00:41:14,949 --> 00:41:16,601
For as long
as I've known him.
791
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:21,898
Jeremy was legendary for
his multi-hour appointments.
792
00:41:22,098 --> 00:41:24,734
My co-whore Violet
held the record...
793
00:41:24,934 --> 00:41:26,703
36 hours.
794
00:41:26,903 --> 00:41:28,246
When she finally
had to go,
795
00:41:28,446 --> 00:41:31,208
she was promptly replaced
by another girl,
796
00:41:31,408 --> 00:41:34,703
and now, it was my turn
to get to know the legend.
797
00:41:34,903 --> 00:41:36,246
What's your sign?
798
00:41:36,446 --> 00:41:37,455
Scorpio.
799
00:41:39,290 --> 00:41:40,342
Me too!
800
00:41:40,542 --> 00:41:42,219
Andrea: We had
a lot in common.
801
00:41:42,419 --> 00:41:44,504
Around the five-hour
mark, I asked...
802
00:41:44,704 --> 00:41:46,381
So, do you have
any children?
803
00:41:48,008 --> 00:41:50,343
Jeremy:
My kid's birthday party.
804
00:41:50,543 --> 00:41:52,354
Drunk here.
805
00:41:52,554 --> 00:41:54,514
Really drunk in
this one.
806
00:41:57,934 --> 00:42:00,228
That stupid
fucking bitch!
807
00:42:01,939 --> 00:42:03,782
She's ruined
my life!
808
00:42:03,982 --> 00:42:06,985
- Everything's gone!
- Okay.
809
00:42:07,185 --> 00:42:07,953
- It's ruined!
- Okay.
810
00:42:08,153 --> 00:42:11,473
Jeremy, you are
a Scorpio, remember?
811
00:42:11,673 --> 00:42:14,317
And Scorpios
are ruled by Pluto.
812
00:42:14,517 --> 00:42:17,162
That's the planet of
transformation,
813
00:42:17,362 --> 00:42:20,665
of life and death
and rebirth.
814
00:42:20,865 --> 00:42:24,169
If anyone could
change their life,
815
00:42:24,369 --> 00:42:25,345
it's you.
816
00:42:25,545 --> 00:42:28,507
Though sex workers aren't
officially therapists,
817
00:42:28,707 --> 00:42:30,008
we try our best.
818
00:42:31,551 --> 00:42:33,011
Let's do some coke.
819
00:42:38,308 --> 00:42:41,023
Andrea: There's a certain
suspension of reality
820
00:42:41,223 --> 00:42:43,939
in the time an escort
and her john share.
821
00:42:47,693 --> 00:42:49,741
The time allotted is
a sacred space
822
00:42:49,941 --> 00:42:51,789
in which both
parties feel free
823
00:42:51,989 --> 00:42:55,075
to be themselves without
judgment.
824
00:42:56,493 --> 00:42:57,561
What do you like?
825
00:42:57,761 --> 00:42:58,829
Andrea:
I like sex.
826
00:43:00,289 --> 00:43:01,707
Jeremy: I don't know
about that.
827
00:43:01,907 --> 00:43:03,417
Andrea:
Oh, no!
828
00:43:06,837 --> 00:43:09,756
Jeremy demanded I
cuddle him all night.
829
00:43:09,956 --> 00:43:11,183
Paid to sleep?
830
00:43:11,383 --> 00:43:13,427
A sex worker's dream.
831
00:43:17,556 --> 00:43:18,807
Man:
Mary Ann.
832
00:43:21,310 --> 00:43:22,519
Mary Ann.
833
00:43:23,729 --> 00:43:26,532
Mary Ann, that's
very good.
834
00:43:26,732 --> 00:43:28,108
Andrea: When I told
Mr. McAllister
835
00:43:28,308 --> 00:43:29,535
I was leaving the biz,
836
00:43:29,735 --> 00:43:31,945
from the high horse of a
john in the arms of a whore,
837
00:43:32,145 --> 00:43:33,122
he said...
838
00:43:33,322 --> 00:43:34,952
You know, Mary Ann,
839
00:43:35,152 --> 00:43:36,783
it'll be
hard for you.
840
00:43:36,983 --> 00:43:38,210
Dating, that is,
841
00:43:38,410 --> 00:43:42,414
you know, having worked
in this industry.
842
00:43:43,916 --> 00:43:45,375
What makes
you say that?
843
00:43:47,044 --> 00:43:51,089
Well, a lot of people
don't respect pr...
844
00:43:53,634 --> 00:43:56,386
Men are too jealous.
845
00:43:57,804 --> 00:44:00,682
Men don't respect...
846
00:44:01,683 --> 00:44:02,643
Women like you.
847
00:44:07,981 --> 00:44:09,737
I never told
you this,
848
00:44:09,937 --> 00:44:11,693
but I have
a boyfriend.
849
00:44:16,907 --> 00:44:18,283
You do?
850
00:44:23,956 --> 00:44:26,792
We have been
together for...
851
00:44:26,992 --> 00:44:27,960
Thirteen years.
852
00:44:30,587 --> 00:44:32,347
How did we meet?
853
00:44:32,547 --> 00:44:34,074
Well, we met
in university,
854
00:44:34,274 --> 00:44:35,601
last year of university.
855
00:44:35,801 --> 00:44:37,227
You came to a
house party at my house.
856
00:44:37,427 --> 00:44:42,057
That was the first time
I met you, and yeah.
857
00:44:42,257 --> 00:44:44,810
Then I kind of chased
you a little bit
858
00:44:45,010 --> 00:44:46,779
for a few weeks.
859
00:44:46,979 --> 00:44:49,481
I knew, "Okay. This guy's
a philosophy major."
860
00:44:50,983 --> 00:44:52,242
"He's got to
be pretty bright.
861
00:44:52,442 --> 00:44:55,279
Maybe I'll just take
a chance and tell him."
862
00:44:55,479 --> 00:44:57,906
So I said, "I'm an escort,"
863
00:44:58,106 --> 00:45:00,534
and you were like, "Cool."
864
00:45:00,734 --> 00:45:03,212
Yeah.
865
00:45:03,412 --> 00:45:05,831
I thought that you were an
interesting person.
866
00:45:06,031 --> 00:45:06,965
I did think it
was cool.
867
00:45:07,165 --> 00:45:09,918
It was something
unique and different,
868
00:45:10,118 --> 00:45:13,171
so I wasn't going
to allow that
869
00:45:13,371 --> 00:45:16,425
to affect my
interest in you.
870
00:45:17,676 --> 00:45:18,844
So mature.
871
00:45:20,679 --> 00:45:22,977
Why didn't it
bother you?
872
00:45:23,177 --> 00:45:25,275
I see sex work
as a job.
873
00:45:25,475 --> 00:45:28,770
It's a job where you use your
body and you use your mind,
874
00:45:28,970 --> 00:45:30,030
like any other job.
875
00:45:30,230 --> 00:45:32,190
People use all sorts
of different body parts
876
00:45:32,390 --> 00:45:33,492
to do their labour,
877
00:45:33,692 --> 00:45:37,070
and we're not concerned
about it unless it's sexual.
878
00:45:37,270 --> 00:45:39,164
There's something about
sex that...
879
00:45:39,364 --> 00:45:41,474
I guess because it's
so closely tied to love...
880
00:45:41,674 --> 00:45:43,585
that people feel like
it has to be controlled,
881
00:45:43,785 --> 00:45:48,582
you have to possess your partner
or own them in some sense,
882
00:45:48,782 --> 00:45:50,918
and that it isn't real
love unless you do
883
00:45:51,118 --> 00:45:52,669
or real commitment
unless you do.
884
00:45:53,795 --> 00:45:55,514
Hello?
885
00:45:55,714 --> 00:45:57,049
Trina on phone:
Time's up.
886
00:45:57,249 --> 00:45:58,508
Okay. Thanks.
887
00:46:09,186 --> 00:46:21,365
# The light shines down
the valley #
888
00:46:21,565 --> 00:46:24,368
# The wind blows
up the alley #
889
00:46:24,568 --> 00:46:27,371
# Oh and I wish
I was lying #
890
00:46:27,571 --> 00:46:30,082
# In the arms
of Mary #
891
00:46:33,293 --> 00:46:36,947
# She took the
pains of boyhood #
892
00:46:37,147 --> 00:46:40,801
# And turned them
into feel good #
893
00:46:41,001 --> 00:46:43,595
# Oh and I wish
I was lying #
894
00:46:43,795 --> 00:46:45,564
# In the arms
of Mary #
895
00:46:45,764 --> 00:46:50,227
# Mary was the girl who taught
me all I had to know #
896
00:46:50,427 --> 00:46:53,530
# She put me right on
the first mistake #
897
00:46:53,730 --> 00:46:58,193
# Summer wasn't gone and I
learned all she had to show #
898
00:46:58,393 --> 00:47:02,281
# She really gave all
a boy could take #
899
00:47:03,657 --> 00:47:05,325
So long, Mary Ann.
900
00:47:23,134 --> 00:47:24,686
The perennial
Marygold,
901
00:47:24,886 --> 00:47:27,038
plucked from its
dewy bed,
902
00:47:27,238 --> 00:47:29,190
must die,
and so did I.
903
00:47:29,390 --> 00:47:33,561
Mary Ann the whore lived,
died, and was born again...
904
00:47:33,761 --> 00:47:34,938
on a farm.
905
00:47:39,150 --> 00:47:42,111
I had been working on a
farm for a couple seasons
906
00:47:42,311 --> 00:47:44,530
before you came
to live with me there.
907
00:47:44,730 --> 00:47:46,950
Andrea: In a way, I
went to the farm
908
00:47:47,150 --> 00:47:50,503
to escape my shame,
909
00:47:50,703 --> 00:47:55,124
to prove to myself that I
was more than just a prostitute,
910
00:47:55,324 --> 00:47:58,169
but shame
was with me.
911
00:47:58,369 --> 00:48:01,014
Hey, saggy titties.
912
00:48:01,214 --> 00:48:03,716
After my second
season on the farm,
913
00:48:03,916 --> 00:48:05,727
I needed to stop.
914
00:48:05,927 --> 00:48:07,391
I think you enjoyed it,
915
00:48:07,591 --> 00:48:08,973
but it's not your life.
916
00:48:09,173 --> 00:48:10,556
It's not the life you want,
917
00:48:10,756 --> 00:48:11,357
and that's fine.
918
00:48:11,557 --> 00:48:13,772
- It wasn't exactly my calling.
- Yeah.
919
00:48:13,972 --> 00:48:16,187
On top of the physical
toll it was taking,
920
00:48:16,387 --> 00:48:18,273
I was not making
any money.
921
00:48:18,473 --> 00:48:19,574
I was broke.
922
00:48:19,774 --> 00:48:21,910
Broke? You're a joke.
923
00:48:22,110 --> 00:48:25,446
You're a washed-up whore
with no prospects.
924
00:48:25,646 --> 00:48:26,664
What are you gonna do,
925
00:48:26,864 --> 00:48:30,702
put "proficient at blowjobs"
on your resume?
926
00:48:35,456 --> 00:48:38,255
So I decided
to become normal.
927
00:48:38,455 --> 00:48:41,054
I moved back to the city
928
00:48:41,254 --> 00:48:43,556
and landed an
entry-level nine to five.
929
00:48:43,756 --> 00:48:46,351
I worked during my
lunchbreaks, evening overtime,
930
00:48:46,551 --> 00:48:49,929
and still never kept up
or did things quite right.
931
00:48:51,097 --> 00:48:52,482
It was hell.
932
00:48:52,682 --> 00:48:56,978
Commuting in rush hour to
a job that I hate...
933
00:48:57,178 --> 00:48:58,855
I would rather
fuck a stranger.
934
00:49:01,149 --> 00:49:03,572
Rosalie: When you
tried a regular job,
935
00:49:03,772 --> 00:49:06,195
you'd come home,
and you'd be crying.
936
00:49:06,395 --> 00:49:08,665
Yeah. That's no life. No.
937
00:49:08,865 --> 00:49:12,535
Andrea: So I quit and got a
gig as a bike courier.
938
00:49:12,735 --> 00:49:14,045
There was no
resume required,
939
00:49:14,245 --> 00:49:16,423
but there
was snow and ice.
940
00:49:16,623 --> 00:49:18,091
I was falling off
my bike,
941
00:49:18,291 --> 00:49:20,051
getting my tire caught
in sewer grates,
942
00:49:20,251 --> 00:49:22,962
car doors being jut out
in front of me,
943
00:49:23,162 --> 00:49:24,139
and so I wondered,
944
00:49:24,339 --> 00:49:26,015
what was more dangerous,
945
00:49:26,215 --> 00:49:27,825
working as a bike courier...
946
00:49:28,025 --> 00:49:29,636
or as a stripper?
947
00:49:31,220 --> 00:49:34,807
I think, like, work in
general is exploitative.
948
00:49:35,007 --> 00:49:36,768
It's hard to be empowered
under capitalism
949
00:49:36,968 --> 00:49:39,145
when we're all
basically purchasing
950
00:49:39,345 --> 00:49:40,447
our survival.
951
00:49:40,647 --> 00:49:42,282
So, I'm disabled
and neuro-divergent,
952
00:49:42,482 --> 00:49:44,968
and sex work was a
really good fit for me,
953
00:49:45,168 --> 00:49:47,654
because it allowed me
to build a practice
954
00:49:47,854 --> 00:49:50,010
that was specific
to my needs.
955
00:49:50,210 --> 00:49:52,064
Sex work, for me,
gave me a way
956
00:49:52,264 --> 00:49:54,118
to, like, do more
than survive.
957
00:49:54,318 --> 00:49:55,336
It gave me
a way to live.
958
00:49:55,536 --> 00:49:57,938
Do you feel like sex
work is something
959
00:49:58,138 --> 00:50:00,541
that compliments your
artistic practice?
960
00:50:00,741 --> 00:50:01,968
Yeah, definitely.
I don't think
961
00:50:02,168 --> 00:50:05,338
that I could be an
artist without sex work.
962
00:50:05,538 --> 00:50:07,173
Like, I'm not a
nepo baby.
963
00:50:07,373 --> 00:50:08,475
I wish I was.
964
00:50:08,675 --> 00:50:11,511
My artistic skills make
a lot of sense in sex work.
965
00:50:11,711 --> 00:50:13,513
Like, it is
a performance.
966
00:50:13,713 --> 00:50:15,515
It's gendered performance.
967
00:50:17,517 --> 00:50:20,853
Andrea: I had deliberately
worded my agreement with my mom
968
00:50:21,053 --> 00:50:23,481
to refer strictly
to hooking.
969
00:50:23,681 --> 00:50:26,109
I left stripping
out of it.
970
00:50:28,486 --> 00:50:30,113
Alright. So, you work
seven-hour shifts,
971
00:50:30,313 --> 00:50:31,718
minimum three days a week,
972
00:50:31,918 --> 00:50:33,124
three shows per night.
973
00:50:33,324 --> 00:50:35,043
Lap dances
are $20 per song.
974
00:50:35,243 --> 00:50:38,671
Champagne room, $400
per hour per girl.
975
00:50:38,871 --> 00:50:42,959
Now, whatever happens
in the champagne room...
976
00:50:44,544 --> 00:50:46,346
Stays in the
champagne room.
977
00:50:46,546 --> 00:50:47,931
There's a security guard
at the entrance there
978
00:50:48,131 --> 00:50:50,466
to keep an eye on the time so
there's no discrepancy
979
00:50:50,666 --> 00:50:53,511
with the, uh, song counts,
because sometimes...
980
00:50:53,711 --> 00:50:55,117
rarely here...
981
00:50:55,317 --> 00:50:56,523
customers,
982
00:50:56,723 --> 00:50:59,809
uh, they try and
rip off the dancers.
983
00:51:01,352 --> 00:51:02,904
So...
984
00:51:03,104 --> 00:51:04,948
you want
to start tonight?
985
00:51:05,148 --> 00:51:07,650
Andrea: I texted with Maurice
about my stripper name.
986
00:51:11,613 --> 00:51:13,181
{\an8}Sophia means wisdom.
987
00:51:13,381 --> 00:51:14,749
{\an8}The Holy Spirit.
988
00:51:14,949 --> 00:51:16,576
{\an8}The divine feminine.
989
00:51:21,914 --> 00:51:24,838
I'm not the best
pole dancer in the world,
990
00:51:25,038 --> 00:51:27,762
so I had to learn how
to work my angles.
991
00:51:27,962 --> 00:51:30,849
For me, there is nothing
more powerful than nudity,
992
00:51:31,049 --> 00:51:35,553
eye contact, and a smile paired
with a few signature moves.
993
00:51:35,753 --> 00:51:37,439
Fireman!
994
00:51:37,639 --> 00:51:41,225
The Twirl 'n' Squat.
995
00:51:41,425 --> 00:51:42,685
The Floater!
996
00:51:43,895 --> 00:51:45,104
And Hollywood.
997
00:51:46,731 --> 00:51:47,741
Oh, and ATC.
998
00:51:47,941 --> 00:51:49,233
That's ass to crowd!
999
00:51:49,433 --> 00:51:50,535
Man:
Oh, yeah.
1000
00:51:50,735 --> 00:51:53,029
But I wasn't always the
professional you see here.
1001
00:51:57,325 --> 00:51:59,294
On my second shift,
1002
00:51:59,494 --> 00:52:01,296
I meet a guy
named Bob Abrams.
1003
00:52:01,496 --> 00:52:04,248
He called me over to him,
and he said, you know,
1004
00:52:04,448 --> 00:52:05,583
"Sit down and have
a drink with me.
1005
00:52:05,783 --> 00:52:07,793
I'll make it
worth your while."
1006
00:52:07,993 --> 00:52:10,004
So, what brings
you here tonight?
1007
00:52:10,204 --> 00:52:14,267
Man: You are so fucking hot.
1008
00:52:14,467 --> 00:52:16,177
Do you know what it's like
having two kids at home?
1009
00:52:16,377 --> 00:52:18,304
Of course you
don't.
1010
00:52:18,504 --> 00:52:20,231
Andrea:
Yeah. Oh, my.
1011
00:52:20,431 --> 00:52:22,350
I love you. You're
fucking awesome.
1012
00:52:23,977 --> 00:52:26,354
Andrea: His wife at home
with their newborn,
1013
00:52:26,554 --> 00:52:27,697
Bob Abrams
smelled of a man
1014
00:52:27,897 --> 00:52:30,567
who had everything
handed to him.
1015
00:52:36,030 --> 00:52:37,415
We got wasted.
1016
00:52:37,615 --> 00:52:40,994
Up in the VIP, I gave Bob
a passionate lap dance.
1017
00:52:56,801 --> 00:52:58,261
Bob took his
dick out.
1018
00:52:59,554 --> 00:53:01,097
You are so hot.
1019
00:53:02,307 --> 00:53:04,267
Fuck. Let's fuck.
1020
00:53:05,810 --> 00:53:07,312
No. No.
1021
00:53:09,772 --> 00:53:12,066
We finally called it a
night at 15 songs.
1022
00:53:13,401 --> 00:53:15,703
He wanted
to see me again.
1023
00:53:15,903 --> 00:53:18,740
Bob emailed me to arrange
our next meeting.
1024
00:53:18,940 --> 00:53:20,783
More on that later.
1025
00:53:21,993 --> 00:53:24,270
Soon, I had regulars
at the strip club,
1026
00:53:24,470 --> 00:53:26,748
and Ron was the
cream of the crop.
1027
00:53:29,417 --> 00:53:31,127
Hello, mysterious man.
1028
00:53:32,253 --> 00:53:33,421
Hello, Andrea.
1029
00:53:35,006 --> 00:53:37,600
Andrea: Ron is one
of my regulars.
1030
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:39,844
He was known at the club
by the other dancers
1031
00:53:40,044 --> 00:53:41,887
as being
Sophia's guy.
1032
00:53:42,087 --> 00:53:43,931
We'd sit on a couch,
1033
00:53:44,131 --> 00:53:45,432
watch the game,
1034
00:53:45,632 --> 00:53:47,017
eat a burrito.
1035
00:53:47,217 --> 00:53:48,403
All the while,
1036
00:53:48,603 --> 00:53:50,104
baby, I'm being paid.
1037
00:53:50,304 --> 00:53:51,031
It was so good.
1038
00:53:51,231 --> 00:53:52,382
We'd get to the VIP.
1039
00:53:52,582 --> 00:53:53,725
I'd take my shoes off.
1040
00:53:53,925 --> 00:53:54,868
He'd give me a foot rub.
1041
00:53:55,068 --> 00:53:56,653
Ron: You were wearing
those ridiculous heels.
1042
00:53:56,853 --> 00:53:57,912
- What do you call them?
- Pleasers.
1043
00:53:58,112 --> 00:53:59,664
Ron: Pleasers. Right. And
so you were complaining
1044
00:53:59,864 --> 00:54:02,016
about your feet being sore from
wearing those all day,
1045
00:54:02,216 --> 00:54:04,369
so I just naturally started
giving you a foot rub.
1046
00:54:04,569 --> 00:54:06,704
And that became, like,
a regular thing,
1047
00:54:06,904 --> 00:54:08,685
and I took it
really seriously,
1048
00:54:08,885 --> 00:54:10,322
because one time, I
said, you know,
1049
00:54:10,522 --> 00:54:11,960
"Is this your first
foot rub today?"
1050
00:54:12,160 --> 00:54:14,095
And you said, "Well, no."
1051
00:54:14,295 --> 00:54:15,597
So the next day,
I went to YouTube
1052
00:54:15,797 --> 00:54:17,757
and started searching how
to give foot massages.
1053
00:54:17,957 --> 00:54:19,154
I was like,
"I'm going to give you
1054
00:54:19,354 --> 00:54:21,542
a really good
foot massage if I can."
1055
00:54:21,742 --> 00:54:23,730
So... I started
bringing in the creams,
1056
00:54:23,930 --> 00:54:27,266
you know, getting really,
you know, professional about it.
1057
00:54:27,466 --> 00:54:29,560
You are one of the
good ones. That is for sure.
1058
00:54:29,760 --> 00:54:31,446
What do you think
is the secret
1059
00:54:31,646 --> 00:54:34,632
to the long-term relationship
that we have here?
1060
00:54:34,832 --> 00:54:37,819
Ron: You're a good
listener as well as having
1061
00:54:38,019 --> 00:54:39,737
a lot of stories
to tell,
1062
00:54:39,937 --> 00:54:41,456
and I mean, in
seven years,
1063
00:54:41,656 --> 00:54:43,583
I've gone through some
major life events.
1064
00:54:43,783 --> 00:54:45,618
And there's been things that
I've wanted to talk about
1065
00:54:45,818 --> 00:54:47,745
that I didn't feel
comfortable talking about
1066
00:54:47,945 --> 00:54:49,631
to, you know,
family or friends.
1067
00:54:49,831 --> 00:54:53,626
Andrea: Ron is an
ideal customer in a few ways.
1068
00:54:53,826 --> 00:54:56,679
You know, he
understands the context.
1069
00:54:56,879 --> 00:55:00,675
He knows he's going to see
you for a set period of time
1070
00:55:00,875 --> 00:55:02,552
for X amount of money,
1071
00:55:02,752 --> 00:55:04,229
and on top of that,
1072
00:55:04,429 --> 00:55:06,147
he's kind. He's respectful.
1073
00:55:06,347 --> 00:55:09,434
Ron: Well, to me, kindness and
respect are my core values,
1074
00:55:09,634 --> 00:55:10,652
and I don't really
understand...
1075
00:55:10,852 --> 00:55:13,438
I mean, I've read your
stories and heard stories
1076
00:55:13,638 --> 00:55:14,989
about clients
who are not that way.
1077
00:55:15,189 --> 00:55:18,067
Andrea: If only all customers
could be like Ron.
1078
00:55:20,236 --> 00:55:21,821
I actually really don't
even know this guy,
1079
00:55:22,021 --> 00:55:23,540
- if I'm being honest.
- Oh, really?
1080
00:55:23,740 --> 00:55:25,625
One night, I was chatting up
Stavros, an artist...
1081
00:55:25,825 --> 00:55:28,703
So, yeah. We actually met at
an ultimate Frisbee tournament.
1082
00:55:28,903 --> 00:55:31,455
Okay. A couple of
nerds. I like that.
1083
00:55:31,655 --> 00:55:34,208
...and his friend
Mark, a doctor.
1084
00:55:34,408 --> 00:55:36,252
Stavros:
Pretty much.
1085
00:55:36,452 --> 00:55:38,004
Mark:
So, Sophia...
1086
00:55:38,204 --> 00:55:39,756
Who touched you?
1087
00:55:41,549 --> 00:55:43,760
Um, what?
1088
00:55:44,552 --> 00:55:45,854
Who touched you?
1089
00:55:46,054 --> 00:55:48,139
What happened in your
childhood to bring you here?
1090
00:55:50,683 --> 00:55:52,543
Andrea: Apparently, Mark
would rather examine
1091
00:55:52,743 --> 00:55:54,404
my emotional wounds than
my dance moves.
1092
00:55:54,604 --> 00:55:58,233
Um, that's an incredibly
inappropriate question.
1093
00:55:58,433 --> 00:55:59,484
Dude.
1094
00:56:00,818 --> 00:56:02,620
Andrea: Asking
sex workers
1095
00:56:02,820 --> 00:56:06,824
to divulge previous
traumatic experiences,
1096
00:56:07,024 --> 00:56:08,409
that's called trauma porn.
1097
00:56:09,744 --> 00:56:11,541
The questions run
the gamut.
1098
00:56:11,741 --> 00:56:13,539
They may seem
kind of innocent,
1099
00:56:13,739 --> 00:56:14,999
you know, like...
1100
00:56:16,626 --> 00:56:18,127
Andrea and Max: What
was your childhood like?
1101
00:56:19,879 --> 00:56:23,257
Andrea: "What happened along
the way to make you this way?"
1102
00:56:24,717 --> 00:56:26,978
"What broke you?"
1103
00:56:27,178 --> 00:56:29,931
You think something's
wrong with me
1104
00:56:30,131 --> 00:56:33,559
that I'm doing this
for money,
1105
00:56:33,759 --> 00:56:35,311
that I am broken.
1106
00:56:37,939 --> 00:56:40,024
It doesn't make any sense why
anyone would feel entitled
1107
00:56:40,224 --> 00:56:41,701
to ask us about our
childhoods...
1108
00:56:41,901 --> 00:56:44,028
- No. None of your business.
- Especially in a situation...
1109
00:56:44,228 --> 00:56:47,031
especially in a situation
where we're being hired
1110
00:56:47,231 --> 00:56:48,416
- to be sexy.
- Mm.
1111
00:56:48,616 --> 00:56:50,768
Andrea: You know,
it suggests that, like,
1112
00:56:50,968 --> 00:56:53,279
our trauma is part of
the sex appeal.
1113
00:56:53,479 --> 00:56:55,590
Yeah. Would you ask
that of your server?
1114
00:56:55,790 --> 00:56:57,709
You know, would you ask
that of, like, your dentist?
1115
00:56:57,909 --> 00:56:59,293
Like, I wouldn't
do that.
1116
00:56:59,493 --> 00:57:00,678
I don't have
to be a victim,
1117
00:57:00,878 --> 00:57:02,509
but now, I feel like
you are victimizing me,
1118
00:57:02,709 --> 00:57:04,363
because you are trying to
take things from me
1119
00:57:04,563 --> 00:57:06,017
that I didn't offer
to you. You're trying
1120
00:57:06,217 --> 00:57:07,927
to take things from me. You're
trying to take, you know,
1121
00:57:08,127 --> 00:57:09,354
my emotional labour.
You're trying to elicit...
1122
00:57:09,554 --> 00:57:11,622
What, do you want me to cry?
Do you want me to sit here
1123
00:57:11,822 --> 00:57:13,891
and cry and tell you about...
Like, that's predatory.
1124
00:57:15,268 --> 00:57:16,903
Andrea: One night, I
was riding high
1125
00:57:17,103 --> 00:57:20,940
on a '70s set guaranteed
to give any boomer a boner.
1126
00:57:36,998 --> 00:57:38,816
Fancy a dance
in the VIP?
1127
00:57:39,016 --> 00:57:40,635
Soon as I finish
this beer.
1128
00:57:40,835 --> 00:57:43,087
Andrea: So, what brings
you here tonight?
1129
00:57:43,287 --> 00:57:44,722
Well, you know,
cat's away.
1130
00:57:44,922 --> 00:57:46,799
Andrea: Our banter was
solid, until...
1131
00:57:46,999 --> 00:57:49,394
So, um...
1132
00:57:49,594 --> 00:57:52,263
What's the worst thing that's
ever happened to you here?
1133
00:57:53,556 --> 00:57:54,983
Andrea: How do
I actually respond
1134
00:57:55,183 --> 00:57:57,477
to people who are asking
me for trauma porn?
1135
00:57:57,677 --> 00:58:00,355
Sometimes, I
deflect.
1136
00:58:01,731 --> 00:58:04,325
And sometimes, I
answer the question.
1137
00:58:04,525 --> 00:58:07,487
You know, I'll look a person in
the eye and say, "Rape."
1138
00:58:07,687 --> 00:58:09,247
Rape? Yeah.
1139
00:58:09,447 --> 00:58:10,907
That doesn't happen here.
1140
00:58:14,744 --> 00:58:16,120
Andrea: I told him
my story.
1141
00:58:18,289 --> 00:58:19,540
Remember Bob?
1142
00:58:20,583 --> 00:58:22,135
Bob shows up at
the club.
1143
00:58:22,335 --> 00:58:25,175
It's, like, a
Monday night at 6:00 PM.
1144
00:58:25,375 --> 00:58:27,946
We go up to the VIP, and
it's early enough
1145
00:58:28,146 --> 00:58:30,718
that there isn't even
security up there.
1146
00:58:30,918 --> 00:58:32,479
We're alone.
1147
00:58:32,679 --> 00:58:34,222
Can I
take it out?
1148
00:58:36,683 --> 00:58:40,228
Andrea: I do my job, which is
to get naked by the third song.
1149
00:58:42,730 --> 00:58:44,491
Let's fuck.
1150
00:58:44,691 --> 00:58:48,403
- No.
- Oh, come on. Why not?
1151
00:58:48,603 --> 00:58:49,862
I don't want to.
1152
00:58:50,062 --> 00:58:51,122
It'd be fun.
1153
00:58:51,322 --> 00:58:54,242
I don't have
any condoms.
1154
00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:00,665
But he doesn't listen.
1155
00:59:02,333 --> 00:59:04,193
He takes my hips,
1156
00:59:04,393 --> 00:59:06,054
forces me down,
1157
00:59:06,254 --> 00:59:08,464
and puts his
raw dick inside me.
1158
00:59:10,925 --> 00:59:12,227
Don't do that again.
1159
00:59:12,427 --> 00:59:17,599
Because I don't have a
good sense of my boundaries yet,
1160
00:59:17,799 --> 00:59:20,080
I do continue to
dance for him,
1161
00:59:20,280 --> 00:59:22,562
and it happens two
more times.
1162
00:59:29,736 --> 00:59:31,613
Then he stops
the dances.
1163
00:59:32,822 --> 00:59:35,074
And I'm putting my
clothes back on.
1164
00:59:35,274 --> 00:59:37,368
What's the
matter, babe?
1165
00:59:37,568 --> 00:59:38,378
You look so sad.
1166
00:59:38,578 --> 00:59:41,168
Andrea: And I
say to him,
1167
00:59:41,368 --> 00:59:43,758
"I'm disappointed
in myself
1168
00:59:43,958 --> 00:59:47,295
for letting you
transgress my boundaries."
1169
00:59:48,421 --> 00:59:51,382
And obviously, there's
such a big element there
1170
00:59:51,582 --> 00:59:52,946
of victim blaming,
1171
00:59:53,146 --> 00:59:54,333
as if it's my fault,
1172
00:59:54,533 --> 00:59:55,520
and he replies...
1173
00:59:55,720 --> 00:59:58,348
Why? Do you have something?
1174
01:00:02,226 --> 01:00:05,113
Oh, yeah. That's
disturbing,
1175
01:00:05,313 --> 01:00:07,357
and I'm really sorry that
happened to you.
1176
01:00:07,557 --> 01:00:11,077
- Thanks.
- Yet, you came back.
1177
01:00:11,277 --> 01:00:14,656
I mean, it was
an isolated incident.
1178
01:00:15,782 --> 01:00:17,200
Most guys are fine.
1179
01:00:19,244 --> 01:00:22,605
So, you want
to go to the VIP?
1180
01:00:22,805 --> 01:00:25,387
Yeah. No. Not
after that story.
1181
01:00:25,587 --> 01:00:28,169
I am thoroughly turned
off now.
1182
01:00:29,420 --> 01:00:30,263
So why'd you ask?
1183
01:00:30,463 --> 01:00:33,174
Christ. I didn't
think you'd been raped.
1184
01:00:33,374 --> 01:00:35,093
You don't
look like the type.
1185
01:00:35,843 --> 01:00:37,228
Andrea:
The type?
1186
01:00:37,428 --> 01:00:39,830
What type of person
looks like they've been raped?
1187
01:00:40,030 --> 01:00:42,433
And what type of person
asks that question?
1188
01:00:42,633 --> 01:00:43,610
Dude.
1189
01:00:43,810 --> 01:00:46,879
Come on. Something must
have happened.
1190
01:00:47,079 --> 01:00:50,036
Women don't
just become strippers.
1191
01:00:50,236 --> 01:00:52,994
Man, I thought
we were having fun.
1192
01:00:53,194 --> 01:00:56,531
You really want me to relive my
trauma for your entertainment?
1193
01:01:00,368 --> 01:01:01,294
You know what?
1194
01:01:01,494 --> 01:01:02,954
Let's go to the VIP.
1195
01:01:03,154 --> 01:01:04,172
Now?
1196
01:01:04,372 --> 01:01:06,165
Yeah. Why not?
1197
01:01:14,173 --> 01:01:17,677
Look. I don't want
a dance.
1198
01:01:17,877 --> 01:01:19,262
I want to apologize.
1199
01:01:21,514 --> 01:01:25,435
The only reason I asked you
that question before
1200
01:01:25,635 --> 01:01:28,563
is because I was sexually
abused as a child
1201
01:01:28,763 --> 01:01:32,317
and I was wondering
if you were, too.
1202
01:01:35,111 --> 01:01:38,014
I'm sorry.
I just thought
1203
01:01:38,214 --> 01:01:41,129
maybe you
were as well
1204
01:01:41,329 --> 01:01:44,105
and I... I
don't know.
1205
01:01:44,305 --> 01:01:46,802
Andrea: Mark is a doctor.
1206
01:01:47,002 --> 01:01:49,300
He's not a sex worker.
1207
01:01:49,500 --> 01:01:52,387
There's people
in every industry
1208
01:01:52,587 --> 01:01:55,890
who have experienced some
form of abuse.
1209
01:01:56,090 --> 01:01:59,093
I would guess that it's
pretty equal across the board.
1210
01:02:00,011 --> 01:02:02,689
Uh, yeah.
1211
01:02:02,889 --> 01:02:03,982
I hope you can
forgive me,
1212
01:02:04,182 --> 01:02:06,851
and you don't have
to dance for me.
1213
01:02:09,938 --> 01:02:11,031
Andrea: I don't know
all the reasons
1214
01:02:11,231 --> 01:02:13,445
why people ask
us these questions,
1215
01:02:13,645 --> 01:02:15,860
but I wish they wouldn't.
1216
01:02:21,866 --> 01:02:25,874
It didn't really occur to me
what had happened was rape
1217
01:02:26,074 --> 01:02:30,083
until I realized I hadn't
told my boyfriend about it,
1218
01:02:30,283 --> 01:02:31,668
which is always kind
of a flag,
1219
01:02:31,868 --> 01:02:33,545
because it usually
suggests to me
1220
01:02:33,745 --> 01:02:35,859
that there's some
type of shame
1221
01:02:36,059 --> 01:02:38,174
and I'm afraid
of talking about it.
1222
01:02:38,374 --> 01:02:42,137
I took the week off
from work.
1223
01:02:42,337 --> 01:02:45,765
I talked to the manager
1224
01:02:45,965 --> 01:02:47,234
who hired me.
1225
01:02:47,434 --> 01:02:49,986
I think this
is your fault.
1226
01:02:50,186 --> 01:02:52,155
There's security buttons
in the booth for a reason.
1227
01:02:52,355 --> 01:02:54,357
If you felt uncomfortable, you
should have hit the button.
1228
01:02:54,557 --> 01:02:58,662
You didn't,
so that's on you.
1229
01:02:58,862 --> 01:03:01,948
Robin: Well, you go from "You
can touch me here and here"
1230
01:03:02,148 --> 01:03:04,284
to something
shoved inside you,
1231
01:03:04,484 --> 01:03:05,627
and it happens so quickly.
1232
01:03:05,827 --> 01:03:09,039
Men know that people
aren't coming to the rescue
1233
01:03:09,239 --> 01:03:10,507
to sex workers.
1234
01:03:10,707 --> 01:03:13,168
Girls... a lot of
Black girls, particularly...
1235
01:03:13,368 --> 01:03:14,261
are told to
keep their head down.
1236
01:03:14,461 --> 01:03:16,212
You're not supposed to
have any issues,
1237
01:03:16,412 --> 01:03:18,923
because it's
not worth your job.
1238
01:03:19,123 --> 01:03:21,434
The more money a
man seems to spend,
1239
01:03:21,634 --> 01:03:26,122
the more important he tends to
become versus performers.
1240
01:03:26,322 --> 01:03:31,010
Did I think about reporting the
incident to the police?
1241
01:03:31,210 --> 01:03:35,899
Ms. Werhun, the alleged incident
occurred at a strip club.
1242
01:03:36,900 --> 01:03:38,160
Now, first things first.
1243
01:03:38,360 --> 01:03:41,363
What kind of decent woman
works at a strip club?
1244
01:03:41,563 --> 01:03:43,707
- The kind that needs money.
- Money!
1245
01:03:43,907 --> 01:03:46,326
And would you say
that money is a prime motivator
1246
01:03:46,526 --> 01:03:49,370
- in your life?
- Well, I need money to eat
1247
01:03:49,570 --> 01:03:52,540
and pay my rent and
clothe myself, so yes.
1248
01:03:52,740 --> 01:03:55,710
Fascinating. Now, let me
get this straight.
1249
01:03:55,910 --> 01:03:57,587
Did you write this book?
1250
01:03:57,787 --> 01:03:58,764
Yes.
1251
01:03:58,964 --> 01:04:02,509
Your Honour, Ms. Werhun's
book is called Modern Whore,
1252
01:04:02,709 --> 01:04:03,977
and as she's
clearly stated,
1253
01:04:04,177 --> 01:04:08,556
she is a modern whore
motivated by money.
1254
01:04:08,756 --> 01:04:10,400
Ms. Werhun,
is it possible
1255
01:04:10,600 --> 01:04:12,736
that you fabricated
a rape allegation
1256
01:04:12,936 --> 01:04:16,464
against a married family man
who earns six figures
1257
01:04:16,664 --> 01:04:20,193
just so you'd have another story
to tell, you know...
1258
01:04:20,393 --> 01:04:23,697
for the money?
1259
01:04:25,031 --> 01:04:26,374
I got an email
from Bob
1260
01:04:26,574 --> 01:04:29,786
asking when he could
come in and see me again.
1261
01:04:29,986 --> 01:04:33,248
Smiley face, as if
nothing had happened.
1262
01:04:33,448 --> 01:04:35,217
I responded back,
1263
01:04:35,417 --> 01:04:37,544
"Do not come to the
club ever again."
1264
01:04:41,715 --> 01:04:45,302
On those nights where
something did happen to me...
1265
01:04:45,502 --> 01:04:47,145
- Mm-hmm.
- I don't have to be afraid
1266
01:04:47,345 --> 01:04:50,185
for a single second that
you're going to feel
1267
01:04:50,385 --> 01:04:53,226
like I must have done
something to provoke it
1268
01:04:53,426 --> 01:04:56,250
or that I, you
know, deserved it.
1269
01:04:56,450 --> 01:04:59,074
- Mm-hmm.
- A lot of sex workers,
1270
01:04:59,274 --> 01:05:00,700
when they are open with
their partners
1271
01:05:00,900 --> 01:05:03,553
about what they do, they get
that kind of attitude.
1272
01:05:03,753 --> 01:05:06,406
You've never, ever, ever,
ever been like that with me.
1273
01:05:06,606 --> 01:05:08,241
- Mm-hmm.
- So, thank you.
1274
01:05:08,441 --> 01:05:09,826
Yeah.
You're welcome.
1275
01:05:10,952 --> 01:05:12,254
And yeah. For a lot of people,
1276
01:05:12,454 --> 01:05:15,211
that reaction might be
a fear reaction.
1277
01:05:15,411 --> 01:05:18,357
The response to trying
to reduce the harm
1278
01:05:18,557 --> 01:05:21,304
is to coerce the person
to not do sex work
1279
01:05:21,504 --> 01:05:24,424
or not put themselves
in situations in the future
1280
01:05:24,624 --> 01:05:26,351
where those things
are possible.
1281
01:05:26,551 --> 01:05:29,137
A few years later, I saw
Bob at the club again.
1282
01:05:31,139 --> 01:05:33,183
He was with an
entourage of people.
1283
01:05:38,480 --> 01:05:42,275
In that moment, I didn't feel
like I could do anything.
1284
01:05:42,475 --> 01:05:45,320
I felt... frozen.
1285
01:05:48,573 --> 01:05:50,245
It goes without saying
that the strip club
1286
01:05:50,445 --> 01:05:52,118
is a booze-drenched
environment.
1287
01:05:53,578 --> 01:05:55,622
It's a bar, after all,
and a pick-up line.
1288
01:05:55,822 --> 01:05:57,332
Hey, can I buy
you a drink?
1289
01:05:57,532 --> 01:05:59,468
Um, yeah.
1290
01:05:59,668 --> 01:06:04,255
I was probably having upwards of
12 drinks a night at work,
1291
01:06:04,455 --> 01:06:07,008
and when I
wasn't at work,
1292
01:06:07,208 --> 01:06:09,761
you know, I was partying, too.
1293
01:06:12,430 --> 01:06:15,442
I had a habit
1294
01:06:15,642 --> 01:06:19,187
of getting blackout drunk
1295
01:06:19,387 --> 01:06:20,480
and hitting my head.
1296
01:06:23,984 --> 01:06:25,193
For the first time in my life,
1297
01:06:25,393 --> 01:06:26,987
I was having seizures.
1298
01:06:28,154 --> 01:06:31,374
Ah!
1299
01:06:31,574 --> 01:06:33,210
May I have another?
1300
01:06:33,410 --> 01:06:36,496
Why did I keep doing
this to myself?
1301
01:06:37,998 --> 01:06:41,172
Late one night, I was drunk
and riding my bike home
1302
01:06:41,372 --> 01:06:44,546
with a shopping bag
dangling from my handlebars.
1303
01:06:44,746 --> 01:06:45,964
It got caught
in the front wheel.
1304
01:06:46,164 --> 01:06:48,591
I flew off the bike.
1305
01:06:55,181 --> 01:06:59,394
I had suffered a
traumatic brain injury,
1306
01:06:59,594 --> 01:07:00,570
a pretty bad one.
1307
01:07:00,770 --> 01:07:03,732
I'd scraped the entire left
side of my face,
1308
01:07:03,932 --> 01:07:05,942
and if I hadn't been
wearing a helmet,
1309
01:07:06,142 --> 01:07:07,911
I would be dead.
1310
01:07:08,111 --> 01:07:09,621
Given my history
of seizures,
1311
01:07:09,821 --> 01:07:12,407
I was eventually
diagnosed with epilepsy,
1312
01:07:12,607 --> 01:07:13,959
and alcohol
was a trigger.
1313
01:07:14,159 --> 01:07:16,373
Andrea, if you have
another drink,
1314
01:07:16,573 --> 01:07:18,788
you might have
a seizure and die.
1315
01:07:20,457 --> 01:07:22,459
You want to write
another book, don't you?
1316
01:07:24,419 --> 01:07:26,796
I was scared shitless
by that comment,
1317
01:07:26,996 --> 01:07:30,350
so I haven't
drank ever since.
1318
01:07:30,550 --> 01:07:33,453
Six weeks later,
I was back at the club,
1319
01:07:33,653 --> 01:07:36,556
no alcohol,
much less confidence.
1320
01:07:40,393 --> 01:07:41,978
Fancy a dance
in the VIP?
1321
01:07:42,938 --> 01:07:45,148
Yeah. Yeah. I'll pass.
1322
01:07:46,441 --> 01:07:48,218
Come back
in 15 minutes.
1323
01:07:48,418 --> 01:07:50,195
Maybe I'll
change my mind.
1324
01:07:52,697 --> 01:07:53,707
Okay.
1325
01:07:53,907 --> 01:07:56,451
Strippers face a
lot of rejection...
1326
01:07:56,651 --> 01:07:58,244
in lingerie,
no less.
1327
01:08:00,163 --> 01:08:02,916
Sober sex work is always a
really interesting topic
1328
01:08:03,116 --> 01:08:04,092
for me to speak on,
1329
01:08:04,292 --> 01:08:05,594
because I
have done sex work
1330
01:08:05,794 --> 01:08:09,473
for my entire adult life
and part of my youth,
1331
01:08:09,673 --> 01:08:13,843
and I've done it under the sort
of auspice of sobriety now.
1332
01:08:14,043 --> 01:08:15,103
But I've also
done it, you know,
1333
01:08:15,303 --> 01:08:16,772
while being an
intravenous drug user,
1334
01:08:16,972 --> 01:08:19,974
while being, you know, someone
that was a heavy drinker,
1335
01:08:20,174 --> 01:08:21,401
while being someone
that, you know,
1336
01:08:21,601 --> 01:08:24,270
has done various other
sorts of substances
1337
01:08:24,470 --> 01:08:25,938
and also hired
exclusively to do
1338
01:08:26,138 --> 01:08:28,128
a lot of, like,
pay-to-party events,
1339
01:08:28,328 --> 01:08:29,869
because men hate
to do drugs alone.
1340
01:08:30,069 --> 01:08:31,783
What do you think of
the stereotype
1341
01:08:31,983 --> 01:08:33,697
that we all use drugs
to do our jobs?
1342
01:08:33,897 --> 01:08:34,989
I think that goes
hand in hand
1343
01:08:35,189 --> 01:08:36,407
with a lot of
different tropes
1344
01:08:36,607 --> 01:08:37,626
that come
along with sex work.
1345
01:08:37,826 --> 01:08:40,203
Substance users are villains
or villainized in society,
1346
01:08:40,403 --> 01:08:42,059
and so, of course, we are
villains because we are
1347
01:08:42,259 --> 01:08:44,905
sex workers. So it sort of,
like, ties in with that.
1348
01:08:45,105 --> 01:08:47,752
What are some of the pros
and cons of sober sex work?
1349
01:08:47,952 --> 01:08:49,971
Start with the pros.
My judgment is clearer.
1350
01:08:50,171 --> 01:08:55,343
I'm a lot less susceptible to
my boundaries being pushed,
1351
01:08:55,543 --> 01:08:56,886
but then it's also, like...
1352
01:08:57,804 --> 01:09:00,273
I have to listen
to their bullshit.
1353
01:09:00,473 --> 01:09:03,059
I can't, you know,
numb the conversation.
1354
01:09:03,259 --> 01:09:04,694
I have to be engaged.
1355
01:09:04,894 --> 01:09:06,780
Another pro, I guess
you remember everything,
1356
01:09:06,980 --> 01:09:09,149
but another con is that I
remember everything, you know?
1357
01:09:10,567 --> 01:09:13,912
Bob returned... again.
1358
01:09:14,112 --> 01:09:17,657
He had started to earn a
reputation at the club
1359
01:09:17,857 --> 01:09:20,535
for becoming
belligerently drunk.
1360
01:09:20,735 --> 01:09:21,795
Want to give me a beer?
1361
01:09:21,995 --> 01:09:25,290
Andrea: You know, he's becoming
a very rowdy customer.
1362
01:09:26,666 --> 01:09:29,044
This time, things
were different,
1363
01:09:29,244 --> 01:09:31,972
because I was sober,
1364
01:09:32,172 --> 01:09:34,841
and I felt like I
was finally in a position
1365
01:09:35,041 --> 01:09:36,947
to be able to hold
him accountable.
1366
01:09:37,147 --> 01:09:38,854
You know, I wasn't
afraid anymore,
1367
01:09:39,054 --> 01:09:44,309
so I went to one of
my better managers, Phil,
1368
01:09:44,509 --> 01:09:47,020
and I told him
I wanted him out.
1369
01:09:48,813 --> 01:09:50,824
Well, I say we make sure
that he settles up,
1370
01:09:51,024 --> 01:09:54,069
because, uh, I don't want to get
in the way of anyone's money.
1371
01:09:54,269 --> 01:09:56,571
Then I'll inform him that
he's no longer welcome
1372
01:09:56,771 --> 01:09:57,956
in the club.
1373
01:09:58,156 --> 01:10:00,454
Andrea: I told the gals
what was going on.
1374
01:10:00,654 --> 01:10:02,753
Do you want me to throw
piss in his face?
1375
01:10:02,953 --> 01:10:05,955
Andrea: There's nothing like
stripper support.
1376
01:10:06,155 --> 01:10:07,290
Is this forever?
1377
01:10:08,458 --> 01:10:10,093
Yes.
1378
01:10:10,293 --> 01:10:11,261
Fuck you, man,
1379
01:10:11,461 --> 01:10:12,721
and your fucking place!
1380
01:10:12,921 --> 01:10:16,011
Andrea: Phil was
being a good manager,
1381
01:10:16,211 --> 01:10:19,102
and for that,
I'll always be grateful.
1382
01:10:19,302 --> 01:10:23,306
When you don't consider a sex
work workplace a real workplace,
1383
01:10:23,506 --> 01:10:26,359
it's going to be run by a
different kind of law.
1384
01:10:26,559 --> 01:10:31,064
It's going to be run by a law
that's outside law enforcement,
1385
01:10:31,264 --> 01:10:32,357
for better or worse.
1386
01:10:35,777 --> 01:10:37,079
I think the victim trope
is prominent
1387
01:10:37,279 --> 01:10:41,950
because some people
would prefer us that way.
1388
01:10:42,150 --> 01:10:45,712
Being a victim is a
convenient title
1389
01:10:45,912 --> 01:10:48,832
when what you want to do is
actually victimize us.
1390
01:10:49,032 --> 01:10:50,759
We can never get
away from it.
1391
01:10:50,959 --> 01:10:53,945
The law also identifies
us as victims.
1392
01:10:54,145 --> 01:10:57,132
It takes consent
out of the matter.
1393
01:10:57,332 --> 01:10:58,475
It makes the assertion
1394
01:10:58,675 --> 01:11:02,012
that everything that we
do for money is by coercion.
1395
01:11:03,805 --> 01:11:05,482
We're either victims
1396
01:11:05,682 --> 01:11:08,310
who have no ability to
make choices for ourselves
1397
01:11:08,510 --> 01:11:09,611
or we're villains,
1398
01:11:09,811 --> 01:11:12,480
and the only choices we
make are bad and harmful.
1399
01:11:12,680 --> 01:11:15,066
And all we want to do
is hurt people,
1400
01:11:15,266 --> 01:11:17,160
particularly men.
1401
01:11:17,360 --> 01:11:21,698
But I don't think that
sex workers are even permitted
1402
01:11:21,898 --> 01:11:25,702
the grace of having
our work considered labour,
1403
01:11:25,902 --> 01:11:27,037
and I think that's wrong.
1404
01:11:36,629 --> 01:11:37,973
You know,
there's things that I do
1405
01:11:38,173 --> 01:11:41,134
that keep me grounded and
remind me of who I am.
1406
01:11:41,334 --> 01:11:42,519
A lot of that has to
do with writing
1407
01:11:42,719 --> 01:11:45,430
and creative expression
in general and performing
1408
01:11:45,630 --> 01:11:47,390
and being silly,
being a little ham.
1409
01:11:48,600 --> 01:11:50,143
I'd like to be...
1410
01:11:51,144 --> 01:11:52,320
An artist.
1411
01:11:52,520 --> 01:11:54,731
I'd love to make
a living with my art.
1412
01:11:56,066 --> 01:11:59,177
But I can't
afford it, yet,
1413
01:11:59,377 --> 01:12:02,489
and so until
that day...
1414
01:12:05,075 --> 01:12:06,326
I work.
1415
01:12:08,954 --> 01:12:11,381
So long as the laws
don't protect us,
1416
01:12:11,581 --> 01:12:13,500
the stigma against
sex workers remains.
1417
01:12:13,700 --> 01:12:16,252
I can see your
cellulite, whore!
1418
01:12:17,754 --> 01:12:19,890
Alright, bud. That's
it. Night's over.
1419
01:12:20,090 --> 01:12:22,142
What are you doing, man? I
paid $10 for this beer.
1420
01:12:22,342 --> 01:12:24,844
- I'm not going anywhere.
- You've been nursing this beer
1421
01:12:25,044 --> 01:12:26,554
for almost two hours,
my man. Let's go.
1422
01:12:26,754 --> 01:12:28,190
- No. No. Come on! No!
- Let's go.
1423
01:12:28,390 --> 01:12:31,434
Shame: I'll get you! This
is not the last of me!
1424
01:12:34,854 --> 01:12:39,818
When it comes to my
own shame in sex work,
1425
01:12:40,018 --> 01:12:41,298
I don't have any.
1426
01:12:41,498 --> 01:12:42,579
The reality is,
1427
01:12:42,779 --> 01:12:45,452
not only have I
fucked for money,
1428
01:12:45,652 --> 01:12:48,326
I'm currently naked
on the internet.
1429
01:12:49,828 --> 01:12:51,171
I have no shame.
1430
01:12:51,371 --> 01:12:53,898
Let's be fucking
for real.
1431
01:12:54,098 --> 01:12:56,868
But when I
fell in love
1432
01:12:57,068 --> 01:13:00,146
and what I
did for work
1433
01:13:00,346 --> 01:13:02,869
was going to
affect him
1434
01:13:03,069 --> 01:13:05,393
and how his
family saw me,
1435
01:13:05,593 --> 01:13:08,146
that was the first time
I felt shame.
1436
01:13:08,346 --> 01:13:12,062
There's whorephobia against
the sex workers ourselves,
1437
01:13:12,262 --> 01:13:15,779
which, you know, brings us
the closest to violence,
1438
01:13:15,979 --> 01:13:18,940
and then there's all this sort
of, like, stigma by proxy...
1439
01:13:19,140 --> 01:13:20,796
- Yeah.
- That the people around us
1440
01:13:20,996 --> 01:13:22,621
have to experience just
by loving us.
1441
01:13:22,821 --> 01:13:24,246
Oliver: Mm-hmm. Yeah.
People might have
1442
01:13:24,446 --> 01:13:28,329
a perfectly happy relationship
with a sex worker,
1443
01:13:28,529 --> 01:13:32,412
and then they encounter
some kind of outside stigma.
1444
01:13:32,612 --> 01:13:34,331
And they can't
overcome it.
1445
01:13:35,749 --> 01:13:37,625
And they're missing out
because of that.
1446
01:13:37,825 --> 01:13:40,170
Yeah. Yeah!
1447
01:13:41,588 --> 01:13:44,057
You taking the risk
1448
01:13:44,257 --> 01:13:46,930
and being brave and
being open
1449
01:13:47,130 --> 01:13:49,804
has forced me
to come to terms
1450
01:13:50,004 --> 01:13:52,524
with how I
talk about it
1451
01:13:52,724 --> 01:13:55,477
and how open I
am about it as well.
1452
01:13:55,677 --> 01:13:56,987
And is that
a good thing?
1453
01:13:57,187 --> 01:14:01,650
Yeah, of course. Yeah. I think
being truthful is important,
1454
01:14:01,850 --> 01:14:04,402
and I think being
honest is important.
1455
01:14:04,602 --> 01:14:06,955
I'm, you know,
sitting here on camera
1456
01:14:07,155 --> 01:14:09,783
because I hope that one day
you can be face out
1457
01:14:09,983 --> 01:14:12,252
and not be
assaulted, you know,
1458
01:14:12,452 --> 01:14:14,103
just because someone
knows you're a sex worker
1459
01:14:14,303 --> 01:14:15,955
or not be stalked online
or not be harassed
1460
01:14:16,155 --> 01:14:19,896
or, you know, banned
from apartments
1461
01:14:20,096 --> 01:14:23,638
and banned from
other types of work
1462
01:14:23,838 --> 01:14:26,758
and banned from,
you know, social spaces,
1463
01:14:26,958 --> 01:14:28,009
which has definitely
happened to me.
1464
01:14:28,209 --> 01:14:29,102
I think that that's the power
1465
01:14:29,302 --> 01:14:30,724
of, like, sex worker
storytelling.
1466
01:14:30,924 --> 01:14:32,147
It's, like,
reminding the public
1467
01:14:32,347 --> 01:14:34,065
that, like, we're actually
just, like, human.
1468
01:14:34,265 --> 01:14:38,395
It's not like sex workers
are these big, bad monsters.
1469
01:14:38,595 --> 01:14:39,613
Like, we're just people,
1470
01:14:39,813 --> 01:14:42,199
and, like, we deserve,
like, very basic rights.
1471
01:14:42,399 --> 01:14:45,176
We need to tell our stories
so that it normalizes sex work
1472
01:14:45,376 --> 01:14:47,645
and so that it normalizes
the quest for safety in our work
1473
01:14:47,845 --> 01:14:49,860
and the quest for respect
in our work and the quest for,
1474
01:14:50,060 --> 01:14:52,075
you know, basic, like, human
dignity and human rights.
1475
01:14:52,275 --> 01:14:53,993
I would like sex workers...
1476
01:14:54,193 --> 01:14:55,712
at least,
like, full service...
1477
01:14:55,912 --> 01:14:58,289
to kind of be seen
like a chiropractor.
1478
01:14:58,489 --> 01:15:00,133
Not everybody believes in it.
1479
01:15:00,333 --> 01:15:02,544
But like, the people who
love it love it.
1480
01:15:02,744 --> 01:15:03,762
That's right. That's right.
1481
01:15:03,962 --> 01:15:06,423
- And they swear by it.
- And they swear by it.
1482
01:15:06,623 --> 01:15:07,808
I'm so grateful
1483
01:15:08,008 --> 01:15:12,595
that despite your own
misgivings about my work...
1484
01:15:13,805 --> 01:15:15,181
You still love me.
1485
01:15:15,381 --> 01:15:16,433
Of course.
1486
01:15:19,936 --> 01:15:23,023
I just want to
thank you for...
1487
01:15:25,317 --> 01:15:27,494
...not abandoning me.
1488
01:15:27,694 --> 01:15:30,322
I could
never abandon you.
1489
01:15:30,522 --> 01:15:31,531
Would not happen.
1490
01:15:33,116 --> 01:15:35,935
When you were born, I remember
1491
01:15:36,135 --> 01:15:38,955
just looking at you all night.
1492
01:15:40,081 --> 01:15:42,542
I would just watch you
while you were sleeping.
1493
01:15:44,127 --> 01:15:46,713
I think I like
being looked at.
1494
01:15:47,922 --> 01:15:49,549
Maybe that's part
of it.
1495
01:15:50,967 --> 01:15:53,303
I think I associate
it with love and care.
1496
01:15:53,503 --> 01:15:54,521
Yeah.
1497
01:15:54,721 --> 01:15:57,932
The greatest privilege of
my life is being loved by you.
1498
01:15:58,132 --> 01:15:59,776
- Thank you, honey.
- So thank you.
1499
01:15:59,976 --> 01:16:02,646
Thank you. That makes
my life worthwhile.
1500
01:16:04,397 --> 01:16:06,524
Love you, Mommy.
1501
01:16:11,363 --> 01:16:14,808
This is the part of the
film where the sex worker
1502
01:16:15,008 --> 01:16:18,253
is usually punished for
her deviant ways
1503
01:16:18,453 --> 01:16:21,381
or saved from whoring
by a white knight.
1504
01:16:21,581 --> 01:16:26,169
Eternally, we play the
role of victim or villain.
1505
01:16:26,369 --> 01:16:27,754
We need a new archetype.
1506
01:16:29,130 --> 01:16:30,348
If the femme fatale...
1507
01:16:30,548 --> 01:16:33,310
Is a bold, sexually
powerful villainess
1508
01:16:33,510 --> 01:16:36,104
who destroys men
to get what she wants,
1509
01:16:36,304 --> 01:16:40,567
the femme vitale is
her positive opposite,
1510
01:16:40,767 --> 01:16:45,021
a person who loves themself
and fights for their community.
1511
01:16:46,272 --> 01:16:49,693
They are loved and
give love,
1512
01:16:49,893 --> 01:16:51,653
pleasure, joy.
1513
01:17:04,249 --> 01:17:06,676
When sex workers
tell our own stories,
1514
01:17:06,876 --> 01:17:09,754
we become the heroes,
not the victims,
1515
01:17:09,954 --> 01:17:11,423
of our
own journeys.
1516
01:17:12,799 --> 01:17:16,803
I have a story
that would remain hidden
1517
01:17:17,003 --> 01:17:20,056
if I let shame
take over my life,
1518
01:17:20,256 --> 01:17:23,310
and shame is
antithetical to truth.
1519
01:17:25,520 --> 01:17:26,780
Despite the odds,
1520
01:17:26,980 --> 01:17:28,990
sex workers
are here.
1521
01:17:29,190 --> 01:17:32,911
We are alive
and always will be.
1522
01:17:33,111 --> 01:17:36,531
One day, we will grow
like wildflowers,
1523
01:17:36,731 --> 01:17:38,742
unruly and free.
1524
01:17:57,552 --> 01:18:05,518
# Ooh ooh ooh #
1525
01:18:06,811 --> 01:18:08,813
# Ooh ooh ooh #
1526
01:18:10,857 --> 01:18:19,699
# Ooh ooh ooh #
1527
01:18:21,701 --> 01:18:23,453
# Ooh ooh ooh #
1528
01:18:25,163 --> 01:18:27,290
# Ooh ooh ooh #
1529
01:18:28,833 --> 01:18:30,627
# Ooh ooh ooh #
1530
01:18:36,049 --> 01:18:38,134
# Ah ah ah #
1531
01:18:41,304 --> 01:18:45,433
# Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh #
1532
01:19:03,243 --> 01:19:07,831
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